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Spring 2014 Ties that Bind & Bless Deepening Recovery with Reunions VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 1 CONTENTS 4 Recovery: A Family Love Story 6 Carry the Message 8 Butler Center for Research: Cognitive Processing in Addiction 11 50 Years: A Day at a Time 12 ON THE COVER On the Cover: The Art of Reunion 15 Regional Spotlight: Springbrook 16 Bright Lights HOW YOU CAN STAY CONNECTED Join the Alumni Network Hazelden Alumni are eligible to become members of Hazelden’s 18 Alumni Network—a closed community available only to alumni of Hazelden’s programs: HazelFest • Take part in online meetings. • Find treatment peers. • Participate in discussions. • Listen to Hazelden Lectures on podcast. 20 To login please visit: Celebrating Milestones hazelden.org/web/public/alumni_fellowship.page Join the Social Community Interact with thousands of others who are maintaining or seeking lives free from addiction. Access chats, online meetings, and discussion boards that address your specific areas of interest any day, any time, from anywhere. You control your anonymity settings. Members of Hazelden’s Social Community can: • Ask for help from members with decades of experience in recovery. • Offer help to people struggling to find recovery. • Listen to podcasts. • Attend online chat meetings. • Make new friends; rekindle old friendships. All members control their own privacy settings in order to share their information with as many—or as few—members as they choose. Membership is free. hazelden.org/web/go/social 2 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org A LETTER FROM JANA K. OLSLUND Dear Alumni and Friends, I am excited to announce the integration of the Hazelden Foundation and Betty Ford Center has officially been approved by regulators, establishing the “Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation”—the largest nonprofit addiction treatment provider in the country. Throughout 2014, the Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation will be working to bring together alumni from both organizations. During this planning phase we welcome your thoughts and opinions and hope you will consider participating in a focus group or survey. Your input will help guide our new organization in developing future alumni programs and services. This is an exciting time for our alumni as we have the opportunity to take the best of both organizations’ programs and combine them into one world-class offering that will set the industry standard. New and improved programs will allow alumni greater opportunities to connect and engage with fellow travelers, with newcomers, and with the organization where their journey began. We hope, with this increased engagement, that your personal recovery is strengthened and improved. We encourage you to stay connected. Take a moment to visit our new website www.hazeldenbettyford.org for further information on the merger. Please do not hesitate to contact us with any questions by emailing [email protected] or calling 877-429-5082. Both Hazelden and Betty Ford have deep-rooted traditions in providing meaningful alumni engagement. Your continued commitment and participation is what helps make the recovery experience possible for those recently completing treatment, families beginning to rebuild and those looking to reinvigorate their own recovery. Together—with Betty Ford Center and the involvement of our alumni—we can bring hope and bright new futures to even more suffering from addiction to alcohol and other drugs. Thank you for staying connected! My sincerest gratitude, Jana K. Olslund, J.D. Vice President, Philanthropy and Alumni Relations Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 3 Christopher S. “ I am so excited and grateful: Recovery has given me my family back.” 4 VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org FEATURE RECOVery A Family Love Story Pronounced dead on arrival at the emergency room after Adult Children in Recovery a drunken driving accident hurled him 114 feet from his car, The eldest child, Rick Jr., 35, has eleven years of sobriety. Rick Sr. of Michigan survived—and so did his alcoholism. A former youth semi-pro hockey player, he lives and works in Eleven more years of abusing alcohol passed before he Michigan as a personal fitness trainer and nutritional consultant. got sober the first time, relapsed, and finally sought help at By his 21st birthday, he says, he was “definitely out of control Hazelden Center City, Minn. So began the Hazelden legacy in and asked to attend Hazelden for inpatient treatment.” the S. family. Since then, Rick’s wife, Beverlee, sons Rick, Jr. He returned to hockey, but relapsed. Meeting his future wife and Christopher, also received treatment at Hazelden. changed everything. “I wanted the clean and sober life more The path to Hazelden was the most difficult for their than anything to be with Angie,” he says. Rick returned to his youngest son, Christopher. “I was 22 years old and I wanted home AA meeting and with that strong base of recovery, they to get sober so bad, but I didn’t trust myself to do it alone,” married. “I always thought I would be drunk at my own wedding. Christopher, now 26, recalls. “But by then, our family business By the grace of God, I wasn’t,” he says. entered bankruptcy after a market downturn when I was Christopher is also a gifted hockey player who once played 21—and we lost everything. Broke. And here was my dad, on the semi-pro circuit in the U.S. and Canada. He recently thinking: ’When my son needs help the most, all I have left is a celebrated his fourth year of sobriety after completing Hazelden, boat and my wife’s wedding ring.’’ Plymouth, Minn., extended care program. He is soon to graduate And that’s what Rick Sr. offered Hazelden as payment for from Augsburg College, where he has been part of its Step-Up Christopher’s treatment. Sober Dorm for students. In addition to academic success, he’s Hazelden accepted—and the transformation of the found a sober hockey team and has rediscovered the pure joy of S. family began. a sport that nearly killed him with its high-performance culture. “I enjoy sports now just like I did when I was a kid—it’s so great!” A Family Transforms Jillian is a “Normie” who works as a trainer and cross fit Combined, the S. family has more than 40 years of competitor. She relies on Twelve Step wisdom and is a dynamic Hazelden recovery, including five sessions in the Family participant in the recovering family. Program. Beverlee believes Hazelden provided the family with the education that saved them as individuals and as a family. Rituals Build Relationship “The vulnerability and honesty required at Hazelden for A joyful, strong recovery is built on rituals that connect people both the addict and codependent cannot be adequately to each other and to sober living. Small things matter in big described, because the process takes you down to ground ways. All recovering members of the S. family attend Twelve Step zero. Recovery becomes the new language to be practiced in meetings each week. Rick Sr. calls Beverlee when he’s in the car thought, word and deed,” says Beverlee. “I also learned that driving home from his AA to share thoughts the meeting sparked. the pain is equal on both sides, which I didn’t realize during Beverlee reads and journals and eagerly shares affirmations. the years of active addiction.” In addition to a full load of courses to support his college Says Rick Sr.: “I got sober for my family—but I stay sober psychology major, Christopher stays connected to sobriety by and found recovery for myself. We view the commitment to the playing and praying hard. There’s hockey, basketball, yoga, and program as both individual and a team sport.” He returned to running every day, with prayers every night before going to sleep. school at age 54, and has found his vocation as a chemical “I pray for God to continue to give me the will, the desire and the dependency therapist. want to stay sober, and thank him for every 24 hours,” he says. “Understanding and accepting the three C’s is a For Rick Jr., a strong recovery is rooted in AA meetings, Bible foundation of self-responsibility and became a practice in study and “believing in Jesus Christ. I’ve always talked about our household,” Beverlee explains. The 3 C’s are: “I can’t Step 3—not that I hang out there—but I love its message. I control the disease; I didn’t cause the disease; I can’t cure believe a higher power is out there, taking care of it all, and I the disease of addiction.” believe in turning it over.” But with fearless, moral and honest searching and a Happy, joyous and free are the promises of living a life of willingness to be open, a person can recover from the recovery—and the S. family members say they have come disease. The S. family is living witness. true for them. Says Christopher: “I am so excited and grateful: Recovery has given me my family back.” VOICE SPRING 2014 hazelden.org 5 Stephen S. Carrying the Message Sober living sends down anchoring roots. “My son is a former patient and is Recovery living grows up—branching, currently enrolled in the Hazelden blooming, always seeking the garden: others Connection program. It is the glue that is in recovery with whom to form a serene and helping him to survive his terrible illness beautiful habitat of health. to this date. His quality of life has been That’s the essential message that Stephen positive for the first time in decades S. felt during his family’s Hazelden journey. because of this program.” His time on the Center City campus was Stephen S.