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Additional Brochures New Program Coordinators (continued) The following is a list of mental health agencies with counselors trained to help survivors of sexual abuse. You Portales Shiprock The following brochures about sexual abuse are also availablemay decidefrom you want to talk with someone over the phone Mental Health Resource Home for Women & Children, INCEST before you can go in to see them. You may want to join a 359-1221 • 1-800-432-2159 crisis Crisis Service the New Mexico Coalition of Programs, Inc.: Empowerment Raton 368-5124 group for incest survivors. Either way, find a therapist who Silver City Taos/Colfax Comm. Services á 'Safe, Strong and Free', for young children (Spanish believesand your feelings and memories. Give yourself the 445-2754 El Refugio, Rape Crisis Svcs. time and compassion. You will need both. A Guide to Helping Your Rio Rancho 538-2125 English) URVIVORS Border Area Mental Hlth. Ctr. S Rio Rancho Health Center 388-4412 ‘No matter what is true of your past, the world is in need of your bestin the Aftermath of Sexual Abuse 896-0928 • 1-888-920-6333 crisis á Roswell 1-800-426-0997 crisis 'Top 10 Questions for Kids'. for mid-school aged childrencontrib utions. You can only give your best by becoming your best self; Counseling Associates Socorro and this is only possible if you consider yourself deserving of emotional 623-1480 Socorro Mental Health healing.’, (Betty Caponera, Ph.D., Overcoming Painful Past Experiences’) 835-2444 á 'Teens Talk About: Bodies and Feelings' Ruidoso Gail Santilli, C.I.S.W. The Counseling Center Taos 237-5038 • 437-7407 crisis Community Against Violence á 'If You Love Me: ', and ‘Carpeting Out New Mexico Sexual Abuse Program Coordinators Flagstaff, Arizona 758-8082 • 758-9888 crisis 1-800-634-3666 crisis Across America: Drug Assisted Rape’, for High School students 1997 San Felipe Taos Mental Health 758-1125 Alamogordo Farmington San Felipe Behavioral Health The Counseling Center Truth or Consequences Presbyterian Med. Svcs. & Family Services á ‘Talking To Your Children About Sex: How to use open 437-7404 Community Counseling S.T.A.R.T. 867-9740 discussions about sex, privacy, respect and values to prevent Albuquerque the 325-0238 • 325-1906 crisis Santa Fe 894-0889 • 894-5475 pager Albuquerque Rape Crisis Center Tucumcari San Juan County Rape Crisis Santa Fe Rape Crisis Center sexual abuse and exploitation of children and teens.’ A 266-7711 booklet 599-6168 Mental Health Resources 988-1951 • 986-9111 or for Programs for Children & Gallup 1-800-721-7273 crisis 461-3013 Adolescents 1-800-432-2159 crisis Western NM Counseling Svcs. Santa Rosa 272-2190 • 272-2800 after 5pm 863-3828 Las Vegas Medical Center á 'Incest Survivor', 'Male Victim', 'From Victim to Survivor' Sequoia Adolescent Treatment 1-800-649-0181 crisis Community Based Services (Spanish and English), ‘Rape in ’, ‘Sexual Abuse Center of Grants 472-3768 • 425-1048 crisis 344-4673 Cibola Counseling Services Seniors’, ‘Lesbians and Sexual Assault’, ‘Sexual Abuse of crisis Artesia 287-7985 • 1-800-287-0212 (after hours) New Mexico Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners Units Persons with Developmental ’ and ‘Overcoming Artesia Counseling Center Hobbs Painful Past Experiences’ for adults. 746-9848 • 365-7606 crisis Guidance Center of Lea County Las Cruces Aztec 393-3168 • 393-6633 crisis Alamogordo SANE Daybreak Center 392-0966 for adolescents Otero County SANE Unit 526-3437 crisis 334-3444 • 342-1802 crisis Jemez Pueblo 443-7900 • 443-2156 crisis 1-888-595-7273 Belen Pueblo of Jemez Soc. Services Albuquerque Office: 521-5549 Valencia Counseling Svcs., Inc. 834-7117 Albuquerque SANE Collaborative Portales 864-1909 • 865-3359 LasWHY Cruces THE NEED FOR THIS BROCHURE: 883-8720 • 884-7263, emergency Roosevelt County SANE Bernalillo La Pinon Rape Crisis Center Para Los Ninos, UNM Health 359-1800, ext. 531 Produced by: La Buena Vida • 867-2383 526-3437 Sciences Center Pediatric Sex Roswell Carlsbad 1-888-595-7273 crisis Abuse Exams New Mexico Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs, Inc. This brochure is intended to supply you with detailed information Esperanza House SANE Unit Carlsbad Mental Health Southern NM Human : Renee Ornelas, MD 3909 Juan Tabo NE, Suite 6 about incest if you or someone you love are wondering or have already 272-6849 625-1457 885-4836 • 885-8888 crisis Development

Clovis Santa Fe Albuquerque, New Mexico 87111 Clovis 882-5101remembered having had an incest experience. It may have left you Mental Health Resources Southwest Counseling Clovis Plains Regional Med. Center Santa Fe St. Vincent SANE (505) 883-8020 within the Albuquerque area, or toll free crisis SANE 995-4999 • 989-5952 crisis 769-2345 • 1-800-432-2159 (after hours) 647-2800feeling • 526-3371 confused crisis or foggy as to what actually happened, was it really 769-7335 ask for SANE Rep. Shiprock, Navajo Nation at 1-888-883-8020 beyond the Albuquerque area Deming Las Vegas Farmington Border Area Mental Health Center Laswrong, Vegas Co mm.and Based what Svcs. constituted incest, anyway? Northern Navajo Medical Ctr. FAX (505) 883-7530 crisis 546-2174 • 1-800-426-0997 crisis 454-5115 • 425-1048 (after 5pm) Sexual Assault Services/ SANE E-mail: nmcsaas@swcpcom Northern NM 368-6818 Espanola Los Alamos 505-325-2805 • 505-326-4700 crisis Web Site: www.swcp.com/nmcsaas/ Northern NM Family Crisis Center LosThese Alamos andFamily other Council questions will be addressed here, along with referrals 753-1656 • 1-800-206-1656 crisis 662-3264 • 662-4422 crisis to places where you can get more information and counseling. This This publication is printed with the permission of the Texas Association Against Sexual Assault, This brochure is funded by the Injury Prevention & EstanciaEMS Los Lunas with minor edits for the New Mexico Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs, Inc. This project Valencia Counseling Services Valenciabrochure Counseling was Ser writtenvices to support you in your struggle to know once and was supported by funds from the NM Injury Prevention and EMS Bureau and Behavioral Health Services Bureau and the Behavioral Health Services 384-0220 • 865-4739 crisis 865-3359 • 865-3359 crisis Services Division, New Mexico Department of Health, and with Grant No. 2001SWBX0028 for all whatNew really Mexico happened Coalition in your of Sexualchildhood. Assault Programs, Inc. awarded by the Violence Against Women Office, Office of Justice Programs, U.S. Dept. of Division, Dept. of Health, Santa Fe, NM. Justice (DOJ). Points of view in this document are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the official position of policies of the U.S. DOJ. Developed by MARTHA KLEIN, LISW for the New Mexico Coalition of Sexual Assault Programs, Inc.

Info FOR PANEL 2nd save.indd 1 11/23/05 9:52:13 AM WHAT IS INCEST? Fear of being alone Incest is an inappropriate sexual behavior between people whoNew Mexico are considered Sexual Abuse to Program Coordinators Unable(continued) to make love The following is a list of mental health agencies with counselors trained to help survivors of sexual abuse. You be family to each other. Inappropriate sexual behavior can include , Cynicism Portales (being forced to watch sexual acts or having someone watch you), Shiprock may decide you want to talk with someone over the phone Mental Health Resource Home for Women &Feeling Children, out of control before you can go in to see them. You may want to join a fondling of private body parts over or under clothes, mutual 359-1221 , • 1-800-432-2159 oral crisis Rape Crisis Service Angry with yourself and/or others sex, , and intercourse. Raton 368-5124 group for incest survivors. Either way, find a therapist who Taos/Colfax Comm. Services Silver City Dependency on familiar friends believes your feelings and memories. Give yourself the 445-2754 El Refugio, Rape Crisis Wondering Svcs. what you did to deserve the abuse time and compassion. You will need both. We usually think of molesting when we Riothink Rancho of incest. While 538-2125 this type of inappropriate sexual contact does occur, incest Rio also Rancho occurs Family between Health Center Border Area Mental Being Hlth. Ctr. worried that you will never be normal again 896-0928 • 1-888-920-6333 crisis 388-4412 Eating problems ‘No matter what is true of your past, the world is in need of your best , , and , mothers and daughters, Roswell , and 1-800-426-0997 crisis contributions. You can only give your best by becoming your best self; offspring, etc. It also occurs between people who are not biologically Counseling Associates family but Socorro Increased use of drugs or alcohol and this is only possible if you consider yourself deserving of emotional who have the same extension of trust and familiarity as have 623-1480 people related by Socorro Mental Health healing.’, (Betty Caponera, Ph.D., Overcoming Painful Past Experiences’) Ruidoso 835-2444Wondering or realizing that you experienced incest as a child may feel like your blood. This means people who are “”, “”, best friends of the fam- Taos The Counseling Center entire world has been turned inside out. You may feel like everything you were New Mexico Sexual Abuse Program Coordinators ily, and with Native Americans can include Medicine Men 237-5038 and other • 437-7407 respected crisis Community Against Violence Elders. 1-800-634-3666 crisis 758-8082told or• 758-9888 came tocrisis believe about your past and your family was a lie. You may also San Felipe Taos Mental Health 758-1125wonder why you were picked; if you did something to “cause” it. These ques- Alamogordo Farmington San Felipe Behavioral Health The Counseling Center Truth or Consequences Presbyterian Med. Svcs. It is estimated by FBI statistics, that across our one & out Family of Servicesevery four tions and worries are a natural part of the process. Eventually, hopefully, you 437-7404 Community Counseling S.T.A.R.T. females and one out of every six males are victims of sexual 867-9740 abuse before the Albuquerque 325-0238 • 325-1906 crisis Santa Fe 894-0889will be• 894-5475 able to pager believe that it was not your fault, because, truly, the responsibility Albuquerque Rape Crisis Center age of eighteen. This means that hundreds of thousands of people are survivors Tucumcari San Juan County Rape Crisis Santa Fe Rape Crisis Center lies with the adults around you at the time. Even if you enjoyed it physically, it 266-7711 599-6168 Mental Health Resources of this crime. Incest happens to children of all ages, from infancy988-1951 •through 986-9111 oryoung Programs for Children & Gallup 1-800-721-7273 crisis 461-3013wasn’t your fault. You were a child, he or she was the elder. As a child, you most Adolescents adulthood. The highest risk group are between the ages of seven and eleven. 1-800-432-2159 crisis Western NM Counseling Svcs. Santa Rosa probably didn’t want sex; you probably wanted to be loved and held, and to have 272-2190 • 272-2800 after 5pm 863-3828 Las Vegas Medical Center Sequoia Adolescent Treatment 1-800-649-0181 crisis The key word in defining incest is “inappropriate”. Sexual Community behavior Based that Services makes your family care about you. It was the adult’s responsibility to keep you safe, and Center Grants 472-3768 • 425-1048 crisis you feel funny, confused, afraid, dirty or shameful may have been inappropriate if you were sexualized as a child, you were robbed of this basic right to be safe. 344-4673 Cibola Counseling Services Artesia crisis sexual contact. If there was an element of secrecy in the contact, that is, if the 287-7985 • 1-800-287-0212 (after hours) New Mexico Sexual Assault Nurse SomeExaminers of the Units feelings and behaviors you may now be experiencing can be caused Artesia Counseling Center Hobbs adult or made you promise to keep quiet about what happened, the contact by the realization of the danger you were in as a child, and your need for safety. 746-9848 • 365-7606 crisis Guidance Center of Lea County Las Cruces Aztec 393-3168 • 393-6633 crisis was probably inappropriate. Alamogordo SANE Daybreak Center 392-0966 for adolescents Otero County SANE Unit 334-3444 • 342-1802 crisis 526-3437Experiencing crisis these new feelings and perspectives will take time and patience. Jemez Pueblo Natural curiosity about your body happens for everyone during 443-7900 childhood. • 443-2156 crisis Hav- 1-888-595-7273 Belen Pueblo of Jemez Soc. Services ing sexual contact forced on you or being tricked into it involves Albuquerque a lever of coer- OffiSpeakingce: 521-5549 for all survivors everywhere, we encourage you to go to a counselor Valencia Counseling Svcs., Inc. 834-7117 Albuquerque SANE Collaborative Portales 864-1909 • 865-3359 Las Cruces cion that may be subtle or very obvious. You need to determine 883-8720 for • 884-7263, yourself emergency if the Rooseveltor therapist County SANE for help while you try to fit the pieces back together. It is important Bernalillo La Pinon Rape Crisis Center contact felt wrong to you or not. Para Los Ninos, UNM Health 359-1800,to remember ext. 531 that whatever strategy was used on you to keep secret the crime, La Buena Vida • 867-2383 526-3437 Sciences Center Pediatric Sex Roswell Carlsbad 1-888-595-7273 crisis Abuse Exams you are now breaking that secret. This can be a terrifying feeling even if you are What happens now that I remember? Contact: Renee Ornelas, MD Esperanza House SANE Unit Carlsbad Mental Health Southern NM Human 272-6849 625-1457 885-4836 • 885-8888 crisis Development now an adult and know that the perpetrator can’t reach you. Breaking this rule The task of discovering your own personal truth is one that Clovis may take some time. Santa Fe Clovis 882-5101 of silence may make your child-self feel nervous and scared. You do not have to Mental Health Resources Southwest Counseling If you are beginning to discover memories that have been Clovisblocked Plains or Regional unclear Med. up Center Santa Fe St. Vincent SANE crisis 769-2345 • 1-800-432-2159 (after hours) 647-2800 • 526-3371 crisis to now, you may be experiencing some or all of the feelings SANE and behaviors listed: 995-4999endure • 989-5952 these majorcrisis changes alone. You were isolated and alone when all this hap- 769-7335 ask for SANE Rep. Shiprock, Navajo Nation Deming Las Vegas Farmington pened to you as a child. You deserve to have an ally to help you through this. Border Area Mental Health Center Las Vegas Comm. Based Svcs. Northern Navajo Medical Ctr. crisis 546-2174 • 1-800-426-0997 crisis 454-5115 • 425-1048 (after 5pm) Shock or numbness - you feel nothing Sexual Assault Services/ SANE Northern NM 368-6818 Espanola Los Alamos Nightmares/Not being able to sleep 505-325-2805 • 505-326-4700 crisis WHERE CAN I GO FOR HELP? Northern NM Family Crisis Center Los Alamos Family Council Restless sleep/Fear of the dark 753-1656 • 1-800-206-1656 crisis 662-3264 • 662-4422 crisis This publication is printed with the permission of the Texas AssociationIncest Against is a Sexual crime Assault, that lives in the dark and in order to re-claim your life you must Estancia Los Lunas Depression/Disorganization with minor edits for the New Mexico Coalition of Sexual Assaulteventually Programs, Inc. This talk project with someone about your worries. You do not have to have all the Valencia Counseling Services Valencia Counseling Services was supported by funds from the NM Injury Prevention and EMS Bureau and Behavioral Health 384-0220 • 865-4739 crisis 865-3359 • 865-3359 crisis Services Division, New Mexico Department of Health, and withspecific Grant No. 2001SWBX0028 details of every sexual contact before you can talk with someone. For Feeling jumpy awarded by the Violence Against Women Office, Office of Justice Programs, U.S. Dept. of Justice (DOJ). Points of view in this document are those of thesome author and people, do not necessarily distinct memories are a long time in coming. For now, your feelings Denial that the incest happened represent the official position of policies of the U.S. DOJ. are enough to show that something wrong happened to you when you were young. Denial that the incest was serious

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