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1 VolleyballSeptember 16, vs. 2010 Air Force, 7:30 p.m. Friday at Gillis Field House. OINTER IEW ® PVOL . 67, NO. 36 SERVING THE COMMUNITY OF WE S T VPOINT , THE U.S. MILITARY ACADEMY SEPTEMBER 16, 2010 Close home opener, but Hawai’i prevails Firstie defensive end Marcus Hilton (above) returned a fumble 10 yards to Hawai’i’s 11-yard line as he was chased from behind by Hawai’i left guard Brysen Ginlack Sept. 11 at Michie Stadium. The fumble return, forced by Firstie Josh McNary’s third sack of the game, led to Cow quarterback Max Jenkins’ one-yard dive into the end zone to give the Black Knights the 28-21 lead in the third quarter. However, Hawai’i came back late and kicked a winning 31-yard field goal with seven seconds remaining to win 31-28. The loss drops Army to an even 1-1 mark as it prepares for another home game against North Texas noon Saturday. After the Jenkins’ touchdown, Company A-4 Apaches mascot, Plebe Grant Petersen (right), got down with his fellow cadets to do celebratory pushups. See pages 8, 9 and 16 for more information and photos from the first home football game and a preview of the next home game. PHOTOS BY TOMMY GILLI G AN /PV 2 September 16, 2010 Commentary Pointer View benevolent God and held no illusions about their son. They in to the chain of life events. knew he was hurting and hurting himself and others. They But those times are rare and always something else is could not reach him. No one could. In some ways, they were going on in my life: another suicide in the life of someone I as lost as he. know; another standalone grief experience, especially, a death The questions that my parents asked me on the phone in Iraq or Afghanistan of someone I know. Survivors come to that night, asked themselves and asked others, from what I understand these unexpected moments. could tell, are the same questions I ask today. No answer, no I am still heir to all the ‘slings and arrows of outrageous theory, no assurance, no memory, no morality tale, nothing fortune’ that Shakespeare referred to; but, remember, he can answer the question––why? One day I say it must have was writing a knock-down, nobody-gets-up-this-time been an accident, and the next day I am just as likely to say tragedy, Ancient-Greco style. He did not talk about joy and it was a deliberate suicide. laughter, and new babies and graduations, and weddings The reality is that I will never know. And the other and promotions, and brilliant discoveries in Hamlet—No, questions like what my brother could have done, what he he did not. would look like today, what if, what if, never end. My take on this is that joy trumps sadness, comedy beats A SURVIVOR’S STORY I just know that it hurts and it keeps on hurting. Not like tragedy, life overcomes death and numbing pain subsides. I it did the day I got the call. Now it is a dull, intermittent ache. am living proof––still standing, after all these years. Commentary submitted by Community Awareness The word suicide causes his face to fl ash across my mind’s If this is not true for you, please talk it over with a trusted Campaign Committee eye, as does fi nding an old photo or hearing the pain in the agent. voice of my other brother. (Editor’s Note: This is the third in a series of articles We are the walking wounded … the inevitably scarred and presented as part of the September Suicide Prevention month damaged survivors. Our brother’s decision to kill himself to activities at West Point. For additional information on the get away from his pain and darkness gave us our own pain SHARP Army’s Program, go to www.armyg1.army.mil/hr/suicide/ and darkness. The members of the Sexual Harassment/Assault Response and Prevention program are Lt. Col. Kay default.asp. Need to talk with someone? Call the free, 24-hour Emerson, Shelley Ariosto (Garrison), Dan Toohey Crisis Intervention Hotline––1-800-273-TALK (8255).) After the darkness (Victim Advocate), Maj. Missy Rosol (USCC), Lt. Suicide is a bleak experience. Darkness describes suicide Col. Kim Kawamoto (ODIA) and Bernadette Ortland The darkness before and after. Many people, who planned to kill themselves (Dean). Community members can e-mail Emerson at My brother was the black sheep of the Family. He was and did not, say that their lives were fi lled with darkness. [email protected] for advice or to offer any also the best-looking among his peers, the funniest of great And many people, who are left after a suicide, say that their recommendations on the program here. Cadets also wags and the smartest in a gaggle of fast-talking, quick-witted lives are fi lled with darkness—but not forever. Nothing can can call the sexual assault support helpline at 845- brainiacs. None of these protected him from the relentless, last that long. 591-7215. West Point Soldiers and civilians needing corrosive twin poisons of depression and self-doubt. Finally, I think I am more like everybody else than I am a one-of- assistance can call 938-3369. just before his 30th birthday, he committed suicide. That was a-kind person. If that is true, my experience after the darkness more than 40 years ago. is a lot like everybody else’s. Life gets better. The pain, soul- The task of telling our parents fell to me. But telling them searching, tears and grief surge less and less often. face-to-face would be a challenge––we were separated by two I cannot be in pain all the time, and if I were, I would break states. With the help of babysitters, Army friends and a fl ight apart if I stayed there. Laughter returns and intersperses itself Get more instructor, I got to their home. However, they were not there, among the ruins. Memories of my brother can return without even though I had just spoken to them. putting a cold, steely grip around my heart. After a while, I Pointer View My voice had reminded them about how much they missed can even laugh like a child when I watch a completely inane me and the children, so they left on that moment’s notice and fi lm or hear a child’s silly joke, which I have always loved, Online started the drive to my house—across the two states. What a the sillier the better. withering disappointment. There are even times when I have no discernable reaction to Available online at www.pointerview.com So in the end, I had to tell them over the telephone that a comment about my brother or about suicide. I am genuinely their elder son had died at his own hand. And 10 hours later, peaceful in the moment. That is how it is most of the time. I Become a fan at: www.facebook.com/ endure and cherish the crushing embrace my father gave me can be caught unaware and be put to gasps and tears. westpointpao as I descended from the train. I was the fi rst of his children I am sure that every new grief experience opens the door to see him after the terrible news. on every other grief experience that preceded it. When that Photo galleries available at www.fl ickr. How can a thing like that go well? It cannot. But it happens, it is easy to be overcome if the ancient griefs have com/photos/west_point/sets/ went better than awful. 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