References for Reconciling Sexual, Spiritual, & Social

REFERENCES FOR RECONCILING SEXUAL, SPIRITUAL, & SOCIAL CONFLICTS

Conversion Therapy and the Question/Hope of Change American Psychiatric Association. (2000). Position statement on therapies focused on attempts to change sexual orientation (reparative or conversion therapies). American Journal of Psychiatry, 157, 1719-1721.

Beckstead, A. L. (1999). “Gay is not me”: Seeking congruence through sexual reorientation therapy. Unpublished master’s thesis, University of Utah, Salt Lake City.

Beckstead, A. L. (2001a). Cures versus choices: Agendas in sexual reorientation therapy. Journal of Gay and Lesbian Psychotherapy, 5(3-4), 87-115.

Beckstead, A. L. (2001b). The process toward self-acceptance and self-identity of individuals who underwent sexual reorientation therapy. (Doctoral dissertation, University of Utah, 2001). Dissertation Abstracts International, 62, 2475.

Beckstead, A.. L. (2003). Understanding the self-reports of reparative therapy “successes.” Archives of Sexual Behavior, 32, 421-423.

Beckstead, A. L., & Morrow, S. L. (2004). Mormon clients’ experiences of conversion therapy: The need for a new treatment approach. The Counseling Psychologist, 32, 651-690.

Beckstead, A. L., & Israel, T. (2006). Affirmative counseling and psychotherapy focused on issues related to sexual orientation conflicts. In K. J. Bieschke, R. M. Perez, K. A. DeBord (Eds.), Handbook of counseling and psychotherapy with lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender clients (2nd ed.) (pp. 221-244). Washington, D.C.: American Psychological Association.

Besen, W. (2003). Anything but Straight: Unmasking the Scandals and Lies Behind the Ex-Gay Myth. Harrington Park Press.

Bogle, D. (2007). A Christian Lesbian Journey: A Continuation of Long Road to Love. BookSurge Publishing.

Brooke, H. L. (2005). “Gays, ex-gays, ex-ex-gays: Examining key religious, ethical, and diversity Issues”: A follow-up interview with Douglas Haldeman, Ariel Shidlo, Warren Throckmorton, and Mark Yarhouse. Journal of Psychology and Christianity, 24(4), 343-351.

Diamond, L. M. (2003). Reconsidering “sexual desire” in the context of reparative therapy. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 32, 429-431.

Drescher, J. (1998). I’m your handyman: A history of reparative therapies. Journal of Homosexuality, 36(1), 19-42.

Drescher, J,, & Zucker, K. (Eds.) (2006). Ex-gay Research: Analyzing the Spitzer Study And Its Relation to Science, Religion. Harrington Park Press. 2

Duberman, M. (2002). Cures: A Gay Man's Odyssey, Tenth Anniversary Edition. Westview Press.

Erzen, T. (2006). Straight to Jesus: Sexual and Christian Conversions in the Ex-gay Movement. University of California Press.

Green, R. J. (2003). When therapists do not want their clients to be homosexual: A response to Rosik’s article. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 29, 29-38.

Haldeman, D. C. (1994). The practice and ethics of sexual orientation conversion therapy. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 62, 221-227.

Haldeman, D. C. (2001). Therapeutic antidotes: Helping gay and bisexual men recover from conversion therapies. Journal of Gay and Lesbian Psychotherapy, 5(3-4), 117-130.

Haldeman, D. C. (2002). Gay rights, patient rights: The implications of sexual orientation conversion therapy. Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 33, 260-264.

Haldeman, D. C. (2004). When sexual and religious orientation collide: Considerations in working with conflicted same-sex attracted male clients. The Counseling Psychologist, 32(5), 691-715.

Lasser, J. S., & Gottlieb, M. C. (2004). Treating patients distressed regarding their sexual orientation: Clinical and ethical alternatives. Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 35(2), 194-200.

Moor, P. (2001). The view from Irving Bieber’s couch: “Heads I win, tails you lose.” Journal of Gay and Lesbian Psychotherapy, 5(3/4), 25-36.

Morrow, S. L., & Beckstead, A. L. (2004). Conversion therapies for same-sex attracted clients in religious conflict: Context, predisposing factors, experiences, and implications for therapy. The Counseling Psychologist, 32, 641 – 650.

O’Donohue, W., & Plaud, J. J. (1994). The conditioning of human sexual arousal. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 23, 321-344.

Ponticelli, C. M. (1999). Crafting stories of sexual identity reconstruction. Social Psychology Quarterly, 62(2), 157-172.

Rust, P. C. R. (2003). Reparative science and social responsibility: The concept of a malleable core as theoretical challenge and psychological comfort. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 32, 449-451.

Schneider, M. S., Glassgold, J. M., & Brown, L. S. (2002). Implementing the resolution on Appropriate Therapeutic Responses to Sexual Orientation: A guide for the perplexed. Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 33, 265-276. 3

Shidlo, A., Schroeder, M, & Drescher, J. (Eds.). (2002). Sexual Conversion Therapy: Ethical, Clincial, and Research Perspectives. Haworth Medical Press.

Silverstein, C. (2003). The religious conversion of homosexuals: Subject selection is the voir dire of psychological research. Journal of Gay & Lesbian Psychotherapy, 7(3), 31-53.

Stein, T. S. (1996). A critique of approaches to changing sexual orientation. In R. P. Cabaj & T. S. Stein (Eds.), Textbook of homosexuality and mental health (pp. 525-537). Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press.

Tozer, E. E., & Hayes, J. A. (2004). The role of religiosity, internalized homonegativity, and identity development: Why do individuals seek conversion therapy? The Counseling Psychologist, 32, 716-740.

Wakefield, J. C. (2003). Sexual reorientation therapy: Is it ever ethical? Can it ever change sexual orientation? Archives of Sexual Behavior, 32, 457-460.

Worthington, R. L (2004). Sexual identity, sexual orientation, religious identity, and change: Is it possible to depolarize the debate? The Counseling Psychologist, 32, 741-749.

Yarhouse, M. A. & Tan, E. S. N., & Pawlowski, L. M. (2005). Sexual identity development and synthesis among LGB-identified and LGB dis-identified persons. Journal of Psychology and Theology, 33(1), 3-16.

Yarhouse, M. A., & Burkett, L. A. (2002). An inclusive response to LGB and conservative religious persons: The case of same-sex attraction and behavior. Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 33, 235-241.

Yarhouse, M. A., & Haldeman, D. C. (2004). Is sexual orientation conversion therapy ethical? In R. P. Halgin (Ed.), Taking sides: Clashing views on controversial issues in abnormal psychology (3rd ed.) (pp. 364-395). McGraw-Hill/Dushkin.

Websites Evergreen International: http://www.evergreeninternational.org/ Exodus International: http://www.exodus-international.org/ National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality. http://narth.com http://www.affirmation.org/learning/therapy.shtml http://www.exgaywatch.com/blog/index.html http://www.peoplecanchange.com/ http://www.ecinc.org/RealChanges.htm http://groups.yahoo.com/group/exexgayministry/ http://www.iglss.org/media/files/Angles_41.pdf http://psychology.ucdavis.edu/rainbow/html/facts_changing.html http://www.exgaywatch.com/blog/index.html http://www.ldsep.org/ssstudy/litreview.html http://www.isu.edu/~schorona/qa1.htm 4 http://www.ldsep.org/ssstudy/litreview.html http://www.beyondexgay.com/

Movies with Religious or Conversion Themes Trembling Before G-d; One Nation Under God; Priest; But, I’m a Cheerleader; Far From Heaven; Normal; Latter Days; Angels in America; Family Fundamentals; The Smith Family; Doin’ Time in the Homo No More Halfway House; Saved!; Fish Can’t Fly; Dorian’s Blues; Loggerheads; Fixing Frank; For the Bible Tells Me So; Save Me; God and Gays: Bridging the Gap; Abomination: Homosexuality and the Ex-Gay Movement; Blessing (found at http://protextfilms)

References Regarding Biological and Social Origins of Sexual Orientation/Identity Bagemihl, B .(1999). Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity. St. Martin’s Press.

Bailey, J. M., Dunne, M. P., & Martin, N. G. (2000). Genetic and environmental influences on sexual orientation and its correlates in an Australian twin sample. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78(3), 524-536.

Baumrind, D. (1995). Commentary on sexual orientation: Research and social policy implications. Developmental Psychology, 31(1), 130-1136.

Blanchard, R., Zucker, K. J., Bradley, S. J., & Hume, C. S. (1995). Birth order and sibling sex ration in homosexual male adolescents and probably prehomosexual feminine boys. Developmental Psychology, 31(1), 22-30.

Byne, W. (1997). Why we cannot conclude that sexual orientation is primarily a biological phenomenon. Journal of Homosexuality, 34(1), 73-80.

Cantor, J. M., Blanchard, R., Paterson, A. D., Bogaert, A. F. (2002). How many gay men owe their sexual orientation to fraternal birth order? Archives of Sexual Behavior, 31, 57-65.

Diamond, L. (2007). A dynamical systems approach to the development and expression of female same-sex sexuality. Perspectives on Psychological Science, 2(2), 142-161.

Fausto-Sterling, A. (2000). Sexing the Body: Gender Politics and the Construction of Sexuality. Basic Books.

Gottschalk, L. (2003). Same-sex sexuality and childhood gender non-conformity: A spurious connection. Journal of Gender Studies, 12(1), 35 – 50.

Kinnish, K., Strassberg, D., & Turner, C. (2005). Sex Differences in the Flexibility of Sexual Orientation: A Multidimensional Retrospective Assessment. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 34(2), 173-183.

Klein, F., Sepekoff, B., & Wolf, T. J. (1986). Sexual orientation: A multivariable dynamic process. Journal of Homosexuality, 11(1-2), 35-49.

Landolt, M.A., Bartholomew, K., Saffrey, C., Oram, D., & Perlman, D. (2004). Gender nonconformity, childhood rejection, and adult attachment: A study of gay men. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 33, 117-128.

LeVay, S. (1996). Queer science: The use and abuse of research in homosexuality. Cambridge: Massachusetts Institute of Technology.

Looy, H. (2005). Gender and Sexual Identity: A Critical Exploration of Gender Inversion Theories of Sexual Orientation. Journal of Psychology and Christianity, 24(4), 317-331.

Mustanski, B. S., Dupress, M. G., Nievergelt, C., Schork, N. J., & Hamer, D. H. (2005). A genomewide linkage scan of male sexual orientation. Human Genetics, 116, 272-278.

Mustanski, B. S., & Bailey, M. (2003). A therapist’s guide to the genetics of human sexual orientation. Sexual and Relationship Therapy, 18(4), 429-436.

Mustanski, B. S., Chivers, M. L., & Bailey, M. (2002). A critical review of recent biological research on human sexual orientation. Annual Review of Sex Research, 13, 89-140.

Murphy, T. F. (1997). Gay science: The ethics of sexual orientation research. New York: Columbia University Press.

Stein, T. S. (1997). Deconstructing sexual orientation: Understanding the phenomena of sexual orientation. Journal of Homosexuality, 34(1), 81-86.

Udry, R. J. (2000). Biological Limits of Gender Construction. American Sociological Review, 65(3), 443-457.

van Beijsterveldt, C. E. M. , Hudziak, J. J., Boomsma, D. I. (2006). Genetic and environmental influences on cross-gender behavior and relation to behavior problems: A study of Dutch twins at ages 7 and 10 years. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 35, 647–658.

Wilson, G., & Rahman, Q. (2005). Born gay: The psychobiology of sex orientation. Peter Owen Publishers.

Worthington, R. L., & Savoy, H., Dillon, F. R., & Vernaglia, E. R. (2002). Heterosexual identity development: A multidimensional model of individual and group identity. The Counseling Psychologist, 30, 496-531.

Websites Simon LeVay’s comprehensive site: http://members.aol.com/slevay/page22.html http://www.borndifferent.org/home.html http://www.gayprocon.org/ (nonpartisan, pro-con format responses to "Is sexual orientation determined at birth?") 6

Religion/Spirituality & Homosexuality/Bisexuality (see also conversion therapy references) Benoit, M. (2005). Conflict between religious commitment and same-sex attraction: Possibilities for a virtuous response. Ethics & Behavior, 15(4), 309–325.

Bogle, D. (2007). A Christian Lesbian Journey: A Continuation of Long Road to Love. BookSurge Publishing.

Boswell, J. (2005). Christianity, Social Tolerance, and Homosexuality: Gay People in Western Europe from the Beginning of the Christian Era to the Fourteenth Century. University of Chicago Press.

Brzezinski, L. G. (2000). Dealing with disparity: Identity development of same-sex attracted/gay men raised in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Unpublished doctoral dissertation, University of Utah, Salt Lake City.

Buchanan, M., Dzelme, K., Harris, D., & Hecker, L. (2001). Challenges of being simultaneously gay or lesbian and spiritual and/or religious: A narrative perspective. The American Journal of Family Therapy, 29, 435-449.

Capps, D. (2003). From masturbation to homosexuality: A case of displaced moral disapproval. Pastoral Psychology, 51(4), 249-272.

Cherry, K., & Sherwood, Z. (1999). (Eds.) Equal Rites: Lesbian and Gay Worship, Ceremonies, and Celebrations. Westminster John Knox Press.

Christ, C. P. (Ed.). (1998). Rebirth of the Goddess: Finding meaning in feminist spirituality. Routledge.

Cloward, A (n.d.). For the strength of gay youth: A guide for gay, lesbian, and bisexual Mormon youth and young adults. Found at http://affirmation.org/youth/for_the_strength.shtm

Comstock, G. D. (2002). Unrepentant Self-Affirming, Practice: Lesbian/Bisexual/Gay People Within Organized Religion. Continuum International Publishing.

Conner, R. (1993). Blossom of Bone: Reclaiming the Connections Between Homoeroticism and the Sacred. HarperSanFrancisco.

de la Huerta, C. (1999). Coming Out Spiritually: The Next Step. Penguin Putnam.

Davidson, M. G. (2000). Religion and spirituality. In R. M. Perez, K. A. DeBord, & K. J. Bieschke (Eds.), Handbook of counseling and psychotherapy with lesbian, gay, and bisexual clients (pp. 409-433). Washington, D.C.: American Psychological Association. Dworkin, S. H. (1997). Female, lesbian, and Jewish: Complex and invisible. In B. Greene 7

(Ed.), Ethnic and cultural diversity among lesbians and gay men. (pp. 63-87). Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.

Fischer, A. R., & DeBord, K. A. (2006). Perceived conflicts between sexual and religious diversity affirmation: "That's perceived." In K. J. Bieschke, R. M. Perez, K. A. DeBord (Eds.), Handbook of counseling and psychotherapy with lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender clients (2nd ed.) (pp. 317-339). Washington, D.C.: American Psychological Association.

Fortunato, J. E. (1982). Embracing the Exile: Healing Journeys of Gay Christians. Seabury Press.

Fountain, R. (2003). Reclaiming the Sacred: The Bible in Gay and Lesbian Literature. Harrington Park Press.

Fox, M. (2006). A New Reformation: Creation Spirituality and the Transformation of Christianity. Inner Traditions.

Fulton, A.S., Maynard, E.A. & Gorsuch, R.L. (1999). Religious orientation, antihomosexual sentiment, and fundamentalism among Christians, Journal for the Scientific Study of Religion, 38, 1, 14.

Gagnon, R., & Via, D. O. (2003). Homosexuality and the Bible: Two views. Fortress.

Glaser, C. (1998). Coming Out as a Sacrament. Westminster/John Knox.

Glassgold, J. M. (in press). Bridging the divide: Integrating lesbian identity and Orthodox Judaism. Women & Therapy, Special Issue: Women and Spirituality.

Gonsiorek, J. C. (2004). Reflections from the conversion therapy battlefield. The Counseling Psychologist, (32)5, 750-759.

Good, M., & Willoughby, T. (2006). The role of spirituality versus religiosity in adolescent psychosocial adjustment. Journal of Youth and Adolescence, 35(1), 41-55.

Goodwill, K. A. (2000). Religion and the spiritual needs of gay men. Journal of Gay and Lesbian Social Services, 11(4), 23-37.

Greenberg, S. (2005). Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition. University of Wisconsin Press.

Haldeman, D. C. (1996). Spirituality and religion in the lives of lesbians and gay men. In R. P. Cabaj & T. S. Stein (Eds.), Textbook of homosexuality and mental health (pp. 881-896). Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press.

Haldeman, D. C. (2004). When sexual and religious orientation collide: Considerations in 8 working with conflicted same-sex attracted male clients. The Counseling Psychologist, 32, 691- 715.

Helminiak, D.A. (1995). What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality. Alamo Square Press.

Jakobsen, J. R., & Pellegrini, A. (2004). Love the Sin: Sexual Regulation and the Limits of Religious Tolerance. Beacon Press.

James, G. W., & Moore, L. C. (Eds.) (2006). Spirited: Affirming the Soul and Black Gay/Lesbian Identity. RedBone Press.

Jenner, L. (2005). Warrior in the Mist. Angel Warrior Publishing, Logan, UT.

Jenner, L. (2005). Spirited Yearling Wounded. Angel Warrior Publishing Logan, UT.

Johnson, T., & Johnson, E. C. (2004). Gay Spirituality: The Role of Gay Identity in the Transformation of Human Consciousness. Lethe Press.

Johnson, W. R. (1992). Protestantism and gay and lesbian freedom. In B. Berson (Ed.), Positively gay: New approaches to gay and lesbian life (2nd ed.) (pp. 210-232). Celestial Arts.

Lake, C. (Ed.). (2001). Recreations: Religion and spirituality in the lives of queer people. Insomniac Group.

Larkin, J. (1998). Glad Day Daily Affirmations: Daily Meditations For Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, And Transgender People. Hazelden Books.

Lease, S., Horne, S., & Noffsinger-Frazier, N. (2005). Affirming faith experiences and psychological health for Caucasian lesbian, gay, and bisexual individual. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 52(3), 378-388.

Matis, R., Matis, M,, & Mansfield, T. (2004). In Quiet Desperation: Understanding The Challenge Of Same-gender Attraction. Deseret Book.

McMinn, L. G. (2004). Sexuality and holy longing: Embracing intimacy in a broken world. Jossey Bass.

McMinn, L. G. (2005). Sexual Identity Concerns for Christian Young Adults: Practical Considerations for Being a Supportive Presence and Compassionate Companion. Journal of Psychology and Christianity, 24(4), 368-377.

McNeil, J. (1993). The Church and the Homosexual, Fourth Edition. Beacon.

McNeil, J. (1998). Both Feet Firmly Planted in Midair: My Spiritual Journey. Westminster John Knox Press. 9

Morrow, D. F. (2003). Cast into the Wilderness: The Impact of Institutionalized Religion on Lesbians. Journal of Lesbian Studies, 7(4), pp. 109-123.

Oaks, D. H. (1995, October). Same-gender attraction. Ensign, 25(10), 7-14.

O’Neill, C., & Ritter, K. (1992). Coming Out Within: Stages of Spiritual Awakening for Lesbians and Gay Men. HarperSanFrancisco..

Packer, B. K. (1990, November). Covenants. Ensign, 20(11), 84-86.

Packer, B. K. (2000, November). Ye are the temple of God. Ensign, 30(11), 72-74.

Piazza, M. S. (1997). Holy Homosexuals: The Truth About Being Gay or Lesbian and Christian. Sources of Hope Publishing.

Quinn, D. M. (2002). Same-Sex Dynamics Among Nineteenth-Century Americans: A Mormon Example. University of Illinois Press.

Raynes, M. (2001b). How sex and spirit are linked: A developmental perspective. Sunstone: Mormon Experience, Scholarship, Issues and Art. 120, 52.

Rees, R. (2000). “In a dark time the eye begins to see”: Personal reflections on homosexuality among the Mormons at the beginning of a new millennium. Salt Lake City: Family Fellowship.

Rees, R., Schow, R., Raynes, M., & Bradshaw, W. (2006). Guide For LDS Families Dealing With Homosexual Attraction. Deseret Books.

Ritter, K., & O’Neill, C. (1989), Moving through loss: The spiritual journey of gay men and lesbian women. Journal of Counseling Development, 68, 9-14.

Rodriguez, E. (2006). At the intersection of church and gay: Religion, spirituality, conflict, and integration in gay, lesbian, and bisexual people of faith. (Unpublished doctoral dissertation. City University of New York).

Roscoe, W. (1988). (Ed.) Living the Spirit: A Gay American Indian Anthology. Stonewall Inn Editions.

Roscoe, W. (2000). Changing Ones: Third and Fourth Genders in Native North America.

Scanzoni, L. & Mollenkott, V. R. (1978). Is the Homosexual My Neighbor? Harper & Row.

Schuck, K.D. & Liddle, B.J. (2001). Religious conflicts experienced by lesbian, gay and bisexual individuals, Journal of Gay and Lesbian Psychotherapy, 5, 2, 63. 10

Schow, R., Schow, W., & Raynes, M. (Eds.). (1991). Peculiar People: Mormons and Same-Sex Orientation. Signature Books.

Shallenberger, D. (1998). Reclaiming the spirit: Gay men and lesbians come to terms with religion. Rutgers University Press.

Spong J. S. (1992), Rescuing the Bible from Fundamentalism: A Bishop Rethinks the Meaning of Scripture. Harper San Francisco.

Stephens, J. B. (1998). Conflicts over homosexuality in the United Methodist Church: Testing theories of conflict analysis and resolution. Dissertation Abstracts International Section A: Humanities & Social Sciences, 58(12-A).

Thompson, M. (1995). Gay Soul: Finding the Heart of Gay Spirit and Nature with Sixteen Writers, Healers, & Teachers. HarperSanFrancisco.

Thumma, S. (1991). Negotiating a religious identity: The case of the gay evangelical. Sociological Analysis, 4, 333-347.

White, M. (1995) Stranger at the Gate: To Be Gay and Christian in America. Plume.

Williams, R. (1993). Just As I Am: A Practical Guide To Being Out, Proud, and Christian. Perennial.

Williams, W. L. (1992), Spirit and the Flesh: Sexual Diversity in American Indian Culture. Beacon Press.

Williams, W. L., & Johnson, T. (2006). Two Spirits: A Story of Life with the Navajo. Lethe Press.

Winell, M. (2006). Leaving the Fold. Apocryphile Press.

Wolkomir, M. (2001). Wrestling with the angels of meaning: The revisionist ideological work of gay and ex-gay Christian men. Symbolic Interaction, 24, 407-424.

Wolkomir, M. (2001). Emotion work, commitment, and the authentication of the self: The case of gay and ex-gay Christian support groups. Journal of Contemporary Ethnography, 30(3), 305-334.

Wolkomir, M. (2006). Be Not Deceived: The Sacred and Sexual Struggles of Gay and Ex-Gay Christian Men. Rutgers University Press.

Yarhouse, M. A., & Burkett, L. A. (2003). Sexual Identity: A Guide to Living In the Time Between the Times. University Press of America.

Yarhouse, M. A., & Tan, E. S. N. (2004). Sexual identity synthesis: Attributions, meaning-making and the search for congruence. Lanham, MD: University Press of America.

Yarhouse, M. A., & Tan, E. S. N. (2005). Addressing religious conflicts in adolescents who experience sexual identity confusion. Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 36(5), 530–536.

Websites/Groups Affirmation (LGBT Mormons with youth resources): http://affirmation.org/ Disciples2 (LDS/non-gay- affirming): http://www.springsofwater.com/desert/disciples2/ Family Fellowship (LDS-affirming, LGBT-affirming group): www.ldsfamilyfellowship.org Gamofites (Gay, Mormon fathers): www.gamofites.org Reconciliation: http://www.ldsreconciliation.org/ Gay BYU: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gaybyu/ GayLDS: www.gaylds.com Gay LDS Mormons: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/gayldsmormons/ Gay LDS Young Adults (support group with resources): http://www.glya.com/ Gay Mormon: www.gaymormon.com Gay Mormon Stories (personal accounts): www.gaymormonstories.com Gay RMs: (social group): www.gayrms.com Lavender Tribe (gay spiritual group): www.lavendertribe.org/ http://www.utahpridecenter.org/ Voicings: (mailing list for LDS women, non-gay-affirming) LDS Lesbians: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/lds-l/ Mormon Lesbians: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/mormonlesbians/ Q-Saints: (pro-gay mailing list for men) http://groups.yahoo.com/group/q-saints/ FHE Family: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/fhefamily/ http://groups.yahoo.com/group/the_cha-cha_brotherhood/ http://www.ldsresources.info/ http://gayspirituality.typepad.com/blog/ (MyOutSpirit blog) http://www.dignityusa.org/ (Catholic and gay) http://www.ecinc.org/ (Evangelicals concerned) http://gaychristiansurvivors.com/ (Gay Christian Survivors) http://www.christiangays.com/ http://www.christianlesbians.com/ http://members.tripod.com/%7Edjs28/ (Gay Jews) http://www.jqyouth.org/ (Gay Jewish youth) http://salaamcanada.com/ (LGBT Muslims) http://www.imaan.org.uk/ (LGBT Muslims) http://huriyahmag.com/ (Queer Muslim magazine) http://www.whosoever.org/ (podcasts of queer spirituality) http://www.religioustolerance.org/homosexu.htm http://www.springsofwater.com/desert/disciples2/women.phtml 12 http://www.soulforce.org/ http://lgbt.studentaffairs.duke.edu/images/religionlibraryresourcelist.pdf http://www.atomfilms.com/af/content/mormon_on_mormon http://gayharmony.net/ http://ldssafespace.org/ http://www.youth-suicide.com/gay-bisexual/links7a.htm http://ardentmormon.blogspot.com/ http://gaymormonandmarried.blogspot.com/ http://www.ldsep.org/ssstudy/ http://www.people.cornell.edu/pages/glr22/books.html http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LDS-SGA_Students/ http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/families-support/ http://www.lds-ssa.org/forum/index.php http://www.soulforce.org/ http://www.people.cornell.edu/pages/glr22 http://www.heartstrong.org/ (for LGBT students in religious schools) http://www.mabenterprises.com/gaychristians/religious_text/failures2b.htm http://www.fsw.ucalgary.ca/ramsay/gay-lesbian-bisexual/6a-religion-gay-lesbian.htm • Many symposia available for download from Sunstone regarding religion/spirituality and LGB issues: http://www.sunstoneonline.com/symposium/symp-tapes.asp

Resources for Parents & Families Arons, L (1996). Prayers for Bobby: A Mother's Coming to Terms with the Suicide of Her Gay Son. Harper Press. Barret, R. L., & Robinson, B. E. (1990). Gay fathers. Lexington, MA: Lexington Books.

Benkov, L. (1994). Reinventing the family: The emerging story of lesbian and gay parents. New York: Crown.

Bernstein, R. (1999). Straight Parents, Gay Children: Inspiring Families to Live Honestly and with Greater Understanding. Thunder's Mouth Press.

Bozett, F. W. (Ed.). (1987). Gay and lesbian parents. New York: Praeger.

Buxton, A. P. (1991). The best interest of children of gay and lesbian parents. In R. M. Galatzer-Levy & L. Kraus (Eds.), The scientific basis of child custody decisions (pp. 319-356). New York: Wiley.

Clunis, D. M., & Green, G. D. (1995). The lesbian parenting book: A guide to creating families and raising children. Seattle: Seal Press.

Corley, F. (1990). Final closet: The gay parents’ guide for coming out to their children. Editech Press.

Davis, L. (2003). I Thought We'd Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation. Harper Paperbacks. D’Augelli, Hershberger, S. L., Pilkington, B. A. (1998). Lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth and their families: Disclosure of sexual orientation and its consequences. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 68(3), 361-37. Fairchild, B., & Hayward, N. (1998). Now That You Know: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children (3rd edition). Harcout Brace. Goodman, E. (2004). Child of My Right Hand. Sourcebooks. Griffin, C. W., Wirth, M. J., & Wirth, A. G. (1997). Beyond Acceptance: Parents of Lesbians and Gays Talk About Their Experiences. St. Martins Press. Jennings, K., & Shapiro, Pat. (2003). Always My Child: A Parent’s Guide to Understanding Your Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered or Questioning Son or Daughter. Simon & Schuster. Howey, N., Samuels, E., & Cammermeyer, M. (2000). Out of the Ordinary: Essays on Growing Up with Gay, Lesbian, and Transgender Parents. Stonewall Inn Editions.

Macpike, L. (1989). There’s something I’ve been meaning to tell you. Naiad Press. Martin, A. (1993). The lesbian and gay parenting handbook: Creating and raising our families. New York: HarperCollins. McDougall, B. (Ed.). (1998). My Child is Gay: How Parents React When They Hear the News. Allen & Unwin Publishing. McGarry, K. (2003). Fatherhood for Gay Men: An Emotional and Practical Guide to Becoming a Gay Dad. Harrington Park Press. McNaught, B. (1989). On Being Gay: Thoughts on Family, Faith, and Love. New York: St. Martin’s Press. Pearson, C. L. (2006). No More Goodbyes: Circling the Wagons Around Our Gay Loved Ones. (www.nomoregoodbyes.com)

Ponton, L. What does gay mean? Published by National Mental Health Organization. Booklet that discusses how to talk to children of different ages about various ways of addressing sexual orientation and how to talk about discrimination. Call 1-800-969-6642.

Saltzburg, S. (2007). Narrative therapy pathways for reauthorizing with parents of adolescents coming-out as lesbian, gay, and bisexual. Contemporary Family Therapy 29, 57-69.

Schulenburg, J. (1985). Gay parenting. Anchor Press/Doubleday.

Sullivan, T. R., & Dawidoff, R. (Eds.). (1999). Queer families: Common agendas. Haworth Press. Willoughby, B. L. B., Malik, N. M., & Lindahl, K. M. (2006). Parental reactions to their sons’ sexual orientation disclosures: The roles of family cohesion, adaptability, and parenting style. Psychology of Men and Masculinity, 7(1). 14-26. 14

Websites Parents, Families, and Friends of Lesbian and Gays: http://www.pflag.org Family Fellowship: www.ldsfamilyfellowship.org Parents of Gay Children: http://www.gayfamilysupport.com/ http://www.inthefamily.com/ http://www.familypride.org/ Healing Sexuality & Intimacy Barratt, B. (2005). Sexual Health And Erotic Freedom. Xlibris Corporation.

Berzon, B. (1990). Permanent Partners: Building Gay and Lesbian Relationships That Last. Plume Publications.

Berzon, B. (1997). The Intimacy Dance: A Guide to Long-Term Success in Gay and Lesbian Relationships. Plume Publications.

Boss, S., & Maltz, W. (2001). Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women's Sexual Fantasies. New World Library.

Bright, S. (2000). Full Exposure: Opening Up to Sexual Creativity and Erotic Expression. Harper Paperbacks.

Easton, D., & Liszt, C. (1997). Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities. Greenery Press.

Epstein, M. (2005). Open to Desire: Embracing a Lust for Life. Insights from Buddhism and Psychotherapy. Gotham.

Fisher. H. (2004). Why We Love: The Nature And Chemistry Of Romantic Love. Owl Books.

Foley, S., Kope, S., Sugrue, D. (2002). Sex Matters for Women: A Complete Guide to Taking Care of Your Sexual Self. Guildford Press.

Gottman, J. (2002). The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships. Three Rivers Press.

Gottman, J., & Gottman, J. S. (2006). Ten Lessons to Transform Your Marriage. Crown.

Hendrix, H (2005). Getting the Love You Want. Pocket Books.

Huber, C. (1997). Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery. Keep-It-Simple Books.

Hunter, M. (1992). Joyous Sexuality: Healing from Family Sexual Dysfunction. Compcare Publications.

Isay, R. (2006). Commitment and Healing: Gay Men and the Need for Romantic Love. Wiley.

Katie, B. (2005). I Need Your Love - Is That True? : How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval, and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead. Harmony.

Kort, J. (2006). 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love. Alyson Books.

Lew, Mike. (2004). Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse. Harper Paperbacks.

Maltz, W. (2001). The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse. Harper Paperbacks.

Menken, D. (2002). Speak Out! Talking About Love, Sex & Eternity. New Falcon.

Morin, J. (1996). The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment. Harper Paperbacks.

Pimental-Habib, R. (2002). The Power of a Partner: Creating and Maintaining Healthy Gay and Lesbian Relationships. Alyson Publications.

Schnarch, D. (1998). Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships. Henry Holt & Company.

Stiers, G. (2000). From This Day Forward: Commitment, Marriage, and Family in Lesbian and Gay Relationships. Palgrave Macmillan.

Tissina, T. (2003). Gay Relationships For Men And Women. Penguin Publications.

Waldman, M. (Editor). (1998). The Art Of Staying Together: Embracing Love, Intimacy, & Spirit In Relationships. Putnam Press.

Weiss, R. (2005). Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men. Alyson. Heterosexually Married Homosexuals/Bisexuals & Their Spouses/Families Abbott, D., & Farmer, E. (Eds.). (1995). From Wedded Wife to Lesbian Life: Stories of Transformation. Crossing Press.

Auerback, S., & Moser, C. (1989). Groups for the wives of gay and bisexual men. Social Work, July-August, 321-325.

Boesser, S. L. (2004). Silent Lives: How High a Price?: For Personal Reflections and Group Discussions about Sexual Orientation. Hamilton Books.

Boykin, K. (2006). Beyond the Down Low: Sex, Lies, and Denial in Black America. Carroll & Graf.

Brant, M. (2006). Five Married Men. iUniverse, Inc.

Brownfain, J.J. (1985). A study of the married bisexual male: Paradox and resolution. Journal of Homosexuality, 11(1/2), 173-188. Reprinted in F. Klein & T.J. Wolf (Eds.), Two lives to lead: Bisexuality in men and women (pp. 173-188). New York: Harrington Park Press.

Buxton, A. P. (1994). The Other Side of the Closet: The Coming-out Crisis for Straight Spouses and Families. Wiley.

Buxton, A.P. (1999). The Best Interest of Children of Gay and Lesbian Parents. In R, Galatzer-Levy & Louis Kraus (Eds.), The Scientific Basis of Child Custody Decisions. John Wiley & Sons.

Buxton, A.P. (2000). From Hostile to Helpful, In J. Wells (Ed.), Home Fronts. Alyson Press. (This chapter discusses ways to develop positive co-parenting by divorcing straight- gay/lesbian/bisexual couples.)

Buxton, A.P. (2001). Writing Our Own Script How Bisexual and Their Heterosexual Wives Maintain Their Marriages After Disclosure. Journal of Bisexuality, 1(2/3), 155 – 189.

Buxton, A. P. (2004). Paths and Pitfalls: How Heterosexual Spouses Cope When Their Husbands or Wives Come Out. In Journal of Couple & Relationship Therapy, 3(2/3). Reprinted in J. L. Bigner & J. L. Wetchler (Eds.), Relationship Therapy with Same-Sex Couples, pp. 95- 109. Haworth Press.

Buxton, A. P. (2004). Works in Progress: How Mixed-Orientation Couples Maintain their Marriages after the Wives Come Out. Journal of Bisexuality, 4. Reprinted in R. C. Fox (Ed.), Current Research on Bisexuality, pp. 57-82, Harrington Park Press.

Buxton, A. P. (2007). Counseling Heterosexual Spouses of Bisexual or Transgender Partners. In B. Firestein (Ed.), Becoming Visible: Counseling Bisexuals Across the Lifespan. New York: Columbia University Press.

Cassingham, B., & O'Niel, S. (2002). And Then I Met This Woman, Previously Married Women's Journeys into Lesbian Relationships. Soaring Eagle Publishing.

Clark, D. (2005). Loving Someone Gay. Celestial Arts (has a chapter on gay men in marriage).

Coleman, E. (1981/1982). Bisexual and gay men in heterosexual marriage: Conflicts and resolutions in therapy. Journal of Homosexuality, 7(2/3), 93-103.

Coleman, E. (1989). The Married Lesbian. Marriage and Family Review, 14, 199-135. 17

Cook, D., Killian, K., &. Swannack, K. (Eds.). (1995). Decisions of the soul: LDS personal accounts of same-sex orientation and opposite-sex marriage. Family Fellowship.

Corley, R. (1990). The Final Closet: The Gay Parent's Guide for Coming-Out to Their Children. Editech Press.

Curtis, J. (1998). Making and Breaking Families. Free Association Books.

Deabill, G. (1987). An investigation of sexual behaviors in mixed sexual orientation couples: Gay husbands and straight wives. (Unpublished doctoral dissertation. Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco.)

Fleisher, J. (2005). Living Two Lives: Married to a Man And in Love With a Woman. Alyson Publications.

Garner, A. (2004). Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is. Harper Collins.

Gochros, J. S. (1989). When Husbands Come out of the Closet. Harrington.

Grever, C. (2001). My Husband is Gay: A Woman's Guide to Surviving the Crisis. Crossing Press.

Hayes, D., & Samuel, A. (1988). Heterosexual women’s perceptions of their marriages to homosexual or bisexual men. Journal of Homosexuality, 17(3/4), 81-100.

Isay, R. (1997). The dilemma of the heterosexually married homosexual. In R. Isay, Becoming Gay: The Journey To Self-Acceptance, pp. 87-118. Bantam.

Isay, R. (1998). Heterosexually married homosexual men: Clinical and developmental issues. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 68(3), 424-432.

Kaye, B. (2006). Straight Wives: Shattered Lives. Stories of Women of Gay Husbands. Airleaf Publishing.

Klein, F., & Schwartz, T. (2002). Bisexual and Gay Husbands: Their Stories, Their Words. Haworth Press.

Latham, D., & White, G. (1978). Coping with homosexual expression within heterosexual marriages: Five case studies. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 4(3), 198-212.

Leddick, D. (2003). The Secret Lives of Married Men. Alyson Publications.

Macpike, L. (1989). There’s something I’ve been meaning to tell you. Naiad Press.

Maddox, M. (1982). Married and gay: An intimate look at a different relationship. Harcourt Brace Jovanovich.

McGreevey, J. E. (2006). The Confession. Regan Books.

Noyes, L. S. (1999). Beyond the white picket fence: Women's journey toward authenticity. Unpublished doctoral dissertation, University of Utah, Salt Lake City.

Nugent, R. (1983). Married homosexuals. Journal of Pastoral Care, 37(4), 243-251.

Pearson, C. L. (1989). Good Bye, I Love You. Jove.

Ross, M. (1989). Married homosexual men: Prevalence and background. Marriage & Family Review, 14(3-4), 35-57.

Schneider, J., & Schneider, B. (1991). Gay and bisexual husbands. In J. Schneider & B. Schneider (Eds.), Sex lies, and forgiveness: Couples speaking out about sexual addiction (pp. 183-222). Hazelden Foundation.

Strock, C. (1991). Married Women Who Love Women. Plume.

Whitney, C. (1991). Uncommon Lives: Gay Men and Straight Women. Plume.

Yarhouse, M. A. & Pawlowski, L. M. (in press). Working Responsibly with “Gay” Married Men and Their Spouses. Marriage & Family: A Christian Journal.

Yarhouse, M. A., & Pawlowski, L. M, & Tan, E. S. N. (2003). Intact Marriages in Which One Partner Dis-Identifies with Experiences of Same-Sex Attraction. American Journal of Family Therapy, 31, 369-388.

Websites: Straight Spouse Network: www.ssnetwk.org Utah Families Coalition: www.utahfamilies.org/ COLAGE: Children of Lesbian and Gays Everywhere: www.colage.org Children of Transsexuals: www.geocites.com/reneelind Family Pride Coalition: www.familypride.org Families Like Mine: http://www.familieslikemine.com/ Partners Task Force for Gay and Lesbian Couples: www.buddybuddy.com Transfamily: www.transfamily.org. Ben Christensen: Getting Out/Staying In: http://www.dialoguejournal.com/excerpts/38-3b.pdf Gamofites (Gay, Mormon fathers): www.gamofites.org http://home.swbell.net/dennisf/gamma/gamma.htm http://www.familypride.org/publications/talkingtoourchildren.pdf (lengthy document on how to talk with children) http://www.marriedgay.org/ http://www.comingoutat48.blogspot.com/ 19 http://groups.yahoo.com/group/pccspouses/ http://www.wearewildflowers.com/ http://hometown.aol.com/foxed/page/index.htm?f=fs http://www.domani.net/richard/gaydads.html http://groups.yahoo.com/group/lesbianinastraightmarriage/

References Regarding Identity and “Coming Out” Bhugra, D. (1997). Coming out by South Asian gay men in the United Kingdom. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 26(5), 547-557.

Bing, V. M. (2004). Out of the closet but still in hiding: Conflicts and identity issues for a Black-White biracial lesbian. Women and Therapy, 27, 185-201.

Boykin, K. (1996). One more river to cross: Black and gay in America. Doubleday.

Bozett, F. W., & Sussman, M. B. (Eds.). (1990). Homosexuality and Family Relations. Haworth Press.

Chan, C. S. (1997). Don't ask, don't tell, don't know: The formation of a homosexual identity and sexual expression among Asian American lesbians. In B. Greene (Ed.), Ethnic and cultural diversity among lesbians and gay men. (pp. 240-248). Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.

Corbett, K. (1998). Cross-gendered identifications and homosexual boyhood: Toward a more complex theory of gender. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 68, 352-360.

Diamond, L. M. (2003). Was it a phase? Young women’s relinquishment of lesbian/bisexual identities over a 5-year period. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84, 352-364.

Downs, A. (2006). The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World. Da Capo Press.

Dube, E, M, & Savin-Williams, R. C. (1999). Sexual identity development among ethnic sexual-minority male youths. Developmental Psychology, 35(6), 1389-1398.

Drescher, J., Stein, T. S., & Byne, W. M. (in press). Homosexuality, gay and lesbian identities, and homosexual behavior. In B. J. Sadock & V. A. Sadock (Eds), Kaplan and Sadock’s Comprehensive Textbook of Psychiatry (9h ed.). Baltimore, MD: Lippincott Williams & Wilkins.

Dworkin, S. H. (1997). Female, lesbian, and Jewish: Complex and invisible. In B. Greene (Ed.), Ethnic and cultural diversity among lesbians and gay men. (pp. 63-87). Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.

Espin, O. M. (1993). Issues of identity in the psychology of Latina lesbians. In L. D. Garnets & D. C. Kimmel (Eds.), Psychological perspectives on lesbian and gay male experiences. (pp. 348-363). New York: Columbia University Press.

Fukuyama, M. A., & Ferguson, A. D. (2000). Lesbian, gay, and bisexual people of color: Understanding cultural complexity and managing multiple oppressions. In R. M. Perez, K. A. DeBord, and K. J. Bieschke (Eds.), Handbook of counseling and psychotherapy with lesbian, gay, and bisexual clients (pp. 81-105). Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.

Glassgold, J. M. (in press). Bridging the divide: Integrating lesbian identity and Orthodox Judaism. Women & Therapy, Special Issue: Women and Spirituality.

Green, B. C. (1998). Thinking about students who do not identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual, but . . . Journal of American College Health, 47, 89-91.

Greene, B. (1997). Ethnic and cultural diversity among lesbians and gay men. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.

Greene, B. (2000). African American lesbian and bisexual women in feminist psychodynamic psychotherapy: Surviving and thriving between a rock and a hard place. In L. C. Jackson & B. Greene (Eds.), Psychotherapy with African American women; Innovations in psychodynamic perspectives and practice (pp. 82-125). New York: Guilford Press.

Huegel, K. (2003). GLBTQ: The survival guide for queer and questioning teens. Free Spirit Publishing.

Hutchins, L., & Kaahumanu, L. (Eds.). (1991). Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out. Alyson Press.

Isay, R. (1997). Becoming Gay: The Journey To Self-Acceptance. Bantam.

Israel, T. (2004). Conversations, not categories: The intersection of biracial and bisexual identities. Women and Therapy, 27, 173-184.

James, G. W., & Moore, L. C. (Eds.) (2006). Spirited: Affirming the Soul and Black Gay/Lesbian Identity. RedBone Press.

Johnson, B. K. (1997). Coming Out Every Day: A Gay, Bisexual, and Questioning Man's Guide. New Harbinger Publications.

Kaufman, G., & Raphael, L. (1991). Coming Out of Shame: Transforming Gay and Lesbian Lives. Main Street Books.

Kitzinger, C., & Wilkinson, S. (1995). Transitions from heterosexuality to lesbianism: The discursive production of lesbian identities. Developmental Psychology, 31(1), 95-104. 21

Klein, F. (1993). The Bisexual Option. Harrington Park Press.

Kort, J. (2003). Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Improve Their Lives. Alyson Publications.

Martinez, J. M. (2003). Racisms, heterosexisms, and identities: A semiotic phenomenology of self-understanding. Journal of Homosexuality, 45(2/3/4), 109-127.

McCarn, S. R., & Fassinger, R. E. (1996). Revisioning sexual minority identity formation: A new model of lesbian identity. The Counseling Psychologist, 24, 508-534.

Miville, M. L., & Ferguson, A. D. (2004). Impossible “choices”: Identity and values at a crossroads. The Counseling Psychologist, 32, 760-770.

Newman, B.S., & Muzzonigro, P.G. (1993). The effects of traditional family values on the coming out process of gay male adolescents, Adolescence. 28, 109, 213.

Nimmons, D. (2004). The Soul Beneath the Skin: The Unseen Hearts and Habits of Gay Men. St. Martin's Griffin.

Nutter, C. (2006). The Way Out: The Gay Man's Guide to Freedom No Matter if You're in Denial, Closeted, Half In, Half Out, Just Out or Been Around the Block. HCI Publishing.

Ponticelli, C. M. (1999). Crafting stories of sexual identity reconstruction. Social Psychology Quarterly, 62(2), 157-172.

Queen, C., & Schimel, L. (Eds.) (1997). Pomosexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality. Cleis Press.

Ratti, R. (Ed.). (1993). A lotus of another color: An unfolding of the South Asian gay and lesbian experience. Boston: Alyson.

Rust, P. C. (1996). Managing multiple identities: Diversity among bisexual women and men. In B. A. Firestein (Ed.), Bisexuality: The psychology and politics of an invisible minority (pp. 53-83). Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage.

Rosario, M., Hunter, J. Maguen, S., Gwadz, M., & Smith, R. (2001). The coming-out process and its adaptational and health-related associations among gay, lesbian, and bisexual youths: Stipulation and exploration of a model. American Journal of Community Psychology, 29(1), 133-160. Rosario, M., Schrismshaw, E. W., Hunter, J. (2004). Ethnic/racial differences in the coming-out process of lesbian, gay, and bisexual youths: A comparison of sexual identity development over time. Cultural Diversity and Ethnic Minority Psychology, 10(3), 215–228.

Sanders, G.L. & Kroll, I.T. (2000). Generating stories of resilience: Helping gay and 22 lesbian youth and their families, Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 26, 3, 433.

Savin-Williams, R. C. (1998). “…And then I became gay”: Young men’s stories. New York: Routledge.

Savin-Williams, R. C. (2006). The New Gay Teenager. Harvard University Press.

Signorile, M. (1998). Outing Yourself: How to Come Out as Lesbian or Gay to Your Family, Friends, and Coworkers. Fireside.

Stanley, J. L. (2004). Biracial lesbian and bisexual women: Understanding the unique aspects and interactional processes of multiple minority identities. Women and Therapy, 27, 159- 171. Suresha, R. J., & Chvany, P. (2006). Bi Men: Coming Out Every Which Way. Harrington Park Press. Worthington, R. L., & Savoy, H., Dillon, F. R., & Vernaglia, E. R. (2002). Heterosexual identity development: A multidimensional model of individual and group identity. The Counseling Psychologist, 30, 496-531.

Yarhouse, M. A. (2005). Same-sex attraction, homosexual orientation, and gay identity: A three-tier distinction for counseling and pastoral care. Journal of Pastoral Care & Counseling, 59(3), 201-212.

Yarhouse, M. A. (2001). Sexual identity development: The influence of valuative frameworks on identity synthesis. Psychotherapy, 38(3), 331-341.

General References Regarding Health, Well-Being, & Spirituality Beattie, M. (1986). Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. Hazelden.

Beck, M. (2002). Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live. Three Rivers Press.

Borysenko, J. (1991). Guilt is the Teacher, Love is the Lesson. Warner Books.

Brach, T. (2004). Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha. Bantam.

Bradshaw, J. (1988). Healing the Shame That Binds You. HCI. Chodron, P. (2005). Start Where You Are. Element Books.

Fossum, M. A., & Mason, M. J. (1989). Facing Shame: Families in Recovery. W. W. Norton & Company.

Fowler, J. (1981). Stages of Faith: The Psychology of Human Development and the Quest for Meaning. Harper and Row.

Gilbert, E. (2006). Eat, Pray, Love: One Woman's Search for Everything Across Italy, India and Indonesia. Viking Adult.

Gulley, P., & Mulhollan, J. (2005). If God is Love: Rediscovering Grace in an Ungracious World. Harper San Francisco.

Hardin, K,. Marny, H. (2001). Queer Blues: The Lesbian and Gay Guide to Overcoming Depression. New Harbinger Publications.

Hendricks, G., & Wills, R. (1992). The Centering Book: Awareness Activities for Children and Adults to Relax the Body and Mind. Prentice Hall Trade.

Huber, C. (1984). The key, and the name of the key is willingness. Keep It Simple Books.

Huber, C. (1995). The Fear Book: Facing Fear Once and for All. Keep It Simple Books.

Huber, C. (2001). There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate. Keep It Simple Books.

Huber, C. (2003). When You’re Falling, Dive: Acceptance, Freedom, and Possibilities. Keep It Simple Books.

Huber, C. (2004). How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be. Hay House. Huber, C. (2004). The Depression Book: Depression as an Opportunity for Spiritual Growth. Keep It Simple Books.

James, J. W., & Friedman, R. (1998). The Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death Divorce, and Other Losses. Collins.

Jampolsky, G. G. (2004). Love Is Letting Go of Fear. Ten Speed Press.

Jeffers, S. (2004). Embracing Uncertainty: Breakthrough Methods for Achieving Peace of Mind When Facing the Unknown. St. Martin's Griffin.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (2005). Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life. Hyperion.

Katie, B., & Mitchell, S. (2002). Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life. Three Rivers Press.

Kominars, K., & Kominars, S. (1996). Accepting ourselves and others: A journey into recovery from addictive and compulsive behaviors for gays, lesbians and bisexuals. Hazelden. 24

Leonard, G. (2005). The Life We Are Given (Inner Work Book). Tarcher.

Lucado, M,. & Martinez, S. (2002). You Are Special: A Story for Everyone. Crossway Books.

Peck, S. M. (1998). People of the Lie. Touchstone.

Mathy, R. M., & Kerr, S. K (Eds). (2005). Lesbian And Bisexual Women's Mental Health. Haworth Press.

Meyer, I. H., & Northridge, M. E. (Eds.). (2007). The health of sexual minorities: Public health perspectives on lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender populations. New York: Springer.

Mindell, A. (2002). Working on Yourself Alone: Inner Dreambody Work. Lao Tse Press.

Omoto, A. M., & Kurtzman, H. S. (2005). Sexual Orientation and Mental Health: Examining Identity and Development in Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual People. American Psychological Association.

Smith, M. J. (1985). When I Say No, I Feel Guilty. Bantam.

VanDyke, A. (1992). The search for a woman-centered spirituality: The cutting edge: Lesbian life and literature. New York University Press.

Williamson, M. (1996). A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles". Harper Paperbacks.

List Prepared by Lee Beckstead, Ph.D., Salt Lake City 7-07.