TRANSGENDER and GENDER NONCONFORMING STUDENTS: Everyone Has the Right to Be Themselves in School, and That Includes the Ability to Express Gender
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ABOUT DREW Christopher Andrew Leinonen, known to friends as Drew (Dru), was born on June 1, 1984, in Detroit, Michigan. As a youth, he and his mother Christine moved to the Tampa Bay area in Florida. This is where he thrived as a son, friend, and advocate. At the age of 17, Drew started the very first Gay-Straight Alliance at Seminole High School, a move that would eventually earn him the Anne Frank Humanitarian Award from the St. Petersburg Holocaust Museum. Drew always believed that everyone deserved to feel loved, welcomed, and affirmed. Drew went to college at the University of Central Florida, where he was very active in University of Central Florida’s Gay-Straight Alliance. He earned both his bachelor’s and master’s degrees in psychology and became a licensed mental health counselor. Drew enjoyed dancing, recommending new music and movies to all his friends, graphic design, playing Dance Dance Revolution, and other video games. Drew’s presence and residence were always the “friend hub,” and he excelled at finding ways to bring individuals together, making them feel loved, and letting them know they had a best friend in him. Drew’s life was tragically cut short when he was killed, along with his boyfriend, Juan Guerrero, and 47 other people in the 2016 Pulse nightclub massacre in Orlando. In honor of Drew, several of his friends launched The Dru Project with a mission to spread the love they knew from Drew and to carry on his passion for inclusion and unity. ABOUT THE DRU PROJECT The Dru Project is a lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, plus (LGBTQ+) advocacy organization on a mission to spread love across the nation through the promotion of Gay-Straight Alliances and LGBTQ+ student clubs. The Dru Project seeks to provide education and resources on issues facing LGBTQ+ youth and provide scholarships to students who truly exemplify Drew’s spirit for unity, inclusion, and love. The Dru Project looks forward to continuing to provide LGBTQ+ and allied youth the resources necessary to become leaders in their community and catalysts for change to make all Florida schools welcoming and affirming of LGBTQ+ students. TABLE OF CONTENTS About This Guide ..........................................................2 Know Your Rights (KYR): Laws & Polices that Protect LGBTQ+ Youth. .3 LGBTQ+ Community: Understanding Identities and the Importance of Community ..10 Contemporary History of the LGBTQ+ Community: Learning from Our Past. .10 LGBTQ+ Vocabulary and Terminology: The Power of Words .....................18 Challenges Faced by the LGBTQ+ Community: Issue-Based Information and Ways to Engage your Alliances ....................19 Intersectionality in the LGBTQ+ Community ..................................19 Understanding and Supporting Gender Identity ...............................25 Risks and Benefits of Coming Out ..........................................27 Building Our Alliances and Developing Our Skills as Allies .......................28 Ending Anti-LGBTQ+ Bullying and Harassment in Schools .......................30 Do It Like Dru: Tools for Engaging Your Alliances and Taking Action ..............36 Definitions/Vocabulary. ...................................................38 Group Agreements. .....................................................41 Planning and Goal Setting Worksheet. .......................................43 Hosting a Movie Viewing. .................................................44 Hosting a Panel Discussion ...............................................45 ABCs for Understanding LGBTQ+ Terminology ................................46 Give ‘Em a Pop Quiz to Make ‘Em an LGBTQ+ Terminology Whiz! .................47 Coming Out Story. ......................................................49 Coming Out Handout ....................................................51 Drawing Conclusions ....................................................52 Exploring Your Own Gender Journey ........................................53 Misgendering and Respect for Pronouns Activity ..............................56 Seeing Beyond Gender ..................................................57 Microaggression Activity .................................................58 Bullying Quiz ...........................................................61 Steps to Being an Effective Ally Worksheet. ..................................63 “-Isms”: From Identification to Activism ......................................65 Self-Care Plan Worksheet. ................................................69 Self-Esteem Journal .....................................................71 DO IT LIKE DRU: FOSTERING UNITY AND INCLUSION THROUGH LGBTQ+ STUDENT ALLIANCES 1 ABOUT THIS GUIDE This publication is an educational resource and advocacy tool for Florida LGBTQ+ student alliances. For the purpose of this publication, LGBTQ+ student alliances is an umbrella term that includes school-based Genders and Sexualities Alliances (GSAs), Gay-Straight Alliances (also known as GSAs), Pride Clubs, LGBTQ+ student clubs, and any other student-led organization dedicated to improving the lived experiences of LGBTQ+ youth. The sections outlined in this publication will refer to student clubs and GSAs interchangeably with the understanding that regardless of how your group identifies, we all share a similar mission to foster unity and inclusion in our school communities. This resource will provide your group the necessary information about the LGBTQ+ community, history, and terminology, as well as challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community. Additionally, it includes activities to educate your group and school community to advocate for change. When used in conjunction with regularly scheduled and well-organized meetings, this guide will contribute to your group’s capacity to develop leadership skills and to improve the lived experiences for LGBTQ+ youth in your school and across Florida. This resource is built to work in all student-led organizations, at any stage of development. Whether you are just getting started or in the middle of your sixth year, this guide is intended to provide a variety of activities, discussion topics, and tools to use throughout the year. The activities and resources in this book are flexible, and you are encouraged to use it in a manner that best suits your group’s needs. We also encourage each of you to learn more about The Dru Project, keep up with us on social media, share your stories with us, and check out our scholarship opportunities by visiting us at www.thedruproject.org. KNOW YOUR RIGHTS (KYR): LAWS & POLICES THAT PROTECT LGBTQ+ YOUTH As the opening section of this publication, it provides general information about knowing your rights and explains the purpose and application of laws and policies intended to help you combat the discrimination and harassment of LGBTQ+ youth and their allies. LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY: UNDERSTANDING IDENTITIES AND THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNITY This section will set a foundational understanding of the unique collection of people, subcultures, and organizations that make up the LGBTQ+ community. With an improved awareness of identities included in the term LGBTQ+, your student club will be prepared to move forward with a more inclusive framework. CONTEMPORARY HISTORY OF THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY: LEARNING FROM OUR PAST Awareness of contemporary LGBTQ+ history will provide your student club an opportunity to connect LGBTQ+ peoples across time and distance. Having this information is a step toward learning from our past successes and missteps while using that knowledge to address the current challenges faced by the LGBTQ+ community. LGBTQ+ VOCABULARY AND TERMINOLOGY: THE POWER OF WORDS Having ever-changing terminology allows the LGBTQ+ community to explore, evolve, and identify meanings and phrases that speak to our sense of identity and kinship. This section will foster understanding for your student club and help connect vocabulary to the many unique experiences and identities within the LGBTQ+ community. NEEDS & CHALLENGES FACED BY THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY: ISSUE-BASED INFORMATION AND WAYS TO ENGAGE YOUR ALLIANCE While there are a number of significant challenges facing the LGTBQ+ community, this section includes a handful of issues and topics to serve as a starting point for your student club. Use the topics provided to reflect, explore, gain insight, and find inspiration to take your student club’s efforts even further. Feel empowered to do your own research and add to the resources provided to address the specific needs of your student club or school community. DO IT LIKE DRU: TOOLS FOR ENGAGING YOUR ALLIANCE AND TAKING ACTION Drew showed his passion for inclusion and unity through acts of love and advocacy. Once your group builds a foundational understanding of the LGBTQ+ community and understands your rights as a student club and as LGBTQ+ individuals, as well as some of the challenges facing LGBTQ+ community, you are ready to engage your student club in taking action. These tools are here for you to be leaders in your community and catalysts for change in your school, to make the future better for LGBTQ+ youth. 2 DO IT LIKE DRU: FOSTERING UNITY AND INCLUSION THROUGH LGBTQ+ STUDENT ALLIANCES KNOW YOUR RIGHTS (KYR): LAWS & KYR! POLICES That PROTECT LGBTQ+ YOUTH LGBTQ+ students, unfortunately, face discrimination and harassment on a regular basis. The reality is that most LGBTQ+ youth, their parents, educators, school administrators, and other adults know very little about the laws that protect LGBTQ+ youth. In fact, the