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View metadata, citation and similar papers at core.ac.uk brought to you by CORE provided by ResearchArchive at Victoria University of Wellington LIFE OUTSIDE OF THE HOME INTERROGATING MEN’S UNDERSTANDING OF THEIR ROLES IN CAMBODIA A thesis submitted to Victoria University of Wellington on partial fulfillment of the requirements of the degree of Masters in Development Studies SYNODA SOKHAN 2015 School of Geography, Environment and Earth Sciences Supervisors: Carol Harrington and Sara Kindon LIFE OUTSIDE OF THE HOME INTERROGATING MEN’S UNDERSTANDING OF THEIR ROLES IN CAMBODIA A thesis submitted to Victoria University of Wellington on partial fulfillment of the requirements of the degree of Masters in Development Studies SYNODA SOKHAN 2015 School of Geography, Environment and Earth Sciences Supervisors: Carol Harrington and Sara Kindon ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS To all participants, for sharing stories, understanding the importance of this project and devoting their time to participate, thank you. I really appreciated your willingness, commitment and friendship. Thanks to Carol and Sara, for your support and encouragement to me as an international student who is new to the thesis program. To the teaching and support staff of Victoria University of Wellington, a very big thank you as without your knowledge and services I would not have been able to complete this thesis. To the New Zealand Aid Program, thank you for your financial support to me and my friends from Cambodia to learn ideas around best practice in New Zealand. Due to this program, I have gained more knowledge in development studies and greater understanding and general knowledge about living in today‟s modern society. To my family, my spouse and children, who gave me the opportunity to learn and who supported me in a difficult situation. Many thanks to all of you from my heart. Synoda Sokhan i ABSTRACT This study aims to investigate some men‟s understanding of their roles, especially in their life outside of the home. It also investigates the life experiences of some men who have alternative views from the majority of men in Cambodia‟s patriarchal society. This study‟s research design used mixed methods. A questionnaire with 60 men generated quantitative data. In addition, six focus groups and six case studies were used to generate qualitative data. Both rural and urban areas were selected for this study, including Phnom Penh city and the province of Siem Reap, which is the poorest province in Cambodia. The findings focus on men‟s perspectives of being a good man/husband, and their domestic roles. My analysis draws attention to the characteristics of participants and their ideas concerning decision making in families. Importantly, these findings show that certain activities outside of the home, particularly the use of alcohol, is commonplace for many men. I describe the life experiences of men with alternative views from the dominant Cambodian views men hold regarding their ideas of being a man. I point out men‟s concerns for their children‟s behaviour and their opinions concerning the next generation. The two groups of men in the study, “dominant view men” and “alternative view men” have a shared understanding of their roles and of what it means to be a good man despite their differences. The problem is that men who hold the dominant views do not seem to perform well in their daily lives, while alternative view men tend to apply their understanding of their roles to their everyday life and have greater success. A noticeable finding of the study is that of alcohol abuse. It is a very common activity to drink to excess and this can lead to many problems in families. Most of the respondents drank heavily and regularly. However, the men who held alternative views regarding their roles as men spent less time drinking alcohol than the dominant view men. Many problems which were present among dominant view men were caused by drinking, including arguments and domestic violence. The life experiences of alternative view men seem to show that family stereotypes and background are important in moulding men‟s behaviour. Furthermore, beliefs, commitment to marriage and religion have positive effects on men‟s behaviour. A significant point in this study is that life skills can have a great impact on men‟s behavioural change. The findings showed that decision making in the families was affected by the views men held. Although there is still some imbalance of gender roles in decision making, this finding presents a positive result of women being encouraged to make decisions in their families. iii This shows the effects of a gender mainstreaming education program changing social and cultural values. These findings can contribute to strategies in existing men‟s projects in Cambodia which aim to bring about behavioural changes in men. In turn, these will better support gender equality. It is hoped that the results will be introduced and inform NGO projects in Cambodia and contribute to men‟s understanding of their roles. Men need to understand that they have a role to play in women‟s empowerment, livelihood projects and educational programs. This thesis is an important canvassing of society in a time of immense change and hopes to add to the improvement of gender equality in Cambodia, iv CONTENTS ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS ...................................................................................................... i ABSTRACT ............................................................................................................................. iii CONTENTS .............................................................................................................................. v LIST OF TABLES AND FIGURES ....................................................................................... vii ACRONYMS AND ABBREVIATIONS ................................................................................ ix KEYWORDS ........................................................................................................................... xi CHAPTER 1: INTRODUCTION ............................................................................................ 1 CHAPTER 2: LITERATURE REVIEW ................................................................................. 7 CHAPTER 3: METHODOLOGY ......................................................................................... 25 CHAPTER 4: MEN‟S PERSPECTIVES OF THEIR ROLES AT HOME ........................... 35 4.1 Men‟s perspectives of being a good man/husband ...................................................... 35 4.2 The thoughts and the practices of men in relating to their roles at home .................... 37 4.2 Decision-making roles ................................................................................................. 44 4.3 Understanding participant characteristics and roles: two kinds of men ....................... 46 CHAPTER 5: LIFE OUTSIDE OF THE HOME ................................................................. 49 5.1 Alcohol as an issue ....................................................................................................... 50 5.2 Girls outside of their marriages .................................................................................... 55 5.3 Gambling...................................................................................................................... 60 5.4 Time with families ....................................................................................................... 61 5.5 Migration...................................................................................................................... 63 CHAPTER 6: LIFE EXPERIENCE ...................................................................................... 67 SECTION 1: Alternative views and life stories ................................................................. 67 6.1 The feeling of difference .......................................................................................... 67 6.2 Education and knowledge of family relationships ................................................... 71 6.3 Religious influence .................................................................................................. 78 6.4 Family stereotypes and inspiration from their experiences ...................................... 79 6.5 Personal commitment and confidence ..................................................................... 81 SECTION 2: Men‟s roles and the next generation ............................................................ 85 CHAPTER 7: CONCLUSION............................................................................................... 91 1. The important implications, challenges of this study and suggestions for future GAD projects in Cambodia: ........................................................................................................ 94 2. Suggestions for future study: ................................................................................... 100 v 3. Personal thoughts ..................................................................................................... 102 APPENDIX 1: Questionnaire ................................................................................................. 103 APPENDIX 2: Topic guide: Male discussion group ................................................................ 107 APPENDIX 3: Topic guide: In-depth interview ...................................................................... 109 APPENDIX 4: Participant