Courteous Communication Learn the Knock-Knock Joke About Interrupting Parents’ Prayer and Discover Why “Garbage Talk” Stinks
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Courteous communication Learn the knock-knock joke about interrupting Parents’ prayer and discover why “garbage talk” stinks. Check As parents, we need to be positive role models for out these ideas and more for memorable our kids. If you feel that courteous communication lessons that help kids speak respectfully – even is an area of personal weakness, know that many to siblings! parents struggle in this area. Use this sample prayer to ask God to help you, as well as your The activities in this lesson are designed to help kids: children, take this lesson to heart. • respond with kindness and gentleness Alternatively, build your own prayer using some of the verses suggested under “Scripture-guided • show greater sensitivity to the feelings of others prayer for parents.” • focus on encouraging others Sample prayer Lord of All, Elihu heard Your voice in nature, and this • listen without interrupting. is how he described it: In addition, this lesson helps address sarcasm, “Listen! Listen to the roar of His voice, to the gossiping, bossiness, bragging, teasing, yelling and rumbling that comes from His mouth. He unleashes inattentiveness. His lightning beneath the whole heaven and sends it to the earth. After that comes the sound of His roar; He thunders with His majestic voice. When His Lesson contents voice resounds, He holds nothing back. God’s voice Parents’ prayer 2 thunders in marvelous ways; He does great things Kids talk with God 3 beyond our understanding” (Job 37:2-5). Speak a blessing 4 Memory verses 4 In contrast, Elijah heard You speak in a gentle Kick-off craft 5 whisper, rather than in the wind, the earthquake or Bible stories 6 the fire (1 Kings 19:11-13). Father God, thank you that Creative discipline 8 all of Your communication is based on Your great Hands-on options 9 love for us. Thank you for Your Son Jesus, whose sacrifice made it possible for me to have direct communication with You. It is a life-changing privilege to know, “This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us” (1 John 5:14). Thank you for the gift of Your Holy Spirit, who allows me to commune with You intimately (Romans 8:26-27). Luke 4:22 says, “All spoke well of Him and were amazed at the gracious words that came from His lips.” They were talking about You, Jesus. What an example for us to follow! Lord, sometimes I hear my children speaking with impatience, sarcasm, unkindness or . They sound so much like me, and it is an embarrassing indication of my © 2012 Focus on the Family (Canada) Association. All rights reserved. 2 Courteous communication | Kids of Integrity own sinful nature. I would rather be Christ-like so Scripture-guided prayer for parents that when my children imitate me, they are also a Read and pray through one or more of the selected reflection of You and Your character. Scriptures under each heading. Focus on listening to God and allowing His Spirit to direct you as you pray. You tell us in Your Word that out of the overflow of my heart my mouth speaks (Luke 6:45). Please fill Character focus me with Your mercy so I speak with kindness and Begin by letting God know how much you appreciate gentleness, in a way that encourages rather than His sovereignty and desire to hear His voice. discourages. In all aspects of my communication, Job 38:1-2,34-36 | Job 42:1-6 | Mark 1:21-24 | verbal and non-verbal, I would like to reflect a Christ- John 14:23-27 | John 15:12-15 like attitude (Philippians 2:3). Jesus, my desire is to see people as You do. When I communicate with Heart search others, I want them to see Your love for them in me. Acknowledge when and how you demonstrate a lack of courtesy personally. I bring my children to You. When Psalm 34:11-13 | Proverbs 10:19 | Matthew 12:35-37 | and are feeling upset, self-centered, James 1:19-20 | James 3:7-12 or , rather than venting these negative feelings through hurtful language and actions, I pray Gratitude that they will have a desire to go to You. Proverbs Thank God for ways you have seen courtesy 13:3 says that “He who guards his lips guards his life, exhibited in your family. but he who speaks rashly comes to ruin.” I pray that Your Holy Spirit will help and Family requests to guard their lips. At times when they are tempted Ask God to make you and your family courteous and to use their tongues to speak unkind words, please Christ-like in your communication. give them the strength of character to bless those Psalm 19:14 | Psalm 141:3 | Luke 4:22 | who curse them (Luke 6:28). I pray that their hearts 1 Corinthians 13:1,4-7 | 1 Thessalonians 5:11 will be full of Your love and grace so that they can respond in all situations with gentleness, kindness and respect. Kids talk with God Resolving to learn how to speak graciously is an act “Before a word is on my tongue, You know it completely, of love and obedience to God, but it’s not easy. Use O Lord” (Psalm 139:4). In the name of Jesus Christ, I these sample prayers to help your children ask for ask You to protect our family from Satan, who seeks God’s help. to tempt us to use our tongues for harm instead of good (James 3:6). My prayer for our family is that Alternatively, use the verses listed under the words of our mouths and the meditations of our “Scripture-guided prayer for children” to help your hearts be pleasing in Your sight O Lord, our Rock and kids formulate an original prayer. our Redeemer (Psalm 19:14). Thank you, God, for the victory You have given us through Your Son, Jesus Sample prayers Christ. We want to live with Your power in us so that Dear God, please help me to guard my lips You can receive glory and honour through the way we (Proverbs 13:3). Amen. interact with others. Amen. Dear God, please help me to have a wise tongue that heals instead of a reckless tongue that hurts others (Proverbs 12:18). Amen. Dear God, I am very angry right now. Please help me to get a right attitude before I open my mouth. Amen. © 2012 Focus on the Family (Canada) Association. All rights reserved. 3 Courteous communication | Kids of Integrity Dear God, I want to hear Your voice. Help me to • , when you speak that way, it learn to listen. Amen. encourages me/others. Dear God, I have sinned in the way I • speaks courteously. (spoke unkindly etc.). Please forgive me and send Your Holy Spirit to set a guard over my mouth and • You have blessed your friend by speaking that to keep watch over the door of my lips (Psalm 141:3). way, . Amen. • You were wise to wait until you had calmed Dear God, please watch over the door of my mouth down before you spoke, . so I don’t say things to discourage others. Instead, help me to think of things I can say to build others up (Psalm 141:3, 1 Thessalonians 5:11). Memory verses Choose one verse and practice it regularly Scripture-guided prayer for children while your family is focusing on learning to Read through one of the selected Scriptures under each speak courteously. heading and help your children pray based on the verse that you read. Encourage them to listen to God and Psalm 19:14 “May the words of my mouth and the allow His Spirit to guide them as they pray. meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.” Character focus Begin by letting God know how much you appreciate Psalm 34:12-13 “Whoever of you loves life and desires Him and desire to hear His voice. to see many good days, keep your tongue from evil Job 40:9 | Luke 4:22 | John 14:23,25-26 and your lips from speaking lies.” Heart search Psalm 139:4 “Before a word is on my tongue, you Acknowledge when and how you are not courteous. know it completely, O Lord.” Proverbs 13:3 | Proverbs 15:1 | James 1:19 Psalm 141:3 “Set a guard over my mouth, O Lord; Gratitude keep watch over the door of my lips.” Thank God for ways you have seen courtesy exhibited in your family. Proverbs 10:19 “When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.” Personal requests Ask God to make you, your siblings and parents, Proverbs 10:20 “The tongue of the righteous is courteous and Christ-like in your communication. choice silver, but the heart of the wicked is of little Psalm 19:14 | Psalm 141:3 | 1 Thessalonians 5:11 value.” Proverbs 12:14 “From the fruit of his lips a man is Speak a blessing filled with good things . .” Compliments are a wonderful motivator! Try using these statements to draw attention to your Proverbs 12:18 “Reckless words pierce like a sword, children’s progress – you’ll keep them determined to but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” make it a habit to speak respectfully. Proverbs 12:23 “A prudent man keeps his knowledge • What kind words those are, . to himself, but the heart of fools blurts out folly.” • , when you speak that way, it shows Proverbs 12:25 “An anxious heart weighs a man down, others that you respect them.