Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation Trustee and Hazelden Alumnus) Moving Story on Page 6 Attests to the Crucial Importance of Fellowship to Recovery
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Autumn 2014 VOICE Love Heals Facility Dogs Aid Recovery VOICE AUTUMN 2014 hazeldenbettyford.org 1 CONTENTS 4 Feature: Pondering and Wandering on the Healing Way Trail 6 Alumni Profile: Bill Lammers 9 Campus Update: Fellowship Club ON THE COVER 10 On the Cover: Willow Brings Unconditional Love to Plymouth Facility HOW YOU CAN STAY connecteD Join the Alumni Network 13 Hazelden Alumni are eligible to become members of Hazelden’s Events and Alumni Network—a closed community available only to alumni of Hazelden’s programs: Betty Ford Women’s • Take part in online meetings. • Find treatment peers. Recovery Center • Participate in discussions. • Listen to Hazelden Lectures on podcast. To login please visit: 14 hazelden.org/web/public/alumni_fellowship.page In the Media: Join the Social Community “The Anonymous People” Interact with thousands of others who are maintaining or seeking lives free from addiction. Access chats, online meetings, and discussion boards that address your specific areas of interest any day, any time, from anywhere. You control your anonymity settings. Members of Hazelden’s Social Community can: • Ask for help from members with decades of experience in recovery. • Offer help to people struggling to find recovery. • Listen to podcasts. • Attend online chat meetings. • Make new friends; rekindle old friendships. ProDUction CREDITS All members control their own privacy settings in order to share their Editors: Aja Tashjian and Mollie Thompson information with as many—or as few—members as they choose. Copywriting: Maggie Cohn Membership is free. Design: Tammy Rose hazelden.org/web/go/social 2 VOICE AUTUMN 2014 hazeldenbettyford.org FROM THE PRESIDENT AND CEO Dear Friends and Alumni, Fellowship. It is essential to healing, becoming a sober person and living a life of recovery. Alcoholics and addicts tend to isolate themselves physically, emotionally and spiritually. They become islands, totally consumed with the cycle of craving, acquiring and using alcohol or other drugs. Addiction isolates, but recovery embraces. Fellowship is that embrace. Anyone who has battled the disease of addiction will tell you that a critical element of getting well is connecting with others in recovery for support and understanding. These are the people with whom we can be brutally honest about our thoughts, struggles and feelings— because unless you’ve been in it, you don’t understand it. We lean on each other, every single day. You will find many references to the concept of fellowship in this issue of The Voice. Bill Lammers’ (Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation trustee and Hazelden alumnus) moving story on page 6 attests to the crucial importance of fellowship to recovery. Even Willow the dog—our newest “staff member” at our youth facility in Plymouth, Minnesota—brings fellowship, love and support to our youngest patients (see p. 10). The newly launched $25 million campaign to expand our St. Paul facility, Fellowship Club (see the story on p. 9), is the most visible expression of our commitment to fellowship. I’m asking you—our alumni and supporters—to carry the message of fellowship by giving generously to this campaign. Your gift will make our services accessible to hundreds who urgently need them—but who can’t get off the waiting list and in the door. If you have benefited from the fellowship of others who have helped you in recovery, please do all you can to make sure others have access to that same care, treatment and love. Thank you for all you do for the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation. Mark Mishek President & CEO, Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation VOICE AUTUMN 2014 hazeldenbettyford.org 3 Pondering and wandering on the HEALING WAY TRAIL “ You can google the Twelve Steps. You can read them in the Big Book. You can spend months—or years—working through them. But nothing is quite the same as walking the Twelve Steps on our “Healing Way Trail.” – Jan Vondrachek Vice President, Pacific Northwest Region 4 VOICE AUTUMN 2014 hazeldenbettyford.org FEATURE A peaceful meadow inspires the trail: Made a decision to turn our will an idea and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him. This stop on the trail was Although the ribbon cutting was just last constructed at the base of the “God Tree,” summer, the idea of creating a walking which patients now refer to as the “Third trail with stops representing each of the Step Tree.” Twelve Steps at Springbrook, Hazelden’s Oregon facility, was first dreamed up many “I have heard patients recount more than years ago. one moment of clarity or insight gained while sitting at the tree,” reports Lisa The campus’s 27 acres include a large, open Knudsen, spiritual care professional. meadow. Standing alone in the center is a spectacular oak tree. Admired by patients Landscape design reflects the and staff members, this tree came to be meaning of each step known as the “God Tree,” symbolizing for many the concept of “a Power greater than Each stop illustrates one of the Twelve ourselves,” as referenced in Step Two. Steps in a unique, moving way. Step One talks about how our lives have become The beauty and tranquility of this outdoor unmanageable, so the landscaping around it space inspired the staff of Springbrook’s is wild and untamed. Step Ten, which urges Spiritual Department to create a Twelve us to take personal inventory and admit our Step trail back in 1999. There was no fund- wrongs, uses mirrors to encourage self- ing for anything elaborate, but that didn’t reflection and see ourselves as we really are. stop them. Using white plastic buckets Step Eleven, on prayer and meditation, is a stabilized with concrete, plastic signs and serene, self-contained Zen Garden. folding chairs, they built a walking path with a stop for each of the Twelve Steps. It Staff regularly incorporate the Healing Way wasn’t fancy—but it offered a quiet place Trail into their treatment programs. “I often for reflection and meditation. And the God have members in my spirituality group Tree was visible from each step. walk the trail as a mindful meditation. It gently speaks to us wherever we are in our The Springbrook community journey. It truly adds another dimension comes together to our treatment here,” says Denise Brooks, spiritual care professional. Last year, Jan Vondrachek and the Board of the Hazelden Pacific Northwest Region And patients couldn’t be more delighted launched a campaign to raise $120,000 to with the trail. One eloquently describes it enhance the path. They wanted to build like this: “It is a living metaphor for life on a winding walkway linking miniature the path that has chosen us. It starts in the landscapes for each of the Twelve Steps, safety of our surroundings at Hazelden, symbolizing the journey that patients begin showing us the steps that lie ahead.” at Hazelden. Each step would be engraved Another patient expresses her feelings on a stone, surrounded by landscaping that about the trail more succinctly: “I like reflects its meaning. pondering while wandering.” Not only were board members and alumni Although the construction of the trail is enthusiastic about donating to the effort, officially completed, it continues to change but the Springbrook staff—anticipating and evolve. Patients create meaningful that the trail would become a valuable part objects and place them on the trail—a of their patients’ treatment plans—took it decorated rock painted with the word upon themselves to raise money as well. As “Hope,” or a design made with polished Jan Vondrachek says, “It’s not just a pretty stones. “And we hope to add a gazebo, landscape. It carries deep meaning and and maybe a yurt for groups, lectures and purpose for patients. And whenever some- spiritual workshops. Yurts are very Pacific thing is about patient care or improving the Northwest!” adds Jan Vondrachek. “It’s a patient experience, our staff steps up.” continual work in progress.” In fact, Springbrook staff is wholly responsible for funding the third step of VOICE AUTUMN 2014 hazeldenbettyford.org 5 BILL LAMMERS 6 VOICE AUTUMN 2014 hazeldenbettyford.org ALUMNI PROFILE From the Road of Expectations to the ROAD OF MARVELS by Bill Lammers, Hazelden alumnus, member of the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation board of trustees, chair of the Washington DC alumni chapter more perfect, people might like me, accept In 2000, at age 52, me, look beyond this great black hole I felt I arrived at a strange inside my soul. And so I began traveling down my “road of “ IT HASN’T ALL and wonderful place expectations.” This wasn’t easy, but I hoped it would lead me out of the pain I felt. I BEEN A poSITIVE in Minnesota. became the perfect child, the ‘A’ student- Arc UPWARDS. IN Hazelden at Center City. I expected to find leader, the marathon runner, the model a bunch of drunks with bottles in brown navy officer, the successful professional. I RECOVERY, YOU FALL paper bags. Instead I found wonderful, married a wonderful woman and we had four incredible children—the perfect family. DOWN, GET UP, FALL warm, caring people from all kinds of backgrounds. At that moment, I began None of that filled the black hole. my journey from what I call “the road of DOWN AND GET UP So I tried other things to soothe my soul, expectations” to where I am today—“the things that I tried to keep secret: sex, road of marvels.” MANY TIMES. AS AN gambling, people pleasing. Alcohol became INDIVIDUAL, THAT IS Addiction: it’s a family disease a big part of my daily life. I told myself I wasn’t like my dad—for him, one sip of DIFFICUlt to DO, BUT My story began when I was a very young alcohol sent him on a two-week bender.