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R CELEBRATION EXHIBITION ROYAL COMMISSION COMMUNITY BASED SUPPORT17 SERVICE Royal Commission Community Based Support Service Celebrating strength and resilience Journeys of hope In 2012, the Commonwealth Government established the Royal Commission into Institutional Responses to Child Sexual Abuse to investigate how institutions such as schools, churches, orphanages, sports clubs and government organisations have responded to allegations and instances of child sexual abuse. In 2013, Interrelate was funded to provide Royal Commission Community Based Support Services to survivors of child sexual abuse and their families, as well as witnesses and employees of institutions and organisations where abuse took place and those who are distressed by the work of the Royal Commission. Since the program’s inception, Interrelate has supported more than 1000 clients affected by the Royal Commission. In working towards dealing with the effects of childhood trauma, and building supportive and healthy relationships, many of the people who have engaged with this service have used expressive and creative arts as part of their recovery journey. Many clients want to have their work displayed in a way that will raise community awareness and provide hope for other survivors, as well as acknowledge their strength and resilience. Everything you see and read in this booklet is exactly how our clients submitted it. Counsellors and others within Interrelate are excited to support this exhibition, to honour the effort and successes of clients and to raise awareness of child sexual abuse within the broader community. We hope you are inspired by the works on display. 01 CELEBRATION EXHIBITION 2017 - 2018 Royal Commission Community Based Support Service Garden Of Inner Strength Zoie Through the Royal Commission and Interrelate I have learned so much about my trauma and how to deal with it, and my artwork represents the inner strength I have gained through the experience. Self Portrait Samantha Burns I attended Interrelate after the Royal Commission. This photo represents me breaking through my fears from being abused. Since this mainly took place in a pool environment, the water was both a place of trauma and healing for me. This photo represents reclaiming something I love to do – that of swimming and feeling free. 02 03 CELEBRATION EXHIBITION 2017 - 2018 Royal Commission Community Based Support Service 2 Dolphins Wilson Jhy Dolphins are a wonderful, loving, playful creature. Every time you think of them, you think of them breaching the water and playing happily. Walk In Nature Wayne Illes Roaring Out Of The Past And Whatever turmoil is in my Into A Bright Future world, walking along bush Paul Colvin tracks, seeing waratah flowers and nature brings This work is relevant to where my life is now and where I want it to be. happiness. This creates Darkness is gone. my Zen state of relaxation Lion – strength and pride. and mindfulness. Flowers – a bright future. 04 05 CELEBRATION EXHIBITION 2017 - 2018 Royal Commission Community Based Support Service Poster I made this poster showing how I felt before I spoke to the Royal Commission, explaining all the feelings and emotions I suffered for 32 years as a result of being abused sexually at school by a teacher. The other Con Vassilakis half shows how I felt after I spoke about it for the first time and how good and important it was for me letting it out and letting it go so I can move on in my life with a big weight lifted off me. I made this poster so it can show others in similar situations as me that it is never too late to tell someone about the abuse you suffered, no matter how little or how long it occurred. Before I spoke to the Royal Commission, I never told anyone for 32 long, long years, even though I wanted to. I just could not as I feared any repercussions, meaning I would be blamed for letting it happen or I would not be believed. I felt so much guilt, shame, hurt. I just wanted the feelings I felt to go away, to just leave me alone, and you know what? I found someone who took away all the bad feelings and she came in the form of a white powder – her name was Heroin. For 32 years I used this drug and it was the only thing that helped, and she never, ever judged me, not once. I did anything to get money to buy it and there was many years I spent in prison for stuff I did to get heroin. I lost a lot of things that meant so much. I lost contact with my family. I recently found out my father died on 6 March 2017; I didn’t speak to him for 17 years. I wanted to tell him about me being abused as a child so maybe he could understand why my life has been full of heartache and pain. Why I used heroin. Now I have lost that chance to tell my dad and to tell him I loved him no matter what. In 2015, when the Royal Commission came out, I made a choice to take a chance to tell my story and I did, and since then I have stopped using drugs. They have stuck by me in the way of providing a counsellor whom I first built trust with, before I spoke about my abuse. I have been able to move on. I now know it wasn’t my fault it happened, I am able to smile again and be able to love, to trust people, and I am working on changing. I am 47 years old now but, hey, it’s never too late to change. I just wish something like the Royal Commission came out a long time ago. I am proof that getting it out does help as holding that type of stuff in wasn’t good. I lost so much meaningful relationships and just being a real dad to my kids, but now I will work on trying to get on track. I’m lucky I have a partner that sticks by me, just know I love you. I am also thankful of my ever-supportive counsellor, Deborah, from Interrelate. But to anyone who is going through the same type of issues, please speak up. Tell someone, as holding it in and not talking about it only creates bigger problems long term. Look at me – I thought I had it under control, but geez how wrong was I. Things now just seem and do even feel better. I can now wake up smile, look into the mirror knowing that guy staring back is a good person, a real man, not afraid no more, and if I can get over this I can do anything at all. I have a long road ahead but with all support I now have I know I can and will change and I will try to help anyone in similar situations overcome the bad and I will stick by them just as people have stuck by me. So once again thank you for Royal Commission and thank you for someone like Deborah from Interrelate and to everyone just know it’s OK. 06 07 CELEBRATION EXHIBITION 2017 - 2018 Royal Commission Community Based Support Service Collage Of Photographs Deborah Atkinson Experiencing wonder, curiosity, challenges, sadness, stretching, frustration and joy – for me it has been a great privilege, inspiration and honour to walk alongside clients and colleagues in this journey of growth and renewal. Colouring In weather vortex bringing destruction and change… fear and confusion… aloneness… survival: Mellita Bate conception of resilience… time… and more time… and… even more time… grieve, assess… nurture and support; clean up… mourn… prune… remove… repair… the effect will be a visible reminder of history… adapting, restoring… seeking comfort and safety… trust… creating something new from Interrelate promotes self-care practises with their counsellors. I what has been endured… survived; growing around the ruins… being surprised by newness discovered began colouring in while sitting in the paddock with my dog. This has and kindness of others… everyday wisdom about my creation/child named… resilience become an important self-care strategy for me as I walk the journey with my Royal Commission clients. 08 09 CELEBRATION EXHIBITION 2017 - 2018 Royal Commission Community Based Support Service Poems Poems Trish C Trish C Round Faces on A Moulded Stand Glenda Mears Poems Trish C I make these items for others’ journeys… for their healing. The faces depict feelings and if shaken have different sounds. I am an artist, but this is the social wellbeing part of my work. 10 11 CELEBRATION EXHIBITION 2017 - 2018 Royal Commission Community Based Support Service Kathy Jones Sadness With Crying Eyes This is the first part of the journey – going through the sadness. Hopelessness Figures A lot of the time you do feel hopeless. Darkness Skulls Picture With Flowers And Unicorn I don’t know why people don’t like skulls – they are always smiling. If you focus you find the secret garden. 12 13 CELEBRATION EXHIBITION 2017 - 2018 Royal Commission Community Based Support Service The Magic Green Hammock: A Story Wayne Illes 14 15 CELEBRATION EXHIBITION 2017 - 2018 Royal Commission Community Based Support Service I felt love, and I felt cared for, for the first time in my life when I was at my grandparents’ home in Jannali. The Self Portrait 2017 Magic Hammock was my place to escape Kim McCarthy into a world of make-believe. I was safe enough with my grandparents to dream, to grow as a child and see the beauty I am a 59-year-old lesbian woman from Lismore.