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2 • TBY JUNE 2019 in this issue FEATURES

5 things to do this month 4 Remembering the 1960s 6 • Maybe there are reasons to be a helicopter grandparent, after all

Listen, Discuss and Learn 10 • At Cape Girardeau Public Library’s Great Decisions Weekly Foreign Policy Conversation

Making Weighted Blankets 12 • Cape Girardeau County FCE PAGE 12 clubs have donated more than 900 blankets to Easterseals

Avoid Summer Scams 17 • With these 10 tips

Happy 200th Birthday, 18 Missouri • Painting for bicentennial communal mural kicks off in Perryville Columnists • R. W. Weeks 20 • Jo Ann Bock 21 A Look Back 22 Out & About 23

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TBY JUNE 2019 • 3 5 things to do this month

June 8: Catch a Cape Catfish June 15: Attend an arts festival baseball game The Southeast River Campus will host a free arts festival from 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. There will Head over to Capaha Field to witness Cape Catfish’s be live performances, vendor booths and arts programs for you to take advantage of at first-ever weekend home game against the Springfield this free day of entertainment that supports local artists. For more information, call (573) Sliders. A pregame live band starts at 5 p.m., with the 651-2265 or visit capearts.org/RCSummerArtsFestival. game at 6:30 p.m. For more information or to buy tickets, visit capecatfish.com.

June 29: Buy fresh fruit June 25: Take a cooking and veggies at the class Riverfront Market June 12: Attend a Health & Awareness Fair The City of Cape Girardeau is hosting a The Cape Girardeau Riverfront Market is free cooking workshop on how to turn your a must for your summer bucket list! Every Head to Eisleben Lutheran Church at 432 Lutheran summer veggies into delicious, healthy Saturday from 8 a.m. to noon at 35 South Lane in Scott City from 10 a.m. to noon for this year’s meals. During this course, participants Spanish Street, a variety of vendors sell an Health & Awareness fair themed “Senior Awareness.” will learn how to cook, grill and serve array of farm goods and specialty items. Lunch is provided, and you can get your blood sugar, vegetables, transforming them into savory There are products for everyone, ranging hearing, blood pressure, oxygen stats, strength, veins dinner sides. The cooking class will be held from produce, meats, cheese, flowers, and heart rate checked for free. Vendors will be at Shawnee Park Center from 6 to 8 p.m. For crafts and more! For more information, present, with the chance to win door prizes. For more more information, call (573) 339-6342 or visit visit downtowncapegirardeau.com/cape- information, contact (573) 270-6700. cityofcape.org/recreation. riverfront-market/.

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TBY JUNE 2019 • 5 REMEMBERING THE 1960S Stock image Stock Maybe there are reasons to be a helicopter grandparent, after all

BY MARK DAMBACH

As a bit of a preface, I am retired, in my 60s and married, with ent times. Jackson was also much smaller, a few more than two children in their 30s and four grandchildren, ages 7 to 12. I 5,000 people, I believe. have lived in Jackson all of my life, except for five years when One day, we were playing around the house and saw smoke I was in the Navy after high school. I was never a helicopter to the south. I don’t remember an explosion, but the cloud of parent. The term did not even exist when raising our kids in smoke was impressive. It looked to be in the area of the four-way the 1980s. But I am definitely a hovering, helicopter, never- stop, where Highways 25 and 61 cross and the police and fire let-them-out-of-your-sight grandpa. Near as I can figure, I am station are now. So off we went. When we got there, it was even channeling my late mother-in-law, Norma, who I used to make more impressive. We gathered on the north side of the high- fun of for hovering over my children when she watched them. way where the entrance to the police station is now, just a field My state of mind is her revenge from the beyond. And she was back then as I remember. In front of the pottery plant, Ceramo, right about telling all of us to watch out for bears, seeing as was a large tanker truck. It was burning with a vengeance, and one was sighted between Cape and Jackson! the entire tanker part of the truck had melted into a big blob. The point of the above paragraph is to say that my childhood Behind it were two or three fuel storage tanks, maybe 15 feet had little to no hovering by my parents. My sister did more boss- wide and 20 feet high. One had lost its top and was belching ing around than hovering — at least in our view — when she smoke. There was fire all around the other ones. Fire engines was in charge of watching us three younger kids during the were on that side of the street spraying water on the truck and summer. She was all of two and a half years older than me, so tanks. By this time, there were a lot of people — maybe 50 or so we all ignored her and did what we wanted. There were only adults and kids, I don’t really remember — on the north side six years between the four of us. of the highway. During the summer, we roamed Jackson at will on our bicy- We were all standing there watching things burn, only 50 cles. On weekends we went camping, and did the same things to 60 feet away. Now a days, the highway would be closed for there. Trails End, Sam A. Baker, Ferne Clyffe, Silver Mines hundreds of feet in each direction, with no cars or people — lots of stories there, as well. During the week, our favor- anywhere nearby. And for good reason, as you will see, but ite place was the Jackson City Park. It was much smaller, just things were different then, which is the point of this story. what you would call the Old Park now. Everything north of Suddenly, there was a loud, low boom, and the top of one of the road on the north side of the creek was either farm land the intact tanks blew off. We were impressed and mesmerized or the drive-In. No big pool, ball fields, band stage, paths, etc. as it went up into the air quite a ways. It went flying over our We walked in the creek and didn’t need shoes on at the time; heads, spinning, looking just like a giant frisbee. It landed about I would not try that now. We played in the Rock Garden, went 30 feet behind us, away from the highway. We were just lucky swimming on our summer passes, etc. no one got squished, but most everyone was lined up along the One of our other favorite places was the sewage treatment highway, anyway. Of course, now that’s the kind of thing that plant. We just rode down their for the heck of it. I have no idea would freak me out for days. At the time it was just cool. At why. Another favorite spot during July was Route PP, called that age, we were too ignorant of the world to be aware of how South Farmington now, to go to the Kinders’ house and buy close we came to disaster, and it was a great story. fireworks before they were on sale in town. We shot them off I do not remember any big reaction from anyone there, or well before the 4th. The police really didn’t care, as long as we from the police and firemen. We all went over to check it out, didn’t do something stupid. Of course, it was mostly firecrack- then went home. ers, bottle rockets and smoke bombs, which were all we could I am not sure sometimes how I survived the 1960s without afford. All the fancy stuff they have now was not around. Our even a broken bone; the worst injury I ever had was running a only money was from a weekly allowance and turning in soda nail through my foot when I stepped on a board exploring one bottles for the deposit. of the houses L.D. Seabaugh was building in our subdivision. We also explored the farm fields behind our house on Randy So while we make fun of the helicopter parents and grand- Drive and rode our bikes virtually all over town. Now you have parents, we need to be aware of the real world out there in the to remember, we were three kids from ages 7 to 10, just doing 1960s and present day, and take off the rose-colored glasses of and going wherever we wanted, who just needed to be home our youth. I, for one, will continue to hover. for lunch and supper. I suspect this is unheard of now; differ- Gotta admit, though, I had a blast!

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TBY JUNE 2019 • 9 Listen, Discuss and Learn

At Cape Girardeau Public Library’s Great Decisions Weekly Foreign Policy Conversation

BY SARAH GERINGER

Is it possible to have a civil conversation about foreign policy decisions in our often-contentious culture? The answer is yes, and it happens every week in Cape Girardeau. Between 25 and 50 locals meet Wednesday afternoons in the Oscar Hirsch Community Room at the Cape Girardeau Public Library to take part in a stim- ulating conversation about foreign policies. Over coffee and cookies, these men and women have a lively, respectful discussion based on assigned topics. “[The group] stirs conversation and puts faces on people with opposing views,” says Whitney Vandeven, event coordinator at the library. “The discussion helps people become more open-minded. Participants get to explore different points of view.” Dr. Frank Nickell, retired professor of history at Southeast Missouri State University, has led the group since 1979. He started it 40 years ago after seeing a similar one in the St. Louis area. The Great Decisions Weekly Foreign Policy Conversation “We wanted to start a program for seniors here in Cape Girardeau to help group will take a break for the summer, resuming meetings them discover why people hold the views they have,” Nickell says. After round- in the fall. To be part of the group, visit the Cape Girardeau ing up speakers and leaders, the discussions took off. “The group has become Public Library on Wednesdays from 2 to 4 p.m. beginning in more versatile in dealing with the complexity of foreign policy and diplomacy.” September. During the fall months, the group will meet to Sometimes the group hosts a guest speaker from another country, such as China discuss historical nonfiction books, current events and social or Saudi Arabia. Other times, one of the group members serves as a discussion commentary. The format listed in this story will return during moderator. the winter months. For more information, contact Whitney Vandeven at (573) 334-5279, extension 113. Each week, a different topic is assigned for upcoming weeks. Nickell provides copies of reading material to inform the following week’s discussion.

10 • TBY JUNE 2019 Topics cover foreign policy around the world, from Russia to the how do we decide?” The group thoughtfully mulls over these ques- Middle East to South America. Group members usually do not focus tions. It also discusses the difference between immigrants, migrants exclusively on American foreign policy. and refugees, and whether these groups should be treated differ- “We rarely discuss things going on only in the U.S.,” Vandeven ently. says. “The discussion is usually about what is going on in other More than 700 million of the world’s inhabitants — roughly double countries and how their policies affect U.S. politics.” the U.S. population — wish to permanently migrate to another place. Past topics have included “China and America: The New Geopolit- After digesting that fact, the group discusses the common reasons ical Equation,” “Media and Foreign Policy,” “South Africa’s Fragile why this is true, including water shortages, wars, gang activity, reli- Democracy” and “Turkey: A Partner in Crisis.” gious persecution and the chance at a better life. The first half of each meeting is a large group discussion in which Jerry McDowell, one of the group moderators, gives the group everyone is free to share his or her opinions. Many people share their something to consider. He says, “The U.S. immigration courts are own stories of interacting with refugees and migrants. Others tell backed up by five years, and the minimum wage in Mexico equals $4 stories of how difficult it has been for friends or extended family per day.” He asks the group to think about what can be done about members to gain U.S. citizenship. People share different viewpoints the long wait period for court hearings and whether the U.S. can with passion tempered by respectful restraint, and the large group provide better work options. After he shares more facts with the conversation is frequently peppered with friendly laughter. group, members voice different ideas for solutions. During the second half, the group breaks into smaller groups of One woman sparks a side discussion about the importance of four and discusses possible solutions to assigned questions. Break- assimilation for refugees to feel included in the culture at large. ing into small groups helps everyone engage in discussion, especially Then the group discusses how these facts complicate the volatile the people who may be reticent to speak in the larger group. political situation at the U.S. southern border. At one session, the group begins a four-week discussion on immi- With many interesting viewpoints from varying backgrounds, gration. As the discussion begins, a moderator asks questions such attendees are sure to learn something new every time they attend as, “Why are there so many refugees, who should we take in, and a Great Decisions conversation.

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TBY JUNE 2019 • 11 Top: Jo Ann Hahs, member of the Lamplighters, sews a lap pad on her sewing machine at her home in Daisy. The weighted lap pads and blankets are distributed to people who experience sensory- processing difficulties. Bottom: Tags like this one are attached to each blanket or lap pad donated by Cape Girardeau County Family and Community Education (FCE) clubs to Easterseals Midwest.

Making Weighted Blankets Cape Girardeau County FCE clubs have donated more than 900 blankets to Easterseals

BY MIA POHLMAN | PHOTOS BY JO’NAE EARLS

When Jo Ann Hahs was a child, her mother sewed with a of five Family and Community Education (FCE) clubs in Cape sewing machine that used a treadle. Fascinated by this, Hahs Girardeau County. The weighted blankets and lap pads serve began sewing doll dresses when she was 7. She continued as a sensory-processing tool for people who have autism, sewing in 4-H where her mother was her leader, and at age 12, providing additional input when these individuals experi- won a 4-H district dressmaking competition that moved her ence sensory-processing difficulties. The blankets can help on to the state competition. improve sleep patterns and transitions between activities, Now, Hahs uses her lifelong love of sewing by making increase focus during extended periods of seated activities weighted blankets and lap pads with the Lamplighters, one and decrease anxiety during times of stress. The FCE clubs

12 • TBY JUNE 2019 donate the blankets to Easterseals Midwest in Cape Girardeau, where they are distributed to those who need them. Since the project began in 2010, the Lamplight- ers of Oak Ridge/Daisy, the Cheerful Country Doers of Old Appleton, the Oak Ridge FCE of Oak Ridge/Jackson, Town and Country of Jack- son and Cage of Cape Girardeau FCE groups have collectively made and donated more than 900 blankets, more than 400 lap pads and more than 100 snakes to drape around the neck. “Everybody has a place in their lives that when they do something for somebody else, you get that feeling of gratification,” Hahs says of what she enjoys about being part of the proj- ect. “You realize you are helping someone that truly has a need.” The clubs first heard of the project at the FCE state meeting in Excelsior Springs, Missouri, in the spring of 2010 when a speaker talked about his grandsons who were autistic. A 4-H club from Northwestern Missouri was involved in a simi- lar project and showed the women from the Cape Girardeau County FCE clubs how to make the blankets. The women decided it was a cause and a project they wanted to bring back to South- east Missouri. The blankets are 30” across and weigh either 5 or 6 pounds. Six channels are sewn into each blanket, in which one pound of material is stored. The lap pads are comprised of four chan- nels, with 1 pound of rice placed in each channel, taking approximately an hour and 15 minutes to make. Online, the cost of a weighted blanket begins at $70 and can cost more than $200. Through the FCE clubs and Easterseals, families in Southeast Missouri can receive these blankets at no cost. Carmen Shrimplin’s family has benefitted from these blankets. Her 9-year-old son was diag- Top: Jo Ann Hahs showcases a lap pad she made at her home in nosed with autism when he was 3. Shrimplin did Daisy. Bottom left: Jo Ann Hahs cuts excess material off of a lap not hear of how weighted blankets could help pad she made at her home. Bottom right: Jo Ann Hahs’ sewing people with autism until the next year, when tools sit on her desk at her home. an Easterseals employee mentioned the blan- kets were available. Shrimplin’s son now uses a medium-sized weighted blanket, which she says helps him especially when he is going to sleep. “It helps calm him,” Shrimplin says. “We use it all the time.” Shrimplin also volunteers at a special needs vacation Bible school, where weighted blan- kets have been donated by Easterseals to help students in the centering room, a safe place for

TBY JUNE 2019 • 13 What is FCE?

FCE clubs began as homemakers clubs in Missouri 80 years ago through the University of Missouri Extension Office, designed to inform rural women of what was happening in the world before the prevalence of technology. Now, the clubs are focused on helping communities and educating members about health and living well.

In addition to making weighted blan- kets, each of Cape Girardeau County’s five FCE clubs volunteer at causes important to them. The Lamplighters, the club Jo Ann Hahs, pictured here, is a part of, have volunteered at Mississippi Valley Therapeutic Horsemanship, pur- chased glasses for Oak Ridge students for the solar eclipse and planted flowers at Oak Ridge School. In addition, they take tours in the community and have educational programs for their mem- bers, including ones that discuss garden pests, physical and mental health, and raising grandchildren.

Jo Ann Hahs, member of the Lamplighters Club, works on a weighted blanket she made at her home in Daisy.

the children to go if they are overstimulated. of their loved one diagnosed with autism. This She says the blankets help not only the child, small tool could help a teen fall asleep with ease, but also the child’s family, and they have been “a an adult get through a stressful car ride, or a Want to get involved? blessing to many families” in Cape Girardeau. 3-year-old sit and enjoy a book during circle The project is helping connect people across time. The impact is truly priceless for the fami- The Cape Girardeau FCE clubs will have the region. lies we support.” their next weighted blanket work session “The partnership we’ve been able to cultivate Sewing the blankets has an effect on the Wednesday, June 12, at 9 a.m. at the lower over the last several years with this incred- people who are a part of the FCE clubs, too. level of the University of Missouri Extension ible organization is a perfect representation “We’ve had clubs in the county 75, 80 years,” Office, 684 Jackson Trail, in Jackson. Bring a dish for a potluck lunch, scissors and sewing of our agency’s purpose, which is to change Hahs says. “People knew each other, but when machine, and stay for however long you can. the way the world defines and views disabil- you go in and work on a project together, you ity by making a profound, positive difference suddenly learn things about people, and you If you don’t know how to sew, fabric or mon- in people’s lives,” says Rachel Masters, direc- develop a greater appreciation of who they are. ey donations are always accepted and can be tor of autism services at Easterseals Midwest There’s always somebody that is a barrel of fun, donated at Easterseals Midwest, 611 North in Cape Girardeau. “A free weighted blanket and so you spend a lot of time laughing and Fountain Street, in Cape Girardeau. or lap pad may seem like a very small gesture, enjoying each other. So that to me has been one To receive a blanket for someone with but for some families, these blankets can truly of the best benefits.” autism, call Easterseals Midwest at (573) make a world of difference in the everyday life 339-9300.

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TBY JUNE 2019 • 15 NOW READ THIS | SHARON ANDERSON “Still Life,” by Louise Penny

I grew up devouring mystery fiction, thanks to my father. I fondly recall rainy afternoons spent in the company of Agatha Chris- tie’s Hercule Poirot. I struggled with the detective’s name, but I cobbled together a phonetic mispronunciation and made it through the books, despite my ignorance — it was the stories I was there for, after all. After reading my way through Christie, I moved on to Simenon, where I failed to wrap my Midwestern brain around detective Jules Amedée François Maigret’s name. Still, the stories and the characters kept me going. Sayers’ books were easier, and in Lord Peter Wimsey, I finally found a detective whose name I could pronounce. These three authors nurtured my love for mysteries — specif- ically detective stories. Around the time my father was sharing Christie, Simenon and Sayers with me, a WELCOMEWELCOME young Canadian reader was devouring these same authors from her mother’s book shelves. That reader, Louise Penny, would go on to become a best-selling HOME.HOME. author, creating Chief Inspector Armand Gamache and featuring him in a series of mysteries set in Three Pines, a quaint Find yours at — albeit murder-prone — village in Quebec. semohousehunter.com When I first encountered Louise Penny this year, I had a moment of déjà vu as I found myself limping over pronunciations; Chief Inspector Armand Gamacheof the Sûreté du Québec is a mouth- ful, even if you can speak French. But I was captivated by Ms. Penny’s storytelling and enamored with Three Pines’ timeless- ness and quirky characters. CONTACT Chief Inspector Gamache is known for his intelligence and Glenda Mayberry Real Estate Advertising his belief that four sentences lead to wisdom: “I was wrong. I’m Account Executive sorry. I don’t know. I need help.” There are 14 books to date; my Direct: 573.388.2764 best suggestion would be to read or listen to the books in order, [email protected] beginning with “Still Life,” if for no other reason than to avoid spoilers. (The author is known for her character development, and Three Pines is a small town. Louise Penny may not be George R.R. Martin, but she is known for killing off characters. The books are murder mysteries, after all.) I must admit, however, I am beginning to worry about the town of Three Pines. I would not recommend retiring there. Look for Louise Penny’s books in print and audiobook format at the Cape Girardeau Public Library.

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Identity theft is dropping in Missouri as consum- 4. Secure personal documents at home. If ers become more vigilant about protecting you have roommates, employ outside help their personal information. According to the or have contractors in your home, make Federal Trade Commission’s Consumer Senti- sure personal documents are in a safe nel Network Data Book, Missouri ranked 31st in place — preferably under lock and key — the nation for ID theft complaints in 2018, down and not lying out in plain sight. from 26th in 2017. 5. Minimize personal information printed Even so, identity theft remains a costly and on checks. You don’t need to include your life-altering scam. According to 2018 national Social Security number, driver’s license statistics from Better Business Bureau’s (BBB) or phone number. Scam Tracker, consumers reported a median 6. Monitor bank and credit card accounts loss of $315 to identity theft, but some consum- for unauthorized transactions. Crooks ers’ reported losses were in the thousands of may start with small transactions to see dollars — reflecting the cost of not catching iden- if you notice. tity theft early. 7. Pay attention to billing cycles. If bills don’t To avoid identity theft, officials recommend arrive on time, follow up with your cred- shredding documents that contain financial itors. information, account numbers, PINs, birth dates 8. Don’t create obvious passwords. Avoid or Social Security numbers. Examples include using your birth date, child’s name or expired ID cards, legal documents, credit card birth date, mother’s maiden name or the and bank statements, and canceled checks. last four digits of your Social Security “Shredding outdated personal documents can number. limit your exposure to ID theft,” says Whitney 9. If you conduct business online, use your Quick, BBB Cape Girardeau regional director. own computer and a secure Internet “ID theft schemes are becoming more and more connection. A public computer or public sophisticated, and vigilance in handling your Wi-Fi network is less secure. personal information is now a priority.” 10. Never use email to communicate sensi- In addition to shredding outdated or unneeded tive personal information. Don’t respond documents, Better Business Bureau recom- to emails asking to verify your personal mends these 10 steps to help you protect your information and identifiers. Neither the identity: IRS nor your bank, credit card company 1. Shred statements and applications you get or online payment system will call or in the mail that you don’t want to keep. email asking you for confidential infor- These include credit card applications, mation. They already have it. insurance forms, financial statements, To report a scam, go to bbb.org/scamtracker. health forms, billing statements from util- ities and phone service. Better Business Bureau (BBB) is a nonprofit, 2. Cut up expired credit and debit cards. business-supported organization that sets and Make sure to cut through the numbers. upholds high standards for fair and honest busi- 3. Protect your Social Security number, all ness behavior. BBB provides objective advice on account numbers and passwords. Don’t more than 5.3 million companies, 11,000 char- carry these numbers in your wallet. Give ity reviews, dispute resolution services, alerts out personal identifiers only when abso- and educational information on topics affecting lutely necessary. Beware of unsolicited marketplace trust. BBB services to consumers are emails and phone calls if someone asks free of charge. Visit bbb.org for more information. for the numbers.

TBY JUNE 2019 • 17 Top left: Aaron Horrell, right, co-founder of Paint for a Cause, watches as a passer-by paints part of the Missouri bicentennial communal mural at the Mayfest on the Downtown Square in Perryville. Bottom left: A passer-by paints on the Missouri bicentennial communal mural at the Mayfest on the Downtown Square in Perryville, the first city to be a part of the painting. Right: Barb Bailey, co-founder of Paint for a Cause, stands near a small-scale replica of what the Missouri bicentennial mural will look like when completed. Happy 200th Birthday, Missouri Painting for bicentennial communal mural kicks off in Perryville

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Art unites people. It’s something Aaron Horrell and Barb than 26,000 Missourians to paint on the mural, which when Bailey, artists and owners of the Painted Wren Art Gallery in assembled will be 12 x 30 feet. Plans are in the works to get the Cape Girardeau, are allowing Missourians to discover through mural displayed in a government building in Jefferson City. the Missouri bicentennial communal mural project. They are To achieve this, Horrell and Bailey are driving the 4 x 6 foot heading the project as a commemoration of the bicentennial panels of the mural to approximately 20 cities across the state. anniversary of Missouri’s statehood happening August 10, Each panel of the mural is broken into 1,728 individual trian- 2021. Their goal over the next two and a half years is for more gles people can paint, with Horrell and Bailey available to guide

18 • TBY JUNE 2019 DELICIOUS READING | BROOKE CLUBBS the color selection and people’s those items, working with Canedy hand, if needed. The name of each Sign & Graphic in Cape Girardeau person who helps paint the mural to print and organize them on the will be documented on a register. mural. After the whole aluminum This is the eighth time Painted mural was created, they cut it into Wren Art Gallery has done a Paint 15 pieces, enabling it to fit in the for a Cause mural, with proceeds in back of Horrell’s truck to be trans- the past benefiting the Safe House ported across the state. for Women, Cape Girardeau Police Perryville, Missouri, became the Station and Missouri Veterans first city to contribute to the mural Home. There is no charge to paint at the annual Mayfest on May 11, the bicentennial mural, although tasked with painting the state donations are accepted to help seal. During the event, 251 people cover travel expenses. Horrell and painted. TG Missouri in Perryville Stock image. Bailey decided to head the bicen- partnered with Perry County Heri- tennial mural as a way to celebrate tage Tourism to bring the project to Missouri’s statehood in a way that Perryville. Banana Beer Bread and would make history. “It’s just a really wonderful way “Anybody and everybody can to encourage and inspire art in our How Sweet Eats paint,” Bailey says. “We’re not look- community,” says Trish Erzfeld, “All I ask is three beers a piece for each of my co-workers … I ing for artists, we’re just looking for Perry County Heritage Tourism think a man workin’ outdoors feels more like a man if he can have everyday people that want to paint director, about bringing the mural a bottle of suds. That’s only my opinion.” for a little bit and have some fun.” to Perryville. “We want to encour- — Andy Dufresne, “The Shawshank Redemption” The finished mural will feature age not only old artists to go back to 17 state symbols, including the capi- maybe their desire to do art in many I never liked beer when I was growing up, unless my mom was tol building and Gateway Arch, as different ways, but also to inspire cooking bratwurst in it. When I spent a semester in London, I well as the bluebird, Missouri mule our new artists in our community tried cider, and in Ireland, I sampled Guinness. I stuck with hard and channel catfish, among others. and to be the first to step up to the lemonade. It’s only been in the last few years I have started to Horrell and Bailey will include plate and say, ‘Yes, we want to bring appreciate certain beers, especially fruit beers. I really only like people from all regions of the state this to our city.’ It says a lot about them in the summertime and only on certain occasions: with in the painting of the mural, and the people in our community and barbecue or after yard work. I guess what I am saying is, I don’t have plans to travel to Ste. Gene- what we inspire to be a great place go through a lot of beer. But when the weather turned warmer, vieve, Jefferson City and West to live, work and play.” I picked up a carton with six bottles of Schlafly raspberry hefe- Plains on their itinerary. Horrell, who enjoys teaching weizen as an impulse buy at Aldi. When I got home to stow them The process in readying the people about the state symbols in our garage fridge, I was chagrined to face a few bottles of mural for painting has been an featured on the mural as they paint, last summer’s beer, Angry Orchard Rose, still occupying shelf in-depth one: Horrell and Bailey shares this excitement about the space. I did a quick Google search to see if it would still be good. first chose symbols representative project. He says, “It’s something big. The answers I found implied drinking it wouldn’t kill me, but it of Missouri to feature on the mural It’s historic. It’s unusual.” wouldn’t taste as good as it did last year. I started thinking of and then acquired photographs of other ways to use it. It was too fruity to use with brats or in a cheese dip. Then I thought about beer bread. Could it be made sweet instead of savory? Indeed it could. And not only did I find a recipe where I could use up old beer, I found one in which I could use up old bananas, too! I am my Depression-era grand- ma’s granddaughter. The blog that housed the recipe I sought is howsweeteats.com. The creator, Jessica Merchant, has authored two cookbooks, Want to be a part of making history? CONTINUED ON PAGE 22 Stop by the Painted Wren Gallery at 620 Whitelaw Avenue in Cape Girardeau to help paint the bicentennial mural. Or to find out the cities and events where the mural will be present and track the mural’s progress, follow Missouri Bicentennial Paint for a Cause on About Brooke Facebook, @MissouriBicentennialPaintForACause. Brooke Clubbs is a Jackson mom of three, a free- lance writer and a communications instructor.

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Doing the Wave

Many of you remember the phenomenon of doing “the wave,” generally occurring at sporting events. Spectators would stand in groups as the (human) wave approached, then sit back down after it passed on by. Although it’s not known precisely when this began, it’s generally thought to have started in the late 1970s/early 1980s. A guy named Krazy George Henderson (really!) perfected the wave at National Hockey League games, according to Wikipedia. This is not about that kind of wave. No, I’m talking about your ordinary wave using a hand, ideally. I guess the reason this inter- ests me is that I live in the country, where people wave a lot. I’ve noticed during my trips to town that city dwellers not only don’t wave at all, but seem surprised and somewhat disconcerted by a stranger waving at them. They’d never feel at home in a rural area, where waving has a somewhat elaborate set of rules most of us take for granted. I’ll try to explain the basics for the benefit of any “townies” who are reading this. First, the basic wave. When you see an approaching car or person, get ready to put your hand in the air, cupping it slightly and moving it back and forth briefly. However, don’t perform this maneuver too early, or the recipient will think of you as “uppity,” simply getting the requisite wave out of the way as soon as possible. By the same token, don’t wave too late when they’re almost by your location, or you risk being seen as absent-minded if they see your wave, or — even worse — rude if they don’t. If the person is on a horse, a quick salute is always in good taste. Be sure you don’t cup your hand too deeply, or there’s a chance you’ll be seen as a potential Miss America candidate. You also don’t want your hand completely flat, or they will probably think you want them to stop. This is especially true if you’re not prepared for carrying on a conversation for an indefinite period of time. Now that you’ve mastered the basics, the wilderness waver can move on to more advanced etiquette. For example, the wave should be more vigorous and exaggerated for those in a larger vehicle such as a tractor compared to someone in a pickup truck. For a person on a bike or on foot, a quick head nod can suffice, particularly if you’re weeding the turnips. If you’re also in a vehicle and the other person or group consists of people you’ve never seen before and never expect to see again, then a quick raising of one or two fingers from the steering wheel is accept- able in lieu of a wave. This is also true if you pass the same neighbor twice in a short period of time, such as a few hours apart. However, if they’re doing different chores (hauling livestock one trip, hay the next), then you’re expected to wave again. If they have merely changed feed caps, then a subsequent BY R.W. WEEKS wave is optional. Unlike the quick head nod by itself, adding a nod to the wave indicates some fondness for the wavee. Interestingly, when I drive inside the retirement community where my mother lives, the Rob is a retired South- rural rules again seem to apply — i.e., everyone waves at you. Since I’m sure several of the ern Illinois University retirees came from city surroundings, perhaps generational as well as geographical consider- instructor who lives ations are relevant. on his family's farm in Hopefully you get the idea by now, and can at least hold your own if you find yourself in the Union County, Illinois. sticks sometime. But you know, now that I think about it, driving in the city can also produce a His mother Joan, who wave from some of the others, at times quite energetically. The waving etiquette in town seems is a nice person, lives much simpler to understand, though, since they generally only use one finger. And here’s a in Cape Girardeau. friendly city wave right back at you.

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Beauty Parlors on Parade

Beauty shops (parlors, salons, boutiques, nooks — whatever their names,) have been a vital part of Cape Girardeau history. Many of them popped up in the mid-thirties in homes along quiet neighborhoods, as well as in business districts uptown, downtown and midtown. The local hairstyling business continues to flourish. Actually, the telephone directory lists some 90 shops to choose from for shampoos, cuts and curls. Shop names in years past usually carried the owner’s name. The 1937 city directory published by Polk & Company records a grand total of 27 parlors, including Dayzy’s on North Main and Jean’s, Florence’s, Erna’s and Myrtle’s shops along Broadway. The Beauty Box, Vogue, Nook and Modern also drew patrons to midtown, along with Ruthie’s Salon. My first visit to a beauty shop was inspired by one of Shirley Temple’s popular movies I saw at the old Broad- way Theater (circa 1939). I begged Mother to let me get a cut and curls like Shirley’s. “Please, please let me!” finally brought a reluctant, “All right!” The next day, Mom and I walked down one block from Good Hope Street to Flora Mae’s Shop on William Street for the magical transformation from straight-as-stick Submitted photo hair to curly locks. The process turned out to be more pain than gain. The permanent machine looked spooky with its wires and clamps. By the time my hair was sham- “the regulars” (Mary Hager, Betty Voss, Laura Nagel and pooed, cut and rolled on curlers, I was whimpering, even Ernestine Gerhardt, among others). We always looked more so when the electric clamps were applied. This better going out than coming in, thanks to Ruby Bess’ frightened 9-year-old could barely hold her chin up for hair styling skills, patience and pleasing personality. the seemingly endless minutes it took to get an honest- These days when I need a stylish haircut, I make my way to-goodness permanent wave. to Janet’s Shop on Plaza Way. At last I was unhooked. The deed was done. A second In our teen years, my sister Kitty and I spent many an shampoo and more curlers, followed by a sit under the hour rolling our hair before going to bed. Rollers, bobby dryer, and presto! Results? More frizz than curls. Before pins, curling irons and hair nets were our tools to copy the month was over, I returned to the crime scene for a the hairstyling trends made popular by movie stars of short cut. It was back to my old Buster Brown bangs style. the 1940s. My preferences were Ginger Rogers’ smooth Happy to say, in the years since that “electric chair” pageboy and Betty Grable’s becoming updos with those episode, I have been pleased with the results of sessions beautiful blonde curls on top. with dozens of talented beauty operators. It is not Experimenting with hairstyles can be a challenging unusual for stylists and clients to become good friends adventure. I have enjoyed the ride, from pony tails to over many years. My ongoing visits to Ruby’s in-home poodle cuts, feather bobs to the beehive, and the page shop on Clark Street resulted in a 20-years-plus friend- boy to updos. Actually, my hair style (see picture) seems BY JO ANN ship. The bi-weekly after-school teaching appointments not to have changed very much. The short cut and bangs BOCK are memorable times. I looked forward to visiting with have brought me full circle.

TBY JUNE 2019 • 21 A LOOK BACK | SHARON SANDERS DELICIOUS READING CONTINUED FROM PAGE 19

“Seriously Delish” and “The Pretty Dish.” She is not a formal- ly-trained chef, but describes herself as “totally self-taught/ mom-taught/grandma-taught.” She learns by trial and error and shares her successes with her readers, offering recipes for healthy dishes, as well as indulgent ones. She’s big on seasonal ingredients and celebrations. I think this recipe fits both because it is the perfect time to use up last year’s beer on something you can bake before the mercury rises and the Southeast Missouri humidity kicks in.

BANANA BEER BREAD • 3 cups all-purpose flour • 3 teaspoons baking powder • 1 teaspoon salt • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon • 1/4 teaspoon freshly grated nutmeg • 3 very ripe bananas, mashed • 1 teaspoon vanilla extract • 12 ounces of your favorite beer • 6 tablespoons unsalted butter, melted

BROWN BUTTER VANILLA GLAZE • 3 tablespoons unsalted butter • 1 cup powdered sugar

Published Monday, June 9, 1958. (Southeast Missourian Archive) • 2 teaspoons vanilla extract This 6-foot 100-pound alligator gar, taken by net Sunday morning in the Mississippi • 1 tablespoon milk, if needed River. From the left, Arthur J. Burton, who caught the fish; Norman and Donnie • Pinch of salt Mae and Sam King. This huge fish can destroy a lot of other fish in a short while and Mississippi rivermen, warn, might even attack a child wading the stream's shallows. INSTRUCTIONS Note: This is NOT banana bread! This is nothing like your clas- sic banana bread recipe. This is a beer bread with some bananas in it! Preheat oven to 375 degrees F. Spray a 9 x 5 loaf pan with nonstick spray. Over a large bowl, sift together all-purpose flour, baking powder, cinnamon and salt. Stir in the mashed bananas. Pour in the beer and stir until a batter forms. It will be thick. Spoon the batter in the greased loaf pan. Pour the melted butter over top. Bake for 50 to 55 minutes, or until the bread is golden brown and set in the middle. Remove pan from oven and let cool for about 30 minutes. Drizzle with brown butter vanilla glaze and slice. To make the glaze, add the butter to a small saucepan over medium heat. Whisk constantly until the butter begins to bubble. As soon as brown bits start to appear in the bottom About Sharon of the pan, remove it from the heat. This will take at least 5 Sharon Sanders is the resident historian at the minutes. Add the brown butter to a bowl and whisk in the sugar Southeast Missourian. Visit her “From the Morgue” and vanilla extract. If the mixture is too thick to drizzle, whisk blog at semissourian.com/blogs for a look at more in milk as needed. Pour over the cake once it has cooled. local history. Makes one 9 x 5-inch loaf.

22 • TBY JUNE 2019 PHOTOS BY JACOB WIEGAND out & about How locals live their 'best years' in Southeast Missouri

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1. Patti House of Cape Girardeau prepares food during a Memorial Day at Fort D Historic Site event in Cape Girardeau. 2. Spectators sit under the wing of a plane during the Cape Girardeau Regional Air Festival at the Cape Girardeau Regional Airport. 3. Spectators listen to Missouri Gov. Mike Parson speak during the grand opening of Missouri's National Veterans Memorial in Perryville, Missouri. 4. Rick Dillow of Anna, Illinois, looks at items during the annual 100-mile yard sale along Highway 25 near the roundabout south of Dutchtown. The sale stretches from Jackson going south to Kennett, Missouri. 5. Vietnam War veteran Tom Tocco of St. Louis, Missouri, and his wife, Pam Tocco, examine a full-scale replica of the Vietnam War Memorial in Washington, D.C., during the grand opening of Missouri's National Veterans Memorial in Perryville, 4 5 Missouri.

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