Spring Newsletter 2014 Missouri Shores Domestic Violence Center P.O. Box 398 Pierre, SD 57501 224-0256 (office) 224-7187 (crisis line)

The winners of this year’s HWT were the “Hometown Nobodies” (Derek Leiferman, Cole Cruse, Ryan Sheldon, Cody Kuehl, and Seth McKinley) taking home the Best Group Award and Montaina Washington taking home the Best Performer and Rising Star. Congrats to all of you! Missouri Shores Domestic Violence Center would like to thank the following people and businesses for making our 22nd annual HWT a huge success! Together with table sales, silent/live auctions, and donations, we raised over $24,000! This year has proven to be our best year yet!

Performers: Capital City Children’s Choir, Junior Competition Team: Pierre Dance Academy, No Name Trio-(Amanda Schmitgen, Jamie Freestone and Destiny Barajas), Derick Burghardt, Sydney Marso, Kori Nutter, Ryan Sheldon, High School Drum Line, Hometown Nobodies-(Derek Leiferman, Cole Cruse, Ryan Sheldon, Cody Kuehl, Seth McKinley), Austin Lentsch, Cody Shryock, Montaina Washington, and Jess Lammle Live Auction Item Donations: Star Quilt (Queen): Visions of the Past, Pierre Govs State Champ Foot- ball Signed Photo and Stadium Chairs: McDonald’s & M&R Signs, Oriflame Table: Oriflame, Wine Package MSDVC Staff, Board,& Dawn Woods, Goose Wall Print: Slumberland Furniture, Sweetheart Package: Saturdays Gift Package, Mostly Chocolates: $10 GC & Box of Chocolates, Little Spa on the Prai- rie: Pre-Tan Lotion, Amplifier, Free Spray Tan, Trudy Feldman: Passion Party Soft & Silky Shaving Cream, After Shave, Razor, MSDVC Client: Gem Ring, Massage in Motion: 30 Minute Massage, Rejuve- nations: 1 Hour Healing Touch Session, Wegner Auto: Total Car Package & Oil Change, Snap Happy Pho- tography: Unveiled Session Days Inn: 1 Night Stay in Jacuzzi Suite, State 123: 2 Movie Tickets, $10 off Concessions Capital City Liquors: Wine, Total Beauty: Black Purse, Beth P: Essential Oils, Debbie Bowman: Lia Sophia Bracelet ,Melvin’s Flower Shop: Floral Arrangement, Anderson Dental: Custom Bleach Trays and Gel, DJ Clark: 3 Gold Carwashes, Sports Fanatic: Oahe Speedway: 2-2014 Season Pass- es, 2 T-shirts Minnesota Twins: Rod Carew Signed , Howard Johnson (Rapid City): 1 Night Stay in the Presedential Suite, : Signed Jersey, 2 Game Tickets, : 4 Game Tickets : 2 Hail Center Season Tickets, Sioux Falls Stampede: 4 Regular Season Tickets Manly Man Gifts: Wegner Auto: 2 Hats , Capital Motors: 2 Travel Coffee Mugs, The Works Package Jones Saddlery: Boot Kick, Kelly Electronics: DVD Blue Ray Player, Hardware Hank (Philip): Black & Decker Power Scissors, The Hot Spot Tattoo: $50 GC, Ramkota: 1 Night Stay in Bi-Level Suite Runnings Farm & Fleet: $50 GC, Rancher’s Outlet: $50 GC, State 123: 2 Movie Tickets, $10 GC for Concessions, Soulek Angus: $50 Beef Bucks, Massage in Motion: 30 Minute Massage ,Bob’s Lounge: $50 GC, DJ Clark: 2 Gold Carwashes, Tour of Pierre: Cattlemans: $50 GC, Perkins: $30 GC, RedRossa: $50 GC, LeMinestra: $100 GC. Eagle’s View Bed and Breakfast: 6 Guests for Brunch, Silver Spur: $50 GC. Bubba Rays: $40 GC ,Dominoes: 2 Medium 1 Topping Pizzas, Arbys: 4 $25 GC’s Silent Auction Items: Sparkle’N Sugar Sweets: LeeAnna Fitzgerald, Wine Basket: Chrisamari Vineyards Beaded Headbands: Breelyn Cowan, Crochet Hat and Basket: Eileen Aberle, Rodan and Fields #1: Danielle Shubert, Rodan and Fields #2: Danielle Morem, Silpada: 3 $20 GC’s: Tina Freeman Healing Package: SD Urban Indian Health, Cowgirl/Boy Up: SDSU Rodeo Team, No Excuses: River City Fitness, End of Day Retreat: Affections Floral and Wine, 31 Pet Leash and Pink Zebra Diffuser: Jennifer Rattling Leaf, Shopping and Lodging: 2 GC $30 off Total Purchase: Anderson Clothing, $20 GC: Pierre Mall, $10 GC: Gliks, 1 Night Stay in the King Executive Suite: River Lodge, Hair Cut & Style: Kally Jensen, Origami Necklace: Marcie Long, Tastefully Simple Package: Jessica Stange, Metal Mirror: Simply Unique, $30 GC: Leisure Palace & Pools, $50 GC & Necklace: Tibbs Leather Works, $20 GC to Clever Container: LyRanda Fuoss, 18 50lb Bags of Softener Salt & 3 Softener Check Ups: Inman’s, Tupperware Lunch Set: Steve & Lisa Jonas, Abstract Art Piece: Tanner Pruess, Love is in the Air: Beth P, 2 Framed Prints: Beth P, 2 Tickets to “Welcome to Emerald City”: Avera St. Mary’s Foundation, Capitol View Print: Grandpre Photography, Area Rug: Country Carpet and Flooring Family First: Snap Happy Photography, All About Family: SLR Photography, Explore Philip: $25 Gas GC: Coffee Cup, $50 GC: The Steakhouse ,$20 Cash: Philip Standard Service Fisherman’s Deluxe: Minnow Bucket & Lure: Bottle Shop (Chamberlain), Oil Change & Alignment: WWTire. 20 Coupons: McDonald’s, Get Inked: Addictive Ink. Painted Bowl & 4 Sitting Fees: Pottery 2 Paint, Hair Products: Headquarters Silent auction items cont. Sitting Pretty: Free Portrait Session: Bridget M Photography $50 GC: Ashley Furniture, Chamberlain Getaway: $25 Gas GC: Coffee Cup, 6 Lunches: Upper Crust Pizza & Wings $50 GC: Gateway West, $25 In Fresh Flowers: Picket Fence, Cook and Craft $15 GC: Quilt Yard, Southern Style Quick Mixes: Anonymous, Rotary Trimmer & Freeze Frame: Scrappin Ladies, Active Kid Package: 1 Year Youth Membership: YMCA Games: Anonymous Pamper Your Pet: $50 GC: Bow Wow Meow, Pet Session: Snap Happy Photography $20 GC: Apryl’s Animal House, $50 off Any Service: Doggy Doos and Kitties Too Egyptian Scarf & Purse: Ginni Grannes, A Child’s Love: Child Session: Snap Happy Photography Picture Frame: Cindy Ryan, Butterfly Bliss: 2 Butterfly Framed Prints: Hallmark Card & Candy Butterfly Print: The Dollar Store (Chamberlain), Capitol Lake Print: Josh Penrod Photography Bird Print: Josh Penrod Photography, Laframboise Metal Print: Josh Penrod Photography Time to Cook:West Bend Cooker: Runnings Farm & Fleet, 2 Cookbooks: Anonymous $20 GC: Bliss and Sweet Peas, Red Purse: Ginni Grannes, Pheasant Feather Frame: Steamboat’s Inc., Cross Necklace: Phyllis Douglas, Sophisticate: Silver Scarf: Phyllis Douglas, Earrings: Hidden Treasures, Elegant: Orange Scarf: Phyllis Douglas, Earrings: Hidden Treasures, Child’s Room: Zebra Print: Sharon Welch, Bypass Game: Jamie Seiner, On Time: Signature Home Clock: Cindy Ryan, Pink Purse: Ginni Grannes, Hope: Lia Sophia Necklace: Debbie Bowman, Black Purse: Ginni Grannes, Pink Basket of Jewelry: Anonymous, 2 Bottles of Wine: Capital City Liquors Party Platter: Anonymous, Party Platter #2: Anonymous, Hostess with the Mostess: Laura Schoen-Carbonneau, Purse Package: Striped Purse: Tibbs Feed, Lotion, Hand Soap, Candle: Zeeb Pharmacy (Philip), Office: Desk Organizer: JC Office Supplies, Wireless Keyboard & Mouse: Microfix, Scentsy Collection: Tristain Bowling, Floral Purse: Sassy B Creations, Sun Catcher & Blue Green Necklace: Shane’s Pharmacy, Picture Frame & Black Heart Necklace: Shane’s Pharmacy, A Lady’s Package: Necklace: Twin-a-ma-bobs, Bracelet, Make Up Bag: Anonymous 3 Fragrances: Bath & Body, Harley Davidson Sweatshirt: Peterson Motors, Eagle: Eagle Blanket: Capital City Florist, Framed Eagle Print: Cindy Ryan, Atisan Candles: Anonymous Wekanyeza Oskatapi “Child’s Play: Visions of the Past, Inside/Outside Games: Laura Schoen-Carbonneau, Hunter’s Package: Dakotamart, Kid’s Party: $25 GC for Cookies: The Cookie Lady 5 Thunder Alley Passes: Lariat Lanes, The Logo Board Game and Water Bottle: Anonymous Tupperware Package: Tami Steffenson, Relaxation Package: Tree Stone Therapeutic Massage Gold Canyon Candle Basket: Marne Dooley, Miche Purse & 2 Headbands: Hollywood Shop Rental of the Meeting Hall & 1 Keg: American Legion, Yard Art Globe & Pedestal: Pioneer & Antique Town (Murdo), Signed CD & Photo: Florida Georgia Line, Inspiration Wall Hangings: Anonymous, Travel: Market Basket & Travel Bag: Say What Embroidery, Necklace: Twin-a-ma-bobs, Dream Catcher & Sweatshirt: Dakota Emporium, Noah’s Ark: Anonymous, Car Care: Deucez Wild Repair and Custom, Hot Tattoo: The Hot Spot Tattoo, Golf Package: Hillsview Golf Course & City of Pierre

A special THANK YOU to all of the awesome performers, Everyone who donated an auction item, Everyone who purchased a table/ticket, Dakota Business Center for the use of the cash register, DJ/MC Dorene Foster, MC Scott Lewis, Auctioneer Todd Warring, Judges David Hufford, Scott Lane, Blake Paxton, everyone who purchased an auction item this evening, Fundraiser Chairperson Danielle Morem The Ramkota River Centre for the use of the room. Pierre Players for the use of the spot lights, Women of the Moose for helping with the food table, and Second Wind for providing the music following the fundraiser.

We hope to see all of you on Saturday, February 14, 2015 for our 23rd annual HWT!!! April is Child Abuse and Sexual Assault Awareness Month

11 facts about Child Abuse & Neglect Facts about Rape and Sexual Assault

 Approximately 5 children die every day because of child abuse. Sexual assault is a general term that includes any forced or unwanted sexual activity, including rape, incest, sexual  1 out of 3 girls and 1 out of 5 boys will be sexually abuse, and molestation. Sexual assault includes any forced or abused before they reach age 18. unwanted touching of an intimate part of the body, such as breasts, buttocks, or genitals.  90 percent of child sexual abuse victims know the perpetrator in some way. 68 percent are abused by Rape, a specific type of sexual assault, involves any forced, a family member. manipulated, or coerced penetration of the vagina, anus, or mouth, by a penis or other object. Sexual assault/rape is not a  Most children become victims of abuse and neglect at crime of passion but a crime of violence, using sex as a 18 months or younger. weapon to overpower and to degrade the victim. A rapist can be a stranger or someone the victim knows including a  In 2010, 1,537 children died of abuse or neglect. spouse, date, or family member. (79.4 %were under the age of 4 and 47.7 % were un- der the age of 1)  In 2010 there were 188,380 reports of rape and/or sexual assault in the United States.  Boys (48.5 percent) and girls (51.2 percent) become victims at nearly the same rate.  More than half of rape and sexual assault crimes take place between 6pm and 6am.  3.6 million cases of child abuse are reported every year in the U.S. And the number of children involved  Females are more likely to be victims of rape or sexual in these reports is 6 million. assault (182,000) than males (40,000).

 Abused and neglected children are 11 times more like-  Most victims of rape or sexual assault are females ly to engage in criminal behavior as an adult. younger than 24 years of age.

 About 80 percent of 21-year-olds who were abused as  Most rapes committed against women are committed by children met criteria for at least one psychological an intimate partner (spouse, boyfriend/girlfriend) or disorder. someone else they know (friend, family member, acquaintance).  14 percent of all men and 36 percent of all women in prison were abused as children. Sexual Assault Stats for

 Abused children are less likely to practice safe sex,  Over 6,700 women in South Dakota reported being putting them at greater risk for STDs. They’re also 25 victims of domestic violence in 2004. percent more likely to experience teen pregnancy.  There were 2,102 domestic assault arrests in South Dakota in 2004.10

 362 forcible rapes were reported in South Dakota in 2005.

 As of July 1, 2005, 15% of all inmates in South Dakota state prisons were serving time for sex offenses.

 9 homicides occurred as a result of domestic violence in 2006. Missouri Shores House of Hope relies on your donations/memberships to continue our mission. The goal is to help families, affected by DV & SA, live a better life through safe options and education. We have a weekly women’s and children’s group. The monetary donations allow us to provide families with; safe shelter, crisis counseling, legal advocacy, financial assistance, transportation, group counseling, personal advocacy and a 24/7 crisis line.

MSDVC New & Renewing Members MSDVC Donations over $100 *Donations over $100 *Rev. Roger & Jean Easland *Jerry & Sharon Klocker Prairie Home Ladies *Ann Anderson *Roberta & Penn Williams *Jerry & Barbara Kleinsasser *Maxine Tessier Baldridge Special Account *Bob & Elaine Yackley R& M Danielson Our Savior Lutheran Church-Highmore *Jim & Beverly Smith Trent & Krista Miller Lutheran Memorial Church-Pierre Scott Lovald *Gon & Tiffany Sanchez Resurrection Lutheran Church Women-Pierre *Melanie Urich * Myra Vetter SD Christmas at the Capitol Committee Jeff & Connie Pierce Jeannette & Glynis Collier Eileen & Karl Fischer *Linda & Richard Johnson *Jeff Filipek Bill & Deb Cermak Marjory Strait Fred & Mary Mathews Joan Backman Patricia Lass *Upcoming Events* *Wade & Karen Pogany Freda Lawhon *Judith Collier Larry & Joann Morris  April is Child Abuse Awareness Month *Leroy & Carolyn Kropunske Scott & LaDonna Holm Jerre Willis *Russ & Nancy Lampy  April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month In Memory/Honor of:  June 7th 2014: Burnouts Not Bruises race at Mason Sameo Pam Huber the Oahe Speedway Wendy & Jeff Speaect Judy Collier Shirley Eisnach

Check out the *New or Continuing GROUPS

*To provide emotional support for women as they work through the effects of abuse *To encourage personal growth in all areas of life *To provide a comfortable atmosphere to develop relationships which are trusting and caring *To provide a safe place to talk about the abuse *To learn more about abuse and its affects on oneself and children witnessing abuse Support Group Times Women’s Support Group - Mondays 6:00PM Children’s Support Group- Monday 5:00PM Pattern Changing for Women - Thursdays 1:00PM South Dakota Women’s Prison

Please call 224-0256 with questions and location of groups. Membership

Missouri Shores Domestic Violence Center staff is available for presentations on domestic violence and sexual assault to schools, youth service organizations, church groups and other community groups. We will tailor a presentation to fit your needs.

Please call 224-0256 for more information or to schedule a presentation.

Please support Missouri Shores Domestic violence Center. Your support allows MSDVC/House of Hope to provide services at no charge.  24-hour confidential crisis line and immediate crisis intervention  Crisis counseling and therapy  Emergency shelter and assistance  Emotional support and advocacy for the survivor and family  Legal and Medical Advocacy  Hope Line (911) cell phone  Self-empowerment support groups for adult and child survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault  Assistance with housing, employment and child care  Assistance with short and long term life planning

For a donation of $25.00 or greater per year, you will receive:

* Membership Card * Quarterly Newsletters * Sense of satisfaction knowing you have assisted to help break the cycle of violence You will help us provide a safe haven for a victim and her/his child (ren)

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MISSOURI SHORES DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CENTER MEMBERSHIP/DONATION LETTER

 Please sign me up for an annual membership. My payment in the amount of $25.00 is enclosed. Name: ______Address: ______

 I have enclosed a donation to Missouri Shores Domestic Violence Center.  In Remembrance of someone special in your life, please consider a donation to Missouri Shores Domestic Violence Center in their memory and honor. In Memory/Honor of: ______By: ______

PLEASE RETURN THIS FORM WITH YOUR CONTRIBUTION TO MISSOURI SHORES PO BOX 398 PIERRE, SD 57501 Donations Of Any Amount Are Gratefully Accepted (and tax deductible) Want to Help Make a Difference?

If you are wondering how you can help MSDVC “House of Hope”, we have some ideas for you.

MSDVC provides all the food for our clients during their stay, hygiene products, diapers, wipes, laundry soap and softener, bedding, pillows, transportation via our van or River City Transit, a donation room of household items and clothing. MSDVC provides new undergarments and pajamas as many come with nothing. We also help our clients with furniture and small kitchen appliances when they move into their own house. Those items underlined are always needed but we rely on donations for them. If you are moving or just downsizing and you want to make a difference in the lives of another family, consider do- nating to MSDVC. You can call us at 224-0256 or email us at [email protected] to inquire about items you would like to donate.

MEET THE TEAM

MISSOURI SHORES STAFF

Kami Kessler: Executive Director Bobbi Poindexter: Client Services Supervisor Emily Wickstrom: Rural Advocate Dodie Hardy: Child Advocate/Facilities Coordinator

BOARD OF DIRECTORS:

President: Jennifer Swisher Vice President: Jeff Filipek Treasurer: Danielle Morem Secretary: Christi Kuiper MSDVC Staff (L to R) Jamie Seiner Tracey Palecek Dodie Hardy: Child Avdocate Ryan Mechaley Elton Blemaster Kami Marts: Executive Director Scott Schroeder Emily Wickstrom: Rural Advocate Bobbi Poindexter: Client Services Supervisor

MISSOURI SHORES CONTACT INFORMATION Office…………….224-0256 Fax……………….224-6972 Crisis Line………..224-7187 24/7 Toll free ….. 1-800-696-7187

Mailing Address: E-Mail: [email protected] PO Box 398 Website: www.missourishores.com Pierre, SD 57501 Facebook: www.facebook.com/ missourishores

MSDVC is a member of the SD Network Against Family Violence and Sexual Assault, and supporter of SD Coalition Ending Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault. Missouri Shores Domestic Violence Center P.O. Box 398 Pierre, SD 57501

Problems? We would like to make it right! Please email us at [email protected] so we can make it right! Thank you