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Man Admits Attack; Prosecutor Denies Hate Crime Alabama: Finally, a sane public official in Wisconsin: How has marriage equality af­ Alabama. Madison County Circuit Judge fected life in Wisconsin? Not at all, according felonious assault and aggravated robbery Karen Hall, who last year said she didn't have to 70 percent of people in a March poll by against Candice Rose Milligan, who suffered a the power to grant a divorce to a lesbian cou­ Public Policy Polling. Twelve percent said the fractured jaw and skull and needed two sur­ ple who had married in Iowa, approved the impact has been positive, while 18 percent geries after the attack. women's request on March 12. said the impact has been negative.

Milligan was attacked by three men and has Nebraska: The state's 2000 marriage ban Nationwide: A national poll in 2004 said she was called by a derogatory name, but was struck down on March 2 by US District showed just 30 percent of Americans sup­ Assistant Lucas County Prosecutor Claudia Judge Joseph Bataillon, but weddings are on ported marriage equality, while 60 percent Ford told The Blade of Toledo that Temple did hold until a May hearing by the 8th US Court opposed. A March poll by NBC News and the not express hatred toward LGBT people when of Appeals. Wall Street Journal found the opposite: 59 he was interviewed by police. percent support, and 33 against. Oklahoma: Weren't we supposed to be Ford told the newspaper: "I don't know that the ones who destroyed marriage? Conserva­ 2016 Politics: Forget that speculation A Toledo man faces up to 19 years in prison this was a hate crime." Ohio law doesn't ad­ tives in the state House voted 67-24 in favor that likely presidential candidate Jeb Bush is when he's sentenced for his part in a Novem­ dress hate crimes based on a victims gender of a bill to end government-sanctioned mar­ staking out LGBT-friendly ground in the Re­ ber 2014 attack against a transgender woman identity or sexual orientation, but members of riage. It would put religious groups in charge publican field. "I believe in traditional mar­ on a Downtown street in broad daylight. the Toledo City Council asked the US Justice of issuing licenses. riage," he told a conservative gathering. Department to investigate the attack as a fed­ Christopher Temple pleaded guilty in March to eral hate crime. Texas: Conservative leaders and lawmak­ Peru: A committee of the federal legislature ers sliced a wedding cake to celebrate the killed a bill that would have allowed same- 10th - and most likely last - anniversary of sex couples to enter into civil unions. The de­ Dayton Billboards Promote LGBT Issues the state's marriage ban. bate was marked by a Catholic bishop's name-calling: Monsignor Luis Bambaren More than 300,000 people driving through called openly gay lawmaker Carlos Bruce a Dayton on 1-75 have been getting a greeting Utah: Although they vow to uphold the law, maricon, or "faggot," in Peruvian media. from Have a Gay Day over the last month. government officials would be able to refuse to marry people they don't like under a bill Michael Knote, whose Facebook page has be­ approved by the state Senate. Slovenia: Lawmakers voted 51-28 on come a worldwide lifeline for young LGBT peo­ March 3 for marriage equality and the right of same-sex couples to adopt children. ple, raised $1,700 from supporters in three days to pay for 13 messages on a digital bill­ board seen by drivers headed north and south Ohio's Gay Games Were Most Profitable Ever on the interstate. ("Hate Is Not Holy") and thankful ("If You Sup­ A final report on the 9th Gay •They had the largest num­ He was hoping to keep them up through April port the LGBT Community, Thank You"). Games from local organizers ber of competitive events, as well. showed the August 2014 with 36 different sports. "We have only heard positive responses with event was the most prof­ The messages include the inspirational ("Be them," Knote said. itable in the Games'32-year • They were the first to in­ the Change You Wish to See"), informational history. Those profits have clude a welcome from the ("41% of the Transgender Community in the The billboards also were the subject of news helped start a Gay Games host country's president. USA Have Attempted Suicide"), political stories on Dayton TV. LGBT Legacy Fund at the President Obama recorded a Cleveland Foundation and welcome that was broadcast Dolce & Gabbctna Elton John have given a boost to the Gay during the Aug 9 opening Community Endowment Fund ceremonies at Quicken Loans of Akron Community Founda­ Arena. "We oppose gay adop­ . ,w« ^are you refer to my beautiful A few years before they tion. tions. The only family is children as 'synthetic.' And shame on began, folks in other cities • They were the first to be the traditional one. ... you for wagging your judgmental little called on the Federation of The money will goto LGBT live-streamed. You are born to a mother fingers at [in vitro fertilization] - a mira­ Gay Games to take the 2014 groups and efforts designed and a father - or at least cle that has allowed legions of loving Games away from Cleveland to help the community in • They were the first to be that's how it should be. I people, both straight and gay, to fulfill and Akron, citing early trou­ each city. advertised on television. call children of chem­ their dream of having children. Your bles in funding and organi­ istry, synthetic children. archaic thinking is out of step with the zation. The final report on the North­ •They were the first Gay Rented uterus, semen times, just like your fashions. I shall east Ohio Games also de­ Games with a presenting chosen from a catalog." never wear Dolce and Gabbana ever But Northeast Ohio got the tailed several more bests and sponsor (The Cleveland again." #BoycottDolceGabbana last laugh. firsts: Foundation).

10 april 2015 Opponents of equality seem to be getting crazier and crazier. outlookohio.com Dating Apps Push Syphilis Testing I Around the State Save the Date Public health officials are painless and AKRON: Truth in advertis­ their academic work. say they're making often mistaken for ing! For a recent show at 7th TransOhio Trans and Ally Symposium progress against a blemishes or ingrown Cocktails, organizers listed COLUMBUS: Flaggots Ohio rise in syphilis cases hairs. the starting time as "7pm will perform in the Washing­ transohio.org in Columbus by get­ (drag time)." ton, DC, Pride parade on June May 29-31, Columbus ting the word out Condoms prevent 13. But don't worry: They'll through men's dating transmission of CINCINNATI: Organizers be back in plenty of time for HRC Columbus Gala apps and websites. syphilis if they pre­ of the Ohio Lesbian Archives, their annual performance at hrc.org/columbus vent contact with a collection of journals, mag­ Columbus Pride on Saturday, June 6, Columbus Public service announcements and sores, but sores on areas of the body azines and newsletters from June 20. bright red banner ads are greeting not covered obviously can still spread earlier days, are cataloging Dayton Pride Central Ohio users of Grindr, Growlr, infection. their holdings. If you'd like to DAYTON: The deadline is daytonlgbtcenter.org Adam4Adam and other social media. help, email April 15 to apply for college June 6, Dayton Syphilis cases in Columbus were up [email protected]. scholarships offered by "ATTENTION COLUMBUS/SYPHILIS 40 percent in 2014. Columbus Public PFLAG Dayton and the Love Big LGBT Wedding OUTBREAK/GET TESTED," they advise Health spokesman Jose Rodriguez CLEVELAND: Case Western Greater Dayton LGBT Center. Expo Columbus in big capital letters. said the local infection rate is twice Reserve University will host an They're awards of either lovebigweddingexpo.com Ohio's and three times the national LGBT Research Symposium on $1,000 or $2,000, offered to June 7, Columbus The ads'effect: THEY'RE rate. Thursday, April 23. Students LGBT or allied students. Click and faculty from all fields the Scholarships tab at Youngstown Pride Dwayne Steward, the LGBTQ liaison Of the people infected in Columbus, have been invited to present pflagdayton.org. prideyoungstown.org for Columbus Public Health, said the 84 percent are men, and three-quar­ June 12-13, Youngstown number of people visiting clinics and ters of that total are men who have community groups for syphilis testing sex with men. About 45 percent of the Ohio's Pride Calendar Set Columbus Pride increased 20 percent in January and people with syphilis also are HIV-posi­ columbuspride.org Ohio's Pride celebrations have runs both days. The parade, February over the first two months of tive. June 19-20, Columbus all circled their dates. And so with grand marshal Jim 2014. Free testing is offered at seven should you. Obergell. the Ohioan whose sites in Columbus, including Colum­ More than half of the Columbus cases Gay Day @ Cedar Point marriage-equality case will be bus Public Health's walk-in clinic five are among African-American resi­ FB: Gay Day at Dayton kicks off the season with heard by the US Supreme Court Cedar Point days a week. dents. its annual festival and parade on on April 28, is on Saturday. June 21, Sandusky Saturday. June 6. Youngstown Syphilis is highly treatable but can Ohio Department of Health officials Pride is expanding to two days of Cincinnati and Cleveland will bring on serious complications if left said there hasn't been as big an in­ Cincinnati Pride events, with a kickoff party on host their Pride festivals and unchecked. It's marked by sores on crease in syphilis cases in other Ohio cincinnatipride.org Friday, June 12, and the festival parades on the same day: Sat­ the genitals, on the anus or in the rec­ communities, although spikes occur June 27, Cincinnati and parade on Saturday, June urday, June 27. The celebration tum, or on the lips or in the mouth. It's periodically. Cuyahoga County cases 13. in Cincinnati also includes a passed through direct contact with jumped in 2010, and Southwest Ohio Cleveland Pride Pub Crawl (by bus) on Friday, the sores, which in the early stages counties reported increases in 2012. clevelandpride.org Columbus Pride, Ohio's biggest June 26. June 27, Cleveland v with about 350,000 revelers, is Heather Has Two Mommies' Re-Released slated for Friday, June 19, and Toledo, again, will close Ohio's But then again, Heather Has Two Saturday, June 20. The festival, Pride season with a three-day \JJto -Mib H^W^ed/ Heather Has Mommies did espouse such notions which will feature country festival from Friday, Aug 28, two Momm/es as, "The most important thing about singer Billy Gillman and The through Sunday, Aug 30. The to -f-ltUtOltfUtf/... a family is that all the people in it Voice alum Michelle ChamueL parade is on Saturday, Aug 29. love each other." The 1989 book was re-released in March. Among the up­ dates: Heather's mommies are wear­ ing wedding rings in new illustrations.

lust how controversial was the book Inli'i Newman niurnim i, Uira Cornell back then? The American Library As­ sociation says it was the 11th most- In a yearthat gave us parachute often banned book in the 1990s. pants, it's hard to imagine a sweet- According to The Associated Press, a Tim Wilkins and Chris Tovar were married on January 30, 2015, in as-pie children's book causing much library patron in some unidentified New York City. controversy. Ohio town defecated on it outlookohio.com Columbus Public Health offers free HIV and STI screenings on Mondays and Thursdays from 5p to 8p. aprll 2015 11 polisigh More Than Words Their Marriage Vow Inspired Their Fight for Equality

Editor s note: Jim Obergefell and John Arthur of Airport. We knew our time as husband and The only way to fix the problem was to sue. emails and calls. Handmade gifts, drawings Cincinnati filed the first federal lawsuit after the husband would be limited because of his and memorials. Handshakes, hugs, laughter 2013 US Supreme Court decision that struck down health, but we made the decision to marry be­ As he had been throughout our relationship, and tears. These small moments remind me major portions of the 1996 Defense of Marriage Act. cause we wanted to make our commitment to John was more concerned about me than him­ why I did this and reinforce that it was the The Supreme Court will take up marriage equality once again through their case on April 28. A deci­ each other, our promises to each other, legal self. "I think we should, but you know, Jim, this right decision. sion is expected in June. and public. will all be on you because I can't do anything." It was one of the easiest decisions I've ever Knowing that my decision to keep my prom­ by Jim Obergefell We felt different after saying those words. Bet­ made; I wasn't willing to let my promises to ises to my husband has had an impact on so ter. More complete. We called each other hus­ honor him, protect him and stand up for him many others makes it all worthwhile. If I could Ida band a few hundred times a day, and it felt go unfulfilled. I wasn't willing to let another go back to that day, I wouldn't change my de­ couple hear those same horrible words. I was­ cision to stand up for our rights, or to start It's amazing how much meaning, how much n't willing to be treated as a second-class citi- that fight even as John neared the end of his emotion such a simple sentence can carry. Three days later, a zen any longer. We life. friend who knew we decided to file suit "I do" encompasses so many promises. I had a problem asked "We felt different against the state of We made that decision because it was the promise to love you. I promise to protect you. I if we would be willing Ohio in federal court. right thing to do. It was the right thing for us, promise to put your needs ahead of mine. I to meet with a civil- after saying those for all couples like us, and forthe promise of promise to start and end every day with you in rights attorney. We words. Better. John died three equality em bodied by our Constitution. my heart and thoughts. I promise to honor you. did, and that meeting months and 11 days I promise to always stand up for you. is when the grandest More complete. after we married. I On April 28,1 go to the US Supreme Court as adventure of my life - wouldn't trade those the lead plaintiff in the case that will decide, Many more promises are wrapped up into that building a life with We called each three months and 11 once and for all, whether marriage equality short, simple sentence. It's a sentence I and so John-tookan unex­ days for anything, becomes law in all 50 states. many others never expected to utter in our life­ pected turn. other husband a even as I watched ALS times. rob him of all abilities, I can't adequately express the emotions I ex­ It's heart-wrenching few hundred times including speaking perience when I think about my name being I said those words to John in July 2013, two to learn that, when a day, and it felt and, finally, breath­ forever tied with the marriage equality fight. weeks after the US Supreme Court ruled on the your spouse dies, his ing. I can think of no Never in my wildest dreams could I have Windsor case; a bit more than two years after last official record will good." greater honor than to imagined going to the US Supreme Court, let John was diagnosed with ALS, a progressive be incorrect because care for your spouse alone being the named plaintiff. It's incredibly neurological disease that leads to paralysis the state of Ohio and keep the prom- humbling to think about stepping into the and death; and more than 20 years after would refuse to recognize our marriage, and ises made when sayin; !. "I do." highest court in the land to fight not just for falling in love with him. me as his surviving spouse, on his death cer­ John and me, but for people all across our tificate. Our legal marriage would officially not Over the past 20 months, countless people - country. I said those words and made those promises exist. We would be legal strangers in Ohio family, friends and strangers alike - have to John in a cramped medical jet on the tar­ after almost 21 years together. reached out to express their gratitude for the I promised to honor and cherish John until the mac of Baltimore-Washington International fight we started that July. Cards, letters, day I die, and as unbelievable as it might

12 april 2015 Jim's case is one of two from Ohio going before the US Supreme Court. outlookohio.com sound, my upcoming trip to the Supreme Court made available to all couples. still seems like an inadequate way to repay Columbus Brides Rejected by him for loving me and My fondest wish, should the Supreme Court building a life with me. rule in our favor in June and bring Anti-Marriage Business Owner _ marriage Their story had a quick Marriage is about loving equality to the impact. The Bexley and honoring another entire land, is chamber, which the person. It's about pledg­ that someone is women said was non- ing yourself to that per­ inspired to do responsive to their ini­ son. It's about standing what I did on tial contact, issued a up in front of your fam­ June 26,2013, later statement that ily, friends and the after the Windsor its mission includes government to say this ruling was re­ "encouraging inclusiv- is the person I love leased-propose to ity, prioritizing diver­ and choose to spend the love of his or sity, and forbidding my life with. Mar­ her life. discrimination." riage is about prom­ ises made and What a fine legacy Bexley Mayor Ben promises kept. that would be for my KesslertoldWCMH-TV husband,John. in Columbus that he I look forward to the day my gov­ supports adding sex­ ernment honors and respects those promises ual orientation and and allows all couples, gay or straight, to make gender identity to his those same promises to each other. I look for­ Such a powerful sentence. One we all deserve city's anti-discrimination ordinance. ward to the day my government respects and the right to say to the one we love. The Bexley Area Chamber of Commerce has Columbus is among 13 Ohio cities that out­ protects my marriage, just like any other mar­ vowed to implement a policy that forbids law discrimination against LGBT people. riage. I look forward to the day the rights and John, I'm keeping my promises. its members from discriminating against Ohio's state laws do not. responsibilities that go with marriage are customers or employees based on their sex­ ual orientation or gender expression. Same-sex couples around the country have faced rejection from anti-gay bakers, pho­ The new policy comes after a videographer Closing Argument: 'Litigaytors' tographers, venue owners and other ven­ in the Columbus suburb told a lesbian cou­ dors since marriage equality began ple that she doesn't offer services for Ready for Supreme Court Hearing expanding to more states. Most prominent same-sex weddings and later said the de­ byAIGerhardstein When Jim Obergefell and John Arthur asked us in Ohio, a board that oversees operations of cision is "based on my spiritual beliefs and to start this fight in Ohio, we had no idea it the Statehouse enforces a policy that effec­ the biblical definition of marriage." I have been suing government, big corpora­ would be their case that would go all the way tively bars same-sex couples from renting tions and powerful people for 38 years. to the US Supreme Court. But on April 28 that its space for ceremonies or receptions. Jerra Knicely and Jen Moffat emailed Next is exactly what will happen. My law partner, Door Stories and shared their rejection from Our firm has been representing members of Jennifer Branch; our associates, Jaci Martin owner Courtney Schmackers on Facebook Outlook will host LGBT wedding expos this the LGBT community that entire time. Normally and Adam Gerhardstein; and co-counsel Lisa and other social media. The story was year in five Ohio cities - Cincinnati, Cleve­ our clients have been fired or physically Meeks and Ellen Essig have all joined in as picked up by CNN. land, Columbus, Dayton and Toledo - fea­ abused by the police. In Obergefell v. Hodges "Litigaytors" to convince the Supreme Court turing only businesses that support and Henry v. Hodges, our clients are in love. Al­that Ohio should recognize same-sex mar­ marriage equality and welcome LGBT cus­ "This issue is not about us but making ready married. riages celebrated in other states. tomers. The first is scheduled for Dayton, at changes for the future," Knicely said. the Hilton Garden Inn, on Sunday, April 26. They simply want what different-sex married We have enjoyed excellent help from the ACLU couples already have: recognition by the state and Lambda Legal, and we are also working so their children have two legal parents, not with other national groups as we file briefs and one, and so tax, inheritance, medical and propprepar­ e for argument. Hopefully, we will learn They Don't Discriminate erty rights are secure. Recognition of mar­ of our victory at the end of June. Twelve Ohio municipalities and one county have local ordinances that prohibit dis­ riages will also require that death records crimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity, according to the Human properly state the deceased was married and Jennifer Branch is ready with the next case al­ Rights Campaign: properly list husbands and wives as surviving ready pending in federal court that will secure Athens East Cleveland spouses. the right to same-sex marriage in Ohio. So stay Bowling Green Newark tuned! Cincinnati Oxford Why is this so hard? Only 13 states refuse to Cleveland Summit County permit same-sex recognize marriages to be We are truly honored and humbled to take on Columbus Toledo celebrated or recognized. Unfortunately, Ohio, this cause and are working as hard as we can Coshocton Yellow Springs Kentucky, Tennessee and Michigan are part of to secure full equality in Ohio. Dayton that intolerant club. outlookohio.com Thank you, Jim and Al, for sharing your thoughts. april 2015 13 KVRIw

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Get tickets at outlookohio.com. april 2015 17 >ledo Reign Continue a Long Tradition of Women's Football in by Erin McCalla The Toledo Troopers lasted nine, from To this day, on the sidelines, I miss There are few other women coaches Marabeth Lewis, 33, is a linebacker photos by Enoch Wu 1971 to 1979, and lost only four my helmet and shoulder pads and in football - even in women's football and captain and wants to play just games out of 68 played. In 1983, being on the field," Collette said. "I - and the men in the league don't as long. 1 plan to play as long as There is a long history of women's they were recognized by the Pro Foot­ can't stand it; I'd rather play than always give Collette the respect she my body will let me," she said. football in Toledo, and Coach Mitchi ball Hall of Fame for being the win- coach. I loved playing, and the only deserves. Outside women's football, Collette has been around for most of ningest pro football team ever. To reason I couldn't play is because I though, she has been invited to help Lewis started playing with the De­ it. date, Toledo's women's football got older. After playing for 13 years, coach at NFL training camps for the troit Predators in 2005 and joined teams have won eight champi­ I'm now feeling it. My last game I St. Louis Rams, Philadelphia Eagles, the Reign in 2007. Like most of the It started in 1930 with the idea that onships, more than any other was 50, it was the first year of the Chicago Bears, Seattle Seahawks women on the team, she grew up people would pay good money to see women's football team. Reign and I was a player/coach. and the Baltimore Ravens. playing football with brothers and ladies battle it out on the gridiron, After that season, I'm like, 1 can't neighborhood boys. and they came in droves to see two Today's team, the Toledo But if other coaches don't Toledo teams. But when then-First Reign, started in 2003 in always respect Collette, her "Football was always a part of my Lady Lou Hoover got wind of an exhi­ the Women's Pro Football "If s a sport. players sure do. Veronique life," she said. "Once you get past bition game to be played in Detroit, League; they'll compete Tanasale, a first-year Reign the first hit, it's like/All right! Not a she wrote a scathing letter asking this year in the Independ­ It's not a man's sport; player who came from Las problem!' That's why I'm a line­ the teams to stop exploiting women. ent Women's Football Vegas, chose the team be­ backer, because I like to give the League against Pitts­ cause of Collette. hits." And so there wasn't another team in burgh, Wisconsin and Bal­ it's a sport." Toledo until 1971, when talent scout timore. "I had her in camp in Maegan Applegate, 30, was nick­ Sid Friedman planned and promoted - Marabeth Lewis Vegas, and I had three named "Beast" by Collette because an exhibition game with the Toledo "The Reign, I truly believe, teams to choose from be­ of the way she plays. Troopers and Cleveland USA Dare­ will take the division this cause I live in Michigan, so devils. Toledo lost that game, but year; we took it last year," Collette play and I can't coach at the same I was either going to Detroit or here," "I love tackling; I love surprising Freidman made a lot of money, so he said. "We're rebuilding what seems time.'It's very difficult." she said. people," she said. started more teams in cities like De­ like every year, but every year it's get­ troit, Buffalo and Columbus. Toledo ting better and better." Collette used to be a drill instructor At 51, Tanasale is the second oldest But do they tackle in practice? didn't lose another game until 1976 in the military and every now and player on the team of 28 women. against Oklahoma City. Along with coaching, Collette owns again that mentality comes out "Oh yeah. We do tackle drills and the Reign with business partner when she's coaching. She spent "Everyone tells me I'm a little old, tackle at 100 percent because we "I was playing that game; I'll never Beth Razzoog, who takes care of the eight years in the Marine Corps and but as long as I can walk and move have to prepare the rookies for the forget," said Collette, who started business aspects while Collette fo­ 25 years in the Army. and give something to the team, I'm hits in the game," Applegate said. playing in 1973. Her career as a cuses on the team. going to keep playing until I'm 60, "We might not want to hurt each right guard and linebacker lasted 13 "I'm compassionate, but I like to be 70, however long the sport lets me." other, but the other team doesn't years. 'This is my 13th season of coaching. very firm." care and they will hit hard. It's all

18 april 2015 Apparently, they're the Purple Reign. outlookohio.com about challenging each other and cially on offense. I know every posi­ stand in for absent players and it Lewis's husband, Billy, is the assis­ making us better." As tough as they are, the women be­ tion on offense, so I know what evolved from there. One day she was tant head coach, special teams co­ lieve they're responsible for more everyone does on every play." pushing girls in pads over without ordinator, social media director and Applegate isn't the only player with a than scoring touchdowns and sack­ wearing any herself. I was like, 'You general manager; two of Clark's nickname; on the roster you will also ing quarterbacks. They take their Clark said this season is her last. might as well go full out - at least three sons are the ball boy and find Bugg, Jersey, Jet, Smallz, Holly­ jobs as role models for young girls She wants to groom someone to take you won't get hurt that way.'" game-day operations manager; and wood and Popeye. seriously. over her position. Blasingim's and Watson's son, Competitiveness sometimes gets in Nicholas, attends practice in full Popeye and Beast have been on the "This is for fun, but it's still serious "My kids are getting older, and my the way, according to the couple. gear, ready to help out when he can. Reign together since its inception. to us," Lewis said. "There are people body is getting older. It's just a lot," out there who believe that women she said. "I think this season is a "In drills we can't go against one But this family is no picnic. "She's my PIC. [Partner in Crime]," should not play; we're here to prove crucial season; Coach Mitchi is ex­ another," Blasingim said. "We've let Kristi "Popeye" Lillie said of Apple- them wrong. It's a sport. It's not a cited about the offense we're going them [the coaches] know that and "We are serious athletes, and we are gate. man's sport, it's a sport." to run. They didn't have a quarter­ they are pretty good about it. Or if we out there to play the game of foot­ back and there weren't many candi­ do, I have to have the mindset like, ball," Collette said. "It's not just "We have more of a veteran pres­ Tanasale remembers a time she was dates. I talked to my kids and they 'You're not Brittaney.' I just have to women playing around. It's not the ence," Lillie said. "We've been there asked by a little girl to autograph a said, 'You gotta play one more block it out." lingerie league, it's not powder puff. and done that, and I've had the flyer. year!'" It's real women, playing real football. most injuries you could possibly The Toledo Reign is a family for more We're here and we've been here for a have. "She ran up to me ...and said, 1 While the Reign is not a "lesbian" than just Blasingim and Watson. longtime." wantto be just like you!' That felt so team, Collette estimates that 75 Lillie, who is on the defensive line, good. It's getting better for the young percent of her team is queer. "I lose Women's Football Toledo Reign 2015 Schedule had Tommy John surgery after she girls now. They have camps and half my team for Columbus Pride." Teams in Ohio tore the ulnar collateral ligament in they're starting in high school with April 11 vs Pittsburgh Passion her elbow last season. She has also flag [football]." There is even a couple on the team. Cincinnati Sizzle torn her meniscus and herniated a Angie Blasingim and Brittaney Wat­ at cincysizzle.wix.com/ April 18 at Baltimore disc in her back. Quarterback Jacki Clark, 44, is co- son have been together for six years cincinnatisizzle Nighthawks captain with Lewis and is another and are rookies on the Reign. April 25 at Detroit Pride Cleveland Fusion May 2 at Wisconsin Warriors And through all the injuries, she veteran on the team. Blasingim joined to get out of the clevelandfusion.com keeps coming back. house, and Watson planned on May 16 vs Detroit Pride "I'm one of the quiet leaders. You being a "Team Mom." Columbus Comets May 30 vs Baltimore Because it's fun. won't see me jumping and cheering columbuscomets.org Nighthawks and hootin' and hollerin' and "She was actually quite a bit more June 6 at Pittsburgh Passion "As long as I heal from it, it's all screaming," she said. "I'll pull play­ aggressive than I was," Blasingim Toledo Reign June 13 vs Wisconsin Warriors right." ers aside and talk to them, espe­ said. "They started asking her to theetoledoreign.com outlookohio.com Brett Leonard, a Toledo-born filmmaker, plans to make a movie about the legendary Toledo Troopers. april 2015 19 Commit yourself to the noble struggle for equal rights. You will make a better person of yourself...(and) a greater nation of your country/' Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

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"I always knew I was the neighborhood sissy. Thank goodness I learned how to tight early, because I had to do it often."

"The church is like a safe haven for gay peo­ ple, you know. People still try and deny it, you know, but the church is full of gay people/'

"At that time, I did not know or realize that they had white sissies, because all the ones that I ever saw were on the other side of the track because the railroad used to run way over there. You know, the Southern Railroad, along Canal Street? And the gay bars were all black, just like they got today."

These snippets of black gay life in the South ways than a book can do. For­ all come from E. Patrick Johnson, a North­ tuna organized the symposium western University professor of both perform­ and is a former student of John- ance studies and African-American studies, in his acclaimed performance, Pouring Tea. "When I started interviewing the men for uality and gender. Because of that political Johnson assumes the voices, diction and the project, a lot of them were really great "Ethnography as a method originally comes bent, LGBT issues have definitely risen to the mannerisms of gay black men whom he in­ storytellers. I mean they just really had me out of anthropology," Fortuna said. "And it forefront." terviewed for his book, Sweet Tea: Black Gay captivated," Johnson said in an interview comes out of conducting participant obser­ Men of the South - An Oral History. He'll bring posted to YouTube. "Then when I started to vation and interviews and engaging with the Johnson closes his video interview saying: his show to Oberlin College on Thursday, April transcribe the narratives forthe book, I deter­ community that you want to learn about over "One of the things for me that's so rewarding 23, to kick off a two-day symposium titled, mined that a lot of the stories fell flat on the a long-term period." about doing this performance is to hear peo­ "Performance Ethnography: Exploration in page, and the reader wouldn't get a sense of ple say, Thank you for doing this perform­ Theory and Practice." how this person sounded, how they put A classic example of performance ethnogra­ ance.' It's also gratifying for me to hear stress on this word or that phrase. And a lot phy, Fortuna explained, is Anna Deveare stories from black gay men who are in the Johnson spoke with men between the ages of of regions in the South have different di­ Smith's Fires in the Mirror, a play that came audience who come up to me after the show 19 and 93 about coming of age, coming out, alects. I said there has to be a way I can about after race riots in Crown Heights, and say, Thank you for telling my story. religion, sex and transgender issues for his recreate the interview experience forthe Brooklyn, in 1991. After extensive interviews Thank you for telling our story.' It really lets book, Sweet Tea. The title is a play on the gay reader." with people in the affected communities, me know that this work means something." slang for gossip and the cultural prevalence Smith created a play of 29 monologues. of sweet tea in the South. The regional word­ Johnson's performance will be followed the Pouring Tea: Black Gay Men of play is emblematic of the interviews that next day by lectures and performances ex­ Performance ethnography tends to focus on the South Tell Their Tales make up the book and the performance. ploring intercultural research and perform­ subcultures that are often misrepresented or ance ethnography as global activism. Among Thursday, April 23 at 7p marginally represented. Victoria Fortuna, a postdoctoral fellow and the presenters will be experts on ballroom @ Oberlin College visiting professor of dance at Oberlin, said culture, gay Latino nightlife and the Brazilian Warner Center, "There's been a good amount of work in that Johnson's performance of the oral histories gay sex industry. Fortuna's students will 30 N Professor St, Oberlin, 44074 area, and I think on the whole, performance allows him to embody the men he inter­ present their own in-progress ethnographic ethnography tends to address social and po­ The performance is free and viewed and present them in more powerful work. litical themes around questions of race, sex­ open to the public. outlookohio.com Johnson also has performed at Denison, Wittenberg, Ohio State and the College of Wooster. april 2015 25 creative class

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Host Lends Home-Grown Star Power to HIV/AIDS Prevention by Orie Givens of growth with a focus on creative, locally litis'cooking skills? sourced menus. What are your thoughts? AIDS WALK OHIO Ted Allen, host of the popular Food Network TA: With all the resources that you have - OG: I mean, we could say that... we could Visit aidswalkohio.com to register, shows Chopped and All Star Academy, loves Columbus is a city in the dead center of a definitely say that it's about his... cooking. contribute or volunteer. AIDS walks as a way to raise money for pre­ state full of farms. Great, incredible pork and Sure. vention and education- And since both he incredible vegetable products. In fact, just a TA: [Laughing] It's a sexy cast, no doubt Columbus and his husband, Barry Rice, are from few months ago I was at the Culinary Veg­ about it. Saturday, April 18 at 9a Columbus, this month's AIDS Walk Ohio is a etable Institute, just 40 miles or so west of ©McFerson Commons, homecoming. Cleveland, where they grow incredible, in­ 0G: And Michael Symon is a fellow 218 West St, Columbus, 43215 credible exotic produce and ship it all over Ohioan... Events: 5K run, 5K and 1-mile walks Allen is serving as honorary chair of the the world, Incredibly expensive, too, but just TA: Yea! Michael Symon is a damn sexy beast Fundraising goal: $300,000 event, which this year includes walks in crazy weird, interesting beautiful things right himself. Columbus and Toledo on Saturday, April 18, out of Ohio. What a perfect place to have Toledo and a walk in Dayton on Sunday, April 19. All people doing beautiful farm-to-table natural 0G:Yes! Saturday, April 18 at 9a are organized by AIDS Resource Center Ohio, cooking with farms right over there. TA: Such talented people, I mean, it's just so @ International Park, and money raised will go toward ARC Ohio's much fun to watch what they can do in this 26 Main St, Toledo, 43605 treatment, testing and prevention services. 0G: Tell me about the new show on Food short amount of cooking time. Events: 5K run, 5K and 1-mile walks Network, All Star Academy? Fundraising goal: $70,000 Orie Givens: Let's talk 2015 AIDS Walk Ohio. TA: I have four mentors who are amazing, in­ 0G: So before we go, there is a special Can you tell me how you came to be the ternationally famous, expert chefs - Curtis brunch, I hear, with you some of the high Dayton honorary chair? Stone, Alex Guarnaschelli, Bobby Flay and fundraisers. Will there be selfies? Sunday, April 19 at 10a Ted Allen: Yes, they reached out to me if and Michael Symon - who serve as mentors to a TA: I'm not sure, but I think I'm taking pic­ @UD River Campus, asked if I would come to town and encourage group of home cooks, who all are pretty tures with the Grand Walkers. The goal is to 1700 Patterson Blvd, Dayton, 45469 more people to be "grand walkers" - people skilled themselves but they're not profession­ get as much money as possible for more pre­ Events: 5K run, 5K and 1-mile to raise more than $1,000. When you incen- als. vention and education. walks, 16-mile bike ride tivize that, you tend to drive other people to Fundraising goal: $115,000 follow their example, and that's who these So you get the expertise of those great chefs, And you know the issue is trying to fight com­ walkers are. And it sounded like a good idea you get the drama and the relateability of the placency, because the younger generation of 5K FOR AIDS tome. home cooks who are just like someone next gays now did not see what happened within Visit caracole.org to register, con­ door. And you get an eight-week competition the original epidemic when it was an auto­ tribute or volunteer. OG: How often do you get to visit? that every day we shot it, I was like, "Wow!" matic death sentence. And it's not just LGBT TA: My parents got transferred to Indianapolis Something super dramatic happens in each people either; HIV/AIDS is predominantly af­ Cincinnati in 72, but my husband's parents still live in episode. And the ratings have been great and fecting people of color, especially women of Sunday, April 19 at 9a Columbus. Coincidentally, we both just hap­ the response has been great, so hopefully color, which is changing the face of the bat­ @ Spring Grove Cemetery and pen to be from there. So we get back at least we'll make more of those. tle. And younger people, particularly, are still Arboretum, 4521 Spring Grove Ave, once a year, and we go antiquing in the Short getting infected every day. So the work isn't Cincinnati, 45232 North and German Village. We always go to 0G: I would, personally, like to have Curtis done. Katzinger's for lunch. So it's a regularthing Stone come and cook in my house and help for us. me learn how to cook. That would be amaz­ There's much more to this interview online at ing. outlookohio.com. OG: The Columbus food scene has had a lot TA: Really? Is that because of your interest in outlookohio.com Please help the HIV/AIDS service organizations in your part of Ohio. april 2015 29 n

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SALES out of the locker room in bikini to either oppose those who are Chad Frye / [email protected] underwear by my on-again-off- different or try to hide our own For me, I like sports well enough. 8 snapshot NATIONAL ADVERTISING differences. again bullies in an attempt to As a kid I played soccer, basket­ Rivendell Media - 212.242.6863 throw me into the gym. 1 0 qmunity ball and ran track until I got in Our community has been deal­ high school {from there it was EDITOR-IN-CHIEF Bob Vitale / [email protected] I grew up with a brother four ing with that since Day One, and singing and dancing!). I kicked 1 2 polisigh yearsmyelder.andtosaywe no other place is it more preva­ ass at some tetherball and MANAGING EDITOR were rough-and-tumble would lent than on a playing field. killed it at four-square. I won a Erin McCalla / [email protected] ] A featture Ohio LGBT sports doubles tennis tournament one teams be to put it lightly. I wasn't a summer when I think I was CONTRIBUTING WRITERS bruiser by any means, but I The bastion of masculinity and James Blackmon, Brooke Cartus, Alisa 1 6 feature: Ohio LGBT sports could hold my own if push came gender division, gay men's abil­ going into 7th grade, but I'm Caton, Luke Darby, Debe, Al Gerhard- teams to shove. In this case, I was able ity to play sports is constantly in pretty sure I was the oldest kid stein, Orie Givens, Ryan Harris, Aaron to death grip the door and kick, in my league. Sorry 4-year-olds. Leventhal, Erin McCalla, Jim Obergefell, ] o feature: toledo reign - question and lesbians desire to Romeo San Vicente, Dan Savage, Bob u women's football bite and punch my way from play sports has traditionally I'm keeping that statue. Vitale. Mickey Weems being totally humiliated. been discouraged. Because of smal1 20 pond: Wheat Penny that, many of us have struggled I'm also an Eagle Scout, so I'm ART DIRECTOR Christopher Hayes / [email protected] Embarrassing as that was, I'm with where we fit in on the field. down with all that outdoorsy 22 fashion: lux for less still more pissed I wore those stuff like hiking, camping, CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHERS underwear that day. I remember The truth of the matter is if we archery and tying knots. Chris Hayes. Don Sgontz, Enoch Wu 25 creative class: pouring tea when it was time to change, I want to play, then we belong on was like, "what were you think­ the field. Just because we like I grew up a Steelers fan. Got into CYBERSPACE ing," and hoped no one would matching genitalia has nothing the Buckeyes when I moved to outlookohio.com 26 creative class: ballroom notice. That was, of course, not to do with our ability to throw a Columbus (God help your Fall if outlookmedia. com networkcolumbus.com the case. ball or check someone into the you don't), I'm a semi-regular at twitter / fb: outlookcolumbus 29 interview: ted alien glass. the Crew and make sure to hit I was quickly picked out as that up at least two or three ball Outlook'ts published and distributed by Out­ look Media Inc.. on the first day of each month 30 interview: kristian nairm day's target in the warfare that We might know that mentally, games a season, and when Bob throughout Ohio. has extra Jacket tickets here in is the boys'junior-high locker but how many of us actually feel Outlook'ts a free publication provided solely for room, and ridiculeswiftl y turned that way? Years of conditioning the office, I jump on the chance 32 deep inside hollywood the use of our readers. Any person who wHIfutty into the aforementioned alterca­ that gay means weak and les­ to go. or knowingty obtains or exerts unauthorized tion. I knew better than to wear control over more than 5 copies of any issue of bian isn't feminine has us, and Outlook with the intent to prevent other incivid- 34 travel: hueston woods those underwear anytime some­ the rest of the world, constantly All of these things don't make ucis from reading it shall be considered guilty one could see them, because I questioning our ability-and me any less gay or more of the crime of theft. Violators will be prose­ cuted. 36 the other side knew if they did, I would be sin­ right - to play. And those horrible straight. They are just a part of gled out as gay for wearing girl­ seeds of doubt blossom in prob­ The views expressed in Outlook ate those of the who I am. Don't you think it's indMdual authors and do not necessarily re­ 38 dyke like me like underwear. lematic ways. time we stop judging ourselves flect the views, policies, or personal, business, or either by thinking "Oh, what are professional practices of Outlook Media Inc., or its staff, ownership or management. 41 complete the circuit If you wanted to survive 8th Because we were told we were you trying to prove?" when we see our peers head to the Gay Outlook Media Inc.. does not investigate or ac­ grade in 1987 the last thing you too much of a sissy to play or cept responsibility for claims made in any ad­ An out8cabout/ wanted to do is to give off an in­that we shouldn't be such a Games? Or "Ugh, why I am vertisement. Outlook Media Inc., assumes no Igbt bar roundup dication of an alternate sexual­ tomboy, those of us who do play around all these fags?" when responsibility for claims arising in connection ity, especially in a changing can be overzealous in our vocal­ you're with a group that knows with products and services advertised herein, nor for the content of, or repty to, any adver­ 44 savage love area. ization of our love of sports. How all the lyrics to Sunset Boule­ tisement. All material is copyrighted ©2014 by many times have you heard a vard, but couldn't tell you if Outlook Media Inc., All rights reserved. 45 the divine life I remember feeling at the time gay guy say, "I'm not your typi­ hockey was played in quarters or that I wasn't even comfortable cal gay guy. I'm a jock. I play periods. 46 blogoqueer wearing those bikinis, really. I sports. I wear jerseys and jeans. puzzling solution - puzzle on pg 46 I drink beer"? remember thinking they were We are never going to be ac­ N a 3 * s N 3 A i | M i 46 couple of guys kinda gay but also kinda sexy, cepted on the field if we don't O V 1 o v 1 s v N a V 3 1 3 N M V 0 3 too. Neither of which I was even Good for you if that's you. But if accept ourselves first. a ' 3 s 3 d 3 13 A h 3 d 1d 1 i o s close to being ready to deal with it's you battling society to fit in, 46 puzzling d W 1 • 3 n a 1 myself. So it's still no surprise to well, you're not battling stereo­ • s Now, play ball! s s 3 3 oB 1 i s s oh 0 0 me that my peers weren't either. types, you're validating them. X 3 1 1 • ? 1 N a vH3 D V Skimpy, shiny panties on gym Sincerely, V 1 a OH d o IAJ o H|3 * 1 3 next month: V 3 day: Ann, you live and learn. 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