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COMMUNITY NEWS Elan Carr Appointed as State Department’s Special Envoy to Monitor and Combat Anti-Semitism By Kol HaBirah Staff Combating Anti-Semitism in the OSCE more than a decade. He has prosecuted who attacked U.S. troops. He was also Region Feb. 5-6, according to State De- murders, armed robberies, hate crimes, part of the Coalition Provisional Author- On Feb. 5, the Trump administration partment documents. The conference and some of Southern California’s most ity’s efforts to establish an independent announced the appointment of attor- gathered government representatives, notorious criminal street gangs. Most re- Iraqi judiciary, and he helped train Iraqi ney and U.S. military veteran Elan Carr political leaders, and relevant stakehold- cently as a special victim prosecutor, he judges and lawyers on topics such as con- as the U.S. State Department’s special en- ers from academia, civil society, and the focused on sexual assault, domestic vio- stitutional law and criminal defense. voy to monitor and combat anti-Semi- media to participate in a dialogue about lence, and child molestation cases. During his time in Iraq, Carr also met tism. Carr will be responsible for over- challenges and best practices in address- with remnants of the Iraqi Jewish com- seeing efforts at the State Department ing anti-Semitism. He then traveled to munity and conducted Jewish services in to monitor and combat anti-Semitic Brussels, Belgium, Feb. 7 to participate the former presidential palace of Sadd- acts and incitement outside the United in a conference on Combating Anti-Sem- am Hussein in Baghdad. States. The position was first created in itism and Better Protecting Jewish Com- The Jewish college fraternity Alpha 2004 and was vacant for two years until munities Across the European Union. Epsilon Pi (AEPi), in which Carr held an Carr’s appointment this month. “As the grandson of Holocaust survi- international leadership position dur- The appointment comes during a pe- vors, a military veteran who fought ter- ing his time at University of California riod when anti-Semitic incidents and at- rorism, and an attorney who prosecut- – Berkeley, put out a statement as well tacks have been sharply increasing not ed gang-related crimes, Elan Carr brings commending the appointment. The fra- only in the United States, but also inter- a wealth of experience and a keen under- ternity’s stated mission is to develop fu- nationally. A 2018 report by the European standing of how to combat hate to this ture generations of the world’s Jewish Union Agency for Fundamental Rights critical position,” said National Council communities, and Carr “has been — and reported that about one-third of Jews in of Young Israel President Farley Weiss in will continue to be — a great leader and Europe said they’d been directly targeted a statement released by the organization. role model for our brotherhood,” wrote by anti-Semitic harassment. “Having met Elan Carr and being famil- AEPi CEO James C. Fleischer in a Feb. 5 “This appointment demonstrates iar with his unwavering commitment to Carr is also an officer in the United email to fraternity members. that the president and our legislators combatting anti-Semitism in the United States Army Reserve and has received “No one knows better than AEPi not only understand the seriousness of States and around the world, I have no multiple awards and commendations that anti-Semitism is on the rise across the global increase in anti-Semitism, but doubt that he is the right person for this for his nearly two decades of military ser- the world and, especially, on our col- also demonstrates our country’s commit- important job and look forward to work- vice. In 2003-2004, he was mobilized in lege campuses. This hatred knows no ge- ment to stopping anti-Semitism abroad,” ing together with him in his new role.” support of Operation Iraqi Freedom and ographic lines and crosses all political said Orthodox Union Executive Director A lifelong advocate for Jewish caus- spent close to a year on military deploy- boundaries. I am heartened and proud for Public Policy Nathan Diament. es, Carr was previously a deputy district ment to Iraq. He helped to lead a joint an- to know that Brother Carr will be work- Wasting no time, Carr traveled to attorney for Los Angeles County, where ti-terrorism team in missions throughout ing to help stop anti-Semitism wherever Bratislava, Slovakia, for a conference on he prosecuted violent felony crimes for the country, and he prosecuted terrorists it is found,” wrote Fleischer.

Trump Peace Plan Strategy directly with Israel, which will give them May ‘Surprise,’ Says Advisor some influence.” ÁÁCONTINUED FROM P. 1 He added that U.S. Ambassador to Is- rael David Friedman is “very involved” in Ballabon, on the other hand, be- hatching the new deal, and that he began by saying Trump had “delivered” on lieves the administration’s efforts will many American-Jewish issues of con- show people that “Palestinians are not cern, including the U.S. Embassy’s move the obvious representatives and owners to Jerusalem, his reneging on the Iran of land — the Jews are.” nuclear agreement, and the recent cut- Pipes doubted the feasibility of such ting of aid to the Palestinian Authority. a plan, saying that while the Palestinians Without surrendering new details, have been reluctant to engage with Isra- Ballabon argued the Trump administra- el and the United States as of late, if they tion is driving toward “a strategic shift” eventually come to the table, “It’s going in the narrative surrounding the Israe- to be a big problem.” li-Palestinian conflict that would lever- age American allies in the region and “disentangle the Arab states from the Palestinians.” Anis Modi is an Israeli “The Palestinians will reject his deal, writer and editor based in but that’s where it gets interesting,” Balla- Washington, D.C. Pipes, Stern, and Ballabon (left to right) interrupted by a protestor, who was quickly bon said. “What comes next, in my view, escorted away by Senate Police. (PHOTO CREDIT: ANIS MODI) is that America’s Arab allies will negotiate

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A Rare Spotlight on the Holocaust Several of the survivors said that they Experience of Sephardic and feel lucky to finally be able to share their Romaniote Communities stories, after years that they felt their com- ÁÁCONTINUED FROM P. 1 munities’ stories have been marginalized. “My heart is rushing,” said Miriam “The event is a milestone, because Zuares, a Libyan Holocaust survivor now many people have lapses in knowledge residing in Maryland. “I don’t want to about the Holocaust,” said SHIN DC Exec- compare my pain to anybody else, but utive Director Franz Afraim Katzir. “Many our people have never received any rep- Jews didn’t know that these communi- arations and most people almost never ties experienced the Holocaust as well talk about our stories.” until very recently, because this aspect of Jewish history has been severely under- Finally Remembered represented.” Zuares told of the horrid conditions According to guest speaker Marcia her family had to live through during the Haddad Ikonomopoulos, director of Ke- Italian occupation of Libya, experienc- Viviane Hayoun, French-Tunisian Holocaust survivor and current resident of Maryland, hila Kedosha Janina — a Romaniote syn- ing extreme poverty and malnutrition in speaking at the Rayburn House Office Building's Gold Room Jan. 31.(PHOTO CREDIT: ANIS MODI) agogue and museum located in New Libya’s Jadu concentration camp. York — many factors contributed to the “I remember crying for leftovers in the Mourtzoukos family. Fascist Italy began in earnest, later developing into omission of the non-Ashkenazi expe- over and over again, and taking a piece declared war on Greece when she was in detention, and finally, extermination. rience from common narratives of the of bread and hiding it under the pillow,” first grade, and a year later, Nazi Germa- “My older sister ran into the street, Holocaust, including the fact that many she said. “We got out of there by a mira- ny invaded the country. and there she saw my father being taken of these communities have been com- cle, and until today nobody knows what “When the Nazis asked for a list of away by the triage,” Hayoun shared. Ini- pletely erased by the Nazis. happened to all those who disappeared.” Jews, our rabbi gave them a list of dead tially, she said, her father was detained in “Even though the number of people Paulette Nehama, a Maryland resi- people,” she recalled. “It gave us and a labor camp in Drancy, a suburb of Par- who died might sound lower, the percent- dent from a Romaniote Greek-Jewish many other community members some is, and that her family was able to visit. age of the Romaniote Jewish community community, shared her story with the time to escape.” Later on, her sister was arrested and tak- that died in Greece is second only to Po- help of filmmaker Susan Barocas. Origi- But that was only the beginning of en there as well. land’s Jews,” Ikonomopoulos said. "Entire nally from the port city of Volos, Neha- her harrowing story. Her family escaped “My brother came back, and said my communities almost disappeared." ma was the youngest of two daughters to Athens using false papers, hoping to father told him to tell our mother to re- blend into the crowd. Each member of alize the pot is empty” — a reference to the family hid in a different location, in a Tunisian tradition that said one should danger of discovery not only by the Na- never return a pot without food in it. zis but also by locals. “My father had realized where the peo- "Men with revolvers came in and ple went after Drancy.” took my father away, but he was lucky," Hayoun, a native of France, was able she shared. "He bribed them with a belt to escape the country to Algeria along my mom had sewn for him that had with her mother and two brothers. Her some gold on it." father and older sister, they later found, She said the trauma of these experi- perished in Auschwitz. ences never left her. “We never talked about these experiences, even when we were all living together again,” she said. “I had the feeling Anis Modi is an Israeli that somehow we were bruised.” writer and editor based in Viviane Hayoun, a French-Tunisian Washington, D.C. Hayoun (center) and Nehama (right) lighting a memorial candle, after Sephardic Jewish survivor born in 1940, told the story of Brotherhood of America Rabbi Nissim Elnecavé’s reading of the Kaddish. (PHOTO CREDIT: ANIS MODI) how the mistreatment of Jews in France Two Americans Are First Foreigners to Receive Civilian Honor From Israeli Police By Anis Modi his gun and shoot the assailant, who lat- “The first thing that came to mind they saw the attack take place. er died of his wound. was al ta’amod al dam re’echa — don’t “You don’t know when something Simche Czin and Mordechai Lichten- Fares suffered injuries to his neck stand by as the blood of your neighbor like this would happen, and I never stadter became the first non-Israelis to and upper body, and was taken to Jeru- is being spilled,” said Dermer. “Your her- thought of having an award because receive the Civil Exemplary Decoration salem’s Shaare Tzedek hospital for treat- oism symbolizes the great solidarity be- of it,” said Lichtenstadter. “I really just from the Israel Police at a ceremony held ment. tween our two countries.” thank Hashem we were able to help.” at the Israeli Embassy on Jan. 31. “From me, my family, and the Dru- “One of the most overused words to- “Nothing was done for recognition,” The two Brooklyn, New York, resi- ze people of Israel, thank you from the day is hero, and I certainly know that Czin added. “It was all done for right- dents helped stop a 2017 terror attack bottom of my heart,” said Fares in a live- I’m no hero,” said former FBI Assistant eous purposes and to help another hu- near the Lion’s Gate in Jerusalem, dur- streamed video from his station in Israel. Director and current Homeland Security man in need.” ing which Druze policeman Master “You put your life in danger to save mine.” Director at JINSA Steve Pomerantz. “But Sgt. Naaman Fares was stabbed by an Israeli Ambassador to the U.S. Ron I’ve been lucky to work among many he- assailant. Dermer, Israeli Police Attache Cmdr. roes in my 30 years in law enforcement, According to reports, the attacker, a Yitzhak Almog, and a handful of police and I know a hero when I see one, or in Anis Modi is an Israeli 57-year-old Jordanian national, was able officials from the area came to show this case, two.” writer and editor based in to stab Fares multiple times before Czin their respect at the event, marking the Czin and Lichtenstadter said they Washington, D.C. and Lichtenstadter came to his aid. 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COMMUNITY NEWS Struggling with Fertility Challenges? This Jewish Organization May Be Able to Help By Rachel Kohn Feb. 24, from 7-9:30 p.m. at the home of nection does not have to be biological: ed. “We need people to be knowledgea- Dr. Aviva and Meir Kramer, located at Bonei Olam's Adoption Services pro- ble, we need people to help refer … The For couples struggling to conceive 701 Yeatman Parkway in Silver Spring, gram offers financial assistance to go more people know about this resource children, the most innocent things can Maryland. toward adoption-related costs such as and utilize this resource, the better all be privately heartwrenching. Take, for The event is being sponsored by pri- attorney's fees, court costs, and travel around.” instance, the sight of children running vate individuals as well as corporate expenses. “Many of us on the planning com- around town in their Purim costumes sponsors, including Holy Chow; Judi Additionally, Bonei Olam's Can- mittee know of or have friends who next month, said Silver Spring, Mary- Shields – realtor at the Barbara Ciment cer Fertility Preservation program as- have struggled with infertility. Our hope land, resident Chaim Lazarus. Empathy Team; Kol HaBirah; The Shalom Group; sists cancer patients and others in tak- is that young Jewish couples in the for this plight is one of the reasons La- and TLC Perinatal. Entrance to the event ing the appropriate measures to secure Greater Washington area will have a re- zarus supports Bonei Olam, an organiza- will be free of charge, but any donations the chances of bearing healthy children source to turn to for financial help, guid- tion that offers counseling, referrals, ge- from the event will benefit couples in upon recovery. This includes referrals ance, or counseling. I think this is a tan- netic testing, financial assistance, and the Greater Washington area, said La- and consultations with leading medical gible way to help ‘grow’ the community other services to Jewish couples seeking zarus. Light refreshments will also be experts, as well as financing the various and hopefully help out those in a very fertility treatments and navigating the served, including a selection of charcute- costly procedures involved. difficult situation.” related challenges. Bonei Olam provides rie from Wasserman and Lemberger in Bonei Olam does not currently of- For more information or to become millions of dollars internationally in fi- Baltimore. fer financial assistance to single wom- a sponsor, contact boneiolamgreater- nancial assistance to cover the costs of Bonei Olam has been active in the en looking to freeze their eggs, but is [email protected]. fertility treatments and associated med- Baltimore Jewish community since 2010, willing to guide them where to go and ical procedures, and thousands of chil- according to Regional Director Rabbi help them find discounts, said Rabbi dren have been born through the finan- Yoel Chaim Strulovics, who is based at Strulovics. cial assistance from the organization, the organization's Lakewood office. “Hopefully through this event we Rachel Kohn is editor in according to its website. When it comes to building a fami- can raise awareness of infertility and chief of Kol HaBirah. Lazarus is a co-chair of Bonei Olam’s ly, the organization thinks outside of help put it on the radar as a commu- inaugural event in the Greater Washing- the box in many ways. For instance, it nal initiative,” said Lazarus. It’s not just ton area, which will take place Sunday, recognizes that the parent-child con- a question of financial support, he add-

any reason.” In the video, mikvah users Mikvah-Related Events Focus on who talked about when they use or have Sensitivity Training, Renewal used the Community Mikvah included a man who goes every Friday in prepara- By Kol HaBirah Staff tion for Shalom Task Force; Melissa K. art safety features. Voted the best mikvah tion for Shabbat; a teen who went with Rosen, national outreach director for in Washington, D.C., in the Washington the women in her family on the Friday On Feb. 10, the Orthodox Union’s Sharsheret; and Carly Chodosh, director Jewish Week’s “Best of Jewish Washing- before her bat mitzvah; and Adas’ Rabbi Women’s Initiative held a “Sense and of the Philadelphia area’s Lower Merion ton 2018,” the Community Mikvah also Lauren Holtzblatt, whose first visit was Sensitivity” professional development Community Mikvah. Mikvah attendants still meets the physical conditions to before her wedding. training at Kemp Mill Synagogue in Sil- from Oregon to New Jersey also joined make it kosher according to Jewish law, “By linking mikvah to lifecycle ver Spring, Maryland, for 22 mikvah at- the audience via live stream. and is halachically maintained. events, we’re able to cue in, to wake up, tendants from the Silver Spring and Balti- On Jan. 30, Adas Israel Congrega- Adas brands the mikvah experience that this is real; that we are somehow more communities. The training focused tion in Washington, D.C., celebrated the as something that transcends tradition- awakened and shocked into an aware- on various topics such as mental health, newly-renovated Adas Israel Commu- al ritual use. “The Adas Israel Community ness we didn’t have before,” said Malka. domestic abuse, fertility, post-partum de- nity Mikvah with “Mayim b’Sasson,” an Mikvah is a place where you can have a “We are reimagining what [mikvah] pression, and miscarriage, as well as oth- evening of blessings, singing, and story- very private and meaningful experience means for the future, for the next gener- er sensitivities surrounding the mikvah telling open to the community. and profound connection to something ation, very much in the same way that experience. Speakers included registered The revamped mikvah was reconfig- larger,” Mikvah Director Naomi Mal- Adas Israel is reimagining what it means nurse Estee Silver; psychologist Dr. Ditza ured to be fully accessible, featuring a cus- ka said in a 2013 promotional video. “It to be a synagogue in the 21st century,” Berger; Avital Levin, director of educ- tom aquatic lift in addition to state-of-the- is open to any Jewish person to use for she concluded.

Registered nurse Estee Silver presents on the topic of “Understanding the World of a Person Struggling with Fertility, Miscarriage, and Post-Partum Depression” at the Orthodox Union’s Women’s Initiative’s “Sense and Sensitivity” professional development training at Kemp Mill Synagogue in Silver Spring, Maryland. (COURTESY PHOTO) WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 13 13 14

COMMUNITY NEWS Celebrating Community Service at Beth Sholom By Kol HaBirah Staff ty for their role as Community Securi- transition from DC to the Maryland sional security techniques, providing ty Service (CSS) volunteers. The event suburbs. physical security, and raising public Beth Sholom Congregation’s 72nd raised over 25 percent more for the syn- The Felsens are actively involved in awareness about safety issues. Beth Annual Honoree Celebration on Jan. agogue than the previous year’s gather- community life on a number of fronts, Sholom and Kesher Israel Congrega- 26 drew more than 220 people to hon- ing, according to synagogue officials. but it was during David’s tenure on the tion in DC had the first CSS teams in or congregants Debbie and David Fels- In her time at Beth Sholom, Bas- Board of Directors that the CSS pro- the Greater Washington area. The con- en and Pearl Bassan for service to their san has worked with six rabbis, four gram was initiated at Beth Sholom. gregation currently has 40 active volun- community. Bassan was recognized for executive directors, two cantors, and Founded in 2007, Community Securi- teers, and the team works closely with over 50 years of service to the Potomac, even two buildings. Synagogue lead- ty Service is a national nonprofit that the synagogue administration, law en- Maryland, synagogue, and the Felsens ership described her as an “essential safeguards Jewish community institu- forcement, and The Jewish Federation were honored as Pillars of Communi- component” in the congregation’s tions by training volunteers in profes- of Greater Washington.

Beth Sholom's Rabbi Nissan Antine with honoree Pearl Bassan. Honorees Debbie and David Felsen. (PHOTO CREDIT: ANTHONY MARILL FOR ANTHONY MARILL PHOTOGRAPHY) (PHOTO CREDIT: ANTHONY MARILL FOR ANTHONY MARILL PHOTOGRAPHY) Federation Exceeds 2018 Annual Campaign Goal By Kol HaBirah Staff Annual Campaign. This figure includes ton,” said Briton. “We gathered this input gaps and opportunities, and ultimately, $1,340,653 for priority areas and field of and developed a new way of working make funding recommendations. The Jewish Federation of Greater interest funds. Federation was also suc- with our donors and partner agencies. “The monies raised will fund both Washington recently announced that cessful in raising $10,887,300 in addition- The success of the campaign was direct- impact grants for capacity building and it exceeded its 2018 Annual Campaign al contributions for the United Jewish ly tied to this new way of working.” program expansion and innovation goal of $20.5 million. Not only do the to- Endowment Fund, its planned giving Briton added that nearly $1,000,000 grants for the creation of new programs tal funds raised represent a $900,000 in- and endowment arm of Federation. was raised in support of key priority are- once our proposal process concludes crease in commitments from the prior Zach Briton, Federation’s chief do- as that directly came out of the strategic and our task forces in each arena have year, but Federation has also seen mean- nor experience officer, said this impact- planning process, specifically Next Gen evaluated each submission,” said Brit- ingful growth in the number of donors ful growth in contributions is likely ex- Engagement, the Northern Virginia Jew- on, who added that the task forces will participating in the Annual Campaign. plained by the energy and enthusiasm ish Community, and Adult Learning. make their funding recommendations to “We are most grateful to the thou- around the launch of Federation’s stra- “The momentum built following the Federation’s board of directors later this sands of generous donors to The Jewish tegic planning process, which set out to launch of our strategic planning process Spring. “The Federation’s professional Federation of Greater Washington,” said conceptualize its vision for the commu- has been incredible and sets our commu- team plans to conduct a thorough cam- Federation CEO Gil Preuss. nity and establish a plan to achieve that nity up for future success in the years to paign analysis as they begin planning for The organization — which serves vision. come,” said Preuss. 2019. The success of the 2018 campaign a sprawling area that includes Mont- “We brought together nearly 2,000 In order to implement and allocate will provide not only stability, but mo- gomery County, Maryland, Washington, community members to listen and bet- funds appropriately, the Federation es- mentum as they continue to raise the D.C., and Northern Virginia — raised ter understand their hopes, dreams, and tablished task forces for each of its prior- funds that will propel the Jewish com- $21,177,043 in commitments for its 2018 aspirations for Jewish Greater Washing- ity areas to learn the landscape, identify munity forward.” 14 February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM 14 15

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COMMUNITY PHOTOS KMS Clothing Drive Benefits CHANA By Miriam Friedman 20. The event was sponsored by KMS, Young Israel Shomrai Emunah (YISE), Over 100 people participated in sort- and NCSY. The drive benefitted CHA- ing and loading more than 700 bags NA, a Baltimore organization that assists of clothing at the community cloth- people experiencing domestic abuse by ing drive held at Kemp Mill Synagogue providing crisis intervention, education, (KMS) in Silver Spring, Maryland, on Jan. and consultation.

(PHOTO CREDIT: MIRIAM FRIEDMAN) Blood, Sweat, and Tears – Minus the Sweat, and the Tears

(PHOTO CREDIT: MIRIAM FRIEDMAN) Tech Day at Leisure World

By Fred Shapiro The Silver Spring, Maryland, senior citizens brought their devices to More than 50 high schoolers from the teens for one-on-one tutorials. For- Charles E. Smith Jewish Day School ty residents of Leisure World, a senior (CESJDS) and area public schools gath- community in Rockville, Maryland, ered in Leisure World’s Clubhouse 2 attended. The students received com- on Feb. 3 in order to assist seniors with munity service credit at their schools their iPhones, Androids, tablets, and for participating in this annual event. computers.

On Feb. 3, Kesher Israel Congregation in Washington, D.C., partnered with Rosh Pina and DC Minyan to bring Inova Blood Donor Services and Gift of Life to Kesher for a community-wide blood and bone marrow donor drive. Thirty people donated blood, and 15 individuals registered for the Gift of Life Bone Marrow registry. (PHOTOS COURTESY OF RABBI HYIM SHAFNER.)

(PHOTO CREDIT: FRED SHAPIRO)

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MILTON fifth graders — and teachers — donned Colonial garb and welcomed Fifth grader Meital H. prepared a hands- guests to their Colonial Village. Each on learning activity for visitors of her student researched a craft or trade, colonial apothecary. Student presentations drafted back stories about their personal included interactive activities designed to history, produced daily schedules with engage and educate visitors. In addition chores, made tools, engaged guests with At the Colonial Village at Milton Gottesman Jewish Day School (MILTON), visiting parents to showcasing their creativity, fifth graders hands-on activities, and created unique and students had a chance to learn from resident innkeepers, silversmiths, printers, shared their extensive research and writing presentations to share their learning about weavers, millers, dressmakers, powdered-wig experts, architects, shopkeepers, and more. about this historical period. this era in early American history. (PHOTO CREDIT: MIRANDA CHADWICK) (PHOTO CREDIT: MIRANDA CHADWICK) (PHOTO CREDIT: MIRANDA CHADWICK)

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SCHOOLS JDAIM Berman Buddies Program Creates Inclusive Environment for Sulam Shearim Students By Kol HaBirah Staff typical classes, but under the leadership students: Elana, Moishe, and Tehilla. To- into each other in the community. “They of Devorah Merzel, their experiences on gether, they play games at lunch time, ar- sit in a classroom with just the three of Started in 2017, the Berman Buddies Berman’s campus go beyond the walls of range Shabbat and weekend playdates, them, but when they step out into the program was created to support the stu- their classroom. and create a safe space to interact and hallway, they have real relationships dents in Sulam’s Shearim program. Shea- Over 25 students in Berman’s Upper engage. And while Elana, Moishe, and Te- with other kids as well,” said Merzel. rim students have intellectual disabilities and Middle Schools have signed up to hilla have all benefitted from these inter- The partnership between Berman that preclude them from participating in be Berman Buddies to the three Shearim actions, the Berman students and faculty and Sulam has grown over the years to have gained massively from their Ber- create opportunities for students with a man Buddies in return. Openness and variety of intellectual and learning disa- acceptance, a broader sense of commu- bilities. In addition to the Shearim pro- nity, and sense of comfort to approach gram, there are 34 students enrolled in students who may be different than they Sulam who attend Berman classes, en- are have all blossomed through their in- suring that students with a variety of teractions with their buddies. learning abilities have access to Jewish It is apparent to anyone who sees education. Both schools are proud of the students interact that the students what they have created for students who are building authentic relationships. may otherwise have had limited suc- Berman students invite the Shearim stu- cess in a Jewish day school environment. dents to sit with them at lunch or on a “This is real. Our mission of inclusion is field trip, walk to specialty classes to- real. With this kind of partnership, we gether, and reach out when they run can do amazing things.” 2019 Sulam Bowlathon

Sulam Shearim student Elana Orlofsky surrounded by her Berman Buddies at Sulam's Feb. 10 Bowl-a-thon. (PHOTO COURTESY OF AHUVA ORLOFSKY)

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SCHOOLS CESJDS Student Magazine JDAIM Activities at Recognized by National CESJDS Council of English Teachers Charles E. Smith Jewish Day School (CESJDS) in Rockville, Mary- The National Council of Eng- land, is recognizing Jewish Disabili- lish Teachers has announced ty Awareness and Inclusion Month their REALM (Recognizing Ex- (JDAIM) in many ways, including as- cellence in Art and Literary Mag- semblies, class speakers, and other ac- azines) winners for magazines tivities. The national campaign was from the 2017-2018 school year. actually co-founded by the school’s Reflections, the student-run Director of Educational Support Ser- magazine at Charles E. Smith vices Lenore Layman. Jewish Day School (CESJDS) in At one JDAIM event, pictured Rockville, Maryland, came in here, Dr. Barbara Libbin of The Feld- second place for the entire state Reflections 2017-2018 staff (as pictured): Melissa man Hearing Studios spoke to the of Maryland. Tomanelli (faculty advisor), Sarit Luftman, Brianna second grade about how the ear “Each year, the students ded- Loshin, Leah Simon (editor in chief), Ray Ash, Micah works and what happens when a per- Dr. Libbin explains the different parts of icate their lunch periods and Gritz, Molly Zatman, and Jonathan Morris. son cannot hear. the outer ear. (PHOTO COURTESY OF CESJDS) free time to put together a mag- Not pictured: Jonah Abrams, Austin Kaminow. azine that represents the crea- (PHOTO COURTESY OF CESJDS) tivity and talent of the student body at CESJDS by collecting paintings, “The magazine is almost entirely stu- sketches, photographs, graphic art, poetry, dent run: They seek out student work, and prose,” said Melissa Tomanelli, who they decide what submissions get accept- teaches English in the high school and ed, they choose a theme, and they design, serves as the magazine’s faculty advisor. review, and edit each spread,” she said. “A “Last year, the students decided that they lot of thought and creativity goes into the wanted to branch out and include oth- layout of each spread and the unifying er types of media by including QR codes theme or themes of the magazine. We’re in the magazine that were linked to inter- also really proud of our middle school lit- Ryder Chesman and Ezra Libbin AJ Salz, Rina Libbin, and Maya Cohen views with artists, writers, and magazine erary magazine, Collage, who earned a Su- determine sounds that are loud versus begin constructing the inner ear. staff members.” perior rank in the program!” sounds that are soft. (PHOTO COURTESY OF CESJDS) (PHOTO COURTESY OF CESJDS)

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SCHOOLS Mrs. Frizzle’s Alter Ego Takes LBJA Science Fair to New Heights By Ariel Levi protagonist of the “Magic School Bus” probably understand why she reminds books and videos with the LBJA science me of that beloved character. You can The annual science fair at the Leo teacher, let me explain why even you imagine her taking off with you in a fly- Bernstein Jewish Academy of Fine Arts might confuse the two. ing school bus to discover the secrets of (LBJA) in Silver Spring, Maryland, was Mrs. Frizzle of the “Magic School oceans, hurricanes, and the cosmos. once again out of this world thanks to Bus” is eccentric, fun, and all about sci- Mrs. Turpie takes everything to a the students and science teacher Mrs. ence. Sharon Turpie, with her science whole new level, and she sees the sci- Frizzle — I mean Mrs. Turpie. Before you hat, silly t-shirts, wacky experiments, ence fair as part of the science curricu- get scandalized over me confusing the and love of science — well, you can lum. The LBJA students spent months creating intricate science projects, rig- orously testing hypotheses and developing theories. At each project’s display, a student shares their hypothesis, re- Sharon Turpie, science teacher. search, and conclusions. Some exciting (PHOTO CREDIT: HELEN GOLDBERG) projects this year were “Plastics in the Ocean,” “Fingerprints and Genetics,” and me around the fair, they had the glow “Sports and Science.” Mrs. Turpie also of learning on their faces. They truly brings exciting, interactive exhibits to looked like children who had entered a the fair. This year they included a giant magic school bus of learning. eye model, cockroaches, a Tesla coil, di- nosaurs, and live chickens. Ariel Levi is a homeschool father of four living in The science fair is also open to the Kemp Mill. He gives private lessons in many sub- community. As my son and daugh- jects, including math, early literacy, and piano. ter, who are homeschooled, showed Ariel can be reached at [email protected]. Fifth grader Eliana Meushaw displays her science project on the effect of plastic on oceans. (PHOTO COURTESY OF HELEN GOLDBERG)

Fifth grader Bella Tough, third grader Rivka Selkin, first grader Eden Kessous, and Tohar Teacher Natali Gavrieli observing the bug collection with kindergartner Zahara Levin. Layni create the parts of an animal cell with dried vegetables. (PHOTO COURTESY OF HELEN GOLDBERG) (PHOTO COURTESY OF HELEN GOLDBERG) Fidget Toys as Classroom Tools By Miriam Horowitz But fidgets are not just toys. In my get upset. I know that Daniel loves to classroom we have daily meeting time touch things, and the reason for knock- A classroom of 3- and 4-year-old stu- where we sing songs, daven (pray), learn ing down the tower is simply for sensory dents is an exciting place to be. Meet- about the parsha (weekly Torah portion), satisfaction. With this knowledge, I ap- ing each child’s needs, all the time, can and have engaging class discussions. proach Daniel and redirect him with an seem like a daunting task. By recogniz- While there are children who easily sit interesting fidget to use. Daniel is satis- ing the needs of each student, howev- quietly and participate, there are also a fied, playing quietly in a chair with the er, everyone’s needs can be met. It is the handful of individuals who benefit great- fidget, while Sylvia is relieved that she job of the teacher to really get to know ly from holding a fidget toy during meet- can now build her tower without Daniel each child and strategize for those times ing times. By holding and playing with a knocking it down. when the lesson plan does not fit with a fidget toy, these children satisfy their sen- When teaching children, it is so im- specific student’s needs. sory needs, and as a result, they can focus portant to meet each child where he or One strategy that works very well in and participate throughout meeting time. she is. We cannot expect all students to my classroom is our “fidget box.” This Fidgets are also great tools for redi- learn in one way because each child has (PHOTO CREDIT: MIRIAM HOROWITZ) box contains various types of sensory recting children who are disruptive to individual needs. It is the prerogative of and tactile objects and toys that my stu- others. When Sylvia* builds a tower and the teacher to modify the environment Miriam Horowitz teaches 3 and 4 year olds at dents enjoy playing with. When this box Daniel knocks it down, Sylvia can un- for her students, instead of expecting all Shomrai Preschool in Silver Spring, Maryland. She is left on the table for the children to derstandably be frustrated. Sylvia, how- children to fit inside one type of box. has been teaching in an early childhood setting explore, most children in the class will ever, calmly rebuilds her tower. If this *All characters, names, and scenarios for over three years and is passionate about inclu- have a great time using these items. happens repeatedly, Sylvia will really are completely fictional. sive education. 22 February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM 22 23

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Discussing Disability: “Further, I use identity-first language using ‘people first,’ we are acknowledg- us” — meaning that any conversations ‘Nothing About Us Without Us’ because many communities prefer it as ing that they are individuals, before an- about disability and related topics must ÁÁCONTINUED FROM P. 1 a marker of pride, particularly the blind, ything else.” include disabled people — as a rallying Deaf, and autistic communities,” she said. The Jewish Federation of Greater cry and call to action. Regan, who self-identifies as a disabled “We in the autistic community have a Washington tries to emphasize language “People with disabilities need to be disability activist. strong preference for IFL, in part because that is “less about ability and more about at the table, and we need to have power Every single person interviewed for of the long negative history of people try- accommodations,” according to Lisa in this conversation,” said Rabbi Regan. this story emphasized the importance of ing to cure or recover us,” explained Ari Handelman, Federation’s community “A bunch of non-disabled parents and respecting individual preference. When Ne’eman, past president and co-found- disability inclusion specialist. “It’s how professionals having meetings where speaking to or about an individual, the er of the Autistic Self-Advocacy Network. we communicate respect, how we com- they decide amongst themselves what answer is clear: Ask them which termi- “We do not believe autism is incidental municate welcoming, and it often has an to call us aren’t going to be able to get nology they prefer. to who are we as people, but rather it is emotional component to it,” she said. it right, for the same reason that bad “You can never go wrong with ATP part and parcel of our larger identity.” things happen when groups of men [ask the person],” said Jennifer Laszlo While this is an increasingly common #SayTheWord make decisions about women. Disabled Mizrachi, founder and president of Re- perspective among disability self-advo- Another argument in favor of IFL is people need to have power much more spectAbility. Mizrachi is dyslexic and has cates, it is by no means universal. Though that disability needs to be acknowledged than we need people to use officially ADHD, and is also a parent to children the autism community generally prefers and discussed to ensure disability is part sanctioned respectful language.” with multiple disabilities. IFL, Kenny Kalman prefers PFL. of the conversation, and accessibility is There was also consensus that sev- “My preferred language is person embedded in the planning process for ‘I’ is for Inclusion eral specific terms are no longer accept- with disabilities since it shows that I am all community events and initiatives. There may be no universal answer able. These include “wheelchair-bound,” a person first,” he said. Kalman, a mem- To that end, disability activist Lawrence about “correct” disability terminology, “confined to a wheelchair,” and “suffers ber of Ohev Sholom – The National Syn- Carter-Long created the #SayTheWord but there are clear takeaways. First and from” or is “afflicted with” X condition agogue, has multiple disabilities includ- social media campaign. foremost, respect individual and group or disease. ing autism and Stickler syndrome. He “If you can’t talk about something, it preferences. Second, when in doubt, ask. “I care a lot more about ‘lives with’ or works for the U.S. Department of Edu- becomes more taboo, not less. If some- Finally, language is important, especial- ‘has’ instead of ‘suffers with,’ rather than cation and previously interned at sever- thing is unspeakable, we can’t normalize ly as it can have implications for access ‘person with disability’ versus ‘disabled al disability organizations. “Since I have it,” said Rabbi Regan. Her Matan webinar and accommodations, but it is also a ve- person,’” Mizrachi said. “One of my pet multiple disabilities and I want to be included a Harry Potter reference to sup- hicle to the end-goals of inclusion and peeves is describing someone as suffering seen for who I am, I agree most with peo- port this: “As Dumbledore said, fear of a accessibility. from a disability, rather than living with ple-first language.” name increases fear of the thing itself.” “The discussion of the appropri- it. They may be having a fantastic life.” ate term is an interesting and impor- When it comes to discussing disabil- tant academic discussion, but what is ity in general or in reference to a group “We don’t say we are ‘people with Jewishness’; we more important is that during JDAIM, of people, however, the answer is not so are ‘Jews’ or ‘Jewish people.’ I’m not a person with we actually make concrete steps to in- straightforward. femaleness or a person with whiteness either. By the clude people with disabilities,” said Aar- same token, my disability identity shouldn’t be treated on Kaufman, who has cerebral palsy. He Person First or Identity First? is the senior legislative associate focus- Person-first language (PFL) is cur- any differently than any of my other identities.” ing on disability and poverty issues at rently enshrined in the American lexi- Jewish Federations of North America, con thanks to the Americans with Disa- Ne’eman, who is currently writing a “The practical implications of the but these comments reflect his person- bilities Act (ADA) of 1990. As the ADA was book about the history of disability in linguistic choices can trickle down to al perspective. drafted, disability rights activists pushed the U.S., distinguished between general how a person is perceived and wheth- For community institutions, “Lan- for the act to use the person-first con- conversations about disability and refer- er they feel able to show up as their au- guage is about accommodation needs struct of “people with disabilities” as part ences to specific groups. thentic self, freely able to speak about vs. disability type,” Handelman said. of an effort to move away from negative “When talking about the disability disability,” said Rabbi Lauren Tuchman. “What can we as an environment and a terms such as “handicapped” and “crip- community as a whole, I think you can Rabbi Tuchman is, to her knowledge, community accommodate? The onus is pled.” There was some pushback against use either [PFL or IFL], since there are the first blind female rabbi. “I believe on the environment to change, not on person-first language at the time – The folks with both preferences. But when both identity-first and person-first lan- the individual to change.” Institutions National Federation of the Blind (NFB) you’re talking about a specific group, guage can enable authentic expression don’t need to know someone’s diagno- issued a resolution in 1993 condemning you should follow the communal norm. of oneself around disability identity, sis or specific disability to be inclusive, both PFL and euphemisms — and oppo- Communities have preferences and that but I do think that many well-meaning she explained, they just need to know sition to PFL has increased significantly should be respected.” folks use person-first out of a lauda- what accommodations will enable the since the ADA was passed. Both RespectAbility and Sulam use ble desire to be inclusive and don’t re- individual to fully participate. “We use identity-first language [IFL] PFL to emphasize what people can do, alize that it can sometimes feel invali- “People can use the right language, to describe other common identities rather than focus on what they can’t. dating.” but even if you use the language that outside the disability space,” said Ari- “We don’t view people as their disabili- While Sulam generally uses PFL, they is right for a particular person, but they elle Silverman, founder of Disability ties. We know that every person, even also encourage students to “own their don’t feel welcome in your communi- Wisdom Consulting. Silverman, who is with a disability, is an individual,” said disabilities,” Heller said. “There’s a lot ties, then this becomes an academic dis- blind from birth, has a doctorate in so- Lianne Heller, executive director of Su- of stigma around disability. Admitting a cussion," Kaufman said. "What’s most im- cial psychology and over a decade of ex- lam. Housed within Berman Hebrew disability can be hard for families. We portant is a sense of belonging.” perience researching the disability expe- Academy, Sulam provides students in found that when students can acknowl- rience. “We don’t say we are ‘people with grades K-12 with highly individualized edge, accept, and embrace their disabil- Jewishness’; we are ‘Jews’ or ‘Jewish peo- educational programs in a unique com- ities, they become far better advocates. ple.’ I’m not a person with femaleness bination of inclusion in general educa- They are able to better explain what Malka Goldberg is manag- or a person with whiteness either. By tion classrooms and targeted instruc- their needs and rights are, and they do ing editor of Kol HaBirah. the same token, my disability identity tion. “Everybody is different, everybody better overall.” shouldn’t be treated any differently than is unique in their own way. Their disa- The disability rights movement has any of my other identities.” bility doesn’t put them into a box. By adopted “nothing about us without 24 February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM 24 25

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Running for Friendship case with Sam, who radiates joy through is too great a burden on top of care-relat- his continuous and contagious smile. ed costs — and this can further isolate By Lori Snyder close to half a million dollars, gathered Though starting out as a participant in them from their peers, depending on the in Miami for the race. Team Maryland Friendship Circle where he made many community in which they live. Friend- I just returned was led by 11-time marathoner and Po- friends, in recent years Sam has become ship Circle steps in to provide that miss- from participating in tomac resident Dana Ginsburg, with her a volunteer big brother to younger par- ing friendship and inclusion through my first marathon. characteristic dedication, warmth, and ticipants. He most recently took on a their extensive programming. I am not an athlete, enthusiasm. The team was made up of leadership role, serving as a board mem- In the Talmud, one sage argues that I hate crowds, and 14 runners, including two husband-and- ber of his local Friendship Circle chapter friends are so important that death is I spend most of the winter trying to wife teams and a mother-daughter duo. in central New Jersey. preferable to a life without friendship. avoid going out in the cold. So what in- The local Maryland Friendship Circle What makes friendship so important for spired me to walk 13.1 miles in a crowd chapter raised more than $70,000. the Talmud to make such a statement? of 24,000 people after spending two Marathon participants were treated In the words of Mendel Groner, direc- months diligently training outdoors in to an inspirational Shabbat the day pri- tor of Friendship Circle International: frigid temperatures? or to the marathon, as well as a pre-race “Friendship is the key which enables The answer is: The Friendship Cir- banquet Saturday night. This year, You- people to successfully journey through cle. The Friendship Circle has become Tuber and avid marathoner Meir Kay, life, accomplishing their goals, and not an international phenomenon, and the whose videos emphasize the impor- swaying in the face of major challeng- mission of the local affiliate, directed tance of being happy and kind to others, Team Maryland (PHOTO CREDIT: NECHAMA RAPPAPORT) es. Friendship is equally as important as by Rabbi Mendel and Chana Kaplan of joined the gathering for a motivational other basic needs.” Chabad Lubavitch of Maryland, is to fa- pre-race pep rally. Friendship Circle mom and local resi- To learn more, visit www.fcmd.org or cilitate friendships and foster inclusion “Friendship is not a luxury,” said Sta- dent Noemi Garih shared that her daugh- attend the Team Maryland open house in by bringing together individuals with cy Goto, mom of honoree Sam Goto, ter Solika doesn’t get invited to playdates Potomac on Feb. 24 from 4-7 p.m. Contact disabilities and volunteers through a who was celebrated at the Team Friend- or birthday parties, so participation in Dana Ginsburg at [email protected] for ad- wide range of social, educational, and ship Miami pre-race banquet. Sam is a The Friendship Circle is “a way of her be- ditional information. Jewish programs. Approximately 250 young man who was born with the ge- ing able to go out and be social with oth- teens currently volunteer for the Friend- netic condition Koolen-de Vries Syn- er kids her age and to be with kids who Lori Snyder is a first-time marathoner and Friend- ship Circle of Maryland, serving over 100 drome, a disorder characterized by de- are open and love her without judge- ship Circle mom. She is the owner of Imaginary participant families. velopmental delay and mild to moderate ment.” Often, kids like Solika do not at- Spaces In Ordinary Places, a residential interior Very early Sunday morning on Jan. 27, intellectual disability. People with this tend Jewish schools — they may need architecture and design firm. She enjoys helping 183 Friendship Circle participants from disorder typically have a cheerful, so- a setting or resources that the schools parents connect to both public and private re- across the country , who together raised ciable disposition; this is certainly the don’t offer, or the cost of private school sources for children with special needs.

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a JNF-supported program, is designed From the Great Outdoors to the Army, to make this pastime accessible for peo- JNF Supports Inclusion in Israeli Culture ple with physical, emotional, and cognitive disabilities. Based on the notion that By Leiba Chaya David call to action for all of us as we act in ac- that he can apply to enter the work force all citizens have the right to access Israe- cordance with our Jewish values, honor- upon graduation. li culture, LOTEM brings children with Israel is known as the start-up nation, ing the gifts and strengths that we each “They are regular soldiers just like disabilities to Israel’s nature and heritage spearheading innovations in agri-tech, possess.” us,” one IDF private said of her experi- sites; when the children can’t get out, cybersecurity, and more. The pioneering ence with the SIU soldiers. “We count they bring nature to them. spirit that built Israel has generated a re- Special in Uniform on them to do their jobs, and they add to “LOTEM offers accessible hikes and markable culture of out-of-the-box think- One arena undergoing a transforma- the environment on the base.” Over the educational nature activities around the ing that has consistently kept the coun- tive change is arguably the most quintes- past 14 years, SIU has empowered hun- country to children and adults with spe- try at the top of its game. sential to Israeli identity: the Israel De- dreds of soldiers with special needs to cial needs. These include visual and hear- Recently, Israel has also begun to fense Forces (IDF). In Israel, army service join the IDF, and helped them launch ca- ing impairments; physical, intellectual, share its many social innovations with is the ticket to success; one of the first reers in animal training, mechanics, and and emotional challenges; and children the world, including its creative plat- questions in any job interview or social other professions. on the autism spectrum,” explained Rita forms for including and empowering encounter is, “Where did you serve?” Yet, Special in Uniform has recently be- and Chet Stein of Bethesda, Maryland, people with disabilities. Israel is home historically, the IDF has provided no ser- come an internationally recognized who are also members of JNF’s Task to some 1.6 million people living with a vice options for higher-functioning indi- model for inclusion in the military. The Force on Disabilities. “As Israel contin- range of disabilities (from emotional to viduals with cognitive disabilities. Israeli Consulate in Chicago facilitat- ues to grow, the need for services such physical to developmental), and as part Special in Uniform (SIU), a ground- ed meetings between SIU and top offi- as those LOTEM provides — outside the of its focus on improving quality of life breaking partnership between JNF and cials from the Indiana and Illinois Na- Tel Aviv-Jerusalem corridor — is impera- for all in Israel, Jewish National Fund the IDF, offered Yahar just such an alter- tional Guard, and Indiana Governor Eric tive, and JNF focuses its support on such (JNF) is dedicated to ensuring that no native. The program places young adults Holcomb and his delegation met with organizations.” member of Israeli society is left behind. with disabilities on bases nationwide, SIU soldiers in Israel to explore ways of LOTEM is taking the message of in- “JNF believes that we have an obliga- provides inclusion training to IDF per- adapting the model for the Midwest and clusivity one step further by introduc- tion to ensure that each and every Israe- sonnel, and offers support to families. other parts of the U.S. ing values of equality and accessibility li enjoys a life of dignity, belonging, and Last fall, Yahar and his mother left their into the corporate workplace. By focus- purpose,” said Gary J. Kushner of Bethes- family in Petach Tikva and moved to Ya- LOTEM: Making Israel Accessible ing on inclusivity in leading internation- da, Maryland, chair of JNF’s Task Force har’s base near Eilat. His job as a soldier Hiking and spending time in na- al companies, LOTEM is inspiring oth- on Disabilities. “JDAIM [Jewish Disabili- is categorizing inventory in the supplies ture is a favorite national pastime in Is- ers around the world to open their doors ty Awareness and Inclusion Month] is a warehouse, where he is learning skills rael. LOTEM: Making Israel Accessible, and hearts to people with disabilities.

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ADL to Maryland Senate: Pass the Lessons Soon, the eyewitnesses to of the Holocaust and Genocide Act the Holocaust and other genocides will no longer be By Doron Ezickson derstanding, and respect among diverse cide education in K-12 schools could not able to tell their own stories, racial, religious, and ethnic groups. be more urgent. In 2017 alone, ADL docu- and the responsibility will On Feb. 13, ADL Washington D.C. Re- ADL has a unique and valuable per- mented a 57 percent increase in anti-Se- shift to family members, gional Director Doron F. Ezickson submit- spective on the importance of Holo- mitic incidents across the country, and a ted the following written testimony for caust and genocide education in K-12 94 percent increase in anti-Semitic inci- institutions, educators and the record to the Maryland Senate Edu- schools. Since 2005, ADL, in partnership dents in K-12 schools. Here in Maryland, individuals to share their cation, Health and Environmental Affairs with the USC Shoah Foundation and Yad ADL recorded 18 anti-Semitic incidents narrative and experiences. Committee in support of SB 416, Lessons Vashem World Holocaust Remembrance in 2017 where perpetrators specifically of the Holocaust and Genocide Act, in- Center in Jerusalem, has trained more evoked the Holocaust as a mode of har- underscores the pressing need for Hol- troduced by Maryland State Senator Ben than 50,000 educators through the Ech- assment, vandalism or intimidation. ocaust and genocide education in Mary- Kramer (D-19). The bill seeks to ensure oes & Reflections Holocaust education These incidents did not take place land schools. Words and actions matter, that schools across the state are teaching program, which allows teachers to in- in a vacuum. They come at a time of ris- and it is imperative that our students un- students about the Holocaust and other troduce students to the complex themes ing incivility, the emboldening of hate derstand the risks when hatred and big- acts of genocide. of the Holocaust and its impact on the groups, and a resurgence of Holocaust de- otry go unchecked. The Anti-Defamation League (ADL) is world. In total, the program has reached nialism – a challenge that has existed on We have both a unique opportuni- pleased to submit this written testimo- an estimated 5.2 million students across the fringes for many years, but in recent ty and an important obligation to em- ny in support of the Lessons of the Hol- the United States. years has encroached on the mainstream power a new generation to learn from ocaust and Genocide Act, SB 416 (Sen. of our politics and discourse. They also our past in order to build a stronger and Kramer). This bill seeks to ensure that come at a time when Holocaust and gen- more tolerant society in the future. For schools across the state of Maryland are ocide awareness, particularly among these reasons, ADL urges the Senate Ed- teaching students about the Holocaust young people, is fading from memory. ucation, Health and Environmental Af- and other acts of genocide, based on According to one recent survey, for exam- fairs Committee to report out SB 416 curricular guidelines established by the ple, 22 percent of American millennials favorably. This bill establishes a clear State Board of Education. have either never heard of the Holocaust framework and directive for Holocaust Since 1913, ADL’s mission has been to or are unsure whether they have heard and genocide education in K-12 schools, “stop the defamation of the Jewish people of it. Even fewer Americans, 35 percent, while affording the State Board of Educa- and to secure justice and fair treatment to ADL has also partnered with the U.S. know about the Armenian Genocide. tion the autonomy and flexibility to de- all.” Dedicated to combating anti-Semi- Holocaust Memorial Museum to develop Soon, the eyewitnesses to the Holo- velop curricular guidelines. tism, prejudice, and bigotry of all kinds, its Law Enforcement and Society: Lessons caust and other genocides will no longer We look forward to continuing to as well as defending democratic ideals of the Holocaust program (LEAS), an inno- be able to tell their own stories, and the serve as a resource in connection with and promoting civil rights, ADL is proud vative training that examines what can responsibility will shift to family mem- this initiative here in Maryland. of its leadership role in developing inno- happen when law enforcement person- bers, institutions, educators and indi- vative materials, programs, and services nel do not uphold democratic principles. viduals to share their narrative and ex- Doron Ezickson is the ADL’s Washington D.C. re- that build bridges of communication, un- The need for Holocaust and geno- periences. This context only further gional director. TORAH PERSPECTIVES Love Love and Hate Hate By Rabbi Stephen Baars But how does it feel when you com- pete against people who are better than I don’t want you you? Even if you are the best, you can’t to think I smile at stay that way forever, and all that judge- everyone and have ment comes back at you. endless patience for How you think about others will even the biggest of fools. Far from it! always come back to you. And what is But I do want to tell you why you will worse, it will come back to you, by you! be happier when you love more and One day you will end up missing the hate less. easy salvo and you will remember your The problem (a problem) with hate abusive thoughts. The opposite is also is that it requires judgement. To hate the case: The more you forgive others someone, you have to think you are bet- for their indiscretions, the more you can ter than them. In of itself, that might forgive yourself. It is simply not possible not seem unreasonable. Unless you are to have a balanced sense of your own at the bottom of the moral ladder, I am weakness without viewing others the be throwing stones at the Israelis.” Wow! yone I cannot abide. How does G-d abide sure there are many people over whom same way. It’s so easy to dismiss extremists, and so me? Maybe, when I abide others. you possess moral superiority. Let’s use a “Inclusion” is a big theme in the hard to understand them. Empathy is simple sports analogy: You feel good be- world these days. But where should peo- not feeling sorry for someone; it’s realiz- Originally from London, Rabbi Stephen Baars re- ing the best tennis player in your school; ple be included? ing I would be the same as them. sides in Rockville, Maryland, and serves as exec- it makes you feel superior to think of In the most important place of all. In In this week’s parsha (Torah por- utive director of Aish Seminars. An educator and everyone else as incompetent, and there our hearts. tion), the Torah says: “And I shall dwell marriage counselor for the past 25 years, Rabbi is a pleasure (albeit immature) when My rabbi, Rav Noah Weinberg zt”l amongst the Jewish people” (Exodus Baars and his wife, Ruth, are blessed with seven your opponent misses an easy salvo and (of blessed memory), used to say: “If I 29:45). The gap between G-d and me is children. Learn more about Rabbi Baars at www. you can look down with disdain. grew up in the Gaza Strip, I too would greater than the gap between me and an- getbliss.com and www.core9.live. WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 27 27 28 FOOD & DINING

The Taste of Memories Connecting food, heritage, loss, and love for Israel.

By Noy Peri my family, at some point food will be mentioned. Part of what made This is why, when I began working in me want to be a shli- the Olam Tikva and Gesher Jewish Day cha, an Israeli emis- School communities in Northern Virgin- sary, is my love for my ia, there was one program I knew I had to home country of Isra- bring here: "Taste of Memories." The pro- el, as well as my desire to help others see gram was created by a shlicha in Minneso- its beauty; to fall in love with it, not just ta who had just completed her army ser- on their own, but through my eyes. To vice. In those first months, both of being see Israel the way I see her. out of the IDF and being in a new com- There are an infinite number of ways munity, she felt the need to teach about to create a relationship with the State what it means to Israelis, soldiers and ci- of Israel. The experiences you can have vilians alike, when a soldier falls in battle. are as diverse as the cultures that can be She created this program that allowed her found there. community, and now our community, to For me, though, it has always been learn about those who sacrificed their By cooking and eating their favorite foods, about the food. lives in the defense of Israel. learning about who they were, As an Israeli with roots in the Mo- One of the most loving things a par- we can help preserve their memory. roccan and Yemenite cultures, food ent does on a regular basis is cook his or has always been a big part of my life. her child’s favorite meal. Parents know Growing up, I remember how conver- each ingredient, each step of the process, same recipes given to us by their parents, Israel, and I knew, instantly, that I must sations throughout the week revolved and there is no greater reward than see- and as we eat the foods, we learn about bring it to Olam Tikvah and Gesher. around what we would be making for ing their child enjoy it when it’s ready. their life. We become part of those who I have found that the "Taste of Mem- Shabbat dinner. On Friday, we would Preparing those foods and seeing that are tasked with preserving their memo- ories" program truly helps create a bridge go to the shuk (market) to buy food joy is just one of the many small things ry, the memory of who they were, of the between Americans and Israelis, in what and challah. The smells of my parents lost when a soldier falls in battle. tastes and smells that filled their homes it means to honor our fallen soldiers and cooking Friday afternoon, aromas that "Taste of Memories" seeks to honor and their bellies. to remember them. It made an impact lingered until Shabbat morning. Near- those fallen soldiers through the food When I first participated in this pro- on me an Israeli who has lost friends in ly every memory I have involves food; they loved. We spend some time cooking gram while training to be a shlicha, the service of the IDF, yet I was amazed that and most of the time when I talk about the soldier’s favorite meal, guided by the soldier who was chosen was someone the program has just as strong an im- whose story I already knew. At first, I pact on many people who have partic- thought there was little more I could ipated in it here at Olam Tikvah. Cook- learn or understand about him. Yet as ing together, exploring the ingredients of I added one ingredient to the next and these foods, has made the group want to watched the final product take shape, learn more about the soldiers, to under- emotions began to overwhelm me as stand who they were, and to ensure that they never had before. I realized that each of their lives will have a legacy. I was doing something for his memo- By cooking and eating their favorite ry, something that his parents could no foods, learning about who they were, longer do for him. we can help preserve their memory. The As I ate the food, I felt as though I was smells and tastes that brought joy to their connecting to this fallen soldier in a new, lives can help us appreciate them as their unique way. I understood I was able to eat memory becomes our responsibility. his favorite chocolate brownies only be- This article is an abridged version of cause he could not. For me, it was one of “Learning About Israel Through Food,” the most powerful moments I have had which appeared in the January 2019 news- in remembering those who have died for letter of Congregation Olam Tikvah. Back to the Basics: Bimbo Bakeries USA Confirms Kosher Re-certification By JNS and Kol HaBirah Staff nounce that we will once again be of- to enjoy themselves and with their fam- fering kosher products under the Ar- ilies,” they added. “We’d like to thank After removing kosher certification nold, Sara Lee and Ball Park brands,” both the Orthodox Union and KOF-K from many of its items, Bimbo Baker- the company announced in late Jan- for their guidance as we reviewed our ies USA will once again be selling kosher uary. options.” products. “As three of our largest brands, Bimbo Bakeries USA is a subsidiary “After hearing from our loyal ko- many of which are distributed nation- of Mexico’s Grupo Bimbo, which is one sher consumers and after productive ally, Bimbo Bakeries USA is confident of the world’s largest baked-goods busi- meetings with our Kosher Certifiers, that kosher consumers will be able to nesses with America’s largest privately Bimbo Bakeries USA is pleased to an- find the products they are looking for labeled bread-baking firm. 28 February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM 28 29 FOOD & DINING Star-K Addresses Claims Regarding Its success and growth of our Indian certification portfolio has led to questions by Products from India other agencies,” said Rabbi Holland. “We have always welcomed outside review By Gabe Aaronson and rabbi of Agudath Israel of Balti- former employee who worked in their and we are quite pleased with the reac- more since 1981, it has become one of India division. Rabbi Holland told Kol tions of our colleagues at the OU after re- In his book ti- the largest worldwide kosher certifying HaBirah the employee in question was viewing our Indian companies.” tled “Kosher,” Geor- agencies. fired for “failing to execute their job re- He added that the Star-K’s own poli- gia State University According to Lichtenstein’s anon- sponsibilities and for unbecoming reli- cy is to closely review products — both law professor Timo- ymous source, the OU and Vaad Har- gious comportment.” from the Far East and domestic sourc- thy Lytton wrote that abonim of Queens are particularly wary Rabbi Moshe Elefant, chief operating es — certified by other agencies as well. the Star-K, based in Baltimore, is one of of Star-K-certified products originating officer for Orthodox Union’s kosher divi- “For example, STAR-K accepts no meat, the “big five” kosher agencies that certi- from India. sion, said they accept Star-K-certified, ko- poultry, or matza from any agency with- fy 80 percent of kosher food worldwide. Generally, kosher certifying agen- sher-sensitive ingredients from India af- out a physical audit at the facility in The others are Organized Kashrut Lab- cies review every ingredient in a prod- ter closely reviewing each one. “We take question and Rav Heinemann’s approv- oratories (OK), Orthodox Union (OU), uct before certifying the final product, a risk-based approach to each ingredi- al,” he said. Chof-K, and Chicago Rabbinical Council and kosher-sensitive ingredients such as ent,” he said. “The OU holds [the Star-K’s Regarding the Vaad Harabonim of (CRC). The Star-K has a substantial inter- wine or fish must be from a source they Rabbinic Administrator] Rabbi Moshe Queens, Rabbi Holland said there had national presence, including in the Far trust. According to Rabbi Zvi Holland, di- Heinemann in the highest regard.” been a disagreement between the Star-K East and India where it certifies 1,000 rector of special projects for the Star-K, Rabbi Pollak said that in response and Vaad about an issue unrelated to food facilities. the Star-K has 100 full-time employees to these allegations, the Star-K invited kashrut, but as of Feb. 8, that issue has Yet on the Jan. 26 episode of the and 500 part-time employees certifying all the major kosher certifiers to review been resolved. Rabbi Chaim Schwartz, “Headlines” Jewish news podcast, host 131,000 products from 3,000 facilities in their mashgiach (kosher supervisor) and executive vice president for the Vaad David Lichtenstein discussed allegations 50 countries. The Star-K also provides a inspection databases. A senior admin- Harabonim of Queens, did not respond from an anonymous source that the OU free kosher information hotline (410-484- istrator from the OU accepted this of- to multiple inquiries from Kol HaBirah. and Vaad Harabonim of Queens, New 4110) that answers over 150,000 kosher fer. “STAR-K is proud that even after ex- York, are reluctant to rely on the Star-K’s questions from consumers, companies, haustive reviews of Indian companies, Gabe Aaronson does IT project management for certification for certain products. and smaller certifying agencies each year. only one ingredient approval — which the Defense Health Agency and public policy and The Star-K, also known as Vaad Dr. Avrom Pollak, president of the was personally approved by Rav Moshe communications consulting for various clients. He Hakashrut of Baltimore, started in 1949 Star-K, told Lichtenstein the allegations Heinemann — was questioned by the is a special correspondent for Kol HaBirah, and as a regional operation. Under the lead- regarding the Star-K were “absolutely not OU staff,” Rabbi Holland said. Rabbi Ele- lives in the Kemp Mill community in Silver Spring, ership of Rabbi Moshe Heinemann, a true.” Rabbi Holland said the allegations fant said the review is still ongoing. Maryland, with his wife and three children. Email world-renowned expert on Jewish law ultimately originated from a disgruntled “We understand that the incredible [email protected].

JDAIM Beth Sholom Hosts Master Chef Competition for Chai Lifeline Kids By Kol HaBirah Staff vides undivided attention from their Big- ents needed to complete their dish. The Sib. The Jan. 27 Master Chef competition groups were under great pressure, but On Jan. 27, Chai Lifeline Mid-Atlan- was certainly a unique activity for these tried to remain calm, cool, and collected tic spiced things up with an epic Master BigSib, LittleSib pairs. as they competed for first place. With the Chef competition in Potomac, Maryland. The BigSib, LittleSib pairs arrived ingredients they collected, each group Chai Lifeline provides programs and at Beth Sholom Congregation ready to created a unique sandwich. Not only did services designed to meet the unique turn up the heat. They were welcomed they have to make sure their sandwich- emotional, social, and financial needs by Master Chef Jonathan Welfeld, who es tasted great, but they also needed to of families living with serious pediatric arranged a delicious menu and beauti- look appealing. They plated their delight- illness or loss. In the Chai Lifeline Big ful spread. Dressed up in chef hats, coats, ful creations like true professionals. (PHOTOS COURTESY OF CHAI LIFELINE) Brothers/Big Sisters program, kids are and aprons, the kids were ready to com- After the timer was up, each group’s paired up with a Chai Lifeline volunteer; pete. Each pair teamed up with a mem- sandwich was taken to the judge’s table, ating the components of the dish, from each pair is known as a “BigSib, LittleSib ber of the community to create a state- staffed by guest celebrity judges Beth taste to presentation, they chose a win- duo.” A few times a month, a duo will en- of-the-art sandwich. Sholom’s Rabbi Nissan Antine and com- ner. However enjoyable the sandwiches gage in an activity together. LittleSibs As soon as the timer started, each munity member Sharon Galitzer. Af- were, the smiles on all the competitors’ look forward to the outing, which pro- group ran to quickly grab the ingredi- ter tasting each masterpiece and evalu- faces were the highlight of the event.

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NoVa Film Festival Aims to Reframe, an environment for children to be creative on their own terms, entrepreneurs Positively Represent People With Disabilities on the autism spectrum, and tireless advocates fighting for disability rights By Kol HaBirah Staff across the globe. Relationships between families, couples, mentors, and neigh- In 1989, the movie “My Left Foot,” star- bors will all be explored. Post-screening ring an up-and-coming Anglo-Irish actor discussions will explore issues addressed named Daniel Day-Lewis, was released. by the movies themselves, but also move The movie detailed the biography of beyond that toward discussion on the Christy Brown, an Irish artist and writer broader themes as well as what individu- born in the 1930s. Brown was born with als and communities can do better. cerebral palsy, and the only limb he was Some of the movies are from Israel; able to control was his aforementioned for example, “Shoelaces” explores the dy- foot. He was raised among his siblings namic between an absent father and the rather than institutionalized and aban- son with special needs he left behind, doned, as was common at the time, and who could save his life. “Scaffolding,” an- the world is richer for it. Brown wrote the other movie in Hebrew with subtitles, autobiography from which “My Left Foot” explores a different father-son relation- was adapted, and his art has been exhibit- ship, where a child with learning disa- ed in his native Ireland and in New York. Image from the film "Perfectly Normal for Me." (IMAGE COURTESY OF THE JCC OF NORTHERN VIRGINIA) bilities yearns to expand his future past Institutionalization is now far less that of his father’s scaffolding business. common, thanks to community and with disabilities. Initiated in New York in ceptions about people living with disabili- All but one of the movies (“Ain’t No home-based services that enable people 2007, the festival presents award-win- ties. The protagonists of the films we select Mountain”) are accompanied by an with disabilities to receive necessary care ning films by and about people with dis- represent real people who have joys and if-needed audio description; for all but at home, but negative stereotypes of disabilities. The Northern Virginia ReelAbili- challenges but are not victims,” said Sarah one of the movies (“My Feral Heart”), ability persist. ReelAbilities is working to ties Film Festival, powered by the Jewish Berry, cultural arts director of the Jewish viewers may bring along any required reframe disability through positive rep- Community Center of Northern Virginia, Community Center of Northern Virginia. service animals. Movies are scheduled resentation. It is the largest film festival launched in 2011. Screenings cover disabilities such as to be held in a variety of venues across in the country dedicated to promoting “Sharing ReelAbilities films with the adults with Down syndrome navigating Northern Virginia; for more information awareness and appreciation of the lives, community is a powerful way to not only institutionalization and independence, on screenings, visit http://reelabilities. stories, and artistic expressions of people increase awareness, but to shatter miscon- an inclusive dance school that provides org/northernva/. Theater J Welcoming New Managing Director By Kol HaBirah Staff theater-going experiences. Prior to The Lab, Ruf served for five al and international perspective that she “Jojo is a perfect fit for Theater J,” years as the general manager and asso- brought to Theater J comes from hav- On Jan. 28, Jojo Ruf became the new said Immerwahr. “She has an extraordi- ciate executive director for the National ing overseen partnerships between The managing director of Theater J, the na- nary depth of experience as a leader, and New Play Network, an alliance of nonprof- Lab and 65 theaters, embassies, and cul- tion’s pre-eminent professional Jew- her expertise in international collabo- it theaters across the country that cham- tural institutions, including presenta- ish theater. Ruf joined Artistic Director ration, fiscal management, and strate- pions the development, production, and tions of work from more than 30 coun- Adam Immerwahr in the leadership of gic planning will help take Theater J to continued life of new plays. She was the tries. Most recently, her work has taken the theater, which is a program of the the next level as we prepare for our most founding executive and creative director her to Cuba, China, Chile, Israel, Poland, Edlavitch DC Jewish Community Center ambitious seasons yet. Theater J is hon- of The Welders, a Helen Hayes Award-win- Peru, the United Arab Emirates, Canada, (EDCJCC). Ruf came to Theater J from ored to have attracted a candidate of this ning playwrights’ collective in Washing- and throughout the U.K., among other The Laboratory for Global Performance caliber, and I am personally thrilled to ton, D.C., and was coordinating produc- places. Her arrival at Theater J coincid- & Politics (The Lab) at Georgetown Uni- have such a brilliant colleague as a part- er for the 2015 Women’s Voices Theater ed with Immerwahr’s new initiative to versity, where she has been serving as ner. With Jojo in this position, we know Festival, hailed by The Washington Post deepen relationships with international managing director since 2015. She is a na- Theater J will continue to reach an ev- as, “one of the more audacious and ambi- theaters in the hopes of bringing Jewish tionally recognized field leader with par- er-growing audience with soul-stirring tious responses by an American city to the plays from around the world to DC. ticular expertise in international collabo- and thought-provoking art.” gender gap in high-profile jobs in the arts.” Now in her third year of serving on rations and new play development. Ruf has worked with The Lab at “I have long admired Theater J,” said theatreWashington’s Advisory Board, Theater J, a program of the Edlavitch Georgetown University since it was Ruf, “and have been particularly inspired Ruf is the co-chair of the annual theatre- DCJCC, is a nationally renowned, profes- founded in 2012, becoming managing di- watching Adam hone Theater J’s mission Washington Summit. “Jojo brings a joy- sional theater that celebrates, explores, rector in 2015. During her time there she over the past three years and carve out its ful exuberance for the power of theatre and struggles with the complexities and managed and produced 16 workshop or vital space in the DC theater landscape. I and an agile business mind,” said Amy nuances of both the Jewish experience full-scale productions and hosted nu- am thrilled to partner with Adam in lead- Austin, president of theatreWashington, and the universal human condition. The merous convenings and symposia, as ing the theater, and to join the remarkable “she has an extraordinary talent for creat- theater’s work illuminates and exam- well as eight residencies. Edlavitch DCJCC team and the hard-working a shared vision coupled with high-en- ines ethical questions of our time, in- Carole Zawatsky, executive director ing Theater J staff. Theater J is not only a ergy organizational planning. She can ter-cultural experiences that parallel our of the EDCJCC, said, “We are so fortunate home for artistically rigorous program- light the road ahead and build it.” own, and the changing landscape of Jew- to have Jojo Ruf joining the EDCJCC as ming, but is also the largest and most Ruf graduated from Georgetown ish identities. As the nation’s largest and the managing director of Theater J. Her prominent Jewish theater in the United University with a dual degree in Eng- most prominent Jewish theater, Theat- intellect, passion, and dynamism are in- States, and I look forward to utilizing my lish and theater and performance stud- er J aims to preserve and expand a rich fectious! I know that the team of Im- national and international theater expe- ies and will graduate from Georgetown’s Jewish theatrical tradition and to create merwahr/Ruf will lead Theater J to even rience as Theater J continues its growth.” McDonough School of Business with an community and commonality through greater heights.” Ruf’s impressive and valuable nation- MBA in the spring. 30 February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM 30 31 ARTS & ENTERTAINMENT LARRY SHOR’S GREATER WASHINGTON To My Mother, Roslyn Shor, on Her 18th Yahrzeit

By Larry Shor she made sure everyone was included; word. She even gave Shari a nickname: the thought of someone being left out My real name is Lawrence, so Shari be- It is hard to be- was truly horrifying to her. She proved it came Sharence. When we would laugh lieve that 18 years every Passover by making two seders for at something, my mother would smile have slipped by over 30 people; she did this every year for and say, “A match made in heaven. Look since my moth- close to 40 years! I would run the liturgi- at the two glumps [fools in Yiddish].” er, Roslyn Shor, of cal side of things and my mother, watch- With my mom, what you saw was perience. One day, Mom announces, blessed memory, passed away. I see her ful of all the food and wanting it served what you got. She despised phony sen- “We’re going to Bubby’s. You can drive.” in my memories, strong and vibrant and at the right time, would catch my eye timentality. She could tell right away My mom was an awful passenger; I don’t full of life, before cancer took her from and mouth the words, “Hurry up!” when someone wasn’t giving 100 per- think my dad drove her three times the us just two days after her 65th birthday. My mom never called anyone by cent to help someone else. Once, she entire time they were married. My mother was a unique figure, their given name; she had crazy, endear- came back mad from a funeral. “Really, Ma? You sure?” I asked. blessed with an incredible understanding nicknames for people that they were “Ma,” I said, “What’s wrong?” Mom said yes. We got into our ing of human nature and a big heart that actually proud to have, and even if you “Every time they bury a Jewish wom- nice big Cadillac, and drove the length drew everyone into her orbit. She filled didn’t have a nickname, you were “beau- an, all they know is ‘Eishes Chayil.’ That’s of three houses before Mom had had up a room like no one else I have ever ty,” or “honey.” When I brought my fu- it.” Now she was on a roll. “As a matter enough. “Get out of the car!” she said, “I’ll seen. She loved people, and they loved ture wife Shari to her first dinner with of fact, when I die, they can say anything drive!” And she did. her right back. my family, my mother immediately drew they want about me. But don’t you dare My mom always said that if you do The number 18, of course, is the nu- her in. “Sit right here next to me, honey,” let them say ‘Eishes Chayil’!” the right thing, you can put your head on merical value of chai — life — and my she told her. (To my sister, the current oc- “Ma, what are talking about? You’re the pillow at night and always be con- mother loved life and making all the cupant of the chair: “Get up!”) not going anywhere for a long time,” I said. tent. She was right. When I put my head people in her life happy. When I told my mom that I wanted Well, as they say in Yiddish, der mensch on the pillow, I think about the kind and Because my mother was a native to marry Shari, my mother’s face grew tracht, un G-tt lacht, (man thinks and G-d wonderful person my mother was, and I Washingtonian, and this column is serious. “Are you sure?” she asked me. I laughs). My mom passed away, and when will always be grateful that Roslyn Shor, about stories, I think the best way to pay was a little taken aback. “Yes, absolute- we met with the rabbi I made sure her Russi bas Mayer, was my mother. May tribute to my mother would be to tell ly!” I replied. wish was fulfilled. The rabbi didn’t quite her memory always be for a blessing. some of the stories and incidents that of- “Good!” she said. “I wanted to hear understand, but I knew what I had to do. NEXT TIME: Fun Times at BBYO fer insight into who she was. it from you because, remember, when One final story for this tribute: When My mother was the one who organ- you put that ring on her, she becomes I was 16, I was taking drivers education, Questions or comments? ized our family’s social calendar, and my child as well.” She was as good as her and of course you need to gain road ex- Email Larry at [email protected].

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By Abigail Klein Leichman for Israel21c

After completing his military service, Yam Derfler did what many newly released Israeli soldiers do: He went off to see the world. Only something went wrong in Mexico, when Derfler got sick and couldn’t find a doctor. He ended up in a hospital getting the wrong treatment. Back home after he finally recovered, Derfler found that others had suffered similar experiences abroad, unfamiliar with the local language and medical sys- tem. His research revealed doctor-locat- ing apps in specific countries geared to residents, but nothing for tourists. So in 2015, Derfler and three co- founders began building Air Doctor, a platform that lets travelers (or their loved ones) locate an appropriate phy- sician and book an immediate or scheduled appointment. Doctors can be chosen based on location, medical specialty, language spoken and other cli- Air Doctor founders, from left: CTO Yegor Kurbachev, VP Bus Dev Yam Derfler, COO Efrat Sagi-Ofir and CEO Jenny Cohen Derfler. ents’ reviews. (PHOTO CREDIT: ISRAEL21C)

The app went live last summer after The app currently works in countries the Israeli company won a $3.1 million such as Greece, England, Spain, France, investment from insure-tech startup stu- Italy and Mexico, and in specific cities dio Kamet, run by AXA at offices in Paris, including Moscow. Germany, Belgium, London and Tel Aviv Netherlands, Thailand and Peru are com- “Since we launched in July we’ve ing online soon. seen great success and momentum,” “When you open the app it detects said Yuval Zimerman, Air Doctor mar- your location and there’s a nice inter- keting director. face to pick the specialty and doctor. For So far the app has been download- worried parents with children in anoth- ed on App Store and Google Play about er country they can do it on their end,” 20,000 times. As of the end of Decem- he explained. “If you get sick in Mexico, ber 2018, Air Doctor functions in some 15 your mom in Israel can use the app re- countries and has vetted close to 2,000 motely to find the right doctor, set an ap- doctors. pointment and pay for it.” “The main way we get to people is Zimerman noted that Air Doctor through B2B partnerships,” Zimerman does not simply link to a list of doctors said. “We team up with insurance com- in a locale. panies, hotels and other entities that are “We partner with the actual doc- directly connected to the end user.” tors, so they know who we are and In Israel, Air Doctor has an exclu- we know they are licensed and trust- sive partnership with the Phoenix insur- ed practitioners. We do background ance company, enabling anyone holding checks and we talk to the doctors. Phoenix travel insurance to use Air Doc- Sometimes we even fly out and meet tor abroad with no out-of-pocket fees. In with doctors as part of our vetting pro- other places, you pay the healthcare process,” he said. vider up front and get reimbursed later, The customer feedback feature ena- although Air Doctor is working on an in- bles the startup to take action if there is app feature that will streamline and has- ever a complaint about a particular phy- ten the process. sician. “One of our potential investors is a The company, which has 17 employ- vice president at a major insurance com- ees in the Jerusalem suburb of Beit Nek- pany, and he loved the idea of Air Doc- ofa, was named one of the top 10 start- tor because he once fell while on vaca- ups of the 2018 MassChallenge Israel tion and his company couldn’t help him accelerator, and was chosen to present find a doctor. He had to go to the hospi- at an insure-tech conference next March tal,” said Zimerman. in Germany. 34 February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM 34 35

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Searching for Jewish Life on the Silk Road annexed Bukhara, the resident Jews became wealthy trading local cotton, a val- By Hannah M. Fisher uable commodity and lucrative business. During more recent times, many Jews Although Jewish settlement in Cen- emigrated away from communities along tral Asia dates back to the time of the Bab- the Silk Road, largely to Israel and the ylonian exile, Fred and Judi Kranz of Po- United States. The few remaining Jews are tomac, Maryland, discovered that finding primarly elderly or unaffiliated. The main traces of a formerly extensive presence remaining sign of Jewish life in Bukhara, requires searching away from typical Samarkand, and Tashkent is large ceme- tourist spots. Fred Kranz related their ex- teries, whose markers date back centu- periences following a portion of the Silk ries. Uzbek investors are restoring some Road in a Jan. 23 presentation to Congre- beautiful former Jewish quarters as ho- gation Beth Sholom’s Team Tov program. tels and boutiques. Many visitors from Is- The Silk Road was an extensive trade rael and the United States have Bukharan route with several branches, connect- ancestors and come to pay respect to the ing East Asia and Southeast Asia with graves of family members. Southern Europe, the Middle East, and The Silk Road provides significant in- Africa. The trade routes were in use dur- sights into Jewish life in past centuries, ing the Babylonian Exile more than as well as beautiful scenery and ancient 3,000 years ago and remained active at Judy and Fred Kranz of Potomac, Maryland, during their time in Bukhara. (COURTESY PHOTO) walled cities, but touring Central Asia least through the 17th Century. The uti- also requires fortitude. The Kranz family lization of the Silk Road lessened after tion was in Bukhara (now part of Uzbek- heard reports that Jews living along the toured with a series of local drivers and the fragmentation of the Mongolian istan), a major commercial center along Silk Road were no longer following Torah English-speaking guides. Crossing close- Empire and the Black Plague in the 14th the Silk Road. The local caliph wanted to laws and Jewish traditions due to their rely guarded borders between adjacent Century, but did not cease until Czarist build a large, ornate mosque, but a Jew- mote location. The nearest Jewish center countries sometimes required them to Russia built railroads through the area ish woman owned the property and its at the time was in Baghdad, a substan- tote their luggage a few kilometers in ex- in the 19th Century. large well, whose water was essential tial distance away. Rabbi Maimon went treme heat in a no-man’s land to change The Muslim majority in Central Asia for the rituals for the mosque. The par- to Bukhara on his own initiative to re- from one set of drivers and guides to the tolerated Jews during most of the 2,000 ties agreed — water for the mosque in vive Jewish life. Over time, the Bukhara next ones. plus years of Jewish settlement, but with exchange for permission to build a mod- community grew, restored Jewish tra- Team Tov is a Beth Sholom committee restrictions. For example, during the pe- est synagogue a few feet away. This syn- ditions and learnings, developed more that plans activities and lectures geared riod of Islamic rule, Jews were denied agogue remains and is still in use today. synagogues, and even opened yeshivas towards the interests of the Jewish com- permission to build synagogues or ride In the late 18th Century, a Moroc- staffed by scholars from other parts of munity. For more information on Team horses. According to legend, one excep- can Rabbi, Yosef Maimon (or Mammon), the Jewish world. When Czarist Russia Tov, contact [email protected]. Jerusalem’s Inbal Hotel Reopens in Grandeur New 02 Upbeat Jerusalem Cuisine restaurant blends the old and the new

By Linda Jennings es on par with other elite world hotels. quake resistance, increased insulation, and complementary side samplings, 02 A modern fitness center and sports fa- and an additional generator. emerges as a restaurant for those who Nestled among historic sites and an- cility with a heated outdoor pool and a The Presidential Suite measures 1,184 love meat, although vegetarian options cient markets, a high-end travel industry comprehensive spa offering a range of square feet and comprises three rooms are also available along with a delecta- in Jerusalem is rising to the forefront of treatments allows for a retreat from the built around the “stunning views from ble dessert menu. The dishes featuring luxurious lodgings and gastronomic ex- bustling city. Full concierge services, com- the terrace, where our guests can experi- ingredients with bright pops of color are cellence, led by the recently renovated plimentary WiFi, airport pickup, 24-hour ence the charm, elegance, grandeur of Je- artfully arranged against a backdrop of Inbal Hotel located on Jabotinsky Street room service, babysitting, and mobile rusalem,” said Timsit. vibrant Armenian pottery, evoking the in the city’s Talbiyeh neighborhood. phone rental are available. Venue spac- colors of the Jerusalem shuk. Tucked away in the completely over- es are equipped for meetings and confer- Upon the opening of 02 under chief hauled hotel, the hotel’s restaurant, ences; with an 800-person capacity in the chef Nir Elkayam in December 2018 in named 02 Upbeat Jerusalem Cuisine (02 Zion ballroom, the Inbal is an attractive the original wing of the Inbal overlook- is a nod to Jerusalem’s telephone dialing option for business ventures and events. ing Yemin Moshe, David Brinn, The Je- code), fuses the ancient flavors and his- “We felt now was the time that we rusalem Post restaurant critic, called 02 tory of Jerusalem with the modern food needed to go big,” said Rony Timsit, In- “a new eating experience on par with influences currently sweeping the holy bal’s general manager. the city’s best” and described the atmos- city and its markets. Renowned architect Michal Schwartz phere as a “dimly lit, elegantly designed The hotel, owned by Jack Sasson, is and acclaimed interior designer Michael restaurant with subtle urban soul and itself a further reflection of a tradition Azoulay spearheaded the project, which jazz playing in the background.” that blends the old with the new, and features redesigned suites with contem- Available to hotel guests and to the with impressive results. The NIS 90 mil- porary splendor and views of Liberty Bell public, 02 is looking to appeal to both Je- lion renovation ($25 million USD) that Park and the Old City of Jerusalem. Addi- rusalemites and international tourists. added two new floors to the top of the tional renovations include walk-in clos- At the grand opening, Timsit said, “We old hotel brought accolades from Israel’s ets, private access elevators, and separate The Inbal hosts other gourmet food look forward to welcoming back our loy- Tourism Ministry, which awarded the wet and dry bathrooms. Parquet floors, options, but the newly opened 02 boasts al clientele and greeting new faces and hotel a rare five-star rating. TripAdvisor wooden ceilings, mashrabiya window a visionary kosher meat-focused menu inviting them to come and experience awarded the hotel its Travelers’ Choice grills, Jerusalem stone, and Ethiopian art- by acclaimed chefs Moshe Gamlieli and Jerusalem in a unique and pampering Certificate of Excellence. work add to the hotel’s elegant remodel. Itamar Navon of the Mona Group. Fus- environment.” The addition of a new wing of 51 lux- The nine-month renovation also ing local ingredients found in Jerusa- ury suites and sleeping rooms is accom- used green building methods and incor- lem markets and contemporary interna- Linda Jennings is a freelance writer living in panied by modern amenities and servic- porated other upgrades such as earth- tional flavors with choice cuts of meat Washington, D.C. WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 35 35 36 ADVICE ASK RIVKIE - JDAIM Camp Counselor Quandary Have a question for Rivkie? Email [email protected]

Dear Rivkie, at your age. When I was a teenager, my By the end of the summer, my campers biggest summer challenge was whether and I had the most special bond, and I am a teenage girl and I applied to to get a Coke or Fanta Cherry Slurpee. I’m still in touch with most work as a counselor at a camp that has But also in my day, we didn’t have of them six months later. an inclusion program. At this camp, neu- such a culture of inclusion. I think camps Yes, I would say that some- rotypical kids as well as kids with neu- with inclusion programs are wonderful times it was hard, but so rological differences or disorders like for the kids who go as campers, but it can worth it. First of all, the ex- Autism Spectrum Disorder, ADHD, and be just as rewarding if not more so for perience teaches you so many Tourette syndrome live together and do the kids working there. important lessons on kindness activities together. My job would be as a One of the wisest teenagers I know and acceptance. Second, it fos- counselor in a bunk with both “types” worked at a Jewish inclusion camp last ters a sense of purpose and of children, and I am anxious about summer. When I got your question in appreciation. Finally, there working with the kids who may require my inbox, I immediately emailed her, will always be people to more attention. What if I get into situ- and this is what she said: help you. You’re not alone ations I’m not prepared for? What if I “I would say that before I started work- and you’re not responsi- have trouble relating to them, or they ing in camp this summer, I was definitely ble on your own, everyone Hashem created us all don’t like me? Basically, what if I’m a nervous about being responsible for neu- gets it, and everyone wants to make it as b’tzelem elokim, in His image. Remem- massive failure? rodiverse kids but it ended up being my fa- easy and fun as possible for you and your bering this is something we should do Should I withdraw my application vorite summer ever, and I would recom- campers.” daily. if I’m freaking out, or if I get accepted mend it to anyone. In this day and age, at least in my Girl, take a leap of faith; if you’re ac- should I go for it? These girls struggle all year round with community — based on the two full pag- cepted to the camp as a counselor, go for fitting in. Whether they go to mainstream es of Jewish camps for kids with disabil- it. I have a feeling that a thoughtful girl Signed, schools or not, most of them are aware ities on the local Federation’s website — like you will gain a lot from a summer that they’re different. But when it comes kids expect that neurodiverse kids and experience like this, and your campers Wannabe Counselor Callie to camp, they’re a camper just like the kids with disabilities will be part of their will gain a lot from having you in their next girl. As a counselor, your job is to give lives. It is definitely a new day for disa- lives. Good luck! Dear Callie, every single camper the best summer they bility awareness, certainly much differ- can have. When times were hard in camp, ent from when I grew up. And hooray All the best, I totally admire you for even con- there was always a team of people ready to for that! Kindness is a vital skill for all templating a challenging summer job lend a hand, and everyone is there to help. of us, whether we work at camp or not. Rivkie

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in trying to contact Professor X. I have Learning to Self-Advocate: Education Edition no desire to get him in trouble, but can By Nikkee Porcaro who wants nothing more than to not tions out of it. Make sure to watch your you please advise me on what I should rock the boat? diction; don’t use words that could con- do to remedy this situation?” Recently, I worked I’ve heard similar stories from some vey bias. If your teacher has not respond- My student and I did get to Step 3, with a former student of my high school students, about non-re- ed to your last five emails over the past and emailed the department head, sub- who is now a fresh- sponsive or unfair teachers and adminis- two weeks, list the dates they were sent ject chair, and administrative team to man at the Universi- trators. I truly believe most teenagers, de- and a brief description of what you in- whom her specific professor reported. ty of Maryland. This spite their reputations, are good students quired about. Your frustration should We edited the email for clarity, concise- student has always been conscientious, who understand fairness and have rea- not be evident in a list like this; let the ness, and objectiveness, and got a re- organized, and diligent, but one class — sonable expectations, so when they com- facts speak for themselves. Write this sponse from the chair within 24 hours. a philosophy seminar — was vexing her. plain to me about a situation like this, I list concisely, objectively, and without Within 24 hours of receiving that re- When I asked why, she explained she certainly give credence to their grievanc- unnecessary flourishes. Remember, “I sponse, the professor emailed my stu- didn’t understand the assignments, and es and help them brainstorm solutions. emailed my teacher, like, five times and dent, ready and willing to set up a time couldn’t seem to get ahold of the teacher. So how do you stick up for yourself in she didn’t answer” is less effective and to meet, and they’ve met twice in the The student then pulled out no a situation in which your grade is on the jarring than a succinct list of dates when past two weeks about her final paper. fewer than 20 emails spanning several line, but you fear potential retaliation? I specific emails were sent and ignored, My student was nervous at first to weeks that had received no response. recommend taking the following steps: along with dates of no-show meetings. “tattle” on a teacher, but it is an educa- She showed me the emails, in which Step 1: Try to speak to the teacher in You can first try to present this list to tor’s moral, ethical, and most likely con- she’d set up three meetings with the person. Sometimes, putting a face to a your teacher to show how you’ve tried tractual duty to respond to students who teacher that he subsequently blew off. name and some in-person urgency can to make an effort at connecting. If that contact them. Once she saw how she She explained that his office hours con- spark a resolution. Be respectful, but also doesn’t work, try Step 3. could stick up for herself while remain- flicted with another class and showed be firm and clear, and try to remain unbi- Step 3: Go above the teacher. Find ing professional and polite, she learned that she tried to ask for alternate meet- ased: “Professor X, I emailed you on Mon- the email address of the department not only how to pen a philosophy paper, ing times, to no avail. She showed me day, Wednesday, and Saturday, but have head or administrative chair and con- but how to be a self-advocate. online quizzes he had graded incorrect- not received a response, and I am concisely explain your situation: “I’ve been ly that he promised to fix and never did. fused about the assignment due on the trying to connect with Professor X all se- Nikkee Porcaro is the founder and president of No This is utterly unacceptable, but 20th. Can we schedule a time to meet?” mester, but have been unable to do so. Anxiety Prep International, a greater Washington how do you tell that to a first-semester Step 2: Document everything specif- I am concerned both about my mastery area-based educational consulting firm that as- 18 year old who got into her dream col- ically and objectively: dates, times, exact of the material and my final grade in the sists students with their educational goals. Email lege through Freshman Connection and descriptions of situations. Leave emo- class. I have compiled a list of my efforts Nikkee at [email protected]. 36 February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM 36 37

ADVICE HEALTH & WELLNESS Major Depression: Diagnosis and Treatment Options By Michael Milgraum her room, avoiding relationships with tinue to undermine the child’s function- of all activities done during the day and family and friends). If this withdrawal ing and interfere with finding their way the emotional effects of those choic- Major depression is one of the most is also accompanied by refusal to attend toward a happy and enthusiastic life. es. Over time, the patient will see that common mental disorders in the Unit- school, serious conflicts between parent It is particularly important for thera- choosing to be more active (e.g., going ed States. In 2016, it was estimated that and child can ensue. Given the impulsivi- pists to help adolescents become aware for a 30-minute walk or talking on the 16.2 million adults and 3.1 million adoles- ty of many adolescents, parents may also of the interaction between their mood phone with a friend) results in much cents in the U.S. had experienced at least become concerned about whether their and their choices. As mentioned above, better mood, as compared with less ac- one major depressive episode that year. child will try to harm him- or herself. people with depression often withdraw tive pursuits (e.g., lying in bed and surf- This condition impacts physical, cog- ing YouTube). The therapist helps the pa- nitive, emotional, and behavioral func- tient to make a plan for each day and to tioning. Its symptoms can include chron- Care, acceptance, and commitment offered by a gradually develop a routine that stimu- ic sadness, lack of motivation, lack of therapist, parents, and friends can help the person lates them positively and makes them enjoyment, fatigue, low self-esteem, ele- want to seek more positive experiences. vated guilt, poor concentration, difficul- remember that he or she is important, valued, and Whatever therapeutic technique is ty sleeping, sleeping excessively, weight worth the effort needed to rebuild wellness. used, the most important thing is that gain or loss, and increased thinking the therapist communicates uncondi- about death and dying. tional positive regard for the client. In- Depression is complex and can have from activities hey used to enjoy. The dividuals who are depressed are usual- many different presentations. Some- decreased activity gives the adolescent ly very self-rejecting. Care, acceptance, times, physical discomfort will predom- more time to dwell on their worries and and commitment offered by a therapist, inate, and the person with depression perceived deficits. In addition, the lack parents, and friends can help the person may even deny feeling sad. Some peo- of activity leads to decreased interest remember that he or she is important, ple experience depression primarily as and motivation, which then intensifies valued, and worth the effort needed to an ache inside, often in their chest area. the depression. Thus, a vicious cycle of rebuild wellness. Others say they just feel numb. depression, inactivity, and depression is There are many causes of major de- established. Michael Milgraum, Ph.D. is a licensed psycholo- pression. Genetics is certainly a factor, Behavioral therapists can help the gist who practices in Kensington, Maryland. He but early life experiences, trauma, health adolescent break this cycle using a tech- provides individual, family, and marital therapy. problems, and beliefs about oneself can nique called Behavioral Activation. In He can be contacted at [email protected] all play an important role. Treatments for this technique, the patient makes a log or (301) 980 3997. depression include psychotherapy and medication. Effective psychotherapy for this condition can take many forms. Cog- nitive behavioral therapy (CBT) focuses on the thinking habits and behavioral choices that worsen or improve the condition. Psychodynamic therapy gives at- If parents suspect that their child is detention to how early experiences formed pressed, they should have him or her eval- one’s self image and expectations about uated by a professional as soon as possi- others. Insights gleaned in therapy help ble. Generally, the longer the condition the patient develop improved responses goes untreated, the more difficult it is to current challenges. to reverse. Medication can help calm the Parents of a child with major depres- emotional suffering, but I strongly recom- sion often find the situation highly frus- mend that it be used in conjunction with trating and distressing. If the child is psychotherapy, to help the patient devel- an adolescent, the depression frequent- op improved mental and behavioral rely can take the form of extreme with- sponses to situations. The medication drawal from the world (excessive sleep- may improve mood, but without therapy, ing, spending most of the time in his/ the underlying coping deficits will con- Michael Milgraum, Ph.D. Licensed Psychologist • Internet-related addiction • Compulsive behavior • Emotional disorders • Family conﬂict • Psychological Testing • Parenting Coach • Individual, Couple and Family Therapy Extensive experience working with

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A Long-Distance Connection and control, but that is not the case. When you start changing your behavior in a way My boyfriend “Jared” and I met at that he couldn’t imagine how he would that is not comfortable for you in order to camp and have always been really great ever survive the year with me gone, and avoid upsetting your partner, we begin to friends. During my last year of high that he would rather be dead than be identify a relationship as abusive. school, we decided to make things of- across the world from me. If you would like further information ficial, even though he lived two hours I love Jared so much, but I feel so about your situation, or are interested in away in Pennsylvania. Our relation- anxious all the time now. I’m nervous creating a safety plan, please feel free to ship has mostly consisted of long phone that if I really do go abroad, Jared may he gets upset and yells at you. There is call JCADA’s free and confidential help- calls, FaceTiming, and lots of texts, but I try to hurt himself or worse. Is this just no magic number of text messages when line at 1-877-88-JCADA (52232). Licensed cli- try to visit him as much as possible. the normal college transition, or is this things become abusive, but when you nicians are available to give support and When I went away to college this fall, bad feeling in my stomach something start to get anxiety about being separat- help safely plan with you around any con- my parents wouldn’t let me take my car. more? ed from your phone, this is an indication cerns you have with your relationship. It’s been really hard to see him. The train Many individuals enter into college to us that the behavior is not acceptable. and bus are expensive and not really con- with a relationship that is long distance. Jared’s use of your friends is a tool For the past 17 years, JCADA has venient for either of us, but this doesn’t While distance can put pressure on rela- to manipulate you and it is also con- offered support to victims and stop him from pressuring me to travel to tionships, it is not an excuse for abusive cerning. You are allowed to have rela- survivors of domestic and dating Pennsylvania all the time. Since I started and controlling behavior. The behavior tionships with your friends without abuse. These free clinical and le- classes, Jared began texting me non-stop. your boyfriend is exhibiting is not part your boyfriend getting in the middle gal services are available to any If I don’t text back right away, he’ll call of a normal college transition. of those friendships. Moreover, threats resident of the Greater Washing- me until I answer, and scream at me for Your anxiety about being away from of self-harm and suicide are very com- ton area, 14 years of age and old- not getting in touch. I’m finding it real- your phone, and Jared requiring that you mon manipulation techniques abusers er, who is affected by any type of ly hard to make any real friends because answer his text messages right away, in- use to control their partner’s behavior. domestic abuse. Staff are available when everyone is going out on the week- dicates you may be experiencing techno- It can be really tough to decide what to answer questions, offer support, ends, I’m stuck on the phone with Jared. logical abuse. You are allowed and enti- you want to do with that threat loom- and connect callers to services on Recently, I brought up the idea of tled to have your own independent life ing above your head. our free and confidential helpline studying abroad for a year, and he lost outside of your relationship. Jared’s con- To answer your question directly, as- Monday through Thursday, 9 a.m. his mind. He began texting my friends, stant texts and phone calls are a way of pects of Jared’s behavior are abusive. to 5 p.m. and Fridays, 9 a.m. to 3 trying to get them to talk me out of the controlling your behavior. As you men- Many people believe that your partner p.m. at 1-877-88-JCADA (52232). idea. The last time we talked, he said tioned, if you do not answer right away must be physically present to gain power

DATING A Singular Experience: Making the Most of Your Single Days By Rachel Burnham 1. Commit to Optimism: Aside from need to lose weight, fix your teeth, take prive yourself either! being very attractive on a date, a pos- care of acne, get a haircut, or update your My practice throughout my single A Reader Asks: itive attitude creates confidence that wardrobe, now is the time. years and recommendation to singles is I am an intelli- you have much to offer the world be- 4. Internal Tune-Up: If you strug- to split after-tax income in four ways: gent, accomplished, yond marriage. It’ll be contagious to gle with low self-esteem, fears/anxieties 1. Tzedakah (charity) (10 percent and passionate pro- those around you now, and will certain- about marriage, unresolved anger issues, off the top) fessional doing what ly come in handy when you are married. chemical imbalances, etc., speak to the 2. Living expenses I can to find the woman with whom I’m No spouse can ever make us happy if necessary therapists or coaches to get (approximately 35 percent) eager to spend my life. I know I’ll find we’re not happy on our own. that squared away. The only thing mar- 3. Leisure (approximately 25 percent) her when the time is right; but in the 4. Savings for the future (approxi- meantime, I can’t help but feel that I’m The only thing marriage cures is being single; it is not a solution mately 30 percent) waiting for my life to start. I don’t want 7. Follow your Dreams: Aside from to be unfulfilled, and would hate to look for unresolved emotional, spiritual, or psychological stressors. marriage, what are your dreams? Don’t back with regret on this stage of my life. put them off — there is no time like the How would you recommend that I make 2. The Power of You: Whether riage cures is being single; it is not a solu- present! If you have been dreaming of the most of my single days? through classes, reading, or personal re- tion for unresolved emotional, spiritual, traveling, going back to school, or taking flection, take this opportunity to deepen or psychological stressors. that cooking class, go for it. If you fear Dating Coach Rachel your understanding of who you are and 5. Develop Your Giving Muscles: If those pursuits may limit your dating op- Burnham Responds: who you want to become. Clarify the days, nights, and years are wrapped up in tions, no worries: You’ll probably only be Life is a process of self-actualization. type of home you want to create, and the oneself, “giving muscles” tend to atrophy. filtering people who wouldn’t have been Some marry young and experience more type of spouse that can best balance you. We all need to build and tone our giving good for you anyway. Life is short and of their growth within the context of Identify the character traits and habits muscles by giving to family, community, will only get more distracting, so make marriage. Others will spend more time that you’d like to build or refine in order and those less fortunate than us. Consist- tracks now on the life you want to live. developing themselves as singles prepar- to become the best version of yourself. ently keeping these habits as a single will You can live each moment of your ing to meet that right person. 3. Self-Care: Without the responsibil- make your marriage happier and strong- life to the fullest by being productive, While our experience tells us that ities of a spouse (and for some singles er, while making the transition into mar- positive, and purposeful in every stage there’s no universal right age for mar- the time required to raise children) you riage quicker and more comfortable. of life. Using your single time wisely will riage, most can’t help but regard mar- can better keep yourself at peak perfor- 6. Budget: As a single, we can have ultimately help you on the shortest jour- riage as a life stage that should arrive at mance by eating right, exercising, and the tendency to be more free with mon- ney to your longest relationship. a prescribed time. What should your ap- getting enough sleep. You’ll feel better all ey because... why not, what’s to stop us? proach be when that approximate age day and have more energy for dating. In Marriage and raising a family cost a lot, Rachel Burnham coaches Jewish singles, helping comes and goes? Here are some tools to addition — like it or not — when single, so saving when you have more dispos- them gain and maintain clarity and peace of mind keep you focused, mindful, and positive weight and appearances do matter more. able income is a good practice to adopt. as they navigate the path to love, connection, and throughout your journey. Sorry guys, this goes for you too! If you Be careful though, you don’t want to de- lifelong companionship. Email [email protected]. 38 February 14, 2019 • 9 Adar I 5779 WWW.KOLHABIRAH.COM 38 39 Community Calendar: February 2019 May 2019

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