Positive Memories Harmless by the Former Child
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There are a considerable number of cases in which a so- Positive called ‘pedophile’ relationship between a child and an adult is remembered as consensual, positive and psychologically Positive Memories harmless by the former child. Due to contemporary taboos, it is very difficult to give such cases the attention they de- serve as a mostly ignored part of reality. Memories In Positive Memories, author T. Rivas describes 130 cases of such relationships and 25 cases of loose contacts. Rivas dem- onstrates that there really exist voluntary and harmless erotic and platonic relationships and encounters between minors and adults. In his view, relationships should be judged on their individual merits rather than the sex or age of a child. Entirely voluntary relationships and sexual abuse are two distinct categories. Also, affectionate relationships cannot be reduced to sex. The author discusses ethical criteria, the role of parents or caretakers, and the importance of information. He addresses common objections and stresses that personal experiences should take prevalence over prejudices and caricatures. Cases of positive memories of erotic and platonic relationships and contacts of children with adults as seen from the perspective of the former minor T. Rivas T. by T. Rivas Edition 3, Edited by Ipce, 2016 ISBN / EAN: 978-90-815403-1-5 Positive Memories Cases of positive memories of erotic and platonic relationships and contacts of children with adults, as seen from the perspective of the former minor T. Rivas Copyright © 2013-2016 by T. Rivas Edited by Ipce 1st print, April 2013 2nd print, December 2014 3rd print, April 2016 Cover illustration: Ipce, 2010 www.ipce.info http://www.ipce.info/host/rivas/positive_memories.htm 1 Table of Contents Introduction.................................................................6 BM – Boys with men..................................................11 BM-01 – A business man in Denver recounts.......................................11 BM-02 – A gay man speaks out................................................................12 BM-03 – Alcide...........................................................................................14 BM-04 – Amanitus.....................................................................................15 BM-05 – Ambar recounts ... the naked play .........................................15 BM-06 – André & Peter............................................................................16 BM-07 – Anthony & Pierre......................................................................18 BM-08 – Bastiaan and his gym teacher...................................................19 BM-09 – Belgian boy.................................................................................21 BM-10 – Bill – five to ten years................................................................22 BM-11 – Björn & Jan ................................................................................23 BM-12 – Boxing instructor.......................................................................23 BM-13 – Brian.............................................................................................24 BM-14 – Burt..............................................................................................25 BM-15 – Camping trip...............................................................................26 BM-16 – Chris.............................................................................................27 BM-17 – Chris 2 ........................................................................................32 BM-18 – Dennis.........................................................................................33 BM-19 – Denver.........................................................................................34 BM-20 – Erik...............................................................................................36 BM-21 – Gavin Lambert...........................................................................37 BM-22 – Gay bar........................................................................................40 BM-23 – Gently and respectfully.............................................................40 BM-24 – Guy Hocquenghem...................................................................41 BM-25 – He changed my life for the better...........................................41 BM-26 – He was very loving and caring.................................................41 BM-27 – Heinz Kohut...............................................................................42 BM-28 – Holger..........................................................................................43 BM-29 – Hong............................................................................................46 BM-30 – I fell in love with him................................................................46 BM-31 – Ivo................................................................................................47 BM-32 – James............................................................................................49 BM-33 – James Dubro...............................................................................50 BM-34 – John..............................................................................................50 2 BM-35 – John from Australia...................................................................58 BM-36 – Joop..............................................................................................58 BM-37 – Jorge Gonzalez...........................................................................60 BM-38 – Kadoedel.....................................................................................60 BM-39 – Kirk Read....................................................................................62 BM-40 – Kurt..............................................................................................63 BM-41 – Linca.............................................................................................64 BM-42 – Looking at the Boats – Ivo G..................................................65 BM-43 – Lots of love.................................................................................66 BM-44 – Loved and in love......................................................................67 BM-45 – Loving, caring, considerate, romantic....................................67 BM-46 – Mailman.......................................................................................69 BM-47 – Maurits Reijnen..........................................................................70 BM-48 – Nathan.........................................................................................71 BM-49 – Neighbor.....................................................................................72 BM-50 – No abuse.....................................................................................72 BM-51 – No victim of abuse....................................................................72 BM-52 – On the farm................................................................................74 BM-53 – Peter.............................................................................................75 BM-54 – Philip............................................................................................76 BM-55 – Roland..........................................................................................83 BM-56 – Ronald..........................................................................................84 BM-57 – Sander..........................................................................................85 BM-58 – Science teacher...........................................................................85 BM-59 – Sergio...........................................................................................86 BM-60 – Stefan...........................................................................................91 BM-61 – Stephan........................................................................................94 BM-62 – The attic and the waiter............................................................95 BM-63 – Tommy........................................................................................96 BM-64 – Turning point.............................................................................99 BM-65 – Victor.........................................................................................100 BM-66 – Wim van de Braam..................................................................101 BM-67 – Zven Szambruth......................................................................102 BW – Boys with women...........................................109 BW-01 – Consensual relationship..........................................................109 BW-02 – George Hamilton....................................................................109 BW-03 – Girl next door..........................................................................110 BW-04 – Jeffrey........................................................................................113 BW-05 – Kirk Douglas............................................................................113 3 BW-06 – My friend's divorced mother.................................................115 BW-07 – Sardonicus................................................................................116 BW-08 – She was an artist......................................................................117 BW-09 – Topper.......................................................................................118