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By Mike Festa, State Director Older LGBT Americans live AARP Massachusetts in cities and towns of all sizes. Just under one-third of those hen it comes to aging- surveyed live in big urban cities, related concerns, old- while the rest reside in suburbs, er LGBT adults wor- medium-sized cities, or small ryW most about having adequate towns and rural areas. Survey re- family and other social support sponses suggest that community to rely on as size is less important than LG- they age, dis- BT-friendliness when it comes crimination to living in a supportive commu- in long-term nity. care (LTC) Nevertheless, the share of facilities, residents with access to LGBT and access community resources is sig- Mike Festa to LGBT- nificantly higher in bigger cities sensitive ser- compared to smaller and more vices for se- rural areas, but health and senior niors, according to a new AARP The survey, “Maintaining ans to be single, live alone, and services still lag everywhere. Just survey. Black and Latino LGBT Dignity: Understanding and Re- have smaller support systems, 48 percent of big city residents adults report the greatest con- sponding to the Challenges Fac- which may put them at higher surveyed and as few as 10 per- cern about future family and so- ing Older LGBT Americans,” risk for isolation as they age. cent of rural and small town cial supports, and a greater num- found gay men and lesbians have Transgender adults also report residents say they have access to ber worry about potential abuse similar concerns about whether smaller support systems and are LGBT senior services in their in LTC facilities because of their they’ll have enough family and/ at an increased risk of isolation, community. race/ethnicity and sexual orien- Housing access is another or social support. However, gay while bisexuals are least likely to AARP page 3 tation/gender identity. men are more likely than lesbi- be “out” within health systems.

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AARP Continued from page 2 importance of federal and state With well over a million LGBT seniors in the anti-discrimination laws to pro- dimension significantly impacted tect all LGBT Americans wher- by the LGBT-friendliness of the U.S., a number that will double by 2030, this is ever they live as well as the de- community. When asked if they sire for safe housing. The survey are worried about having to hide an opportunity for the health care and housing found very high levels of inter- their LGBT identity in order to industries to step up and meet the needs est in LGBT-welcoming older have access to suitable housing adult housing developments: options as they age, 34 percent of this growing demographic. 90 percent of respondents were of all LGBT survey respondents extremely (35 percent), very (27 reported being at least somewhat percent) or somewhat (28 per- worried, as did half (54 percent) abuse, and verbal or physical ha- strate awareness and knowledge cent) interested in that option. of transgender and gender rassment in LTC facilities, with of the specific needs of LGBT With well over a million expansive participants. black LGBT adults reporting adults as they age. More than LGBT seniors in the U.S., a Older LGBT adults often the highest level of concern. eight in 10 survey respondents number that will double by have serious concerns about ag- Despite concerns about prej- say they would feel more com- 2030, this is an opportunity for ing with dignity, compounded udice affecting future quality of fortable with providers who are the health care and housing in- primarily by fears of discrimina- care, most LGBT survey respon- specifically trained in LGBT dustries to step up and meet the tion and lack of social support. dents are relatively satisfied with patient needs (88 percent), use needs of this growing demo- Most LGBT adults want but their current health care. Eighty- advertising to highlight LGBT- graphic that aspires to thrive, not don’t have access to LGBT-sen- seven percent of respondents friendly services (86 percent), hide, as they age. sitive care and services. have at least a good relationship have some staff members who are Over half (52 percent) of with their healthcare provider. LGBT themselves (85 percent), Mike Festa is the state director for LGBT adults said they fear dis- The survey found high de- or display LGBT-welcoming AARP Massachusetts. Archives of crimination in health care as they mand for long-term care pro- signs or symbols in facilities and articles from previous issues can be read at www.fiftyplusadvocate. age. A majority are especially viders who actively welcome the online (82 percent). com. concerned about facing neglect, LGBT community and demon- These data underscore the

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By Jane usician Livingston Taylor’s essence Keller has been captured in a new feature Gordon length documentary, “Life is Good,” There’s a lot more to Taylor by Peter Fish and Tracey Anarella, Assistant who are partners in life and the film’s than meets the eye. Editor co-producers. Packed with music and dialogue, the film is named after Taylor’s 1988 song, “Life is Good.” He’s a bow tie-wearing The film reveals that Taylor is truly defined by the song’s lyrics — “Life Renaissance man and is good when you’re proud of what you do, giving your all to others and mentor, not just a teacher, it all comes back to you.” songwriter, and performer. M Livingston Taylor page 10 www.fi ftyplusadvocate.com + May 2018 + fi f t y plus advocate • 5 Index of Services

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BY ED KARVOSKI JR. competitions. Members’ artwork CULTURE EDITOR is displayed year-round at Pic- ture Yourself!, the CCA, and the Chelmsford – After the retirement residence Summer Chelmsford Art Society (CAS) Place. Th e CAS annually awards was founded in 1970, the non- a scholarship of at least $1,000 to profi t organization began orga- a Chelmsford resident pursuing nizing the town’s already-exist- education in an art form. ing Fourth of July Art Festival. Meetings are held the last In addition to preparing for this Wednesday of each month from year’s 50th annual Art Festival, September to May with guest the CAS is planning a retrospec- artists off ering demonstrations. tive celebration of the half-cen- While some demonstrations are tury holiday event.

PHOTOS/SUBMITTED presented by professional artists Among those looking for- who are CAS members, most ward to the milestone celebra- are invited guests from outside tion is the CAS President Ro- of the organization. Guest artists berta Witts, a watercolor and are recruited by program man- pen-and-ink artist, and owner of Roberta Witts, president of the Chelmsford Art Society ager Helen Moriarty, a longtime Picture Yourself!, a gallery and CAS member who has served in frame shop in Chelmsford. various offi cer positions. “Th is year is the 50th anni- with photos and a slide presenta- ship is open to residents outside “Our members ask a lot of versary of the Fourth of July Art tion of past winners’ artwork. You of Chelmsford. Th ere are cur- questions during the demos, so Festival, so the CAS will also don’t need to be a CAS member rently about 200 members in- we learn about new techniques have a special exhibition in the to have your work shown at our cluding artists from throughout and art materials,” Witts gallery at the Chelmsford Cen- Fourth of July Art Festival. We the Merrimack Valley and be- noted. “We’ve had some artists ter for the Arts (CCA),” she ex- welcome everybody.” yond. A quarterly newsletter an- demonstrate an exciting new plained. “We’ll have scrapbooks Likewise, the CAS member- nounces regional art shows and Festival page 7

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promoter), Roger Brown (Berklee’s Livingston Taylor president), and members of his family. Throughout the film, Anarella inter- weaves Berklee classroom scenes, in- terviews, stunning performances, and Taylor’s pontifications on mechanical devices and life. There’s a bounty of insights about Taylor in the film. Isaac, the son of Taylor’s brother Hugh, described his uncle in a way that sounded like lyrics to a song. ‘Life is Good’ “[Taylor’s] curiously is insatiable… It’s so deep that it’s hard to find for Livingston Taylor him sometimes, but when he quenches Continued from page 4 Taylor has changed the lives of thou- than himself. sands of students by teaching stage “Films should be made about ambi- his thirst from that well he wants you performance at Berklee College of tious, enthusiastic, good looking young to be with him and to know where it’s Taylor is a member of a musically fa- Music; that he is an enthusiastic pilot people, not me. You should film my coming from.” mous family that includes his siblings and motorcyclist, author, and lifelong classes. My students are engines of Ben, James’s son, added that Tay- James and Kate Taylor, former sister- learner who continues to strive to hope,” he told Anarella. “They have lor’s concerts are “… a performance, a in-law Carly Simon, niece Sally Taylor understand how things work; that he a vision of themselves as being their lecture, a lesson, a dissertation.” and nephews Ben and Isaac Taylor. has released 20 albums since he was 19 contemporaries’ creators. That’s bold.” A few times during the film, Chapin, Anarella has directed several years old; and that he has performed Given a green light — with Fish who is a close friend to Taylor and has award-winning short documentaries. throughout Massachusetts, where he by her side — Anarella launched into performed with him, discussed that Her highly regarded, award-winning has lived during his adult life. a two-year odyssey filming Taylor’s they were both in the same business first feature length documentary, There’s a lot more to Taylor than classes. Fortunately, they were able to as a famous brother. “Not Black Enough,” can be seen on meets the eye. He’s a bow tie-wearing spend time with Taylor at his home As for Berklee, Taylor said that he Amazon Prime. Fish is a multi-Emmy Renaissance man and mentor, not just in Martha’s Vineyard, and at his trolls the school’s cafeteria to recruit winning composer, who has expanded a teacher, songwriter, and performer. performances in Asbury Park N.J., students. By the numbers, that hardly his focus to include content. Once Anarella got to know Taylor, Chatham N.J., and Rockville Center, seems necessary. Taylor said that he Fish and Anarella connected with she described him as, “(One) part N.Y. Anarella even got to fly with teaches 100 students a semester. Taylor, through Simon, for whom Fish Mark Twain, one part WC Fields, one Taylor in his Cessna. While every student’s issue is differ- was a producer. They were aware that part musical icon — a man whose life In addition, Anarella interviewed ent — connecting with the audience, Taylor was a gifted songwriter and is testament to the concept that ‘Life several people important in Taylor’s articulation, tempo, releasing his or performer, but knew less about his life is Good.’” life: Tom Chapin (the late Harry her full voice — there is universality and the depth of his knowledge. Taylor was enthusiastic about a film Chapin’s brother), Ian Anderson to Taylor’s message. In fact, he has They did not know that since 1989, that focused on his students, rather ( Jethro Tull), Don Law (concert Livingston Taylor page 11

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Livingston Taylor Continued from page 10 printed a list of common themes. Berklee graduate Nick Veine’s musical gifts were further developed at the school, but it was Taylor who “I’m not profoundly impacted his performance. “Taylor’s class irreversibly improved my writing, my singing, my perform- interested in ing, my playing, all of it,” Veine said. Another student, Julia Edelston commented, “Taylor doesn’t just see interesting the world through rose tinted glass, his are rainbow. He just sort of sees everything in brighter colors.” human Summing it all up, Taylor said, “Ac- cording to an actuarial table, I have 18.6 years left to live. I plan to spend beings, I’m that time combining observation, enthusiasm, and as much gratitude as possible… I’m not interested in inter- interested in esting human beings, I’m interested in interested human beings.” The documentary will be presented interested at Firehouse Center for the Arts, Mar- ket Square in Newburyport Monday, May 7 at 8 p.m. Tickets maybe pur- human beings.” chased at www.firehouse.org.

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By Victor Block Travel Writer The island-nation has an ne meal my wife Fyllis abundance of magnificent and I will long remember was a gourmet five-course beaches, a long list of candle-lit dinner served Oin a romantic setting. outdoor activities, an The other was a simple vegetar- ian lunch at a ramshackle lean-to perched precariously on a steep intriguing history and a mountainside. It’s not often that two repasts rich cultural mélange. encapsulate much that a destina- tion has to offer visitors, but Ja- maica is such a place. The Chef ’s Showcase dinner dished up at the Sunset at the Palms resort had little in common with the modest spread prepared by Fire, a Rasta- farian man of uncertain age.

This is one example of the di- PHOTOS/SUBMITTED versity that greets travelers to Ja- A beach in Negril maica. That island-nation has an abundance of magnificent beach- dilapidated condition can’t hide flowers and fruits from around the to 19th centuries, are the “Great es, a long list of outdoor activities, the beauty of their Georgian ar- world. Houses” which plantation owners an intriguing history and a rich chitecture. The Brits were preceded built. They ranged from grandiose cultural mélange. For visitors seeking excite- by Taino Indians, who arrived to more modest, and provide in- Even tourist-magnet towns ment activities range from explor- around 650 AD and Christopher sight into part of Jamaica’s past. along the northern coastline dem- ing the island by horseback or Jeep, Columbus, who dropped by in Halse Hall was built in 1680 onstrate Jamaica’s split personal- and hiking and biking excursions, 1494. Spain controlled the island on the foundation of a Spanish ity. Montego Bay is all hustle and to climbing up mountains and until 1655, when British forces hacienda. It was constructed with bustle. Ocho Rios is more relaxed, scampering down into limestone took over. Jamaica became inde- the thick walls of a fortress for se- except when one or more cruise caves. Those who prefer to com- pendent in 1962. curity. ships disgorge their passengers. mune with Mother Nature find The Spanish introduced sugar Rose Hall comes with a leg- Negril overlooks the island’s finest plenty of alternatives. As if the cultivation and slavery, both of end concerning Annie Palmer beach. Port Antonio offers out- island weren’t already a tropical which were expanded by British who, according to the story, mur- paradise British colonists gilded settlers. Among reminders of the dered three husbands, among door markets, a maze of narrow Travel page 13 back streets and buildings whose the lily – literally – by importing heyday of sugar, from the 17th Our adult day care is there for you. • Supervised care up to 12 hours per day. • Daily Activities Include: Exercise, Music, Art More affordable than any other care option. and Intergenerational Programs, among others. • The day club allows members to spend the day • Meals included. in a comfortable, stimulating environment. • You can choose a schedule that fits your lifestyle; • Perfect for working caregivers or to give you 1 day or as many as 7 days a week. a respite from caregiving. • Transportation in our safe van or handicap • Memory impaired welcome. bus is available.

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(formerly AFC Doctors Express) 14 • fiftyplus advocate + May 2018 + www.fiftyplusadvocate.com Serving since summer 2014 as the city’s first public art plan- ner, Deborah Greel of Salem strives to work with the Public Art Commission to attract resi- dents and visitors to Artists’ Row. Artists’ Row She draws upon eight years’ ex- perience as executive director of the Marblehead Art Association and five years of leading the Sa- Salem attraction continues lem Main Streets organization, whose mission is to promote the city’s downtown revitalization.

evolving in 14th season PHOTOS/SUBMITTED “Knowing that the city is very supportive of the public art initiative, I was intrigued by By Ed Karvoski Jr. the idea of taking on the chal- Culture Editor lenge,” she said. “It’s more than just about loving art; it’s also Salem – Artists’ Row in Salem Above: how we play in our spaces.” continues to evolve in its 14th Artists’ Row Artists’ Row is a pedestrian year. While its season formerly kiosk walkway with four small build- opened in late-May, this year ings housing several artists spe- it began April 1 and will run Left: cializing in various media. Oc- through Saturday, Nov. 3, at Artists’ Row cupying a fifth building is the 24 New Derby St., across from participant restaurant Lobster Shanty. Fea- the Old Town Hall and Derby Sibel tures added last year include an Alpaslan of Square. Also new this year, plans artist in residence placemak- are underway to schedule per- Ceramics by Sibel ing program, and a commu- formers to complement the vi- nity table for all ages to gather sual artists and an already-exist- for creativity andArtists’ conversation. Row page 15 ing music festival.

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lan Pasnik, The Trustees of the Reservations (The Trustees) 2017 Volunteer of the Year has donated 1,500A hours of his time over the past two years, mostly with his hands, but also with his heart. A retired data analyst and skilled carpenter, Pasnik has built Adirondack chairs, retail displays, trestle tables, and many other creative pieces for The Trustees, a member-supported nonprofit conserva- tion organization that preserves land, na- ture, and historic places in Massachusetts. Annie Wolf, The Trustee’s Volunteer Program Coordinator, said, “Choosing a Volunteer of the Year is always a wonderful challenge! This honor is one of the many ways we show our appreciation for our 2,500-plus incredibly hard working, dedi- cated, and creative volunteers, statewide.” “In a year when our Charles River Val- Pasnik page 17 Alan Pasnik built this kid-size farm tractor and hay wagon for Powisset Farm PHOTO/THE TRUSTEES

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By Micha Shalev best in care that appeals to se- MHA CDP CDCM niors in spite of its changeable weather. Th e facility’s ability to Worcester - Dodge Park engage residents in meaning- Rest Home’s resident center ful activity, regardless of weather programs, which incorporate a conditions, is a tribute to the warm, welcoming environment, quality of care it off ers. trained staff and innovative tech- Th e Caring Super Star award niques, have is driven by customer satisfac- earned the tion. Family caregivers, residents facility in- and others who receive care pro- dustry kudos vide feedback through online re- – a Caring views to Caring.com; to win the Super Start award, a facility has to receive ten Award. or more reviews with an average Th e Car- rating of 4.5, on a scale of 1 to Caregiving ing Star, as 5. Th ree or more reviews have to well as the be submitted within a one-year Caring Su- timeframe, one of which has to Tips per Star be a rating of 5. Finally, the facil- Award (which was created in ity must respond to every nega- 2012), is bestowed on the best tive review it receives. senior living communities and Shalev and Herlinger are home care agencies in the Unit- Micha Shalev (left), and Ben Herlinger of Oasis at Dodge Park in proud to have been given the ed States by Caring.com. Th ese Worcester. Caring Super Star Award for awards serve as a guiding light several consecutive years. for families, caregivers and older Ben Herlinger, noted that re- 2018 list are small businesses or “We are honored to be part adults who are searching for the ceiving this award not only helps single-community care provid- of this elite group of best senior best providers for their particular seniors select the best option for ers, like Dodge Park. Moreover, care and memory care commu- senior care needs. independent or assisted living, many facilities that earn the Car- nities across the country,” Sha- Th e Dodge Park Rest Home, non-medical in-home care and ing Super Star award are located lev said. “Th e fact that we have located at 101 Randolph Road, memory care, but it also boosts in warmer climates. Situated in achieved this accomplishment in in Worcester, is proud to be the the morale of staff who care for the heart of Central Massachu- the short history of the award is only facility in Massachusetts seniors. Furthermore, the award setts, Dodge Park delivers the very satisfying.” that has earned this designation, sets Caring Stars apart from not only once, but three times in competitors. Micha Shalev MHA CDP CDCM CADDCT, is the co-owner of The Oasis at Dodge the last fi ve years. Th e facility has For Dodge Park, this award Park, Dodge Park Rest Home and The Adult Day Club at Dodge Park located at 101 been named a Caring Super Star is particularly meaningful since and 102 Randolph Road in Worcester. He holds a master’s degree in healthcare for the past several years. large chains often earn attention management and is a graduate of the National Council of Certifi ed Dementia Micha Shalev, who owns the due to more resources. Only 16 Practitioners program, and well-known speaker covering Alzheimer’s and dementia training topics. He can be reached at 508-853-8180 or [email protected]. facility with business partner percent of communities on the Archives of articles from previous issues can be read at www.fi ftyplusadvocate.com.

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By Alain Valles, CRMP, older, another approach is to MBA, CSA convert the equity that you have Managing Director built up into cash by using a re- Helping Hands Community verse mortgage. Depending on Partners, Inc. how much you still owe on your home, a reverse mortgage can al- he real estate market low you to obtain a signifi cant in Massachusetts is red portion of your home’s equity Thot. Housing prices have in the form of tax-free cash, if climbed or as needed. More importantly, sharply you would have the added ben- after bot- efi t of remaining in your home, toming with no mortgage payments, and out during no need to spend your money on the Great another place to live. You would, Recession. of course, be responsible for real In just the estate taxes, homeowner’s insur- past year, ance, and other loan guidelines. 20 years, it is likely that its value mum selling price from buyers Why is now a good time to the me- is greater now than ever before. eager to scoop up a home in a dian Mas- look into a reverse mortgage? Reverse Which means the value of your market with limited inventory. Th e feverish real estate market sachusetts equity is also at an all-time high. But that leaves you with a pre- home won’t last forever and is already Mortgage It makes sense to capitalize dicament: fi nding another place showing early signs of slow- value has on the strength of your home’s to live could be even more ex- risen 5.8 ing down. Accessing your hard- value while the market is at its pensive, and quickly erode the earned equity through a reverse percent to $386,500. If you have peak. Th e obvious way is to sell profi t you make from the sale. owned your home for more than mortgage will help you maxi- your home, getting the maxi- If you are 62 years of age or Reverse mortgage page 20

“Celebrity SUPER CROSSWORD PUZZLE Spoonerisms” (answers on page 20) 20 • fi f t y plus advocate + May 2018 + www.fi ftyplusadvocate.com Breast cancer survivor is hopeful its cause will be found By Ed Karvoski Jr. ored as an advocate for women’s public’s reaction since Culture Editor health and cancer prevention will the organization’s be style and beauty expert Gretta inception to now. Framingham/Boston – Breast Monahan. “People had told cancer survivor Ellie Anbinder Anbinder explained, “Th e me that I was wast- of Framingham is determined foundation is based on our be- ing my time,” she re- to help fi nd what causes the lief that the environment is trig- layed. “Now, there’s a disease. She co-founded and gering the rise in breast cancer. diff erence with more serves as executive director of Th e big organizations are mostly talk about the envi- Find the Cause Breast Cancer about cure, treatment and aware- ronment and toxins, Foundation, formerly known as ness; they’re not asking why and but there’s still not Art beCAUSE. While its name what are the causes. We don’t enough research. changed last year, the Framing- know the cause for sure yet be- Ninety-three percent ham-based nonprofi t organiza- cause the science hasn’t been of all monies raised tion continues to fund scientifi c funded suffi ciently.” in breast cancer re- research on environmental causes Immediately upon hearing search goes to treat- of breast cancer and educate the her diagnosis in 1991, Anbinder ment, to the cure. public on prevention. began questioning its cause. She Th at doesn’t leave As in past years, scientists was shocked because there’s no much to fi gure out will explain how the funds are history of breast cancer in her PHOTO/JANINE TWOMEY the causes.” invested to donors attending the family. Find the Cause foundation’s 15th annual Gala, “Th at was a long time ago gives scientists pre- scheduled for Tuesday, May 29, when we were just learning about liminary seed grant from 6 to 9 p.m., at Fairmont breast cancer,” she noted. “We money, allowing their Copley Plaza, 138 St. James Ave. now know that 90 percent of us Ellie Anbinder projects to advance in Boston. Emceeing the event is have no family history – and that to the next levels. Candy O’Terry, co-founder and includes me.” chusetts Breast Cancer Coalition Over the years, the president of Boston Women in She was among the fi rst (MBCC), founded in 1991. Th e foundation has given seed grants Media & Entertainment. Hon- board members of the Massa- MBCC contributed to Mas- ranging from $5,000 to $60,000. sachusetts becoming the fi rst Anbinder is hopeful that fund- state to declare breast cancer an ing scientifi c research will help epidemic. Additionally, MBCC fi nd the breast cancer cause Your home may never founded Silent Spring Institute within the foreseeable future. to investigate the link between “We’ve already given close breast cancer and the environ- to $1 million for research,” she be more valuable ment. noted. “I’d like to know that my fi ve grandchildren will live in a Reverse mortgage Obtain your free “How to “It didn’t sit well with me Continued from page 19 that millions of dollars were go- world that’s a lot healthier than Use Your Home to Stay at the one we’re in now.” mize the amount of cash you can Home” 36-page book ing into treatment, but we still didn’t know the cause,” Anbinder For more information about access while your home’s value is Find the Cause Breast Cancer Want to know more about said. “No one could give me the near its peak. Wait too long and Foundation and the upcoming reverse mortgages? Give me a answer to why I have breast can- home values may fall, reducing Gala, visit fi ndthecausebcf.org call at 781-724-6221 or email at cer, so I concluded that the cause the amount of equity you would and on Facebook at facebook. [email protected] and request a free must have come from outside of receive. com/fi ndthecausebcf. What can you do with the copy of the offi cial reverse mort- my body.” money you receive from a re- gage consumer booklet approved In 2000, she co-founded Art verse mortgage? Anything you’d by the U.S. Department of beCAUSE with Joyce Creiger, like after paying off any exist- Housing & Urban Development an art gallery owner at the time. Answers to Super ing mortgages! Many of our cli- (HUD) called “Use Your Home Th ey decided to use some of the Crossword ents use their money (and it is to Stay at Home” published by art gallery profi t to fund breast (puzzle on page 19) THEIR money) to pay off bills, the National Council on Aging cancer research. increase monthly cash fl ow, make (NCOA). Th is is a great place to “It was initially a very lovely, home renovations, help a grand- start to receive basic information. esoteric kind of business plan, but child pay college tuition, travel, Or I would be happy to review not a really good one,” Anbinder or simply to have peace of mind your specifi c situation to help acknowledged. “As our mission that funds are available for rainy you achieve your goals, reduce fi - grew, people asked what we did. days or unexpected expenses. Th e nancial stress, and maintain your We were trying to fi nd the cause uses are limitless. independence. for breast cancer, so we fi nally – and appropriately – changed the Alain Valles is Managing Director of Helping Hands Community Partners, Inc. and was the fi rst designated Certifi ed Reverse Mortgage Professional in New England. name.” He obtained a Master of Science from the M.I.T. Center for Real Estate, an MBA from Anbinder has observed a the Wharton School, and graduated summa cum laude from UMass Amherst. Alain gradual evolution in the general can be reached directly at 781-724-6221 or by email at [email protected] www.fi ftyplusadvocate.com + May 2018 + fi f t y plus advocate • 21 Back in my day

Meet Louise and Ann. their next chapter and are enjoy- Th ese two sisters remember vis- ing what it off ers. iting their mother and aunt in For our company, it feels Age is foolish and forgetful elderly housing 30 some odd warm and fuzzy for us to be a years ago. When it came time for tradition of sorts, but it is also when it underestimates youth. them to consider the move, there wonderful and humbling and was a comfort level with the scary that we have now been building they had visited before. around for generations. And ~ J.K. Rowling One had taken a fall, the other the hope is that we will be there was sick to death of stairs. But for generations to come. I think for both, the familiarity of the ahead about my own retirement. building felt right when the time It is hard to picture myself even By Marianne Delorey, Ph.D. ognize the wisdom of the older came. Having each other nearby shorter and with even more gray generations and – gasp!- even made the transition easier, but hair, but I think I would thrive occasionally ask for assistance ension between the gen- they have both embraced aging in a community where I could and insight. erations is natural. Even in their own way. One jumped help out and enjoy the company But every generation of teen- young toddlers need to in with two feet, volunteering to of others. T agers needs to fi nd its own way, push off from their mothers’ arms do announcements for the offi ce. We all need role models. In and our generations were no dif- and learn to walk without help. Th e other quietly does puzzles in my line of work, I am blessed ferent. It is still hard for me to Th is sets the precedent for many the library. Given the example of to have had several wonderful ask for help – whether it is from many things their mom, they are anticipating examples of how to age. If you my children, asking about how to come. It aging for a long time to come. don’t have a role model, fi nd one, to use a new piece of technol- is most ob- Th ey have set themselves up for or even better, make your own. vious when ogy – or from my elders on how they handled diffi cult situations those beau- Marianne Delorey, Ph.D., is the executive director of Colony Retirement Homes. tiful babies (for example, living with teenag- She can be reached at 508-755-0444 or [email protected] and www. ers). Each generation assumes colonyretirementhomes.com. Archives of articles from previous issues can be read become tem- at www.fi ftyplusadvocate.com. peramental so much has changed that the teenagers older generation may not be able Housing and nothing to off er help. Certainly, I cannot you can say ask my mother if 12 is too young Options or do is even for a fi rst phone. But the bigger remotely picture is still there – I could ask correct. 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