Date Rape Drugs - 8 Dealing with Grief - 12 Survivor Stories - 22 Survival -That's Life -By LOIS C ATHERMAN HEENEHAN, Adelphi Keep Safe, INSIGHT on Domestic Violence, SEEK and Life is what happens when y ou're others provide information and means of coping with specific problems. Advisers and Fraternity officers making other plans. serve as mentors, resources and role models. Kappas worldwide share experiences through The Key. And your sister on campus or in the community is there don't know where that saying came from, but I've with applause, a hug or a free day of babysitting when always thought it quite true. Life does come along it's most needed and appreciated. I and smack you "upside the head" when you don't expect it. Maybe it's just a reminder that our inventions, Survival happens in small steps. Each step is machines, abilities and intelligence have not rendered smaller and easier to take when you know someone us invincible. has walked this path before and is there to steady your footsteps. Survival means "to last, pull through, The "happening" always seems to be disastrous­ weather" - and there is good weather and bad. or at least, those are the events we remember most "Surviving" a big wedding can mean fun-filled planning vividly. We fail an exam, don't find the perfect job or and also nail-biting anxiety. Serious illness creates house, have an auto accident, are struck by a serious grave concern that hopefully converts to triumphant illness, etc. Sometimes, however, the surprise event is recovery. And through it all ... We get by with a little a happy one - acing the exam, getting the job or house, winning a trip to Disney World, orchestrating help from our friends. o---w a big wedding. There are even the events that shift cat­ egories, like missing the train that is later derailed! Whatever the event - good or bad, major or minor - we follow the song lyrics and "pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off and start all over again." We survive. This issue tells the stories of a number of Kappas who are survivors. They experienced life on a television reality show, fought disease, endured assault, lost loved ones and changed careers. In facing their situa­ tions, they all had one thing in common - the sup­ port of other Kappas. Building on the strengths instilled by our families, we are provided with tools and taught survival tech­ niques - how to come through with our sense of humor intact, how to turn losses into gains, how to look to the future. Just think, we survive "rush" or membership recruitment! We learn how to organize an activity, gain the backing of a varied group of women, serve others, promote ethical and responsible behavior and interact for the good of individuals and the group. YV_e le.arn from each other as well as from Fraternity A short break helps these Beta Rho•, Cincinnati, members publicatiOns and programs. The Leadership Guide, survive recruitment week. THE K EY • pring 200 I CONTENTS THE KEY OF KAPPA KAPPA GAMMA • SPRING 2001 • VOLUME 118, No. 1 8 A Mother's Plea A warning about "date rape drugs" from the mother of a victim. 12 In Grief: Press On Tips for helping yourself and others to survive the loss of a loved one. 18 Hospice: Not a Place, but a Caring Concept Understanding hospice can ease worry and fear. SP EC IAL SE CTION 32 Designing Women - meet creative Kappas from across the continent. DEPARTMENT S 2 Fraternity President's 32 Accent on Alumnae Message 42 Kappas on Campus 3 Fraternity News 49 In Memoriam 22 Profiles 50 Through the Keyhole ... 30 Foundation News Letters to the Editor On the Cover "I Will Survive!" by Susannah Levin CF.E:_e:::,..._ • )J&j us Coll ege Fraternity National Panhellenic Editors Association Editors Confe rence T HE KEY • Spring 2001 • 1 o--..... The Key is the first college women's Show Your Greek Pride! fraternity magazine, published continuously since 1882. iving home after college gradu­ Wear it to work, wear it to lunch, wear it tion, it was natural to sort the to your community service organiza­ k emorabilia of four years into tion's meeting. You are living proof that EDITORIAL BOARD the "save" and "toss" piles. Somehow, my Kappa membership is for a lifetime. You Kappa membership certificate landed in exemplify to your community the best of Fraternity Vice President the toss pile, but I kept my badge. It is a Kappa. We can and will improve the Peggy Hanna Hellwig Tennessee beautiful piece of jewelry. In essence, my image of being Greek, one acquaintance badge survived the change of lifestyle at a time. However, it will take each of Editorial Board Chairman from college student to professional. us sharing the story, the purpose and the Marilyn Nichols Bullock Do you know where your golden key mission of Kappa Kappa Gamma. Kansas State badge is? Has it survived the relocations, In this issue of The Key, we examine Editor the trips to the dry cleaner, being tucked many touching stories of survival. Jenny Struthers Hoover away in a safe place only to resurface Kappa, too, has its own success story­ Bowling Green when one cleans out that chest of draw­ that of more than 130 years of history ers? It is a wonderful keepsake from and rich heritage. Wear your badge Associate Editor Lois Catherman Heenehan those collegiate days. It holds so many proudly for it is a symbol of all that is Adelphi special memories and symbolizes all that good and true and beautiful. binds us together. So, why not give it a Assistant Editor place of prominence? Laura Shock Scherer Bowling Green For several years now, the National Panhellenic Conference has encouraged Profiles Editor all sorority women to wear their badges Julie Kroon Alvarado or Greek letters the first Monday in Arizona State March. And, 2001 is no exception. Once Alumna News Editor again this month, all women in the Nancy Voorhees Laitner Panhellenic system - active and alumna Purdue alike - have been encouraged to honor their Greek affiliation by wearing their Interim Collegiate News Editor badges or letters. Allison Greiner Ohio State Greek-letter organizations have sur­ vived anti-Greek sentiment from their Director of Communications earliest days. Greek-letter organizations Jenifer Johnson Peponis have been banned from college campuses, Ohio Wesleyan only to be resurrected again, surviving_ the critics who would focus on the poor Graphic Designer choices of a handful of members. Victoria McDonald, Q.V. Design Kappa Kappa Gamma and all Greek groups continue to face a public relations The Key (ISSN 1063-4665) is pub­ challenge. The impact that an individual's Loyally, lished quarterly for $3.00 by Kappa Kappa Gamma Fraternity, 530 E. actions- or a dozen individuals' Town St., Columbus, OH 43215. actions - have on the whole is expo­ Printed i11 the U11ited States of nential. We must continually remind America, copyright Kappa Kappa Gamma Fratemity 2001. ourselves that, as good as we feel about Preferred periodical postage paid our organization, we are only as good as at Columbus, Ohio how we are perceived by others. ANN STAFFORD TRUESDELL POSTMASTER: So, what can you- one Kappa- do Ohio Wesleyan Se11d address changes to: The Key to create a positive picture of Kappa Fraternity President P.O. Box 308 Kappa Gamma? Wear yo ur badge. Columbus, OH 43216-0308 2 · THE KEY • pring 2001 NPC Tackles In closing, Marian noted that NPC is Mission Statement Tough Issues eagerly anticipating its Centennial celebra­ of The Key tion in 2002. "NPC is not great because she Delegates, presidents, executive directors is old; she is old because she is great ... a The Key of Kappa Kappa and editors of the 26 member groups of legacy earned which has been time honored Gamma links each mem­ the National Panhellenic Conference and for which each of us is responsible." gathered at the DFW Lakes Hilton ber with the Fraternity. Special sessions were held to hear Executive Conference Center in Grapevine, The mission ofThe Key is: reports of the "Women & Girls, Tobacco Texas, October 20 - 22, for NPC's 2000 & Lung Cancer" and "College Women & • to inform, inspire Interim Meeting. Depression" programs. For delegates with and challenge chapters on specific campuses, campus and • to sustain and nurture housing meetings were held to discuss crit­ ical issues and determine courses of action membership loyalty and to improve situations. interest Tim Burke, NPC legal counsel, stressed • to recognize individual, the need for everyone to protect and advo­ group and Fraternity cate our Constitutional First Amendment accomplishment rights: "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or • to provide a forum prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or for an exchange of abridging the Freedom of Speech, or of the information and Press; or the right of the people peaceably opinion to assemble, and to petition the govern­ • to be a permanent record. ment for redress of grievances." The First Chairman MARIAN KLINGBEIL WILLIAMS, Amendment and other provisions of the Missouri, (pictured above), opened the Constitution are our sources for broad free ­ meeting by emphasizing the theme, "Leading doms of association and privacy rights. To request advertising rates the Way, Sharing the Vision." Noting the Other legal issues discussed included or send information and continued concern about alcohol abuse on preserving the single-sex status of NPC photographs for The Key, campuses, Marian stressed that the time has organizations. Title IX of the Education please contact: come for new initiatives requiring NPC's Act, prohibiting discrimination on the basis KKr Headquarters and vision, leadership and courage to create of sex, does "not apply to membership prac­ Foundation Office change in the culture on the college campus.