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Attachment & 4FYVBMJUZ Psychoanalytic Inquiry Book Series Volume 21 ER9359.indb 1 5/14/07 10:50:12 AM Psychoanalytic Inquiry Book Series Vol. 1: Reflections on Self Psychology—Joseph D. Lichtenberg & Samuel Kaplan (eds.) Vol. 2: Psychoanalysis and Infant Research—Joseph D. Lichtenberg Vol. 4: Structures of Subjectivity: Explorations in Psychoanalytic Phenomenology— George E. Atwood & Robert D. Stolorow Vol. 7: The Borderline Patient: Emerging Concepts in Diagnosis, Psychodynamics, and Treatment, Vol. 2—James S. Grotstein, Marion F. Solomon & Joan A. Lang (eds.) Vol. 8: Psychoanalytic Treatment: An Intersubjective Approach— Robert D. Stolorow, Bernard Brandchaft & George E. Atwood Vol. 9: Female Homosexuality: Choice without Volition—Elaine V. Siegel Vol. 10: Psychoanalysis and Motivation—Joseph D. Lichtenberg Vol. 11: Cancer Stories: Creativity and Self-Repair—Esther Dreifuss Kattan Vol. 12: Contexts of Being: The Intersubjective Foundations of Psychological Life— Robert D. Stolorow & George E. Atwood Vol. 13: Self and Motivational Systems: Toward a Theory of Psychoanalytic Technique— Joseph D. Lichtenberg, Frank M. Lachmann & James L. Fosshage Vol. 14: Affects as Process: An Inquiry into the Centrality of Affect in Psychological Life—Joseph M. Jones Vol. 15: Understanding Therapeutic Action: Psychodynamic Concepts of Cure— Lawrence E. Lifson (ed.) Vol. 16: The Clinical Exchange: Techniques Derived from Self and Motivational Systems— Joseph D. Lichtenberg, Frank M. Lachmann & James L. Fosshage Vol. 17: Working Intersubjectively: Contextualism in Psychoanalytic Practice— Donna M. Orange, George E. Atwood & Robert D. Stolorow Vol. 18: Kohut, Loewald, and the Postmoderns: A Comparative Study of Self and Relationship—Judith Guss Teicholz Vol. 19: A Spirit of Inquiry: Communication in Psychoanalysis— Joseph D. Lichtenberg, Frank M. Lachmann & James L. Fosshage Vol. 20: Craft and Spirit: A Guide to the Exploratory Psychotherapies— Joseph D. Lichtenberg Vol. 21: Attachment and Sexuality— Diana Diamond, Sidney J. Blatt & Joseph D. Lichtenberg Vol. 22: Psychotherapy and Medication: The Challenge of Integration— Fredric N. Busch and Larry S. Sandberg Vol. 23: Trauma and Human Existence: Autobiographical, Psychoanalytic, and Philosophical Reflections—Robert D. Stolorow ER9359.indb 2 5/14/07 10:50:13 AM Attachment & 4FYVBMJUZ Edited by Diana Diamond Sidney J. Blatt Joseph D. Lichtenberg ER9359.indb 3 5/14/07 10:50:13 AM Lawrence Erlbaum Associates Lawrence Erlbaum Associates Taylor & Francis Group Taylor & Francis Group 270 Madison Avenue 2 Park Square New York, NY 10016 Milton Park, Abingdon Oxon OX14 4RN © 2007 by Taylor & Francis Group, LLC Lawrence Erlbaum Associates is an imprint of Taylor & Francis Group, an Informa business Printed in the United States of America on acid-free paper 10 9 8 7 6 5 4 3 2 1 International Standard Book Number-13: 978-0-88163-466-2 (Hardcover) No part of this book may be reprinted, reproduced, transmitted, or utilized in any form by any electronic, mechanical, or other means, now known or hereafter invented, including photocopying, microfilming, and recording, or in any information storage or retrieval system, without written permission from the publishers. Trademark Notice: Product or corporate names may be trademarks or registered trademarks, and are used only for identification and explanation without intent to infringe. Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data Attachment and sexuality / Diana Diamond, Sidney J. Blatt, Joseph D. Lichtenberg. p. ; cm. -- (Psychoanalytic inquiry book series ; no. 21) Includes bibliographical references and index. ISBN-13: 978-0-88163-466-2 (hardcover : alk. paper) ISBN-10: 0-88163-466-2 (hardcover : alk. paper) 1. Object relations (Psychoanalysis) 2. Interpersonal relations. 3. Parent and child. 4. Sex (Psychology) I. Diamond, Diana, 1948- II. Blatt, Sidney J. (Sidney Jules), 1928- III. Lichtenberg, Joseph D. IV. Series. [DNLM: 1. Object Attachment. 2. Interpersonal Relations. 3. Parent-Child Relations. 4. Sexuality--psychology. W1 PS427F v.21 2007 / WM 460.5.O2 A88312 2007] BF175.5.O24A88 2007 155.3--dc22 2007011834 Visit the Taylor & Francis Web site at http://www.taylorandfrancis.com and the LEA Web site at http://www.erlbaum.com ER9359.indb 4 5/14/07 10:50:13 AM For John, who made this and so much more possible (D.D.) For Ethel, who made it all possible (S.J.B.) To Charlotte, my model of attachment (J.L.) ER9359.indb 5 5/14/07 10:50:13 AM ER9359.indb 6 5/14/07 10:50:13 AM Contents Acknowledgments ix Editors xi Contributors xiii Introduction 1 Diana Diamond and Sidney J. Blatt I Attachment and Sexuality 27 Morris Eagle 2 A Behavioral Systems Perspective on the Psychodynamics of Attachment and Sexuality 51 Mario Mikulincer and Phillip R. Shaver 3 Attachment and Sexuality During Adolescence: Interaction, Integration, or Interference 79 Massimo Ammaniti, Giampaolo Nicolais, and Anna Maria Speranza 4 When Sexuality Reaches Beyond the Pleasure Principle: Attachment, Repetition, and Infantile Sexuality 107 Lissa Weinstein 5 Sense and Sensuality: Hedonic Intersubjectivity and the Erotic Imagination 137 Jeremy Holmes 6 “My Dog Is Dying Today”: Attachment Narratives and Psychoanalytic Interpretation of an Initial Interview 161 Anna Buchheim, Carol George, and Horst Kächele vii ER9359.indb 7 5/14/07 10:50:14 AM viii Contents 7 “Passionate Attachments” and Parental Exploitations of Dependency in Infancy and Early Childhood 179 Alicia F. Lieberman, Maria St. John, and Robin Silverman 8 Oedipal Love and Conflict in the Transference/ Countertransference Matrix: Its Impact on Attachment Security and Mentalization 201 Diana Diamond and Frank E. Yeomans 9 A Discussion of Eight Essays That Propel Attachment and Sexual Theories Into the 21st Century 237 Joseph Lichtenberg Index 263 ER9359.indb 8 5/14/07 10:50:14 AM Acknowledgments There are many colleagues who helped to bring this volume to frui- tion. We thank Paul Stepansky, who has steadfastly supported our work on the integration of attachment research with psychoanalytic concepts and whose editorial brilliance we relied on in our previ- ous three issues of Psychoanalytic Inquiry on attachment research and psychoanalysis: Psychoanalysis and Attachment Research I, Theoretical Considerations; Psychoanalysis and Attachment Research II, Clinical Implications; and Psychoanalysis and Attachment III, Fur- ther Reflections on Theory and Clinical Experience. Together with Joe Lichtenberg, Paul is responsible for making this fourth volume part of the analytic book series, and we regret that he left the Analytic Press before this volume was completed. We have been fortunate to have had a number of colleagues with whom we have discussed issues related to attachment and sexuality in both personal and pro- fessional settings over the years: Mary Ainsworth, John Auerbach, Rebecca Behrends, Mauricio Cortina, Morris Eagle, Otto Kernberg, Paulina Kernberg, Ken Levy, Mary Main, Estelle Shane, Lissa Wein- stein, and Frank Yeomans. The ideas generated through our dia- logues with them and others too numerous to mention have greatly influenced our thinking and writing on this topic. Thanks also to Marcia Miller, chief librarian of the Weill Medical College of Cornell University, whose indefatigable resourcefulness helped immeasur- ably in the research for this volume. Special thanks go to our chil- dren. Our immersion in their developmental process has been an enduring source of wisdom and satisfaction. Finally, we would like to express our deepest gratitude to our long-term partners John Alschuler, Ethel Blatt, and Charlotte Lichtenberg for their endur- ing love and support in this and many other endeavors. They have provided us with the lived experience of integrating attachment and sexuality over the years. ix ER9359.indb 9 5/14/07 10:50:14 AM ER9359.indb 10 5/14/07 10:50:14 AM Editors Diana Diamond, Ph.D., is associate professor in the doctoral pro- gram in clinical psychology at the City University of New York, and adjunct assistant professor of psychiatry in the Department of Psy- chiatry at the Weill Medical Center of Cornell University. She has coauthored several books, including Affect and Attachment in the Family and Borderline Patients: Extending the Limits of Treatability. She has published a number of articles in the areas of attachment theory and research, personality disorders, mental representation, social and cultural aspects of narcissism and its disorders, and psy- choanalysis. She is on the editorial board of Psychoanalytic Inquiry and has edited (with Sidney Blatt and Joseph Lichtenberg) a three- volume monograph series on attachment research and its implica- tions for psychoanalytic theory and practice. With her colleagues at the PDI, she has conducted research on change in attachment status and mentalization in borderline patients in psychodynamic therapy. Most recently, she has been involved in investigating the impact of patient-therapist attachment on the treatment process and outcome. She is a psychoanalytic candidate at the New York University post- doctoral program in psychoanalysis and is a member of the Person- ality Studies Institute. Sidney J. Blatt, Ph.D., is professor of psychiatry and psychology at Yale University and chief of the psychology section, Department of Psychiatry, Yale University School of Medicine. He is also a gradu- ate and a member of the faculty of the Western New England Psy- choanalytic Institute. His primary interests are in the development of mental representation, their differential