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2 REFRESHED | May 2015 May 2015 | REFRESHED 3 Download a digital version of Refreshed magazine for convenient viewing on your favorite digital device. Refreshed magazine refreshedmag.com brings home awards During the annual Evangelical Press magazine, with judging based on both Association convention held in early content and design, Refreshed was April, Refreshed magazine received six awarded Awards of Merit in both the awards for work published during 2014, print and digital divisions for fi nishing our fi rst year of publishing in a maga- in the top fi ve of each division. zine format. The judge said, “A lively publication First place awards were won for Best that focuses in a compelling way on hu- Humor Article, written by humor col- man-interest articles that highlight the umnist Joanne Brokaw, and Best Short issues and concerns of its readership.” Article, written by Tim Walker. Although it just missed placing in Joanne’s article, the Best Cover cat- “Insomnia: Ques- egory—sixth out of tions that Keep Me 50 entries—the judge Awake at Night,” said the cover makes it appeared in the Sep- Award of Merit “feel like a real news- tember 2014 issue. Refreshed stand magazine and The judge said: in the Christian Ministry category that’s not faint praise. “…imagination that Lamar Keener, Lori Arnold, Theresa Keener So many entrants VOLUME 2 | NUMBER 5 has run amok… the can’t (identify) the PUBLISHERS Lamar & Theresa Keener story is funny and basics of magazine EDITOR Lori Arnold allows a pause in covers, but this one someone’s hectic knows all of them. The PROOFREADER Lis Trouten day that allows them cover is designed with COVER PHOTO Sarah Tolson Photography to forget their trou- classic design prin- AD SALES Lamar Keener bles for a while and ciples and handles all CONTRIBUTORS Joanne Brokaw, Michael Foust, be entertained.” 2015 of them well.” Jon Huckins, Daniel Jenkins, Mark Larson, Carol LeBeau, D’Arcy Maher Theresa Keener Tim’s contempla- Executive Director President Published by Dean Nelson, Kim Ruby, Janice Thompson tive piece, “Colliding Selah Media Group, ADVISORY BOARD Mark Rasche, Nelson Keener, with God,” was pub- Refreshed magazine Carl Schreiber, Brandon Ruby lished in October 2014. was launched in January 2014 to replace Copyright © 2015 Selah Media Group The judge’s comments included: “Ex- the Christian Examiner newspaper. Refreshed is an in de pen dent, faith-based magazine cellent! The author had a premise, sup- ChristianNewsJournal.com, launched pub lished monthly by Selah Media Group. It is distributed ported his premise with excellent con- last July by Selah Media Group, won an in bulk, free of charge, to hundreds of locations tent, and wound it all up with a call to Award of Excellence as the best online throughout San Diego County. action… Poor Tim, I and the rest of your Christian news site. For a 1-year mail subscription, send $24.95 to the address readers could feel your pain. You used The Evangelical Press Association is below or visit refreshedmag.com. humor for its emotive quality. We don’t the professional membership organiza- Refreshed welcomes story ideas. All unsolicited material is all have to weep to get a point across.” tion for Christian periodicals in North subject to approval of the publishers and is not returned. The magazine was awarded third America. The 300-member association Viewpoints expressed in Refreshed are those of their place in the Fiction category for a includes publications from such notable respective writers, and are not necessarily held by the publishers. Christmas short story, “Morning Mail,” organizations as Christianity Today, published in December. The heartwarm- World Vision, Focus on the Family, Billy Reasonable effort is made to screen advertisers, but no endorsement of the publishers is implied or should be ing story was written by Mary Moody Graham Evangelistic Association, Com- inferred. The publishers can accept no responsibility for the and illustrated by Mary Hart. passion, and The Salvation Army. products or services offered through ad ver tise ments. The A fi fth place was awarded in the At the EPA convention, held April publisher reserves the right to refuse any ad ver tis ing. Standing Column category for Doug 8 to 10 in Denver, Selah Media Group ADDRESS ALL CORRESPONDENCE TO: Trouten’s Plugged In column that ap- owner Theresa Keener completed her P. O. Box 2606, El Cajon, CA 92021 pears regularly in the Minneapolis/St. term as the president of the Evangelical E-MAIL [email protected] Paul edition. Press Association. Theresa is the web PHONE/FAX (619) 567-7811 In the Christian Ministry overall developer for both refreshedmag.com AD SALES (619) 567-7811 category that encompasses the entire and christiannewsjournal.com.
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FEATURES 8 4 Refreshed magazine brings home awards
8 Kimberly Hunt: Beyond the anchor desk Faith, family help newscaster in her coveted role of mom 14 Fostering a new life Former troubled teen leverages his past for good 18 Gridiron grit Football great Jim Kelly’s faith sustains a family tested by trials
COLUMNS 7 Dean Nelson | in plain sight Don’t miss the moment 17 Jon Huckins | perspective The costly work of peacemaking 14 18 24 Mark Larson | on the mark Rise of the robots 25 Michael Foust | purposeful parenting 3 simple ways to teach kids to pray 26 Janice Thompson | on the money Practically speaking… Time for a new car? 27 Daniel Jenkins | reality check Turning the relational battleship 28 Matt Hammett | inspired living A life worth imitating 30 Joanne Brokaw | that’s life! Home improvement, Netfl ix-style 30
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6 REFRESHED | May 2015 in plain sight
DEAN NELSON
Don’t miss the moment
One of my colleagues And my friend missed saw me walking through it because he was too busy the hallway and motioned posing, trying to fulfi ll me toward his door. someone else’s expecta- “You gotta see this,” tions. he said. “Look at all the love When I got to his door I missed,” he said to me. I saw that he was pointing “The love that came to us to his computer. unannounced and unex- My stomach dropped a pected and undeserved. little. I’m never interested It was there for us, but we in looking at what other missed it.” people think is interest- It was a love they ing on their computers. didn’t initiate, and it was It’s usually a video of there whether they recog- cats set to music or a nized it or not. mashup of news anchors “What is essential is whose broadcasts are edited to sound “Okay, I think I’ve got it now,” the to know that the Christian life is mostly like they’re singing a rap song. It’s even voice said. “Smile real big now! Wait, what is being done to you, not what worse if it’s video of one of their kids there’s some shadow on your faces. Let you are doing,” said Eugene Peterson, or grandkids singing “Twinkle, Twinkle me turn the fl ash on.” pastor, scholar and author of The Mes- Little Star.” Seen it. Don’t need to see it The posing continued. sage translation of the Bible. “You don’t again. Life’s too short. The video showed my friend’s face begin the spiritual life, the Holy Spirit “What’s up?” I tried to feign polite- harden into a forced smile. He and his does. And it began a long time ago. It ness. wife could barely hide their frustration was his idea before it was yours.” “It’s a clip of when my wife and I that this wasn’t happening fast enough. Our everyday activities provide us took our grandkids to Disneyland.” While they stood, with now artifi cial with ample opportunity to see the ac- I’m one of the only people I know smiles that resembled grimaces, the tivity of God—if we pay attention. It’s who doesn’t like Disneyland. But friend- video also picked up their audio, and all around us, in the ordinary, everyday ship is friendship. I pulled a chair up to captured what the two of them thought experience of life. Jesus used even mud his desk. was a private conversation about the to help a man see. The video showed my friend and his incompetence of the photographer. “We are not here to show something wife walking through the entrance of Here’s what else the video showed: to God,” said Robert Benson, an author the happiest place on earth. My friend While my friend and his wife focused specializing in prayer, silence and spiri- was holding their 8-month-old grand- on becoming statues in a wax museum, tuality. “We are here because God—who daughter. Off camera I could hear the waiting for the expected thing to hap- wants to be completely known—has father of the baby say, “Let’s get a photo pen, and while the photographer was something to show us. ” of you three with the castle in the back- audibly on the verge of a meltdown Maybe even at Disneyland. ground.” because he couldn’t get his camera to The grandparents turned toward the work, the baby turned to my friend’s Dean Nelson directs the son-in-law and posed. The video, being face and started touching it with her journalism program at taken by their daughter, kept rolling. tiny hands. We could hear those beauti- Point Loma Nazarene “Okay, hold still,” the off-camera ful baby vowels, ooos and aaaas, while University in San Diego. voice said. “Smile everyone! No wait. I she touched his face. The baby smiled His book about seeing need to turn the camera on.” and even leaned in to put her mouth on God in everyday life is My friend, his wife and the grandbaby my friend’s cheek. Then the baby turned “God Hides in Plain Sight: waited. Posing. and stroked her grandmother’s face. How to See the Sacred in a Chaotic World.”
May 2015 | REFRESHED 7 Kimberly Hunt: Beyond the anchor desk Faith, family help newscaster in her coveted role of mom
by LORI ARNOLD
uring her 27 years behind a San Diego an- years, co-anchoring with her long-time friend Car- chor desk, Kimberly Hunt has covered sitting ol LeBeau before heading to KUSI in 2002. She re- Dpresidents, interviewed high-profi le celebri- turned to Channel 10 and LeBeau in January 2008. ties like Oprah Winfrey, covered the Oscars live and LeBeau retired in 2009. helped viewers navigate the ravaging fi restorms of Hunt’s evening work duties meant she was not 2003 and 2007, but her favorite assignment? Mom. home when daughter, Savannah, got from school. “I think it’s like any other mom,” Hunt said in She was also in the studio for sports practices, an interview in her Del Mar home. “I think ‘The homework and most weeknight dinners. Those du- Mom’ part of you is not at all affected by anything ties, she said, were masterfully orchestrated by her else that affects your life or what you do for a liv- husband, former San Diego Chargers linebacker ing or the fact that someone may watch television Billy Ray Smith. After his 1992 retirement from the in the evenings and recognize my face as a news NFL, Smith became a sports broadcaster, working anchor in town. When you turn to the other part the morning drive time as part of The Scott and B.R. of your life, which is wife and mother, the mother Show. part, that just plays no part in your relationship. “It worked out perfectly for a parent, mother It only affects your schedule.” or father, always being with Savannah,” Hunt said It’s been a crazy schedule. of her now 23-year-old daughter. “We never had to Since coming to ABC affi liate KGTV from a Mon- have any kind of substantial day care other than the terey, California station in 1987, Hunt has anchored occasional person that helped out when we wanted the nightly news. She stayed at Channel 10 for 15 to do something or had an event.”
8 REFRESHED | May 2015 Kiimberly Hunt shares how she learned to balance a demanding work schedule while being a mom. She has been an evening news anchor in San Diego since 1987.
The schedule meant that Hunt would catch about fi ve hours of sleep after getting home around 12:30 a.m. Smith would head off to his station by 4:30 a.m. Hunt was up an hour or so after that to spend time cooking breakfast with Sa- vannah before driving her to school, a ritual that continued until late into high school when the teen insisted on driving herself. “My sleep didn’t matter,” Momma said. “That was the only thing that suf- fered. Time with her didn’t suffer.” When school ended for the day Smith would pick her up and take her to vol- leyball practice. He helped her as needed with homework and any other school- related tasks. For dinner, he would pull out carefully packaged meals that Hunt prepared and labeled several days in ad- vance. “It makes all of the difference in the world because she couldn’t be in better hands than Daddy when I’m not home,” Hunt said. “He did a fantastic job.” PHOTO BY SARAH TOLSON PHOTOGRAPHY TOLSON SARAH BY PHOTO Treasured time The routine also complemented each have received thousands of requests to Mission, Burn Institute, Mama’s Kitchen, of their interests. Hunt was able to in- emcee fundraisers and benefi ts. Their Room to Read, and Opportunity Interna- still her affi nity for health and nutrition; commitment to charity work came nat- tional. Smith was able to pass on his passion for urally, as the couple fi rst met while co- After watching her parents model the sports and even coaching (when it came hosting a United Cerebral Palsy telethon giving spirit around San Diego, to homework). in the late 1980s. Savannah traveled as a young teen Several nights a week Hunt tried to “He invited me to lunch and we never to Vietnam with her mother, where they arrange her schedule so that she could stopped dating until we were married,” worked on a school library project for drive home to share a meal with her the newscaster said. underprivileged children. family, something that current work de- The couple will celebrate their 25th After returning from the trip, Sa- mands wouldn’t allow now. wedding anniversary in June. vannah started her own charity, rais- “It was like God kind of oversaw that “Everything we do charitably is a de- ing money to help poor families furnish being manageable and, about the time cision we make on our own time or as a their homes. She also helped with tu- she went off to college, I really wouldn’t family,” she said. toring. For her 16th birthday Savannah be able to come home to dinner like I did Last year alone, Hunt was involved in raised $20,000 for Opportunity Interna- back then,” she said. 59 charitable projects. tional after asking her friends to give to The weekends were devoted to family “It’s a lot when you work fi ve nights a the charity in lieu of gifts. time, often attending Savannah’s games. week,” she said. They also frequently did charity work Her charitable work has benefi ted, Parental legacy together. As a high-profi le couple, they among others, the San Diego Rescue Although Hunt has enjoyed her vol-
May 2015 | REFRESHED 9 Kimberly Hunt celebrates International Women’s Day with the two most important women in her life: her daughter, Savannah, and her mother, Vesta.
life. It affects everything.” It’s a way of life that was cultivated even more with the shared values of her spouse. “I will say having that mirror as a husband is invaluable because I think that, clearly, if I hadn’t had a husband all those years that was that kind of a person and if I had someone who wasn’t that, it wouldn’t have worked.” Their faith also provided a grounding that helped to temper some of the pit- unteer work with the various social in my life, ever, not been there when falls that can come to children of high- agencies, her heart is particularly close they’ve needed to be.” profi le parents. to those benefi ting various law enforce- Her dad provides the sound spiritual “I feel like the minute we walk in that ment organizations, which she supports foundation, while her mother comple- door that doesn’t exist anymore,” the as a tribute to her father Harry Hunt, a ments that with sheer strength. newscaster said of their public jobs. “She retired investigator with the California “When something happens that rocks was raised in a conservative home, two Highway Patrol, and her grandfather, my world and I know, ‘OK this isn’t good parents with standards and expectations also named Harry Hunt, an Ojai Police news,’” Hunt said that’s her cue to call and love and support.” Department constable who was killed in home. Hunt said that fans of their work fre- the line of duty in 1943. “My father cries and my mom is a quently inquire about Savannah and “I could not have seen a more com- rock, like a ROCK, but a positive rock. have been particularly kind to their fam- mitted work ethic,” Hunt said of her fa- (With) my mom this positive comes out ily, often greeting them while still main- ther, who lives in Napa, where he and with this strength. My dad has to cry that taining appropriate boundaries. his wife, Vesta, raised Kimberly and her someone hurt me. Once he pulls him- “It’s been a wonderful blessing not two siblings, Glenn and Debi. “I have a self together then he goes to the Bible only for us, but for Savannah,” Hunt said. hardworking, trust-worthy, loyal, good and then he gives me the verses: protec- “They have cared about her because they father.” tion, blessings, overcoming, persevering, have heard about her through us and Early on, Hunt adopted that same plans for your life.” knew we had a daughter and they are just work philosophy as her own, a trait also caring and wonderful.” exhibited by her husband. Spiritual heritage “You make do with the small connec- In many ways, the mommy instinct No empty nest tions and the every couple of nights me was passed on from her own mother; Hunt said she believes the strong fa- dropping in for dinner until you can get their closeness revealed through Hunt’s milial foundation, faith and a network of to the weekend,” she said. “I was think- own misting eyes. girlfriends who provided another layer ing that I was just fortunate that life was “I learned everything, everything (from of role models for Savannah helped to working out this way.” her),” the journalist said. “I couldn’t have shape her into a self-motivated young In addition to the strong work ethic, ever had a more loving, giving, generous, woman who is now working in New York Hunt credits her mom and dad with mod- honorable, selfl ess, gracious, beautiful, City’s hotel industry after graduating eling the skills that she, in turn, used to faith-fi lled mother. earlier this year from Cornell. parent her own child. At the center of it “Faith plays a role in everything that Two years before graduating from all, she said, is an enduring faith. has ever been a part of my life. Every high school Savannah had already set “They are so lovely how they go to- decision I ever make, every reaction I her sights on the university in Ithaca, gether,” she said. “They are two people have to news, every person I choose, the New York, the only college to which she of faith, integrity and character and joy. way I raise my daughter, how I navigate submitted an application. In preparation They are always there. They have never change in life, the unexpected bumps in for the application process Savannah re-
10 REFRESHED | May 2015 Newscaster at home with TV role
by LORI ARNOLD
imberly Hunt watched with fas- to cover—and they are frightening and cination when her father spread they are threatening—there is always out the contents of his briefcase a fl ip side. Every time you see the evil searched all of the entry requirements K as he tried to make sense out of the in- in man there is a good side.” and determined extra steps she could vestigative pieces of a pending case. Hunt prepared herself for journal- take to improve her chances of begin ac- As an investigator with the Califor- ism at San Francisco State University. cepted, including landing a job in a fi eld nia Highway Patrol, Harry Hunt often Before graduating she interned at related to her course of study. Before she brought his work home, a behind-the- CNN’s San Francisco bureau and fi lled completed high school she had already scenes pursuit of justice fi rst instilled her weekends with radio broadcasting. visited Cornell three times. in him by his own namesake and fa- After earning her degree Hunt was “She’s always learned how to and al- ther, a constable with the Ojai Police hired by ABC News to serve as a re- ways wanted to learn how to fi gure it out Department who was killed in the line searcher for World News Tonight an- herself,” her proud mom said. “It’s her of duty when Harry was just 9. chor Peter Jennings, providing back- responsibility and we’re here to be par- Raised with a legacy of lawmen, ground information for the network’s ents and to assist and do what parents Kimberly Hunt decided at age 15 to coverage of the 1984 Democratic Na- do.” contribute to the cause, but from a tional Convention. After the conven- Savannah’s elation at earning admis- different angle: informing the public tion closed Hunt accepted a position sion to Cornell served to cushion her about public safety needs. as an associate producer for ABC’s mom from the trauma of empty nesting. “We’re not fi rst responders by any Monday Night Football. “I helped her move into the dorm and stretch, but getting out information is Hunt landed her fi rst television there was nothing but excitement,” Hunt helpful,” she said. “You become an ap- news job as a weekday anchor for the said. “Every girl and boy that came in and pendage of fi rst responders.” CBS affi liate in Monterey, California. A met her, the freshman orientation, every Just like law enforcement, journal- year and a half later she was promoted professor we met, the building we walked ists typically see life from both ends of to evening anchor. In 1987 she moved into and the grass we walked on. She was the spectrum, meaning that anchors to San Diego to take the evening co- absolutely so beautifully happy and ex- have to master the art of the even keel, anchor job with KGTV Channel 10. Ex- cited and doing what she wanted to do. despite the type of news being deliv- cept for a fi ve-year stint at KUSI, Hunt “I’m removed from that now. Now, ered. has remained a primary anchor for the do I boo-hoo that she’s not home with “With the heinous stories we have local ABC affi liate. me? If she had been home with me, that wouldn’t have worked out for her. That’s what she wanted. So when I came home I just lived in her excitement.” Although her motherly role of mom has adapted with time and Savannah’s own personal development, Hunt said she’s still proudly mom. Thanks to cell phones and texting, they are only a mo- ment away from each other. In early April Savannah was home to celebrate Easter with her parents. “I feel like I’m like all the moms,” she said. “We love our kids to death and there’s nothing that brings us more joy in this world and we work hard for them and we protect them and we try to teach them and we try to let them grow. We try to be there for them during their ups and PHOTOGRAPHY TOLSON SARAH BY PHOTO downs. I just feel like that’s kind of col- Kimberly Hunt married former San Diego Chargers linebacker Billy Ray Smith in 1990. In June they will lectively what we moms do.” ■ celebrate their 25th wedding anniversary.
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May 2015 | REFRESHED 13 Fostering a new life Former troubled teen leverages his past for good
by LORI ARNOLD
y the time most of his peers were the scum of the earth, like nobody would ready to exert some independence care, really.” Bwith their own driver’s licenses, Predictably, he turned to drugs and Shane Harris had bounced around be- gangs. tween eight foster homes, even living on “I was looking for family elsewhere the streets. and so I fi gured I could fi nd it in the “It was not for an extended period of street life,” he said. “For me it was just time, but it was long enough,” said Har- survival.” ris, now 23. “At the time I felt like I was His search for a substitute family be- gan at age 8 after his father died of can- cer. His mother, addicted to drugs, was ruled unfi t so social services made Harris a ward of the court. “It was very challenging,” he said. “You are never stable. You are always being taken from one place to another place. … There was abuse and neglect and all of that. “You know, you just do it. You do what you have to do. That’s what my attitude became.” Although he was assigned social workers and interacted with teachers, Harris realized, “there was never really a person that was going to be there con- sistently.” At age 16, about the time police found his mother dead of a drug overdose, Har- ris walked into New Creation Church, where his then-foster mother attended. After returning the second week, Har- ris heeded the congregational call to come to the altar. “I was a little scared, but I really felt Christ calling me to Him,” he said. “From that moment on I decided to accept Christ into my life. I really felt that He Shane Harris, who grew up in the foster care system, is pursuing a bachelor’s degree in sociology, with a minor had a path for me that would turn it all in biblical studies. The coursework, which he plans to expand to eventually include master and doctorate around, and He did.” degrees, will enable him to do community-based social justice issues while also serving as a pastor. There were still early struggles in his
14 REFRESHED | May 2015 Shane Harris speaks at the Just In Time for Foster Youth’s annual gala, “Walk the Talk,” which was held March 14 at the Prado in Balboa Park.
A pastor emerges Under the guidance of his two spiritual mentors, Dr. Andre Evans and Dr. John Ringgold, senior pastor of Bethel Baptist Church, Harris purposed those traits into a two-year degree in biblical studies from Southern California Seminary. He is work- ing on his bachelor’s degree in sociology and a minor in biblical studies from Azusa Pacifi c University and plans to follow the same course of study for his master’s. After an intense eight-month training program under Evans and Ringgold, Harris and three others planted the non-denom- inational City of Destiny Church about a year ago. Today the congregation draws 50 people who are committed to communi- ty outreach. For Thanksgiving, the church hosted 150 homeless people for a downtown lunch, while their Sponsor Christmas campaign assisted needy families. “We were able to bless 10 families with a Christmas tree, some faith walk, especially in light of his mother’s death. presents and just bringing joy into their home,” said Harris. “That, along with the experience of receiving Christ, was the wake-up call,” he said. “There were two ways it could have Mentoring others (gone) because I was actually struggling with suicide as well, Through his own journey, Harris said he’s discovered the sig- because I didn’t feel that it was necessary for me to be here.” nifi cant drawbacks to isolation. “I think the biggest lesson has been how connections and Making connections Harris immersed himself in Scripture, ultimately exchanging the death and darkness for life and light. May is National Foster Month “It was through my conviction in Christ that I found new vi- National Foster Month was fi rst observed in 1988, by sion, new insight, new family,” he said. “I was able to eventually then-President Ronald Reagan. The month-long obser- drop that life out there and to really walk into this new family vance is designed to raise awareness of the foster care sys- within the church.” tem, foster parents and the children they serve. According As Harris approached 18, when he would offi cially be dropped to the Adoption and Foster Care Analysis and Reporting from the foster system, Harris was referred to New Alternatives System, more than 402,378 children were in the foster sys- Foster Family Agency, which enrolled him in a housing program tem in the United States as of September 2013, the most and with Just in Time Foster Youth, which helped fund his de- recent statistics available. posit and secured basic furnishings for his apartment. Those and other resources helped transition him from an isolated mi- Other statistics from that report: nor into a thriving adult who now serves as the outreach direc- Those age 10 or younger: 62 percent tor for Just in Time. Median age: 8.2 “I would still be building a foundation to go ahead and work Male: 52 percent from,” he said. “Along with my faith, to have this backing, also Female: 48 percent meant that I had some resources that I was able to utilize.” Number waiting to be adopted: 101,840 Don Wells, executive director of Just in Time, said Harris is Those in foster care with a relative: 28 percent motivated by empathy. Those in foster care with a non-relative: 47 percent “Because he endured so much loss in his life, I believe Shane Those in an institution: 8 percent has been searching for purpose and meaning to make sense of Those in a group home: 6 percent his pain,” Wells said. “Once he discovered a connection to faith, Those slated for reunifi cation: 53 percent it gave Shane a place to channel his energies and a perspective Those slated for adoption: 24 percent that resonated in a core place. The healing he found for himself Source: www.acf.hhs.gov became a powerful desire to give healing to others.”
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16 REFRESHED | May 2015 perspective
JON HUCKINS
The costly work of peacemaking
The world is swirling with issues. not saying we all need to passively waltz fear. Picking up my phone and opening around the world’s issues. No, I’m pro- • They are sitting at the hospital my news app each morning is being met posing we actively engage them in two bedside of the family who is suffering with more and more dread each day. ways: loss at the hands of unjust people and When something hits the news, it is 1. Healthy, constructive discourse systems. fascinating to watch people jump onto that doesn’t require that we all agree to • They are in the churches, schools social media and begin “yelling” out remain in relationship. and homes of our black and brown com- their answers for how to heal our broken 2. We spend less time talking, and munities to listen, learn and support. systems. use our best energy to actually do some- • They are in detention centers and Of course, there are almost always thing. deportation shelters to pray with and at least two completely different look in the eyes of those in our opinions for how these problems society’s shadows. should be fi xed, which typically • They are encouraging and leads to people drawing lines in walking with our faith and politi- the sand, picking their stance and cal leaders as they navigate the not budging. Relationships often potentially compromising posi- fracture and a polarized world tions of power. gets more polarized, rendering it It’s a way of life that is costly. immobilized for the work of rec- It is not glamorous. And it often onciliation. comes without our desired out- Whether it’s on our Facebook comes being met in the short term page, Twitter feed or around our and, potentially, not even in the table, I assume most of us can long term. think of an interaction where this This is the work of a trained, unhelpful and potentially destructive What this world needs are people strategic and intentional community reality played out. who are willing to roll up their sleeves of Jesus followers who are prepared So, does this “yelling” of our opin- and get dirty. And not for a week or a to move to the center of our society’s ions actually help heal the broken month or a year, but for the long haul. confl icts with the weapons to transform systems and the people whom those The world needs people embedded rather than destroy. It’s the gritty, sub- systems are breaking? in the center of these confl icts equipped versive and costly work of peacemaking. I’m all about using our voices to call with the practices that make for peace. More than ever, I believe the work out injustice. By offering a critique of These people don’t have time to debate of peacemaking is discipleship. It’s the power and a hope for those on the un- solutions on social media because they long, hard road of the cross that will derside of it, the ancient prophets did are already hard at work making the lead to the fl ourishing of others and this beautifully throughout history. solutions a reality. They don’t have to allow our deepest calling to meet the But, in a globalized, virtually in- transplant themselves to the center of world’s deepest needs. terconnected world, I’m concerned we the issue, because they are already em- May it be so. have too many self-appointed prophets bedded in it. They don’t have to seek the (which, by defi nition is NOT a prophet), approval of their constituency, because Jon Huckins is the co- and not near enough practitioners. Far it’s not about their reputation, it’s about founding director of The Global Immersion more constructive than a verbal or writ- the fl ourishing of those they have been Project, Missional ten argument is actually doing some- called to serve. Leadership Coach with thing. • They are sharing meals with the Thresholds, family man, I don’t think the world needs more forgotten in their neighborhood. speaker and author armchair advocates…especially when • They are building lasting, mutually of “Thin Places” and our arguing or defending leads to the benefi cial relationships with those of “Teaching Through the Art of Storytelling.” Follow fracture of real life relationships. I’m other faiths who we are often taught to his blog at www.jonhuckins.net.
May 2015 | REFRESHED 17 Gridiron grit PHOTO COURTESY OF REUTERS/ADREES LATIF REUTERS/ADREES OF COURTESY PHOTO Former Buffalo Bills quarterback Jim Kelly is all smiles after being named to the 2002 Class of Enshrinees by the Pro Football Hall of Fame on Feb. 2, 2002, in New Orleans. Football great Jim Kelly’s faith sustains a family tested by trials
by KIM LAWTON Religion News Service
ro Football Hall of Fame quarter- say, was and is their evangelical faith. me to seek after God,” she said. “Every- back Jim Kelly is considered one The Kellys met and married at the thing changed then.” Pof the NFL’s best quarterbacks. He height of Jim’s football career and en- Jim Kelly said that at the time, he was led the Buffalo Bills to a record four con- joyed the celebrity that came with it. angry with God and told his wife not to secutive Super Bowls in the 1990s — and They had a daughter, Erin, and then in push her newfound beliefs on him. “I they famously lost all four. Nonetheless, 1997, just a few weeks after Jim retired didn’t come to faith until after Hunter he earned a reputation for a gridiron grit from the Bills, their son, Hunter, was passed away,” he said. that became known as “Kelly tough.” born. Daughter Camryn came along Neither of their daughters has Krab- But for Jim and his wife, Jill, that Kelly in 1999. be. The Kellys were determined to help toughness was tested most profoundly When Hunter was just 4 months old, Hunter live the best life possible. They by what followed off the fi eld: a termi- he was found to have a genetic disease launched the Hunter’s Hope Founda- nally ill son, problems in their marriage called Krabbe Leukodystrophy, which tion to promote awareness and research and Jim’s struggle with cancer. affects the nervous system. The Kellys about the rare disease. “You can only be tough so much. And were told he likely wouldn’t survive to In 2004, the Kellys and the founda- I’ve just been very blessed that I have an his second birthday. tion helped found the Hunter James open heart now,” Kelly told the PBS pro- Both Jim and Jill had been raised Kelly Research Institute at the University gram “Religion & Ethics NewsWeekly.” Catholic, but neither was very religious. at Buffalo. Through their efforts, more “Those things that we go through Jill said her devastation over the diag- and more newborns are now screened for that cause us to be tested, or to doubt, nosis sent her on a desperate spiritual Krabbe so they can be given an umbili- or to fear,” his wife added, “those things search that ultimately led her to be- cal cord blood transplant in the narrow make us stronger in our faith.” come a born-again Christian. window of time when progression of the The thing that sustains them, they “It was Hunter’s suffering that caused disease can still be slowed.
18 REFRESHED | May 2015 From the perspective of Jim Kelly’s wife, Jill, and oldest daughter, Erin, “Kelly Tough” is a deeply personal account of the love a family can have for each other during the darkest times. JIM KELLY BUFFALO BILLS PHOTO BILLS BUFFALO KELLY JIM - © WICKEDGOOD | DREAMSTIME.COM DREAMSTIME.COM | WICKEDGOOD © Quarterback Jim Kelly led the Buffalo Bills to a record four consecutive Super Bowls in the 1990s.
“The bottom line is, you want to make had been unfaithful. He sought pastoral At fi rst, Jim didn’t want to go public a difference,” Jim Kelly said. counseling and decided to embrace his about their latest ordeal. But he said his Beating all medical expectations, wife’s newfound faith for himself. wife convinced him the family needed as Hunter lived until 2005, when he was 8 “I wanted to be able, for my two many prayers as possible. Jim’s former and a half, although he was never able to daughters, to walk in that front door teammates and the western New York walk or talk. and when they do, to look at their dad- community have rallied around them. “God used him in so many ways,” dy with respect. I was losing all that,” Although Jim still has some lingering said Jill Kelly. “We learned patience and Jim Kelly said during a recent appear- health issues, a recent MRI declared him love, unconditional love, selfl essness, ance at Liberty University. “I knew that again cancer-free. all of the things that you don’t learn if I didn’t change my life, I was going “I live every day to its fullest,” he said. in books, and that neither of us had to lose everything that I worked so hard Jill and their eldest daughter, Erin, learned up to that point in our lives as for.” have written a forthcoming book about an adult.” The Kellys still live in western New the family’s experiences. Called “Kelly Jim Kelly calls Hunter a role model: York, where they attend The Chapel, a Tough,” the book was scheduled for re- “Talk about people that you admire, I large nondenominational church. They lease May 1. admired his toughness in what he went say their faith has been crucial in deal- “It’s not, ‘Oh, look at the Kellys.’ It’s through, and how he changed my life.” ing with their latest battle. In June 2013, ‘Look what God has done,’” said Jill Kel- The Kellys have been open about Jim was found to have cancer of the jaw. ly. “Even though it’s our story, it’s really their marital problems. They don’t speak After surgery, he was proclaimed cancer- about the greater story.” ■ about it in detail, but in Jill’s 2010 book free. Last year, more cancer was discov- “Without a Word,” they describe how ered in his nasal cavity, and more aggres- Kim Lawton is the managing editor of after Hunter’s death, Jim confessed he sive treatments followed. PBS’ Religion & Ethics Newsweekly.
May 2015 | REFRESHED 19 outtakes
‘Where Hope Grows’ shatters Down syndrome stereotypes by MICHAEL FOUST
One of my best friends of all time has with a bigger heart, a what the world would call a “disability.” warmer personality and He has Down syndrome, and if statistics an incredible smile. He are correct, then 90 percent of babies has lots of interests: in the womb diagnosed with his condi- texting friends (yes, tion never make it to full term. They’re he can read and write), aborted. music (he knows nearly That’s tragic, yes, but also incredibly every Christian song on sad. YouTube), playing Wii If only those moms had met my (he can beat me in most PHOTO BY TOM LEGOFF TOM BY PHOTO friend, perhaps they would have made a any game), and swim- Produce (David DeSanctis), a young man with Down Syndrome, shares a different decision. He is 28 and healthy, ming (he whips me in moment with the crowd in a scene from “Where Hope Grows.” and while he may be slower than you or that, too). me in a few areas, he surpasses all of us Meeting him changed my perspective on life—and I’m certain I’m not the only The crew chose DeSanctis for the role one who can say that. not knowing if he could read the lines, I thought about my friend when I but he proceeded not only to read them watched a screener for the upcoming but also to quickly memorize all 300 of Cal Thomas movie, “Where Hope Grows” (Godspeed them. And he delivered them as well as Pictures), which hits theaters May 15 any actor I’ve seen on the screen. He’s and tells the heartwarming story of a truly talented. man with Down syndrome whose posi- DeSanctis told Refreshed that he “was UÊ £Ê >Ì>ÞÊ tive outlook on life changes everyone extremely excited and pumped” when he -Þ`V>Ìi`Ê around him, including a former profes- got the role and that by the end of the ÕÃÌ sional baseball player who is down and fi lm shoot, he and the other cast and UÊ ÝÊ iÜÃÊ out after being sent to early retirement. crew members were “like a family.” >ÞÃÌ It’s an inspiring movie that could “It was tiring,” he said during a phone transform our society’s views of people interview, referencing the 12-hour work UÊ *À viÊ with Down syndrome. That’s because the days. “One thing I had to learn was pa- `ÛV>Ìi star of the movie—David DeSancti—isn’t tience.” simply an actor who was hired to pretend But he doesn’t regret it. In fact, he has Down syndrome. DeSanctis has he wants to act again in other mov- /ÊÃV i`ÕiÊ >Ê/ >ÃÊ Down syndrome, and he is shattering ev- ies. DeSanctis said he wants the movie vÀÊÞÕÀÊiÝÌÊëiV>ÊiÛiÌ]Ê ery stereotype that exists about people to change how people view those with VÌ>VÌÊ >ÀÊ >Àð born with his “disability.” Down syndrome. DeSanctis plays “Produce,” an en- “I want them to look at my abilities (619) 881-2851 thusiastic grocery clerk who has two instead of my disabilities.” >ÀJ>À>ÀðV personal goals at his job: encourage ev- “Where Hope Grows” is rated PG-13 eryone he meets, and win employee of for thematic issues involving drinking and the month. Sadly, though, he gets passed teen sexuality, and for brief language and over each month for the honor … but he an accident scene. I counted two curse still maintains a solid attitude. words, neither involving God’s name. The I laughed and cried while watching the movie contains a pivotal scene involving a www.SpeakersGroup.net movie and walked away uplifted—much sexual assault at a public venue, although like I do each time I talk to my friend. nothing explicit is seen.
20 REFRESHED | May 2015 tunes
Rapping for a work. Like her our spiritual journeys. ‘Land’ is the sin- brother’s Amer- gle most hoped for event for a sailor on virtuous woman ican Recordings a stormy sea, and likewise on our jour- Dedicated Music sessions, these ney with God we long for some sense of Group has released the performances certainty that God is all we imagine and EP album “P31” by rap- will stand the hope for. Of course, we never quite make per Murk. The project is test of time.” it this side of eternity, but we can have based on the themes found The album is pro- courage in the fact that land is in sight!” in Proverbs 21 and covers suchh duducedc on the indie The group, which last worked to- topics as self-esteem, forgive-- lalabelbe Proverbial Ex- gether in 2009, headed back into the stu- ness, grace, inner and outer beauty, and cellence and is distributed by Elevate dio after a series of reunion events last fi nding one’s worth in Jesus alone. Entertainment and Syntax Distribution. year in their native country. In 2005 they The P31 title track inspired the entire won “Worship Song of the Year” award at project and its bold lyrics refreshingly Tree63 kickstarts new album the 36th GMA Dove Awards for their ren- share the standards by which a virtuous South African rock band Tree63, fresh dition of Matt Redman’s song “Blessed woman of God should live. off of a seven-year hiatus, has raised Be Your Name.” “It teaches women to respect them- more than $20,000 through a Kickstarter selves while also teaching men to re- campaign in advance of the band’s sev- Online music university spect women and their values,” a news enth full-length album. The band plans Music industry veteran Michael release said. “It is the ultimate celebra- to release Land sometime this summer. Smith—whose client list includes Rest- tion of receiving salvation and a divine Fans who participated in the online fun- less Heart, Jaci Velasquez, Salvador, spiritual makeover from Christ.” draiser were given a free download of Chonda Pierce, Yancy, Denver & the Mile ”The Storm,” the group’s fi rst single High Orchestra, Go Fish and comedian “Many of the new songs on Land are Brad Stine, has launched his own online Cash releases duet album university. Gospel music legend Joanne Cash, about being on a long and treacherous journey and fi nally seeing our rescue in The Michael Smith & Associates Uni- sister of country music icon Johnny the distance,” said lead vocalist/guitarist versity is billed as a one-of-a-kind on- Cash, released her 30th album, Breaking John Ellis. “There is no more treacherous line training program for those seeking Down the Barriers, on April 1. a journey than one at sea, and the ocean a full-time career in the music industry. The project features Cash in 14 is often a really effective metaphor for Smith designed the school for those Gospel-driv- seeking a career as an artist en duets, in- manager, as well as for art- cluding songs ists and musicians who want Rosanne Cash, a better understanding of the Tommy Cash, industry and proven tools to Larry Gatlin, T. move themselves forward. His Graham Brown, fi rst 10-week course launched The Fox Broth- in early April. ers, Razzy Bailey, George Hamilton IV and Riders in the Sky’s Ranger Doug and Christian rockers Kevin Max (dc- The Solution to your Pipe Problems Talk, Audio Adrenaline), Dan Hasel- WATER GAS SEWER YOUR tine (Jars of Clay), Rick Florian (White- COMPLETE heart) and John Schlitt (Petra). Accurate Detection Repiping & Drains “One of San Diego PLUMBING Sewer Camera Slab Leak Repairs A featured song is the Tommy Cash County’s Best Equipped SERVICE Structural Repair Moisture Intrusion duet, “My Lord Has Gone,” which their and Most Experienced Epoxy Fix Leaks Water Damage Restoration Leak Detectors” famous brother Johnny Cash wrote be- Thermal Image Camera Emergencies: Water-Fire-Mold Hot & Cold Water fore his death. www.brinksservices.net “These sessions, often done in Joanne’s 858-926-5543 home, pair Joanne with artists from all walks of life and genres,” says producer We support Youth Ministries Chad Randall Crow. “Each of these songs was hand-picked for this inspirational EMERGENCY SERVICES DIVISION | PLUMBING DIVISION | PIPE LINING DIVISION | RESTORATION DIVISION
May 2015 | REFRESHED 21 community news
Switchfoot Bro-Am returns ENCINITAS — Switchfoot will host its 11th annual Bro-Am charity surf contest on July 11, with a pre-contest kick-off Auction Night Soiree, set for July 8. The Soiree will include silent and live auctions, opportunity drawings, signa- ture tastes from leading local restaurants
and a live performance by Grammy- BERNARD JOSH BY PHOTO award winning Switchfoot. The location Switchfoot’s annual Bro-Am charity surf contest draws large crowds to Moonlight Beach in Encinitas. for the evening event will be announced at a later event. Future Conference to with worry, Jane invites you to leave be- The main course, the free Bro-Am surf hind your heavy heart and experience contest, will be held July 11 at Moonlight feature 50+ speakers joy and rest in the pleasure of a God who LA MESA — Skyline Church will host a Beach. In addition to the adult surfi ng delights in you—and has all your tomor- four-day conference, June 14 to 17, with competition, the Bro-Am will offer live rows under control,” the event website more than 50 speakers speaking on a music, a Nerf surf jousting exposition said. theme of “What You Thought Was Com- and the 4th annual Rob Machado Bro Ju- The musical guest will be Marla Reid ing… Is Here Now.” nior, for competitors 16 and under. and her Spirit-fi lled presentation of Gos- Topics to be addressed include the The surf contest runs from 7 a.m. to pel music. culture, poverty, racism, economics, per- 3:30 p.m., with live music scheduled A highlight of the event is a gener- secuted Christians, reaching millennials, from noon to 5 p.m. ous raffl e featuring baskets loaded with Israel and radical Islam, religious liberty, Both events benefi ts local at-risk goodies. terrorism, prison reform, civil govern- youth and humanitarian causes through The event concludes with a luncheon ment, fasting & prayer, civil disobedi- the Switchfoot Bro-Am Foundation, buffet. ence, media, entertainment, emergency which the rock band launched last year Then, don’t worry—be happy! A lus- preparedness, radical evangelism, mar- as a way to direct their funding to lo- cious luncheon buffet awaits you in cal charities. Since its 2005 inception riage, pornography, and human traffi ck- Linder Hall. the Bro-Am has raised more than $1.15 ing. Tickets are $25. million for San Diego-based children’s Notable speakers include Bishop The church is located at 2111 Camino charities that serve at-risk, homeless and Harry Jackson, Star Parker, former Con- del Rio South. street kids. gressman Bob McEwen, Mat Staver, Ted Learn more at www.fumcsd.org/ Learn more at www.switchfoot.com/ Baehr, Tony Perkins, former Speaker of springfl ing or by calling (619) 297-4366. bro-am. the House Newt Gingrich, and Lou Engle. The conference will be led by Pastor Jim and Rosemary Garlow. Worship gathering Creation museum fundraiser SAN DIEGO — “Just Worship,” a SANTEE — The Creation & Earth Mu- Although there is no admission fee, monthly musical gathering, will be held seum will hold “A Taste of Creation” fun- pre-registration is requested at www. at 5 p.m. May 16 at the Martin Luther draiser on Saturday, May 30. The event futureconference2015.com. King Recreation Center. will feature appetizer and dessert sta- Rachel Reid, of Power of Music Minis- tions and a silent auction to benefi t the Annual Spring Fling returns tries, will be the featured musician. ministry of the museum. SAN DIEGO — The women’s minis- The gatherings are held the third Sat- Tickets are $40 for individuals and try department at First United Method- urday of every month. $65 per couple. ist Church of San Diego will present its The center is located at 6401 Skyline Tickets may be purchased at www. 20th Annual Spring Fling for Women at Drive. creationsd.org. 11 a.m. May 9. Learn more at www.foundation61. On June 6, the museum’s monthly The event will feature internationally com. Creation Club workshop will focus on the known inspirational speaker Jane Rubi- topic of “Creepy Things.” etta, who will present her timely tips on EVENTS ONLINE To register for workshops or classes how to “Worry Less and Live More!” Her For more Community News and an online call (619) 599-1104. presentation is described as providing Calendar of Events for San Diego County, The museum is located at 10946 N. both laughs and tears. please visit www.refreshedsandiego.com. Woodside Ave. “As she shares her own zany battles
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Switchfoot parents pen book “In Never Say No,” the Foremans explore is a teacher and artist who also facilitates SAN DIEGO — Mark and Jan Foreman, practical parenting concerns, such as how to partnerships with underprivileged women parents of Switchfoot band brothers Jon and encourage holistic learning while cultivat- and children both here and abroad. ing specifi c gifts, how to nurture creativity Tim Foreman,” will soon release the book Learn more www.davidccook.com. in a media-saturated culture, how to balance “Never Say No: Raising Big Picture Kids.” structure with individual choice and why Published by David C Cook, the book of- Organizing women mistakes are always allowed. fers an inside look into the early childhood SAN DIEGO — “Launch into Summer The book also explores personal, real- of the two rockers. Success!” is the theme for the May lun- life experience, including Jon’s near drown- “Our purpose as parents is identical to cheon meeting of Professional Women’s ing at age 2. our child’s: to live creatively beyond our- “In my life, my parents have been equally Fellowship. The event will be held from selves, bringing the love, beauty and nature counselors, companions, navigators, co- 11:30 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. May 28 at the of God to this world,” the conspirators and friends,” Jon’s brother, Handlery Hotel and will feature author couple said in a news Tim, said. “They’ve been a source of Marcia Ramsland. release. “As parents en- wisdom not only for me, but also for our Ramsland’s topic is “5 Ways to Get courage kids to explore entire extended community. I’m excited Organized and Have an Easy, Breezy God’s massive creative that the simple parenting truths they’ve Summer!” plan, they raise the ceil- learned can reach even further through The luncheon is $25 for members, $35 ing on how their children this book.” for non-members. At-the-door tickets can positively impact this Mark, the author of “Wholly Jesus,” is are available for $40. Online registration world. Let the adventure lead pastor of the 4,000-member North is available. begin.” Coast Calvary Chapel in Carlsbad. Jan Learn more at www.pwfsd.org.
Vision of the Veil Weddings Lakeside Christian Church is celebrating their Making Your Vision a Reality 60th Anniversary with a concert by Crimson River Quartet
Saturday, May 30, 2015 6:00 pm (doors open at 5pm) Lakeside Christian Church Jeanne Cesena 13739 El Monte Road, Lakeside Wedding & Special Event Planner Information: (619) 443-6918 or (619) 442-5941 www.lakesidechristian.org 619.987.0993 | [email protected] — A love offering will be received —
May 2015 | REFRESHED 23 on the mark
MARK LARSON
Rise of the robots
There are so many good things to do stops. New advances in technology lead years. Much of what is feared (or hoped in life, along with a never-ending stream to all sorts of ideas, some practical and for) never happens. Or it takes on less of challenges. If, however, technology is others downright far-fetched. threatening forms. going to eventually do everything for us, WIRED magazine recently had a Every generation has aspirations and why even bother getting out of bed in story about a multi-tasking robot (aka dreads, and the road ahead is always the morning? “bot”) that can make and fl ip a burger, fi lled with bumps and surprises and That sounds a bit extreme, but con- and a gourmet one at that, in 10 sec- wonders. And when technology replaces sider some of the latest news about the onds. It could replace an entire fast food something outdated, new opportunities “rise of the robots.” In what seems to crew. arise for those who want to seize the be an increasing number of warnings, They also noted that researchers at a day. Sure, it takes work—and maybe new experts tell us how it won’t be long major university predicted close to half training—but it’s possible to fi nd new before most jobs will be performed by of American jobs could be automated success. machines. over the next 20 years. Yikes. And that’s really the point. We can Some of the headlines I’ve seen re- And get a load of this headline: “Ro- make the choice each day to let news cently include “The Robots and Your bots Will Treat Humans Like Labradors.” and future predictions and worries over- Job” and “The Future Has Lots of Jobs, Swell. A machine will take me for an whelm us, sometimes making us feel Few Jobs for Humans.” Scary stuff, but afternoon walk. And I will have to fetch fatalistic. Or we can make the effort to sometimes muted with an occasional the iPad (instead of an old-fashioned take a fresh look at what’s around us, blurb about how robots are not really newspaper) for my mechanical master. enjoying life and our blessings. threatening your job. Much of the march to an all-tech life I was thinking about this as I’m writ- So what is reality? is our fault. As consumers we demand ing this column. Outside my window No doubt rapid advances in technol- more of everything, wider choices and is a little hummingbird nest. A couple ogy have tremendously changed our more instant gratifi cation. In the midst of weeks ago there were tiny eggs in lives, most often for the better. Think of our busy daily world we often don’t there. Today, it’s two fast-growing birds about iPhones, Droids, iPads, all kind notice that we now interact with screens developing beautifully colored feath- of things that didn’t exist a few years and keyboards more than other humans. ers, about ready to take off and display ago. We’re addicted to texts and social In other words, we’re getting used to God’s amazing ability to create things media, too. this sort of thing as it sneaks up on us. beyond compare. Still there are a bunch of jobs that There is some good news, though. That helps me remember that there’s have already gone the way of the The Washingtong Post featured a bigger picture here: Life is what we dinosaur, replaced by a varietvarietyy a storstoryy about ““droiddroid dread” choose to make it, and God is still in of new gadgets. ATMs come to ddatingating bbackack ggenerations.enerations. IIn charge. Whatever happens in the future mind; they’ve replacedd manmanyy ffact,act, ffearear ooff hhigh-techigh-tech aad-d- (or fear of what might be) should not bank tellers. Positions for ttyp-yp- vances takintakingg over mmayay ggo steal the joy in today. ists, travel agents, factorytory worwork-k- bbackack hhundredsundreds of So why bother rolling out of the sack ers and more have alsoo disadisap-p- in the morning, taking on the day? Be- peared. cause we can. Companies with assembly lines long Larson is a longtime ago embraced auto- Southern California mation of any kind radio/television to cut costs, with personality. His voice is machines never heard on KPRZ 1210AM demanding a raise, and his weekday sick leave or a fat talkshow airs 6 to 9 a.m. pension. on AM 1170 “The Answer.” He’s also a news analyst The process never on KUSI TV. Learn more at marklarson.com.
24 REFRESHED | May 22015015 purposeful parenting
MICHAEL FOUST “God, thank you for the letter B, the letter D, and the number 3.”
3 simple ways to teach kids to pray
Children were a focus of Jesus’ min- must fi rst believe in the power of prayer the way. istry. He used the loaves and fi sh from (James 4:2-3)—and then set the ex- “God, thank you for letting us make a boy to feed the 5,000. He healed at ample. that stop light.” least one sick child and raised another Here are three specifi c ways to do “God, thank you for that beautiful one from the dead. He told his followers that: sunset.” to have the humility of a child. He even Once I prayed out loud, “God thank you took children into his arms and blessed Give thanks during “normal” times for that yummy ice cream we ate today,” them when his disciples wanted to send Scripture tells us to pray “without to which my then-4-year-old son replied, them away. ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17), but as sincerely as could be, “And, God, it’s I think about Jesus’ view of not really ice cream. It’s frozen children often when my three yogurt.” He had mastered the children pray some of the conversation part. most heartfelt, inspiring and even entertaining prayers I’ll Intercede for others ever hear. It’s one of the best ways Consider, for example, my to destroy selfi shness in your oldest son’s prayers when he child—and you, too. Pray for was 3. the sick, and do so immedi- When I told him we should ately and out loud, if pos- thank God for everything in sible. Pray for those who are life, he took it seriously, even sad, for those who have lost providing God plenty of detail. loved ones, for those who are “God, thank you for my lost. And pray for your child’s train table and those two friends and “enemies,” too. plates on the wall that are A few months ago when I next to the smoke alarm,” he said one you’ve got to begin somewhere. An sensed my oldest son was growing too night while lying in bed, describing two easy starting point for children is—you self-centered in his daily actions, we colorful ceramic birthday plates that, guessed it—mealtime. (And after that, launched a nightly bedtime tradition: yes, were right next to the smoke detec- bedtime.) The Bible paints a vivid pic- praying for a classmate of his. He ini- tor in his bedroom. ture of food being a marvelous blessing, tially rebuffed the idea but eventually On other nights, he felt a bit more and it still is, despite our tendency to began volunteering information—even take it for granted. When my young- academic. including specifi c prayer requests. est kids were 1 and wanted “seconds,” “God, thank you for the letter B, the One fi nal idea: Make it a big deal they’d fold their tiny hands together and letter D, and the number 3.” when God answers prayers—that is, an- look around, as if to say, “We’re ready to And on some nights, he was feeling a swers it in a way that we can physically pray again—and eat more food.” bit theological. observe. My toddler son prays each time
“God, thank you for crushing Satan’s he’s sick. And if he’s healed, you’ll know Give thanks during “abnormal” times power,” he said, quoting, verbatim, what it. “God made me better!” he’ll shout. What’s that? That’s the time between he had read in one of his storybook We probably all could learn from him. Bibles. breakfast, lunch, dinner and bedtime— the 23 hours of the day when we so But there are plenty of times in Michael Foust is the which my children refuse to pray—when often place God on the back burner. If we rarely discuss God other than when father of three small we go around the table at suppertime, children, a writer and fi nding no volunteers. Just like me, and we “say grace,” then what do we expect our children to do as they grow? Turn editor, and blogs about perhaps you, too, they can be stubborn parenting at www. when facing spiritual matters. If we the day into an out-loud conversation with God and involve your kids along michaelfoust.com. want our children to pray, we ourselves
May 2015 | REFRESHED 25 on the money
JANICE THOMPSON
Practically speaking… Time for a new car?
Who can resist the tantalizing adver- when you or yyourour fami- save thathatt monthly tisements that portray a happy family, ly’s well-beingg is at riskrisk.. papaymentymen for your successful businessman or beautiful next rreplace-e couple driving into the sunset in a How should youou papayy mment.ent shiny new car—all for “just dollars” a for it? month? A new vehicle decision is often I generallyy advise SoSo wwhat about an intimidating process with a lot of paying cash, whwhenen leasing?leas unknowns. Since a vehicle purchase is possible, bothh fforor Let me rarely considered a “good investment,” the psychologicalgical gigive you let me give you several important ques- and economicc bben-en- ththe bottom tions to consider when making this efi ts. Cash typicallypically lline—leas-i decision. causes peoplee to iningg will rarely make better decisions be more advanta- Why this particular vehicle? because it’s a reality check—you’re geous than paying cash or fi nancing under Are you trying to minimize your an- about to trade an important part of your favorable terms. A lease is set up primarily nual costs? Provide comfort or safety? life (hard-earned money) for something for convenience to the consumer. Yes, it Achieve a dream of owning a particular you’ve found worth trading it for. It forc- does save you some hassles and you avoid vehicle? Your motivation will typically es you to answer this opportunity cost having to re-sell your vehicle, but you will drive the decision down a path that suits question: Is the vehicle really worth it? pay for it. If that is acceptable and you your desired outcome. This is especially true for those prone are looking at leasing purely for the con- For example, if owning the car of to replace cars often. It’s much easier venience, go into it knowing that conve- your dreams is your motivation, it can to borrow tens of thousands of dollars nience does have a cost. be tempting to ignore fi nancial pru- because you can make “easy monthly When it is time to replace your car, dence because you would do just about payments.” If you aren’t at least willing it is often tempting to think in terms anything to drive that car off the lot. to pay cash, I’d pause and evaluate the of a monthly payment rather than the For the record, I’m not suggesting value of the decision. long-term impact of the fi nancial deci- owning a car of your dreams is right or sion you are about to make. Acquiring a wrong, rather that you consider your Do you need to fi nance? highly depreciating asset like a car is a motivation and then evaluate if this is a I have seen some offers in this low- decision that should be made cautiously, wise decision. From a strictly fi nancial interest rate environment that may not impulsively. Use wisdom and care as perspective, my research points to the make me bend my pay cash guideline a you consider this important, but expen- considerable fi nancial advantages of bit. For example, when the interest rate sive, necessity in your life. buying a newer used car and driving it charged by the lender is about half of With all this caution, am I driving you for eight to 10 years. This avoids some what can be earned through short-term crazy yet? of the immediate depreciation that oc- fi nancial investments, borrowing some curs when you drive a new car off the of the funds may be an acceptable alter- Janice Thompson is a lot. I’ve also seen a new car purchase native. My caution here is to negotiate certifi ed fi nancial planner make sense, however, if negotiated care- carefully and work toward being able to and co-founder/CEO of fully and you drive it for a long period eventually purchase your next vehicle One Degree Advisors, of time. with cash because interest rates may Inc. A frequent speaker not be this favorable in the future. It on fi nancial topics and When should a vehicle be replaced? can take many years to get to the point mentor for fi nancial There are three basic economic rea- of being able to pay cash for a vehicle professionals, she also serves on the board of sons for replacing a car. Time, when it outright, but with discipline and per- directors for Kingdom Advisors. Learn more at www. requires too much of your time to keep severance it can be done. Make a com- onedegreeadvisors.com. it repaired. Repairs, when it costs more mitment now to pay your vehicle off as Advisory services offered through One Degree Advisors, Inc.SM Securities offered through Securities America, Inc., Member FINRA/SIPC. One Degree Advisors and Securities Amer- to fi x the vehicle than it is worth. Safety, quickly as possible and then continue to ica are separate companies.
26 REFRESHED | May 2015 reality check
DANIEL JENKINS
Turning the relational battleship
Turning a battleship 180 degrees had cheated on a previous spouse, and Even if a husband stops lying to his while moving ahead at 30 knots is no she knew that he had lied to her before, wife, there may be months or even years easy endeavor. The “turning circle” is so everything he now said had to be before she changes her mind about his the shortest distance that a warship can questioned with skepticism. integrity. turn around without keeling over. The husband adopted a passive role “He will never change.” Some battleships are very maneuver- in the relationship. He did not want to “She’s always been this way.” able with an 800-yard turning circle, face confl ict, so he rarely revealed his These kinds of statements make the while larger ships take well over 1,000 true motivations or intentions to his battleship of our mind move full steam yards to do an about face. The size of wife. However, the more he hid, the ahead rather than turn in the direction the ship and the speed it is moving for- more she felt alienated, and so the prob- of trust. If you refuse to see the good, ward must be taken into consideration lems only escalated. even if it is an incremental change in in making the turning circle calculation. To make matters even worse, the the right direction, then you are the one Momentum carries objects forward in husband was passive-aggressive. The re- who is subverting positive change. the direction that they have been going, pressed anger he felt for his wife’s con- Emotional pain creates a powerful and it takes a lot of force to make them trolling and condescending behaviors momentum that slows down the pro- change, according to Isaac Newton’s seeped out in subtle and manipulative cess of forgiveness and the rebuilding First Law of Motion. For example, to ways that were designed to infuriate her of trust. By talking about the pain, in a stop a really large vessel, such as an oil further. Like most passive-aggressive safe and controlled environment, we can supertanker, it takes 5.5 miles and the individuals, he was not fully conscious shorten that turning circle signifi cantly. turning circle is over 2 miles. of how his actions provoked her anger. Conversely, if hurts and resentments are Apparently this First Law of Motion But, once they started therapy and ignored or denied, then changing your applies to nonphysicalhysical thithingsngs as well, wwereere instructed to focus mormoree upon perception of your partner will be very such as trust levelsels in a relationshirelationship,p, their own feelingsfeelings and behavbehaviors,i things diffi cult. reputations in a ggrouproup or even our pper-er- started to sslowly It is so much easier to keep the status spectives of reality.ity. chanchange.ge. HHe became quo in our most important relation- For example, I once more exexpressivepr of ships. Trusting again means being vul- counseled a marriedried hhisis angeranger in direct nerable again, and probably suffering couple who believedeved ththeyey anandd apappropriatep again. But what are the alternatives? knew each other veryvery wways.ays She began They aren’t nearly as pleasant as repair- well, and yet howw ttheyhey to ffeele like she ing the relationship. saw each other wwasas was seeing Changing the reality of your relation- 180 degrees differ-er- the rreale person ship is partly up to you. Change can and ent from their ownwn in her hhusband, does happen, but you can only change self-perceptions.. rratherather ththan a fac- yourself. Try disputing the negative be- Getting the coupleple ttitiousitious fafaçade. liefs you have about your partner and back into alignmentment TTherehere wweree many see if your feelings turn the corner in a was like trying too setbacks along the more positive direction. turn a battleship—it—it wway,ay, bbutut llike a turn- took a lot of force.e. iningg battlebattleship, trust Daniel Jenkins, Ph.D. According to tthehe slowslowlyly retreturned.u is a licensed clinical wife, her husbandd ChanChanginggin one’s psychologist at was a liar, and everyvery behavior to promote Lighthouse Psychological word out of his trust is harhardd work, Services in Mission Valley. mouth had to be but chanchangingg one’s He is also a professor questioned and minmindd about our of psychology at Point closely examined.d. partpartnern is much Loma Nazarene University. Learn more at www. She knew that hee mormoree diffi cult. lighthousepsy.com.
May 2015 | REFRESHED 27 inspired living
MATT HAMMETT
A life worth imitating
Do you have a life worth imitating? you how to take a I was at a gathering of church leaders real rest. Walk with when I was fi rst challenged with that me and work with question. Like many of you, I am driven. me—watch how I tend to work to a point of exhaustion, I do it. Learn the neglect my need for rest, then crash. unforced rhythms My default is Work. Exhaustion. Crash. of grace. I won’t lay Wash. Rinse. Repeat. We live in a culture anything heavy or that does its best to convince us that our ill-fi tting on you. Keep company with has been life-giving for me and my fam- true value and worth is based on what me and you’ll learn to live freely and ily. Working from a place of rest instead we accomplish instead of who we are. lightly.” of resting from work has been a game- This promotes a frenzied pace of life The model Jesus demonstrates to changer. that ultimately leads to unhealthy stress us is a rhythm of productive work and If you are not physically rested, it and burnout. When I ask people what meaningful rest. Developing a healthy is hard to be spiritually connected and keeps them from the kind of life they rhythm of life requires intentionality. attentive to God. Have you ever fallen want to live, the number one response There is an on-going tension in devel- asleep when you are trying to pray? is “I am too busy.” How are you doing? oping a healthy life rhythm and none of On the fl ip side, it is hard to physi- Busy. How is life? Busy. How’s the fam- us will do this perfectly. Over the past cally rest when you are spiritually/emo- ily? Busy. Work? Busy. We have become six months I have begun observing a tionally anxious. It is diffi cult to have human “doings” rather than human weekly Sabbath, a day each week where one without the other. “beings.” I seek to engage in meaningful rest and As you consider this, what is God’s I get it. I have a beautiful wife, four activities that are re-creational for me. invitation to you? What would it look active kids and a ministry I love pour- Another way of understanding rest is like to receive the meaningful rest that ing myself into. How’s my life? Busy. As the word “re-creation.” What re-creates God wants to give you? I considered that question and my own you? What breathes life into you when First, identify any time-wasting or frenetic pace of life, I had to pause. I you are feeling weary? What refreshes unfruitful activities in your schedule. may be doing the right things—follow- your heart and mind when life feels Ask God for the wisdom and discipline ing God’s call to lead our ministry and hectic? For me, I might attend one of to say “no” to these things. Then, choose caring for my family—but if I am ex- my son’s basketball games, go on a hike one or two consistent, healthy rhythms hausted and stressed, I am not modeling with my family, read, spend time in you feel drawn to put into practice. a healthy rhythm of life. Scripture and prayer, take in a movie or Daily Scripture reading, exercise, con- Maybe you have always wanted to start take a nap. sistent sleep, a weekly Sabbath, a family a business, spend more time with your Even though God commands us to getaway? kids, develop your relationship with God Sabbath, at fi rst I felt guilty setting Ask yourself what re-creates you and or invest more in friendships but feel that aside a day of rest. It felt selfi sh. After what is God inviting you to in order to you simply don’t have the time. The real- all, there are many things I “could or live a life marked by productive work and ity is that God has given us all the time should” be doing. meaningful rest, a life worth imitating. we need for the things that matter most. It’s easy for people to ignore this The key is learning to develop a healthy Top Ten from God, but God’s commands Matt Hammett is the lead rhythm of work and rest. are for our benefi t. He knows we need pastor of Flood Church, God desires us to have a life worth meaningful rest, regularly. He ranks it which is launching its imitating. He doesn’t want us to be driv- right up there with do not steal, do not third campus in San Diego en but to be drawn by Him. I love Jesus’ kill, and do not commit adultery, yet we this year. Flood developed invitation in Matthew 11:28-30 (MSG), continue to put off his command to rest. out of Matt’s passion and “Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out Our Creator, our Dad who loves us, vision to see an emerging on religion? Come to me. Get away with understands what we need in order to generation hear and respond to God in a creative me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show live well. Practicing this weekly rhythm and diverse worship environment.
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May 2015 | REFRESHED 29 that’s life!
JOANNE BROKAW
Home improvement, Netfl ix-style
One of the benefi ts of being a writer their children to play is that I can justify almost anything I do in the living room un- as research. Spend the afternoon at the supervised. If you can’t used bookstore? Research. Visit the zoo see your children while on a Tuesday morning? Research. you’re chopping veg- Do some Netfl ix binging? Defi nitely etables or pouring a cup research. of coffee, you’re commit- The current topic I’m researching ting child abuse. is home improvement, in the form of Having Open Sight shows like “Property Brothers,” “Flip Lines means that the Flop” and, my favorite, “Love It or List entire fi rst fl oor must It.” Darling husband and I spend hours have an Open Floor Plan. watching decorators and contractors re- No walls, no posts, no hab houses to make them more modern doors or anything else that will restrict fl ushing toilet. (Look, Ma! We can pee and functional. the above mentioned Open Sight Line. in the house!) But apparently having a We’ve lived in our 88-year-old house Happy homeowners should be able to bathroom 20 feet away is too strenuous for more than 20 years, and in that see from the back of the house right out a journey for modern homeowners. Now, time we’ve made few changes. Well, the front door. it seems every master bedroom (and yes, there was that time the upstairs bath- In other words, there’s no place to you must have a master bedroom) must tub leaked down into the kitchen, and hide. Right now, if I’m in the kitchen be equipped with an en suite, which we had to remove the kitchen ceiling baking a cake and watching reruns of is a fancy word for a bathroom that’s panels so darling husband could inves- “The Middle” while darling husband is basically an extension of the bedroom. tigate the problem. He poked around a in the living room watching a hunting Before I found HGTV on Netfl ix, I didn’t bit, shrugged his shoulders and said he show, we just close the doors between even know what an en suite was, let couldn’t see anything wrong. We left the the rooms and turn up the volume on alone that I need one. hole uncovered for several years; one our respective TVs. According to modern Well, as they say, knowledge is power, afternoon we decided that since we’d home design, that’s a crime punishable and the more we watch, the longer our never had another leak, he could put the by life imprisonment in a room with an To Do list gets. I think we’ll start with ceiling tiles back up. Open Floor Plan. an easy project: changing a light fi xture That little project was pretty moti- Ironically, while families are required in the hallway, which I now know will vating—I mean, we fi xed a bathroom to share one big open space on the fi rst require rewiring the entire house, up- leak, for goodness’ sake—so we started fl oor, it’s inhumane for them to share grading the furnace and replacing the looking for more things we could do a bathroom. Growing up, our family roof. We’ll get started once I do a little to bring Casa de Brokaw into the 21st of four shared one toilet, one sink and more research. Netfl ix just added a new century. Most of our ideas include one bathtub with a shower. Imagine my season of “Buying and Selling.” things like painting walls, installing new surprise when I learned that this was an kitchen cupboards, refi nishing the hard- unacceptable way for civilized humans Award-winning freelance wood fl oors and re-tiling the bathroom to live. writer Joanne Brokaw shower. No major demolition. Just some How did I ever survive childhood? spends her days dreaming refreshing and decluttering. It’s also an abomination to actu- of things she’d like to Good thing we found those shows ally leave your bedroom to walk down do but probably never on Netfl ix. Turns out we know nothing the hall to use the bathroom. In the will— like swimming about making home improvements. olden days, if people had to potty in with dolphins, cleaning For example, modern houses require the middle of the night, they trekked the attic and someday overcoming the trauma something called Open Sight Lines. to the backyard to use the outhouse. of elementary school picture day. She lives with Apparently, parents are no longer al- Fortunately, all of that was made more two dogs, a cat, six chickens and one very patient lowed to go into the kitchen and leave convenient with the invention of the husband. Learn more at www.joannebrokaw.com.
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