Here Is the Link
Total Page：16
File Type：pdf, Size：1020Kb
SEARCH If you’re searching • for the right mind-set and skills to succeed in your studies and relationships, • for inspiration and strategies to sustain your confidence and reduce stress, • for advance warning about the things and people that might sandbag you and how to avoid them, then you’ve found the right book. ___________ “As a second-semester freshman in college, I was amazed at how many tips, suggestions, life lessons, and college hacks that I had yet to discover. Read- ing this book was enjoyable just as much as it was beneficial.” Anthea, Georgia College & State University student “Dr. Duffey and Dr. Roquemore have managed to condense years of expe- rience with college students into this immensely helpful resource. Students and parents often do not know what they do not know. This book will help them anticipate and plan for many issues they might not have otherwise considered. I cannot recommend this book highly enough.” Stephen Wilson, PsyD, Director of Counseling Services, GCSU “As a retired K-12 educator and father of two sons, one a recent college graduate and the other a college sophomore, I found Search: A Guide for College and Life one of the most helpful and detailed resources for navigating college and life experiences. This guide offers students, parents, and professors significant insight into the challenges that young people face as they search for their ultimate purpose in life and provides practical, real-world and clinically-proven tools to assist them during the difficult and complex journey into adulthood. I recommend this guide without reservation!” L. Michael Newton, EdD Retired K-12 School Superintendent SEARCH A GUIDE FOR COLLEGE AND LIFE Barbara Roquemore EdD Jeff Duffey MD SEARCH: A Guide for College and Life by Barbara Roquemore EdD and Jeff Duffey MD Copyright 2020 by Cairde, Karuna & Hedd Publishing, LLC All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means, including photocopying, recording, or other electronic or mechanical methods, without the prior written permis- sion of the publisher, except in the case of brief quotations embodied in criti- cal reviews and certain other noncommercial uses permitted by copyright law. Write to Cairde, Karuna & Hedd Publishing, 2841 Middlecreek Way, Cum- ming, Georgia 30041 www.searchaguideforcollegeandlife.com Cover by Anisha Umêlec / 99designs 99designs.com/profiles/anisha Interior Design by Sue Balcer of Just Your Type Desktop Publishing www.JustYourType.biz Index written by Carol Roberts of Roberts Indexing Services www.robertsindexing.com First Edition 2020 ISBN 978-0-9862583-2-9 Library of Congress Control Number 2020901935 URLs are provided for informational purposes only and their mention should not be considered a recommendation. The author is not responsible for the con- tent of these sites. See the disclaimer for more details To the students, faculty, and staff of Georgia College and State University Contents Preface ....................................................................................................12 Acknowledgments ................................................................................14 1 ASSESSING YOURSELF ................................................... 1 Recognizing Vulnerabilities ........................................................... 1 Recognizing Strengths ................................................................... 4 Cherishing Differences ................................................................... 5 2 REMINDING YOURSELF WHY YOU NEED TO SUCCEED IN COLLEGE .................................... 7 Avoiding the consequences of not having enough money .......... 7 Having the possessions and pursuing the activities you want ..11 Keeping or improving your social position ................................12 Being competent so you can adapt to the future .......................13 Understanding yourself ................................................................15 Developing a compelling life-purpose worthy of yourself........17 3 GRASPING THE IMPORTANCE OF TIME MANAGEMENT ..............................................................21 Using Mindfulness for Perspective and Renewal ......................22 Prioritizing ....................................................................................24 Organizing Your Time .................................................................25 Organizing Your Workspace .......................................................28 Mapping Out Your Daily Journey ..............................................28 Creating Some Daily Habits .......................................................29 Selecting Courses and Registering ..............................................29 Selecting Teachers ........................................................................32 Planning the sequence of your courses .......................................33 Developing a Strategic Plan for the Semester ...........................34 4 ESTABLISHING A WORKABLE ENVIRONMENT .............................................................37 Staying Safe ...................................................................................37 Living in a Residence Hall ...........................................................45 Living off-campus .........................................................................47 Living at home...............................................................................50 Educating yourself about weapons on campus ..........................52 Having a car on campus ...............................................................53 Deciding whether to have pets ....................................................53 5 PREVENTING HEALTH PITFALLS ...........................59 Eating .............................................................................................59 Sleeping ..........................................................................................62 Maintaining Physical Health .......................................................65 6 AVOIDING FINANCIAL PITFALLS ............................75 Managing money ..........................................................................75 Saving money on expenses ...........................................................77 Minimizing Student Loan Expense ............................................80 Working .........................................................................................81 7 BELONGING TO THE COLLEGE COMMUNITY ...87 Thinking about diversity ..............................................................87 Reviewing basic manners .............................................................89 Socializing .....................................................................................90 Understanding Social Groups .....................................................92 Surviving Spring Break ................................................................96 Dealing with social media ..........................................................101 Working with Systems ...............................................................103 8 CONSTRUCTING EFFECTIVE MINDSETS ...........105 Understanding the Importance of Mindsets ...........................105 Using a ‘Cold Hard Realities’ Mindset for Motivation ...........108 Using A Brain-centered Mindset in your Academics .............119 9 TWEAKING YOUR ACADEMIC SKILLSET ...........127 Finding Potential Helpers .........................................................127 Discovering Helpful Applications and Websites ....................128 Getting at the Mechanics ...........................................................130 Buying Textbooks .......................................................................131 Making the Most of the Classroom Experience ......................132 Reading ........................................................................................137 10 ENHANCING RELATIONSHIP SKILLS AND RELATIONSHIPS ..........................................................141 Considering Family ....................................................................141 Adjusting to Roommates ...........................................................143 Analyzing Peer Relationships ...................................................144 Improving Dating Relationships ...............................................147 Memorizing a Mnemonic Device for Assessing Your Date—the Eight Ps ....................................................................150 Coping with Stalkers and Unwanted Attention ......................153 Getting Serious or Breaking Up? ..............................................159 11 STRATEGIZING TO MEET THE CHALLENGES THAT ARISE AS THE COLLEGE YEARS UNFOLD ..........................................................................161 Entering the Middle Phase-The 4 Ss .......................................161 Wandering in the Wisdom Wilderness ...................................164 Reflecting on the End Phase .....................................................167 12 RECOGNIZING WHAT HELPS FIRST- GENERATION COLLEGE STUDENTS WILL ALSO HELP YOU ...........................................................169 13 IMPROVING YOUR WELL-BEING ...........................179 Learning More about Mental Health .......................................179 Identifying Specific Coping Techniques ...................................180 Developing Healthy Mental and Physical Habits...................182 Feeling