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FOCUS WINTER 2002 • THE ANDREWS UNIVERSITY MAGAZINE • VOL. 38 NO. 1 A CLASSY MARRIAGE DATING AND THE AU GENDER WARS MARRIAGE AFTER 50 IN FOCUS Loving and Dreaming Sting once claimed that his lover’s “eyes more than a few of you alumni got a jump- Shakespeare, and admit my wife’s “eyes are were nothing like the sun.” Sting happened start on your marriage at AU (or EMC, or, if nothing like the sun” (No, honey, that to be quoting Shakespeare, which is some- we go way back, BCC. By the way, I want to doesn’t mean that when I said your eyes times just a pretentious ploy. And a good personally congratulate all of our living were an amazing amber hue . ). distraction. Try it sometime. Strike a pensive alumni from Battle Creek College for what And that is the truth. pose, shake your head and mutter, “All the must be a strict adherence to Dr. Kellogg’s Here's what you'll find in this issue. Our world’s a stage... ” and pretty soon the con- health program!). center feature is written by a pair of stu- versation will move on to other things. I hope you will allow me some latitude dents, Erin and Aaron (amazingly, not But I think Sting had it right this time. His here with the issue's theme. I AM a newly- pseudonyms), who give us a humorous and lover’s eyes really probably “were nothing wed. That’s my wife and me in one of our revealing look at the AU dating climate. like the sun.” wedding photos; I’m the one holding the What they say about romance at Andrews Fans of Britney Spears, N’Sync, P(uff) flowers—I am SO whipped! may surprise you. Diddy/Daddy and J. Lo might miss Besides, it’s springtime–nature’s time of In a wonderfully personal and thoughtful Shakespeare’s insinuation in the line as it renewal, rebirth, regeneration. The season piece, Ann Gibson, Dean of the School of implies a distaste for anyone, even poets and epitomizes youthful hopes and desires, Business, writes about finding love and mar- singers, who exaggerates a lover’s riage after turning 50. Ann’s experi- qualities to win their affection. I don’t ence proves that love moves us regard- know how the “bard” would’ve react- less of age. ed to lyrics like Spears’ “hit me baby Also, Sue Murray, assistant professor one more time,” but he’d have seen of family studies, and Glenn Russell, N’Sync’s “God must have spent a little assistant professor of religion, treat the more time on you” as the lamest of topic of campus love from two some- pickup lines, even for boyishly-charm- what divergent perspectives: Sue looks ing dreamboats just trying to “keep it at some of the psychological dimen- real, dawg.” sions associated with dating and mar- Let's face it, flattery doesn’t recog- riage, while Glenn examines romantic nize the reality of relationship life. And love from a theological viewpoint. that’s insulting really. Heartache, frus- And finally, Andrews student Leah tration, and spinach-toothed grins are Vetne writes about how one professo- only the beginning (see Aaron rial marriage on campus has managed Beaumont’s article on page 16). But to bring their relationship directly just as real are the quiet, unremarkable Ivan and Brynja Davis into the classroom through their moments when love moves us despite a full team-taught course, Literature of Love. Leah’s disclosure of faults. I think Shakespeare felt article makes us hopeful that formerly bitter that the truth does more justice to those we campus enemies may one day teach a course truly love. And yet, Shakespeare never on conflict resolution. resorted to: “my mistress’ eyes are septic “keep it real, dawg” So as you peruse this issue, I hope that green and get distinctly vacant by 9:00 p.m.” you wax nostalgic, that your heartbeat Further proof of their wisdom: quickens, and that your hopes spring eter- Shakespeare and Sting both got dates. nal. After all, those are the experiences that Of course, getting dates is a major priority reminding us of our earliest and perhaps remind us how “love covers all offenses” of AU students too, which is why this issue most cherished longings. But spring is also a (Proverbs 10:12). of Focus looks at love and romance at time when the snow melts to liquid dirt, And that’ll “keep it real, dawg.” Andrews. when March comes in like a lion, smelling Yes—-pick your jaw up off the floor—-An- and pacing like the one in your local zoo, drews. We may not have the marrying repu- and when spring fashions make you realize tation of certain colleges, now universities, you’ve put on enough weight to earn an who once used the word “missionary” as a Oprah makeover. euphemism for “matrimony.” But love does Springtime is schizophrenic, like a good blossom from time to time here at our north- country song. The season inspires and con- ~ Ivan Davis is assistant professor of ern outpost—-actually with remarkable fre- spires, and love, too, makes us dream and English and the new editor of FOCUS. quency and in spite of great odds (see Erin hurt, crying either way. Banks’ article on page 15). Lest you forget, So I’ll join the good company of Sting and THE ANDREWS U M NIVERSITY AGAZINE CONTENTS FOCUS Winter 2002 • Volume 38, Number 1 EDITOR Ivan Davis (MA ’92) TOO WONDERFUL TO UNDERSTAND ............. 10 CONTRIBUTING EDITORS Looking at the wonders of love from a theological perspec- Rebecca May (BA ’77) Katie Shaw (BA '00) tive reminds us of God’s gift of romantic love. Brent Geraty (MA '91) By Glenn Russell EDITORIAL ASSISTANT Patricia Spangler WRITERS Erin Banks A CLASSY MARRIAGE ........................ 13 Aaron Beaumont Professors Meredith Jones Gray and Gary Gray team up in Ann Gibson Susan Murray the classroom to bring their unique perspective to Literature Glenn Russell of Love. PHOTOGRAPHERS Clay Schwarck By Leah Vetne Gianna Norman Tamara Karr DATING AND THE AU GENDER WARS ........... 15 Glimpse the innermost thoughts of the opposite sex in this THE UNIVERSITY candid “he said, she said.” President: Niels-Erik Andreasen (MA ’65, BD ’66) By Erin Banks and Aaron Beaumont Vice Presidents for Academic Administration: Patricia B. Mutch (BS ’65) University Advancement: David A. Faehner (MA ’72) Student Services: Newton Hoilette (MA ’75, EdD ’79) Financial Administration: Edward E. Wines IKE INE EGGIE INE ARRIAGE FTER Enrollment Management: Stephen Payne L F V -W : M A 50 ... 18 The joys, quirks and benefits of courtship and marriage after 50. ALUMNI ASSOCIATION By Ann Gibson Co-presidents: David Bauer (MA ’57, EdD ’82) and Marilyn Bauer (MAT ’75) Immediate Past President: Robert Cochran (BA ’73) Director of Alumni Services: Rebecca May (BA ’77) AIN’T NOTHING BUT A HEARTACHE? ............ 21 FOCUS ADVISORY BOARD Love and dating on campus and the “stuff” good marriages Nancy Carter (BS ’74), Gregory Constantine (BA ’60), are made of. Sharon Dudgeon (MMus ’86), Paul Hamel (DP ’40, BA ’48), Tami Martinez (AS ’92, BA ’93), Marjorie Snyder (DP ’50), By Susan Murray FOCUS (ISSN 1077-9345) is published quarterly, free of charge, for alumni and friends of Andrews University, an institution owned and operated by the Seventh-day Adventist Church. The magazine’s On the cover: Erin Banks and Aaron Beaumont. Photo by Clay Schwarck. address is FOCUS, Office of University Relations, Andrews University, Berrien Springs, MI 49104- 1000. Copyright 2002 by Andrews University. Reproduction in whole or part without permission is prohibited. Printed by The Hamblin Company, Tecumseh, Mich. Periodicals postage paid at Berrien Springs, Mich., and at additional mailing offices. POSTMASTER: Send address changes to FOcuS, Alumni Affairs Office, Andrews . .D .EPARTMENTS . University, Berrien Springs, MI 49104-0950. In Focus . 2 Alumni News . 26 Campus Cache . 4 Class Notes . 27 Editor’s Office: (616) 471-3316 Campus Update . 6 Life Stories . 30 Email: [email protected] Alumni Services Office: (616) 471-3591 Faculty & Staff . 9 Email: [email protected] www.andrews.edu CAMPUS CACHE You have discovered the first Campus Cache. We hope you enjoy the discovery and make a point of looking for future caches. The con- tent and tone of the Campus Cache is, at times, light and irreverent. Please do not mistake irreverence for disrespect or cynicism. We love Andrews University and honor the people who have made, are mak- ing and will make the university a notable and remarkable place. We think laughter and amusement is consistent with love and honor. About the name. First, the definition seemed appropriate. A cache is a “safe place for hiding or storing things.” In a sense, we’re trying to tuck away some nuggets on these pages. Second, we subscribe to the notion that you cannot go wrong if you use a French word. It oozes sophistication. “Campus cache” is something that Douglas Fairbanks, Jr. might have enjoyed repeating to himself. Third, the market research was through the roof! We’d like to believe it was more than just the fact that people heard us say, “campus cash.” A Frowzy Fallacy A Danish is flaky. Niels-Erik Andreasen is Danish. Therefore, Niels-Erik Andreasen is flaky. Campus Craze – Love Edition Alumni may remember Beaver Point as the place to go “necking.” With the arrival of Spring comes thoughts of But don’t worry, parents! Your children won’t be allowed to get love . but the CC is not sentimental: similarly frisky. Our president is standing guard.