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Robertson + Associates A Divorce and Family Law Firm The Blog 2010 - 2015 About Divorce: Mississippi Temporary Hearings in Mississippi….………………………………………………………….5 Mississippi Hates Divorce…………………………………………………………………….….7 Ten Things About Divorce in Mississippi………….…………………………………………...8 Legal Separation in Mississippi………………………………………………………………...10 Elements Irreconcilable Differences……………………………………………………………………….11 Fault……………………………………………………………………………………………….13 Habitual Cruel and Inhuman Conduct………………………………………………………..14 Prenuptial Agreement? How Romantic ………………………………………………………15 All My Money…………………….………………………………………………………………17 Reasons and Choices Adultery………………………………………………………………………………...19 Cell Phone Bills Can Talk………………........................................…………………...20 Note to Self: Close the Blinds………………………….………………………………22 Moth to a Flame………………………………………………………………………...24 Top 5 Places People That Cheat Meet………………………………….……………..26 The Strongest Drug Known to Man…………..….……………………………...……28 Uber and Technology in Divorce...................................................................................30 The Jig is Up………………………..……………………………………………………32 A Bird in the Hand is Worth Two in the Bush………………………………………………...33 It is Cheaper to Keep Her…………………………………………………….………………….34 Supply and Demand………………………………......................……………………………….36 Psychos, Sociopaths and Narcissists…………………………………...………………………..38 What to Expect A Straight Razor Shave and Divorce……………………..………………………………..……40 The Grief Cycle in Divorce……..…………………………………………………...……………42 A Man and His Big Green Egg……..……………………………………………………………44 Scoreboard……………………..…………………………………………………………………..46 Divorce and Contacts……………………………………………………………………………..48 The Laws of Physics are Always the Same…………..…………………………………………50 Cancer…………….…………………………………..…………………………….………………51 Soldiering Through…………...…………….……………………………………………………..52 How to Respond The Storm Before the Calm………………………………………………………….…………....53 Don’t Kick the Ant Bed ………..………………………………………………………………….54 A Mississippi Family Law Trial and Miracle on 34th Street…...……….………………………55 The Roller Coaster Ride ..…….………..…….…………………………………..………………..57 The Backlash …………..…………………………………………………………….……………..59 Driving in the Snow in Mississippi and Divorce……………..………………….……………..60 Back to School……………………………...………………………………………………………61 The Bottle Tree and Your Divorce…………………………….…………………..……………..62 Help Yourself During a Divorce…………...………………………………………….…………64 Piglet on Divorce…………………………………………………………………….…………….66 Cowboy Up…………………………………………………………………………..………...…..68 ICU…………………………………………………………………………….……...….…...…….70 Love is Creative…………………….……………………………………………………………...71 2 The Halls of Justice…………….………………………………..…………………………………73 Dr. Mike and His Heirloom Tomatoes.………….…………..…………………….…………….75 Divorce is White Water Rafting………..…….……………………………………...……………77 Social Media and Your Divorce…….…..…………………………………………………...……79 Patience and Poise…………...…………………………………………………………………….81 Visceral.……………..….……………………………………………………………………..…….83 A Bad Divorce…..……..……………………………………………………………………...…….84 The Wide Net……….….……..…………………………………………………………………….86 Cease Fire……...……………………………………………………………………………………87 With Children Your Kids and the Holidays……….………………………………………………...……………88 How to Win a Child Custody Case in Mississippi…...……………………...…………………90 Your Story Ends in a Funeral……....…….……..…………………………………..…………….92 The Super Dad Syndrome……………….……..…………………………………………………94 The 800 Pound Gorilla……..…………….………………………………………….…………….96 The Mistake-Proof Divorce with Children……...…………..…………….…………………….98 Making the Most of Your Weekend……………..………………………………………..……100 Building Sandcastles……...………………………………………………………….…………..102 Tell Your Kid This………………...……………………………………………………..……….103 A Journey with Your Kids………………………………………...……………………...……...105 My Dad is Awesome……………...……………………………………………...………………107 The Reverse Logic of a Child Custody Case………………………………………...…………108 The Attorneys Should I Call My Mississippi Divorce Attorney………….…………………………………...110 When It’s About the Principle……………………………...….……………………...…………112 The Truth The Whole Truth and Nothing But the Truth…….………...………………..……114 In the Bubble…………......………….……………….……………………………………………116 Your Own Brand of Garbage………..….………….………………………………………….…118 Can One Lawyer Represent Two People in a Divorce?.............................................................120 Minutiae……………..…………………………………….…….…………………………………122 What Am I Not Asking That I Should Be Asking?.....................................................................123 Momma and Them Don’t Know Better….………..…….………………………………………125 The Body of the Spider……………….……………....…………………...………………………127 Point A to Point B………..…………….……………………….…………………………………129 You Should Mediate Your Divorce…….…..………………….………………………...………130 Attack of the Lawyer....…..…………….………………………….…………………...…………132 I Chose to Pay…..…………………….………….……………………………………..…………134 Find an Attorney Through An Attorney..…..…………………………………………..………136 The Warrior Poet Lawyer……...….……………………………………………………...………137 It is Not Just Paper…….…..………………………………………………………………...……139 Sharks………..……………….….……………………....…………………………………………140 The Search for the Carpenter……………..….….…………………………….…………………142 Specialization and Geography…….………………..………………………………...…………144 Your Life If I Could Give You A Magic Wand……………………………………………………………………146 Remdemption and Divorce.………………………………………………………………………….….148 The Parasite………………………………………………………………………….……………………150 Your Creative Center………………….…………………………………………………………...…….152 Divorce Remorse………………………………………………………………………………………….154 Family is a Choice……………………………………………………………………………...…………155 3 Touchable Distance……………………………………………………………………………………….157 The One and Only Ivan…………………………………………………………………………………..158 Frozen Pipes……………………….....……………………………………………………………………160 Timing………………...……………………………………………………………………………………162 When the Preacher Gets Divorced……………………………………....………………………………163 Crazymakers……………………....………………………………………………………………………165 Nirvana……………………………….……………………………………………………………………167 What is Your Word Worth?.......................................................................................................................169 The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse and Christmas.…...…………………………………………171 It is More Fun to be the Crazy One………………..……………………………………………………173 Sexual Addiction and Divorce…………..………………………………………………………………175 Life Uniform………………………………....……………………………………………………………177 Life Post-Divorce My One Hundred Dollar Bet…………………….………………………………………………………179 Being Hit By a Pitch………………………………....……………………………………………………181 Define Your Divorce…………………………………...…………………………………………………183 Why I Like 2nd Weddings Better………...………………………………………………………………185 The Leaver and the Left…………………….……………………………………………………………187 Everyone Deserves a Mulligan……….…………………………………………………………………189 Go Buy a TV………….……………………………………………………………………………………191 KEEP CALM and CARRY ON………..…………………………………………………………………193 Not the Same……………………………....………………………………………………………………195 I’m Divorced, I’m Separated, I’m Miserable, What Now?....................................................................197 10 Tips for Divorce Recovery………....…………………………………………………………………199 Husband-in-Laws………....………………………………………………………………………………202 Adoption/Foster Care 200 Million Flowers…………………………………………………………………………………..…...204 200 Million Flowers Update………………..…………………………………………………………….206 Adoption, Mentoring and Teen Pregnancy…..………………………………………………………...208 Why?..............................................................................................................................................................210 Olivia Y……………………...……………..………………………………………………………………212 My Dog Wears a Sweater………………..………………………………………………………….……214 To Lawyers Young Lawyers…………………………………………………………………..…………..……………216 Some Thoughts to the New Class of Attorneys………………..………………………………………218 About the Office/CR Q&A About R+A.……………………………………………………………………………….....………222 The Initial Consultation…………..………………………………………………………………………226 Tim Tebow Versus Joel Osteen………..……………………………………………………………....…228 Why My Firm is Going Green………..………………………………………………………………..…230 The South Africa Essays The South Africa Essay: Part 1………………………………………..………………………………….232 The South Africa Essay: Part 2……………………..………………………………………………….…237 The South Africa Essay: Part 3…………………..…………………………………………………….…243 The South Africa Essay: Part 4…..…………………………………………………………………….…246 The South Africa Essay: Conclusion……………………………………………………………………..251 Book Reviews: Skip Scary Close: A Book Review………………………..………………………………………………255 Same Kind of Different As Me: A Book Review………..………………………………………………257 4 I got up early this morning in eager anticipation of today’s events. It’s game day –the day for my client’s temporary hearing. Years ago I hung up my glove and cleats and traded them in for a briefcase, laptop and last season’s tie. The smell of pine tar is replaced with the aroma of coffee and toner. It’s not sexy, but it is what I’ve got. Today we compete. Last night I texted my client two words: “Patience” and “Poise.” Law and Order and other legal shows that take a case from start to finish is 60 minutes (including commercial breaks) have given the American population the misconception that the wheels of justice turn faster than they really do. Justice is a little like agriculture –there is lots of dirt and time must pass before we are ready to harvest. I actually think my father-in-law can take his corn from seed to grain in the bin a little faster than I can finish most divorces. With overcrowded dockets, litigious lawyers and soon to be ex- spouses with visions of sugar plumbs dancing in their