Letters August VOL. II , NO. 7

Contents: Researched King Tut [ just received my first issue of Youth 82 (May). I think it is a wonderful There's a Hidden Enemy In Your Home! 1 magazine - the magazine [ was looking Win Some, Lose Some 3 for. " Mom, Why Are You Crying?" 5 The article I liked best was "Who Was King Tut?" I did some research and "Is Anybody Watching Me?" 7 found out that Ay , Tut's principal adviser News That Affects You 8 was also called "god's father" and that he He Got Away With It Why Can't I? 1 1 succeeded him on the throne. The other articles were great too. [ did Ships of the Desert 13 learn a lot, especially with the lesson of Tongue· Tied in Mexico 16 the " Elephant Man." I think I do know how he felt. When It's Your Move , 18 Carlos Martinez News & Reviews 20 Melbourne Beach, Fla. Teen Bible Study: Are the Ten Commandments for Teens Today? 23 "Best Age for Marriage?" Dear Youth 82, 25 Thank you for Youth 82 and the She's Only My Sister 27 article "What Is the Best Agc for Marriage?" It's a terrific blessing to By the Way, .. How to Raise Your Parents 29 receive guidance and instruction in such Youth on Camera Back Cover an important area of life! Bryan Johnson EDITOR IN CHIEF: Herbert W. Armstrong Lincoln, Ncb. MANAGING EDITOR: Dexter H. Faulkner ASSOCIATE EDITOR: Mike Bennett Making friends GRAPHICS: Michael Hale, Greg Sandilands I'd like to thank all those people who EDI TORIAL STAFF : Charlene Bentley, Nathan Faulkner CONTRIBUTORS: You the reader have written articles concerning the topic of making friends, for example, " Good Published by the Worldwide Church of God PUBLISHER. Herbert W. Armstrong Friends Are Forever," "Ove rcoming TREASURER: Leroy Neff Shyness" and "How to Build Strong PRODUCTION DIRECTOR: Roger Lippross Friendships." CIRCULATION MANAGER: Boyd Leeson Before, I used to be shy, lonely and felt

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1 • , In • Have we been overlooking the very first lesson in true Christian living?

By Herbert W. Armstrong "

here's an enemy , ..;::: bottle, his rattle, his toy. It in your home, becomes his human nature to probably. You take. Humans know abso­ lutely NOTHING at birth. But haven't seen this ene­ a baby responds to Satan's my. But he's right in negative influence, develops your family - a selfish nature and begi ns he's made you all to reach out to take suffer - he's whatever attracts or tempts him. broken up many Humans mllst be families, caused taught to give. Giving untold suffering is something that has and a world of to be LEARNED. But unhappiness. how many begin teach- ing their babies this But you never saw him. emotionally imma- principle - the very prin­ He's kept hidden fro m ture? How can teachers in still ciple of God's law and of true your sight. emotional maturity in children love? It's high time you opened your when they have not grown up eyes and took a good look at him, emotionally themselves? What we overlook so you can recogni ze him for the Yet here is the real secret of Let us define it further. All villai n he is. ability to live the Ten Command­ human beings are actuated by The psychologists call him men 1s. It 's the real secret to their emotions. But do we ever Hemotional immaturity." C hristian living and perfection. stop to ask and analyze what are But that's something many It's the real distinguishing mark these emotions? people know nothing about. It's of the truly educated person. An emotion is a strong feeling something "educated" people talk That it is not rea li zed and - a disturbance - a departure and write about, but seldom instilled in children while they from the normal calm state of understand. are growing up - that it is not a rational thinking and acting - an What is emotional maturity? required basic course of training impulse toward an action that has It is not something to be in all colleges - is a terrible not been reasoned and approved learned about by coll ege grad­ indic tment against education, by the mind. Among the emo­ uates. It is something that ought religion, society. tio ns a re s uch fee lin gs or to be taught in the first grade - One author defi nes emotional impulses as fear, anger, disgust, and taught to 4, 6 and 8 year aIds maturity as development from the grief, joy, surprise, yearning. And in the home. It is the technical art state of taking to the state of first cousin to emotion are our of putting into practice the Ten giving. Taking is the way of moods. An emotionall y immature ~ Commandments. It is the real Satan. G ivi ng is the way of God, person is us ually one who is'o secret to human happiness. But it and the princ iple of His law. mood y and has never learned to &, is just not taught! LOVE is giving. control his moods. 8 How can parents teach their A little baby learns, generall y, More and more I am impressed ~ children, when they themselves are only how to take. He will take his that one of the most important ~

AUGUST 1 truths we humans overlook is that As a c hild he had been Iy, but very few ever grow up human beings are not equipped pampered, petted, spoiled - per­ emotionally or spiritually. with instinct, like dumb animals, mitted to have his way, never One is not a fully mature man to guide us into the proper course. taught self-restraint, self-control or woman, as God intended, until Animals do not have the mind or how to understand his moods, emolional and spirilua/ maturity power, knowledge, ability to rea­ feelings and desires, and to control has been reached! son and mentally direct their and guide them according to the The time to start this emotion­ acti ons. God endowed them, sound reasoning of the mind. al "growing up" is the same time instead, with in stinct that guides instead of impulsively following mental trai ning is begun. It them along in the channel He them without mental direction. should be started in the home, intended. He was married, had a fine within the first months of a God endowed man, in His own family, an honored position with child's life. image, with MIND. Man must first rare opportunities. But letting Remember that training of the learn and acquire knowledge. He feelings, moods, impulses domi­ emotions involves control and right is endowed, also, with capacity to nate his mind, in stead of making direction of feeli ngs, tempers, reason from that knowledge - to his mind rati onall y and wisely impulses. It means control over think, to plan, to arrive at direct them, his mar riage crashed, anger, jealousy, hatred, fear, grief, conclusions, to make dec isions. his home was broken up and he resentment, selfi shness, vanity. God intended man's mind to A nd sin ce the RIGHT direction is direct his acti ons. But man must the way of God's law - and since learn to do this, and he can never that is the way of LOVE, and love is achi eve God's P U RPOSE in placing the principle of giving instead of him on this earth until he does. .. . nearly all tak ing - it means teaching The developme nt of right people mature children to use th eir own minds to C H ARACTER is the purpose of understand their moods and guid­ huma n li fe. And character is physically ... ing them in the direction of ability to come to right knowl­ but very few GIVING - of love toward others, edge an d wi sdom and then to equal with love toward sel f. direct the mind and body into this ever grow up Yelling, loud talking, bursts of right course. temper, rudeness - all these are But we poor humans act as emotionally or lack of emotional "growing up." though we believed man to be spiritually. Emotional immaturity is simply merel y the highest of the dumb lettin g human nature run sway brutes - as if man were without any control from a equipped with instinct, and the right-thinking, reasoning mind. purpose of li fe were merely to Children need to be taught to let ENJOY such feelings, sensations, fled in fear from his hi gh position th ei r MINDS direct their natures emotions and moods as impu lse and brilliant future. He not only properly and wisely. attracts us to, without Ihinking or wrecked his own li fe, he forced I remember the first funeral I menIal direction! great sorrow, unhappiness and was called on to officiate. At suffering on many others. His funerals many people let their A tragic case emotions had so dominated his emotions of grief run uncontrolled. I once knew a tragic example, a mind th at he came to see A great fear seized me. I was afraid man highly educated, whose life circumstances through the eyes of I would not be able to keep calm had been devoted to the field of hi s feelings, and his understand­ and control my own feelings, and I education, assuming readily the in g became warped and di s­ knew I must do that and, with calm responsibility of teaching others, torted. tenderness and sympathy, comfort when he himself had not learned Phys icall y he grew to normal the bereaved . I was much younger this central truth of life. maturity, an d was reasonably pro­ then, and in the emotional struggle Hi s mind was stored with fic ient in athletics. He possessed a th at went on in side my mind over knowledge of science, history, number of university degrees. He ability to carry this responsibility, mathematics, literature. He had was mentally mature so far as this I began to go to pieces. knowledge o f facts about the world's fa ulty education instructs. I announced to my family I earth, the su n, the moon, the But, emotionally, he was still just couldn 't do it. We were at stars. He had acquired knowledge somewhere between ages 8 and 121 the time visiting in my father's about many other things, but not And, sadly, his spiritual age was no home, and he came over to me, about himself - hi s moods, his older. put his hands on my shoulders, feelings, his drives, impulses and The great tragedy of our and calmly shook me, saying in a desires. He had not stopped to generatio n is that nearly a ll voice of authority with which he study and analyze them, let alone people mature physically, perhaps had not spoken to me since I was learn to control them. half to two thirds mature mental- (Continued on page 26)

2 YOUTH 82 By George Kackos

race against Eric Liddell. The doing poorly or losing, like .... he thrill of victory ~ film Chariots of Fire portrayed students who cheat on tests or or the agony of defeat. the anguish and self-doubt he athletes who violate playing regu­ Sports (and life) are suffered after losing. lations. set up so we are always He shook off his despondency Since you have and will experi­ experiencing one or the and went on to win at the ence losses, why not view them Olympics, but other losers have positively and avoid all of the other. been devastated by defeat. negative results? Wouldn't it be Nobody wins all the time - When we lose, depression can nice to leave a contest feeling we've all had to swallow the take over. Losi ng can make you good abou t yourself and others bitter medicine of being beat­ feel like you're a failure. It can even if you were beaten? There en. even lead you to dislike - even are ways to handle defeat and Take Olympic gold medalist hate - your opponents, team­ actually come out ahead. Harold Abrahams for example. mates and/or yourself. Of course, you don't go into He had not bcen beaten until his Some even break rules to avoid any contest expecting to lose -

AUGUST 3 Since you have answer is to use your loss to help opponent is quite skillful, you are yourself improve. given a challenge, and part of the and will experience Any time you lose it's a time of fun of sports is to do your best to soul searching. Losses make you meet that challenge. losses, why not view stop and think, What went wrong? If yo u didn't quite meet the them positively From that question come the challenge this time, you can answers that improve your future congratulate your opponent for the and avoid all of performance. skill he showed (which must be What would you do if your exceptional since he beat you!). the negative team had lost to another team in There are other things more results? your league for 19 straight years? important than winning. Today's Would you say, "It's not worth philosophy is "Winning isn't trying - they always win"? everything, it is the only thing." 1 you've got to give it your best Well, the college football team Isn't winning the ultimate experi­ effort or you'll be defeating from the University of Wisconsin ence? yourself. If you don't do your best didn't give up - they learned Yes, winning can be a good, or give your opponent a chal­ from their losses. When they enjoyable experience. God is not lenge, what benefit will your fi nail y beat Michigan after 19 against winning. In fact, He opponent receive? It's not really years, Wisconsin was ecstatic to encourages it: "Know ye not that fun to win easily_ And it's say the least. they which run in a race run all, definitely not fun to lose without And the Michigan team was but one receiveth the prize? So making a valiant attempt to win. made better by learning from its run, that ye may obtain" (I Co­ But if you lose and you have loss. Notre Dame, then the top­ rinthians 9:24). given it your best, you have ranked team in the United States, What God wants is for us to nothing to be ashamed of. You played Michigan the week after win without hurting others in the don't need to suffer depression the loss to Wisconsin. The re­ process. Editor-in-Chief Herbert and self-doubt. sults: Michigan 25, Notre Dame 7! W. Armstrong has emphasized There will always be things you Losing can do that for you. It can the importance of competition could have done better, of course. make you better; you evaluate that helps your opponent. But worrying and blaming your­ mistakes, make adjustments and do This means playing by the self won't solve the problem. The a better job next time. rules. This allows the game to be One of the most played in a better atmosphere - important lessons we an atmosphere that minimizes can learn from losing injuries, unjust advantages and (and we all lose at one harsh feelings. time or another) is to Too often people develop hostili­ stick with our goal. ty in the heat of competition when Sports are full of even friends become enemies. This examples of people may happen among teammates who kept going in who become jealous about a team spite of the obstacles. member's superior ability or upset The extra effort and at a poor performance by a fellow quick thinking re­ player. quired to come from The pressure to win has behind and beat the destroyed much of the proper odds can be in spiring. concern for others that sports Take, for example, contests should build. Leaving as one of the greatest friends after competing is far mile runners of all­ more important than winning but time, Glenn Cun­ becoming enemies. ningham. He was told God's way encourages you to at age 8 that he win but not at the expense of Whether it's stretching for the finish wouldn't walk again because of a others or yourself. God's way line at an Ambassador College severe burn. But he, like many allows you to lose without feeling track meet (pictured above) or a other dedicated athletes, wouldn't like a failure because you did friendly game of tennis , in any sport let serious hardships deter him your best. there will be winners and losers. One of the keys to success in from his goal. No, it is not easy to lose. It still athletics is to learn how to handle Athletes with this kind of hurts but these principles can defeat and make it work for you . perseverance don't try to avoid lessen the hurt and increase the (Photos by Nathan Faulkner) opponents who could beat them. benefits. A winning opponent can motivate There is more to life than you to do your best. If your winning! D

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AUGUST 5 , . As soon as the Her hand was bleeding from children heard being cut by the broken candy jar Mr. Maalouf, and so was mine. Oblivious of the they began run­ pain, I ran back inside to close the

TI)RKEY ning up the stairs, wooden doors to the balcony and leaving the weary get a cloth to clean my sister's basement behind wound. As I did so, I looked to

MEDrmRRANEAN SEA and ignoring their see where the bomb had fallen. mothers, who "Ah, sick!" Not far from our were yelling, second fl oor balcony was a pool of

EGYPT "Slow down, kids blood, and in it lay a few parts of - be careful - a body. I later discovered these the fight could were the remains of a mother and start again any her child, whom I had seen Damasc• us minute!" walking down the street earlier. We entered our apartment to I began shaking as I looked at find various bullet holes in the this anger-arousing scene. I walls. My brother and I rushed closed the doors and went back around looking for bullets, for we out to my sister. After having I was up reading by candlelight. had developed the hobby, as small lived through this ugly civil war Suddenly, a loud noise was children did those days, of col­ for nearly a year and a half, I now heard, followed by the sound of lecting different types of these had seen a picture that summed breaking glass as the building small missiles. Collecting stamps up its wretched horrors. shook my brother and sister and was hard to do at that time. The neighbors looked at my me out of our beds. Our mother A few days passed by and my white face, questioning what had was already there to take us down mother heard that a relative had happened to me. "Someone was to the bomb shelter, the dirty and been killed. To fulfill her duty, killed. There's a pool of blood on cold basement of our building she went to the funeral along with the sidewalk," I told them. where most of the neighbors were my grandmother, leaving me to It wasn't long before the rest of already gathered. baby-sit my sister. While my my Family was home. We all My sister, who was 2 years old at brother and my uncle were out headed for the bomb shelter the time, and the other children for some other reason, I was left again, wondering how long we were holding on to their mothers' alone with my sisler. would be staying there this time. necks with both arms, si lently. It Having nothing much to do, I Sitting beside my mother, I seemed like there were no tears left decided to open the doors leading heard her sob. Looking at her in their eyes to cry. Their small to the balcony and sit near the face, I saw the tears pouring from faces turned white and their eyes entrance. Familiar faces were her eyes. were wide open. Every time a passing by, so it was relatively "Mom, why are you crying?" I bomb Fell on the neighborhood, safe. The afternoon light shone asked with a lump in my throat. which was happening about every in, allowing me to read the comic HEile, your cousin, was kid­ 10 minutes, they would jump, their magazine to my sister, who was naped and now they think he's trembling hands gripping tighter sitting on my lap, eating candy dead. They can't find him or even to their mothers. out of a small jar. his body anywhere," she told me. Looking around to the other "Oops' Pick it up." I hadn't known Elle very well, but side of me, I remember seeing As my sister started to descend I began crying too. I had been some of the men playing cards to from my lap to retrieve the piece wanting to do that since seeing keep their minds off the fight, of candy she had dropped, we that bloody scene. while the older women tried to heard a familiar noise. For my family this nightmare keep the spiders off the sleeping ended when we left Lebanon for children and watch those who A noise of war America in 1977. Yet the suffer­ were awake play war games - "A bomb!" I screamed, throw­ ing there and in other war-torn the only kind of game familiar to ing my body over my sister. She parts of the earth continues. them now. began crying as that hissing Knowing God's plan gives me sound suddenly turned into a loud the assurance of knowing that Emerging from underground explosion. I grabbed my sister someday soo n Lebanon will This lasted for two days, until and began running through the become more beautiFul than it finally Mr. Maalouf, our neigh­ apartment into a hallway where once was and it will have peace. bor, announced, '"Things have the rest of the neighbors on our After living through the night­ calmed down; you can go upstairs floor were already standing. They mare, 1 can't wait for the dream to your homes now." took my sister from my hands. to come true. 0

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l' • We'd been looking forward to this concert for weeks. Why should it matter to us what the younger kids might do? T By Jeff Zhorne

impact of set­ Are we responsible for what people see? ting an example My father used to tell me, hit hard a few "The best thing you can have years ago when three is a good name." Then words friends and I planned to from Solomon would pop up: see a particularly metal­ "A good name is rather to be lic rock group in con­ chosen than great riches, and loving favour rather than cert. silver and gold" (Proverbs "Can ' t wait until to­ 22: I ). night," we said that day at But what real difference Church services. would four guys going to a Most of us sat fidgeting rock concert make anyway? impatiently and couldn't have And what would our friends told you if the minister was at school think if they found talking about solving the out we didn't go just because world's problems or solving of a minister's suggestion ? Rubik's cube. An article last year men­ There! Finally services tioned something about that. were over. "Let's grab some­ " You have no reason to thing to eat, change clothes, Impress anyone, no reason to then head out to the conven­ defend yourself. In the light of tion center," onc of my the Kingdom of God, it really friends suggested, as we got does not matter what 'they' - ready to leave the building. your peers - think, or for that Then our minister came over group's records at home, and, matter, what anybody t hinks. It's and started talking with us. He well, can you imagine the prob­ far more important that God is casually asked us what plans we lem that cou ld be for their honored throughout your life." had for that night. "We're going parents? Y ou guys think about ("Do You Dare to Be Different?", to see a concert," I answered. .It. " September, 1981, issue.) "Oh," he said. "Do you know I softly kicked the floor, and a Writing in response to that some 1 0 and 11 year olds and couple of the guys lowered their article, Susan Bumbulis said: "I young teenagers are watching to heads. OUf minister said a few am a junior in high school and I see if you guys go?" (He knew all more words then walked away. have found that it is always best along!) " Well , they shouldn ' t be to let your friends know your Then he said something about watching us! Come on, guys, who standards from the very begin­ how our decision to go would cares about what the kids ning. affect the youngsters and their think?" "If you ever get into a situation parents. where your friends pressure you ~ "I'm not telling you not to go," Example touches others into doing something you know is & he explained, "but I would rather An exam pic is a pattern - good wrong, let them know where you E you didn' t because the kids will or bad ~ that is or is not imitated sta nd and remcm ber you r manners ~ think acid rock is OK. Then by others. It's difficult to escape when you are doing that. Don't o a: they'll insist on listening to the influencing others by our example. (Continued on page 28)

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millio nth of a second' When the so-called Little Boy Good bomb exploded over Hiroshima, it had the explosive power of theRo 15,000 tons (IS kilotons) of TNT! T oday, there are 50,000 • On Aug. 6, 1945, Col. Paul nuclear warheads around the Tibbets Jr. piloted the Enola world poised to unleash the Gay into positio n over his strength of onc million assigned target: Hiroshima, Hiroshima-size bombs! That's Japan. three tons of TNT for every Only Col. Tibbets and two human being on earth! scientists on board knew what at the cenLer of an atom.) Hiroshima sLands as a stark the strange-looking bomb the In simple terms, this type of reminder of the awesome plane was carrying really was. bomb works like a game of pool destructive potential at OUf When the target was in sight, (billiards). The pool Lable disposal. Major Thomas Ferebee, represents the bomb cylinder. The good news is that man bombardier, released the At one end of the table is Lhe will not be allowed to destroy 10,OOO-pound bomb. cue ball (representing half the himself. God will step in at the What they saw as the device quantity of U-235 necessary to last minute to prevent total detonated 1,8 50 feet above the produce an explosion). At the human extinction (Matthew city was almost unreal. With a other end of the table are 15 24:2 1-22). flash of li g ht and an ominously balls (the other half) . And then will begin a new and growing mushroom cloud, the A cue stick (like an explosive better age, when the power of the age of nuclear warfare was born . charge) strikes the cue ball, atom - if it is used at all - will For 37 years, this month, we sending it into the other balls be used to build rather than have lived under the shadow of and scattering them in all destroy. - By Dan Tay/or 0 "The Bomb." Today many directions. nations have nuclear weapons. When the two halves are Still more have the potential to th rown together in an actual build them. bomb, a single nucleus is first A growing number of people split, which in turn splits other are deeply concerned about nuclei. The process, called a nuclear war. In a recent poll, 63 chain reaction. continues until (Less) percent of Americans believe 2,000,000,000,000,000, •• that a nuclear war between the 000,000,000 atoms have been • Cigarette smoking is United States a nd Soviet Union split! decreasing among high school and is likely by the year 2000. As each nucleus splits. it college students in the United The Bomb. What is this releases a neutron particle and States, several studies show. device we all fear? How does it gamma radiatio n (l ike X rays), A survey of 17,000 high .Ti" work? Few people really know, which scatter like the balls on school seniors done by the ~ yet the answers arc quite simple. the pool table. As they do so, University of Michigan showed ~ An atomic bomb like the one they heat the mass to a that the number of seniors who : dropped on Hiroshima works on temperature of 10 million smoked one or morc cigarettes a ~ the principle of "fission" - the degrees Fahrenheit (hotter than day declined from 29 percent in ~ process of splitting the nucleus the surface of the sun) causing 1977 to 20 percent in 1981. The ~ of an atom of uran ium 235. an enormous explosion. This 198 1 seni ors also showed ~ (The nucleus is the heavy mass entire process takes only one overwhelming (70 percent)

8 YOUTH 82 personal di sapproval of regular cigarette smoking. COUNTRY/IV people live in or around the I A 14-campus survey of cities. Bustling Tokyo, Japan's college students also showed a FOCUS: crowded capital, has nearly 12 decrease in smokers and a million people! Of course, general agreement that cigarette land th ere is very expensive. smoking is an unhealthy, I n the most desirable business bothersome habit. districts of Tokyo today, land T his trend among young is so costl y that a piece as big people is part of the overall as the page you are now decrease in the number of reading would cost nearly smokers. About one third (34 What comes to mind when $ 1,000' (That's more than $66 percent) of adults smoke, down you think of Japan? Paper million an acre!) from 42 percent in 1965. houses? Samurai warriors? After the destruction that Why the decline in smoking? Bonsai trees? Sumo wrestlers? came on the Japanese main Many of the 30 million C herry blossoms? Compact islands at the end of World Americans who have quit did so cars? Transistor radios? T he War II, Japan made an because of the health risks. destruction of H iroshima? amazing recovery. Besides the According to the World Health Bu stling Tokyo? two atomic bombs, fire raid s Organization, a smoker doubles To many Westerners, Japan is brought destruction to every hi s ri sk of dying before age 65 a strange and paradoxical major city except Kyoto. Yet - no wonder smoking has been country. A blending of traditional Japan quickly rebuilt, call ed "slow-motion and modern influences in Japan becoming a lead ing industrial suicide"! 0 has produced a truly remarkable nation. socIety . Modern Japan is the third The Japanese call their most important industrial country Nihon. Ni means sun. nation after the U nited States Han means source or ori gi n. and the Soviet Union - and T hus, N ihon means "source of the world's second greatest the sun ," or, as it is more trading nation. The Japanese commonly rendered, "Land of enjoy about the same standard the Rising Sun" of living as A mericans. • "Why doesn't the television Japan consists of four main This is remarkable in light of I news cover morc detai ls of the islands and nearl y 3,000 smaller the fact that Japan is a country subjects I'm interested in ? They ones. T hey stretch north and without any major natural spend so much time on things south in an arc for more than resources! It lacks iron, that don't maller to me at all! " 1,200 miles along the east coast petroleum and coal - the three Television news can be an of Asia. In land area, Japan is most important minerals needed effecti ve way to keep up on smaller than the state of by an industrial country. current events. Often, however , California, yet it has a population How does Japan do it? Japan television news is not in -depth . of 120 mi llion - fu ll y half that buys vital raw materials from I t gives you the basic of the entire United States' other countri es, uses them to information, without much Three quarters of Japan's manufacture a wide var iety of detail. A lso television news may products, then exports these nol even cover some subj ects finished goods to countries that interest you. A way to be • Four main islands, nearly around the world. morc selecti ve and better 3,000 smaller ones Japan is a complex and an informed is to read the news • Stretches more than exciting country. You might that is important to you. 1,200 miles in a wan t to check ou t a few books north· south arc T he Plain Truth magazine about Japan from your public can give you important insight • Population 120 li brary. You will learn each mon th on why certain mitlion additional things of interest - events are happening. Weekly such as the fact that there are . . newsmagazines can give you three or four earthquakes a day background to those events. But in Japan! (But most of them are on a daily basis, a good I barely noticeable.) ~ newspaper can be your best o What things can you discover source for im mediate news. s about this ancient an d exotic L-,-______A n 84-page daily newspaper --'i land ? - By Keith W. Slump 0 can be frightening to the

AUGUST 9 inexperienced newspaper reader. could no longer allow that drain Where do you begin, especially to contlIlue. when you have a limited time Today, 21 years later, the wall schedule? Understanding how a still separates communist East newspaper editor thinks will Berlin from noncommunist West help you to use your time to the Berlin. M any Germans refer to best advantage. it as the S chandmauer. the wall The most important page of a of shame. newspaper is the front page. The The wall is ugly to look at. It responsible editor will put the looks li ke the outer walls of a day's most important stories on prison. Slabs of concrete and that page. Also, the most stone were haphazardly thrown important of the important together. stories will be above the fold. Today, if you were The good editor will have to try to get over the headlines that tell the story. If wall from the East you have limited time to read The II of Shame' Berlin side, you the newspaper, read all the • How would you feel if you would fi rst have to go through a headlines on the front page first. woke up and discovered that 50-yard no-man's land full of That will give you an idea of during the ni ght the eastern and tank traps and land mines, and current events. To get more western halves of your city had patrol led by troops with guard than an idea, you definitely will been sealed off from one dogs. need to read more. another? I f you were able to reach the Every good newsstory starts What would yo u do if you wall , you would fi nd it to be 9 with a " lead ." Ideall y, a lead were told that you were no feet hi g h and topped with capsules the story in one longer free to visi t fri e nds and electrified barbed wire. sentence, th e first sentence of relatives across town? The 836-mile border between the story. It is an overview of And what would yo u do if a East and West Germany is also the whole story. The rest of huge wall of concrete blocks and well fortified - a much longer the story gives less important barbed wire was hurriedly built version of the Berlin Wall. Last detail. down the center of town, year onl y 61 peopl e successfully I f you cou Id read the manned by armed g uards to fled across this border from East headlines and leads of the sto ri es make sure that you complied? to West. Many others died trying. on thc fir st three pages of a Twenty-one years ago this The Berlin Wall is the symbol newspaper, you would stay month, thousands of shocked of a divided Germany, and a informed on dail y news. You citizens in the eastern sector of divided Germany is the symbol of would not know the political, the German ci ty of Berlin foun d a divided Europe. Many Germans emotional and logistical themselves in this very situation! long for the day when the two implications of international T hough the city had been Germ anys will be once again politics, but you would have a divided administratively uni ted. Recently, hopes were grasp of current events. fol lowing World W ar II (with raised for eventual German unity Some dail y newspapers also the Soviet U ni on taking charge when West German Chancellor have a summary section of th e of the eastern part), it had been, Helmut Schmidt met with East I leading stori es of the day. If for all practical purposes, a German C hief-of-State Eri ch your paper has one of those single city. Honecker. T his was the first columns, read that daily too. But no longer! meeting between leaders of the Remember, with a newspaper Shortly before dawn Aug. 13, tw o Germanys in 11 years. you can read what you want. 1961, the communist-controlled Some observers believe U nlike television or radio news, East German government closed German unity wi ll come onl y you can be selective and study the border between East and within the context of overall what is interesting or important West Berlin. Soon afterward the European unity. And Bible to you. You can read these in fa mous "Berlin Wall" was prophecy reveals that Europe articles for your personal bu i I t. will unite in the days just ahead' interest when you have the Why? Because before the But until that unity comes, time. And if you are like me, border was cl osed, nearl y 1,000 the "wall of shame" will after you stud y current events people a day were crossing over continue to stand as a • dail y, you will want to fi nd that from East to West Berlin to monument to the national ~ extra time. - By George escape to the Free World. The division of the German people. S Hague 0 East German government felt it - By Ron Toth 0

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By Gerald Weston

ow could God allow a man to lie to his father, steal from his brother, and as a result inherit the finest chunk of real estate on earth? Have you ever wondered why God let Jacob get away with stealing Esau's blessing? Why was he unpunished for committing such an under­ ? handed, deceitful act? Should we assume from this • Bible example that God rewards liars and cheaters? Is this the way People today seem to be getting away with to get ahead in the world? It more all the time. But you wouldn't expect someone certainly seems to have worked for Jacob. Or did it? in the Bible to lie and cheat and get away with it, To find the answers to these would you? questions turn back to one of the most intrig uing events ever recorded. It begins in the 27th chapter of Genesis. first. He had confidence his pray thee, that I may feel thee, Here we find Isaac, the father mother could do her part in the my son, whether thou be my very of Jacob and Esau, growing old kitchen, but was not su re he son Esau or not" (verse 21). and his eyesight dimming. Years could pull off his part. Esau was Jacob cautiously moved forward earlier God had promised Isaac unusually hairy while Jacob was and presented the back of his tremendous physical wealth for smooth skinned. He was afraid skillfully gloved hand as Isaac his descendants. We know today his father would touch him and reached out to meet him. that the inheritance promised detect the difference. This would Isaac was puzzled. "The voice Isaac was the U nited States and spell more trouble than it was is Jacob's voice, but the hands are British Commonwealth of nations worth (verses I 1- 14). the hands of Esau. And he - the greatest physical inheri­ To Rebekah it was not a matter discerned him not, because his tance ever enjoyed by any people. of pulling something off, but of hands were hairy, as his brother (For more details, send for your putting something on. "And she Esau's hands" (verses 22, 23). free copy of The United States put the skins of the kids of the Jacob gave a mental sigh of and Britain in Prophecy.) goats upon his hands, and upon the relief. The deception was work­ The first four verses of Genesis smooth of hi s neck" (verse 16). i ng, and the hardest part was now 27 tell of Isaac's instructions to Convinced and determined, past. his favorite son, Esau, to go Jacob entered into his father's Following his meal of mock hunting a nd bring back some presence. Isaac asked who it was. venison, Isaac confirmed the venison to prepare a special meal "I am Esau thy firstborn," Jacob birthright blessing by conferring before this blessing of future responded. "I have done accord­ on Jacob the greatest physical national wealth was passed on to ing as thou badest me: arise, I blessing this world has ever him. pray thee, sit and eat of my known (verses 28, 29). Isaac's wife Rebekah heard venison, that thy soul may bless Shortly after Jacob left Isaac's these in structions and hurriedly me" (verses 18, 19). presence, Esau came in with his found Jacob. She commanded meal looking forward to the him to fetch two young goats Isaac's suspicions blessing his father had reserved from their flock so she could Isaac was immediately suspi­ for him. It took a minute before prepare them disguised as veni­ cious. "How is it that thou hast they both realized a terrible son. Isaac's eyesight was so dim found it so quickly, my son?" mistake had been made. When he • he could not recognize his own "Because the Lord thy God realized what happened Isaac family, and it was her intention to brought it to me," Jacob piously "trembled with a great trembling send in Jacob, her favorite son, to replied (verse 20). greatly" (verse 33, literal He­ receive the blessing instead of Isaac sensed something was brew) . Esau (verses 5- 10). amiss. The voice did not sound Esau reacted no less dramati­ Jacob was leery of the idea at like that of Esau. "Come near, I cally. "He cried with a great and

AUGUST 11 exceeding bitter c ry, and said starving Esau by giving him food he figured right. Jacob didn't. It unto his father. Bless me, ev..e n (Genesis 25:29-34). wasn't till the next morning that me also, 0 my father" (verse Isaac knew the blessing was he discovered Laban did not give 34). irreversible. The only blessing he him beautiful Rachel for his wife, Heartsick, Isaac replied, "Thy could give his old er son was more but her less attractive sister, Leah brother came with subtilty, and like a curse than a blessing. To (Genesis 29:21-27)! hath taken away thy blessing." Esau and his descendants he said, Jacob's reaction the next day Esau lamented, "Is not he ri ghtly "By thy sword shalt thou live, and was one of total disbelief (verse named Jacob? [meaning s up­ shalt serve thy brother" (verses 25): " What is this thou hast done planter] for he hath supplanted 39, 40). unto me? did not r serve with me these two times" (verses 35, U p to this point everything thee for R achel ? wherefore then 36). The first time was when seems to have gone Jacob's way, hast thou beguiled me?" Jacob got the birthright from a but things were about to change. Esau hated Jacob because of hi s "Why me?" blessing, and determined to ki ll All the ordinary ques tions him after his father died. Rebek­ must have run through his mind. ah heard about Esau's intentions "Why me?" "What did [ do to and moved quickly to get Jacob deserve this?" "How could you out of the country. She instructed do such a thing?" But he no more him to go to her brother, Laban. than thought the questions than a At firs t Jaco b and Laban haunting, painful memory an­ seemed to hit it off well . Laban swered them a ll . Seven years took a liking to the young man earlier it was he who was the and offered hi m a job. Jacob was deceiver. head over heals in love with Even Laban's explanation of Laban's daughter, Rachel. Will­ why the switch was made must ing to show how hi ghl y he prized have s lashed away at Jacob's Rachel, he offered to work for conscience. HIt must not be so Laban fo r seven years if he would done in our country, to give the give her to hi m to be his wife. younger before the firstborn" Laban readily accepted (Genesis (Genesis 29:26). 29:14-1 9). Jacob worked seven more years for Rachel. Whenever he became A labor of love discouraged over his own plight, Jacob's love for Rache l was his memo ry reminded him of his great, a nd the year s q uickly brother Esau and his father Isaac, passed. After seven years he and how they must have suffered asked Laban to fulfill his part of as well. the arrangement. Laban respond­ But God was also merciful to ed by putting on a lavish feast Jacob. He made him ri ch during that lasted all day. the time he worked for Laban, Jacob did not know, but was gave him 12 sons and nu merous about to learn a li ving law of God. daughters, and finall y softened If you sin against God, "be sure Esau's heart, all owing their tear­ your s in will find you out" ful reunion. (Numbers 32:23). J acob's sins As for the blessing, some may were ready to find him out. still think Jacob got away with All day Laban kept his g uests something - that the trouble was happy with a ready supply of worth the blessing. And what wi ne - especiall y his guest of about poor Esau? honor and soon-la-be son-in-law. The s imple a nswer is God He purposefull y waited till after determined befo re Jacob and dark before presenting hi s vei led Esau were born that Jacob would daughter to Jacob. be the recipient of the blessing Laba n figured under these (Genesis 25:23). All Jacob got for ,~ . circumstances Jacob would not his underhanded efforts was what •o .. detect a preplanned switch, and God was going to give him from • the beginning, plus a healthy dose •.. .' ~ '. Esau had already lost his birthrig ht to of heartache and trouble. It looks Jacob in exchange for some food . Wh en Jacob took the blessing as well, he had to to me like he didn't get away with fl ee for his life. Jacob had a real shock anything worth having. when he found he'd married Leah! What do you think? 0

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By Keith W. Stump

• The camel is a desert miracle! Thriving in its harsh environment, the desert cargo carrier poses the hi ghlands of Central A sia. always brings a good price. T here The dromedary is unknown in are many vari eties of camels, problems for evolution. a wild state. It has been domesti­ varyin g in color from pu re white cated si nce ancie nt times. Camels to dirty brown. Pure white racing are mentioned frequently in the camels, call ed hejin. are especial­ w a nim a ls are as Bible. Using a concordance, you ly prized . stra nge and as remark­ mig ht w a nt t o look up the The camel has multiple uses. It a ble as the ca mel. references in your own Bible. is a beast of burden (carryi ng 700 M a ny.of you have probably Standing 7 or more feet tall at pounds or more!) and a ri ding seen this g reat humped beast the shoulder, the long-legged animal. As the primary means of dromedary has an ungainly walk. Bedouin transportati on, camels are at a zoo. Wh a t a mangy , The two legs on one side move often called " the ships of the unu s u a l-lookin g creature. forward at the same time, then desert." Its hide is used for leather. T ha t ungainly wa lk, that fun­ the other two legs on the other Its dried dung is a heating fuel. Its ny hump, tha t foul breath - si de move forward , creating a hair, shed every summer, is woven a nd those weird whines and stead y backw a rd a nd forward into ropes and cloth fo r clothing g roans it m a kes! lurch. First-time riders actually and tents. Some A rabs also eat the But to the Bedouin Arabs of have become seasick from the meat and drink the milk of camels. t he Middle East d eserts, the constant swayin g! (The Bible, however, forbids the camel is muc h more than an T he camel (Arabs pronounce it eating of camel meat. See Levi ti­ odd ity. The very existence of l A- mal or GA-m al) pl ays an cus 11:3-4.) human life in the desert has lo ng important part in the li ves of Despite its useful qualities, the depended on the camel. Without Bed o u ins. Its camel has a defini te person- him there would be no Bedouin' powers, habits ality problem. It can be T he A rabs ri ghtly call the camel and id iosyn­ more stubborn and can­ Ala A llah. "God's gift." craSies are a t a nke rous than the Having studied the camel at co ntinu al wo rs t mule. It is close range in Egypt, Israel and topic of con­ a rr ogant, impa­ Jord an, I am convinced that it is ver sa t ion ti e nt a nd b a d ­ one of the best proofs on earth a m o n g th e m . tempe red. It is today of divine creation. Even so, fe w des­ inclined to fi ts of Evolution, as we shall see, is ert A r a bs h ave r age . It s pi ts utterly at a loss to account for this co mpl e tel y m as­ remarkabl e animal. te red the complex lore of the camel. A desert miracle Bedo ll i os a re as T he A rabian camel , or drome­ proud of their camels dary, has only one hump. Most as many people in W est­ desert A rabs have not even heard ern countries are proud of of the two-humped variety, call ed their automobiles. T he cam- the Bactrian camel. T his shorter el is the chi ef unit of wealth. and stockier beast is found only in When cash is needed, a camel • It possesses a keen sense of smell, valuable in locating sup­ • • None of the amazing .. . plies of water. i{4" qualities of the camel • It has the ability to close its nostrils against Hying dust and . . - . -. .. • can be accounted for sand. - * • , (j (j .' - by evolution. They • Its eyes are s hielded by • double rows of long, protective defy evolutionary eye-lashes. These keep out blow­ ing sands and cut down the glare explanation! of the sun. • It has hair in its ear openings to protect against sand and dust. when annoyed, and can bite and • It sweats so little (leaving kick dangerously, often without precious water inside) that its being provoked. It can, however, skin almost always feels dry. be docile if properly trained and • It has thick and broad sole handled. But even then, it can be pads, and thick callous pads on unpredictable. Even after years of its knees and chest to rest on in careful study, T.E. Lawrence a kneeling position. These rea­ (Lawrence of Arabia) admitted tures enable it to withstand the that often he could not size up his heat of the burning desert dromedary correctly. sands. • It Survival equipment has a hump in which it stores fat. The camel draws on Suppose you had been commis­ this reserve when food is unavail­ sioned to design an animal geared able. Water is also produced to desert survival, what equip­ when this fat is broken down for ment would you have included? use. Let's notice just a few of the • It has a special type of digestive sys tem that extracts sary. Camels live where all other If every drop of moisture from its livestock would die. food. This water is then stored in body ti ssues until needed. Along Chance evolution? with the fat reserve in the hump, Could all these abilities this enables the camel to exist for which so perfectly suit the camel many days with little or no food to the desert environment - have -- and water. (But then it makes up developed by mere chance? for lost time. It can regain lost By no means! weight by gulping down as many None of the amazing qualities as 25 gal/ons of water in just 15 of the camel can be accounted for .­- minutes!) by blind evolution. They defy evolutionary explanation! unusual and extraordinary quali­ Evolutionists tell us that all ties of the camel, and see what these qualities developed - characteristics God - the Master evolved - by natural processes Designer - incorporated into the over millions of years. But think a animal : moment. Imagine a '"p roto-cam­ • The camel has broad, two­ el" living millions of years ago toed feet enabling it to walk on that had not yet evolved some of the shifting sands without sinking these features. (the "snowshoe effect"). The s un is beating down mercilessly on the hot desert sands. A burning wind stirs up sand and dust. Water is nowhere • With its tough lips and long in sight. The only food available teeth, it is able to bite off and is full of spines and barbs. chew the thorniest desert plants. Now here comes our unevolved It can subsist on coarse, sparse " proto-camel" - totally unpre­ food for long periods, if neces- pared as yet for the hazards of the • • - Now here comes our . ,.0 -.... .' unevolved ,~'." '\.. • • . . . "proto-camel"

, totally unprepared as I yet for the hazards of the desert ... 1, the mind that rejects God and the Bible! The camel is just one among millions of creatures living together in a balanced system of life on this earth, each with its • • , , , own peculiar features enabling it '. • •• • to survive and function in its • environment. This perfect plan­ • ning demands a Master Plan­ • ner! • Every creature on earth has its • • • • • • own special story, Take time to • really look at and appreciate nature and its wonders - the

desert. He gets sand in his ears, Ungainly and funny eyes and nostrils. He is sweating looking - to the profusely. Unknown to him, there Bedouin the camel is is water nearby. but he has not "God's gift" and to yet developed the ability to smell evolutionists he is a problem. How could a it out. He attempts to bite off and creature so perfeclly chew a piece of cactus, but wails adapted to his in pain. not yet having evolved environment have the proper equipment to do it evolved slowly over without injury to his mouth. He millions of years? Above is an artist's humorous kneels to rest, but the hot desert conception of how an floor sears his unpadded skin. un evolved "proto-camel" -- ? - With his undeveloped hump and might try to cope with stomach, he has no food or water his harsh environment. (Illustration by Bruce • reserve to draw on. Hedges, Youth 82 So what happens? photos) He dies, of course' And so do - . -,. the other members of his kind, as yet unprepared by "evolution" The beautiful for inhospitable desert life. They coordination of I become extinct! That is why there survival features are no camels in the world seen in the camel could never miracles of God's creative power. r today. have been achieved by the trial­ And request our colorfully illus­ Right? and-error method, by some quirk trated booklet, A Theory for the Wrong, of course! of evolution. There is intelligence Birds. for an eye-opening look at There are millions of camels behind the design of the camel. another problem for evolutionists alive today. And they are alive The camel's qualities reflect the - the world of birds. You can because their species has been work of a Designer, a Creator. also request our booklet Does adapted to desert life all along - Evolution has no rational explana­ God Exist? - both are absolute­ from the very beginning! tion. It is an insoluble mystery to ly free. 0

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knew not one word of Engli sh. If I wanted to talk to him, I'd have to do it all in Spanish! I had not d o ne anything like this before. I was scared - I s houldn't have come to Mexico! We looked at each other and laughed nervously. We looked at the extremely interesting walls. fo r a while. We looked at each other and laughed agam. He was waiting for me to break the silence and I knew it. But I had to be careful. A massacre of the Spanish language would not be good. I remembered a story about a U.S. offi cial who was transferred to Peru. He was giving his first speech in Spanish before some Peruvian leaders. He wanted to tell them that he was embarrassed about his poor command of Spanish. He told them instead that he was pregnant. I could see those Peruvians laughing until it hurt. I could see Tomas laughing in my face as I crawled back across the U.S. border in embarrassment. But my imagined hands-and-knees journey across the desert was cut short by a question, a huge C hinese gong of a question: "Do you like Mexico?" he asked me - in Spanish. I stalled for time, trying to think what to say. [ settled on, "Yes." "Have you ever been here before?"

"Where are you from?" "Ohio." "What's Ohio?" This was what I had feared, a question that couldn't be answered in one word. But J was in this thing now, so I decided to make the best of it. I began thinking of ways to tell him what an "Ohio" was. It turned out to be easier than 1 thought it would be. I discovered that, when I had to, I had a ll kinds of completely acceptable ways of saying things in Spanish. We started talking and the conversation • covered everything from politics in Mexi­ co to his first visit to the United States. We had to resort to charades once or twice, but most of the language barriers fell. • Going places By Low ell Wagner Jr. Putting my knowledge of Spanish to use was an exciting experience. A nytime you travel to a can open the door for learning and country where they don't speak your language, you for a friendship that would n't be possible fee l handicapped. But being able to communicate, otherwise. ~ even if hal tingly at first, can give you a sense of Colleges are beginning to make a swing back to ~ accomp li shme nt and a chance to reall y get to know requiring a second language even for admission. This ~• the people. emphasis on languages by educators is a reflection of i And even if you stay at home, there's a good the needs of our society. As international trade and ~ chance you'll meet people from dilTerent cultures. other relations between nations become even more i Knowing how to talk to someone in his own language important, businesses and governments are putting a

16 YOUTH 82 improve your use of the language. Don't be afraid to make a mistake in class. If you are, you're limiting yourself to the understanding of the language you already have. In class, speak the language whenever you have a chance. If you aren't sure how to say something, say it loud enough for the whole class to hear you. No doubt someone will be kind enough to point out any errors.

Beyond the classroom One of the best ways to totally immerse yourself is to read aloud. When you do this, you're weaving the threads of comprehension and pronunciation into what will eventually become a language. Try to find as many different books, magazines and newspapers to read from as you can. Your school or public library would be a good source for this. You could be wasting a lot of time when you read, though, unless you get into the dictionary habit. When you reach an unfamiliar word, write it down while trying to figure out its meaning from the context. After you're finished reading, go back and look up the words you don't know and write down the definitions. Again, you're weaving several threads together to help you remember a word. So now you've got this big pile of words, just sitting there waiting to be used. A good way to put high value on them to use is to find pen pals around the world to skilled bilingual employees. write to in the language you're learning. Your A lack of fully fluent transla­ teacher can help put you in contact with high school tors has led to a number of students around the world. embarrassing situations. The Right in your own town, though, there are people at Pepsi-Cola probably have a few stories to probably people who can be a big help in your efforts tell about their advertising campaign in Taiwan that to learn a language. Check with your teacher to see claimed that "Pepsi brings your ancestors back from where there are people the dead," instead of the more conventional "Come whose fir st language is alive with Pepsi." the language you' re trying to learn . Jump right in Talking to them By starting now, you can prepare to take full for an hour or advantage of the travel and job opportunities that more each week require a second language. You'll make learning a will help your second language much easier on yourself if you use knowledge of the same principle you used in mastering your first the language language: immersion. grow rapidly. You learned English by hearing it all day long. Learning a Every word you heard or saw or wrote was in language can English. So now you want to learn French, but provide us with everyone refuses to quit speaking in English . Ideally, not only a better you should move to Paris; realistically, try to job and the satis­ , immerse yourself in the French language without faction of having leaving home. done a difficult The first thing to do is take a language in schooL thing well. We can Classes are a more efficient way of learning a also use it as a way to help people. Knowledge of a language than the trial-and-error method you used to second language can be a powerful tool in helping us learn English. That's because classes give you an understand the hopes and dreams of our brothers and overview of the language and how it works. sisters around the globe. When you use your class to its full advantage, it's a So, sign up for a language at school, and practice it lot easier to discover what your mistakes are and in the classroom and beyond, and you won't need to weed them out. Your teacher is paid to help you be tongue-tied in another language! 0

AUGUST 17 Would it really be home, or just another house? Ronda found she had to learn to deal with the trauma of moving.

By Ronda Kelly ooking out the window of my empty room, a tear rolled down my cheek as the last piece of furniture was loaded onto the big moving truck. Now that the truck was loaded, my parents and my brother and sisters and J would all pile into our van and start the long drive from Southern California across the desert and over the mountains to our new home in Colorado. But would it really be home, or just another house in another city? Anyone who has had to move, especially more than once, will understand this feeling of not really being sure where home is. I don't know of anyone who likes the idea of leaving old friends and familiar surroundings and mov­ ing, whether across town, across the country or maybe even happy, carefree high school years. Church activities. Texas seemed It around the world. is not easy to If this definition is correct, it to meet all of the qualifications to make new friends and start at a would mean that I never had a be considered home - that is new school. home. until the summer of 1977. Where was home? Although [ was born in Cali­ It was at this time that because fornia, my first memories are of of my father's job, he was asked During my four years in high living in Texas. My parents to move to California. It was the school my family moved three moved from California to Texas first major move for our family times. After our third move I was when I was only 2 years old. and a very traumatic one. beginning to wonder if I really It was in Texas that I spent 14 The adjustment time for me had a place to call home. years of my life. [ went to school was made easier because some of Many people think of home as with basically the same people (or my closest friends' families being the place where they were nine years. Because of this, I had moved at the same time. It was born and reared, or at least the many close friends and was much easier to make new friends place where they spent their involved in several school and and get involved in more activi-

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sophomore year in high school, and I did not like the idea of going to my third high school in The last move I made was three years. leaving home to go to college. This time I was almost afraid This move was one that I decided to open up to people and develop upon on my own. Does this make close friendships for fear that I college home to me? Or maybe I would end up having to leave should call Texas home? After all them as I had to do once too often I did live there longer than I lived before. At first I did not really anywhere elsc. give Denver much of a chance to Even though I may have · ...-...... become my home. missed out on having a place to , But I learned that moving does call home, according to some not have to be an awful experi­ definitions, looking back on it 1 ence. In fact, if approached in a can see that even though there positive way, moving can prove to were many tears shed over be one of the most beneficial having to move, there were also experiences of your life. It is a many positive results in my chance to learn about new people Ii fe. and new ways of doing things. I now realize that home is more I found one of the major a state of mind, rather than a reasons for unhappiness and lone­ particular place. It may take a liness after a move is that long time to create that state of everyone and everything in the mind ina new place, bu t once you new town is compared to the do, any place can be home - if comfortable and familiar sur­ you just give it a chance. 0 roundings of the old. Making friends Making friends In a new school will be easier if they are not compared to the old friends back home. M aki ng com parisons can make you unpopular and only serve to make you unhap­ pier if you let everyone know that you think that your old friends were smarter, funnier, ties than it would have been if I "'cooler." Everyone is different. had to do it alone. I found out that even though I was almost beginning to feel they may not ever replace your that I could be at home in old friends, once you get to California when another change know them they will become in my father's job brought about very special friends also. a second move for our family. Moving is also a time for This time our destination was families to draw closer together. Denver, Colo. For a while they may be the only Leaving old fri ends and familiar For me this move was harder familiar faces you see. This can surround ings behind can be a diffi cu lt and than the first. Unlike our move to be a chance to get to know one even traumatic experience. Can the new California where I already knew another and be not only family, place really be home? (Photos by Roland people, when we got to Colorado but friends. In my own life this Rees) I knew no onc. proved to be a bigger influence I had just completed my than any move ever was.

AUGUST 19 • with crossed arms - Body Language-Are You Listening? unapproachable or defensive. - Understanding no nverbal cues Have you ever tried to carryon 4. When talking, leaning gives you a greater insight into a conversation with someone toward other person - what someone is trying to who wouldn't say a word? He or interested or wanting to get communicate to you. Exercise a she just sits there with arms and message across. certain degree of caution when legs crossed. This person is 5. Lips clamped or lighlly interpreting nonverbal cues sending you messages, however, drawn - holding in anger. however, because some cues not with word s, but with 6. Feel up on the desk - have dilTerent meanings for nonverbal body language. arrogance Qr confidence, dilTerent people. - By Ronda Recognizing nonverbal 7. Crossed legs combined Kelly 0 communication can be a shortcut to understan ding how other people think and feel. According to Albert Mehrabian, a psychologist who has specialized in the subject, less than 10 percent of what we communicate is with words; th e other 90 percent is sent by nonverbal cues. Foll owi ng are seven of the most common nonverbal cues: 1. Hand wringing - nervous or anx Ious. 2. Joining fingertips to form a "steeple" - authoritative or contemplating. 3. Tapping one's fingertips - impatient or restless.

How Does Being Firstborn Affect Your Personality?

Are you the oldest child in your closest to their parents and learn fami ly? Have you ever wondered to speak earlier and more how being the first child alTects precisely, New parents often an individual's personality? How expect more of their first child, does being the eldest make you, are more enthusiastic about his or your brother or sister, the accomplishments and more person you are, or he or she is? disappointed by his After various studies, experts failures, have observed some common Firstborn s arc usuall y characteri stics of firstborns. hard working and The eldest child is often more ambitious, and can become serious and responsible than his good leaders. brothers and sisters. Why? When and if a second child Because his parents give him arrives, the oldest child more responsibility and expect experiences a bit of a shock. more from him. S uddenly he is no lon ger the Generall y fi rstborns are center of his paren ts' attention,

20 YOUTH 82 and he must adjust to that fact. He weathers the storm, but his strong sense of being first generally remains. At times the firstborn may be bossy, but at the same time he is likely to succeed in life. Consider these successful • firstborns: George Washington, Albert Einstein, William Shakespeare and Sir Isaac Newton, just to name a few. Many of the astronauts have been firstborns - in fact 22 of the 29 who have been to Uneasy Lies the Head: the moon were oldest or only children. The Autobiography of a King The characteristics given don't apply to every eldest King Hussein I of lordan himself, the land, the people and child. Each person is unique, ascended to w hat has been his own family. His father, King not only in personality, but in called "the most dangerous Talal, became incapable of his family situation. throne in the world" while still reigning because of illness, The sex of the firstborn and the in his teens. leaving 16-year-old Hussein in age gaps between the children in To be a king in a modern charge of Jordan. the family are other important world of changing forms of King Hussein explains that he factors to keep in mind. government is difficult enough. wanted the people of lordan to How do you match up? But to rule in a troubled region feel as one big family. He even Perhaps now you can of the world (the Middle East), disguised himself as a taxi driver better understand especially following the to find out the citizens' views. yourself, or your older assassination of your grandfather King Hussein describes the brother or sister, and would be a special challenge for palace, the government and the why you (or he or she) any teenager. problems and challenges facing are the way you arc. - In hi s interesting, easy-la-read the country. By Debbie Burbach 0 autobiography, King Hussein I n the last chapter King tells the background of a lot of Hussein tells of his own family the troubles he's faced, but he and thanks God for the doesn't overlook the humorous happiness He bestowed on him. incidents and the personal This book will help you see triumphs and tragedies that one perspective of the problems make this book exciting reading. of the Middle East. The book The autobiography begins was published in 1962 and so it with King Hussein's relationship doesn't cover recent events, but with his grandfather, King it does give a background that Abdullah. King Hussein tells of can help in understanding his grandfather's love for the today's news. country, the people and his Uneasy Lies the Head: The feelings for the land. The first Autobiography of His Majesty chapter also tells of his King Hussein I of the grandfather's murder. The Hashemite Kingdom of Jordan assassin fired at the young was published by Bernard Geis prince as well, but the bullet Associates and distributed by ricocheted off a medal on his Random House. If your library chest. doesn't have it, perhaps you can King Hussein tells stories - get it on an interlibrary loan. sometimes moving stories - of By Edie Weaner 0

AUGUST 21 Thunderstorrns: Nature's Sound and Light Show • When it's raining and lightning That's because parts flashes on the horizon, have you of a streak of ever wondered how far away it lightning are farther is? from you, and the Lightning, a discharge of shock waves take static electricity produced by time to travel. friction in the clouds, causes Reflection of tremendous heating and sudden the sound from expansion of the air. As the clouds and resulting shock wave moves mountains also outward, it becomes the helps produce the rumbling sound we know as long, drawn-out roll thunder. you sometimes By comparing the time hear. - By Richard between the flash of light and A. Sedliacik 0 the sound of the thunder you can estimate how far away the lightning is. while still without the necessary All you have to do is count Proverbs for training and experience - to the number of seconds between make decisions that will the flash and the time you hear Today: determine his (or her) course the thunder. If five Your Guidance for the rest of his life! seconds elapse, Now, that's scary. But, there the lightning Counselor is a better way. Solomon wrote was a little of it when he said: morc than a Would you take the advice of a "In all thy ways acknowledge mile away. so-called guidance counselor who him [God], and he shall direct This is had no work experience, no thy paths" (Proverbs 3:6). because education in the field, had you Yes, God is older, wiser and sound as his first client and was the more experienced than anyone, travels same age as you are? and He promises to guide you if about Hor course not." you reply. you ask. Therefore ask - by 1,100 feet But you may be doing just praying to Him - for the (about 340 that. If you depend only on your wisdom you need to make those meters) a own advice, you might be taking most important decisions. second, and there the advice of just such a person If you do, you won't have to are 5,280 feet - yourself. rely on the advice of an ( I ,609 meters) in Yes, it's an irony of life that a amateur. - By Bernie a mile. Light travels so fast we young person is called upon - Schnipperl 0 don't have to consider the less than a millisecond it takes to reach us. FRISBEE'S FRIENDS BY CAROL SPRINGER According to the U.S. ,--~-----, I T'S T HAT Th~~~~1D~O~ AI="TE.e. ALL, THE Weather Bureau, you seldom P I TCHER.! ll-105E r rT~ P I TC.HER IS BALL5 ARE: WAY YOUR. HOTHEer hear thunder more than 20 TOO FAST' I CAW'T Ev"EW WOW JOE BE miles, and usually not more than SE.E THE H I~ A 600D ..sPo~r. . 10 or IS miles. So chances are you will not have to count more than 50 seconds before you hear the boom. Sometimes thunder seems to roll, lasting for several seconds.

22 YOUTH 82 • 1 Are the Ten Commandments for Teens Today? Prepared by Richard H. Sedliacik

Imagine a huge boulder, balanced precar­ against God's government - His way of iously at the edge of a cliff. What happens if life - and sinned! it's given a push? 2. What is the Bible definition of sin? Even in our imagination we firm ly believe I John 3:4. Does the Bible clearly tell us that gravity will send it plummeting to the that Lucifer and his angels sinned? Ezekiel valley below. It's a physical law - we don't 28: 14'16, II Peter 2 :4 . expect it to go floating into space. Sin is the transgression of God's law of There are other laws - just as sure as love - the way of peace, cooperation and gravity - that show you how to have a harmony - the way of service and concern happy, interesting and fulfilling life. for others equal to one's love for self. Jesus Christ came to this earth to show God reveals in His Word that Lucifer both young people and adults how t o live became the first sinner. Vanity, lust and happy and abundant lives here and now greed welled up within him. He became (John 10: 10, last part of the verse). He also dissatisfied with rulership over the one revealed how we may become born-again planet. He wanted to rule the universe. Thus members of God's universe-ruling Family! he organized his angels into an army and But before we go further, be sure y our ascended to heaven in an attempt to take Bible, a pen or pencil and some notebook over God's throne of rulership over all. But paper are before you so you can look up, Lucifer and his angels failed and were cast read and write out the Bible v e rses bac k to this earth (isaiah 14: 12- 14, Jude 6). answering the questions. Lucifer became Satan, God's adversary, and 1. In what one word is the very nature and his angels are now called demons. Together character of God summarized? I John 4 : 16. How did Jesus Christ sum up the Ten Commandments - the law of God? Matthew 22:35·40. God's law is the way of God's love. It is the way the two members of the God Family have always lived. Thus God the Father and God the Son live in total harmony. The Father is the head of the God Family and Christ does exactly what the Father tells Him to do (John 8:29, 10:30). These two divine beings lived the way of love before they created angels and before they brought the material universe into existence. God's way of love resulted in joy. they attempt to thwart God' s plan and have peace and great accomplishment. deceived the world about the necessity of God's law of love also regulated the obeying God's law. conduct of angels toward one another and 3. Are all 10 points of God's great law toward their Creator when He placed a conveniently listed for us in the Bible? ~ 5 third of His angelic host on the earth to Exodus 20: 1- 17, Deuteronomy 5:6·21 . How : finish its creation. That is until Lucifer, the can we know that there are 10? Exodus ~ great and beautiful archangel whom God 34:28, Deuteronomy 4 : 13, 10:4 . placed over the angels to guide their 4. Did the patriarch Abraham the "...;; activities on earth, turned to rebellion father of the faithful - know of God's law i€"

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and think it was important to keep it? our neighbor - all fellow human beings. • Genesis 26:5. Did God teach David His way The love of God is manifested first of all in of life from his youth? Psalm 71: 17. What adoration and worship of God and literal was his attitude toward obeying God's law? obedience to Him, and then in outgoing Psalm 119:97-100, 105. concern, compassion, kindness and service Both Abraham and David were command­ toward fellow human beings. ment keepers. They had great respect for 9. Could there be any truth whatsoever in God's law. That is one vital reason why they the widespread belief that having "love" will hold very responsible positions in the nullifies the need to literally keep God' s future government of God on earth. law? I John 5 :2-3, John 14: 15, 15:9-10, 5. Did Christ obey the Ten Command,­ II John 5-6. ments? John 15: 10. Did He teach others to The apostle John placed a great deal of obey them? Matthew 19: 16-19. emphasis on love. But not once did he or any These verses in Matthew 19 clearly show other writer of Holy Scripture - all of whom that Jesus specifically referred to the Ten were inspired by God (II Timothy 3: 16) - Commandments, though He did not mention say that love put away, superseded or everyone. destroyed the law of God. John, who was a 6. Does the Bible show that the very clos e friend, disciple and apostle of Jesus Church Jesus built would be teaching Christ, made it plain that one who truly has obedience to and actually be keeping the the love of God will be obeying the Ten Commandments and other instructions commandments of God! of Christ? Revelation 12: 17, 14: 12. (Chapter 10. Is it possible to earn one's salvation 12 personifies God's Church as a woman.) by obeying God? Romans 6 :23. Yet can God's Church today echoes the words of anyone enter God's glorious, universe-ruling David and follows God's law as the Christian Kingdom - the very Family of God - as a standard to live by. lawbreaker? Matthew 7:21,19: 16-17. 7. Is the law of God holy, just and good? You cannot earn your salvation by Romans 7: 12. Does peace of mind come from keeping the law of God. Eternal life is not for keeping the Ten Commandments? Psalm sale. It is clearly a gift from God! No one can 119: 165. Does God bless those who obey earn immortality in 10,000 lifetimes of Him? Deuteronomy 11 :26-28, Psalm 1: 1-6. keeping the Ten Commandments! But neither The youth or adult who keeps God's law can anyone enter into eternal life as a sinner has a clear conscience. He is at peace with (I John 3 :4, Romans 6 :23). No rebel will ever God, with himself and with his neighbor. He be born into God's Family! has "the peace of God, which passeth all Obedience to the Ten Commandments understanding" (Philippians 4 :7). helps one to grow more like God, whose God's law was given to make man happy very character is love, until he is finally born and to lead him into the peaceful. full , into God's spiritual Family at the resur­ abundant life - and above all to lead him rection . Of course, you'll need to receive into eternal life. But because of disobedi­ God's Holy Spirit to enable you to build ence to our Creator's holy, righteous law, God's spiritual character and complete the the world is filled with strife, poverty, process, but that can come later when you ignorance and suffering today - the are an adult. opposite results of the love of God! Meanwhile, you can be striving to follow 8. How did Jesus summarize the Ten God's way to the best of your ability. God Commandments? Turn to Matthew 22:35-40 will take a special interest in you, as He once agam. does in all who obey Him. He will help you As the essence of God ' s spiritual and work personally with you. And you will character is love (I John 4 : 16). the Ten be building the habit of obedience to God Commandments are expre ssions of the very while you are still young. character of God. Jesus showed that the The young people who c hoose to begin Ten Commandments are in reality a guide to obeying God now can begin to reap the tea c h us how to love . The first four blessings of living by God's law of love and commandments show us how to love God, be spared the misery, heartache and while the last six show us how to love suffering of living a life of sin! 0

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, Q. I'm a girl of 18 and I'd like to about Youth 82, or asks about may send negative signals to the date, but boys don't often ask me. your beliefs or life-style, you other person. I'm not very pretty. I get should answer his questions and/ The way to get your mind off depressed because I'm not popu­ or show him a copy of the yourself when meeting other lar. magazine. But if people don't ask, people is to be concerned about A. You're not alone. A lot of they probably aren' t interested their welfare rather than your teens, maybe most, get depressed anyway so should be left alone. own. For example: "This person because they're not better looking looks uncomfortable. Perhaps if or more popular. The problem is Q. My local minister said be I introduce myself, he won't feel that our society tends to have wished he had known about God's as alone in the crowd as he false values. We tend to exalt truth when he was a kid because seems to." Thinking of others good looks over the most impor­ he would have done a lot of things rather than yourself is God's tant inside qualities that really differently than he did as a way of doing things (Philippians make a person what he or she is. teenager. What did he mean? 2:4 ). But take heart! Experience has Also, be friendly. This advice shown that if you compensate for A. Why not go to him and ask might seem too simple to work, any physical lacks by building a him yourself what he meant? but by acting friendly, we force positive and outgoing personality Your minister would probably be ourselves to get into motion and developing sound character, glad to take a few moments and rather than hanging back. you will be attractive to others. explain himself more fully. In Next, ask God for an outgoing Building a positive personality fact, he hopes you will ask him to personality. All human beings and sou nd character does take clarify things you don't under­ have fears and inferiority com­ work. It won't happen by accident stand. He wants to get to know plexes. God made our minds and or through blind chance. None­ you. can help us change even our theless, if you put forth the effort personalities if we ask Him to. to develop your personality (as Q. I am a very shy person. My Finally, read all you can about well as analyzing your grooming parents tell me that I am shy how to deal with people. Read and overall physical health to see because they are both shy and especially the many articles in if there are a reas you can that I have inherited it. Does this Youth 82 that strive to teach the improve), others will begin to see mean that I am doomed to be shy skills necessary to effectivel y deal beau ty where you may have the rest of my life? I hate it. with life. found none yourself. A. No, you' re not doomed to a life of shyness. Many persons Address your questions to Youth Q. I like Youth 82 very much. I'd have overcome it and you can too. 82, 300 West Green Street. like my friends to have it also. Shyness comcs from a feeling of Pasadena. Calif.. 91123. The an­ May I tell them to write for it? inferiority - of believing that swers were prepared by Bernie Schnippert. a minister of the A. Sure. But don't try to push it others will not like you. Many on them if they don't seem times these feelings become a Worldwide Church of God. in terested. Teenagers (and many self-fulfilling prophecy. times their parents) can be One of the best ways to prejudiced against anything that overcome shyness is to "get your , seems "religious" to them or mind off yourself." Thinking - differs from their previous opin­ about yourself when meeting ions. You cannot change other people instead of thinking of people's prejudices or opinions the other person harms you in and you shouldn't try. numerous ways. It may cause If someone wants to know you to "freeze up," and it also

25 .. extreme tenderness, gentleness and deep spiritual experience, Hidden Enemy and heartrelt sympathy for those nevertheless it is a physical in sorrow, so that I could give reaction from that experience and (Continued from page 2) them the help they needed in is not, in itself, spiritual experi­ a child: "Here! Snap out of itl their greatest trial, and still not ence. Emotion is produced by the This is your responsibility! This break down with them. nervous system of the fleshly family is broken up in sorrow, Surely no one can achieve real body. It is, therefore, of the and they are relying on you. You Christian growth and perrection FLESH, not of the SPIRIT! can't back out of it! Wake up! until he has acquired emotional The Holy Spirit of God is Come to yourselfl Get a grip on stability. given only to those who OBEY yourselfl You are going through Our tempers, feelings, emo­ God (Acts 5:32). Most religious with this, and you're going to do tions were given to us for a bodies who mistake the emotional it with credit and calm dignity purpose! They are not to be counterfeit for genuine spirituali­ and sincerity!" nullified - merely intelligently ty preach that "God's law is done That, ] remember, sobered and guided by mind control into the away" - preach a doctrine of calmed me and brought me back to proper channels of God's law! "salvation without works," by my right senses, and I replied which they mean without obe­ quietly, "Yes, Dad, of course I Emotion in religion dience to God or to God's law. will. " Of all the phases of life, there No one is a real Christian Then I went to a private room, is none in which emotional unless he has received and is closed the door and talked to my immaturity is more apparent than being led (in obedience to God's heavenly Father about it, and in religion. law) by the Holy Spirit (Romans received from Him the emotional Here, too, people are prone to 8:9, 14), and the Holy Spirit in us control I had lacked for this ordeal go to extremes. Either they is the LOVE OF GOD (Romans - and that first funeral was an deliberately work up the emotions 5:5), which is the only love that ordeal. But when I literally placed to a frenzy or they make their rulfills God's law. And also the myselr in God's hands as His religion a wholly mental expres­ Holy Spirit is the Spirit of a instrument, He used me, and the sion, restraining the emotions SOUND MIND (II Timothy 1 :7). words He spoke through my entirely. True spirituality, therefore, is mouth resulted in the conversion Many, usually the more illiter­ SOUND MINDEDNESS, for true of the bereaved parents. ate or at least less educated, spirituality can come only from I found it difficult, as I was follow a religion that is almost the SPIRIT OF GOD within us. later morc and morc frequently wholly emotional. [n "meeting," True spirituality is RATIONAL. called upon to officiate at funer­ the preachers say nothing that is On the other hand, true spiri­ als, to so control my own thought provoking, but only that tual i ty is not a mere men tal emotions as to achieve right which is emotion arousing. They religion divorced from all feeling balance - that outer calmness, do not teach or instruct, they and emotion. There are the without going to the opposite generate unrestrained emotion. purely mental religions that do extreme of hardening my senses They ask the congregation not even believe in the Holy so that I would not reel proper such questions as "Are you Spirit of God. sympathy. It was through God's happy?" - echoed by thunder­ And there are some of us, help and much prayer that I was ous "Amens" or shouts of "HAL­ perhaps, who have come to know able to achieve emotional control, LELUJAH " The main job of the God's truth - who have surren­ ' with dignity and poise, yet with preacher is to generate wild, dered to God, truly repented of shouting, uncontrolled emotion, our own way, turned from the until the whole congregation is ways of the world and who are out of control in a frenzy of devoted to studying the Bible to fanatical exuberance. learn God's way so that we may Then there are the more quiet live by every word of God - and emotional sects - but who also who also pray a great deal, but accept the counterfeit of senti­ who yet LACK the very second mentality and emotion for deep FRUIT of the Spirit of God spirituality. Indeed it seems that JOY! most fundamentalist groups ac­ cept one form or another of NOT emotionless maturity EMOTION in the place of true Emotional maturity does not spirituality. mean emotionless maturity any But emotion is not spirituality. more than it means uncontrolled Emotion is physical reaction. emotion. While a certain emotional reac­ The truly emotionally mature tion should naturally follow true (Continued on page 28)

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1 that love overlooks mistakes. I began to wonder: "Who is my sister? What is she like? What did she think of me all those years ?" I didn't have long to won­ der. After I graduated from college, she came to live with me. At first we were wary, not sure what each other was like and with the memory of our childhood in our minds. But this time we wanted to share and give to one another. And we also found out that our tastes were not that different after all. Our diffi­ culty had been in our unwill­ ingness to work with one another. I couldn't help but think that if I had only tried harder By Kris Hendrick to give to and understand my y sister and I nev­ family, and so I didn't have a sister, and if I had really cared er seemed to get lot of experience in getting about what she was interested long. Though we along with others. I realized in and what she was thinking, shared a room, our conversa­ that I had never gotten along we would have grown up as tions often turned to argu­ well with my sister because I good friends. never really knew her. ments or cold silence. How about you? Do you get I thought of the times I'd along with your brothers and We never seemed to agree borrowed something from my sisters? Do you share your on anything - from the way sister without asking her, or ideas and interests wi th them? we dressed to the people we had broken something without Do you help them when they picked as friends. But what even admitting that I had need it? If not, it's not too late could we do? After all, we broken it. I thought of the to develop a good friendship. had to share many things in times that I refused to share If you have a good friend­ our small house. my things with her, and of the ship with your brothers and Neither of us thought that things I had said behind her sisters, work to strengthen it. we were wrong - we each back to make myself look Let's each do what we can blamed our inability to get better. to strengthen our family rela­ along on the other and put Watching different kinds of tionships. Then no matter each other down instead of people at college, I grew to what, we'll have someone to trying to find the cause of the accept each one wi th his or her turn to who cares about us, problem. strengths and weaknesses and because we'l! be part of a We grew up and I eventual­ to appreciate each person's strong family. 0 ly left for college. At college I uniqueness. I grew to see that found that I didn't know how by accepting people as they to get along with people. I were, they were able to accept found myself getting into me. And true friendships arguments often and being began to develop. hurt easily. That was something that my I began to see that the sister and I had never devel­ problem was that I hadn't oped - a true friendship. developed a strong relation­ Because it takes brotherly love ship with the members of my to develop a friendship, and

AUGUST 27 Raise Parents .. Watching Me? Hidden Enemy (Continued from page 29) (Conlinued from page 7) (Conlinued from page 26) angry about their reaction, things give them a reason to have any are Spirit-guided by sound Spirit­ will only tend to get worse. hard feelings against you. And mindedness - by God's Word ­ Instead, think about the signals smile; it is very hard for th em to a nd the emotions are CON­ , they could be picking up. They ridicule someone who is so happy TROLLED, but not anesthetized. might be feeling that you don't and considerate, unless they are The emotionally grown-up DO care about your chores. Maybe Insecure. express enthusiasm, JOY, happi­ they are getting rejection signals "'It is always during times ness. They DO feel and express from you. Maybe they are getting when you have to be different, gratitude, reverence, adoration in signals that you are feeling angry when you find out who your true their worship of God. They do and noncooperative. friends are. I found that these feel and express compassion, Whether the signals they are true friends who respect what you mercy, sympathy. receiving arc accurate or not is believe won't put any pressure on God is a Spirit, and they that less important than that you you. " worship Him must worship I N change the signals. When you do, A teen survey showed that SPIRfT and IN TRUTH. One cannot they will probably change their "holding to convictions of morali­ worship IN SPIRIT unless he has reaction. Here's how. You might ty gains more respect and approv­ received and is led by God's do or say something that lets al from peers in the long run than Spirit. One cannot worship IN them know you appreciate them. their shallow acceptance of your TRUTH without UNDERSTANDING For instance you might try going with the crowd." of God's Word with a sound encouraging them in whatever So if we don't attend the mind. But this kind of worship is they are doing or simply ask them concert, that means parents and not devoid of feeling and resul­ how they are doing. This will their young children won't be tant emotional expression. Even signal that you're interested in offended and we'll get respect in though the emotion is physical them. a few years? But w.hat about reaction, it does truly accompany now? I thought. or react from true spiritual Where is the problem? experience. But it is not a You can think of "'problem Winning respect substitute for it. parents" as a block to your Most teens like respect - it's The emotionally mature will growth and independence if you natural. Many adults respect properly express sympathy in a wish, but that won't help. Trying teenagers who make careful, most sincere manner, from the to change your parents won't help logical decisions, who weigh the heart. They will express, on either. pros and cons before drawing occasion, when called for, sorrow, So rather than trying to change rational conclusions. When your anguish, compassion. And they your parents or just giving up, friends see you making adult will also express good cheer, take time to think about some of decisions, and often receiving happiness, enthusiasm, zeal and these alternatives. If you do, you adult privileges for it, they'll no that happiness that is brimful and will find that even extreme doubt admire you. running over, called JOY! parents will become easier to Adult decisions ... "Well, you It sort of sums up, then, that the communicate with and easier to have to admit all that smoke and emotionally mature combine the live with. noise wouldn't be good for us. controlled expression of emotion I realize, of course, that some You can imagine how loud their with physical health and an edu­ pro blems won't go away over­ guitars would be." cated mind that is Spirit-begotten night. Both parties must work at "Yeah, if we went, my little and Spirit-led, doesn't it? In other solutions. brother would think he could words, emotional maturity devel­ If you're living in a less­ listen to that kind of music. But ops hand in hand with physical, than-happy home, always remem­ shouldn't he be out riding bikes mental and spiritual growth, the ber that you can talk to God. He or something?" four blending into, finally, the is a great listener. He's unshock­ "Our minister's got a point. perfect spiritual CHARACTER we able. He's interested. He's never We don't need a bad reputa­ were put here to become. too busy. And He always under­ tion. " You probably have a long way stands. (Read I Peter 5:7.) "Mom and Dad are leaving - yet to go. You will have a grave Just remember, you can, with guess I'll go with them. They're responsibility, if you have children, God's help, make negative family trying a new restaurant tonight." in their EMOTIONAL training as experiences into positive building ""OK." "'See you." ""Bye." well as their physical health, blocks for the future. Next time you make a choice, mental education and spiritual Look at your performance as a consider how your decision will guidance. We shall all be called to member of your family. How are affect others - they're watching account some day. How will YOU you doing? 0 you! 0 answer? 0

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I BY THE ~Y...

By Dexter H. Faulkner

Y PARENTS ARE or both are "problem par­ really out of it. ents" for you? Can you They just don't change your parents? In a understand me." " My mom word, No! Don't even try. never lets me do anything. But you can change the She's so old-fashioned!" "Why way you respond to your do I always have to be in early parents; and if you do, they when everybody else gets to will be likely to change the way stay out late?" they respond to you. So How often have you heard It's like a game of chess or first, realize complaints like these about checkers. If your dad knows that the way to change the parents? how you're going to move your other members of your family A teenager wrote YOUlh 82 players because you always is to change yourself. If you requesting an article on, as she play the game the same way, work to become the best family put it, "how to deal with he doesn't have to change. But member you can be, you' ll parental problems - that is, if you change your game plan, notice a change in the rest of dealing with parents." Ob­ he will have to change his In the family. viously her family life is not response. what she feels it should be. We affect the behavior of Watch your signals How about yours? people around us more than we A second change that you probably realize. might be able to make that will Family life important For instance, a dad tells his encourage change in your par­ In childhood up through our teenage son to be sure to be ents is in the signals you are teenage years, we spend a lot of home by a certain time and the giving them. time at school, in church and son agrees. But the deadline We all give signals to each with our friends. But we spend rolls by, then another half hour other. Stomping around the the greatest amount of time and still no word. house with a frown on your with our family. That's why After another 15 minutes face usually means: ""I'm in a it's important to do everything the son bounces in, says "Hi" bad mood. Don't cross me or we can to make Olir home as to his parents and walks to his I'll bite your head off!" We plcasant a place as possible. room. When his dad reminds send signals with our actions, Making this effort at home him he is 45 minutes late, he our expressions, our words and will payoff in many ways. Not makes a casual remark about gestures, even our dress and only will home be a more forgetting to look at the clock appearance. enjoyable place to be now, but and apologizes. Think about your parents' our efforts will make a differ­ But what is happening? This reactions to you. Do they tend ence in the future as well. teenager is teaching his parents to respond a certain way rather ~ We'll find that all of our not to trust him in the future. consistently? For instance, ~ outside relationships will be If he had changed his behavior, when you are feeling tired and ~ more rewarding when we know let's say by calling his folks bored do they come on strong ~ everything's OK at home. before the prearranged time, and accuse you of being lazy? § What can you do as a his parents would have been If you get defensive and ~ teenager if one of your parents learning to trust him more. (Continued on page 28) ~

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