Date Rape Drugs - 8 Dealing with Grief - 12 Survivor Stories - 22 Survival -That's Life

-By LOIS C ATHERMAN HEENEHAN, Adelphi

Keep Safe, INSIGHT on Domestic Violence, SEEK and Life is what happens when y ou're others provide information and means of coping with specific problems. Advisers and Fraternity officers making other plans. serve as mentors, resources and role models. Kappas worldwide share experiences through The Key. And your sister on campus or in the community is there don't know where that saying came from, but I've with applause, a hug or a free day of babysitting when always thought it quite true. Life does come along it's most needed and appreciated. I and smack you "upside the head" when you don't expect it. Maybe it's just a reminder that our inventions, Survival happens in small steps. Each step is machines, abilities and intelligence have not rendered smaller and easier to take when you know someone us invincible. has walked this path before and is there to steady your footsteps. Survival means "to last, pull through, The "happening" always seems to be disastrous­ weather" - and there is good weather and bad. or at least, those are the events we remember most "Surviving" a big wedding can mean fun-filled planning vividly. We fail an exam, don't find the perfect job or and also nail-biting anxiety. Serious illness creates house, have an auto accident, are struck by a serious grave concern that hopefully converts to triumphant illness, etc. Sometimes, however, the surprise event is recovery. And through it all ... We get by with a little a happy one - acing the exam, getting the job or house, winning a trip to Disney World, orchestrating help from our friends. o---w a big wedding. There are even the events that shift cat­ egories, like missing the train that is later derailed! Whatever the event - good or bad, major or minor - we follow the song lyrics and "pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and start all over again." We survive. This issue tells the stories of a number of Kappas who are survivors. They experienced life on a television reality show, fought disease, endured assault, lost loved ones and changed careers. In facing their situa­ tions, they all had one thing in common - the sup­ port of other Kappas. Building on the strengths instilled by our families, we are provided with tools and taught survival tech­ niques - how to come through with our sense of humor intact, how to turn losses into gains, how to look to the future. Just think, we survive "rush" or membership recruitment! We learn how to organize an activity, gain the backing of a varied group of women, serve others, promote ethical and responsible behavior and interact for the good of individuals and the group.

YV_e le.arn from each other as well as from Fraternity A short break helps these Beta Rho•, Cincinnati, members publicatiOns and programs. The Leadership Guide, survive recruitment week.

THE K EY • pring 200 I CONTENTS

THE KEY OF KAPPA KAPPA GAMMA • SPRING 2001 • VOLUME 118, No. 1

8 A Mother's Plea A warning about "date rape drugs" from the mother of a victim.

12 In Grief: Press On Tips for helping yourself and others to survive the loss of a loved one.

18 Hospice: Not a Place, but a Caring Concept Understanding hospice can ease worry and fear.

SP EC IAL SE CTION

32 Designing Women - meet creative Kappas from across the continent.

DEPARTMENT S

2 Fraternity President's 32 Accent on Alumnae Message 42 Kappas on Campus 3 Fraternity News 49 In Memoriam 22 Profiles 50 Through the Keyhole ... 30 Foundation News Letters to the Editor

On the Cover "I Will Survive!" by Susannah Levin CF.E:_e:::,..._ • )J&j us Coll ege Fraternity National Panhellenic Editors Association Editors Confe rence

T HE KEY • Spring 2001 • 1 o--.....

The Key is the first college women's Show Your Greek Pride! fraternity magazine, published continuously since 1882. iving home after college gradu­ Wear it to work, wear it to lunch, wear it tion, it was natural to sort the to your community service organiza­ k emorabilia of four years into tion's meeting. You are living proof that EDITORIAL BOARD the "save" and "toss" piles. Somehow, my Kappa membership is for a lifetime. You Kappa membership certificate landed in exemplify to your community the best of Fraternity Vice President the toss pile, but I kept my badge. It is a Kappa. We can and will improve the Peggy Hanna Hellwig Tennessee beautiful piece of jewelry. In essence, my image of being Greek, one acquaintance badge survived the change of lifestyle at a time. However, it will take each of Editorial Board Chairman from college student to professional. us sharing the story, the purpose and the Marilyn Nichols Bullock Do you know where your golden key mission of Kappa Kappa Gamma. Kansas State badge is? Has it survived the relocations, In this issue of The Key, we examine Editor the trips to the dry cleaner, being tucked many touching stories of survival. Jenny Struthers Hoover away in a safe place only to resurface Kappa, too, has its own success story­ Bowling Green when one cleans out that chest of draw­ that of more than 130 years of history ers? It is a wonderful keepsake from and rich heritage. Wear your badge Associate Editor Lois Catherman Heenehan those collegiate days. It holds so many proudly for it is a symbol of all that is Adelphi special memories and symbolizes all that good and true and beautiful. binds us together. So, why not give it a Assistant Editor place of prominence? Laura Shock Scherer Bowling Green For several years now, the National Panhellenic Conference has encouraged Profiles Editor all sorority women to wear their badges Julie Kroon Alvarado or Greek letters the first Monday in Arizona State March. And, 2001 is no exception. Once Alumna News Editor again this month, all women in the Nancy Voorhees Laitner Panhellenic system - active and alumna Purdue alike - have been encouraged to honor their Greek affiliation by wearing their Interim Collegiate News Editor badges or letters. Allison Greiner Ohio State Greek-letter organizations have sur­ vived anti-Greek sentiment from their Director of Communications earliest days. Greek-letter organizations Jenifer Johnson Peponis have been banned from college campuses, Ohio Wesleyan only to be resurrected again, surviving_ the critics who would focus on the poor Graphic Designer choices of a handful of members. Victoria McDonald, Q.V. Design Kappa Kappa Gamma and all Greek groups continue to face a public relations The Key (ISSN 1063-4665) is pub­ challenge. The impact that an individual's Loyally, lished quarterly for $3.00 by Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity, 530 E. actions- or a dozen individuals' Town St., Columbus, OH 43215. actions - have on the whole is expo­ Printed i11 the U11ited States of nential. We must continually remind America, copyright Kappa Kappa Gamma Fratemity 2001. ourselves that, as good as we feel about Preferred periodical postage paid our organization, we are only as good as at Columbus, Ohio how we are perceived by others. ANN STAFFORD TRUESDELL POSTMASTER: So, what can you- one Kappa- do Ohio Wesleyan Se11d address changes to: The Key to create a positive picture of Kappa Fraternity President P.O. Box 308 Kappa Gamma? Wear yo ur badge. Columbus, OH 43216-0308

2 · THE KEY • pring 2001 NPC Tackles In closing, Marian noted that NPC is Mission Statement Tough Issues eagerly anticipating its Centennial celebra­ of The Key tion in 2002. "NPC is not great because she Delegates, presidents, executive directors is old; she is old because she is great ... a The Key of Kappa Kappa and editors of the 26 member groups of legacy earned which has been time honored Gamma links each mem­ the National Panhellenic Conference and for which each of us is responsible." gathered at the DFW Lakes Hilton ber with the Fraternity. Special sessions were held to hear Executive Conference Center in Grapevine, The mission ofThe Key is: reports of the "Women & Girls, Tobacco Texas, October 20 - 22, for NPC's 2000 & Lung Cancer" and "College Women & • to inform, inspire Interim Meeting. Depression" programs. For delegates with and challenge chapters on specific campuses, campus and • to sustain and nurture housing meetings were held to discuss crit­ ical issues and determine courses of action membership loyalty and to improve situations. interest Tim Burke, NPC legal counsel, stressed • to recognize individual, the need for everyone to protect and advo­ group and Fraternity cate our Constitutional First Amendment accomplishment rights: "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or • to provide a forum prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or for an exchange of abridging the Freedom of Speech, or of the information and Press; or the right of the people peaceably opinion to assemble, and to petition the govern­ • to be a permanent record. ment for redress of grievances." The First Chairman MARIAN KLINGBEIL WILLIAMS, Amendment and other provisions of the Missouri, (pictured above), opened the Constitution are our sources for broad free ­ meeting by emphasizing the theme, "Leading doms of association and privacy rights. To request advertising rates the Way, Sharing the Vision." Noting the Other legal issues discussed included or send information and continued concern about alcohol abuse on preserving the single-sex status of NPC photographs for The Key, campuses, Marian stressed that the time has organizations. Title IX of the Education please contact: come for new initiatives requiring NPC's Act, prohibiting discrimination on the basis KKr Headquarters and vision, leadership and courage to create of sex, does "not apply to membership prac­ Foundation Office change in the culture on the college campus. tices ... of a social fraternity or social JENNY STRUTHERS H OOVER She cited a noted vice president of student sorority ... , the active membership of which Editor affairs who said, "It makes me ask if there is consists primarily of students in attendance P.O. Box38 Columbus, OH any hope for the Greek system or will they at an institution of higher education:' 43216-0038 continue to self-destruct:' Marian challenged An alcohol-free housing initiative panel all fraternity and sorority members to use indicated that, although not yet universal, Tel: 614/228-6515 vision, communication, collaboration and many steps are being taken on campuses to Fax:614/228-7809 leadership to accomplish needed changes. change the perceived alcohol-centered cul­ E-mail: [email protected] ture. Increasingly Panhellenic women are stepping forward to take responsibility for Web site: NPC Selects addressing substance abuse. When women www.kappa.org Administrative Director combine effort in a Panhellenic, they rep­ Rose McGill CAROL LASH ARMSTRONG, Miami resent the largest organization of women Magazine Agency (Ohio), has been selected as the perma­ on most campuses. 800/KKG-ROSE nent administrative director for the NPC adopted the following programs: (800/554-7673) NPC central office in Indianapolis, Ind. • The "Focus on Confrontation" program For more information on the National THE KEY SOURCE will be piloted during 2001-2002 to assist Panhellenic Conference, call 800/441-3877 college Panhellenic members in handling 317/872-3185 or visit its Web site at (orders only) www.npcwomen.org. complicated risk management issues.

THE K EY · Spring 2001 • 3 ongratulations to the following C Kappa Kappa Gamma alumnae and collegians serving as local Panhellenic Presidents:

Alumnae Campus Panhellenic Panhellenic Presidents: Presidents: MONICA MEEHAN, BROOKE BAKEL, Nebraska, Colorado State Pikes Peak Region, Colo. ERIN CAVANAUGH, BARBARA ZEMER GoLAN, Connecticut Nebraska, (pictured front to back, on right) NPC Chairman Marian Klingbeil Daytona Beach, Fla. CARRIE JABLONOW, Williams, Missouri; Second Alternate Carol Morrison Sobek, Arizona George Washington State; First Alternate Delegate Juliana (J .J.) Fraser Wales, Ohio State; JULIA WATKJNS ToDD, (front t o back, on left) Fraternity President Ann Stafford Truesdell, Baylor, CAROLINE KEATING, Ohio Wesleyan; Third Alternate Gail Simpson Owen, Monmouth. Northwest Harris, Texas Northwestern VICKJ STEMENBERG LAUREN KINNEY, Missouri ABBOTT, Baylor, • The "Focus on Self-Esteem" will also be tested and evaluated Plano-Richardson, Texas CAROLYN WESTRICH, .during this time. Valparaiso SONYA GORDON JONES, • College and alumnae Panhellenics will recognize and pro­ Boston, Stuart Area, Fla. STACIE WRIGHT, Kansas mote October as the Month of the Scholar. MELISSA LAFLEUR SIMON, CATE SCHEFFY' • NPC will sponsor, in kind, the National Alcohol Screening LSU, Shreveport-Bossi, La. Louisiana State Day during 2001-2003, through mailings to those campuses KATHLEEN ROWLAND, ELANA SCHAFFER, where College Panhellenics are established. TexasA&M, Massachusetts The Kappa Kappa Gamma delegation members in atten­ Hidalgo County, Texas dance with Chairman Marian Williams were First Alternate DANA PICKELL, Montana LINDA BELL DANIELS, Delegate JULIANA (J.J.) FRASER WALES, Ohio State; Second Whitman, Naperville, Ill. PAMELA TEETS, Allegheny Alternate CAROL MORRISON SOBEK, Arizona State; Third CHERYL MINTON COOPER, SONJA JENSEN, Utah Alternate GAIL SIMPSON OwEN, Monmouth. Attending con­ Arkansas, current meetings were Fraternity President ANN STAFFORD ALISON DYKSTRA, Hot Springs, Ariz. TRUESDELL, Ohio Wesleyan; Interim Executive Director LI LA Washington BARBARA BRADSHAW ISBELL, Montana; and Editor JENNY STRUTHERS HOOVER, SILLESEN, DePauw, LAURA BLEGEN, Lawrence Bowling Green. Newport Harbor, Calif.

CARLA PARKER DUESER, -Provided by NPC, Alcohol-Free Resolution Texas, Abilene, Texas fall2000 The Alcohol-Free Resolution implemented last fall is gain­ ANDREA URBACK PITT, UC ing support. More than 80 college Panhellenics have passed San Diego, Lakeland, Fla. alcohol-free social event initiatives. Due to a variety of campus ALISON BRUNER WEWERKA, circumstances (campus size, availability of vendors and Oklahoma, space, etc.), some chapters are facing challenges implement­ Ventura Area, Calif. Convention ing the resolution. However, the Fraternity Council is BETSY WILKJE MALONEY, encouraged by the progress of our chapters and continues to WISconsin, 2002 offer them support and resources. Hinsdale Area, Ill. Many chapters have taken on a leadership role by working CAROL DAVIS DECATUR, The 64th Biennial with other women's and men's groups to plan alcohol-free St. Lawrence, Convention will be events. EPSILON Nu, Vanderbilt, has initiated philanthropy Philadelphia, Pa. held in Orlando, swaps with other fraternities and sororities. The two groups MARGE FREE LICHTY, Fla ., June 2002. get together for an afternoon and volunteer in their commu­ Kansas, nity. EPSLLON RHo, Texas A&M, is working to eliminate alcohol Greater Kansas City, Kan. from the ever-popular "Derby Days." In addition, chapter

4 • THE K El' • pring 200 I members worked with other Panhellenic groups to pass Quad Cities, Iowa Bristol, Kingsport, alcohol-free resolutions that are consistent with Kappa's Bev Muffly Johnson City, Tenn. resolution, calling for events with the fraternities whose 402-339-7341 Anne Todd-Staples facilities are alcohol-free. All the sororities on campus [email protected] 865-691-7200 [email protected] have passed an alcohol-free resolution. Topeka, Kan. If your chapter is leading the way in implementing Megan Featherston Knoxville, Tenn. the alcohol-free resolution, please contact The Key. Megan_Featherston@ Lynn Johnson Paradeofshoes.com 423-531-0541 Alumnae Association Membership 785-228-1360 [email protected] ... Why Is It Special? Ann Arbor, Mich. Memphis, Tenn. It's an opportunity to: Elizabeth Busch Tia Osment • meet and socialize with wonderful women 734-429-1880 901-755-2320 • gain support in pursuit of lifelong learning [email protected] Olympia, Wash. • receive recognition and appreciation of your time Lansing/East Lansing, Mich. Pam Hahn and talents Libby Edwards Hahn_pa@leg. wa.gov • enjoy laughter, good food and a lot of fun, and 248-546-0162 360-556-7676 • participate in leadership and philanthropic service [email protected] to Kappa and your community. Tacoma, Wash. Traverse Bay, Mich. Linda Peterson The Fraternity is extending and rejuvenating in the Libby Edwards petersonfam@ following locations. Getting involved is easy- simply 248-645-0162 tacomaclick,net contact a Kappa listed below. If your area is not represent­ [email protected] 253-752-3104 ed in this list and you would like to start an association, contact SHIRLEY SwAN }ORDEN, Tulsa, P.O. Box 8111, Joplin, Mo. Even if your dress size has Horseshoe Bay, TX 78657-8111; [email protected]; Janey Cantwell changed, your key still fits! [email protected] 830/596-2201. Join the fun and worthwhile 678-494-8898 projects of a local associa­ Vancouver, B.C. Lake Forest/Highland St. Charles, Mo. tion. A complete list of alum­ Debbie Cook Park, Ill. Debbie Osredker nae associations is available [email protected] Beth Black [email protected] at www.kappa.org or by call­ 303-232-6632 309-444-9280 636-477-9553 ing Fraternity Headquarters hoopster [email protected] at 614/228-6515. Leisure World, Calif. St. Joseph, Mo. Alice Wheaton Libertyville/Grayslake, Ill. Tracee Hegarty 760-731-0300 Beth Black [email protected] New Alumnae 309-444-9280 816-232-0227 Pamona Valley, Calif. Associations hoopster [email protected] Susan Bell Grand Island, Neb. • HIGHLAND LAKES­ 562-433-1253 Rockford, Ill. Bev Muffly President LINDA EICHNER [email protected] Amy Heidenreich 402-339-7341 SCHNEIDER, LSU, 605 CR, 815-399-3196 [email protected] 120B Marble Falls, TX San Diego, Calif. [email protected] Carol Sobek Coastal Carolina, N.C. 78654,830/693-1471, 858-492-9527 Evansville, Ind. Annie Anthony [email protected] [email protected] Becky Kasha 910-799-9321 • BENTON CITY and [email protected] [email protected] FAYETTEVILLE ALUMNAE Aspen/GlenwoodSprings/ 812-477-9497 ASSOCIATIONS have merged Fargo, N.D. Vail, Colo. to become NORTHWEST Hammond, Ind. Shirley Jorden Debbie Cook ARKANSAS - President Marla Demay 830-596-2201 [email protected] KARYN KoscHEL, Arkansas, [email protected] [email protected] 303-232-6632 2075 N. Kantz Ln., 219-924-9284 Grand Junction, Fruita, Spartanburg/ Fayetteville, AR 72703, Clifton, Colo. Cedar Rapids, Iowa Greenville, S.C. 501/521-5531, Debbie Cook Bev Muffly Shelly Bishop [email protected] [email protected] 402-339-7341 [email protected] 303-232-6632 [email protected] 864-268-4282

THE KEY • Spring 2001 • 5 Foundation President Reappointed The Fraternity Council has reappointed PATSY BREDWICK LEVANG, North Dakota State, as President of the Kappa Kappa Gamma Foundation for another two-year term. Patsy has served the Foundation as President since June 1997. She has previously served the Foundation as Chairman of Financial Assistance and served the Fraternity as Chairman of Pledge Programs, Province Director of Chapters, Coordinator of Chapter Development and Graduate Counselor. (Read Patsy's message on Page 31.)

Two New Task Forces Province Officers from across the continent met at Fraternity Headquarters for a fall training seminar. Training for newly The New Member Program Task Force led by CATHY elected Province Officers will take place during the annual EARLY, Villanova, Assistant to the Director of Chapters, Associate Council Seminar in Columbus, Ohio, June 21-23. will review and evaluate the New Member Program. Recommendations will be made to Fraternity Council in Chairman of Philanthropy June. Comments may be sent to Cathy via e-mail: earley­ The Fraternity Council has established a Chairman [email protected] or to Fraternity Headquarters. of Philanthropy position to work with alumnae associa­ The Technology Task Force led by JANE YoUNG tions and chapters to develop appropriate philanthropy BARRETT, Oklahoma, will study the flow of information programs and encourage member participation. CAROL within the Fraternity and recommend changes to LASH ARMSTRONG, Miami (Ohio), the newly appointed improve efficiency. Comments may be sent to Jane via chairman, will encourage support of the Kappa Kappa e-mail: [email protected] or to Fraternity Headquarters. Gamma Foundation and promote the availability of Foundation scholarships.

Identity Study Focus Kappa Kappa Gamma distinctive, and the interest and opinions of the Groups Completed recommend ways to articulate those Fraternity's diverse membership. The factors in a visually concise and con­ Fraternity thanks all those who took During the winter, the Fraternity sistent manner. the time to share their thoughts and engaged in focus groups with mem­ Associations and chapters were opinions during this process. bers from 30 alumnae associations selected on their ability to represent and 18 collegiate chapters. These interviews were conducted by con­ sultants from Luxon • Carra, an international consulting firm hired to implement Kappa Kappa Gamma's comprehensive identity study. Consultants have also interviewed parents of collegiate members, leading university administrators, Greek advisers, Foundation donors and Fraternity and Foundation officers and chairmen. The firm has also ana­ lyzed the Fraternity's strategic plans, communication materials and Fraternity and Foundation docu­ ments. Upon completion of the study, Members of the Dallas Alumnae Association took part in the Dallas/ Ft. Worth area they will present to the Fraternity and focus group conducted in December 2000. Pictured are Sandy Heaberlin Saalfied, Foundation the factors that make Tulane; Kathy Winniford Jackson, Southern Methodist, Lynn Witte Hamilton, Baylor, and Elaine Edwards Nelson, Baylor.

6 • THE KEY • pring 200 1 2002 Alumnae Achievement Awards Do You Know an Outstanding Candidate?

Kappa Kappa Gamma honors outstanding alumnae To be considered, the following nomination form by recognizing excellence in volunteer and professional must be postmarked by May 15,2001. A one-page letter pursuits, a tradition established in 1946. Your nominee enumerating the manner in which the nominee has ful­ must be active in her field with involvement on a filled the criteria for the Alumnae Achievement Award national or international level. Many alumnae achieve must accompany nominations. News clips, magazine local acclaim, but this award requires more than region­ articles and color photographs are encouraged. Send al recognition. Recipients will be honored at the General completed form and supportive materials to: Convention in June, 2002. PEGGY HANNA HELLWIG, Tennessee, Fraternity Vice President, 205 Stable Rd., Carrboro, NC 27510. ()--,

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T HE KEY • Spring 2001 • 7 8 • THE Kfy • Spring 2001 A Mother's Plea

t a fraternity party last year, my daughter made the mis­ Ways to Reduce Your Risk A take of drinking from an Educate yourself and others about the dangers of alcohol and drug use. open cup that was distributed from Although "date rape" drugs are in the spotlight - alcohol is still the behind a bar. Although her father most common "rape drug." and I do not condone underage drinking and have had strict rules 1. Be alert! Rohypnol is a dime­ If you suspect that you or a friend on the subject, we are not na"ive sized white pill usually carried in has been drugged or sexually assaulted: about the fact that underage zip-lock bags or in foil-backed bub­ drinking does occur in college. 1. Get to a safe place and call a ble packs. It quickly dissolves in liq­ Regardless, we have had many dis­ rape crisis center. The national sex­ uids and is odorless and tasteless; cussions about limits and safety ual assault hotline in the United older pills available via the black issues and felt our daughter was States is 800/656-HOPE. Your call market are still colorless. street smart. will be forwarded to the nearest GHB (gamrna-hydroxybutyrate) rape crisis center where you can What has happened to our is available in a laundry-flake pow­ receive information and support. daughter is a parent's worst night­ der or a dear or syrupy liquid. It is In Canada, contact the Ottawa mare - one we can't wake from. most often carried socially in small Rape Crisis Centre at 613/562-2333 We are virtually certain that my containers similar to hotel shampoo or http://orcc.net; or contact the daughter's drink was laced with samples or eyedropper bottles. Vancouver Rape Relief and rohypnol (or "roofies"), the date Drinks containing GHB might have Women's Shelter at 604/82-8212 or rape drug of choice on campuses. an unpleasant plastic, salty taste or http:/ /www.rapereliefshelter. bc.ca. Within minutes of drinking from even a mild odor. that cup, she felt sick and left her 2. Save a portion of any bever­ group of friends to go to the rest­ 2. Plan ahead. Use the buddy age you were given and the con­ room. It was there that she blacked system and make sure you and tainer, if possible. out. Whoever spiked her drink your friends are watching each 3. Do not change anything must have watched carefully as she other for any unexplained behavior about your clothing or the setting left the main party, and pounced changes. When alcohol is being where the assault happened. consumed, be alert for anyone on her when she was defenseless 4. Avoid going to the bathroom appearing more inebriated than and isolated. or cleaning any portion of your her consumption would explain. She was taken to a back room, body. stripped and raped. We don't know Use a code word to indicate that you or a friend needs help. 5. Go immediately to an emer­ how many were involved or for gency medical facility where staff is 3. Avoid being the only woman how long this occurred. The visual­ certified to perform a sexual assault at a party or where men greatly ization that runs through our exam, treat injuries, provide pre­ outnumber women. Do not allow heads sickens us and is more than ventive treatment for infections and yourself or a friend to be the last we can bear. collect forensic evidence in case you woman at a party, especially when All we know for certain is that decide to prosecute. Note: Sedating alcohol has been consumed. her friends eventually began to drugs clear the system quickly, so a worry and started looking for her. 4. Do not leave beverages unat­ victim may need assistance from They found her unconscious. tended even for a brief time. trusted friends to get the treatment Unfortunately, they didn't seek 5. At parties, do not accept open­ she needs while she is still recover­ medical attention for her. By the container drinks from anyone. ing from the effects of the drugs. time she regained her full senses, 6. Never leave a bar, party or too much time had elapsed for the other gathering with someone you - Side bar provided by DEANA police to investigate. Denial set in. do not know well - even if that MATTINGLY BLACKBURN, Baylor, a It took two weeks for her to even person appears to be a friend of admit that something bad had hap­ counselor and crime victims' advo­ someone you know. pened. Only then did she visit the cate for victims of sexual assault and campus health center. A doctor 7. Be alert for any of the follow­ family violence. For more informa­ verified that she had been violated. ing sedating drug symptoms in tion contact the Hill Country Crisis yourself or a friend: dizziness, con­ Not only had she been raped, Council, P.O. Box 291817, Kerrville, fusion, nausea, weakness or a gen­ but our daughter also had been TX 78029-1817; 830/257-7088; eral feeling of disorientation. Even robbed of her virginity. She had fax: 830/257-7097. if someone appears to only be drunk, she may still be at risk.

THE K EY • Spring 2001 • 9 A Mother's Plea

Kappa Wants You to Keep Safe decided to abstain from sex until she was ready and in a committed relationship. Instead, she has had to Believing that per- terminology and true- themselves and their undergo testing for sexually trans­ sonal safety is a vital to-life scenarios. The sisters safe, during col- mitted diseases. I can't begin to tell issue, and in an effort manual was re- lege and beyond. you how we agonized waiting for to help women make designed to make it the HIV results, which have been educated decisions, the more user-friendly negative so far, thank God. Council of Kappa and help the collegiate Kappa Gamma facilitator feel com- On top of the emotional trauma, Fraternity has adopted fortable with the this rape has also left her with HPV Keep Safe as a program material. (genital warts) which, if left untreated, can cause cervical cancer of personal safety and The revised pro- and pregnancy complications later. security for women. gram looks at the My daughter has had to endure issues of rape preven- An important part painful medical procedures to deal tion and awareness, of the Fraternity's New with this problem, a process that date rape drugs, myths Rape4....,_,. AwattMu _____ and PrewfrtJon Member Program, may go on for years. about rape, the role Keep Safe heightens Not wanting to admit what hap­ awareness about cam- alcohol plays and valuable information As part of the Keep pened to her, she didn't tell us until pus safety and stranger/ she returned home in May. By that date/ acquaintance about how to help a Safe program, each time, other consequences had set in. rape. The program is friend. In addition to New Member receives Her decision to handle this on her designed for pre- the Keep Safe program, a personal safety own, to seek no counseling, caused sentation to all new Kappa Kappa Gamma brochure and an such anxiety that she failed all of members shortly after Fraternity encourages emergency informa- her classes and was denied admis­ pledging Kappa Kappa chapters to utilize the tion card with crucial sion for the following term. Gamma. resources in their numbers to call for community and college help or support. Keep Most of you can't imagine what The above position campuses. Bringing in Safe is not restricted this senseless, violent attack has statement, developed a rape crisis counselor, for chapters only - done to our family - the anger, by the Fraternity law enforcement offi- this valuable program rage and fear is unreal. The ques­ Council in 1989, is cer or self-defense is also applicable for tions "Why did this happen?" and still relevant today. trainer are just a few alumnae. Call "What kind of person does this?" go However, recognizing of the recommenda- 614/228-6515 to unanswered. Although we have all the ever-changing tions. The Fraternity request your copy of been in counseling, we are hurt to needs of our colle- Council hopes that Keep Safe. the core of our souls. During the gians, the Fraternity's each new member of summer, our daughter finally Education Committee Kappa Kappa Gamma reported the assault to the college revised this program - By MARLA WILLIAMS, will be equipped with dean and filed a police report, even to include current Director of Education the tools and proper though nothing can be done at this statistics, updated and Training information to keep point to prosecute. Mothers - please talk to your daughters again and again. Remind The Ft. Lauderdale (Fla.) Alumnae them of ways to stay safe. My Association joined daughter thought she was cautious Delta Kappa and that "it would never happen to Chapter, Miami, for a her." The consequences of one night safety presentation of partying may stay with your by Estelle Taylor Abrams, Florida, a child forever. I also beg yo u to talk detective with the to your sons to make absolutely Ft. Lauderdale sure they know that th is is no joke Police Department. or fra ternity prank. Ask them what Kappa's Keep Safe they would do if they suspected manual has other program ideas and something like this was occurring safety tips.

10 • THE KEY • pring 200 I A Mother's Plea on their campus. Would they know how to help a woman heal and does not want people to stare at her or pity her. friend who showed symptoms of being drugged? I strongly encourage anyone who has endured a similar A young woman's life has been devastated by a cruel tragedy to notify campus and community police. The act that should have been prevented. Perhaps others at research I have done indicates that campus rape crisis that party were aware of what was happening- did centers see numerous cases like this, but very few of they try to stop it? these incidents are reported to police. If I can prevent We often wonder if the young man (or men) have this from happening to someone else's child, and if I can given any thought to what they have done. Do they stimulate dialog about respecting others, then the pur­ value and respect the preciousness of another human pose of this message will be fulfilled. Please share this being? Do they have any compassion or integrity? information with everyone you know. D---w I am not including my name or my daughter's name - For more information on this subject, visit out of respect and concern for her. She needs time to www.kappa.org. and click on The Key.

Dying for a Good Time - By LILA ISBELL, Montana, KKr Interim Executive Director

o you know what the follow­ I hope to shed some light on this same feelings of intoxication as alco­ ing words have in common? tragic trend in drug use. hol but it is calorie-free and does not D Special K, M&M, Kit Kat, One major concern is the wide­ cause a hangover. Adam, X, Georgia Home Boy, Roach. spread use among high school youth, Another drug of concern is Maybe you thought of brands of college students and young adults Progesterex. Rumors say that this cereal or candy, names of rock stars who frequent nightclubs and raves white pill (supposedly used by vet­ and even an insect. In actuality, these and are lured by the availability and erinarians to sedate horses), when are street names for "club drugs" intoxicating effects of these drugs. used with Rohypnol, could leave a used by teens and young adults at Rohypnol and GHB, in particular, woman infertile. However, the U.S. parties, nightclubs, bars and raves can cause blackouts and amnesia, Food and Drug Administration, (all-night parties held in remote placing individuals, particularly American Veterinary Medicine locations). women, at risk of sexual assault. Association and the University of Young people are using club Ecstasy or X is another popular Pennsylvania Veterinary School drugs to enhance social interactions club drug. A stimulant known for could find no evidence of such a and experience increased energy and causing euphoria, enhanced mental drug, making this story an urban sexual arousal. These drugs are or emotional clarity, anxiety and legend. attractive due to their cheap and paranoia - Ecstasy comes in a - For more information, visit intoxicating highs. Users don't realize tablet, capsule or powder and is usu­ www.kappa.org and click on The Key. that club drugs can lead to harmful ally consumed orally. An Ecstasy reactions and death, especially when high can last from six to 24 hours Sources used in this article: combined with alcohol. with the average "trip" lasting about Kelly M. Smith, PharmD, "From At a recent professional confer­ three to four hours. Raves to Rape: Pick Your Poison" ence for Greek affairs personnel and Reactions to Ecstasy include loss AFA/NIC 11/00 sorority/fraternity representatives, I of appetite, nausea, increased heart www. tcada.state. tx. us/research/fac attended an eye-opening session rate and blood pressure, teeth ts/clubdrug.html, "Club Drugs: Just about club drugs. An article alone clenching and convulsions. With the Facts" cannot convey the astonishing array physical exertion, users are at risk of www.nida.nih.gov/Infofax/ club­ of these drugs with names such as heat exhaustion, dehydration and drugs.html, "Club Drugs" even death. It is common to see methylenedioxymethamphetamine http:/I 165. 78.61/ClubAlert/Clubd Ecstasy users with water bottles and (MDMA, Ecstasy, X or M&M), rugalert.html, "Club Drugs­ sucking on pacifiers and lollypops to Gamma-hydroxybutyrate (GHB or Community Drug Alert Bulletin" Georgia Home Boy), Flunitrazepam relieve dehydration and teeth clench­ http:/I urbanlegends.about.com/ sc (Rohypnol, Roofies or Roach) and ing. Ecstasy is a preferred drug ience/urbanlegends "Progesterex" Ketamine (Special K or Kit Kat), but among women because it causes the

THE K EY • Spring 2001 • 11 In Grief: PRESS ON Tips for helping yourself and others to survive the loss of a loved one

- By DEBORAH PETERSON MONCRIEF, Mississippi

DEBORAH PETERSON MONCRIEF, ACSW, LMSW-ACP, Mourning Is a Gift LMFT, is an advanced clinical practitioner and licensed Once shock and denial pass, you may believe that marriage and family therapist with the Houston Center your sadness and grief is abnormal because it is so for Christian Counseling. With more than 15 years of intense. Acknowledging your loss is the first part of the counseling experience, Deborah has co-authored a book healing process. Some losses are so personal that others on grief and mourning. Deborah can be reached at may not readily acknowledge them. However, any loss 281/277-8811. that causes a painful reaction is worthy of notice. Let the gift of mourning be your helper. n the beginning stage of grief, the events of the day seem like a blur. However, the impact of the I emotions may remain quite vivid. The emptiness and realization of the loss can be overwhelming. Your associates and loved ones will want you to get back to normal. But you may not know what "normal" is any­ more. You may think: "It always happens to someone else." "I am not ready," "I didn't have the chance to say goodbye," or "It happened so fast." Loss affects your inner life (emotionally and spiri­ tually) and your outer life (your identity, roles and activities) . A natural response to sadness or loss is to grieve; just as with a broken bone, the body goes into shock and begins a natural healing process. If not attended to, the bone may grow back crooked or may not heal properly, or the bone may even cause other physical problems, such as a limp or aches when the weather changes. In a similar fashion, people have a natural response of denial or shock after a tragedy to the soul (one's mind, will and emotions). After any loss, it is natural to experience grief. But it is through the mourning process that you begin to heal. Your heart may feel as if it has been torn to shreds. Your life may feel as though it is falling apart. This is part of the natural course of grief. You may wonder, "What will happen to me now?" or "How will I sur­ vive this?" But I have learned through my experiences and through counseling others, that spiritual faith can carry you through. Allowing others into your life to share your grief also helps ease the pain. Deborah Peterson Moncrief, Mississippi, ACSW, LMSW-ACP, LMFT, and Carolyn Rowe , LSW, are authors of the book, Press On .. . From Mourning to Joy.

12 • THE K EY · pring 200 1 In Grief: PRESS ON

In addition to simply allowing yourself to express What Is the Difference Between emotion, through crying or writing in a journal for Grief and Mourning? example, some other ways to mourn include visiting the gravesite, writing a poem, sorting through pictures Grief helps you recognize the meaning of the loss. and clothes, making a quilt from your loved one's Grief is the state that you are in when you experience clothing, contacting old friends, making a scrapbook, loss. It is a natural, inward look. using a recipe of the loved one, placing a cross in the Mourning releases the internal experience of grief ground where the accident took place, and volunteering and expresses it outside of you. In the grief workbook, to help others. Press On ... From Mourning to Joy, mourning is Do not forget the importance of releasing chemi­ defined as: cals and toxins from your body through crying. Tears • The release of grief that are not released create exhaustion. By releasing ·A natural God-given process of restoration tears, you are also facing grief and signaling to others ·A natural reaction to loss/trauma that the grief is still present. ·Expected (Everyone will experience it.) There is no right way to mourn; there is only your way. By knowing what your way is, and by exploring • A look inward and outward (for the integration spirituality and enhancing the mourning process with of your loss into your life) increased awareness and tools, your mourning can be ·A process (not a "state") even more effective. • A process unique to the individual

Nobody's Child Anymore Grieving, Caring and Comforting When Parents Die

Losing a parent is a rite of pas­ new meaning beyond grief. sage we all go through but rarely Barbara titles her healing thoughts discuss. Nobody's Child Anymore, as "A Step Forward." Here are a few written by BARBARA LEMMON of her suggestions. BARTOCCI , Colorado, explores what it's like to lose one's parents­ • Don't decide in advance what leaving an adult orphaned in the you "should" feel. world. Children often must endure • If you feel like a lost and lonely the painful final stages of a par­ child, don't be ashamed to seek About the Author ent's life, the finality of their death comfort. BARBARA LEMMON BARTOCCI, and their own grief while offering • Just knowing your feelings are Colorado, is an award-winning support for a surviving parent. normal may lighten the fog a little. author and motivational speaker. A The author helps adults realize • Laughter is permissible in freelance writer for Women's Day, they are not alone, that there is mourning, just as expressions of Family Circle, McCall's, Good nothing wrong with them if they joy for a life fully lived are valid Housekeeping and Reader's Digest, experience prolonged grief for a at a funeral. Laughter offers tem­ among others, Barbara has written parent. She delicately shows the porary anesthesia from the terri­ three previous books - Midlife unspoken and often underestimat­ ble pain of grief. Be grateful for Awakenings, Unexpected Answers ed effect of losing a parent. the gift. and My Angry Son. Her essays have Barbara explores the four stages also been included in several vol­ of losing a parent by using the loss • Relationships don't cease when umes of the Chicken Soup for the of her parents as a backdrop. It is a someone dies; they merely Soul series. Barbara can be reached book of true stories, her own and become different. via e-mail at [email protected]. that of friends. Each vignette cap­ • I discovered, as you will too, that Nobody's Child Any more can be tures an important moment then in a deeper sense, our parents ordered through SorinBooks.com offers a practical suggestion on don't leave us - they become a or most book stores. how to cope with loss and find part of us.

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ways to Help a Friend • A condition of moral and spiritual crisis • A gift to help you get through your pain When a friend is hurting, use tact, Mourning is not: timing and sensitivity in all that you do. • A lack of faith Below are some "dos and don'ts" • Abnormal depression that may help. ·Permanent

Do: "Mourning allows you to take • Invite disclosure. Say, "If you ever want to talk about this loss, I'm here." When you "listen" to her tears, she control of your grief, rather than will leave a little less sad because you have helped her release more of the grief. letting your grief control you." • Keep in touch. Don't give up - remain available. Leave thoughtful messages on her answering machine. Remember your friend on holidays and anniversaries. Do You Have a Choice? It is never too late to send kind words via e-mail, fax or Grief is an inevitable human response to loss in greeting cards. Acknowledge the loss/grief and include the same way that pain is a response to a physical a special memory of the person who was lost. injury. However, I firmly believe that with spiritual • Listen with your heart. Show empathy by truly trying assistance and the support of loved ones, your grief to understand what the loss has meant. Be a safe per­ can be less painful and more hopeful. son to talk to and allow her to tell her story as many We will all have grief; that is not a choice. But times as needed. Accept her silence and tears. going through the mourning process is a choice. The reason for allowing yourself to go through the • Do what needs to be done. Answer the phone; mourning process is for growth and to make your help make difficult phone calls; care for children; future more meaningful. Mourning allows you to prepare meals and freeze for later; restock tissues; take control of your grief, rather than letting your keep a list of cards, flowers, food delivered; offer grief control you. companionship -just your presence can help. • Be yourself. Speak in a sensitive tone - not too Why Is Mourning Necessary? chipper or too reverential. Mourning is responsible for much of our growth - • Offer alternatives. In time, gently draw your friend spiritually and emotionally. People move toward heal­ into quiet outside activities. Rather than saying, ing not by grief, but through mourning. People who "You need to get out," try saying, "Would you meet fight the mourning process and try to cover up their me for breakfast?" Offer to accompany her to her pain suffer so much longer than those who embrace first grief support group. the mourning process. Precious energy that is needed to heal is often used to "put on" for others rather than Don't: allowing a natural process to take place. • When in doubt, don't say anything. Say as little as Mourning allows you to make the necessary changes possible on early visits. needed to integrate the loss into your new reality. • Never say things like: "I know how you feel." "Well, Mourning provides a unity of your inner and outer at least you have other children." "You can remarry." experiences. The process of mourning allows you to be • Avoid cliches: "At least they did not suffer." "They honest and truthful with yo urself and others. lived a long time." "You have the rest of your life in front of you." Why Does Mourning Seem • Don't try to stop her from crying. So Difficult? • Don't tell her what she needs to do. Let her mourn Grief is the difficult part. Mourning is the healing at her own pace. release of grief. By trying not to mourn, yo ur grief ·Don't enable her by doing too much for too long. becomes more difficult. It is through the mourning - For additional "Dos and Don'ts" and other grief process that you take control of yo ur grief. Even resources, visit www.kappa.org and click on The Key. though you may feel "out of control," there is no

14 · T HE KEY • pring 200 1 In Grief: PRESS ON emotion so great that you cannot ':"\nd when you die, you don't even survive it. have to get the chicken pox." People often find another's mourning uncomfortable. Often These are just a few of the heart­ they will try to make you forget your felt words spoken by 5-year-old loss or talk about everything else but 1HISBOOK Jack Simon after his sister, Libby, your loss. Mourning is a period died of a rare birth disorder. Libby IS FOR aLL when you need to express your loss. wasn't supposed to live past 6 This conflict can be discouraging, KIDS BUT months but she was 31/2 years old making yo ur mourning even more when she died. esrec1aux difficult. However, I have found that Jack and Libby's mother, ANNETIE the discomfort often leads individu­ illY SISTeR DAUPHIN SIMON, Cincinnati, spoke als to seek God in their grief, which llBBY. often with Jack who had many can bring newfound joy. thoughts and questions about IlBBYDieD. You Can Find Joy Libby's death. Annette helped him grieve by listening and writing down Through Mourning his words, line by line. "Jack's ques­ It is through the mourning tions were too important to let them R 1 J a 1 " ~ 1 m o n . a •~ ,. s process that you will re-establish go by;' Annette says. "Maybe they yourself. From the state of grief would help others heal - maybe to working out your grief through they would teach us about kids began by getting his permission to mourning, you develop a new and grief." publish his words. He is grateful that outlook. You will be able to look A few years after Libby died, his mom wrote it all down. Annette outward again, rather than just Annette, an art director for an adver­ illustrated the book with Jack at her inward at the hurt. tising agency in Austin, Texas, reread side to approve each colorful, bold Jack's words and decided they need­ page featuring questions like, "Do ed to be published. She ran them by angels ever go to sleep?" And, there's "You may believe several hospice experts who urged an uplifting passage directed to her on. Now the book, This Book Is Libby: "Wow. Now you know what that your feelings for All Kids, But Especially My Sister God looks like:' A tearjerker follows Libby. Libby Died (Idea University it. "Hey, Libby, did you get the bal­ are abnormal Press, $17.95,32 pgs.), has the loons we flew up for your birthday?" endorsement of many grief experts Annette can be reached at because they are and is helping in hospices and heal­ 512/427-4544 or via e-mail at . " ing groups across the continent. [email protected]. For so tntense. Annette wanted Jack to be a big more information on the book, call part of the publishing process so she toll-free 877/598-2424 or visit www.ideauniversitypress.com. After a loss, your whole world has been shaken - your attachments have been rearranged. New footing must be found through mourning. Jack Simon While you are in mourning, I believe and Annette Dauphin you can take refuge in the shadow of Simon, God 's wings until the disaster has Cincinnati, passed (as described in Psalm 17:8) . hope that Although this idea can be difficult to their book embrace at first, the things that helps others who are bring the greatest pain in life may grieving. also bring some of the greatest joy. You never know what new experi­ ences or relationships will result from your mourning.

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How Do You Begin to Mourn? you joy. Healing does come after the expression of Identify your loss or losses. Often you will find pain. There are no shortcuts, but there are ways out­ one major loss has created a ripple effect of many lined in the workbook, Press On ... From Mourning to other losses. Make a conscious decision to mourn Joy, to get yo u through this process, so that you do not yo ur losses. The old myth that time will heal is not linger in pain. If any area is exaggerated or concerns true. It is what yo u do with that time that determines you (feeling hopeless or suicidal, serious sleep or eat­ the healing that you experience. ing problems, etc.), consult a licensed professional. Once you decide to take an active part in mourn­ Pressing on thro ugh the mourning process is done ing yo ur grief, use the fo llowing PRESS ON acronym in small steps keeping the outcome of healing in mind. to help yo u through the process. When you or someone you love experiences grief, just try to remember that joy and healing are possible Physical considerations: when you open up to others and allow mourning to Take care of yourself- get a physical. Grief can cre­ take place. o---,.. ate physical problems such as headaches, digestive prob­ lems, and changes in eating and sleeping patterns, to name a few. Recognize that when yo u are in the initial "There is no right way to mourn; depths of grief, you are in crisis. Yo ur body goes into a "fight or flight" response. Staying in this mode can be there is only your way." dangerous to your health. Grief is a form of energy that needs to be released. Recognize grief patterns: Recognize patterns in how yo u have grieved and Bereavement Gift Ideas mourned in the past. How you express grief is often learned by watching role models- those who have • Journal notebook made an impression on your life. They may be people • Live plants from scriptures, history or individuals yo u have known personally. Recognizing unproductive patterns and • Pictures of the loved one establishing newer productive patterns will help you • Contributions to a special charity fin d joy again. • Comforting music or books Emotional considerations: Recognize the complex emotions that are present. • Games or special items for children Try to identify the most pressing emotions and work • Restaurant gift certificate through each one individually. • Long-distance calling card Support: Get support. If your family and friends are not • Gift certificate for pampering available, find a local grief support group or co unselor. herself Spiritual considerations: • Offer to have visiting relatives stay in Seek comfort from a higher power- regardless your home of your religious background or how often you have practiced. • Plant a memorial tree Old reality: Validate your old reality and the value it had to you. Press On ... New reality: Recognize your new reality and try to embrace the From Mourning to Joy opportunity for new blessings not seen before. Written by DEBORAH PETERSON MONCRIEF, Those who work through their grief are able to Mississippi, ACSW, LMSW-ACP, LMFT, and Carolyn move forward more securely than those who do not. Rowe, LSW, Press On ... From Mourning to Joy is a Your loss is only a part of who you are. Remember, workbook designed to help grieving individuals you.r goal is to.li~e again. A very real part of living is through the mourning process. To order, send $18.50 havmg appreciation for the simple things that bring to Deborah Moncrief, 9818 Penton Drive, Sugar Land, TX 77478.

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nr.n.,IVI"-1" HEENEHAN, Adelphi, and HooVER, Bowling Green

hen life's end is inevitably near, many of us would prefer to ''go gentle into that good night" and would wish the same for our loved ones. It is not, however, something we can guarantee. Lacking that guarantee, we search for ways to make final weeks and days easier on patients and families.

J I I Hospice care is a compassionate method of caring for terminally ill

eople an Ptheir families. KATHY MESSMORE MEYER, Akron, is a certified hospice nurse with the Hospice of Visiting Nurse Service in Akron, Ohio,

and PATRICIA BURKLEY WAICKMAN, Akron, is the executive director. They hbt only find their work rewarding but they also have experienced the

pe~sona l-s u.pport of hospice care for their own families.

18 • THE KEY • Spring 200 I Hospice: Not a Place, but a Caring Concept

Communication Is Key "But hospice works to ease the discomforts and dis­ While Pat has counseled numerous families on the tractions which interfere with meaningful living, advantages of hospice, she knows first-hand the often many weeks and months before the final days." importance of this specialized care because her father Patients are more comfortable and have more con­ had recently been cared for at her hospice care facility; trol over their situation, which can improve their he died while this article was being written. A helpful quality of life. Kathy has even seen patients feel well lesson Pat and her family have learned is that enough while under hospice care to go on a family increased communication is crucial when a loved one vacation or participate in activities they enjoy dur­ enters hospice, especially when some family members ing their final months and weeks. live out of town. To keep communication lines open, Patients and caregivers are often amazed and out-of-town relatives checked in with a phone call reassured by the amount of help and support hos­ every day to find out how their father was doing and pice provides. Even the financial benefits can be sig­ to feel more connected. nificant since hospice patients can receive coverage The most important advice Pat offers has little to for comfort-oriented medications and equipment do with hospice and everything to do with planning. such as hospital beds, wheelchairs and oxygen sup­ "Start discussions now," encourages Pat. While she plies. When describing why she likes hospice nurs­ acknowledges that issues relating to death are difficult ing, Kathy explains, "It is rewarding to work for a to bring up, Pat reminds people that putting a loved program that has so many gifts to offer and can one's wishes in writing and having detailed conversa­ accomplish a great deal in a short amount of time." tions before someone becomes ill can make difficult In general, we don't like to face the inevitable. times less stressful. The process of dying, however, is a phase of living Communication continues to play an important and, like other phases of life, thought and planning role for the individual entering hospice care. "Many can ease the process. While we would certainly people see death in only a negative light but it can choose a cure, there comes a time when a life-limit­ also be a meaningful time of reconciliation and tran­ ing illness no longer responds to cure-oriented sition," Pat explains. "Knowing you're going to die can treatments. Hospice care neither prolongs life nor help you explore and better understand the meaning of life and helps you say things to people you might not otherwise take the time to say."

"People are more willing to talk about drugs and safe sex with their children than to discuss end-of-life care with their terminally-ill parents."

Overcoming Our Fear Kathy, who works the night shift (midnight to 8 a.m.), agrees that families should look into hospice as early as possible. "When people enter hospice care earlier in their disease, they can take advantage of the valuable services hospice has to offer when they are most helpful," she explains. "But entering hospice Kathy Messmore Meyer, Akron, is a certified hospice nurse means that they are accepting the fact that they are with the Hospice of Visiting Nurse Service of Akron, Ohio , dying and sometimes patients and their families are and Patricia Burkley Waickman, Akron, is the executive not ready to admit that." director. Kathy and Pat became friends while they were active members of Lambda Chapter and now enjoy working "There is a misconception that hospice is only together to help others through hospice. For more informa­ needed when you are on your deathbed," says Kathy. tion, call 800/ 335-1455.

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hastens death. Accepting death Noteworthy other means, including millions as a natural part of life, hospice Facts in charitable donations. The care enables individuals to live Medicare Hospice Benefit pro- their final days as comfortably • Hospices served at least 700,000 vides a full scope of non-curative as possible, with dignity, at home U.S. patients in 1999. medical and support services for or in a home-like setting. the terminally ill. • Nearly 2.4 million Americans The primary criteria for eligi- died that year -less than 50 Facing the Facts bility are that the patient's doctor percent in a hospital, 25 percent "Too many Americans die and the hospice doctor certify in a nursing home, 25 percent in alone," says the National Hospice that the patient is terminally ill, their own home or elsewhere. Organization. "Most people do with a life expectancy of six not want to die by themselves in • About 90 percent of hospice care months or less, if the disease sterile, impersonal surroundings, is provided in the patient's home. runs its normal course, and the hooked up to machines and cut patient signs a statement choos- • The average length of enrollment off from family and friends. ing hospice care instead of stan- in hospice care was 48 days; Instead, they prefer to spend dard Medicare benefits. A hos- median length of service was 29 their last days at home ... alert pice patient may continue to days, down from the previous and free of pain ... among the receive hospice support after the year. people they love. Hospice care initial six-month period if the makes this possible." • Twenty-eight percent of physician continues to certify a The organization found Medicare costs go toward care limited life expectancy. Hospice through a survey that people are in the last year of life. Hospice care may be delivered in hospi- more willing to talk about drugs patients incurred· $2,737 less per tals, nursing homes, other long- and safe sex with their children person in costs than those not on term care facilities, hospice facili- than to discuss end-of-life care the Medicare Hospice Benefit. ties and private homes. with their terminally-ill parents. The hospice staff is available Only 24 percent of Americans 24 hours a day, seven days a put into writing how they wish week. The team consists of a to be cared for at the end of life; that families invite a hospice physician, nurse, home health 19 percent have not thought professional to their homes to aide, social worker, chaplain or about the subject at all, while 16 discuss their needs so when the clergy member and other health percent have thought about it time is right for hospice care, care professionals as needed. In but not told anyone their wishes. everyone is ready. addition, more than 100,000 vol- Hospice also offers respite unteers contributed more than "Hospice care neither to family members who can be five million hours of service to overwhelmed by caregiving U.S. hospice programs. Many are prolongs life nor efforts. Addressing not just the family and friends of patients patients' physical problems but who had received hospice care. hastens death." their psychological and spiritual Professionals and volunteers needs as well, hospice care also make regular visits to assess the helps family members during patient and ... Ninety percent of adults and after the dying process. The • manage the patient's pain believe it is the family's responsi- patient or family can terminate and symptoms bility to care for the dying and hospice care at any time, for • assist the patient with the an overwhelming majority would any reason. emotional and psychological prefer to be cared for at home aspects of dying and would be interested in hos- How Does Hospice pice care. They fear being a burden • provide needed medication, supplies and equipment to family, fear pain and losing Care Work? control of their lives. Knowledge In the U.S., Medicare is the • coach the family on patient and understanding of hospice single greatest source of coverage, care care can help families deal with since most terminally ill Americans • deliver special services like fears and avoid these perils. Pat are over 65. More than one-third speech and physical therapy and Kathy strongly recommend of hospice patients are covered by when needed

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FOR MORE INFORMATION, CONTACT: • make short-term inpatient care available when necessary In the United States: • provide bereavement care and counseling to family and friends. (Most adults believe it would • National Hospice and Palliative Care Organization take a year or more to adjust to the death of a 1700 Diagonal Road, Suite 300 loved one. However, only 10 percent of adults Alexandria, VA 22314 have ever participated in a bereavement program 703/837-1500 703/525-5762 or grief counseling. www.nhpco.org Families express gratitude and relief for the sup­ • National Hospice Foundation port and care offered by hospices. One woman 800/338-8619 wrote an article entitled "Memoir of a Lucky Man: www.hospiceinfo.org Remembering my father's good life - and good death." Another marveled at how the hospice staff • Hospice Foundation of America (HFA) controlled her husband's pain, keeping him com­ 800/854-3402 fo rtable but not "doped up." A staff member often www.hospicefoundation.org sang his favorite hymn softly at his bedside. In Canada: The word "hospice" was originally used to describe a place of shelter for weary and sick travelers • Canadian Palliative Care Association returning from religious pilgrimages. The modern Suite 131 C, 43 Bruyere Street hospice movement began in the 1960s with a Ottawa, ON KIN 5C8 British physician, Dr. Cicely Saunders. The first 800/668-2785 fax: 613/241 -3986 American hospice was established in 1974 in New www.cpca.net Haven, Conn. There are now more than 3,000 hos­ pices in the United States. Hospice wo rkers beli eve • Castlegar Hospice Society in the philosophy of dignity, compass ion and com­ P.O. Box 200, 1444 Columbia Avenue fort. They understand that people do know what Castlegar, BC VlN 3K3 they want in end-of-life care and should be able 250/365-6880 fax: 250/365-6850 to "go gentle into that good night." o---. www.castlegar.com/hospice

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THE KEY • Spring 200 I • 21 Survivors Meet Kappa sisters who have su rvived serious illnesses, an auto accident and even a political campaign. Plus, meet our very own Survivor TV celebri!J!

A Kappa Never Gives Up A near-fatal heart attack sparks a renewed outlook

- By SANDY SINES ARNOLD, Hillsdale

sit reading my journal, which I vein for the bypasses. With my chest started in December 1998. It tells sewed up and a few bandages that I of all the moments of joy I have would be removed. later, I was eating experienced- my Kappa daughter Jell-0. A nurse visited three times to turning 21, my grandson's first birth­ see how I was healing. Sandy an d her daughter, Suzanne Arnold, day, my 3rd son's wedding, my 2nd I took three months off from Akron, don't take life for granted. son coaching baseball and winning. work, and in February 1999, I started I could go on. rehabilitation. I took advantage of all the sessions to learn more about I almost missed out on these lifestyle choices and heart problems. memories. I had a heart attack on I learned that women have different November 18, 1998. Thinking it was symptoms and heal differently than heartburn or symptoms from my men. Some observers say that women healing broken leg from five weeks are more likely than men to die from earlier, I almost put off seeing my heart disease because women often doctor. After all, I had never been spend more time caring for others sick in my life. Fortunately, my hus­ and not thinking about their own band drove me to my doctor's office health. They may ignore symptoms where an EKG was done. I was then and delay treatment. rushed to the hospital where I insist­ ed it was only heartburn. I asked for "I get scared hoping a Turns and to be sent home. The next thing I knew, I woke up I won't have another hearing that I'd had another heart attack. Triple bypass and open-heart heart attack." surgery saved my life. I felt like I had I wanted to stay healthy so I started been sawed in half. using a treadmill. My children bought My family was there for me me a T.V. so I could walk and watch through it all. "Mom never is sick," my favorite shows to make the time one of them said. I was in the hospi­ go by faster. I never miss a walk and I tal for four days - with tubes and watch my blood pressure and pulse. wires in and out of me. I came home I call the doctor often with questions carrying a pillow and limping with about healing pains compared to seri­ my right leg in a cast. My left leg was Sandy Sines Arnold , Hillsdale, survived ous heart pains. One nurse said if you clipped together where they took a a severe heart attack and triple bypass can breathe deeply with no pain, the open-heart surgery. pains are just healing pains.

22 • T HE K EY • pring 2001 Warning Signs of Heart I get scared hoping I won't have another heart attack. I have to force myself out of the house daily. Home is so Attack in Women safe. Nevertheless, my mom always said, "Life is to be Your body will likely have one or more of these lived and I will live it." Because of my bypasses, I must symptoms: watch the cholesterol count for it can jam up around the bottom of the bypasses. I have always exercised and never • Uncomfortable pressure, fullness, squeezing or pain considered myself overweight; I do not drink or smoke in the center of the chest that lasts more than a few and I no longer eat ice cream. However, I am having fun! minutes, or goes away and comes back. I no longer take life for granted. I have been blessed in • Pain that spreads to the shoulders, neck and arms many ways - Tom, my husband of 34 years; my sister • Chest discomfort with lightheadedness, fainting, and brother; my Kappa daughter, Suzanne, a member at sweating, nausea or shortness of breath the University of Akron; my three grown sons and their Less common warning signs: wives, and my two small grandchildren have all made me • Atypical chest pain, stomach or abdominal pain strong. • Nausea or dizziness (without chest pain) My co-workers were supportive, too. They helped • Shortness of breath and difficulty breathing (without with meals for three weeks during my recovery. I contin­ chest pain) ue to work as a family advocate for Child Focus Inc. • Unexplained anxiety, weakness or fatigue helping disadvantaged people obtain jobs and further their education. A former teacher, I enjoy working with • Palpitations, cold sweat or paleness parents and families. I even volunteer as a clown doing Not all of these signals occur in every attack. tricks and making balloon animals. If I can help one Sometimes they go away and return. If some occur, person to improve her life then I have done something get help fast. If you notice one or more of these signs important. in another person, don't wait- call 911 fast! I never forget to count my blessings, and I continue -From the "Women's Section" of the American adding to my journal. I keep going strong because a Heart Association Web site, http://women.america Kappa never gives up! o--w heart.org.

Cancer Survivor Turned Castaway Survivor castmember turns fame into fortune to help others

-By JULIE KRooN ALVARADO, Arizona State

ONJA CHRJSTOPHER, Whitman, is now famous to view­ ers of a history-making television show that lasted for S13 weeks last summer. The CBS phenomenon, Survivor- Outplay, Outwit, Outlast, captured the attention of millions who watched as 16 people lived on a deserted island under primitive conditions. Sonja calls the production a "clever concept that was brilliantly cast, photographed and edited." Even though she was the first person voted off the island by the other "cast­ aways," and even though much of her privacy has vanished, Sonja would do it again. Sonja is well loved, not only for her gracious exit from the island, but also for the example she sets as a breast can­ cer survivor. In fact, it was after surviving breast cancer and redefining who she was that she was invited to an outdoor A former castmember of the CBS show, Survivor- Outplay, adventure training camp for women. There were 18 breast Outwit, Outlast, Sonja Christopher, Whitman, uses her celebrity status to help others.

THE K EY • Spring 200 1 • 23 cancer survivors from around the United States who joined together for rock climbing, mountain biking, kayaking and orienteering. "Through this [adventure camp] experience," says Sonja, who is in her 60s, "I learned not only that I could still meet physical challenges, but that we elders- we survivors of life- can give hope and inspiration to oth­ ers." It was with this newly inspired attitude, and a bit of self-professed naivete, that Sonja sent in a videotape and application to CBS. Sonja competed with 6,000 other applicants and was later interviewed along with 800 castaway hopefuls. Sonja always enjoys adventure, but she does admit to a few nerves related to the show. Sonja was not especial­ ly worried about the survival aspect, which she expected to conquer - rather she worried about being video­ taped 24 hours a day, and about the possibility of losing her privacy after the show. "I was naive about how the game would be played, and perhaps I ignored the outwit part of the slogan;' Sonja laughingly admits. "I wanted a Swiss Family Robinson experience." Sonja adds that episode number one, where she is voted off the island by the other cast­ members, is a true reflection of who she is - except for the stumble that cost her tribe a few precious seconds in an "immunity challenge." "I had always been good at sports, so that uncharacteristic accident was not one of my higher moments!" says Sonja. Eventually all but two of the castaways were voted off at which point the seven most recently dismissed returned to decide which sur­ vivor would receive $1 million. Although Sonja received a $2,500 consolation prize, she also came away with diminished privacy. Sonja has "unlisted" her phone number to keep on-air radio per­ A breast cancer survivor, Sonja enjoys inspiring and encour­ sonalities from calling, as well as star-struck fans who aging younger generations. want autographs. Sonja has even hired an agent to han­ dle requests for appearances. Despite the interruptions the removal of a benign brain tumor in 1991.) She has to her life, she considers herself wealthy. "I want to use also lent her name to a breast cancer early detection and my 15 minutes of fame to further the causes that are awareness program for low-income women. close to my heart." Her path of helping others has led her to some sur­ The $2,500 prize was donated to the Mt. Diablo prising places. "I never dreamed I'd be meeting the Unitarian-Universalist Church in Walnut Creek, Calif., President of the United States, having lunch with Rosie where she is spearheading a fund to help build a fellow­ O'Donnell, 'co-starring' with Dick Van Dyke and speaking ship hall which she hoped to build with the $1 million on platforms with the likes of Dennis Franz, Katie had she won. Many of her paid appearances will support Couric, Bryant Gumbel, Sam Donaldson and many other this effort. amazing people." Breast Cancer Awareness Month was a Sonja also participates in art and cultural organiza­ highlight for Sonja. Producers of The Rosie O'Donnell tions, utilizing her banjo and musical abilities to minis­ Show told her story to ourhouse.com which then donated ter to others. Sonja was thrilled when the Mt. Diable $50,000 to breast cancer in her name. "The doors that Hospital Foundation honored her in October 2000, with have opened and opportunities to help are the most mar­ the "Heart and Soul" award for courage in overcoming velous thing that has come out of this amazing journey." breast cancer and inspiring others. (Sonja also survived

24 • T H£ K£!' • Spring 200 I The Woman of the House Newly elected Congresswoman survives the campaign trail and beats the odds

-By IDA JANE MEADOWS GALLAGHER, West Virginia, and LOIS CATHERMAN HEENEHAN, Adelphi

((political pedigree, electability and command of Statistics were against her. Shelley's district is regis­ the issues" brought media attention to SHELLEY tered Democratic by a two-to-one margin; it has been 20 MOORE CAPITO, Duke, in her campaign. A years since a Republican was elected from West Virginia; desire to positively influence the lives of others, a charis­ and a woman has never represented the state. She matic personality, knowledge of subject matter and a lot financed her own campaign, running against a multi­ of hard work brought success. Shelley was elected to the millionaire who spent $7 million- five times Shelley's U.S. House of Representatives from West Virginia. expenditures. Her grass-roots campaign brought Shelley Political life is not new to Shelley. Her father, Arch from 30 points down at the end of May to a win that A. Moore, Jr., served three terms as governor of West included Democratic and independent voters. Virginia and six terms in the U.S. House of Family and friends gave strong support to Shelley's Representatives. She found politics exciting and inspira­ campaign, and she did everything possible to be there for tional and as a two-term member of the West Virginia family events. She made a five-hour trip home to see her Legislature, she won the respect of Democratic and daughter, a high school junior, crowned as Homecoming Republican colleagues. queen and listened to her husband recite a play-by-play of their son's football game on the phone when she couldn't attend. Their oldest son, a sophomore at Duke, was her campaign driver during the summer and her parents were active in her campaign. A number of Kappas helped, including SUZANNE MORGAN, West Virginia, as deputy campaign manager and MARY JoNES PAYNE, Rollins, as assistant finance manager. Being a woman in politics is not a disadvantage, Shelley feels. It can be an advantage to stand out in a crowd, and people were receptive to her discussion of issues, recognizing that she had personal experience with issues such as education. Shelley also believes her Kappa experience was valuable. In her formative years, being part of a group built confidence and camaraderie. She also knew how to build team closeness, as exemplified by her saying "our campaign," not "my campaign." Asked for tips on surviving the rigors of campaigning, Shelley says, "You have to let vanity slip by the wayside." She learned to change clothes in the car, changed her usual style of little makeup as fatigue set in and regarded a proper hairdo as next to impossible. Forget about a good diet and sleep. ''A campaign is fast-paced," Shelley says. "You are so scheduled there is no private time. But you get caught up in the energy and realize it is a neces­ sary sacrifice." Supported by friends and family, and believing that women can contribute new ideas and make a difference in the lives of others, Shelley knows that a woman's place Shelley Moore Capito, Duke, is a newly elected member of the U. S. House of Representatives and the first woman from really is in the house- the U.S. House of Representatives. West Virginia to hold this office. o---w

THE K EY • Spring 2001 • 25 two others, as board member of The Center for Women in Promoting the NAACP Legal Defense and Politics and Public Policy serves as Educational Fund, the Horace a catalyst for participation in polit­ Women in Mann Foundation, as well as ical life and as a nonpartisan founding the Massachusetts resource for policy-makers and the Politics Women's Political Caucus. public. It provides policy briefs for Currently vice chairman of the legislators, research studies, "A woman of vision, effective state's Republican Party, Polly has debates and symposia. The Polly activism, generosity of spirit, and been a state and national commit­ Logan Fund will support visiting boundless commitment to public tee member. professorships, scholarships, policy service," are terms used to describe PAULA (POLLY) PETERSON LOGAN, Nebraska. She has also been called "the grande dame of Massachusetts Republican politics," mentor extra­ ordinaire, quintessential role model and inspiration to a whole generation of women now active in politics and public service. In recognition of her contribu­ tions to the cause of women and social justice, the Polly Logan Fund was created in support of the Center for Women in Politics and Public Policy, UMass Boston. Possessed of an indomitable spirit, an infectious laugh and an uncanny ability to bring together opposing sides, Polly - a self­ described liberal -has fought cancer, right-wing politics in her party and the "old-boy" network. A staunch advocate of a cleaner Polly Peterson Logan , Nebraska, (center) is an inspiration and mentor to women environment, education, child­ active in politics and public service. She is pictured with Martha Bernard Welch and former Lt. Governor Don Dwight. care funding and greater assistance for the poor, Polly has challenged gender barriers since her college The political arena is not her training and leadership develop­ years. A staunch Republican who only interest. Polly has also served ment - often for women from married into a family of equally in various ways with the Boston disadvantaged backgrounds and dedicated Democrats, Polly is Ballet, Museum of Fine Arts and under-represented groups. known for her ability to convince the U.S. Constitution Museum and JANE SWIFT, Trinity, Massachusetts opposing sides to work amicably was honored with the New England Lieutenant Governor, says of Polly, together. Award of the Environmental "Over the years, Polly Logan has "I learned early that if you want Protection Agency. Devoted to pro­ been a true friend and confidante something done, you simply vol­ moting economic and political who has always gone out of her unteered to do it. Period," says equality for women, Polly believes way to lend her enthusiastic sup­ Polly. And volunteer she has, in that women can best address the port and valuable advice. I am many areas of public policy. She varied challenges of today's world. among many who owe this mentor has served as a key adviser to a "Women have got to go out and get a tremendous debt of gratitude." past Massachusetts governor, as a elected to office and do something member of the transition team for about all these problems we face." "I Win!" Mara was equally impressed with the outpouring of friendship she received from Kappas who were longtime Cancer survivor continues active friends and even the young women at DELTA TAU volunteerism after a vigorous battle CHAPTER who, even though they didn't know her, attended an event called "Swim with Mike" at which she was honored. These young Kappas watched her receive - By LAURA SHOCK SCHERER, Bowling Green the 2000 President Gerald and Betty Ford "People Helping People" award. This annual award is presented olunteerism has taken on a new dimension now to an active community leader who has demonstrated that MARA HUNTER REDDEN, Southern Cal., is an effort to improve society through volunteer work V sitting in the winner's circle after a spirited and by helping those less fortunate. In her long list of fight against ovarian cancer. volunteer work, Mara has contributed significantly to In August 1999, Mara was diagnosed with stage-three the Swim With Mike program since the event began cancer. (Cancer is diagnosed in severity from stages one 21 years ago. Her efforts help to raise money for the through four.) After three surgeries and nine cycles of Physically Challenged Athletes Scholarship Fund at the chemotherapy, a follow-up surgery declared her cancer University of Southern California. free. At first, Mara was misdiagnosed with a benign cyst and was instructed by a medical professional that sur­ I owe my friends and family gery wasn't immediately necessary. When the surgery was finally performed months later, cancer was not only a great deal of gratitude for detected but had spread. their support. "I do feel like I have won a huge battle. I owe my friends and family a great deal of gratitude for being Volunteering has always been an important part of there and for their support. And it took a lot of fight­ Mara's life and now she talks with numerous cancer ing and faith in the medical treatments," Mara vividly victims about her experience, the disease and doctor remembers. Friends planted flowers in her garden, referrals. Mara, who finds it easy to talk to people, brought an array of food, visited her during chemo finds a silver lining to her cancer by encouraging others treatments and sent cards that now fill up two binders. to fight and believe in a positive outcome. 1)---w

Mara Hunter Redden , Southern Cal., is surrounded by collegians who watched her receive the 2000 President Gerald and Betty Ford "'People Helping People "' award .

THE K EY • Spring 2001 • 27 Ovarian Cancer - A Silent Killer a feeling of being bloated; clothes Cancer is one of the most feared words in our vocabulary. don't fit quite as easily as they once Ovarian cancer is known as the "silent killer" because it lacks did; vague abdominal and pelvic dis­ comfort; vaginal bleeding; and gas­ symptoms until it has spread into other areas of the body. 1 trointestinal symptoms such as gas, back pain, indigestion, and fatigue.' 0 TREATMENT - Sidebar by JULIE H ARRIS KREBS, RISKS Bowling Green Ovarian cancer is caused when Scientists are currently working to cells in the ovary grow and divide isolate and correct a gene mutation, This article is dedicated to the 2 which is linked to half of all cases/ uncontrollably, causing a tumor. It memory of 28-year-old J ENNIFER TYoE, Alternative treatments such as further is most common in older women, or Tulsa, who recently passed away­ women who have gone through gene therapy are being explored, one year after an ovarian cancer diag­ along with the use of drugs such as menopause, and those with a family nosis. The Key thanks Julie Harris history. 3 Other risk factors include Topotecan, Gemcetabine, and Krebs and other friends of Jennifer 8 infertility, delayed childbearing, a Tamoxifen. Tyde for helping to raise awareness high fat diet, the use of talcum pow­ PREVENTION and of this terrible disease. der around the genital area, and the use of estrogen (except in oral con­ SYMPTOMS Sources used for sidebar: traceptives).4 The best method of prevention is 1, 7, 8 www.mdanderson.com, Conquest, It is important to note that having regular pelvic examinations by Summer 1997, Volume 12, Issue 1, University of Texas MD Anderson Cancer younger women are not exempt from your doctor and avoiding the above Center. this disease. Statistics show that one risk factors. No complete prevention is known; however, studies find that 4, 5, 6, 9 http://health.yahoo.com/health, quarter of ovarian cancer deaths Ovarian Cancer 2000 Yahoo! Inc., 2000 5 after five or more years of oral con­ occur in women age 35 to 54. adam.com. Because early symptoms are minimal, traceptive use, there is a 60 percent reduction in ovarian cancer risk.9 2, 3, 10 http://rpci.med.buffalo.edu/depart­ more than 50 percent of women suf­ ments/gynoc/grwp.html, The Gilda Radner fer from advanced ovarian cancer at See your doctor immediately if Familial Ovarian Cancer Registry, Roswell the time of diagnosis.6 the following symptoms are present: Park Cancer Institute, Buffalo, New York.

Debilitating Injuries Define a Dream Hit by a drunk driver, a young woman renews her commitment to become a doctor

-By ELIZABETH WESLEY CORNETTE, Kentucky

t is not surprising that I plan to practice medicine break in 1996. I sustained serious injuries and spent for I have dreamt of becoming a doctor since that summer slowly changing into a person who I childhood. But when I started college, I had for­ understood the value of a moment and the impor­ gotten the motivations behind my goal. My desire tance of today. I realized I had a second chance to get lacked emoti on, and school had become difficult it right. because it had turned into a required conclusion. The accident threw me into the life of a patient. I In living for the future, I had failed to recognize the shared my doctors' frustration with a stubborn, debili­ demands of the present. tating injury that left me feeling the uncertainty of But that changed in an instant when a drunk driver re habilitation and the fe ar of chronic pain. Only weeks struck me head on during my trip home for summer before, I had been teaching tennis lessons three hours

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'~s I faced an dures and, more importantly, masked her song; now, more softly, patients. I had found my purpose she was singing a hymn. through one special patient: uncertain future, I stood when she closed her eyes One Saturday morning, the and eased her grasp on my hand. halls were filling with physicians As I left the room, I am certain I struggled with the making their rounds. An aging that the sun shone more brightly woman's cries filled the west wing through her window, and it was anger I felt toward the as I entered. It was apparent that quiet. I wiped the tears from my the wailing had begun some time face, not realizing they had fallen. before. Her cries are still fresh in By providing comfort, I found man who hit me." my mind. Without thinking, I completion. passed through her doorway. With Believing in my abilities is a day. Then, suddenly, I found my her arms and legs restrained, only essential and so is accepting the time divided between waiting her voice was unbound. I walked sacrifices that medicine demands. rooms, hospital visits and physical toward her while asking if she Choosing to pursue this profession therapy. needed anything and not expecting was the hardest decision I have an answer. I stood at her bedside As I faced an uncertain future, ever made. And in the end, it may talking quietly about nothing. She I struggled with the anger I felt not be the easiest path to balancing pulled at the bottom of my lab toward the man who hit me. His a career and a life, but it is my coat startling me, but her cries blood alcohol level was ".08" which path. And I know that I do not began to soften and I took her at the time was not considered need another chance to get it right. hand. She held it tightly. At most legally drunk. (A new state law o---w she weighed 90 pounds and her now considers that level driving firm grip seemed unnatural. With under the influence.) His poor my free hand, I straightened the EDITOR's NOTE: Elizabeth has judgment to drink and drive forev­ white hair from her face as a tear applied to medical school at the er changed my life - he walked fell down her cheek. I held her University of Kentucky and will away virtually unharmed. hand and listened. Her voice was learn this year if she is accepted. I returned to school for my jun­ calm, and this time I heard it in The Key Editorial Board wishes ior year that fall but I could barely my heart. Earlier the screams had her the best. dress myself or wash my face. My doctor advised me to withdraw from college and it was the first time I faced the magnitude of the injury. My spirit broke as I realized that I might never again play ten­ nis, dance with my friends or cook dinner. I found solace in my doc­ tor who understood my feelings of unfairness and lost youth. He held my shaking hand as our individual efforts to heal joined in partner­ ship. This serendipitous encounter rekindled my desire to practice medicine. I had never worked closely with patients before, and I was uncer­ tain that I possessed the special qualities it takes to be a doctor. My apprehension turned to confidence while working as a phlebotomist (one who draws blood) at the University of Kentucky Hospital. After her car was struck by a drunk driver, Elizabeth Wesley Cornette, Kentucky, I became acquainted with proce- became even more determined to study medicine.

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In a letter of recommendation for Lauren, CATHERINE Emergency Grant Helps BAYS KYLE, Arkansas, an adviser for Gamma Nu Chapter, Undergrad Survive writes, "Even with Lauren's financial setbacks, her unhappy family situation and her learning disabilities, - By Robin Pickett, KK! Foundation she has remained positive and deserves an opportunity Development Associate to continue her studies." In November, the Foundation awarded Lauren an Undergraduate Emergency Grant For LAUREN WALL, Arkansas, difficult family times and from the Rose McGill Fund. Lauren is looking forward financial setbacks have become part of her daily life. A to her graduation from the University of Arkansas this junior majoring in human development with a concen­ spring. tration in lifespan development and family studies, her goal is to work with families or children in crisis. "I want to help others who are experiencing extreme stress in Here's What's New at their lives," says Lauren. "I want to see people grow and overcome odds that are stacked against them." Our Museums Lauren has overcome her own share of obstacles. "I Heritage Museum, Columbus, Ohio: To expand its have dealt with multiple learning disabilities and worked interpretation of women's lives in 19th-century America, very hard in school despite these hardships." Lauren the Heritage Museum will exhibit the presence of chil­ receives weekly tutoring through the university, utilizes dren in the home, as a central component of home and note-takers and meets with an academic mentor. She family life. The Museums Committee has acquired a also attends summer school and takes courses during crib, washtub and children's tea set. Additional items winter breaks. Her grades have improved each year and needed include a period doll, toys, high chair, wicker she earned a 3.5 GPA last semester. stroller and salesman's sample furniture of the era. After experiencing the heartbreaking divorce of her The Stewart House, Monmouth, Ill.: The authentic parents, Lauren battled anorexia nervosa (self-starvation 1800s restoration of The Stewart House parlor, where it leading to a loss of body weight 15 percent below normal) is believed the original Fraternity Constitution and during high school. "Overcoming this disorder is what I Charter were signed, will soon be complete. The Stewart am most proud of today. I chose life. Many others do House will dedicate the restored parlor, named in mem­ not," explains Lauren. She now shares her experiences and ory of ]EAN HESS WELLS, Georgia, former Fraternity knowledge of the disease with others. President, in October 2001. Lauren contacted the Kappa Kappa Gamma The next restoration phase will include the west bed­ Foundation in October 2000. Her college fund estab­ room, upstairs hallway, stair hallway, and foyer. This lished by her grandparents was depleted. Bills had accu­ project is possible by mulated from her medical needs as well as her mother's a gift from the 6 ongoing treatment for her previous battle with breast ALPHA CHAPTER, cancer. Lauren's future at school was in jeopardy. Monmouth, pledge class of 1950 and their friends in honor of a beloved pledge sister, as well as the generous contributions of BONNIE BONDURANT SHADDOCK, Monmouth. Needed furnish­ ings include a period walnut end table and side chairs, a fireplace mantle An antique crib is a new addition to clock, wall acces- the Heritage Museum. sories, a pair of Lauren Wall , Arkansas, (right) has overcome many obstacles, prints, lamps and a big family Bible or book. 1ncludmg an eating disorder.

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Making a Difference - Research for Women's More Than Surviving Wellness Program Funded A Message from the Foundation President by the Foundation Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity has proposed the As President of the development of a women's wellness program to benefit Foundation Board of members and others. The Foundation Board of Trustees Trustees, I am constantly approved funding for initial research involving disordered meeting women who eating. The practice of "bingeing and purging" as a means believe in their power to of weight control is becoming increasingly common improve society. They do among college students. This devastating and deadly what they do with little behavior severely impacts - not only the eating disor­ recognition, and great dered person - but also her close associates. mountains are moved The first phase will identify the existing eating disor­ because faith in their sis­ ders and health/wellness programs available for women ters has motivated their - investigating what works and what doesn't, as well as philanthropic hearts. gathering data from focus groups and developing survey You and I are blessed. instruments to identify future programmatic needs of We have a unique oppor­ alumnae and collegians. tunity to change the By establishing an educational program to address future through supporting the programs of this grand health and wellness, Kappa Kappa Gamma seeks to posi­ organization, and we dare not miss this chance. Kappas tively affect the health and well being of its members, as throughout history have done their part to help the well as future generations. world around them. As women, we are reaching a new level of sophistication with our philanthropic endeavors. We are so much more than just a scholarship-granting Board Actions organization. We assist women to be more than sur­ At the November 2000 Board of Trustees meeting, con­ vivors. We want our sisters to be champions despite the fidential aid for undergraduates was adopted as a program worst of circumstances. We help that sister who suddenly of the Rose McGill Fund. This program will provide funds fmds herself a single parent, or confronted with a medical in larger amounts than provided by Undergraduate crisis, or drifting in a sea of emotion so great she cannot Emergency Grants. Any initiated member in need may be bare to face the future alone. We are there for her! referred for consideration by alumnae associations, chap­ The Foundation team is made up of women who ters or another member, or she may request aid directly by share their volunteer spirit, along with their expertise, to contacting the Foundation office at 614/228-6515. expand the Foundation's capability to reach every sister The amount of undergraduate scholarships was in need. We need sisters of passion -women like you, increased from $1,500 to $3,000, and graduate scholarships who have a generous heart- to further our efforts to from $2,000 to $3,000. The amount for an individual or preserve and teach the history of collegiate women alumnae association to give a one-time named scholarship through our museums, to care for our sisters in need will increase from $1,000 to $1,500. The Kappa Kappa and to provide meaningful student aid and educational Gamma Foundation will match the gift for a total scholar­ programming. We are committed to the kind of financial ship of $3,000. development it takes to make all of this happen. Thank you for linking arms with us as we make mira­ Annual Meeting of the cles happen for our s~sters who need us the most. KKr Together, let's demonstrate the kind of faith in the future Foundation of Canada that expects, at the very least, the best for every sister. The annual general meeting of the Kappa Kappa Gamma Foundation of Canada will take place at noon on Loyally, Monday, May 7, 2001. The meeting is open to all mem­ bers in good standing of Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity. 4<9~~ If you would like to attend, please call or write to PATSY BREDWICK LEVANG, North Dakota State Secretary JoYCE BAINARD FoRSTER, Toronto, 29 St. Andrew's Foundation President Gardens, Toronto, ON M4W 2C9, 415/925-8639.

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DESIGNING WoMEN Meet Creative Kappas from Across the Continent

Drawing and Painting Is a Way of Life Although MARY WELLMAN PORTER, Purdue, has retired from a full-time career at a small college, she continues to enjoy painting and exhibiting her work in watercolor, acrylics and mixed media. Her semi-abstract paintings, which she calls "adventures for the eye;' are known for imaginative use of color and surprising images. Many of her paintings are found in corporate and private collections in Michigan, Indiana and Ohio. Represented by three western Michigan galleries and one in Naples, Fla., Mary's paintings have been accepted in juried competitions and exhibitions and have gar­ nered numerous awards. Mary has four grown children and works as a freelance designer.

Claire Chamberlain Bryant, Colorado College, in her art studio. Claire is President of the Sandhills (N.C.) Alumnae Association.

Claire stretches her artistic repertoire as an accom­ plished spinner, weaver, knitter, painter and writer. In addition to several books she has written, Claire has copyrights on more than 50 needlework books. She attended her first Kappa Convention last summer and realized there were no children's coloring books for sale in the Convention's Blue Owl Boutique. "Everyone thought I was taking copious notes during the speeches;' Claire admits. "But I was sketching ideas for a Kappa col­ oring book!"

Girlfriend, let's Go Shopping Kappa brought them together and friendship sealed Mary Wellman Porter, Purdue, at work on a painting. their fate as they opened their first boutique in San Francisco in 1993. SUSAN EXPOSITO MARGOLIS, UC Artist Enjoys Many Art Forms Berkeley, and KATHARINE RIBARJCH RYAN, UC Berkeley, created Girlfriends, a unique shop where friends can When CLAIRE CHAMBERLAIN BRYANT, Colorado hang out on a comfortable couch, drink coffee, grab a College, visited a needlework shop in the early '70s and fistful of M&Ms and, yes, shop. The store carries con­ showed samples of her painted needlepoint canvases, temporary clothing lines, jewelry and gifts for the the hop owner asked if she could chart designs for home. cross stitch. "I went home and learned how in a hurry," Fashion magazines, including Glamour and says Claire. She then started a business she called The Seventeen, are featuring the clothing and product line Berry Patch, named after the wild berries growing along as popular and trendy. Stars such as Gwyneth Paltrow, the sidewalk of her farmhouse in Colfax, N.C. The busi­ Heather Locklear and Neve Campbell are patrons, and ness grew to a small warehouse and 15 employees.

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Recalling that she "majored in Kappa" when she served two terms as President of EPSILON ZETA CHAPTER, what she gave to Kappa then is being returned now in the form of aid from the Rose McGill Fund. Mamie shared her story of challenges and triumphs in the Winter 2000 Issue of The Key. Contact Mamie at 352/369-5605.

"Freddy's Fleece" Inspired by Survival The inspiration to start a business may come from an unusual source. For KAY GANSHAW SMITH, Cornell, it came from the fleece blanket that covered her son Frederick during seven weeks in the hospital. Freddy was born 10 weeks prematurely, survived heart surgery and other close calls and is now a happy 3-year-old.

Susan Exposito Margolis, UC Berkeley, and Katharine Ribarich To Kay, the blanket represented Freddy's fight for Ryan , UC Berkeley, created a boutique they appropriately survival and inspired her to start a home-based business titled Girlfriends.

Courtney Cox Arquette has even worn the whimsical logoed T-shirt on Friends. The California-based shop did so well that Susan moved to Portland, Ore., in 1997, to oversee the open­ ing of their second shop. And a new mail-order catalog allows shoppers to view the expanding line of products. To order one, call800/561-0732. Or visit their Web site at www.girlfriendsboutique.com.

Designing a New Life and Business Having suffered a series of illnesses and financial set­ backs, MARNIE READ STARBUCK, Georgia/Florida State, is creating an at-home graphic arts business. Although Kay Ganshaw Smith, Cornell, and her son, Freddy. still struggling with some remaining effects of an illness, Mamie is excited about putting her art degree to work. in custom-designed fleece clothing for children new­ She does part-time born to age 10. Hand-sewn mittens, jackets and deco­ work for a grocery rated blankets are sold by Club Fred Kids and a new line chain as well as is in the works, to be named after younger sister Sarah. painting and refin­ ishing furniture. In honor of Freddy, the business gives 10 percent of Her latest venture the purchase price to buy fleece, which Kay uses to make in graphic arts blankets for area hospitals. The neonatalogist who cared includes note cards, for Freddy says the blankets provide comfort to families invitations, adver­ of premature babies when they are searching for reassur­ tising materials and ance and support. Contact Kay at 515/279-4745. similar services for individuals and French Country Style Graces Furnishings companies. Her and Accessories fleur-de-lis and On a self-created sabbatical, SALLY McCORMICK old-fashioned keys McCONNELL, Ohio Wesleyan, and her husband quit their note cards are espe­ successful executive careers and moved to France in cially attractive - Mamie's iris notecards are popul ar, 1985. Instantly they fell in love with the French style, and not just to not just to Kappas. particularly in the South of France. They admired the Kappas! blue-and-white tiles being made by artisans on the Rue

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Vielle-du-Temple, the hand-painted armoires from the Alsace region and the colorful Provencal fabrics. "We were surprised that these artisans did not have a hold on the American market;' Sally said of the crafts­ men that they approached. These vendors eventually would custom-make the furniture for the store they opened in Virginia in 1986 called French Country Living. Their store and catalogue are filled with top-priced furniture to practical accessories. Wall to wall are fruit­ wood farm tables, richly colored cottons and sun­ drenched pottery. The catalogue has received awards from the Direct Marketing Association. In the first year, it was named "Best New Consumer catalogue" and in 1998, it was named "Best Home Furnishings Catalogue" "Marinara," oil on linen, by Shannon Smith, Clemson in its market. To receive a copy, call 800-485-1302 or visit www.frenchcountryliving.com. more painterly quality, a very expressive feel very close to impressionistic;' said Shannon of her work. She explains Sally and her husband will open a flagship store in that she and Jennifer are always growing and changing 2001 which will give them 7,200 sq. ft. of selling space­ with their painting, which keeps their art exciting. a big jump from the original 3,000 sq. ft. store. Plans are also underway to open stores in other markets. "We hope one day to involve and pass on this business to our daughters Cole, 11 and Adele, 9;' Sally says with pride.

Sally McCormick McConnell, Ohio Wesleyan, created French Country Living with her husband, Bringier. "Seabrook Moonrise," oil on linen, by Jennifer Smith, Clemson

Growing up, they were inspired as their mother made a living as a painter. Now they work alongside her, their father and brother who is a photographer by trade. 'Tm excited that our family has come together to open a Artists by Trade gallery where we can show our work together;' Shannon Painting in their brand new, family-owned art gallery, proudly remarks. "You can paint anywhere and our fami­ ly often travels together for opportunities to paint, most SHANNON and JENNIFER LYNN SMITH, Clemson, are contin­ uing their successful careers as artists. Two siblings of recently to Tuscany:' Jennifer recently studied in Maine triplets, they shared their passion for art in college, grad­ by herself and Shannon enjoyed a short stay in France uated with fine art degrees then went on to sell their where she studied with another artist. To view their work work in separate studios. and learn more about this family gallery, visit their Web site at www.smithkillian.com. Now their oil paintings are shown and available for sale at the family studio, Smith Killian Fine Art, on Queen Slippery Success Street in Charleston, S.C., which caters to local buyers, tourists and even international buyers. Their paintings Eleven years ago, MARTHA ALDA ELLIS, Arkansas (Little range from $700-$8,000 featuring subject matter from Rock), left her career as a dental hygienist to stay at landscapes to figures, still life, architecture and more. "I home with her two young boys. In an effort to make give my paintings a loose brush stroke to accomplish a inexpensive Valentine's gifts, she experimented with

34 • THE KEY • Spring 2001 ACCENT ON .Jl.LUMNAE making French milled soap from her kitchen in Little Cure Friendship Ball;' tied with a pink ribbon, holds a Rock, Ark. After trial and error, she succeeded at making small breast exam card inside along with a pink bath a bar of soap with a design that stays put until the bar is sponge and pink soap with a sticker. It reads, "An annual credit card thin. Drawing on her background in chem­ mammogram can save yo ur life." With every purchase of istry, she developed the patented technique that has led a Friendship for the Cure Ball, Alda's Forever donates one her business, Alda's Forever, to its multi-million dollar dollar to promote breast cancer awareness. These friend­ status with products sold all over the world. ship balls can be purchased through the Alda's Forever catalog by calling 800/253-7627.

Husband/Wife Team Reflects on a Lifetime of Designing For more than 39 years, CAROLE RIDINGS RENMARK, Miami, and husband Ronnie have been in business together as interior designers. Their firm has grown through the years and now offers a full range of services -interior, planning, architecture and design. "We're proud to be located in Richmond's (Va.) downtown, newly designated historic district where we rehabbed an 1878 building into apartments and commercial space," says Carole. The building is included on the National Registry of Historic Landmarks and received an award from the Historic Richmond Foundation. A recent interior design project involved the comple­ tion of 10,000 square feet for the Corporate Sky Suites at Colonial Downs Race Track in Virginia and 30,000 Martha Aida Ellis, Arkansas (Little Rock) square feet for the General Agency of Northwestern Mutual Life Insurance. In response to requests for custom-design soaps, she has built a client base including The White House, the Currently the couple is working with long-time client, Grand Ole Opry, and popular contemporary singers. The Maryland Jockey Club, in the redesign of 1,000,000 (President Clinton commissioned Alda to mix up a square feet at Laurel Park and Pimlico Thoroughbred shipment sporting the presidential seal.) Alda's Forever Race Tracks. "Our objective in this $65 million project is also offers candles, silver home decor, stationery, books, to restore the glamour and romance of horse racing music and a popular body line. through interiors evocative of the rich 18th- and 19th­ century architecture associated with Maryland thorough­ The company is housed in an 18,000-square-foot bred racing." facility with more than 40 employees and has perma­ nent showrooms at the Dallas TradeMart, Atlanta Gift Mart and Chicago Merchandise Mart. Her husband eventually left his job as a top executive to oversee the rapidly growing business, allowing Alda to step back again to spend more time with her children and concen­ trate on the creative end. She uses her extra time to travel Carole Ridings to speaking engagements and book signings for the Renmark, Miami, runs many books she has authored. Her most recent book, a successful titled Listen to the Quiet, inspires women to nourish interior design their souls and revive their spirit. firm with her After Alda lost her mother to breast cancer, she husband and daughter in turned her number-one selling product- the friend­ Richmond , Va. ship ball- into a voice for breast cancer awareness. The friendship ball is based on an old English tradition of giving where friends pass a silver ball back and forth through the years by filling and re-filling it with some­ thing special. The special-edition "Friendship for the

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Their daughter, Tayne, joined the keychains, magnets, notepads and Northern Virginia. Diane told The firm in 1988 adding her talent to the pins. Cyndi recently announced a Journal, "I do not know why more family business. "As she grew up, new line of scrapbook rubber women don't become developers Tayne was right there, absorbing and stamps featuring 23 scrapbook­ and home builders. There are many contributing;' says Carole. "It can themed rubber stamps which join creative aspects to it, particularly now be told that at age 8 she the company's existing line of bas­ having a willingness to take a design designed the hat logo for Arby's that ket-related rubber stamps. View vision and respond creatively to the is still being used today." Cyndi's Whims products online at consumer." Over the years Carole and Ronnie's www.CyndisWhims.com, as well as work has appeared in numerous mag­ from various scrapbook stores and azines. Traditional Home featured the other gift shops. More information company as one of the top design is also available by calling firms in the 1996 "Decorator 330/342-7275. Showhouse" edition. "Our talent A busy mother of two young speaks for itself but our confidence daughters, Cyndi enjoys making in each other is at the heart of every­ scrapbooks and even runs a scrap­ thing we do;' explains Carole. "As a book idea Web site, Cyndi's Scrapyard united team, we embrace a shared (http:/ /members.aol. com/ScrapnCyn). vision that our clients, and we as a In addition to designing Web sites family, benefit from." on the side, Cyndi is developing a Spanish after-school enrichment Artist Builds Gift program in her community. In Business on a Whim April, Cyndi will represent her busi­ ness at the Ohio Scrapbook Retreat For years, CYNTHIA HAws in Cincinnati, as well as the Ohio DUNCAN, Akron, enjoyed painting Scrapbook Convention in Cleveland jewelry and other items using a spe­ in October. She hopes to meet any cial technique. In 1997, she began Diane Cox Basheer, Colorado College, Kappas who may be there. creating her own artwork and has is founder and president of Diane Cox Basheer Communities. moved from the craft world to retail Home Building Takes with the creation of her business called Cyndi's Whims. Her original a Woman's Touch Diane does everything, including acquiring the land through building designs are available on rubber Although women arguably do the homes. A partnership, Basheer stamps, T-shirts, sweatshirts, totes, the most cleaning and organizing of and Edgemoore, offers 40 years of a home, few women actually experience in the Washington met­ design living spaces. DIANE Cox ropolitan area and includes more BASHEER, Colorado College, is than 5,000 homes and multiple founder and president of Diane Cox neighborhoods. Diane's signature is Basheer Communities where she craftsmanship and attention to cus­ oversees the design and construc­ tion of homes in new and existing tomer service and details. She enjoys matching the homes to the neigh­ communities. She has surpassed borhoods' customers, including more than $1 billion worth of home construction during more than two landscaping appropriate for the decades. Diane's original degree at area. For more information, visit Colorado College was in political www.jackjmorris.com/basheer/abou tus.html. science and she worked for Voice of America. Homebuilding, however, was in her blood and she followed - "Designing Women" section by her father and two uncles into the }ULIE KROON ALVARADO, Arizona business. State; Lois CATHERMAN HEENEHAN, The Washington Business Journal Adelphi; }ENNY STRUTHERS HOOVER, says Diane stands out among the Bowling Green and LAURA SHOCK Cynthia Haws Duncan , Akron handful of female homebuilders in SCHERER, Bowling Green.

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ALUMNAE PROMOTE HISTORY

Heritage Museum Open HOOVER, Stanford, was the first lection of children's books and related to the Public Kappa to serve as first lady. toys including a Pinocchio doll and The exhibit was directed and book, a tea set with an Alice in CARRIE WEYLER, Bowling Green, mounted by another Kappa, EDITH Wonderland volume, a blue glass dol­ and AMY HOWARD, Georgia Southern, phin and the book, Island of the Blue volunteered as tour guides for PERTERSILIA MAYO, George Washington, curator/supervisor of the Smithsonian Dolphins, to her hometown library in Kappa's Heritage Museum during the Institution's Division of Political Paso Robles, Calif. annual Olde Towne Spring Tour in History. Edith is a 1996 Alumnae Columbus, Ohio. This self-guided Achievement Award recipient. Alumnae Remember tour is designed to preserve, promote and renew the historic community of Our Founders Columbus, Ohio. Kappa Kappa Members of JACKSONVILLE and Gamma Fraternity Headquarters and GAINESVILLE (FLA.) ALUMNAE Heritage Museum was the home of ASSOCIATIONS held a luncheon for Ohio Governor David Tod in 1862. graduating seniors at Magnolia Point A well-known historical site, it is the Golf and Country Club in Green finest example of Italianate architec­ Cove Springs, Fla. The highlight of ture remaining in the city. the day was visiting the gravesites of Dressed in 19th-century gowns, Founders HANNAH JEANETTE BoYD Carrie and Amy gave tours of the Meredyth Keefe Earnest, Georgia and MARY LOUISE BENNETT BOYD. In Southern, and Missy Jolly Ramsey, keeping with tradition, alumnae sent morning room, parlor and formal Georgia Southern, view the key badge of dining room. Carrie and Amy agree First Lady Lucy Hayes at The Smithsonian. candy and notes of encouragement that "for all Kappa Kappa Gamma to Florida chapter members at the does for others, it feels really good close of spring semester. to give back to Kappa for a change." lecturer loves (For more information on the Children's lit Heritage Museum, see Page 30.) CAROL CAMPBELL JACOBS, New Mexico, of San Mateo, Calif., enjoys wearing her trademark "lecturing dress" decorated with storybook char­ acters. Her most recent opportunity to wear the dress was when she was asked by the Association of Libraries at Stanford University to give her lec­ ture on "A Glimpse of Treasure -A History of Children's Literature." Carol's collection of antiquarian chil­ Celebrate Women 's Alumnae Visit Kappa's dren's books is on display in many History! First lady libraries. She has also donated her col- March is U.S . Women's History MEREDYTH KEEFE EARNEST, Month. Celebrate women's history Georgia Southern, and MISSY JOLLY and Kappa history at your next RAMSEY, Georgia Southern, were meeting by reading passages from thrilled to spot the Kappa key badge History 2000 ... Kappa Kappa on a gown of First Lady LUCY WEBB Gamma Through the Years. For order HAYES, Ohio Wesleyan, (wife of the information, see Page 51. For infor­ 19th U.S. President Rutherford B. mation about Women's History Hayes) at the First Ladies Exhibit at Month, visit the National Women's The Smithsonian Institution in History Project Web site at Washington, D.C. Lou HENRY www.nwhp.org

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formance, contribution to the Fraternity KAPPA KUDOS and involvement and interest in the University community. This award has been presented annually for the • MARTHA SPURGEON FISHER, past 40 years. Purdue, received the "Honor Key Award" from the INDIANAPOLIS ALUMNAE AssOCIATION. Martha is President of the WEST LAFAYETTE (IND.) ALUMNAE ASSOCIATION. Martha has also served the Fraternity as a Province and Regional Director of Alumnae. Daughter JuLIE FISHER McKINNEY, Purdue, took part in the celebration. Sarah Seeger Dougherty, Vicki Dauphin Matheisen, and Lindy Cope Rojas, Cal. State, Fresno , were victorious at the club golf championship at the San Joaquin Country Club.

• DIANE HERTEL THOMASON, Iowa Elizabeth Scroggie Joy, Toronto, presents State, golf coach at the University of the Kay Dignan Memorial Prize to Melanie Iowa, coached the USA National Golf Hershorn, Toronto. Team in the Worlc~ University Golf Championship in Ireland, finishing in • Kappa Kappa Gamma's Director second place. Other honors include of Standards PRISCILLA MuRPHY LPGA Coach of the Year, Hall of GERDE, Purdue, received special recog­ Fame Member, Big Ten Coach of the nition from the WEST LAFAYETTE Martha Spurgeon Fisher, Purdue, and Year and the Gladys Palmer Award, an (IND.) ALUMNAE ASSOCIATION for out­ daughter Julie Fisher McKinney, Purdue honor given by the coaches associa­ standing service to the Fraternity. • JACQUELINE (JAKI) GILES LAKE, tion for service and dedication to Washington State, is one of 46 golf. Pictured with Diane are two teachers statewide to receive the team members, Angie Yoon and Washington Award for Excellence in Kristin Dufour. Education for 2000, which recognizes educators for their leadership, contri­ butions and commitment to educa­ tion. Jaki serves as the director of the Inland Empire Region for the Washington State University Alumni Association.

Priscilla Murphy Gerde, Purdue, with asso­ ciation President Martha Spurgeon Fisher, Purdue.

Diane Hertel Thomason, Iowa State, with two team members, Angie Yoon and • HOPE HAsLAM, Baylor, has been Kristin Dufour. appointed publisher of Texas Lawyer, the state's leading legal newspaper. • TORONTO ALUMNAE ASSOCIATION Previously, Hope worked in sales and member ELIZABETH SCROGGIE JOY , marketing for West Group. Prior to Toronto, presented the Kay Dignan this, she was the legal editor of Texas Memorial Prize to MELANIE Lawyer's book division and helped HERSHORN, Toronto. The Advisory create and edit a variety of legal pub­ Board and active Scholarship lications in Texas. Hope earned a law Jacqueline (Jaki) Giles Lake , Wash ington State Chairman of Beta Psi Chapter suggest degree from Mississippi College. (Not a nominee based on academic per- pictured. )

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ALUMNAE IN ACTION

Make the Internet Work for You For their renowned "Tablescapes" event, 60 designers Members of the EAST BAY (CALIF.) ALUMNAE and retailers participated in creating table designs utiliz­ AssociATION jumped onto the information superhigh­ ing their merchandise and creative talents featuring way during an Internet training class. Led by PI", UC china displays, floral and other whimsical centerpieces Berkeley, active members KELLY McDoNNELL and and inviting table coverings. Alumnae participating in CHIARA SHANNON, they surfed the Web, set up free e-mail this two-day event helped raise funds by providing a accounts, sent animated multimedia greeting cards and luncheon table viewing, book sale and a successful arranged a Web site for the alumnae. East Bay alumnae underwriting program. "Tablescapes" raised more than are lowering their office supply and mailing costs by $105,000, which was donated to the Child Protection using the Internet and the actives enjoy the opportunity Services, The Family Place, Scottish Rite Hospital, and to enhance their resumes as experienced Internet the Rose McGill Fund of the Kappa Kappa Gamma instructors. Foundation. Friendship a Force in Sarajevo DAYTON (OHIO) ALUMNAE ASSOCIATION members CAROLYN KEARNS YOUNG, Denison, and DORIS HUMES PONITZ, Michigan State, traveled to Sarajevo with a group called Friendship Force, to distribute school supplies, non-prescription medications and clothing. During their stay in war-torn Bosnia, Carolyn and Doris met with Sarajevo citizens to determine how Dayton, their U.S. "sister city," could help. While visiting Zene Za Zene (the Woman to Woman Center), Carolyn learned how more than 850 women are assisted through training programs that teach them how ~ Chiara Shannon, UC Berkley, and Ann Scott Patton, Kentucky to merchandise crafts and borrow money Kappa Annual "Tablescapes" Helps Many to purchase cows or DALLAS ALUMNAE ASSOCIATION members focus on a chickens so the philanthropic adventure that brings members of all ages women can produce together, realizing that the volunteer of today is attract­ products to sell. An ed to opportunities that are fun, flexible, and require explanation of little training. women's rights in Bosnia is written on a wall in the women's center. "These women are excellent carpenters and pro­ duce stools covered with beautiful hand­ made rugs," says Carolyn, who stayed with a young cello player during her visit. "I shall never Carolyn Kearns Young, Denison, and forget Sarajevo." Doris Humes Ponitz, Michigan State, found a "Kappa" brand clothing store The Dallas Alumnae Association raised more than $105,000 in the heart of Sarajevo. through "Tablescapes."

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Friendship Force grew out of the Dayton Peace ALUMNAE WELCOME Accords in 1995. Carolyn and Doris have an impressive list of civic accomplishments and at different times have been named one of Dayton's "Ten Outstanding GRADUATING SENIORS Women." Meet CNBC Correspondent Martha MacCallum As a CNBC Business News correspondent and fill-in anchor for Market Watch, Market Wrap, The Edge, and Power Lunch, MARTHA MAcCALLUM, St. Lawrence, draws on 10 years of experience covering business and finan­ cial news for CNBC and Dow Jones and Company. Martha also reports for CNBC from the floor of the New York Stock Exchange and the NASDAQ/ AMEX Marketsite, and she has contributed to NBC's Today Show, sister cable station MSNBC and various NBC Th e Lawrence (Kan.) Alumnae Association held a tea for grad· affiliates nationwide. Before joining CNBC, Martha was uating seniors from Omega, Kansas. The collegians were pre­ an anchor and reporter for WBIS-TV, a sports and busi­ sented with a Kappa cookbook and fleur-de-lis and were wel­ comed into alumna membership. ness network in New York. At Wall Street Journal Television, Martha served as a business news correspon­ dent and anchor for The Wall Street Journal Report, World Market Outlook and Business USA. She was corre­ spondent on a story called "Glass Ceiling" for The Wall Street Journal Report, which won the Gracie Allen Award in 1998. Before entering broadcasting, Martha worked as a profiles and real estate reporter for Corporate Finance Magazine. She resides in New Jersey with husband Daniel and their two children.

The Gamma Epsilon , Pittsburgh, Advisory Board and House Board held their annual "High Tea " to introduce recent gradu­ ates to the importance of alumna involvement.

Officers of the newly established Lexington (Ky.) Alumnae Association planned a dinner for graduating seniors from Beta Chi , Kentucky, to promote alumna involvement and to encour­ CNBC Business News Correspondent Martha MacCallum, age seniors to join a Kappa alumnae association wherever St. Lawrence. their lives may lead them.

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Kappa Authors With a background in medicine and a family history of storytelling, Danielle has also spent several years working Over 80: Things You Can Do in finance and a year traveling the world with her husband. Four years after the characters first entered her mind on a By ELIZABETH (BETTY) FLETCHER HOWELL FELTMAN, beach in New Zealand, Danielle tells their story in Savage Northwestern Art. Her second novel, Familiar Stranger, will appear in 26 pgs., $12.95 or two for $25 July 2001 and she is hard at work on the next, along with (Call4S0/945-666S to order.) spending time with her husband and daughter in their When Betty's son, Richard, Northern California home.

il. 7 a doctor, asked her to create a OVEQ booklet to encourage his elderly You're on the Air patients who were struggling By SALLI E CARTER DuBOIS-PHILLIPS, British Columbia 80-" with depression, Betty came up YOU Sono Nis Press, 213 pgs., $21.95 0 THIN G<~ with this book of suggestions C/\N DO -· "I lost my heart to radio," Sallie wrote, describing the A on how to enjoy life. The four wooden box she loved to listen to in the late 1930s, as well chapters are "You Can Be as the career that captured her f_ _. ~'~ Popular After SO," "Yo u Can interest in the '40s. A housewife • . Be Healthy After so;' "You Can and mother, she felt the need to ! !.!.. fr Be a Supergrandparent After use her skills in other ways. An so;' and "Just For You." The interest in acting, a good speaking book was so popular that Betty decided to publish it and voice and the ability to write use the sale of her book to raise money for various organi­ scripts led Sallie into a program zations. For every 25 books ordered by Kappas, Betty will for CBR, part of the Canadian donate $100 to the Kappa Kappa Gamma Foundation. Broadcasting Corporation's Betty has served the Fraternity as Epsilon Province Trans-Canada Network. Director of Chapters (1942-43). After college she served as Sallie had tried acting but her the EvANSTON (ILL.) ALUMNAE AssOClATION President and body didn't convey emotions and has been an active community volunteer her entire adult action satisfactorily. It was said of her voice, however, "She life. For the past 2S years, Betty has been a volunteer can really take it off the paper." That voice came through teacher at the Boys and Girls Club of Scottsdale, Ariz. In live, since broadcasts were not yet taped. Sallie read her the past 2S years, she has taught 400 children the art of scripts aloud, with occasional sound effects included. photography and many have won national awards. Betty's This was a time when people were '~just beginning to other contributions are too numerous to mention. think women might have a place in the business world," Betty and her first husband, the late Dick Howell, a and Sallie also worked in public relations for the 1924 Olympic Gold Medalist swimmer, had two sons and Community Chest (now United Way), the Vancouver a Kappa daughter, ]ULIE HOWELL GALLIMORE, Tulsa. Betty Symphony and Opera and other groups. She was one of received her 75-year pin during the PHOENIX, ScoTTSDALE only a few women in the field and never took a job that and EAST VALLEY ALUMNAE AsSOClATIONS Founders Day interfered with family life. banquet and was presented with a cake in honor of her The book includes more than 30 scripts of many radio 94th birthday. shows - most occurring between 1946 and 1952. The scripts are about family, a black lab, wildflowers, medicinal Savage Art plants, camping, local history and how life began at 40. By DANIELL£ GIRARD, Cornell They reflect life in mid-20th century British Columbia­ Onyx, a division of Penguin how greatly many things changed and some not at all. ~ Putnam, Inc., 3S4 pgs., $6.99 This is not bedtime reading! The author describes how ex­ FBI profiler Casey McKinley EDITOR's NoTE: The Key is delighted to receive so many was brutally attacked by a killer books written by Kappas. If you have submitted a book, she was profiling. Suffering per­ please be patient. Books will be reviewed in the order in manent physical and emotional which they are received. Books and author information damage, she retreats from work DANIELLE GIRARD t may be submitted to The Key, P.O. Box 38, Columbus, OH and family only to be brought 43216-0038. Books will not be returned and will be kept back into terrifying contact with the killer. in the Fraternity archives.

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Spring 2000 Collegiate Honors Report

Chapters at or REGION 4 Wake Forest Melinda Matte Susan Israel Zeta Province Courtney Cantwell Sarah Monk Lindsey James Above the All- Washington Univ. Lauren Dawson Erin Oglesbee Heidi Gluck Beth Doby Lindsay Poche Sorority GPA REGION 5 REGION 5 Emily Dransfield Leeann Sandlin REGION 1 Iota Province Iota Province Holly Holton Allison Surcouf Alpha Province Albertson Albertson Katherine Lewis Hollis Walsdorf Christine Sestero Colgate REGION6 Alison McPheely Amy Weiner Elizabeth Shotton Beta Province Kappa Province Angela Moratti REGION 4 Dickinson UC Santa Barbara Kara Petracek Puget Sound Epsilon Province Rho Province UC San Diego Larke Frederickson Laura Sayers Illinois Connecticut REGION6: Anna Schultz Christi Blakkolb Pi Province REGION 2 Kappas with Joanna Smith Kristin Braun Leah Williamson Oregon Gamma Province 4.0GPA Lisa Buie Kristen Yablonsky Allison Lee Ohio State Dana Dorr REGION 1 Lindsy Yount Deborah Warren Nu Province Alpha Province Mary Gainer Duke Kappa Province Wake Forest McGill Traci Galvanoni Alexandra Akers Denise Knipp Santa Barbara REGION 3 Rebecca Foster Jill Austri~n Jessica Ohr Kelly Bussell Xi Province Shilo-Anne Morton Janet Deland Jamie Porter Lauren Cappelloni LSU Beta Province Shelby Granowitz Dana Raisdana Cara Taylor Villanova Mu Province Priscilla Krone Kristine Ross Toni Nicole Emory Carley Petesch Jessica Smudzinski Data is based on Benedetti REGION 4 Jennifer Robb chapter scholarship Katherine Kunec Northwestern reports received by Delta Province North Carolina Rebecca Agule Rho Province December 11, 2000. Valparaiso Alicia Greiser Hill Amy Haase Conn ecticut The Key apologizes Zeta Province Kristin Latimer Julie Macintosh V.Shannon Tallent Elizabeth Ann that some chapters Washington Univ. Dara Miller are not listed due to REGION2 Scanlon REGION 5 Hilary Doyle reports not received Gamma Province Brittany Paige Iota Province Allison Baske by the deadline. Ohio State Whitesell Albertson Emily Deschler Eta Province REGION 3 Lambda Province Colorado Mu Province George Washington Emory Collegiate News REGION 6 Sandy Rosenberg Jennifer Peresie Wanted! Pi Province West Virginia Karen Tegge Oregon Kimberly Ables Xi Province The Key wants to know what's hap- Kappa Province Allyson Crow LSU pening at your chapter via e-mail! Just Pepperdine Randena Harrison Julie Beattie send news, individual or chapter accom- UC Santa Barbara Devon Smith Leah Blaize plishments and community service work UC San Diego Sherry Sheffren Danielle Boudreaux to [email protected]. Nu Province Sabastian Caballero Then send your photos in the mail to Jaime Cambre Chapters Ken tu cky The Key, Collegiate News Editor, P.O. Box Natalie Aronson Laura Danna Scholastically 38, Columbus, OH 43216-0038. Tell us Ann Balsley Amanda Davis what makes your chapter special! Ranked First Emily Burns Stephanie Dawes on Campus Colleen Crawford Simone Derouen Photo Tips: Please send clear, quality, Amy Ernst Holy Edmonds REGION 1 color photographs that show action. Do Melody Fritz Cherie Dessauer Rho Province not send photos showing beverages or Shelley Hays Teri Ellison onnecticut open flames. Do not submit digital Erin Marsh Rachel Guedry REGION 2 Kathy McDonald Tracy Hatcher photographs. Appoint a member to take Lambda Province Ali McG reevy Erin Kernaghan pictures at all chapter events and send West Virginia KC Niedermeyr Bridget Laborde copies to The Key throughout the year! Amanda Lavergne REGIO 3 Liz Peace Photos will not be returned and may be Elke Lawson Nu Province Annie Warnock used in other Fraternity publications or Amie McWhorter Wake Fo res t the official Web site.

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Figure Skater Reaches for the Stars

hen she was three years old, KEYLA Now, Keyla is deciding whether to continue skating or accept a scholarship to Harvard University to com­ OHS, British Columbia, tightened plete an undergraduate degree. She has also done some W her laces and skated circles around acting and plans to pursue this as a future career. "I toddlers who couldn't tie their shoes. Eighteen have some tough choices to make ... this is a pivotal time in my life," Keyla admits. But no matter what she years later, Keyla's circles have evolved into decides, Keyla knows that she has support from her axels, lutzes and artistry on ice. Kappa sisters.

Keyla stunned the competitive skating world when - By KATY QUINN POWERS, Oklahoma she moved from novice to junior and then to senior rank in only one year. In the 1998 Canadian Figure Skating Championships, Keyla earned second place. Although she placed 13th last year, The November Discover New Pathways! 18, 2000, Calgary Herald lauded her efforts, noting that • Are you looking for a new and exciting workshop she has the potential to be a leading contender in for your chapter or association? future competitions. · Do you need a 10-15 minute game or activity to Keyla is admired for her graceful beauty and crisp liven up a meeting? choreography. To complement the focus and skill • Are you seeking ways to heighten and enrich your required to be a champion skater, Keyla plays the lifelong education experience? piano and is well versed in ballet. She says that playing the piano "trains your mind ... to relate to music and Visit Pathways on the Web. Located on the member's­ how to feel it and brings out what the music is asking only side of the official Kappa Web site, Pathways holds you to perform." She adds that her ballet training the key to every Kappa's continuous education experi­ helps her keep nice lines and be true to the ballet art ence. It's easy. Just click on the swiveling Pathways logo. form of skating. Pathways organizes the Fraternity's educational In addition to skating, Keyla enjoys several hobbies. resources into four color-coded focus areas: Poetry helps her emotionally process her skating ·Self-Discovery and Intellectual Development, efforts. "Sometimes you'll hit a day or two when your • Interpersonal Development skating is not going so well and it really helps to fmd • Understanding and Appreciation for Kappa other avenues which you can express yourself." Keyla also loves animals. "I think I'd have 100 pets if I could • Leadership and Skill Building. but I don't have the time to take care of them." Use Pathways on the Web for researching potential Although she is no longer taking classes at the resources as well as for obtaining or downloading work­ University of British Columbia, Keyla has enjoyed the shops, games, activities and an on-line order form. New encouragement from Gamma Upsilon Chapter. resources are being added continually. The first 10 Despite her rigorous training schedule and academic members to download and mail in a completed order work, Keyla is thrilled she made time for Kappa - her form with the word "Key" written in the top right cor­ home away from home during college. "My chapter ner, will receive a free Pathways T -Shirt. Visit the understood about my difficult schedule and always Pathways site today! supported me," says Keyla. One chapter member gave her a picture of all the actives gathered around the television set the night of the "Fireside" ceremony watching Keyla perform at the 1998 Canadian Championships. "It made me sad that I missed some important Kappa events due to my skating but my sis­ Pathways ters were always there for me." • KAPPA ' S CONTINUOUS EDUCATION EXPERIENCE

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Survival School Renevvs Mind and Soul

each day we learned wilderness survival tips including lightening drills, how to set up a tarp, proper campsite selection, navigation skills and the importance of mini­ mum impact camping. Our first day was freezing cold, windy and the threat of a storm circled ominously above as we wearily ascended the mountain in search of Outlaw Cave. Darkness came, we escaped the storm and we ended the day much more unified as a group. We cooked black beans and tortillas as we huddled in the cave, trying to stay warm. The next day we were freed from the burden of our backpacks and enjoyed learning how to belay, rock climb and rappel. As dark fell, we rappelled out of the Attic Window, a 100-foot rock face. Beyond adventure and survival skills, Outward Bound teaches the importance of solitude and reflection. We had the opportunity to spend one full night and part of a day on a solo experience. Being completely alone except for thoughts and a journal opens the door for a life that is richer and more vivid. Erin Sonnett, Kim Adams and Alison Kraigsley head in the right Outward Bound stretched our comfort zones, changed direction during an Outward Bound survival and leadership us and gave us an opportunity to be significant group program with Furman University. members. Daily we were challenged to give and receive o watch, no bed, no shower! Life at the compassion from others. We were reminded of Louis L'Amour's words, 'The thing to remember when traveling North Carolina Outward Bound School is that the trail is the thing, not the end of the trail. Travel N is simply living in the moment concerned too fast and you miss all you are traveling for."' only with the weight of the 50-pound pack on your back and the dull ache ofyour legs as you summit the mountain peak.

KIM ADAMS, South Carolina, director of leadership pro­ grams at Furman University; ERIN SONNETT, Furman; and ALISON I

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Another View Ropes and Rafts KYE MARTIN, Washington State, may turn out to be another JANE Today's college student is PAULEY, Indiana. Co-host and producer of Another View, a campus tele­ increasingly busy, often working, vision show based on the format of the network show, The View, Kye is volunteering and seeking intern­ doing the groundwork for a career in broadcast journalism. Kye calls the ships and career experiences in show spunky and informative. She organizes writers' meetings and addition to studying. To help speaks about her views on topics such as date rape and alcohol use. "As alleviate the pressure, several far as my career is concerned, I feel the sky is the limit," says Kye, who chapters are taking time out from worked for no pay at a Palm Desert, Calif., TV station last summer in rigorous schedules to build trust order to gain valuable work experience. and renew friendships through Kye and her mother, ROBIN ROAT MARTIN, Oregon State, share a outdoor experiences. Both PI'\ special bond as Kappas. "It is a connection that both of us value very UC Berkeley, and DELTA TAU, highly- she has been a huge influence in my life," says Kye, who Southern Cal., have organized received the Keith Jackson journalism scholarship and was recognized as adventure trips right before the "Best Female Talent" last spring for her work on Another View. With recruitment to build chapter unity a minor in Spanish, Kye also speaks French. and allow time for every­ one to relax. Delta Tau members participat­ ed in a ropes course and Pi" members have organized rafting, ropes and horseback riding events. FELICITY MEU, UC Berkeley, a certified outdoor

Kye Martin, Washington State, prepares for an episode of Another View, a campus television show she co-hosts.

Traveling Toy Box "We traveled with our portable set that folded into the back of a van and a giant blue toy box that everything was pulled out of and around which a lot of the action centered - it was more successful than I ever could have imagined;' reflects recent graduate JULEE BABER, Centre. Julee developed and marketed a children's theatre troupe while studying dramatic arts at Centre. The Traveling Toy Box, which included Julee and other Kappa actors, traveled for free to surrounding children's homes, pediatric units and the local Girl Scout troop. The Traveling Toy Box also performed on campus. All sets, costumes and props were Jessica Wood , UC Berkeley, is one of designed and built by students. Julee received a "volunteer of the several Pi• members to complete the month" award and was featured in several Lexington, Ky., newspapers. challenges of a ropes course.

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adventure leader and river guide, Chapter Development, CATHLEEN Because of this experience, Katie has helped organize Pi6 Chapter MORROW MCKINNEY, Emory, 2440 set a personal goal to enlist 1,000 events for several years and has Reynolds Dr., Winston-Salem, NC people to run with her in the 2001 served as Membership Chairman. 27104; e-mail [email protected]. Race for the Cure. "I know this is a "The camaraderie was felt by steep goal to reach for, but I feel so potential members, who are able Play for Charity strongly about it and so prepared from LeaderShape that I am confi­ to gauge how well chapter members • DELTA IOTA, LSU, donated $20,000 dent in my quest to make a differ­ interact;' says Felicity. Delta Tau in proceeds from its annual members also noticed their chapter "Kappa Klassic Golf Tournament" ence," says Katie, whose mother died was more unified during recruit­ to the Dream Day Foundation in in 1992 from breast cancer at the ment after experiencing a ropes support of St. Jude's Children's age of 45. course. Research Hospital. Chapter Fellow Kappa and LeaderShape The key to the success of these Philanthropy Chairman JuLIE BABB presenter, CATHY EARLEY, Centre, events is proper safety, planning says, "We are so proud to give the Assistant to the Director of and use of the Kappa Kappa gift of life to Dream Day, the hos­ Chapters, particularly inspired Gamma Event Planning Form. pital and the children." Katie. "Cathy is by far one of the Events of this nature should not be • Last spring BETA OMEGA, Oregon, best public speakers I have ever mandatory and should only be con­ and GAMMA Mu, Oregon State, heard, and I feel so privileged to ducted by a certified company teamed up for the first time and have been able to meet and talk under contracts and insurance organized a golf tournament that with her about different issues approved through the Fraternity's raised more than $10,000 for the regarding Kappa and leadership Risk Management Guidelines. domestic violence shelters in in general. It is reassuring to know While adventure activities can offer Eugene and Corvallis. that there are women out there who are still involved in Kappa and positive experiences, chapters must • BETA XI, Texas, held a "Kappa care very much about the actives," keep in mind the potential liability Klassic Pool Tournament" that says Katie. they may cause, especially with raised $1,700 for the Austin strenuous physical activities. To Children's Shelter. By offering leadership programs minimize this risk, injury waivers focused on men and women ages and releases should be signed by "LeaderShape" 17-25, the LeaderShape Institute, the participants and their parents. a nonprofit corporation, seeks to Chapters should also keep in mind Inspires Personal improve society by inspiring, that buses must be contracted for Goals developing and supporting more events more than 20 miles off cam­ KATIE CLARK, Michigan, is one people committed to "leading with pus. If you have questions about of several Kappas to attend a integrity." For more information, risk management, please contact LeaderShape Institute conference. visit www.leadershape.org. your Province Director of Chapters or the Fraternity's Risk Management Chairman, POLLY GAMBLE LARNED, Michigan, at [email protected]. Home Sweet Home ZETA UPSILON, Georgia Southern, is busy preparing for the groundbreaking on a house to call their home on Greek Row. Zeta Upsilon will be the first Kappa chapter since the 1980s to build a house. Chapter members are excit­ edly awaiting the construction of this house since they are the only unhoused sorority on campus. For

more information about ground­ Lauren Keasy, Michigan; Katie Clark, Michigan; Ann Brinker, Iowa State; and Jessica breaking, contact Coordinator of Hohn, Iowa State, attended LeaderShape VII.

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key to Lafayette's Patriot League championship season last year, led a defense that allowed just 7.27 goals per game. She started all 15 games, leading the Leopards to an 11-4 mark, the best record at Lafayette since 1993. Good Ideas • ZETA XI, Yale, sends hand-written invitations to local alumnae ask­ ing them to participate in Initiation activities. The invita­ tion reads: The sisters of Zeta Xi at Yale University cordially invite you to the Initiation of our newest members. Alumna presence con­ Erin Hurst, Jenny Perkins, Sarah Wicker and 5 h . donations for Harvest II canned food drive. ara GareiS, Oklahoma State, collect tri~~te~ so much to the spirit of Imtzatzon, giving the new members direct proof that sisterhood lasts Hoots 'N Salutes • OMICRON'\ Simpson, Kappas have longer than our college years. worked with their Panhellenic to • The New Member Kore groups • DELTA IOTA, LSU, held a risk support the 1991 NPC recruit­ at DELTA SIGMA, Oklahoma State, management presentation by ment resolution. Now, all but one have set academic goals and work the Alcohol and Beverage of the sororities has eliminated together to hold each other Consumption Agency. They also skits in favor of more in-depth a~countable. "Caring Sisters" pro­ started a campus trend by using conversations with potential vtde recognition for high grades buses for off-campus events to members. and class attendance. Delta Sigma minimize risk and liability. also supports university-wide • Community service is important • GAMMA XI, UCLA, invites profes­ projects like Harvest II, a 10-year to GAMMA EPSILON, Pittsburgh. sors to the chapter's annual schol­ annual event that donated more Each Saturday members visit arship dinner. The Scholarship than 7,000 pounds of food for an assisted living facility to play Committee also rewards chapter games, plant flowers or paint local agencies last year. The key members who achieve a 3.0 GPA with residents. The chapter col­ to the drive's success is "Can OU for the quarter. lects canned goods, clothing and Da( (rival Oklahoma University) • New members of LAMBDA, Akron, toiletries which are donated to a whtch creates interest and sup­ are given matching bracelets women's shelter each month and port for the project. when assigned to a Kore group. in the fall they pick apples for • GAMMA BETA, New Mexico, keeps Worn during recruitment, the a local food bank. service in mind when planning bracelets are used to explain philanthropic activities. Recent • The Scholarship Committee of Kores to potential members. New BETA CHI, Kentucky, has estab­ events include "Owleen," a members receive their Kore-col­ lished "owl teams," groups of Halloween party for children, a ored bracelet on Bid Day. same-major Kappas that offer manicure party for elderly ·DELTA XI, Carnegie-Mellon, organ­ t~toring and study group ses­ women and a baby-sitting night ized a campus "Gong Show" swns. The committee also has offered at no cost to local alumnae. including musical acts, comedians invited an administrator from the • A 70th-anniversary celebration and dance ensembles. The panel of Student Activities Office to speak in Montreal has kept DELTA judges was selected from the audi­ about leadership opportunities in DELTA, McGill, busy during the ence, which made it a fun and other organizations. past year. Planning this event has interactive event. The proceeds • Au FISHER, Lafayette, has been enabled the chapter to use its were donated to Debra House, named the 2000 Patriot League committees- organizing hotel a homeless shelter in Pittsburgh. Scholar-Athlete of the Year for accommodations to food and ()--. women's lacrosse. Ali, who was a favours.

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Epsilon Phi , Florida, members strike a winning pose for the 2000 Physique Style Party contest. The chapter selected the Children's Miracle Network as the recipient of the $3,000 prize.

Rho•, Ohio Wesleyan , provided lunch and shared camaraderie with the children of the local Ronald McDonald House. For weeks before the event, they collect­ ed soda-pop tabs to donate to the Ronald McDonald House recycling project.

Beta Theta, Oklahoma, members prepare for the The Gamma Omicron, Wyoming, Ruckus Crew enjoys the volleyball tourna­ "Big Red Rally" to support their Sooners, NCAA ment called "The Ruckus. " This chapter-sponsored event raised $4,000 for National Football champions. a soup kitchen.

48 • THE K El' • pring 200 l IN MEMORIAM

ames in this list are from D UKE UNIVERSITY NBW MEXICO, UNIVERSITY OF Man, Martha,'49,d.IO/OO Ninformation received by Chenoweth, Barbara Dow,'40,d.6/00 Erwin, Virginia McKnight, Woodard, Marion Laves,'46,d.9/00 Collins, Geneva Eldredge,'42,d.9/00 '33,d.ll/00 Fraternity Headquarters, STANFORD UNIVERSITY Curtis, Doris Welles,'33,d.IO/OO Hurst, Peggy McCormick,'34,d.9/00 September 27, 2000, through Freeman, Elinor Day,'32,d.S/OO January 4, 2001. Hill, Anne Sykes,'37,d.7/00 Parnegg, )a nee Sprecher,' 42,d.S/OO Morton, Arlis Cowan,'33,d.8/00 Shortie, Parrie Van Hyning,'38,d.7/00 *SWARTHMORE COLLEGE McLagan, Martha Brown,'23,d.8/00 *ADRIAN CoLLEGE GEORGE WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY *NORTH DAKOTA STATE UNIVERSITY Tolford, Dorothy Palmer,'22,d.IO/OO Anderson, Shirley Smith,'46,d.9/00 Askegaard, Marie,'79,d.S/OO TEXAS CHRISTIAN UNIVERSITY Barcome, Shirley Shepard,'SO,d.6/00 Hazard, Sarah Fowler,'7l,d.2/00 AKRON, UNIVERSITY OF *GOUCHER COLLEGE Corns, Doris Stroman,'27,d.l2/00 Wilson, jeanne Speyer,'40,d.ll/OO NORTHWESTERN UNIVERSITY TEXAS TECH UNIVERSITY Helbig, Patricia Gates,' 44,d.ll/OO HILLSDALE COLLEGE Colbath, Vesta Swenson,'28,d.l2/00 Hott, Carolyn Coe,'54,d.8/99 Kidder, Rosemary Botzum,'35,d.7/00 Banninger, Mary Penhallegon, McBride, janice Martin,'29,d.7/00 MacKay, Betty Gordon,'S3,d.7/00 Parshall, Kathryn Sherer,'35,d.ll /00 '48,d.l 0/00 Morr, Cora Kling,'32,d.l/99 TEXAs, UNIVERSITY OF Quinn, Dorothy Hastings,'26,d.7/00 AllEGHENY COLLEGE Dunnaback, Anna Hollenbeck Lynch, Betty Stratton,'34,d. IO/OO '34,d.8/00 , Rich, Eileen Sparrow,'33,d.8/00 Mellers, Carolyn Morgan,'42,d.8/00 Lynn, Barbara Callan,'46,d.ll/OO Spence, Martha Smothers,'34,d.l/OO Van Dyck, jane Parker,'56,d.3/00 ILLINOIS WESLEYAN UNIVERSITY Red, Alice McDermott,'39,d.S/00 Gunn, Rebecca Ewert,'88,d.8/00 OHIO STATE UNrVERSITY ~carbrough, Margaret Caldwell, ARIZONA STATE UNIVERSITY Beyerly, Martha Newton,'58,d.9/00 24,d.9/00 Swanson, )ennie,'99,d.S/OO ILLINOIS, UNIVERSITY OF Williamson, Meryl Sanders, Colucci, jane Berry,'31 ,d.I0/00 TORONTo, UNIVERSITY OF ARIWNA, UNIVERSITY OF '29,d.ll/OO Dombey, Margaret )acob,'24,d.I2/00 Lovering, Jane Spence,'42,d.7/00 Borrett, Elizabeth McGill,' 40,d.8/00 Eggleston, Sarah Sackett,'34,d.9/00 Nicholson, juliet Duncan,'34,d.S/OO Hoell, Margaret Stevens,' 41 ,d.I0/00 INDIANA UNIVERSITY Folkerth, Mary jean Tice,' 42,d.ll/OO Warne, lsabel,'29,d.9/00 McBride, Virginia Wilson,'31 ,d.! 0/00 Evans, Gladys Minas,'37,d.ll/OO Lynn, Barbara AJ!en,'40,d.IJ/OO Stanley, Ruth,' 48,d.9/00 Knight, Margaret Barclay,'32,d.9/00 Saxby, Elizabeth AJtsman,'33,d.IO/OO TuLANE UNIVIlRSITY Patton, El iza beth,'24,d.l 0/00 Davis, Alice Conroy,'66,d.7/00 ARKANSAS, UNIVIlRSITY OF Smith, Saralee AJlen,'S7,d.8/00 OHIO WESLEYAN UNIVERSITY Landry, Mildred Plauche,'26,d.l 0/00 Kerr, Margaret,' 41 ,d.l 0/00 Cadwallader, Mary Powers,'33,d.6/00 Sanders, Marjorie Marchal,'36,d.3/00 Lichty, Olivia Baucum,'30,d.I2/00 IOWA STATE UNIVERSITY Hale, Katherine Enger,'40,d.8/00 Dow, Hollis Merkle,'57,d.I/OO Mcilvain, Cornelia Sawyer, TuLSA, UNIVERSITY OF BAYLOR UNIVIlRSITY Thoem, Sigrid Spencer,'67,d.ll/OO Butler, Betty Currey,'78,d. ll/OO IOWA, UNIVERSITY OF '3 1,d.IO/OO Mallett, Catherine Doepke,'32,d.9/00 Whitney, Elizabeth Fish,'3S,d.II/OO UTAH, UNIVERSITY OF BUCKNELL UNrVERSITY Bell, Mary Thomas,'32,d.I2/00 KANSAS STATE UNrVERSITY O KLAHOMA STATE UNrVERSITY Marks, Dawn Beatty,'S6,d.9/00 Nicholson, Mary Cozzens,'32,d.l2/99 Weller, Dorothy Elder,' 17,d.S/95 Moore, judith Hendrickson, BUTLER UNrVERSITY '63,d.9/00 Sheehan, Julianne Sheldon, Harrison, Mary Bradshaw,'37,d.7/00 KANSAS, UNIVIlRSITY OF '4l,d.l2/00 Morrison, Lyndon Bailey,'S8,d.l/OO Points, Mary Drummond,'S3,d.l2/00 Raynor, Elise Schmidt,'30,d.I/OI Sturdevant, Shirley Langford, WASHINGTON UNIVERSITY Silverman, Sara Hill,'30,d.I0/98 Shelton, Patsy Piller,'42,d.IO/OO Smith, Catherine Cole,'22,d.l 0/00 '54,d.l2/00 Cheshire, Elizabeth Sprague, CALIFORNIA STATE U., FRESNO '4 l ,d.9/00 OKLAHOMA, UNIVERSITY OF Say, Elva Dau,'S4,d.7/00 KENTUCKY, UNrVERSITY OF Deckert, Juliabelle Forgey,'3S,d.4/97 Gee, Mary Naive,'37,d.IO/OO Beckwith, Helen Smith,'34,d.JO/OO CALIFORNIA, U. OF, BERKELEY johnson, Sue Ewing,'42,d.7/98 Gourley, Billie Simpson,'4l,d.IO/OO WASHINGTON, UNIVERSITY OF Behr, Margaret Maze,' 40,d.8/00 Whitlow, Allie McAlister,'30,d.IO/OO Gunning, Eleonore Aderhold, Jackson, Gertrude Dunn,'2S,d.9/00 '35,d.ll/OO Manock, Dorothy Rhodes,' 45,d.I 0/00 CALIFORNIA, U. OF, Los ANGELES LoUISIANA STATE UNIVERSITY McGowan, Stephanie Coe,' 42,d.l 0/00 Crotty, Ida Lloyd,'30,d.9/00 Minneman, Mary Hutchinson, Clay, Lynden Howell,'49,d.ll/OO 'SO,d.B/00 Dochterman, Nancy Garlinghouse, WEST VIRGINIA UNrVERSITY McGivney, Gertrude Modisette Rapp, Genevieve Conway,'28,d.IO/OO '40,d.II/OO '38,d. 7/00 > Babcock, Frankie St. Clair,'43,d.l1/00 Fleming, Kathryn Hocking,'2S,d.6/00 Stahl, Mary Smith,'24,d.II/OO *MANITOBA, UNrVERSITY OF W HITMAN CoLLEGE Headlee, Barbara Butts,'33,d.8/00 OREGON STATE UNIVERSITY Ryan, Norma Wilson,'30,d.6/00 Eubank~, Anne Casler,'36,d.1 0/00 Hughes, Marion Willaman,'26,d.l/OO Evans, lone Staley,' 42,d.ll/OO White, Eileen Dierkes,'30,d.IO/OO Sweeney, josephine Branham, *MARYLAND, UNrVERSITY OF Mayo, jean Inglis,'38,d.9/00 '26,d.l/99 Comstock, Margaret Karr,'29,d.l/OO Parker, Harriet Hatton,' 42,d.ll/OO WILLIAM & MARY, CoLLEGE OF Ramsburg, Mary Krauss,'35,d.8/00 McGee, Lois Lacy,'27,d.7/00 CARNEGIE-MELLON UNIVERSITY OREGON, UNrVERSITY OF Mainwaring, Elizabeth Floyd, MIAMI UNrVERSITY Mears, Marian Lee Villiers,' 46,d.9/00 WYOMING, UNrVERSITY OF '44,d.2/00 Dair, jean Almentrout,' 41 ,d.ll/00 Slade, Louise Clark,'26,d.9/00 Rhein, Ethel Crofts,'29,d.9/00 Snell, Barbara Johnson,' 40,d.I 0/00 Smith, Dorothy Carson,' 40,d.3/00 CINCINNATI, UNIVERSITY OF MIAMI, UNIVERSITY OF Tighe, Nancy AJexander,'54,d.10/00 Bullerdick, Vera Heidt,'29,d.l2/00 Leib, Virginia Lyons,'SO,d.I0/00 PENNSYLVANIA ST. UNrVERSITY Ward, Barbara Benton,'42,d.IO/OO Leftwich, Margaret Reece,' 45,d.9/00 Yerger, Lois Cameron,'4l,d.2/96 Brodrick, Lois Hunter,'4l,d.9/00 Whaley, Marion Woosley,'44,d.4/98 Marx, Jane Fowler,'2S,d.II/OO MICHIGAN STATE UNIVERSITY Convers, Eleanor Bennett,'44,d.9/00 Eastburn, Anne Mellinger,'30,d.9/00 CoLORADO COLLEGE Coolidge, Magrieta Gunn,'36,d.ll/OO *indicates inactive chapters Feely, Gretchen Diehl,'33,d.IO/OO Blahnik, Enid Turner,' 44,d.ll/OO MICHIGAN, UNIVIlRSITY OF PITTSBURGH, UNIVERSITY OF CoLORADO, UNIVERSITY OF Clauss, Oriel Straehley,'42,d.IO/OO Arthur, Margaret,'28,d.l2/99 PATSY PILLER SHEiroN, Kansas, Cheney, julia Miller,'32,d.ll/OO Dawson, Mary Riggs,'47,d.Il/OO White, Betty Springer,' 40,d.3/00 served the Fraternity in numerous Houle, Bettie Eckhardt,'38,d.ll /00 Guthrie, Vida Patten,'32,d.IO/OO volunteer roles including Historian Pate, Dorothy Westby,'23,d.I0/00 Hewitt, Nancy Bauer,'53,d.ll/OO PURDUE UNIVERSITY Rheem, Mary Wierman,'38,d.8/00 Miller, Nancy Comstock,'SO,d.4/97 Allen, Margaret Roehler,'26,d.9/00 {1987-88), Heritage Museum MINNESOTA, UNIVERSITY OF Lugar, Gretchen Bartels,'4l,d.9/00 Chairman {1986-88), Heritage CORNELL UNIVERSITY Mayer, Margaret Woodworth, Museum Committee (1984-88), Schneider, Barbara Krause,'53,d.9/00 Charette, Bonnie Boyd,' 41 ,d.S/99 '53,d.6/00 Wade, Agnes Lester,'23,d.ll/OO MISSOURI, UNIVERSITY OF Housing (1971), PDC (1968-71), Shehan, Irma Witte,'24,d.l 0/00 Yinger, Mary,'23,d.ll/OO Benton, )essie Hodges,'26,d.8/00 and Graduate Counselor 1945-46. Hogenauer, Mary Owsley,'34,d.8/00 R OLLINS COLLEGE DEPAUW UNIVERSITY Burnette, Celestina McKay, Hillman, EstherGentry,'26,d.2/00 MONMOUTH CoLLEGE '32,d.l 0/00 In order for names to appear in Zeller, Virginia Neff,'22,d.I2/00 Miller, Fredrica Tubbs,'47,d.I2/00 Sanders, Mary Mundell,'64,d.6/00 "In Memoriam," verification and D ENISON UNIVERSITY NEBRASKA, UNrVERSITY OF date of death must be sent to *SAN }OSE STATE UNIVERSITY Van Beuren,Virginia,'30,d.l2/00 Lohse, Helen Coyne,'40,d.3/99 Bondelie, Barbara Berry,'SO,d.9/97 Fraternity Headquarters and Weaver, Rosemary 1rwin,'46,d.9/00 Luhe, Pauline Boyd,'38,d.8/00 Foundation Office, P.O. Box 308, March, Margaret Johnson,'48,d.9/00 SOUTHERN CALIFORNIA, U. OF DRAKE UNrVERSITY Maxey, jeanne Pope,'36,d.ll/00 Brandt, Mary Mathes,'53,d.6/99 Columbus, OH 43216-0308. Larson, Mary Cary,'37,d.8/00 Memorial gifts may be sent to the Wiggenhorn, Mary Mitchell, SOUTHERN METHODIST UNIVERSITY KKr Foundation. '35,d.9/00 Holt, Jean Sloan,'47,d.9/00

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EDITOR's NOTE: We are delighted to receive your letters but regret that we are unable to print each one. Please keep writing to The The Key Themes and Deadlines Key and know that we appreciate your input. Letters are edited SUMMER 2001: Copy due April15, 2001. Theme: for clarity and length. "Angels Among Us"- featuring stories about women who are helping others in extraordinary ways, plus a special section on membership recruitment. Pass It On FALL 2001: Copy due June 1, 2001. Theme: Several months ago, my daughter called to tell me she "Exploration and Adventure"- featuring stories of needed to travel from her home in Florida to San adventure from around the world. Francisco, Calif., to have a team of doctors perform a WINTER 2001: Copy due Sept. 1, 2001. Theme: type of surgery in which very few doctors are trained. "Women Supporting Women"- featuring stories of She needed someone to assist and support her through importance to women of all ages. this two-week ordeal. I wanted to be that person. Then I asked myself, "How do we do this?" SPRING 2002: Copy due Nov. 15, 2001. Theme: "Minding Your Own Business"- featuring entrepreneurs Not being familiar with the San Francisco area, I and business owners, home-based careers and more. called a Kappa friend, ANN NoRTON DAVlS, Northwestern, for advice on lodging near the hospital and the best Themes are subject to change without notice. Stories may method of transportation to and from the airport and be submitted to The Key, Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity hospital. Ann had been my roommate for one quarter Headquarters, PO. Box 38, Columbus, OH 43216-0038; during college, but other than a few reunions and a short fax: 614/228-7809; e-mail: [email protected]. visit in 1999, we had lost touch. However, my call was Written pieces and artwork are accepted on a volunteer­ met with an immediate response of, "Well, of course, basis only. Photographs become the property ofThe Key and you'll stay with us. I'll make as many runs to the airport will not be returned. Submissions may be used in other as needed and you can have one of our cars to drive." Fraternity publications or on the official Web site. The I was awed and relieved by her generosity. Editorial Board regrets that not all submissions can be used. As I write this, we are reaching the end of our two­ week sojourn. We have had full use and comfort of her EDITOR's NoTE: Are you a stay-at-home mom? Have you home instead of a motel room at this trying time. I am left the work force to care for a loved one? The Key wants compelled to express the beauty and sustaining meaning to hear from you! The Editorial Board would like to feature of the loyalty oath we took many years ago, which Ann stories and good advice from Kappas who are not currently has lived up to. The graciousness that she and her hus­ employed outside the home - what are your challenges and band, Al, have extended to us has been overwhelming. triumphs? How has your Kappa and college experience Ann's philosophy for life is, "Pass it on." Thank helped prepare you for your current endeavors? you, Ann. You exhibit the true meaning of love and friendship. - SALLY STONER IRWlN, Northwestern Log On to KKr Have you visited www.kappa.org? Check out the new Pathways educational program now available on the Web! More new sections will be ready soon. If you have difficulty accessing the "Kappas Only" site, try these tips. 1. Read all Web site instructions carefully. 2. To register for "Kappas Only," use your full name: first, maiden, last. 3. Locate your member number on the back of The Key, or contact Fraternity Headquarters. 4. Make sure your member number is entered as a seven-digit number. If your number has fewer than seven digits, you will need to add zeros in the appro­ AI Davis and Ann Norton Davis (left) opened their home to priate places. (If your member number is 12-345, you Sally Stoner Irwin and her husband , Bob , during a difficult will need to enter it as 0120345 so it has seven digits. time. See instructions on Web site.)

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THE K EY • Spring 200 1 • 51 THE LoiRE VALLEY OF FRANCE ESCORTED TOUR May 24 -June 1, 2001 France's spectacular Loire Valley teems with imposing chateaux and magnificent gardens, and they await your discovery. We've designed this custom tour just for you, and we're taking our own French tour guide. She'll show you the best of the Loire Valley, plus Mont St. Michel and Normandy on this nine-day journey of visual delights. From $1 ,889 pp dbl occ land. Discounted air available. Limited group size. Call Linda Singleton, 800/522-8140. SWITZERLAND & AUSIRIA THE ALPS BY RAIL 15 Days, July 14,2001 Spectacular Alpine scenery unfolds as you travel by train from Vienna to Salzburg, lnnsbruck, Telfs-Buchen, St. Moritz, Tirano, Ugano, Zermatt, Andermatt to Lucerne. Enjoy three days in Vienna at the Hotel Sacher Wien. Two nights in all other cities. Ten dinners, 13 breakfasts, five lunches included, plus get-acquainted reception and dinner. $3,995. Call Nancy Grow, 800/654-4934. RUSSIAN GREAT LAKES RHAPSODY DISCOVERY September 22-29, 2001 BALJJC ScANDINAVIA - Are there enough "greats" to describe RUSSIAN CRUISE this vacation through the upper August 9-22, 2001 Midwest? Enjoy two nights at one of You will enjoy this fabulous itin­ the world's great hotels - Mackinac erary in comfort and style Island's spectacular GRAND HOTEL. aboard the new m.s. Experience great vistas in beautiful Amsterdam. Sail from Door County, great ideas in the Henry Copenhagen to Tallinn, Estonia, two days in St. Ford Museum and the inland seas we call the Great Lakes. Begin Petersburg, visit Helsinki, Finland, Stockholm, in Chicago at the Palmer House Hotel. Includes 16 meals, and Warnemunde, Germany, Arhus, Denmark, Oslo and reception- $1 ,745, pp dbl occ., land only. Low air available, or use Dover/London. Prices are excellent- starting at $2,315 FF miles or senior tickets. This popular tour fills quickly. Friends + port chgs. Discounted air available. and family are welcome. Call Nancy Grow, 800/654-4934. Call Nancy Grow, 800/654-4934.

EGYPT's SPLENDORS oF1HE NILE November 1-13, 2001 Explore every highlight along the Nile in deluxe Abercrombie & Kent style on our 12- day connoisseurs tour. Sail the Nile for six days, explore Cairo's Egyptiona Museum of Antiquities and Mummy Room, see the Pyramids and Sphinx at Giza, Abu Simbel, Luxor Temple and much more. Group size limit­ ed and space fills quickly. Book early for this exceptional deluxe tour. From $4,835pp dbl occ land. Low air add-ons available. Call Linda Singleton at 800/522-8140.

All Kappas, their friends and families are welcome on our trips. I hope you will join us for one of our bea11tif11l tours this year and experience the pleasure and fun of meeting Kappas from around the co1Jtinent. We us11ally dine together and share the day's events- but make your own choices of excursions a11d activities. Please call me for further information. -VERA MAruNE, Coordinator JEWELRY COLLECTION

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