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VCBA MISSION STATEMENT To promote legal excellence, high JANUARY – TWO THOUSAND TWELVE ethical standards and professional conduct in the practice of law; to improve access to legal services for all people in Ventura County; and STANDING OVATION to work to improve the By Hon. George Eskin administration of justice. Page 7 DIEN LE “VIETNAm to VENTURA to VCBA: A JOURNEY OF Fortune ANd ChANCE” 3 PatRICIA KOCHEL LEARNING TO ENJOY ThE BAR dINNER, ChOCOLATE OR NOT 11 SHeila LOWE SELECTING A hANdWRITING EXPERT 12 CHERYL A. DE BARI CASA - Volunteers GIVE ChILdREN A voice IN court 13 MELISSA HatcH StandARd Legal CustodY ORders ANd ThE dISABLEd ChILd 16 CAROL H. Mack COmPLEmENTARY ANd ALTERNATIVE mEdICINE – IS IT LEGAL? 18 CHRISTINA S. StokHOLM BARRISTERS' CORNER 21 AMBER A. RodRIGUEZ ESTATE PLANNING ANd PROBATE SECTION OFFERS mCLE 21 EAR to ThE WALL 21 LAURA Viets & WhEN dO YOU NEEd A PRIVATE PROFESSIONAL FIdUCIARY? 22 EUGENIA Bates CLASSIFIEdS 25 STEVE HENDERSON EXEC’S dOT... dOT... dOT... 26 JOIN US ON FACEBOOK - VENTURA COUNTY BAR ASSOCIATION 2 CITATIONS • JANUARY 2012 A proud member of the Ventura County Bar Association JANUARY 2012 • CITATIONS 3 “Vietnam to Ventura to VCBA: A Journey of Fortune and Chance” By Dien Le teachers at the University of Maryland, principle, I advanced through Ventura’s and the two of them had remained in excellent public schools: Mound Elementary, close contact since then. It was another Balboa Middle School and Ventura High of those fortuitous encounters, and we School, where in 1989 I was part of the owe a lot to the unstinting generosity school’s 100th graduating class. The highlight of the Reilleys, who, despite already of my high school graduation, though, was having a full house with seven children not the centennial; it was having Mr. Reilley I was four, and my sister nine, when our of their own, took us in those first three there and his being the first one to shake my family fled Vietnam in April, 1975, during months and helped us establish our new life hand and congratulate me. It is a moment the final chaotic days before the fall of Saigon. in Ventura. My sister and I did not know I have never forgotten, for in a sense it was Leaving with only 30 minutes’ notice, we a word of English then. The only thing I Mr. Reilley who had made it possible, and it could take only the clothes on our backs and a could say was “Ông Bà Mỹ” (Mr. and Mrs. was very much on my mind when, less than few family photos. We were among the lucky, America) when referring to Mr. and Mrs. a decade later, I had the sorrowful privilege of since we were able to escape from Saigon on Reilley! I also remember sleeping in the delivering the eulogy at Mr. Reilley’s funeral. one of the airlift flights, rather than by boat, Reilleys’ camper in their driveway until we as so many others had been forced to do. eventually moved into our first apartment. My extra-curricular activities during Our good fortune sprang from a fortuitous Although we are Buddhist, we received those school years included playing piano encounter with an American named George extraordinary friendship and kindness competitively for nine years, and participating Turner, a Graham Greene figure whom we from members of the Bible Fellowship in the Boy Scouts, where I achieved the initially suspected of working for the CIA. Church in Ventura, who donated clothing, highest rank of Eagle Scout. Other than At the overwhelming Tân Sơn Nhất airport, household goods and decorations for our first AYSO soccer for a few years, playing tennis which was full of desperate Vietnamese Christmas in America, and most of all, kept recreationally has been the sport I’ve enjoyed trying to find a way out, this original “quiet us comfortable in this new land. Eventually, the most growing up and in which I have American” unconditionally helped secure my mother, Thu, who had been a teacher continued to this day. the necessary papers for our family to board in Vietnam, was able to secure a teaching the military cargo plane. It was a wrenching job at Ventura Adult Education. My father Like my sister before me, choosing to decision for my parents to make, since getting had to quit his teaching career to become a attend UCLA (go Bruins!) was a no-brainer. on that plane meant leaving behind their lab technician for the City of Ventura Water However, my decision to take the path of pre- country, their extended family and their Treatment Plant. law (political science major) brought some friends, and heading who-knew-where, but angst to my parents, who probably had some my parents, hoping for a brighter future for Growing up as a first-generation Vietnamese- doubts and worries about whether I would be my sister and me, gathered up their courage American was not easy for me, and involved successful as the first attorney in our family. and took the plunge. trying to adjust to the new culture while At UCLA, I fully embraced my cultural maintaining my cultural heritage and identity and felt that I truly fit in. This self- On our flight out of Vietnam we made a roots. My parents always told me that I realization was due to my active involvement few stops at U.S. military installations in the could speak English outside the house, but in two campus groups – Vietnamese Students Philippines – Subic Bay Naval Base and Clark when I was at home I had to converse in Association and Vietnamese Refugee Aid Air Base – before finally landing on Guam Vietnamese. Maintaining my native language Committee. for processing. From there, we were sent to also became a necessity because we were later a refugee camp at Fort Chaffee, Arkansas. reunited with my grandparents (who spoke After graduating from Loyola Law School We only had to stay two months at Fort only Vietnamese), and they moved in with and passing the Bar in 1996, I landed my first Chaffee because we already had sponsors, us. At the time, there were about ten other job at Girardi & Keese. It was fascinating to Dale and Flori Reilley, lined up to relocate Vietnamese families who also settled in work for and learn from a master of trial like us to Ventura, California. (Years later, when Ventura, and we all got to know each other Tom Girardi. I discovered that the city’s original name well. The families would get together each was “Buenaventura,” and that in Spanish year to celebrate Tết (the Vietnamese lunar Six months later, I was offered a staff attorney this means “good fortune,” I was struck by New Year) by enjoying delicious traditional position for the U.S. Court of Appeals for the the fittingness of this having been the final Vietnamese food, singing, dancing and Ninth Circuit in San Francisco. Accepting destination of our journey of good luck.) performing skits. this exciting opportunity and moving to the Bay Area gave me the chance to meet My father, Dat, had previously met Mr. My parents always emphasized the my wife, Pauline, who at the time was Reilley about six years before at a summer importance of education, non-stop learning, teaching exchange program for science and self-improvement. Following this guiding Continued on page 5 4 CITATIONS • JANUARY 2012 2012 VCBA BOARD OF DIRECTORS OFFICERS President Collaborative Family Law Dien Le President-Elect Joel Mark Professionals Secretary-Treasurer Laura V. Bartels Past President Joseph L. Strohman Executive Director, CEO Steve Henderson, CAE Bret G. Anderson Michael S. Lavenant Jessica Arciniega Alyse M. Lazar Alvan A. Arzu Susan L. McCarthy Linda K. Ash Kathryn E. Pietrolungo Michele M. Castillo Eric R. Reed Josef M. Dion Christina S. Stokholm Erik B. Feingold Michael A. 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