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Jim's Brother Thirty-Five Short Stories About Growing Up In Rural Wisconsin .. By Richard A. Dykstra JIM'S BROTHER Thirty-Five Short Stories About Growing Up In Rural Wisconsin By Richard A. Dykstra James nnd Richard Dykstra on Christmas Day in 1951 Copyright © 1999 by Fi eldstone Press Published by Fieldstone Press P.O. Box 198 Cedar Grove, WI 5301 3 e-mail: [email protected] Printed by ep>-direct Fond du Lac, Wisconsin Cover Photo: Rock Ridge Dairy Farm in 1964. [Photo courtesty Dykstra Engineering] All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or by any means, electrnnic or mechanical, without permission. Special thanks to my wife and children for supporting this project from start to finish. This book is for Stacy, Christopher, Sally, Erin, and Jordan, and is dedicated to the loving memory of Henry and Elsie Dykstra. ACKN OWLEDGlVIENTS Very Special thanks to my wife Linda for encouraging me to continue this project whenever 1 felt like quitting. Special thanks to historian Jan Hildebrand for providing the foreword for this text. Special thanks to Pat Premo for copy editing and proofreading several draft copies of this text. The author also gratefully acknowledges the contributions of the following individuals: Ralph Dykstra, Sidney Dykstra, Margery TenDolle, and Laverne Joosse for providing background information about Mom and Dad's early years. David Dykstra for verifying specific details discussed in this text and for providing additional input about Dykstra family gatherings, the early days of te levision, and All-Star Wrestling. Erin Dykstra for inputting and formatting early draft copies of this text. Jan Hildebrand, David Dykstra, Joan Dykstra, Pat Premo, June VerVelde, Mark Hesselink, Jan Hesselink, Harriet Debbink, and Diana Nett for reviewing early draft copies of the entire text and making suggestions regarding the text. TABLE OF CONTENTS No. STORY TITLE Foreword ... .. ... .... ... .................. 1J Introduction . .... .... ............ ... .... .... 13 1. Grandpa and Grandma Dykstra ........ .... ........ 16 2. Grandpa and Grandma .Janisse . ...... ..... ....... .22 3. Morn and Dael .. .. ... .. ... ............ .... ....30 4. The Dykstra Place . ... ......... ..... ... .... .44 5. Traditions . ....... ........ ..... ..... .. .... .46 6. klim rnorf ebarn sboof ...... .. .... ..... .... .. ..60 7. The Gift . ....... ........... ........... ...61 8. The Big Jump .... ...... ......... ........... .63 9. Moon Dog .......... .. ...... ..... .....65 I 0. The Lumber Yard . .. .. ....... .. ....... .....68 11. Baseball Was King .. .. ....... ................70 12. Barnfloor Basketball ....... .... ........ .......74 13. James and the Giant Oil Drum ..... ... ... .....76 14. Cy the Barber ..... .. ... .. ........ ..... ... ...79 15. The Lady Sl11ck in the Mud ... .. .. .... ....... 82 16. The Toy Rifle ........... ......................8 4 17. There's No Dill In Di lemma . ... ... .... .... .. ... 87 18. After the Fall .......... .. ........ .. .. .. ... 90 19. Cat Names . .......... ............ ... .......93 20. Television ... ... .. ..................... ..... 95 21. Roger Kent at Ringside ..... ... .. ... ....... 98 22. The Go-Cart ..... ... .. ... ..... I 0 I 23. TWant To Be a Harn .... ..... .. ....... ...... I 04 24. The White Corvair . .. ...... ......... .. .. 108 25 . The Obsession .... ..... .. .. ... 11 1 26. No. 272 ........ .......... .. ........ 114 27. Help Wanted .. ... .. .... ... ........ .. .. .. 117 28. Jim's Brother ....... .... .. ... ......... I 21 29. The Bad Poets Society ..... .... ...... ... ... 122 30. When Farming Ruled . ... ... .. .. ... ... 124 31. The Favorite ... ... ....... ... ......... 127 32. Fading Dreams of Liberty ... .. ....... ..... ..... 129 33. Morn's Meatloaf ..... .... .... .. ....... .. 134 34. The Tribute ............ ... ....... ... ... 136 35. Return of the Bad Poets Society ..... .. ........ 138 FOREWORD By Jan Hildebrand Each of us has a story to tell. Some keep a journal or diary while others write more formally, eventually publishing their memoirs in book form. Richard Dykstra has chosen to tell his story in a series of thirty-five vignettes. Richard, who was raised on a Sheboygan County dairy farm and attended a one room school, writes about his childhood and adult years with rueful humor and insightful honesty. Each vignette is short and to the point. From "klim morf ebam sboof' to "The Gift," each story brings a smile, provokes thought, or evokes memories of one's own childhood. There is certain to be at least one favorite for every reader. You'll get to know Jim's Brother in the pages of this book. 11 Richard, Li nda, and S1acy Dykstra in 1969. 12 INTRODUCTION Religious converts often approach their newfound faith with greater fervor than lifelong believers. This same type of youth ful enthusiasm appears to be present in many other converts as well. For the first forty-five years of my life I cared very little about the past and its impact on the future. It is only recently that such things even mattered to me. Part of the reason for my recent change in attitude is the fact that both of my parents passed away within the past five years. While Dad recorded some childhood memories before his passing, Mom did not. l now wish that I knew far more about them. If anyone had told me twenty years ago, or even ten years ago, that the most-watched progratris on my television would be those relating to historical events, I would have thought the sug gestion somewhat amusing. But today I watch more of the History Channel and public television than anything else. Over the past five years, my newfound interest in history bas led me to sponsor the construction of a fully-furnished scale model of the one-room school I attended as a child, to serve as project coordinator, co-author, and co-editor of a 236-page text that documents the 150-year hi story of the Village of Cedar Grove, and to co-chair the committee that brought Her Royal Highness Princess Margriet of the Netherlands to Cedar Grove to cele brate the village's strong Dutch heritage. 1 also recently became a member of the Sheboygan County Historical Research Center, a marvelous resource for anyone interested in the history of east-central Wisconsin. Until now, I had not recorded any reflections of the past-- 13 something I wish so desperately that my parents and grandpar ents would have done. The Basics I was born in 1948 in rural Sheboygan County, Wisconsin and grew up on a 120-acre dairy farm with an older brother and younger sister. I received my elementary education at Liberty School, a small one-room school located one mile south of my parents' farm. J graduated from Cedar Grove High School in I 966. I moved away from the farm for the very first time in August of 1966 to attend college at the Milwaukee School of Engineering. While I endured city life for the next several years, I did not thrive on it. I longed for the day that I could once again return to the country. l graduated from college in 197 1 with a Bachelor of Science Degree in ElectTical Engineering Technology. At that time l received job offers from across the state and nation. With strong family ties and my love of country Iife, I chose to accept a job offer close to home. My wife and I established our household in Cedar Grove, just eight miles from the farm J grew up on. Major milestones along the road to adulthood include grad uating from elementary school in 1962, getting a ham radio license, a driver's license and a job in 1964, buying my first car in 1965, graduating from high school in 1966, getting married in 1968, and graduating from college in 1971. Over the past thirty years my wife and I have been blessed with one son and four daughters who have made us very proud. During that same thirty years I had a job, left that job, had another job, lost that job, and then started my own engineering business. The stories in this text deal both with the road to adulthood and with parent/child relationships after becoming an adult. Many of the recollections presented here are stories that my children begged me to tell them when they were little and begged me to stop telling as they grew older. 14 I Write Like I Read I attended a one-room elementary school during the 1950s, long before most present-day learning disabilities were given much credence. Jf such disabilities had been more thoroughly diagnosed at that time, 1 most certainly would have been labeled with one. The most likely candidate is Attention-Deficit Disorder. I did not read well as a child, I did not read well as a teen, and I do not read well as an adult. The problem was so severe that while at college, in pursuit of an engineering degree, I sought professional help. There, a test was devised to track the motion of my eyes while reading a text. The test revealed that rather than scanning lines from left to right and top to bottom, my eyes were roaming the pages at will. This was apparently an indication that while attempting to read l was distracted by other thoughts and previous readings. The test revealed that I was reading at approximately a fourth-grade level. I made it through college primarily by taking good notes and properly anticipating what would be covered on exams. This helped minimize the amount of reading required. Fortunately, the daydreaming and other distractions that make me a very poor reader actually conh·ibute to the creative processes required to make a good research engineer. Over the years I have become accustomed to writing io the manner I am most comfortable reading--brief and to the point. The stories in this text are presented in thjs manner. Hopefully, the life lessons discussed here will evoke memories and inspire readers to record reflections of the past for their children and grandchildren. Please read and enjoy. You will not be quizzed. 15 GRANDPA & GRANDMA DYKSTRA Jan (John) Dykstra was born in the Village of Grijpskerk in the Province of Groningen, The Netherlands on February 11 , 1897. He was the second of six chil dren born to Cornelius (Case) and Grietje van der Woude Dykstra.