Calvary Presbyterian Church Rev. David Pettit August 16th, 2020 Genesis 29 and Matthew 20:1-16

A great deal of theology is birthed out of the inclination to make God seem logical. To make God’s trinitarian nature, and ways working in the world, and the gospel seem compatible with our logic. The apologist wants to make following Christ the most reasonable of things and wants us to conceive of God’s will as the best path towards the happiness we already seek. Therefore, we struggle a bit when God does not follow the logic we are accustomed to. We expect God to follow best practices as established by humans. The parable of Matthew 20 seems to suggest as much: “Am I not allowed to do what I choose with what belongs to me?” God says to his creation. Is God bound by measures of fairness or just deserts, or can God be gracious in ways that don’t follow the rules or expectations, in ways we don’t control?

Wendell Berry’s poem suggests that we try to bind God to our way of thinking because we ourselves are locked into a somewhat empty and rigid way of being in the world. He suggests it will take some work to free ourselves from such assumptions and rhythms. So, he advocates for trying to break free of it. “Every day do something that won’t compute.” “Love someone who does not deserve it,” and perhaps my favorite, “Plant sequoias.” The bible tells a of stories about God doing things differently. The stories of how God brings his chosen people into existence and how God continually intervenes on their behalf illustrate such things.

The ancestor stories of Genesis are filled with drama. God has a peculiar way of doing things, and it comes into conflict with tradition and human propensities. God’s plans and intentions get muddled and mixed with a human proclivity to make things complicated. As I stated in our worship group last week, there are no perfect protagonists in the . They are all mixed characters. God chooses flawed people. And therefore, the way that God’s plan gets worked out tends to be subtle, messy, and full of fits and starts.

But God, from the very start, seemed content to invest in flawed people. And in these ancestral stories, one consistent theme is that in a culture where the firstborn and the strongest and the most productive get prime place, God often chooses otherwise. , the second-born, is no exception. But, it is muddy. Jacob will be the one God chooses, but Jacob is also a bit of schemer, seeking to make this play out within customs, taking the traditional firstborn status and tricking his brother out of his birthright.

Nonetheless, it is Jacob who inherits the promises God made to . A month or so ago, we read of Jacob’s dream in the previous chapter, chapter 28, and of the stone that he stands up as a memorial, as a testament that God has appeared to him in that place. In Jacob’s dream, heaven and earth are connected with angels going up and down, and God promises blessing on Jacob’s descendants, and that his descendants will fill the land on which he is standing in all directions.

This encounter with God happens as Jacob is on his way to get a wife. He is on his way back to , where his ancestors came from. Backing up to chapter 27, we hear several times throughout these chapters of the importance that Jacob return to Haran to find a wife. Rebekah laments at the possibility of Jacob marrying a local girl. charges Jacob saying, “You shall not marry one of the Canaanite women.” We might wonder if there is some prejudice against the locals, such as having entirely too few teeth, eating their cereal without milk, or some other objectionable practice. However, Isaac and Rebekah make clear that this charge is more about tradition and their conventional expectations in these matters than it is looking down their nose at the locals. Jacob is to go to his uncle Laban and find a wife amidst Laban’s household. Isaac also said, “take as wife from there one of the daughters of Laban, your mother’s brother.

What does that make to Jacob? If my calculations are correct, they are first cousins. And no, this is not Appalachia. In many traditional cultures, the ideal spouse, particularly for the firstborn of a house, is the first cousin. It’s probably not what James Dobson thinks of as biblical marriage, but there you have it. Isaac and Rebekah are concerned that Jacob adds to their honor, especially seeing that has already sold his birthright and married into a Hittite house, making his parents gray-haired and grumpy. So, they are intent that Jacob marries correctly, properly.

So, Jacob goes looking for Laban, and he comes across Laban’s men and flocks earlier in chapter 29. And there, with the men and the flocks, is Rachel. It seems Jacob falls quickly for Rachel. He her and weeps. He finds her pleasing and beautiful. And so, he makes an arrangement with Laban that he will work for Laban for seven years shepherding to win Rachel’s hand in marriage. Jacob, smitten with Rachel, seems glad to commit to such a long engagement.

The problem is that even though Jacob has gone to the house of his mother’s brother and has sought a wife from among his first cousins, Rachel is not the oldest. He went to all this trouble for a traditional marriage only to pick the wrong girl. For, to do this whole tradition thing correctly, Jacob, who is now the keeper of the birthright, is supposed to marry the firstborn of Laban’s daughters. Jacob seems to want the benefits of tradition without the constrictions of tradition. But, you don’t just skip over the firstborn if she is still unmarried. This is a fact that Jacob and Rachel have overlooked and perhaps dismissed. Laban has not overlooked it. When Jacob protests Laban’s deception on his wedding night, Laban replies, “This is not done in our country—giving the younger before the firstborn.”

Another custom in traditional cultures and the world is that you often don’t confront matters directly. You don’t want to shame one publicly or cause injury to the relationship or diminish one’s honor. So, things are often accomplished a little manipulatively. Add to this the fact that Jacob might have inherited his conniving attributes from his mother’s side. When it is time for Jacob to receive Rachel as his wife, Laban rights the wrong in his own way giving Jacob the wife he ought to take, not the younger that he had fallen in love with.

Matters get wonkier from there. , the firstborn, becomes Jacob’s wife, though Jacob’s heart is elsewhere and will spend the first seven years of their marriage earning the wife he originally wanted. Awk…ward! Verse thirty-one says that Leah was unloved. So, God gives her children, to increase her honor, even while the beloved Rachel is barren. So, Rachel gets Jacob’s love. But she also wears the dishonor and shame of being unable to have children and the jealousy toward while her sister who bears Jacob children. It is the stuff soap-operas are made of.

In this tussle between the way things are supposed to happen, and how God seems to choose for things to be done, and the human conniving of trying to make things go one’s way, it gets messy. So messy, that it takes a trained eye to know if God is involved at all, or if it is all just human shortcomings “going out to play through the broken dike,” to use William Stafford’s expression.

It is notable how many times the bible tries to change our way of thinking and responding to circumstances. “The first shall be last, and the last first.” In the sermon on the mount, Jesus will use repeated expressions such as, “you have heard it said… but I say to you…” God wants to lead us toward the kingdom of God, towards a different way of doing things, but like Laban at the last hour, we sabotage it. And yet, the gospel relies on us giving ourselves to the mystery and to things that don’t compute according to our inherited logic. The gospel calls out the impulses and fears we have been taught to listen to.

How can we love others as Christ loves us if we have not yet loved ourselves? How do we love others, if we are continually keeping score to determine if they deserve it? How do we become new if we can’t forgive and let go? How can we follow Jesus into a new community if we refuse to eat with and converse with the unclean and the down-trodden? The whole shoot and match depend on us breaking from the voices and patterns that have shaped us so that we can live and love anew. But like Laban, we cling to an old order, and we intervene at just the right moment, make a mess, muddy the waters, bring hurt and confusion, and perpetuate what God had set out to change.

The good news in these ancestral stories about Abraham and Isaac and Jacob and so on is that God does not relent. Despite the mixed characters and the perpetual drama, God still chooses. God still pursues and persists. So we take hope in this. And I pray that we might come to trust that even if God breaks all our rules about who is first and greatest, all our rules about how life is supposed to go, that we will gain the eyes to see how God might be at work, and how God might lead, and give ourselves to it.