chapter 16 Spiritual Friendship
1. Almost all books that deal with friendship speak about the great friendship pairs of antiquity: Patroclius and Achilles, Orestes and Pylades, Euralys and Nisus, Harmodius and Aristogeiton, Damon and Phintias. These are heroic and martial friendships one no longer finds in the modern epoch, and one gets the impression that today there no longer is true friendship, that it belongs irredeemably to the past. But this is an illusion. The forms in which friend- ship manifest change with time. Antiquity has left us the records of young war- riors because war was then the most noble of male arts. We must also take into account that these recorded characters are invented literary figures. Patro- clius and Achilles are two characters from the Illiad, Orestes and Pylades from Aeschylus’s The Oresteia, Euralys and Nisus appear in the Aeneid, while Damon and Phintias are two legendary characters cited by Cicero. Thus one deals here with ideal images, with the transfiguration of a reality that was without doubt different. When in De Amicitia Cicero describes the Roman world of his time, we see that the lived experiences of that world were not substantially different from ours. However, when we look for exemplary types of friendship today we should not think of warriors. For us war is not a habitual activity and it certainly isn’t considered the most noble, virile of activities. In order to judge if there are exemplary forms of friendship in the modern world we must abandon any comparison with myths of the past and instead observe reality with our own eyes, without prejudice. Then we will notice that in our world too there exist noble figures of friendship, cases of friendship that lasted a lifetime and that have influenced history. The most obvious and important case is that of Marx and Engels. Their friendship dates back to 1844. Engels was then 24 years old, Marx 26. They briefly met at Cologne where they collaborated for the same journal. Although they knew each other, they did not have a reveal- ing encounter from which true friendship could grow. That happened later, in Paris, where they spent ten days together. It was an extraordinary period full of enthusiasm. They immediately began to work on a book that was to be published under the title The Holy Family. The following year Engels caught up with Marx in Brussels where they wrote The German Ideology, and in 1848 The Communist Manifesto, which was to influence world history. Marx and Engels complemented each other in character and thinking. Engels taught Marx the fundamental elements of economics and described the conditions
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1 On the friendship between Marx and Engels see Gustav Mayer, Friedrich Engels: A Biography, Chapman and Hall, London, 1936; Yvonne Kapp, Eleanor Marx, Lawrence and Wishart, Lon- don, 1972; Auguste Cornu, Marx e Engels, Feltrinelli, Milano, 1971.