maintaining the in the home cess. Good info on obtaining ser- feel insurmountable.” vices for children with special needs. Please visit Holt’s Post Understanding an Individual Educa- RESOURCES FOR website to access these webinars: tion Plan and 504 Plans www.nacac.org/postadopt/ http://www.holtinternational.org/ faqs.html#13 AFTER pas/holt-post-adoption-webinars/ Excellent detailed information on content of a plan and how to initiate an evaluation for an IEP PLACEMENT Websites:  Post-Adoption Webinars Center for Adoption Support and Language: Sharon Glennen Education, Inc. (CASE) http://pages,towson.edusglennen/  Support index.htm Creating a Family International adoptee language ac-  Education http://www.creatingafamily.org/ quisition Archives of 1000’s of discussions with professionals on all aspects of American Speech-Language-Hearing Holt Webinars: adoption, articles are also listed, Association Is My Child a U. S. Citizen?- What trainings are available as well. www.asha.org/ Adoptive Should Know In addition to typical information has adult adoptees. Inquiries include Empowered to Connect (highly rec- info regarding learning a second everything from file copy requests to ommended): language and there is a search func- assistance with birth searches or cul- www.empoweredtoconnect.org/ tion to locate professionals. tural and historical information. Among the most common questions North American Council on Adopta- Center for Cognitive-Developmental we receive – from both adoptive par- ble Children (NACAC): Assessment and Remediation ents and adult adoptees – are ques- www.nacac.org/ www.bgcenter.com tions surrounding the issue of citizen- Specializes in assessing internation- ship. Presented by Debby Hanson, Tapestry Adoption & Foster Care ally adopted children for school Holt’s Administrative Coordinator for Ministry: readiness (Boris Gindis) Post Adoption Services. www.tapestryministry.org/ Learning Problems in Adopted Chil- Teens Talk About Adoption Tapestry Books: dren www.schwablearning.org/ A one hour video webinar featuring www.tapestrybooks.com/ articles.aspx?r=689 article by An- a panel of teenage Adoptees. See nie Stuart and hear their stories as they share their experiences and answer ques- Support Groups Schools and adoption tions from webinar participants with Children from China: www.childwelfare.gov/adoption/ about growing up as an Adoptee. www.fwcc.org/index.php/local- adopt_parenting/school/ This webinar will provide insightful chapters A treasure trove of information on and personal perspectives on issues helping your adoptee in the school relevant to Adoptive Parents. Families with Children From Vi- environment etnam: Hoarding, Food Obsession and www.fcvn.org Adoption Resources Center, Family Weight Worries: Healing a History Helper of Food Scarcity Korean Focus: www.familyhelper.net/arc/lng.html When children experience food scar- www.koreanfocus.org Has guide available for purchase city or unsupportive early feeding, it about preparing your adoptee for often has a profound impact on their Northwest Adoptive Families Associ- school and her teacher for adoption relationship with food. ation (OR/WA): issues www.nafaonline.org You Ain’t Crazy Center for Adoption Support and Jayne Schooler author of Wounded Northwest ICHILD (India Child) Paki- Education (CASE) Children Healing Homes discusses stan, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, and www.adoptionsupport.org parenting traumatized children and Nepal: National resource for families and how this experience impacts the www.nwichild.org professionals and this is where to get adoptive . “When a child with the W.I.S.E. Up Powerbook and the a history of trauma joins the family, S.A.F.E. at School programs School and/or Special it is transformational for that family. Education Most often, this transformation is KidSource. What is Early Interven- tion? positive for all in the family. Occa- US Department of Education sionally, the transformation is not www.kidsource.com/kidsource/ www.ed.gov content/early.intervention.html and the issues and challenges in Information about IEP and 504 pro- Transracial Adoption Beneath the Mask: Understanding by Jane Jeong Trenka, Julia Chinyere FAMILY Adopted Teens Oparah and Sun Yung Shin by Debbie Riley and John Meeks RESOURCES FOR A Personal Touch On… Adoption A Child’s Journey Through Placement by Berlin Peter by Vera Fahlberg AFTER Perspectives on a Grafted Tree: The Family of Adoption Thoughts for Those Touched by by Joyce Maguire Pavao Adoption PLACEMENT by Patricia Irwin Johnston  Being Adopted Flight of the Stork: What Children Think (and When) about Sex and The Search for Anna Fisher  Adoption throughout the Family Building by Florence Fisher by Anne C. Bernstein Lifespan Single Square Picture: A Korean The Whole Life Adoption Book by Adoptee’s Search for Her Roots  Memoirs Jayne E. Schooler and Thomas C. by Katy Robinson Atwood Somebody’s Someone: A Memoir Books: Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search by Regina Louise Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self for Self by David Brodzinsky, Marshall There Is No Me Without You: One by David Brodzinsky, Marshall Schecter & Robin Henig Woman’s Odyssey to Rescue Her Schechter & Robin Henig Country’s Children Brimming Over by Grace Sandness by Melissa Fay Greene How It Feels to be Adopted Dreaming a World: Korean Birth- by Jill Krementz Tell Their Stories Twice Born: Memoirs of an Adopted by Sansoon Han Journey to the Adopted Self: A Quest by Betty Jean Lifton for Wholeness Gift Children: A Story of Race, Fami- by Betty Jean Lifton ly and Adoption in Divided America Voices From Another Place by J. Douglas Bates by Susan Soon-Keum Cox Lost and Found: The Adoption Expe- rience I Wish for You a Beautiful Life: Let- The Waiting Child: How the Faith by Betty Jean Lifton ters from the Korean Birth Mothers of and Love of One Orphan Saved the Ae Ran Won to Their Children Life of Another Pieces of Me: Who Do I Want to Be by Sara Dorow (editor) by Cindy Champnella by Robert L. Ballard In Their Own Voices: Transracial Adoptees Tell Their Stories Whose Child?: An Adoptee’s Heal- Twenty Life Transforming Choices by Rita J. Simon & Rhonda Roorda ing Journey from Relinquishment Adoptees Need to Make through Reunion… and Beyond by Sherrie Eldridge In Their Parents’ Voices: Reflections by Kasey Hamner on Raising Transracial Adoptees Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish by Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda Their Adoptive Parents Knew by DVD’s Sherrie Eldridge In Their ’ Voices: White Non- Making Sense of it All: Helping Adopted Siblings Talk About Their Adopted Children Understand Who The Adoption Life Cycle: The Chil- Experience Being Raised with Black They Are (DVD) from the 2011 Tap- dren and Their Families Through the and Biracial and estry Adoption and Foster Care Con- Years by Rita Simon and Rhonda Roorda ference by Elinor B. Rosenberg Ithaka: A Daughter’s Memoir of Be- What is my Teen Really Saying? Adoption Healing… A Path to Recov- ing Found (DVD) From the 2013 Tapestry ery by Sarah Saffian Adoption and Foster Care Confer- by Joe Soll ence Loving Across the Line: A White Adoption Nation: How the Adop- Adoptive Learns About Race tion Revolution is Transforming Amer- by Sharon Rush ica by Adam Pertman My Family, A Symphony: A Memoir of Global Adoption Adoption Piece by Piece: Lifelong by Aaron Eske Issues by Sara Graefe Outsiders Within: Writing on Activities to Promote Attachment propriate for your child. Also includ- ed is information about child devel- FAMILY Baby Massage: The Calming Power opment and play skills of Touch book by Heath and Pain- RESOURCES FOR braidge Behavior Management http://babybabyohbaby.com Empowered to Connect Information and resources regarding www.empoweredtoconnect.org AFTER infant massage Associated with Karyn Purvis and TBRI this website has video clips ad- Child massage - Touch Research In- dressing specific behavior issues. PLACEMENT stitute - University of Miami Great for someone who doesn’t like Leaders in the field of the im-  Attachment or have time to read. It also has a portance of touch free downloadable study guide to  Development Karin’s book:” The Connected Book: Yoga Games for Children: Child” Fun and Fitness with Postures, Move- ments and Breath Attachment Child Welfare Information Gateway By Bersma, Misscher, and Looistra www.childwelfare.gov/pubs/ Book: Attaching in Adoption: Practi- factsheets/preschool.cfm cal Tools for Today's Parents “I Love You Rituals” by Rebecca Find the adoption link and there is a Written by: Deborah D. Gray Anne Bailey book of rhymes and wealth of information on many is- This is a comprehensive guide for games that send the message of un- sues prospective and actual adoptive par- conditional love for infants to 8 ents on how to understand and care years old Book: The Connected Child: Bring for their adopted child and promote hope and healing to your adoptive healthy attachment. It explains what Theraplay Institute family attachment is, how grief and trauma www.theraplay.org Written by: Dr. Karyn Purvis et. Al. can affect children's emotional de- Play is essential for bonding to occur The adoption of a child is always a velopment, and how to improve at- no matter what the age of the child. joyous moment in the life of a family. tachment, respect, cooperation and Some , though, present trust. Parenting techniques are Circle of Security unique challenges. Welcoming these matched to children's emotional http://circleofsecurity.net/ children into your family--and ad- needs and stages, and checklists are A relationship based early interven- dressing their special needs--requires included to help parents assess how tion for ages 0-5 yrs. Register to at- care, consideration, and compas- their child is doing at each develop- tend a training or find a local facili- sion. mental stage. tator Trust Based Relational Intervention Dr. Karyn Purvis on establishing the Learn about cocooning (TBRI) bonds of connection: http://www.lianalowenstein.com/ http://child.tcu.edu/about-us/tbri/ http://creatingafamily.org/ articlesParentAdoptedChild.pdf This is the parenting model that Holt connected-child-bring-hope-healing- teaches adoptive parents. The web- adoptive-family/ site has books, DVDs, and a list of Child Development trained professionals by state or Podcast: Building the Bonds of At- name tachment with Adopted Children Adoption and the Stages of Develop- ment: Book: “Parenting From the Inside Association for Treatment & Training https://www.childwelfare.gov/ pubPDFs/f_stages.pdf Out” by Daniel Siegel in the Attachment of Children Helps parents understand the impact (ATTACh): Child Development Institute their own parents have on their par- www.attach.org enting beliefs Book: Attaching in Adoption: Practi- www.childevelopmentinfo.com Packed with information about typi- cal Tools for Today’s Parents Book: No Drama Discipline by Deborah Gray cal child development and play Written by: Tina Payne Bryson an Dr. Dan Siegel Book: Becoming Attached The Infant-Parent Institute www.infant-partent.com Highlighting the fascinating link be- by Robert Karen tween a child’s neurological devel- Videos related to attachment, infant development, adoption and foster opment and the way a parent reacts Book: Building the Bonds of Attach- to misbehavior, No-Drama Discipline ment: Awakening Life in Deeply care. provides an effective, compassionate Troubled Children road map for dealing with tantrums, by Daniel Hughes Child Developmentally Appropriate Toys and Games tensions, and tears—without causing a scene. www.fisher-price.dom Attachment Issues and Reactive At- Once you determine your adoptee’s tachment Disorder social and emotional age you can Rights4me Helpguide.org quickly locate games and toys ap- www.rights4me.org Treatment/Specialty FAMILY Neurofeedback The Gottman Institute EEG Info www.eeginfor.com www.gottman.com RESOURCES FOR Learn about application of neu- Info to strengthen and repair mar- rofeedback to many mental health riages AFTER and medical issues. Mind Tools Stress Management PLACEMENT EEG Spectrum www.mindtools.com/pages/article/  Specific Needs www.eegspectrum.com newTCS_00.htm Explains neurofeedback and its ap- plication also has provider locator Specific Sensory Processing Disorder Dads and Carol Kranowitz site http://out-of- www.dadsanddaughter.org sync-child.com/ Language Acquisition Information for of all age Wealth of information from the Sign language for aiding communi- daughters goal is to maximize the teacher that brought SPD into the cation: power and potential of father/ limelight http://www.international-adoption- daughter relationships.

facts-and-information.com/sign- The national foundation site http:// language.html The Fathers Network www.spdfoundation.net/board.html www.fathersnetwork.org www.sensorystories.com Social Stories for aiding communica- Information and resources for the Children’s coloring books for help- tion: care of children with special needs. ing children problem solve about http://www.holtinternational.org/ sensory needs and deficits. waitingchild/resources.shtml#soc Men Web

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www.fathers.com Nutrition and Feeding Adjustment Equipping men to be more effective- Spoon Foundation: Adoption Nutri- Holt’s three webinars on Preparing ly involved in the lives of children. tion by country: Sisters and Brothers for Adoption. Has area for adoptive fathers to post http://adoptionnutrition.org/ After opening link, select “view messages to each other. nutrition-by-country/ event recording” and scroll to find

webinar. Go to Holt Post Adoption National Child Care Information Holt Webinar: How to Feed When Services website for link: http:// and Technical Assistance Center Your Child Is Underweight www.holtinternational.org/pas/holt- http://nccic.org/poptopics/ This webinar will help you under- post-adoption-webinars/ fatherinvolvement.html stand why some adopted and foster The link listed takes you directly to children seem to be turned off by the “Fathers’ involvement in the lives food. of their Children “section of this or- ganization.

Separation and Loss Lifebooks FAMILY by Claudia Jewett Websites: www.adoptionlifebooks.com RESOURCES FOR Why Didn’t She Keep Me? Answers to the Question Every Adopted Child www.tapestrybooks.com/product- AFTER Asks category/adoption-lifebooks by Barbara Burlingham-Brown PLACEMENT www.scrapandtell.com/Layouts.asp  Grief/Loss Talking About Adoption With Books:  Openness Your Child Not in Front of the Children: How to Adoption Lifebook: A Bridge to Your  Post-Adoption Talk to Your Child About Tough Child’s Beginnings Family Matters by Cindy Probst Grief and Loss by Lawrence Balter and Peggy Jo Grief Watch Donohue Before You Were Mine: Discovering www.griefwatch.com Your Adopted Child’s Lifestory Talking to Your Child About Adop- by Susan TeBos and Carissa Wood- Empowered to Connect – Multiple tion– a Heart of the Matter online wyk articles on grief and loss in adoption course http://empoweredtoconnect.org/ Filling in the Blanks: A Guided Look topics/loss-and-grief/ Talking with Young Children About at Growing Up Adopted Adoption by Susan Gabel (for teens) “When Sad Looks by Mary Watkins & Susan Fisher Mad” (Empowered to connect video Lifebooks: Creating a Treasure for and article) http:// Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or the Adopted Child empoweredtoconnect.org/when-sad- Foster Child: Making Sense of the by Beth O’Malley looks-mad/ Past by Betsy Keefer and Jayne Schooler Post Adoption Book: Helping Children Cope with Post Adoption Learning Center Separation and Loss Open Adoption http://www.bgcenterschool.org/ Written by: Claudia Jewett-Jarratt A Letter To Adoptive Parents On index.shtml Although not written to adoptive fam- Open Adoption ilies specifically, this book offers ad- by Randolph Severson Adoption Learning Partners vice for parents. The adopted child www.adoptionlearningpartners.org might have experienced these issues Dear Birthmother Web based educational resources before you interacted with their sto- by Kathleen Silber & Phyllis Speedlin for adoptive parents ry. This book covers such topics as death, , illness, and other My Special Family: A Children’s Adoption Parenting Pathways: challenges. Book About Open Adoption http:// by Kathleen Silber and Debra Marks www.adoptionlearningpartners.org/ Adopting After Infertility Parelskin pathways/ by Patricia Irwin Johnston This is a brand new website that Open Adoption: A Caring Option functions as a portal to all things re- Adopted and Wondering: Drawing by Jean Warren Lindsay lated to adoption out Feelings by Marge Eaton Heegaard Painful Lessons, Loving Bonds: The Holt’s Post Adoption Services web Heart of Open Adoption site: Helping Children Cope with by March Wineman Axness www.holtinternational.org/pas Horace Seeds of Love: For Brothers and Sis- by Holly Keller (Ages 2-8) ters of International Adoption FAMILY by Mary Petertyl (Ages 2-6) I Don’t Have Your Eyes RESOURCES FOR by Carrie Kitze (Ages 2-5) Shaoey and Dot: Bug Meets Bundle by Mary Beth and Stephen Curtis I Wished for You Chapman AFTER by Marianne Richmond The Skin You Live In If It Hadn’t Been For Yoon Jun by Michael Tyler PLACEMENT by Marie G. Lee (Ages 9-12)  Children’s Books The Star (A Story to Help Young It’s OK to Be Different Children Understand Foster Care) by Todd Parr by Cynthia Miller Lovell A is for Adopted by Eileen Tucker Cosby It’s Tough to Be Gentle Tell Me Again About the Night I was by Cindy R. Lee Born Adoption is for Always by Jamie Lee Curtis by Linda Walvoord Girard Let’s Talk About It: Adoption (Mr. Rogers) Through Moon and Stars and Night Adoption Stories for Young Children by Fred Rogers (Ages 4-8) Skies by Randall B. Hicks by Ann Turner (Ages 2-8) Little Miss Spider All Kinds of Children by David Kirk (Ages 1-6) Twice Upon a Time: Born and by Norma Simon Adopted Lucy’s by Eleanora Patterson Baby Owl Lost Her Whoo by Karen Halvorsen Schreck (Ages 6 by Cindy R. Lee -12) We See the Moon by Carrie A. Kitze Beginnings: How Families Come to Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Be Foster Care We’re Different, We’re the Same by Virginia Kroll (Ages 4-8) by Jennifer Wilgocki by Bobbie Jane Kates

A Blessing from Above A Mother for Choco When You Were Born in China by Patti Henderson by Keiko Kasza (Ages 2-8) by Sara Dorow (Ages 6+)

The Coffee Can Kid The Mulberry Bird When You Were Born in Korea by Jan M. Czech by Ann Brodznisky (Ages 4-12) by Brian Boyd (Ages 6+)

The Day We Met You Murphy’s Three Homes (A Story for When You Were Born in Vietnam by Phoebe Koehler Children in Foster Care) by Therese Bartlett (Ages 6+) by Jan Levinson Gilman Doggie Doesn’t Know “No!” The Whole Me by Cindy R. Lee My Adopted Child, There’s No One by Ellen K. Baron Like You Emma’s Yucky (I Can Read by Kevin Leman W.I.S.E. Up Powerbook Book 3) by Marilyn Schoettle (Ages 6-12) by Jean Little and Jennifer Plecas My Special Family: A Children’s Book About Open Adoption Why Was I Adopted? Families Change: A Book for Chil- by Kathleen Silber and Debra Marks by Carole Livingston (Ages 6+) dren Experiencing Termination of Parelskin Parental Rights by Julie Nelson A New Barker in the House by Tomie dePaola : Celebrating Ethan’s Adoption Anniversary Over the Moon by Christine Mitchell by Karen Katz

God Found Us You The Penguin and the Fine-Looking by Lisa Tawn Bergren (Ages 4-8) Fish by Cindy R. Lee For more information, please contact Happy Adoption Day! By John McCutcheon (Ages 2-6) Rosie’s Family Holt International at 541-687-2202 by Lori Rosove or [email protected]