Emotional Literacy Chart
Emotion Meaning Expression Behavior Questions to ask
Fear Intuitive, Worry, anxiety, Excessive What is the visceral confusion, questioning or threat? focused panic, demands What action awareness of a terror, Argue, Shout, must I take to threat to your dissociation, Cry or other move to a well-being dulling of physical position of (external the senses reaction safety? threat) Hide What can I Lying control, what can I not control?
Vulnerability Uncertainty Panic, Hide head or What belief, risk and Avoidance, face, behavior, emotional Distraction, Leave, perception, or exposure. State Seek safety Refuse requests, comfortable of being Sarcasm, Insults, habit exposed to the Lying is being possibility of challenged? being attacked Seek safety and What choices or harmed, routine do I have? either Challenge by physically or choice. emotionally.
Anger A physical Deflected rage Shouting What must be or emotional Avoidance, Exploding, protected? boundary has Apathy (sometimes at What been crossed (masks anger an innocent boundary or or trust has that bystander) trust must be been broken can’t be dealt Irrational established or with; Physical restored? a nonviolent aggression coping Silence strategy) Leaving Non compliance Emotion Meaning Expression Behavior Questions to ask
Agitated The person Mistrust Ignore or refuse What is the true interacting Anxiety requests emotion behind with you is Insecurity Arguing the other incongruent. Yelling person’s mask of control, The Clinging and is it environment is Seeking safety directed at me? incongruent (Check to be What can I sure sensory control in the issues are not environment the problem) and what can I not control? Frustration The action Powerlessness Refuse to speak Where is the you’re taking is Withdrawl Non- block? not effective. Defensiveness compliance What can I do Blame Yelling, cussing, differently? Taking a short Who can I ask cut, stealing for ideas or assistance? Guilt A critique of a Denial, Lack of eye What destructive, blame, contact, questionable neglectful, or shame, isolate self, behavior or abusive projection Refuse to speak action behavior. deflect Blame others did I engage in? (This can be an What internal was my critique or motivation? a transgression How can I get that my others are needs met in a bringing more to your productive attention.) way? Who can help me change this hurtful habit?
Shame a personal Despair, Negative self What can I critique of a blame, talk accept about “defective” suicidal urge, Gives up easily myself? state of bullying Lack of interest What can I consciousness change for the or being. better? How can I feel love for myself?
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