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0800 AVIVA NOW Summer 2019 advocateTHE Learning to Understand Himself Aviva receives approximately 4000 calls for support a year. Recently, we received a call that was a little different. A woman called just to say thank you, not for herself, but for her partner who received support through Aviva’s ReachOut service. After just a couple of months, she said he had completely changed. Trent* came to Aviva after his finally began to understand the partner recommended it to him. “why” behind his anger and “We were going through some work through his past trauma. troubles and realised we needed “[Nicky has helped me] to be some help with things,” he able to allow myself to grieve. explains. Trent had been through Allow myself to feel happiness three anger management not as a foreign feeling. He’s courses and supervision prior very naturally pin-pointed key to coming to Aviva. “But this points to the puzzle that I’ve guy here,” he says, indicating been looking for, for quite a few his support worker Nicky, “out years.” Trent recalls how he was of all the professional help I’ve treated as a child for his ADHD received, this guy is the best!” and how he has seen those Trent elaborates, “He talked experiences reflected in his own and listened. That’s the most children after they were given important thing. And I knew he the same diagnosis. “ADHD kids was listening because he gave were always seen as naughty Trent now uses what he has me the right answers!” and punished for it,” he explains. learned every day. Whether it is being a better partner, helping Trent has struggled with anger Having already put in years of his children avoid the same and needing to prove himself work to learn the right tools for challenges his ADHD gave him, right for years. Through his controlling his anger, Aviva and or his interactions with others, past courses, Trent built up Nicky may have just been there at Trent says, “I just like people to a toolbox of communication the right time and with the right be happy and good. I don’t like to skills and tactics for removing listening ear; but the improvement see people unhappy.” himself from situations where Trent has made is undeniable. he described himself as “quite Trent describes his current As Trent continues to work on scary.” The tools were helpful, relationship with his partner as, himself and his understanding, but he continued to find himself “Fantastic!” but what he says we hope he and the people in his struggling with relationships. has changed the most is other life have a future full of love and When he came to Aviva, he people’s response toward him. happiness. *Not his real name the advocate SUMMER 2019 1 Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern Visits Aviva and The Loft In April 2019, Aviva was excited to welcome Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern to The Loft. The goal of her visit was to learn more about Aviva’s approach to family and sexual violence, and The Loft’s integrated model for addressing social inequalities and their impact on wellbeing. According to data released by the New Zealand Police in June 2019, the police are called every four minutes to investigate an episode of family harm, 14% of young people report being hit or physically harmed on purpose by an adult at home, and 50% of New Zealand homicides are caused by family violence. “New Zealand stats have been abysmal for a very long time and we’ve known it for a very long time,” Director of Innovation and Strategy Nicola Woodward explains. “However, we don’t know if the most recent increased number of police call outs reflects an increase in family violence or an increase in people’s trust that if they call the police, Prime Minister Jacinda Adern with Poto Williams MP and Nicola Woodward visiting The Loft. they’ll get the help they need.” Prime Minister Ardern’s visit came of overcoming violence and proposal to government to shortly after the government’s joined Plunket’s infant drop- support and develop The Loft’s announcement that it would invest in clinic. She also connected approach for children and in the development of services with practitioners from across families. The Loft sits at the heart for family and sexual violence. The Loft partners to discuss of Aviva’s strategy to change how Ardern stated, “My goal has always the most critical issues facing we respond to family violence been for New Zealand to be the New Zealand families. “It’s and sexual violence. Family best place in the world to be a very promising and it indicates violence and problems closely child and that means supporting movement in the right direction,” connected with violence, such parents and communities to Nicola says regarding the as mental ill health, are the main ensure children grow up in secure government’s interest in Aviva reasons people walk through The homes free from violence.” and The Loft’s service models. Loft front door. The government’s recognition of The Loft model Aviva has been developing its “The ability to achieve Aviva’s and and Aviva’s approach is highly holistic child and family centered The Loft’s potential for children, encouraging as we continue approach to family violence since families and communities is not our journey to create the best 2011, recognising the importance only subject to transforming how possible response model to of pro-actively reaching out and we respond to family and sexual family and sexual violence. Sadly, earlier intervention in breaking the violence, but also transforming demand for Aviva’s services intergenerational cycle of violence how the government responds. always exceeds the funding we to achieve this very goal. We’re all parts of one receive from government. Please interdependent system.” During her visit, Ardern dropped consider helping us in creating in on a Peer Support community Since the Prime Minister’s visit, a better world for our children by training course to meet The Loft partners have been making a donation at donate. people with lived experience invited to submit a funding avivafamilies.org.nz. 2 the advocate SUMMER 2019 Stitch overcame violence and learned the meaning of Ohana/family. Now he’s ready to run and show others that they can too. Helping Families to Have New Year, Truly Happy Holidays New Me We often think of Christmas as a magical time. The barbeques, It’s time to finally achieve that blossoming pohutukawa and endless summer. It is a time to New Year’s resolution to get fit! relax and appreciate our loved ones. But that’s not an easy task Aviva is looking for people to for everyone. join our team of Aviva Activators and run in the 2020 City2Surf The holiday season can be a difficult time for many of the families on 22 March and/or ASB we work with. It is one of the busiest times of year for us, with staff Christchurch Marathon on working on Christmas and New Year’s Day. Family violence affects 31 May while fundraising for every member of a family, from those who experience it, to those Aviva. Whether you run every who use it, to the children who witness it. Violence does not prejudice year or it’s your first time, based on an ethnicity, religion, socio-economic group, gender, age or why not use the opportunity sexuality. From our clients doing their best to become better parents to support family and sexual and partners, to our staff trying to help families reach their best violence services in your potential, to our leaders continually working to expand our services to community? Aviva will be all who need them, we are all trying to make a better society for our offering tips and tricks along the families and our children; a society free from violence. way to help you raise money and We can’t do it without you be a better runner. Not a runner? There are plenty Consider giving a gift to Aviva this season to help our families of other ways to be an Aviva have their own happy holidays. Make a donation directly to Aviva at Activator. This year, Revolution donate.avivafamilies.org.nz Church raised over $2000 for If you would rather make an in-kind donation, here are some suggestions: Aviva with an evening of Musical Bingo. Whether it’s a sausage Petrol and grocery vouchers sizzle, a mufti day, or a resolution The Warehouse or Eastgate Mall vouchers to finally try skydiving or shave your head, think about how you Phone top-ups can turn it into a chance to raise Entertainment passes for families awareness and raise some funds for your local community. Christmas gifts for all ages and genders The Aviva Activators webpage can Wrapping paper and gift tags help you raise funds and keep track Gifts for men, teens, and young adults of your progress. Check it out at fundraise.avivafamilies.org.nz. Let Thank you for helping us spread Christmas joy to families in us know your plans so we can your community. help you out. 2 the advocate SUMMER 2019 the advocate SUMMER 2019 3 We Couldn’t Do This Without You Did you know that Aviva benefitted from 7,943 hours of GIFTED time last year? In recognition of their dedicated service, two of our fabulous volunteers, Renata Hopkins and Bev Shepherd, received Volunteer Recognition Awards from Volunteer Canterbury on 17 June 2019. to help out.