How Any Student Can Excel in Music
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Cherry Hill Academy of Piano & Guitar The Ultimate Lesson Manual For Parents! by Guy Faux "1 Cherry Hill Academy of Piano & Guitar Where To Start? I may not know your exact situation as to why you ordered this book, but I have a pretty good idea.! You either have one or more children who have expressed interest in music lessons and you’re not sure where to start, or you already have family members enrolled in lessons and you want them to have the best experience possible.! • There’s also another possibility. Someone in your family had music lessons in the past and either didn’t have a great experience, or for one reason or another, didn’t do as well as you had hoped or expected.! So with that said, let me give you a brief description of my first experience with private piano lessons — and I say, “my first experience”, because it didn’t last very long.! I was only 5-years-old and don’t really remember asking for lessons — but my mom played the piano, so that’s probably the reason why she signed me up. ! I don’t remember a whole lot from the experience, but I do know that I didn’t last more than a few months. I do remember playing at a recital, but that’s about it.! I don’t recall it being fun — but I don’t believe it was a bad experience either — it just wasn’t all that memorable. ! I say this to help you realize that your child's first experience with music lessons, like my own, may not last very long. Of course, you may be feeling a little discouraged as you read this because you’ve already been there and done that.! "2 Cherry Hill Academy of Piano & Guitar The purpose of this book is to help every parent, (no matter where they are in the music lesson journey with their kids), to understand the ups and downs that are involved with learning how to play a musical instrument, without any sugar coating! My second stint at piano lessons came about after watching “Sincerely Yours”, starring Liberace. ! I’ll talk more about this truly inspirational movie a little later, but needless to say, I was extremely motivated to start piano lessons again, which I definitely remember asking for this time around. ! Now I had a great start. In fact, you could say I exploded out of the gate. There was no stopping me. ! I practiced at least 45 minutes every day right from the beginning and it was a while before my practice sessions started to taper o$.! In any event, my mom didn’t have to work that hard to get me to practice those first few years. But like anything in life; all good things must come to an end…at least for a little while. ! The Ups and Downs “Hills and Valleys”! That’s how my piano teacher described it to my mom.! Now my mom lived through World War 2, so “hills and valleys” was no big deal. Now if he had said mountaintops and canyons, that might have been a di$erent story, but my teacher always knew how to soften the blow, especially with the little things.! "3 Cherry Hill Academy of Piano & Guitar He never made mountains out of a mole hills. ! When I went through periods where I didn’t want to practice, he never panicked or got bent out of shape. ! He would calmly inform my mom that it was just a phase and would soon pass, and it always did.! I’d always get back on track — but I was, for the most part, a low-maintenance kid. ! What do you do when your son or daughter isn’t so low- maintenance, and they’re not showing any signs of getting back on track any time soon? Or maybe, they’ve been o$ track from the very beginning — or at least that’s the way it seems. ! This issue of “not practicing” seems to be the biggest problem that parents face, so I’m going to cover this topic right from the start, and I’m going to cover it in detail.! The Obstacles The most logical question that the majority of parents ask me is this: Why can’t I get my son or daughter to practice? ! My response is usually in the form of a series of questions. How much time does your son or daughter have to practice each day? And the typical response to my question usually involves a run down of their child’s daily schedule, which is usually filled to capacity.! "4 Cherry Hill Academy of Piano & Guitar “Well, Monday, Wednesday and Fridays she has gymnastics from 4 to 7 p.m. and then she comes home, eats dinner, does her homework and then gets ready for bed.”! I reply, “Well, how about the rest of the week?”! Well she only has karate and dance on Tuesdays, so she should be able to get some practice in then.! ______! I usually don’t ask how long — I just inquire about the rest of the week.! “How about Thursdays?”, I ask.! “Well, that’s the day she has her piano lesson, so she counts her lesson time as a practice day.”! “Hmmm, — I see. (Long Pause) ! “How about the weekends — does she get any practice then?”! (Another long pause)! “Well — not much! They are her days to unwind from the busy week.”! I wish I could say this isn’t typical, but unfortunately, most students have so many daily activities, I wonder how they find time to eat and sleep. ! "5 Cherry Hill Academy of Piano & Guitar I’m not saying that students who have a lot of time on their hands don’t have problems finding the motivation to practice, but at least they have something to work with — Time! ! For all of the students who are involved in soccer, football, basketball, tennis, softball, field hockey, track and field, gymnastics, dance, karate, school clubs, girl scouts, boy scouts, and, well — you get the idea — the good news is, is that I have a solution for every student who has a busy schedule.! “Clear Your Schedule!” That’s right! ! Stop signing up for every sport, club and after-school activity under the sun — that is if you truly want to learn how to play a musical instrument. ! The truth is, is that learning how to play the piano or guitar, or whatever musical instrument you’ve chosen, takes time, money and effort. ! It takes self-discipline, hard work, the ability to manage your time, (assuming you have any left at the end of the day), and a ton of patience.! It also takes a great deal of energy, persistence and commitment. ! Here’s my Top 10 List of traits students need to Excel in Music: 1. Time! 2. Money! 3. E$ort! 4. Self-Discipline! 5. Hard Work! "6 Cherry Hill Academy of Piano & Guitar 6. Ability to manage time.! 7. Patience! 8. Energy! 9. Persistence! 10.Commitment! Students who push their practice times to the end of the day usually don’t have any energy left to get any real, meaningful practice time.! You may be wondering why I mentioned money. ! Students typically aren’t the ones forking out the money to pay for private music lessons. ! That’s the parent’s responsibility — but like it or not, money plays a very important role.! Yes, but what does money have to do with students not practicing? Let me explain.! I’ve been involved in the music profession most of my life. First, as a student, and now, as a teacher and a music school director. ! I’ve been playing the piano for 50 years and teaching for 25 years. Needless to say, I know what it takes to succeed. ! • I’ve pretty much seen it all. I’ve seen students succeed and I’ve seen them fail — and I can handle both.! If a student succeeds, it’s because they knew how to incorporate the Top 10 List into their daily lives. If a student fails, then it’s because they didn’t. It really is that simple.! "7 Cherry Hill Academy of Piano & Guitar The thing I have a hard time with, is the student who knows what it takes to succeed, but refuses, for whatever reason, to implement those things into their life. ! Unfortunately, that’s the student I can’t help. • It’s frustrating, but after 25 years of teaching, I’ve come to terms with the fact that some students will fail — not because they have no talent, but because they refuse to do the things necessary to succeed.! Of course, I’m didn’t write this book to try to convince anyone to adopt my Top 10 List. ! I’m here to help those who want to excel and are willing to do whatever it takes to be the best that they can be. ! Now — if you’re still reading, lets cover my Top 10 List in detail.! Time This is the one thing there never seems to be enough of — and it’s the biggest excuse that many students use to explain why they didn’t practice all week. ! Believe it or not, I’ve had 5, 6, and 7-year-olds who have used this excuse. ! I’m not sure what kids that young are doing with their time, but I’m not too demanding on my beginner students. ! All I ask is 5 to 10 minutes a day to be set aside for piano practice.! "8 Cherry Hill Academy of Piano & Guitar Of course, the real issue isn’t with the students — it’s with the parents.