OCTOBER 2010 a Letter from Chatter

Total Page:16

File Type:pdf, Size:1020Kb

OCTOBER 2010 a Letter from Chatter OCTOBER 2010 a letter from Chatter Mmm. Breathe in the air. Halloween wasn’t just for the kids in our house, my mom would get into the spirit of costuming by combing our rooms every year for laundry left on the Smells like fall doesn’t it? I love the way fall smells like orange. floor, which she would then pin to her wool sweater and tease her hair to be- come “static cling.” (I’m still pretty sure this was just a ploy to get my sister and That’s right. Orange. Not the citrus orange; the color orange. As in the color of me to clean our rooms before going Trick-or-Treating.) pumpkin spice candles, crisp fallen leaves and the wrappers of the best Hallow- een candy ever: Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups! While I loved creating my own costumes, there were times I would have given anything to buy a costume; especially the year Christine Thrasher bought a This time of year the air is filled with traces of orange. shimmery, green M&M costume with glittery, white tights … I was so jealous. There’s just something magical about this season for me. Maybe it’s the fact It was times like that when my mom would morph from “repurposing mom” that I love wearing costumes, or maybe I’m simply captivated by the way nature into “Sunday school director mom.” She’d sit me down on a stool in the kitchen, makes room for the new by repurposing the old (ex: fallen leaves turning into where aromas of simmering chili filled the air, to tell me about how Jesus was protective blankets for winter chills). the ultimate repurposer; how he came into my life and took the old me and not only gave me new life, but he also gave me a completely new purpose in my life. I’ve always been a fan of repurposing. I’m pretty sure I gleaned that skill from “God is in the business of repurposing,” she would say. my mom. Growing up, she was many things — hairdresser, Sunday school direc- tor, chauffeur, super mom, etc. — but most of all she was a master of giving old It may seem like a stretch — even for a mom lesson — but it always did the trick things new life. Especially when it came to Halloween. for me. I would proudly wear my inventive creations, knowing I was a walk- ing example of the transformation that could only come from my savior. It also Leftover meat and beans became our traditional “Spooky Chili,” old sheets changed the entire holiday for me. I began to look at Halloween as a time when and fence posts became ghostly yard decorations and anything around the God reveals his ability to transform his creations into anything he desires. house was up for grabs to make one-of-a-kind costumes. See, my mom was an adamant “make your own costume” kind of mom. It wasn’t that we couldn’t It’s been a lesson that has always stuck with me; which is partly why I continue afford store-bought costumes; we just came from a long line of “Most Original creating my own costumes, dragging my amazing, easy-going husband into the Costume” contest winners. We had a reputation to maintain. obsession with me. While other kids strutted around in their fresh-from-the-package princess or All this to say, when the kid with the coffee grounds stuck to her face comes Spiderman costumes, my sister and I could be seen sporting costumes like the to your door this year on Halloween, toss in an extra Reese’s Peanut Butter monkeys from Wizard of Oz, made from an old fuzzy blankets and blue Jell-O to Cup in remembrance of the ultimate repurposer. Even if that kid is a twenty- hold our hair up straight; Stephan Spielberg, complete with a beard made from something editor of Chatter looking to get some free candy while on vacation in coffee grounds held in place with cold cream; Aunt Jemima, probably my most Dallas. unintentionally offensive costume ever; and, my personal favorite, “lady with a You’re never too old to Trick-or-Treat … right? tutu underneath her dress,” also not my finest moment, but my mom got a huge kick out of making me shake my tulle-stuffed fanny at every doorstep before grabbing any candy. Stand-in Editor Extraordinaire Kristy Alpert Art Direction, Design & Goodness Josh Wiese & Dennis Cheatham Photography Visit Chatter online at chattermag.com. Trey Hill (Bible Commnities Update) Contact Chatter at [email protected]. The Big Cheese Chatter is a publication of Irving Bible Church | 2435 Kinwest Pkwy, Irving, TX 75063 Bill Buchanan (972) 560-4600 | irvingbible.org Bible Communities By the Numbers 20 Years Bible communities have been around 18–89 Range of ages represented in Bible communities 12 Number of communities offered at IBC 15–60 People in an average Bible community The Box is also the name of a 2009 thriller starring Cameron Diaz, In 2009 the average age to get James Marsden and Frank Langella. It was based on the 1970 short married in the United States was story “Button, Button” by Richard Matheson, which was previously 25 for women and 27 for men. Chatter | 4 adapted into an episode of the 1980s incarnation of The Twilight Zone. A steady rain was beginning to fall, but that is not the reason we pulled the The saddest part of our week long marriage intensive is that most of what we car over onto the side of the road just outside of Austin that unusually warm would encounter could have been dealt with prior to our marriage. Why didn’t October. Cheryl, who had been driving, was now staring into my eyes waiting anyone ask these tough questions of us before we tied the knot? Where was for me to speak. I was shaking as I held the fine crafted wood box in my hand. the accountability of older more mature couples speaking in to our lives? We Could I really give her this gift? Was I insane? The thing I now held, so close to were certainly open and ready those fourteen years ago, but no one stepped handing over to her, would either be the end of our marriage or the beginning of forward: not our church, nor friends. It was as if everyone we knew carried something we had never experienced before. the philosophy that marriage is easily figured out. Experience is the only way to get through the complication of a lifelong commitment. Why do we spend We married young. I had just graduated college and we were both green to the four to ten years preparing for our careers in complicated educational systems ways of the world, let alone marriage. We were children of broken homes and no yet spend virtually no time preparing for marriage? And that marriage will, in one we knew had insisted we enter into any sort of pre-marriage counseling. As all probability, have infinitely greater consequences on us and others than our most people at our age, we were young and stupid enough to believe love alone careers. We realized something in the system was broken. If the church is a would carry the marriage for the next fifty years. Children came quickly and so community, preparing couples for marriage should be of primary concern. did my religious vocation. By the age of twenty-two I was the youth minister at a very unhealthy and destructive church of 8000. By thirty, I was let go from We spent the next five days in hours of intense sessions with three other my second dysfunctional church. In ten years of marriage we scarcely survived couples we did not know. A plethora of questions, discussions, time alone three life-threatening car accidents, two damaging churches, three miscar- with Cheryl, group therapy and play time. Our barriers fell quickly as we both riages, near poverty, unemployment and the pain that comes from two lifetimes realized that at this point we had nothing to lose. The most arresting detail of of unresolved hurts. our week was that we hardly spent any time talking about marriage. In fact, we never tried to “fix” anything. The week addressed how we were raised as Now in the third year of leading a start-up nonprofit, Wonder Voyage Missions, children, the way we communicated, our interpersonal hang-ups and a variety our long stagnant and unsettled issues burst to the surface. I came from a fam- of other issues that helped form us into the humans we grew up to be. As we ily who dealt with conflict by pretending all was well. It was a deadly unrealistic confronted our inner demons and the factors that led to our emotional and optimism. (If we pretend there are no problems they will eventually fade away.) spiritual make-up, we started to find a path to healing. Christ dealt with us as Cheryl’s family used volatile anger to deal with conflict. The first few years of individuals and we began to find a path of wholeness through his grace, provi- Wonder Voyage brought no money, odd jobs, a plethora of problems and a thin sion and transformation. As we became healthier, the potential for a healthy slice of hope. It is no wonder the stress of this new endeavor caused the mar- marriage grew exponentially. riage to eventually detonate. By the final hour of the week, most of the couples were engaged in a different By the fall of 2002, Cheryl and I had decided to separate.
Recommended publications
  • Focus EMU, September 16, 2008
    EMU HOME Sept. 16, 2008 Volume 59, No. 05 ocu Featured EMU professor named NASW's Social Worker of the Year 1\ rticJes The old woman sat with Eastern Michigan University social work professo· Elvia Krajewski-Jaime in a Morelia, Mexico, nursing home, trying to read along with the professor, who'd brought a group of students to experience community sx1al work at ground level. EMU professor named NASW's Social Worker "I cannot read. I went blind a long time ago," the woman said. of the Year EMU professor receives "Blind?" Krajewski-Jaime said. "But, you can see me." grant to study mother­ infant relationships EMU Historic The woman explained that yes, she Preservation group could see people, but the words on the 'Raisin' awareness of page were a jumble. 1812 battlefield EMU Honors College "I took my eyeglasses off and put them receives $749,000 grant on her and said, 'Can you read now?"' to provide scholarships Krajewski-Jaime said. "And she started for teacher education to cry." students Reichenbach reveals Krajewski-Jaime left that pair of glasses "Survivor" secrets behind and, the next year, her EMU September contingent returned with some 50 pairs anniversaries of eyeglasses in different prescriptions Photo: Kumar goes to to give to the elderly people from the Eastern Michigan to poor rural areas around Morelia. pump up voter registration Photo: (un)Civil Defense Krajewski-Jaime, 70, has built a career art exhibit of teaching, outreach and advocacy on Photo: EMU students the principle that, "You are only and their therapy dogs successful to the extent that, at the end stroll campus of a particular project, you have left the Photo: Football in the community stronger and more capable rain than before." Briefs SOCIAL STATUS: Elvia Krajewski-Jaime, obsline Her efforts haven't gone unnoticed.
    [Show full text]
  • EASTERN Michigan MENLS TRACK & FIELD
    1 307 CONVO C ATION CENTER EAST E RN YPSILANTI , MICHIGAN 48197 734.487.0317 MICHIGAN FAX: 734.485.3840 WEBSITE : WWW .E M UEAGLES .C O M UNIV E RSITY CROSS COUNTR Y CONTA C T : SPORTS INFOR M ATION AM ANDA DE C KER ADE C KER 5@E M I C H .EDU MEN ’S TRACK & FIELD WEEKLY RELEASE NO. 4 603-801-9152 February 7, 2008 MEN’S TRACK & FIELD 2008 EMU EAGLES MEN’S TRACK & FIELD Schedule JANUARY 12 EMU OPEN NTS EASTERN MICHIGAN mEN’S TRACK & FIELD 26 Simmons/Harvet Invitational NTS February 7-8, 2008 • All Day • Loftus Sports Center • South Bend, Ind. FEBRUARY 2 Akron Invite 11 a.m. Eastern Michigan at Meyo Invitational 8 Meyo Invite 4 p.m. 9 Meyo Invite All Day EAGLE ME N ’S TRACK & FI el D NOT E S 16 EMU CLASSIC 9 a.m. 23 Silverston Invite 11 a.m. EAGLES HEAD TO SOUTH BEND: The Eastern Michigan University men’s track and 29 MAC CHAMPIONSHIPS ALL DAY field team heads to South Bend, Ind., to compete in the Meyo Invitational held at the MARCH University of Notre Dame. The Meyo Invitational continues to be one of the premier 1 MAC CHAMPIONSHIPS ALL DAY track meets in the nation 7 Alex Wilson Invite All DAY 8 Alex Wilson Invite All Day ALLEN AND DUBOIS AMONG NATIONS BEST: Sophomore sprinter Clint Allen 14 NCAA Championships All Day 15 NCAA Championships All Day and junior middle distance runner Jake DuBois both had NCAA provisional qualifying 28 Stanford Invite All Day times at the Akron Open Feb.
    [Show full text]
  • Survivor Vanuatu: Myths of Matriarchy Revisited
    Survivor Vanuatu: Myths of Matriarchy Revisited Lamont Lindstrom Eighteen Americans clamber down off a tourist yacht (the Congoola) into a flotilla of small canoes. One or two fall into the water but they are hoisted aboard again and helpful natives paddle everyone toward the beach. As the Americans step ashore in shallow waters, groups of painted, leafy men in grass skirts run toward them yelling and shaking spears. A rather hefty “chief” appears to welcome the group to Vanuatu, or rather to Survivor Vanuatu: Islands of Fire, the ninth edition of Mark Burnett’s popular “reality” television series. The reality, here, was Vanu- atu—its flora, its fauna, and its people (ni-Vanuatu)—which served as stage and background for another round of competition to be the “final survivor” and win a million US dollars (figure 1). Although broadcast in various countries, the show’s principal audience is in the United States and its producers stage and edit “reality” in large part to speak to American cultural themes and social fissions. These include tensions between individual and society, self and family, author- ity and democracy, loyalty and honor, self-discovery and self-transfor- mation, public service and laziness, and—cutting through all these—the American identity politics of race, class, age, disability, and gender. Commentators have noted Burnett’s penchant for social Darwinesque hoopla. They find Survivor’s survival-of-the-fittest discourse no surprise given the current flush of neoconservativism in US politics. Savages, and all those who fall by the evolutionary wayside, occupy both the wilds and jungles where the survivors compete but also inhabit the American heart- land itself: “Burnett’s social Darwinism implicitly valorizes the inequities of cultural imperialism and the rise of the corporate elite, a group to which he belongs” (Murray 2001, 44; see also Jervis and Jervis 2000; Miller 2000, 12).
    [Show full text]
  • Parvati Shallow
    1 Parvati Shallow - Season 13, 16, 20 36029 2 "Boston Rob" Mariano - Season 4, 8, 20, 22 32385 3 Sandra Diaz-Twine - Season 7, 20 25909 4 Kim Spradlin - Season 24 23257 5 Richard Hatch - Season 1, 8 15602 6 Rob Cesternino - Season 6, 8 14558 7 Cirie Fields - Season 12, 16, 20 14485 8 Tony Vlachos - Season 28 13841 9 Russell Hantz - Season 19, 20, 22 13618 10 Todd Herzog - Season 15 10221 11 Yul Kwon - Season 13 9715 12 Tyson Apostol - Season 18, 20, 27 9125 13 Spencer Bledsoe - Season 28 8419 14 John Cochran - Season 23, 26 8020 15 Malcolm Freberg - Season 25, 26 7599 16 Brian Heidik - Season 5 7535 17 Ozzy Lusth - Season 13, 16, 23 6015 18 Tom Westman - Season 10, 20 5534 19 Amanda Kimmel - Season 15, 16, 20 4964 20 Chris Daugherty - Season 9 4715 21 Denise Stapley - Season 25 4680 22 J. T. Thomas, Jr. - Season 18, 20 3692 23 Jonny Fairplay - Season 7, 16 3094 24 Tina Wesson - Season 2, 8, 27 2848 25 Stephen Fishbach - Season 18 2700 26 Sophie Clarke - Season 23 2646 27 Jonathan Penner - Season 13, 16, 25 2627 28 Rupert Boneham - Season 7, 8, 20, 27 2390 29 Yau-Man Chan - Season 14, 16 2373 30 Earl Cole - Season 14 2266 31 Colby Donaldson - Season 2, 8, 20 2243 32 "Coach" Benjamin Wade - Season 18, 20, 23 2067 33 Brenda Lowe - Season 21, 26 1934 34 Ciera Eastin - Season 27 1819 35 Aras Baskauskas - Season 12, 27 1774 36 Stephenie LaGrossa - Season 10, 11, 20 1768 37 Andrea Boehlke - Season 22, 26 1718 38 Tasha Fox - Season 28 1523 39 Ethan Zohn - Season 3, 8 1440 40 Courtney Yates - Season 15, 20 1418 41 Abi-Maria Gomes - Season 25 1397
    [Show full text]