February 22, 2019 In This Issue ESSEESSENGERNGER M Serving the Diocese of Covington, Kentucky since 1926

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2 Called to Love vocational retreat (above) Daniel Mumuni, Catholic Relief Services program manager, McGovern-Dole Food for Education pro- 2 Catechesis and Faith gram, Sierra Leone, was the keynote speaker at the annual CRS Operation Rice Bowl kickoff luncheon Feb. 15 Formation at Bishop Howard Auditorium, Covington. (above right) Alan Pickett, executive director, Catholic NCYC orientation Charities, emceed the event. (below left) During lunch students were assigned to specific tables with leaders representing one of several local agencies that assist the poor and marginalized in the area. (below) The Rice Bowl kickoff luncheon planning committee is pictured with Mr. Mumuni and Marthamaria Morales, 3 Experiences to help you CRS relationship manager – SE region. get ready for

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7 ‘We Choose Life’ 10 ‘Be Witnesses’ Students prepare hearts for LentatRice Bowl luncheon David Cooley dents who created the displays offered information about the coun- 21 Obituary Associate Editor tries and its greatest needs. Richard Louis Lange Around 65 student representatives from five high schools and 12 During lunch students were assigned to specific tables with leaders elementary schools participated, Feb. 15, in the annual Catholic Relief representing one of several local agencies that assist the poor and 24 Same day ultrasounds at Services (CRS) Operation Rice Bowl kickoff luncheon at Bishop marginalized in the area. The table leaders were: Andy Brunsman, Howard Memorial Auditorium, Covington. The local (CRS) Rice Bowl executive director, Be Concerned; Vicky Bauerle, institutional Care Net event is co-sponsored by Catholic Charities – Diocese of Covington advancement manager, Catholic Charities; Brandy Mendaugh, case and the diocesan Office of Stewardship and Mission Services. At the manager of Catholic Charities’ St. Joseph Apartments; Benedictine Bishop’s Schedule ...... 3 event the junior high and high school students learned about the pop- Sister Cathy Bauer; Connor Creaghead, assessment and resource coor- Commentary ...... 4 ular CRS Rice Bowl Lenten project, local poverty and what local social dinator, Welcome House; Gina Cornelius, housing counselor, HONK; service agencies are doing to face the challenges of the community. Jill Hilgefort, executive director, Faith Community Pharmacy; Karen People and Events ...... 8 Catholic Relief Services is the official international humanitarian Zengel, executive director, Society of St. Vincent de Paul; and Kim Saint Snippet ...... 9 agency of the Catholic community in the . CRS Rice Webb, executive director, Emergency Shelter of Northern Kentucky. Classifieds ...... 20 Bowl is Catholic Relief Services’ Lenten program for families and Each leader explained to the students how his or her organization Entertainment ...... 22 faith communities in the United States who want to put faith into serves the community. The students reflected on what they heard and Shopper’s Guide ...... 22 action. Through CRS Rice Bowl, participants hear stories about peo- brainstormed ways they could bring the information back to their News Briefs ...... 23 ple in need around the world, and devote Lenten , and schools, inspire other students and make a positive impact in the alms to change the lives of those who suffer in poverty. world. As students and guests entered Bishop Howard Memorial The CRS keynote speaker was Daniel Mumuni, program manager, Missed an edition? Current and back Auditorium they were directed to three interactive displays created by McGovern-Dole Food for Education program, Sierra Leone. The issues of the Messenger are available students from St. Joseph Academy, Walton. The displays provided McGovern-Dole Food for Education program provides food for chil- online at covdio.org/messenger. information about a few of the countries that CRS serves. The stu- (Continued on page 19) Palmstoashes:Afew thingstoknow about AshWednesday Mark Pattison hymns that speak to the length of the season — one of them is Catholic News Service “Lord, Who Throughout These Forty Days” — but the span between Ash is March 6 this year. Here are some things to March 6 and Sunday, which is April 21, is 46 days. So what know about Ash Wednesday and the kickoff to Lent: gives? In the Table of Liturgical Days, which ranks the different litur- “It might be more accurate to say that there is the ‘40-day fast gical celebrations and seasons, Ash within Lent,’” said Father Randy Stice, Wednesday ties for second in ranking — associate director of the U.S. along with , , Conference of Catholic Bishops’ Ascension, , Sundays of Ash Wednesday Secretariat of Divine Worship. , Lent and Easter, and a few oth- On Ash Wednesday, March 6, Bishop “Historically, Lent has varied from a ers. But Ash Wednesday is not a holy Roger Foys will bless ashes for distribution week to three weeks to the present con- day of obligation, though it is a day of and celebrate , 10 a.m. at the figuration of 46 days,” Father Stice said , , fasting and repen- Cathedral Basilica of the Assumption, in an email to Catholic News Service. tance. Covington. “The 40-day fast, however, has been Top ranked in the table are the more stable. The Sundays of Lent are — the Holy Thursday Ash Wednesday marks the official start of certainly part of the time of Lent, but Mass of the Lord’s Supper, Good the penitential season of Lent. they are not prescribed days of fast and and the — along with Easter abstinence.” There are six Sundays in Sunday. isn’t a holy day of Lent, including . obligation either, but Catholics are encouraged to attend for The ashes used for Ash Wednesday are made from the burned a liturgy commemorating Christ’s crucifixion and death. and blessed palms of the previous year’s . Ash Wednesday begins the liturgical season of Lent. There are (Continued on page 2) 2 February 22, 2019 Messenger

Vocational retreat attendees hearof the tremendous impact women religious have hadonChurch and community Keener photos Laura Keener ing. He believes it is because there are so many other voic- Editor es that interfere with a person hearing God’s voice. He also Over 50 young ladies — middle school- and high school- said that the current culture, with its many luxuries, make aged — attended the Called to Love vocational retreat, Feb. it difficult to trust and depend on God. 16, at All Saints Church, Walton, Ky. The retreat was spon- Quoting one of the bishops that he had worked with, sored by the Sisters of St. Joseph the Worker. Several reli- Bishop Foys said, “In days gone by faith was easy but life gious communities, including the Franciscan Daughters was difficult. Now life is easy but faith is difficult.” of Mary and Passionists Sisters of Erlanger, also attended “The Church needs women and men religious whether sharing information about their religious communities it is an active vocation teaching, working in the hospital or and charisms. an orphanage, or a contemplative vocation praying for The retreat ended with a visit by Bishop Roger Foys and God’s people. Mass. When we look at all the good work women religious do In his talk before Mass, Bishop Foys shared how impor- for our Church and our country and our people it almost tant women relgious are to the Church, to local communi- blows your mind.” ties and individiuals, including himself. Bishop Foys said that when he was preparing for his 25th jubilee he invited the sisters who had taught him in elementary school to the celebration. Three were still liv- ing — his first-grade, second-grade and eighth-grade teach- ers. All three accepted, the first two thanking him for the invitation, his eighth-grade teacher admonished, “It’s about time!” “I felt like I was in eighth grade all over again,” he said as the ladies laughed. But, he said, “It reminded me of how the sisters had influenced me and the tremendous impact the sisters had on the Church and on the community.” Bishop Foys explained to the girls that without women religious in the United States — and most especially in Northern Kentucky — there would be no Catholic schools, no universities and no hospitals as there are now. “They started all that, they were the CEOs and the prin- cipals,” he said. “They went into the convent because the Lord touched their hearts and because they were up to the challenge and they wanted to make a real difference.” He went on to share that in the United States, despite an increase of over 30 million Catholics between 1965 and (top) Franciscan Daughter of Mary Sister Veronica Mary Carlson shared information, Feb. 16, about the mission and 2017, vocations to the priesthood and religious life have ministry of the Franciscan Daughters with young ladies attending the Called to Love vocational retreat. (above left) decrease dramatically — from 200,000 to 56,000 religious St. Joseph the Worker Sister Patricia Jean Cushing gave attendees last minute instructions moments before sisters. The decrease, he said, is not because God isn’t call- (above right) Bishop Roger Foys arrived to speak at the retreat. The Sisters of St. Joseph the Worker hosted the retreat.

NCYC conference to be active participants in parish min- Parishes invitedtodiscuss howtosend youth istries. Parish youth ministers, chaperones and leaders of all parish ministers are encouraged to attend to and welcome youth home from NCYC the orientation to share ideas on how to engage youth at the parish. Laura Keener offers certification and development pro- “The youth come back from NCYC energized Editor grams for youth ministers. This year’s but the momentum quickly dies when they get Why do I do what I do? Why was I baptized? God became NCYC, “Blessed, Broken, Given,” will be back home because nobody from the parishes man, so what? What does that mean for me? Catholic youth held Nov. 21-23 at Lucas Oil Stadium, engages them,” Mr. Isaak said. can begin to find the answers to these questions of faith by Indianapolis, Indiana. The 3-day confer- In year’s past, Mr. Isaak believes that parish attending the upcoming National Catholic Youth ence offers motivational speakers and members maybe didn’t realize that youth from Conference (NCYC). inspiring music. Also, many bishops from their parish were attending NCYC or how “It’s easy to baptize people and teach them the faith but the United States will be in attendance to Nov. 21-23 NCYC might connect with parish ministries. By we have to let them know that the sacraments can trans- celebrate Mass, hear confessions and Lucas Oil Stadium getting together at the orientation and sharing form their life; that Jesus works in those sacraments,” said encourage youth to be active and fruitful ideas Mr. Isaak believes that youth ministers Isaak A. Isaak, director, diocesan Catechesis and Faith members of the Church. and chaperones and parish leaders will bridge that gap. Formation Office. “The challenge we have is to help youth To prepare for NCYC, Mr. Isaak is hosting an orienta- “This is very vital for our diocese and our parishes,” he understand what we are saying so that it transforms their tion, March 9, 9 a.m.–noon, at Bishop Howard Memorial said. “Evangelization done peer-to-peer is always a good life. We get stuck on the teaching part but we don’t help Auditorium, Covington. The orientation will not only pro- thing.When the youth come back from this conference youth live out their faith. That’s where NCYC comes in.” vide information about the conference — like meals, hotels they can help the parishes by collaborating and helping NCYC is biennial youth conference hosted by the and transportation — but will also cover how to fundraise the youth ministers and others in their parishes.” National Federation of Catholic Youth Ministers for and recruit youth to attend the trip. More importantly, To register for the NCYC orientation call Maggie Spears (NFCYM). Under the guidance of the United States this year, Mr. Isaak said, the orientation will help parishes at the Catechesis and Formation Office at (859) 392-1500 or e- Conference of Catholic Bishops (USCCB), the NFCYM prepare to engage the youth who are returning from the mail [email protected].

receive ashes at Ash Wednesday services, according to the Good Friday is another. Abstinence means refraining from AshWednesday Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate at eating meat; fish is OK. Fasting means reducing one’s (Continued from page 1) Georgetown University. intake of food, like eating two small meals that together You might not have noticed, but the use of the word would not equal one full meal. “The palms are burned in a metal vessel and then bro- “” is verboten during Lent. What is known as the “Fasting during Lent followed the example of Jesus’ 40- ken down into a powder. I believe ashes can also be pur- “Alleluia verse” preceding the becomes known dur- day fast in the wilderness. It also recalled the 40 days that chased from Catholic supply companies,” Father Stice ing Lent as “the verse before the Gospel,” with a variety of fasted on Sinai and the 40 days that Elijah fasted on said. possible phrases to be used — none of which include an his journey to Mount Horeb,” Father Stice said. “As far as I know, palms from the previous year are alleluia. “In the second century, Christians prepared for the feast always dry enough,” he added. “Parishes normally ask “The alleluia was known for its melodic richness and in of Easter with a two-day fast. This was extended to all of parishioners to bring their palms shortly before Ash the early Church was considered to ornament the liturgy in the third century. In 325 the Council of Nicea Wednesday, so there is no need to store them. People usual- in a special way,” Father Stice said, adding it was banned spoke of a 40-day period of preparation for Easter as some- ly like to keep the blessed palm as long as possible.” from Lenten Masses in the fifth or sixth century. thing already obvious and familiar to all.” Almost half of adult Catholics, 45 percent, typically Ash Wednesday also is a day of abstinence and fasting; Messenger February 22, 2019 3

Lenten presentations and retreats offer rich Official assignments experiences for the faithful Effective Tuesday, Jan. 1, 2019 David Cooley and RCIA at St. Joseph Parish, Cold Spring, said that Associate Editor Presentation Ministries offers this retreat every year in Gerald Franzen It’s hard to believe but Lent, that period of prayer and their own archdiocese and approached her in the fall about To: Diocesan Worship Commission fasting before the of Easter, is right around the hosting at St. Joseph Church to make it easily available to Term: Two years corner. Lent begins on Ash Wednesday, this year March 6, the people of the Diocese of Covington. Continues other duties and ends on Holy Thursday, April 18. The season, which “Most people are looking for that extra spiritual enrich- reflects upon the 40 days Jesus spent in prayer and fasting ment during their Lenten season,” Mrs. Klocke said. “We Effective Monday, Feb. 4, 2019 in the desert before begin- are used to doing the fast- ning his public ministry, ing, the praying and the Carol Branch traditionally beckons the almsgiving, and this is a To: Catholic Charities Advisory Board faithful to personal sacri- Sisters of Notre Dame Ash Wednesday day of way to get a head start on Term: Three years fice and almsgiving. This recollection, March 6, 9 a.m.–2 p.m., SND provincial the prayer aspect. This is a year in the Diocese of way to explore how we can Deacon Gerald Franzen center, Park Hills. There will be presentations by Covington several opportu- build a new life and use To: Catholic Charities Advisory Board nities are being made avail- Notre Dame Sister Jacquelyn Gusdane, as well as this Lenten season of Term: Three years able to help the faithful pre- time for personal reflection, lunch, sacrament of reflection to do that.” Continues other duties pare for Lent and have a , Mass and distribution of ashes. St. Joseph Parish has more fruitful Lenten jour- an 8:30 a.m. Mass on Gregory T. George ney. Saturdays and Mrs. To: Catholic Charities Advisory Board The Sisters of Notre St. Joseph Parish, Cold Spring, “Living in Klocke said that people are Term: Three years Dame are offering an Ash Reality: Discipleship Retreat,” March 8–9, the welcome to attend Mass Edward S. Monohan, IV Wednesday Day of first weekend of Lent. This event is free and open to before the seminar regis- To: Catholic Charities Advisory Board Recollection, March 6, 9 the public. The event begins with stations of the tration begins at 9 a.m. in a.m.–2p.m., at the SND Memorial Hall, followed Term: Three years cross, followed by praise and worship and a talk on Provincial House, Park by breakfast and fellow- Friday evening, which is open to anyone with no Hills. Notre Dame Sister ship. The presentations Effective Monday, Feb. 11, 2019 Jacquelyn Gusdane from registration. The seminar is all day Saturday (9 a.m.– and music will begin at 10 Chardon, Ohio, will lead 4 p.m.) and requires pre-registration, as it includes a.m. Rev. Samuel K. Owusu the presentations. Sister continental breakfast and lunch. Contact: (937) 587- The seminar, which To: Parochial vicar, St. Joseph Parish, Cold Spring Jacquelyn describes her 5464 or (513) 373-2397 or e-mail retreats@presenta- has the theme “Living in From: Ghana, Africa life as “very rich and full, tionministries.com. Reality,” will consider four always blessed by God.” basic realities revealed by By order of Her personal mission in life Christ. According to lead- the Most Rev. Roger J. Foys, D.D. centers on spirituality, edu- “Lent: Count it all Joy!” presented by Divine ers at Presentation Bishop of the Diocese of Covington cation and leadership. Her Ministries, many people, Providence Sister Mary Kay Kramer, March 9, 9– most recent volunteer work even Christians, are not in involved ministering to 11:30 a.m., St. Anne Province Center, Melbourne. touch with reality as a refugees from Afghanistan, RSVP by Feb. 28 by e-mail: [email protected] result of sin and the secu- Jamie N. Schroeder, Africa and Syria. or calling Judy Kitchen, 912-0665. lar humanistic culture. By Chancellor The day of recollection repentance from sin and will focus on listening, total commitment to praying and sharing ways The Benedictine Sisters of St. Walburg Jesus, Christians can to nurture a life that is build a new life and life- Monastery, Villa Hills, Lenten morning of reflection Bishop’s reflective amidst the many entitled “Lent: a Justice and Peace Journey to style in the Spirit. demands and obligations of “My hope is that this is New Life,” presented by Divine Providence Sister Schedule everyday life. The Notre a way for people to get Dame Sisters are hoping Alice Gerdeman, March 23; pastries and coffee, 9 more in touch with Christ that attendees will be filled a.m.; reflection 9:30 a.m.–noon. pre-register and with their Christian Feb. 22 Feb. 26 (continued) with a new hope and a with Benedictine Sister Deborah Harmeling, 331- faith so that they can take High School principal , St. Patrick growing desire to deepen 6771 or [email protected]. what they get from the meeting, 7:30 a.m. Parish, Taylor Mill, 7 p.m. their relationship with retreat and really put it Jesus, those they love and into action in their lives. Individual meeting, 10 a.m. Feb. 27 High School principal the world around them. That is the piece that is Groundbreaking ceremony, meeting, 7:30 a.m. The day will include Mass and distribution of ashes. sometimes missing for us, we go to Mass and we separate Bishop Brossart High School, St. Joseph Parish, Cold Spring, will be hosting a retreat that from what happens in our everyday life,” Mrs. Klocke Alexandria, 2 p.m. Feb. 28 given by Presentation Ministries of the Cincinnati said. Feb. 22-23 Episcopal Council meeting, Archdiocese, March 8-9, the first weekend of Lent. This Another opportunity at the beginning of Lent is “Lent: Monthly day of recollection, 9:30 a.m. event will begin Friday, with , fol- Count it all Joy!” presented by Divine Providence Sister St. Gertrude Priory, Madeira Confirmation, St. Francis lowed by praise and worship music and a talk entitled Mary Kay Kramer, March 9, 9–11:30 a.m., at St. Anne Feb. 24 Xavier Parish, Falmouth, “Discovering our Christian identity.” The retreat will con- Province Center, Melbourne. Mass, Cathedral Basilica of 7 p.m. tinue the next day with an all-day seminar. There is no cost A little later on in the season, the Benedictine Sisters of the Assumption, Covington, March 1 to attend either day, but there is a registration requirement St. Walburg Monastery, Villa Hills, will offer a Lenten 10 a.m., followed by baptism School visit, St. Cecilia School, for the Saturday seminar since in includes breakfast and morning of reflection entitled “Lent: a Justice and Peace Feb. 25 Independence, 10 a.m. lunch. Journey to New Life,” presented by Divine Providence High School principal Young Adult group candle- Vicki Klocke, coordinator of Adult Faith Formation Sister Alice Gerdeman, March 23, 9:30 a.m.–noon. meeting, 7:30 a.m. light Mass, Divine Mercy Catholic Charities Board of Parish, Bellevue, 7 p.m. Trustees meeting, 10 a.m. March 2 Deanery Pastoral Council work continues Anniversary celebration, Franciscan Daughters of Messenger Staff Report ments and getting a sense of what the consensus is — noon Mary, final profession of Due to safety concerns at the Curia office building, Jan. whether or not they affirm or disaffirm each objective,” vows, St. Benedict Church, Confirmation (includes Divine Covington, 10 a.m. 26, this year’s Deanery Pastoral Council (DPC) convoca- said Mrs. Schroeder. Mercy and Holy Spirit tion was cancelled, but the work of the DPC will continue. The DPC members will share any comments from their Parishes), St. Bernard Church, March 3 Jamie Schroeder, chancellor, said that DPC members parish councils and discuss the diocesan annual plan with Dayton, 7 p.m. Mass, Cathedral Basilica, received copies of the proposed 2019–2020 diocesan annual other DPC members at its February/March deanery meet- 10 a.m. Feb. 26 plan in January in preparation for the convocation and, ings. Combined reports from each deanery are due to the Individual meeting, 8 a.m. Serra Club Server awards and despite not being able to hear directly from Curia staff Chancery by March 25 and will be shared with the Curia Vespers, Cathedral Basilica, about their office objectives, should use the documents to staff. Knights of Columbus 3 p.m. discuss the annual plan with parish councils. The Curia staff will meet April 11 to finalize the plan in presentation, 10 a.m. “The DPC members will go over each objective with time for the budget process. Curia staff luncheon, their parish council gathering their input, questions, com- 11:30 a.m. 4 February 22, 2019 Messenger COMMENTARY The ever-present totalitarian temptation First circulated underground in communist read, “Workers of the World, Unite!” but what it really cial nominee who happened to be a Knight? If Senator Czechoslovakia in October 1978, Vaclav Havel’s brilliant says is, “Please leave me alone.” Harris is free to reject P.C. shibboleths about race and dissection of totalitarianism, “The Power of the The totalitarian impulse did not (and does not) express identity and thereby call the nation to look at “the other” Powerless,” retains its salience four decades later. It itself only through constant surveillance, the sharp as a fellow-citizen rather than a racial category, why should be required reading knock on the door in the dead of night, the sudden disap- shouldn’t the Knights of Columbus and all pro-lifers be THE CATHOLIC for politicians given to pearance, the slave labor camp. As the word implies, and free to register our vigorous dissent from the notion that DIFFERENCE describing the Knights of Havel’s greengrocer analogy illustrates, totalitarianism an unborn child should have less moral and legal status Columbus as an “extrem- demands something more than external obedience to the in America than a protected species of bird in a national ist” organization because of system. It demands that others concede that they are forest — and thereby call the nation to relearn the truth the Knights’ pro-life convic- wrong and that the totalitarians are right. To be socially about the inalienable right to life on which it once staked tions and activism. acceptable, one must not just toe the line visibly; one its claim to independence? Havel began his essay must be converted. In several states, efforts are underway to drive pro-life with a homely but devastat- When United States senators describe the Knights of Americans to the margins of public life and to coerce the ing vignette. A Columbus as “extremist” — and by implication apply that consciences of pro-life physicians and nurses. Those ini- Czechoslovak greengrocer epithet to all of us who think like the Knights on the life tiatives illustrate a hard truth: the totalitarian impulse is arranging vegetables in issues and the nature of marriage — those legislators are can rear its ugly head in well-established democracies his shop window. There, declaring us socially unacceptable: people whose commit- like the United States. Yes, there are totalitarians on the amidst the carrots and ments to democracy are suspect; people who should be alt-right. The far more consequential of today’s totalitari- onions, he puts a small shunned as morally unclean; people who are leprous. an are the proponents of lifestyle libertinism, who are George Weigel sign, “Workers of the One of the senators who indulged the totalitarian quite prepared to deplore as un-American anyone who World, Unite!” Why? Havel temptation in respect of the Knights of Columbus, disagrees that abortion up to the moment of birth is a asks. What does that dreary Marxist slogan have to do California’s Kamala Harris, is now running for the presi- basic human right; or anyone who believes that “mar- with vegetables? Does the sign manifest the greengrocer’s dency. Senator Harris is the daughter of an Indian moth- riage” is the permanent union of a man and a woman; or fervent political convictions? Does the greengrocer feel an er and an African-American father. When the scribal anyone who thinks it child abuse to “transgender” a pre- irrepressible desire to share the communist gospel with guardians of political correctness began hassling her adolescent or adolescent. all who pass by? with questions about her “identity,” the senator sensibly This is the new McCarthyism of the left. And while it No, Havel answered, the greengrocer’s sign is some- brushed off such impertinent and irrelevant inquiries by won’t create a new Un-American Activities Committee in thing else: it’s a white flag. It’s a signal to the authorities, saying, simply, that she’s “an American.” That was exact- the U.S. House of Representatives, its message will be including the police and the government whole- ly the right answer. similar: those who disagree with us are, well, un- saler who provides the store with supplies, that this shop- But isn’t that answer in considerable tension with the American. That calumny must be stoutly resisted. keeper is reliable. He won’t make trouble. He won’t dis- attack on the “extremist” Knights of Columbus in which George Weigel is a senior fellow of the Ethics and Public sent from the official “truth” of things. The sign may she had joined, during a Senate hearing on a federal judi- Policy Center in Washington, D.C. NewYork,abortion andashort routetochaos It was the celebration that was particularly galling. On logical markers, smokescreens. Or if I can borrow the ter- the very least, Mario Cuomo could declare himself deeply the 46th anniversary of the Roe v. Wade decision, the gov- minology of Jordan Peterson, they are the chattering of conflicted, anguished, willing to support abortion law ernor of New York, Andrew Cuomo, signed into law a demons, the distracting hubbub of the father of lies. only as a regrettable political necessity in a pluralistic protocol that gives practically unrestricted access to abor- I recall that during the presidential campaign of 2016, democracy. tion, permitting the killing of an unborn child up until Hillary Clinton was asked several times whether the But in a single generation, we have moved from reluc- the moment of delivery. In child in the womb, within minutes of birth, has constitu- tant toleration to unbridled celebration, from struggling WORD ON FIRE the wake of the ratifica- tional rights, and this extremely intelligent, experienced, Mario to exultant Andrew. And there is a simple reason tion, the legislators and and canny politician said, over and over again, “That’s for this. A privatized religion, one that never incarnates their supporters whooped, what our law dictates.” itself in gesture, behavior and moral commitment, rapid- hollered, and cheered, a Therefore, by a sheer accident of location, the unborn ly evanesces. Once-powerful convictions, never concretely display depressingly simi- baby can be butchered, and the same baby, moments later expressed, devolve, practically overnight, into pious lar to the jubilation that and in the arms of his mother, must be protected by full velleities — and finally disappear altogether. broke out in Ireland when a force of law. That many of our political leaders can’t or In Robert Bolt’s magnificent play regarding St. referendum legalizing abor- won’t see how utterly ludicrous this is can only be the Thomas More, “A Man for All Seasons,” we find a telling tion passed last year. result of ideological indoctrination. exchange between Cardinal Wolsey, a hard-bitten, largely Of course, all of the As I watched film of Andrew Cuomo signing this amoral politico, and the saintly More. Wolsey laments, rhetoric about women’s repulsive bill into law, my mind drifted back to 1984 and “You’re a constant regret to me, Thomas. If you could just rights and reproductive an auditorium at the University of Notre Dame where see facts flat on, without that horrible moral squint, with health and empowerment Cuomo’s father, Mario — also governor of New York at just a little common sense, you could have been a states- Bishop Robert Barron was trotted out, but who the time — delivered a famous address. In his lengthy and man.” can fail to see what was at intellectually substantive speech, Gov. Cuomo presented To which More responds, “Well…I believe when states- stake? If an infant, lying peacefully in a bassinet in his himself, convincingly, as a faithful Catholic, thoroughly men forsake their own private conscience for the sake of parents’ home, were brutally killed and dismembered, the convinced in conscience that abortion is morally outra- their public duties…they lead their country by a short entire country would rightfully be outraged and call for geous. But he also made a fateful distinction that has route to chaos.” an investigation of the murder. But now the law of New been exploited by liberal Catholic politicians for the past Abandoning the convictions of one’s conscience in the York confirms that that same child, moments before his 35 years. He explained that though he was personally exercise of one’s public duties is precisely equivalent to birth, resting peacefully in his mother’s womb, can be, opposed to abortion, he was not willing to pursue legal “I’m personally opposed but unwilling to take concrete with utter impunity, pulled apart with forceps. And the action to abolish it or even to limit it, since he was the action to instantiate my opposition.” police won’t be summoned; rather, it appears, the killing representative of all the people, and not just of those who And this abandonment — evident in Mario Cuomo’s should be a matter of celebration. shared his Catholic convictions. 1984 address — has indeed led by a short road to chaos, An ideology, taken in the negative sense, is a conceptu- Now this distinction is an illegitimate one, which is evident in Andrew Cuomo’s joyful celebration of a law al framework that blinds one to reality. The purpose of evident the moment we draw an analogy to other public permitting the murder of children. any ideational system, obviously, is to shed light, to bring matters of great moral import: “I’m personally opposed Bishop Robert Barron is an Auxiliary Bishop of the us closer to the truth of things, but an ideology does the to slavery, but I’ll take no action to outlaw it or limit its Archdiocese of Los Angeles. Article originally published at reverse, effectively obfuscating reality, distancing us from spread”; “I personally find Jim Crow laws repugnant, but WordOnFire.org. truth. All of the buzz terms I mentioned above are ideo- I will pursue no legal strategy to undo them”; etc. But at

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Production Coordinator/Designer Telephone: (859) 392-1500 E-mail: [email protected] Editorial deadline: Friday noon, 7 days prior to date. www.covdio.org Subscriptions, address changes: Contact Circulation Dept. at above address. Messenger February 22, 2019 5 COMMENTARY Modern interpretation Joinusonthe journey through Lent Lent reminds us that we are pilgrims on the path of disci- Mary’s life. These events include Simeon’s prophecy in the of the golden rule pleship, living out the paschal mystery in our lives, each Temple, the flight into Egypt, the loss of Jesus in the The readings for the seventh Sunday in according to our own vocation. Temple, the encounter with Jesus on the way of the Cross, Time — Cycle “C” are: 1 Samuel 26:2, 7-9, 12-13, 22-23; 1 I think it is helpful to have a resolution or personal inten- Mary standing at the foot of the Cross, the reception of her Corinthians 15:45-49; and Luke 6:27-38. tion to help focus our spiritual efforts during this period of Son’s body after his death and his placement in the tomb. One of my favorite comic strips is “The Wizard of Id.” prayer and penance. Trusting in the power of her intercession, this Lent I’ve (Unfortunately it no longer appears in the local papers.) As This year I’ve chosen to decided to offer the Seven Sorrows Rosary for the needs and with most comic strips, the thing that makes the Wizard of travel through Lent in the intentions of young people. Id humorous is that it offers us a satirical parody of real life. GUEST company of Mary, the It’s not that I want to give young people the impression We laugh, because what we see portrayed we know to be mother of Jesus and his that following Jesus is nothing but a long road of suffering. only preposterously “make believe.” Yet the message usually first and most faithful disci- However, prayerfully reflecting on Mary’s sorrows helps us sticks with us, because we recognize that there’s more truth ple. I invite you to do the to understand what it means to persevere through life’s in the humor than we same, and to join me, as inevitable difficulties. would like to admit. well, in offering prayers In Panama Francis encouraged young people to IGHTH AY E D I was recently reminded and sacrifices for young look to Mary as a model of great strength and faithfulness. of one of the King of Id’s people during this holy sea- During the celebration of the Stations of the Cross, the remarks that appeared in son. pope said, “From her let us learn how to stand beneath the an episode many years ago. Last year’s Synod of cross with her same determination and courage, without After engaging in harsh Bishops on Young People, evasions or illusions. She accompanied the suffering of her treatment of one of the together with January’s cel- Son … yet was not overwhelmed by it. She was the woman of peasants, the King was ebration of World Youth strength who uttered her ‘yes,’ who supports and accompa- asked by the clergyman if Day in Panama, has drawn nies, protects and embraces. She is the great guardian of he had ever heard of the Sister Constance our attention to the situa- hope.” Golden Rule. The King Veit, L.S.P. tion of young adults in soci- The next evening, during the Prayer Vigil, Pope Francis immediately professed to ety and the church. These proposed Mary’s “yes” to God in the Annunciation as a live according to the events challenged us to accompany young adults in their model worth following. “She knew what was at stake and Golden Rule, which he faith journey and vocational discernment. said ‘yes’ … It was the ‘yes’ of someone prepared to be com- Father Daniel Vogelpohl believed to be: “He that has “Being present, supporting and accompanying the jour- mitted, someone willing to take a risk, ready to stake every- the gold, rules.” ney towards authentic choices is one way for the church to thing she had, with no more security than the certainty of In 1992, the King’s interpretation of the Golden Rule was exercise her maternal function,” the Synod Fathers wrote. knowing that she was the bearer of a promise ... The ‘yes’ implied when Donald Trump sincerely suggested that con- “Service of this kind is simply the continuation of the way and the desire to serve were stronger than any doubts and victed rapist, heavyweight boxer, Mike Tyson, be permitted in which the God of Jesus Christ acts towards his people: difficulties.” to buy his way out of prison, donating money to women’s through constant and heartfelt presence, dedicated and lov- During this Lenten season, I’d like to invite readers, espe- crisis centers instead. In other words, if you have the money, ing closeness and tenderness without limits.” cially young people, to join me and our elderly residents in you can determine the laws that you will be subject to. Our Lady embodies these qualities, for she knew how to pondering Mary as our Lord’s first and most courageous, Today’s Gospel gives us the true Golden Rule: “Do to oth- ponder events in her heart and she proved herself attentive most faithful disciple. Please join us on the journey! ers what you would have them do to you.” to others’ needs. Generations have called her Our Lady of Each week we’ll be posting reflections from the Synod We need to remember that today’s Gospel selection is a Tenderness, Mother of Mercy and Virgin Most Faithful. A documents and our Holy Father’s talks during World Youth continuation of the “Sermon on the Plain” begun by Jesus number of traditional Catholic devotions such as the Rosary Day in Panama, together with video meditations on the in last Sunday’s reading. (Luke’s “Sermon on the Plain” and the Stations of the Cross lead us to ponder Mary’s expe- Seven Sorrows Rosary. Please join us at somewhat parallels Matthew’s “.”) riences and her role in her Son’s saving mission. www.LittleSistersofthePoor.org! Thus today’s Gospel continues the challenge begun last The Seven Sorrows Rosary is a very old but little known Sister Constance Veit is director of communications for the week to examine the depths of our trust in God. devotion focused on seven particularly challenging events in Little Sisters of the Poor. Jesus, today, invites us to examine the motivation behind our behavior as an indication of our commitment to and trust in God. Specifically, he tells us that our behavior should not be determined by friends or enemies. Friends can consciously or unconsciously motivate us by God’s servant first: Religious tests their acts of love and kindness. But Jesus warns: “If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even sin- and American pluralism ners love those who love them. If you do good to those who Two summers ago, a Catholic nominee to the federal established religion, and so the Constitution explicitly do good to you, how can you claim any credit? Sinners do as judiciary was interrogated about her faith in an forbids religious tests, saying: “No religious test shall much? If you lend to those from whom you expect repay- exchange that included the line, “The dogma lives loudly ever be required as a qualification to any office or public ment, what merit is there in it for you?” within you, and that’s of trust under the United States.” American society is plu- Similarly our enemies (and our hatred of them) can concern.” ralistic, and attempts to impose religious tests are simply motivate us. Jesus warns against this: “Love your enemy VIEWPOINT More recently, several at odds with who we are. and do good.” “Be compassionate, as your Father is compas- Catholic nominees have It’s helpful to consider what these religious tests do. sionate. Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not con- endured questions about They plainly do not reveal the nominees’ abilities to demn, and you will not be condemned. Pardon, and you their membership in the interpret and apply the law. Rather, they aim to stigma- shall be pardoned.” Knights of Columbus, a tize the faith of the nominee. The senators are essentially Today’s first reading from the First Book of Samuel gives ludicrous line of question- hanging a sign over the federal judiciary that reads, us the example of David as one whose motivation comes nei- ing that prompted a multi- “Catholics not welcome.” ther from the pressure of those who love him nor from the faith coalition — includ- If our political leaders are interested in working to hatred of his enemy, but from the trust and confidence he ing representatives of the bring people together rather than to widen divisions, has in his God. USCCB — to urge senators then imposing a religious test on Catholics seems espe- God has promised David the throne and kingship of to drop these religious cially unwise. Catholics make up about 20 percent of the Israel. The reigning king, Saul, along with 3,000 soldiers, is tests. population, and Catholics take great pride in the contri- pursuing David, seeking to kill him because of his increas- The senators do not ask butions our Church has made to this country. But when ing popularity with the people. In today’s episode, David has Aaron Matthew Weldon questions about the faith our best and brightest are publicly and unscrupulously the perfect opportunity to kill his enemy — Saul. He is even of nominees out of con- attacked, anger and resentment can creep in, as would be subject to persuasion by his friend, Abishai, to kill Saul and cern for the nominees’ understanding of the doctrine of the case for any faith community. thus be assured that God’s promises to him will come true. the Trinity, the Eucharist, or the Blessed Virgin Mary. No, Catholics, along with people of other faiths, have at David, however, chooses to place his trust in God’s ability to they are using questions about faith as a proxy for the times faced discrimination when seeking to serve in pub- bring his promises to fruition. David will not take matters nominees’ positions on issues such as abortion and same- lic office. The presence of people of many faiths serving into his own hands, neither at the persuasion of his friend, sex marriage, issues which are themselves highly con- in public office today is a real achievement in which Abishai, nor out of his own desire for revenge against his tested and far from settled in civil law. Americans can take great pride. Religious discrimination enemy, Saul. Let’s be clear. These senators are strongly suggesting against women and men of faith should remain in the David’s example offers us a challenge that is difficult to that a Catholic who tries to live in accordance with past and not be part of the future of this country. be equal to. To let our behavior be controlled only by our Church teaching cannot serve as a federal judge. They Aaron Matthew Weldon is program specialist for the trust in the Lord and not the persuasion of loving peers or are imposing a religious test. Office of Religious Liberty, United States Conference of anger toward hated enemies is what the Golden Rule is real- Religious tests make sense in a country with an estab- Catholic Bishops. Follow USCCB religious freedom activi- ly all about. lished religion. However, our country does not have an ties at @USCCBFreedom. Father Daniel Vogelpohl is pastor of Blessed Sacrament Parish, Ft. Mitchell. 6 February 22, 2019 Messenger

In the tabernacle the Lord awaits Cooley photo Father Britton the 24th and 25th chapters of the Hennessey book of Exodus. Moses and the Messenger Contributor Israelites have just arrived at To me, one of the Mount Sinai. The Lord God makes most moving aspects himself manifest to his chosen peo- of the Easter ple (whom he had just delivered Triduum that accom- from slavery), with flashes of light- panies and accentu- ning, billowing smoke and peals of ates the sublime cele- thunder. But Moses was to lead the bration of the people to the Promised Land, and Paschal Mystery has the Lord desired to accompany always been the dra- them by being present in the Ark of matic change that the Covenant. happens in the interi- In these chapters from Exodus, or of the church. construction plans are given for the After the conclu- ark and for various other elements MESSENGER series on the sion of the Holy of the Lord’s dwelling. The ark was Thursday liturgy, the to be made of acacia wood, have Blessed Sacrament is every surface covered in gold, and reposed in a different was to be adorned with angels. In location, leaving the later chapters, after the construc- Eucharist main tabernacle tion was complete, the Lord Eucharist empty. Quite often descended to his dwelling place in thereafter, linens, the form of the glory cloud, the candles and other items are removed. When entering the Shekinah. It was here that bread church for the Liturgy of Good Friday and seeing the dark, was placed in the Lord’s presence in An overhead view of the sanctuary of Chapel in St. Anne Retreat Center, Melbourne. empty tabernacle, I always experience a deep sense of sacrifice and was only able to be emptiness that drives home the emphasis of the Lord’s eaten by the priests, an early prefiguring of the Eucharist. Finally, like Moses, any amount of encounter with the death for our salvation. Later in salvation history, Solomon built the Temple in Lord reserved in the tabernacle (or especially during But, shortly thereafter, on , the Light of Jerusalem and the Lord dwelt there in the Holy of Holies Eucharistic Adoration) leaves a radiance within our souls. the World re-enters our darkened world after rising from — an area separated by a large veil. Sacrifices were offered Our faces may not glow as Moses’ did, but our hearts, our the domain of death. The tabernacle remains empty until to the Lord day and night. minds and our actions cannot help but radiate Christ to after when the Risen Lord is once again It was important for the people of every generation to the world if we continually place ourselves before the reposed and is present for his people. If you’ve ever been know of the Lord’s presence among them. But also, the Lord, face to face. able to attend the dedication of a new church building or Meeting Tent was where Moses met with the Lord panim- In this life, we face many challenges each and every day chapel, a similar experience occurs when the tabernacle al-panim — that is, face to face. No one else had such an that might seek to close our hearts and minds to the Lord’s remains empty until the Eucharist is consecrated for the intimate friendship with the Lord to be able to meet him Real Presence among us. But in each and every Catholic first time in the new place at the dedication Mass, and face to face, only Moses, the people’s intercessor. One ele- Church, the Lord is reserved in the tabernacle and waits when reposed after Communion, the Lord’s Real Presence ment of Moses’ interactions with God that has always fas- for us to come before him — to speak to him whatever may dwells there. cinated me is the fact that Moses’ face became radiant from be on our minds — to show his love to us and transform The tabernacle in each church building serves various being in the Lord’s presence — so much so, that it fright- our souls. functions. As a repository for the Real Presence of Jesus ened the people and he was forced to wear a veil. Humanity’s most intimate desire is unity with our Lord Christ in the Eucharist, a treasure worth more than any Despite the many years that have passed since the time and creator because we are made in his image and likeness amount, it’s often constructed with costly metals and may of Moses, several things are still the same. First, the Lord and can only be truly fulfilled through unity with him. He be adorned with jewels, like at our Cathedral Basilica. For still desires to be present to us and to accompany us on this continues to sustain us at every Mass through the recep- the protection of such a priceless treasure as the journey through life, and as such, is still very present to us tion of his very Body and Blood, and he makes himself Eucharist, the tabernacle is locked. But despite being in the most holy Eucharist. Veiled in the outward appear- available to us in a real way in every tabernacle in the secured, it is accessible for Mass, for Communion to the ances of bread and wine, Jesus Christ becomes present to world. He does this not because he needs us — he does this sick, and for reserving the Eucharist for Adoration. Most his people at each and every Mass. because he desires us, and he loves us. importantly, though, it is the physical dwelling place Second, as in the Old Testament, the Lord’s dwelling is May we always remember that when the world faces us where the Lord is always present to his people. still a sacred vessel (the tabernacle) made of precious ele- with adversity, the Lord waits to show us his love face to The dwelling place of the Real Presence of Jesus is suf- ments and centrally located in many churches. The sanc- face. ficient enough to define the tabernacle, but to understand tuary lamp — a specific and conspicuously placed candle Father Britton Hennessey is parochial vicar for St. more about its role we have to look to the Old Testament, — denotes the presence of the Lord. Augustine Parish, Covington, Ky.

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Pro-life Pro-Life original sin, personal sin, and the grace of Redemption, we begin with this means ALL life. important line about God as the author of life. On Ash Wednesday, we are 7) Be a voice and a vote for life by opposing the death penalty, assist- Office reminded with the imposition of ashes on our ed suicide and euthanasia. Be present of the Diocese of Covington foreheads that “dust thou art and to dust thou to those who are sick and dying, and shalt return.” The dust exists only because of who may feel useless and a burden. Mission Statement God, and, being formed into a human person, it Show them there is no such thing. The Pro-Life Office of the Roman Catholic has life only because of God. Every Lent, there- They matter to the end. They matter Diocese of Covington, guided by our bishop, fore, is a pro-life event. We turn from sin and eternally. promotes the sanctity and legal protection of towards God, who is life itself! 8) Take steps to protect the dignity human life from conception to natural death through prayer, pastoral care, public policy In our age, the dignity of every human per- of every person, including supporting and education. son from conception until natural death is under workers and unions; visiting prisoners attack in what St. Pope John Paul II called a “veri- and agitating for prison reform so that table ‘culture of death.’” (Evangelium Vitae/The we lock up only those we truly need Respect life Gospel of Life, #12) Human life is valued accord- ‘The Lord God formed man out of the dust behind bars to protect society, and “What is urgently called for is a general ing to a person’s status or usefulness to society, never imposing inhumane punish- mobilization of consciences and a not according to their inherent dignity as of the ground and blew into his nostrils ments such as solitary confinement; united ethical effort to activate a great beloved sons and daughters of God, who the breath of life, and the man became a living being.’ caring for people in other countries campaign in support of life. All breathed into them the gift of life from the very who are enduring the scourge of war — Genesis 2:7 together, we must build a new culture heart of the Trinity. Perhaps, then, this Lent we and violence, poverty, famine and of life.” might consider bringing this pro-life aspect of the season to the forefront. natural disasters. – John Paul II, “The Gospel of Life” We could imbue our prayer, fasting and almsgiving with a very intentional 9) Teach children about the God-given dignity of every person, be Actively promoting respect for human pro-life message and meaning. Here are 10 suggestions: involved in their lives and teach them good moral values, and support life is the responsibility of every Catholic. In response to the “Pastoral 1) Pray for women in crisis situations or who have unwanted pregnan- (and provide for your own children) age-appropriate sex education based Plan for Pro-Life Activities” established cies, that they will recognize the wonderful position they are in as moth- on good science, medicine and morals. by the U. S. bishops in 1975, each ers of new and unique human lives, cooperators with God the Mother 10) Continue to take care of people’s needs directly (feed the hungry, parish is invited to form a parish who brings all life into the world (see Isaiah 49:14–15, where God is clothe the naked, give medical care to the sick, shelter the homeless, wel- Pro-Life Committee to organize described as a mother never abandoning her child). come the immigrant and the refugee, etc.) and also indirectly (protect the respect-life activities that raise awareness and educate on behalf of 2) Help them to experience their situation as wonderful by refraining natural environment as a gift from the God of Life for the sustenance of life issues within the parish. from all judgment and stigma, and offering only love and support no life, work against racism and sexism, campaign and vote for candidates matter what the circumstances. who reflect these pro-life values). 3) Donate to charities that provide direct assistance to women in diffi- Lent should be a time of conversion. Our culture needs to be convert- cult situations, taking care of the medical, physical, emotional and spiritu- ed desperately, and each of us needs conversion as well. We move the al needs of pregnant women and their families. culture best when we turn away from sin in our own lives and turn to Lenten Pro-life Prayer 4) If you are a man and you get a woman pregnant, stand by her. Be Christ more perfectly. Let’s see if we can do better. Then, by Easter, by the responsible and don’t leave her on her own. Support her. For all of us, let’s grace of God working in us and with us, we may become more credible Father of all mercy, encourage a culture of men who are responsible and unselfish. witnesses to the Gospel of Life. We thank you for this season 5) Don’t judge women who have had an abortion. God’s mercy and Kevin Dowd teaches Catholic Social Teaching at Anna Maria College in of grace and light. understanding are perfect. Pope Francis emphasized this during the Year Paxton, Mass., as an adjunct professor in theology and speaks nationally on We know that sin has blinded us. of Mercy by extending the power to forgive abortions to all topics including bullying, inter-faith dialogue and how to include religion in Draw us ever closer to you, priests — a power which he has extended indefinitely. Instead of judging, public school curricula. This article is reprinted with permission from the The in prayer and penance. support ministries like Project Rachel that assist women who have chosen Word is Life, an online service of Living with Christ magazine. Since you, O God, are light itself, abortion and regret it. Give all your people a clearer understanding Of what is sin, and what is virtue. Contemplation and action Grant in particular that we may see, Ellen Curtin Stem cell research, 2274–2275, 2295; as ne the vulnerable unborn children. Contributor IVF/reproductive technology, 2375 2377; How we are meeting Christ’s challenge to let our light shine in the Eldercare/palliative care, 2276, 2278–2279. Give us grace to defend world? As we reflect on our faith and actions this Lent, the Catechism of One paragraph that unites all these issues is 2258, a quotation from Our brothers and sisters in the womb the (CCC) is an excellent resource. In particular, the CCC “Donum Vitae,” the “Instruction on Respect for Human Life in Its Origin By our prayers, our words, can help us discern what pro-life needs we can serve, whether in person and on the Dignity of Procreation” from the Congregation for the And our self-sacrificing actions. or through donations or by speaking up publicly, especially where we Doctrine of the Faith ( Feb. 22, 1987), which addresses biomedical issues We pray through Christ our Lord. can influence legislators to enact pro-life laws. from the Roman Catholic Church’s perspective: Amen. The Secretariat of Pro-Life Activities for the United States Conference “Human life is sacred because from its beginning it involves the cre- of Catholic Bishops singles out several areas where the sanctity of human ative action of God and it remains for ever in a special relationship with life is under attack. Here are some relevant CCC paragraphs for reflection: the Creator, who is its sole end. God alone is the Lord of life from its Abortion, 2268–2269, 2270–2275; beginning until its end: no one can under any circumstance claim for Assisted suicide, 2268–2269, 2281–2283; himself the right directly to destroy an innocent human being.” Conscience protection, 1782, 1790, 1800; Ellen Curtin is a member of the Diocese of Covington We Choose Life Contraception, 2367–2370; Committee. Euthanasia, 2268–2269, 2276–2278, 2324;

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Newsworthy Happy birthday to Deacon Steven Alley, St. Timothy Parish, Union, March 6; Father Edward Brodnick, parochial vicar, St. Mary Parish, Alexandria, March 7; Deacon Michael Keller, St. John the Evangelist Parish, Carrollton, March 9; and Father Robert Rottgers, pastor, St. Philip Parish, Melbourne, March 11.

The weekly TV Mass from the Cathedral Basilica of the Culinary Cru bakes up Valentine treats Assumption will be broadcast on Sunday, 5–6 p.m. on station The Culinary Club at St. Henry District High School got a lesson in how to make some special sweet treats just in time for Me TV WLWT, on channels: over the air 5-2; Spectrum 188 in Valentine’s Day. The Culinary Cru had a special presentation at their meeting Feb. 8 from chef Toni Holian, who taught Kentucky and Cincinnati Bell 23 or 291. the group how to make éclairs and cream puffs for Valentine’s Day. Each culinary club member was able to make a num- Have something to list in “People and Events”? The dead- ber of each to both taste and to take home to his or her family. line for event notices is nine days prior to the desired publi- vided by the Young Adult Ministry Choir, who will be mak- St. Anne Retreat Center, men’s retreat, led by Father Rick cation date. E-mail [email protected] no later than the ing their public debut. Confession will be available. Social to Bolte, March 8–10. Visit www.stanneretreatcenter.org to reg- Wednesday before the week you would like the information follow. Join young adults (18–39) from across the diocese for a ister. Cost is $150 and includes all meals. to appear. candlelight Mass. For information contact Brad Torline, Planning an event featuring a speaker or minister from Young Adult Ministry coordinator at [email protected]. “Lent: Count it all Joy!” presented by Divine Providence outside the diocese? In the Diocese of Covington, before Sister Mary Kay Kramer, March 9, 9–11:30 a.m., St. Anne contracting the services of a priest or deacon, man or The Benedictine Sisters of St. Walburg Monastery, Villa Province Center, Melbourne. RSVP by Feb. 28 by e-mail: woman religious, or lay person a request for verification in Hills, silent directed retreat, March 1–3. Retreatants stay in [email protected] or calling Judy Kitchen, 912-0665. good standing must be submitted to the Chancery office no the monastery Guest House and join the community for later than four weeks before the desired date of service. Liturgy of the Hours and Sunday Eucharist. Open to both The Office of Catechesis and Faith Formation will host Screening applications and instructions can be found at men and women. Information, Benedictine Sister Dorothy the Religious Scouting Awards vespers at the Cathedral www.covdio.org/chancery/. Schuette: [email protected]. Basilica of the Assumption, Covington, March 17, 3 p.m. Bishop Roger Foys will present any Boy Scout, Cub Scout, There will be a Holy Hour on the third Thursday of every First Friday Mass and healing service, sponsored by Girl Scout, Brownie or American Heritage Girl who has month, at the Cathedral Basilica of the Assumption, Mustard Seed Catholic Charismatic Community of received his or her Catholic religious awards during the Covington, 3–4 p.m., to pray for victims of sexual abuse by Northern Ky., Mar 1, 7:30 a.m., Thomas More University, 2018-2019 school year with the Bishop’s Religious Awards clergy and to pray for the Church. All priests of the diocese Mary Seat of Wisdom Chapel, Crestview Hills. Music with patch. The Catechesis Office must receive all completed will be in attendance; the lay faithful are invited to join. The Sacred Heart Praise Band begins at 7:15 p.m. application forms for the Catholic religious awards by Blessed Sacrament will be exposed, concluding with the March 1. Information, 392-1500 or [email protected]. Chaplet of Divine Mercy and benediction. The sacrament of Free class, “NeighborWorks, Realizing the American reconciliation will be available during the Holy Hour. The Dream,” at Catholic Charities, Latonia. Learn how to buy a Third Tuesday prayer meeting, sponsored by the Mustard next Holy Hour will be held Thursday, March 21. home with certified housing counselors taking you through Seed Catholic Charismatic Community of Northern Ky., the process, answering your questions and giving you the Mar 19, 7–8:45 p.m., Blessed Sacrament Parish Center, Ft. Any eighth-grade student interested in shadowing for a information you need to realize the dream of homeowner- Mitchell, with charismatic style praise and worship music, day at Bishop Brossart High School can contact Chris ship. Next class: March 2, 9 a.m.–5 p.m. Future dates: April 6 teaching, witnesses and healing prayers. All are invited. Holtz to schedule a day, 635-2108, ext. 1018. and May 4. Sisters of Notre Dame Charis Young Adult Seekers’ Sisters of Notre Dame, spiritual direction information Prince of Peace Montessori, Covington, Homestretch Retreat, March 22–24, SND provincial center, Park Hills For session, Feb. 23, 10 a.m.–2 p.m., SND provincial center, Park Celebration featuring Night at the Races, March 2, 7 p.m. young adults in their 20s and 30s seeking a down-to-earth Hills. Hosted by the Sisters of Notre Dame and Congregation There will be food, drinks, video horse racing, raffles, beat approach to their spirituality. of Divine Providence. the dealer, split-the-pot and bankers. $12 tickets available at www.popcov.com or at the door. Information, Patrick.wil- Bishop Brossart High School announces the Class of Covington Catholic High School, spaghetti dinner and [email protected]. 2019 Hall of Fame Members: Joe Guidugli ‘97, Missy fine arts festival, Feb. 24, 4–6:30 p.m., at the school. Sisters of Notre Dame Ash Wednesday day of recollec- Bishop Brossart High School, first Friday Mass, March 1, tion, March 6, 9 a.m.–2 p.m., SND provincial center, Park 6:45 a.m. in the St. Francis of Assisi Chapel. A light break- Hills. There will be presentations by Notre Dame Sister fast follows Mass. Jacquelyn Gusdane, as well as time for personal reflection, lunch, the sacrament of penance, Mass and distribution of First Friday Candlelight Mass, Friday, March 1, 7 p.m., ashes. Divine Mercy Parish, Bellevue. Bishop Roger Foys will be the celebrant. Mass will include sacred worship music pro- St. Joseph Parish, Cold Spring, “Living in Reality: Discipleship Retreat,” March 8–9, the first weekend of Lent. This event is free and open to the public. The event begins with Stations of the Cross, followed by praise and worship and a talk on Friday evening, which is open to anyone with no registration. The seminar is all day Saturday and requires pre-registra- tion, as it includes continental breakfast and lunch. Contact: (937) 587-5464 or (513) 373-2397 or e-mail [email protected].

St. Timothy School, Union, “Thunder Fair,” March 2, 5:30–9:30 p.m., Brodnick Hall. Thunder Fair features local vendors, crafts and food trucks from over 50 local small businesses; $3 entry fee. Proceeds benefit St. Timothy Family Ministry.

Sisters of Notre Dame, women’s weekend retreats, March 8–10 and April 12–14, at the SND Provincial Center, Park Hills, multiple speakers NKU Newman Center reflect on the life and times of St. Paul and relate how The Bishop Malloy Council, Knights of Columbus joined themes of mission, community and hope have rele- We love our teachers students at the Northern Kentucky University Newman Center for vance and impact on our lives today. Visit Teachers at Prince of Peace Montessori School, studies in apologetics, Mass and a lasagna dinner (provided by the www.sndky.org to register. Covington, were treated to a lunch on Teacher knights). Appreciation Day. Messenger February 22, 2019 9 PEOPLE AND EVENTS

Munninghoff Hickman ‘91, John Kuper ‘86, Katie Neiser ‘09, Brenda Simon Niehaus ’83 and Willie Schlarman. The Tom Seither Service Award will go to Tom Munninghoff and the “Team of Distinction” is the 1999 All A State Champion girls’ basketball team. Banquet is March 23, social hour, 6 p.m., with dinner and induction ceremony to follow. Reservations are $25 per person at [email protected] or 448-9434.

Divine Providence Sister Alice Gerdeman, provincial superior, will present “Lent: A Justice and Peace Journey Toward New Life,” March 23, 9:30 a.m.–noon, at St. Walburg Monastery. $20 fee includes snacks and materials. Call 331- 6771 or e-mail [email protected] for reservations.

Memorial Mass for the Loss of a Child, March 28, 6:30 p.m., at Immaculate Heart of Mary, Burlington, for all those suffering the loss of a child (from conception to adulthood). A remembrance book will be available for families to write donation per class (a portion of the proceeds will benefit the Capella: [email protected] or 581-8974, ext. their child’s name if they wish to do so. This book will be Church and select charities). Information, 117. brought forward at the beginning of Mass. Mass will be [email protected]. offered for all these children and the children held in our Free support group, Parents of Addicted Loved Ones hearts. Please share this event with family and friends. All Cross the Bridge for Life, June 2, Festival Grounds, (PAL), meets every Wednesday, 6:30 p.m.–8 p.m. at Catholic are welcome. Newport (behind Newport on the Levee). Join hundreds of Charities, Latonia. Group provides continuing education participants for this peaceful, prayerful presence to advocate and support, at no charge, for parents with a son, daughter A faith-based support group, New Beginnings provides for the sanctity of human life. This is a collaborative family- or spouse suffering from addiction to alcohol or drugs. No separated and divorced individuals the opportunity for heal- friendly event sponsored by the Diocese of Covington, cost. Just come. Information, 581-8974 or www.covington- ing and growth. Participants will find new understanding of Archdiocese of Cincinnati, and other Greater Cincinnati charities.org themselves and their relationships and gain courage to dis- and Northern Kentucky life affirming organizations. cover new life. Sessions at Catholic Charities, Latonia. Information, 392-1500. Catholic Charities, foreclosure/delinquency counseling Registration required, call 392-1500, ext. 1529. The next ten- program has groups and individual sessions available. week session is: Thursdays, March 28–May 30. Never. Lose. Hope. Do you have family or a friend in jail There are many options to homeowners; be informed. Call or prison? Are you looking for a safe, welcoming communi- 581-8974. St. Thomas Travelers, Ft. Thomas, are planning the follow- ty where you will be accepted without judgment? Join a free ing trip: LaComedia, “Joseph and The Amazing Technicolor support group, the third Tuesday of every month, 6:30 p.m.–8 Project Rachel, God’s greatest desire is to forgive. Come Dreamcoat,” April 11. Cost is $67. Call Shirley Murray 441- p.m., Catholic Charities, Latonia. All are Welcome. back to God who is love and mercy. Project Rachel hotline, 8567. Information, Dave Capella: [email protected] (859) 392-1547 or e-mail [email protected]. All calls or 581-8974, ext. 117. and e-mails are confidential. Veterans appreciation day, Newport Central Catholic High School, April 30, 8:30 a.m., at the school. Newport Check the Worldwide Marriage Encounter website for St. Charles Resource Center for the Aging is a service Central Catholic will honor veterans with a ceremony and upcoming 2019 weekends in Cincinnati. Register at available to inform, educate and empower seniors and their invites veterans, both alumni and non-alumni, to be recog- www.wwme.org or (513) 251-1940. families who are in need of support services. The consulta- nized in front of the student body for their service. To RSVP tion service is free and aimed to educate seniors and their yourself or a loved one for the event, visit ncchs.com under For couples in troubled marriages, Retrouvaille is a pro- families to the resources offered in the community and to NEWS. gram of healing and renewal consisting of one weekend better understand other aging issues. Their goal is to assist and six follow-up sessions over the course of three months. seniors and their families to make informed decisions. St. Thomas Parish, Ft. Thomas, “SpirFit,” a 60-minute fit- Contact: www.cincyretrouvaille.org or (513) 456-5413. Contact Margie Volpenhein at 331-3224, ext. 1440. ness class focused on breath, movement and prayer, Tuesday and Thursday, 7p.m., in the church basement. $5 suggested Attention youth (grades 9–12) and chaperones! Register now PrimeWise at St. Elizabeth Healthcare offers adults, age 50 for the diocesan pilgrimage to the National Catholic and over, a free network of valuable services especially suit- Youth Conference (NCYC) in Indianapolis, Indiana, Nov. ed to their needs and interests. It’s not a club and there are 21–23, 2019. The event will consist of a wide variety of no membership dues or meetings, just lots of benefits, infor- opportunities for young people to experience God and his mation, programs and special discounts. PrimeWise can pro- Church. A down payment of $100 per person must be vide information on topics like advance directives and living returned to the Office of Catechesis and Faith Formation by wills, Medicare and many health-related concerns. Call 301- Feb. 28 to reserve a place. Visit www.covdio.org/catechesis- 5999 or e-mail [email protected]. formation/youth-and-young-adult/#youthncyc, call 392-1500, ext. 1526 or e-mail [email protected].

Covington Catholic High School, Park Hills, will have adoration every First Friday of the month, 7:30 a.m.– 3 p.m., in the chapel. Parents, grandpar- ents, alumni, benefactors, etc., are asked to join the young men at Covington Catholic in prayer. Adorers must be VIRTUS compliant. E-mail [email protected].

Never. Lose. Hope. Do you have family or a friend in jail or prison? Are you look- ing for a safe, welcoming community where you will be accepted without judgment? Look-a-likes Join a free support group, the Gifts for the animal shelter Campbell County Animal Shelter visited Mrs. Gallagher’s third-grade class Feb. 6 at To celebrate Teacher Appreciation Day students at third Tuesday of every month, St. Catherine of Siena School, Ft. Thomas. The Don Bosco Club held a bake sale to raise St. Philip School, Melbourne, were invited to dress like 6:30 p.m.–8 p.m., Catholic money for the shelter and the students presented the items they bought with that money their teacher. Pictured here are Terri Birkenhauer and Charities, Latonia. All are at the visit. her second-grade student. Welcome. Information, Dave 10 February 22, 2019 Messenger

Be Oneinthe spirit Karen Kuhlman Education Center in Covington or the Sisters of Notre Dame East Witnesses Messenger Correspondent African Mission in Uganda. Recently, sisters and associates gath- The history of the laity seeking to live in close association with ered at St. Joseph Heights for an “Adventure to Give” and put vowed religious through associate communities is a long one. together gift packages to share with the homeless at Christmas. Certainly, there is increased interest in associate communities in Associates interact with the vowed religious in many ways.” “Wake up the world! the United States today. The North American Conference of Associates enjoy meeting with the Sisters of Notre Dame in Be witnesses of Associates and Religious (NACAR) released a study in 2016 that faith sharing groups. Ms. Bernheimer puts these groups together, a different way showed the number of associates in this country rose from 25,000 including those with sisters who are residents of Lourdes Hall, the of doing things, in 2002 to 56,000 in 2015. infirmary at St. Joseph Heights. Due to issues of age or infirmities, In 2004, the Sisters of some of the residents found of acting,of living!” Notre Dame, Covington large groups a bit intimidat- — Pope Francis Province, extended an invi- ing, so Ms. Bernheimer set tation to non-members; up some smaller groups. The those seeking a closer rela- unanticipated blessing was Religious Communities tionship with God were that, through these smaller in the offered companionship on groups, the sisters were able Diocese of Covington their journey by becoming a to share deeply their own Benedictine Sisters of St. Walburg member of the Associates of struggles and ailments. They Monastery www.stwalburg.org the Sisters of Notre Dame. discovered things about one Brothers of the Poor of St. Francis Many seekers already had a another that they had never www.brothersofthepoorofstfrancis.org certain maturity in their rela- known, even though they Passionist Nuns tionship with God — one had lived in community for www.erlangerpassionists.com they hoped to deepen. many years. Most, both women and As with most religious Sisters of Divine Providence www.cdpkentucky.org men, married or single, had congregations, there is a for- already known of the sisters, mation process that includes Sisters of Notre Dame and their souls felt at home an inquiry session that asks www.sndky.org with the vowed religious. potential associates what Sisters of St. Joseph the Worker Today, 84 associates and 89 Notre Dame Associate Beverly Fischesser greets Notre Dame Sister Mary Walter they are seeking, why they Ann Kammer. Notre Dame Associates seek a closer relationship with God www.ssjw.org sisters share in the mission want a relationship with the through the charism, spirituality and ministry of the Sisters of Notre Dame. Public and Private of Jesus Christ through the Sisters of Notre Dame and, if Associations charism, spirituality and ministry of the Sisters of Notre Dame. The married, what their spouses think about the commitment they are sisters are discovering again what it means to hold a charism in about to make. They supply references, fill out paper work and talk Franciscan Daughters of Mary www.fdofmary.org trust for the Church. about their faith journeys. During a year of initial formation, each Sister Mary Luann Bender, director of the associates of the Sister candidate will be accompanied either by a sister or an associate. Missionaries of St. John the Baptist of Notre Dame said, “The charism is a gift given to us by the Spirit They do not act as spiritual directors, but as companions who walk www.msjb.info in order to maintain the spirit of Jesus in the Church. That charism with the candidates on every step of their journey. is not meant to be hoarded, but to be used for its intended pur- During the formation year, weekend retreats are held about pose. A charism is meant to be shared as a gift with others so that every six weeks and cover topics such as Notre Dame’s history, it may continue to live on.” prayer, spirituality, the Eucharist, Mary and the Reign of God. In But, what does it mean to be an associate? Sister Mary Luann between the formal sessions, candidate and companion meet to put it this way, “To be an associate is to be a carrier of spirituality: discuss scripture passages that are relevant to topics discussed in to be exactly who you are within your faith community, but in a retreat. A final weekend retreat is held in preparation for the asso- different form; to be gifts of peace, prayer, justice, humility, sim- ciates to make their covenant. plicity, hospitality, goodness, providence, community and life-giv- Sister Mary Luann said, “The covenant is really pretty simple: to ing works.” live the gift, the charism given to the Sisters of Notre Dame by the Tina Bernheimer, assistant director of the associates said, Spirit. That charism is to incarnate in ourselves the love of God’s “People really like the idea of being with a group of people who provident goodness and show it forth in our daily lives. The associ- feel the same, have the same concerns, have the same desires that ates make that covenant, to live that charism in their prayer lives, they can share with one another. They pray together, listen to in their family lives and in their ministries. I have never had any- speakers together, and work on projects together. They, read and thing in my religious life that has strengthened my vocation as has discuss books together, such as Wayne Muller’s ‘Sabbath,’ which my interaction with the Associate Community of the Sisters of addresses the idea of taking time to rest and reflect. They volun- Notre Dame.” teer together at places near or far, such as the Notre Dame Urban

March Birthdays 7 Sister Mary Theresa 11 Sister Ruth Parent, CDP 17 Sister Mary Patrycia 24 Sister Jeanette Frisch, OSB Bowman, CDP (formerly Sister Margaret Sweeney, SND 3 Sister Mansueta Martineau, 26 Sister Nancy Marie Schutte, Joseph) CDP Sister Mary Joyce Moeller, 21 Sister John Catherine SND CDP 15 Sister Mary Judith Rafferty, CDP 6 Sister Margene Koester, 27 Sister Mary Joenita Averbeck, SND SND 9 Sister Mary Lea Paolucci, 23 Sister Clare Marie Borchard, Schlueter, SND SND FDM

For more information about consecrated life in the Diocese of Covington, contact Sister Fran Moore at (859) 392-1500. Ten tips for keeping your Catholic wedding focused on faith A bride and groom getting married in the Catholic Church know that their wedding is about more than the perfect dress or expert- ly staged pictures: for baptized Christians, marriage is a sacrament, and for all couples getting married Catholic, the wedding is a profound expression of God’s love and a wit- ness to the couple’s faith. Here are some ways to help keep your wedding focused on what truly matters. 1. Keep it simple. In “The Joy of Love” (“Amoris Laetitia” [AL]), Pope Francis notes that sometimes all the practical considerations about the wedding — the things that wedding magazines focus on, like color schemes, makeup design or clothing — “tend to drain not only the budg- et but energy and joy as well.” (n. 212) Pope Francis does not want you to be “exhausted and harried” on your wedding day instead of “focused and ready for the great step that [you] are about to take.” (AL, n. 212) 2. Can’t afford a fancy wedding? Get married anyway. Sometimes people are so concerned with the fact that they can’t afford a grand celebra- tion that they decide not to marry. The Holy Father says to these couples: “Have the courage to be different. Don’t let yourselves get swallowed up by a society of consump- tion and empty appearances … You are capa- ble of opting for a more modest and simple celebration in which love takes precedence over everything else.” (AL, n. 212) If cost is a true obstacle, ask your parish priest for help. There may be people in your parish who can pitch in to make things more affordable, or perhaps another couple getting married around the same time with whom you could share the expense of decorations. (Continued on page 13) MARRIAGE and WEDDINGS

Photo: Cherry Red Shoe Photography SPECIALSECTIO NOFTHE MESSENGER FEBRUARY 22, 2019 12 February 22, 2019 Messenger MARRIAGE AND WEDDINGS Getting readyfor your marriageinthe DioceseofCovington You’re Engaged! tive lives together. Two married Congratulations! Because the Catholic Church and couples make up the presenting your diocesan community wants couples to form strong, team and share brief stories lasting marriages, all engaged couples wishing to marry in about their marriages and the the Diocese of Covington are required to: impact of the sacrament of matri- — Contact the parish priest at least nine to 12 months mony on their lives, with the goal before your wedding to set an initial appointment and to of encouraging participants to start your marriage preparations. explore their own attitudes and — Attend one of the three listed marriage preparation expectations. The team also offers programs three to six months prior to your wedding. Since couples ideas on how to continue marriage preparation programs often fill quickly, it is wise to love each other, even amid the to register two to three months before the program date. pressures of the world. The See course and registration information below. engaged couples should antici- — Attend a certified Natural Family Planning (NFP) pate discussing each other’s course. It is preferable to attend this course after attending strengths and weaknesses, your marriage preparation program, if possible. NFP desires and ambitions, as well as courses require a three-month commitment and fill quick- their attitudes about money, sex, ly, so register early. children, family and the role of the Church and society in their Marriage preparation programs future marriages. Our motto is “A wedding is a day, a marriage is a Evenings For The Engaged — A small group of engaged lifetime.” Most people spend huge couples meets in the home of a marriage ministry couple amounts of money and many one evening per week for five weeks. This combines shar- months planning for their wed- ing by the lead couple with small-group discussions. You ding. CEE is about preparing for must be able to make all five sessions. Call to check avail- what most hope will last 50 or 60 ability. Time: Usually 7:30–9:30 p.m. www.ccli.org or call the Couple to Couple League, (513) 471- years — your marriage. Our part- ners, Cincinnati Engaged Encounter, offer three-day, two- Dates: Dates vary 2000. night retreat weekends. Cost: $50 per couple Cost: $140 per couple. Contact: For more information and dates of the program, Note: CCL’s online course is not approved under any cir- Engaged Encounter Weekends Covington Diocese e-mail: [email protected] cumstances for couples being married in the Diocese of Covington. The Couple to Couple League offers three pro- March 23–24 April 13–14 Living Marriage as Sacrament — This program is held grams; the Diocese of Covington does not approve all of Sept. 21–22 on two consecutive Saturdays with large-group presenta- these programs. Please read the diocesan regulations Time: Saturday, 8 a.m.–Sunday 3 p.m. tion, private couple interaction, and small-group discus- before you register for an NFP course. Diocesan regula- Place: St. Anne Retreat Center, Melbourne sion. The focus is on a couple’s relationship and the beauty tions for Natural Family Planning are explained at Cost: TBA and importance of the sacrament of matrimony. Time: 9 www.covdio.org/catechesis-formation. a.m.– 3 p.m. The Couple to Couple League offers instruction in Spanish. For information or to register for a class (in Cincinnati Diocese Dates and locations: Spanish only), contact: Silvia Schmidt, CCL teacher, at April 5–7 June 1–2 June, St. Timothy Parish, Brodnick Hall (513) 471-2000, ext. 1031; (859) 380-2814, cell; or by e-mail, Oct. 11–13 September, St. Timothy Parish, Brodnick Hall [email protected]. Time: Friday, 7:30 p.m.–Sunday 2 p.m. Cost: $85 per couple. Place: Holy Spirit Center, Norwood, Ohio For exact dates and to register, go to the Diocese of Covington-Cincinnati Catholic Engaged Encounter Cost: TBA Covington registration site for Living Marriage as The two-day, one-night weekend retreat offered by the Sacrament: https://marriagedoc.org. Diocese of Covington’s Catholic Engaged Encounter (CEE) ministry offers couples a unique opportunity to look To register, go to http://cincinnati-covingtoncee.org. For Natural Family Planning at their commitment to each other in a deeper way as they information contact Al or Melinda Kovacic, [email protected] or (513) 480-3282. Natural Family Planning courses consist of three classes prepare for marriage. Free from the pressure and distrac- spaced one month apart. New courses are often added. For tions of the outside world, couples are given 30-plus hours an up-to-date schedule or to register for a course visit to honestly and intensively dialogue about their prospec-

5963 Jefferson Avenue, Burlington KY 859-586-9900 •• Rehearsal Dinners or any occasion Open for lunch Tuesday thru Sunday with a menu of delicious brunch items on Sunday •• G IFT C ERTIFICATES AVAILABLE www.touseyhouse.com Messenger February 22, 2019 13 MARRIAGE AND WEDDINGS Agifttoeach other,embracing the marriage preparation program Deacon Peter Freeman wedding day. Others have talked about some issues such as All of us who help present the marriage preparation Messenger Contributor having children, where they will live, jobs, etc. The dioce- programs especially encourage the couples to love one One of the gratifying things about helping with one of san marriage preparation programs guide them into a another and be the best married couple that ever was. our diocese’s marriage preparation program, Living deeper discussion of their relationship with one another. During a recent Living Marriage as a Sacrament day, the Marriage as a Sacrament, is not only talking with but also Topics such as sexuality, healthy conflict resolution, how team talked about married couples who inspired them to listening to engaged couples as they get ready for their to be attentive to each other’s needs and a lot on how to be better married couples or inspired them to become lives together. I’m sure this is also true for the teams that show love to one another on a daily basis. engaged and want to be married. In the group I was lead- present Engaged Encounter weekends and the married Marriage preparation shows the engaged couple the ing, one of the engaged couples commented that they felt it couples who meet with engaged couples in their homes for meaning of their marriage as a Sacrament with a capital would be a lot of pressure to be an example to others. I told the Evenings for The Engaged program. “S” — the Sacrament of Matrimony. They come to under- them not to worry about that, to just love each other every All of the couples attend one of the three diocesan pro- stand that they are the outward sign of the sacrament and day, no matter where they might be. When you show each grams, along with Natural Family Planning classes, they become the sacrament to others. They come to under- other love, it just becomes part of who you are. Just love because it is required of them in order to be married at a stand that Jesus is the third person in their marriage who one another and be who you are. parish within the diocese. When they attend one of the is always with them and the effects of God’s unlimited To any engaged couple in the diocese, I would say not to marriage preparation programs, they don’t really know grace that they will receive to help them stay strong in look at marriage preparation as a requirement. Look at it why they need to be there, only that they have to be there. their marriage throughout their lives. as a gift to your future spouse. As a couple, look at it as an Engaged couples are usually at different stages in their By the time the couple has finished their marriage investment in making your marriage the best marriage relationships. It is a reality today that a large number of preparation program, they recognize how much of a gift ever. Other than God himself, no one is more important in engaged couples are co-habitating and some have already they have given to each other by spending this time learn- your life than your spouse. Enjoy the time you spend bought or are even building a house together. Other cou- ing how to grow their love for each other through the preparing for your lives together. ples are not living together. Some couples are newly sacrament and how they are never alone as a couple. Jesus May God be with you and bless you always as you begin engaged and others have been engaged for a year or more. is always with them through everything they will go your wonderful and amazing married life together! For a few couples, it may be their second marriage and through over the years, ready to give them the graces they Deacon Peter Freeman is director of the Office of they may be entering a marriage that already will include need to keep them strong as a couple. This year, my wife Worship and Liturgy and assistant director of the Office of children. and I will celebrate our 45th year of marriage. I can’t tell Catechesis and Faith Formation in the Diocese of The couples usually have all been planning their wed- you how many times we’ve been blessed by God’s grace Covington. He is assigned to St. Philip Parish, Melbourne. ding day. It has taken up a lot of their time already. Some through good times and bad. have not really spent much time talking about life after the

ing in public. Give them a copy of the reading and/or prayers sign of God’s love for everyone else in the church! Wedding focused on faith well in advance and ask them to attend the wedding 8. Be attentive to all the signs at the wedding. rehearsal so they can practice in the church. Make sure they (Continued from page 11) The wedding ceremony is full of signs and symbols: the pro- understand the solemnity of the occasion. 3. Choose your readings and prayers carefully and pay cessional, readings, rings and so forth — all of these speak of attention to the liturgy. 5. Let the music at your wedding lift hearts to God. the beauty of marriage and its permanence. The most elo- There’s a reason that the engaged couple chooses the read- Music during a Catholic wedding can add beauty and dignity quent symbol, in fact, is your union in love. Pope Francis says, ings and a number of the prayers in the Order of Celebrating to the ceremony, and also plays an important liturgical role. “In the baptized, words and signs become an eloquent lan- Matrimony: the love that God has given you to share is the Parishes may have policies about what music can be used, so guage of faith.” (AL, n. 213) The liturgy that celebrates the reason that you and your loved ones are together for this check with your pastor. The parish organist or music minister marriage of two Christians speaks of a God of love who celebration. “In their preparation for marriage, the couple can help you choose songs and possibly provide musical tal- draws human beings into this love in a profound way. Try to should be encouraged to make the liturgical celebration a ent, or connect you with a cantor and/or musicians. There are listen and to see with the eyes of faith. profound personal experience and to appreciate the mean- many beautiful songs that reflect God’s love, both instrumen- 9. Pray, pray and pray some more. ing of each of its signs.” (AL, n. 213) Don’t rush through your tal classical pieces and songs that can be sung together by Now is the perfect time to start praying daily with your choices, and discuss with each other what each reading the entire congregation. Secular or pop music is best saved future spouse; wedding-planning stress gives ample opportu- means to you. for the reception. nity to share your concerns with the 4. Choose lectors well, and give them some practice. 6. Show care to the needy. Lord! A great way to incorporate Generally an engaged couple can choose people to read the Part of your vocation of marriage is prayer into wedding planning is by first reading, responsorial Psalm, and second reading, and to helping those around you, includ- reading through the Scripture read- offer the Prayers of the Faithful. Because these moments of ing the poor. There are creative ings and prayer options for your hearing Scripture and praying together are an important ways to do this on your very first wedding ceremony slowly, letting the part of a faith-filled Catholic wedding, choose lectors who day as husband and wife. You words sink into your hearts. Another have read in church before, or who are comfortable speak- could include an intention in the great idea is to host a Eucharistic Prayers of the Faithful for those Holy Hour the evening before your who are struggling or in need. You wedding for your bridal party and could also omit wedding favors in family; one newlywed couple order to give a donation to a local explains how that worked for them. charity (you could announce this at And remember to say a quick prayer your reception with a nice table dis- — together or separately — on your play). Some couples invite their wedding morning! guests to bring a donation to a 10. Above all, remember…the food bank, and set up a basket at wedding is only the beginning! the reception to them. The Pope Francis encourages everyone in jewelry you buy and the gifts you the Church to help couples live out register for can express care for the married life. “They [young people] poor as well, as is explained here. need to be encouraged to see the 7. Remember what it is you are sacrament not as a single moment doing. that then becomes a part of the past During the wedding, when there are Cherry Red Shoe Photography and its memories, but rather as a Michael and Alex Piccola on their wedding day in quiet moments, take a deep breath reality that permanently influences St. Ursula Academy’s chapel, Cincinnati. and recollect that you are in God’s the whole of married life.” (AL, n. presence. When it is time for the exchange of consent, 215) The Sunday after the wedding (and every Sunday), be remember that this is the moment — the heart of the wed- sure to come back to church and meet your community ding. Pope Francis says, “In the case of two baptized persons, again, this time as husband and wife. And remember that the commitment expressed by the words of consent and the the vows you say at your wedding day are all in the future bodily union that consummates the marriage can only be tense (“I will”); they “involve a totality that includes the seen as signs of the covenantal love and union between the future: ‘until death do us part.’” (AL, n. 214) incarnate Son of God and his Church.” (AL, n. 213) After you This article is from the United States Conference of Catholic have exchanged your consent, you are married, and are a Bishops’ website: www.foryourmarriage.org. 14 February 22, 2019 Messenger MARRIAGE AND WEDDINGS

And yet, we also know from our own experience that MarriageasasymbolofGod’slove human love is far from perfect. Living in a fallen world, the divine plan for marriage is often realized in concrete situ- Father Ryan L. Stenger Marriage, then, is not merely a social arrangement. It is ations only in an imperfect way. Our love will always bear Messenger Contributor a part of God’s plan for the human race, a way that he the scars of sin: weakness, selfishness and shortsighted- In a society in which weddings are increasingly reveals himself to us and makes his love present in our ness. That’s why marriage must find its strength not mere- planned in view of producing the right sort of photo- midst — present, in fact, at the very foundation of our lives ly in the efforts and sentiments of the spouses, but in God graphs and commonly occur in locations ranging from the and of our society, i.e., the family. In marriage, a man and who is Love himself. Human love must be joined to the extravagant to the banal, the Church’s steadfast insistence a woman are called to become living and visible signs of only perfect love, the divine love that shines forth from the that her members marry in a Catholic church in the pres- God’s love in our world. That divine love is irrevocable, life Cross. The Cross is a perpetual reminder that God’s love ence of a priest or deacon stands out as particularly count- giving, and total; for that reason marriage must be the has triumphed over everything, over sin, even over death er-cultural — not to mention her explicit preference that same. itself. It is only by being united to that perfect love — the wedding be celebrated in the parish church of one of Marriage is irrevocable. In the gospel according to through the sacraments, prayer, sacrifice and lives of holi- the spouses, no matter how humble or simple that church Matthew, the Lord declares, “What God has joined togeth- ness and faith — that Christian marriage is able to attain might be (see canons 1115 and 1118 §1). But this require- er, man must not separate.” (Matthew 19: 6) Just as God is its full dignity and destiny by offering a living witness to ment is not merely a peculiarity of ecclesiastical law. On unconditionally faithful to his people, never withdrawing the beauty of God’s endless, life-giving, self-emptying love the contrary, it reflects the Church’s belief that marriage is his love from us no matter how often we might turn away for his people. sacred: that it is an institution established by God for his from him and his love, so too is the marriage covenant Father Ryan Stenger, J.C.L., is pastor of St. Joseph purposes and that it has been raised by Christ to the digni- indissoluble and irrevocable. Marriage is life giving, just Parish, Camp Springs; judge in the diocesan Tribunal; and ty of a sacrament. as God’s love is fruitful. As the Holy Spirit proceeds from chaplain of Covington School. Indeed, throughout the Bible marriage is used as a sym- the love between the Father and the Son, as the love of bol of God’s love for mankind. In the book of the Prophet Christ for his Church bears fruit in the new life of grace, Hosea, God says to his people, “I will betroth you to me for- so too must the love between husband and wife be open to ever; I will betroth you to me in righteousness and in jus- the generation of new life, accepting the gift of children tice, in steadfast love, and in mercy.” (Hosea 2:19) St. Paul with joy. exhorts husbands and wives to love and serve one another And marriage is total. Christ loved the Church so com- Marriage tip: “even as Christ loved the Church and handed himself over pletely that he offered up his whole life for her upon the for her to sanctify her.” (Ephesians 5:25-26) St. John speaks Cross, holding nothing back for himself. So too are hus- Marriage responds to about heaven as “the wedding feast of the Lamb.” band and wife called to give themselves entirely to one (Revelation 19:9) another in love, not counting the cost, not acting out of the deepest longings of It is clear from the repeated use of this symbol through- self-interest, but instead always acting in view of the out the Scriptures that God’s relationship with his people authentic dignity and genuine equality of the other. the heart for love. is one of love. And that relationship of love between God There can be no doubt that living out God’s plan for and his people has reached its culmination in the person of marriage — lifelong, fruitful and total — can only be How can you go out of Jesus Christ, who not by accident performed the first of accomplished with sacrifice. But sacrifice is the lifeblood his miracles at a wedding feast in Cana, who spoke of him- of love; self-concern and self-absorption are its death. In your way to show your self so often as a bridegroom. In him, God’s divinity and the words of the exhortation before weddings from the tra- spouse love today? our humanity are truly united in one flesh. In him, God ditional , sacrifice is usually something diffi- has sealed an eternal covenant of love between himself cult, but love can make it easy and perfect love can make it and his people. a joy.

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Curious Woods’ marriage prep program, relay, “Twenty years ago Contributor about his insights, I asked we were not blessed to have the beautiful ‘whys’ behind Are you wondering how to grow in holiness this Lent, him, “Why get married?” what the Church teaches (TOB themed marriage prep), together with your spouse? Try following some advice His initial response, with- [which is now] readily accessible to engaged couples.” out delay, was from the Pope! In his and addresses, Pope an emphatic, Francis has spoken quite directly about how husband and but humorous, wife should treat each other, about prayer within the fam- “Don’t!” To which both of us responded with a ily, and other ways the family lives its identity as a “domes- jovial laugh. However, shortly thereafter, his tic Church.” So this Lent, why not commit with your demeanor became more pensive, as he shared, spouse to try one of the following Lenten resolutions, “I desire to get married because no one can get based on words from the Holy Father? to heaven on their own; I want someone to 1. Be courteous to your spouse. Use polite requests: journey there with, and who will call me on to “May I? Can I?” For example, “Would you like for us to do perfection and holiness as we aim for our this?” and “Do you want to go out tonight?” goal.” “To ask permission means to know how to enter with I believe my friend hit the nail on the head. courtesy into the lives of others. …True love does not Essentially, he is saying, “marriage leads us to impose itself harshly and aggressively.” (Address to heaven.” In the Theology of the Body, we Engaged Couples, Rome, Feb. 14, 2014.) understand that marriage is an icon, or win- 2. Say “thank you” to your spouse. “It seems so easy dow, into what heaven will be like, which is to say these words, but we know that it is not. But it is often referred to as, “the marriage feast of the important! … It is important to keep alive the awareness Lamb.” Marriage is a prefigurement, or fore- that the other person is a gift from God — and for the gifts taste, of what is to come — communion with of God we say thank you!” (Address to Engaged Couples, Rome, Feb. 14, 2014) the one, true God who loves us. This “marriage of Julie and Chris are not the only ones who have shared this 3. Ask forgiveness from your spouse. Say, “I’m Genesis,” the marriage between a man and woman, is not same sentiment. Many have shared, “Why has no one ever sorry.” the end, but is only just the beginning. It reveals so much told me this!?” This very question drives our work here at “Let us learn to acknowledge our mistakes and to ask of who we are, what we were made for, and where we are Ruah Woods, and typically comes from couples who have to forgiveness. ‘Forgive me if today I raised my voice’; ‘I’m heading. been married 30 or 40 years. It is unfortunate that it took sorry if I passed without greeting you’; ‘excuse me if I was In order to help engaged couples embark on a marital them that long to hear this good news, so it is absolutely late’.” (Address to Engaged Couples, Rome, Feb. 14, 2014) journey that is lasting and fulfilling, and which adequately imperative that we get this message into the hands of our “Never let the sun go down without making peace! aids their preparation for marriage, Ruah Woods provides engaged couples sooner, and even our young people, so that Never, never, never!” (Address to Engaged Couples, Rome, a marriage prep course that teaches the Catholic vision of they might be empowered by the truth of the Gospel, and Feb. 14, 2014) marital love, through the lens of Theology of the Body live marriages that radiate truth and joy. “It is important to have the courage to ask forgiveness (TOB). We use the program called, “Joy Filled Marriage,” May we continue to equip couples in this journey, as when we are at fault in the family.” (Address to published by Ascension Press, which “offers a comprehen- they aim for heaven together, and with our prayers, assist sive approach to marriage preparation that covers not them as they strive to obtain their eternal reward. If you (Continued on page 17) only the sacramentality and theology of marriage (God’s are interested in learning more or would like to register Plan for Love), but the practical life skills necessary to live for a class, call Diana or John David at Ruah Woods: (513) out the rich Catholic vision of marriage (Life Skills for 407-8672 or visit us online at www.RuahWoods.org/learn- Couples).” Joy Filled Marriage is one of the approved pre- ing. Cana retreats supported by the Archdiocese of Cincinnati, John David Kimes is the TOB Program Coordinator at and is offered on the first weekend of each month. 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cation is becoming less a difficulty and more a reflex, and Living Natural Family Planning we both attribute that in part to NFP. Yes, NFP can be a challenge and a sacrifice at times, and For a newly engaged couple, learning Natural Family broader channels of communication between us. Like we’re not saying it’s always easy, but that is part of true Planning (NFP) is informative, interesting, at times a little many young couples, we both are currently employed. love — a bit of sacrifice for the beloved. We find a noble joy embarrassing, but always enlightening. Living NFP, on the Commuting, daily exercising, paying bills, preparing din- in sacrificing ourselves for each other, even in so private a other hand, is a different story. It is a story about connec- ner, outside commitments … all are busy but necessary way as withholding intimacy until the time is right; self- activities in a sacrifice is an important root element of love, and it builds h e a l t h y respect for each other and ourselves. We’ve also found that lifestyle, but a sense of humor helps during the times of no physical collectively intimacy. When the signs of fertility were apparent, we’d tiresome as jokingly say, “OK, see you in a few days.” We’ve heard some well. Tired people say they could never follow NFP since they can’t couples find have intercourse during the time that they want. We’ve it difficult to found that the time of abstinence gives us moments when talk in the we can just be together and talk, play tennis, joke or go out evenings, and to dinner. It reminds us that we’re much more than just would prefer physical beings wanting to satisfy a desire. to veg out. We’re both happy to have learned NFP and to be living We’re no dif- it. We know that it is enriching our marriage in our every ferent. day life and even in ways we probably won’t realize until But, since much later. Knowing that we’re building a strong founda- NFP holds tion of love, mutual respect and faith gives us confidence the key to our in our future. We’re best friends who love each other tions, unique and fulfilling. It involves the use of informa- family planning, we necessarily discuss personal and inti- enough to want the best for each other and our marriage. tion that we then apply to the reality of everyday married mate topics about our fertility that most couples never This article is from the United States Conference of life. broach. These NFP talks are springboards to deeper dis- Catholic Bishops’ website: www.foryourmarriage.org. At the beginning of our married life, we used NFP to courses and more personal dialogue between us. We’ve avoid pregnancy, as the time was not right for it. Currently, both noticed that with time, open and intimate communi- we are using NFP to achieve pregnancy. We were delighted to find that the two focuses of NFP have made our young marriage both more focused and more intimate. Unlike artificial contraception, which usually places Living Natural Family Planning — full burden of family planning on the woman, NFP pro- motes shared responsibility of the fertility of both the hus- band and wife. It lends a spirit of togetherness to a mar- Frequently asked questions riage. There’s no “Have you taken your pill?” That is, “Are What does the Catholic Church A couple need not desire to con- strual cycle. NFP methods are based you safe?” In our marriage there’s no holding back that teach about married love? ceive a child in every act of inter- on day-to-day observations of the nat- precious part of ourselves — our fertility. Rather than a Marriage is an intimate, lifelong course. But they should never sup- urally occurring signs of the fertile burden to be dealt with, for us it is a blessing to be under- partnership in which husbands and press the life-giving power that is and infertile phases of the menstrual stood and respected. The complete self-giving says, “I love wives give and receive love unselfish- part of what they pledged in their cycle. It takes into account the all of you.” ly. The sexual relationship expresses marriage vows. uniqueness of each woman. A man is The benefits of NFP extend beyond family planning. their married love and shows what it fertile throughout his life, while a We’d heard that often the husband will develop a deeper means to become “one body” Are couples expected to leave woman is fertile for only a few days respect for his wife and the gift of her fertility. In practice, (Genesis 2:24) and “one flesh” (Mark their family size entirely to each cycle during the childbearing we’ve found this to be true. A constant awareness of cycles 10:8, Matthew 19:6). The sexual union chance? years. A woman experiences clear, and phases makes it easier to perceive when to be loving is meant to express the full meaning No. Serious circumstances “finan- observable signs that show when she and gentle, extra patient and thoughtful, and when to of a couple’s love, its power to bind cial, physical, psychological or those is fertile and infertile. To avoid preg- resume physical intimacy. them together “the unitive aspect of involving responsibilities to other nancy, the couple abstains from inter- Unlike a couple using contraception in their marriage, marriage “and “its openness to new family members” may affect the course during the fertile phase. sex is not always an option for two who are living NFP. life” the procreative aspect. number and spacing of children. The Couples can also use NFP to achieve That’s a good thing, contrary to what popular culture Church understands this, while pregnancy because it identifies the might imply. By experiencing times when we cannot What does this have to do with encouraging couples to take a gener- time of ovulation. engage in physical intimacy, the moments that we can are contraception? ous view of children. made all the more poignant and precious. Even when we The Church believes that God has Who can use NFP? want to engage, and the chart says “no way, buddy,” it lends established an inseparable bond What should a couple do if they Any married couple can use NFP. an element of bittersweet waiting. between the unitive and procreative have good reason to avoid having A woman need not have regular After all, consider the alternative: When a woman is on aspects of marriage. The couple has a child? cycles. The key to successful NFP use the pill or using some other kind of chemical contracep- promised to give themselves to each A married couple can engage in is cooperation and communication tive, she’s always available for sex. There’s no waiting, no other, and this mutual self-giving intercourse during the naturally between husband and wife. longing, just indulging whenever you want — nice at first, includes the gift of their fertility. This infertile times in a woman’s cycle, or perhaps, but over time spontaneity and passion fade all the means that each sexual act in a mar- after childbearing years, without vio- How effective is NFP? more quickly by the frequency of the intimacy. Oftentimes riage needs to be open to the possibil- lating the meaning of marital inter- NFP can be very effective, depend- sexual intimacy will become less mutual over time in a ity of conceiving a child. “Thus, arti- course. This is the principle behind ing on how strongly motivated the contracepting marriage and more mandatory, and thus ficial contraception is contrary to natural family planning (NFP). couple is and whether they follow the less rewarding for one or both spouses. God’s will for marriage because it rules of the method. Couples who Periodic abstinence in our marriage has opened up separates the act of conception from What is Natural Family Planning? carefully follow all the rules to avoid sexual union” (United States Natural family planning is a gen- pregnancy can achieve a success rate Catholic Catechism for Adults, p. eral name for family planning meth- of 97–98 percent. 409). ods that are based on a woman’s men-

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Lenten resolutions (Continued from page 15) Participants in the Pilgrimage of Families, Rome, Oct. 26, 2013) 4. Pray together with your spouse and family. “Praying the Our Father together, around the table, is not something extraordinary: it’s easy. And praying the Rosary together, as a family, is very beautiful and a source of great strength! And also praying for one another! The husband for his wife, the wife for her husband, both together for their children, the children for their grand- parents…praying for each other. This is what it means to pray in the family and it is what makes the family strong: prayer.” ( for , Rome, Oct. 27, 2013) Pray to the Lord to “multiply your love and give it to you fresh and good each day.” Pray together, “Lord, give us this day our daily love.” (Address to Engaged Couples, Rome, Feb. 14, 2014) 5. Visit the elderly, especially your grandparents. “Grandparents are like the wisdom of the family, they are the wisdom of a people. … Listen to your grandparents.” (Address to Participants in the Pilgrimage of Families, Rome, Oct. 26, 2013) “How important grandparents are for family life, for passing on the human and religious heritage which is so essential for each and every society!” (Angelus at World Youth Day, Rio de Janeiro, July 26, 2013) 6. Share the faith with others. “Christian families are missionary families. …They are missionary also in everyday life, in their doing everyday things, as they bring to everything the salt and the leaven of faith!” (Homily for Family Day, Rome, Oct. 27, 2013) Bethany Meola is the Assistant Director of the USCCB Secretariat of Laity, Marriage, Family Life and Youth. She hopes to grow in holiness during Lent with her husband, Dan. This article was originally published on www.foryour- marriage.org.

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“become one flesh.” one in 2018 and another that finished in January. In that “Both of us are fiercely independent people,” David program, they watched and discussed segments of the Program for newlyweds said. “We’re both extremely Type A, competitive people.” “Beloved” series and thought that format worked best for (Continued from page 17) As they wrestled with this ques- the participating the Archdiocese of St. Paul and Minneapolis. tion, they had a growing desire to couples. During that time, they were drawn to the religious com- explore it with other newly married “There were a lot munity Pro Ecclesia Sancta (For the Holy Church) of couples. It started with one couple of growing pains, I priests, brothers and sisters who serve St. Mark Parish. they hung out with after getting mar- think, in just grow- They joined the community’s lay movement, Catholic ried. They often would stay up talk- ing in trust with Advance. They took part in retreats and weekly eucharis- ing until 2 a.m., with deeper topics each other to get to tic adoration. Eventually, they felt a desire to give to other coming up near the end. the point of com- couples what they had received spiritually. “When that would happen, we fortably talking As they discussed what that meant, they acknowledged were like, ‘This would be so cool to about different top- what they perceived as a shortage of programs for newly- have with other couples, too, and ics,” Bridget said. weds in the Catholic Church. It was a problem they felt expand it beyond just the four of us,’” “But, I think it’s called to address. Bridget said. “At that point, we were been really cool. “There was a ton (of resources) available to us up to the married probably about a year and Two of the couples minute we got married,” David said. “Then, the minute really had the desire in our hearts to have had kids after we exchanged vows, it seemed to us that there was get to know other couples and have (while) in our group, nothing available.” something more formalized.” which was really Bridget agreed. “There’s so much emphasis on mar- As they developed their ideas, awesome. And, I riage prep,” she said. “But, what are we doing once people they decided that meetings would CNS photo/Dave Hrbacek, Catholic Spirit think we’ve gotten are married? What is there to offer them to keep their mar- take place in the couples’ homes to Bridget and David Busacker enjoy drinking coffee together in their really comfortable riages strong, and offer resources when it is hard or when cultivate hospitality, which the kitchen Jan. 31, 2019. The parishioners of St. Mark in St. Paul, Minn., with each other and you’re just trying to figure it out?” Busackers believe is lacking in con- launched a program for newly married couples in 2017. continue growing in At a fundamental level, they were trying to understand temporary culture. It also would cre- community togeth- what it means for a husband and wife to, as the Bible says, ate a deeper connection between the couples, which, hope- er, which is what we wanted.” fully, would strengthen As they’ve developed the meetings’ format, they’ve also everyone’s marriages. learned to allow for flexibility. Their goal was simple: “We both wanted it to be perfect,” David said. “We both “Have people in, live life wanted this to be the right ministry everybody needs. But together in the mess of in reality, what people wanted was just to see each other life,” Bridget said. and talk openly. And, I really think that everything we’ve The couples meet twice done so far has achieved its purpose. We created a group of a month — first as couples, people where we could honestly talk about hard stuff with then as men and women one another.” separately. So far, Bridget Dave Hrbacek is a staff writer and photographer at The and David have organized Catholic Spirit, newspaper of the Archdiocese of St. Paul two six-month programs — and Minneapolis.

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Whenitcomestoprayer,thereisnoroom for individualism,pope says Junno Arocho Esteves family life: “please,” “thank you” and “sorry.” their loved ones and those who suffer. Catholic News Service Walking down the center aisle of the hall, the pope greeted The pope highlighted the “impressive absence” of the VATICAN CITY — Prayer is not just a private and intimate the joyful pilgrims who held out their hands to greet him, word “I” throughout the text of the “Our Father,” even dialogue between a person and God, but rather an opportuni- have their religious objects blessed or their babies kissed. though, he said, it is a word “that everyone holds in high ty for Christians to bring the needs of others before the Lord, Continuing his series of talks on the “Our Father,” the esteem.” Pope Francis said. pope focused his reflection on Jesus’ instructions on how to He also noted that the prayer’s petitions are made on “There is no room for individualism in the dialogue with pray, which he said was a secret act that is “visible only to behalf of “us,” for example, “give us this day our daily bread; God,” the pope said Feb. 13 during his weekly general audi- God.” forgive us our trespasses; lead us not into temptation; deliver ence. “There is no display of one’s own problems as if we were Prayer, the pope said, “avoids falsehood; with God, it is us from evil.” the only ones in the world who suffer. There is no prayer impossible to pretend. It is impossible! In front of God, there “Even the most basic human questions — such as that of raised to God that is not the prayer of a community of broth- is no trick that has power. This is how God knows us: naked in having food to extinguish hunger — are all in the plural ers and sisters.” our conscience. And it isn’t possible to pretend.” form,” the pope said. “In , no one asks for Arriving at the Paul VI audience hall, the pope was wel- While prayer is an intimate act, akin to the “exchange of bread for himself: he pleads for it for all the poor of the comed by the sound of a children’s choir singing a song based glances between two people who love each other,” Pope world.” on his own teaching of the three words that are important for Francis said that true Christians also carry in their hearts

siblings all had the best education possible despite the mea- transportation and infrastructure; we build classroom CRS Rice Bowl ger family resources. The fact that he was able to achieve a blocks, we provide teaching and learning materials, we pro- (Continued from page 1) quality education in one of the most deprived regions of vide water, sanitation and more.” Ghana has shaped his worldview and is why he does what he Mr. Mumuni asked the students why they thought it was dren in school. In West Africa, many communities depend on does. As a father of two daughters he works hard to provide important for them to learn about other people living in agriculture for food and income. As a result, children com- what is best for them and when he sees the poor and the most poverty in other places around the would. He asked them monly drop out of school to help parents farm the land to vulnerable, he always sees them through the eyes of his chil- how these stories connected to them or why they mattered at help make ends meet. While helping in the fields provides dren and remembers from where he came. all. some support to the family, a child without an education faces Sierra Leone, where Mr. Mumuni works, is still recover- “Every day the children in Sierra Leone pray to God for long-term obstacles. ing from the civil war that raged between 1991 and 2002, that support before they start school. They pray for better lives for Offering meals to children doesn’t just keep them in resulted in tens of thousands of deaths and the displacement their parents, for good health, for a good education, for a good school, it also encourages parents to become more engaged of more than 2 million people (about a third of the popula- future. But, what does that prayer mean? It is calling on God and committed to improving their children’s education. Mr. tion). Sierra Leone remains among the least developed coun- for help. How does God answer prayer? He answers through Mumuni has witnessed this firsthand — parents have volun- tries in the world, ranking 183 out of 186 countries. Life each of us. That is how God works. We are all vessels, instru- teered to upgrade school facilities by providing and trans- expectancy is 48 years and youth unemployment is at 70 per- ments of God,” said Mr. Mumuni. porting building materials. This is their way to show they cent. Rates of child and maternal mortality are high, levels of “We are commissioned by our humanity and by our believe in the importance of education, and to prove that education are low and, despite rich resource endowments Christian faith to be each other’s keeper. This quote from they have the power to build their own futures. and abundant land, more than 60 percent of Sierra Leoneans Matthew’s Gospel has always touched me deeply: ‘Whatever Mr. Mumuni shared his personal story of growing up in live on less than $1.25 a day. you do for one of the least of these brothers you do unto me.’ Ghana. He was lucky, he said, to have parents who believed in “CRS has been working in the most remote parts of Sierra … This is why we should all be interested in what happens in the value of a good education, who ensured that he and his Leone” to make sure the another country and what happens to people. Because the peoples’ basic needs are world is connected.” met, Mr. Mumuni said. Through CRS Rice Bowl, faith communities throughout “CRS has been working in the United States put their faith into action. Lenten alms the communities (of Sierra donated through CRS Rice Bowl support the work of CRS in Leone) to advocate for more roughly 45 different countries each year. 25 percent of all children to be put in schools. donations to CRS Rice Bowl stay in the local diocese, support- Not only do we provide ing hunger and poverty alleviation efforts. Since its incep- opportunities for children tion in 1975, CRS Rice Bowl has raised nearly $300 million. to obtain school and a hot More information and resources can be found at lunch, we also provide https://www.crsricebowl.org.

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Father Lange remembers dad for faith/love Same day ultrasound (Continued from page 24) Richard Louis Lange, 66, Cold Spring, Ky., died peacefully even realize.” in his home, Monday, Jan. 28. He is the father of Father Father Lange said that his father inspired his faith and, time and if that image is there, where they can see it and Joshua Lange, pastor, St. Benedict Parish, Covington. in part, his vocation to the priesthood. save it, it becomes very real to them.” Mr. Lange was born May 17, 1952, in Cincinnati, Ohio. His “Dad gave me my love for the Church. He saw the Church Mrs. Zembrodt said that they track, to the best of their family lived in Newport where they were members of St. as truly the palpable presence of Christ in human society, ability, the final decisions made by the people who come to Vincent de Paul Parish. Mr. Lange attended St. Vincent de and as a wondrous and magnificent reality. Being involved see them. Paul School and is a graduate of Newport Catholic High in Christ Renews His Parish at St. Mary’s was so important “Some of them we may know that they’ve have changed School. to Dad, because he loved the Church — from his friends their mind during the ultrasound. We also follow up with a In 1979 he married Donna Pompilio and the couple moved there in CRHP to the pope. And in many ways Dad gave me doctor’s report of the ultrasound findings with them, and we to Alexandria, Ky., and became members of St. Mary Parish. my love for the priesthood. He always spoke of priests with also, at that time, would like to know what their decision is Father Lange is the couple’s only child. love, starting with his own experience of a young Father Leo in case it is our last contact with them,” she said. Mr. Lange worked as a con- Schmidt when Father Schmidt was assistant at St. Vincent It has taken a giant leap of faith for Care Net to begin struction superintendent for Parish in Newport when Dad was growing up.” offering same-day ultrasounds. many years and later for the Mr. Lange had a close relationship with Jesus and, in a “It is a big deal. We are kind of stepping out in faith that Diocese of Covington doing special way, he loved the Holy Spirit, Father Lange said. God is going to carry us through this,” Mrs. Zembrodt said. maintenance work for various “He liked to meditate and just ‘get in tune,’ as he called it, “We are offering a small stipend to medical RNs who want to churches. with the Holy Spirit,” he said. come onboard at Care Net and train to facilitate ultrasound In high school, he was active In the end, after suffering from a long illness, Mr. Lange services in the first and second trimester. We have made this in sports at Newport Catholic found the Holy Spirit to be a welcome friend. decision and, so far, God has opened the gate for us.” High School and later coached “He went to bed, and never really woke up again. He died According to Mrs. Zembrodt, having a place like Care Net little league football. He was extremely peacefully, without ever really suffering again, in and supporting grass root pregnancy care centers is a cru- active at St. Mary Parish, the house he built, with mom and me with him. That was a cial component of the pro-life movement. Alexandria, especially in the grace-filled last couple of days — a blessed death. “Laws can change in a minute — we’ve seen that recently Christ Renews His Parish pro- Everything worked out so beautifully in his last days and with the state of New York — and it’s important to have preg- gram, and St. Joseph Parish, last hours; that was the work of the Holy Spirit and Dad lis- nancy resource centers that are impacting the lives of the Cold Spring. tening to him,” Father Lange said. people they see on a daily basis. We are changing the culture Richard Louis Lange “When Dad died, we were cas- Mr. Lange is survived by his beloved wife of 40 years, and having an impact because we are meeting people at a caded with messages from peo- Donna Lange (nee. Pompilio); son, Father Joshua Lange; grass roots level and educating them on the sanctity of all ple, telling how they felt about Dad. The words people used mother, Gwen Lange; brothers Ron and Randy Lange and human life,” she said. to describe Dad are — gentle, good, funny, helpful, self-less, many nieces and nephews. “Someone can be pro-life until they are faced with an humble, hard-working, meticulous,” said Father Lange. A memorial Mass was held Feb. 16 at St. Joseph Church, unplanned pregnancy and then they may choose abortion. It Father Lange said that “love” would be another word to Cold Spring. is important that someone is there on the frontlines that can describe his Dad. Memorials are suggested to St. Benedict Church, 338 E. intercede on behalf of that child, to introduce them to their “His love and devotion to Mom was so tender and total, 17th Street, Covington, KY 41014 or American Cancer parents through ultrasound.” and that’s the kind of devotion that Mom returned to him as Society, 2808 Reading Rd., Cincinnati, OH 45206. Care Net began operations in July 1999. All services are she took such good care of him in his illness,” Mr. Lange free and confidential. To find out more visit said. “They had a beautiful marriage and we had a wonder- https://www.choselifenky.org or https://carenetnky.org. ful family life. We were blessed. Dad took care of Grandma Gwen [Lange], whom he loved very much, by helping her every way he could. And he took care of Grandma Dot [Pompilio] ‘back in the day’ as a second mother. He loved all his brothers and cousins and in-laws and nieces and nephews so much. He and mom quietly helped various peo- ple who needed it along the way as a great team. He took care of and loved me, because I felt that from him always. He gave so much to me. I owe him more than I could ever begin to

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National/World duties associated with being a priest, cannot present himself as a developers and funders in a plan aiming to reduce chronic home- priest and is forbidden to celebrate the sacraments, except to grant lessness 20 percent by 2024. Called the Healthy Housing Initiative, absolution for sins to a person in imminent danger of death. The the effort involves placing homeless people into stable housing and Pope meets head of Microsoft to only Church penalty that is more severe is , providing essential supportive services to reduce hospital readmis- which would have banned him from receiving the sacraments. The sions while ensuring that basic needs are met. Collaboration is discuss ethics in technology, AI other possible punishment was to sentence him to a “life of prayer underway with diocesan Catholic Charities operations in Detroit; VATICAN CITY — The president of Microsoft, Brad Smith, told and penance,” a penalty often imposed on elderly clerics; the penal- St. Louis; Las Vegas; Portland, Oregon; and Spokane, Washington, Pope Francis that a “human voice” was needed to speak up in the ty is similar to house arrest and usually includes banning the per- where such programs exist. “This is basically co-locating the serv- world of technology today. “A human voice like that of the Church” son from public ministry, limiting his interactions with others and ices with the housing. We’re taking a look at not only partnering with its values and authority, he said, telling the pope, “We appreci- restricting his ability to leave the place he is assigned to live. with Catholic health associations but taking advantage of access to ate your voice. We really feel this is a critical moment in time.” McCarrick’s punishment is the toughest meted out to a cardinal by property that most of (Catholic Charities) members have,” said Smith and a delegation from the U.S.-based technology company the Vatican in modern times. He currently lives in a Capuchin fri- Curtis Johnson, vice president of affordable housing at Catholic met with the pope Feb. 13 to discuss the centrality of the human ary in rural Kansas. Charities USA. In some communities, structures being eyed person and the need for ethics in artificial intelligence. During the include vacant buildings on parish land such as schools and con- 30-minute meeting in the lobby of the pope’s residence, Smith “dis- Catholic Charities expects healthy vents that can be redeveloped into housing, Johnson told Catholic cussed the topic of artificial intelligence at the service of the com- News Service. In other dioceses, apartments already have been mon good and activities aimed at bridging the digital divide that housing to ease chronic homelessness developed in which key social services, mental health counseling still persists at the global level,” Alessandro Gisotti, interim direc- WASHINGTON — Catholic Charities USA is partnering with and case management are offered. tor of the Vatican press office, told reporters in a communique. five diocesan Catholic Charities agencies, local hospitals, housing Catholic bishops, groups oppose Trump’s call for national emergency WASHINGTON — Catholic bishops near the U.S.-Mexico border, joined by other U.S. prelates, voiced opposition just after President Donald Trump’s Feb. 15 declaration of a national emergency so he can order construction of a barrier along parts of the border between the two countries. “In our view, a border wall is first and foremost a symbol of division and animosity between two friendly countries. Furthermore, the wall would be an ineffective use of resources at a time of financial austerity; it would also would destroy parts of the environment, disrupt the livelihoods of ranch- ers and farmers, weaken cooperation and commerce between bor- der communities, and, at least in one instance, undermine the right to the freedom of worship,” said the statement released just after Trump, in a news conference, said he was going to sign a national emergency declaration to stave off a flow of drugs, human trafficking, gang members and illegal immigration coming across the southern border. The president later sign a spending bill that provides $1.375 billion for fencing and other measures along the border — a fraction of the $5.7 billion he had been asking from Congress for construction of the structure — he announced the national emergency that could grant him up to $8 billion for his project. In a separate bishops’ statement following Trump’s announcement, Cardinal Daniel N. DiNardo of Galveston-Houston, president of the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops, and Bishop Joe S. Vasquez of Austin, Texas, chairman of the USCCB Committee on Migration, said they were “deeply concerned about the president’s action to fund the construction of a wall along the U.S.-Mexico border, which circumvents the clear intent of Congress to limit funding of a wall.” McCarrick removed from the priest- hood after being found guilty of abuse VATICAN CITY — Pope Francis has confirmed the removal from the priesthood of Theodore E. McCarrick, the 88-year-old for- mer cardinal and archbishop of Washington. The Vatican announced the decision Feb. 16, saying he was found guilty of “solicitation in the sacrament of confession and sins against the Sixth Commandment with minors and with adults, with the aggra- vating factor of the abuse of power.” A panel of the Congregation for Doctrine of the Faith found him guilty Jan. 11, the Vatican said. McCarrick appealed the decision, but the appeal was rejected Feb. 13 by the congregation itself. McCarrick was informed of the deci- sion Feb. 15 and Pope Francis “recognized the definitive nature of this decision made in accord with law,” making a further appeal impossible. By ordering McCarrick’s “ from the clerical state,” the decision means that McCarrick loses all rights and

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online. We have been able to get these women in here imme- Care Net implements same day ultrasound diately,” said Mrs. Zembrodt. “This initiative has also increased the amount of abor- services, hopestosave more lives tion-minded clients that have come to our clinic — these are women who are seeking abortion information or had tried to David Cooley “We were offering ultrasounds one day a week in Florence schedule an appointment at an abortion facility,” she said. Associate Editor and one day a week in Cold “We have also had an increase in the number of undecided Care Net, a Christ-centered organization whose mission is Spring. We were trying to women who are still exploring their options with their preg- to educate, support and empower men and women before, get clients to come in on the nancy.” during and after an unplanned pregnancy while uplifting the days we were open for ultra- The reason these clients end up at Care Net, according to sanctity of human life, has expanded its medical services to sounds,” Mrs. Zembrodt Mrs. Zembrodt, is because their website contains informa- include same-day ultrasound appointments. According to said. “What we noticed was tion about abortion and so it comes up in their online search. Lyndi Zembrodt, executive director, this new initiative may that we would have a drop “We don’t provide referrals for abortion but if they seek result in 41 percent more lives saved in 2019. off of clients not returning us out we are going to be able to provide them with a pregnan- While Care Net began offering ultrasounds at no cost to for their second appoint- cy confirmation through ultrasound, which is basically what clients in 2006, they were only able to do so once a week, rotat- ment [to get an ultrasound]. they are going to need,” she said. “When they come to us at ing between their two medical facilities — Cold Spring and It is crucial that we get them no cost for the ultrasound, we are able to provide them with Florence. Care Net also has a third pregnancy service center here. Ninety to 98 percent of information about fetal development and a picture of their in Williamstown, but it is not a medical clinic. our clients will choose life baby. We work on connecting them with their baby right for their unborn baby if away. We give them truthful information right then and they make it to Care Net to there.” have an ultrasound.” Mrs. Zembrodt said that the majority of Care Net’s clients Last month, January are women who are considered abortion-vulnerable — 2019, Care Net launched the women who may otherwise want to carry their baby to term new initiative, but their circumstances, whether it be their job, an unstable Care Net offering ultra- relationship with the father of the baby or housing issues, upcoming events sounds four days a lead them to believe that they are in a position where they Annual Banquet, featuring week — each day can’t choose life. David Bereit, Thursday, May 9, they are open. “We do everything we can think of that we feel will be Receptions, Erlanger There was a 110 per- meaningful for these young people to connect to these Golf Scramble, Friday, Aug. 16, cent increase in the babies,” Mrs. Zembrodt said. Aston Oaks, North Bend, Ohio number of ultra- “For example, we’ve implemented in the last two years sounds they per- something called ‘MOMentum.’ MOMentum is an applica- 5K Run/Walk, Saturday, Sept. 28, formed this year tion that enables us to send the images of the ultrasound to Pioneer Park, Independence over last. the client’s phone or e-mail. We give them a physical copy of “We are attract- their picture but we also send it to their phone — we believe (above) The newest member of the medical team at Care Net, Ed Staat, ing more clients because they can get in for a same-day that has also increased the number of lives saved because a nurse practitioner, is trained by Tammy Warner, RN, Care Net med- ultrasound. We have revamped our client website, to people are so visual. They have their phone with them all the ical manager. (above right) an image of the MOMentum application, include a phone number for our 24-hour helpline they which allows Care Net to send an ultrasound image of a young can call or they can book their appointment right there (Continued on page 21) woman’s baby directly to her phone.