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Having a Gift Seeking Spiritual Renewal through Retreats in Nature Synchronicity Old Bello and the Calico Crab An Among Friends Independent magazine serving the Rest, Reflection, and Exploration Religious Society of he summer is a perfect time for exploration. Many of us will be traveling this Friends month to Kalamazoo, M ichigan, for Friends General Conference's annual T Gathering. Our journeys may take us across many states, with the opporturtity to meet people new to us and to observe new vistas literally opening Editorial before us. The Gathering offers a phenomenal opporturtity for connecting with old Susan Corson-Finneny (Editor-Managn-}, Kenneth Sutton (Smior Editor}, friends and acquaintances and for making new ones. Long ago, I began to appreciate Judith Brown (Poetry Editor) the enormous power of the connections made in the times between workshops, Production worship-sharing groups, or major presentations--over a second cup of tea, or during Barbara Benton (Art Director), Alla Podolsky a spontaneous walk, or chatting quietly in the so& darkness before bedtime. Quaker (Production Assistant} gatherings--whether yearly meetings, retreats, conferences, or the Gathering itself­ Circulation and Advertising Nagendran Gulendran (Markaing and Advertising are tremendous opporturtities for personal and spiritual growth and exploration. Managn-), Nicole Hackel (Circulation Assistant} They are also one of the wonderful ways we build community with each other, Administration become better known to each other, and are blessed for the efforts we make to share Marianne De Lange (Offiu Managn-), our own hearts and gifts. Rachel Messenger (Accountant}, Pamela Nelson In her atticle on "Seeking Spiritual Renewal through Retreats in Nature," Donna (DnMiopmmt Assistant), John Dennison, Ruth Peterson, Robert Succon (Voluntem) Eder traces her personal discovery of the transformational impact of spiritual retreats, Board of Trustees while sharing her calling to assist others to have similarly deep experiences. Her words Lucinda Antrim, Paul Buckley, TylaAnn Burger evoke for me the profound peacefulness I experience when walking or camping in a (TmJSum}, Susan Carnahan (&cording Cln-k), forest. Diane Pasta provides a second quite helpful perspective on the individual Sue Carnell (Assistant Ckrk), Linda Coffin, Marsha Green, Dan Hewitt, Ingrid Holcomb, challenges that Quaker gatherings can pose. 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6 Synchronicity: Something Friends Experience? 2 Among Friends John C. Morgan An unlikely sequence ofevents opens a door to new insight. 4 Forum 8 Having a Gift 5 Viewpoint John Calvi 22 Young Friends Is it a blessing or a burden? Perhaps it is both. 23 Parents' Comer 10 Gimpy and Grumpy: An Introvert Copes Diane Pasta 24 Reports and Epistles Invisible disabilities can necessitate basic changes in an introvert's survival skills. 26 News 12 Seeking Spiritual Renewal 28 Bulletin Board through Retreats in Nature 30 Books DonnaEder An individual Friend's ·leading draws together others to make a 31 Milestones Quaker retreat space a reality. 37 Classified 14 That of God in Everyone Marty Grundy What is the power and meaning behind this phrase in d4nger of becoming a cliche? Poetry 16 A Legacy of William Penn Theodor Benfey 7 Rye Toast William Penn can speak to tod4y's skeptical seeker. Rachel Wynne 18 Old Bello and the Calico Crab Now Is Now! Rebecca Osborn Josephine W. Johns This is a delightfo.l allegory written for children. 13 Traveler's Pause 20 Quaker Crostic Steven Elkinton Osborn Cresson

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FRIENDS JoURNAL july 1999 Forum Inclusion will help community support it. On the personal asylum and jobs in France. We were in level, we must try to shed some of our responsible for an international youth group. resisting hate groups desire to see our children succeed at the We met innumerable people at trains and expense of others and become aware of how tried to facilitate whatever good works they Joining the many folks, both we are a part of excluding certain children were involved in. When we were asked compassionate and distressed by the tragedy ourselves. exactly what we did, my usual response was: at Columbine High School, I seek We need to know who hate groups are "We were available." explanations and solutions. According to the and where they are. We need to try to find Years later, we were privileged to latest report sent out by the Southern out when, where, and how they reach out to participate in the work of the Quaker Poverty Law Center, hate groups are our children and young adults. Like incest, it United Nations Office in Geneva, growing by leaps and bounds, particularly in can only continue in the dark. And we need Switzerland. Quaker House in Geneva, like Washington State and Oregon. The Denver to learn about their members, too--what are its counterpart in New York, offers area has about seven such groups. In Ohio, they fmding to be satisfying- what needs do diplomats of all nations a neutral place there is a greater density of at least twenty they have that our communities do not where they can meet with their colleagues such groups. The article states that these fulfill? and discuss informally the issues they are groups are trying to reach youngsters who Laura WolfTitus dealing with in public sessions. These are intelligent and alienated, perhaps Worthington, Ohio individual talks provide understanding thwarted in their wishes to feel sought after impossible to achieve in plenary meetings. by peers and respected by those in authority. They can also learn from Quaker experience There is little to be gained by establishing Federal law a needed in issues such as disarmament, human rights, blame for what the young men in Colorado refugees, the search for a more equitable did, except to free us from responsibility­ response to hate crimes? distribution of the world's resources, etc. for those of us who are not their parents, While I share the outrage of someone During my 12 years of watching this good ministers, teachers, or friends, it is easy to being targeted because of sexual orientation, work, I decided a better answer to why we point the inquisitional finger. The solution I urge Friends to be very cautious about were doing it was: "We are working to bring requires that most of us reach out to take a joining the bandwagon of trying to make peace to the world by next Tuesday more difficult and responsible path to bridge every minor or major offense a federal rather afternoon." the social abyss that exists and makes itself than a state crime. The Republican small­ We directed a summer workcamp in seen in such violent episodes. and-localized-government-is-better ­ Mexico under rather difficult conditions. We all have seen the ostracism of one or government Congresspeople have carved out And for several years we organized and another student, because they don't "fit in." a huge exception for the sake of appearing supervised weekend workcamps in a They aren't jocks, or they don't wear the tough on crime, and the so-called particularly disadvantaged area of Baltimore. right brand of clothes, or they have little to Democrats have gone along. T his affects A lot of houses were painted, plastered, offer to those who might befriend them . Or everything from drug possession to repaired, and otherwise improved; alleys by befriending the "different" person, one's nonpayment of child support to carrying a · were cleaned up. And surely, many high own acceptability may be questioned. gun near a school. The result is that many school kids from public and private schools Conformity is needed by most teenagers, to people who could have been tried in local were introduced to individuals whose lives feel safe from ostracism. Acts of ostracism are courts and served modest sentences close to were quite different from theirs but with common--often exclusionary groups bond their families and communities are being whom some of them were able to forge together, as if compelled to fight against a bonds that lasted. Throughout that pursued by the FBI, tri~d in federal court, common and threatening menace. and sentenced under the draconian federal experience, they also acquired the concern to Inclusion is the key for creating a safe sentencing mandates. be involved in social service in later years. environment in the schools and in our I do not consider this "progress." I So, where are we in our effort to bring communities. A more democratic, respectful, cannot join in the petition for the federal peace to the world? A lot of Tuesdays have and cooperative system requires that we each hate crimes bill. I urge people to look into gone by since I first decided that was our act with greater maturity, accepting our state legislative action rather than federal, if goal, but looking around today, I see responsibilities. There are excellent programs they really feel the existing laws are not political ineptitude, economic exploitation, for teaching safe ways of managing conflict, adequate, and to consider restorative justice torture, ecological devastation, starvation, of assuring each youngster of being cared for principles as well as the desire to protect and incredible human misery, all of them with respect. Programs such as Teaching potential victims. contributing factors to the next war. No, we Tolerance can be found free and used with a Betsy Cazden haven't quite achieved the peace we've been minimum of training and expense. A local Manchester, N .H. seeking. But that in no way excuses us from school organization in Denver has begun a continuing to pursue it. program designed to reduce hatred toward Over a longish life, I have supported those of a different race. The school system Peace in our time, oh Lord many "good works" and actively participated of Elk Grove, Calif., is actively working on a in some of them. None of that was wasted. program for teachers and students. T hese In the 1940s my wife and I worked at the But I wonder ifl wouldn't have been more can be taught effectively only with teachers Quaker Centre in Paris. Our duties effective ifl had chosen one issue, trained who are aware, concerned, and willing to depended on the daily situation. We worked myself in all its complexities, and spent my learn, and they must be in place during the with French Friends as they helped people in life as a specialist in furthering its mission? I early elementary school years. Such a prison because they had--or sometimes had should have learned long ago to be firm and program cannot be implemented nor not-collaborated with the Nazis. We not contribute indiscriminately to the many successful unless many citizens in the helped refugees from Eastern Europe find health, racial, political, environmental,

4 july 1999 FRIENDS J OURNAL Viewpoint Quakers and Y2K e are now six months away The earlier individuals and communities be­ om the turn of the century and come well informed about the full scope ofthe 2K-related computer "glitches" Y2K problem the less potential there will be are already being reported in some "for- for bank runs or efforts to hoard food in the ward looking" computer systems bump­ last weeks of 1999. The sooner individuals ing up against the year 2000. The federal can begin to make appropriate preparations government, state governments, and many based on a realistic understanding of potential businesses actually begin their fiscal year Y2K impacts at a local level, the less potential 2000 at various times in 1999. The fre­ there will be for the psychological aspects of quency of year 2000 sofrware problems the Y2K problem to compound the technical are expected to increase as we move fur­ aspects of the problem in late 1999. the local paper are an effective way of ther into 1999 with as many as 60 percent What is the role of the Religious Society of publicizing Quaker concerns. Many com­ of the sofrware problems showing up in Friends in all of this? To begin with, Quakers munities and larger cities are holding Y2K "mission critical systems" before the end can start the process of raising Y2K awareness meetings and conferences. Support or of 1999 and the embedded chip problem within their own meetings through discussion sponsorship of this effort at a communiry hitting everywhere-worldwide-on groups. Since most information about Y2K is level and Quaker participation or atten­ January 1, 2000. Internationally, most of only available on the Internet and many mem­ dance at these meetings is another active the rest of the world is well behind the bers and artendees may have limited Internet role meetings can take. Non-Quaker United States and Canada in addressing access, the development and circulation of a "communiry preparedness groups" should Y2K, and the potential global aspects of "reading file" of current Y2K information also be supported. If there is already a Y2K are truly daunting. As individuals from Internet sources might be an important local group formed perhaps a Quaker and communities we do not have long to step in raising Y2K awareness in the meeting. representative could participate. If there think about potential Y2K economic and Following initial "awareness" efforts, the meet­ is no local preparedness group, then social impacts on a local level. A huge ing should be updated periodically on the meeting members should consider form­ amount of information is available about status of national and global efforts to address ing one or more groups among their own Y2K on the Internet, but very little reli­ the Y2K problem. One or more meeting mem­ neighbors. There is a tremendous nation­ able information about the potential of bers or attendees with a strong interest in the wide surge in a grassroots movement systematic national and global impacts Y2K problem and access to the Internet could among neighbors joining together as has been available to the public through assume the role of keeping the meeting up­ community-based groups to provide in­ "official" government or mass media dated on progress being made by government formation and mutual support in address­ sources. Consequently, grassroots "com­ agencies and businesses to become Y2K com­ ing potential Y2K impacts at the local munity preparedness" groups are forming pliant and responsible predictions for poten­ level. Many of these awareness groups throughout the United States, Canada, tial disruptions. have been established by churches among and elsewhere in the world to share infor­ Once Quakers achieve a measure ofY2K their members, but many are springing mation and plan mutual neighborhood awareness within their own meetings, I be­ up spontaneously among neighbors support in the event of basic infrastruc­ lieve there is an obligation to reach out to raise who may have previously had little con­ ture disruptions or serious long-term eco­ community awareness to counter misinfor­ tact with each other. I see this sort of nomic or social impacts. mation from various "alarmist" groups and to "community building" as a very positive Aside from technical sofrware and em­ help the community understand potential aspect of Y2K that will bring people to­ bedded chip problems, a major aspect of impacts so that a reasonable level of individual gether in many ways that will have lasting the Y2K problem is the psychological re­ and community preparation can be achieved benefits long afrer the turn of the century. action of people who will not come to over a period of several months, well before understand the seriousness of the global the end of 1999. There are several ways Robert C Betts aspects of the problem until late in 1999. Quakers can do this. Letters to the editor of Sandpoint, Idaho

educational, and other worthwhile and influence is peaceful and good. I urge time and money more generally, will necessary associations, choosing instead the younger Friends to seek out the one in probably not bring us peace by next week (I area in which I am most interested (and whose shade they are most comfortable, and don't insist on Tuesday), but will be taking therefore probably most qualified), and while enjoying and caring for all the others us in the direction of peace, and we must not putting my major effort there. There will and applauding those who work with them, minimize the importance of that movement. surely be an organization in that field that make a major commitment to the chosen Peace is attainable. We can achieve it. Let us would accept my service. Why didn't I assignment. be about it. concentrate more sensibly 60 years ago? The combination of concerned, SamLegg Blindness maybe. Deafness certainly. Edna knowledgeable people working in Cockeysville, Md. kept reminding me down through those constructive areas and others doing the same years: "You can't be crucified on every tree." in different but equally constructive Yes, there are many good trees. And their domains, plus the good souls who contribute Continued on page 34

FRIENDS ]OURNAL ju(y 1999 5 FRIENDS EXPERIENCE?

by John C. Morgan ve you ever been thinking of portant had entered my time wne and the next two decades, I carried it around omeone, only to run into that grabbed me by the hand to say: "Look for with me, often intending to throw it out. H erson the next day or gotten a a moment at the wonder ofit all!" When­ Finally, three years later, as I was about phone call from her? ever synchronicity occurs, there is a sense to leave Columbus, I decided to leave the Have you ever felt that life seems to be of transcendence, of something very deep statue behind with a friend. I thought he opening or shutting doors no matter what and mysterious entering our lives. would appreciate it because he had re­ you do? Let me tell you a story out of my own cently lost his mother. My friend hap­ Has anyone shown up unexpectedly in life. pened to be a psychologist and someone you life just when you need him? In 1990, my family relocated to a small who studied J ung. Have you ever run into a friend in an community outside Columbus, Ohio. My friend was not in when I took the out-of-the-way place? Along with our possessions, I caned a statue by his home, so I left it inside his Has a lost object ever come back to you statue I had been carrying around for door with this note: "Here's a gift. It was in an unexpected way? almost 30 years. The statue portrayed a thrown away at the art museum about Have you ever felt a seemingly kind woman and two sons. For some reason, I 1968. I rescued it. It is Greek, but could presence supporting you, especially be the Madonna and children­ during crises? a true Jungian piece. Please Have you ever felt "in the flow" keep." of life? I thought nothing more of Ifyou responded "yes" to any of the statue until I heard from these questions, you have experi­ him again. Feeling the statue enced "synchronicity," a word really did not belong to him, he coined by Carl .Jung to describe had decided to give it to an­ what he termed 'meaningful coin­ other person, a 91-year-old re­ cidences," which are not part of tired art professor. the cause and effect laws ofscience As he handed her the statue, ~ ).:! though very m uch part of he said she looked "stunned, ~ cosmologies today. speechless." And then she told ..§ J ung had many such experi­ him the rest ofthe story. "That's " ences, one of the most famous be- me," she said. "I am the artist ~ ~ ing the time when a patient was and also the model for the ~ describing a particular beetle, and mother." ~ just at that moment the creature Fifty-four years earlier, while <=> flew into the room. In ancient my­ an art student, she had been E' thology, that same beetle was a sym­ assigned to sculpt the piece, us­ § bol of new birth, which also de­ ing her own likeness for the Ma­ ~ scribed the kind of personal trans­ donna and her two sons for Jesus ~ formation J ung' s patient was then and John. The blue color in the undergoing. statue was made from her I have come to understand synchro­ always thought the mother was Mary, the father's blueberry patch. The statue had nicity as an event in time that seems time­ mother ofJesus, but I really didn't know. been based on the work of the 15th-cen­ less, or, if you prefer, an event in which The statue had come into my posses­ tury Florentine artist, Luca della Robbia. eternity impinges on time. When encoun­ sion by coincidence. While walking early It had come home after 54 years by a route tering synchronicities, I find myself in the morning, I happened to go past a that left my mind completely bewildered. puzzled, perplexed, engaged, as if some­ local art museum and for some reason had A coincidence? Possibly, but with the thing or someone quite unique and im- wandered out back. There I found anum­ statue's creator, I had to admit it was "a ber of art objects, including this statue, mighty strange coincidence." It also in­ john C Morgan is a member ofLewisburg (Pa.) thrown out in a large trash bin. I liked the trigued me that her home, in which the Meeting. statue immediately and took it home. For statue now rests, had once been a church

6 july 1999 FRIENDS jOURNAL 121 years ago. She and her husband had bought the building because it was all they could afford-and be­ sides, she senses the presence oflong­ • deceased worshippers there, not an Rye Toast uncomfortable thing, distant but growing more distinct, singing coun­ There are times Now terpoint against her melody. It all comes clear: The rationalist in me tries to ex­ Toast and plate and glass. Is Now! plain the return of the statue as "mere I would be a painter coincidence," but then I am the only one who really knows how I got the To hold them more fully: Time tells tales? statue in th.e first place or how many Blue and gold Not always. times I have carried it as I moved from And butter melting, But when it does state to state, often wanting to leave it Seed Everything stops behind, but never doing so because I "knew" it had a meaning beyond the And rye. WrthNow- moment. I get chills even now as I A sudden stillness recall the story. Where are these eyes I' And nothing moves. As I sat in meeting for worship a Through endless days few weeks ago, I felt a much clearer sense of what that statue was saying When A deja vu? tome. Fumbling Nay, It was saying something Friends I could use them most? Remembrance know well, something called "kalros," Who draws the veil Plays tricks. or the fullness of time, in which eter- God I Or I? Thus memories Create premises BIDDEN OR Or is all of it a veil The years steal away. NOT BIDDEN, (Through a glass darkly Now Even seed and rye) The magic energy GOD IS Until it's time Has gone. And Knowing comes to greet us PRESENT. Pulling into the warmth of a vast cloak I sit with sands These small live$ Rowing through And their great moments My fingers nity touches history as if to wake us (Yes, plate and glass Waiting, waiting up to our true destiny. Synchronicity is another name for providence. And scent of toasted rye) Fora door It was also tantalizing me with the Familiars held safe To open notion of modern cosmologists that While to the unknown To a stillness life is really more like a dance than a Knowing is of set form. And we are part ofth e dance; in fact, we can help to shape the dance Leading, ever leading, Fulfillment itself ifwe are willing to move. I knew On. that all I could do was participate, not -josephine W. johns explain, the mystery ofm ysteries. And that was enough. -Rachel Wynne And I came to see, if not com­ josephine W. johns UvtS in pletely understand; a rather profound Greenvi/k, D~lawart. truth-there is an underlying flow or Rach~l Wynn~ is a mnnkr ofMartha s "law" in the universe to which every Vineyard (Mass.) Mming. living being is connected. "Bidden or not bidden, God is present," are the words carved across the door to Jung ' s home, an understanding that runs across generations of Friends too. 0

FRIENDS }OURNAL ju(y 1999 7 HAVING A GIFT by John Calvi

aving a gift is often thought to be These tests ofknowledge are not the prob­ kind. But sometimes our culture skews a small blessing. In my very large lem with having a gift but simply part of this to teach that we are all equal and, H Italian family, various individuals the whole. Ifyou have a gift and you learn since there is that of God in everyone, we were recognized informally for their gifts it well, its light, and the gift you can offer, are all the same. Our push for diversity in ways that said, this is a small blessing is brighter. If you don't learn about this can sometimes be inarticulate and suggest and it puts you ahead, not apart, in this gift, and hence yourself, then there are that we really are all the same although in -----...... , one category. It was some wonderful colors that are not going seemingly different packages. This is not known that Uncle Nick to be seen by you or others. My Uncle as clear as it could be. We want to be had "the gift of gab," a John had a gift for languages. He taught careful to find ways to acknowledge dif­ way with a story and a himself four of them. But he was in a ference especially where a child's gifts and tone ofvoice that would family that strove to Americanize quickly, power are concerned so that spiritual blos­ draw people to listen. He so only his gift with English was admired. soming in a decidedly unspiritual world used this as an announcer When a gift has a particular significance has a hand up. The mark of mature use of at county fairs. Cousin in one's world, then it becomes more than having a gift with power can often be seen Ro had a gift for com­ a small blessing. When the gift is overdy in the grace one does or doesn't know to passion in teaching. The spiritual the learning necessary to use it use with this gift. most difficult children, who would drive well is more extensive. And its meaning in Having a gift seems to be, in general, other adults around the bend, would trust one's life will have more consequence. information that comes to one ftom else­ and respect her requests for hard work I have been talking with friends over where. One may even be engaged in work­ and cooperation. She's a master teacher the years about the condition of having a ing the gift, expressing it clearly in some by example and profession. My mother's gift, its delight and its burdens. These are way, and be unaware of it. We don't mother had a sense of moral order that not easy conversations, in part because declare it or wish it or write a grant for it held her 11 children and 30 grandchil­ one is taught to eschew discussing one's or receive it by longing. Somehow we get dren in a very particular expectation of better parts so as to not indulge in vanity. told that something seems to grow more behavior and attitude. This stood every­ And in truth, if one is going to sit around easily in us. This telling can come from one in good stead when in not so many sipping iced tea and bragging about all those we serve or those who know to years apart the farmhouse burnt down, one has done so very well, then vanity, not watch for such things (another skill that her husband died, and World War II took study, is accomplished, and this is per­ old Quakers go unrecognized for) or from her sons away to fight. Chaos was held at fecdy boring. But to focus on having a gift sources unexpected or unfamiliar. The bay by her gift to know, and to keep for the task of doing God's will or giving seeds of having a gift seem to have inklings before everyone, what was important. to the common good or bringing one's early in life for some but maybe not enough In every grouping of people, some in­ spiritual life continually into the current to be obvious until one looks back on the dividuals are thought of as being particu­ moment-this is excellent work and we journey. larly good at this or that. In a village or should encourage it. Having a gift always has consequences. congregation or organization, it's com­ I have repeatedly considered the bur­ It will mean responsibility that one should mon that for a time, sometimes in cycles, dens of having a gift. There is always the not try to dodge. It will always mean certain needs are met by certain people issue ofpower, which is revealed in many, learning and failure and more learning who have a knack. An anthropologist many ways. Who has it? What kind is it? without end. And those of us who are friend says that a group of up to 100 is a What are they doing with it? I-:iow did reluctant students have to come round to good size for everyone to know everyone. they get it? And what does that mean for loving the hard work of sorting out what It's in this small setting that gifts become everyone else? The more power one's gift we can't see. The suspense alone is some­ known and used. Of course, many things has, the more care, reverence, and stillness thing I have the least patience with. can be learned and it's important that (perhaps slowness) one needs to exercise. As others recognize and don't recog­ everyone not do just what they knew yes­ This was very clear to me as a teacher of nize one's gift, forces to pull one forward terday or stick to specialties. And yet there young children a quarter ofa century ago. and obstacles to hold one back will rise is a comfort for a group in seeing a task A teacher has great power, sometimes too up, shift, and fade. And what seems to be done by ones who have a gift for it, a great a power, and it must be expressed help and what seems to be hindrance may comfort we sometimes lose by structure. deliberately and consciously so as not to not be clear. One doesn't push a way All gifts call for learning: balance, envy, inhibit or harm anyone. open, after all. And what may appear to be humility, reverence, awarenesses, sorting Having a gift that has obvious power a wall today may reveal itself as a seat belt out various parts, the uses of power, etc. will always rna! :~ someone nervous, and tomorrow. john Calvi is a member ofPutney (Vt.) Meet­ for good reason. Power, not well studied, Having a gift is not for sissies, but for ing. has been a source ofgreat pain and confu­ the brave of heart. Nor is it for saints. A © 1999 john Calvi sion throughout the history of human- wonderful old Quaker woman renowned

8 july 1999 FRIENDS JoURNAL for her good works had many saintly sto­ discomfort they feel is emotionally based much pain. The certainty I am given when ries told at her memorial meeting some or actually in the physical body as disease. I am led to work on someone can be a years ago. But the pithier stories of great One can only imagine the obstacles to this welcomed oasis for the chronically fearful. strength and not a little vulgarity told later gift in a science-based culture. There's nothing quite like someone' s con­ over brandy showed she also had an abil­ I have struggled with many similar fidence about where shore lies when the ity to be as diverse as needed. troubles over the years. I declared my gift boat seems to be sinking. But when ego, Being faithful means more than asking was exactly X when I was still learning its fatigue, fear, or all three converge in my what God requires. There is also being scope, thus limiting myself. I insisted that responses, I can be as graceless as anyone faithful to one's self-knowledge, one's sense it was a constant condition without ad­ in spite of an amazing gift. It's not a of proportion and limits, and stretching mitting my own inconstant disciplines to contradiction so much as a vigil to keep beyond what one knows. Often discern­ be faithful and thus denied myself the learning and owning the grace and the ment will have many pieces that either hope ofgetting better at it. I have claimed grouch with equal humor, humility, and refuse to hold still for us or seem opposi­ righteous indignation as a natural result reverence. tional. How often we come to learn that without owning my need for further work I am also continually shocked at how opposites are actually good friends. And on old anger. retractable and illusive a state of grace can how often the limits of our own literal I currently struggle with two pieces in be. It's not uncommon for me to awake in interpretation block the vision given us. particular. The gift I have is a particularly a thoroughly angry nightmare-fed condi­ There is also the quality of being not too intimate one. I learn stories of pain. Some­ tion, practice my spiritual disciplines, and specific. If we tty to be too particular in times the gift of releasing pain, which of do beautiful work at mid-day. And by seeking understanding ofhaving a gift, we course comes not from me but through evening slide back into some more unat­ may miss the broad scope a gift may offer. me, makes me seem like an old friend. But tractive aspect of a self that flees the light. We may frustrate ourselves by asking for a really we just met for the afternoon work­ I think there has been improvement over job description when what we really need shop. In a worldly way, we really don't the years and am confirmed of this by dear to learn next is a change of tone. know each other at all. And what I have friends, but the trip over the line is always Having a gift can be a burden, depend­ learned of their pain, I have to release and a mystery and a disappointment. Becom­ ing on the gift itself and who has it. I clear to make space to help another. And ing a grace junkie is pan of learning the know one friend who is called to preach. that might happen to me hundreds of disciplines of surrender to Spirit. Letting Which is all well and good, except that she times a year. It's intimacy on a grand scale. it in and letting it go, being grateful for is shy to the point of illness with each new It can mean misunderstandings, some­ having been chosen and used rather than opportunity to preach. For her, the hard times painful, ofwho we are to each other. missing its absence. pan is not the preaching. She's learned to Another struggle is to son out the dif­ Learning one's gift is a lifelong work. surrender in order to receive that. But the ferences for me in certainty and arrogance. Since my surrender to this gift in the early irrational fear of public speaking even af­ Since my gift is mainly for the wounded 1980s, there are many pieces I have learned ter years ofs uccess makes each work an act and their caregivers, I tend to and feel to be routine. But of faith and endurance. tread where there is oddly enough this Another friend is called to teach about spiritual life and particularly seeking the Holy Spirit each moment. He is called to do this by calking about his own life, which is all well and good, except that his life has been terribly messy. Again the preaching has gone fine. He's learned to trust his guidance. But he's horribly em­ barrassed to be using his life as a "don't do it this way" example. It's been amanda­ tory graduate degree in humility he never intended, and his work is sterling. Another friend has the gift to know when hean bypass surgery is needed im­ mediately. She may meet up with some­ one in the middle of the day at the grocery ~:: store, feel the reality of their hean disease ~ in her own chest, and then must fmd I"' some way to get this person to the doctors ~ for tests now without scaring them or ~ having them think she's nuts. Her gift for ~ theater has also increased dramatically. ~ Another friend, who is blind, can see ~ the colors surrounding someone' s body ~ and thereby know whether the illness or

FRIENDS ]OURNAL ju(y 1999 doesn't seem to have diminished the num­ ber or intensity of the parts I have yet to understand. Often the learning in spiri­ tual work comes after the steps are taken and one pauses to look back. And then wonder about the next steps. The benefits of having a gift are enor­ mous. I feel as though I have a union contract for life. Each time I ask about the terms of my lease, I get very dear re­ sponses that I have only recently been AN INTROVERT CoPES put into any decent refurbished shape and there's lots to do and no end of work in sight any time soon. I am assured that by Diane Pasta my grades on the surprise quizzes could be better, but there seems to be greater patience for me at headquarters than I -was in the middle ofhis tirade I don't stay home, and I even travel have for mysel£ More learning about about disabled people's rights great distances for gatherings of my com­ learning. It also confirms for me my when he stopped, noticing the munity of faith. Immediately after arriv­ experience of being different. This is a Dconfused look on the normally recep­ ing at the Friends General Conference comfort as opposed to feeling strange for tive Friend's face. He looked again at Gathering, my blissfully failing memory no reason. her button and was taken aback: it was unfortunately jogged. The first two When one seeks to see where the be­ said, "Better Gay than Grumpy." His Gatherings I had attended had physically ginning was, the clues may come slowly. I voice sputtered, "Oh, I misread it; I challenged me so much that I had been know one friend was told of his gift in thought it said, 'Better Gay than perfectly invisible (absent) the last three high school by a passing stranger. I know Gimpy."' They both laughed. I years. After this year's predictable ordeal another gift came to a friend in early laughed, too, but I also had a sinking of travel and registration, I found my childhood and she didn't speak of it for feeling. room in a building whose entrance had decades. There are ways our culture keeps Sensitivity to appropriate language stairs and whose shower lacked the re­ us in the dark about our own spiritual aside, being gimpy often means that I quested seat, and I prepared to rest. autobiographies. Do we know our own am grumpy from chronic Mary Helen carried my paths well enough to tell our stories from pain and all of the things bags (I recommend such help­ several perspectives? It's true that I left that exacerbate it. I am We ful friends to all, regardless of being a school teacher and went to mas­ also ill-humored when I your abilities) and offered to sage school because I wanted to help at a can't be invisible, after I introverts get the key out of the door deeper level. It's also true I planned to spent all those years per­ need all the when I had jiggled the key in work on cruise ships, spa work not being fecting that introvett's art. the door for long enough to known for its depth. It's also true that Even extroverts, those gre­ situational prove that I could not. She when my cousins and I fell into a patch of garious, friendly people, was not successful either, nor nettles on my grandmother's farm, I led like being independent. help was the dorm staff. We solved everyone down to the brook where I made My discomfort is even the issue with me sleeping mud packs and then administered the sap worse, though, if my we can get! with the key stuck in the door. of a weed to relieve the sting. I was five grouchiness is visible but A staff member removed the years old. my disability is not. key the next day ("I was about I have a friend who is a wonderful Strangers (my "inner introvert" panics to put both feet on the door," she later writer. His glimpses into human mystery at the word) might not notice my leg told her boss) and left me another. And amaze. His body is twisted. His speech is braces or consider the implications of another staff member dislodged the new unclear. He's strapped into a wheelchair. chronic muscle weakness, and might key for me later in the day. The day after, For others to know his gift, he must either judge my cutting meal lines or growl­ the lock was replaced; I delayed ·my nap to be published or we must reach out into ing over a delay in getting my legs up find a key to get into my finally properly his life seeking his light. It's been more or taking my nap. Even dose friends locked room. I was thrilled enough to act than worth the trip for me to reach and may not want to share my higher pain grateful; after all, "better gay than key­ learn who's behind the initial impression level days. Perhaps I should just stay less." There were numerous rooms with so full of my own bias. How many people home. key problems. I am too mature, ofcourse, are there whose gifts are not served by to have thought I was carrying any special our culture's meager support to grow in Diane Pasta, a member of Salmon Bay burden. this way? Do we know the difference Meeting in Seattle, Wash. , divUles her time Still, in spite of this difficult start, the between not seeing and not looking and between teaching middle school math and Gathering was the best one yet for me as a the ways our structures maintain the blind ~tudying, writing, and speaking on faith disabled person. I came for spiritual devel­ spots? 0 tssues. opment and appreciated the opportuni-

10 july 1999 FRIENDS j OURNAL ties at the Gathering directly arising out of with air conditioning?) as a gift. I had less care of yourself, but if you are an intro­ my special needs. I am not sure what is money to buy books and could avoid the ven, you might need a little advice, and of special about needing to enter buildings, decisions and burden of more posses­ course you wouldn't want to have to ask a cross campuses, and be safe, but I suppose sions-another vinue slipped in the back stranger for that! You could keep this in calling it "special means" would be too door, helping to balance my petulance. your contingency file. (Do all introverts obscure. I followed the example of those On the other hand, the vinue of using have excellent filing systems? It does avoid with even greater mobility impairment or fewer resources has gone out the front contact with the public.) Some of the greater patience, and usually both, in prac­ door with shuttle and elevator use and advice might be practical for the rest of ticing patience as I waited for transporta­ with the computer use that reduces writ­ you, too. tion. I trusted in the willing setvice of ing cramps. Did you ever notice tree­ strangers when I called for transponation buggers tend to be able-bodied? • Write a letter specifying your needs, during off-hours. I let go of my shame of We people with disabilities might teach and don't dodge the phone calls about dependence and my envy of others' able others about setting priorities. (I like be­ it. I appreciated the persistence of the bodies when I rode on the golfcart shuttles. ing helpful to unknown people; I just volunteer who wanted to know my The rides were sometimes a bit scary, but avoid interacting with them.) The many exact needs and let me know what to also fun; I saw others sneak looks of envy! simulraneous activities ofan event like the expect. I practiced friendliness when I met new FGC Gathering frustrate panicipants who • Unpack early, increasing your efficiency people as I depended on some and shared have been forced to choose among them. and hence efforts to find things later.· the kitchen elevator and waited for shuttle The foolish are led into temptation and • Give up on being invisible. rides with others. \We introverts need all over-exen. Imitating the self-care ofpeople • Have a suppon system, and use it be­ the situational help we can get!) A bath with disabilities would reduce the num­ fore you are grouchy, meaning use it seat appeared (confirming a rumor that bers who return home exhausted. Perhaps before you really need it. They'll enjoy strangers do care), and I found the no­ others' physical stamina is greater, but are helping you more, too. stairs entrance to my building-my acces­ they mentally taxed or emotionally over­ • Better be gay than grumpy. Gay people sibility needs were actually being met! I whelmed? Whether or not that advice is have the best suppon systems, even know they cost the Gathering a bit extra, useful, there will probably come a day when they are grumpy, but that is so I accepted the increased cost for a ground when you are disabled, however tempo­ another story ... floor room (I think because they all came rarily. Ifyo u are an extroven, you can take 0

FRIENDS ]OURNALju(y 1999 11 Seeking Spiritual Renewal through Retreats in Nature

by Donna Eder

first heard of the idea of spiri­ peace continued to nouris tual retreats from a Quaker me even afrer I returne Ifriend , Paddy Reid. When I home. Although my daily li heard him describe his experi­ continued to be complex an ence at Bethany Spring, a re­ confusing, this centeredne treat house in Kentucky, his offered a new sense ofclari 1 words and the peace in his voice to help resolve the compe convinced me I should seek my ing demands I so ofi:en face, own experience of solitude. Two years afte Until then I thought such expe­ ing to Bethan} riences were reserved for monks found myself in and nuns. As a new attender at deep confusion and inner Bloomington (Ind.) Meeting, I turmoil after my mother's was not yet familiar with the death from ALS (Lou writing of Thomas Kelly, au­ Gehrig's disease). More than thor of A Testament of Devo­ ever, I needed time for in­ tion. Years later, I found that ward listening to reflect on Kelly strongly believed spiritual the many changes that ac­ retreats are not just for a select companied this powerful ex­ few. Such a practice of inward perience. During the evening meditation, of inward worship prayers on a particularly im­ and listening, is not mere coun­ portant retreat, Danielle, the sel for special religious groups, retreat director,-read a story for small religious orders, for about a woman whose life special "interior souls," for changed permanently when monks retired in cloisters. This caring fora patientwithALS. practice is the heart of religion. The story spoke so well of At Bethany Spring, I found how transforming this illness my own time in solitude to be was to a complete stranger. t deeply renewing. Rather than Was it not just as likely to be ~:: feeling lonely or isolated, I felt transforming for a daugh­ ~ ~ enriched by having extended ter? The next day, I heard ~ time for direct communication Matthew Celty, a Trappist ...... with God. While there were monk, speak of how God ~ ~ many new spiritual books to has a purpose for everything ~ examine, I found I did not want and for each ofus , even when to read much, only a page or we don't know it. I began to two at a time. I would then spend an hour speaking to me through the words ofoth­ realize that my mother's illness had af­ or more reflecting on the personal mes­ ers. On long walks over the rolling hills fected me so profoundly that in order to sage for me in this reading. Likewise, after and through the cedar and oak forests on move ahead in my life, I needed to im­ attending prayers either at Bethany Spring the monastery grounds, I was ofi:en com­ merse myself more fully in spiritual work. or the nearby Gethsemane monastery, I forted by feeling the presence of God. In The next morning I woke up with a strong would take time to consider how God is the peacefulness of this setting I found I sense that I should try to develop a retreat could better reflect upon my deepest con­ house near Bloomington. From this new Donna Eder teaches sociowgy at Indiana Uni­ fusions and longings. focus I felt a sense of serenity and peace versity and is a member ofBwomington (Ind.) On this and subsequent visits I was return to my life. Meeting. This article is reprinted with permis­ able to find a place deep within me of Upon returning to Bloomington I sion from Quaker Life, Apri/1999. peace and centeredness. This amazing shared this idea with Janette Shetter, a

12 july 1999 FRIENDS ] OURNAL longtime member of Bloomington Meet­ in the goodness of life. This reminder of will serve both as a gathering rqom and as ing. She then told me that she had had a our hope and faith is why the renewal that our first hermitage. We envision other, similar leading for some time and felt that comes from time spent in nature is often more secluded hermitages for the future. now was the time for us to combine ef­ so deeply healing and so nourishing for After a recent visit, Elise Boulding wrote forts and move ahead. When I asked her our souls. to say: "The place already has 'spirit.' I can how we might prepare now for such a It is our hope that more Friends will feel it!" From similar comments of those future undertaking, she suggested taking a come to see the benefit ofspiritual retreat who come to help us on work days, as well course on spiritual direction so that people and that some of them will someday find as those who come to spend time quietly on solitary retreats would have someone their way to Mt. Gilead Friends Retreat. waiting in the woods, we are assured that to guide them through their retreat expe­ At this time, we offer opportunities for the renewed hope and faith that comes riences. Two days later, she happened to day-long retreats with or without spiritual from spending time in a place of natural receive a notice for an internship program direction. We hope soon to begin con­ beauty and serenity lasts long after one in spiritual direction at the Beech Grove struction of our first building, one that departs. 0 Benedictine Center. We both took this two-year program and began our work as spiritual directors. Meanwhile, several other members of our meeting expressed an interest in the Traveler's Pause idea ofdeveloping a retreat center. Within two years, we formed the Mt. Gilead Once again the sunshine filters on my day Friends Retreat and purchased 62 acres of beautiful wooded land just east of Through cleansing, incensed spruce and gnarled pine boughs. Bloomington. This land with its stately I am always at home, catching my breath, trees, lively creeks, and abundant wildlife Where Siena needles and mosses floor the wood. has become an inspiration for us all, re­ minding us of the contact with God that And here. behind, the valley makes a noise. . comes especially from time spent in na­ The mountain train accelerates. and cows' bells tinkle. ture. The mission that unites this group is to provide a sanctuary, rooted in the Trucks climb and brake the slopes, leaves rustle. Quaker tradition, for those who seek spiri­ Underneath, a soft vey sound reveals the town: tual renewal inspired by nature. Bakers baking, women fixing lunch, factories Many Christians have written about Preparing a thousand bits for guns and watches. being inspired by nature. For George Maloney, author of The Breath ofthe Mys­ I always feel that I am going against the crowd, tic, retreat in nature is a retreat in to God's silence: When we can withdraw from our Uke Lot. escaping as throngs seek Sodom's pleasures. busy, fragmented worlds that pull us in so Am I following a stream, a river-or another drummer~ many directions, filling us with frustra­ Perhaps merely lost, prodigal with God's time. tions and anxieties, and enter into God's My demand will be: let me grow up from within, silence found in all of primeval nature, then we are opening ourselves up to deep Without grafting on artificial wants and thoughts. healing. He goes on to say that when we But by the inscrutable seasons fashion my own rings. are in nature we can see God's love and As a tree does, bringing fruit forth at a proper time. beauty in many different forms. Every Nature is most wasteful, but on-going. aspect of nature is an expression of this love and beauty, so one is surrounded by a Energy is focused, sometimes burning. sense of God's presence in our lives. In And from a thousand fierce directions, one unknown survival. nature, we are also able to observe many furms of life in their essential state of -Steven Elkinton being, making it easier to see our own essential natures, our ability to simply be. Hildegard of Bingen, the medieval mystic, writes beautifully when she speaks with the voice ofGod as nature: "I am the rain coming from the dew that causes the Stevm Elkinton is a membn- of grasses tO laugh with the joys of life. I call Langley HiD M«ting in forth tears, the aroma of holy work, I am Mclean, Virginia. the yearning for good." Nature not only fills us with joy and sorrow, but is a con­ tinual reminder of our hope and our faith

FRIENDS ]OURNALju(y 1999 13 THAT OF Goo IN EvERYONE by Marty Grundy e are all familiar with the no­ guage points to a courtroom analogy. We tee work. But nothing fills the God-shaped ion that the root belief of see, perhaps for the first time, the causes hole except God. When we begin to let riends is that there is "that of and consequences of our actions. In the God fill the hole we experience change in God" in each person. Most of us are even clear bright Light we cannot hide. The ourselves. With God filling the "hole," familiar with the quotation from George Witness exposes what is not in conformity the various parts of ourselves are brought Fox's epistle from which it comes, ad­ with its pure sel£ This is hard, painful into right relationship with each other; we monishing us to be patterns and examples Truth. It is no wonder early Friends spoke become whole. to all people so that we may walk cheer­ of their first encounters with the Inward At first this metaphor seems the exact fully over the earth answering "that of Light as one of terror. They spoke of opposite of the traditional Friends' meta­ God" in everyone. being convicted, judged, and found guilty. phor of"that ofGod in everyone." Is God Friends today ascribe a multitude of This is a far cry from the gentle domesti­ an absence or a presence in us? But re­ meanings to the phrase. A hope seems to cated inner light we usually talk about. member, these are both metaphors. They exist that by not examining the meaning it Perhaps it is easier to understand ifwe are pointing to a reality, they are not will be acceptable to all because it can use more contemporary language. The themselves the reality. They are pointing mean anything anyone wants it to mean. process we are describing is one of strip­ to the incompleteness of the human con­ Instead, I would like to explore what it ping off the masks, exposing the false self dition. We are creatures, neither the mas- meant to early Friends. George Fox ters of the universe nor self-sufficient used many metaphors to describe the demigods. We are lifeless apart from reality of the divine in each person, or NoTHINC HLL~ TJIE the "Light which enlightens every­ the inborn capacity for each human one." Both these metaphors point to to connect with God. Perhaps the Gon-sHAPED HOLE the starting place, which is God. Once phrase will come to have more mean- we are at the starting place the ques­ ing and power if we look at a few of EXCEPT Goo. tion is, "What next?" the images early Friends used to elabo- The wonder of it is that the Light rate on their understanding of the reality for what it is--a carefully constructed does not only show us how horrible we that they had experienced. shell made of who we think we ought to are. Many of us know that already; guilt is Using legal terminology, George Fox be, or want to be, or hope others will a popular commodity among so-called described the presence of the divine prin­ think we are. Excluded are all those bro­ "liberal" Friends today. The witness not ciple inside each of us as an "inner wit­ ken and wounded parts we can't bear to only convicts us, it also testifies to the way ness." It is that which testifies on behalf of face, as well as the ugly aspects we do not through the muck. In the traditional lan­ God at the courtroom which is inside us. want to admit are part of us. These in­ guage, the Light not only shows us our sin This inner witness is more than our con­ volve anger, fear, hatred, greed, compul­ but shows us our salvation and its author, science, which can be influenced, bought sion, addiction, or whatever does not fit Christ. off, or perjured. This inner witness is in­ the personage we are pretending to be. If The way the process works for me­ corruptible; it speaks forTruth. It testifies we will look, God's Light will show us all and it is an ongoing process, not a one­ on behalf of God in a given situation or these hidden parts of ourselves. It hurts. shot deal-is that I am brought face-to­ time ofdecision . But sometimes we of the But this is the first step towards wholeness face with some part of myself I do not inner courtroom don't want to hear this and holiness. want to acknowledge. Perhaps it is through witness and we shut it up. We imprison Let me try one more metaphor: the becoming angry at someone else. Perhaps the witness so that we can have our own God-shaped hole. Each of us has within it is through hearing myselfsay something way, unimpeded. us a God-shaped hole. We go through life out loud in the form of advice to another A far more familiar metaphor is the searching for what fills that hole, because person. It might come through something Light Within. I think they are the same. as long as it remains empty we are dissatis­ I read, or from a dream, or as something The important thing, though, is not which fied; we know something is missing from someone says to me. In any event, I am images we use but how the reality to which life. People try a variety of things to fill it, brought face-to-face with this ugly fact. At they point actually functions in us. That and our economy (at least the marketing rust I may try to deny it. But when I of God, the Light, and the Inner Witness industry) is based on trying to sell us hole­ become still and quiet, God shows me begin by convicting us. Again, the Ian- fillers. But no thingfits, no activity fills the that this is indeed a part of me. When I Marty Grundy, clerk ofCleveland (Ohio) Meet­ emptiness. Some people try sex, alcohol, am able to acknowledge this, the healing ing, is also clerk ofFGC's Traveling Ministries or drugs. Others try accumulating money, can begin. Admitting this to myself and to Oversight Committee. power, or prestige. Some try work, often God, and often to another human being, ©Martha JP. Grundy worthwhile work, even Quaker commit- seems to be a good half of the struggle.

14 july 1999 FRIENDS jOURNAL Sometimes the very act of confessing that this is a part of me resolves it. But usually, more is required. I must become willing for the Light to show me the roots of this Friends Home at Woodstown thing, which is often even worse than admitting to it in the first place. The next A Century ofQuaker Care for Older Adults step is to ask God what we are going to do about it. Strangely, it is not always taken Simply put, Friends Horne at Woodstown provides friendly and affordable away. To my chagrin, I find that these care to older adults. Nestled in the heart of rural southern New Jersey, broken places are sometimes where I can Friends Horne has maintained a stable presence in the community for over be of most help to someone else. I would 100 years. Some of our primary services include: much rather help someone out of my expertise and strength, where I am in con­ • Private, homelike residential living trol. But no, it is through admitting my • Independent apartment living weaknesses and woundedness that I can • Health care facility with 24-hour services help someone else who is weak and • Patient and supportive staff wounded, because that is where I allow • Attention to the individual's spiritual, social, and physical needs God to move and lead and heal me. I have • Closeness to the community to have God's help in those places; I can­ not do it myself • Medicare and Medicaid Certificate If I do not learn the lesson the first Rated one ofthe best care homes in the U.S. time, I get additional opportunities for spiritual growth. It has been suggested that For a tour or more information, contact our Admissions Office at the problems and difficult people we need 609-769-1500 (but don't want) enter our lives in order to teach us the lessons we need to learn. Friends Home at Woodstown The wonderful thing about this inner P.O. Box 457 • Friends Drive • Woodstown, NJ 08098 witness, this seed, this something of God, this Christ Within, is that not only does it convict, not only does it teach us how to move forward, it also empowers us to do so. When I acknowledge my dependence on God, I receive the help I need in the immediate moment. The Christ Spirit gives us the strength and courage to dare to change. That does not mean it is easy, Some kids earn an extra diploma at George School but it means it can be done, in the imme­ diate moments when a specific change of llr,--- SOME VERY C APAB L E GEORGE SCHOOL attitude and action are needed. 1 students can earn both a traditional diploma It has been said that "that of God" is and an International Baccalaureate (IB) diploma. not so much a piece or fragment ofGod, as a connection, an umbilical cord that en­ ~ In 1998, 21 George School students earned ables us to be in touch with the transcen­ the internationally recognized IB diploma. dent, awesome Creator. It is part of each They had spent their junior and senior years of us, inherent in our humanness. In and at George School participating in the acade­ of itself it does not make us divine. But if mically rigorous IB program. Many colleges - we give over our wills, it can be the begin­ even the most selective - will grant them ning, the seed of what Paul discovered up to a full year's college credit for successful moved him: "not me but Christ in me." IB scores. Friends, then, are people who realize To find out more about George School pro­ they come equipped with "that of God" grams, contact the Admission Office. deep inside them that, ifpaid attention to, will show them the need for change and George School, Box 4460, Newtown, PA 18940 will lead and empower them into trans­ Phone: 215-579-6547, fax: 215-579-6549 formation. The faith and practice of our E-mail: [email protected] spiritual ancestors is radical stuff. Let us Web: www.georgeschool. pvt.ku. pa. us not lose its power by reducing their words to sentimental, unexamined cliches. 0

FRIENDS J OURNAL jury 1999 15 HENRY 105 North Fourth Street FREEMAN Centerville, IN 47330 Augacy ASSOCIATES 3298 Bristol Road Chaffont, PA 18914 0 Phone: 800-707-1920

With offices near Richmond, Indiana, and in the Philadelphia area, Henry Freeman Associates provides services to organizations and institutions throughout the country, with many clients located along the eastern seaboard (Washington, D.C., to Boston) and in the midwest. Fund raising services include capital campaign planning, major gift work, planned giving, development program evaluation, foundation research, and annual giving. Organizational development services include training, strategic by Theodor Benfey planning, organizational analysis, board development, and time management. ''Ifyou would know God and worship and Recent Friends-affiliated clients include: serve God as you should do, you must come to Pendle Hill, Earlham College, Friends General Conference, Friends World the means he has ordained andgiven for that Committee, Friends Journal, Friends United Meeting, Friends Council on purpose. Some seek it in books, some in Education, and Cambridge Friends School. learned men, but what they look for is in themselves, yet they overlook it. " We invite you to contact us. -William Penn rom time to time I visit Phila­ delphia to finish some work at Fthe foundation with which I have been associated for ten years. Since the foundation is in the city's historical dis­ trict, I stay at the Thomas Bond House, a WESTTOWN bed-and-breakfast historic home opposite the City Tavern. Thomas Bond, friend of Benjamin Franklin, was a physician and founder of the Pennsylvania Hospital. O ne room in the house is called the William Penn room, and looking out of my window I see William Penn, a small replica of the statue at the pinnacle of Philadelphia's City Hall. T he Penn replica on a short pillar is the centerpiece of Welcome Park, a small paved area with trees, benches, and wall legends, marking the location of Penn's slate-roof house near Penn's Landing where he arrived to construct his new colony of Pennsylvania. On the south wall is an illustrated story ofPenn's life, describing his being thrown our of Oxford University, his altercations with his admiral father (whose victory

Ted Benfey, a member ofFriendship Meeting in Greensboro, N C, taught chemistry and history ofscience for 40 years at Haveiford, Earlham, and Guilford Colleges.

16 july 1999 FRIENDS j OURNAL voice which said, 'There is one, For this commandment which I command even Christ Jesus, that can speak thee this day, it is not hidden &om thee, to thy condition.'" That classic neither is it far off; statement brought solace and It is not in heaven, that thou shouldest say, light to thousands in Fox's time who shall go up for us to heaven, and bring it unto us, that we may hear it, and do it? and to many since then, but I Neither is it beyond the sea, that thou wonder how much help it is to shouldest say, Who shall go over the sea for us today' s skeptical but desperate and bring it unto us, that we may hear it and seeker. Not many people today do it? hear voices speaking to them But the word is very nigh unto thee, in thy no matter how open they are to mouth, and in thy heart, that thou mayest do it. new leadings, and the words "Christ Jesus" rather than at­ And Jesus, in a time when the Pharisees tracting people often put them were well on their way to codifying every off, reminding them of evan­ aspect of daily behavior for the devout gelical preachings and the un­ believer, proclaimed the simplicity of true satisfying church services they religion-to love God and to love thy attended in their childhood. neighbor as thyself The import of Penn's mes­ Today Fox's words are not as directly sage is the same as that of Fox, understood as they were by those who for as one turns within and stops thinking that books or other individuals have the sought-for secret, one slowly--or occasion­ ally quite rapidly-becomes aware of guidance, of insights, over the Dutch was the reason William of light for the next step forward. And as could request of the king a piece ofland in one grows in awareness of the nature of the Americas), joining Friends, being im­ this guidance, the nature of that divine prisoned in the Tower of London, his spirit within us, then that inner light re­ friendship with t~e Indians, and his veals itself, with characteristics remark­ achievements and travails in Pennsylvania. ably like those of the person who lived a I decided I needed to read the story mere 80 generations ago, the carpenter's from beginning to end, not just snippets son, Jesus of Nazareth. as I had done in the past. An old man was Penn's advice is so extraordinarily sitting on a bench near where the Quaker simple. Religion is not complicated. You part of the story was located, so I was do not have to be learned or be guided by heard him in his time. Three hundred hesitant to go near there, knowing I'd just a great teacher-though that has certainly years of further Christian history have be asked for small change by a homeless been a help to some-but all we need is elapsed, new Christian groups have stranger. But I did want to read the whole already within us, ifonly we become con­ emerged with their own languages and story. As I came closer, I noticed the man's scious of it. their own interpretations of such classic full grey beard and what looked like a bed The thought crossed my mind that Christian terms as Jesus, Christ, sin, salva­ roll on the bench next to him. Sure enough perhaps almost all religious reformers had tion, redemption, atonement, and so on. he started talking to me, but what he said in common the message that religion was And theWestern world has become aware was totally unexpected. He pointed to simpler than what that religion's official of non-Christian religions as alternative William Penn and said, "He's not dead. representatives were preaching. The Old ways by which people can worship and William Penn is alive. And he'll be visit­ Testament prophets inveighed against find guidance and solace. ing you this afternoon." burnt offerings when sacrificed as a sub­ Why, I wonder, is William Penn's for­ Well, William Penn was with me not stitute for contrite hearts. The prophet mulation of the Quaker message not bet­ only then but for a number ofdays there­ Micah proclaimed that "all that the Lord ter known and more often quoted? It after, as I memorized and pondered the requires of thee is to do justly, to love speaks, it seems to me, in language that is statement at the head of this article. mercy, and towalkhumblywith thy God.'' remarkably modern and brings the Quaker It is an extraordinary statement en­ Even long before the time ofthe prophets, message vividly to us. shrining the central Quaker message of there is a passage in Deuteronomy (30: 11- "Ifyou would know God and worship the inner light but in a form that seems to 14) that makes the same claim as William and serve God as you should do, you must me more accessible for people today than Penn, that guidance is available right come to the means he has ordained and George Fox's oft-quoted statement that within ourselves. In one of his last admo­ given for that purpose. Some seek it in when his hopes for enlightenment from nitions before Moses sent the Israelites books, some in learned men, but what the churches or books or preachers had all across the Jordan into the promised land, they look for is in themselves, yet they been dashed, "Then 0 then I heard a he said to his people: overlook it." 0

FRIENDS JOURNALfu& 1999 17 : ...... •...... Old Bello and the Calico Crab · t>-~~ ...... by Rebecca Osborn

ar in from the ocean, on the beach, an old Sea Crab named FBello lay dry and motionless. The sand whirled around her and the hot summer sun beat down on her dry shell. In a lircle while, she thought to herself, I will break apart. I will never feel the cool ocean again. The night before, a great black storm with fiery lightning and strong winds had stirred up the waves. Slap­ ping her and pounding on her shell, the waves had carried her far into shore. And now, all morning, the tide had been flowing out. "If only I could go out with the tide," the old Sea Crab said, sadly. "Out into the cool ocean." But the tide did not turn. Even the small ripples were running away. Then something tickled Old Bello just under the edge of her shell. She rolled her great round eyes down and saw a small speckled Calico Crab. explained. "Your shell is white and your Corky had a wide crack in his little speck­ "What is your name, and what are legs are all folded up." led shell. He was growing a new, bigger you doing down there?" she asked, This made Old Bello angry. shell, but the skin under the crack was not very pleasantly. ''Well, I am not dead," she snapped. thin and blue and the sun would soon "My name is Corky, and I can't "And as for you, little crab, you've got burn it dry. get back in the ocean." more legs than you have brains! Go home!" ''You can crawl under my shell, Corky," "You are tickling me," Old Bello Bello felt good now. It felt good to she said, "but don't tickle me. I hate to be complained. have somebody to get angry at. She felt tickled." "I thought you were just an old alive. She no longer felt like she was going Corky quickly unfolded his slender legs shell with nobody in it," Corky said. to break into pieces on the hot sand. and his two front claws and, inching very "So you thought I was dead, I "Go home, Corky," she repeated. carefully sidewise, slipped under Old suppose." The little Calico Crab pulled back his Bello's great shell. "Well, you looked dead," Corky small round eyes and folded his two tiny "You're all shady inside," he said Rebecca Osborn shared this story with the claws close to his body. "I can't go home," happily. third grade at United Friends School in he said sadly. "My home is in a burrow "I have lived a very long time and my Quakertown, Pa. Asha Michener (now a deep in the ocean." shell is very thick," Old Bello replied. sixth-grader) drew the iUustration. Once more the old Sea Crab rolled her ''You must be very old," Corky said © 1998 Rebecca Osborn eyes down. This time she noticed that politely...... 18 july 1999 FRIENDS j OURNAL ...... "You will be old, too, Corky, when 1999-2000 you have lived as long as I have." Corky thought about this for sev­ eral minutes, but he couldn't make SHORr COURSES at Pendle Hill much sense of it. However, he was very careful not to tickle Old Bello AUTUMNTERM ------­ from underneath. And so they waited while the hot What the Splits of the 19th Life Integration Through summer sun beat down on the old Century Can Teach Friends Journal Work Sea Crab's shell and the ocean breezes Larry Ingle· October 17-22 Lois Frey· Novem.ber 7-12 threw swirls of sand around her. In another hour, Old Bello thought, I Living Ecologically As If the The Brothers Karamazov: shall break apart and Corky will not Whole Earth Mattered Must the Seed Die? have any shade. Hazel Lajleur-ltetter · October 24-29 Chris Ravndal· November 7-12 From down under her shell, Corky Healing After Violence: An Exploration of Buddhist said in a frightened little voice, "What Conflict Transformation Meditation are we going to do?" Roswitha & Peter Jarman · Oct. 24-29 Mary Orr· November 14-19 Old Bello thought for a moment. "We are just going to wait here for the tide to come in." It made her feel VVINTERTERM ------better just to say that. "But how long will that be?" Corky Art and the Photographic Image Writing Our Memoirs asked. Danna Cornick ·January 1fr21 Margaret Hope Bacon · Feb. 27-March 3 "I don't know," Old Bello said gently. 'We must be patient." God's Compassion in the A Jewish-Christian Dialogue Corky was feeling hungry, but he Hebrew Prophets Rabbi Marcia Prager & thought he had better not say so. Tony Prete ·january 23-28 Rebecca Kratz Mays · March 5-10 Then it happened. Old Bello felt A First Course in Pastoral Care Quaker Work at the United the sand move under her. for Quakers Nations "Corky," she said, "It is coming! judy Guerry · February fr11 jack Patterson, Lori Heninger, The tide is coming in. There will be a David jackman · March 19-24 big wave. As soon as you feel it, you The Search for the Sacred must begin to swim. You must swim Tom L Torosian · February 20-25 hard!" "Where will the wave take me?" Corky asked. SPRING TERM "It will carry you home, Corky. Hildegarde of Bingen: Renewing the Quaker Journal The wave will take you to your bur­ row deep in the ocean." A Feather on the Breath of God Tradition Michael Heller and Rebecca Kratz Mays · "But what will you do?" the little Lucy Etklbeck, OP · April1fr21 May 14-19 crab asked. Exploring Our Faith: Looking at "I will float on the wave." Books of Faith and Practice Seeing the Bible Whole "But where will it take you? Will jan Hoffman · April23-28 john Punshon ·May 21-26 you go home, too?" For a moment Old Bello did not Feminist Perspectives on speak, then she said, gently, "Before Contemporary Expressions of Faith you came, Corky, I was very lonely Dena Pence Frantz ·May 7-12 out here on the beach in the hot sun with the sand swirling all around me. Then you came. Because of you I didn't feel lonely any more. Because Join our community for five days of work, worship and study. 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FRIENDS ]OURNAL ]u(y 1999 21 Young Friends Excelling The Changing Face of Quaker IN A CHANGING WORLD Education FRIENDS SELECT by]. Trmothy Esser-Haines Pre-K to 12th grade 17th & Benjamin Franklin Parkway t is very difficult to find any idea, theory, have had a good experience with community Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 19103-1284 or belief that has not changed at all service at the 18th Street Development Cor­ I over time. New generations change beliefs poration, going out working with different 215-561-5900 and theories to fit their lives and their times. It people and learning things hands-on that I is just as hard, however, to find a beliefor idea can see using in the future, like how to hang a that has not maintained some part ofits origi­ door or put drywall on the ceiling, things you nal sel£ In the 1600s William Penn put forth don't get in the classroom. Unfortunately these some of the first ideas of Quaker education as sorts ofhands-on opportunities only happen a THE HICKMAN part ofa book he wrote entitled Some Fruits of few times a year instead of daily. RETIREMENT RESIDENCE Solitutk. At Friends Select School in Philadel­ Few schools today follow Penn's idea of phia, some of Penn's ideas are still in use and letting children develop in their own way in many are not. their own time. Students are forced to memo­ Penn's ideas about education were very rize facts and grammar and rules instead of different from the popular ideas ofhis time. He cultivating their natural genius. Quaker schools suggested that, instead ofstudying and memo­ do try to think well about individual students l~nt LMng ond Persoool Core rizing books in Latin and Greek, students and do a much better job than many places. Comoenient to shops. businesses, learn from the world around them. Penn Class sizes are kept small enough that teachers ond culwrol opportunities Reasonable • Nol{or~fit wrote: "It were happy if we studied nature can really get to know students and provide Founded ond oper01ed by Quakers more in natural things." He felt very strongly help with work. I talked many times with my that since God created the world, the best way English teacher last year about papers I could 9 400 North Walnut Street to learn about God is through the world, and not figure out how to write, and with my West Chester, PA 19380 (61 0) 696- 1536 besides that, it is just practical that if you are math teacher about concepts I did not quite going to live in the world you know at least get. In some cases it helped a lot, and I came something about it. In addition to learning out with a wonderful paper or a much better about and from the world, Penn thought thar understanding of a concept. children should be allowed to learn at their Even in Quaker schools, however, Penn's History comes Alive own pace and not be forced ahead into some­ ideas are not really put into use in any sub­ thing that they don't want. In his words, "We stantial way. In fact I am relatively sure that when you share your press their [children's] memory too soon, and many ofhis ideas, like letting children develop Storehqvse of Memories puzzle, strain, and load them with words and at their own pace in their own direction with --=- ~~~ »":· -, rules; to know grammar and rhetoric, and a the world around them as a guide, could not We help you gather the strange tongue or two, that it is ten to one may be incorporated to any useful degree into the richness of your life into never be useful to them; leaving their natural sort ofsystem in schools today. For instance, I a beautiful hand-bound book. genius to mechanical and physical, or natural have many interests I would be excited to knowledge uncultivated and neglected." learn more about, like German language, farm Storehouse CoiJectJon of Memories Penn believed chat people could learn well work, piano, working with small children, Marty Walton & Linda Lyman from hands-on activities in addition to books. building and rebuilding houses, horseback 1311 Sudden Valley, Bellingham, WA 98226 He wrote, "Children had rather be making of riding, and comic book and novel writing, to 1(800)738·8599 [email protected] tools and instruments of play; shaping, draw­ name a few. Unfortunately none of these sub­ ing, framing, and building, etc. than getting jects is offered at Friends Select, and the work w m w w m some rules of propriety of speech by heart: I am required to do, but not terribly interested Member, Association of Personal Historians and those also would follow with more judg­ in, does not leave me with enough time to ment, and less trouble and time." pursue any of these on my own. Today, more than 300 years later, some of Penn had some really great ideas about William Penn's ideas are still intact in Quaker Quaker education and education in general CREMATION schools. At Friends Select there is a still an that are still relevant today. Unfortunately Friends are reminded that the effort to let students learn in and from the only some of them have been put into practice AnnaT. Jeanes Fund world. This is present both in community and only to a small extent at Friends Select will reimburse cremation costs. service and junior and senior internships. I School. It makes me wonder how compatible (Applicable to members of these ideas of hands-on learning in and from Philadelphia Yearly Meeting only.) J Timothy Esser-Haines is a member ofCentral the world, or students figuring out how and For informadon, write or telephone SANDY BATES Philadelphia (Pa.) Meeting. This article was what they wane to learn, are with our present 5350 Knox Street written as a sophomore homework assignment. school system. Maybe it is time for another Philadelphia, PA 19144 © 1998 J Timothy Esser-Haines change. 0

22 july 1999 fRIENDS JOURNAL Parents' Corner A Preschooler's Prayer for Peace by Gretchen Castle eing awakened at 4:00A.M. by my four­ our safety was not in question was not enough year-old daughter was hardly unusual. to quell the deep sadness, knowing that other BAs she climbed over me to snuggle be­ mothers half a world away could not offer the tween the warm bodies of her two sleepy same consolation to their children snuggling parents, she described what I thought was a close in fear. bad dream. "They are coming over with guns Afrer numerous questions about our safery, ::! to kill us," she said. "They don't know how to I told her it is actually the other way around: ·::i get over the ocean, but there might be a man "Our government is bombing Iraq, they are ~ who can cross the ocean now. He's from 'A not coming here to hurt us." Her reliefopened ~L--...... 1..------"------' Rock.' I heard it on the news." a floodgate ofqu estions. "Why would they do I don't watch the news when the children that .~" us? Do they have something that can hun are home, but I had not communicated this to I said, "Their government has not done every living thing? Do the people there agree our occasional baby sitter. Granted, the news what it agreed to do." with their government? Can we talk to the of the Iraq bombing was compelling. My ear "So our government was mad at them?" people there? Are the people there all together was glued to National Public Radio in my car, "Yes." I added, "MommyandDaddydon't in one place? even as my children were home in front of the agree with what our government is doing Just before sleep, this dear child, no matter TV. Didn't we all want to know what was since it hurts people. As Quakers we believe how she pictured it in her busy mind, con­ going on? no one should hurt anyone else, no matter cluded with, "Weshouldsaya prayer, wishing My little one said, "I want to snuggle re­ how mad we are." How helpful it was to me to that all children in 'A Rock' have a mother ally, really, really close to you." As we lay in reduce such a complexity to a simple state­ and father to snuggle with tonight. And to­ the silence of the night, arms wrapped around ment a four-year-old could understand. It's morrow we'll write a letter to the people to tell each other, I glimpsed the terror oflying with one of the many gifts ofliving with a child. them we don't want to hun them, but we my child as bombs fell randomly from the sky, Despite my efforts to encourage her to have co do it first thing to get it there before even as tears fell onto my pillow. Relief that return to sleep, she kept throwing out ques­ the bombs get there." tions, and I tried to answer them in simple Our letters and prayers must be very pow­ Gretchen Castle is a member ofDoylestown {Pa.) statements. Is our government hurting people? erful to engage the world in nonviolent ac­ Meeting, as are her husband, Ken Miller, and How do they get across the ocean? Do they tion, but for a four-year-old (and a 42-year­ two children. use guns? If they gee mad, will 'A Rock' hutt old), it's a fme place to start. 0 ...... Look for these tides at the FGC Gathering!

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FRJENDS ]OURNAL]u(y 1999 23 Reports and Epistles Racism, Diversity, and gathered in the Spirit to discern what actions and realized no matter how much we contrib­ we are willing to take and encourage other uted, we gained so much more. We felt cher­ Inclusiveness Gathering Friends to take to bring about the vision we ished, valued, and loved. We go forth, strength­ Epistle share: an anti-racist, multicultural religious ened and enriched, ready to share our experi­ commtm.ity for the future. ence of fellowship. We return to our meetings On April 9-11, 1999, Friends came to­ to carry forward with greater vigor the con­ gether at Burlington (N.J.) Meetinghouse -joan Broadfield and Paul Ricketts, co-clerks cerns of Friends in Asia West Pacific. Conference Center for a Gathering with a Concern for Issues of Racism, Diversity, and Inclusiveness. An intentional aspect of the FWCC Asia-West Pacific Friends Peace Teams Project gathering was that an equal number of white Delegation to Africa Friends and Friends of color were in atten­ Section Gathering Epistle dance. Friends traveled from as far as Pasa­ Friends from yearly meetings and worship From January 3-23, 1999, a seven-mem­ dena, Calif, and Orono, Maine, for a time of groups in Japan, India, South Korea, Hong ber delegation from Friends Peace Teams worship, discussion, fellowship, and Kong, Singapore, Sri Lanka, Hawaii, Austra­ Project's African Great Lakes Initiative visited commtm.ity dialog. lia, and Aotearoa/New Zealand expressed a Kenya, Uganda, Rwanda, and Burundi. Mem­ After a period of opening worship, we sense ofleading to this gathering [held in New bers ofthe delegation were Bill and Rosemarie shared what prepared us to participate in this Zealand January 18-25, 1999]. Friends McMechan (Canadian Yearly Meeting), who weekend and our hopes and fears regarding brought a variety of gifts, including the con­ went to Uganda; Jill Sternberg (Northern and the outcome of the gathering. cerns and visions of our own meetings. The Illinois Yearly Meetings) and Derreck Kayongo On Saturday morning, we met for worship Quaker Settlement, home to 27 adults and (a Baptist working for the Atlanta office of with a concern for racial healing in the Relig­ children, is situated among rolling hills on the AFSC), who visited Kenya; and Ute Caspers ious Society of Friends and the larger society. outskirts ofWanganui . This provided an ideal (German Yearly Meeting), Carl Stauffer (a After meeting for worship, we agreed in the place for worship, deliberation, and an in­ Mennonite pastor working in South Africa), Spirit to meet separately as Friends of color creasing sense of wholeness. The active par­ and David Zarembka (Baltimore Yearly Meet­ and white Friends to discuss plainly our expe­ ticipation ofsome residents of the Settlement ing), who traveled to Burundi and Rwanda. riences and concerns with respect to contem­ added a great deal to the flavor and spiritual The purpose ofthe mission was to visit Quak­ porary issues of racism, diversity, and inclu­ depth of all our activities. ers and others involved in peacemaking activi­ siveness within the Religious Society ofFriends. We were able to bridge differences and ties in the Great Lakes Region of Africa, ex­ Remaining together in the Spirit, we entered a appreciate one another's contributions. We plore African Quakers' participation in peace­ period ofsharing by all present and developed valued the weaving together of cultures, lan­ making, reconciliation, and trauma healing, issues (for discussion during the afternoon guages, and experiences. Music was an inte­ and assess the possibility of placing a long­ session) in unity. gral part ofevery day's activities. Laughter was term Peace Team in the area. After lunch and a brief period of worship, impottant. The Bible and Quaker Faith and The delegation began its work with a three­ Friends engaged in community dialog focused Practice (Britain YM) served as a basis for all day workshop at the Mua Hills Secondary on the issues that were deemed most pressing worship. The exposure to programmed and School outside of Machakos, Kenya. Since by all. We were in tm.ity with the concern of unprogrammed worship was a new experi­ members of the delegation came from four many Friends that, unless our meetings and ence for many participants who were familiar countries and were ofvarious nationalities, we churches become more welcoming and inclu­ with only their own worship process. spent time getting to know one another. We sive and deal with issues of racism, the future An invitation to Maori marae enabled fur­ planned the details of the travels and coordi­ of the Religious Society of Friends in the ther reaching out between Friends and local nated the delegation's questions in order to United States is in danger. We followed this Maori. The dignity ofthe Maori welcome and present a common approach among the coun­ with forthright discussion and sharing around our response made this encounter one of great tries the teams were visiting. issues of pain, misunderstanding, and mis­ spiritual depth. In Mbale, Uganda, the home of Uganda trust. We were in unity that these issues must We discussed the value of visiting one Yearly Meeting, the team co-facilitated a basic be addressed for healing to begin and that we, another's countries to better understand each Alternatives to Violence Project workshop, as a religious society, must be willing to move other's situations and concerns and to deepen and they later attended a Friends quarterly beyond mere "polite-speak" to plain and hon­ friendships. We plan to find ways of sharing meeting. Delegates then went to Kampala, est dialog in the Spirit. involvement in projects. We were a deeply where they helped facilitate a second AVP Following dinner, we held a memorial gathered meeting. We came seeking answers workshop with AVP-Uganda facilitators, in­ meeting for worship in celebration of cluding four members of an ex-com­ the life of our Friend Deborah batants group trying to make the tran­ ~ Theado. She had been part of the sition from military to civilian life. ~ planning committee for this gather­ They also met with 12 individuals ?! ing. She died on March 15 of this representing various organizations in­ ~ year. Friends shared through songs, volved in peace activities in Uganda. ~ words, and prayers their feelings of In Burundi the team conducted ~ loss and renewed their commitment trauma-healing workshops-one f to Deborah's vision: a Religious Soci­ with teachers from the Peace Primary >:~ ety of Friends that reflects the won- School nearGitega, a second for wives 8 derful racial and ethnic diversity of ~ this land. Friends at the Racism, Diversity, ~ Following this service, Friends and Inclusiveness Gathering

24 july 1999 fRIENDS jOURNAL of yearly meeting pastors, and a third for women of Kamenge Church in an area of Bujumbura that had been destroyed in the fighting. The team met with a remarkable group called the Peace and Reconciliation Ministry Under the Cross. This interreligious, Head of School interethnic group travels to rural areas and school gives three-day workshops on nonviolence and reconciliation with the goal offorming a Peace Committee in each community. The team Founded in 1893 by the Religious Society of Friends, George School is a coeducational also visited Kibimba, the site of the first Evan­ boarding and day school for students in grades 9 through 12 located in Newtown, gelical Friends Alliance mission in 1934 and Pennsylvania The school maintains high academic standards in an atmosphere ofamajormassacrein 1993. Thelargechurch characterized by Quaker principles and values. The diverse and talented student body of and 700-student secondary school sheltered 540 young people represents 32 states and 28 countries. 3,000 displaced people, who left the facility in a state of disrepair. The Search Committee invites nominations and applications for the position of Head of In Rwanda, the team facilitated a Recon­ School, to be effective July 1, 2000. The successful candidate will possess proven ciliation and Trauma Healing Workshop with leadership experience in an educational setting and reflect a commitment to the School's the leaders of Rwanda Yearly Meeting and philosophy of respect for the individual, the importance of spiritual as well as intellectual Quaker pastors from all over the country. The growth, and a commitment to social responsibility. team visited Mutura Church, where Carl Stauffer delivered the Sunday sermon. This The position is open without regard to gender, age, race or national origin. Interested church is on the northwestern border with the candidates should send a resume and a statement of educational philosophy to: Congo, where rebel and government fighting John Frazier Hunt, Clerk of the Search Committee killed hundreds of thousands of people in c/o Kim Morrisson, Ph.D. and/or B.A. MacLean, Jr., Managing Directors 1998. Houses were destroyed, many fields lay The Diversified Search Companies abandoned, few livestock survived, and the 2005 Market Street, Suite 3300, Philadelphia, PA 19103 people who fled into the mountain forests 215-656-3579 or [email protected] were just returning to their homes. Two ofthe three Quaker secondary schools in Rwanda were visited, and the team spoke on reconcili­ ation to the student bodies. In Kenya, the team attended a meeting with clerks, general secretaries, and superin­ tendents from the 14 yearly meetings and led sample peace-building exercises. They facili­ (i) tated a workshop at Lugari Yearly Meeting, where the unrest in Kenya had occurred in 1993, and visited two yearly meetings in Kitale and the Friends T heological College in Broadmead Kaimosi. The delegation also spoke with or­ ganizations including Friends World Com­ mittee for Consultation- Mrica Section, the • Picturesque 84-acre country campus offering an National Christian Council ofKenya, and the active lifestyle, near the attractions of Baltimore. Nairobi Peace Initiative about peacemaking • One-story, garden style apartments. activities in Kenya. The team attempted to visit the Peace Translation Committee and a • A good value in retirement living- your health care, Quaker meeting in Mugumu, Tanzania, but long-term care, prescriptions, medical bill processing when they reached Musoma, the nearest ma­ and much more are included in the basic monthly fee. jor town, torrential rains kept them from tak­ .It_A IT _Atfdf 'lJp to Smart £tbtitp ing the bus to the remote location. The delegation ended with another three­ day retreat at Shalom House in Kampala. After a long debriefing on our various activi­ Broadmead is an Accredited, Not-for-Profit ties, the delegation worked on its long-term Continuing Care Retirement Community recommendations. These will be reviewed by Founded and operated in the caring Quaker tradition. Friends Peace Teams Project's Coordinating 13801 York Road, Cockeysville, Maryland 21030 Committee in April 1999, and the next steps of the Mrican Great Lakes Initiative will be 410-527-1900 announced at that time. Celebrating 20 years of service in 1999. For more information: David Zarembka, 17734 Larchmont Terr., Gaithersburg, MD EQUAL HOUSING www. broad mead. org 20877; e-mail- . OPPORTUNITY

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Response to the NATO bombings in Serbia during an evening for and Kosovo continued to build as of mid­ approximately 50 min­ May. Many meetings have held weekly vigils, utes. Afrer a period of si­ lobbied Congress, and sought ways to help lence the musician is in­ the refugees. As ofmid-May, American Friends vited to break the silence \..J Service Committee collected $750,000 in fi­ with his or her music ~ nancial contributions and $1,000,000 in rna­ when led to do so. As ~ terial aid. Emergency relief kits were arriving reported in the meeting's ~ in such numbers that volunteers in Philadel­ March newsletter, "On S' phia were hard pressed to keep up. AFSC in February 7, 1999, John (-..::; April appointed Gail Long to be the Mark Rozendaal joined organization's field representative to oversee the meeting and showed aid distribution and to assess ongoing needs. Clothing and supplies from the AFSC Philadelphia an exquisite sense of the A particularly unusual scene occurred in warehouse are loaded for transport to Kosovar regufees at blending of music and May with the arrival of army trucks and sol­ Fort Dlx, N.J. silence bringing his mu­ diers from Fort Dix, N.J., at the AFSC ware­ meeting's clerks, the letter asked that elected sical gifr on his 18th-century viola da gamba, house in Philadelphia. The Gis loaded trucks officials "show both the courage and leader­ a precursor of the modern cello. . . . Mr. with clothing and supplies for refugees housed ship to reject such discriminatory legislation, Rozendaal's experience incorporating music at Fort Dix. Volunteers from city schools have regardless of popular sentiment." The letter as part of a worship experience was evident as been present daily at the AFSC warehouse to futther said, "It is especially disturbing that the warm sounds ofhis viola da gamba drifred help prepare kits, sort clothing, and prepare these bills prevent adoption even of blood throughout the meetinghouse and provided shipments. In Sesame Street Magazine, AFSC relatives if a prospective parent is gay or les­ spiritual food for our contemplation." was listed as number one as an opportunity bian." Due in large part to a large volume of for children to take action relating to the such letters, and a lawsuit brought by a state By their good works Friends become known, plight of refugees. In Edgerton, Wis., a four­ social worker, the House on May 10 took no as a note from the April newsletter of Allen's and-a-half-year-old boy heard his parents talk­ action and the legislation died in committee. Neck (Mass.) Meeting will confirm. Entitled ing about the war and the suffering ofKosovars. Texas Governor George Bush said publicly "We've Got a Reputation!" it reads: "Last He collected rocks and sticks, took them to his that he would sign the legislation if it were week, while out shopping, a man stopped Friends meeting, and sold them to help the passed. (Thanks to Dallas Peace Center mem­ Doug and asked when we were going to have refugees. His parents sent a check for the full ber and Friend Cliff Pearson for his report.) our next chicken supper. Neither Doug nor I amount collected ($58.11) to the AFSC South Central Yearly Meeting also passed recognized the man, but this was not the first Kosovar fund. At Sandy Spring Friends School, the following minute, concluding a period of time either of us had been stopped and asked Nancy Henningsen, school head, sent a check two years of focused discussion, education, about our suppers." (Word has it that the for $2,419 raised by students who arranged a and threshing sessions among monthly meet­ season's final supper on April 17-clticken "math-a-thon" for Kosovar relief on a Satur­ ings: "South Central Yearly Meeting endorses and gravy, sponsored by the Ways & Means day-and another check from the ftfth grade the marriages of individuals under the care of Committee-was a great success. -Eds.) "basketball-a-chon" ($294). A campus-wide monthly meetings without regard to gender." campaign at University of Notthern Iowa The death penalty is rated last by U.S. police raised $10,000. Olney Friends School plans to reopen for the chiefs in a recent survey on the best ways to 1999- 2000 school year under new manage­ reduce violent crime. The findings were re­ Looking beyond the present crisis in Kosovo, ment. A new Friends of Olney, Inc., com­ ported in the April newsletter ofFriends Com­ the Fellowship of Reconciliation is laying prised ofschool alumni, parents, Ohio Yearly mittee on Legislation, a nonprofit lobbying plans for a Campaign for Disarmament and Meeting members, and other committed organization advocating compassion and so­ Justice. They propose a summer-long pres­ Friends and friends, announced plans this cial justice in California. Only 1 percent of ence in the year 2000 in Washington, D.C., spring to give new energy to the governance of police chiefs thought it would be helpful to culminating in a large event August 6--a the 172-year-old Quaker boarding school in expand the use of the death penalty. As ways "Walk for Nonviolence" from the Lincoln Barnesville, Ohio. Ken and Katharine to reduce crime, 31 percent listed the reduc­ Memorial to the White House. The Cam­ Jacobsen, former head of school and director tion of drug abuse, 17 percent creating a paign will be an effort to help launch and ofdevelopment , have agreed to return to Olney better economy and more jobs, 16 percent the support the UN General Assembly's recent in the same capacities to give leadership, en­ simplifying ofcourt rules, 15 percent handing declaration calling the years 2001-2010 a ergy, and vision to a reinvigorated school. A down longer prison sentences, 10 percent add­ "Decade for a Culture of Peace and Nonvio­ fundraising drive begun by Friends of Olney ing more police officers on the street, and 3 lence for Children of the World." For more will finance the student recruitment effort and percent reducing the number of guns. information on Campaign plans, contact FOR underwrite the operation of the school during at Box 271, Nyack, NY 10960, telephone: this rebuilding process. For more information In other news on the death penalty, Wellesley (914) 358-4601, e-mail: . call (740) 425-3371; e-mail: . -from Quakershaker, · to be forwarded to local papers and their state In an open letter to the Texas State Legisla­ Yellow Springr, Ohw. May 1999 representative. This occurred at a time when ture this spring, South Central Yearly Meet­ the Legislature was considering a bill to rein­ ing called upon legislators to vote no to two Incorporating music as spiritual communi­ state the death penalty afrer a period of 50 bills that would have the effect of banning cation has been an experiment of Evanston years in the state without such a law. The adoption or foster care ofany child by a gay or (Ill.) Meeting in recent months. A soloist mu­ minute stressed that innocent people are too lesbian person in Texas. Signed by the sician is invited to join a meeting for worship ofren accused, tried, convicted, and put to

26 july 1999 FRIENDS }OURNAL death, also "that only the poor suffer this Consistent penalty, and it is used disproportionately against many more African Americans and Balanced Latinos than against whites." The minute con­ cludes by stating, "The use of the death pen­ alty is immoral and unjustified and tends to encourage rather than discourage violence in our society." The good news is that shortly after the letter was prepared, the bill to rein­ state the death penalty failed to pass by a narrow margin. -from Wellesley (Mass.) Meet­ Established in 1970, Pax World Fund was the ing newsletter, April1999 first mutual fund to adopt comprehensive social and environmental screens. At least 25% of the Approval was reached in March by Olympia (Wash.) Meeting to affiliate with Friends Gen­ Fund's assets are maintained in fixed-income eral Conference. The meeting afFirmed that securities or cash equivalents at all times, pro­ FGC offers opportunities for fellowship, edu­ viding a cushion from the Ructuations of the cation, and spiritual growth of its members, stock market. "and we look forward to the time when North No Sales Charges or redemption fees and a Pacific Yearly Meeting is ready for this step [of affiliation] as well." -from Olympia (Wash.) low ($250) minimum initial investment make t-Soo-767-1729 Meeting newsletter, April1999 investing easy. www.paxfund.com ' Morningstar's proprietary ratings reRect historical risk-adjusted performance, cha~e monthly and are calculat· ATesrirnony on Sustainability to be added to ed from the Fund's 3·, 5·, and 10-year average annual returns in excess of 90-ctay Treasury bill returns with traditional Friends testimonies? A number of appi"OJ>f"iate fee adjustments, and a risk loctar tliat reRects performance below 90-day T·bill returns. The tap 10% of the funds in a category receive 5 stars; the next 22.5% receive 4 stars. "Figures include reinvested dividends, meetings are considering this question with capital gains dislribu~ons , and changes in principal value and represent past performance, which is no guaran· the encouragement of Friends Committee on tee of fuiure results. For more complete information, including charges and expenses, please call for '! prospectus Unity with Nature. New England Yearly Meet­ which should be read carefully before inves~ng. Investment return and principal value may rise or fall. ing at its 1998 sessions asked all member monthly meetings to consider deeply where they stand in relation to the importance of "sustainability" with further discussion planned at yearly meeting this August. South Berkshire (Mass.) Meeting in April approved a Minute on the Wise Use ofNatural Resources, affirm­ ing "the interconnectedness of struggles for justice, peace, and efforts to preserve the narural A retirement community world." The minute concludes with these words: "We are compelled to understand how with many opportunities. the divinely ordered narural world sustains us. It is incumbent upon the human species to respect nature's gifts and to use them wisely. Finally, it is our responsibility to influence others by education and example." -from South Berkshire (Mass.) Meeting newsletter, May 1999

To quote from a recent issue of~ House News, "The picture at Fort Benning (Ga.) is one of high levels of harassment, physical and mental abuse, and blockage ofany recourse by recruits to positive avenues to deal with prob­ A non-profit retirement community and healthcare provider lems which arise." Over half the phone calls to operated by members of the Religious Society of Friends. Quaker House, Fayetteville, N.C., requesting Residential Apartments • Assisted Living/Personal Care • Skilled Nursing Care information and support, have been from new army recruits at Fort Benning. The new director of Quaker House, Phil Esmonde, and his wife Kaushaliya, are making regular 1120 Meetinghouse Road • Gwynedd PA 19436 visits to meetings in the Southeast and will [email protected] • www.foulkeways.org welcome invitations and support for their work. Their address is Quaker House, 203 Hillside For more information, call Nancy B. Gold, C=) fi'H=,-H"' Ave., Fayetteville, NC28301, telephone: (910) Director of Admissions, at 215-643-2200. "=="' 323-3912. FruENDS]OURNAL ]uo/1999 27 Bulletin Board

Friends' Upcoming Events •Aug. 4-8-North Carolina (FUM), Ohio • C E N T R A L • •July 18-Aug. 15-Burundi Yearly Meeting Valley, Wilmington For over 150 years ... and the Friends Peace T earns Project are spon­ •Aug. 5-8-North Pacific soring the Kamenge Reconciliation and Re­ •Aug. 5-9-Western • Excellence in academics construction Project in Bujumbura, Burundi. •Aug. 7-12-New England • Respect for the individual Six young adults (age 18-35) from Burundi •Aug. 11-15-Kenya: Bware, East Africa, • Community service Yearly Meeting and six foreign young adults East Africa South, Elgon RSF, Elgon East, Kakamega, Lugari, Malava, Vokoli • A diverse student body will help members of Kamenge Church re­ • Outstanding college build their residency/guest house destroyed •Aug. 13-21-Canadian placement in 1998 during the ethnic cleansing of •Aug. 17-21-Jarnaica •Aug. 18-22-0hio (Cons.), Tanzania, Friends' C entral School that section of Bujumbura. For details contact David Zarembka, 17734 Larchmont Uganda, Nandi (Kenya) (61 0) 649-7440 ext. 208 Terrace, Gaithersburg. MD 20877; e-mail: •Aug. 19-22-Kenya: East Africa North, . Nairobi •Aug. 26-30-France •July 24-Aug. 7-An exchange has been or­ •Aug. 27-29-Denmark ganized to bring together peace activists from New Available from the the U.S. and Mexico to share approaches to (The annual Calendar of Yearly Meetings, "Nonviolent Action for Social Change." Par­ which includes locations and contact infor­ FGCBookstore ticipants will meet and share with communi­ mation for yearly meetings and other gather­ ties and grassroots organizations in Chiapas ings, is available from FWCC, 1506 Race St., Listening to the Light: and Tabasco. For details contact Sarah at the Philadelphia, PA 19102.) How to Bring Quaker Fellowship of Reconciliation, 995 Market St. Simplicity and Integrity # 1414, San Francisco, CA 94103; e-mail: Resources Into Our Lives . •A Resource List to enable your family and by Jim Pym •July 31-Aug. 14 and Aug. 14-28-Partici­ congregation to explore, reflect, and take ac­ Rider, 192 pp., 1999 pants from around the world will join to­ tion on issues of consumption and the envi­ $15.50 gether to help rebuild a burned church in ronment is available from Environmental Jus­ Cedar Heights, Md. The two-week workcarnps rice Resources, National Council ofChurches, include daily worship, srudy of recent church Order on the web at www.quakerbooks.org. P.O. Box 968, Elkhan, IN 46515-0968; tele­ You can also order by calling us toll-free burnings, field trips, and recreation. For details phone (800) 762-0968. (Ask for EJ9705, 1-800-966-4556 contact Harold Confer, Quaker Workcarnps which is a complete resource list.) Email : [email protected] International, 1225 Geranium St., Washing­ •The Fellowship of Quakers in the Arts seeks Friends General Conference m ton, DC 20012; telephone: (202) 722-1461. 1216 Arch Street, 28 to nurture and showcase the literary, visual, Philadelphia, PA 19107 •Aug. 22-27-The Ministry of Mediation: musical, and performing arts within the Re­ Loving Responses to Meeting Conflict is a ligious Society ofFriends. To join FQA and to week-long institute designed to increase skills receive their quatterly journal, Types & Shad­ and understanding of the processes involved ows, write P.O. Box 58565, Philadelphia, PA in conflict resolution. The 32-hour course at 191 02; their website address is . cludes attention to processes for healing and reconciliation. The leader is Richard Blackburn •The second issue of The Contributor, the Reservations are required for display from the Lombard Mennonite Peace Center. newsletter of the Sing Sing Prison Friends ads in FRIENDS jOURNAL. For details: Powell House, 524 Pitt Hall Rd., Worship Group, is available free. Articles in­ O ld Chatham, NY 12136; telephone: (518) dude a discussion on "Prison and Parole: an September issue: 794-8811. inside view," a readers' forum, poetry, and Reserve space by july 12. more. Friends active in Purchase Quarterly Ads must be received by july 19. •Aug. 27-29-The 16th Annual Twin Oaks Meeting. New York Yearly Meeting, assist Women's Gathering in Louisa, Va., will in­ with the publication. Contact Hank Elkins at October issue: clude workshops, music, dancing, stories, and (914) 961-7375; e-mail: . - from the Scarsdale (NY.) Ads must be received by August 23. ering, 138 Twin Oaks Rd., Louisa, VA 23093; Meeting Newsletter, April I999 e-mail: . Ad rate is $32 per column inch. •Two helpful, informative websites on the Year{y Meetings: Kosovo conflict are recommended by Dan Call (us) 563-8629 •July 27-Aug. 1-Iowa (Cons.) Lundquist of Minneapolis (Minn.) Meeting. with your reservation or questions. •July 28-Aug. !-Illinois The first gives a 600-year history of the Kosovo •July 31-Aug. 3-lndiana struggle; the second gives breaking news, •Aug.-Kenya: Central, Chavakali background, and reports on taking action to FRIENDS •Aug. 2-7-Pacific bring peace. , . -from Twin Cities Friends

28 july 1999 FRIENDS j OURNAL Meeting Newsletter, May. Friends may also find links at . One pathway peace • Equal Partners in Faith is a multi-racial, multi­ to for Students leads right through the faith national network of religious leaders and with Learning people of faith committed to equality and halls of Congress Wav Has diversity. EPF's diverse faith commitments ( )~)cned Differences and shared religious values lead the organiza­ tion to affirm and defend the equality of all College preparatory • Grades 7-U • & Summer School people, regardless of religion, race, gender, or Ask howyo u can help Call (610) 64{}-4150 for infonnation sexual orientation. For more information about brin!3 Friends' concern for EPF contact Equal Partners in Faith, 2026 P peace andj ustice to Capitol Hill DELAWARE VALLEY FRIENDS SCHOOL Street, NW, W ashington, DC 20036; (202) 19 E. Central Avenue, Paoli, PA 19301 296-4627; e-mail: [email protected]; fRIENDS COMMITTEE ON NATIONAL L EGISLATION website: . 245 Second Street N.E. Washington, D.C. 20002-5795 Innovative Summer Program june 21- fuly 23

Opportunities •A Quaker Women's Conference on Faith and Spiriruality has been scheduled for Dec. 2-5, 1999, at Camp Canyon, near Hinton, Okla. T he conference will bring together Quaker women from Nebraska Yearly Meet­ ing (FUM), Mid-America Yearly Meeting (EFI), South Central Yearly Meeting (FGC), and surrounding areas. It will provide oppor­ tunity for women from different Friends tra­ ditions to share with and learn from one an­ other. The application deadline is August 6. For brochure, application form, and more details, contact Marianne Lockard, 602 N. Greening St., H ope, AR 7 1801; e-mail: . -ftom South Cen­ tral Yearry Meeting News, Feb. 1999 • Grades 6-12, Boarding & Day •A simple memorial stone, engraved with the • 8-to-1 Student/Faculty Ratio words "Unknown Civilians Killed in War," • Excellent College Placement Record will start a journey on July 4 from Peace • 75 Miles North of NYC Abbey in Sherborn, Mass., to Arlington Na­ tional Cemetery, where it will be placed. It will be transported by hand-pulled caisson at a rate of7-22 miles per day. On July 17-18 Oalzwood there will be a 24-hour vigil with the stone at FRIENDS . SC H OO L the UN in New York. For more information 515 South Rd., Poughkeepsie, NY 12601 • www.o-f-s.org contact Stonewalk, 2 N. Main St., Sherborn, MA 0 1770; e-mail: . (914) 462-4200 -ftom Purchase (NY.) Friends Meeting News­ letter, Apri/1999

FRIENDS ]OURNAL ju{y 1999 29 Books Frontiers ofJustice: people are genuinely concerned with the victim family's plight, there should instead be a clamor The Death Penalty for the legal and social measures which will Edited by Claudia Whitman and julie provide the real suppon systems these families Zimmerman. Biddle Publishing Co., need in their time of anguish and irrevocable Brunswick, Maine, 1997. 268 pages. $15.951 loss-financial assistance, therapeutic coun­ paperback. sel, trial information, resolution, etc. Victim If you are looking for analysis of and per­ families have evety right to the normal, valid spective on a broad range of death penalty human response of rage and hatred. How­ issues together with personal stories of prisoners ever, to legislate that same gut-level desire for and those working on their behalf and for the blood-thirsty revenge will have the same del­ abolition of the death penalty-all in one eterious effect on the community as it does on volum~then Frontiers of]ustice may be your individuals. It degrades, dehumanizes, and Open your child's best choice. This is a book of essays by public debilitates us as a society. .. . We violate our figures such as Mario Cuomo, Mike Farrell, own honor and dignity by unabashedly kill­ mind to the world and Henry Gonzalez; death-row prisoners such ing a chained, restrained, defenseless person, as Steven King Ainsworth and Gene Hathorn; however deserving of death we deem that ABINGTON and abolitionists such as Marietta Jaeger, Bill person to be. We become that which we de­ FRIENDS Pelke, and Joe Ingle; as well as lawyers; doc­ plor~people who kill peopl~an insult to SCHOOL tors; religious leaders; victims; friends; and the memoty of our beloved victims." family members of prisoners. All the major Pamela Crawford writes about her brother, A Quaker coeducational reasons for abolishing the death penalty are Ed Horsley: "People knew about the crime day school grades discussed, sometimes in insightfully new ways. but didn't know the person. So Ed lost his Preschool through 12 Interspersed with the essays are vivid and strik­ identity to crime. I watched my brother go ingly symbolic works of art by prisoners. from being slow to speak and not even under­ For more information, call Charmaine White Face, of the Oglala standing a lot of things to being a vety, very 215-886-4350 Lakota Tribe, offers Native American per­ intelligent young man and vety caring about 575 Washington Lane· Jenkintown, PA 19046 spectives: "The act of killing another two­ other people and also remorseful .... [S]ociety legged . . . had repercussions during the said that people on death row cannot change. murderer's entire life, including the prohibi­ He worked really hard at becoming the per­ 0 tion from certain religious ceremonies. . . . son he was when he was executed." The circumstances surrounding the taking of Mario Cuomo, in a speech on the death another human life were taken into consider­ penalty, concludes, "An American statesman ation- not by a judge and jury but by the once reminded us that all progress has resulted family. There was no punishment for murder from people who took unpopular positions.... And because they had the ability and the ~e ce~c1pcaces according to European and American stan­ • generosity to share that gift, those people will • awa}ZOs •1t2S'C~tpC100S • dards. . .. The murderer was held responsible continue to raise their voices, louder if they • 61~C12 announcemencs • for the absence of the victim's life. The mur­ derer was held accountable for what the ab­ have to, speeding the time when civility re­ • CiJZeecltXi ca£0 bes14ns • sence did to the entire community. How much places harshness, intelligence overwhelms an­ •1f2V1caaons • sqrou.s • thought would someone have before killing ger, and we return-all of us--to the path another person if the perpetrator knew the upward." Reading this book will nurture us :H""l':fY#Iresr victim's family would decide his fate? How on our journey upward. 609-796-JSZ+ much thought would the murderer take if he -Tim Lietzke 0 knew that he would have to provide whatever Tim Lietzke is the clerk of(@aker Lake (Va.) service the victim provided?" Meeting. grows fruits and vegetables organically, Marietta Jaeger, whose seven-year-old and co-founded the Friends Committee to Abol­ daughter, Susie, was murdered, writes, "If ish the Death Penalty. DISCOVER QUAKER PHILADELPHIA Two-hour walking tours of William Penn's original city of brotherly love, in honor of Answers to Quaker Crostlc: Penn's 350th birthday. Quotation from: A Declaration "from the Harmless and Innocent People of God, called Send a SASE for schedule to: QUAKER Quakers," to Charles the Second (1660). TOURS, Box 1632, Media, PA 19063. We utterly deny all outward wars and strife, and fightings with outward weapons, for any end, or under any pretence whatever; this is our testimony to the whole world."

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Deaths Order ofMerit , Federal Republic of Germany, for growth. In 1939, she married Murry Nelson her work in reconciliation and education. She lived Fairbank, with whom she had two children, Abrams-Freda Morrill Abrams, 81, on Jan. 24, for seven years with the community of Friends at Catherine {born in 1941) and Owen (born in 1999, peacefully at Friends Care Center in Yellow Friends C rossing in Notth Easton, Mass., before 1947). Murry died in 1968, and Nora married Springs, Ohio. Freda was born in Cincinnati, Ohio, entering Brookhaven in 1992. C harlotte was pre­ James Oim) Morse Dunning in 1975. After his to Fred and Beatrice Morrill ofNew England Con­ deceased by her son, Stefan. She leaves her brother death in 1991 she moved to Corvallis, Oreg., to be gregationalist stock, but identified a Quaker among RudolfLittauer and his wife Hilde, her niece Sibyl near Owen and his family. She joined Corvallis her 17th-century ancestors. She won a scholarship Weil, and a nephew, Andrew Littauer. Meeting in 1994. Nora loved to travel, including to Mills College in Oakland, Calif., where she fact-finding trips to Labrador assisting her hus­ trained as an artist and studied art history, working Cory- Robert (Bob) Haskell Cory Jr. , 84, on March band Jim's work with the G renfell Foundation, one summer with American Friends Service Com­ 24, 1999, at his home in Washington, D.C., of a and a visit with him to China. She served as a mittee's Emergency Peace Campaign. After her stroke. A lifelong Quaker educator, peace activist, fundraiser for the New England Office ofAmerican graduation in 1939 she married Irwin Abrams, a and author, as well as founder of W illiam Penn Friends Service Committee in the early '70s. In the Stanford University history instructor with whom House in Washington, D.C., Bob grew up in '50s she and a friend initiated a program to provide she had served on the staff of AFSC's Institute of Englewoood, N.J. He received a B.A. in American new, donated textbooks to several countries in International Relations at Mills College. They be­ Civilization from Yale University, an M.A. in His­ Africa. She returned to this concern in the late came members ofPalo Alto (Calif.) Meeting, helped tory from Harvard University in 1937, and a '70s, running the Grenfell Foundation's Books-to­ organize the Northern California section ofAFSC, Ph.D. in Social Science and International Rela­ Schools program. She was also an amateur cellist co-directed rwo AFSC workcamps, and were in­ tions from Harvard University in 1951. H e taught and devoted chamber musician. In addition to her volved with their meeting's effotts to assist Japanese­ in private secondary schools for a decade, taking two children, she is survived by four grandchildren. Americans during their evacuation in World War II. time to work with refugees in 1942 and 1943 at From 1943-1947 Freda and Irwin worked with the Scattergood Refugee Hostel in Iowa, then Horner-Mark Woolman Homer, 25, on D ecem­ AFSC in Philadelphia. Freda assisted Elizabeth taught at Marlboro College and Ohio University. ber 14, 1998, in San Antonio, T ex., as a victim of Gray Vining, editor of the AFSC Foreign St'T'Vice From 1955 to 1961 he was assistant professor of homicide. A native of Maine and a beloved mem­ Bulktin, then became editor herself. She conceived government at Denison University in Ohio. For ber ofAcadia Meeting in Northeast Harbor, Mark of and edited Work and Sing, the songbook of the six summers between 1945 and 1963 he directed was a gifred musician. While in high school, he international workcamp movement. Freda and Quaker-sponsored summer workcamps and for­ studied with the Empire Brass Quintet and per­ Irwin became members ofSwanhmore {Pa.) Meet­ eign student seminars. From 1961 to 1966, he formed with the Greater Boston Youth Symphony. ing. In 1947 they moved with their rwo children, served as a Quaker representative to the United He received a Bachelor's degree in Music from the David and Carole, to Yellow Springs, Ohio, where Nations. With his wife, the former Sara (Sally) Juilliard School in New York in 1995, and was the son Jim was born and Irwin served on the faculty of Pettit, Bob founded William Penn H ouse in Sep­ principal trombonist with the San Antonio Sym­ Antioch College. Freda continued her work trans­ tember 1966. This former private residence, which phony at the time of his death. He is remembered lating and publishing folk songs from many coun­ Bob and Sally purchased with their own funds, by Acadia Meeting as having a gentle, unassuming tries. At the time of her death she was preparing a specializes in unpublicized di~ogs between social countenance but a deeply committed passion chat book of Catalan Christmas carols, to be dedicated activists, congressional staff, and high school and extended beyond music to the natural world, the to the memory of Pablo Casals, who had approved college students from across the country, fostering unity of architecture and environment, and spotts. her translation of his "Carol of the Birds." She opportunities to "speak truth to power." In 1968, He had a quietly brilliant musical mind, and yet, wrote of C hristmas carols that she saw them as "a the large brownstone provided more than 1,000 an almost naive sincerity in his expression. He was happy mingling of the relative and the eternal" overnight accommodations and served more than totally non-arrogant, and generously shared his (FRIENDS JOURNAL, D ec. 1955). She was also work­ 2,500 meals during the Poor People's Campaign own musical gifrs in his genuine interest and sup­ ing on a biography of her great-uncle, sea captain in Washington. Five blocks from the U.S. Capitol, port of the efforts of more novice musicians. Mark George Goodwin. In 1990 she edited Tall Ships of the center is now incorporated under Friends Meet­ fo rmed deep friendships in every avenue of his life. Newburyport, based on his unpublished memoirs, ing ofWashington. Active in various Friends orga­ He is survived by his mother, Carol Woolman; his and she arranged exhibits in maritime museums in nizations, including Friends World Committee for father and stepmother, William and Nina Horner; Bath, Maine, and San Francisco, Calif. Freda is Consultation, American Friends Service Commit­ his sister Lara; his brother R Christian; his sister survived by her husband, and two of her children, tee, and Friends Committee on National Legisla­ and her husband, Amy and James Munson and Carole of Yellow Springs, Ohio, and David of tion, Bob maintained a continuing interest in New their children, H elena and Tarzan; his step-sib­ New Rochelle, N.Y. Call to Peacemaking as well as involvement with lings Jennifer Judd-McGee, Kathryn Judd Gonda, ecumenical and secular groups concerned with and Samuel Ernlen Judd; and his grandparents Bla.schk~Charlottt' Blaschke, 102, on February public policy. H e published articles in numerous Mildred and Charles Woolman and Beatrice Louise l, 1999, at Brookhaven Retirement Community academic journals and books concerned with in­ Horner; as well as many aunts, uncles, and cousins. in Lexington, Mass. Born C harlotte Helene Littauer ternational conflict resolution and peace-promot­ in Leipzig, Germany, in 1897, she studied at the Prellwitz-Samut'! Babcock Prellwitz, 74, on Feb­ ing policies. Bob was a member of Friends M eet­ Universities of Munich and Leipzig, earning a ruary 20, 1999, in Pittsburgh, Pa. Remembered ing of Washington, having transferred from Ph.D . in German Literature and History in 1922. by his family as a "deeply religious and caring man, Scarsdale (N.Y.) Meeting. He is survived by his H er published thesis addressed Sebastian Franck's whose trademark was heartfelt love, respect, and a wife of 55 years, his sons Eric and Ban, his daugh­ philosophy of tolerance. He was a religious re­ concern for his family and others as an expression ter Lois Nashorn, and six grandchildren. former whose ideas, she later said, led her to Quak­ of his abiding belief that there was that of God in erism. She taught German literature at the Adult Dunning-Nora Gladwin Fairbank Dunning, 84, everyone," Sam was a lifelong member of the Education Center in Leipzig. Following the Nazi on December 25, 1998. Nora was born in New Religious Society ofFriends. Born in Boston, Mass., takeover and the early death of her husband, York C ity on October 13, 1914, but spent much he had aspirations to be a Disney animator, but Friedrich Blaschke, Charlotte immigrated to the of her childhood and early adult years in southern went instead into the steel industry. H e trained as United States in 1939 with her !!-year-old son, California and Arizona where she sailed and flew a mechanical engineer at Cornell University and Stefan. She taught German in Massachusetts at airplanes. She graduated in 1935 from Bryn Mawr worked for the United States Steel Corporation Milton Academy and Cambridge School, at Tho­ College with a major in Geology. In the early where he designed and implemented instruments mas School in Stamford, Conn., and for 17 years 1960s, she earned a Master's degree in Mineralogy for the automated control of steel-making, win­ at George School in Newtown, Pa. In 1963 she from Harvard University. Originally an Episcopa­ ning six patents. Afrer retirement he was invited by moved to Cambridge, Mass., where she taught at lian, she became a member of Cambridge (Mass.) the United Nations to work in the Philippines and the Cambridge Center for Adult Education. She Meeting in 1955, where she was active both in the also helped develop steel operations in Hungary was a member of Friends Meeting at Cambridge meeting and Cambridge Friends School. She served and Puerto Rico. He cared particularly for the and volunteered in the AFSC Clothing Center. In as a teacher and trustee of the school, as well as disenfranchised and worked diligently for social 1987 she was presented with the Cross of Merit, writing a history that chronicled its inception and justice. In the 1950s he aided in the integration of

FRIENDS ]OURNAL ]u(y 1999 31 suburban Levinown, Pa., also serving as chairman floods," remembers Martin Garate, director of X KlRIcommune of April Farm where she met John for immediate quiet, delighting children. With her Rothschild, whom she married in 1923. Their Lesbians ofFaith husband, William E. Simpson (who passed away surviving son, Joel Alonzo, was born in 1925. in 1994 after 60 years of marriage), she built and Virginia Ramey Mollenkott Recognized as a creative and gifted teacher, Alice managed Cambridge Commons on land in Buffalo September 17. 19 pursued a long career in the education of children Grove, Ill., on which their home of many years in New York and New Mexico. Upon her retire­ had stood. The lake and willow trees of their back Disability, Spirituality ment, Alice moved to Bridgewater, Conn., where yard is now a public park in the town. Born and she wrote poetry and two children's books, Trouble raised in Decarur, Ill., she anended Milliken Uni­ in Miss Alcorn Class and Fruit is Ripe for Timothy. and Healing s versity where her father, Alben T. Mills, was a Nancy Lane In 1968 she collaborated with anthropologist Alice history professor, then graduated in 1931 from the Marriot to publish a revised edition ofThe Lift and University of Illinois with a degree in Economics. October 1-3 Adventures ofa Qfuzker among the Indians, an 1875 Her ftrst job after graduation was as direcror of Girls book by her grandfather, Thomas C. Baney, who Clubs at the YWCA in Philadelphia, purring to served as a teacher and peacemaker in the Okla­ Celtic Spirituality and work her conviction that young women in the inner homa TerritOry among the Kiowa Indians. She The Book OfCreation city needed guidance in fmding meaningful work Philip and Alison Newell continued her own educational work by establish­ and in believing in their own inner strengths. On a ing the Children's Room at the Burnham Library blind date with a graduate chemist from Rutgers October 15-17 in Bridgewater. In 1971, Alice transferred her University, she found her future husband. They membership to the newly established Housatonic married in 1933 and had one daughter, Barbara Call To The Soul (Conn.) Meeting where she served for many years Fuhrmann. In 1943 they moved to the Chicago Marjory Zoet Bankson on the Comminee for Worship and Oversight and area, where William became a business and com­ continued to take an imponant part in the life of munity leader in the developing towns of Wheel­ October 15-17 the meeting well into her 1OOth year. ing and Buffalo Grove. Elizabeth's passions were Sheikh- MohamedAbdirahman Sheikh on March focused on working for world peace and local Autumn Sabbath: 16, 1999, in Mogadishu, Somalia, from complica­ conservation, humanitarian and educational inter­ tions ofhean disease and diabetes. Mohamed served ests, including work with League ofWome n Voters, An Invitation as staff of American Friends Service Comminee American Association of University Women, and Tansy Chapman programs since 1982, and as director of programs American Friends Service Comminee. With her husband she hosted Rotary international exchange October 22.24 in Somalia since 1991. He is remembered for his deep commitments to the people of his country srudents in her home, sponsored new residents and to work on agricultural development, animal from overseas, and in recent years was a member of KIRKRlDGE ia a rf!tretJt and .truly ce11Ur the Barrington Woman's Club, Garden Club, and 1ocat«l on tlw bmulifblKi#alinnyRid6e of husbandry, health training, midwifery, and care of ecut6nPA, 85mlla(romNYCandPIUIG. a girls orphanage, commitments that he maintained Book Club. Her deepest devotion was to her fam­ ily, lovingly dedicating herself to the varied inter­ For information contact Kirkridge: despite many difficult obstacles. "His single-minded determinacion kept AFSC in Somalia throughout ests of her husband and daughter. She took par­ 2495 Fox Gap Rd. Bangor, PA 18013 ticular pride and great joy in her three grandchil­ Tel 610) 588 • 1793 www.kirkridge.org the troubled times of the Somali civil war and natural disasters, including the recent drought and dren, David, Roben, and Kristin Fuhrmann.

32 july 1999 FRIENDS j OURNAL Turton-Penelope Turton, 86, on August 24, 1998, in Framingham, Mass. Born in Hatfield, Hens, England in 1912, Penelope served in the British Red Cross as a social worker during World War II, ~ 07om OWF~ o/~· participating in the evacuation ofBritish soldiers at Dunkirk and working in heavily bombed sections of southern England. At the war's end, Margaret \ aarclay O"tiriends Welch of Boston invited Penelope to visit, and she remained permanently in the United States. She Quaker Quality Care in a Loving Atmosphere and Margaret were close friends and companions until Margaret's death in 1984. In 1954 Penelope Assisted Living joined Friends Meeting at Cambridge (Mass.). Later Penelope and Margaret started a worship ·Skilled N ursing Care group at Margaret's summer home, which became Alzheimer's Care Framingham Preparative Meeting under the care Hospice Care of Friends Meeting at Cambridge, and in 1979 became a meeting in its own right. At the time of Respite Care her death Penelope had served on almost every Physical Therapy committee and held almost every office, while maintaining her strong membership ties with Cam­ Speech Therapy bridge. In Framingham, Penelope began her sec­ Pet Therapy ond career of organic farming in the fields of Stearns Farm. She operated a natural foods store Medicaid and Medicare Certified and founded a food cooperative. She continued her ardent social action work with Friends Com­ 6 10-696-5211 mittee on National Legislation, as a founder of Toni Riggin s, Admissions Dirutor Framingham Area Draft Counseling Service, and Franklin St. through vigorous communication with elected rep­ 700 N. resentatives and other activities. When she felt she West Chester, PA An affiliate of was too old for some rypes ofdirect action, she paid Equal Housing Opportunity The KENDAL Corporation fines for young Friends who were arrested for matters of conscience. She is memorialized by Framingham Meeting and Salem Quarterly Meet­ ing as "a crusty, loving, and indomitable spirit. A delight and a terror, Penelope was something of a guardian angel. n Wright-Margaret (Peggy. Meg) Haworth Wright, 82, on February4, 1999, at Barclay Friends Home FRIENDS J oURNAL announces the p ublication of in West Chester, Pa. Peggy was born in 1916 in Bombay, India, where her father, Lester C. Haworth, was on assignment to the Indian YMCA. She studied at Earlham College and received her B.A. degree from American University. During BENJAMIN World War II, Peggy worked in the Personnel Office of the U.S. Department ofState, where she The Meetinghouse Mouse l met her husband, Robett Stuart Wright, with 1 whom she shared a common interest in India. In by Benjamin, as told to C lifford P feil, 1946 Peggy and R. Stuart returned to India on a with illustrations by John D. Gurnmere two-year assignment for American Friends Service Committee. Collaborating with British Quakers, they assisted in the development ofcooperatives in Ifyo u rememb er the stories a variety of small industries, including fishing. Benjamin Through their work in rehabilitation and recon­ in past issu es, you will b e happy to share ciliation they came to be acquainted with Gandhi. them- now in b ook form-with your Subsequently, R. Stuart, a psychologist, served on the staff of the National Institutes of Health, and children, grandchildren, and Friends! Peggy worked for the Northern Virginia Fair Hous­ ing Association. The Wrights were active members Look for Benjamin in Friends bookstores or order directly from FRIENDSJ ouRNAL: of Langley Hill (McLean, Va:) Meeting. Afrer her retirement in 1978, Peggy moved to a family Please send me ___ copies of Benjamin @ $6.oo each, plus $2.00 shipping and handling home, The Gathering Place, in Eastham, Mass., ($3.50 for shipping and handling outside U.S., Canada, and Mexico). My check is enclosed. where she renewed her interest in art and became a Nrune ______prolific interpreter in watercolor of her Cape Cod surroundings. In later years, she returned to the Address ______Philadelphia area, where she lived at The Harned, then at Barclay Home, where she was known as City------State ___ ZIP------Meg. She is survived by her sister Dorothy Bonnell Country, ifother than U.S.------of Newtown Square, Pa., daughter Rebecca Jade Westcott of Alexandria, Va., sons John Haworth Please mail to FRIENDS JoURNAL, m6 Arch Street, 2.A, Philadelphia, PA 19107-2835· of Palm H arbor, Fla., and Robert Stuart of St. If any questions please call (215) 563-8629. Petersburg, Fla., and two grandchildren.

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We must love God with our minds Year 2000 I find unfortunate--sentimental, sad, Quaker Motto Calendar and dangerous-the pro-fetus attitudes promoted in the full-page ad, "A Lively Concern," (F]Feb., pg. 33). If God's Inspirational messages creation, our precious earth, is to be saved, it for each month must be saved from drowning in too many Since 1884 people. Lovingly to save the birthright ofou r neighbor-of-the-future, surely we must love God with all our minds as well as with all 25 calendars $20.00 our heans. 25 calendars & envelopes $22.25 Betty Stone Greensboro, N.C. Send orders with check to: assisted members and attendees (of which I The Motto Calendar Finding Jesus in my life am one) to center in the Spirit in meeting P.O. Box 59 today for worship. We have been able to discover Douglassville, PA 19518 the depth of the richness of these sayings for Are the 100 or so original core sayings of our own lives, for "the Kingdom of God is the historical Jesus one way to increase "the within you," as well as for our wider sociery, [email protected] place of]esus in our faith"? I believe so. "the Kingdom of God is in your midst." telephone: 301-320-3931 I'd like to respond to C hristopher E. fax: 301-320-7370 Stern's thoughtful and provocative article, Jerry E Carpenter "We Cannot Do It on Our Own: The Place Phoenix, Ariz. ofJ esus in Our Faith" (F] Oct. 98) by sharing some of my own journey seeking for the original core of]esus' teaching. These Thomas was a saint sayings have brought me much closer to who The first line ofJohn Morgan's poem Are you Jesus is for me in my life today. This has ("Thomas," F] April) is a puzzlement. To been both an intellectual and a spiritual wit: "They should have made a saint of praying for peace search for me; one of the head and heart. Ir Thomas... " led me, a retired clergyman in his 80s, after They did make a saint of Thomas. H ere but about ten years of research, to the conclusion in Rochester, New York, both the Roman that the 70 or so NewTesrame nt scholars of Catholics and the Episcopalians have paying for war? the Jesus Seminar have given us important churches named Saint Thomas, and the new information about the original sayings Roman Catholics make clear that it is Saint of the historical Jesus. One of the main Thomas the Apostle. reasons for this flowering of NewTestament Ken Maher studies in recent years was the discovery of Rochester, N.Y. the Gospel ofThomas in Egypt in 1945. Thomas dates back to about 50 A. D.-about All U.S. citizens are required to pay 20 years before the Gospel of Mark, which More information on for war through their taxes. The scholars previously thought was the earliest Thomas the disciple Peace Tax Fund would allow people Gospel. This led me to write my short book, The comments in the poem about opposed to war because of deeply­ Honest to jesus, in which I select 96 core Thomas, the disciple (F] April), impel me to held moral or religious beliefs to stop sayings ofJ esus. I suggest both individual write to you with some further information paying for it. They could pay their and group reflections for each of the sayings. about him. full taxes into a fund that would be I also include a number of reflections by While in South India, I fo und T homas used for non-military purposes only. members of groups to these sayings-a was remembered in Kerala as the founder of beginning of a "Peoples' Commentary." the fust Christian church there, having For more information, contact: I distributed this book to about 700 landed at Cochin after founding a Christian unprogrammed meetings, which resulted in church in Persia. The Portuguese who ~~ NATIONAL CAMPAIGN at least a dozen or more meetings using it as arrived there to spread the Gospel in the ~JI FoR A PFACE TAx FUND an adult discussion guide. In the Phoenix 16th century were surprised to find 2121 Decatur Place NW Monthly Meeting, we used it as a study Christian worship in progress, acknowledged ~ Washington DC 20008-1923 guide for several years, and meeting to originate from Thomas. At least one ~ (202) 483-3751 members helped me refine the group healing spring is reputed to have such r properties induced in it by St. Thomas. process. I believe that this group experience with the core sayings of]esus frequently has Thomas then traveled to Madras, where

34 july 1999 FRIENDS j OURNAL he was looked on favorably by the ruler of that state. The king's advisors, however, became· jealous of this intimacy, thinking he WilliAM PENN CHARTER SCHOOL Est. 1689 threatened their positions, and started to hound him. There is a church founded in a Over 300 Years of Quaker Education southerly suburb ofMadras-Mylapore-at The William Penn Charter School is a Quaker college-preparatory school the spot where he was reputed to have first stressing high standards in academics, the arts, and athletics. Penn Charter hidden. He then retreated to a small is committed to nurturing girls and boys of diverse backgrounds in an mountain, now called St. Thomas's Mount, atmosphere designed to stimtJlate each student to work to his or her a few miles south of the center of Madras. A fullest potential. Kindergarten through twelfth grade. convent devoted to him, at the peak of this mount, is now open to visitors. The "Gospel Earl J . Ball III, Head of School of T homas" is a publication on sale there. 3000 W. School House Lane, Philadelphia, PA 19144 Subsequently, he found a cave in which (215) 844-3460 to hide, on a much smaller mound at the foot of St. Thomas's Mount. It was there that he was finally assassinated, while in his daily process ofs culpting a cross on the face of the rock outside the cave. A church built over the cave is now dedicated to St. Thomas. After the Portuguese discovered his remains near Madras, they build a cathedral in his name. It is called St. Thomas's Cathedral and has a vault in which his 1951 Delta Avenue West Branch, Iowa 52358-8507 remains are reputed to rest. A story is recounted to visitors of a blue iridescent light around the body, which appeared when it was being exhumed. So, at least in South India, he has been considered a sain t by the Portuguese Roman Catholics since the late 16th or early 17th century. Harry Holloway Barrie, Ont.

Is the Forum the same as vocal ministry? Education research informs us that in order to be effective, learning must be comprehensive. Learning must take place within many Philip Helms (Forum, Fj April) offers us settings-the classroom, the home, the community, the workplace and a most curious understanding of how the at one's place of worship. Scattergood Friends School encompasses all Forum is misused by writers reacting to of these elements. Our challenging college preparatory curriculum articles in the j OURNAL. He mentions being is enhanced by dormitory living, a learning community comprised both "troubled and saddened" by critical of students and those who teach, a work-crew and farm program, reader reaction, and in a vain attempt to and Friends Worship. Value based education has been the foundation understand his viewpoint, I find myself for academic excellence at Scattergood since its founding in 1890. suffering under a similar affliction. I am a reader who turns first to the Forum (even For more information, call319-643-7628, or, 319-643-7600. before reading Milestones, i.e. putting life World Wide Web: http://www.scattergood.org before death). E-mail address: SFS/[email protected] Fax number: 319-643-7485 T o defend the Forum concept is easy. It represents an extension to what has already come before us, and when such has merit, it will often surface again in subsequent issues by way of reaction. Webster's defines a CHARLESTON, SOUTH CAROLINA forum as "the discussion of questions of Get things hopping! public interest," and what j OURNAL readers What: Creating Intentional Community Basis: Quaker/ecumenical Goal: Center have long enjoyed is the opportunity to Subscribe to discuss questions of Quaker interest. for Sages of Sacred to be Co-creators with What I find difficult is how to calmly the Transcendent Contact: Alice Wald, FRIENDS 49-A Two Loch Pl., Charleston, SC 29414; take issue with Philip Helms' equation of 843-763-0213 jOURNAL jOURNAL writing with the messages that arise fRIENDS ]OURNALju{y 1999 35 t w t h ...

from vocal ministry. How can I do that quietly when the reading of his letter was for me akin to hearing a negative sonic boom (prompted by God?)? Such a reaction, of course, comes from the lefr side of my brain. Fottunately, via my Quaker journey, a much more sensible reaction is available to me. All You've been called to ministry preparation, I have to do is go to meeting, center down, ministry, now where ESR offers distinctive and get in touch with the right side of my do you begin? experiences for those brain. T ime and again this intuitive process pursuing Master ofArts provides that impottant balanced With the foundation. and Master of Divinity background to the writing and/or reading of ESR helps you degrees. all segments of the jOURNAL. Such. a balance, however, involves both sides of the brain. prepare for ministry, Prepare for ministry Philip Helms' equation is therefore false. building a strong with us, in a center through Long live the Forum. supportive, Christ­ Brett Miller-White spiritual and academic centered, learning Swannanoa, N.C. preparation. With community. seven emphases of Good meetings tend to have Ann Miller guides students in attmding the Spirit's kading to prepare for ministry. good clerks EARLHAM SCHOOL of RELIGION Marjorie Anderson's gentle reminder of An Investment in Friends Leadership the things that help make for good clerking was welcome ("Clerking: A Semi-Serious 228 College Avenue, Richmond, Indiana 47374-4095 • 1-800-432-1ESR Look," F]April). She and I had the good http:/ /www.earlham.edu/esr fortune to share some of her early experience at Philadelphia Yearly Meeting. I believe that there is one more requisite for good clerking. That is for the membership to have the same qualities as the clerk. They also need to be prepared, objective, listen carefully, and not take FRIENDS JoURNAL is designed to nourish the mind as well as the soul with themselves too seriously. articles on social and political concerns, spiritual journeys, and Quaker news. If those who bring reports make them Our readers enjoy the stimulating articles, sensitive poetry and illustrations, clear and concise and those who hear them thoughtful book reviews, timely news features, and lively readers' forum. We do so attentively and with open minds and invite your participation in the dialogue. hearts, it moves the business remarkably. If Friends listen attentively and take a moment Three free issues- or-16 issues for the price of12 of prayerful consideration before bouncing Ifyou enjoy your Only $29. up to rebut, as if engaged in a debate, it free issues, consider a (Overseas subscribers add $6 forwards the work we are about. And, as my subscription. for postage.) wife, Ellen, is wont to misquote 1 Corinthians 13, " ... and the greatest of .Please sign me up for: these is a sense of humor." 0 Three free issues. 0 16 issues for the price of 12. The best of minutes aren't erected in the Name______minds of the clerks. The building blocks are contributions of words from attentive, Address ______prayerful members of the meeting. In shon, City/State/Zip ______good meetings tend to have good clerks. Phone ______Charles Brown 0 Check enclosed 0 Bill me Charge my: 0 MasterCard 0 VISA Wiscasset, Maine Credit Card No. Exp. Date.______Thoughtfulness was Return to Friends journal, 1216 Arch St., 2A, Philadelphia, PA 19107-2835 appreciated Phone: (215) 563-8629 Fax: (215) 568-1377 Like JA Kruger, I have wept in meeting for worship ("Thoughts on Giving Cornfon FRIENDS JOURNAL during Meeting for Worship," F]May). And like J.A Kruger, I also felt no need for

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WPH, 515 East Capitol Street, view, walk-in closet, and private bath. Full kitchen, opportunities are now available for individuals who would SE, Washington, DC 20003. organic vegetable garden , and hot tub. Bed and break· like to share their interests with other Friends by serving as volunteer editors for departments of the Friends Jour· General Secretary of Ca8a de los Amlgos, Mexico fast or bed and supper: $70 per day. Weekly and monthly rates available. Write or call Henrietta & Wm. nal. We are seeking qualified individuals for the positions City. We seek an individual to direct service projects Vitarelli, 375 Kawelo Road, Haiku, HI 96708. Tele· of News Editor, Book Review Editor, and Milestones Edi­ and our community of hospitality, beginning immedi· phone: (808) 572·9205. Fax: 572·6048. tor as well as Office Assistant. Tasks may be performed in ately. Req: Spanish and English fluency, grounding in our office and/or in your home. 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Greensboro, North Carolina, both communities are close among 600 students, 80 teachers. Challenging academ­ Help build an international network of creative support and celebration. Membership, $15/year. FQA, P.O. to Gui~ord College and several Friends meetings. Enjoy ics, arts, athletics, in a school where students from di­ the beauty of four seasons, as well as outstanding cul­ verse racial, national, economic, and religious backgrounds Box 58565, Philadelphia, PA 19102. E-mail: fqa@ tural, intellectual, and spiritual opportunities in an area come together to form a strong community of shared quaker.org. Our Web Page: http://www.quaker. where Quaker roots run deep. For information please values. Financial assistance is available. Westtown, PA org/fqa. call: (336) 292-9952 or write: Friends Homes West, 6100 19395. (610) 399-7900. W. Friendly Avenue, Greensboro, NC 2741 0. 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