OAN INDEPENDENTU VOICE FOR THET LESBIAN, GAY, BISEXUAL, AND TRANSGENDER COMMUNITIES November 15, 2013 | Volume XI, Issue 13 T ransgender Day of Observing Transgender Remembrance in 2012 Day of Remembrance By Steve Charing was set aside to memorialize those who Organized by First Unitarian Church of Balti- were killed due to anti-transgender hatred more and the Transgender Response Team, or prejudice. The event is held in November the 15th annual International Transgender to honor Rita Hester, whose murder on No- Day of Remembrance (TDoR) will be ob- vember 28, 1998 kicked off the “Remember- served on November 20 between 6:30 p.m. ing Our Dead” web project and a San Fran- to 8:30 p.m. at the Sanctuary of the First Uni- cisco candlelight vigil in 1999. Rita Hester’s tarian Church of Baltimore, 12 W. Franklin murder – like most anti-transgender murder Street, Baltimore. cases – has yet to be solved. This memorial event includes an Inter- Although not every person represented faith Memorial Service; the Reading of the during the Day of Remembrance self-iden- Names, and a Candle lighting Ceremony. tified as transgender – that is, as atrans- Transgender people of faith and their allies sexual, cross-dresser, or otherwise gender- provide focus and leadership for this event. variant – each was a victim of violence based The Transgender Day of Remembrance —continued on page 3 Senate passes Employment Non-Discrimination Act By Jim Becker Orin Hash, joined 52 Senate Democrats, way of millions of Americans who want to Thirty-nine years after Representatives Socialist Bernie Sanders, and one Inde- go to work each day and simply be judged Ed Koch and Bella Abzug of New York pendent in voting for the Bill. Earlier in the by the job they do. Now is the time to end first introduced federal legislation to ban week, 7 Republicans joined 52 Democrats this kind of discrimination in the workplace, anti-gay discrimination in employment and in voting to bring the Bill before the full not enable it. I urge the House Republican public accommodations, nineteen years Senate for a vote. leadership to bring this bill to the floor for after the Senate defeated an employment While the vote is historic, it is largely a vote and send it to my desk so I can sign non-discrimination bill by one vote, and six symbolic because the measure has almost it into law. On that day, our nation will take years after a bill cleared the House of Rep- no chance of passing the Republican con- another historic step toward fulfilling the resentatives only to die in the Senate, on trolled House of Representative dominated founding ideals that define us as Ameri- November 7, the Senate passed the Em- by the Party’s right wing Tea Party faction. cans.” ployment Non-Discrimination bill (ENDA) House Speaker John Boehner has already Unlike the 1974 and 2007 House bills by a vote of 64 to 32. Maryland’s two sena- said he opposes it and will not bring it to and 1995 Senate bill that aimed at dis- tors, Barbara Mikulski and Ben Cardin, co- the floor for debate. crimination based upon sexual orientation, sponsors of the Act, voted for it. If, however, the measure clears the this legislation also would bar discrimina- The Bill will prohibit private employers House, President Obama has promised to tion based upon gender identity. In 2007, with more than 15 employees from dis- sign it into law and in a statement urged a bill without gender identity passed the criminating on the basis of sexual orienta- the House to vote on the Bill. The Presi- Democratic controlled House but died in tion or gender identity. Religious organiza- dent said, “[t]his bill has the overwhelming the Senate. The exclusion of protections tions are exempt from this protection, as support of the American people, including for transgender people caused an uproar are non-profit membership-only clubs. a majority of Republican voters, as well within the LGBT communities and a back- Passage of the legislation was a rare as many corporations, small businesses lash against the Human Rights Campaign example on bipartisanship as 10 Republi- and faith communities...One party in one that supported the 2007 Bill. Thereafter, cans, including Senators John McCain and house of Congress should not stand in the —continued on page 4 quality of life

of exhaustion. Red Lipstick and a Razor Tongue The point is, speaking out of anger is ex- tremely detrimental to any relationship, and By Nicole BETTIS tainted. She has hurt you, just like all the it should be avoided at all cost. It creates a It’s been said time and time again that, rest, something that you thought she never snowball of problems where there generally Co-Publishers women have a major problem with speak- do. Her sharp words have drastically altered are none. And in most cases those problems Jim Becker • Jim Williams ing out of anger. Although I don’t believe that your perception of her. [email protected] this problem is gender specific, I do agree She is no longer your Executive Editor with the fact that women, too, have an issue. princess charming; Jim Becker [email protected] Let’s face it, we are emotional creatures and she’s become a pos- Managing Editor sometimes instead of expressing those feel- sible wolf in sheep’s [email protected] ings in the sensible, rational, mature man- clothing. Director of Marketing & Production ner in which we are all capable of, we fly off Moreover, it cre- Mary Taylor the handle and say the first thing that comes ates unnecessary in- [email protected] to mind – even if it’s not the truth! We com- securities. When we Leather Columnist pletely ignore our “brain-to-mouth” filters and speak out of anger Rodney Burger go. This is an especially dangerous habit in we generally have the Contributing Writers Joey Amato • Sharon Brackett • Rodney Burger • our relationships, and if not broken in time, tendency to target the Joshua Buchbinder • Steve Charing • Jeffrey Claggett • it slowly turns our special moments into dis- things that we know will Jeffrey Clouser • Wayne Curtis • Woody Derricks • tant memories. get under our partner’s Denise R. Duarte • Chuck Duncan • Michael Farley • Jon Fairbanks • Gerry Fisher • Bruce Garrett • Jeff Hammerberg • I look at our relationships like crystal skin. That thing is, the Dr. Eva Hersh • Shirli Hughes • Michelle Lanchester, Esq. • glasses: beautiful, delicate…. precious but things that Jessica Lemmo • Jay Loane • Rev. Meredith Moise • Bill Palmer once the glass gets chipped are said do • Gregg Shapiro even a little bit, it becomes a lot more Graphics Amy Ray • Joe Velasquez jagged and rough, hard to en- ‘I Hate You!’ than get Cartoonist joy and with time (and without under her skin, and they get never truly get resolved because the more it Bruce Garrett (Brucegarrett.com) care) those small chips become into her head. They manifest happens, the more our partner begins to be- Photographers deep cracks. Unfortunately, when it’s least thoughts of “what ifs” and she will begin to lieve our barbed words. Bearing in mind that Aaron Antonio • Bruce Garrett • Daniel McGarrity • Jay W Photos expected, the entire glass shatters. At this second-guess everything you say even when our words are the only things that we have to Web Editor point, most people simply throw the shat- you’re being sincere and in return, her ever- let our partner into our souls, and that should Anja Saine tered pieces of crystal in the garbage while growing insecurities and her need for con- help us remember to keep them kind, true [email protected] t Managed Web Services others, like me, attempt to find as many of stant reassurance will drain you to the point and full with love. The Fusio Group the pieces as possible and put them back 866-322-7498, Thefusiogroup.com together. One of the many problems with the National Advertising Rep Rivendell Media latter is, even if enough pieces are found to 908-232-2021 reconstruct your “glass”, it will never be the Founders same again…it will be 100 times more frag- Jim Becker • Joe Berg • Mike Chase • ile and 1,000 times less clear. Lee Mooney (1959-2007) • Jim Williams Even though there are a million reasons not to pick up or continue the habit of speak- Baltimore OUTloud PO Box 4887 Baltimore, MD 21211 ing out of anger, I totally understand why 410-244-6780 women do it. There are a ton of reasons, Baltimoreoutloud.com pride being at the top of the list. Instead of simply admitting that we are hurting and Additional Information Baltimore OUTloud is published every other Friday by Pride seeming weak or vulnerable, we attempt to Media, Ltd. in Baltimore, Maryland. Readers comments and show our partners just how bad they have unsolicited materials are welcomed and may be sent to: editor@ baltimoreoutloud.com. All materials appearing in this newspaper made us feel by subjecting them to the same are the property of Pride Media, Ltd. and may not be reproduced pain in hopes that they will better understand without the written permission of the editor. our pain and be careful not to ever cause it again. Another reason is basic emotional over- load. Many times each person in the rela- tionship waits until she is on the verge of exploding with whatever negative emotion that has been steadily building (hurt, anger, sadness, etc.) before she speaks on the subject. This results in her words being pow- October 26 – Topeka Kansas: Over 100 people gathered on the lawn of Equality House ered by negativity and frustration instead of across from the Westboro Baptist Church for a block party and drag show to raise money The opinions expressed in Baltimore OUTloud are solely those for gay teen suicide prevention. From Topeka and Lawrence they came, some from as far as of the writers unless otherwise indicated and do not necessarily a genuine concern in finding a resolution to reflect the views of Pride Media, Ltd., and the staff. whatever the problem may be. Illinois and Maryland, for an evening of fun and music, and to support the Equality House mission of peaceful positive change. A permit was granted by the city to close the street be- Alongside the many reasons for speak- © 2013 – All rights reserved tween Equality House and the Phelps compound, and a stage and DJ booth were installed Chair of the Board of Trustees – Jim Becker ing out of anger, there are just as many on the Equality House lawn facing the church, where local drag performers worked an ap- President – Jim Williams Secretary and Treasurer – Mike Chase consequences in doing so; one of which preciative crowd. Apart from displaying a few of their protest signs above the compound is the loss of the relationships innocence. fence, no one from Westboro Baptist made an appearance, and there were no confronta- The purity of your once virgin love is now tions. credit: Bruce Garrett 2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // LOCAL

O bserving Transgender sexual identity or expression. Transgender Mizeur Picks Rev. Delman Day of Remembrance people deserve love and respect. Therefore, – continued from page 1 each year on November 20th, I take time to Coates as Lt. Gov Candidate on bias against transgender people. think about and honor the victims of violence The Transgender Day of Remembrance rooted in hate.” Heather Mizeur, Democratic candidate for Network. He is a lifetime member of the raises public awareness of hate crimes The mayor is hosting a press conference governor, has introduce Reverend Delman NAACP where he sits on the Religious Af- against transgender people. It publicly and proclamation reading earlier that day at Coates as her lieutenant governor candi- fairs Committee and the National Board of mourns and honors the lives of people who 11:30 a.m. at City Hall in the Rotunda, 100 date at a campaign rally in Silver Spring. Image Awards Committee. He is the found- might otherwise be forgotten. N. Holliday Street, Baltimore They were joined by their families, sup- er and President of the Black Church Cen- The vigil is intended to express 21202. The public is welcome to porters and several endorsers.Delman ter for Justice & Equality, and the Founder love and respect for transgender attend. Coats is nationally known for his work of the Enough is Enough Campaign for people in the face of national in- A celebration is scheduled on social justice and combating inequali- Corporate Responsibility in Entertainment. difference and hatred. before TDoR on Sunday, No- ties, He is an outspoken champion on a He also sits on the Board of Preachers at “I pray for the day that we vember 17 from 3:30 p.m. to range of progres- Morehouse College, add no more names to the list or 5:30 p.m. at the Unity Fellowship sive issues, includ- where he attended candles to light in honor of our Church, 4007 Old York Road in ing health care, the college. Delman Trans brothers and sisters,” said Baltimore. For more information, Voting Rights Act, also received de- Donna Plamondon, a member call 410-244-0884. immigration reform, grees from Harvard of the Trans Response Team Also, a Transgender Day of and foreclosure Divinity School and (TRT), the TDoR planning com- Community will take place on protection. He has Columbia University. mittee within the TRT and a can- Donna Plamondon Saturday, November 23, from been recognized Delman was dle lighter for this year’s event. 11:30 a.m. to 6 p.m. at the Enoch for his work by the raised in a work- “Transgender Day of Remembrance is Pratt Parish Hall, 514 N. Charles Street, Bal- ACLU and is fea- ing household: his extremely important,” said Baltimore Mayor timore. It will consist of a day of healing and tured on the 2013 mother was a nurse, Stephanie Rawlings-Blake. “It gives trans- empowerment through self-expression, learn- Ebony Power 100. and his father spent gender individuals and LGBT community ing, sharing, and working together. Among Delman has served 34 years in public advocates an opportunity to raise public the activities scheduled are workshops, a as the Senior Pas- schools in inner-city awareness about this special group of peo- town hall meeting on homelessness, and tor of Mt. Ennon Richmond, VA. His ple, bring attention to crimes against them Equality Maryland’s discussion on the Afford- Baptist Church in father and paternal and honor the memories of those whose able Care Act for transgender individuals. Re- Clinton, Maryland, grandparents were lives ended due to issues relating to their freshments will be served. t since 2004. Under all sharecroppers in his leadership the North Carolina. congregation has R ev. Delman Coates Today his par- grown from 1,800 ents and sister all to 8,000 members. call Maryland home. Lynda Dee In addition to It was the influence playing a significant role in the 2012 cam- of his family growing up that first instilled paign for marriage equality in Maryland, the importance of public service, fairness, Attorney At Law Delman works on a national level with Af- and common good. Today he and his wife Serving the Gay Community Since 1981 rican American leaders and congregations Yolanda have two sons, ages ten and sev- around the country to raise awareness and en, and four-year-old twin girls. His work at rally support for marriage equality, common Mt. Ennon includes numerous community • Criminal sense gun reform, and fair voting rights outreach programs, including clothing and • Traffic and other civil rights issues. 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Senate passes Employment Non- the Senate’s action. She said, “Americans man of the Conference’s Ad Hoc Commit- Discrimination Act FT/PT Servers / Managers / Bartenders – continued from page 1 believe that hard-working people should tee for Religious Liberty. While noting the be rewarded for their efforts and com- Catholic Churches’ traditional support for (all shifts) LGBT rights groups and sponsors of the mended for their skills. Yet, all through- workers’ rights, and stating that “[n]o one Matisse Kitchen & Tavern legislation vowed to include gender iden- out our nation, individuals are being held should be an object of scorn, hatred, or vi- OPENING SOON!! tity in all future Bills. back at work – or even fired – not because olence for any reason, including his or her Upscale French kitchen opening in the newly Senator Cardin said in a statement they are incompetent, but because of their sexual inclinations, . . .and that the USCCB renovated Lord Baltimore Hotel is currently about the Senate’s vote, “I’m proud to join sexual identity... an outrageous practice... continues to promote the dignity of both accepting applications for experienced servers, my colleagues in supporting this impor- This legislation means protection for the work and marriage and to oppose unjust bartenders and management staff. Full and tant legislation that protects all Americans man from Cumberland, who was fired af- discrimination on any grounds, including part time positions are available for all shifts. against discrimination in the workplace ter years of working as a stockbroker for those related to homosexual inclination Requirements for our positions include: regardless of sexual orientation or gender a financial services company after it was or sexual identity,” the bishops claim identity. I urge the House of Representa- discovered that he was gay. that ENDA is not the answer to un- • A minimum of 2 years fine dining experi- tives to move quickly and provide final ap- The company’s response just discrimination in the workplace, ence and wine service; 5+ years experience proval of ENDA so that it can be signed was a statement that he was because it rejects the biologi- for management consideration into law. We should leave no doubt that not “compatible” with the cal basis of gender, equates • TIPS certification Congress is united against discrimination community. It also responds sexual orientation with race, • Professional appearance, knowledge of in any form.” He added, “Passage of ENDA to the man who worked at a undermines marriage, and threat- dining operations and standards of service. will reinforce U.S. leadership around the New Carrollton hotel who was told by his ens religious liberty. • A passion for perfection and the desire to world and help support the LGBT com- manager not to tell clients where he lived, ENDA was first introduced in the Sen- create a spectacular and unique dining munity in places like Russia, Africa and because that fact made it obvious that he ate by the late Ted Kennedy in 1994. The experience! some countries in Europe that have taken was gay. The man was later fired without same year, openly gay Representative discriminatory actions to marginalize lesbi- warning.” Gerry Studds introduced a similar Bill in If you meet the above qualifications and want to ans, gays, and those who, because of their The United States Conference of Cath- the House. In 1994, the Senate Bill had 30 be part of this exciting new concept, we want to sexual orientation or gender identity, have olic Bishops opposed the Bill. On Octo- co-sponsors and the House measure 137. meet you! Please forward your resume for been discriminated against.” ber 31, Baltimore Archbishop William Lori Both bills died in committee. Presently, 21 immediate consideration to Senator Mikulski mentioned two of her joined two other archbishops in a letter to states and the District of Columbia have [email protected]. constituents that were fired due to their the Senate expressing the Conference’s passed laws barring discrimination based sexual orientation in a statement praising opposition to the legislation. Lori is chair- upon sexual orientation. t

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“I could not be more pleased, hon- Catherine Hyde: A Trans Activist Hero ored and humbled to be recognized by the By Steve Charing GLCCB, such an important organization in In 2009, Catherine Hyde first at- and companies. Baltimore,” Catherine told Baltimore OUT- tended a meeting of the Howard Her efforts have been fittingly recog- loud. “This recognition will help more fami- County chapter of PFLAG seeking nized. Catherine was selected to a two-year lies understand there is support out there for support when her son Will came term on PFLAG’s National Board – that them and that the world is changing for the out. At age of four Will told his began October 22 – where she will provide better for our children, and I’m grateful.” mother that something had gone strategic direction and ongoing feedback to With all of the advocacy she engages wrong in her belly and that he was PFLAG National. In conjunction with that she in, Catherine Hyde’s focus will always be supposed to be a she. Catherine also serves as a member of the Trans and helping families cope raising a transgender admitted she did not understand Gender Nonconforming Advisory Council for child. On that previously mentioned blog the concept of transgender or gen- PFLAG and national mid-Atlantic regional di- post where she offers practical advice, she der identity until NPR educated rector. concludes with the following: “Raising a child her 11 years later. Catherine has also been appointed to who is trans or gender non-conforming is dif- “I had no idea the level of sup- serve for five years on the Howard County ficult. It’s scary. It’s more than you bargained port I was going to need as we Human Rights Commission, also starting last for. It’ll likely be more than you comprehend. came to understand Will as trans- month. There she will review appeals of cas- So please hold yourself gently. Forgive your- gender and found ourselves in es of alleged discrimination in Howard County self for not knowing; for not understanding. search of counselors and endocri- and represent the commission throughout the Hold your spouse gently. But mostly hold nologists who were able and will- county. In addition, she is also on the Public your child gently, so very gently. Because ing to help us,” she said in retro- Advisory Board of Gender Rights Maryland. the world will not, even if it’s just the world spect. “The mainstream providers For her body of work in this area, Cath- of preschool and play dates. And finally, if were completely unprepared and erine will be honored by the GLCCB at a gala you are involved with a family on this jour- unable to help us. It was through on November 17 at the Lord Baltimore Hotel ney, if you’re a teacher or an administrator PFLAG that we found Chase Brex- as one of Baltimore’s Hometown Heroes for or a provider, please be gentle; please be ton, where we were understood her work supporting the trans community and kind; please get educated. You simply have t and welcomed. And it was PFLAG their families. The other honorees are House no idea how much it will mean to them.” that gave Will a safe place to be a Leader Nancy Pelosi and Baltimore Black Reach Catherine Hyde at cvhyde@ Pride founder and advocate Carlton R. Smith. gmail.com. girl and gave our family the sup- Catherine Hyde port and education we needed credit: Steve Charing to transition, as a family.” In fact, it was the first place that she al- Catherine took her battles into the field. Chrissy Jo Photography lowed Will to dress as a girl. With teenaged Will in tow, she pushed That understanding and acknowledge- hard for anti-bullying policies at the How- ment sparked a fierce desire for Catherine ard County Board of Education to protect DBA Memories by Design to help other parents who are grappling students based on gender identity and ex- with their child being transgender. In a pression. Will related horror stories on how popular blog post, she frankly offered this he had been harassed. The Board listened advice: “The stress of raising a child with intently and promised action. gender variance can and does rip fami- In 2011, Catherine helped chapter mem- SPECIALIZING IN: lies apart. One study claims 40% of trans bers Sharon Brackett, who is board chair of kids are kicked out or run away. Don’t try Gender Rights Maryland, and Heath Goisov- Weddings to do this alone: PFLAG, therapy, support ich spearhead a drive to add gender identity groups, good friends, a stiff drink once in a and expression to those classes protected while. Use them all.” by Howard County statute in employment, Events Emboldened by her increased knowl- housing and public accommodations. Dur- edge of this complex subject, Catherine ing the hearing before the County Council, Children's Photos launched a burst of activism that impacts a Catherine offered compelling testimony; the broad range of transgender issues. measure passed easily and signed into law Even while marriage equality was the by County Executive Ken Ulman. Engagement Sessions focal point of advocacy for the PFLAG That eventually led to a similarly suc- chapter, Catherine pressed for non-dis- cessful effort in Baltimore County shortly Senior’s Portraits crimination based on gender identity and after aided by the courageous leadership of expression. She became a member of the Councilman Tom Quirk and the support from And More chapter’s steering committee and ultimate- Catherine, Mark Patro, Sharon Brackett and ly its transgender coordinator. others. Catherine has frequently testified in What started as one parent seeking Annapolis on behalf of a statewide bill with support back in 2009, has blossomed into the hope that it will finally become law. Chrissy Johnson - Photographer/Owner two support groups (one in Howard County While holding down a day job as director and one in Baltimore County) that provide of online services for the national nonprofit Phone: 443-752-3425 support to almost 70 area parents as they Enterprise Community Partners, Catherine Email: [email protected] raise their trans and gender non-conform- currently speaks and trains on transgender Web: Facebook.com/chrissyjophotography ing children. understanding and sensitivity organizations BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 5 beyond the beltway compiled by Jim Becker meet anything less than the highest stan- Greg Abbott is fighting it, arguing same-sex dard,” Anne Hemenway said. “Everyone couples in Texas can’t divorce because the whom he touched understood how deeply state doesn’t recognize their marriages. he felt the pain of the world.” In addition to Jody Scheske, the attorney for the two Radical journalist the McCarthy campaign, he helped orga- couples, H.B. and J.B. of Dallas and An- Doug Ireland, nize labor leaders opposed to the Vietnam gelique Naylor and Sabrina Daly of Austin, War, managed the successful 1968 Long focused his arguments on the validity of dead at 67 Island congressional campaign of anti-war their marriages in another state. He further Democrat Allard Lowenstein, and in 1970 highlighted that only the parties petition- N ew York City – Doug Ireland, a journalist ran the insurgent congressional campaign ing for a divorce, and not the state, have and activist who came of age in the New of Bella Abzug, the iconic feminist who a right to contest it. The Austin couple was Larry Choate III married Daniel Lennox Left politics of the 1960s and whose inter- ousted a longtime Upper West Side incum- granted a divorce in a lower court. Abbott ests and professional pursuits ranged from bent. With Ed Koch, Abzug introduced the intervened and filed in the Third Court of first gay rights bill in Congress in 1974. Appeals, but the lower court’s decision foreign and do- riage. But this wedding was the first be- Joe Kennedy, a member of the Gay was upheld. Abbott then appealed that de- mestic politics tween two men at West Point. Chaplain Activists Alliance (GAA) in the years im- cision to the Supreme Court. According to to literature Cynthia Lindenmeyer officiated. (Bay Win- mediately after the Stonewall Rebellion, documents obtained by Dallas Voice, Ab- and philosophy, dows and The Associated Press at baywid- recalled a spontaneous protest in 1971 bott has spent $189,912.08 fighting the died in his East ows.com) Village home on against a police raid on a West Village cases from January 2009 to July 2013. October 26. He gay bar at which Ireland, then a spokes- A 2011 law allows the state attorney was 67 years man for the State Assembly Democrats, general to intervene in cases that chal- old, and, ac- rallied “passers-by to protest with ‘Gay lenge the constitutionality of a statute. Ohio must cording to long- Power!’ chants.” “I remember Doug as the Deputy Attorney General James Blacklock, recognize Maryland time friends, first person of his stature as a Political In- representing the state, argued the consti- suffered from sider to risk all and come out as gay and tutionality of the state’s ban on same-sex marriage on death numerous med- a gay activist,” Kennedy wrote in an email marriage was brought into the cases by ical conditions message. “It would be hard for anyone too the previous judges’ rulings. He said the certificate in recent years, young to remember those times to under- state was, therefore, justified to intervene Doug Ireland including at stand just how bold and radical that was.” and defend state law, which doesn’t rec- Cincinnati, Ohio – John Arthur and James least two major strokes. Despite these at Not everyone, however, voiced a positive ognize the same-sex couples’ marriages Obergefell married in Maryland in July and times debilitating conditions, he remained assessment of the role Ireland played in for any purpose. Blacklock said both par- immediately filed suit in federal court in Ohio a dogged reporter and book critic, writing LGBT activism in the years that followed. ties have challenged the constitutionality to have the state ordered to list Obergefell articles for nearly every issue of Gay City In a widely distributed email following Ire- of Texas’ law in their cases. Therefore, the as Arthur’s surviving spouse on his death News – where he has been the interna- land’s death, attorney general has standing to defend certificate so that Arthur could be buried in tional contributing editor – since mid- David Thorstad, a member of GAA and the law. “There is no way to grant a divorce a family plot left by Obergefell’s father. The 2005. In 2005, he reported on anti-gay ex- later the Coalition for Lesbian and Gay without recognizing a marriage,” Blacklock suit was a challenge to Ohio’s same-sex ecutions and repression carried out by the Rights, recalled, “Doug functioned as part said. (Dallas Voice – Anna Waugh at dal- marriage ban. On October 22, John suc- Iranian regime of President Mahmoud Ah- of the gay wing of the ‘permanent govern- lasvoice.com) cumbed to amyotrophic lateral sclerosis, or madinejad. Ireland’s fierce commitment to ment,’ collaborating with the powers that Lou Gehrig’s disease. his work – both in politics and journalism be to swing policy in a direction he and Judge Timothy Black issued a tempo- – was a hallmark of his entire life. Anne other Democrats wanted.” The totality of Gay male couple is rary restraining order late in July, then ex- Hemenway met Ireland when she was only Ireland’s life work, however, “make up for tended it through the end of the year, bar- about 12, after he and her father, Russell, his involvement in such machinations,” first to be married ring the state from issuing a death certificate had worked the 1968 Democratic National Thorstad concluded. for Arthur that did not list Obergefell as his Convention in Chicago on behalf of the For the full obituary go to http://gay- at West Point surviving spouse. “This is not a complicated peace campaign of Minnesota Senator citynews.com/doug-ireland-radical-jour- case,” Black wrote in his original decision to Eugene McCarthy. “I think of him as one nalist-political-insider-dead-67/ (Gay City West Point, N.Y. – As reported by The grant the injunction. “The issue is whether of the people who never compromised to News – Paul Schindler at Gaycitynews. Associated Press, two graduates of West the state of Ohio can discriminate against com) Point are the first men to marry each other same sex marriages lawfully solemnized out at the military academy. Larry Choate III of state, when Ohio law has historically and married Daniel Lennox Saturday, Novem- unambiguously provided that the validity of T hese news notes have been compiled, ber 2 at the U.S. Military Academy’s Cadet a marriage is determined by whether it com- with permission, from the online version Texas high court to Chapel. plies with the law of the jurisdiction where it of various newspapers and other web decide on validity Both men are out of the Army and both was celebrated.” sites. We thank these publications for wore tuxedoes for the ceremony. About “All of us here at Equality Ohio extend allowing us to bring you their news sto- of gay divorce 20 guests attended, some in uniform. The our sympathy to Jim Obergefell and the fam- ries. Usually the reports have been sig- 28-year-old Lennox is getting his master’s ily of John Arthur,” wrote executive director nificantly edited and you can read the Austin, Texas – The legal differences degree in business administration at Har- Elyzabeth Holford. full story by going to the web site men- between states that recognize same-sex vard University. The 27-year-old Choate “They could have done all this quietly,” tioned following the item. Comments marriage and those that don’t collided in is applying to Harvard’s John F. Kennedy she said. “Instead, they have been public fig- are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker the Texas Supreme Court on November School of Government. ures and advocates for equality at this pain- and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride 5. Two same-sex couples who married in West Point hosted two same-sex wed- ful and intimate time in their lives.” t (Gay Media. Massachusetts but now live in Texas want dings of women in 2012, more than a year People’s Chronicle – Anthony Glassman at to divorce, but Texas Attorney General after New York state legalized gay mar- gaypeopleschronicle.com)

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 7 NEWS // panhandle Building Community in the Panhandle b y John Mason After John resigned his ministry, and The first LGBTQ resource organization of after a divorce and much soul-searching, the Eastern Panhandle of West Virginia John came out as openly gay in 2000. He was formed in the living room of a home in moved to the Harpers Ferry area of West the mountain ridge community of Shannon- Virginia in 2005. After John moved to West dale situated off “old” Route 9, about Virginia, for two years he three miles east of Charles Town. was assistant to the Youth John Mason, the current president of Minister at Charles Town this organization, was the go-getter Presbyterian Church and as of creativity at this discussion on the minister to the youth for two status of LGBTQ youth and commu- more years. He was also a nity in West Virginia. The month was member of the board at the June and the individuals in that liv- Jefferson County Homeless ing room were frustrated at the pros- Coalition and co-founder pect of travelling well over an hour of the Hospitality Center at to get to any Pride celebration and Charles Town Presbyterian frightened for the closeted youth in Church, a day center dedi- Jefferson County. cated to serving those ex- So, they did what they could do John Mason periencing homelessness easily, to see if local LGBTQ individ- in Jefferson County. John uals would respond to the idea of an also served within the orga- organization created by and for them. John nization, Meals on Wheels of Jefferson created a “page” on Facebook, and within County from 2006 to 2008. He served as a week, “The Alliance” was off to a rous- president of that organization for the last ing start with over 500 “hits.” Since then, two years. the organization has accumulated over 500 John now attends the Shepherdstown persons who “like” the page (members) Presbyterian Meeting House in Shepherd- and the number of persons viewing the stown, a progressive Christian church. On page during each week exceed 2000. John November 3, 2013, John gave one of the maintains this page on his own, with great closing speeches at “Peacefest” at that Look for Baltimore OUTloud dedication and faithfulness. He presides church. (Peacefest is an annual fall event over regular monthly meetings and helps at SPC, meant to draw attention to issues in our NEW to plan social events and fundraisers for of justice within our larger community. the growing group. This year, as the result of the overturned Frederick Locations In John’s words: “We don’t want spe- DOMA law and President Obama’s en- cial rights or protection for our community. dorsement of same-gender marriage, the Da Black Cat 121 N Market St We just want equal rights. We want iden- church chose to concentrate on issues tity, equality, engagement, community and of social justice for the LGBTQ commu- celebration of diversity.” nity.). John called to those people attend- Cafe Nola 4 E Patrick St John was born in Washington D.C. ing Peacefest – about 200 in number – to and lived in that metro area for all of his “come out” in support of LGBTQ people life, except for the years that he spent at if you are straight, come out as LGBTQ if Dublin Roasters 1780 N Market St college. He embarrassingly admits that you are! His closing statement was: his college education was at Bob Jones “It is not our job to toughen our chil- University – one of the most rigidly Chris- dren up to face a cruel and heartless Structures Salon & Spa 38 S Market St tian Fundamentalist colleges in the world. world. It is our job to raise children who John received training and a degree in BS will make the world a little less cruel and in Christian Education. John was always a heartless.” Frederick Coffee Co & Cafe 100 N East St man of faith and states that he found sol- Aside from maintaining the Alliance’s ace from a dysfunctional family within the Facebook page, John keeps up with old walls of church. Not surprisingly, John hid friends from his secondary school on a Whitaker Campus Center Hood College his sexuality during his young adult years site devoted to its alumni, keeps up with and married after college. This union pro- other LGBTQ graduates of Bob Jones duced two children, now young adults of University at a website devoted to those StudeStudent Engagement Office in H Building FFrederick Community College 31 and 28 (and very supportive of John). alumni, has dinner regularly with friends, Mr. Mason served as the pastor of North and attends and helps to plan events for Potomac Bible Church for years, from Shepherdstown Presbyterian Meeting 1978 to 1991. From 1986 to 2001, John House. Grove Lane Studios 5811 Grove Ln worked at Cable and Wireless of Tyson’s To learn more about John and the Corner, Virginia. His last position there Eastern Panhandle LGBTQ Alliance of was as director of the Program Manage- West Virginia, please visit the page of that Record Exchange 151 N Market St ment Office of that company. name on Facebook. t

8 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 9 THINKING OUTLOUD

public? The reasons that persons seek suicide REAL TRANS TALK: Queer as a “solution” are many, but there are key indi- cators that are common. Depression, of course, Transmen of Color being the primary factor. Despite advances in Rational civil rights for trans persons the stigma of be- By VANN Michael of the spectrum but not necessarily male. My T-hought ing trans continues to be devastating to many Decisions, decisions! As high school seniors roommate was really helpful because they Sharon Brackett trans persons of all ages. And although we are across the nation are preparing for the next identified as queer and supported me dur- making forward progress, that progress is slow. stage of their educational career; parents and ing my social transition. Having peer support In the recent ENDA vote in the U.S. Senate al- young adults review college requirements, was and continues to be a key element on Define most all of the opposition was centered on trans anticipate SAT results and acceptance letters. this journey. With all of this new information persons. However, for some young adults this process and self-actualization I also found myself at- Epidemic In California opponents of AB1266, which includes extra concerns. For the transgender, tracted a transguy. Unsure of what fueled my allows trans identified students the right to ac- questioning, and queer student the college attraction I allowed myself to feel everything. November is a curious month for trans persons. cess facilities for the gender they identify with, checklist is a bit different. Mr. Myke Hatcher- Some individuals like to blame hormones for The days around the Transgender Day of Re- has found nearly a half million signatures in McLaurin remembers these feelings just like the reason a transgender person ‘turned gay,’ membrance (TDoR), November 20th, are often an attempt to put the matter on a ballot refer- it was yesterday although it was four years which is totally funny to me, however I was difficult ones for many in our community. Add endum. The number of those signatures alone ago. He recounts with Baltimore Outloud his not on hormone therapy which further de- Thanksgiving, with some trans folk being es- indicates clearly why such protections need to undergraduate experience as an emerging bunks that myth. I often looked at my attrac- tranged from their families, and you can have exist in the first place. trans queer youth of color. tion as possibly due to the fact that he was a pretty potent emotional mix for trans folk. I Congrats to the LGB folks who have made They say money talks, but it was not the trans or because it was my way to intrinsically personally do not like the TDoR. I am not sure I progress; it is now OK to be gay! But trans, that only matter that concerned me when I was connect to myself through him. I no longer am know a single person who really does. It is not is still way too weird. The “ick factor” still seems applying to college. My selection was based concerned with the reason for my attraction a happy event. Invariably these observances to dominate thinking of opponents. Fabricated upon academics, finances and diversity of but focused on making sure that I am honor- have a reading of names, and more recently, a tales of indiscretions of trans persons, and trans the student population in relation to gender ing my whole self and not succumbing to the detailed and graphic description of the person’s kids are flowing freely in the conservative me- identity, orientation, and related organizations limitations put forth by society. demise. I usually find myself in tears. dia. And we wonder why we find some of these on campus. I openly and honestly shared in Some of the challenges I faced that stu- Although these kids killing themselves my college essay my expectations and needs dent and administrators take for granted were events typically spot- “I contend that many in response to this from my college experience; to be supportive name preference, public accommodation is- light those who are trans persons are saner hate. and a safe space to grow within my emerging sues, and lack of documentation alignment the victims of crimes, Many will argue trans experience. which led to mis-gendering. A simple college they occasionally will than the rest of the that trans persons are Still connected to my high school girlfriend experience as the R.A. placing nametags on reference those who mentally ill and that I started my freshman year living in a dormi- the door outed me before I was ready. The have taken their lives population given the such a high rate of sui- tory of approximately 250 women within liv- overwhelming stress I endured when using by their own hand. I rigid scrutiny one must cide attempts proves ing and learning communities. During the first the female restroom caused me to set bath- say occasionally that. This is, of course, semester I identified as a lesbian and used room schedule so I would not have to share because unless the navigate to obtain any debunked by the evi- my birth name but by the second semester I the space. My overall anxiety increased and person was “out” to dence and the mental identified as queer and preferred to be called I started to isolate myself as a coping mech- somebody within medical intervention.” health community does Myke and made this known to a select few. anism. Focusing solely on my academics, I our community we not believe this to be I really felt uncomfortable in my living space stopped visiting home as often and became probably had no idea that there was a linkage the case either. I contend that many trans per- and in public accommodations. It felt like I depressed. I definitely would not recommend between the person’s gender identity and that sons are saner than the rest of the population was the last puzzle piece and I was being isolating yourself but my outcome was posi- suicide. I contend if you read or hear of a sui- given the rigid scrutiny one must navigate to forced to fit into the only space available, held tive. cide of a 40-something male who by all other obtain any medical intervention. I suspect astro- in place with tape. Still unable to advocate for I reconnected to writing poetry, singing, and appearances did not have any other issues, nauts may be the only population vetted more myself, I did little to change matters. What learning to love myself outside of my physical body. you may be looking at a trans person. I know; I thoroughly. The issue faced is not an internal I was able to confidently say about myself Finally, I came out to my mother in my junior was one such person. one but rather external coming from outside was that I was genderqueer, after convers- year! Because home visits happened less The numbers are appalling. According to forces, prejudices, and phobias. It is not un- ing with new found peers. Another growing and family life became awkward I did not a joint NCTE and NGLTF study 41% of trans common for a trans person to reach a limit were moment invite her on my transition journey initially. persons have attempted suicide. Not merely suicide looks like an attractive option. I decided to start socially transitioning This caused us to drift apart because I as- thought about it, but actually have tried to kill What resolves this problem? Time prob- during my sophomore year. Meaning, al- sumed that she would not understand or be themselves. Looking at the national figures for ably. That and if we could be much more visible though I was assigned female at birth I no able to handle this situation. comparison tell the true tale for us. The rate of in the world. I am not talking about sticking out longer identified as such and was ready to I would not advise this route, but to be suicide is 1.6% for the general population. Re- like a sore thumb; I am talking about not hiding. share this with the world. As a trans-mas- honest with those you love. You will be sur- cently, the U.S. Military has had an uptick of sui- Our LGB peers figured this out. Now they are culine genderqueer individual I began pub- prised about who will support you and who cides in which their numbers about double that the couple next door. licly requesting to be referred to as Myke will not. Don’t assume anything because my of the general public (3.2%). This increase is We need to have an assertive campaign to with masculine pronouns. I knew that this mom is supportive! The road was long but I described as an epidemic. Last year there were educate, just like our LGB peers have done with term represented me closer than any ‘label’ am a proud member of UM graduating class a total of 350 military suicides. As a result of marriage. They made it the new normal. When I had to choose from in the past. I felt that of 2014. As I prepare to embark upon the this crisis, great forces, funds and energy have you have those kinds of numbers of trans folks in order for society to understand me better, next level of life I am currently raising funds been poured into seeking solutions to military opting to take an early exit, I would contend that especially those who need tangibles to com- for my top surgery and volunteer with the suicides. And for trans persons with a 41% at- clearly defines an epidemic in our LGBT com- prehend gender concepts better this would Maryland Coalition for Trans Equality to en- tempt rate? Not so much. munity. This TDoR take stock that for every help. On the gender spectrum I did not fall sure that transgender people are protected You might ask why such a disparity be- name read there are likely many others not read say, ‘completely’ on ‘one side’ or the other, I from discrimination based on their gender tween the trans community and the general and let us make sure we honor them as well. t connected with myself on the masculine part identity and expression. t 10 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com In celebrating its achievements, Equality prominent officials in support of marriage Maryland should have really been rejoicing equality gave the campaign a needed shot in over the fact they are living to fight another the arm. Outstanding television advertising day. Shortly after the debacle in the General ultimately was effective in combating the lies OUT Assembly in 2011 where a plausible victory created by the opposition that had been so on marriage equality was deep-sixed in the successful in California and other states. Spoken House of Delegates from insufficient sup- A bit of luck also played in the Question Steve Charing port, Equality Maryland imploded. Its financial 6 supporters’ favor. Political observers be- foundation was cracking, leaving the organi- lieved that the decisive money edge to mar- zation in near ruin. The controversial, less- riage equality proponents can be attributed than-elegant dismissal of the executive di- to the Church of the Latter Day Saints’ desire One Year after rector, the abrupt departure of its fundraising not to get deeply involved that year as they director, and a major shake-up of the board, had previously in California and Maine and Question 6: left the organization in shambles in terms of become a focus of controversy during the finances and confidence – a dark point in their Mormon Mitt Romney’s run for president. In Revisiting history that was conspicuously absent from addition, much of the available TV advertis- Evans’ remarks. ing space was blocked largely by the mon- Not Revising Following the successful initiative by eyed casino interests on both sides of the marriage equality opponents to have the law issue, thus preventing the scare tactics from History voted on by referendum during the 2012 elec- gaining traction. tion, Equality Maryland was in no position, All things considered, the victory a year despite a new executive director and board decision-making in the organization. ago was a team effort that was led by HRC By STEVE Charing in place, to carry out the fight that had been Undeniably, Marylanders for Marriage through the auspices of Marylanders for Almost a year after Maryland voters upheld heretofore unsuccessful in every state where Equality got off to a rocky start. In April 2012, Marriage Equality though no one entity de- the law allowing same-sex marriage, there the voters were given the chance to decide they brought in a political strategist, Josh serves sole credit. Everyone involved from was the expected amount of celebrating at on the issue. Levin, to be the campaign manager. But field donors to volunteers to the LGBT caucus in the recent back-slapping, self-congratulatory In need of a victory of its own to tout and operations were slow to develop, TV spots the legislature to the leadership of the gov- love-fest called the Equality Maryland 25th assessing the weakness in Equality Maryland were not aired early on, and many activists ernor to the voters themselves should share Anniversary Brunch. That victory at the ballot at the time, HRC, with its ample resources, were getting antsy over the delays. in the historic victory. And the rainbow gods, box deservedly was the centerpiece. fundraising apparatus and personnel, seized The announcements by President Obama providing some good fortune, smiled on us Equality Maryland’s executive director, the reins to lead the referendum battle, which and the national NAACP as well as other as well. t Carrie Evans, gave a speech using a curious eventually was termed “Question 6”. It had “House of Cards” theme in thanking virtually already begun by assuming control of the everybody who had been involved with the lobbying efforts during the year’s legislative organization over the past quarter century session. and in the process made some interesting To broaden its appeal, HRC formed a comments. Evans thanked the Human Rights “coalition” of partners that consisted of the Campaign (HRC) for not pulling funding from Baltimore branch of the NAACP, Equality the campaign in 2012 and declared that Maryland, the ACLU of Maryland, and various “without HRC we would not have won,” sug- unions, clergy, and other progressive organi- gesting that HRC was merely a funder. zations. Equality Maryland was only one of There are two elements in play. First, these “partnering” organizations, not the one the pulled funding comment was a not- driving the campaign. so-subtle swipe at Freedom to Marry, who Although critics have characterized the had contributed needed dollars to the other lesser members of the coalition as “window statewide battles for marriage equality but dressing”, they did have roles to fill and Equal- had bypassed Maryland in the early stages. ity Maryland made significant contributions. The organization’s founder and director Most importantly, Equality Maryland raised a Evan Wolfson told me that it was a myth good chunk of money using their brand, dam- that they pulled funding from the cause. “We aged as it was, and donated to the campaign. never pulled out,” he emphasized. “We never Moreover, they helped recruit volunteers for jumped in.” the field operations. The reason was their belief that under the But make no mistake, it was HRC’s show leadership of the campaign (Marylanders for under the banner of Marylanders for Marriage Marriage Equality), he did not think Maryland Equality. Even with the larger, richer orga- would be successful at the ballot box and in- nization at the helm, it was no smooth ride. stead provided resources to the other states. An insider with the campaign confided that They later chipped in, however, with some Governor O’Malley, the chief lobbyist during $200,000 as the Maryland campaign’s end the General Assembly to get the bill passed neared and confidence grew. in both houses and a noteworthy fundraiser The other aspect of Evans’ comment throughout, was “not happy” with the way the about HRC’s role requires more examination. campaign was being run. And he was par- During the festivities, the focus was rightfully ticularly miffed that fundraising targets were about Equality Maryland but gave the impres- not being met according to pre-determined sion Equality Maryland led the battle. At one timelines. Later, Delegate Maggie McIntosh time, yes. was reported to have stepped in to handle BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 11 quality of life

In the spirit of “food for thought,” I casually (or bachelor), so you hang on longer than floated an idea past the rest of the leadership you should out of a misguided sense of self- team hoping that it would stir some conver- Mood Getting preservation,” writes Dworkin-McDaniel. sation. I said, “Given it feels like a breath of Swings “Fear of being alone is a huge factor that Unstuck fresh air to get a week off from our meetings keeps people in bad relationships,” states Gerry Fisher once in a blue moon, it made me wonder Wyatt O’Brian Evans life/relationship coach Mackler. “The under- what it would be like to have a week off every lying message is that you’re not able to take month. You know, something like meeting ev- care of yourself.” ery Wednesday except the last Wednesday He’ll change. That ain’t happenin.’ Ac- Leaving Well of the month. What do you guys think?” Then, ‘Wash that cording to Dworkin-McDaniel. “Don’t be two days went by without anyone responding the farm on him (her) changing in any sub- I’m a very loyal guy… until I’m not. That’s how to me; “deafening silence” is never a good Loser Right stantial way. Improving hair and wardrobe it’s been my whole life. The main difference sign, in my opinion. is about the best you can do. But serious between then and now is the lack of resent- When I finally did hear back from a mem- Outta Your character flaws? Figure on living with ’em… ment I feel when I leave today. Let me tell a ber of the leadership team, it was the presi- or leaving him (her).” To emphasize this, she brief story to illustrate the point. dent sending me a very corporate email. You Hair!’ sites clinical psychologist Dennis F. Sugrue, I had belonged to a business networking know the template: “Thank you for telling us Ph.D, who states, “What you see is what group for two years. Little did I know when the how you feel, [gentle language about why As you know, a couple of my “Mood Swings” you’re going to get. If there is change, con- area director had me join that it wasn’t a fully we could never do that], But thank you so columns have delved into the glorious sub- sider that to be a gift from heaven.” But then chartered group. So, for the first six months, we much for your feedback and be sure to stay in ject of romance, which can be intoxicating Sugrue adds, “’But don’t count on it.” worked very hard to market the group and draw touch!” Umm, you couldn’t pick up the phone and exhilarating. But at other times, can be He needs me. “If ever there was a big candidates to our meetings. I remember one and call? You had to send me a form letter? confusing and heartbreaking. enough ball to keep you chained to a loser, formal visitor’s meeting for which we’d gathered At first, I had the urge to argue. However, This column addresses reasons why it’s this one. We tell ourselves we’re indis- 60 prospective guests – that after sleeping on it for a you just can’t seem to dump the loser you’re pensable. Or maybe you do have legitimate was quite a project! few days, I came to a very dating. Writer Norine Dworkin-McDaniel worries that if you split, he’d (she’d) gamble, Finally at the end of the clear realization: The group cleverly gives six reasons why. Although she drink, slide into depression or kill himself,” six months, we’d signed doesn’t have a problem; wrote her article with heterosexual females Dworkin-McDaniel writes. “But what you on enough members, and I have a problem with the in mind, it’s applicable to and resonates with call ‘love,’ therapists label as ‘co-depen- we could function as a real group. The group was no the LGBTQ audience. dency,’ ‘enabling’ or ‘emotional extortion’.” chapter. In the ensuing longer meeting my needs, So my friends, fasten your seat- To underline this, she cites Michele years, we switched lunch and I immediately thought belts! Let’s get some insight. Sugg, a Connecticut certified sex venues several times, lost of several different ways My family made me do it. Dwor- therapist who states, “It can be and gained members, and of networking that would kin-McDaniel writes, “Blaming tough to move past the guilt and continued to find innovative probably be more effective your issues on Mom, Dad, believe that he’ll (she’ll) make it, ways to market our group. It in terms of generating busi- your siblings or the dog that you’re not his only life- was a fun project. ness. can get a little tired. But line.” As for referrals to my life So, shortly thereafter, I persistently picking Mr. The sex is phenom- & career coaching practice? announced my resignation, Wrong (or Ms. Wright) enal! Dworkin-McDaniel I didn’t generate much busi- sang the praises of having does have a lot to do with writes, “That hormonal ness from it. However, it was very helpful for worked with the group during the past two your upbringing, therapists surge of oxytocin that me to deliver my “elevator pitch” and discuss years, mentioned moving on to different mar- say.” She cites life/relationship courses through your networking strategies on a weekly basis. (An keting opportunities, and wished them well. coach Lauren Mackler, author of brain when you have elevator pitch or a 30-second introduction is a It was all very genuine, warm, and smooth, “Solemate: Master the Art of Alone- mind-blowing sex is short speech about who you are profession- though some people mentioned how my res- ness and Transform Your Life,” who states, designed to bond you ally, what type of business you do, and your ignation seemed “sudden.” “’What happens in the family shapes how to your partner. It’s emotional super-glue. specific goal for the current interaction, all de- At one point, the president of the group we see ourselves in the world, our core be- But this neurochemistry can backfire when livered in the time it takes for a short elevator came up to me, warmly thanked me, and said liefs and our behaviors’.” we bond with the wrong guy (or girl). To rein- ride.) caringly, “I hope you’re feeling closure.” What I won’t find anyone better. Dworkin-Mc- force this point, she cites psychologist/certi- For a long time, the increase in my mar- startled me was how hard it was to wrap my Daniel writes, “So he’s (she’s) boorish and fied sex therapist Stephanie Buehler, Psy.D keting skills was enough to maintain my mind around the word “closure.” Why did I de- overly critical. Breaks dates. Doesn’t call. of the Buehler Institute for sex therapy in Ir- membership, but the lack of direct business cide to leave? Did “closing” something signal Plays head games. Forgets your birthday. vine, California, who states, “’Just because ($$) coming my way continued to nag at me. that it was then time for me to leave? But he’s (she’s) all yours. Would it be any it was the best sex you ever had doesn’t Also, even though I understood the benefits “Closure” is about having struggled to let different with anyone else?” Then she adds, mean that this is the best partner for you.” of regular meetings, the weekly schedule be- go of the past. “Desire” is about feeling a drive “Blame this one, too, on a dysfunctional Quite enlightening, eh? Well, get ready gan to feel burdensome. to move into the future. As comedian Louis family dynamic.” She cites clinical psycho- for part two of “Wash that Loser Right Outta Well, a few months ago, our group mem- C.K. said recently, we can opt in and out of therapist Pat Pearson, author of “Stop Self- Your Hair!” This installment will answer the bership had dipped to 15 members, the relationship as it suits us, and the opt-out de- Sabotage,” who states, “’If we don’t believe burning question: “Should I Stay – or Go?” t minimum suggested number. I knew that this cision doesn’t have to be heavy with resent- we deserve to have a good relationship, we Wyatt O’Brian Evans is a journalist, au- would mean that I and the rest of the lead- ment. If moving through the open door to the settle for less than what we could have or thor, instructor, and motivational speaker. ership team would need to embark again on future is the right move, how much emotion truly want. We compromise on our own in- His bylines have appeared in print and on another membership drive to boost our num- really needs to go into closing that door be- line media outlets including the Huffington t tegrity’.” bers. That thought combined with our weekly hind us? Just politely and quickly close it. I don’t want to be alone. “Then there’s Post, Bilerico, Washington Post, Qbliss, and meetings made me feel weary. More at Baltimorelifecoachgerry.com. the fear that you’ll end up a lonely spinster American Politics. 12 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com quality of life // health & wellness Chef Offers Tips for Gluten-Free Holiday Desserts Forums on AFA to Address LGBT Needs by Kyra Bussanich different types of gluten-free flours and A series of public forums will be taking to explore eligibility and begin enrollment If there’s one downside to fabulous, food- starches, including millet, sorghum and place around the state between Novem- right away. filled holiday celebrations, it’s the gurgles sweet white rice flour, and potato and ber 18 and 21. At “Get Covered! The forums are co-spon- and groans of post-feasting indigestion. tapioca starches. Each has its own idio- The Affordable Care Act and sored by Chase Brexton “We assume it’s because we over- syncrasies. For example, millet flour has How It Impacts LGBT Health Care, Equality ate, but for a lot of people, that pain and a slightly nutty flavor and is well-suited for and HIV+ People,” Maryland, and sick feeling may not be about how much goods with a hearty texture. Sweet white local advocates Free State Le- you ate but what you ate,” says Kyra Bus- rice flour holds moisture well and is good and community ex- gal Project. The sanich, a two-time winner of The Food for recipes that have a slight gumminess perts will join Maryland events will take Network’s “Cupcake Wars” and author of to them. Potato starch is light and good Health Connection Assisters and place at each of Chase a just-released recipe book, “Sweet Crav- for fluffy cakes. Navigators to educate Maryland Brexton’s facilities across Mary- ings: 50 Seductive Desserts for a Gluten- • Use eggs and butter at room tem- communities about: land, including the Mt. Vernon Free Lifestyle” perature. Eggs are often used as a binder, • advantages of new healthcare Center (November 18, 6 p.m. to 8 “About 2 million Americans have ce- the protein that substitutes for the missing coverage options; p.m.), Columbia Center (Novem- liac disease – an auto-immune reaction gluten. Eggs and butter are both easier to • ways to get help with healthcare ber 19, 6 p.m. to 8 p.m.), Easton to gluten, the protein in wheat,” says Bus- work with when used at room temperature, coverage questions; Center (November 21, noon to 2 sanich, whose painful symptoms became and room-temperature egg whites whip up • legal issues around healthcare p.m.), and Randallstown Center life-threatening before she was finally di- fluffier. If you forget to pull the butter out coverage for LGBT individuals and (November 21, 6 p.m. to 8 p.m.). agnosed with the illness. “Most of those of the refrigerator beforehand, heat it for 7 families; and The Affordable Care Act of- people aren’t diagnosed though, because to 12 seconds in the microwave. Put cold • plans to ensure that HIV-positive fers a great opportunity to provide the symptoms look like so many other in- eggs in warm (not hot) water for 30 to 60 people get the care they need. LGBT and HIV+ people access to testinal ailments.” seconds. Most importantly, the presenters healthcare in ways many of us could People with celiac disease must com- • Don’t overwork batter and dough will be available to answer some of the never do in the past. Please come pletely avoid gluten, which is also in rye, with xanthan gum in it. Corn-based xan- most pressing questions and address and find out how we can make this and barley, to avoid a case of painful and than gum is often used as a stabilizer and ongoing concerns about healthcare opportunity work best for everyone gut-damaging indigestion. But, as Harvard thickener in gluten-free baked goods, sauc- coverage for LGBT and HIV-positive concerned. Medical School reported earlier this year, es, dressings and soups. Once this ingre- people. Plus, assisters and navigators For more information, call 443-573- avoiding gluten also appears to help peo- dient is added, overworking the dough can will be on hand to help anyone who wants 5000 or email [email protected]. t ple with less serious digestive issues. give it a slimy, gummy texture, and cause it “It really does seem to provide some to lose flavor. (A good substitute for xanthan improvement in gastrointestinal problems gum is ground psyllium seed husk.) for a segment of the population,” says • Heat higher, cream longer for light- Harvard assistant professor Dr. Daniel er cakes. One complaint people some- Study to Help the AIDS Research Effort Leffler. times have about gluten-free baked goods For Bussanich, a chef, there was no is that they’re too dense. To prevent this, choice: One speck of gluten would make try setting the oven temperature 25 de- her ill. But she refused to give up pastries, grees warmer than you would for flour. cakes and other treats, so she perfected This will cause the butter in the recipe to gluten-free varieties. Bussanich offers release its water as steam, which helps these tips for whipping up gluten-free the cake rise quickly. Also, cream eggs baked goods this holiday season: and butter together longer – about 10 min- • If you’re following a recipe, don’t utes – than you would for flour cakes. t substitute the listed flour or starch Kyra Bussanich is a two-time winner with another type unless you’re famil- of the Food Network’s hit show, “Cupcake iar with its properties. There are many Wars.”

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 13 passings JOHN BUNTING III tant to Mr. Bunting to contribute to society 1950 – NOVEMBER 5, 2013 brances. A private family ceremony and through his paid work, his true passion was interment will be held in Huntington, West John William Bunting III was born on Janu- his volunteer work in the fight against HIV/ Virginia. ary 23, 1944, and passed away at home on AIDS, particularly in the African-American In lieu of flowers, contributions may be November 5, 2013, from complications of gay community. John served on and for- sent to AIDS Interfaith Residential Services congestive heart failure. merly chaired the Baltimore City Commis- (Airshome.org) and/or the Gay & Lesbian Born in Akron, Ohio, and raised in Hun- sion on HIV/AIDS, chaired AIDSWalk 1991, Community Center of Baltimore (Glccb. tington, West Virginia, John served in the and participated in the AIDS vaccine trials org). t US Navy and led a wonderfully varied ca- at Johns Hopkins. reer that included 22 years supervising Mr. Bunting had an enormous heart, a large staff as operations manager for made friends wherever he went, and was Hecht’s Department Stores. His civic and generous to a fault, always glad for the MICHAEL KOHL organizational skills were exemplified with opportunity to help anyone who had less 1965 – October 12, 2013 his work with the Balti- than he did. He is dearly more City Department of missed. Suddenly on October 12, 2013, Michael Kohl M ichael Kohl Social Services primarily John is survived by his 48, passed away. building agency capac- sisters, Karen C. (Phillip) Michael had been suffering from chronic Michael was a fixture in the community ity in the community; he Neff and Jaynel B. Hankins back pain from an automobile accident sev- working at one time as the advertising man- was also a teacher for of Dalton, GA, and his lov- eral years ago. He was in and out of hospitals ager at the Baltimore Gay Paper and most the Baltimore City School ing nieces and nephews. and rehab facilities. notably as the general manager at Club 1722. System. In addition, his A public Celebration of “Michael called me one day at the radio He was also a huge lover of animals; most re- organizing and business Life will be held on Satur- station”, commented friend and local DJ Jon cently adding Chandler Templeton Kohl, 3rd, talents and expertise were day, November 23rd at 11 Boesche. “Before I called him back I knew a pet pig to his family. sought after as a political a.m. in the Palm Room of whatever he wanted the answer was yes. His He is survived by his mother, Linda Kohl; fundraising consultant for The Belvedere, 1 E. Chase reputation and stature were that big. I spent a sister, Deborah Kohl Wolfe; a niece, Amanda state and local election Street in John’s beloved the next two plus years DJing at 1722. When Stauffer; and countless relatives and friends. campaigns, as an event- Mount Vernon neighbor- Michael spoke to you, you felt as though he A memorial was held Wednesday Octo- planner and as a grant hood. Guests are warmly truly cared about you. I will miss knowing ber 23rd at Community of Christ Church lo- writer. invited to participate by you are not lurking around. Need a DJ at the cated at 3000 Baybriar Road in Dundalk, t While it was impor- John William Bunting III sharing their remem- gates? I’m in. With love.” Maryland. Come Join Us.... ALL ARE WELCOME

Grace United Methodist Church St. Johns United Methodist Church 5407 N. Charles St at Northern Parkway 2640 St. Paul St. 410-433-6650 410-366-7733 www.graceunitedmethodist.org www.stjohnsbaltimore.org Worship each Sunday at 8:30 and 10:00 a.m. Worship each Sunday at 11:30 a.m. Pastors Pastors The ReRev. Dr. Amy McCullough and The Rev.Re Dr. Amy McCullough and The Rev. David Shank. The Rev. David Shank. Community Thanksgiving service, Sunday evening, Join with us in giving thanks for .. November 24, 7 p. m. at Grace. Churches and God’s good gifts. Synagogues of Roland Park will join together. All and in extending.. are Welcome. We will Recognize World AIDS Day in hospitality to strangers...... worship on December 1 as Advent begins.

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 15 What is STRIBILD? • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) What should I tell my healthcare STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used as infection. If you also have HBV and stop provider before taking STRIBILD? a complete single-tablet regimen to treat HIV-1 in STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used taking STRIBILD, your hepatitis may adults who have never taken HIV-1 medicines to treat HIV-1 in adults who have never suddenly get worse. Do not stop taking • All your health problems. Be sure to taken HIV-1 medicines before. It combines STRIBILD without fi rst talking to your tell your healthcare provider if you have before. STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. 4 medicines into 1 pill to be taken once a healthcare provider, as they will need to or had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, day with food. STRIBILD is a complete monitor your health. STRIBILD is not including hepatitis virus infection. single-tablet regimen and should not be approved for the treatment of HBV. • All the medicines you take, including used with other HIV-1 medicines. prescription and nonprescription medicines, STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 infection Who should not take STRIBILD? vitamins, and herbal supplements. or AIDS. To control HIV-1 infection and STRIBILD may affect the way other Do not take STRIBILD if you: decrease HIV-related illnesses you must medicines work, and other medicines may I started my keep taking STRIBILD. Ask your healthcare • Take a medicine that contains: affect how STRIBILD works. Keep a list of provider if you have questions about how to alfuzosin, dihydroergotamine, ergotamine, all your medicines and show it to your personal revolution reduce the risk of passing HIV-1 to others. methylergonovine, cisapride, lovastatin, healthcare provider and pharmacist. 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Tell your healthcare provider Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effect that - ethosuximide (Zarontin®) Brief summary of full Prescribing Information. For more information, bothers you or that does not go away. please see the full Prescribing Information, including Patient Information. about any new or unusual symptoms you may have after you - fl ecainide (Tambocor®) stop taking STRIBILD • These are not all the possible side effects of STRIBILD. For more - fl urazepam information, ask your healthcare provider. What is STRIBILD? - fl uticasone (Flovent®, Flonase®, Flovent® Diskus, Who should not take STRIBILD? • Call your healthcare provider for medical advice about side effects. Flovent® HFA, Veramyst®) • STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used to treat HIV-1 in adults who You may report side effects to FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088. have never taken HIV-1 medicines before. STRIBILD is a complete Do not take STRIBILD if you also take a medicine that contains: - itraconazole (Sporanox®) ® regimen and should not be used with other HIV-1 medicines. • adefovir (Hepsera ) What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking STRIBILD? - ketoconazole (Nizoral®) • STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. You must stay on • alfuzosin hydrochloride (Uroxatral®) Tell your healthcare provider about all your medical conditions, - lidocaine (Xylocaine®) continuous HIV-1 therapy to control HIV-1 infection and decrease • cisapride (Propulsid®, Propulsid Quicksolv®) HIV-related illnesses. including: - mexiletine • ergot-containing medicines, including: dihydroergotamine ® • Ask your healthcare provider about how to prevent passing • If you have or had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including - oxcarbazepine (Trileptal ) mesylate (D.H.E. 45®, Migranal®), ergotamine tartrate (Cafergot®, hepatitis B infection HIV-1 to others. Do not share or reuse needles, injection ® ® ® ® - perphenazine equipment, or personal items that can have blood or body fl uids Migergot , Ergostat , Medihaler Ergotamine , Wigraine , ® ® ® • If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if ® on them. Do not have sex without protection. Always practice safer Wigrettes ), and methylergonovine maleate (Ergotrate , Methergine ) STRIBILD can harm your unborn baby. Tell your healthcare provider - phenobarbital (Luminal ) sex by using a latex or polyurethane condom to lower the chance of • lovastatin (Advicor®, Altoprev®, Mevacor®) if you become pregnant while taking STRIBILD. - phenytoin (Dilantin®, Phenytek®) sexual contact with semen, vaginal secretions, or blood. • oral midazolam – There is a pregnancy registry for women who take antiviral - propafenone (Rythmol®) ® medicines during pregnancy. The purpose of this registry is to ® What is the most important information I should know • pimozide (Orap ) collect information about the health of you and your baby. Talk - quinidine (Neudexta ) about STRIBILD? • rifampin (Rifadin®, Rifamate®, Rifater®, Rimactane®) with your healthcare provider about how you can take part in - rifabutin (Mycobutin®) this registry. ® STRIBILD can cause serious side effects, including: • sildenafi l (Revatio®), when used for treating lung problems - rifapentine (Priftin ) 1. Build-up of lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis). Lactic ® ® ® • If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not - risperidone (Risperdal®, Risperdal Consta®) • simvastatin (Simcor , Vytorin , Zocor ) breastfeed if you take STRIBILD. acidosis can happen in some people who take STRIBILD or similar ® (nucleoside analogs) medicines. Lactic acidosis is a serious • triazolam (Halcion®) - salmeterol (Serevent ) or salmeterol when taken in combination - You should not breastfeed if you have HIV-1 because of the risk of with fl uticasone (Advair Diskus®, Advair HFA®) medical emergency that can lead to death. Lactic acidosis can • the herb St. John’s wort passing HIV-1 to your baby. be hard to identify early, because the symptoms could seem - sildenafi l (Viagra®), tadalafi l (Cialis®) or vardenafi l (Levitra®, - Two of the medicines in STRIBILD can pass to your baby in your like symptoms of other health problems. Call your healthcare Do not take STRIBILD if you also take any other HIV-1 Staxyn®), for the treatment of erectile dysfunction (ED). If you get breast milk. It is not known if the other medicines in STRIBILD can provider right away if you get any of the following symptoms medicines, including: dizzy or faint (low blood pressure), have vision changes or have pass into your breast milk. which could be signs of lactic acidosis: • Other medicines that contain tenofovir (Atripla®, Complera®, an erection that last longer than 4 hours, call your healthcare ® ® - Talk with your healthcare provider about the best way to feed provider or get medical help right away. • feel very weak or tired Viread , Truvada ) your baby. - tadalafi l (Adcirca®), for the treatment of pulmonary arterial • have unusual (not normal) muscle pain • Other medicines that contain emtricitabine, lamivudine, or ritonavir (Combivir®, Emtriva®, Epivir® or Epivir-HBV®, Epzicom®, Kaletra®, Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take, hypertension • have trouble breathing ® ® Norvir , Trizivir ) including prescription and nonprescription medicines, vitamins, - telithromycin (Ketek®) • have stomach pain with nausea or vomiting and herbal supplements: STRIBILD is not for use in people who are less than 18 years old. - thioridazine • feel cold, especially in your arms and legs • STRIBILD may affect the way other medicines work, and other medicines may affect how STRIBILD works. - voriconazole (Vfend®) • feel dizzy or lightheaded What are the possible side effects of STRIBILD? • Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you take any of the - warfarin (Coumadin®, Jantoven®) • have a fast or irregular heartbeat STRIBILD may cause the following serious side effects: following medicines: - zolpidem (Ambien®, Edlular®, Intermezzo®, Zolpimist®) 2. Severe liver problems. Severe liver problems can happen in • See “What is the most important information I should know - Hormone-based birth control (pills, patches, rings, shots, etc) people who take STRIBILD. In some cases, these liver problems about STRIBILD?” Know the medicines you take. Keep a list of all your medicines and - Antacid medicines that contains aluminum, magnesium show it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a can lead to death. Your liver may become large (hepatomegaly) and • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your you may develop fat in your liver (steatosis). Call your healthcare hydroxide, or calcium carbonate. Take antacids at least 2 hours new medicine. Do not start any new medicines while you are taking healthcare provider should do blood and urine tests to check your before or after you take STRIBILD STRIBILD without fi rst talking with your healthcare provider. provider right away if you get any of the following symptoms kidneys before you start and while you are taking STRIBILD. Your of liver problems: healthcare provider may tell you to stop taking STRIBILD if you - Medicines to treat depression, organ transplant rejection, or high Keep STRIBILD and all medicines out of reach of children. • your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow (jaundice) develop new or worse kidney problems. blood pressure This Brief Summary summarizes the most important information ® ® • dark “tea-colored” urine • Bone problems can happen in some people who take STRIBILD. - amiodarone (Cordarone , Pacerone ) about STRIBILD. If you would like more information, talk with your Bone problems include bone pain, softening or thinning (which may - atorvastatin (Lipitor®, Caduet®) healthcare provider. You can also ask your healthcare provider or • light-colored bowel movements (stools) pharmacist for information about STRIBILD that is written for health lead to fractures). Your healthcare provider may need to do tests to ® ® • loss of appetite for several days or longer check your bones. - bepridil hydrochloric (Vascor , Bepadin ) professionals, or call 1-800-445-3235 or go to www.STRIBILD.com. ® • nausea • Changes in body fat can happen in people who take HIV-1 - bosentan (Tracleer ) Issued: August 2012 • stomach pain medicine. These changes may include increased amount of fat - buspirone in the upper back and neck (“buffalo hump”), breast, and around - carbamazepine (Carbatrol®, Epitol®, Equetro®, Tegreto®) You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or severe liver the middle of your body (trunk). Loss of fat from the legs, arms problems if you are female, very overweight (obese), or have and face may also happen. The exact cause and long-term health - clarithromycin (Biaxin®, Prevpac®) been taking STRIBILD for a long time. effects of these conditions are not known. - clonazepam (Klonopin®) 3. Worsening of Hepatitis B infection. If you have hepatitis B virus • Changes in your immune system (Immune Reconstitution - clorazepate (Gen-xene®, Tranxene®) (HBV) infection and take STRIBILD, your HBV may get worse Syndrome) can happen when you start taking HIV-1 medicines. Your COMPLERA, EMTRIVA, GILEAD, the GILEAD Logo, GSI, HEPSERA, STRIBILD, the STRIBILD Logo, (fl are-up) if you stop taking STRIBILD. A “fl are-up” is when your immune system may get stronger and begin to fi ght infections that - colchicine (Colcrys®) TRUVADA, and VIREAD are trademarks of Gilead Sciences, Inc., or its related companies. 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leased The Standards (Sony prisingly safe on the 14 tracks here. There are a couple of iMusic: Standards Issue Music Latin/Masterworks). exceptions as on the harder rocking “Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Turning her attention to the Hearts Club Band” and the gleeful choral treatment of “Let b y Gregg Shapiro Gershwins (“They Can’t Take That Away From Me,” “Em- It Be.” One of the most prolific songwriters of the 1960s and 1970s, braceable You,” “How Long Has This Been Going On”), and Speaking of Joni, it’s difficult not to wish that musi- Jimmy Webb wrote songs that became standards. A num- other composers known for their significant contributions to cians and singers would look beyond her landmark album ber of them were massive hits for artists including The 5th the American Songbook, Estefan proves she has the chops Blue when it comes to choosing from her wealth of songs Dimension, Glen Campbell, Art Garfunkel, Donna Summer to embrace the material with respect and affection, taking to interpret. That said, New West Guitar Group does a and, much later, for Linda Ronstadt, among many others. her place alongside Linda Ronstadt, Carly Simon, Natalie sweet job with Joni’s “All I Want” from their album Big Gay singer Michael Feinstein even had a go at Webb on his Cole, and others who have trod a similar path. City (Summit). That song is one of four covers, including album Only One Life: The Songs of Jimmy Webb. Webb him- Of course, before Estefan tried her hand at the genre, Tears For Fears’ “Everybody Wants To Rule The World,” self has had a lengthy recording career, beginning after oth- the inimitable Sarah Vaughan was one of the torch bearers, Simon & Garfunkel’s “Bleecker Street” and The Police’s ers had recorded songs of his such as “Up, Up and Away,” one of the grand dames. Sophisticated Lady: The Duke El- “Wrapped Around Your Finger,” performed by the guitar “Wichita Lineman,” “All I Know,” and “MacArthur Park,” to lington Songbook Collection (Pablo/Concord) compiles a trio (Perry Smith, Jeff Stein and John Storie). The remain- mention a few. Webb revisited a number of his most popu- pair of Vaughan’s late 1970s Ellington songbook albums, ing originals, including “Proud Days Work” and “Inspira- lar songs, accompanying himself on piano, on 1996’s ex- along with some previously unreleased material. Just to tion Point,” are also well worth your time. ceptional Ten Easy Pieces disc. His latest, Still Within the hear Vaughan’s rendition of “Lush Life,” co-written by Elling- If songs by Tears For Fears and The Police are becom- Sound of My Voice (eOne) revisits some of those songs, this ton and his openly gay collaborator Billy Strayhorn, makes ing standards in their own right, there’s no reason why the time as duets with a stellar cast of guest artists singing with this compilation worthwhile, not to mention her readings of same thing can’t happen for the work of Icelandic pop god- Webb. A talented pianist and songwriter, but not known for “Sophisticated Lady,” “I Got it Bad (And That Ain’t Good),” dess Björk. With that in mind, Travis Sullivan’s Björkestra being a great singer, Webb partners with some who are, in- and “Prelude to a Kiss.” returns with I Go Humble (Zoho). Sullivan describes his cluding Carly Simon (“Easy for You to Say”), Art Garfunkel With the exception of the oft covered “River,” the over- arrangements of Björk’s compositions as a “tribute to the (“Shattered”), Rumer (“Still Within the Sound of My Voice”), grown “teens” on Glee have managed to avoid abusing uncompromising, visionary and bold work of one of the and David Crosby and Graham Nash (“If These Walls Could Joni Mitchell too badly. Having already focused their most important artists of the late 20th and early 21st cen- Speak”). voices on albums dedicated to the songs of Madonna and tury.” Not surprisingly, you can feel the love throughout Gloria Estefan doesn’t appear to have recorded any those from The Rocky Horror Picture Show and Grease, this intimate live album. From the way that Becca Stevens’ Jimmy Webb songs, but it wouldn’t be a bad idea if she did. the Glee cast now attacks the Fab Four on Glee Sings the vocals respectfully don’t try to duplicate Björk to the way Just imagine what she could do with “By the Time I Get to Beatles (Columbia). Instead of applying the same kind of the arrangements easily find and format the jazz rhythms Phoenix,” for example. We don’t have to wonder what Este- energy and enthusiasm to Journey (yes, Journey) as the within, Sullivan and company offer us a new way to experi- fan would do with a set of older tunes now that she has re- Glee club did on the first soundtrack disc, they play it sur- ence these familiar tunes, such as “Army of Me.” t

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BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 21 Lively Arts // out on screen Loki Steals Spotlight in Thor: The Dark World By Chuck Duncan ie focused mainly on just about all of the earthbound raunchiness of her 2 Broke Girls character. Eccleston Phase 2 of the Marvel Universe film franchise got un- scenes. That situation has been rectified as most of the is barely recognizable as Malekith and speaks most of derway with Iron Man III, and now the next step to The movie takes place on Asgard and various other planets. his dialog in whatever language the Dark Elves speak. Avengers: Age of Ultron is here with the release of Thor: In fact, the earth portions of Thor: The Dark World al- Anthony Hopkins’ Odin is regal and weary, wanting noth- The Dark World. In the new movie, it’s been at least two most seem inconsequential until a massively entertaining ing more than peace and to give Thor the throne, while years since Jane Foster (Natalie Portman) saw Thor battle that serves as the film’s climax (think something Rene Russo’s part is beefed up a bit and she gets to (Chris Hemsworth) – in person, that is. She did see him on almost on the scale of the New York battle, but encom- kick some ass as Malekith and his minions lay siege to passing several different worlds). Most of Asgard. the earth sequences with Jane, Erik Selvig The film has solid production values, great action (Stellan Skarsgård), and their interns are scenes, some nice humor (including a great Avenger barely fleshed out. cameo) and some stand-out performances, but for me Jane ignores some strange signals that – like the first Thor movie – it’s entertaining, but it’s still seem to be signaling Thor’s arrival, Erik not a real jewel in the Marvel crown. Captain America: is running around Stonehenge naked and The First Avenger was a much better film than Thor, and seemingly bonkers, and the intern Darcy I suspect Captain America: The Winter Soldier (coming Lewis (Kat Dennings) is so bad at her job early next year) will be a much better film than this. I that she hired her own intern. When Jane seriously could not really tell you what the story was be- mysteriously disappears while the team is cause it’s just not that strong and, as is the problem with investigating an anomaly at an old ware- these kinds of movies, you know that the hero is going house, Darcy calls the police! They’re near- to save the day at the end, so the drama of the universe ly arrested for trespassing, but the location being consumed by darkness isn’t as big of a threat as is left untouched and unattended until the it should be. Ending the movie with Malekith triumphant, film’s climax. It seems odd that such a sig- and tying it in to the next Marvel movie would have been nificant location would be left as a dangling a stunning move. plotline, but it appears that we may learn But… as we’ve come to expect from the Marvel mov- more about it on the TV series Marvel’s ies, there is a tease for next summer’s Guardians of the Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. on the November 19th Galaxy where the Dark Elves’ Aether may figure into the episode. story. It’s a very puzzling and awesome set-up for the Even though Thor is the ostensible lead movie with our first glimpse of … well, I don’t want to character, the film really belongs to Tom completely spoil it! Luckily, that comes just after the first TV during the attack on New York (chronicled in Marvel’s Hiddleston’s Loki. Hiddleston just has a way of making set of credits, but if you stick around all the way to the The Avengers, natch), but he hasn’t been back to earth to evil so beguiling, fooling almost everyone around him that end, you’ll be rewarded with a little stinger reminiscent see her since he abruptly left earth in the first Thor movie. he’s just misunderstood and angry, because he wants the of the shawarma scene at the end of The Avengers. Of course, fans know he couldn’t come back because throne of Asgard but he can’t have it because he’s ad- It ties up one loose and and then gives us a little mo- the bridge between the realms had been destroyed, but opted. We do get to see a couple of different sides to Loki ment of silliness that may also play into the Agents of it’s back now and the upcoming convergence of the Nine this time around as he goes from prisoner to hero while S.H.I.E.L.D. episode. Realms is giving Thor a reason to be concerned about also dealing with a pretty major death. But Hiddleston is Overall, Thor: The Dark World is a lot of fun (even earth once again. It seems the Dark Elves, whom we meet so great in the role that you’re never really sure if he’s if it is a little draggy in the first third) mainly due to Hid- in the film’s prologue, are determined to use the alignment actually helping Thor defeat Malekith (Christopher Ec- dleston’s performance and certainly does not tarnish of the realms to release the Aether and restore darkness to cleston) or is he’s just trying to further his own agenda. anything that’s come before it. Hopefully with the words the universe. Thor must reluctantly seek the assistance of Sadly, Portman and Skarsgård barely have anything “Thor will return” closing out the credits, someone will his imprisoned, adopted brother Loki to stop the Dark Elves to do, even when Jane is transported to Asgard for a brief write a real script with some real character development and save not only the Nine Realms but earth as well. time. I am a fan,though, of Dennings, who brings her for the next Thor outing. For now, what we have is enjoy- A lot of complaints lodged against the first Thor mov- patented brand of snark to the role, but tones down the able, if forgettable. t Exceed Your Expectations

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22 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com Lively Arts // out on screen B’more QFest Debuts with Married & Counting By Steve Charing Jones credited the eight-person on the issue of marriage equality, key dramatic moments with The long-anticipated launch of the LGBT caucus in the General family members of the couple and a good dose of laughter. re-minted Baltimore’s Queet Film Assembly (including McIntosh Stephen’s mother, who was accepting of the couple, made a & Media Festival or B’more QFest and Clippinger) for sharing their memorable statement in reaction to her husband’s religious op- took place on November 2 at the personal stories with other leg- position to same-sex marriage. She said, “People that waive Universal Nightlife & Entertain- islators in a successful bid to the Bible need to read it more.” The comment drew loud cheers ment venue (formerly the Overlea) win over the hearts and minds and applause from the audience. on Belair Road. Both Universal of their colleagues. Asked what drove him to make this film, Allan Piper told and Baltimore OUTloud are the Married & Counting is an up- Baltimore OUTloud, “I was inspired by the beauty of Pat and premiere co-sponsors of the festi- lifting, fun film directed by Allan Stephen’s 25-year relationship.” val. Piper who also spoke to the audi- The showcase screenings continue on December 8, Love “After more than a decade ence touting the success of mar- Will Tear Us Apart will be presented that will include a Moulin without one to call its own, Balti- riage equality in Maryland and the Rouge’esque meet and greet. On January 5, there will be the more is once again hosting a sig- momentum it is gaining through- lesbian-themed film Trigger. On February 2, Bear Shorts will nificant and larger premiere inter- out the country. The film follows be screened along with a featured short Spooners. There will national LGBT film Festival,” said the journey of a gay couple, Pat also be a bear auction; six bears have already agreed to be festival director Chris Lines, a for- From left: Speaker Pro Tem Adrienne A. Jones, Dwyer and Stephen Mosher, who auctioned. mer filmmaker and event planner/ Delegate Luke Clippinger, B’more QFest Director had met in Texas and eventually For a sweet screening, March 2 brings in Birthday Cake fundraiser. Chris Lines, Pat Dwyer and filmmaker Allan Piper moved to New York. and the short Groom’s Cake. A Southern tragic humor double On this night, B’more QFest credit: Steve Charing Realizing that their 25-year bill takes place on April 6 with Del Shores’ Sordid Lives and began a series of monthly show- relationship could not culminate Southern Baptist Sissies. There will be a pot luck and guests case screenings leading up to the Festival itself scheduled in a legal marriage prior to New York’s passage of same-sex are asked to bring in food in your most tacky Corningware or for June 12-15, 2014 with the documentary Married & Count- marriage, they defiantly traveled to the eight states including Pyrex dishes. And on May 4, a Festival sneak preview of the ing. The event was sponsored by Delegate Maggie McIntosh, D.C. and got married in each. The one in D.C. prophetically films scheduled for June will take place. which underscored the theme of marriage equality – a major occurred in front of the U.S. Supreme Court in 2011. Follow- The showcase screenings in advance of the Festival include component of this film. Approximately 60 attended the recep- ing New York’s enacting marriage equality, the final wedding meet and greets and a reception along with the screenings. tion and screening. took place in Coney Island – a metaphorical destination for the Most of the receptions/screenings packages cost $25 or $10 House Speaker Pro Tem Adrienne A. Jones and Delegate rollercoaster range of highs and lows throughout the journey. just for the screening, but there are some exceptions. Check Luke Clippinger delivered remarks about the journey to win The film, narrated by actor George Takei, had its fair share with Bmorequeer.org for the cost of each screening event and marriage equality in 2012 after the effort fell short a year earlier. of sentimentality, romance, excellent historical perspectives times and for more details about the upcoming festival. t Stevenson’s Q Group Presents Drag-U-Cation Byg Oile or ‘Lego’ Dela Cruz show will also be head- will be sold at “The Rock” Tickets will be $5 for Stevenson The Q Group, is an LGBTQIA organization lined by two of the fierc- students and $10 for Guests. Proceeds from ticket sales will at Stevenson University (SU). The orga- est drag queens from be donated to Our Youth, a non-profit organization designed nization helps promotes acceptance and RuPaul’s Drag Race, to help LGBT youth and their straight allies within the N.J. support for the LGBTQIA (Gay, Lesbian, Phi Phi O’Hara (Top and N.Y. area. Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, 3 season 4) and Jade Our Youth helps the young adults find jobs, get into col- Ally) students on the Stevenson Campus. Sotomayor (Season 1 lege, offering free HIV testing referrals, providing nightly activ- It also educates students about the LG- contestant). ities to keep the young BTQI community and encourages a sex- Local queens “I am really excited to adults off the street, positive environment on the SU campus. performing and providing college We offer fun events and activities em- for the show bring Drag-U-Cation to assistance through bracing the GLBTQA students on cam- include: Sue the Our Youth Diver- pus. We are known on campus for orga- Nami, Anita Stevenson University” sity Scholarship Pro- nizing and hosting 3 big events on campus Minnet, Di- gram. The Our Youth such as: “The Coming Out Monologues,” vya Flowers, Shaunda Diversity Scholarship Program provides a scholarship to a The Vagina Monologues, and “The Gala Leer, and Stevenson’s high school senior in the New Jersey and New York area. (queer prom).” This fall I am excited to in- own Althea Imnotso- I am really excited to bring Drag-U-Cation to Steven- troduce a new production in addition to The sure. son University. I’ve been trying to push for the event since Q Group’s events, Drag-U-Cation. The show will take last year and I am so stoked that it is finally happening. It Drag-U-Cation is a production which place on November is a great way to bring something new to the campus and originated from CCBC and was founded by 23rd from 7 p.m. to 9 to leave and graduate (December 2013) Stevenson with a Shane Messick. The production invites drag p.m. at the Rockland “bang”. t queens from the Baltimore area to entertain Banquet Room at Ste- For more information and updates about the event you students as well as educate students about venson University in may contact [email protected]. The author is pres- the LGBTQIA and drag community. The Owings Mills. Tickets ident of the Q Group BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 15, 2013 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 23 Lively Arts

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At one the Wyndam Peabody Court Hotel to toast with the love of his life, David. cocktail party was hosted by Mr. Maryland point out going COMMAND President An- COMMAND’s 25th anniversary with a sit On Saturday, November 2, 2013, Kris Leather 2013 Bob Rose and a gathering of drew McCarty took a few minutes to in- down dinner in the beautiful Rooftop Room DeBlase found himself once again on the past Mr. Maryland Leather titleholders. In troduce the judges and contestants. No overlooking Mt. Vernon Square. After- Hippo stage. Having just been announced honor of COMMAND’s silver anniversary one could complain about this impressive wards the Three Rivers Leather Club pro- as the newly elected president of COM- and looking ahead towards Daddy Christ- panel of judges which included two men vided wonderful coffee drinks in the Hos- MAND, M.C., Kris beamed with pride as mas the ShipMates were thinking of silver who had won International Mr. Leather. pitality Suite followed by a cocktail party his partner, now fiancé, David Pfau was bells and presented a little holiday preview The judges were International Mr. Leather put on by the Centaur, M.C. The evening sashed Mr. Maryland Leather 2014. First complete with melon ball punch, holiday 2012 Woddy Woodruff, International Mr. ended with a Victory Party for Mr. Maryland Runner-up to Mr. Maryland Leather 2014 snacks, and hot chocolate with peppermint Leather 1994 Jeff Tucker, Mr. D.C. Eagle Leather 2014 David Pfau at Leon’s Leather was ShipMate President Thomas Idoux. schnapps. When the ShipMates were fin- 2012 (2nd runner-up at International Mr. Lounge. The third contestant was Steve “Skippy” ished, the Beltway Bears kept everyone in Leather 2012) Kevin Jordan, Mr. South- COMMAND’s big weekend ended Sun- Stone who is the newest member of the the spirit until it was time to head over to east Conference of Clubs 2009 Jeff Jarni- day morning with a buffet breakfast back in ShipMates. All three contestants did a Grand Central Station for the official meet- gan, Mid-Atlantic Leather Woman 2012 The Rooftop Room. It was great to see so great job. &-greet party. Toni Solenne, Mr. Connecticut Leather many of my leather family from out of town COMMAND MC’s 25th Anniversary Grand Central owner Don Davis turned 2011 Daddy Tim White, and Mr. Maryland in Baltimore. I had a chance to congratu- Leather 2012 boy joe chmielowski-liu. Mu- late David again on Friday, November 8 sic for the Meet & Greet party was provid- when he attended the ShipMates’ bar night Mr. Maryland Leather contestants: ed by DJ Bill of the Reading Railmen. at the Triple L. I know he will represent David Pfau, Thomas Idoux, and Saturday afternoon brought the Mr. Maryland well next May at IML in Chicago. Steve (Skippy) Stone Maryland Leather 2014 Contest at the Hip- On Saturday, November 23, the gang po. There was also a large silent auction. down in Washington will select their IML Mr. Exile Leather 2010 Robert Chandler representative when they sash Mr. D.C. kept the contest moving as the emcee. Eagle 2014 at 9 p.m. at the D.C. Eagle. Entertainment was provided by Miss Gay Word is that the management of the D.C. Maryland 2013 Araya Sparxx and Balti- Eagle also plans to announce the new lo- more’s Queen of Comedy Shawna Alex- cation for the popular leather bar. I will be ander. sure to bring you that information. A Mr. Maryland Leather 2013 Bob Rose lso coming up on Saturday, November had a very interesting step-down speech 23 from noon to 4 p.m. the Leatherboys of which included questions from the audi- Maryland are hosting “ASL: Leather, Lunch ence. Thank you Carol Burnett. & Learn” at the Club Hippo. There will be My favorite question was asked by one a brunch and four presenters. Admission is of my dear friends who shall remain name- just $15. It will be a great chance to learn less because he is a long time OUTloud some sign language. advertiser. The audience roared when he Proceeds will benefit the Sharon St. asked, “Is this going to be over soon?” In Cyr Fund (SSC) and will be earmarked for another surprising moment I was deeply ASL interpretation in Maryland. It should honored when COMMAND presented me be a wonderful afternoon. 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