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Harvard Jan 2012 - FINAL_Layout 1 11/14/2011 3:03 PM Page 1 EXPLORATIONS Abiding Our Own Minds Regional retreats offer quietude and the promise of insight. • by Nell Porter Brown The Insight IMS’s Forest Refuge Meditation Society THE MESSAGE F BERT; THEBERT; ABODE O Al /LOU IMS TER; N E P AR C Y L MI E / IMS T: T: F E ousan aBadian, a fellow at MIT’s Da- to reflect, away from L ROM lai Lama Center for Ethics, has trav- the hubbub, New F eled as far as the Amazon River and England offers a sur- OCKWISE the mountainous peaks of Peru seek- prisingly wide array Cl The Abode of Sing spiritual growth. “My most powerful of sanctuaries and the Message retreats,” she reports, “have been those I’ve retreats, from those done in the natural world, sometimes in my run by Buddhists and Sufis and traditional selves in relation to the world,” says Bos- own backyard, where I have basically sat for Western religious groups to others repre- ton psychotherapist Christopher Germer, hours at a time, sometimes days.” senting different kinds of spiritual or ethical a clinical instructor in psychology in the These meditations, practiced alone or organizations, such as Sirius, a regional off- department of psychiatry at Harvard with a group, have helped quiet her “in- shoot of the Scottish Findhorn Foundation. Medical School and a practicing Buddhist. ner dramas” and her active academic mind. Most promote spiritual learning through A founding member of the Institute for (Abadian, A.M. ’87, M.P.A. ’88, Ph.D. ’99, fo- quietude in a natural setting. Visitors are Meditation and Psychotherapy (www. cuses on the impact of collective trauma on generally expected to respect an atmo- meditationandpsychotherapy.org), Germ- indigenous peoples; see “Trail of Tears, and sphere focused on reflection, prayer, and er has attended countless retreats and Hope,” March-April 2008, page 39.) “When worship, or even maintain strict silence. The now leads them for fellow psychothera- we are so busy in daily life, we are not con- degree of religious adherence varies; some pists through both the institute and the Essex Street scious of the other messages we get, particu- retreats emphasize scriptural teachings and Barre Center for Buddhist Studies (www. Answers larly from our hearts and souls and bodies,” private consultation with spiritual advisers, dharma.org/bcbs), in western Massachu- she asserts. “Retreats allow us to access and while others focus on devotional practices setts. (He and Ronald D. Siegal, assistant strengthen subtle capacities and to hear related to meditation, ecological commu- clinical professor of psychology at HMS, ourselves and others on a different level.” nion, yoga, or other mind-body exercises. have co-edited Wisdom and Compassion in As Abadian has discovered, one need not In the Buddhist tradition, retreats are Psychotherapy: Deepening Mindfulness in Clini- travel to exotic locales to turn inward. For considered “‘deeper practice’ that help us cal Practice, forthcoming from Guilford individuals who want some time and space to reconfigure our sense of self and our- Press, which was inspired by a 2009 HMS 12d January - FeBruary 2011 120109_Cabot.indd 1 11/21/11 12:30 PM NEW ENGlanD REGIOnal SECTION Find solace Visit harvardmag.com/extras for a list of more New England sanctuaries. conference on the subject attended by the Dalai Lama and scholars, scientists, and therapists from across the country.) “Mindfulness has become probably the dominant paradigm of psychotherapy,” he says. Those in the field attend retreats themselves to learn how to meditate and apply the practice to working with pa- tients. “They also come to be refreshed and Document1Document1 11/20/03 11/20/03 11:51 11:51 AM AM Page Page 1 1 Document1 11/20/03 11:51 AM Page 1 renewed—to manage fatigue,” he explains. “Caregivers need to care for themselves.” Atlifecare Brookhaven living is as good as it looks. 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