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1 Nick’s Sources of Evidence, and Special Notes for the Summer 2020 First Edition, of Courageous Psychology my notes on the beautiful bravery of someone transforming their life. What follows, is my page-by-page commentary on the propositions I present in that six-hour life owner’s companion. © DrNickBaylis.com 4th July 2020. All rights reserved. This document in part or whole, is only for publication on line at NicksBook.com 2 Thank you for taking a look… While writing, I often wondered what on earth I’d come across that was so worth sharing. What could I tell you… that you’re not aware of already? What could I remind you of… that’s so worth re-capping? What contribution could I possibly make… to your ‘well’ of knowledge, your tool-box of know-how, your depth of courage? It’s such questions as those which drove me onwards to research this book. My six hour audio contains everything I believe is fabulous in the broad field of ‘life-skills development’ … yet no one seems to know about so individuals are suffering, or being held back, because of a few simple techniques not yet realised: the missing science and the lost art. That… is why I wrote… and for the sheer joy of sharing what’s beautiful. My warmest thanks … to each of these wonderfully inspirational folk who so helpfully critiqued and discussed the Companion’s various drafts as the ideas and evidence emerged: Nick Berry, MA Dr Kristin Feltmann, PhD Dr Sarah Fitzharding, PhD Professor Arie Gutman, PhD Erling Kagge, LLb Dr Erin Love, MD Professor Peter Orton, MD, PhD Professor Colin Russell, PhD Professor Richard Sullivan, MD, PhD Dr Emmanuelle Viré, PhD And thank goodness for the botanical gardens, cemeteries, and countryside of Stockholm, Aarhus, Heidelberg, and Cambridge… Milan, Santa Barbara, Rome, and Berlin. It was so helpful to me strolling around such gorgeous places, while I pondered the emerging pages of my life owner’s companion. © DrNickBaylis.com 4th July 2020. All rights reserved. This document in part or whole, is only for publication on line at NicksBook.com 3 Your Index to this PDF Webpage I colour-code the following chapters & sections, to help you navigate these 200 or so pages; and I’ll try to keep things up-dated as even better evidence emerges for and against the ideas and observations in Courageous Psychology. Nick’s Opening Thoughts and Curriculum Vitae p.8 a Prelude to our Journey p.17 in search of The Missing Science & The Lost Art Part-1 : how we work well and the fundamental motivations at the heart of our human nature Ch.1 Beauty is our Raison d’Etre - our priority-calling is to create & care for this radiant energy in all her forms. Nature has made this our number-one mission in life. p.34 When the features of a face, the notes of a melody, or the parts of a plan are brought together well enough… as in acts of kindness or courage… the radiantly healthy rapport between all the components, creates an inspiring energy that we simply call Beauty. Realising this to be our ultimate motivation, rather than happiness, makes far better sense of what we feel, think and do. Let’s pause to consider The Nature of Wisdom : where practical Know-How and the application of Courage both come together for some beautiful action. p.37 Ch.2 Our innate Driving-Needs that power & guide us toward our priority Calling - to create & care for Beauty. p.38 © DrNickBaylis.com 4th July 2020. All rights reserved. This document in part or whole, is only for publication on line at NicksBook.com 4 It’s vital we develop our skills for expressing these driving-needs, so we can lead a profoundly healthy and satisfying life. I name a team of 14 instinctive motivations, united by that common purpose. From partnering-up closely, to seeing the bigger picture, those 14 drivers seem to be the radiantly healthy expression of what we might variously call our human instincts… innate callings… deep nature. Let’s pause to consider how All of our Emotions can be Helpful or Harmful, depending on how wisely we use their energy. p.46 Anger, fear and shame can be helpful; love, hope and confidence can be harmful. Happiness is no more important than sadness. The only determining factor of an emotion’s true worth, is how helpfully we express it. Ch.3 How to Thrive in this High-Pressure Life: p.48 we can flourish beautifully with the intense energy generated by special advantages or serious adversities… but we need to know how to ride it. The prospect of making greater progress towards beauty, once we learn to channel ‘high pressure situations’, is why we are drawn to ever tougher challenges. Part-2 What gets in the way of our embracing Real Life and all we love ? And what can you and I do about that ? Ch.4 We’ve become a Culture of Counterfeit Activities, addicted to Cyber Delusions, Chemical Quick-Fixes, and Runaway Fantasies. p.50 Those False Substitutes for genuine action, gang-up to fool us into feeling that we’ve truly exercised the Driving-Needs of our Human Nature… but we haven’t. Those Fakes are poisoning our good rapport with Real Life. © DrNickBaylis.com 4th July 2020. All rights reserved. This document in part or whole, is only for publication on line at NicksBook.com 5 Chapter 5 is divided into four parts…a, b, c & d…which are united by their ideas for how to create a far better rapport with our own Driving Dynamics, and with the Real Life around us. Ch.5a Natural Antidotes to Addictive Fakes : p.62 how poisonous habits can hijack our thoughts, feelings and behavior; and how to prevent and remedy those serious problems. There are wo additional sections here, that are not broadcast in the audiobook: How, exactly, pornography harms us p.66 Some wise precautions to help our real sex be safer p.70 Ch.5b Making friends with our Sub-Conscious Mind. p.73 We need to work in rapport with its wonderful powers, if we’re to live fully; but this part of us is so sensitive to the world around us, that we need to protect it from malign influences Ch.5c Resolving our intense feelings into beautiful actions: p.74 how we can channel the intense emotional-energy of our Traumas & Passions, into satisfying journeys. Understanding how a handful of sessions with a carefully chosen psychotherapist, can reveal & remedy our driving dynamics. Ch.5d Some Essential Repairs: how to release ourselves from The Trapped Emotional- Traumas in our mind & body p.91 - those unresolved emotional-injuries known as PTSD. Let’s pause to consider the Combination-Locks & Release-Codes that can rapidly change our life. These potent recipes come from the special relationships we call synergies. p.93 Chapter 6 is divided into four parts, abc & d, which are united by the themes of developing deeper rapport between our human nature and the wider natural world. p.94 © DrNickBaylis.com 4th July 2020. All rights reserved. This document in part or whole, is only for publication on line at NicksBook.com 6 Ch.6a Freely Express your Animal Essence by choosing activities that fully honour the driving-needs of your deepest instincts. p.94 Ch.6b Step Back to Spring Forward: slow motion, lie fallow, sleep fully. p.97 Slow-Motion, because moving gently at a mere fraction of the normal speed, can quite transform for the better your every skill, fear, and physical injury. p.97 Lie Fallow, having the courage to take a proper break from things, can restore your creativity. p.98 Sleep Fully to be 3-times better at problem-solving; to build your capacity for courage; and to protect your passions. p.100 Ch.6c Transform your Personal Chemistry with the foods you choose to eat. p.100 Good nutrition can enhance not only your energy, mood, and healthy thinking, but your resistance to illness in brain & body. Ch.6d Care for The Nature-Trail, from top to bottom : p.134 Treat your Gums, and Garden your Gut-Flora; Reject Salt, Fast to Flourish, and Squat don’t Sit. Concluding all of Chapter 6: our healthy revolution calls for a rapport with Nature, not a war on illness. p.149 Let’s pause to consider: How can we be sure these well-being principles will work? p.153 Ch.7a The Science of Serious Mistakes: p.155 how exactly do we make our Biggest Blunders, our Dreadful Mis-Judgements? Not only the things we did; but the things we didn’t do… yet should have. When it comes to the big stuff in life, what can we do to prevent some seriously wrong decisions? Let’s pause to consider the turning-point power of The Immediate Response p.165 Good things can come from acting instantaneously, but with a well-rehearsed strategy. © DrNickBaylis.com 4th July 2020. All rights reserved. This document in part or whole, is only for publication on line at NicksBook.com 7 Ch.7b Learning to be Beautifully Good at whatever skills we love p.165 What can we learn from the training principles of top performers ? Let’s pause to consider: Keeping Life Wholesome, or whole-form, as one of the guiding principles for everything we do… p.168 …from seeking ‘live performances’, to what & how we learn. Ch.8 Earning a Good Living and Loving Wisely p.169 These two skills are at the very heart of a Radiant Life, and I hope my entire book cheers us towards them.