The Ner Le'Elef

Book of Quotations

BOOK OF QUOTATIONS

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Publication date 03 February 2004

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2 BOOK OF QUOTATIONS Table of Contents

Ability (see Growth) ...... 8 Belief (see also Faith) ...... 19 Abortion ...... 8 Belligerency ...... 20 Absence...... 8 Bible (see Torah) ...... 20 Abuse ...... 8 Bigotry ...... 20 Accuracy (see Error)...... 8 Birth ...... 20 Acting (see also Heroes) ...... 8 Books ...... 21 Action (see also Beginning)...... 8 Boredom...... 21 Addiction ...... 9 Bores ...... 21 Adjustment...... 9 Broad–Mindedness ...... 21 Admission ...... 9 Brusqueness ...... 21 Advertising...... 10 Builder ...... 22 Adversity...... 10 Business ...... 22 Advice...... 10 Candor...... 23 Affluence (see Materialism) ...... 10 Capitalism ...... 23 Afterlife...... 10 Caricature...... 23 Age/ Aged/ Aging (see also Old Age) ...... 11 Career...... 23 Aggressiveness...... 11 Cars ...... 23 Ambition ...... 11 Cause...... 24 Americans (see also America) ...... 13 Caution...... 24 Ancestry ...... 13 Celebrity (see Fame)...... 24 Anger (see also Forgiveness)...... 14 Censorship ...... 24 Answers...... 14 Certainty...... 24 Anticipation ...... 14 Challenge (see Suffering) ...... 24 Anti-Semitism (see also Chosen People, Holocaust) Change ...... 24 ...... 14 Character...... 25 Anxiety...... 14 Children (see also Family; Education)...... 26 Apathy (see also Growth) ...... 15 Chosen People (see also Anti-Semitism; Appearances...... 15 Jews/Jewry)...... 26 Appeasement...... 15 Circumstances...... 26 Applause ...... 15 Civilization...... 26 Appreciation...... 15 Clarity ...... 26 Argument ...... 15 Coincidence ...... 26 Arrogance (see Humility, Pride)...... 16 Common Sense (see also Wisdom)...... 26 Art ...... 16 Communication...... 27 Aspiration...... 17 Compassion (see Mercy) ...... 27 Assimilation (see also Jewish Identity) ...... 17 Conformism ...... 27 Association...... 18 Compensation ...... 27 Atheism (see also Faith) ...... 18 Compulsion...... 27 Attitude ...... 18 Condition ...... 27 Authority...... 18 Consent ...... 27 Babies (see Family) ...... 19 Contentment...... 28 Balance...... 19 Convention...... 28 Beauty ...... 19 Conversion ...... 28 Becoming (see growth)...... 19 Conviction...... 28 Beginning (see also Action)...... 19 Coping...... 28 Being (see Growth)...... 19 Courage (see also Growth; Perseverance) ...... 28 3 Creativity/Originality (see also Sensitivity) ...... 29 Failure (see also Success) ...... 47 Credit ...... 29 Faith (see also Atheism, Doubt; Faithfulness)...47 Crime...... 29 Faithfulness (see also Faith) ...... 49 Criticism...... 29 Falsehood (see Error, Truth)...... 50 Curiosity...... 30 Fame (see also Pride)...... 50 Cynicism ...... 30 Family ...... 50 Death (see also Old Age) ...... 31 Fanatic...... 54 Deception ...... 31 Fathers (see Family)...... 54 Deceit ...... 32 Fear ...... 54 Delicacy (see Sensitivity) ...... 32 Fiction ...... 54 Democracy ...... 32 Food ...... 55 Difference ...... 32 Fools...... 55 Discipline (see also Rights) ...... 32 Foolishness...... 55 Discovery (see Sensitivity) ...... 32 Force ...... 55 Discussion...... 32 Forgiveness (see also Anger)...... 56 Disposition ...... 33 Foresight ...... 56 Dogmatism...... 33 Freedom (see also Equality, Freedom of Speech, Doubt (see also Faith) ...... 33 Rights)...... 56 Dreams / Dreamers ...... 33 Freedom of Speech (see also Freedom)...... 58 Dress ...... 34 Friendship ...... 59 Duty (see Rights) ...... 34 Frustration...... 61 Ecology ...... 35 Fun ...... 61 Education (see also Wisdom)...... 35 Future ...... 61 Effort...... 37 Generalizations ...... 63 Egocentricity (see Giving)...... 37 Generosity (see Giving) ...... 63 Elderly (see Old Age) ...... 37 Genius ...... 63 Emotion...... 37 Genocide ...... 63 Enemies...... 37 Giving (see also Mercy)...... 63 Enthusiasm...... 37 Glory ...... 64 Environment...... 37 Goals (see also Growth)...... 65 Equality (see also Freedom, Rights)...... 37 G-d (see also Belief, Faith, Trust)...... 65 Era...... 38 Good (see also Ethics; Evil) ...... 66 Eretz Yisrael (see Israel)...... 38 Good Person (see Ethical Personality)...... 66 Error (see also Truth)...... 38 Government...... 66 Escape ...... 39 Gratitude ...... 66 Ethical Personality (see also Sages)...... 39 Greatness (see also Ethical Personality) ...... 67 Ethics (see also Morality) ...... 39 Greed...... 67 Evil...... 40 Growth (see also Apathy, Courage, Experience, Evil Inclination ...... 41 Faith, Goals, Opportunity, Rights)...... 67 Evolution...... 43 Guidance ...... 70 Excellence...... 43 Guilt ...... 70 Excess ...... 43 Habit (see also Rights)...... 71 Excuses ...... 43 Halacha (see Laws)...... 71 Expectations (see also Growth) ...... 43 Happiness...... 71 Experience (see also Wisdom)...... 44 Haste ...... 73 Experts ...... 45 Hate...... 73 Exploration...... 45 Health...... 73 Expression...... 45 Hell...... 73 Extremism...... 45 Heroes ...... 73 Fable (see Parable)...... 47 History ...... 73 4 Hollywood...... 75 Liberals ...... 90 Holocaust (see also Anti-Semitism)) ...... 75 Liberty (see Freedom)...... 90 Home...... 76 Life...... 90 Honesty ...... 76 Listening ...... 92 Human (see Man)...... 76 Literature...... 93 Humanity...... 76 Living...... 93 Humility (see also Pride) ...... 76 Logic ...... 93 Humor ...... 77 Loneliness ...... 93 Hypocrisy...... 78 Love (see also Marriage) ...... 94 Idealism...... 79 Loyalty ...... 95 Identity ...... 79 Lying (see also Truth)...... 95 Ignorance ...... 79 Madness ...... 97 Imagination ...... 80 Man ...... 97 Importance ...... 80 Management (see Organization)...... 98 Improvement (see Growth)...... 80 Manners ...... 98 Inaction ...... 80 Marriage (see also Love) ...... 98 Inconsistency ...... 80 Martyrdom ...... 100 Independence ...... 80 Materialism (see also America) ...... 100 Indifference (see Apathy) ...... 81 Mathematics...... 103 Indiscretion ...... 81 Maturity ...... 103 Individualism ...... 81 Meaning of Life (see also Purpose, Spirituality)103 Injury...... 81 Means and Ends (see also Growth)...... 104 Innovation ...... 81 Men ...... 104 Insanity...... 81 Mercy (see also Giving)...... 105 Insight ...... 81 Mesorah (see Tradition)...... 105 Inspiration ...... 82 Mid-Life Crisis ...... 105 Insult ...... 82 Mind...... 105 Integrity (see also Truth)...... 82 Minorities...... 105 Intensity ...... 82 Miracles ...... 105 Intermarriage (see Assimilation) ...... 82 Misfortune (see Suffering)...... 106 Introspection (see also Self-Insight) ...... 82 Mistakes (see Error)...... 106 Israel (see also Zionism) ...... 82 Moderation...... 106 Jerusalem...... 84 Modesty (see Humility, Pride)...... 106 Jewish Identity (see also Assimilation) ...... 84 Momentum...... 106 Jews/Jewry (see also Chosen People)...... 85 Money (see also Materialism, Wealth) ...... 106 Journalism...... 86 Monogamy ...... 106 Joy (see Happiness) ...... 86 Mood...... 106 Judaism (see also Spirituality, Talmud)...... 86 Morality (see Ethics)...... 107 Judgement ...... 86 Mothering (see Family) ...... 107 Juries ...... 87 Motives ...... 107 Justice...... 87 Movies ...... 107 Kindness (see also Giving) ...... 88 Murder ...... 107 Knowledge (see also Education, Experience, Sages, Music ...... 107 Silence, Understanding, Wisdom) ...... 88 Narrow-Mindedness...... 108 Language (see Speech) ...... 89 Nature...... 108 Lashon Harah (see Insult) ...... 89 Nazism ...... 108 Laws...... 89 Newspapers...... 108 Lawyers...... 89 Novelty...... 109 Leadership (see also Organization)...... 90 Nuclear Age ...... 109 Level-Headedness...... 90 Objectivity ...... 110 5 Old age (see also Age, Death; Sages) ...... 110 Realism ...... 125 Opinions...... 110 Reality...... 125 Opportunity (see also Experience; Growth; Reappraisal...... 125 Optimism) ...... 111 Reason...... 125 Optimism (see also Growth, Opportunity) ...... 111 Rebellion...... 125 Organization...... 112 Recklessness ...... 125 Originality...... 114 Reform Movement ...... 125 Pain (see Suffering) ...... 115 Regrets ...... 126 Parable/Fable ...... 115 Relevance...... 126 Parents, Parenting (see Family) ...... 115 Religion (see also Science)...... 126 Partnership ...... 115 Renewal (see Death, Sensitivity)...... 127 Passion ...... 115 Repentance...... 127 Patience...... 115 Repetition...... 127 Patriotism ...... 115 Reproach ...... 127 Peace (see also War) ...... 115 Reputation...... 127 People...... 116 Resentment...... 128 Permissiveness ...... 116 Resignation ...... 128 Perseverance (see also Courage)...... 116 Resolve (see Courage, Perseverance) ...... 128 Personality Development (see Growth)...... 117 Respect...... 128 Perspective ...... 117 Responsibility (see also Rights)...... 128 Perversion ...... 117 Revenge...... 128 Pessimism (see Optimism)...... 117 Reward and Punishment ...... 128 Philosophy/Philosophers...... 117 Right...... 128 Photography ...... 118 Righteous Person (see Ethical Personality) .....129 Piety ...... 118 Righteousness (see also Virtue)...... 129 Plagiarism ...... 118 Rights (see also Equality, Freedom, Habit, Plan ...... 118 Responsibility)...... 129 Pleasure...... 118 Risk (see also Experience)...... 130 Position ...... 119 Romance (see Love) ...... 130 Possession ...... 119 Rules (see laws) ...... 130 Potential (see also Growth)...... 119 Sacrifice ...... 131 Power ...... 119 Sages (see also Ethical Personality, Knowledge, Prayer ...... 119 Old Age, Wisdom)...... 131 Preaching ...... 120 Satisfaction...... 131 Prejudice ...... 120 Scandal...... 131 Preoccupation...... 120 Scholarship...... 131 Present...... 120 Science (see also Religion)...... 132 Pride (see also Fame, Humility) ...... 120 Secrets...... 133 Principle ...... 121 Sects ...... 133 Problems ...... 121 Self ...... 133 Profundity ...... 121 Self-Actualization (see Growth) ...... 133 Progress...... 121 Self-Assertion ...... 133 Proportion ...... 122 Self-Control ...... 134 Providence ...... 122 Self-Development (see Growth) ...... 134 Punctuality ...... 122 Self-Fulfillment (see Growth)...... 134 Punishment...... 122 Self-Image (see also Faith) ...... 134 Purpose (see also Meaning Of Life) ...... 122 Self-Improvement ...... 134 Questions (see also Wisdom)...... 124 Self-Insight (see also Introspection) ...... 134 Quotations...... 124 Self-Knowledge ...... 135 Rat Race...... 125 Self-Pity (see Suffering) ...... 135 6 Self-Reproach ...... 135 Torture ...... 147 Self-Sacrifice (see also Giving) ...... 135 Tradition...... 147 Selfishness (see also Giving, Self-Sacrifice) ..137 Travel ...... 147 Senses...... 137 Treatment ...... 148 Sensitivity/Renewal/Surprise/Discovery (see also Trust ...... 148 Creativity) ...... 137 Trust in G-d (see Faith)...... 148 Sentimentality ...... 137 Truth (see also Error, Honesty, Lying)...... 148 Shame (see also Pride)...... 137 Tyranny...... 151 Silence (see Also Speech, Wisdom) ...... 137 Tzadik (see Sages; Ethical Personality)...... 151 Simplicity...... 138 Understanding...... 152 Sin ...... 138 Unhappiness...... 152 Sincerity ...... 139 Unpredictability ...... 152 Skepticism...... 139 Vacation ...... 153 Sorrow...... 139 Value...... 153 Soul ...... 139 Values ...... 153 Speech (see also Silence)...... 139 Variety ...... 153 Spirituality (see also Meaning of Life, Religion, Vices ...... 153 Soul)...... 140 Violence ...... 154 Sport...... 140 Virtue (see also Righteousness)...... 154 Statistics ...... 140 Vision (see Goals)...... 154 Strength (see also Growth) ...... 140 Voting ...... 154 Struggle...... 141 War (see also Peace) ...... 155 Stubbornness...... 141 Wealth (see Materialism)...... 156 Success (see also Experience)...... 141 Weather...... 156 Suffering ...... 143 Wine...... 156 Surprise (see Sensitivity) ...... 144 Wisdom (see also Education, Experience, Taking (see Giving) ...... 145 Knowledge, Sages, Silence, Understanding)....156 Talent ...... 145 Wishfulness...... 157 Talmud ...... 145 Women...... 157 Teaching...... 145 Work ...... 157 Technology ...... 145 World ...... 158 Television...... 145 World To Come (see Afterlife)...... 158 Temptation ...... 146 Writers...... 158 Thought...... 146 Youth (see also Old Age)...... 159 Time ...... 146 Zionism (see also Israel) ...... 160 Tolerance ...... 146 Torah...... 147

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ABILITY (SEE GROWTH)

ABORTION ACTION (SEE ALSO BEGINNING) It is a poverty to decide that a child must die so that you may live as you Some things are easier done than said. wish. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Mother Teresa

Doing more things faster is no ABSENCE substitute for doing the right things. Absence diminishes minor passions Stephen R. Covey and inflames great ones, as the wind Roger and Rebecca Merrill: douses a candle and fans a fire. First Things First Francois, Duc de La Rochefoucauld (1613-1680) Hope in every sphere of life is a French writer, moralist privilege that attaches to action. No action, no hope. ABUSE Peter Levi (b.1931) A fly, Sir, may sting a stately horse British Professor of Poetry and make him wince; but one is but an insect, and the other is a horse still. The most decisive actions of our life – Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) I mean those that are most likely to decide the whole course of our future - ACCURACY (SEE ERROR) are, more often than not, unconsidered. André Gide (1869-1951) ACTING (SEE ALSO HEROES)

One of the things about acting is it What you are thunders so loud that I allows you to live other people's lives cannot hear what you say. R.W. Emerson (1803-1882) without having to pay the price. I've American essayist, poet, philosopher never been one of those actors who has touted myself as a fascinating Unhappiness is best defined as the human being. I had to decide early on difference between our talents and our whether I was to be an actor or a expectations. personality." Edward de Boro (b.1933) Robert De Niro British writer 8 French statesman In order to act you must be somewhat of Madame de Stael insane. A reasonably sensible man is satisfied with thinking. George Clemenceau ADDICTION quoted in Clemenceau The Events of His Life As Told By Himself The chain smoker never sees himself to His Former Secretary, Jean Martet as smoking a chain, only a cigarette. Shraga Silverstein Action is eloquence. A Candle by Day Shakespeare Coriolanus ADJUSTMENT

If a thing is worth doing, it is worth After making every possible effort to doing badly. get out of our rut and failing, we must G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936) call it home and remodel it. Shraga Silverstein The hands that help are holier than the A Candle by Day lips that pray. R. G. Ingersoll (1833-1899) In order to keep our heads above water American lawyer in life, we can do two things – lower the water level or raise our heads. The Activities provide their own motive latter course is far more commendable. force. … What we think of as our Shraga Silverstein pushing is often the pushing of the A Candle by Day activity. Shraga Silverstein It is better to experience certain A Candle by Day difficulties than to expend the time

and effort required avoiding them. He who would do good to another Shraga Silverstein must do it in Minute Particulars. A Candle by Day General good is the plea of the scoundrel, hypocrite and flatterer; for ADMISSION art and science cannot exist but in Sometimes the only way to be above minutely organized Particulars. things is to admit that we are below William Blake (1757-1827) them.

Shraga Silverstein Such a good friend that she will throw A Candle by Day all her acquaintances into the water for the pleasure of fishing them out Sometimes we say, “You’re right” to again. avoid saying, “I’m Wrong.” Charles, Count Talleyrand (1754-1838) Shraga Silverstein 9 A Candle by Day ADVICE Advice is what we ask for when we

already know the answer but wish we ADVERTISING didn’t. Erica Jong ADVERSITY How to Save Your Own Life The difficult can be done immediately, the impossible takes a little longer. Army Corp of Engineers We are not so disturbed that our advice is not heeded as that we are not. If you wait to do everything until Shraga Silverstein you're sure it's right, you'll probably A Candle by Day never do much of anything. Win Borden We should give people not our advice, but theirs. If the only tool you have is a hammer, Shraga Silverstein you tend to see every problem as a A Candle by Day nail. Abraham Maslow AFFLUENCE (SEE MATERIALISM)

Conflict builds character. Crisis AFTERLIFE defines it. It is called the “hereafter” and not Steven V. Thulon simply the “after” in that our “after” depends on what we do here. You can tell the ideals of a nation by Shraga Silverstein its advertisements. A Candle by Day Norman Douglas South Wind I don’t want to express an opinion. You see, I have friends in both places. We grew up founding our dreams on Mark Twain (1835-1910) the infinite promise of American on his belief in heaven or hell advertising. Zelda Fitzgerald All argument is against it; but all Save Me the Waltz belief is for it. Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) Advertising may be described as the science of arresting human intelligence long enough to get money We are more worried about losing our from it. hair than our hereafter. Stephen Leacock Shraga Silverstein Garden of Folly A Candle by Day

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AGE/ AGED/ AGING (SEE ALSO OLD AGE) It is never to late to be what you might have been. At twenty years of age, the will reigns; George Eliot at thirty, the wit; and at forty, the Hitch your wagon to a star. judgment. Ralph Waldo Emerson Henry Grattan (1746-1820) Irish politician Only those who will risk going too far The old believe everything; the can possibly find out how far one can middle-aged suspect everything; the go. young know everything. T. S. Eliot Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) We are the music makers. We are the As long as we are young, we can tell dreamers of the dreams. ourselves that we are batter than Arthur O'Shaughnessy others. The terrible thing about becoming old is seeing that we are not You must do the thing you think you even as good as ourselves. cannot do. Shraga Silverstein Eleanor Roosevelt A Candle by Day If you haven't turned rebel by twenty AGGRESSIVENESS you've got no heart; if you haven't It takes no insight to riot. turned establishment by thirty you've Shraga Silverstein got no brains! A Candle by Day Kevin Spacey Swimming With Sharks

Only those who attempt the absurd achieve the impossible. MBITION A Unattributed Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you'll land among the stars. It is a strange desire to seek power and Les Brown to lose liberty. Francis Bacon (1561-1626) Ah, but a man's reach should exceed his grasp. Or what's a heaven for? AMERICA (SEE ALSO AMERICANS, Robert Browning MATERIALISM)

You'll have time to rest when you're An asylum for the sane would be dead. empty in America. 11 George Bernard Shaw In America everybody is of the Americans adore me and will go on opinion that he has no social superiors adoring me until I say something nice since all men are equal, but he does about them. not admit that he has no social George Bernard Shaw inferiors. Bertrand Russell America is an enormous frosted Unpopular Essays cupcake in the middle of millions of starving people. America a land of wonders, in which Gloria Steinem everything is in constant motion and every change seems an We expect to eat and stay thin, to be improvement...... No Natural boundary constantly on the move and ever more seems to be set to the efforts of man; neighborly...to revere G-d and to be and in his eyes what is not yet done is G-d. only what he has not yet attempted to Daniel J. Boorstin The Image do. Alexis De Tocqueville There is nothing the matter with Democracy in America Americans except their ideals. The real American is all right; it is the ‘Keep ancient lands, your ideal American who is all wrong. storied pomp!’ cries she G.K. Chesterton With silent lips. ‘Give me your in New York Times tired, your poor, Your huddled masses yearning America is the only nation in history to breathe free, which miraculously has gone directly The wretched refuse of your from barbarism to denigration without teeming shore. the usual interval of civilization. Send these, the homeless, George Clemenceau tempest-tossed, to me;

I lift my lamp beside the golden The thing that impresses me most door.’ about America is the way parents obey Emma Lazarus (1849-1887) their children. American poet Edward, Duke of Windsor ‘The New Colossus’ - sonnet written for quoted in Look inscription on the Statue of Liberty

America is so vast that almost America is a large, friendly dog in a everything said is likely to be true, and very small room. Every time it wags the opposite is probably equally true. its tail it knocks over a chair. James T. Farrel, introduction to H.L. A. J. Toynbee (1889-1975) Mencken’s Prejudices: A Selection 12 British historian Americans are overreachers; overreaching is the most admirable of The youth of America is their oldest the many American excesses. tradition. It has been going on now George F. Will for three hundred years. Statecraft as Soulcraft (Simon & Schuster) Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) For other nations, utopia is a blessed America lives in the heart of every past never to be recovered; for man everywhere who wishes to find a Americans it is just beyond the region where he will be free to work horizon. out his destiny as he chooses. Henry Kissinger (b. 1923) Woodrow Wilson (1856-1924) People in America, of course, live in The business of America is business. all sorts of fashions, because they are Calvin Coolidge (1872-1933) foreigners, or unlucky or depraved, or American Republican politician, President without ambition; people live like that, but Americans live in white detached In America you watch TV and think houses with green shutters. Rigidly, that’s totally unreal, then you step blindly, the dream takes precedence. outside and it’s just the same. Margaret Mead (1901-1978) Joan Armatrading (b.1947) American anthropologist British singer Since the earliest days of our frontier In Boston they ask, ‘How much does irreverence has been one of the signs he know?’ In New York, ‘How much of our affection. is he worth?’ In Philadelphia, ‘Who Dean Rusk (b.1909) were his parents?’ American diplomat Mark Twain (1835-1910)

ANCESTRY The people are unreal. The flowers I would rather make my name than are unreal, they don’t smell. The fruit inherit it. is unreal, it doesn’t taste of anything. W. M. Thackeray (1811-1863) The whole place is a glaring, gaudy, English author nightmarish set, built upon the desert. Ethel Barrymore (1879-1959) People will not look forward to American actress of Los Angeles posterity, who never look backward to their ancestors. Edmund Burke (1729-1797) MERICANS (SEE ALSO AMERICA) A Irish philosopher, statesman

13 Snobs talk as if they had begotten their own ancestors. ANTICIPATION Herbert Agar (1897-1980) We look forward very eagerly to very American author, journalist many things, but very rarely do we look back fondly upon the things we Those who place too much stock in had once looked forward to so eagerly. the stock they descend from descend . Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

ANTI-SEMITISM (SEE ALSO CHOSEN ANGER (SEE ALSO FORGIVENESS) PEOPLE, HOLOCAUST) Anger is a wind which blows out the lamp of the mind. The Jews are a frightened people. Robert G. Ingersoll Nineteen centuries of Christian love ‘Irate” is generally as expression if “I have broken their nerves. Israel Zangwill (1864-1926) rate.” British author Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day The world is divided into two groups In most cases of righteous indignation of nations – those which want to expel the indignation is carried beyond the the Jews and those which do not want point of righteousness. to receive them. Shraga Silverstein Chaim Weizman (1874-1952) A Candle by Day Jewish statesman

It is curious that often, when we forget Wherever they burn books they will our anger, we forget our motive for also, in the end, burn human beings. being angry. Heinrich Heine Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Some accuse me of being a Jew, others forgive me for being a Jew, still When we see red we see nothing at all. others praise me for it. But all of them Shraga Silverstein reflect upon it. A Candle by Day Laqueur - Borne, 19C J intellectual ANSWERS He called this the ‘magic Jewish circle’ We must learn not only to answer the questions, but also to question the ANXIETY answers. Worry is interest paid on trouble Shraga Silverstein before it falls due. A Candle by Day W. R. Inge (1860-1954) 14 Dean of St. Paul’s London APPLAUSE Do not trust to the cheering, for those APATHY (SEE ALSO GROWTH) very persons would shout as much if you and I were going to be hanged. Science may have found a cure for most evils; Oliver Cromwell (1599-1658) but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all--the apathy of human beings. Helen Keller APPRECIATION My Religion Along with learning to appreciate value, we must learn to value The worst sin towards our fellow appreciation. creatures is not to hate them, but to be Shraga Silverstein indifferent to them; that’s the essence A Candle by Day of inhumanity. Anderson, The Devil’s Disciple George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) What connoisseurs of this world we would be if G-d had only placed it in a The opposite of love is not hate, it’s frame. Let our minds then, frame the indifference. The opposite of art is not world. ugliness, it’s indifference. The Shraga Silverstein opposite of faith is not heresy, it’s A Candle by Day indifference. and the opposite of life When eating fruit, think of the person is not death, it’s indifference. who planted the tree. Elie Wiesel Vietnamese proverb quoted in US News & World Report

APPEARANCES ARGUMENT The best and most beautiful things in You raise your voice when you should the world cannot be seen or even reinforce your argument. touched, they must be felt with the Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) heart. You have not converted a man Helen Keller because you have silenced him. John, Lord Morley (1838-1923) APPEASEMENT English writer, Liberal politician Appeasers believe that if you keep on throwing steaks to a tiger, the tiger Just as we must not fall for a bad will turn vegetarian. argument because of good arguing, we Heywood Broun (1888-1939) must not overlook a good argument American journalist, novelist because the arguing is bad. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day 15 Amedee Ozenfant Most arguments are instances of an Foundations of Modern Art inability to make it clear that we are essentially in agreement. What they do for a living is not our Shraga Silverstein concern. It's whether the project has A Candle by Day good community outcomes. Newsweek July 5, 93 - Kerry Mumford of Australia's national arts-funding agency ARROGANCE (SEE HUMILITY, PRIDE) on the groups decision to help finance a training video for prostitutes ART Art is man added to nature. Life beats down and crushes the soul Francis Bacon (1561-1626) and art reminds you that you have one. Stella Adler Art is the imposing of a pattern on experience, and our aesthetic What was any art but a mould in enjoyment in recognition of the which to imprison for a moment the pattern. shining elusive element which is life A.N. Whitehead (1861-1947) itself--life hurrying past us and British philosopher running away, too strong to stop, too sweet to lose. Art is I; Science is We. Willa Cather Claude Bernard (1813-1878) French physiologist In a decaying society, art, if it is truthful, must also reflect decay. And What garlic is to salad, insanity is to unless it wants to break faith with its art. social function, art must show the Augustus Saint-Gaudens (1848-1907) world as changeable. And help to American Sculptor change it. Ernst Fischer Art resides in the resolution of inner and outer conflict. Vision is the art of seeing the Belfast art lecturer invisible. Jonathan Swift To say that a work of art is good, but incomprehensible to the majority of What garlic is to food, insanity is to men, is the same as saying of some art. kind of food that it is very good but Unattributed that most people can’t eat it. Leo Tolstoy (1828-1910) Art is the demonstration that the ordinary is extraordinary.

16 One reassuring thing about modern art ASPIRATION is that things can’t be as bad as they The greater our aims, the greater the are painted. obstacles to their achievement. M. Walthall Jackson Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Without tradition, art is a flock of sheep without a shepherd. Without ASSIMILATION (SEE ALSO JEWISH innovation, it is a corpse. IDENTITY) Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965) If Jewish parents neglect the Jewish Art does not reproduce the visible; education of their children, one can rather, it makes visible. safely assume that they do not care Paul Klee (1879-1940) about their Jewish children. It remains Art is a lie that makes us realize the for their children to decide whether truth. this absence of tenderness was Pablo Picasso (1881-1973) directed at them as children or as Jews Ruth R. Wisse An artist must know how to convince The Jerusalem Report, Dec. 31, 92 others of the truth of his lies. Pablo Picasso (1881-1973) The impetus for intellectual and religious reform...was not simply a Art is a jealous mistress, and if a man desire to find amelioration from the have a genius for painting, poetry, physical oppression of the ghetto. It music, architecture or philosophy, he was rather a desire for emancipation makes a bad husband and an ill from the essence of the Jewish provider. condition. R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) Charles Liebman American essayist, poet, philosopher The Religious Situation, 69

When I am finishing a picture I hold In close to two decades since World some G-d-made object up to it - a War 11, we have witnessed the rock, a flower, the branch of a tree or greatest single synagogue boom in the my hand - as a kind of final test. If the whole of Jewish history in the painting stands up beside a thing man Diaspora. cannot make, the painting is authentic. Jacob Neusner If there’s a clash between the two, it is American Judaism bad art. Marc Chagall (1889-1985) However one estimates the activity of Leopold Zunz and his activity, the extraordinary Moses Hess, or later, that of the poets Bialik or 17 Tchernichovsky, or Simon Dubnow or Shraga Silverstein Achad HaAm, or the German neo- A Candle by Day Kantian philosopher Hermann Cohen, one is obliged to recognize that for When we buy something from the these thinkers (regardless of how little “friendly Fuller brush man,” we feel they prayed, or how little observed...) friendly too. the center of their life was the Jewish Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day people...The new Jewish intellectual, although he still works against the sacral models of scholar, sage and ATHEISM (SEE ALSO FAITH) prophet, has turned these models away from Judaism and into self-sustaining Absolute atheism starts in an act of ideological postures. faith in reverse gear and is a full- Jacob Neusner blown religious commitment. American Judaism Jacques Maritain (1882-1973) French philosopher Those who assimilated in 19C were dying to become the monkeys of Nobody talks so constantly about G-d European civilization. as those who insist that there is no G- Rav Samuel Dovid? Luzatto d. Laqueur, Zionism, p19 Heywood Broun (1888-1939) American journalist, novelist Away from Asia. Slogan used by R An atheist is a man who has no and assimilationists in 19C Germany invisible means of support. John Buchan (1875-1940) I am now hated by Christian and Jew British author alike; I very much regret my baptism, nothing but misfortune has occurred to ATTITUDE me ever since. An attitude should be a result of Heinrich Heine thought not a prelude to it. to friend a few weeks after conversion, Shraga Silverstein Laqueur A Candle by Day

ASSOCIATION AUTHORITY Sometimes we assume that we want Unthinking respect for authority is the things done in a certain way just greatest enemy of truth. because we happen to be doing them Albert Einstein that way.

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BABIES (SEE FAMILY) realization that what he sees is intended as beauty, and is not merely BALANCE an accident of atoms. No one is better balanced than he who Shraga Silverstein is stuck in the mud. A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day BECOMING (SEE GROWTH)

Our lives are as delicate as watch- BEGINNING (SEE ALSO ACTION) springs and must be as carefully balanced. To have begun is to have done half the Shraga Silverstein task; dare to be wise. A Candle by Day Horace Epistles Some are well balanced only in the sense that their character failings are A journey of a thousand miles must insulated by fortunate environmental begin with a single step. factors. Lao-Tzu Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day We must sometimes permit ourselves BEAUTY to begin things badly, just so that we There is no excellent beauty that hath begin them. Those who spend too not some strangeness in the much time preparing graceful proportion. entrances often never get to make Francis Bacon: them. Shraga Silverstein The sense of beauty is a tuning fork in A Candle by Day the brain that hums when we stumble on something beautiful. BEING (SEE GROWTH) David Gelernter Machine Beauty (Basic Books) BELIEF (SEE ALSO FAITH)

How much more beauty a believing O L-rd, if there is a L-rd, save my man sees in the world, in his soul, if I have a soul.

19 Joseph Ernest Renan (1823-1892) French writer, critic, scholar We cannot banish with a wave of the I am an agnostic; I do not pretend to hand the false beliefs that have grown know what many ignorant men are up with us. … Our beliefs have been sure of. built up patiently, bit by bit, until they Clarence Darrow (1857-1938) have become intermingled, as it were, American lawyer, writer with the fiber of our being. We cannot

tear out our flesh to cast them away. If only G-d would give me some clear We only can pick them out, if they sign! Like making a large deposit in need picking out, as so many tiny my name at a Swiss bank. Woody Allen (b.1935) pieces of glass that have embedded themselves within it. With most men, unbelief in one thing Shraga Silverstein springs from blind belief in another. A Candle by Day G. C. Lichtenberg (1742-1799) German physicist, writer BELLIGERENCY Don’t fight it – and you may find that There are those who feel an imperative it was never fighting you in the first need to believe, for whom the values place but that you mistook the open of a belief are proportionate, not to its hand of friendship for a fist. truth, but to its definiteness. Incapable Shraga Silverstein of either admitting the existence of A Candle by Day contrary judgments or of suspending their own, they supply the place of BIBLE (SEE TORAH) knowledge by turning other men’s conjectures into dogmas. We come with instructions – the C.E. M. Joad (1891-1953) Bible. British author, academic Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Isn’t it interesting that in every culture from which we have written history, BIGOTRY there has always been belief in Bigotry tries to keep truth safe in its something more - powers, energies hand with a grip that kills it. beyond us, afterworlds? That’s good Rabindranath Tagore (1861-1941) Indian author, Philosopher for us. It gives us hope. Just as we’re wired for fear of heights, we are wired to believe in G-d. BIRTH Herbert Benson "When we are born we cry that we are Interviewed by John Koch come to this great stage of fools. in Boston Globe Magazine Shakespeare 20 Boredom is...a vital consideration for BOOKS the moralist, since at least half the sins A room without books is as a body of mankind are caused by the fear of without a soul. it. Sir John Lubbock, Lord Avebury (1834- Bertrand Russell 1913) (1872-1970) British banker, scientist, author

BORES Some books are to be tasted, others to A bore is a man who, when you ask be swallowed, and some few to be him how he is, tells you. chewed and digested. Bert Leston Taylor (1866-1921) Francis Bacon (1561-1626) A bore is a man who spends so much Without books G-d is silent. time talking about himself that you Thomas Bartholin (1616-1680) Danish physician can’t talk about yourself. Melville D. Landon (1839-1910) American lecturer, wit BOREDOM Everyone is a bore to someone. That is If you are a bore, strive to be a rascal unimportant. The thing to avoid is also so that you may not discredit being a bore to oneself. virtue. Gerald Brenan George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) The man who lets himself be bored is even more contemptible than the bore. BROAD–MINDEDNESS Samuel Butler Most of our so-called “broad-minded” individuals seem to dwindle in depth Boredom is a vital problem for the as they gain in breadth. moralist, since at least half the sins of Shraga Silverstein mankind are caused by the fear of it. A Candle by Day Bertrand Russell

BRUSQUENESS The world is full of wonders, riches, Some, afraid that tact would be powers, puzzles. What it holds can interpreted as scheming, are absolutely make us horrified, sorrowful, amazed, brusque, hoping that their brusqueness confused, joyful. But nothing in it can will be interpreted as honesty. make us bored. Boredom is the result Shraga Silverstein of some pinch in ourselves, not of A Candle by Day some lack in the world. Toni Flores

21 BUILDER no better than you treat your Even if I knew that tomorrow the employees. world would go to pieces, I would still Larry Bossidy, plant my apple tree. CEO of AlliedSignal Inc. In a speech Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Some people see things as they are The propensity to truck, barter and and say why. exchange one thing for another...is I dream things that never were and say common to all men, and to be found in why not?" no other race of animals. Robert F. Kennedy Adam Smith (1723-1790) Originally by George Bernard Shaw Scottish economist

I haven't failed, I've found 10,000 Nothing is illegal if one hundred ways that don't work. businessmen decide to do it. Thomas Edison Andrew Young (b. 1932) American politician Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving You never expected justice from a his goal; nothing on earth can help the company, did you? They have neither man with the wrong mental attitude." a soul to lose, nor a body to kick. Thomas Jefferson Sydney Smith (1771-1845) English writer, clergyman BUSINESS I’ve never seen a company that was You can automate the production of able to satisfy its customers which did cars but you cannot automate the not also satisfy its employees. Your production of customers. employees will treat your customers Walter Reuther (1907-1970) American trade union leader

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CANDOR CARICATURE With all our looking into mirrors, we Caricature is the tribute that never look ourselves in the face. mediocrity pays to genius. Shraga Silverstein Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) A Candle by Day CAREER CAPITALISM You exist only in what you do. In the usual (though certainly not in Federico Fellini every) public decision on economic policy, the choice is between courses Assume any career moves you make that are almost equally good or equally won’t go smoothly. They won’t. But bad. It is the narrowest decisions that don’t look back. are most ardently debated. If the world Andy Grove, chairman, Intel Corp. is lucky enough to enjoy peace, it may even one day make the discovery, to CARS the horror of doctrinaire free- No other man-made device since the enterprises and doctrinaire planners shields and lances of the ancient alike, that what is called capitalism knights fulfils a man’s ego like an and what is called socialism are both automobile. capable of working quite well. Sir William (later Lord) Rootes (1894-1964) J.K. Galbraith (b. 1918) British motor car manufacturer American economist I think that cars today are almost the It is a socialist idea that making profits exact equivalent of the great Gothic is a vice; I consider the real vice is cathedrals; I mean the supreme making losses. creation of an era, conceived with Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965) passion by unknown artists, and

Advocates of capitalism are very apt consumed in image if not in usage by to appeal to the sacred principles of a whole population which appropriates liberty, which are embodied in one them as a purely magical object. Roland Barthes (1915-1980) maxim: The fortunate must not be French Academic restrained in the exercise of tyranny over the unfortunate. Bertrand Russell (1872-1970)

23 CAUSE CHALLENGE (SEE SUFFERING) We support all kinds of causes to absolve ourselves of upholding them. CHANGE Shraga Silverstein Change is not merely necessary to life. A Candle by Day It is life. Alvin Toffler CAUTION He that leaveth nothing to chance will I wanted to change the world. But I do few things ill, but he will do very have found that the only thing one can few things. be sure of changing is oneself. Sir George Savile, Lord Halifax (1633- Aldous Huxley (1894-1963) 1695) English statesman, author Mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right Being too careful is being too careless themselves by abolishing the forms to in a different direction. which they are accustomed. Shraga Silverstein Thomas Jefferson (1743-1826) A Candle by Day When our first parents were driven out CELEBRITY (SEE FAME) of Paradise, Adam is believed to have remarked to Eve: ‘My dear, we live in CENSORSHIP an age of transition’. Did you ever hear anyone say ‘That W.R. Inge (1860-1954) work had better be banned because I Dean of St. Paul’s London might read it and it might be very People don’t resist change as much as damaging to me’? the way they are changed. Joseph Henry Jackson (1894-1955) Anonymous American critic, travel-writer

CERTAINTY Sometimes our dissatisfaction with The fundamental cause of trouble in things causes us to contemplate a the world today is that the stupid are change, and sometimes our cocksure while the intelligent are full contemplating a change causes us to of doubt. be dissatisfied with things. Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day The best lack all conviction, while the worst Are full of passionate intensity. We can never take up from where we W.B. Yeats (1865-1939) left off because we never return there. Shraga Silverstein 24 A Candle by Day Slouching Towards Bethlehem (Farrar, Straus & Giroux) We imagine that times have changed, because we have, and that we have Talent develops in quiet. changed, because times have. Character in the torrent of the world. Shraga Silverstein Johann Wolfgang von Goethe A Candle by Day Torquato Tasso

Be the change that you want to see in Character is what a man is in the dark. the world. Dwight L. Moody Mohandas Gandhi quoted in William R. Moody’s D.L. Moody

Nothing is permanent but change. Everyone is a moon, and has a dark Heraclitus side, which he never shows to anybody. Every act of creation is first an act of Mark Twain, Following the Equator destruction. Pudd’nhead Wilson’s New Calendar Pablo Picasso The most wonderfully complex They always say time changes things, fictional character is much less but you actually have to change them complicated than the most boring yourself. actual person. Andy Warhol Elizabeth McCracken in Elle

CHARACTER People regard us as what we have Good manners are made up of petty been; we regard ourselves as what we sacrifices. would like to be – only G-d regards us R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) as what we are. American essayist, poet, philosopher Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Character is that which can do without success. Some fancy themselves to be Ralph Waldo Emerson solidifying their character when they Uncollected Lectures are actually freezing it. Shraga Silverstein The willingness to accept A Candle by Day responsibility for one's own life -- is the source from which self respect We must know when to make repairs springs. in our characters and when alterations. Joan Didion Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

25 Particularism ... is a conduit through CHILDREN (SEE ALSO FAMILY; which universalism and equality flow EDUCATION) .... Without it they would have remained as abstract concepts. Along with being fathers to our N.T. Lopes Cardozo children, we must be fathers to the child within us. Shraga Silverstein Jews are as racially diverse as there A Candle by Day are races. Yitzchak Coopersmith We strive to make our children independent because we have nothing CIRCUMSTANCES to offer them. But what is their Before we ask ourselves what we can independence if not chaos? What we do under the circumstances, we must must do is make them entirely ask ourselves whether we might not be dependent, dependent upon the able to change them. dictates of the good. And we must Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day make ourselves examples of that good to them so that dependence upon us is the greatest gift they know; so that in CIVILIZATION being dependent upon us, they are The perversion of “civilization” is its independent of evil. If we do this, our coming to be regarded as a substitute children will feel, not that they are for religion. dependent upon us, but that they Shraga Silverstein depend upon us. A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day CLARITY To see what is in front of one’s eyes CHOSEN PEOPLE (SEE ALSO ANTI- requires constant struggle. SEMITISM; JEWS/JEWRY) George Orwell

How odd of G-d to choose the Jews; COINCIDENCE it's not so odd the Jews chose G-d. As soon as we are ready to sink into life, it raps our knuckles. G-d's choice of Israel was not for the Shraga Silverstein sake of Israel but for the sake of A Candle by Day mankind R' Cardozo COMMON SENSE (SEE ALSO

WISDOM)

26 Le sens commun n'est pas si commun. Start writing a new chapter, for if you [Common sense is not so common.] live by the book you'll never make Francois Marie Arouet Voltaire history. Ben Sobel COMMUNICATION Communication – Ours is a society of Only dead fish go with the flow. much print and little imprint. Unattributed Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Everything popular is wrong. Real communication happens when Oscar Wilde people feel safe. Ken Blanchard Most people are other people. Their The Heart of a Leader (Honor Books) thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a There is no different way of saying the quotation. same thing; a different way is a Oscar Wilde different thing. Shraga Silverstein COMPENSATION A Candle by Day Sometimes, because we cannot be great, we belittle. COMPASSION (SEE MERCY) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

CONFORMISM To be nobody but yourself in a world that's doing its best to make you COMPULSION somebody else, is to fight the hardest With what relish we go about so many battle you are ever going to fight. things, which we claim to have been Never stop fighting. forced into. E. E. Cummings Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day He who joyfully marches to music in rank and file has already earned my CONDITION contempt. He has been given a large We must resist the call to battle when brain by mistake, since for him the we are in no condition for it. spinal cord would suffice. Shraga Silverstein Albert Einstein A Candle by Day

For most men life is a search for the proper manila envelope in which to CONSENT get themselves filed. Nobody can hurt me without my Clifton Fadiman permission. Mohandas Gandhi 27 CONVICTION No man is good enough to govern Be sure you put your feet in the right another man without that other's place, then stand firm consent. Abraham Lincoln Abraham Lincoln If you believe in your heart that you No one can make you feel inferior are right, you must fight with all your without your consent. might to do it your way. Only dead Eleanor Roosevelt fish swim with the fish all the time. Linda Ellerbee

COPING CONTENTMENT Getting on is the opium of the middle Contentment sometimes cheats us of classes. happiness. Walter James (b.1912) Shraga Silverstein British journalist A Candle by Day

COURAGE (SEE ALSO GROWTH; We should be content with a little – PERSEVERANCE) not with littleness. Shraga Silverstein Courage is almost a contradiction in A Candle by Day terms. It means a strong desire to live taking the form of a readiness to die. CONVENTION G.K. Chesterton (1874-1936)

Resolve must be the firmer, spirit the There is nothing more conventional bolder, Courage the greater, as our than the convention of strength grows less. unconventionality. Anonymous R.H. Benson (1871-1914) The Battle of Maldon British Novelist

A person under the firm persuasion CONVERSION that he can command resources virtually has them. The way I see it, G-d has put Livy (59 bc – 17 ad) tremendous faith in me by delegating the decision of my submission to the To dare is to lose one's footing law. momentarily. Not to dare is to lose Audrey J. Wohlgemuth oneself. Attorney General for the State of New York Soren Kierkegaard

28 Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fearnot absence of fear. It is that which is stolen, not the Mark Twain, larceny, which is petty. Pudd'nhead Wilson Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

CRITICISM CREATIVITY/ORIGINALITY (SEE Criticism of others is often a devious ALSO SENSITIVITY) assertion of one’s own superiority.

Shraga Silverstein Any activity becomes creative when A Candle by Day the doer cares about doing it right, or better. When considering praise or criticism John Updike first consider the source. Picked-Up Pieces (Knopf) Jeff Daly

For every action, there is an equal and Few are those who see with their own opposite criticism. eyes and feel with their own hearts. Harrison's postulate Albert Einstein To avoid criticism, do nothing, say

nothing, be nothing. REDIT C Elbert Hubbard We often give others credit for knowing much more than they do so Man invented language to satisfy his that we may repose all of our deep need to complain. confidence in them and not feel guilty Lily Tomlin for not using our own heads to solve our own problems. I support the bigot's right to speak out, Shraga Silverstein as if I start limiting them, they may A Candle by Day start limiting me. I also support my

right to ignore them. We sometimes take less credit for our Laura Packer successes in order to feel less responsibility for our failures. The trouble with most of us is that we Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism. Norman Vincent Peale CRIME And what if crime did pay? The power of accurate observation is Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day commonly called cynicism by those who have not got it. 29 George Bernard Shaw Wisdom begins in wonder. Socrates If you judge people you have no time to love them. CYNICISM Mother Theresa A cynic seeks only to expose falsehood; a truth-seeker, to eradicate A cynic is a man who knows the price it. of everything but the value of nothing. Shraga Silverstein Oscar Wilde A Candle by Day

CURIOSITY Cynicism is not realistic and tough. Curiosity is one of the most permanent It's unrealistic and kind of cowardly and certain characteristics of a because it means you don't have to try. vigorous intellect. Peggy Noonan Samuel Johnson in Good Housekeeping

30 D______DEATH (SEE ALSO OLD AGE) Now comes the mystery. Some things are hurrying into Henry Ward Beecher, existence, and others are hurrying out dying words of it; and of that which is coming into existence part is already extinguished. You can be a king or a street sweeper, Marcus Aurelius but everybody dances with the Grim Meditations Reaper. Robert Alton Harris, Do not go gentle into that good night, executed in gas chamber April 21, 1992 Old age should burn and rage at close of day; Life is a great surprise. I don't see why Rage, rage, against the dying of the death should not be an even greater light. one. Dylan Thomas (1914-1953) Vladimir Nabokov

On doit des egards aux vivants; on ne So little done, so much to do. doit aux morts que la verite. Cecil Rhodes, dying words, 1902 To the living we owe respect, but to the dead we owe only the truth. To live is to dream and to die is to Voltaire (1694-1778) awaken. Unattributed It is not death, but dying which is terrible. DECEPTION Henry Fielding (1707-1754) As long as we know that we are fooling ourselves there is till hope for Everyone is good to a dying man – us. how good we would be to each other if Shraga Silverstein we fully realized that we were all A Candle by Day dying. Shraga Silverstein Sometimes we cannot help being A Candle by Day “taken in,” but we must know enough to come out. We should be reluctant to part with Shraga Silverstein our lives only in the sense that the A Candle by Day artist is reluctant to part with his Deception – We are blinded by unfinished masterpiece. nothing so much as by our eyes. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day 31 Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971) DECEIT American theologian, historian No man means all he says, and yet very few say all they mean, for words There is a limit to the application of are slippery and thought is viscous. democratic methods. You can inquire Henry B. Adams of all the passengers as to what type of car they like to ride in, but it is The only secrets are the secrets that impossible to question them as to keep themselves. whether to apply the brakes when the George Bernard Shaw train is at full speed and accident threatens. Leon Trotsky (1879-1940) DELICACY (SEE SENSITIVITY) When great changes occur in history, when great principles are involved, as DEMOCRACY a rule the majority are wrong. Democracy is only an experiment in Eugene Debs (1855-1926) government, and it has the obvious American trade unionist, co-founder of the disadvantage of merely counting votes Socialist Party of the United States instead of weighing them. W. R. Inge (1860-1954) DIFFERENCE Dean of St. Paul’s London Nothing makes a difference until it is subtracted. Democracy is the recurrent suspicion Shraga Silverstein that more than half of the people are A Candle by Day right more than half of the time. E.B. White (1899-1985) DISCIPLINE (SEE ALSO RIGHTS) American author, editor Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishments. I do not believe in the collective Unattributed wisdom of individual ignorance. Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881) Scottish writer DISCOVERY (SEE SENSITIVITY)

I think we must agree that the fools DISCUSSION are in a terrible overwhelming When you have nothing to say, say majority, all the wide world over. nothing. Henrik Ibsen (1828-1906) Charles Caleb Colton

Man’s capacity for justice makes If A equals success, then the formula democracy possible, but man’s is: A = X + Y + Z, X is work. Y is inclination to injustice makes play. Z is keep your mouth shut. democracy necessary. Albert Einstein 32 of religion, finds it easier to doubt than He who speaks of what he knows not to examine. only works hard to portray his Sir Walter Scott (1771-1832) ignorance. Joseph Muchemi When we are not sure, we are alive. Graham Greene (b. 1904) Small minds discuss people, average minds discuss events, great minds The greater the artist, the greater the discuss ideas. doubt; perfect confidence is granted to Unattributed the less talented as a consolation prize. Robert Hughes in Time DISPOSITION

Though we dwell in the general clime Doubt is often the beginning of of our particular disposition, there are wisdom. days when G-d breaks the pattern and M. Scott Peck sends us different moods with which The Road Less Traveled and Beyond we must learn to cope as with all (Simon & Schuster) changes in the weather. We must build dikes against the rains and The greater the artist, the greater the bastions against the winds; and we doubt. Perfect confidence is granted to must construct in ourselves that which the less talented as a consolation prize. will extract the full benefit of the sun Robert Hughes when is shines for us. Shraga Silverstein The trouble with the world is that the A Candle by Day stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt. DOGMATISM Bertrand Russel Dogmatism does not mean the absence of thought, but the end of thought. DREAMS / DREAMERS G.K. Chesterton (1874-1936) Dream as if you'll live forever; live as if you'll die tomorrow. James Dean DOUBT (SEE ALSO FAITH)

The first step towards philosophy is Work like you don't need the money. incredulity. Love like you've never been hurt. Denis Diderot (1713-1784) Dance like nobody's watching. French philosopher, encyclopediste Satchel Paige

There is a vulgar incredulity, which in Those who dream by day are historical matters, as well as in those cognizant of many things, which escape those who dream only by night. 33 Edgar Allen Poe How many of our daydreams would The future belongs to those who darken into nightmares, were there believe in the beauty of the dream. any danger of their becoming true. Eleanor Roosevelt Logan Pearsall Smith (1865-1946) American essayist Some look at things that are, and ask why. I dream of things that never were When we can’t dream any longer we and ask why not? die. George Bernard Shaw Emma Goldman (1869-1940) American anarchist Those who hear not the music think the dancers mad. DRESS Unattributed I hold that gentleman to be the best- dressed whose dress no one observes. We are all in the gutter, but some of us Anthony Trollope (1815-1882) are looking at the stars. English novelist Oscar Wilde It is an interesting question how far Yes, I am a dreamer. For a dreamer is men would retain their relative rank if one who can find his way by they were divested of their clothes. moonlight, and see the dawn before H. D. Thoreau (1817-1862) the rest of the world. Oscar Wilde DUTY (SEE RIGHTS)

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ECOLOGY I have never let my schooling interfere We abuse land because we regard it as with my education. a commodity belonging to us. Mark Twain (1835-1910) When we see land as a community to which we belong, One looks back with appreciation to we may begin to use it with love the brilliant teachers, but with and respect. gratitude to those who touched our Aldo Leopold (1886-1948) human feelings. The curriculum is so American forester much necessary raw material, but warmth is the vital element for the growing plant and for the soul of the EDUCATION (SEE ALSO WISDOM) child. A teacher affects eternity. Carl Jung (1875-1961)

Henry B. Adams (1838-1918) American historian The first idea that the child must acquire in order to be actively Educate men without religion and you disciplined is that of the difference make them but clever devils. between good and evil; and the task of Duke of Wellington (1769-1852) the educator lies in seeing that the child does not confound good with Education does not mean teaching immobility, and evil with activity. people to know what they do not Maria Montessori (1870-1952) know; it means teaching them to Italian educator behave as they do not behave. John Ruskin (1819-1900) When a man’s education is finished, English critic he is finished. E. A. Filene (1860-1937) Education must have an end in view, American businessman, financier for it is not an end in itself. Sybil Marshall Life at a university with its intellectual and inconclusive discussions at the Education is what remains when we postgraduate level is on the whole a have forgotten all that we have been bad training for the real world. Only taught. men of very strong character surmount George Savile, Lord Halifax (163-1695) this handicap. English statesman, author Sir Paul Chambers (1904-1981) British industrialist

35 The test and the use of man’s like a potato,--the only good education is that he finds pleasure in belonging to him is under ground. the exercise of his mind. Thomas Overbury Jacques Barzun Characters in Saturday Evening Post The great fault of our educational Ye can lead a man up to the university system is that it gives us no inkling of but ye can’t make him think. how much we are capable of knowing. Finley Peter Dunne Shraga Silverstein Mr. Duckley’s Opinions A Candle by Day

The purpose of education is to replace The purpose of Compulsory Education an empty mind with an open one. is to deprive the common people of Malcolm Forbes their common sense. attributed in Ann Lander’s column Gilbert Keith Chesterton

Before Hitler killed six million Jews Education is the process of driving a he burnt six million books. set of prejudices down your throat. Moshe Dayan Martin H. Fischer

Education is what survives when what Genius without education is like silver has been learned has been forgotten. in the mine. B.F. Skinner Ben Franklin in New Scientist

The brighter you are, the more you Education...has produced a vast have to learn. population able to read but unable to Don Herold distinguish what is worth reading. G.M. Trevelyan English Social History I never learned from a man who agreed with me. Robert A. Heinlein I can trace my ancestry back to a protoplasmal primordial atomic He who can, does. He who cannot, globule. Consequently, my family teaches. pride is something in-conceivable. I George Bernard Shaw can’t help it. I was born sneering. W.S. Gilbert The Mikado I've never let my school interfere with my education. Mark Twain The man who has not anything to boast of but his illustrious ancestors is

36 EFFORT We call ourselves “products of You miss 100 percent of the shots you environment” forgetting that we are never take. also its producers. Wayne Gretzky Shraga Silverstein, A Candle by Day

It's not the hours you put in your work EQUALITY (SEE ALSO FREEDOM, that counts, it's the work you put in the RIGHTS) hours. Sam Ewing The social process requires the

standardization of man, and this If you can't rise to the occasion, climb standardization is called equality. to it. Erich From (1900-1980) Shraga Silverstein American psychologist A Candle by Day True education makes for inequality; the inequality of individuality, the EGOCENTRICITY (SEE GIVING) inequality of success, the glorious inequality of talent, of genius. ELDERLY (SEE OLD AGE) Felix E. Scheling (1858-1945) American educator EMOTION Half our mistakes in life arise from We hold these truths to be self- feeling where we ought to think, and evident: that all men are created equal; thinking where we ought to feel. that they are endowed by their Creator J. Churton Collins (1848-1908) with certain unalienable rights; that English author, critic, scholar among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. ENEMIES Thomas Jefferson (1743-1826) Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them? The defect of equality is that we only Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865) desire it with our superiors. Henry Becque Querelles litteraires ENTHUSIASM

In things pertaining to enthusiasm, no It was a wise man who said that there man is sane who does not know how is no greater inequality than the equal to be insane on proper occasions. treatment of unequals. H.W. Beecher (1813-1887) Felix Frankfurter American clergyman, editor, writer judicial opinion 1949

ENVIRONMENT We hold these truths to be self evident: that all men are created equal;

37 that they are endowed by their creator with inherent and inalienable rights; ERA that among these are life, liberty, and An era can be said to end when its the pursuit of happiness. basic illusions are exhausted. Thomas Jefferson Arthur Miller (b. 1915) draft of the Declaration of Independence Jefferson’s early draft had the words ERETZ YISRAEL (SEE ISRAEL) “with inherent and inalienable rights”. The Continental Congress ERROR (SEE ALSO TRUTH) Your levelers wish to level down as far as themselves; but they cannot bear An error is the more dangerous in leveling up to themselves. proportion to the degree of truth, Samuel Johnson which it contains. as quoted in James Boswell’s Henri-Frederic Amiel The Life of Samuel Johnson Journal intime

I have a dream that four little black Truth lies within a little and certain children will one day live in a nation compass, but error is immense. where they will not be judged by the Henry St. John Viscount Bolingbroke color of their skin, but by the content Reflections Upon Exile of their character, I have a dream today. Every great mistake has a halfway Martin Luther King, Jr. moment, a split second when it can be speech at the March on Washington, 1963 recalled and perhaps remedied. All of us do not have equal talent, but Pearl S. Buck What America Means to Me all of us should have an equal opportunity to develop our talents. You can create impression on yourself John F. Kennedy speech 1963 by being yourself by being right, he realizes, but for creating a good All animals are equal, but some impression on others there’s nothing animals are more equal than others. to beat being totally and George Orwell catastrophically wrong. Animal Farm Michael Frayn Sweet Dreams We hold these truths to be self- evident: that all men are created equal It is one thing to show a man that he and women are created equal. is in an error, and another to put him Elizabeth Cady Stanton in possession of truth. “Declaration of Sentiments” John Locke First Women’s Rights Convention, 1848 38 An Essay Concerning Human We seek to get away from it all when Understanding it is only a part that is giving us trouble. The man who makes no mistakes does Shraga Silverstein not usually make anything. A Candle by Day William Connor Magee

ETHICAL PERSONALITY (SEE ALSO A man should never be ashamed to SAGES) own he has been in the wrong, which is but saying, in other words, that he is A good person in the worst sense of wiser today than he was yesterday. the word. Alexander Pope Mark Twain Thoughts on Various Subjects

The only guide to a man is his Mistakes are, after all, the foundations conscience; the only shield to his of truth, and if a man does not know memory is the rectitude and sincerity what a thing is, it is at least an of his actions. It is very imprudent to increase in knowledge if he knows walk through life without this shield, what it is not. because we are so often mocked by Carl Jung (1875-1961) the failure of our hopes and the A man of genius makes no mistakes; upsetting of our calculations; but with his errors are volitional and are the this shield, however the facts may portals of discovery. play, we march always in the ranks of James Joyce honor. If a man has greatness in him, it comes The study of error serves as a stimulating to light-not in one flamboyant hour, introduction to the study of truth. but in the ledger of his daily work. Walter Lippmann Beryl Markham ESCAPE West With the Night

Escape literature, like most escape Don’t say things. What you are media, generally proves to be a greater stands over you the while, and bondage than that which has been thunders so that I cannot hear what escaped from. you say to the contrary. Shraga Silverstein Ralph Waldo Emerson A Candle by Day Letters and Social Aims

We cannot get away from it all; we ETHICS (SEE ALSO MORALITY) are “it all.” Shraga Silverstein, A Candle by Day The world is well supplied with rude

people spouting high moral positions 39 about human rights, but it is noticeably lacking in those who worry It is often easier to fight for principles about the human being waiting in line than to live up to them. behind them at the automated-teller Adlai E. Stevenson machine while they balance their speech 1952 checkbooks. Owen Edwards If he does really think that there is no Town and Country distinction between virtue and vice, why, Sir, when he leaves our houses The immorality of morality. let us count our spoons. Henry Miller Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) referring to the fact that some moral systems demand a course of rigid action that may be I find that when I dislike what I see on inappropriate to the given situation, as in the stage I can be vastly amusing, but legalism when I write about something I like I

find that I am appallingly dull. I know only that that is what you feel Sir Max Beerbohm (1872-1956) good after and what is immoral is British author what you feel bad after. Ernest Hemmingway It is often said that second thoughts Death in the Afternoon are best. So they are in matters of

judgement, but not in matters of An ethical person ought to do more conscience. than he’s required to do and less than Cardinal John Newman (1801-1890) he’s allowed to do. English churchman, theologian Michael Josephson

quoted in Bill Moyer’s World of Ideas EVIL Morality is not really the doctrine of It was as though in those last minutes how to make ourselves happy but of he (Eichmann) was summing up the how we are to be worthy of happiness. lessons that this long course in human Immanuel Kant wickedness has taught us--the lesson Critique of Practical Reason of the fearsome, word-and-thought- defying banality of evil. There is ....but one categorical Hannah Arendt imperative, namely, this: Act only on Eichmann in Jerusalem that maxim whereby thou canst at the same time will that it should become a Evil is unspectacular and always universal law. human Immanuel Kant And shares our bed and eats at our Fundamental Principles of the Metaphysic own table. of Morals W.H. Auden

40 Herman Melville Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do It is foolhardy to think of the evil nothing. inclination as something which Edmund Burke occasionally assails us. We are its very habitation! The belief in a supernatural source of Shraga Silverstein evil is not necessary; men alone are A Candle by Day quite capable of every wickedness. Joseph Conrad, Under Western Eyes Just as the evil inclination causes evil to seem attractive to us, it causes good The resolution to avoid an evil is to seem repulsive to us. seldom framed till the evil is so far Shraga Silverstein advanced as to make avoidance A Candle by Day impossible. Thomas Hardy, Far from the Madding Crowd Often the best answer to the to the evil inclination is not “No!” but “Maybe.” Between two evils, I always pick the Shraga Silverstein one I never tried before. A Candle by Day Mae West Klondike Annie One has reached a high point in his moral development when he comes to For evil to succeed it is sufficient that regard it as “immature” to submit to good men do nothing. the evil inclination. Unattributed Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day EVIL INCLINATION One of the devices of the evil At times, the evil inclination is so inclination is to turn our attention strong that it seems a sin not to satisfy away from the present by heightening it, and, of course, not wanting to sin, our anticipation of the future. we give it satisfaction. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day One of the most potent weapons of the evil inclination in the last century has In our struggle with the evil been novelty. inclination, there is no such thing as Shraga Silverstein losing a battle to win the war. The A Candle by Day battle is the war. 41 The evil inclination is a rope that one A Candle by Day can either hang himself with or scale to G-d. We commit the sin and assume that all Shraga Silverstein our former good was insincere, A Candle by Day hypocritical. There is no greater homage we can pay to the evil inclination. The evil inclination occasionally Shraga Silverstein, A Candle by Day allows us to be tempted and not to fall, so that we may allow ourselves to be We must select the proper defense for tempted even further and fall even a particular onslaught with the evil deeper. inclination with the same care and Shraga Silverstein presence of mind that a painter A Candle by Day exercises in selecting the precise color for a particular effect. The first thing that a man must realize Shraga Silverstein in respect to the evil inclination, is that A Candle by Day he is at war and not the victim of a natural catastrophe. When we are not under attack by the Shraga Silverstein evil inclination, we must spend our A Candle by Day time building up our defenses in preparation for the next onslaught. There is no such thing as fighting a Shraga Silverstein losing battle with the evil inclination. A Candle by Day In that battle, as long as one is fighting, he is winning. Why can’t the evil inclination see its Shraga Silverstein illogic? Logic, in the ideal, demands a A Candle by Day view of the entire field. The evil inclination reduces its field to the size of its glance – and is perfectly logical To best the evil inclination, the mind in terms of what it sees! If the only must be quicker that the eye. thing one sees is a peppermint bar, Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day then, naturally, a peppermint bar becomes the world and there is We can increase our effectiveness nothing more logical than living for against the evil inclination by learning peppermint! to recognize the new forms of its old Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day weapons, so that they do not appear to us as new weapons for which we have not as yet devised defenses. Shraga Silverstein 42 EVOLUTION The reasonable man adapts himself to The resurrection – revival of the the world; the unreasonable one fittest; the world to come – persists in trying to adapt the world to supernatural selection. himself. Therefore, all progress Shraga Silverstein depends on the unreasonable man. A Candle by Day George Bernard Shaw

EXCELLENCE Some of the worlds greatest feats were We are what we repeatedly do. accomplished by people not smart Excellence then is not an act but a enough to know they were impossible. habit. Unattributed Aristotle Use what talents you possess; The Great spirits have always found woods would be very silent if no birds violent opposition from mediocrities. sang there except those that sang best. The latter cannot understand it when a Henry Van Dyke man does not thoughtlessly submit to hereditary prejudices but honestly and EXCESS courageously uses his intelligence. Less is more. Albert Einstein Robert Browning

The reward of a thing well done is EXCUSES having done it. Two wrongs don’t make a right, but Ralph Waldo Emerson they make a good excuse. Thomas Szasz (b. 1920) To be great is to be misunderstood.. American psychiatrist Ralph Waldo Emerson EXPECTATIONS (SEE ALSO GROWTH) Great work is done by people who are Treat a man as he is, and he will not afraid to be great. remain as he is. Treat a man as he Fernando Flores could be, and he will become what he should be. One can never consent to creep when Ralph Waldo Emerson one feels an impulse to soar. Helen Keller The only man who behaved sensibly was my tailor; he took my Excellence is in the details. Give measurement anew every time he saw attention to the details and excellence me, while all the rest went on with will come. their old measurements and expected Perry Paxton them to fit me. George Bernard Shaw 43

Do not do unto others as you expect I don't divide the world into the weak they should do unto you. Their tastes and the strong, or the successes and may not be the same. the failures, those who make it or George Bernard Shaw those who don't. I divide the world into learners and non-learners. Expecting the world to treat you fairly Benjamin Barber because you are a good person is like in When Smart People Fail expecting a bull not to attack you Carol Hyatt and Linda Gottlieb because you are a vegetarian. Dennis Wholey Experience isn’t interesting till it Some are so perfectly prepared for the begins to repeat itself--in fact, till it expected that they are defeated by the does that it hardly is experience. unexpected. Elizabeth Bowen The Death of the Heart Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day To most men, experience is like the stern lights of a ship, which illumine EXPERIENCE (SEE ALSO WISDOM) only the track it has passed.

Samuel Taylor Coleridge We learn from experience that men Table Talk never learn from experience. Bernard Shaw I have but one lamp by which my feet

One thing about experience is that are guided, and that is the lamp of when you don't have very much you're experience. I know of no way of apt to get a lot. judging the future but by the past. Patrick Henry Franklin P. Jones speech 1775 in Quote Magazine

I couldn't wait for success...so I went Experience is not what happens to a ahead without it. man; it is what a man does with what Jonathan Winters happens to him. Aldous Huxley If you risk nothing, then you risk Texts and Pretexts everything. Grena Davis Experience is never limited, and it is quoted by Kevin Sessums in Vanity Fair never complete; it is an immense sensibility, and a kind of huge spider- Information is pretty thin stuff unless web of the finest silken threads mixed with experience. suspended in the chamber of Clarence Day consciousness, and catching every air- The Crow's Nest borne particle in its tissue. 44 Henry James Many think they are learning from Partial Portraits experience when they are actually surrendering to it. Experience is a hard teacher because Shraga Silverstein she gives the test first, the lessons A Candle by Day afterwards. Vernon Law in This Week We must experience from our learning. Experience does not ever err; it is only Shraga Silverstein your judgment that errs in promising A Candle by Day itself results which are not caused by your experiments. Experience is a good teacher, but her Leonardo Da Vinci fees are very high. Notebooks W. R. Inge (1860-1954) We should be careful to get out of an Dean of St. Paul’s, London experience only the wisdom that is in it--and stop there; lest we be like the EXPERTS cat that sits down on a hot stove lid. An expert is a man who has made all She will never sit down on a hot stove the mistakes, which can be made in a lid again--and that is well; but also she very narrow field. will never sit down on a cold one Niels Bohr (1885-1962) anymore. Danish physicist Mark Twain Following the Equator EXPLORATION “Pudd’nhead and Wilson’s New Calendar” We shall not cease from exploration, and the end of all our exploring will Experience is the name everyone gives be to arrive where we started and to their mistakes. know the place for the first time. Oscar Wilde T.S. Eliot Lady Windermere’s Fan

In our desire to learn from experience, EXPRESSION we must not be too hasty to assume Beauty without expression is boring. that the situation confronting us is Ralph Waldo Emerson indeed the same as the experience we wish to learn from. EXTREMISM Shraga Silverstein What is objectionable, what is A Candle by Day dangerous about extremists is not that they are extreme, but that they are intolerant. The evil is not what they

45 say about their cause, but what they We must take care that our reaction to say about their opponents. one extreme is not so violent as to Robert Kennedy (1925-1968) thrust us to the other. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

46 F______

FABLE (SEE PARABLE) I have too much respect for the idea of God to make it responsible for such an FAILURE (SEE ALSO SUCCESS) absurd world. Georges Duhamel The happy people are failures because they are on such good terms with My religion consists of a humble themselves they don’t give a damn. admiration of the illimitable superior Agatha Christie spirit who reveals himself in the slight details we are able to perceive with FAITH (SEE ALSO ATHEISM, DOUBT; our frail and feeble mind. FAITHFULNESS) Albert Einstein

Faith is not knowledge of what the mystery of the universe is, but the Faith is to believe what you do not yet conviction that there is a mystery, and see; the reward for this faith is to see that it is greater than us. what you believe. Rabbi David Wolpe St Augustine Making Loss Matter (Riverhead Books) The great act of faith is when a man To be an atheist requires an decides that he is not G-d. indefinitely greater measure of faith Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes than to receive all the great truths (1841-1935) which atheism would deny. Joseph Addison Chance is perhaps the pseudonym of G-d when he does not wish to sign his We must be willing to get rid of the work. life we've planned, so as to have the Anatole France (1844-1924) French author life that is waiting for us.

Joseph Campbell Faith declares what the senses do not Nobody talks about God as those who see, but not the contrary of what they insist that there is no God. see. Blaise Pascal (1623-1662) Heywood Broun

Faith is often the boast of the man who is too lazy to investigate. F. M. Knowles (b.1877) 47 American journalist, playwright practically universal among non- believers, that G--d must be For those who believe in G-d no simpleminded. We readily grant that a explanation is needed; for those who great writer such as Joyce or Proust is do not believe in G-d no explanation is infinitely subtle and resourceful in possible. fashioning a novel; but we assume that Father John Lafarge (b.1880) in fashioning human history G-d will on the cures at Lourdes be heavy-handed and obvious. To believe only possibilities is not Accordingly, some believers conclude Faith, but mere Philosophy. that they know exactly what G-d has Sir Thomas Browne (1603-1682) English physician, author in mind and, vested with high office, could provide him with some much The most extraordinary thing about needed help. Unbelievers conclude the 20th century was the failure of G-d that they know what G-d would do if to die. The collapse of mass religious he existed, and that since those things belief, especially among the educated are not being done, he does not exist. and prosperous, had been widely and Glenn Tinder The Atlantic confidently predicted. It did not take place. Somehow, G-d survived, Faith is to believe what you do not yet flourished even. see; the reward for this faith is to see Paul Johnson The Quest for G-d (Harper Collins) what you believe. Saint Augustine

The only way to make a man You can do very little with faith, but trustworthy, is to trust him. Harry L. Stimson you can do nothing without it. in Harper's Magazine Samuel Butler Notebooks

Sometimes when I'm faced with an We are so constituted that we believe atheist, I am tempted to invite him to the most incredible things; and, once the greatest gourmet dinner that one they are engraved upon the memory, could ever serve, and when we have woe to him who would endeavor to finished eating that gourmet dinner, to erase them! ask him if he believes that there's a Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe cook. The Sorrows of Young Werther Ronald Reagan Speaking My Mind Simon & Schuster No amount of manifest absurdity...could deter those who Let us rid ourselves of the assumption, wanted to believe from believing. common among believers and Bernard Levin 48 The Pendulum Years to doubt everything. Both ways save Convictions are more dangerous us from thinking. enemies of truth than lies. Alfred Korzybski Friedrich Nietzsche Manhood of Humanity Human, All-too-Human Institute of General Semantics

I am an atheist still, thank G-d. Strong faith is the kind which does not Luis Bunuel allow itself to be troubled by the one quoted by Ado Kyrou per cent of perverse doubt which in Luis Bunuel: An Introduction constantly lurks in us, attempting to squelch all noble efforts, all great There are no atheists in the foxholes. enterprises of body, mind and soul, William Thomas Cummings attempting to conquer, in effect, the sermon 1942 ninety-nine per cent of faith. Strong

faith looks this unrealistic doubt in the No one is so thoroughly superstitious eye, shouts at it, “You lie!” and as the godless man. Harriet Beecher Stowe crushes it underfoot. Uncle Tom’s Cabin Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day By night an atheist half believes a God. FAITHFULNESS (SEE ALSO FAITH) Edward Young Night Thoughts on Life, Death, and Wither thou goest, I will go; and Immortality where thou lodgest, I will lodge; thy people shall be my people, and thy Man is certainly crazy. He could not God my God: Where thou diest, and make a mite, and he makes gods by there will I be buried: the Lord do so the dozen. to me, and more also, if aught but Michel De Montaigne death part thee and me. Bible, Ruth 1:16

If the triangles made a god, they O heaven! were man would give him three sides. But constant, he were perfect. Baron De Montesquieu Shakespeare The Persian Letters The Two Gentlemen of Verona

If G-d did not exist, it would be An ounce of loyalty is worth a pound necessary to invent him. of cleverness. Voltaire, Le Sottisier Elbert Hubbard The Note Book There are two ways to slide easily through life: to believe everything or 49 FALSEHOOD (SEE ERROR, TRUTH) The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table

One be humble out of pride. FAME (SEE ALSO PRIDE) Michel De Montaigne A celebrity is a person who works hard all his life to become well The greatest pleasure I know is to do a known, then wears dark glasses to good action by stealth, and to have it avoid being recognized. found out by accident. Charles Lamb Fred Allen

Treadmill to Oblivion Eminent posts make great men greater Fame is like a river, that beareth up and little men less. things light and swollen, and drowns Jean de la Bruyère (1645-1696) things weighty and solid. Francis Bacon FAMILY By giving children the means to reach Fame always brings loneliness. inside to pray, to start the search for Success is as ice cold and lonely as the solace when there seems nowhere to north pole. turn, is like enclosing a favorite Vicki Baum blanket in their luggage. Grand Hotel Jacquelyn Mitchard Parenting The celebrity is a person who is known for his well-knownness. Biologically, adults produce children. Daniel J. Boorstin Spiritually, children produce adults. The Image Most of us do not grow up until we have helped children do so. Thus do I would much rather have men ask the generations form a braided cord. why I have no statue, than why I have George F. Will one. Washington Post Cato the Elder quoted in Plutarch’s Parallel Lives Sooner or later we all quote our mothers. In the very books in which Bern Williams philosophers bid us scorn fame, they inscribe their names. No matter how old a mother is, she Cicero watches her middle-aged children for Pro Archia Poeta signs of improvement. Florida Scott Maxwell Fame usually comes to those who are The Measure of My Days (Knopf) thinking about something else. Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. 50 The only way we can ever teach a Joyce Maynard child to say “I’m sorry” is for him to At Home in the World (Picador USA) hear it from our lips first. Kevin Leman Before I got married I had six theories Making Children Mind Without Losing about bringing up children; now I Yours have six children and no theories. John Wilmot It is not giving children more that Earl of Rochester (1647-1680) spoils them; it is giving them more to English poet avoid confrontation. John Gray Men are generally more careful of the Children Are From Heaven (HarperCollins) breed of their horses and dogs than of their children. Raising kids is part joy and part William Penn (1644-1718) guerrilla warfare. religious leader, founder of Pennsylvania Ed Asner Being a husband is a whole-time job. The most important work you and I That is why so many husbands fail. will ever do will be within the walls of They cannot give their entire attention our own homes. to it. Harold B. Lee Arnold Benett (1867-1931) British novelist

We owe some of our finest qualities to It should be noted that children’s our parents’ excesses. games are not merely games; one Shraga Silverstein should regard them as their most A Candle by Day serious activities. Michel de Montaigne (1553-1592) Your children make it impossible to French essayist, moralist regret your past. They’re its finest fruits. On the dance floor, as in life, you're Anna Quindlen only as good as your partner. Black and Blue (Random House) Robin Marantz Henig in USA Today

It’s not only children who grow. Babies are always more trouble than Parents do too. As much as we watch you thought-and more wonderful. to see what our children do with their Charles Osgood lives, they are watching us to see what CBS Morning News we do with ours. I can’t tell my Babies help us to put the changing children to reach for the sun. All I can world into perspective too. Changing do is reach for it myself.

51 the world has to wait, when it's time to In the little world in which children change the baby. have their existence, whosoever brings Charles Osgood them up, there is nothing so finely CBS Morning News perceived and so finely felt as injustice. There is no way to be a perfect mother Charles Dickens and a million ways to be a good one. Great Expectations Jill Churchill Crime and Punishment Little children are still the symbol of the eternal marriage between love and A father is a man who expects his duty. children to be as good as he meant to George Eliot be. Romola Carolyn Coats Things Your Dad Always Told You Your children are not your children. But You Didn't Want to Hear (Nelson) They are the sons and daughters of Life’s If two people agree on everything, one longing for itself.... of them is unnecessary. You may house their bodies but not Billy Graham in the name of his wife, Ruth their souls. For their souls dwell in the house of Parenting is not an intellectual tomorrow, endeavor. It does not emanate from which you cannot visit, not even in the head. If it did, the smartest people your would be the best parents, and I have dreams. never noticed that. Good parenting is KGibran The Prophet rooted is a matter of how rooted you are in the steady soil of common We can’t form our children on our sense. The heart and the gut are what own concepts; we must take them and make a good parent, not the head. love them as G-d gives them to us. Children have never been very good at Johann Wolfgang von Goethe listening to their elders, but they have Hermann und Dorothea never failed to imitate them. James Baldwin Children need models more than they Nobody Knows My Name need critics. Joseph Joubert There is no finer investment for any Pensees community than putting milk into babies. Childhood is not from birth to a Winston Churchill, speech 1943 certain age and

52 at a certain age clapping and saying, “Good answer! The child is grown, and puts away Good answer!”? Your family, that’s childish who. things. Dennis Miller Childhood is the kingdom where Ranting Again (Doubleday) nobody dies. The family is the essential presence - Nobody matters, that is. the thing that never leaves you, even if Edna St. Vincent Millay you find you have to leave it. “Childhood is the Kingdom Where Nobody Bill Buford Dies” in The New Yorker

How sharper than a serpent’s tooth it Perhaps the greatest social service that is can be rendered by anybody to the To have a thankless child! country and to mankind is to bring up Shakespeare a family. But here again, because there King Lear is nothing to sell, there is a very general disposition to regard a married No one knows the true worth of a man woman’s work as no work at all, and but his family. The dreary man to take it as a matter of course that she drowsing, drop-jawed, in the should not be paid for it. commuter train, the office bore, the George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) taciturn associate - may be the pivot of a family’s life, welcomed with hugs, If you bungle raising your children, I told the day’s news, asked for advice. don’t think whatever else you do well No longer Mr. B., but Dad. No longer matters very much. a nonentity but a man possessed of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis (b.1929) skills and wisdom; courageous and capable, patient and kind. Respected The commonest fallacy among women and loved. is that simply having children makes Pam Brown one a mother – which is as absurd as Quoted by Carmen Renee Berry believing that having a piano makes and Lynn Barrington one a musician. in Daddies and Daughters Sydney J. Harris (b.1917) (Simon & Schuster) American journalist

Your family cuts you the most slack When I was a boy of fourteen, my and gives you the most chances. father was so ignorant I could hardly When the quiz-show host says, “Name stand to have the old man around. But something you find in a refrigerator,” when I got to be twenty-one, I was and the rest of American is screaming, astonished at how much he had “You moron!” at their TV sets, who’s learned in seven years.

53 Mark Twain (1835-1910) Fear is sharp-sighted, and can see things underground, and much more in We do not like the idea that children the skies. are as wild outwardly as we are Miguel de Cervantes inwardly. Don Quixote de la Mancha Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Let me assert my firm belief that the only thing we have to fear is fear FANATIC itself. A fanatic is one who can’t change his Franklin D. Roosevelt, mind and won’t change the subject. speech 1933 Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965) Those who love to be feared, fear to Fanaticism consists in redoubling your be loved. Some fear them, but they effort when you have forgotten your fear everyone. aim. Jean Pierre Camus (1582-1652) George Santayana (1863-1952) Imagination is the dream of the FATHERS (SEE FAMILY) conscious mind. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day FEAR

Cowardice, as distinguished from panic, is almost always simply a lack The only thing we have to fear is fear of ability to suspend the functioning of itself. the imagination. Ernest Hemingway Franklin D. Roosevelt (1899-1961)

Fear is the darkroom where negatives FICTION are developed. If you write fiction you are, in a sense, E.L. in the AA Grapevine corrupted. There’s a tremendous corruptibility for the fiction writer We experience moments absolutely because you’re dealing mainly with free from worry. These brief respites sex and violence. These remain the are called panic. basic themes, they’re the basic themes Cullen Hightower of Shakespeare whether you like it or Never fear shadows. They simply not. mean there's a light shining Anthony Burgess (b.1917) British Author somewhere nearby.

Ruth E. Renkel The novel, if it be anything, is contemporary history, an exact and 54 complete reproduction of social If you believe everything you read, surroundings of the age we live in. you better not read. George Moore (1852-1933) Japanese proverb Irish Author It is better to remain silent and be FOOD thought a fool than to open one's One should eat to live, not live to eat. mouth and remove all doubt. Moliere (1622-1673) Abraham Lincoln

FOOLS Fools rush in where angels fear to There are two kinds of fools: one says, tread. ‘This is old, therefore it is good’; the Alexander Pope other says, ‘This is new, therefore it its better’. Most people would rather die than W. R. Inge (1860-1954) think; in fact, they do so. Dean of St. Paul’s, London Bertrand Russell

Anyone who thinks they're important FOOLISHNESS is usually just a pompous moron who The greatest of faults, I should say, is can't deal with his or her own pathetic to be conscious of none. insignificance and the fact that what Carlyle they do is meaningless and inconsequential.. He who asks is a fool for five minutes, William Thomas but he who does not ask remains a fool forever. It ain't what you don't know that gets Chinese proverb you into trouble. It's what you know for sure that just ain't so. Only two things are infinite, the Mark Twain universe and human stupidity, and I'm not sure about the former. Wise men learn more from fools, than Albert Einstein fools from the wise. Unattributed The difference between genius and stupidity is that genius has its limits. Against stupidity the very gods Albert Einstein themselves contend in vain. Wilhelm Gottfried von Lessing What luck for the rulers that men do not think. FORCE Adolf Hitler The use of force alone is but temporary. It may subdue for a

55 moment; but does not remove the What is tolerance? it is the necessity of subduing again: and a consequence of humanity. We are all nation is not governed, which is formed of frailty and error; let us perpetually to be conquered. pardon reciprocally each other's folly Edmund Burke (1729-1797) that is the first law of nature. Irish philosopher, statesman Voltaire

FORGIVENESS (SEE ALSO ANGER) FORESIGHT Anger makes you smaller, while One must learn to look ahead without forgiveness forces you to grow beyond worrying ahead. what you were. Shraga Silverstein Cherie Carter-Scott A Candle by Day If Love Is a Game, These Are the Rules (Broadway Books) FREEDOM (SEE ALSO EQUALITY,

FREEDOM OF SPEECH, RIGHTS) When we forgive, we free ourselves from the bitter ties that bind us to the Freedom to be your best means one who hurt us. nothing unless you’re willing to do Claire Frazier-Yzaguirre in A Man Named Dave, by Dave Pelzer your best. (Dutton) Colin Powell in Priorities

‘I can forgive, but I cannot forget’, is Nothing is more liberating than to only another way of saying, I cannot fight for a cause larger than yourself, forgive’. H.W. Beecher (1813-1887) something that encompasses you but is American clergyman, editor, writer not defined by your existence alone. Dave Weinbaum Many promising reconciliations have broken down because, while both Liberty lies in the hearts of men and parties came prepared to forgive, women; when it dies there, no neither party came prepared to be constitution, no law...no court can forgiven. save it.... Charles Williams (1886-1945) Learned Hand, speech 1944 British author Is life so dear, or peace so sweet, as to It is easier to forgive an enemy than to be purchased at the price of chains and forgive a friend. slavery? Forbid it, Almighty G-d!--I William Blake know not what course others may take; but as for me, give me liberty, or give me death! 56 Patrick Henry, speech 1775 Franklin D. Roosevelt speech 1941 There can be no real freedom without the freedom to fail. Man is born free, and everywhere he Eric Hoffer is in chains. The Ordeal of Change Jean-Jacques Rousseau The Social Contract Let every nation know, whether it wishes us well or ill, that we should Man is condemned to be free. pay any price, bear any burden, meet Jean-Paul Sartre any hardship, support any friend, Existentialism and Humanism oppose any foe to assure the survival and the success of liberty. Liberty means responsibility. That is John F. Kennedy why most men dread it. speech inaugural address, 1961 George Bernard Shaw Man and Superman None can love freedom heartily, but The Revolutionist’s Handbook good men; the rest love not freedom. John Milton Many politicians lay it down as a self- The Tenure of Kings and Magistrates evident proposition that no people ought to be free until they are fit to use Liberty is the right to do whatever the their freedom. The maxim is worthy of laws permit. the fool in the old story who resolved Baron De Montesquieu not to go into the water until he had De l’esprit des lois learned to swim. Lord Macaulay (1800-1859) O liberty! O liberty! What crimes are English historian committed in thy name! Madame Jeanne-Marie Roland Our youth want freedom to be slaves attributed, quoted in Alphonse de of their impulses. Lamartine’s Histoire des Girondins Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day We look forward to a world founded upon four essential human freedoms. Posterity: you will never know how The first is freedom of speech and much it has cost my generation to expression--everywhere in the world. preserve your freedom. I hope you The second is freedom of every person will make good use of it. to worship G-d in his own way-- John Quincy Adams everywhere in the world. The third is freedom from want...everywhere in Any existence deprived of freedom is the world. The fourth is freedom from a kind of death. fear.....anywhere in the world. General Michel Aoun

57 from oppression; for if he violates this What a curious phenomenon it is that duty he establishes a precedent that you can get men to die for the liberty will reach to himself. of the world who will not make the Thomas Paine little sacrifice that is needed to free themselves from their own individual When even one American who has bondage. done nothing wrong is forced by fear Bruce Barton to shut his mind and close his mouth, then all Americans are in peril. Those that can give up essential liberty Harry S. Truman to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety. You know that being an American is Ben Franklin more than a matter of where your parents came from. It is a belief that The love of liberty is the love of all men are created free and equal and others; the love of power is the love of that everyone deserves an even break. ourselves. Harry S. Truman William Hazlitt The greatest pleasure in life is doing I do not agree with what you have to what others say you cannot do. say, but I'll defend to the death your Unattributed right to say it. Patrick Henry Eternal vigilance is the price of freedom. Give me liberty or give me death. Raymonde Uy Patrick Henry I would rather die standing than live Give me your tired, your poor, your on my knees! huddled masses yearning to breathe Emiliano Zapata free. Emma Lazarus, FREEDOM OF SPEECH (SEE ALSO engraved on the Statue of Liberty FREEDOM)

Never doubt that a small group of The most stringent protection of free thoughtful committed citizens can speech would not protest a man falsely change the world, indeed it is the only shouting fire in a theater and causing a thing that ever has. panic. Margaret Mead Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. judicial decision He that would make his own liberty secure must guard even his enemy 58 If all mankind were minus one, were Jean de la Fontaine (1621-1695) of one opinion, and only one person French poet, fabulist were of contrary opinion, mankind would be no more justified in Lots of people want to ride with you silencing that one person, than he, if in the limo, but what you want is he had the power, would be justified someone who will take the bus with in silencing mankind. you when the limo breaks down. John Stuart Mill Ophrah Winfrey The only way to make sure people you agree with can speak is to support the Friendship is like a bank account. You rights of people you don’t agree with. can't continue to draw on it without Eleanor Holmes Norton making deposits. quoted in New York Post Bits & Pieces

I defeat what you write, but I would Always tell your problems to people give my life to make it possible for who don't like you. They're the only you to continue to write. ones who want to hear them. Sam Ewing Voltaire, letter 1770

Freedom of Speech does not give a Forsake not an old friend: for the new person the right to shout ‘Fire!’ in a is not comparable to him: a new friend crowded theatre. is as new wine: when it is old, thou Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes (1841-1935) shalt drink it with pleasure. American jurist Bible, Ecclesiastics 9:10

People hardly ever make use of the When the sun shines on you, you see freedom they have, for example, your friends, friend’s are the freedom of thought; instead they thermometers by which one may judge demand freedom of speech as a the temperature of our fortunes. Marguerite Blessington compensation. Commonplace Book Sören Kierkegaard (1813-1855) Danish philosopher There is no man so friendless but what he can find a friend sincere enough to FRIENDSHIP tell him disagreeable truths. Without friends, you’re like a book Edward Bulwer-Lytton that nobody bothers to pick up. What Will He Do With It? Quoted in Psychology of Women Quarterly A friend is, as it were, a second self. Nothing is more dangerous than a Cicero friend without discretion; even a De Amicitia prudent enemy is preferable.

59 In prosperity our friends know us; in The holy passion of friendship is of so adversity we know our friends. sweet and steady and loyal and Churton Collins enduring a nature that it will last Aphorisms through a whole lifetime, if not asked to lend money. Have no friends not equal to yourself. Mark Twain Confucius Pudd’nhead Wilson Analects “Pudd’nhead Wilson’s calendar

G-d gives us relatives; thank G-d, we Think where man’s glory most begins can choose our friends. and end Addison Mizner And say my glory was I had such The Cyni’s Calendar friends. W.B. Yeats A friend may well be reckoned the “The Municipal Gallery Re-visited masterpiece of nature. Ralph Waldo Emerson What is a friend? A single soul Essays, “Friendship” dwelling in two bodies. Aristotle (384-322 BC) The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a friend is to be one. The danger in being closely knit is Ralph Waldo Emerson becoming miserably entangled. Essays, “Friendship” Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A true friend is the greatest of all blessings, and the one that we take the We must not become enemies with least care of all to acquire. ourselves in order to make friends La Rochefoucauld with others. Maxims Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they One can do without people but one has arrive, and it is only by this meeting need of a friend. that a new world is born. Chinese Proverb Anais Nin The Diary of Anais Nin The only way to have friends is to be one. True friendship is never serene. Ralph Waldo Emerson Marie De Sevigne letter 1671 Each friend represents a world in us; a world possibly not born until they

60 arrive, and it is only in meeting them that a new world is born. FUTURE Anais Nin I never think of the future. It comes soon enough. Friends are those people who know Albert Einstein the words to the song in your heart and sing them back to you when you The best thing about the future is that have forgotten the words. it comes one day at a time. Unattributed Abraham Lincoln

A true friend stabs you in the front. I have realized that the past and future Oscar Wilde are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all FRUSTRATION there is. One of our most costly errors is Alan Watts regarding frustration as an indication of the unreality of our aspirations I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have rather than as a stage to be expected in seen yesterday and I love today! the progress towards our goal. William Allen White Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very We must live with frustration without clean. It’s perfect when it arrives and becoming frustrated with life. it puts itself in our hands. It hopes Shraga Silverstein we’ve learned something from A Candle by Day yesterday. John Wayne (1907-1979) We must not confuse frustration with failure. We should all be concerned with the Shraga Silverstein future because we will have to spend A Candle by Day the rest of our lives there. C. F. Kettering (1876-1958) FUN American engineer, industrialist There is so much “fun” to be had nowadays that we close our eyes to Future. That period of time in which thought to render ourselves capable of our affairs prosper, our friends are true attaining it. and our happiness is assured. Shraga Silverstein Ambrose Bierce (1842-1914) A Candle by Day American author

61 In worrying about what the future will bring, we lose what the present is Sometimes we credit ourselves with bringing. having foreseen the future, when the Shraga Silverstein truth is that we have manufactured it. A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Let us think less of what the future will bring us and more of what we will Map out your future, but do it in pencil. bring the future. Jon Bon Jovi Shraga Silverstein

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GENERALIZATIONS Love your neighbor, yet pull not All generalizations are dangerous, Down your hedge. even this one. George Herbert (1593-1633) Alexandre Dumas (1824-1895) English clergyman, poet

GENEROSITY (SEE GIVING) True kindness presupposes the faculty of imagining as one’s own the GENIUS suffering and joy of others. Mediocrity knows nothing higher than André Gide (1869-1951) itself, but talent instantly recognizes I am of the opinion that my life genius. belongs to the whole community and Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (1859-1930) as long as I live it is my privilege to do The measure of a master is his success for it whatever I can. I want to be in bringing all men round to his thoroughly used up when I die. opinion twenty years later. George Bernard Shaw

R.W. Emerson (1803-1882) American essayist, poet, philosopher Do not do unto others as you would that they should do unto you. Their The work of a genius is not always a tastes may not be the same. work of genius. George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A man who sees another man on the street corner with only a stump for an There are far more intellectual than arm will be so shocked the first time spiritual geniuses. he’ll give him sixpence. But the Shraga Silverstein second time it’ll only be a three penny A Candle by Day bit. And if he sees him a third time, he’ll have him cold-bloodedly handed GENOCIDE over to the police. A single death is a tragedy, a million The Threepenny Opera deaths is a statistic. Bertroit Brecht (1898-1956) Josef Stalin (1879-1953) trans. Desmond I. Vesey and Eric Bentley

We do not quite forgive a giver. The GIVING (SEE ALSO MERCY) hand that feeds us is in some danger of being bitten. R.W. Emerson (1803-1882) 63 We do not love people so much for the Those who bring sunshine into the good they have done us, as for the lives of others cannot keep it from good we have done them. themselves. Leo Tolstoy (1828-1910) Sir James Barrie He who wishes to secure the good of The more sympathy you give, the less others has already secured his own. you need. Confucius (551-478BC) Malcolm Forbes in Forbes If I give you my idea and you give me yours, then we each have two ideas, If you haven't any charity in your and together we have four. heart, you have the worst kind of heart Gerard I. Nierenberg trouble. Bob Hope He that defers his charity until he is dead is, if a man weighs it rightly, Simple human solidarity was the rather liberal of another man’s goods shtetl's source of strength...A ghost of than his own. the shtetl lingers on in the modern Francis Bacon (1561-1626) living institutions of Israel. Amos Elon We must be aware of the dangers, The Israelis which lie in our most generous wishes. Some paradox of our nature leads us, If nature has made you a giver, your when once we have made our fellow hands are born open, and so it is in men the objects of our enlightened your heart. And though there maybe interest, to go on to make them the times when your hands are empty, objects of our pity, then of our your heart is always full, and you can wisdom, ultimately of our coercion. give things out of that. Lionel Trilling (1905-1975) Frances Hodgson Burnett American critic A Little Princess (Lippincott) GLORY Nothing costs so much as what is One who does great deeds out of a given us. desire for glory is acting from impure Thomas Fuller motives, but one who seeks glory as Gnomologia an incentive to the doing of good deeds is being nobly motivated. Liberality consists less in giving a Shraga Silverstein great deal than in gifts well timed. A Candle by Day La Bruyere Les Caracteres

64 GOALS (SEE ALSO GROWTH) question of statistical probability, the worship of God is scarcely as frequent You must have long range goals to in those places as in houses built in his keep you from being frustrated by honor. There is the story of the father short range failures. who said, “Come on, we can sing Charles C. Noble hymns on the beach,” to which the little girl replied, “But we won’t, will Where there is no vision, the people we?” perish. George Hedley Bible, Proverbs The Superstitions of the Irreligious (Macmillan) Hitch your wagon to a star. Ralph Waldo Emerson God is a circle whose center is Society and Solitude everywhere and its circumference nowhere. Slight not what’s near through aiming Empedocles at what’s far. Euripides, Rhesus What really interests me is whether

God had any choice in the creation of One does not discover new lands the world. without consenting to lose sight of the Albert Einstein shore for a very long time. Andre Gide (1869-1951) G-d – our invisible means of support. Shraga Silverstein A goal is more than an end to strive A Candle by Day for; it is a strong arm which leads one along, where otherwise he would I call to G-d founder or falter. In the midst of those who don’t; Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day They think it odd, That I won’t In advancing towards our goal we Come to my senses must not be blind to the riches along And cease from idle prayer, the way. From words that melt to air, Shraga Silverstein And leave no echo A Candle by Day To show that they were there. They think it odd; G-D (SEE ALSO BELIEF, FAITH, TRUST) Not G-d.

It is possible to worship God while Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day driving along the highway or sitting in a baseball park. But if we raise the 65 Men should turn to G-d as leaves to GOOD PERSON (SEE ETHICAL the sun. PERSONALITY) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day GOVERNMENT Every society gets the kind of criminal Our being casual would be fine if G-d it deserves. What is equally true is that had become casual too – He has not. every community gets the kind of law Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day enforcement it insists on. Robert Kennedy (1925-1968)

Yes, we are all G-d’s children but let When great questions end, little parties us not be too hasty to say, “Father will begin. understand.” Walter Bagehot (1826-1877) Shraga Silverstein English economist, critic A Candle by Day GRATITUDE GOOD (SEE ALSO ETHICS; EVIL) Did you ever say "Thank you" to G-d? I don't mean "Great is the grandeur of Some are so far removed from Your glory,'' goodness that they cannot conceive of Or "Blessed be the Keeper of this others as being sincerely good. clod,'' Shraga Silverstein But simply "Thank you,'' with no A Candle by Day added story,

If you haven't, then re-appraise your We are sometimes kept from doing attitude, good by a too lofty impression of For though you've paid Him praise, goodness. You owe Him gratitude. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

We must learn to be connoisseurs of We are alive to be thankful. the good, to stop and exclaim, “Ah, Shraga Silverstein what an exquisitely beautiful deed!” A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house We must not wait for the good in us to into a home, a stranger into a friend. be brought out; we must carry it out. Melody Beattie Shraga Silverstein Reader's Digest A Candle by Day

66 GREATNESS (SEE ALSO ETHICAL M. K. Gandhi (1869-1948) PERSONALITY) GROWTH (SEE ALSO APATHY, Great spirits have always encountered COURAGE, EXPERIENCE, FAITH, GOALS, violent opposition from mediocre OPPORTUNITY, RIGHTS) minds. Albert Einstein You can’t help someone get up a hill A man should be respected more for without getting closer to the top what he has made of himself than for yourself. what he is. Gen. H. Norman Schwartzkopf Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day We must take things as they come, but that does not mean that we must leave Some people are more talented than them that way. others. some are more educationally Shraga Silverstein privileged than others. But we all A Candle by Day have the capacity to be great. Greatness comes with recognizing that To be is to be perceived. your potential is limited only by how Bishop Berkeley you choose, how you use your freedom, how resolute you are-in To be; what does it mean to be? We short, by your attitude. And we are all have no right to ask such a question. Neils Bohr free to choose our attitude.

Peter Koestenbaum The prelude to leaps and bounds is

step by step In G-d’s world, everything is great Shraga Silverstein enough to think about; but we are not A Candle by Day great enough to think about everything. Most people have a desire to look at Shraga Silverstein the exception instead of the desire to A Candle by Day become exceptional.

John C. Maxwell Our aim is not to be superhuman, but Developing the Leader Within You (Nelson) super humans. Shraga Silverstein There will come the time when you A Candle by Day believe everything is finished. That

will be the beginning. GREED Louis L'Amour There is enough for the needy but not Lonely on the Mountain for the greedy. 67 Goals: We all live under the same sky, but we don't have the same horizon. Ability will never catch up with the Konrad Adenauer demand for it. Malcolm S. Forbes It takes as much courage to have tried in Forbes and failed as it does to have tried and succeeded. The glory of great men should always Ann Morrow Lindbergh be measured by the means they have used to acquire it. Opportunity: Opportunity's favorite La Rochefucauld disguise is trouble. Frank Tiger I have had more trouble with myself in Graham, Texas, Rotary Scandal Sheet than with any other man I have ever met! Expect people to be better than they Dwight L Moody are; it helps them to become better. But don't be disappointed when they Anyone can make a mistake. A fool are not; it helps them to keep trying. insists on repeating it. Merry Brown in National Enquirer There's is nothing that is wrong with America that can't be fixed with what We judge ourselves by what we feel is right with America. capable of doing, while others judge Pres. Bill Clinton us by what we have already done acceptance speech, 1993 Henry Wordsworth Longfellow Imprisoned in every fat man, a thin Apathy is the glove into which evil one is wildly signaling to be let out. slips its hand. Cyril Connolly (1903-1974) Bodie Thoene British critic Munich Signature Most of us will never do great things, If opportunity doesn't knock, build a but we can do small things in a great door. way. Milton Berle Bits and Pieces

The reward for work well done is the Dream and deed are not as different as opportunity to do more. many think. All the deeds of men are Jonas Salk dreams at first... Theodore Herzl The past should be a springboard, not Postscripts, Altneuland a hammock. Ivern Ball

68 In the long run the pessimist may be You can send a message around the proved right, but the optimist has a world in one fifth of a second, yet it better time on the trip. may take years for it to get from the Daniel L. Reardon outside of a man's head to the inside. Quote magazine Charles F Kettering

We are born into a vast room whose Too often, our minds are locked on walls consist of a thousand doors of one track. We are looking for red-so possibility. Each door is flung open to we overlook blue. Many Nobel prizes the world outside, and the room is have been washed down the drain filled with light and noise. We close because someone did not expect the some of the doors deliberately, unexpected. sometimes with fear, sometimes with John D. Turner calm certainty. Others seem to close Textile Chemist and Colorist by themselves, some so quietly that we do not even notice. A Chinese general put it this way: ‘If Terry Teachopout the world is to be brought to order, my City Limits nation must first be changed. If my nation is to be changed, my hometown ...Dr. Albert Schweitzer did, Rachel must be made over. If my hometown Carson did, Mother Teresa did and is to be reordered, my family must Tom Dooley did. History is replete first be set right. If my family is to be with heroic people who realized they regenerated, I myself must first be.’ could make a difference, and did- Purnell Bailey despite the conventional wisdom of the day. Courage is not the absence of fear but Theodore Hesburgh - with Jerry Reedy the ability to carry on with dignity in G-d Country, Notre Dame spite of it. Scott Torow To err is human to admit it is The Burden of Proof superhuman. Doug Larson There are no speed limits on the road United Feature Syndicate to excellence. David W Johnson To be is to be someone in particular. Santanyana Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better. I do the very best I know how...and I Emile Coue mean to do so until the end. widely promoted formula for Lincoln self-healing by autosuggestion

69 There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of Our remedies oft in ourselves do lie, improving, and that’s your own self. Which ascribe to heaven. Aldous Huxley Shakespeare Time Must Have a Stop All’s Well That Ends Well

At thirty man suspects himself a fool; People often say that this or that Knows it at forty, and reforms his person has not yet found himself. But plan; the self is not something one finds, it At fifty chides his infamous delay, is something one creates. Pushes his prudent purpose to resolve; Thomas Szasz In all the magnanimity of thought The Second Sin Resolves; and re-resolves; then dies the same. I celebrate myself, and sing myself, Edward Young And what I assume you shall assume, Night Thoughts on Life, Death and For every atom belonging to me as Immortality good belongs to you. Walt Whitman Resolve to be thyself; and know that Leaves of Grass he, Who finds himself, loses his misery! GUIDANCE Matthew Arnold It is not enough to be shown the right Self-Dependence path; we must be taught how to walk upon it. A man never speaks of himself Shraga Silverstein without losing something. What he A Candle by Day says in his disfavor is always believed, but when he commends himself, he GUILT arouses mistrust. True guilt is guilt at the obligation one Michel De Montaigne owes to oneself to be oneself. R. D. Laing (b.1927) British psychiatrist This above all: to thine self be true, And it must follow, as the night the A man must train his conscience to a day, sin-pain response. Thou canst not then be false to any Shraga Silverstein man. A Candle by Day Shakespeare Hamlet

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HABIT (SEE ALSO RIGHTS) HALACHA (SEE LAWS)

Habit with him was all the test of HAPPINESS truth; We have no more right to consume It must be right: I’ve done it from my happiness without producing it than to youth. consume wealth without producing it. To fall into a habit is to begin to cease Morell, Candida to be. George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Miguel De Unamuno The Tragic Sense of Life One filled with joy preaches without preaching. The chains of habit are too weak to be Mother Teresa felt until they are too strong to be broken. The search for happiness is one of the Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) chief sources of unhappiness. Eric Hoffer Some think they are preserving The Passionate State of Mind tradition when they are only perpetuating a habit. Happiness is like coke--something you Shraga Silverstein get as a by-product in the process of A Candle by Day something else. Aldous Huxley Habit – The contemptible, gazed at too Point Counter Point long, becomes temptible. Shraga Silverstein Happiness is an imaginary condition, A Candle by Day formerly often attributed by the living to the dead, now usually attributed by The greatest difficulty in the breaking adults to children, and by children to of habits lies in their having come to adults. seem the natural way of reacting, so Thomas Szasz that even though we tell ourselves that The Second Sin we should break the habit, we do not essentially believe that we should. So of cheerfulness, or a good temper-- Shraga Silverstein the more it is spent, the more of it A Candle by Day remains. Ralph Waldo Emerson

71 The Conduct of Life Happiness is an attainable human condition; bliss is reserved for the The plainest sign of wisdom is a dead. continual cheerfulness; her state is like Shraga Silverstein that of things in the regions above the A Candle by Day moon, always clear and serene. Michel De Montaigne Happiness, in this world, is a means; in the next world it is the end. There is no stronger craving in the Shraga Silverstein world than that of the rich for titles, A Candle by Day except that of the titled for riches. Hesketh Pearson (1887-1964) The truly happy man is the one who British biographer has everything money can’t buy. Shraga Silverstein You cannot always have happiness, A Candle by Day but you can always give happiness. Author Unknown If you ever find happiness by hunting for it, you will find it as the old Ask yourself whether you are happy, woman did her lost spectacles - on her and you cease to be so. own nose all the time. John Stuart Mill (1806-1873) Josh Billings

Grief can take care of itself, but to get You will never be happy if you the full value from joy you must have continue to search for what happiness somebody to divide it with. consists of. You will never live if you Mark Twain (1835-1910) are looking for the meaning of life. Albert Camus One is never as unhappy as one thinks, nor as happy as one had hoped to be. He who has so little knowledge of Francois, Duc de La Rochefoucauld (1613- human nature as to seek happiness by 1680) French writer, moralist changing anything but his own disposition will waste his life away in fruitless efforts. We all want to be happy, and we’re all Samuel Johnson going to die… You might say those are the only two unchallengeably true If we'd stop trying to be happy we facts that apply to every human being could have a pretty good time. Edith Wharton on this planet. William Boyd (b. 1952) British novelist

72 HASTE You spend all your life trying to do A nation rushing hastily to and fro, something they put people in asylums busily employed in idleness. for. Phaedrus (1st century AD) Jane Fonda (b.1937) Roman fabulist You can pick out actors by the glazed What is the use of running when you look that comes into their eyes when are on the wrong road? the conversation wanders away from Proverb themselves. Michael Wilding (1912-1979) HATE British Actor. Always remember others may hate you but those who hate you don’t win We need heroes, people who can unless you hate them. And then you inspire us, help shape us morally, spur destroy yourself. us on to purposeful action--and from Richard Nixon (b.1913) time to time we are called on to be those heroes, leaders for others, either I will permit no man to narrow and in a small, day-to-day way, or on the degrade my soul by making me hate world's larger stage. him. Robert Coles Booker T. Washington in Lives of Moral Leadership

A hero is no braver than an ordinary HEALTH man, but he is brave five minutes G-d heals, and the doctor takes the fee. longer. Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790) R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) American essayist, poet, philosopher HELL Hell is oneself; Hell is alone, the other figures in it merely projections. There There is no more heroic pugilist than a is nothing to escape from and nothing soul battered by evil, blinking through to escape to. One is always alone. its bleeding wounds, seeking an George Eliot (1819-1880) opening to strike a blow for the good. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day HEROES Acting is the expression of a neurotic HISTORY impulse. It’s a bum’s life. Quitting Man is history-making creature who acting, that’s the sign of maturity. can neither repeat his past nor leave it Marlon Brando (b. 1924) behind. W.H. Auden

73 The Dyer’s Hand Every time history repeats itself the It has been said that though G-d price goes up. cannot alter the past, historians can; it Anonymous is perhaps because they can be useful to Him in this respect that He tolerates History is Philosophy teaching by their existence. examples. Samuel Butler Henry St. John (Viscount Bolingbroke) Erewhorn Revisited (1678-1751) History is a horse that gallops past the English politician, intriguer window, and you have to decide whether to jump or not. The principal office of history I take to Shimon Peres be this: to prevent virtuous actions Israel’s Foreign Minister from being forgotten, and that evil words and deeds should fear an To be ignorant of what occurred infamous reputation with posterity. before you were born is to always Tacitus (c.55-c.120) remain a child. For what is the worth Roman historian of human life, unless it is woven into the life of our ancestors by the records Those who cannot remember the past of history? are condemned to repeat it. Cicero George Santayana (1863-1952) Orator American philosopher, poet

There is nothing to be learned from History will be kind to me for I intend history anymore. We’re in science to write it. fiction now. Winston Churchill Allen Ginsberg quoted in Christopher Butler, After the Science and technology revolutionize Wake our lives, but memory, tradition and myth frame our response. Expelled What experience and history teach is from individual consciousness by the this--that people and government rush of change, history finds its never have learned anything from revenge by stamping the collective history, or acted on principles deduced unconsciousness with habits, values, from it. expectations, dreams. The dialectic G.W.F. Hegel between past and future will continue Philosophy of History to form our lives. Arthur M. Schlesinger, Jr. A historian is a prophet in reverse. Friedrich von Schlegel in Athenaeum 74 Hegel was right when he said that we Nachum Goldman in pamphlet, 1916, learn from history that man can never in which he maintained that in many learn anything from history. ways the Zionists were much closer in George Bernard Shaw national spirit than the assimilationists, who had received their influence from History is a nightmare from which I am the liberal thinkers of Britain and trying to awake. Stephen Dedalus France. ‘The young national Jewish Ulysses movement, on the other hand, had made the national idea the central HOLLYWOOD concept of its philosophy: Fichte, Hollywood’s a place where they’ll pay Hegel, Legarde and the other leading you a thousand dollars for a kiss, and spirits of the German national idea- fifty cents for your soul. they were also our teachers. It was no Marilyn Monroe (1926-1962) accident that Theodor Herzl, the genius who founded modern political In a mere half-century, films have Zionism, came from German culture gone from silent to unspeakable. to the Jewish national idea.' Doug Larson Laqueur

With Hollywood, any similarity To the injustice committed in our between "reel" and "real" is purely name we must not add the injustice of coincidental. forgetting. Shraga Silverstein Hannah Vogt A Candle by Day I know of no crime in the history of mankind more horrible in its details HOLOCAUST (SEE ALSO ANTI- than the treatment of the Jews. SEMITISM) Major Walsh address at the Nuremberg Trials It was the biggest and most enormous dance of death of all times. The holocaust was certainly a human Quote from the newly released tragedy. But it was not only a human diary of Adolf Eichmann tragedy. It was also a Christian tragedy, a tragedy for Western It is a blessing to governments, that civilization, and a tragedy for all human beings do not think for humankind. The killing was done by themselves. people to other people, while still Adolf Hitler other people stood by. The perpetrators, where they were not 'No culture has had such a decisive actually Christians arose from a impact on the Jews as the German', 75 Christian culture. The bystanders most It is an error to associate honesty with capable of helping were Christians. simplicity. It is far simpler to be a David S. Wyman thief than an honest man. The Abandonment of the Jews. Shraga Silverstein Wyman describes himself as ‘a Christian, A Candle by Day a Protestant of Yankee and Swedish descent.’ Tell people the truth because they know the truth anyway. The solidarity of modern civilization is Jack Welch jeopardized by the persecuting policy of Germany. Being truthful, when you know it will Herbert Dunelm cost you, is the true test of honesty. Bishop of Durham, 1936 Dave Weinbaum

The Yellow Spot: The Extermination Truth never damages a cause that is of the Jew in Germany- just. Title of book published in London, 1936. Mohandas Gandhi

Don't give Hitler a posthumous An excuse is worse and more terrible victory. than a lie, for an excuse is a lie Emile Fackenheim guarded. phil. Heb University Pope John Paul II

HOME The truth is an ambition, which is A man’s home may seem to be his beyond us. castle on the outside; inside, it is more Peter Ustinov often his nursery. Clare Boothe Luce (b.1903) American diplomat, writer HUMAN (SEE MAN)

Home is the place where, when you HUMANITY have to go there, Many love humanity without loving They have to take you in. men. Robert Frost (1875-1963) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

HONESTY HUMILITY (SEE ALSO PRIDE) Honesty is the best police. Shraga Silverstein It is always the secure who are A Candle by Day humble. G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936)

76 The meek shall inherit the earth. The Marriage of Heaven and Hell Psalms 37:11 Whilst shame keeps its watch, virtue is Plenty of people want to be pious, but not wholly extinguished in the heart. no one yearns to be humble. Edmund Burke La Rochefoucaulde Rejections of the Revolution in France Maxims We are ashamed of everything that is Humility is a virtue all preach, none real about us: ashamed of ourselves, of practice, and yet everybody is our relatives, of our incomes, of our contented to hear. The master thinks it accents, of our opinions, of our good doctrine for his servant, the laity experience, just as we are ashamed of for the clergy, and the clergy for the our naked skins. laity. George Bernard Shaw John Selden Man and Superman Table Talk The more things a man is ashamed of, Modesty is the only sure bait when the more respectable he is. you angle for praise. George Bernard Shaw Lord Chesterfield Man and Superman Letters to His Son I never wonder to see men wicked, but A modest man is usually admired--if I often wonder to see them not people ever hear of him. ashamed. Edgar Watson Howe Jonathan Swift Ventures in Common Sense Thoughts on Various Subjects Man is the only animal that blushes. When anyone remains modest, not Or need to. after praise but after blame, then his Mark Twain modesty is real. Following the Equator, Jean Paul Richter “Pudd’nhead Wilson’s New Calendar.” Hesperus It is harder to be a good winner than a With people of only moderate ability good loser. modesty is mere honesty; but with Shraga Silverstein those who possess great talent it is A Candle by Day hypocrisy. Arthur Schopenhauer HUMOR Parerga and Paralipomena Wit ought to be a glorious treat, like caviar. Never spread it about like Shame is Pride’s cloak. marmalade. William Blake Noel Coward 77 Mark Twain Humor is an affirmation of dignity, a Following the Equator declaration of man’s superiority to all “Pudd’nhead Wilson’s New Calendar” that befalls him. Romain Gary Only man has dignity; only man, Promise at Dawn therefore, can be funny. Father Ronald Knox (1888-1957) Wit consists in seeing the resemblance British clergyman, writer between things, which differ, and the difference between things, which are Laughter is the shortest distance alike. between two people. Madame De Stael, De l’Allemagne Victor Borge

Humor is emotional chaos remembered in tranquillity. HYPOCRISY James Thurber Some forsake whatever good may be in New York Post in them through a desire not to be hypocrites. The secret source of Humor itself is Shraga Silverstein not joy but sorrow. There is no humor A Candle by Day in heaven.

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IDEALISM We must lose our romanticism without An idealist is a man who looks at a losing our idealism. rose, and thinks, because it smells Shraga Silverstein sweet, it will make better soup than a A Candle by Day cabbage. H. L. Mencken (1880-1956) IDENTITY American journalist If we decide too positively what we It is terrible to witness a loss of are, we will not be able to take idealism in others, to see the soul, as it advantage of what, at different times, were, departing, and the body left an we happen to be. empty husk. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day We all have it in us. What we are is Let us not assume, just because we what we manage to get out of us. have been cockeyed idealists, that it is Shraga Silverstein cockeyed to be an idealist. A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day We must remember what we are, so that we can be ourselves even when Ideal – Many ideals deteriorate into we are not ourselves. idols. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

IGNORANCE We lose most of our ideals not Ignorance is not innocence, but sin. because we find them to be mistaken, Robert Browning (1812-1889) but because we find if difficult to abide by them. How can people walk around Shraga Silverstein unembarrassed with nothing on their A Candle by Day minds? Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

79 Ignorance is bliss only to the ignorant. IMPORTANCE Shraga Silverstein We often make the mistake of A Candle by Day regarding as most important that which is most pressing. Ignorance is subject to a vicious cycle Shraga Silverstein in which one shies away from learning A Candle by Day for fear of revealing his ignorance and so confirms himself in his ignorance IMPROVEMENT (SEE GROWTH) even m more. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day INACTION Upon the plains of hesitation bleach There are two types of sheltered the bones of countless millions, who existences, one good, the other, bad. when on the dawn of victory paused to The first is being sheltered from the rest, and there resting died. rain; the second, from a knowledge of John Dretschmer the rain’s existence. Shraga Silverstein All mankind is divided into three A Candle by Day classes: those that are immovable, those that are movable, and those that move. IMAGINATION Benjamin Franklin Imagination allows us to escape the predictable. It enables us to reply to INCONSISTENCY the common wisdom that we cannot Do I contradict myself? Very well soar by saying, “Just watch!” then I contradict myself, (I am large, I Bill Bradley Values of the Game (Artisan) contain multitudes). Walt Whitman (1819-1892) I am enough of an artist to draw freely People who honestly mean to be true upon my imagination. Imagination is really contradict themselves much more important than knowledge. more rarely than those who try to be Knowledge is limited. Imagination 'consistent'’ encircles the world. Dr. Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809-1894) Albert Einstein American writer, physician

Reason is the natural order of truth; INDEPENDENCE but imagination is the organ of Too many who have no minds have meaning. C. S. Lewis minds of their own. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

80 INDIFFERENCE (SEE APATHY) He who makes a beast of himself gets rid of the pain of being a man. Dr. Johnson INDISCRETION We censure one for being indiscreet, Show me a sane man and I will cure but not for having something to be him for you. Carl Gustav Jung indiscreet about. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to talk, mad to live, mad to be saved, desirous INDIVIDUALISM of everything at the same time, the Be yourself -- only if you are ones who never yawn or say a something. Shraga Silverstein commonplace thing, but burn, burn, A Candle by Day burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across To be an individualist does not mean the stars and in the middle you see the not to do what everyone else is doing, blue centerlight pop and everybody but not to do things because everyone goes,`Awww.' else is doing them. Jack Keroac Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day In a mad world, only the mad are sane. Akira Kurosawa INJURY Time must not heal (in our eyes) the There was never a genius without a wounds we have inflicted on others. tincture of madness. Shraga Silverstein Aristotle A Candle by Day Sanity is a cozy lie. INNOVATION Susan Sontag

A ‘new thinker’, when studied closely INSIGHT is merely a man who does not know What often passes for "insight" is what other people have thought. F.M. Colby (1865-1925) sometimes no more than heightened observation. Shraga Silverstein INSANITY A Candle by Day Mad, adj.: Affected with a high degree of intellectual independence. Ambrose Bierce, The Devil's Dictionary 81 INSPIRATION Some consciously shun inspirational If you have integrity, nothing else experiences in order not to burden matters. If you don’t have integrity, their mediocrity. nothing else matters. Shraga Silverstein Alan Simpson, former Senator A Candle by Day In the end, integrity is all you’ve got. The prologue to inspiration is Jack Welch aspiration. Shraga Silverstein Excellence and competitiveness are A Candle by Day totally compatible with honesty and integrity. The A student, the four- We often make the mistake of minute miler, the high jump record regarding the spark [of inspiration] as holder-all strong winners-can achieve a constant-burning flame, and instead those results without resorting to of catching the spark and fanning it cheating. People who cheat are simply into a flame within ourselves, we weak. choose to sit in its glow. Jack Welch Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day Never compromise yourself it is all you got. INSULT Janis Jopplin An injury is much sooner forgotten than an insult. INTENSITY Lord Chesterfield We mistake intensity for Letters to His Son meaningfulness. Shraga Silverstein It is not he who reviles or strikes you A Candle by Day who insults you, but your opinion that these things are insulting. INTERMARRIAGE (SEE ASSIMILATION) Epictetus Encheiridion INTROSPECTION (SEE ALSO SELF-

INSIGHT) A stiff apology is a second insult. G.K. Chesterton (1874-1936) We spend our lives with less

deliberation than we do our money. INTEGRITY (SEE ALSO TRUTH) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for something you are ISRAEL (SEE ALSO ZIONISM) not. Andre Gide 82 Through a historical catastrophe-the nothing goes and everything matters -- destruction of Jerusalem by the invites a variation when it comes to Emperor of Rome... - I was born in Israel. There, everything goes and one of the cities of the Diaspora, but I everything matters. always deemed myself as one who Richard Bernstein was really born in Jerusalem. S.Y. Agnon Anti-Semitism continues to grow-and so do I. (American Jews) sense that while Theodor Herzl Palestine is a necessity for the bodies of other Jews, it is an indispensability There was the boot; but there was also for their own souls. the longing. Steinberg Rabbi Adin Steinsaltz A Partisan Guide to the Jewish Problem In Israel, in order to be a realist you Philip Roth's statement of some years must believe in miracles. ago -- that in the West everything goes David Ben Gurion (1886-1973) and nothing matters, while in the East Israeli statesman

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JERUSALEM JEWISH IDENTITY (SEE ALSO Yerushalayim symbolizes the sublime ASSIMILATION) truth that the potential for holiness and purity are inseparably woven into the Someone shocked me by pointing out fabric of ordinary, human existence... to me that all my books-my Rabbi Mendelson autobiography and my three novels- trans. Lawrence Kelemen, Jewish Observer seem to have the same theme. Each is June '92 about a man who is coming to terms with himself, who is looking back at Jerusalem is a neocracy, the only city who he was, and who he is and where the vote is given to the wondering who he will become. And dead...For Jews, she has always been each man is a Jew. the Capital of Memory. When I read it now, I see it Amos Elon plainly. I see that no matter how far I Jerusalem ran away from my Jewishness, it was Jerusalem is a city where memory is always there. Sometimes it was relentlessly...evoked every day by the behind me, or to the side, or in front of contesting sides. me, but it was always there. …. Amos Elon Kirk Douglas Jerusalem Climbing the Mountain – My search for Meaning In the Hebrew name Yerushalayim, (Simon & Schuster 1997) the suffix ayim implies a duality...an I am as remote from Judaism as from implied parity between the heavenly Christianity. What binds me to and the earthly, peace and war, Judaism is a feeling of duty, a feeling goodliness and sin. The parity even of reverence. I am tied to this religious extended to her dramatic party in the same way as I am bound landscape....The harsh stony to my mother, my family, my mountains of arid desert that fall away fatherland. Such feelings should not on one side of her contrast sharply be dissected with an anatomical knife; with the cultivated hills of wine, fig, one should not trace the deeper milk and honey on the other. Amos Elon underlying motives, it does not help us Jerusalem to become better men. Abraham Moritz Stern

84 mathematician and one of the first Jewish were elaborated. How can you adjust professors in Germany in 19C to Gabriel your Judaism to a culture that will not Riesser.) stand still. Eugene B. Borowitz I am first a Jew and an Israeli only The Condition of Jewish Belief, pg. 31 second. Moshe Dayan JEWS/JEWRY (SEE ALSO CHOSEN

PEOPLE) Thus, the insistence on Jews remaining Jews, which may take the The Jews have little sense of a Hell religiously indifferent forms of liking waiting under their feet. Their hell is Yiddish jokes, supporting Israel, more a personal dissatisfaction born of raising money for North African Jews, mediocrity...It's origins lie in an innate and preferring certain kinds of food, Judaic awareness of Amsagolah and has a potentially religious its demands upon the conscience. meaning...Dead in one, two or three Ben Gurion generations, it may come to life in the Recollections fourth. Jacob Neusner ...and I know that even the terrible American Judaism price our enemies paid touched the hearts of many of our men. I am a Jew because the faith of Israel Yitzchak Rabin demands no abdication of my mind. I Chief of Staff, 6 Day War am a Jew because the faith of Israel demands every sacrifice of my soul. I Yes, I am a Jew, and when the am a Jew, because in all places where ancestors of the right and honorable there are tears and suffering the Jew gentlemen were brutal savages in an weeps. I am a Jew because in every unknown island, mine were priests in age when the cry of despair is heard the temple of Solomon. the Jew hopes. Benjamin D'Israeli Edmond Fleg responding to an opponent in Parliament Trans. Louise Wise A similar statement is attributed to U.S. Senator Judah P. Benjamin, in reply to Since the emancipation began, Jews another senator: have never been able to arrive at a The gentleman will please remember new theological equilibrium. ... that when his half-civilized ancestors German philosophical idealism, were hunting wild boar in the forests Zionist nationalism, Reconstructionist of Silesia, mine were the princes of naturalism, Buberian existentialism-all the earth. spoke to a world which disappeared virtually the moment those doctrines

85 Every great man now has his disciples, Climbing the Mountain, pg. 173 and it is always Judas who writes the biography. I wish I had discovered the beauty of Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) religion earlier in my life. I feel sad for the time I have lost, and when I Pessimism is a luxury that a Jew can think about that I feel extremely never allow himself. resentful of the Jewish teachers of my Golda Meir (1898-1978) childhood who put such an emphasis on the form and fundamentalism of the The pursuit of knowledge for its own religion, but not on the spirituality. sake, an almost fanatical love of Kirk Douglas justice and the desire for personal Climbing the Mountain, pg. 173 independence – these are the features of the Jewish tradition which make me A religion of mere faith is a religion of thank my stars that I belong to it. the soul; a religion which is way of Albert Einstein (1879-1955) life is a religion of the whole man. Eliezer Berkovits The Condition of Jewish Belief, pg. 26 JOURNALISM Doctors bury their mistakes. Lawyers JUDGEMENT hang them. But journalists put theirs To make judgements on things that are on the front page. great and high, a soul of the same Anonymous stature is needed, otherwise we ascribe to them the vices which belong to us. It was long ago in my life as a simple Michel de Montaigne (1553-1592) reporter that I decided that facts must French essayist, moralist never get in the way of truth. James Cameron (1911-1985) To make a sound judgment in human British journalist relations, it is not enough to have the facts of the situation; one must also JOY (SEE HAPPINESS) have the fancies. Shraga Silverstein JUDAISM (SEE ALSO SPIRITUALITY, A Candle by Day TALMUD) Do not judge people by a messy car! I am extremely resentful of the Jewish Some things just have to give. teachers of my childhood, who put Nancy Swan Drew such an emphasis of the form and Love Pearls fundamentalism of the religion, but not on the spirituality. Kirk Douglas 86 JURIES English author A jury consists of twelve persons chosen to decide who has the better JUSTICE lawyer. Even those who apparently possess no Robert Frost (1875-1963) sense of justice seem to be acutely American poet sensitive to the injustices committed against them. Our civilization has decided…that Shraga Silverstein determining the guilt or innocence of A Candle by Day men is a thing too important to be trusted to trained men… When it Injustice is relatively easy to bear: wants a library catalogued, or the solar what stings is justice. system discovered, or any trifle of that H. L. Mencken (1880-1956) American journalist kind, it uses up its specialists.

G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936) Justice must tame, whom mercy The public do not know enough to be cannot win. experts, yet know enough to decide Sir George Savile, Lord Halifax (1633- 1695) between them. English statesman, author Samuel Butler (1835-1902)

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KINDNESS (SEE ALSO GIVING) Real knowledge is to know the extent of one's ignorance. It is unfortunate that we speak of Confucius “going out of our way” to help someone. Our knowledge often gets in the way Shraga Silverstein of our understanding. A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day The cheering of spirits that our conversation brings to the sick results Truth is eternal, knowledge is not so much from his forgetting his changeable. It is disastrous to confuse sickness as from his experiencing them. something else in the world besides it. Madeleine L'Engle Shraga Silverstein An Acceptable Time (Farrar Strau and A Candle by Day Giroux)

His knowledge of books had in some We should be good – for nothing. Shraga Silverstein degree diminished his knowledge of A Candle by Day the world. William Shenstone (1714-1763) You can't assume that kindness is an English poet inherited trait. It is learned behavior. Katie Couric A learned fool is one who has read everything, and simply remembered it. KNOWLEDGE (SEE ALSO EDUCATION, Josh Billings (1818-1885) American humorist EXPERIENCE, SAGES, SILENCE, UNDERSTANDING, WISDOM) Some people will never learn Never mistake knowledge for wisdom. anything; for this reason, because they One helps you make a living; the other understand everything too soon. helps you make a life. Alexander Pope (1688-1744) Sandra Carey

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LANGUAGE (SEE SPEECH) If you have ten thousand regulations you destroy all respect for the law. LASHON HARAH (SEE INSULT) Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965)

One of the greatest delusions in the LAWS world is the hope that the evils of this Law is not suggestion, it is force. George Washington world can be cured by legislation. Thomas B. Reed (1829-1902)

American lawyer, politician The greatest happiness of the greatest number is the foundation of morals The law often allows what honor and legislation. forbids. Jeremy Bentham (1748-1832) William Saurin (1757-1839) English philosopher, political theorist, jurist Irish politician

... [Recognizing] the human capacity First we must teach the sense of duty, for evil, or just for plain screwing up; then the laws. that is why rules are important. ... Shraga Silverstein Having rules that are respected make it A Candle by Day harder for people to break them. This is a more subtle, but in the long run a We can go straight only by following more trustworthy form of compassion the Ruler. that ... softness of heart. Shraga Silverstein David Horwitz A Candle by Day Radical Son: A Generational Odyssey LAWYERS I’ve been told that since the beginning I once heard you say that it took you of civilization, millions and millions twenty years to recover from your of laws have not improved on the Ten legal training – from the habit of mind Commandments one bit. that is bent on making out a case Ronald Reagan (b.1911) rather than on seeing the large facts of

I know no method to secure the repeal a situation in their proportion. W.H. Page (1855-1918) of bad or obnoxious laws so effective American diplomat, publisher to Woodrow as their stringent execution. Wilson Ulysses S. Grant (1822-1885)

89 LEADERSHIP (SEE ALSO ORGANIZATION) LIBERTY (SEE FREEDOM)

We hang the petty thieves and appoint LIFE the great ones to public office. Live your life in the manner that you Aesop would like your kids to live theirs. Michael Levine When I was a boy I was told that Lessons at the Halfway Point (Celestial anybody could become President; I'm Arts) beginning to believe it. Life is now in session. Are you Clarence Darrow present? B. Copeland LEVEL-HEADEDNESS We should certainly be level-headed-- Life is like a ten-speed bicycle. Most but with the heights, not the depths. of us have gears we never use. Shraga Silverstein Charles M. Schulz A Candle by Day Most people believe they see the world as it is. However, we really see LIBERALS the world as we are. They act as if they supposed that to be Anonymous very sanguine about the general improvement of mankind is a virtue If it were possible to talk to the that relieved them from taking trouble unborn, one could never explain to about any improvement in particular. them how it feels to be alive, for life is John, Lord Morley (1838-1923) washed in the speechless real. British writer, Liberal politician Jacques Barzun The House of Intellect We who are liberal and progressive know that the poor are our equals in Is life worth living? This is a question every sense except that of being equal for an embryo, not for a man. to us. Samuel Butler Lionel Trilling (1905-1975) Note-Books American critic Life is the art of drawing sufficient I sit on a man’s back, choking him and conclusions from insufficient making him carry me, and yet assure premises. myself and others that I am very sorry Samuel Butler for him and wish to ease his lot by all Note-Books possible means – except by getting off his back. Life is an incurable disease. Leo Tolstoy (1828-1910) Abraham Cowley 90 To Dr. Scarborough There is no cure for birth and death save to enjoy the interval. Birth, and copulation, and death. George Santayana That’s all the facts when you come to Soliloquies in England brasstacks. T.S. Eliot Life’s but a walking shadow, a poor Sweeney Agonistes player That struts and frets his hour upon the Life is made up of marble and mud. stage Nathaniel Hawthorne The House of Seven Gables And then he is heard no more: it is a tale As far as we can discern, the sole Told by an idiot, full of sound and purpose of human existence is to fury, kindle a light in the darkness of mere Signifying nothing. being. Shakespeare Macbeth Carl Jung Memories, Dreams, Reflections Life is (like a) stage; Life can only be understood And all the men and women merely backwards; but it must be lived players; forwards. They have their exits and their Soren Kierkegaard entrances; Life And one man in his time plays many parts, We are always beginning to live, but His acts being seven ages. are never living. Shakespeare Marcus Manilius As You Like It Astronomica I spent the afternoon musing on Life. Life is a foreign language: all men If you come to think of it, what a mispronounce it. queer thing Life is! So unlike Christopher Morley anything else, don’t you know, if you Thunder on the Left see what I mean. P.G. Wodehouse There are no classes in life for My Man Jeeves beginners; right away you are always asked to deal with what is most May you live all the days of your life. difficult. Jonathan Swift (1667-1745) Rainer Maria Rilke The Notebooks of Malte Laurids Brigge We are always getting ready to live, but never living.

91 R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) He who has a why to live for can bear American essayist, poet, philosopher almost any how. Friedrich Nietzsche Live and help live. Shraga Silverstein I love living. I have some problems with my A Candle by Day life, but living is the best thing they’ve come up with so far. We must take care not to convert the Neil Simon "ugly facts of life" into the "facts of ugly life. LISTENING Shraga Silverstein As I get older, I’ve learned to listen to A Candle by Day'' people rather than accuse them of things. When one can no longer change his Po Bronson way of life, he stops regarding it as a quoted in Publishers Weekly "way" of life and comes to regard it as life itself. Don’t confuse being “soft” with Shraga Silverstein seeing the other guy’s point of view. A Candle by Day George Bush All the Best, George Bush (Scribner) Life is a tragedy for those who feel; and a comedy for those who think. Listening is as important as talking. If Chinese Proverb you're a good listener, people often compliment you for being a good How we spend our days is, of course, conversationalist. how we spend our lives. Gov. Jesse Ventura Annie Dillard Seek first to understand and then to be Life is the art of drawing without an understood. Most people do not listen eraser. with the intent to understand: they John Gardner listen with the intent to reply. They’re filtering everything through their own Life is pain, highness. Anyone who paradigms, reading their tells you differently is selling autobiography into other people’s something. William lives. Goldman, Stephen R. Covey The Princess Bride The Seven Habits of Highly effective People (Simon & Schuster) Get busy living, or get busy dying. Stephen King, The Shawshank Redemption

92 LITERATURE remain unchanged. They had cried at A classic is something that everybody an onion. They live in the same wants to have read and nobody wants manner. Certain experiences affect to read. them deeply, but almost as soon as the Mark Twain (1835-1910) experience has passed, it is as if it had never occurred. All that is literature seeks to Shraga Silverstein communicate power: all that is not A Candle by Day literature, to communicate knowledge. Thomas de Quincey (1785-1859) English author We teach everything but how to live. We have even forgotten that it is a "The pen is mightier than the sword," subject. and it is, therefore, even more Shraga Silverstein important to know when to sheathe the A Candle by Day first than the second. Shraga Silverstein LOGIC A Candle by Day One cannot be perfectly logical unless he is perfectly good or perfectly evil. Modern literature spurns moralizing in Shraga Silverstein favor of demoralizing. A Candle by Day Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day There is nothing more illogical than cold logic. The great danger in modern literature Shraga Silverstein is that it would have us accept as a A Candle by Day description of reality, what is actually an interpretation of it. LONELINESS Shraga Silverstein Loneliness is to endure the presence of A Candle by Day one who does not understand. Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915) A truly great library contains something in it to offend everyone. Most men are not aware of the very Jo Godwin significant distinction as to whether their loneliness is caused by the LIVING world's having left them behind or Many live life in the same way that their having left the world behind. they watch a movie. They may be Shraga Silverstein deeply moved by the film, even A Candle by Day moved to the point of tears; but ten minutes out of the theater and it is as if they had never been there at all. They 93 LOVE (SEE ALSO MARRIAGE) Love is a kind of warfare. To fall in love is to create a religion Ovid, Ars Amatoria that has a fallible god. Jorge Luis Borges Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing in each other but Whoever said love is blind is dead looking outward together in the same wrong. Love is the only thing that lets direction. us see each other with the remotest Antoine De Saint-Exupery accuracy. Wind, Sand, and Stars Martha Beck Expecting Adam All’s fair in love and war. Francis Edward Smedley Courtship is exciting and romantic Frank Fairleigh because it thrives on the edge of Love is the child of illusion and the disaster. It co-exists with the threat parent of disillusion. that, at any moment, it could all fall Miguel De Unamuno apart and be lost forever. To expect a The Tragic Sense of Life lifelong commitment of marriage to evoke the excitement and adventure Every theory of love, from Plato created by the fragility of courtship - down, teaches that each individual well, as they say in Texas, that dog loves in the other sex what he lacks in just won't hunt. himself. Karen Scalf Linamen G. Stanley Hall (1844-1924) Pillow Talk, The Intimate Marriage >From American psychologist, philosopher, A to Z educator

It is impossible to love and to be wise. It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but Francis Bacon to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all.

W.M. Thackeray (1811-1863) If we judge of love by its usual effects, English author it resembles hatred more than friendship. Love is not blind; that is the last thing La Rochefoucauld it is. Love is bound; and the more it is Maxims bound the less it is blind.

G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936) It is with true love as it is with ghosts; everyone talks of it, but few have seen Many people when they fall in love it. look for a little haven of refuge from La Rouchefoucauld the world, where they can be sure of Maxims 94 being admired when they are not William Shakespeare admirable and praised when they are not praiseworthy. Love is but the discovery of ourselves Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) in others, and the delight in the recognition. For all my education, Alexander Smith accomplishments, and so-called 'wisdom' ... I can't fathom my own Intense love does not measure, it just heart. gives. Michael Caine, Mother Teresa Hannah and Her Sisters Goodness is the only investment that In this world of extremes, we can only never fails. love too little. Henry David Thoreau Rich Cannarella No, the opposite of love is Why love if losing hurts so much ... I indifference. have no answers anymore ... only the Unattributed life I have lived. ... The pain now is part of the happiness [then]. LOYALTY Anthony Hopkins, To be sure, the dog is loyal. But why, Shadowlands on that account, should we take him as an example? He is loyal to men, not to We come to love not by finding a other dogs. perfect person but by learning to see Karl Kraus (1874-1936) an imperfect person perfectly. Austrian poet, journalist

Sam Keen, To Love and Be Loved LYING (SEE ALSO TRUTH)

To love for the sake of being loved is The great mass of people…will more human, but to love for the sake of easily fall victim to a big lie than to a loving is angelic. small one. Alphonse de Lemartine Adolf Hitler (1889-1945)

To fear love is to fear life, and those The most dangerous of all falsehoods who fear life are already three parts is a slightly distorted truth. dead. G. C. Lichtenberg (1742-1799) German physicist, writer Bertrand Russell

Ironically, the purpose of most of our The course of true love never did run lying is to preserve the good opinion smooth. of men. 95 Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

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MADNESS Schizophrenic behavior is a special What a wee little part of a person's life strategy that a person invents in order are his acts and his words! His real life to live in an unlivable situation. is led in his head, and is known to R. D. Laing (b.1972) none but himself. All day long, the mill of his brain is grinding, and his MAN thoughts, not those other things, are If we may believe our logicians, man his history. These are his life, and they is distinguished from all other are not written, and cannot be written. creatures by the faculty of laughter. Every day would make a whole book Joseph Addison (1672-1719) of 80 000 words-365 books a year. Biographies are but the clothes and Perhaps man is the only being that can buttons of the man-the biography of properly be called idle. the man himself cannot be written. Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) Mark Twain

A person who is going to commit an To be truly human, we must seek that inhuman act invariably excuses which is more than human. himself saying, ‘I’m only human, after Jacob Agus all’. in The Condition of Jewish Belief Sydney J. Harris (b.1917) American journalist When the human personality is dissected into dehumanized fragments Man is the only animal that laughs and for the purpose of analysis, it becomes weeps; for he is the only animal that is ever more difficult to regain the struck with the difference between feeling of the mystery of man as "the what things are and what they might image of God." have been. Jacob Argus William Hazlitt (1778-1830) in The Condition of Jewish Belief, pg. 17 English essayist No animal admires another animal. Every animal leaves traces of what he Blaise Pascal (1623-1662) was; man alone leaves traces of what If a man could appreciate the grandeur he created. Jacob Bronowski in one atom of his body he would be The Ascent of Man ashamed not to be great. 97 Shraga Silverstein in, and it says "Whoops, we were A Candle by Day wrong." Married women do better on nearly everything you can measure: Our bodies are earth stations enabling children's well-being, sexual our souls to survive on earth until they satisfaction, financial well-being. And return to the world of spirit whence men do much better married than they came. single -- in the same job married men Shraga Silverstein tend to earn more than single men. A Candle by Day Diane Sollee Quoted by Pam Belluck in New York Times MANAGEMENT (SEE ORGANIZATION) One advantage of marriage is that, MANNERS when you fall out of love with him or he falls out of love with you, it keeps Manners are just a formal expression you together until you fall in again. of how you treat people. Judith Viorst in Redbook Molly Ivins Since the early 1950's the divorce rate MARRIAGE (SEE ALSO LOVE) in the U.S.A. has increased significantly. Interestingly, it was in A man called the Social Security the early 50's that television invaded office where I work and requested an the home and began dominating estimate of his benefits upon family life, especially in the evening. retirement. After I gave him the In an average American family, TV is information, he inquired about his on seven hours a day, 49 hours a wife’s benefits. I asked if she had ever week. One study suggests that the worked. “She has worked all her life typical American couple engages in making me happy.” That was nice, I less than one hour of meaningful, one- commented, but had she ever worked to-one conversation per week. Each of under Social Security? these two people, however, is likely “No” he said. “We made an agreement top spend more than twenty hours a when we got married. I would make week staring at a TV. People talk the living and she would make the about watching a TV "together", but living worthwhile.” the two things - watching television Reader’s Digest; Feb. 1986 and togetherness-are mutually exclusive. You can't watch television The experts used to be saying -- and I and truly communicate or be intimate was one of them -- that women do at the same time. It's one or the other. better single than they do being Ask yourselves, what's more married. Now the research is coming important. Because I Said So 98 Andrews and McMeel “The Revolutionist’s Handbook”

Sometimes it was worth all the When two people are under the disadvantages of marriage just to have influence of the most violent, most that: one friend in an indifferent insane, most delusive, and most world. transient of passions, they are required Erica Jong to swear that they will remain in that Fear of Flying excited, abnormal and exhausting continuously until death do them part. There are few women so perfect that George Bernard Shaw their husbands do not regret having Getting Married married them at least once a day. La Bruyere Marriage is the only adventure open to Les Caracteres the timid. Voltaire So they were married--to be the more Pensees d’un Philosophe together-- And found they were never again so Men marry because they are tired; much together, women because they are curious. Both Divided by the morning tea, are disappointed. By the evening paper, Oscar Wilde By the children and tradesmen’s bills. A Woman of No Importance Louis MacNeice “Les Sylphides” Marriage is a bribe to make a housekeeper think she’s a Marriage can be compared to a cage: householder. the birds outside despair to get in and Thornton Wilder those within despair to get out. The Merchant of Yonkers Michel de Montaigne A man is in general better pleased when he has a good dinner upon his It doesn’t much signify whom one table, than when his wife talks Greek. marries, for one is sure to find next Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) morning it is someone else. Samuel Rogers A man likes his wife to be just clever Table Talk enough to comprehend his cleverness, and just stupid enough to admire it. Marriage is popular because it Israel Zangwill (1864-1926) combines the maximum of temptation with the maximum of opportunity. A wise woman will always let her George Bernard Shaw husband have her way. Man and Superman R. B. Sheridan (1751-1816) 99 Paul Eldridge (b.1888) It is not marriage that fails; it is the American writer people that fail. All that marriage does is to show people up. The tyrant dies and his rule is over; H. E. Fosdick (1878-1969) the martyr dies and his rule begins. Sören Kierkegaard (1813-1855) Keep your eyes wide open before Danish philosopher marriage, and half-shut afterwards. Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790)

MATERIALISM (SEE ALSO AMERICA) Many a man in love with a dimple makes the mistake of marrying the The world is progressing and whole girl. resources are becoming more Stephen Leacock (1869-1944) abundant. I’d rather go into a grocery Canadian humorist and economist store today than to a king’s banquet a The value of marriage is not that hundred years ago. Bill Gates adults produce children, but that Forbes ASAP children produce adults. Peter de Vries (b. 1910) The problem with borrowing money is American writer that as soon as one has, one inevitably To be happy with a man you must begins to think of it as one's own. One understand him a lot and love him a becomes used to it, treats it like little. To be happy with a woman you family, and may even come to resent must love her a lot and not try to or lose sight of the fact that it must all understand her at all. someday leave to visit someone else. Andrew Tobias Helen Rowland (1875-1950) in Money Angles American journalist

Our problem is not only that industrial MARTYRDOM societies have failed to keep all of A thing is not necessarily true because their promises, but that they have a man dies for it. succeeded in some ways beyond all Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) expectations. Abundance was once a If a man hasn’t discovered something distant dream, to be postponed to a that he will die for, he isn’t fit to live. hereafter of milk and honey; today, Martin Luther King (1929-1968) most Americans are affluent. Universal mass education was once a Man is ready to die for an idea, utopian goal... provided that idea is not quite clear to Kenneth Keniston him. 100 How the New Generation Got That Way in I’m tired of love, I’m tired of Rhyme, Philosophy for a New generation (Bierman But Money gives me pleasure all the and Gould) time.

Hilaire Belloc

“Fatigued” The trick to happy living these days is to quit trying to keep up. There is Those who have some means think simply too much to try and keep up that the most important thing in the with, and people who try end up world is love. The poor know that it is prostrate in dark closets, weeping money. because they still haven't installed Gerald Brenan Windows '95 or can't distinguish Thoughts in a Dry Season Sharon Stone from Julia Whatzername ... What makes all doctrines plain and It's a glorious time to be an clear? American but the glories come at you About two hundred pounds a year. so relentlessly, so multitudinously, And that which was prov’d true that they will finish you off unless you before. ration the intake. Nikita Kruschev, Prove false again? Two hundred poor dolt, once said the Soviet Union more. would bury us. He didn't know that, Samuel Butler left alone, we would bury ourselves Hudibras under our own riches. Russel Baker It has been said that the love of money New York Times is the root of all evil. The want of money is so quite as truly. A feast is made for laughter, and wine Samuel Butler maketh merry: but money answereth Erewhon all things. Annual income twenty pounds, annual Bible, Ecclesiastics 10:19 expenditure nineteen nineteen and six, Money is like muck, not good except result happiness. Annual income it be spread. twenty pounds, annual expenditure Francis Bacon twenty pounds ought and six, result misery. Charles Dickens Money speaks sense in a language all David Copperfield nations understand. Aphra Money is a singular thing. It ranks Behn with love as man’s greatest source of The Rover joy. And with death as his greatest source of anxiety. 101 John Kenneth Galbraith Wealth maketh many friends. The Age of Uncertainty Bible, Proverbs 19;4

The Almighty Dollar, that great object The rich are more envied by those of universal devotion throughout our who have a little, than by those who land. have nothing. Washington Irving Charles Caleb Colton “The Creole Village” Lacon

Money couldn’t buy friends but you In every well governed state, wealth is got a better class of enemy. a sacred thing; in democracies it is the Spike Milligan only sacred thing. Puckoon Anatole France Penguin Island I finally know what distinguishes man from the other beasts: financial If your Riches are yours, why don’t worries. you take them with you t’other Jules Renard World? The Journal of Jules Renard Benjamin Franklin ed. Louise Bogan and Elizabeth Roget Poor Richard’s Almanac

There are few sorrows, however He is not fit for riches who is afraid to poignant, in which a good income is use them. of no avail. Thomas Fuller Logan Pearsall Smith Gnomologia Afterthoughts Wealth is not without its There was a time when a fool and his disadvantages, and the case to the money were soon parted, but now it contrary, although it has often been happens to everybody. made, has never proved widely Adlai E. Stevenson persuasive. quoted in Bill Adler’s The Stevenson Wit John Kenneth Gilbraith The Affluent Society Every man knows G-D is on his side. The rich and powerful know He is. It is better to live rich than to die rich. Jean Anouilh Samuel Johnson The Lark as quoted in James Boswell’s The Life of Samuel Johnson Riches are a good handmaid, but the worst mistress. Men do not desire merely to be rich, Francis Bacon but to be richer than other men. De Dignitate et Augmentis Scienttiarum John Stuart Mill Essay on Social Freedom 102 Albert Einstein (1879-1955) A great fortune is a great slavery. Seneca, Ad Polybium de Consolatione Mathematics possesses not only truth, but supreme beauty – a beauty cold To suppose, as we all suppose, that we and austere, like that of sculpture. could be rich and not behave as the Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) rich behave, is like supposing that we could drink all day and keep MATURITY absolutely sober. Temptation rushes in to fill the Logan Pearsall Smith vacuum of meaninglessness. We must Afterthoughts fight temptation with meaning. Shraga Silverstein If all the rich men in the world divided A Candle by Day up their money amongst themselves, there wouldn’t be enough to go The touchstone of moral growth is a around. progressive displacement of reaction Christina Stead by action. House of all Nations Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day The man is the richest whose pleasures are the cheapest. We have matured when we are able to Henry David Thoreau distinguish our limitations from our Journal shortcomings. Shraga Silverstein Thieves respect property. They merely A Candle by Day wish the property to become their property that they may more perfectly MEANING OF LIFE (SEE ALSO respect it. PURPOSE, SPIRITUALITY) G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936) If we have our own ‘why’ of life, we G-d tests us I pleasant surroundings. can bear almost any `how'. We become infatuated with the Friedrich Nietzsche surroundings and forget about the test. Shraga Silverstein Although we talk so much about A Candle by Day coincidence we do not really believe in it. In our heart of hearts we think MATHEMATICS better of the universe, we are secretly As far as the laws of mathematics convinced that it is not such a refer to reality, they are not certain, slipshod, haphazard affair, that and as far as they are certain, they do everything in it has meaning. not refer to reality. J.B. Priestley (1894-1984)

103 MEANS AND ENDS (SEE ALSO Shakespeare, Hamlet GROWTH) Men were deceivers ever, It’s not important to reach the top of One foot in the sea and one on shore, the mountain. What is important is the To one thing constant never. climb. … The journey is far more Shakespeare Much Ado About Nothing important than the destination, because it is of our making. What It’s not the men in my life that counts- counts is how we behave as we are -it’s the life in my men. climbing. Mae West Kirk Douglas in the film I’m No Angel Climbing the Mountain, pg. 250 In the new code of laws, which I suppose it will be necessary for you to

make, I desire you would remember MEN the ladies and be more generous and Men build bridges and throw railroads favorable to them than your ancestors. across deserts, and yet they contend Do not put such unlimited power into successfully that job of sewing on a the hands of the husbands. button is beyond them. Accordingly, Remember, all men would be tyrants they don’t have to sew buttons. if they could. Heywood Broun Abigail Adams Seeing Things at Night letter to John Adams, 1776

The male stereotype makes I should like to know what is the masculinity not just a fact of biology proper function of women, if it is not but something that must be proved and to make reasons for husbands to stay reproved, a continual quest for ever- at home, and still stronger reasons for receding Holy Grail. bachelors go out. Marc Feigen Fasteau George Eliot The Male Machine The Mill on the Floss

What a piece of work is a man! How The same passions in man and woman noble in reason! how infinite in nonetheless differ in tempo; hence faculty! In form and moving how man and woman do not cease express and admirable! I action how misunderstanding one another. like an angel! In apprehension how Friedrich Nietzsche like a god. The beauty of the world! Beyond Good and Evil The paragon of animals! And yet, to me, what is this quintessence of dust? There are no perfect men in this Man delights not me--no, nor women world, only perfect intentions. either. Pen Densham, 104 Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves Peace of mind should be regarded as the freeing of the mind from the MERCY (SEE ALSO GIVING) demands of the body, not (as is most often the case) as the freeing of the We hand folks over to G-d’s mercy, body from the demands of the mind. and show none ourselves. Shraga Silverstein George Elliot A Candle by Day Adam Bede The mind must be mined. The quality of mercy is not strain’d, Shraga Silverstein It droppeth as the gentle rain from A Candle by Day heaven The ostrich, realizing that it is all in Upon the place beneath: it is twice the mind, buries it. bless’d; Shraga Silverstein It blesseth him that gives and him that A Candle by Day takes. Shakespeare, The Merchant of Venice There is nothing wrong with a one- track mind, if the track leads in the Nothing emboldens sin so much as right direction. mercy. Shraga Silverstein Shakespeare, Timon of Athens A Candle by Day

MESORAH (SEE TRADITION) MINORITIES All history is a record of the power of MID-LIFE CRISIS minorities, and of minorities of one. Many peoples' tombstones should read R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) 'Died at 30, buried at 60.' American essayist, poet, philosopher Nicholas Murray Butler It is always the minorities that hold the MIND key to progress. Man's mind--"the great indoors. R. B. Fosdick (1883-1969) Shraga Silverstein American administrator, author A Candle by Day'' MIRACLES Not only is the mind often made the Some things have to be believed to be slave of the body, but very often a seen. higher function of the mind is made Ralph Hodgeson the slave of a lower function . The Skylark and Other Poems Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day One who really believes in miracles does not need them. Shraga Silverstein 105 A Candle by Day passport; whereas Virtue, if a pauper, is stopped at all frontiers. MISFORTUNE (SEE SUFFERING) Herman Melville, Moby-Dick

MISTAKES (SEE ERROR) Money never made a man happy yet, MODERATION nor will it. There is nothing in its Moderation is a virtue only in those nature to produce happiness. The more who are thought to have an alternative. a man has, the more he wants. Instead Henry Kissinger (b.1923) of its filling a vacuum, it makes one. Ben Franklin Tell a man whose house is on fire to give a moderate alarm; tell him to Money doesn’t talk, it swears. Bob Dylan moderately rescue his wife from the hands of the ravisher; tell the mother MONOGAMY to gradually extricate her babe from The easiest kind of relationship is with the fire into which it has fallen; but ten thousand people, the hardest is urge me not to use moderation in a with one. case like the present. Joan Baez W.L. Garrison (1805-1879) I don't think it's the nature of any man American abolitionist launching his newspaper to be monogamous. Men are propelled by genetically ordained impulses over The Liberator in his campaign against which they have no control to slavery distribute their seed. Marlon Brando Some carry moderation to extremes. Shraga Silverstein Bigamy is having one wife too many. A Candle by Day Monogamy is the same. Oscar Wilde

MODESTY (SEE HUMILITY, PRIDE)

MOMENTUM MOOD Mood-The Ten Commandments aren’t prefaced with “If you’re in the mood.” Laura Schlesinger MONEY (SEE ALSO MATERIALISM,

WEALTH) One of man's most terrible pitfalls is to In this world, shipmates, sin that pays interpret another's intentions through its way can travel freely, and without his own moods. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day 106 MOVIES MORALITY (SEE ETHICS) The appeal of cinema lies in the fear of death. Jim Morrison

MOTHERING (SEE FAMILY) MURDER MOTIVES Kill a man, and you are a murderer. The motive for a deed usually changes Kill millions of men, and you are a during its performance: at least, after conqueror. Kill everyone, and you are the deed has been done, it seems quite a god. different. Jean Rostand

Friedrich Hebbel (1813-1863) German dramatist MUSIC

What passions cannot music raise or The heart has its reasons which reason quell? does not know. John Dryden Blaise Pascal (1623-1662)

Our motives are far more successfully Music expresses that which cannot be hidden from ourselves than they are said and on which it is impossible to from others. be silent. Shraga Silverstein Victor Hugo A Candle by Day Music is a moral law. It gives soul to We sometimes try to second-guess the universe, wings to the mind, flight those who have not even made a first to the imagination, and charm and guess. gaiety to life and to everything. Shraga Silverstein Plato A Candle by Day Words are the pen of the heart, but music is the pen of the soul. Rav Shneur Zalman

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NARROW-MINDEDNESS solely by means of the most brutal If we have not heard of something, we struggle. say that it is ''unheard of.” Adolf Hitler (1889-1945) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day I reject Christianity because it is Jewish, because it is international and NATURE because, in cowardly fashion, it G-d holds us responsible not for our preaches Peace on Earth. natures, but for our second natures. Field-Marshal Erich Ludendorff Shraga Silverstein German chief-of-staff (1865-1937) A Candle by Day

Insulated from the natural world, few NEWSPAPERS of us nowadays stand silent beneath a All successful newspapers are starry sky that remains unblemished ceaselessly querulous and bellicose. by artificial light. Yet the eternal they never defend anyone or anything nightly show is one of nature's most if they can help it; if the job is forced subtle and moving experiences. It is a upon them, they tackle it by spectacle that arrives slowly, changes denouncing someone or something gradually and then slips imperceptibly else. away, night after night, year after year, H. L. Mencken (1880-1956) in utter silence. it is an experience our American journalist ancestors knew well, and it provoked in them, as it should in us, deep They are so filthy and bestial that no questions of meaning, of origins and honest man would admit one into his destiny. house for a water-closet doormat. David Malin Charles Dickens (1812-1870) Reader's Digest We welcome almost any break in the NAZISM monotony of things, and a man has Struggle is the father of all things...It only to murder a series of wives in a is not by the principles of humanity new way to become known to millions that man lives or is able to preserve of people who have never heard of himself above the animal world, but Homer. Robert Lynd (1879-1949) Anglo-Irish essayist, journalist 108 community. By carefully chronicling The freedom of the press works in the current events of contemporary life such a way that there is not much it shows us of what very little freedom from it. importance such events really are. By Princess Grace of Monaco (1928-1982) invariably discussing the unnecessary it makes us understand what things are The men with the muck-rake are often requisite for culture, and what are not. indispensable to the well-being of Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) society, but only if they know when to stop raking the muck. NOVELTY Theodore Roosevelt (1858-1919) We must not be enticed from the true to the new. The most important service rendered Shraga Silverstein by the press and the magazines is that A Candle by Day of educating people to approach printed matter with distrust. NUCLEAR AGE Samuel Butler (1835-1902) The release of atomic energy has English author changed everything except our way of

thinking and thus we are being driven There is much to be said in favor of unarmed towards a catastrophe. modern journalism. By giving us the Albert Einstein (1879-1955) opinions of the uneducated it keeps us in touch with the ignorance of the

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OBJECTIVITY quoted in The Observer We can be very objective when we are not the object. Old age is the most unexpected of all Shraga Silverstein things that happen to a man. A Candle by Day Leon Trotsky Diary in Exile

Growing old is more like a bad habit OLD AGE (SEE ALSO AGE, DEATH; which a busy man has no time to form. SAGES) Andre Maurois (1885-1967)

Last year they prevented me from OPINIONS climbing Mount Sinai, but now I am If in the last few years you haven't eighty, the same age as Moses, and I discarded a major opinion or acquired will climb that mountain. a new one, check your pulse. You may Kirk Douglas be dead. Climbing the Mountain, pg. 250 Gelett Burgess

It is old age, rather than death, that is The fewer the facts, the stronger the to be contrasted with life. Old age is opinion. life’s parody, whereas death Arnold H. Glasow transforms life into a destiny. Simone De Beauvoir, A great many people think they are The Coming of Age thinking when they are merely

rearranging their prejudices. Youth is a blunder; manhood a William James struggle; old age a regret. Benjamin Disraeli All things are subject to interpretation Coningsby whichever interpretation prevails at a At fifty everyone has the face he given time is deserves. a function of power and not truth. George Orwell Friedrich Wilhelm Nietzsche

The greatest problem about old age is We don't see things as they are, we see the fear that it may go on too long. them as we are. A.J.P. Taylor Anais Nin

110 There is a tide is the affairs of men, Prejudice is a great time saver. You Which, taken at the flood, leads on to can form opinions without having to fortune; get the facts. Omitted, all the voyage of their life E. B. White Is bound in shallows and in miseries. Shakespeare OPPORTUNITY (SEE ALSO Julius Caesar EXPERIENCE; GROWTH; OPTIMISM) Opportunities are seldom labeled. .... this time, like all times, is a very John A. Shedd good one, if we know what to do with Salt from My Attic it. Ralph Waldo Emerson Pessimism, when you get used to it, is just as agreeable as optimism. How silent the woods would be if only Arnold Bennet the best birds sang. Things that Have Interested Me Anonymous OPTIMISM (SEE ALSO GROWTH, A wise man will make more OPPORTUNITY) opportunities than he finds. Francis Bacon Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.

Malcolm S. Forbes The right man is the one who seizes the moment. No winter lasts forever; no spring Johann Wolfgang von Goethe skips its turn. Faust Hal Borland

Opportunities flit by while we sit regretting the chances we have lost, The definition of the golden age of and the happiness that comes to us anything is when you were there. Justice Anthony M. Kennedy heed not, because of the happiness that is gone. No pessimist ever discovered the Jerome K. Jerome secrets of the stars or sailed to an The Idle Thoughts of an Idle Fellow uncharted land or opened a new Opportunities are usually disguised as heaven to the human spirit. Helen Keller hard work, so most people don’t recognize them. You're never a loser until you quit Ann Landers trying. attributed Mike Dikta

111 When you say a situation or a person pessimist thought everything bad, is hopeless, you are slamming the door except himself. in G-d's face. G.K. Chesterton Charles L. Allen Orthodoxy

To be upset over what you don't have Two men look through the same bars: is to waste what you do have. One sees the mud, and one the stars. Ken S. Keyes Jr. Frederick Langbridge Handbook of Higher Consciousness A Cluster of Quiet Thoughts

Expect people to be better than they If we see the light at the end of the are; it helps them to become better. tunnel, But don't be disappointed when they It’s the light of the oncoming train. are not; it helps them to keep trying. Robert Lowell Merry Brown in National Enquirer “Since 1939”

Rosiness is not a worse windowpane If opportunity doesn't knock, build a than gloomy gray when viewing the door. world. Milton Berle Grace Paley Enormous Challenges at the Last Minute Dream and deed are not as different as many think. All the deeds of men are I am an optimist, unrepentant and dreams at first... militant. After all, in order not to be a Theodor Herzl fool an optimist must know how sad a Postscripts, Altneuland place the world can be. It is only the pessimist who finds this out anew In the long run the pessimist may be every day. proved right, but the optimist has a Peter Ustinov better time on the trip. Dear Me Daniel L. Reardon Quote magazine All is for the best in the best of possible worlds. The optimist proclaims that we live in Voltaire the best of all possible worlds; and the Candidate pessimist fears this is true. James Branch Cabell ORGANIZATION The Silver Stallion A committee can make a decision that is dumber than any of its members. I came to the conclusion that the David B. Coblitz optimist thought everything good except the pessimist, and that the 112 One person with a belief is a social John H. Holcomb power equal 99 who have only The Militant Moderate, Rafter interests. John Stuart Mill One of the fine arts of management is to communicate (a) sense of urgency Dreams and dedication are a powerful to the people who work for you... combination. Management by objectives works if William Longgood you first think through your Voices From the Earth objectives. Ninety percent of the time you haven't. The key is not to prioritize your Peter F Drucker schedule but to schedule your priorities. It is always a great mistake to Stephen R. Covey command when you are not sure you Roger and Rebecca Merrill: will be obeyed. First Things First Honoré, Comte de Mirabeau (1749-1791) French statesman The better a man is the more mistakes he will make, for the more new things Only he can command who has the he will try. I would never promote into courage and initiative to disobey. a top level job a man who was not William McDougall (1871-1938) making mistakes...otherwise he is sure British psychologist to be mediocre. Peter Drucker Lots of folks confuse bad management Management Consultant with destiny. Kin (F. McKinney) Hubbard When a man assumes a public trust, he should consider himself as public There is something rarer than ability. property. It is the ability to recognize ability. Thomas Jefferson Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915)

It is easy to fool yourself. It is possible A conference is a gathering of to fool the people you work for. It is important people who singly can do more difficult to fool the people you nothing, but together can decide that work with. But it is almost impossible nothing can be done. to fool the people who work under Fred Allen (1894-1957) you. Harry B Thayer-AT&T archives No grand idea was ever born in a conference, but a lot of foolish ideas You must get involved to have an have died there. impact. No one is impressed with the F. Scott Fitzgerald (1896-1940) won-lost record of the referee. 113 Don't agonize, organize. Florynce Kennedy ORIGINALITY Originality consists in thinking for A place for everything, everything in yourself, and not in thinking unlike its place. other people. Benjamin Franklin J. Fitzjames Stephen (1829-1894) English jurist, writer

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PAIN (SEE SUFFERING) In the struggle between the stone and the water, in time, the water wins. PARABLE/FABLE Chinese proverb Fable is more historical than fact, because fact tells us about one man If you are patient in one moment of and fable tells us about a million men. anger, you will avoid one hundred G.K. Chesterton days of sorrow. Chinese proverb PARENTS, PARENTING (SEE FAMILY) The reputation of a thousand years may be determined by the conduct of PARTNERSHIP one hour. Japanese proverb When two men in a business always agree one of them is unnecessary. PATRIOTISM William Wrigley Jr. (1861-1932) American businessman My fellow Americans, ask not what your country can do for you – ask PASSION what you can do for your country. Wheresoever you go, go with all your John F. Kennedy (1917-1963) heart. Patriotism is your conviction that this Confucius country is superior to all others Saints have no moderation, nor do because you were born in it. George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) poets, just exuberance. Anne Sexton

EACE (SEE ALSO WAR) If passion drives you, let reason hold P the reins. Unattributed Let him who desires peace prepare for war. PATIENCE Vegetius (4th century AD) Genius is nothing but a great aptitude Roman military strategist for patience. Georges Louis Leclerc, In peace the sons bury their fathers, Comte de Buffon but in war the fathers bury their sons. Croesus (d. c. 560 BC) 115 Lydian king Morale is when your hands and feet keep on working when your head says PEOPLE it can’t be done. It was either Voltaire or Charlie Sheen Admiral Ben Moreell (1892-1978) who said, 'We are born alone. We live American naval commander, businessman alone. We die alone. And anything in between that can give us the illusion Where I am, I don’t know, I’ll never that we're not, we cling to.' know, in the silence you don’t know, Gabriel Byrne you must go on, I can’t go on, I’ll go on. Despite everything, I believe that Samuel Beckett The Unnamable people are really good at heart.

Anne Frank If the 20th century taught us anything,

it is to be cautious about the word ...society honors its living conformists impossible. and its dead troublemakers. Charles Platt Mignon McLaughlin in Wired

You can't say civilization don't I have nothing to offer but blood, toil, advance ... in every war they kill you tears and sweat. in a new way. Winston Churchill Will Rogers speech (1940)

PERMISSIVENESS ....we shall not flag or fail. We shall Some fatally reason that since go on to the end. We shall fight in everything passes, "everything goes. France, we shall fight on the seas and Shraga Silverstein oceans, we shall fight with growing A Candle by Day" confidence and growing strength in

the air, we shall defend our Island, We permit ourselves to do many whatever the cost may be. We shall things, which our conscience would fight on the beaches, we shall fight on otherwise not permit us to do, by the the landing grounds, we shall fight in simple expedient of not taking the fields and in the streets, we shall ourselves seriously. fight in the hills; we shall never Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day surrender. Winston Churchill speech (1940) PERSEVERANCE (SEE ALSO COURAGE) To persevere, trusting in what hope he has, is courage in a man. Euripides 116 Heracles If at first you don’t succeed, Some lose sight of the matter in going Try, try again. to the root of it. William Edward Hickson Shraga Silverstein “Try and Try Again” A Candle by Day

‘Tis known by the name of PERVERSION perseverance in a good cause,--and of Commit the oldest sins the newest obstinacy in a bad one. kind of ways. Laurence Sterne, Tristram Shandy King Henry, King Henry IV part 2 William Shakespeare (1564-1616) We must learn not to bear that which need not be borne. The great perversion of our society is Shraga Silverstein that we have made ends of what A Candle by Day should be means of coming closer to I have not failed. I've just found G-d. 10,000 ways that won't work. Shraga Silverstein Thomas Alva Edison A Candle by Day

Many of life's failures are people who PESSIMISM (SEE OPTIMISM) did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. PHILOSOPHY/PHILOSOPHERS Thomas Alva Edison The philosophers have only interpreted the world. The point, It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I however, is to change it. stay with problems longer. Karl Marx (1818-1924) Albert Einstein Socrates to Crito, ‘Do you then be I think and think for months and years. reasonable, and do not mind whether Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is the teachers of philosophy are good or false. The hundredth time I am right. bad, but think only of philosophy Albert Einstein itself.’

PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT Wonder is the foundation, inquiry the (SEE GROWTH) progress, ignorance the end. Michel De Montaigne PERSPECTIVE It does not all depend on how you To teach how to live without certainty, look at it-- you do. and yet without being paralyzed by Shraga Silverstein hesitation, is perhaps the chief thing A Candle by Day 117 that philosophy, in our age, can still do PHOTOGRAPHY for those who study it. While there is perhaps a province in Bertrand Russel which the photograph can tell us A History of Western Philosophy nothing more than what we see with our own eyes, there is another in The safest general characterization of which it proves to us how little our the European philosophical tradition is eyes permit us to see. that it consists of a series of footnotes Dorothea Lange (1895-1965) to Plato. American photographer Alfred North Whitehead Process and Reality PIETY Philosophy begins in wonder. And, at A wicked fellow is the most pious the end, when philosophical thought when he takes to it. He’ll beat you all has done its best, the wonder remains. Alfred North Whitehead in piety. Modes of Thought Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784)

For there was never yet philosopher PLAGIARISM That could endure the toothache If you steal from one author it's patiently. plagiarism; if you steal from many it's Leonato research. Much Ado About Nothing Wilson Mizner William Shakespeare (1564-1616)

It’s easy to answer the ultimate PLAN questions - it saves you bothering with It takes more wisdom to know when to the immediate ones. break plans than it does to make them. George, Epitaph for George Dillon Shraga Silverstein John Osborne (b.1929) A Candle by Day British playwright PLEASURE Unintelligible answers to insoluble G-d is all for our living off the fat of problems. the land--just not the forbidden fat. Henry B. Adams (1838-1918) Shraga Silverstein American historian A Candle by Day

A true philosopher is not lost in the That is precisely the trouble with sheer clouds--as rain is not. pleasure--its sheerness. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

118 We are all pleasure-seekers. We differ Abraham Lincoln only in the type of pleasure we seek. Shraga Silverstein POWER A Candle by Day You cannot have power for good without having power for evil too. The most amazing thing about the Even mother’s milk nourishes pleasure-seekers is how they can be murderers as well as heroes. content with so little. Cusins, Major Barbara Shraga Silverstein George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) A Candle by Day PRAYER POSITION He didn’t actually accuse G-d of There is nothing more precarious than inefficiency, but when he prayed his "sitting on top of the world”. tone was loud and angry, like that of a Shraga Silverstein dissatisfied guest in a carelessly A Candle by Day managed hotel.

Clarence Day (1874-1935) POSSESSION American author The really meaningful life is that whose meaning is in no way affected I have lived to thank G-d that all my by the absence or presence of prayers have not been answered. possessions. Jean Ingelow (1820-1897) Shraga Silverstein English poet A Candle by Day I throw myself down in my chamber, POTENTIAL (SEE ALSO GROWTH) and I call in, and invite G-d, and his Angels thither, and when they are One of man's greatest tragedies is there, I neglect G-d and his Angels, mistaking the seed within him for the for the noise of a fly, for the rattling of flower. a coach, for the whining of a door. Shraga Silverstein John Donne (c. 1571-1631) A Candle by Day Pray. To ask the laws of the universe God put me on this earth to to be annulled on behalf of a single accomplish a certain number of things. petitioner confessedly unworthy. Right now I am so far behind that I Ambrose Bierce (1842-1914) will never die. American author Bill Watterson, Whatever a man prays for, he prays Calvin and Hobbes for a miracle. Every prayer reduces itself to his: ‘Great G-d, grant that I will prepare, and some day my twice two be not four. chance will come. 119 Ivan Turgenev (1818-1883) A Candle by Day

PREACHING PRIDE (SEE ALSO FAME, HUMILITY) The British churchgoer prefers a severe preacher because he thinks a I can live two months on a good few home truths will do his neighbors compliment. no harm. Mark Twain (1835-1910) George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) A self-made man; who worships his Before we preach our values, we must creator. make sure that we are not preaching John Bright (1811-1889) our selves. English Radical politician of Benjamin Shraga Silverstein Disraeli A Candle by Day Pride is tasteless, colorless and PREJUDICE sizeless. Yet it is the hardest thing to Prejudice is a burden that confuses the swallow. past, threatens the future and renders August B. Black the present inaccessible. Maya Angelou Walt Disney on celebrity: It feels good All G-d’s Children Need Traveling Shoes when it helps to get a good seat at the (Random House) baseball game. But it never helped me make a good film or a good shot in the PREOCCUPATION polo game, or command the obedience Sometimes, taking one's mind off a of my daughter. It doesn't even seem problem is the solution to it, in that the to keep the fleas off our dogs-and if problem in the first place was being a celebrity won't give me an essentially the keeping of one's mind advantage over a couple of fleas, then on it. I guess there can't be much in being a Shraga Silverstein celebrity after all. A Candle by Day Christopher Finch The Art of Walt Disney PRESENT Doing the best at this moment puts Nothing is so commonplace as to wish you in the best place for the next to be remarkable. moment. Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table Oprah Winfrey

We must live in the present but not for We are so vain that we even care for it. the opinion of those we don’t care for. Marie von Ebner-Eschen-Bach Shraga Silverstein Aphorisms 120

I cannot and will not cut my conscience to fit this year’s fashions. Most of our "problems" are really Lillian Hellman (1907-1984) nothing more than undealt with American playwright discomforts. The moment we get up in letter to Chairman of the House the resolve to look them in the face Committee on un-American Activities and do something about them, they vanish. Our real problems are the ones A guiding principle of pride is "No we are afraid to look in the face. sooner done than said. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day"

The significant problems we face

cannot be solved at the same level of The proud man cannot think well thinking we were at when we created because he is always conscious of the them. fact that he is thinking. Albert Einstein Shraga Silverstein

A Candle by Day The way we see the problem is the

problem. We swell with pride as with any other Stephen R. Covey infection. Shraga Silverstein We must not permit "the problems of A Candle by Day life" to be converted in our minds to ''a

life of problems. PRINCIPLE Shraga Silverstein One of our most fatal errors is A Candle by Day" assuming that our principles will insure their own observance. PROFUNDITY Shraga Silverstein As profound as our thoughts may be, A Candle by Day they will never be so profound as our On matters of style, swim with the fingernails. current, on matters of principle, stand Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day like a rock. Thomas Jefferson PROGRESS When all is said and done, a lot more PROBLEMS is said than done. It is more difficult to define a problem Unattributed than to solve it. Shraga Silverstein If we were to go back in time 100 A Candle by Day years and ask a farmer what he'd like 121 if he could have anything, he'd PURPOSE (SEE ALSO MEANING OF probably tell us he wanted a horse that LIFE) was twice as strong and ate half as many oats. He would not tell us he Everyone has a different purpose in wanted a tractor. the world, and everyone's world Philip J. Quigley differs in accordance with his purpose. former COE of Pacific Telesis Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day PROPORTION We must not misinterpret our Competence is a narrow ideal. discomforts into dilemmas. Competence makes the trains run on Shraga Silverstein time but doesn’t know where they’re A Candle by Day going. George Bush PROVIDENCE speech 1988 The finger may pull the trigger, but G- d pulls the finger. “Would you tell me, please, which Shraga Silverstein way I ought to go from here?” That A Candle by Day depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cheshire Cat. PUNCTUALITY “I don’t much care where--” said The trouble with being punctual is that Alice. “Then it doesn’t matter which nobody's there to appreciate it. way you go,” said the cat. Franklin P. Jones Lewis Carroll Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland The early bird may get the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese. The last temptation is the greatest Unattributed treason: To do the right deed for the wrong Punctuality is the virtue of the bored. reason. Evelyn Waugh T.S. Eliot, Murder in the Cathedral

In the name of noble purposes men PUNISHMENT have committed unspeakable acts of It says much about the American cruelty against one another. psyche that it considers solitary J. William Fulbright, speech 1963 confinement one of the most terrible I find the greatest thing in this world is forms of punishment. Shraga Silverstein not so much where we stand, as in A Candle by Day what direction we are moving. Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr. The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table 122 The trouble with our age is that it is all Millions long for immortality who signpost and no destination. don't know what to do with Louis Kronenberger themselves on a rainy Sunday Company Manners afternoon. Susan Ertz Because it’s there. (Anger in the Sky) George Mallory quoted in New York Times Constantly to seek the purpose of life answering the question of is one of the odd escapes of man. If why he wanted to climb Mount Everest he finds what he seeks it will not be worth that pebble on the path. The great and glorious masterpiece of Krishnamurti man is to know how to live life in The Only Revolution: California purpose. Michel De Montaigne

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QUESTIONS (SEE ALSO WISDOM) I hate quotations, tell me what you know. One of our greatest errors is to regard Ralph Emerson something as "questionable" merely because it has been called into The wisdom of the wise and the question. experience of the ages is preserved Shraga Silverstein into perpetuity by a nation's proverbs, A Candle by Day fables, folk sayings and quotations. William Feather If a man will begin with certainties, he shall end in doubts, but if he will be A quotation in a speech, article or content to begin with doubts, he shall book is like a rifle in the hands of an end in certainties. infantryman. It speaks with authority. Francis Bacon (1561-1626) Brendan Francis

QUOTATIONS Quotes are nothing but inspiration for It is a good thing for the uneducated the uninspired. man to read books of quotations. Richard Kemph Winston Churchill

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RAT RACE REAPPRAISAL The trouble with the rat race is that, We assume from childhood that even if you win, you're still a rat. certain fields of study are closed to us, Lily Tomlin and it never occurs to us in adulthood to see whether they might not have REALISM opened up for us in the interim. It is folly to expect men to do all that Shraga Silverstein they may reasonable be expected to A Candle by Day do. Richard Whately (1787-1863) REASON Archbishop of Dublin That we have "good reasons to" does not necessarily mean that we have Reality is something you rise above. "good reason to. Liza Minelli (b. 1946) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day” You may be sure that when a man begins to call himself a ‘realist’, he is REBELLION preparing to do something he is I hold it that a little rebellion, now and secretly ashamed of doing. then, is a good thing, and as necessary Sydney J. Harris (b. 1917) American journalist in the political world as storms in the physical. Thomas Jefferson (1743-1826) REALITY This is too much reality for a Friday. RECKLESSNESS As Good As It Gets We can run carelessly to the precipice,

after we have put something before us Reality is merely an illusion, albeit a to prevent ourselves from seeing it. very persistent one. Blaise Pascal (1623-1662) Albert Einstein

REFORM MOVEMENT Reality is just a crutch for people who Many Reform members belong to our can't handle drugs. Unattributed Synagogues because we offer the most palatable, the most aesthetic and the easiest way to be a Jew. In other words, I suspect the most influential 125 factor in building American Reform cases they already know it. It is his Jewry has not been theology but task, rather, as the name implies, to re- sociology. form them, to change them in such a Rabbi Richard Hirsch, way that they will accept and be executive-director for the guided by the truth that they know. World Union for Progressive Judaism Shraga Silverstein the Reform movement in Israel. A Candle by Day (Rabbi Hirsch claims that this is not the case in Israel.) REGRETS Twenty years from now you will be The Reform movement in Israel and more disappointed by the things that Europe reject patrilineal descent. you didn't do than by the ones you did Explaining why, the Israeli Reform do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail movement stated: away from the safe harbor. Catch the If we affirm that we are an trade winds in your sails. Explore. integral part of the Jewish nation, we Dream. Discover. cannot limit our horizons to the Mark Twain Reform Movement of North America alone. The adoption of a CCAR RELEVANCE resolution has ramifications for the Even more important than applying whole Jewish people. Whether we so ourselves to our studies is applying intend or not, the term Jewish status is our studies to ourselves. inseparable from the term legal status Shraga Silverstein and goes beyond private commitment. A Candle by Day … This is a price we should be willing to pay for the privilege of RELIGION (SEE ALSO SCIENCE) belonging to the Jewish people and for maintaining unity wherever possible Since religion is the meeting place of both within the Reform family and three wholes-the whole of personality, within Klal Yisrael. the whole of existence, the totality of Moses Cyrus Weiler, values-it is effected by every “Statement of MARAM” disintegrating movement. When the Central Conference of American Rabbis human personality is dissected into Yearbook 93 (1983), pg. 146-8 dehumanized fragments for the

purpose of analysis, it becomes ever Reform came to change Judaism. more difficult to regain the feeling of Mussar comes to change Jews. the mystery of man as "the image of Rabbi Yisrael Lipkin of Salant God." Jacob Argus It is not the reformer's function to in The Condition of Jewish Belief, pg. 17) inform people of the truth-- in most 126 Irreligion. The principal one of the great faiths of the world. RENEWAL (SEE DEATH, SENSITIVITY) Ambrose Bierce (1842-1914) American author REPENTANCE The most difficult part of repentance is Man is a being born to believe. And if admission. no Church comes forward with its Shraga Silverstein title-deeds of truth… to guide him, he A Candle by Day will find altars and idols in his own heart and his own imagination. You cannot repent too soon, because Benjamin Disraeli (1804-1881) you do not know how soon it may be too late. Men despise religion; they hate it, and Thomas Fuller (1608-1661) fear it is true. English cleric Blaise Pascal (1623-1662)

REPETITION Men never do evil so completely and A farmer never says, ''I've been all cheerfully as when they do it from over that ground before," but he works religious conviction. it every year, and every year reaps a Blaise Pascal (1623-1662) new harvest. Men will wrangle for religion; write Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day for it, fight for it; die for it; anything but live for it. C. C. Colton (1780-1832) REPROACH English author, clergyman They have a right to censure that have a heart to help. Nobody can deny but religion is a William Penn (1644-1718) comfort to the distressed, a cordial to religious leader, founder of Pennsylvania the sick, and sometimes a restraint on the wicked; therefore, whoever would REPUTATION laugh or argue it out of the world, The great difficulty is first to win a without giving some equivalent for it, reputation; the next to keep it while ought to be treated as a common you live; and the next to preserve it enemy. after you die. Lady Mary Wortley Montagu (1689-1762) Benjamin Haydon (1786-1846) English society figure, letter writer British artist

We have just enough religion to make Character is much easier kept than us hate, but not enough to make us recovered. love one another. Thomas Paine (1737-1809) Jonathan Swift (1667-1745) pamphleteer, revolutionary 127 Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965) What people say behind your back is your standing in the community. We are not just our behavior, we are Ed (E.W.) Howe (1853-1937) the person managing our behavior. American journalist, novelist Goals begin behaviors, consequences maintain behaviors. RESENTMENT The One Minute Manager (Blanchard and Resentment is like taking poison and Johnson – Berkley Books, N.Y.) waiting for the other person to die. When you build bridges you can keep Malachy McCourt, quoted by Alex Witchel in New York Times crossing them. Rick Pitino Lead to Succeed (Broadway Books) RESIGNATION What cannot be cured must be REVENGE endured. Revenge is often like biting a dog Francois Rabelais (1494-1553) because the dog bit you.

Austin O’Malley (1858-1932)

American oculist, author RESOLVE (SEE COURAGE, PERSEVERANCE) Revenge often backfires in being

regarded by its victim as retroactive RESPECT justification for the wrong, which The more things a man is ashamed of, prompted the revenge. the more respectable he is. Shraga Silverstein Tanner, Man and Superman A Candle by Day George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) We sometimes take revenge through a Many would be far more willing to profusion of goodness. concede a point if we granted them Shraga Silverstein beforehand the respect they strive for A Candle by Day by maintaining it. Shraga Silverstein REWARD AND PUNISHMENT A Candle by Day In nature there are neither rewards nor

punishments – there are consequences. R. G. Ingersoll (1833-1899) RESPONSIBILITY (SEE ALSO American lawyer RIGHTS)

To gain one’s way is no escape from RIGHT It is easier to do what is right than to the responsibility for an inferior right what is done. solution. Shraga Silverstein 128 A Candle by Day RIGHTS (SEE ALSO EQUALITY, FREEDOM, HABIT, RESPONSIBILITY) RIGHTEOUS PERSON (SEE ETHICAL PERSONALITY) If anyone thinks he has no responsibilities, it is because he has RIGHTEOUSNESS (SEE ALSO VIRTUE) not sought them out. Mary Lyon Courage is a quality so necessary for maintaining virtue that it is always The same fence that shuts others out respected, even when it is associated shuts you in. with vice. Bill Copeland Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) Motivation is what gets you started. Crimes of which a people is ashamed Habit is what keeps you going. constitute its real history. The same is Jim Ryun true of man. quoted by Tima Smith in Woman's World Jean Genet (1910-1986) A paradise that you cannot leave is Fortunately for themselves and the hell. world, nearly all men are cowards and Armando Fuentes Agurre in El Diario dare not act on what they believe. Nearly all our disasters come of a few The price of greatness is fools having the ‘courage of their responsibility. convictions’. Winston Churchill

Coventry Patmore (1823-1896) English poet Judaism would say, ‘The price of responsibility is greatness’. Perfect courage is to do without witnesses what one would be capable Freedom is the right to choose the of doing with the world looking on. habits which bind you. Francois, Duc de La Rochefoucauld (1613- Renate Rubinstein 1680) Liefst Verliefd French writer, moralist To have a right to do a thing is not at What a man believes may be all the same as to be right in doing it. ascertained, not from his creed, but G.K. Chesteron from the assumptions on which he habitually acts. In recognizing the humanity of our George Bernard Shaw (1856-1956) fellow beings, we pay ourselves the highest tribute. Thurgood Marshall Supreme Court Judge 129 I am the inferior of any man whose Don't fool yourself that you are going rights I trample under foot. to have it all. You are not. Robert G. Ingersoll Psychologically, having it all is not “Liberty” even a valid concept. The marvelous thing about human beings is that we Most people, no doubt, when they are perpetually reaching for the stars. espouse human rights, make their own The more we have, the more we want. mental reservations about the proper And for this reason, we never have it application of the word human. all. Suzanne La Follette Concerning Women The Successful Woman

As a man is said to have a right to his To be a man is, precisely, to be property, he may be equally said to responsible. have a property to his rights. Antoine De Saint-Exupery James Madison Wind, Sand and Stars in National Gazette

The buck stops here. Harry S. Truman As if it harm’d me, giving others the motto on his desk when president same chances and rights as myself-as if it were not indispensable to my own A right is not what someone gives rights that others possess the same. you; it’s what no one can take from Walt Whitman you. “Thought” Ramsey Clark in New York Times RISK (SEE ALSO EXPERIENCE)

“Freedom from fear” could be said to You miss 100% of the shots you never sum up the whole philosophy of take. human rights. Wayne Gretzky Dag Hammar-Skjold speech 1956 ROMANCE (SEE LOVE)

RULES (SEE LAWS)

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SACRIFICE part of a community, the religious Some are willing to make only the part. supreme sacrifice. Stuart E. Rosenberg Shraga Silverstein The Search for Jewish Identity in America A Candle by Day Consistency is contrary to nature, Some sacrifice their lives because contrary to life. The only completely they lack the courage to sacrifice consistent people are the dead. their pride. Aldous Huxley (1894-1963) Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day SATISFACTION As long as I have want, I have a SAGES (SEE ALSO ETHICAL reason for living. Satisfaction is PERSONALITY, KNOWLEDGE, OLD death. AGE, WISDOM) Gregory, Overruled George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) The scribes and the prophets of Jerusalem refused to accept the SCANDAL world as it was. They invented the In scandal as in robbery, the receiver literature of political dissent and, is always thought as bad as the thief. with it, the literature of hope. Lord Chesterfield (1694-1773) Amos Elon English statesman and man of letters Jerusalem SCHOLARSHIP Never before in Jewish history has Disinterested intellectual curiosity is the laity expected the rabbi to act as the life blood of real civilization. pastor and counselor, nor considered G. M. Trevelyan (1876-1962) it necessary for the rabbi to be a British historian `preacher'. Fundamentals of religion were left to the elementary teachers We never stop investigating. We are of Jewish schools...The ancient never satisfied that we know enough rabbis were the lay teachers and to get by. Every question we answer guides of the total Jewish leads on to another question. This community. The modern American has become the greatest survival rabbi has become but a staff member, trick of our species. albeit `chief of staff' of a private Desmond Morris (b.1928) Jewish membership club, the British anthropologist synagogue of the twentieth century...He is identified with only 131 SCIENCE (SEE ALSO RELIGION) heal and how to kill; it reduces the death rate in retail, and then kills us We are driven by the insatiable wholesale in war. curiosity of the scientist, and our Will Durant work is a delightful game. I am The Story of Philosophy frequently astonished that it so often I want to know how G-d created the results in correct predictions of world. I am not interested in this or experimental results. Murray Gell-Mann that phenomenon, in the spectrum of this or that element. I want to know When I talk to audiences about the His thoughts; the rest are details. size and age of the cosmos, people A. Einstein in A. Zee p. 8 often say, “It makes me feel so Science without religion is lame, insignificant." I answer, “The bigger religion without science is blind. and more impersonal the universe is, Albert Einstein the more meaningful you are, Out of My Later Years because this vast, impersonal place needs something to fill it up.” We’ve In teaching man, experimental abandoned the old belief that science results in lessening his pride humanity is at the physical center of more and more by providing him the universe but must come back to every day that primary causes, like believing we are at the center of the objective reality of things, will be meaning. hidden from him forever and that he Alan Dressler, astronomer can only know relations. Quoted by Gregg Easterbrook Claude Bernard in Beside Still Waters: Introduction a la medecine experimentale Searching for Meaning in an Age of Doubt (William Morrow) The First Clarke Law states, “If an Two years ago I would have called elderly but distinguished scientist this baloney. says that something is possible he is Molecular biologist Rual Cano almost certainly right, but if he says on news that paleontologists in Montana that it is impossible he is very are working to analyze DNA from blood probably wrong.” cells found in a tyrannosaur fossil, Arthur C. Clarke Newsweek July 12, 93) quoted in New Yorker

Modern cosmology - scientific Science tells us what we can know, theories about the beginning of the but what we can know is little, and if universe. we forget how much we cannot know we become insensitive to many The Scientist is as interested in the things of very great importance. leg of the flea as the creative throes Bertrand Russell of a genius... Science tells us how to A History of Western Philosophy

132 In some sort of crude sense which no vulgarity, no humor, no We are much beholden to Machiavel overstatement can quite extinguish, and then it ought to be done. That if the physicists have known sin; and something has been invented, then this is a knowledge which they we must use it. We don’t stop to cannot lose. thing of the possible consequences of J. Robert Oppenheimer its use. lecture 1947 J. B. Priestley (1894-1984)

Scientific discovery and scientific SECRETS knowledge have been achieved only There are some occasions when a by those who have gone in pursuit of man must tell half his secret, in order it without any practical purpose to conceal the rest. whatsoever in view. Lord Chesterfield (1694-1773) Max Planck English statesman and man of letters Where Is Science Going

SECTS

All sects seem to me to be right in All science is dominated by the idea what they assert, and wrong in what of approximation. they deny. Bertrand Russell (1872-1970) Johann Wolfgang von Goethe (1749-1832)

I seem to have been only a boy Every sect is a moral check on its playing on the seashore, and neighbor. Competition is as diverting myself in now and then wholesome in religion as in finding a smoother pebble or a commerce. prettier shell than ordinary, whilst the Walter Savage Landor (1775-1864) great ocean of truth lay all English author undiscovered before me. Sir Isaac Newton (1642-1727) SELF

The great tragedy of science – the Man who man would be, slaying of a beautiful theory by an Must rule the empire of himself. P. B. Shelley (1792-1822) ugly fact. T.H. Huxley (1825-1895) English biologist SELF-ACTUALIZATION (SEE GROWTH) The progress of science is strewn, like an ancient desert trail, with the SELF-ASSERTION bleached skeleton of discarded We are sometimes frightened into theories, which once seem to possess self-assertion. eternal life. Shraga Silverstein Arthur Koestler (1905-1983) A Candle by Day British author

133 SELF-CONTROL To be G-d's servant, one must be his There is no me. I do not exist. There own master. used to be a me but I had it surgically Shraga Silverstein removed. A Candle by Day Peter Sellers

A man's job is not to be in complete Life isn't about finding yourself. Life control of all situations, but to be in is about creating yourself. complete control of himself in all George Bernard Shaw situations. Shraga Silverstein The unexamined life is not worth A Candle by Day living. Socrates SELF-DEVELOPMENT (SEE GROWTH) SELF-FULFILLMENT (SEE GROWTH)

SELF-IMAGE (SEE ALSO FAITH) SELF-EXAMINATION We continue to shape our personality The only way you can truly control all our life. If we knew ourselves how you’re seen is by being honest perfectly, we should die. all the time. Albert Camus Tom Hanks quoted in Interview Magazine What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared The ablest man I ever met is the man to what lies within us. you think you are. Ralph Emerson Franklin D. Roosevelt. (1882-1945)

No one who, like me, conjures up the SELF-IMPROVEMENT most evil of those half-tamed If we spent less time trying to make demons that inhabit the human beast, this world a better place to live in, and seeks to wrestle with them, can and more time trying to make expect to come through the struggle ourselves better persons to live with, unscathed. the world would be a better place to Sigmund Freud live in. Shraga Silverstein Some people hear their own inner A Candle by Day voices with great clearness. And they live by what they hear. Such people SELF-INSIGHT (SEE ALSO become crazy ... or they become INTROSPECTION) legend. Jim Harrison, Legend of the Falls 134 We know, more or less, what to The greatest barrier to self-discovery prescribe for ourselves, but we have is our desire to discover ourselves a pitiful knowledge of doses. different from what we are. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

SELF-KNOWLEDGE SELF-PITY (SEE SUFFERING) He knows the universe and does not know himself. SELF-REPROACH Jean de la Fontaine (1921-1695) There is luxury in self-reproach. French poet, fabulist When we blame ourselves we feel no one else has a right to blame us. In other living creatures the Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) ignorance of themselves is nature, but in men it is a vice. SELF-SACRIFICE (SEE ALSO Boethius (480-525) GIVING) Roman philosopher Too long a sacrifice Can make a We must be sensitive to how we stone of the heart. have felt, how we feel, and how we W. B. Yeats (1865-1939) will feel. Shraga Silverstein If I am not for myself, who is for A Candle by Day me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? If not now, when? Many are averse to the revelation of Hillel unsuspected resources within in the Talmud themselves because of the discomfort it engenders over their having lain There is no such thing as an isolated waste for so long. man or woman; we are each of us Shraga Silverstein made up of a cluster of A Candle by Day appurtenances. What do you call one’s self? Where does it begin? Many of our difficulties arise from Where does it end? It overflows into our acting on the basis, not of what everything that belongs to us--and we are, but of what we were. then it flows back again. Shraga Silverstein Henry James A Candle by Day The Portrait of a Lady

Some assume that they want to go Self-sacrifice is the real miracle out somewhere simply because they are of which all the reported miracles being pulled there. grew. Shraga Silverstein Ralph Waldo Emerson A Candle by Day Society and Solitude

135 How much easier is self-sacrifice than self-realization! “That is well said’, replied Candide, Eric Hoffer “but we must cultivate our garden.” in New York Times Magazine Voltaire, Candide

Self-sacrifice helps us to sacrifice The arch-flatterer, with whom all the other people without blushing. petty flatterers have intelligence, is a George Bernard Shaw man’s self. Man and Superman Francis Bacon “The Revolutionist’s Handbook’ The ideal is in thyself, the Self -interest is but the survival of impediment too is in thyself. the animal in us. Humanity only Thomas Carlyle begins for man with self-surrender. Sartor Resartus Henri-Frederic Amiel Journal intime One may understand the cosmos, but never the ego; the self is more distant Men are not against you; they are than any star. merely for themselves. G.K. Chesterton Gene Fowler Orthodoxy Skyline We are all serving a life-sentence in The least pain in our little finger the dungeon of self. gives us more concern and Cyril Connolly uneasiness than the destruction of The Unquiet Grave millions of our fellow beings. William Hazlitt As accidental as my life may be, or “American Literature--Dr. Channing” as random humor is, which governs it, I know nothing, after all, so real or Self-interest speaks all sorts of substantial as myself. tongues, and plays all sorts of roles, Anthony Ashley Cooper even that of disinterestedness. Earl of Shaftesbury, Characteristics La Rochefoucauld Maxims Everybody has his own theater, in which he is manager, actor, Even wisdom has to yield to self- prompter, playwright, sceneshifter, interest. boxkeeper, doorkeeper, all in one, Pindar, Pythian Odes and audience into the bargain. Julius C. Hare and Augustus W. Hare It is not the benevolence of the Guesses at Truth butcher, the brewer, or the baker that we expect our dinner, but from their No man would, I think, exchange his regard to their own interest. existence with any other man, Adam Smith however fortunate. We had as life The Wealth of Nations not be, as not be ourselves. 136 William Hazlitt remember this: A man flattened by Table Talk an opponent can get up again. A man flattened by conformity stays down SELFISHNESS (see ALSO GIVING, for good. SELF-SACRIFICE) Thomas J. Watson speech For beings who have it in us to afford so much joy to others, how We must learn to hit the nail on the miserly we are! head without breaking it. Shraga Silverstein Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day A Candle by Day

Selfishness is not living as one SENTIMENTALITY wishes to live, it is asking others to A sentimentalist is simply one who live as one wishes to live. desires to have the luxury of an Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) emotion without paying for it. Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) SENSES The evidence of our senses may be SHAME (SEE ALSO PRIDE) false, but not acting in accordance with them is a risky proposition. We Man is the only animal that blushes. must strive rather to educate our Or needs to. senses to transmit as faithful a Mark Twain (1835-1910) picture of reality as possible. Shraga Silverstein Don’t be ashamed to say what your A Candle by Day are not ashamed to think. Michel de Montaigne (1553-1592) French essayist, moralist SENSITIVITY/RENEWAL/

SURPRISE/DISCOVERY (SEE ALSO One of the misfortunes of our time is CREATIVITY) that in getting rid of false shame we

have killed off so much real shame The only real voyage of discovery as well. consists not in seeking new Louis Kronenberger landscapes but in having new eyes. Marcel Proust

SILENCE (SEE ALSO SPEECH, Where will I be 5 years from now? WISDOM) Delight in not knowing. That's one of the greatest things about life-its The right word may be effective, but wonderful surprises. no word was ever as effective as the Marlo Thomas rightly timed pause. Mark Twain If you stand up and are counted, you may get yourself knocked down. But

137 No one has a finer command of language that the person who keeps Silence may be as variously shaded his mouth shut. as speech. Sam Rayburn Edith Wharton The Reef When something important is going on, silence is a lie. What can be said at all can be said A.M. Rosenthal clearly; and whereof one cannot in New York Times speak thereof one must be silent. Ludwig Wittgenstein There is no such thing as an empty Tractatus Logico-Philosophicus space or an empty time. There is always something to see, something That man’s silence is wonderful to to hear. In fact, try as we may to listen to. Thomas Hardy (1840-1928) make a silence, we cannot. John Cage We will have to repent in this generation Silence not merely for the vitriolic words of the bad people, but for the appalling silence of Speech is of Time, the good people. Silence is of Eternity. Martin Luther King Thomas Carlyle Sartor Resartus SIMPLICITY Simplicity of character is the most Blessed is the man who, having natural result of profound thought. nothing to say, abstains from giving Chinese Proverb wordy evidence of the fact. George Eliot Everything deep is also simple and Impressions of Theophrasius Such can be reproduced simply as long as

The deepest feeling always shows its reference to the whole truth is itself in silence; not in silence, but maintained. But what matters is not restraint. what is witty but what is true. Albert Schweitzer, Marianne Moore The Light Within Us “Silence”

I often regret that I have spoken; Brevity is the soul of wit. never that I have been silent. William Shakespeare, Hamlet II, ii Publius Syrus

Maxims SIN The world would be happier if men Everything that used to be a sin is had the same capacity to be silent now a disease. than they have to speak. Bill Maher

Benedict De Spinoza

Ethics

138 SINCERITY One kind word can warm three Most remarks that are worth making winter months. are commonplace remarks. The thing Japanese proverb that makes them worth saying is that we really mean them. Some things come to mouth before Robert Lynd (1879-1949) they come to mind. Anglo-Irish essayist, journalist Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

SKEPTICISM No man would listen to you talk if he We must know how to be skeptical didn’t know that it was his turn next. without becoming skeptics. Ed (E.W.) Howe (1853-1937) Shraga Silverstein American journalist, novelist A Candle by Day

Speak kind words and you will hear Skepticism is the chastity of the kind echoes. intellect not to be surrendered too Bahn easily to the first comer. Santanyana Words, like eyeglasses, blur everything that they do not make SORROW clearer. I have sometimes been wildly, Joseph Joubert (1754-1824) despairingly, acutely miserable, French essayist and moralist racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to If thought corrupts language, be alive is a grand thing. language can also corrupt thought. Agatha Christie George Orwell (1903-1950)

Shared joy is double joy. Shared Modern man…is educated to sorrow is half sorrow. understand foreign languages and Swedish Proverb misunderstand foreigners. G. K. Chesterton (1874-1936) SOUL Have you ever burst into tears for no One of the difficulties in the apparent reason, finding yourself in language is that all our words from deep sadness? That is the soft voice loose using have lost their edge. of your soul, crying out for attention, Ernest Hemingway (1899-1961) asking to be nourished with at least Half the world is composed of much care as you nourish your body. people who have something to say Rabbi Mencahem Mendel Schneerson Toward a Meaningful Life and can’t, and the other half who have nothing to say and keep on saying it. PEECH (SEE ALSO SILENCE) S Robert Frost (1874-1963) American poet

139 of how we travel, just how we will Language most shews a man: Speak, climb that mountain of life. that I may see thee. Kirk Douglas Ben Jonson (1573-1637) Climbing the Mountain, pg. 247

Speak clearly, if you speak at all; Why do you hasten to remove Carve every word before you let it anything, which hurts your eye, fall. while if something affects your soul Dr. Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809-1894) you postpone the cure until next American writer, physician year? Horace (65-8 BC) The stroke of the whip maketh marks in the flesh: but the stroke of the tongue breaketh the bones. Many SPORT have fallen by the edge of the sword: When a man wantonly destroys one but not so many as have fallen by the of the works of man we call him a tongue. vandal. When he destroys one of the Apocrypha, Ecclesiastics works of G-d we call him a

sportsman. SPIRITUALITY (SEE ALSO MEANING Joseph Wood Krutch (1893-1970) OF LIFE, RELIGION, SOUL) American essayist

The world is still full of wonders to STATISTICS me. The adults around me seem to He uses statistics as a drunken man know all about it, so how come I uses lampposts – for support rather don’t? But maybe they’re just faking. than illumination. I’m sure they don’t understand the Andrew Lang (1844-1912) biggest mystery-the mystery of the Scottish author soul. …. Where does this inner voice come from? What is the source of STRENGTH (SEE ALSO GROWTH) our yearnings to reach beyond ourselves? The virtue of all achievement is Kirk Douglas victory over oneself. Those who Climbing the Mountain, pg. 246 know this can never know defeat. A.J. Cronin It took me so long to figure out that I need not go very far … The journey It is not enough to realize that we are is a journey into our souls. The in the hands of G-d. We must realize destination had been predetermined further that He is the G-d of hands. for each one of us. The destination is Shraga Silverstein death. G-d will decide when we have A Candle by Day arrived. That part is out of our hands. But we have the free will, the choice,

140 STRUGGLE The path of least resistance is straight All men are ruined, are ruined on the down. side of their natural propensities. Shraga Silverstein Edmund Burke A Candle by Day Letters on a Regicide Peace

STUBBORNNESS Success is counted sweetest Like all weak men he laid an By those who ne’er succeed. exaggerated stress on not changing Emily Dickinson Success is counted sweetest one’s mind. W. Somerset Maugham (1874-1966) Nothing succeeds like success. Stubbornness properly nurtured can Alexandre Dumas Pere, Ange Pitou lead to an uncompromising insistence upon the truth. Success is relative; Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day It is what we make of the mess we have made of things. T.S. Eliot SUCCESS (SEE ALSO EXPERIENCE) Family Reunion

When I was 15, I had lucky Along with success comes a underwear. When that failed, I had a reputation for wisdom. lucky hairdo, then a lucky race Euripides number, even lucky race days. After Hippolytus 15 years, I’ve found the secret to success is simple. It’s hard work. Half the failures in life arise from Margaret Groos, marathon runner pulling in one’s horse as he is Runner’s World leaping. Julius C. Hare and Augustus Hare Failure – We are all of us failures – Guesses at Truth at least, the best of us are. J.M. Barrie (1860-1937) There’s dignity in suffering-- British playwright Nobility in pain-- But failure is a salted wound ‘Tis not in mortals to command That burns and burns again. success, Margery Eldredge Howell, Wormwood But we’ll do more, Sempronius; we’ll deserve it. A failure is a man who has Joseph Addison, Calo blundered, but is not able to cash in the experience. The toughest thing about success is Elbert Hubbard that you’ve got to keep on being a Roycroft Dictionary and Book of success. Epigrams Irving Berlin Theater Arts 141 There is the greatest practical benefit Man who say it cannot be done in making a few failures early in life. should not interrupt man doing it. Thomas Henry Huxley Chinese Proverb Critiques and Addresses Success is going from failure to There are only two ways of getting failure without a loss of enthusiasm. on in the world--either by one’s own Winston Churchill industry, or by the stupidity of others. Success is the sum of small efforts La Bruyere repeated day in and day out. Les Caracteres Robert Collier

I have always observed that to Try not to become a man of success succeed in the world one should but rather try to become a man of seem a fool, but be wise. value. Baron De Mortesquieu Albert Einstein Pensees diverse The only place success comes before The success of most things depends work is in the dictionary. upon knowing how long it will take Vince Lombardi to succeed. Baron De Mortesquieu Success is determined by those whom prove the impossible, Success has always been the worst of possible. liars. James W. Pence Friedrich Nietzsche Beyond Good and Evil All you need is ignorance and

confidence and the success is sure. I cannot give you the formula for Mark Twain success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is: Try to If the dogs are barking at your heels, please everybody. you know you're leading the pack. Herbert Bayard Swope Unattributed

To achieve great things we must live There is no elevator to success. You as though we were never going to have to take the stairs. die. Unattributed Marquis De Vauvenargues Reflections and Maxims I have learned that success is to be Success is getting what you want. measured not so much by the Happiness is wanting what you get. position that one has reached in life Dale Carnegie as by the obstacles, which he has overcome while trying to succeed. Booker T. Washington

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SUFFERING Reflect upon your present blessings- Although the world is full of of which every man has many-not on suffering, it is also full of the your past misfortunes, of which all overcoming of it. men have some. Helen Keller Charles Dickens

Pain is G-d’s megaphone to wake up When we indulge in self-pity, we rob the world. the poor and the suffering of that C.S. Lewis which is theirs by right and waste it on ourselves, to whom it does more The only whole heart is a broken harm than good. one. Morris Mandel The Kotzker Rebbe The Jewish Press

The greatest university is adversity. To great evils we submit; we resent Shraga Silverstein little provocations. A Candle by Day William Hazlitt Literary Remains I am no longer afraid of becoming lost, because the journey back Mishaps are like knives that either always reveals something new, and serve us or cut us, as we grasp them that is ultimately good for the artist. by the blade or the handle. Billy Joel James Russell Lowell Fireside Traveis There are many precious thoughts to be had by him who can think in the We all have strength enough to bear midst of his pain. the misfortunes of others. La Rochefoucauld Shraga Silverstein Maxims A Candle by Day

Life does not have to be perfect to be An adventure is only an wonderful. inconvenience rightly considered. Annette Funicello An inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered. Should you shield the canyons from G.K. Chesterton the windstorms, you would never see All Things Considered the beauty of their carvings. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross Man needs difficulties; they are The Wheel of Life, Scribner necessary for health. Carl Jung (1875-1961) You'll never find a better sparring partner than adversity. For we are born in other’s pain, Walt Schmidt And perish in our own. 143 Francis Thompson (1859-1907) A Candle by Day English poet Our distress over our emotional Illness is the doctor to whom we pay discomfort is greater and infinitely most heed; to kindness, to more dangerous than that discomfort knowledge, we make promise only; itself. pain we obey. Shraga Silverstein Marcel Proust (1871-1922) A Candle by Day

When written in Chinese the word We must be wary of associating crisis is composed of two characters. discomfort with failure or comfort One represents danger and the other with success. represents opportunity. Shraga Silverstein John F. Kennedy (1917-1963) A Candle by Day

SURPRISE (SEE SENSITIVITY) We should recognize the goodness of G-d not only in what He does for us, but also in what he does to us. Shraga Silverstein

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TAKING (SEE GIVING) One machine can do the work of fifty TALENT ordinary men. No machine can do Everyone has talent at twenty-five. the work of one extraordinary man. The difficulty is to have it at fifty. Elbert Hubbard (1856-1915) Edgar Degas (1834-1917) French painter, sculptor The drive toward complex technical achievement offers a clue to why the There’s no shortage of talent. There’s US is good at space gadgetry and bad only a shortage of talent that can at slum problems. recognize talent. H. K. Galbraith (b. 1908) Jerry Wald (1911-1962) American economist American writer-producer It is appallingly obvious that our TALMUD technology exceeds our humanity. Hebrew, and with it knowledge of its Albert Einstein greatest written works, Torah and Talmud, are the matrix in which TELEVISION Jewishness is embedded. Television is the first truly Ben Gurion-Recollections democratic culture, the first culture

available to everybody and entirely TEACHING governed by what the people want. The teacher should be a stabilizing The most terrifying thing is what force without being a paralyzing one. people do want. Shraga Silverstein Clive Barnes A Candle by Day

What bothers me about TV is that it We learn more from how than from tends to take our minds off our what we are taught. minds. Shraga Silverstein Robert Orban A Candle by Day If a man watches three football TECHNOLOGY games in a row, he should be Ever since our love for machines declared legally dead. replaced the love we used to have for Erma Bombeck our fellow men, catastrophes proceed to increase. Television is an invention that Man Ray (1890-1976) permits you to be entertained in your French photographer 145 living room by people you wouldn’t H. D. Thoreau (1817-1862) have in your home. David Frost (b. 1939) I recommend you to take care of the minutes: for hours will take care of Television is the first truly themselves. democratic culture – the first culture Lord Chesterfield (1694-1773) available to everybody and entirely English statesman and man of letters governed by what the people want. The most terrifying thing is what the A schedule defends from chaos and people do want. whim. It is a net for catching days. It Clive Barnes (b. 1927) is a scaffolding on which a worker British drama critic can stand and labor with both hands at sections of time. TEMPTATION Anne Dillard We sometimes confuse the feeling of temptation with that of giving into They say that time is the fire in temptation. The danger here is that which we burn. sometimes, feeling that we have Malcolm McDowell, allowed ourselves to fall, we despair Star Trek Generations of ourselves and allow ourselves to fall further. Dost thou love life? Then do not Shraga Silverstein squander time; for that's the stuff life A Candle by Day is made of. Ben Franklin

THOUGHT TOLERANCE The best "material for thought'' is To tolerate everything is to respect what we are doing, but the time nothing. when we are doing things is, Shraga Silverstein unfortunately, the worst time for A Candle by Day thinking. Shraga Silverstein Never underestimate the capacity of A Candle by Day another human being to have exactly

the same shortcomings you have. Wonder is what sets us apart from Leigh Steinberg other life forms. No other species in America West wonders about the meaning of existence or the complexity of the If it was necessary to tolerate in other universe or themselves. people everything one permits in Herbert W. Boyer oneself, life would be unbearable. co-founder of Genetech, Inc. Georges Courteline

TIME By being civilized we mean that As if you could kill time without there is a certain list of things about injuring eternity. which we permit a man to have an 146 opinion different from ours. Usually consideration. It is only when we they are things, which we have have perspective on our lives that ceased to care about: for instance, the motives besides immediate worship of G-d. gratification can come into play. Aubrey Menen (b. 1912) Lynn V Cheney British novelist, essayist in The Importance of ????

TORAH Culture is the bed-rock, the final The Torah scholar, to the extent that wall, against which one leans one’s he feels himself out of touch with back in a g-d-forsaken chaos. John Cowper Powys (1872-1963) reality is not a true Torah scholar. British author, poet Torah is the reality. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day What is conservatism? Is it not adherence to the old and tried, Were it not for the pious, black- against the new and untried? hatted, bearded Jews with their long Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865) payes, who never gave up on the Tradition means giving votes to the Torah no matter what the world was most obscure of all classes, our doing, I might not have a Torah to ancestors. It is the democracy of the study today. Kirk Douglas dead. Tradition refuses to submit to Climbing the Mountain (pg. 139) that arrogant oligarchy who merely happen to be walking around. Jesus studied the Torah; Mohammed Gilbert Keith Chesterton studied the Torah, But I had ever studied the Torah. It was about time. We don't want tradition. We want to Kirk Douglas live in the present and the only Climbing the Mountain (pg. 136) history that is worth a tinker's damn is the history we make today. TORTURE Henry Ford The healthy man does not torture others – generally it is the tortured TRAVEL who turn into torturers. Carl Jung (1875-1961) Travel is glamorous only in retrospect. Paul Theroux (b. 1941) TRADITION

People who grow up without a sense When one realizes that his life is of how yesterday has effected today worthless he either commits suicide are unlikely to have a strong sense of or travels. how today affects tomorrow. It is Edward Dahlberg (b. 1900) only when we become conscious of American novelist, poet, critic the flow of time that the consequences of action.... become a 147 TREATMENT needs friends, the truth must become Often it is said that the patient did his friend. not respond to the treatment, when in Shraga Silverstein reality the treatment did not A Candle by Day correspond to the patient. Shraga Silverstein Ah, if there were only such a thing as A Candle by Day a truth ache to warn us of truth decay. TRUST Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day It is better to suffer wrong than to do it, and happier to be sometimes Sometimes we do not accept the truth cheated than not to trust. precisely because it is so obvious. Samuel Johnson, The Rambler Our reasoning is that something so It is more shameful to mistrust one’s obvious could not fail to have been friends than to be deceived by them. recognized and accepted by all of La Rochefoucauld humanity, and that, therefore, we Maxims must be making some mistake in our appraisal of it. And our reasoning is In long experience is find that a man wrong. who trusts nobody is apt to be the Shraga Silverstein kind of man nobody trusts. A Candle by Day Harold Macmillan quoted in New York Herald Tribune Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to As contagion other people. of sickness makes sickness, Spencer Johnson contagion of trust can make trust. “Yes” or “No” (Harper Collins) Marianne Moore “In Distrust of Merits” Facts are stubborn things. Alain Rene' Lesage TRUST IN G-D (SEE FAITH) Oh, the difference between nearly TRUTH (SEE ALSO ERROR, right and exactly right Horace J Brown HONESTY, LYING) quoted by H Jackson Brown, Jr. in a Father's Book of Wisdom Lies are the religion of slaves and bosses. Truth is the god of the free The best tranquilizer is a clear man. conscience Maxim Gorky Live and Learn and Pass It On H. Jackson Brown, Jr. Acquiring truth may necessitate giving up friends, and since man Some people so treasure the truth that they use it with great economy.

148 R.H. Golenor ‘T is strange,--but true; for Truth is always Should we be rewriting history just Strange-- to make people feel good? That's not Stranger than fiction: if it could be history; that's psychiatry. told, Ed Koch How much would novels gain by the NY Post on multi-culturalism exchange! A lie has speed, but truth has Lord Byron, Don Juan endurance. When you have eliminated the impossible, whatever remains, We are all pilgrims on the same however improbable, must be the journey-but some pilgrims have truth. better road maps. Arthur Conan Doyle Nelson DeMille The Sign Four The Talbot Odyssey

It is the customary fate of new truths Truth is eternal, knowledge is to begin as heresies and to end as changeable. It is disastrous to superstitions. confuse them. Thomas Henry Huxley Madeleine L'Engle The Coming of Age of The Origin of An Acceptable Time Species (Farrar Strau and Giroux)

There are no new truths, but only The truth is often a terrible weapon truths that have not been recognized aggression. It is possible to lie, and by those who have perceived them even to murder, for the truth. Alfred Adler without noticing. A truth is Problems of Neurosis something that everyone can be shown to know and to have known, As scarce as truth is, the supply has as people say, all along. always been in excess of demand. Marty McCarthy Josh Billings On the Contrary Affurisms from Josh Billings: His Sayings It takes two to speak the truth--one to A truth that’s told with bad intent speak, and another to hear. Beats all the lies you can invent. Henry David Thoreau William Blake A Week on the Concord and Merrimack Auguries of Innocence Rivers

Truth exists, only falsehood has to be I never give them hell. I just tell the invented. truth, and they think it is hell. Georges Braque Harry S. Truman Pensees sur l’art quoted in Look

149 There are truths, which are not for all John F. Kennedy (1917-1963) men, nor for all times. Voltaire, 1761 G-d offers to every mind its choice between truth and repose. Take There is nothing so powerful as truth, which you please; you can never --and often nothing so strange. have both. Daniel Webster, 1830 R. W. Emerson (1803-1882) American essayist, poet, philosopher There are no whole truths; all truths are half-truths. It is trying to treat I tell the truth, not as much as I them as whole truths that plays the would but as much as I dare – and I devil. dare more and more as I grow older. Alfred North Whitehead Michel de Montaigne (1553-1592) Dialogues French essayist, moralist

We grew up founding our dreams on It is hard to believe that a man is the infinite promise of American telling the truth when you know that advertising. you would lie if you were in his Zelda Fitzgerald (1900-1948) place. wife of F. Scott Fitzgerald H. L. Mencken (1880-1956) American journalist Advertising is the greatest art form of It is the calling of great men, not so the twentieth century. much to preach new truths, as to Marshall McLuhan (1911-1981) rescue from oblivion those old truths, Canadian social scientist which it is our wisdom to remember and our weakness to forget. In this world nothing is certain but Sydney Smith (1771-1845) death and taxes. English clergyman, writer Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790) Let us begin by committing The only certainty is that nothing is ourselves to the truth – to see it like certain. it is, and tell it like it is – to find the Piny the Elder (c. 23-79) Roman scholar truth, to speak the truth, and to live the truth. Truth has to fall on fertile soil. Richard Nixon (b.1913) accepting Presidential nomination, 1968 Paula D’Arcy Gift of the Red Bird Crossroad Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick The great enemy of the truth is very themselves up and hurry off as if often not the lie – deliberate, nothing had happened. contrived and dishonest – but the Sir Winston Churchill (1874-1965) myth – the persistent, persuasive and Some of his decisions were accurate. unrealistic. A stopped watch is right twice a day. 150 Anonymous American Republican politician, Secretary of State Telling the truth to people who on the disinformation campaign against misunderstand you is generally Libya, 1986 promoting falsehood. Anthony Hope Hawkins (1863-1933) TYRANNY British author It is far easier to act under conditions of tyranny than to think. Truth is so important that it needs to Hannah Arendt (1906-1975) be surrounded by a bodyguard of American political philosopher lies. George Shultz (b.1920) TZADIK (SEE SAGES; ETHICAL PERSONALITY)

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UNDERSTANDING If one does not understand a person, UNHAPPINESS one tends to regard him as a fool. Man’s unhappiness, as I construe, Carl Jung (1875-1961) comes of his greatness; it is because there is an Infinite in him, which If we would gain understanding, we with all his cunning he cannot quite must place a stethoscope to the heart bury under the finite. of humanity and listen carefully. Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881) Shraga Silverstein Scottish writer A Candle by Day UNPREDICTABILITY It is not enough to put ourselves in Unpredictability, too can become another's place. We must, in monotonous. addition, exchange our mind for his. Eric Hoffer (1902-1983) Shraga Silverstein American philosopher A Candle by Day

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VACATION VARIETY There are certain problems, which In business or in life, don't follow the we admit to ourselves only when we wagon tracks too closely. are in generally easy and pleasant H. Jackson Brown, Jr. circumstances, so that these problems, being admitted, do not Anyone who has never made a combine with other difficulties to mistake has never tried anything overpower us. This is not the least new. consideration behind the advisability Albert Einstein of vacations. Shraga Silverstein The most beautiful thing we can A Candle by Day experience is the mysterious. It is the source of all true art and all science. VALUE He to whom this emotion is a Nothing is worth doing unless the stranger, who can no longer pause to consequences may be serious. wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as Hypatia, Misalliance good as dead: his eyes are closed. George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Albert Einstein

Nowadays people know the price of A mind that is stretched by a new everything and the value of nothing. experience can never go back to its Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) old dimensions. Oliver Wendell Holmes Let us not deem things "worthless" simply because they are worth less. VICES Shraga Silverstein Every form of addiction is bad, no A Candle by Day matter whether the narcotic be alcohol or morphine or idealism. VALUES Carl Gustav Jung Most men would rather be failures in terms of their values than admit that One should judge a man mainly from their values are wrong. his depravities. Virtues can be faked. Shraga Silverstein Depravities are real. Candle by Day Klaus Kinski

153 Argue for your limitations and Wisdom is knowing what to do next; they're yours. virtue is doing it. Jonathan Livingston Seagull David Starr Jordan American naturalist VIOLENCE In some cases non-violence requires Virtue shuns ease as a companion. It more militancy than violence. demands a rough and thorny path. Cesar Chavez Michel de Montaigne (1553-1592) French essayist, moralist The man who strikes first admits that his ideas have given out. VISION (SEE GOALS) Chinese Proverb VOTING A citizen of America will cross the

ocean to fight for democracy, but VIRTUE (SEE ALSO RIGHTEOUSNESS) won't cross the street to vote in a

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WAR (SEE ALSO PEACE) Saint Thomas Aquinas (1225-1274)

War is a national evil inclination. In a war of ideas it is people who get Shraga Silverstein killed. A Candle by Day Slanislaus J. Lec (b. 1909) Polish poet Every gun that is fired, every warship launched, every rocket fired, The belief in the possibility of a short signifies, in the final sense, a theft decisive war appears to be one of the from those who hunger and are not most ancient and dangerous of fed, those who are cold and are not human illusions. clothed. The world in arms is not Robert Lynd (1879-1949) Anglo-Irish essayist, journalist spending money alone. It is spending the sweat of its labourers, There never was a good war or a bad the genius of its scientists, the hopes peace. of its children. Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790) Dwight Eisenhower (1890-1969) War is elevating because the War is nothing more than the individual disappears before the great continuation or politics by other conception of the state. means. Heinrich von Treitschke (1834-1896) Karl von Clausewitz (1780-1831) German historian Prussian soldier, strategist What a country calls its vital As long as war is regarded as economic interests are not the things, wicked, it will always have its which enable its citizens to live, but fascination. When it is looked upon the things, which enable it to make as vulgar, it will cease to he popular. war. Petrol is more likely than wheat Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) to be a cause of international conflict.

Simone Weil (1909-1943) Child of G-d, therefore children of French philosopher, mystic G-d, therefore brothers. All wars are civil wars. The essence of war is violence. Eric Gill (1882-1940) Moderation in war is imbecility. British sculptor John Arbuthnot Fisher

For a war to be just three things are The object of war is not to die for necessary – public authority, just your country but to make the other cause, right motive. bastard die for his. 155 General George Patton Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason why so WEALTH (SEE MATERIALISM) few engage in it. Henry Ford, Bits and Pieces WEATHER There is really no such thing as bad Every man is a fool for at least five weather, only different kinds of good minutes a day; wisdom consists of weather. not exceeding that limit. John Ruskin (1819-1900) Elbert Hubbard English critic In much wisdom is much grief: and he that increaseth knowledge WINE Wine gives a man nothing… It only increaseth sorrow. Bible, Ecclesiastics puts in motion what had been locked up in frost. Knowledge and wisdom, far from Dr. Samuel Johnson (1709-1784) being one,

Have ofttimes no connection. WISDOM (SEE ALSO EDUCATION, Knowledge dwells EXPERIENCE, KNOWLEDGE, SAGES, In heads replete with thoughts of SILENCE, UNDERSTANDING) other men; Ironically, it is often those whose Wisdom in minds attentive to their intelligence is not very great and who own. William Cowper must, therefore, consciously shape The Task and direct it, who emerge wise. Shraga Silverstein Common sense is the best distributed A Candle by Day thing in the world, for everyone

thinks he is so well-endowed with it Knowledge shrinks as wisdom that even those who are hardest to grows: for details are swallowed up satisfy in all other matters are not in in principles. the habit of desiring more of it than Alfred North Whitehead they already have. Renee Descartes Wisdom too often never comes, and Discourse on Method so one ought not to reject it merely because it comes late. The art of being wise is the art of Felix Frankfurter knowing what to overlook.

William James, He who never doubts doesn't know The Principles of Psychology anything. Spanish proverb It’s bad taste to be wise all the time,

like being at a perpetual funeral. D.H. Lawrence “Peace and War” 156 There is only one thing more painful Be wisely worldly, but not worldly than learning from experience and wise. that is not learning from experience. Francis Quarles Archibald McLeish Emblems The key to wisdom is knowing all the right questions. Even a fool, when he holdeth his John A. Simone Jr. peace, is counted wise. Bible, Proverbs 17:28 The important thing is to not stop

questioning. Nine-tenths of wisdom is being wise Albert Einstein in time. Theodore Roosevelt speech 1917 WISHFULNESS There is not only wishful thinking, A man is wise with the wisdom of but even wishful seeing. his time only, and ignorant with its Shraga Silverstein ignorance. A Candle by Day Henry David Thoreau Journal WOMEN A lady is a woman who makes a man Common sense is not so common. behave like a gentleman. Voltaire Philosophical Dictionary Russsell Lynes (b. 1910) American editor, critic Wisdom is ofttimes nearer when we stoop than when we soar. A woman is like a teabag – only in William Wordsworth hot water do you realize how strong The Excursions she is. Nancy Reagan (b.1923) Every person is a fool in somebody’s opinion. The greatest question that has never Spanish Proverb been answered, and which I have not yet been able to answer despite my History teaches us that men and thirty years of research into the nations behave wisely once they feminine soul, is: What does a have exhausted all other alternatives. woman want? Abba Eban (b.1915) Sigmund Freud (1856-1939) Israeli politician

Learn from the mistakes of others; you can never live long enough to WORK make them all yourself. Anyone can do any amount of work, John Luther provided it isn’t the work he is supposed to be doing at that moment. Robert Benchley (1889-1945) American humorous writer

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By working faithfully eight hours a WORLD TO COME (SEE day, you may eventually get to be a AFTERLIFE) boss and work twelve hours a day. Robert Frost (1874-1963) WRITERS American poet An original writer is not one who

imitates no one, but whom no one Nothing is really work unless you can imitate. would rather be doing something Francois-René de Chateaubriand (1768- else. 1848) J. M. Barrie (1860-1937) French writer

WORLD For the sake of a few fine The world is a beautiful book, but of imaginative or domestic passages, little use to him who cannot read it. are we to be bullied into a certain Carlo Goldoni (1707-1793) philosophy engendered in the whims Italian dramatist of an egotist. The most incomprehensible thing John Keats (1705-1821) about the world is that it is How vain it is to sit down to write comprehensible. when you have not stood up to live. Albert Einstein H. D. Thoreau (1817-1862)

How wonderful it is that nobody What I like in a good author is not need wait a single moment before what he says, but what he whispers. starting to improve the world. Logan Pearsall Smith (1865-1946) Anne Frank American essayist

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It is not so much that youth is strong as that it does not realize when it is weak. Shraga Silverstein A Candle by Day

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ZIONISM (SEE ALSO ISRAEL) American Jews live off the capital of To be a Zionist it is not necessary to Israeli culture...(They) look forward to be mad, but it helps. ever more romantic adventures...rather Chaim Weizmann than the colorful times of peace. American Jews want to take their As Arthur Hertzberg trenchantly vacations among heroes,... Those in argues in the Zionist idea, Zionism the land identify with normal peoples. actually represented not merely a Those abroad see in the land what it secular and political ideology, but the means to be extraordinary. transvaluation of Jewish values... Jacob Neusner Herein lies the ambiguity of Zionism. American Judaism It was supposedly a secular movement, yet in reinterpreting the Dream and deed are not as different as classic mythic structures of Judaism, it many think. All the deeds of men are compromised its secularity and dreams at first... exposed its fundamental unity with the Theodor Herzl classic mythic being of Judaism. Postscripts, Altneuland

Jacob Neusner Zionism and The Jewish Problem, No culture has had such a decisive Midstream, Nov. 1969 impact on the Jews as the German,' Nachum Goldman in pamphlet, 1916, (American Jewry) were moved in which he maintained that in many because of the capacity of Zionism to ways the Zionists were much closer in resurrect the single most powerful national spirit than the force in the history of Judaism, assimilationists, who had received heir Messianism. influence from the liberal thinkers of Jacob Neusner Britain and France. `The young Zionism and the Jewish Problem, national Jewish movement, on the Midstream, Nov. 69 other hand, had made the national idea the central concept of its philosophy: The new law requires of Jewish man Fichte, Hegel, Legarde and the other one great commandment: support leading spirits of the German national Israel. idea-they were also our teachers. It Jacob Neusner was no accident that Theodor Herzl, American Judaism the genius who founded modern 160 political Zionism, came from German culture to the Jewish national idea.' Laqueur

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