The World of Lubavitch A publication of Chabad-Lubavitch, Toronto SPRING 2014 Vol. 39 No. 1 (141) PESACH 5774

It’s Only Natural A Myth Debunked By Yanki Tauber Pundits love generalizations. Half the world is this, the other half is that, and that explains just about everything. Here, then, is our own generalization: the world consists of pagans and transcendentalists. Pagans eat, drink and sleep; transcendentalists work for world peace. Pagans believe that the way things are is the way things should be; transcendentalists believe that we were placed on this earth to change the way things are. Pagans worship nature; tran- scendentalists worship G-d. The Egyptians were pagans, the Hebrews were transcendentalists. The Hebrews were slaves to the Egyptians; then G-d intervened, humiliated the Egyptians, freed the Hebrews and set them loose upon the world. This, in 30 words (more or less), is the story of the birth of the Jewish people. Thus we read of ten plagues visited upon the Egyp- tians. These are usually understood as punishments for their cruel treatment of the Jews. But a closer reading of the Torah’s account reveals that they also served a more basic function: to discredit the gods of Egypt so that “you shall know that I am G-d.”

The Nile -- Egypt’s source of sustenance and most revered deity -- turns to blood; the soil turns to ver- min, the skies rain a lethal deluge of fire and ice, the light of day turns to inky blackness. Nature is transformed from a nurturing mother into a capri- Twins From France to Perform cious witch. Taking the Jews out of Egypt would not have at Lag B’Omer, achieved anything if the Jews had taken Egypt along with them when they went. So first the Jews Great Jewish Family Festival had to witness the destruction of Egypt’s gods: they The popular Twins From time and again. They can be had to hear their masters renounce the natural order France, brothers Yisroel identified by any 5 year old they had deified; they had to see the “goodness” of and Moshe Gurion, will be by their trademark plaid hats performing at this year’s Lag with long payos at the sides. nature exposed for the sham that it is. B’Omer Family Festival. The As a result of their numerous city wide celebration will be videos and card games, they are Only when the paganism of Egypt had been up- held once again at Earl Bales forever being watched on iPads rooted from their hearts, could the Children of Isra- Park on Sunday May 18th 2014. all over the world allowing el proceed to Mount Sinai to receive their mandate Their performance will take mothers to prepare for Shabbat as “A light unto the nations.” Only then could they place at the noon hour rally in etc. They are self-taught and the Zukerman Amphitheatre. very talented and on the cutting teach the world that nature is not to be worshipped, The performance of these edge so always remind your but improved upon; that the way things are is to be versatile acrobats is truly children, “Don’t try this at supplanted with the way things ought to be. amazing. They continue to their show to keep the audience home!” innovate and have perfected spellbound and coming back Continued on page 3 Page 2 • World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014 THE ANATOMY OF A MIRACLE After describing how the It therefore follows that if Red Sea split to allow the Chil- G-d decides to “uncreate” dren of Israel to pass through something, it is retroactive- its divided waters, the Torah ly divested of its entire (i.e., relates: Understanding the Miracle past as well as future) being. Moses stretched forth his Hence, the term which the hand over the sea; and the sea Midrash reads into the verse is returned to its strength at the of the Splitting of the Sea “stipulation.” The closest anal- turning of the morning... ogy in human terms to the sea’s Noting that the Hebrew state of existence (and that of word l’eitano (“to its strength”) the entire created reality) is that is comprised of the same let- of a conditional legal agree- ters as the word litna’o (“to its ment. If the condition is not stipulation”), the Midrash says: fulfilled, it is not that the agree- On the third day of cre- ment suddenly terminates, but ation, when G-d made the dry rather that this establishes that land emerge from the waters the agreement never came into and caused the waters to be Shem Tov, if they did not do same time ratified its past exis- objects have a real and inde- being in the first place. gathered together into one so, not only would they cease tence. pendent existence; second, that The Strengthening place, forming from them the to exist -- it would be as if they This point may be diffi- our time scheme (in which we sea, He stipulated with the sea of the Sea had never been created. In other cult for us to understand. For cannot reach back and change But why did G-d need that it should split to allow the words, had the Red Sea not di- though we can imagine what it the past) is the only possible Israelites to pass through it on to make an agreement with vided, it would not only never is for something to be obliter- one. Both conceptions are false the sea, and why particularly dry land and then overwhelm have water again, its entire pre- ated, surely its past existence is in Judaism. In the first instance, the Egyptians. Hence, the verse at the moment when it was vious existence would be oblit- an objective fact, which cannot objects only exist because G-d created? His power over His can be interpreted to read: erated. be retroactively removed? continually creates them; in the “And the sea returned to its creations is unlimited; cer- Hence the verse tells us The mental block we have second instance, time is a hu- tainly, He could have divid- stipulation.” that “the sea returned to its in comprehending this possibil- man conception, one by which There is one difficulty, ed the sea when He wanted, strength.” In fulfilling of its ity is due to a twofold secular G-d is not bound (indeed, one with or without its “consent”! however, with this interpreta- agreement with G-d, it assured conception to which our minds which G-d created and so, ob- tion: The above verse refers not its future continuity and at the tenaciously cling: First, that viously, can stand aside from). Continued on page 17 to the sea’s fulfillment of the imperative to divide, but to its returning to its former state. Yet wasn’t the most important part of the “stipulation” that the sea should, contrary to its nature, divide its waters? “Returning to its strength” seem to be little more than a resumption of its natural state. One of the commentaries on the Midrash suggests an ex- planation based on the Talmu- dic account of a similar mira- cle. In the Talmud (Chullin 7a), Rabbi Pinchas ben Yair tells the River Ginai to divide its waters. When it refuses, he says to it: The Messianic Era - The Basics “If you do not do so, I will de- Paving the Road cur prior to the arrival of the the nations.” will reveal profound hitherto cree that no water shall flow in Moshiach. This topic is shroud- unknown dimensions of the To- you forever.” If the same were to the Redemption ed in mystery: we are uncertain rah. “Behold I will send to you Total Immersion in true of the Red Sea, then its re- as to the identity of Gog and The Midrash goes as Elijah the Prophet before the turning to its former strength Magog, whether Gog and Ma- G-dly Wisdom far as to say that “the To- arrival of the great and awe- would be evidence of its having gog are the names of nations or The Messianic Era will rah which we study in this some day of G d”—the Prophet fulfilled its agreement with G-d. individuals, whether this battle be one of tremendous prosper- world is naught in comparison Malachi. will be a physical or spiritual ity—”delicacies will be com- to the Torah of Moshiach.” battle, and even whether it has monplace like dust.” That will Furthermore, while our present- A Conditional World Elijah will appear in or- already occurred or not. leave humankind with ample day knowledge of G-d is limited Rabbi Israel Baal der to herald the coming of free time—and all the nations to intellectual perception, when Shem Tov extended this prin- Moshiach, though there’s much According to tradition, of the world will be preoccu- Moshiach will teach about G-d, ciple to the entirety of creation: speculation as to precisely the central personality in this pied with one pursuit: the study we will actually “see” what we at the time of the creation of the when he will appear. With his war is Moshiach ben Yosef— of G-d and the Torah. Moshiach are studying. world, all the objects of nature arrival, he will also serve sev- Moshiach of the tribe of Joseph, Continued on page 17 were created on the condition eral other important functions. who will be killed in this battle. that they obeyed the will of the The prophet Ezekiel describes The World of Lubavitch Chabad Lubavitch of Ontario righteous, even if it ran counter a climactic war, the Battle of A Publication of HaRav Dovid Schochet Rabbi Yitzchak Grossbaum to their normal physical laws. Chabad-Lubavitch Spiritual Leader Camp Gan Israel Gog and Magog, that will oc- Ingathering of the 770 Chabad Gate Rabbi Z. 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Great Jewish Family Annual Dinner Festival Honours Cary Green Continued from page 1 Admission is free. So too, in Chabad Lubavitch is truly keeping with tradition young delighted that we were able to boys who have just reached book them for this auspicious the age of three will be feted day. and have the opportunity to Generally Jewish holidays celebrate this milestone - their and rituals are observed at home first haircut - with the masses. and at Shul. One exception to In past years, this event the rule would be Lag B’omer. attracted some five thousand Ever since its inception during people, young and old, the Talmudic era some two who participated in a most thousand years ago, this meaningful and enjoyable exuberant celebration takes day. Much effort and expense place in the great outdoors, is being invested in this be it a park, field or stadium. grand celebration. Everyone Needless to say the radical is welcome and encouraged departure from the norm leaves to bring their friends and an indelible impression and neighbours. lingering memories that remain Lag B’Omer is Hebrew for a lifetime. So too, it reflects for the 33rd day of the Omer the unique character of this counting. This is a reference to special day. the biblical mandate to count Shortly after assuming seven complete weeks from leadership, the Lubavitcher the second day of Pesach, Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem M. culminating with the festival Schneerson obm instituted a of Shavuot which occurs on the L to R:Jenn, Daniel, Jason, Ronda & Cary Green, Steven Latner, Rabbi Zalman A. Grossbaum children’s parade in support 50th day. Front: Miriam Green of traditional Jewish values, The Talmud notes that The 35th annual dinner to running a business and welcome them, often serving as especially Jewish education. during the Omer period a plague of Chabad Lubavitch held community engagements, he the last line of defense.” So too, Since its inception almost of enormous proportion erupted on Thursday, November 21, finds the time to spearhead the Cary expressed his gratitude to 60 years ago, whenever Lag in which 24,000 students of 2013, drew a large crowd and Harold Green Theater and yet his family and lifelong friends B’Omer occurs on Sunday, Rabbi Akiva perished because countless well wishers. It was was always there for us. “Dad and noted how blessed he was city wide parades are held they did not show proper respect truly delightful to witness the never missed coaching us from to be surrounded by so much throughout Israel, and in Jewish to each other. Hence numerous prevailing warm atmosphere as sidelines whether it was hockey love. hundreds of friends welcomed or other sports tournaments.” Closing remarks were the opportunity to join in the So too, Rabbi Zalman offered by Kevin Green, tribute to Cary Green. Indeed Grossbaum in his remarks brother and business partner ever since his student days at underscored the significance of the honouree. In summary York University the honouree of the 19th of Kislev, and he noted that whether you are has been an active advocate reminisced about the annual family, business associate, or for human rights, Israel, and one day pilgrimage of lay friend, you can rest assured, justice. Having been brought up leaders to participate at the because “Cary is watching your in a home that stressed social farbrengen of the Lubavitcher back.” responsibility Cary followed in Rebbe of blessed memory. He This year the battle cry for the footsteps of his late father recalled how the Rebbe would the annual campaign was “Our Harold who made his mark in respond to his post event report Products are Guaranteed for the housing industry building by inquiring as to “What are Life,” and drew attention to the some of the most prestigious the tangible results.” Hence, growth, vibrancy, and resilience developments while remaining Rabbi Grossbaum stressed, inherent in all Chabad Lubavitch committed to building that, “while we celebrate endeavours. Now after four affordable housing as well. a successful campaign the decades of community service The evening chairman was emphasis is all about going the indelible contribution of Tzivos Hashem Children marching in the Lag B’Omer parade Moshe Ronen, a close friend forward with enthusiasm and Chabad Lubavitch on Jewish and fellow activist from their growth.” life throughout the GTA communities all over the world. restrictions associated with days at York University. In his A magnificent silver and beyond is evident to all. This year, Lag B’Omer mourning are observed. On opening remarks Moshe noted Menorah was presented to the Naturally this is testament to once again falls on a Sunday; Lag B’Omer, this plague ended the significance of the dinner honouree by Steven Latner, the conviction, teachings, and May 18, 2014. A full day and conversely it is a day of being held on the 19th of Kislev, whose father Albert was vision of the Rebbe, of blessed of festivities is planned in celebration. the day that is recognized amongst the first to identify memory, who encouraged his the city centre, at Earl Bales The day of Lag B’Omer is as the Rosh Hashana for the with Chabad Lubavitch in disciples to reach out to all Park, starting at 12 noon and also celebrated as the Yartzeit Chassidic way of life. Indeed Toronto while still in its infancy Jews indiscriminately, because culminating with the customary of Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai, the Chassidic dimension of almost forty years ago. In his each and everyone has an evening bonfire and music. one of the most noteworthy song and soul most certainly brief remarks he extolled the indestructible holy soul. The celebration begins Talmudic sages who authored found expression in the musical virtues of the honouree for The campaign was with a noon hour rally and the the Zohar, the primary treatise performance of Daniel Ahaviel. his genuine concern towards spearheaded by Steven Latner acrobatic show by the Twins of Kabbalah. But whereas a His routine on the violin Tikun Olam finding expression and Moshe Ronen. Both are From France. In keeping with Yartzeit is usually a somber was flawlessly braided with in cultural, humanitarian, and veteran activist on behalf tradition the children and adults day, Rabbi Shimon left explicit exuberant Chassidic dance. He Judaic endeavours. of Chabad Lubavitch. They will march along Bathurst St. instruction that his day of enthralled the assembled guests were ably assisted by a long in sync with marching bands passing be celebrated in a most In acknowledgement Cary with his versatile repertoire standing committee headed and accompanied by floats joyous manner. expressed his admiration which included classical, by Joey Tanenbaum, Special depicting various Mitzvot and In Meron, Israel, the burial for Chabad for promoting traditional, and Chassidic Gifts Chair. “Chabad Lubavitch Jewish themes. place of Rabbi Shimon bar Jewish pride and reaching melodies. enjoys the admiration of the During the afternoon the Yochai and his son, Rabbi out indiscriminately to Jews entire community and has a participants will enjoy a host Elazar, hundreds of thousands Singing the praise of the all around the world. He loyal support base which makes of rides and try their skill at of Jews gather each year to honouree, his wife Ronda noted continued, “The Chabad House our work a labour of love,” said carnival booths. The Remax celebrate with bonfires, torches, how Cary is inherently intrigued student centres provide a refuge Joey Tanenbaum. hot air balloon will be on song and feasting. by all things Jewish, whether it for young adults and offer their hand to offer children vertical is history, scholarship, cultural, unique warm style of Judaism. All stalwarts received a As restrictions of mourning parchment mezuzah scroll rides. Food booths will offer rd or Israel. This was followed by Wherever these youngsters are lifted on this 33 day of sheathed in an ornate silver conventional fair and carnival the Omer, weddings, parties, his daughter Jenna who proudly may be “backpacking” in mezuzah case in recognition treats. During the afternoon a DJ listening to music, and haircuts noted that notwithstanding her India, Cambodia, Turkey, or of their leadership role in the will spin lively Jewish music. are commonly scheduled. father’s countless obligations Katmandu, Chabad is there to campaign. Page 4 • World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014

Shluchim Visit Israel with Campus Rebbetzins Reconnect Prime Minister Harper at One Day Conference Soon after Prime Minister to limit the presentation to the Stephen Harper’s announce- work of Kollel Chabad. This ment that he intends to visit Is- social agency established by rael, the Chabad Shluchim from the first Rebbe of Chabad some across Canada were extended two hundred years ago, main- an invitation to take part in the tains numerous soup kitchens historic event. The noticeable and dental clinics throughout Is- delegation of ten, showcased rael and provides cash vouchers the reach of Chabad Lubavitch for assistance with shelter and across Canada, from Vancouver, clothes. to Halifax. Prior to the State Dinner Indeed, the Chabad the Shluchim met with Prime Lubavitch Organization has Minister Stephen Harper in maintained a relationship with the presence of Prime Minister government officials on all Benjamin Netanyahu. On behalf levels of leadership. Upon the of the distinguished delegation, directive of the Rebbe, this as- Rabbi Yitzchak Wineberg of sociation extended beyond Vancouver shared the view of the counsel of the Talmudic the Rebbe, that nothing takes sage Rabbi Chanina, who pro- precedence to the primary con- claimed, “Pray for the welfare cern which is the physical se- of the government, so they may curity of the Jewish people. So maintain civil justice.” The too, Netanyahu was reminded Rebbe quoted the Talmudic pas- of his audience with the Rebbe, sage that notes, “Even the water in which the Rebbe offered him L to R seated: Shira Rose, U of T; Chana L. Bekerman, York U; Esti Simon, Queens U, Kingston; commissioner is ordained by counsel stating; “that notwith- Rivky Goldman, Wilfrid Laurier, Waterloo Heaven,” and thus serves his standing the prevailing gloomi- Standing; Nechama Chanowitz, U of Guelph; Nechamie Silberberg, Western U, London; Rabbi constituents by the grace of G-d. ness of the UN, the light of even Zalman A. Grossbaum, Mrs. Esther Grossbaum, Chabad of Ontario; Perla Zaltzman, Brock U, S. Some thirty years ago when one candle can dispel much Catherines; Yocheved Boyarsky, U of Ottawa a delegation of Chabad emissar- darkness.” ies was scheduled to meet with Prime Minister Natanyahu At university campuses with some treats that are the day, with consideration Prime Minister Brian Mulroney responded, “Yes I told this to across the country students uncommon for observant for Shabbatons, shared the Rebbe instructed that the your Prime Minister.” In jest he got a break from classes and families of the smaller cities programming, and promises to Prime Minister be presented continued, “do you want to make midterm exams in late February. across the province, like a keep in touch more regularly. with a Hebrew-English Sid- him a Lubavitcher Chassid.” The week long break, known kosher restaurant meal. In the words of Mrs. Perla dur, which includes numerous Indeed, at the State Din- as Reading Week, allows the After some inspirational Zaltzman, Shlucha to Brock universal prayers such as Mode ner which followed shortly af- students to catch up on work, remarks from Rabbi Zalman A. University in St. Catherines, Ani, the passage of thanksgiv- ter, Prime Minister Netanyahu, study, sleep, or catch a bit Grossbaum, director of Chabad “I’m feeling rejuvenated, ing uttered by all, immediately shared with the invited guest, of sunshine. There was one Lubavitch of Ontario, the relaxed, and more ambitious upon awaking invigorated, each which included many Canadian group of campus related people women got down to business than ever!” A very special thank and every morning. expatriates, the encouragement that used this time to regroup, with a lively discussion on you to Mrs. Perla Zaltzman and Most prominent of the four he received from the Lubavitch- refresh and reconnect as well- the latest methods to reach Mrs. Shira Rose for accepting day visit was the formal address er Rebbe when he served as the the Rebbetzins of the numerous and inspire others at a Chabad the responsibility of the myriad Israeli ambassador to the United Chabad Houses on House. So too, they explored of details involved in planning Campus across the rim how to engage students to such an ambitious program. of southern Ontario. embrace Judaism and encourage Chabad on Campus has Chabad on them to do more mitzvoth. a presence at the following Campus-Canada has With some time out for a campuses in Ontario: Ottawa, 16 Chabad Houses bit of R&R at a local spa, the Carleton University, University across the country- reinvigorated shluchos gathered of Ottawa; Kingston, Queens from Dalhousie in once again at Chabad at U of University; Toronto, York Halifax to University University, University of T, hosted by Mrs. Shira Rose, of British Columbia Toronto, Ryerson; Hamilton, for a brainstorming session on in Vancouver, with McMaster University; St. 10 of them situated in intriguing programs that could Catherines, Brock University; Ontario. A home away be shared by others across the Guelph, University of Guelph; from home, the Chabad province. They also shared Waterloo, Wilfred Laurier, Rabbis and Rebbetzins tried and true ideas, the staples University of Waterloo; open their doors and of the Chabad on Campus London, Western University; hearts to the students work, particularly in the role of Windsor, University of Windsor who call it their local Rebbetzin. This was followed For more information on L to R: Rabbi Berel Mockin, Quebec; Prime Minister Harper, Prime Minister campus home for the by dinner and a farbrengen, Chabad on Campus and to find Natanyahu, Rabbi Aaron Grossbaum, Ontario; Rabbi Yitzchok Weinberg, British duration of the school summarizing the many ideas a location, please visit www. year. Colombia and Rabbi Mendel Feldman, Nova Scotia that were discussed throughout chabad.edu Weekly Shabbat at the Knesset where Prime dinners, classes, one-on-one Minister Harper pledged his un- Nations. study, a place to hang out, a During the four day stay wavering support and unabash- listening ear; these are the Prime Minister Harper visited edly declared, “Canada will the Western Wall, where in keep- connect options available at the stand by Israel through fire and ing with tradition, he placed a local Chabad House on Campus. water.” note of prayer in the crevices be- At this critical juncture in the Sunday evening Chabad tween the huge stone blocks. lifetime of a young adult, the Lubavitch, partnered with Mark So too, he toured the Yad shluchim and shluchos are there Adler MP for Willowdale, and Vashem Holocaust Memorial to provide a living and loving hosted a reception for the entire Museum where he lay a wreath environment for all Jewish delegation which included lead- at the Hall of Remembrance. students. ers of their respective communi- He concluded his visit at the On a snow-covered but ties from coast to coast. While University of Tel Aviv where sunny Tuesday afternoon in enjoying a sumptuous buffet the he was conferred an honourary February, Ontario campus delegates schmoozed and got to doctorate. shluchos from Ottawa to know each other. Before departing for Jordan Waterloo met in Toronto for With literally hundreds of the Prime Minister graciously an afternoon of inspiration and Chabad institutions “from Dan greeted each of 200 guests that brainstorming. The full day to Be’er Sheva,” it was decided accompanied him on this his- toric trip. program was complemented World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014 • Page 5

Chabad Lubavitch to Camp Gan Israel Toronto Honour Steven Latner to introduce Sailing

Back in the days when The spacious cockpit has ample gion of Haliburton, and the cars featured a bulky chrome room for four people and the 207 acre site includes 6000 ft. fender, a common bumper rudder kicks up to allow easy along the shores of Basshaunt sticker summed up our irrita- off the beach sailing. Rigging Lake. The motor free lake of- tion with sitting in traffic: “I’d and launching the Echo is quick fers an ideal opportunity to rather be sailing.” Indeed, to and simple, even for a beginner. learn how to sail. Indeed, this glide along the water grace- “Sailing is a sport that entails enduring pastime has been fully, powered by the wind with teamwork, skill, maintenance, embraced by countless people

“It gives me much plea- visible to all, Steven has wit- sure to announce that Steven nessed firsthand the work of Latner will be the honouree at Chabad at the numerous uni- the annual dinner of Chabad versities where his children Lubavitch, said Rabbi Zalman often visited the Chabad House Grossbaum, Regional Director for Friday night Shabbat dinner. of Chabad Lubavitch. “This From a personal perspective honour is long overdue, and Rabbi Grossbaum noted, “Ste- will give us the opportunity ven is a dear personal friend, to recognize the long standing he has never let me down, even support of Chabad Lubavitch if he is travelling overseas, he and involvement in our organi- always responds when I need zation, of the Latner family. him.” It all began some thirty- In the formative days of five years ago when I came to Chabad Lubavitch of South- the Greenwin office without ern Ontario, before it became a an appointment to see Steven’s household address for all things father Mr. Albert Latner. He of- Jewish, the Latner family gra- Rabbis Yitzchok (r) and Aaron (c) Grossbaum examine the new sail boats fered me a Havana cigar and ciously put all their resources at although I don’t smoke, I lit up our disposal. This would come and that gave me a 45 minute to include their office staff, no interference is truly enjoy- and responsibility, and it is looking for adventure, chal- window of opportunity to ex- their trades, suppliers, and con- able and relaxing. But it takes these features that we wish to lenge, and tranquility. Sailing is plain what Chabad Lubavitch sultants. Indeed, this access and skill and teamwork. And that’s promote,” said Itchy Gross- an intriguing sport that piques is all about.” In addition to the their expertise as land devel- why Camp Gan Israel, Toronto baum, Camp Director. The du- one’s curiosity to improvise city wide efforts of Chabad, opers and builders facilitated will be introducing sailing to rable fibreglass hull and deck and introduce new techniques construction of the Chabad the list of waterfront activi- is Plexus bonded to form natu- to enhance the experience. Lubavitch headquarters at 770 ties. Thanks to Mr. Richard ral flotation tanks and positive So too, it heightens an aware- Chabad Gate, Thornhill. So too, Cooper, a long standing sup- foam buoyancy has been added ness to recognize the strength over the years, their various porter of Chabad Lubavitch, to create a safe unsinkable boat. and contribution of others. partners and associates were and an avid recreational sail- Overnight camping offers So too, there are many other subtly invited to come on board or, who graciously commis- children an excellent opportu- new additions to the site, most as supporters. sioned three 12’ sailboats, in nity to come closer to nature. prominent is the additional bunk During the course of some order to introduce this sport. The great expanse, lush foliage, houses and the large parcel of three decades the connection The Echo’s modern planing towering trees, and clear water land that is being cleared and matured and intensified. Today hull design, in combination lakes, all contribute to a sooth- leveled for more sports fields. the third generation, the chil- with its light weight and well- ing and relaxed atmosphere. While the girl’s session in dren of Steven and Michael are shaped Dacron sails, make it re- Indeed the Rambam notes that July is full there are still spaces also lending a helping hand to sponsive and a delight even for a by reflecting on “How Great, available for the boy’s regu- ensure the success of Chabad novice helmsman. The custom and How Manifold, is the lar and Bar Mitzvah division Lubavitch. The dinner will be designed craft has proven itself work of HaShem,” leads one to from July 23-August 18. For held November 20, 2014 at the as a safe rugged dinghy capable serve HaShem with a passion. more information please visit Beth Abraham Yoseph Syna- of providing dependable sail- Camp Gan Israel, Toronto is our site, www.ganisraeltoronto. gogue. ing with complete confidence. situated in the picturesque re- com or call 905.731.7000x225 Jewish Learning Institute (JLI) Offers Life Changing Course. From world leaders to life-outlook into a six possibilities, but uncover In Toronto the course will small children, the Lubavitcher succinct paradigm the inherent goodness and be given by Rabbi Yosef Rebbe, Rabbi Menachem shifts. This new perfection in everything; Gansburg on six consecutive Mendel Schneersohn, of course, Paradigm in yourself, in others, and Wednesdays, beginning on righteous memory, touched and Shift: Transformational in every circumstance May 14, 2014, at the Chabad continues to impact the lives Life Teachings of the life brings your way. This Lubavitch Community Center, of countless thousands through Lubavicher Rebbe, course is an elevator ride 770 Chabad Gate in Thornhill. his voluminous teachings, will teach you how to to the heights of what is There are two options for inspiring insights, and uplifting realize your potential possible, to open your eyes the course: for women only, at words of council. and decipher your set of to a radically improved 11:30 am till 1:00 pm. For men In an unprecedented skills and opportunities reality, to empower you to & women from 7:30 till 9:00 endeavor commemorating to discover what you internalize and integrate pm. twenty years since the Rebbe’s were uniquely designed what you already believe There is a $100.00 fee for passing, the Rohr Jewish to achieve. 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New Home for Friendship Circle Moms Chabad of Kingston Enjoy an Evening

In addition to the primary regular basis and befriend and too can make a lasting contri- program which partners teen- interact with a child with spe- bution to a better society. The age volunteers with special cial needs. In addition to week- special children, often isolated needs children for a weekly ly home visits, the children as a result of restrictive circum- home visit, a number of ‘add- meet as a group on Sunday, as stances, soon become more re- ons’ have extended the Friend- well as for pre-Holiday pro- sponsive as a result of a new- ship Circle perimeter. Quite grams and Cooking Circles. found friendship. Needless to popular is the periodic Mom’s Night Out when the mothers take the evening off and gather as a group. The program gen- erally features an inspirational speaker, some creative activity such as gourmet cooking or ce- ramic crafting, and lots of net- working. In honour of Purim, the moms gathered in the home Sy- liva Ouzzan and enjoyed a love- ly evening. “We could not begin the formal program because the women were busy getting ac- quainted and talking about their Rabbi and Mrs. Sruly & Esti Simon child with special needs,” said in front of thier new 6200 sq ft centre Goldy Grossbaum.” Naturally, that in itself is of merit and our ultimate objective. Chabad and Rabbi Sruly Chanukah, Sruly and Esti will The featured speaker, and Esti Simon came to be found on campus serving Nomi Freeman, delivered a Kingston less than four years steaming latkes, connecting moving talk leaving the attend- ago, answering the demand to an even greater number of ees full of inspiration and in up- of an increased Jewish students. Dressed in their Purim lifted spirits. Each participant student body in Kingston. costumes, the Simon children: was then treated to a massage, With an instant response to Chaya 8, Zali 6, Mimi 5, Shua manicure and a gift. The mes- their warmth and open home, 3 and Shmuel Zev 10 months, sage therapists and manicurist Chabad was attracting more aid in handing out hamantashen generously gave of their time than 50 students, turning every with hot chocolate: food for the and expertise in support of this corner of their small abode into body and the soul. worthy cause. “What a great dinning space. By the second With Hashem’s help, they way to end a hectic day,” said year Chabad programming found a beautiful Heritage Susan a mother, “I can’t wait had already outgrown the home, Elizabeth Cottage, until the next get-together.” Simon’s home, so they went which was just coming on “Stress management is all The teens are afforded the say, most programs are free of looking for a larger, alternate to the market; it had been a matter of perspective, and opportunity to fine hone their charge being sensitive of the location. They made do with previously used as a retirement that’s our objective,” said Mrs. temporary rental space but the home. Jay Abramsky, member sensitivity, assume responsi- added financial burden these Esther Grossbaum, who has need for something better was of Chabad’s advisory board bility, and recognize that they families must absorb. spearheaded the Friendship always apparent. With the says, “This is a perfect place for Circle initiative since its incep- increase in programming as Chabad, with its large dining tion almost twelve years ago. A well as student participation, room and kitchen it is great speaker, when explaining stress Chabad has become “the for hosting the many students management to an audience, place to be”. Shabbat Dinners that partake in the Shabbat raised a glass of water, “How continued to grow; at times experience. The charming heavy is this glass of water,” he reaching numbers as high as outdoors makes it a unique asked rhetorically. “Frankly” he 120. Activities including Sinai home to Kingston’s Chabad, continued, the weight doesn’t Scholars study classes and the sure to leave an impression on matter, it depends on how long much loved “Loaves of Love those who enter it”. you intend to hold it.” And Challah Baking” continue The project came together that’s where stress manage- to excite students and renew quickly and it was only with ment enters the picture. If we their Jewish pride. If it is the support and help from so carry our burdens all the time it many people that the vision becomes incrementally unbear- materialized. Through the able. When we take some time generosity of Mr. George off to relax, and recharge, the Rohr, parents of students, load seems lighter. community members and alumni this dream has “Thanks again for this become a reality. The new wonderful evening,” said Judy. building has also caused a “We and our children appreci- buzz amongst the current ate all that you do for them. students at Queens U. “We This evening I met some famil- look forward to having back iar faces and new mothers in that homey feeling” says the same situation as me. I look Courtney Mlotek, Chabad forward to future Mom’s Night student president 2014/15. Outs.” Everyone enjoyed the “The unique thing Chabad evening and no one was ready to Bushra Gewarges (r), store manager of Mac’s Chabad offers to the students is that leave before Esther and Goldy extended family feeling Gate and marketing manager Nasir Sasi present Rabbi (daughter-in-law) Grossbaum where they know they are Aaron Grossbaum with a check for Lubavitch summer announced a date and place for always welcome” camps. Each summer Coke and Mac’s team up to support “We are eager for the the next gathering! the camps by giving a portion of the proceeds from certain next step in Queen’s Jewish The Friendship Circle ral- Coke products purchased at Mac’s in the Thornhill area. student experience” said lies teenagers from the entire Rabbi Simon. community to volunteer on a World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014 • Page 7 vwwc

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CTeen Shabbaton Occupies New York’s Times Square

More than 1,000 Jewish and potential of young people Teen leaders were pre- teens from 110 communities to change the world. sented with awards by both around the world sang and At the CTeen Leadership rabbis, who commended them danced in New York City’s Choice Awards ceremony dur- for their efforts in strengthen- Retirement Kolel Takes Root

As more and more baby Yartzeit of his father, the Rebbe boomers reach the golden suggested that this network of years, the need for activities retirement Kolels that will be that will stimulate and engage organized under the auspices their hearts and minds has been of Chabad Lubavitch be called growing. Kollel Tiferes Zkainim Levi Responding to this need, Yitzchak in memory of his the Kolel is a new initiative father who serves as chief rabbi which was launched by of Yekatrinoslav. Chabad Lubavitch in Thornhill After serving at this post at the start of the winter, for over 30 years he was with the goal of providing arrested in 1939 as a result of stimulating Torah study for his fearless stance against the retirees, on a daily basis. communist efforts to eradicate After putting in a lifetime Jewish learning and practice of service as an employee, and exiled to a remote village More than 1,000 Jewish teens from 110 communities around the world sang, danced and were people generally welcome the in Kazakhstan where he died a inspired as the watched the Chabad programing on the eight giant screens in New York City’s Times age of retirement. But shortly few years later in 1944. Square following the conclusion of the Sabbath afterwards many people The Kolel offers classes in find themselves looking for Times Square following the ing the Shabbaton’s closing ing their local CTeen chapters, Talmud, Halacha, and Mishna something meaningful to do. conclusion of the Jewish Sab- banquet on Sunday, Rabbi Ye- as well as for their involvement and Parsha are taught Monday Having finally cleaned the bath and a Havdalah ceremony huda Krinsky—chairman of in planning and arranging pro- through Friday from 10:00 am garage and taken the dream that also featured a cruise they now want to occupy till 12:00 pm and are held at the surprise concert by Chabad Lubavitch Community British hit songwrit- er and singer Alex Clare, and a special message for youth broadcast on a giant Jumbatron display. Teenagers from the United States, Canada and Europe were in New York for a weekend of in- spiration, education and entertainment as part of the CTeen (Chabad Teen Net- work) International Teen Shabbaton cen- British hit songwriter and singer Alex Clare led the Havdalah ceremony, tered in the Crown followed by a concert for the teens Kollel Tiferes Zkainim Heights neighbor- hood of Brooklyn, N.Y. Many came with Centre at 770 Chabad Gate in their time doing something their local Chabad rabbis and Merkos L’Inyonei Chinuch, grams with the international Thornhill. productive. had the opportunity to immerse the educational arm of Chabad- leadership board. Some 30 years ago the “This is an in depth learning themselves in Shabbat for the Lubavitch—spoke about how Rabbi Mendy Kotlarsky, Lubavitcher Rebbe, obm, opportunity, our instructor first time, as well as get a dose the Rebbe believed in every executive director of Merkos addressed this dilemma and comes well prepared and has of the city that never sleeps. young person’s ability to add L’Inyonei Chinuch Suite 302, suggested the introduction of the knowledge to respond to Participants stayed with host goodness to the world. “I wish which oversees the CTeen a post retirement Kolel. The the queries of the educated and families in Crown Heights. I was your age,” he said, as he program, closed the farewell “golden years” should not be the patience to deal with the On Saturday night, the 10 charged the teens with the mis- banquet on Sunday by read- jumbo screens on the Ameri- sion to use their abilities to their wasted aimlessly but rather beginner,” said Dr. Avraham ing greetings sent by President can Eagle building overlook- fullest potential. utilized in the most profound Rosenthal a regular attendee Obama in honor of the Shab- who recently retired from the ing Times Square broadcasted During his keynote ad- manner by attending organized footage of teens performing dress to the teens, Rabbi Moshe baton. Torah classes for seniors in a Toronto General Research Wrote the president: “Unit- Insitute where he worked in the mitzvot at their local CTeen Kotlarsky, vice chairman of formal setting. chapters and at CTeen’s two- ing Jewish youth from diverse vascular research department Merkos L’Inyonei Chinuch and The Rebbe even suggested week summer traveling camp. chairman of CTeen, encouraged backgrounds, occasions like for 26 Years. that the participants be awarded Also shown were the Havdalah the teens to pack their bags with the CTeen International Shab- a monthly stipend in order to Please feel free to join service and concert, and peaked a priceless mitzvah: sharing the baton provide important oppor- underscore its prominence and whenever you might have with a video of the Lubavitcher joy of Judaism with others. tunities to explore your faith, give it some official status. some time and be inspired Rebbe—RabbiMenachem M. “You may be going home now, develop leadership skills and Speaking on the subject in 1980 and uplifted in the way only Schneerson, of righteous mem- but you are taking the Shabba- push yourselves to reach for on the 20 of Menachem Av, the earnest study of Torah can. ory—speaking of the power ton back home with you!” new heights.” World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014 • Page 9

Kidney Transplant Patient Finds Donor at Chabad By Sara Spielman - Roches- simply not be lonely.” gical assistant program, she got ter, MN Adina didn’t think she news that she could after all be “Most people are here for could be a donor. She tried a donor. For Rita. medical reasons. But what are back in 2006, but was rejected A Providential Meeting At the chances of meeting a donor after a battery of tests showed Chabad at the Chabad House?” her platelets were too high. In “Adina was not the only Rita Benisti, in her fifties, the meantime, the medical pro- donor I met at Chabad,” Rita anticipated a long wait ahead gram she had enrolled in wasn’t said, speaking with lubavitch. when she prepared to get her working out. Adina resigned. com after the kidney transplant. Sochi Welcomes name onto several lists for a kidney match. It’s been two years since the mother of three was air-ambulanced from Que- Jewish Guests bec, where she lives, for treat- ment at Mayo Clinic in Roch- By Rena Greenberg catered just to athletes,” says ester, MN. Finally stabilized As millions around the Edelkopf. “All of them had enough to make her eligible for world watched national pride Judaic materials available in a transplant, she knew the wait on display at the opening cer- multiple languages and gave could be as long as three years. emonies of the 2014 Winter visitors a chance to meet the But it was Rita’s turn for a Olympic Games in Sochi, Rus- rabbi, pray and seek spiritual Chanukah miracle, and it came sia, Chabad of Sochi marked an guidance in the midst of all the early this year. She hadn’t even Olympian challenge of its own. chaos.” put her name on the lists when she met Adina, who prefers to remain anonymous, at Chabad of Rochester. Pursuing a medi- cal training program at Mayo Clinic, Adina came to Chabad for Shabbat dinner. As always, Chanie Greene, the Chabad di- Rabbi Dovid Greene is joined by his son as he heads into Mayo rector with her husband Rabbi Clinic for a day’s work. Dovid, made the introductions. During her two years in She was getting ready to leave She met Israel, “another seri- treatment, Rita became a regu- Rochester. Then, at Shabbat ous donor, who was committed lar at Chabad of Rochester. “My dinner with Chabad, soon after to donate to me, had he been family members and an army of she met Rita, she had a flash found perfectly fit to do so.” As nurses from Montreal all took of insight: “I said, hey this is a it turned out, Israel learned that turns to come stay with me long shot, but maybe now I can he had a heart condition when throughout my medical adven- donate a kidney.” he tested. Still, Rita is amazed: ture here,” the businesswoman Even Rabbi Greene, who “Can you imagine, meeting two Rabbi Ari Edelkopf affixes a mezuzah at one of the two tem- shared. “When I started feel- has seen great miracles and donors in one small town, at porary Chabad Houses strategically placed near the 2014 ing a bit better, I started going unexpected outcomes, couldn’t Chabad house?” Olympic Games. out on Shabbat and holidays, to have predicted what happened Adina has come to see the attend services at the Chabad next. Bound by a mutual desire silver lining in all this. Talking House. And every time I would to spend Shabbos together, two about her decision to come to Thousands of Jews—as many “It is important to show attend services, I would get to women discovered they were Rochester for a medical pro- as 20,000—had the opportu- that we are supporting our Jew- meet Jews in town.” both foodies. Soon they began gram that didn’t work out, she nity to celebrate Jewish identity ish brethren,” Edelkopf said. A Sanctuary For Mayo watching cooking shows and spoke with lubavitch.com by as they participated at Shabbat “We are making the point that Clinic Patients preparing meals together. phone from Florida, where she dinners and services hosted by we are all connected and that More than 350,000 pa- Knowing they were the was recovering: “It was stress- Sochi’s Chabad center. any Jew has a home here with tients seek medical answers at same blood type and hoping ful. I’m single, and I picked Anticipating the needs that us.” the world famous Mayo Clinic more evolved donor testing up and went to a place where Jewish visitors—among them Home, he explains, includ- each year. Many seek spiritual was available, Adina thought, I didn’t know anyone. Thank athletes, journalists and spec- ed catering at several Olym- answers at the Greene’s Chabad “Maybe there’s a chance I can G-d I found Chabad. You never tators—Rabbi Ari and Chani pic venues where thousands House, the only such Jewish do it for this woman. Maybe know why you’re put in a cer- Edelkopf, directors of Chabad of kosher meals were served. hospitality center in town. Peo- this is why I’m here.” Seven tain place at a certain time.” of Sochi since 2001, worked at Lectures and classes on Jewish ple come to Chabad, says Rita, months later in September, In the summer of 1988, with an intense pace to be ready for themes were offered in multiple who runs a business in Canada, when Adina had already trans- the blessings of the Lubavitch- the rush. Unique to this chal- languages and were open to “to pray, have a kosher meal, or ferred to Dallas, TX for her sur- er Rebbe, Rabbi Dovid and lenge was that unlike other host visitors and locals. Chanie Greene established cities of past Olympic games, the Bais Chaya Moussia Hos- like London and Vancouver that pitality Center in Rochester, have large Jewish communities, providing Jewish hospitality Sochi has but one rabbi in town, in one of the smallest Jewish and the distance between vari- communities in the Midwest. Steeles Offering hard-to-find kosher ous sports arenas is consider- able. food, Shabbat hospitality, edu- With the guidance of Rus- cational resources and counsel- sia’s Chief Rabbi Berel Lazar, Memorial Dignity ing services, all at no charge, the Edelkopfs recruited 12 the Greenes are dedicated to rabbis in training to serve as serving patients who are being chaplains; five Jewish informa- Chapel Comfort treated at Mayo Clinic and their tion centers—in addition to the family members. permanent Chabad center in “Rochester’s major indus- Sochi—were set up in strategic try is medicine. This city is a areas of the Olympic village, Compassion destination medical center,” and Chabad established three Rabbi Greene noted. He’s in- centers in each of the major 350 Steeles Avenue West spired by this miracle that hap- hubs in Sochi: Sochi Central pened at the Chabad House. Synagogue, Krasna Palanya at Thornhill Ont. L4J 1A1 - (905) 881-6003 “Most people are here for medi- the Marriott Hotel and one in Established 1927 cal reasons,” he explained. “But the Olympic Park. C.P. Saucier, Managing Funeral Director what are the chances of meeting a donor at the Chabad House?” “Three of the centers Page 10• World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014

online while there. Arr: 10:30 AM And the travel agent recommended Chabad for a Please get back to be soonest, Andy loved this price, but nice kosher meal and booked as I am waiting to confirm with again requested the Saturday him the originally proposed the guys in Beijing. morning flight from Kuala itinerary, flying from Kuala Lumpur to Beijing: Lumpur to Beijing on Friday If you need anything Skype early morning instead of me or WhatsApp me. From: Andrew [mailto: Saturday. Thanks, Andy …[email protected]] Sent: Tuesday,January From: info@...... com The travel agent, an Orthodox 14,2014 2:18PM To: ……@hotmail.com Jew, proposed the following To: Subject: Re: Asia trip – March business class itinerary, Subject: RE: Asia trip – March Date: Tue, 14 Jan 2014 slightly altering the Kuala 23:25:20 -0400 Saved From Lumpur-Beijing flight from Thanks for the prompt reply. Saturday to Friday. Price is fine. Please invoice as Ok, glad to hear. usual. One amendment, I need To: ……@hotmail.com the KUL-PEK flight a day later. Try this: http://www. Flight 370 Subject: Re: Asia trip – March I need the extra day in Kuala. chabadbeijing.com/ Date: Mon, 13 JAN 2014 Once that is set you can lock in. 16:15:32 -0400 Fast forward to March 8. From: info@...... com The travel agent is in Israel Andy, To: ……@hotmail.com and reads this email once An amazing story how “G-d and Shabbat were your Subject: Re: Asia trip – March Shabbos is over. The email having Shabbos in mind lifesavers. You owe them Thanks for the inquiry and Date: Tue, 14 Jan 2014 was sent after Shabbos, at while booking a flight from something.” your continuous business. 14:23:20 -0400 7:15pm Beijing time- 1:15pm Malaysia to Beijing has saved I know you are a Israel time: a passenger’s life. Here is the email exchange in fan of direct flights. Andy, I wish I can give you a day its entirety: Here’s the most direct later, but you know I just don’t From: Andrew [mailto: The story has been reported on option I can offer you. like flying Jews on Shabbat. I …[email protected]] the Dan’s Deals website, with an Andy emailed his travel agent The price will be $3890 ($3050 can take out that leg if you want Sent: Saturday, March email exchange between a travel his desired itinerary: for the long-hauls, and the rest and you book yourself. The 8, 2014 1:15 PM agent and a Jewish traveler. for the domestic flights). price drop is $380. To: Subject: RE: Asia trip – Sent: Monday, January March Andy was set to travel from 13, 2014 1:58 PM Here is the Itinerary: Andy agreed with that and Sydney, Australia, on March To: info@...... com planned to book the flight by Holy G-d, 1st, to Hong Kong, and then Subject: Asia trip – March Sydney (SYD) to Hong Kong himself: to Kuala Lumpur. From Kuala You sure heard what Lumpur, he was to fly to Beijing, From: Andrew [mailto: happened to MH370 and he requested to be on a flight …[email protected]] I cannot stop thinking about on Saturday, the 8th of March. Sent: Tuesday,January this. 14, 2014 2:54 PM The travel agent, an Orthodox To: Subject: RE: Asia trip – This is a true miracle for the Jew, proposed a slightly March books. You are a true life altered itinerary, changing saver… the Kuala Lumpur-Beijing I guess I’ll just book myself. Lock in the rest. I cannot think anymore! We’ll flight from Saturday to Friday. talk later this week. Don’t know

And the travel agent noted how to thank you enough. When the customer requested that if he changed his mind to to change to Saturday, the just let him know: Now please change my return. I travel agent responded that am not stepping on a Malaysia he would not be able to From:info@...... com flight in my life. book travel for him over the To: ……@hotmail.com Sabbath, but that he was free Subject: Re: Asia trip – March And the travel agent wrote to book that flight by himself, Date: Tue, 14 Jan 2014 back, equally in shock at the saying “You know I don’t Hi, Hope all is well. 18:25:20 -0400 realization of Shabbos saving like flying Jews on Shabbat.” HKG) - Sat, Mar. 1 Cathay Greeting from Hyatt Regency his client’s life: Pacific Airways Ltd. 138 Boston, Thanks for booking up. Ok will lock in. Ticket will be After deciding to book the flight Dep: 10:20PM arr:5:00AM From: info@...... com It is a pretty nice place. sent within 24 hours as usual. himself, Andy later emailed the To: ……@hotmail.com If you reconsider re the KUL- travel agent that he has changed Subject: Re: Asia trip – March Let me know if there are any Hong Kong (HKG) to Kuala PEK please advise. his mind, and asked if he has Date: Sun, 09 Mar 2014 changes to my flight back to Lumpur (KUL) – Mon, Mar 3 a recommendation on where Shortly afterward Andy did 11:53:41 -0400 Sydney tomorrow. Cathay Pacific Airways Ltd. to eat in Beijing over Shabbat. just that: 725 Andy, I am so happy for you! Need to do the Dep: 12:55PM Arr:4:45PM The travel agent recommended following trip in March: From: Andrew [mailto: ….@ Not I am the life saver. G-d and a place to get a nice kosher hotmail.com] Shabbat were your life savers. Mar 1 – Sydney – Hong Kong Kuala Lumpur (KUL) to meal and booked him the You owe them something. Mar 3 – Hong Kong – Kuala Beijing (PEK) - Fri., Mar. 7 originally proposed itinerary, Sent: Tuesday,January Mar 8 – Kuala – Beijing Malaysia Airline System flying from Kuala Lumpur 14, 2014 10:49 PM Mar 12 – Vietnam – Melbourne Berhad 370 to Beijing on Friday early To: Subject: RE: Asia trip – Dep: 12:35AM Arr:6:30AM morning instead of Saturday. Please note 2 things: March

Ho Chi Minh City (SGN) to Hey, Greetings from LAX After Shabbos, when Melbourne (MEL) – Wed, Mar airport. Will board my Delta Malaysia Air Flight 370 1. I have a conference in 12 flight in 55 minutes. took off from Kuala Lumpur Fangshan, China at 3 PM on Ho Chi Minh City (SGN) to at 12:43 am and has yet to Saturday, so I need a flight that Kaula Lumpur (KUL) – Wed, I reconsidered, you are right I be located, the travel agent gets in early morning. So I can Mar 12 should be more observant, I’ll received an email from Andy. make the drive. Malaysia Airline System manage without that day in Berhad 767 “This is a true miracle 2. The return is to Melbourne Kuala. Dep: 6:55PM Arr: 9:50PM for the books,” he wrote. and not Sydney.

“You are a true lifesaver.” Since I’ll have an extra night in 3. I don’t know yet about the Kuala Lumpur (KUL) – Wed

last internal Beijing to Vietnam, Mar 12 PEK, any recommendations for “Not I am the lifesaver,” if I’m doing Hanoi or Ho Chi Malaysia Airline System a good Friday night dinner in responded the travel agent. Min. I will probably book this Berhad 149 Dec: 11:45 PM Beijing? World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014 • Page 11

A Train Crash, A Missing Spouse, A Day in the Life of Two Chabad Rabbis

friends to New the rabbi. “My Chabad rabbi, before husband and wife could York for a 30th Mendel Blecher must have sent speak. year high-school you.” MISSION ACCOM- reunion, Sherrill She had no cell phone ser- PLISHED was among 60 in- vice, so she could not call her Before the day was over, jured passengers. husband, she told Rabbi Shem- “I knew that tov. Rabbi Shemtov would be greet- she always under- Shemtov tried a hospital ing hundreds at the Bronx’s tall- estimates her inju- landline but that didn’t work. est menorah at the Bell Tower ries,” Chase said. Now his phone had no recep- Monument lighting. It was five “After losing a lights that night, an especially tion either. He suggested that child [their eldest auspicious night for miracles. Sherrill come out with him to son passed away In Houston, Chase Pat- the lobby, where perhaps he’ll 12 years ago] ton was in his own celebratory and not knowing get a signal so that her husband mood. When he and his two what’s going on can hear her voice. The two children joined Rabbi Blecher with my spouse, I walked together until the rab- Rabbi Blecher lighting the Menorah felt the fear of los- ing her.” By Baila Olidort - Bronx, Chase called the police. Shemtov prayed silently for NY He called two local television a Chanukah miracle that would Sunday morning, 11:00, stations. He called his Chabad allow him to be there for both. Rabbi Levi Shemtov of River- rabbi. A flurry of text messages dale, NY was at the funeral of Networking Rabbis and phone calls between the Rabbi Dr. Jack Sable, founding Chanukah Sunday would two Chabad rabbis ensued as rabbi of The Riverdale Jewish be a busy day for most Chabad they each did their own re- Center, when his smartphone rabbis. Rabbi Blecher got an search to find the hospital that vibrated urgently. early start preparing for the the woman from Houston was It was Houston calling. grand menorah lighting at Mar- taken to. Rabbi Mendel Blecher, ket Street in The Woodlands, a A Panicked Spouse of Chabad of The Woodlands township 30 minutes north of At home in Houston, Chase needed his colleague’s help. Houston, when he got the call Patton was in distress. He got A woman from the Houston from Chase. a call from his wife Sherrill at area was injured in the Metro- Gravitating to the warmth 6:29 central time Sunday morn- North train crash in the Bronx, he found with Rabbi Blecher, ing. The Metro-North train she Rabbi Shemtov a mile and a half from Chabad Chase recently began coming and her two friends were rid- of Riverdale. Her husband was to Chabad. Now he was desper- ing had crashed in the Bronx. frantically trying to get in touch ate to find his wife, and amid and 300 others at the Market Banged-up and bruised, she bi’s phone bars lit up. with her. Could he help locate the panic “the thought of call- Street lighting, local Channel 2 was alive. Then the phone line Rabbi Shemtov called her? ing Rabbi Blecher popped into news pulled Chase aside for an went dead. Chase. Sunday was a particularly my head.” interview. He spoke about his Chase, a postal worker, “Your wife is fine. I am packed day on Shemtov’s cal- The rabbis worked their tried calling back but there was ordeal and his own Chanukah endar. The funeral, a bar mitz- phones. Shemtov narrowed it here with her.” no answer. An hour later, she miracle. vah, and preparations for the down to two hospitals: Monte- Overcome with relief, called again saying that she and “What the police couldn’t grand menorah lighting event fiore or Columbia Presbyterian. Chase choked up, speechless. her friends were being taken to later that evening at the Bell Blecher called them both and Shemtov handed the phone do for me, and what the media separate hospitals. She hung up Tower Monument in the Bronx texted Shemtov with his find- couldn’t do for me, Chabad did abruptly. to Sherrill. would consume most of his day. ings. It took a few minutes for for me,” a very relieved, grate- Two hours later with no Blecher: 622 w 168th St Then he got this text about word from Sherrill and no way Chase to regain his composure, ful man offered. the woman in the train crash. adult emergency room Section of reaching her, Chase began to D And then a phone call from stress. “That’s when news re- a community member whose Shemtov: I will be there in ports started to come in about 15 minutes mom had just died at Columbia the dying victims,” said Chase Rabbi Shemtov felt a nod Presbyterian Hospital. Would in a phone interview with from G-d. Both exigencies the rabbi please go there to do lubavitch.com. For Chase, “it were at Columbia Presbyterian. whatever rabbis do to ensure was pure panic.” Stopping first at the hos- that the body is properly han- Four people were killed in pital mortuary, Shemtov made dled? that accident. Traveling with arrangements for shmira, the traditional vigil over the body, and for a Jewish burial. Then he made his way to the emergency room. He had no idea what Sher- rill looked like. With all the pa- tients behind curtains, the best he could do was call out her name. “I walked around call- ing ‘Sherrill’ until someone an- swered my call.” The face of a bruised, but very much alive Sherrill Patton lit up when she saw the rabbi. 905-731-7000 ext. 231 “Oh,” she said relieved to see Page 12• World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014

Chabad Representatives to Simferopol Keep Close Watch

By Mordechai Lightstone - was in the U.S. at the time, banks went into a freefall. Brooklyn, NY contacted representatives from “Everyone began to pull out MARCH 17, 2014 other Jewish organizations, but their money at once. To prevent The night before armed found their response frustrat- a collapse, the banks put a cap men in unmarked combat fa- ingly slow. on how much could be taken tigues took control of Simfero- In the meantime, her hus- out each day - about $110.” pol, capital of the semi-autono- band booked a ticket to return, Rabbi Mendy Sharfstein Since arriving last week in routine amid the chaos, Leah mous Crimean peninsula, Leah but it was too late. Her children of Chabad Headquarters in NY New York, the Lipszycs have remains optimistic about the Lipszyc knew something was were frantically calling from connected Leah with Chabad set up temporary headquarters future. wrong. During the day some abroad, asking her to leave. emissaries deeper in Ukraine. in Brooklyn, directing their “Before we left, there were 30,000 protesters had clashed who suggested that a car from staff still stranded in Simfero- a few minor anti-Semitic inci- in the square kitty-corner to Kherson could make the trip pol from abroad. dents,” she says. “However, their synagogue, throwing pav- to Simferopol and pick her up. “There’s so much propa- most people feel that this is ing blocks and trampling two Unsure though that even if the ganda in the media, it’s diffi- their home, their community. people. car would be let into Crimea, cult to figure out what exactly They’re not leaving. Right now “We never expected any- it would be able to leave, Leah is going on,” Leah says. “If the our greatest concern is their se- thing like this to happen,” Leah, determined that her one chance reports would be taken literal- curity—we are working on in- the Chabad-Lubavitch repre- to leave was by train. ly, you have Nazis on one side stalling guards and surveillance sentative to Crimea with her “I grabbed whatever pos- and Communists on the other. husband, Rabbi Yitzchak Lip- sessions came to hand,” Leah equipment for the synagogue szyc told lubavitch.com. “Even says, “My iPad, camera and and other community build- when the situation in Kiev es- a few hastily packed items of ings.” calated, we felt we were safely clothing, and went to the train While on Monday the in the farthest possible place station.” breakaway Crimean govern- from it all. Suddenly, though, The only train still leaving ment applied to join Russia fol- we were at the epicenter.” that night was to Donetsk. A lowing a weekend referendum Simferopol, with a popu- Rabbi Lipszyc’s flight was friend managed to purchase the to leave Ukraine, Leah remains lation of 340,600, mostly eth- pushed off multiple times, last two tickets for her online, focused on her community. nic Russians, Ukrainians and and by the time he did man- while her husband also re-rout- “Our current challenge is Crimean Tatars, is home to age to land in Moscow, Rus- ed his ticket there. to bring Passover products to some 13,000 Jews. Though sian soldiers had taken control Some 340 miles away and Simferopol, including a ship- small in number, Crimea’s of the airport in Simferopol. located on the Ukranian main- ment of kosher meat that’s Jews have deep roots in a city He wouldn’t be able to fly into land, Donetsk, was a different been held back at the border, renowned for its ethnic diver- Crimea. world. Leah says. “Suddenly finding sity; Jewish settlements can be After consulting with Rab- “Over Shabbos we spoke to that your city is in a different traced back to the regions rule bi Yehuda Krinsky of Chabad people there about the situation country offers a host of new under the Greeks in the first Headquarters, Leah was in- in Crimea,” Leah says. “No one century C.E. structed to leave Simferopol. could believe that the turmoil troubles, but we trust that the But when Russian tanks “The city was in chaos,” would spread to them. Now There’s a lot of confusion.” situation will soon stabilize and rolled into the “City of Useful- Leah recalls. The airports and there are clashes in Donetsk as But while locals struggle we will be able to return to our ness,” Leah, whose husband the roads were closed and the well.” to keep a semblance of normal community.”

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AS. Can you tell us a little his- AS. There are many day tory of Lubavitch Day Camp? camps in Toronto and What year did it start? How the GTA but LDC has an many campers were there the exemplary reputation. How first year? do you account for this?

ES. Lubavitch Day Camp start- ES. I think the dedication and ed in 1979 with just 18 children, ability of our staff plays a in two bunks! The camp was lo- tremendous part in the camp’s cated in the Lubavitch Shul at success. Our staff is not here Edinburgh on Bathurst. Now because they are interested in a camp has between 650 - 700 paycheck they are here because children annually and our head- they truly enjoy working with quarters are at 770 Chabad Gate children and appreciate the in Thornhill. positive impact they can have on a child. Our counsellors love AS. Describe the different di- what they are doing and it is visions and how many camp- In this issue we interview Mrs. Esti Steinmetz, By: Ahava Spillman palpable; you can actually feel ers are there in each? Director of Lubavitch Day Camp it. Also, we are not a specialty AS. What’s the maximum already kosher and kids who AS. What kind of training ES. The Tiny Tot division is for camp, because we have ALL capacity and is there a are not kosher at all. How do do the counsellors get before 2-3½ year olds. We enrol 60 the specialties. Sports, arts, waiting list for last minute you overcome the difference? camp begins? adorable children and this is of- swimming (in our very own cancellations? pool), trips, and drama are all ten their first experience away ES. The children are divided ES. Counselors attend multi- from home. With the love and part of our schedule so children ES. We sometimes have to into groups based on the faceted training before camp. fun we offer, it’s a perfect way can enjoy their favourite activity expand the official maximum schools they attend. For Workshops include: CPR to introduce a youngster to out- while learning to love other capacity. We have a hard time example, if there are 3 groups training, first-aid training, role side activities without mum be- activities as well. Of course the turning away anyone interested of 8 year olds, one group will playing, workshops to teach fore entering nursery school in hot lunches, transportation and in a Jewish camp, especially have children that attend public the counselors to encourage the fall. For Tiny Tots the day reasonable fees help seal the if the child is not in a Jewish school, one group are children positive behaviour and the runs from 10:00am - 1:00pm, deal! including lunch. school, and the parents are who attend Jewish Day schools, importance of being an depending on a summer and one group are children exemplary role model to the AS. When kids get exposed The Preschool division is for experience to foster traditional who attend Religious schools. campers. to Yiddishkeit, they become boys and girls, aged 3-5½ feelings of belonging. During shuir (half hour of like sponges and want to years old. Here they are intro- AS. What kind of rainy day AS. When did you start di- interactive learning) each group learn more about it. LDC is duced to martial arts, dance, programs do you provide in recting the whole operation? learns information according to a perfect place to introduce arts and crafts, competitive their level. Throughout the day, case of inclement weather? secular kids to their tradition. sports, and that special Jewish ES. Since the summer of 2004. the activities strengthen what Tell us a couple of stories. ES. We have many activities enthusiasm that embraces every For the first two years my hus- some kids have just learned, aspect of LDC. These 150 chil- preplanned such as art activities, ES. A parent once called a band assisted, but now I’m on or reinforce what others have counselor on Sunday and told dren attend camp from 10:00am my own. always known! hunts in and around the - 3:00pm. building, drama competitions, her that the whole Shabbat her kid was crying because she AS. What makes LDC so dance and more! Some of our AS. What do you do about missed camp and her counselor. School Age Boys and School unique? lunch? best days are rainy ones! Aged Girls (aged 5½-12 When the mother suggested that she call her counsellor the years) are the largest divisions ES. Lubavitch Day Camp is ES. Lunch is a fully catered AS. Describe your Shabbat girl tearfully explained that with over 300 children. They much more than a physical affair! Hot soup, salads, and party every week. come to camp from 9:00am - break from the school routine she was not allowed to use the deluxe entrees are an absolute phone on Shabbat. In order to 4:00pm and the entire day is that exists all year. It’s a com- favourite amongst all campers. ES. An entire division gathers packed with such interesting in- get her daughter to stop crying, prehensive program designed I cannot tell you how many together - that is over 100 formation and intriguing activi- the mother promised her daugh- to strengthen the body and soul. parents are astonished that children! There is singing of all ties that your campers will be It provides campers with a rich ter that from now on she won’t their ”picky eaters” can’t wait the traditional Shabbat songs, entertaining the dinner table all and wholesome summer vaca- Shabbat treats, awards and use the phone on Shabbat. Her to dig in! Also the contagious daughter immediately stopped summer long. I have received tion of fun and activities along a counsellor skits reviewing spirit of singing, cheering and crying! a number of calls from parents with new friendships and mean- the highlights of the week in where they are mostly surprised ingful educational experiences. bentching is just electrifying a humorous fashion. In the I once got a phone call from a that their kids want to talk so Campers are imbued with a and definitely a favourite part younger divisions there is also parent who insisted she meet much about what happened that deep sense of pride in their Jew- of every camper’s day. a Shabbat Ima and a Shabbat with me, the Head Counsellor, day. Having a great time is one ish heritage and a love for the Abba who act out the Shabbat and her son’s counselor ASAP. thing, but wanting to share it is land of Israel. Weekly Judaic mitzvot and traditions like Expecting the worst I called the even better. themes are taught through sto- AS. I know there are outings lighting candles and saying emergency meeting for straight ries, songs, games and contests each week. Can you describe the blessings over wine and after camp. At the start of the The 35 CIT Boys are 12-14 which bring to life the beauty a few of your favourite desti- challah. meeting the mother broke down years old and the 35 CIT Girls and values of our tradition. nations and how you manage and started crying. When she are 12-13 years old. Here they to coordinate these for the dif- AS. Do past campers become composed herself she managed learn responsibility, encourage- ferent age groups? ment, organizational skills, and AS. Camp can have an present counsellors? Do many to ask one question. “What unbelievable influence on how to belt out those catchy Camp is divided into different campers return year after have you done to make my son camp tunes! They also bond a child. Can you give some divisions based on age. Each year? so happy!?” She then went on with each other with many late- concrete examples to prove division has unique field trips to explain that her son was see- night activities and overnight this statement? most suited for their level. We ES.Yes and yes! We have ing a psychiatrist because of de- programs. also send different divisions had campers who are already pression, was performing poor- ES. There are children that have every day, so it’s not too over- sending their own children to ly in school, and was just NOT arrived at camp not knowing whelming for bus drivers and camp! Of course, I too am an content about anything!. Since even the basics of Judaism, those preparing lunches to go. example of a returning camper! he started camp there had been AS. When does camp official- but by the time the summer is The favourites include Cana- I started camp as a three year a tremendous improvement in ly start and end? over they have been introduced da’s Wonderland, Woodbine old camper, went through the his overall mood, and behav- to many practices they find iour. We called her nine year Centre, Roller skating, and the ranks....and here I am! ES. This year the camp dates engaging and positive. Some Zoo to name a few! old son into the meeting and asked him the same question. are July 2, through Aug. 20, have influenced their families AS. How did some of your 2014. His response? The counsellors to keep kosher, or attend AS. What is the ratio of experience influence your synagogue on Shabbat, or wear really care about me, and they AS. When does registration campers to counsellors? planning as the Director of a yarmulke. There are also taught me that Hashem does as begin? LDC many children who, after some well! The learning and the care, ES. The Tiny Tots ratio the fun and the mitzvot was tru- ES. January 1 was the first day years at camp, have changed to is exceptional: there is a ES. I especially work hard to register and Camp is filling a Jewish Day School. ly life changing for this child! on finding the right kind of up quickly. I think this endless counsellor for every 3 campers. winter must feel shorter if your AS. Let’s say that there is In the Preschool, it’s 4:1, for staff, because I know through AS. It sounds extraordinary camper knows that plan for a week devoted to kosher School Age Boys and Girls, it’s experience that it makes all the for anyone. Parents, call those warm sunny days are set! food. You have kids who are 5:1, and for CITs, it’s 8:1. difference! today: (905) 731-7000. Page 14• World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014

By Rabbi Aron Moss

The Jews themselves didn’t with a belt. It is only ever taken I am the only Jew in my raeli cities. Israel’s actions are always get this message. After out when it is to be used for its office so I face a daily- bar proportionate to the present and Zodiac at the the exodus, some in the Israel- holy purpose, to be read during rage of questions about Is- future threat, not just the dam- Seder Table? ite camp suggested that while the prayer service. For those rael’s operations in Gaza. I age done in the past. the ram of Egypt (Aries) had special times we carefully draw don’t know who appointed indeed been trumped, it was not the curtain, open the doors of me as Israel’s spokesman Q: Doesn’t Israel under- G-d’s doing, but rather the next the ark, bring out the Torah, un- and I am not armed with stand that they are just creat- I am very connected star sign, Taurus, the bull who cover it and unwrap it. As soon the answers. Can you help? ing more terrorists? The anger to the zodiac and was won- had beaten Aries. And so they as we have finished we imme- and fury at Israel as a result dering if there is a link be- made an idol honouring Taurus, diately wrap it up again and put Answer: of bombing Gaza will only tween the stars and the timing known as the Golden Calf. It’s it away. At times like this, each one make more people want to join of Pesach. I have also noticed very tempting to fall back on of us becomes an ambassador Hamas. that the Seder always coin- idolatrous beliefs, because they Why do we go to such trou- for Israel. Even if you don’t cides with the full moon. What relieve us of responsibility. But ble to conceal the Torah? Are we agree with everything Israel A: Feelings of frustration, is the significance of all this? they also rob us of our freedom. ashamed of it? Is there some- does, any decent person must anger, fear and rage do not make thing to hide? Is there some- stand up for Israel’s right to you into a terrorist. A culture of Answer: Pesach is a celebration not thing ugly about the Torah? self-defense when over a mil- death and an education of hate There is deep astrologi- only of freedom of the Israelites Of course not. The opposite is lion of its citizens are under does. Israel doesn’t need to do cal significance to the date of from Egyptian slavery, but also true. rocket attack. anything to create terrorists - Is- Pesach. We celebrate the festi- freedom from being bound by lamic extremism does that. But val of freedom on the night of destiny. Our lives are not sub- Because the Torah is our We can leave the military Israel must act to destroy those the 15th of Nissan in the He- ject to the impersonal forces of holiest object, because it is so and political issues to the ex- who threaten its people. brew calendar, the night the Is- the zodiac. We are free to rise sacred and special and precious, perts, but we should all be clear raelites were freed from Egypt. above the limitations of fate we never leave it exposed un- on the moral questions raised Q: Hamas indeed has a mil- This is the full moon of the and conquer our birth sign. necessarily. We keep it under by this war. Let’s look at a few itant wing, but it also does a lot month of Aries, the ram. Your fortunes may predict one wraps because we don’t want to of the most commonly asked of good. They are responsible course for your life. You are treat it lightly, we don’t want to questions. for social programs, educa- The Egyptians worshipped free to create another. This idea become too casual with it. Were tional projects and humanitar- the ram as a god. Aries is the was brought home on the night the Torah to be always open Q: How can Israel justify ian work in Gaza. By destroy- leader of the star signs, the first of the full moon of Aries. and visible, it may become too killing civilians if their intent is ing Hamas, Israel also destroys and most powerful, and the familiar, and its sanctity mini- to crush Hamas terrorists? all the good they do. Isn’t that Egyptians saw themselves as mised. By keeping it away from demonising a group that is not the leaders of the world, receiv- sight and only bringing it out A: The death of innocents all bad? ing their strength and fortitude What Are Women for the appropriate times, we is a tragic inevitability of any from their god, the ram. maintain our reverence and re- war. Our hearts go out to all A: If a serial killer also hap- Hiding? spect for the Torah. bereaving families caught in pens to volunteer for his local So the strongest time for the the middle. The sad fact is that hospital, has donated money to Egyptians would have been the The same is with our bod- the Palestinian people are being an orphanage, and looks after month of Aries, when their god Why does Judaism com- ies. The body is the holy cre- held hostage by Hamas. Just as his ailing grandmother, he is is ascendant. And the strongest mand women to keep their ation of G-d. It is the sacred it is clear that Hamas is mor- still a serial killer, and should day on that month would be bodies covered? Is there house of the soul. The way we ally culpable for the abduction be treated as such. The danger its full moon. Egyptian power something shameful or evil maintain our respect for the and torture of Israeli hostages he poses far outweighs the con- would reach its zenith on the about a woman’s body? If body is by keeping it covered. such as Gilad Shalit, so too are cern for any good he may do. 15th of Nissan. men can’t control their urges Not because it is shameful, but they culpable for the fate of then it’s their problem, not because it is so beautiful and Palestinian innocents amongst Q: By using violence, how And that is exactly when women’s. Why should a wom- precious. whom they hide. A civilian who is Israel any better than its ter- the Israelites left Egypt. Aries an have to hide herself just so This is true for men’s bod- is killed while being used by a rorist enemies? was rendered impotent at its others shouldn’t be tempted? ies too, and modest dress ap- terrorist as a human shield is a very moment of strength. plies to them as well. But it is victim of the terrorist, not the A: That is as ridiculous as Answer: even more so for women. The Israeli army, who does not tar- saying that a woman who fights But there’s more. The Isra- You are assuming that the feminine body has a beauty get innocent civilians. off an attacker is no better than elites ate a festive meal on the only reason for modest dress and a power that far surpasses her attacker. Israel would not night before the exodus, and the is to avoid temptation. While the masculine. The Kabbalists Q: Isn’t Israel’s response a touch Hamas if Hamas would main course was a lamb roasted this may be the case in other re- teach that a woman’s body has bit disproportionate? So many stop sending rockets and sui- on a spit. They were eating the ligions, for Judaism this is not a deeper beauty because her more Palestinians are dying cide bombers into Israel. Israel Egyptian deity, the ram, under true. The Jewish way of modest soul comes from a higher place. than Israelis. seeks to live in peace with its the full moon of the month of dress is not so much about how For this reason her body must neighbours. Hamas and its al- the ram, in the eyes of all Egypt, other people view women, but be kept discretely covered. A: War is not mathemat- lies seek to destroy Israel, no and they got away with it. more about how women view In a world where the wom- ics. If Israel were merely taking matter what Israel does. themselves. an’s body has been reduced to revenge, then it would need to The message is unmistak- a cheap advertising gimmick, be proportionate. But Israel is For Hamas, war is holy. For able. The world is not run by Covering something we need no proof for the truth waging a defensive war. Since Israel, war can never be holy. capricious forces and amoral doesn’t always mean being of this wisdom. Where all is when is war proportionate? In War may be necessary, like star signs. There is a G-d who ashamed of it. Have you ever exposed, nothing is sacred. But war, you don’t measure your when your citizens are being rules heaven and earth, who noticed how we treat a Torah that which is truly precious to response to the enemy by what attacked unprovoked; war may cares for the innocent and ex- scroll? We never leave it lying us, we keep under wraps. they have done to you in the be moral, like when innocent acts justice from the corrupt. To around open. It is hidden be- past, but rather by what needs lives are being threatened; but the stars, our actions make no hind many layers. The Torah is to be done to stop them attack- even then, war is never holy. difference. To G-d, our actions kept inside a synagogue, in the Israel is at War ing in the future. Israel must do matter. The zodiac demands Ark, behind a curtain, wrapped destroy Hamas’ capability to There is a world of differ- nothing from us. G-d demands in a mantle, held tightly closed continue shooting rockets at Is- ence between a moral war and a we live a life of goodness. 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By Rabbi Aron Moss

holy war. A moral soldier fights And yet I suspect you fying answer. I want to know to me. Your actions touch me. the Talmud gives is that while a reluctantly, while holy warriors would do what most parents why it sometimes seems that I have invested myself in you. wedding can wait until after the we depict G-d as a tantrum- glory in the fight. A moral sol- have done in such circumstanc- This relationship is real.” festival, if you delay making a dier is burdened by the obliga- es. Better remove the extra fin- ing little child. For example, We only get upset at people match someone else may beat tion, while holy warriors de- gers now, when it is relatively many times in the Torah it says that we should not say or who matter to us. When your light in the pain inflicted on the painless and quick to heal, than you to your soulmate. do something that is forbid- husband gets annoyed at you, enemy. A moral soldier fights subject the child to feeling like den since that will make G-d take it as his way of saying you when there is no other option; an anomaly in his future life. very angry. What am I sup- But how can one person a holy warrior seeks violence He has no use for them anyway, posed to make of that? How matter to him. You matter to take a soulmate destined for as a way of life. A moral soldier and would later resent the fact can I respect a G-d who is on G-d too. someone else? takes measures to limit inno- that his parents didn’t remove the edge of blowing up if we Through raising your soul cent casualties; a holy warrior them for him. don’t follow what He says? seeks to maximise them. And so, kind and loving Can Your Soulmate to a higher level. parents will unflinchingly put Answer: be Stolen A holy warrior fears times their babies under the surgeon’s Imagine being married to If you work on yourself, of peace, because then he has knife. The short term pain is a man who never gets angry. improve your character and no purpose. A moral soldier worth it to avoid any long term Ever. About anything. You in- A friend and I have been refine yourself to a new spiri- dreams of a time when peace discomfort. All other concerns sult him and he shrugs. You are going back and forth in re- tual plane, then your soulmate will reign. Then, the Israel De- would quickly dissolve. What rude to him and he is nice back gards to dating. She is in no changes. A new improved soul fense Force will be made joy- is called barbaric in one context to you. You give attention to rush to get married, but feels ously redundant, as “one nation is quite humane in another. others and he isn’t the least bit pressured to “get out there” gets a new improved soulmate. will not lift a sword against an- jealous. lest she miss out on her soul- other nation, and they will no If this logic works for re- mate. I say what will be will And who will be that new longer learn to wage war”. moving extra fingers, a purely Would that be a wonderful be, and if it is meant to hap- improved soulmate? Someone cosmetic operation, how much marriage? pen then it will. Can one’s whose original soulmate has more should it work in favour Well, on one level, yes, soulmate be “stolen” if they either fallen to a lower spiri- Is Circumcision of the infinitely more meaning- it would be fantastic. No ten- don’t act in haste? tual level and doesn’t deserve ful act of circumcision. I am sion, no issues, no arguments or Barbaric? not suggesting that being un- fights or silent treatment. them anymore, or is dithering Answer: circumcised is the same as be- But in truth, it wouldn’t around, wondering if they are It is most certainly possible ing twelve-fingered. But for a be good at all. It wouldn’t be ready to get married... to miss out on your soulmate. We had a baby boy and Jewish child there are several a relationship. If he never gets we are very excited. But we similarities. upset at you, it means that you This teaches us an amazing are still undecided about the don’t really matter to him. If The Talmud discusses cer- principle in soulmate searching. Bris. I have issues with it. I An uncircumcised Jew of- nothing you do moves him, it tain times of the year when The two things that can cause am aware of the spiritual sig- ten feels like an outsider among means he doesn’t care enough Jewish law does not allow wed- nificance of the circumcision, his own people. He will always to be impacted by you. you to lose your soulmate are but I have much more practi- be a Jew, but may come to feel dings to take place. One of them spiritual decline, or lack of real cal concerns: ambivalent about it, knowing Being in a relationship is during a festival, like Pesach, effort. And the two things that 1) Is it not barbaric to put that to actively embrace his means affecting each other. For as we do not want to mix cel- will most help you find your my baby through the pain of Jewishness entails undergoing better or for worse, your heart ebrations together. However soulmate are self-improvement, a medically unnecessary op- an operation - one that is minor is intertwined with someone the Talmud says that while you and determined effort. eration? at eight days old, but quite a bit else’s. If you aren’t getting a can’t perform a wedding dur- 2) He was born uncircum- more daunting in adulthood. I reaction, then you aren’t con- Sit around and nothing will ing a festival, you can make cised, why should I mess with have attended adult circumci- necting. You may be married, happen. But as long as you are his natural state? sions, and it is inspiring when but you are really alone. shidduch - a match between out there, and as long as you are 3) My son has no say in someone makes that choice. prospective mates with a view working on yourself, you will this, and can never reverse The actual procedure is not G-d created the world to get married. The reasoning find him. it. Shouldn’t I let him choose such a big deal. But the deci- so He could later on in life if he wants this sion to go through with it is. have a rela- done to him? tionship with Do you have any So putting all spiritual con- us. He made a rational answers? siderations aside, from a purely huge gamble, practical perspective, here’s creating hu- Answer: the equation. Leave your son mans with free Imagine the following uncircumcised, and you leave choice to do scenario. Your baby is born, him with a psychological bar- whatever we healthy and well. But there’s rier to exploring his own iden- want, and He something unusual. He has six tity. Give your son a Bris, and invested Him- fingers on each hand. An extra he loses nothing more than a bit self in us, al- little growth protrudes right of skin. But he gains immedi- lowing Himself next to each pinkie. ate entry into the four thousand to be impacted What would you do about year old covenant of Abraham. by our actions. it? Have the extra fingers surgi- That is a gift you will never re- cally removed? Or leave them? gret giving So when After all, he was born that way. the Torah says And he can live with twelve fin- that G-d will gers. Maybe the child should be My Husband Never get angry if allowed to choose whether or Gets Angry we do wrong, not he wants his extra fingers that is the most Boys from Cheder Chabad display the many hundreds of Shalach Monos pack- later in life. Can you think of beautiful state- ages they packaged in honor of Purim. Each Purim hundreds of Shalach Monos anything more barbaric than ment of love. I’ve had a question for packages are distributed by Chabad volunteers at hospitals and senior homes chopping someone’s fingers G-d is saying, a while now and no one has and institutions, bringing a smile and holiday cheer to those who need it most off? been able to give me a satis- “You matter Page 16• World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014

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The Anatomy Crisis of Conscience Of A Miracle

Continued from page 2 been created as a something Continued from page 20 ed that he deliver a public apol- story entitled “My Journey which must subsequently be ogy. “And then,” Szegedi said, From Hater to Fighter of Ha- The answer to that is to be “forced” to accommodate Isra- it was anti-Semitism, and then “I thought, wait a minute, I am tred,” but a video presentation found in the verse’s use of the el’s mission, its own “natural” we also started hating Roma- supposed to apologize for the was played instead after Ca- fact that my family was killed nadian immigration officials term “strength” (l’eitano) to al- existence would be finite and nians and Slovaks, because at Auschwitz?” forced Szegedi to leave the lude to the sea’s “stipulation” temporal, nothing more than a they had persecuted the Hun- garian minority [in their coun- A speaking engagement by country. There were rumblings (litna’o). One might think that “background” or “setting” for tries]. Ultimately you hate the Szegedi, scheduled to be held that Szegedi was asked to leave the fact that the sea’s creation -- even, at times, an obstacle to whole world and most of Canada after complaints was “conditional” would mean -- the unfolding of the divine [the world’s] peoples were made from within that its existence is less real. In purpose. But by stipulating at because they have not the Jewish community. truth, however, the very opposite the outset that physical objects met your standards.” Roughly 200 people at- is the case: This is the source of should change their nature The disclosure of tended the presentation, its true “strength” and viability. when it was necessary for the his Jewish background which became heated at In his commentary on the first sake of Israel’s implementation distanced Szegedi from times with people stand- ing and yelling. verse of Genesis, Rashi’s inter- of the Torah, G-d wrote this mi- many of his friends. “I acknowledge that prets the phrase Bereishit (“in raculous possibility into their “All of a sudden, peo- ple who I thought were I have a lot of sins. And the beginning”) to imply that very constitution. This means my friends stopped this is why I understand the world was created “for the that when miracles occurred, being friends,” he re- those people who are not sake of Israel and the Torah.” this would not be an interrup- counted, and from his happy me being here. This can be understood on two tion of their natural existence, position as No. 2 in the Rabbi S. Koves But these sins I try to rec- levels. In the more simplistic but its continuation and fulfill- Jobbik party, he became tify not only at the verbal sense, this means that the en- ment. the party’s No. 1 problem, level but at the level of tirety of creation exists to allow This makes their existence Welt am Sonntag, the Ger- my actions,” said Szegedi in his in Montreal last year, was can- and enable the people of Israel of an entirely different order. man newspaper, noted. Even his taped message. “I have to tell celled after Szegedi was forced to perform G-d’s will on earth. They become not things which friends in the party did him no to leave Canada. the Canadian Jewish commu- A deeper understanding is that exist for a while and then pass favors. “The best thing would nity… that I am exactly such a be if we shoot you so you can Chabad of Wesmount Edu- through Israel’s fulfillment of away, but rather things whose Jew as they are. I cannot help be buried as pure Hungarian,” cational Centre in Montreal the divine purpose in creation, it – as you cannot help it.” destiny is (by the very nature one told him. Another suggest- had invited Szegedi to tell his the world itself is sanctified into of their creation) linked with becoming a “dwelling place” the miraculous and eternal ex- for G-d, and thus is brought to istence of Israel, and their mi- its own fulfillment. raculous and eternal realization If the world would have of the divine purpose.

The Messianic Era The Basics

Continued from page 2 Resurrection of the Resumption of Sus- Dead pended Mitzvot I believe with perfect The Mitzvot we do today faith that the dead will be pale in comparison to those brought back to life when we will perform when we will G-d wills it to happen— be returned to the Holy Land. 13th Principle of Faith. And aside for the greater qual- The Resurrection of the Dead ity of the mitzvot we will per- – an era that will last for all form then, quantitatively, too, eternity – is the second and fi- we then will finally be capable nal stage of the Messianic Era. of performing so many mitzvot It will happen forty years after which we are unable to do to- the advent of the Messianic Era. day. Also, with the rebuilding Every Jewish soul that ever of the Holy Temple, we will re- lived will be resurrected—in sume the Temple service and all the very body in which it lived the mitzvot that it entails. and died (and in the case of re- A Miraculous Era? incarnated souls, all the bodies Moshiach will usher in will be resurrected). The body and soul are partners in all good an era of peace and prosper- deeds performed; they must ity which will benefit all of both be rewarded accordingly. mankind. The prophets depicts The Resurrection Era will be the Messianic Era as a mi- a period that will be charac- raculous one, and the Midrash terized by radical changes in and Talmud are replete with nature, with miracles becom- statements regarding fantastic ing the daily norm (see A Mi- miracles that will be common- raculous Era?). We will then be place during the Messianic Era. treated to a reward that can only Whether these prophecies are be viewed as a gift from Above, literal or allegoric is the subject for its greatness is such that fi- of debate amongst the Jewish nite human efforts could never philosophers. earn such bounty. Page 18• World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014

An Impromptu Seder

what the Rebbe would do if he were there. We ate the Matzah and used water and paper cups to recall the four cups of wine. Looking at the lit- tle girls and at their mother, about to have another child, I began to tell them some things I had learned from the Rebbe. I told them that we have to have faith. On this night, G-d liber- ated our ancestors from slavery, and He liberates us, In the weeks before Pesach, over 3000 youngsters from too. The husband and wife seemed many schools and youth groups will visit the model to hang on every Matzah Bakery at the Chabad Lubavitch Community Rabbi Shlomo Cunin Di- dress, which turned out to be a word, as if they were getting Centre. They will learn about the intricate details and housing project. I knocked on rector of Chabad of California nourishment just by listening. I time sensitive process of baking round, handmade relates: the door and out came a shirt- continued that on Passover, we It was Friday afternoon less man with tattoos and a pot Matzah. The hands-on experience of kneading, rolling, journey through our personal and piercing the dough (to keep it from rising), gives the Erev Pesach — April 4, 1958 — belly. Egypt to freedom, and that G-d a few hours to go till the holi- “What is it?” he snapped. (It doesn’t place on our shoulders youngsters a heads up on the importance of day officially began. A group of is Bronx etiquette to snap when more than we can carry. Once Matzah, the focal point of the Pesach holiday. Chabad yeshiva boys in Brook- greeting someone.) we know that, and believe it, we lyn had finished baking the last “Excuse me, are you Mr. are already liberated. of the matzah. The Lubavitcher So-and-So?” I asked. We sang songs with the Rebbe used to give a piece of “Yeah,” he answered. I no- children, and time flew. At 1:00 hand-baked Matzah to people ticed the loaf of rye bread sit- a.m., the woman put the girls to as a spiritual gift in these final ting on the table, definitely not bed and it was time for me to hours, as the mystical Jewish a traditional Seder food. “The leave. Nevertheless, I had to at work, the Zohar, explains that Rebbe sent me.” least ask the man how he knew matzah is the “bread of faith,” “The Rebbe?” The man’s the Rebbe. and that simply eating it nour- face changed. “Oh, please come It turned out the man was a ishes the soul. Therefore the in.” leather tanner. He was acquaint- Rebbe would stand for hours, The tiny kitchen contained ed with a rabbi who worked at greeting people and handing out only a small table, a few chairs another section of the plant. the pieces of Matza. and a hot plate. I didn’t under- Several months ago, when the The people who received stand what I was doing there, tanner’s wife had become preg- Matzah first were those who delivering Matzah to a family nant, their doctor had recom- had to travel far, because riding who wasn’t even celebrating mended an abortion because of in a car or subway is not per- Passover. Then I thought, per- the strong chance that this child mitted on Shabbat and Jewish haps that’s exactly why I was might be born blind like his sis- ters. The man, depressed and unsure what to do, asked this rabbi, who suggested writing a letter to the Lubavitcher Rebbe. The Rebbe wrote back, answer- ing that they should have faith in G-d and have the child. As I was about to leave, the man said, “You know, my wife and I weren’t sure about this. How are we supposed to have faith? How are we sup- posed to forget what is and have hope? We didn’t think it was possible. But tonight, hearing about faith and how G-d gives us the strength to overcome our personal Egypt, well, now we Rabbi Cunin understand.” So she carried to term and holidays. I was 16 years old and there. gave birth to a son, who was had to get home on 167th and I asked the man if he would born fully sighted. Over time, Jerome Avenue in the Bronx, like to have a Seder. He agreed I lost track of this family, but which was pretty far away. and called for his wife to come years later I learned that the When I approached the in. She entered, visibly preg- daughters had gotten married Rebbe, he handed me Matzah nant, with two beautiful little and that each had several chil- and asked if I could deliver girls, maybe five or six years dren, all sighted. some to a certain family. Ide- old, trailing behind. Both girls To really describe the Reb- ally, I would have taken a taxi were blind. be’s love for hundreds of thou- from the subway station, asked We cleared off the table. I the driver to wait, delivered the put a hat on the man’s head and sands of Jews and non-Jews all Matzah, and gotten home in announced, “Okay, we’re hav- over the world would be impos- time for our family Seder. But ing a Seder!” sible. The best I could do is to life is seldom ideal; it was too Feast of Liberation write about a poor family in late to take a cab, so I had to I tried to remember the the Bronx, living in a housing rely on my own set of legs. blessings in the right order, al- project for the blind. And how Untraditional though it was difficult without the Rebbe had faith and hand- Eventually, I found the ad- a Haggadah, and tried to think delivered to their door. World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014 • Page 19

your spouse and it is harming mid from United Lubavitcher your relationship, it is time to Yeshiva and Oholei Torah Ye- fix this problem. Fortunately, shiva in Brooklyn, New York. As thoughts are one of the things in well, he was one of the original life we can control and change organizers of the weekly 770 for the better. As such, with a messibas Shabbos in Crown new attitude and a new set of Heights. His past writing has thoughts, you can easily cre- included editorship of the Tiz- ate a new relationship reality. vos Hashem Newsletter, regular Leave your own self-imposed columnist in the Neshei Chabad Be Accepting limitations, liberate yourself Newsletter, and contributor to and take yourself to the “prom- countless other Chabad pub- Living comfortably with All this made Tammy furious be “good enough.” ised land.” Make your home lications. Rabbi Kass has au- another person requires mutual and was additional proof as to The less important items a place of peace and harmony thored 18 educational books. acceptance. A marriage lacking how “bad” Paul really was! which she had once pressured where each family member He has a busy counselling in acceptance will be a mar- This relationship pattern con- Paul to do had now became feels G-d’s presence. What a practice in Toronto, Canada riage of friction, rejection, and tinued for years. Both were non-issues (the complaints wonderful way to honor Pass- helping individuals, couples, condemnation. It will be bit- worn out from the never-ending Tammy had crossed-off her over and our history as Jews. and families find personal and ter and to the extreme, it will list). Tammy just ignored them relationship peace. He is avail- be a relationship not wanted. or took care of it herself. 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Rather, accepted, he felt valued, and “acceptance” means that even when he felt valued he became if the change requested is not more involved in his family in forthcoming, you still feel your a variety of ways — and all of partner is “good enough.” this was greatly appreciated by Paradoxically, the more your tension and strife. The only rea- Tammy. After all... this is all partner feels accepted; the more son they were together was for she had really ever wanted — likely he or she is to acknowl- the benefit of the children and she just hadn’t known how to edge your right to request posi- their relationship with them and achieve it. DOTbyDOT.org tive changes and then go on to their financial entanglements. This new approach created actually make them. Why? Be- I told Tammy to lower her a home environment that was Hebrew Reading cause when you have a positive expectations. 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Paul came to Start with good thinking: take her long to list about twen- understand that what was im- Realize most people are good, ty-five items. portant to Tammy was okay most of the time. Mistakes were I continued, “Now, put a line and cooperating with her was a made, but the intentions were through the bottom items leav- smart thing to do — this is what good. Certainly this applies to ing only the top five items. I need to do to be a “good hus- your husband or wife. Starting today, only react when band,” he reasoned with him- Focus on your partner’s good he does one of the top five on self. And he was right! intentions. This makes forgiv- your list. Ignore everything Everyone is different, and ing mistakes easy or better yet, else. When he does violate one everyone has different ways to allows you to overlook them. of the big five, rather than voic- do things. 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This attitude is good for could not accept him as he was that to her amazement this your partner — and it is espe- — he just had to change; he new plan actually worked and cially good for you. had to learn how to be a good tension and conflict had been Egypt was a prison for the The recital of Kaddish is the bond which husband like all the other good significantly reduced. She in- Jewish nation and on Passover unites the generations from the immemorial husbands in the world! formed me that Paul completed we celebrate our redemption. unto eternity. It is the way we show our timeless Paul felt rejected and respond- what she had asked of him and The spiritual lesson from Pass- devotion to our parents and loved ones. In the ed by staying late at work and his attitude had improved. over – its eternal relevance for event you cannot personally observe this hal- thus avoiding Tammy. When From Paul’s perspective, he each of us is that we can break lowed expression of love for the duration of elev- he was home, he would push- reported he didn’t feel attacked out our own self-imposed pris- en months, alternate arrangements can be made back saying he didn’t under- by Tammy since her requests ons, our limitations. Although through the Chabad Lubavitch Organization. You stand what Tammy was talking were polite and respectful. He accepting your partner as he or may also consider placing bronze name plates about implying she was “crazy” found it much more agreeable she is may seem daunting, you of your departed ones on our Memorial Board which will insure The Observance of Yahrtzeit in or he simply ignored her with a to accommodate her wishes and would agree it is “all in your perpetuity. roll of his eyes or a wave of his not resist as he had done in the mind.” If you are imprisoned by hand. past. He began to feel he could your negative thoughts about For further information call 905.731.7000 Page 20• World of Lubavitch • Spring 2014

that there would be “another changes in my life are still hap- they prefer to be called], I was Auschwitz.” The grandfather pening,” he said. also harming children who had was said to be very pleased “I had this set value system never done anything wrong when Szegedi’s mother married that I had to change completely. and may have talents that they a non-Jew “as protection,” he I had had this value system un- could develop, but I blocked explained. til I was 30 and I had to admit their path,” he conceded. “You At first, Szegedi tried to that it was all wrong and to find start hating until the hate be- hide his Jewishness and act like the will to change.” comes an aim unto itself…. nothing had happened. But he Now the former fascist anti- At the beginning, it was ‘the realized he couldn’t stay in Job- Semite acknowledges his past crimes of the Gypsies.’ Then bik. failings. “I hurt other people. “It started such a crisis in When I spoke disparagingly of Continued on page 17 Crisis of my consciousness,” he told Jews or Gypsies [or Roma, as CBN News. “I realized I can’t take part in any organization 1940... Rabbi Joseph Isaac Schneerson, o.b.m., came to that has anything to do with an- America, to bring the light of Torah and warmth of Conscience ti-Semitism. And after my Jew- Mitzvas to a spiritual wasteland. BUDAPEST, Hungary -- his grandmother on his moth- ish origins were disclosed, they What do you do when you learn er’s side is a Jewish survivor really didn’t want to see me in Then $54.00 was considered you are not the person you of the Auschwitz concentration the party anymore.” a worthy donation. thought you were, when you camp and his maternal grand- So what do you do when His son-in-law Rabbi Menachem M. Schneerson learn you are the very thing you father was also Jewish and was you discover you are one of the became the seventh leader of Chabad and hated? interned in a labor camp. In very things you hated? Szegedi 1950.. encouraged his disciples to serve as Torah It was a question Csanad fact, half of his family perished decided to change. ambassadors throughout the world. During Szegedi was confronted with at Auschwitz. He contacted local Chabad ..1994 those 44 years, more than 1500 Lubavitch -- one that led to a remarkable When rumors of his Jewish Rabbi Schlomo Koves, who Centres were established throughout the first thought it was a joke. world, serviced by some five thousand transformation. ancestry started swirling on the Shluchim (Emissaries) who have dedicated Last year, Csanad Szegedi, Internet, Szegedi went to talk to “When I first met with their lives to help enhance the quality former no. 2 of far-right Job- his 94-year-old grandmother, Csanad, I had very, very mixed of Jewish life. bik party, called on Hungary to who he never knew was Jewish. feelings because on one hand protect itself from Jews. Then “She opened up and she I was sitting across from a Then too $54.00 was considered he learned he had Jewish roots talked about her life and how member of the Jobbik party, a worthy donation. and has become enamored with she was sent to Auschwitz which has extreme anti-Semitic Today, the Shluchim, Chassidim and supporters of Chabad Lubavitch are 2014... indebted to the Rebbe for his uncon- ditional love towards every Jew, his monumental endeavours on behalf Indeed of Klal Yisroel and for having had the opportunity to share in the 3 Times fulfillment of his vision. We pledge to rededicate ourselves Chai Can to his teachings and continue his sacred work with renewed enthusiasm and vitality. May Make a we soon witness the rewards of these efforts with the im- Difference! minent arrival of Mashiach. Please make your cheque payable to: Today too $54.00 CHABAD LUBAVITCH is considered a and send to: 770 Chabad Gate worthy donation. Thornhill, Ont. L4J 3V9 You may wish to call 905-731-7000 and contribute via your Visa card Baked Hand lb. Should you wish to sell er your Chometz for the Round, 00 p duration of Pesach, $21. please complete the form Matzoh at Shmurah below & mail it at once to: ble Lubavitch CHABAD LUBAVITCH vaila A Chabad 770 Chabad Gate, at Thornhill, Ontario L4J 3V9 so that it reaches us no later Community Centre than Friday, April 11, 2014.

Certificate Authorizing the Sale of Chometz Judaism ever since. and how our family was an- views,” Rabbi Koves told CBN A year ago he was still argu- nihilated,” he recalled. “I was News. Delegation of Power of Attorney “But on the other hand, I This is to certify that I, the undersigned, fully empower and permit any of ing that Hungary had to protect shocked. First of all because I the Rabbi’s under the administration of Chabad Lubavitch of Ontario, to act itself from the Jews. He was an realized the Holocaust really was sitting across from a bro- in my place and stead and on my behalf to sell all Chometz possessed by anti-Semite of the most extreme happened.” ken person who has realized me (knowingly or unknowingly) as defined by the Torah and Rabbinic Law, including chometz, doubt of chometz and all forms of chometz mixture. In kind and a senior official in his In investigating further, what he has done and has come addition, chometz that tends to harden and adhere to the inside surface of country’s far-right Jobbik party. Szegedi discovered that his to a situation where he figured pans, pots or any usable cooking utensil are to be considered as above. I The fiery extremist, Csanad grandfather had a previous wife he had to change but he didn’t hereby delegate authorization to lease all places wherein the chometz may be found by me, especially in the premises located at: Szegedi, even appeared in the and together they had two chil- know how to change,” he said. black uniform of the Hungarian dren. The wife and children all Szegedi started attending ______and elsewhere. Guard, the militia group that he died at Auschwitz. After the synagogue and jokes that he The said Rabbi has the full right to sell and lease by transaction, as he deems fit and proper and for such time which he believes necessary in founded, at an opening session war, the grandfather married was treated by some members accordance with all detailed terms and detailed forms as explained in the of the European Parliament. Szegedi’s grandmother, a Jew- “like a leper.” general authorization contract which the said Rabbi will use to detail the “It was very interesting to sale of Chometz. But that would all change ish survivor of Auschwitz. The This General authorization is made a part of this agreement. Also do I when Szegedi learned some- couple were married in an ultra- see how other people viewed hereby give the said Rabbi full power and authority to appoint a substitute thing about himself that would Orthodox wedding ceremony it and some stepped back,” in his stead with full power to sell and to lease as provided herein. The above given power is in conformity with all Torah, Rabbinical regulations turn his world upside down: but several years later distanced Rabbi Koves said. “They were and laws and also in accordance with the laws of the Province of Ontario Szegedi discovered he was a themselves from religion. His shocked.” and the Confederation of Canada. Jew. grandmother chose not to speak But Szegedi started taking And to this I hereby affix my signature on this ______day of______in the year 2014. Szegedi’s popularity began about her past, although when classes at the synagogue, learn- to put off his adversaries and Szegedi’s mother was 14, his ing Hebrew and the meaning of Name______Signature ______political competitors, who be- grandfather disclosed the fam- kosher and Shabbat. He said his gan to look for dirt on the rising ily’s Jewish past to her. But he life has completely changed. Address______right-wing leader. Ultimately warned her, however, not to re- “It’s changed everything. they found it. It turns out that veal it to anyone out of concern It’s like being re-born, and the BEST WISHES FOR A KOSHER & ENJOYABLE PESACH