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been reported worldwide, with a hundred of those taking place A Day to Remember in the U.S. These numbers by no means demonstrate the full By Bill Redmond-Palmer hatred. The vigil reminds families, friends, gravity of the situation, as most The Transgender Day of Remembrance and loved ones that transgender people are transgender deaths are unre- (TDoR), held each year on November 20, was their sons, daughters, parents, friends, and ported or lost due to mis-gen- established in 1998 to memorialize transgen- lovers and invites their allies to stand in soli- dering. In addition, not everyone der and gender non-conforming people who darity with the transgender community. agrees on which types of deaths have been killed as a result of hatred, fear, On the importance of TDoR, Rev. David ought to be included in this kind and prejudice. The observance evolved from Carl Olson of the First Unitarian Church of of reporting. Some inconsis- a web-based project into an international day Baltimore writes, “When we gather for the tently reported causes of death of action, with observances in over 185 cities Transgender Day of Remembrance, we look include domestic violence, sus- throughout more than 20 countries. at the world as is really is – with both the pro- picious deaths, and suicide. TDoR raises awareness of hate crimes found horror of the many stories of transpho- Baltimore City saw two against gender non-conforming people, pro- bia’s victims, and the joy of a community’s brutal murders of transgender vides an opportunity to publicly mourn and resilience, beauty, and fortitude. From such a women in 2014. Kandy Hall, a honor the lives of those who might otherwise vantage point, we have the resources to bring 40-year- old hairdresser from be forgotten, and provides an opportunity to about change, with deep joy.” Annapolis, was murdered on express love and respect for transgender Since the last TDoR in 2013, more than June 3 of this year. Mia Hen- people in the face of national indifference and 1,400 deaths of transgender people have —continued on page 2

Hearts & Ears to Hold Town Hall on Pride There was a fair amount of criticism leveled at the Center for issues ranging By Steve Charing from the new location north of the tradi- With the GLCCB (Glccb.org) having been tional Charles and Eager venue that had under fire for their running of Baltimore been the locale in past Prides to not hav- Pride, other organizations may be stepping ing the Sunday segment taking place at up to help. Hearts & Ears (Heartsandears. Druid Hill Park – another traditional site – org), a Baltimore-based non-profit for to a lack of inclusiveness in the planning. sexual and gender minorities with mental Former interim executive health issues, has scheduled a town director Kelly Neel said hall meeting at their headquarters ELECTION there was insufficient on November 21 at 6 p.m. as a Retrospect time to adequately first step to encourage other or- pages 4, 9 plan for Pride 2014 ganizations to pitch in. & 12 given the Center’s “This is not a hostile takeover of move to a new building Pride,” emphasized Hearts & Ears op- and the departure of the erations manager Omar Ellis. “Instead, it’s previous executive director, Matt Thorn. an attempt to bring other community orga- “We got started late in the game,” nizations to the table to have more repre- explained Neel during the July town hall sentation in the planning and execution of meeting. Dates had to shift, and a new Pride.” “footprint” to the Mt. Royal area required The GLCCB held a town hall meeting permits and added security. The decision to on July 28 to obtain feedback by commu- move the events was made before Neel as- nity members on the Pride events of the sumed her duties. Neel eventually resigned Pride 2014 credit: Steve Charing previous month. —continued on page 3 ‘We Must Have a New Approach’

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A Day to Remember – continued from page 1 • April “Ms. Dee” (Darren) Green, who held on November 20, at the First Unitarian was found stabbed to death. Church of Baltimore, 10 West Franklin Street. derson, 26, a brother of NBA athlete Reg- • Aiden Rivera Schaeff, who took his life The evening will begin at 5 p.m. with a recep- gie Bullock of the Los Angeles Clippers, was one month shy of his 18th birthday due to tion featuring original artwork by trans and murdered only a few weeks later on July 16. constant harassment and bullying which lead queer artists, curated by the Queer Artists Baltimore Police are still investigating both to massive depression. Collective at Maryland Institute College of Art murders, as well as the possibility of them be- • Tyra Trent, who was found strangled to (MICA), to be held in the First Unitarian par- ing connected. death in the basement of an empty Baltimore ish hall located at North Charles and Hamilton Other Marylanders who will be remem- Streets. bered on the Transgender Day of Remem- At 6 p.m. the sanctuary doors brance are: at West Franklin and North Charles • Chrissey (Marvin) Johnson, who died streets will open, and meditative music from multiple stab wounds. will provide a welcoming opportunity • Tacy Raino Ranta, co-founder of for centering and reflection. The inter- the Baltimore transgender support group religious procession and memorial Tran*Quility, who died of a gunshot wound. service will begin at 6:30 p.m. and will • Carla Natasha Hunt, who died from a include a reading of names of trans- gunshot wound to the head. apartment. gender people who have lost their lives to • Venus LaBeija (Marcus Rodgers), a • Tracey Johnson, who died of multiple violence and hate followed by a candlelight transgender rights activist, who was stabbed gunshot wounds. vigil. and set on fire, and succumbed to the burns • Kelly Young, was found suffering from a Music will be provided by performers a week later in the burn unit. gunshot wound, and was taken to a hospital including Rev. Sam Offer of the Unity Fel- • Angel (Dream Revlon Royale) who was where she died. lowship Church of Baltimore, the New Wave found dead in her home just days before she While not everyone remembered on TDoR Singers and Positive Voices. It will feature was to pass on the crown of Queen of Bal- self-identified as transgender, each was a vic- poetry written by members of the transgen- timore Pride. Friends and family believe foul tim of violence based on bias against gender der community and read either by the po- play was involved. non-conforming people. ets themselves or by readers selected by • Stacey (Jarrell) Brown, who died from a The 16th Annual Transgender Day of the poets. The theme for the service will be gunshot wound to the head. Remembrance service in Baltimore will be “Peace.” The event is being coordinated by individual and organizational members of the Transgender Response Team – a group of consumers, services providers and other stakeholders who work to tackle the barri- ers transgender Marylanders face to full and equal inclusion in society which collectively contributes to heightened risk for HIV for transgender people. The team is sponsored by the Maryland Infectious Disease and En- vironmental Health Administration. For more information online about the Baltimore TDoR event, including information about event sponsorship, visit Sites.google. com/site/tdorbaltimore/, or search for “Inter- national TG Day of Remembrance – Balti- more, Maryland” on Facebook. A “Rally for Peace” is being planned for Saturday, November 22 from noon to 2:30 p.m. with the location to be determined. See the website listed above for more information and updates. Names of Marylanders who died as a result of anti-transgender violence or bias that were submitted to j_brevelle@yahoo. com prior to 6 p.m. on November 17 will be included in the event’s printed materials. All others will be listed on the website. Submis- sions should include their name, date of death, place of death, and a brief description of the person. t Bill Redmond-Palmer is a long time community organizer and advocate for HIV/AIDS and sexual and gender minority related issues. 2 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // LOCAL Chase-Brexton Starts Health Resource Center Drag Debuts Chase Brexton Health Care, the regional pri- inars, online resources, information about in Columbia mary care provider, has named Nate Swee- benefits and help for caregivers planning for ney, a former caregiver and administrator for their own future. The program currently oper- senior rehab, to serve as executive director ates in Washington, D.C., and 17 states. for its new LGBT Health Resource Center. “I am thrilled to maintain and expand Set to open in Chase Brexton’s Mt. Vernon Chase Brexton’s commitment to the LGBT location in spring 2015, the cente rwill help community,” Sweeney said. “I look forward LGBT individuals find and connect with ex- to working with the accomplished staff and pert services, including in the areas of medi- members of the community to provide new cal and behavioral health, gerontology, trans- services and connections to existing resourc- gender counseling, and more. The center will es for LGBT Marylanders of all ages.” also support other orga- Sweeney, 36, most recently served as the nizations in the region to assistant administrator at the Neighborhoods help them more effective- at St. Elizabeth for Catholic Charities of Balti- ly serve LBGT people. more. Previously, he served as administrator “We are extremely at the Green House Residences at Stadium fortunate to bring Nate Place, where he licensed, opened, staffed, Sweeney on board to and filled Maryland’s first Green House-style open and lead our LGBT nursing home. Currently, 48 elders live in this Health Resource Cen- location in four stacked, communal homes ter,” said Chase Brexton while receiving 24-hour skilled nursing and ON NOVEMBER 8, A CAPACITY CROWD packed the Second Chance Saloon in the Vil- CEO Richard Larison. N ate Sweeney rehabilitation care. lage of Oakland Mills to see the very first public drag show in Columbia, Maryland. The “Nate brings tremen- Sweeney has a master’s degree in the audience was entertained by (from left-to-right): Onyx D. Pearl, Anastacia Amor, Krystal dous experience and Management of Aging Services from UMBC’s Nova, Shawnna Alexander, Ashlee Jozet Adams, and Ariyanna Myst perform. Anastacia accomplishments as a medical caregiver, Erickson School. He has conducted HIV re- and Shawnna were the co-hosts. “To every single person who attended and supported administrator, and innovator.” search and testing at Johns Hopkins Uni- us, we thank you soo much for allowing us to be apart of a wonderful night and a wonder- Sweeney will also head the implementa- versity with the BESURE project and with ful establishment,” wrote Anastacia Amor on Facebook. t tion of SAGECAP (Services & Advocacy for clinical trials for the Department of Neurology, credit: Bob Ford Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Elders and served as a caregiver at the Don Miller – Caring and Preparing) in Maryland. Chase House, a small residential hospice serving Brexton is partnering with SAGE to launch the formerly homeless individuals with AIDS. program this spring through a grant from the Chase Brexton Health Care operates of Harry and Jeanette Weinberg Foundation. seven medical centers in Maryland, including SAGECAP aims to provide a welcoming its newest in Anne Arundel county. community that helps caregivers navigate To schedule an appointment, call 410- their own current and future needs by offering 837-2050 x4300. For more info, visit Chase- counseling, support groups, educational sem- brexton.org. t

H earts & Ears to Hold Town Hall on Pride the GLCCB had begun between Neel prior – continued from page 1 to her resignation and Hearts & Ears director Jessica Blum. They have continued from the Center effective October 3. with Neel’s replacement Joel Tinsley-Hall. Discussions about collaborating with “It is my hope that by bringing together multiple community and organizational representatives we can utilize our com- bined ideas and resources to make this and all future upcoming Pride festivals successful, enjoyable and inclusive for all,” Blum told Baltimore OUTloud. The town hall is free and open to the public and takes place from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m. at Hearts and Ears, 611 Park Avenue, Suite A, Baltimore. For more information, call 410-523-1694. Any organization or business that wishes to take part in the town hall can RSVP by either call- ing Hearts & Ears at 410-523-1694 H earts & Ears entry in the 2013 Baltimore or visiting them at Facebook.com/ Pride Parade credit: Steve Charing events/1511875845726751. t

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Gender Conference tal health, and social service professionals, during a celebration held by PFLAG and to help them better understand and serve Gender Rights Maryland on the effective East to Focus on transgender and gender-expansive chil- date of FAMA. dren youth. Local and national leaders will Though no data are available as to Families be on hand for in-depth exploration of best how LGBT folks and allies voted during practices for ensuring every young person the election, it is clear that each camp can By Steve Charing is safe and supported, regardless of their claim support from key LGBT leaders. Gender Conference East, a gathering gender identity or expression. “Allan Kittleman was a champion for aimed at supporting children and youth The family and youth day will feature LGBT issues over the last few years in the across the gender spectrum as well as an array of workshops and supportive General Assembly, and I know that he will their families and the professionals work- spaces for parents; separate programming continue fighting for fairness and equality ing with them, will take place November for teens, tweens, kids; various commu- in his new role,” said Equality Maryland’s 14 and 15 at the North Baltimore Plaza nity-building opportunities; and numerous Carrie Evans. resources to help attendees support the A llan Kittleman with Carrie Evans Watson had a staunch advocate as gender diversity of all children and youth. during a fundraiser at Pride well. “We’re concerned about ensuring credit: Steve Charing There will also be a number of optional ac- continued improvement in our quality of tivities planned on the evening of Novem- life as well as bullying in schools, afford- ber 14 for families and youth arriving early. non-discrimination were settled issues and able housing, and public health,” said “PFLAG is thrilled to partner with Gen- were not the focus of the campaigns, each Byron Macfarlane, the county’s Register Hotel (2004 Greenspring Drive, Luther- der Spectrum and the Family & Gender side tried to woo LGBT voters by touting of Wills and the first open LGBT person ville-Timonium, Maryland). The confer- Project of Ackerman Institute on this im- their respective records. to hold elective office in Howard. “I hope ence, co-sponsored by Gender Spectrum, portant work,” Catherine Hyde, a member Watson’s campaign, for instance, held now that the election is over, the vagaries PFLAG-Howard County, and the Ackerman of PFLAG-Howard County’s steering com- at least two LGBT-specific events. Kittle- and generalities of the Kittleman campaign Institute’s Gender and Family Project, will mittee and one of the conference’s orga- man enlisted the support of Carrie Evans, will give way to concrete plans to address be divided into two segments: a profes- nizers, told Baltimore OUTloud. “It’s critical executive director of Equality Maryland, to these very real concerns. I congratulate sional day on November 14 and a family we bring this kind of national support to our boost his campaign. Evans recorded a vid- him on his victory and hope that the LGBT day on November 15. families here on the east coast.” eo extolling Kittleman’s accomplishments community and the new county executive The professional day activities will in- For more information, visit GenderCon- for LGBT equality. will have a productive working relationship clude workshops, discussions, and net- ferenceEast.org or email info@gendercon- Kittleman had been a vocal supporter in the years ahead.” t working for education, legal, medical, men- ferenceeast.org. t of marriage equality in Maryland’s Sen- ate the last two years the bill came up for votes. He also vigorously campaigned to protect the law that was signed by Gover- Fake Robocalls Mar LGBT Support Split nor Martin O’Malley in 2012 when it was petitioned to referendum. Election in Howard In addition, Kittleman supported and voted for this year’s successful passage in Anne Arundel Executive Race of the Fairness for All Marylanders Act (FAMA) that provided anti-discrimination By Steve Charing By Steve Charing protections in employment, housing, pub- David Armstrong, 31, an openly gay can- Riding the red wave that splashed across lic accommodations and credit based on didate who unsuccessfully ran for the Dis- the country and Maryland on November gender identity. Those actions, which cost trict 5 council seat in Anne Arundel, was a 4, former GOP State Senator Allan Kittle- Kittleman his position as the Senate’s Mi- victim of robocalls on October 31. The call, man stunned Democrat councilwoman nority Leader because they bucked party which stated it was from “Marylanders for Courtney Watson and her supporters in dogma, did not go unnoticed by the LGBT Transgenders,” a fake group, asked voters the race to succeed term-limited Ken Ul- community. to call his mother’s house where he lives man as Howard County Executive. In do- For her part, Watson, as councilwoman, to thank him for coming out of the closet ing so, Kittleman became only the second played a significant role in getting a similar Republican to be elected to that office in transgender non-discrimination measure the county’s history. passed in Howard County. She took that Ulman lost his chance to be Lieutenant success to Baltimore County to persuade Governor as part of Anthony Brown’s failed wavering lawmakers, and it passed just bid to be Maryland’s first African-American a couple of months later. Watson went to governor. The 51.3 % to 48.6 % margin in Annapolis two years in a row and testified the Kittleman-Watson contest was closer on the statewide bill’s behalf during House than the Larry Hogan margin over Brown committee hearings. in the county suggesting that Brown’s Through the years, both candidates poor performance was a drag on Watson’s had regularly appeared at PFLAG-Howard quest to be the county’s executive. County events to demonstrate support The race in Howard was distinguished for the county’s LGBT citizens. Most no- by the fact that two strong LGBT advo- table of these was a joint appearance at a cates faced off against one another. Al- PFLAG-sponsored forum in July. In Octo- D avid Armstrong the victim of the robocalls though marriage equality and transgender ber both candidates addressed the crowd credit: Steve Charing 4 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com news // local and his support for “all transgenders” in Doesn’t every man know whether he is Some men who come to GAMMA meet- the Fairness for All Marylanders Act “so gay or bisexual by his teens or twenties? ings for support decide they need to leave that they can go to any bathroom of their Not necessarily--each man’s path is dif- their marriage and live a more openly gay choice based their own confused gender ferent. Some men who come to GAMMA or bisexual lifestyle. Other men who come identity.” The call said, “Call Patrick today knew about their attraction to men early, to the meetings find ways to accommodate and thank him for his bravery in coming out but did not feel they could express it be- their sexuality and choose to remain mar- of the closet.” cause of religious, family or cultural be- ried to their wives. GAMMA does not have Armstrong’s virulently anti-gay oppo- liefs, which often takes the form of inter- a party line. Everyone has to find their nent, Republican Michael Peroutka, 62, nalized homophobia. Most men describe own answer, and what is best for one per- is a radical Christian Reconstructionist falling in love with their wives, but discov- son may not be best for another. All are and southern secessionist. He thinks gay ering quickly how their sexual orientation accepted at GAMMA. made full expression of the love impos- No matter what a man’s history, the people are out to “recruit your children” From the 3rd Annual Bmore Free Ball into their “death style” and the legisla- sible. Other men may have had hints about men who come to GAMMA often have one tors’ passing of marriage equality “violates their attraction to men, but those attrac- thing in common, after being in the closet other surprises. Competitive contests in a God’s law.” tions only became clear in their 30s, 40s, and married or in relationship to a woman variety of categories with cash prizes will “Employing fear-based tactics and or even later. What surprises me, first as a for many years: relief. Their first GAMMA also take place. One such contest is the making untrue statements about the Fair- GAMMA attendee and now as a GAMMA meeting is often the first time in their lives “Virgin War” category whereby the person ness for All Marylanders Act is irresponsi- facilitator, is the power of each man’s sto- that they have ever spoken with other men with the best production recreating Madon- ble and has no place in campaigns,” Car- ry. And despite similarities, no two stories about their attraction to men. Watching a na’s 1984 MTV performance will receive rie Evans, executive director of Equality are the same. man attend his first meeting, hearing him $300. Maryland, told Baltimore OUTloud. “More- GAMMA meetings are rich and varied – share some of the most intimate challeng- Jack Mizrahi, MC Debra, and Trebra over, telling voters a candidate is gay is they always attract one to two men coming es he is facing, and observing him gather Blahnik will be leading the program. t passé; especially when the candidate is for the first time, as well as men returning strength from the other men in the room, open about his sexual orientation. Voters for a second and third meeting, and veter- is moving and powerful. Men leave their deserve better.” ans who have been coming for years. first GAMMA meeting knowing they are Peroutka denied any involvement with GAMMA Serves Men come to GAMMA from all walks not alone, and that they have an impor- the robocall but Armstrong has filed a com- of life and age groups. But most often it tant base of support as they start to make plaint with the state Board of Elections is a crisis in a man’s life that brings him the difficult decisions on the direction their who forwarded it to the state prosecutor’s Gays Married to to GAMMA: for example, a spouse has lives will take. office. t found gay porn on the family computer; or GAMMA meeting are currently held in Women a man realizes he cannot hide his sexuality Washington, D.C. near Dupont Circle on from his spouse any longer; or a man who the 2nd and 4th Friday of every month, and Since the inception of the gay rights move- shared his sexuality with his partner before in Northern Virginia once a month. Meet- ‘Know Your Status ment, hundreds of organizations have marriage, now finds it resurfacing after be- ings are planned in 2015 for Maryland. come and gone, serving the needs of the ing buried within the marriage years, un- GAMMA can be found online at GAM- evolving LGBTQ community. One group, discussed. MAinDC.org. t Free Ball’ on Tap GAMMA, based in the Washington, D.C., region, is dedicated to helping men who By Steve Charing are gay, bisexual, or questioning, or who The 5th annual Know Your Status Free Ball do not label themselves at all, but are at- First Pop-up will take place on November 15 between tracted to men and are in straight marriag- 7 p.m. and 1 a.m. at the Patapsco Arena, es or relationships with women. GAMMA Bar Event 3301 Annapolis Boulevard, Baltimore. The has been offering a place for support and ball, which is free to the public, is co-spon- fellowship for such men on a continuing sored by the Baltimore City Health Depart- basis since 1978. ment and Baltimore Ballroom Coalition. GAMMA grew out of an October 24, “The free ball was created to provide 1977 fire at the Cinema Follies Theatre, much needed resources to the LGBT com- which took the lives of nine men and hos- munity,” said Keith “Ebony” Holt, one of the pitalized several others. The Follies was a event’s organizers. “The idea for the free gay adult movie theater and a number of ball came from various focus groups that the men who died were married. GAMMA felt like a ball would be an ideal event to was born the next year as a peer support make people comfortable with the health group for gay married men – a phrase department and comfortable with their in- that meant something very different than dividual health.” The free ball has won the it does today with marriage equality--and Ball of the Year title on several occasions. has continued to hold regular meetings Various community partners will be on ever since. hand to discuss their services. “Our part- With the dramatic advances in recent ners include the Police Department, John years in LGBTQ rights, one could ask, Hopkins University, University of Maryland, “Is GAMMA still relevant?” For the men WAR, STAR, BCCC, and others,” said Holt. searching for answers who continue to dis- OVER 50 ATTENDED the first Pop-Up Gay Bar event at the All American Sports Bar in Besides free HIV testing, care linkage cover GAMMA, and who come from both Glen Burnie, Maryland. This is the new suburban version of the former Guerilla Gay Bar referrals, access to various resources, and near and far to attend meetings, the an- Baltimore, whereby a group of LGBT folks “take over” a straight bar. More suburban Pop- live performances, there will be gifts and swer is a resounding yes. Up Gay Bar events are being planned in the future. t

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compiled by Jim Becker year. The other drug tested, rilpivirine, was may appeal directly to the U.S. Supreme Speculation of a lesbian connection not so promising, and it will probably not Court. The high court declined to hear to JFK’s death also persists to this day, be tested as an injectable PrEP drug. (Se- previous appeals that had ruled same-sex though there’s a similar lack of support- Early tests attle Gay News – Mike Andrew at Sgn.org) marriage bans unconstitutional. With the ing evidence. At the time of JFK’s death, Sixth Circuit breaking ranks, it seems pos- his accused killer, Oswald, was separat- show quarterly sible that the Supreme Court will accept an ed from his wife, Marina. Marina resided appeal if asked. (Seattle Gay News – Mike in suburban Dallas with Ruth Paine, a injectable PrEP Federal appeals Andrew at Sgn.org) Quaker woman who was separated from her husband, Michael. Paine and Marina drug promising court upholds met at a party in February 1963 and began a brief friendship. They lived together for Cape Town, South Africa – A new marriage bans about two months, up until November 22, study suggests that at least one injectable 1963, when JFK was assassinated PrEP drug may provide protection against Cincinnati, Ohio – Breaking with all In his 1967 best-seller The Death of a HIV infection if administered once every the other appellate courts that have ruled President, author William Manchester re- 16 weeks. A second drug being tested is on same-sex marriage, a three-judge pan- peatedly insinuated that Ruth and Marina far less promising, however. Injectable el of the Sixth Circuit Court of Appeals has were in a lesbian relationship. Manchester PrEP meds that can be administered once upheld marriage bans in Michigan, Ken- quoted selectively from letters between a quarter would help address issues that tucky, Ohio, and Tennessee. The decision the women, which were affectionate but make some HIV prevention activists re- applies to six lawsuits from all four states. could hardly be considered love letters. In luctant to fully endorse PrEP. Many fear The ruling was a split 2-1 decision, with one letter, Marina wrote to Paine: “I kiss that patients will Judges Deborah Cook and Jeffrey Sutton and hug you and the children.” “I love you fail to adhere to voting to uphold the bans, and Senior Cir- Marina and want to live with you,” Paine the once-a-day cuit Judge Martha Craig Daughtry dissent- said in a particularly effusive reply. On the regimen that oral ing. evening of November 21, 1963, Oswald PrEP meds re- “When the courts do not let the people unexpectedly visited Paine and Marina at quire. The results resolve new social issues like this one, the Paine home, and when Marina repeat- were discussed at they perpetuate the idea that the heroes edly rebuffed his entreaties to “quit Ruth” the Research for in these change events are judges and and live with him, Oswald went “mad” and Prevention (R4P) lawyers,” Sutton wrote in the main opinion. shot JFK the next day, according to Man- Conference in “Better, in this instance, we think, to allow LGBT chester. But extensive government inves- Cape Town, South change through the customary political tigations haven’t yielded a scintilla of sup- Africa, at the end processes, in which the people, gay and connections porting evidence, and both women have of October. straight alike, become the heroes of their consistently denied being in a lesbian rela- According own stories by meeting each other not as in the JFK tionship. Today, Marina, 73, lives in subur- to Bill Spreen of adversaries in a court system but as fellow ban Dallas with Kenneth Porter, an electri- GlaxoSmithKline pharmaceuticals, re- citizens seeking to resolve a new social is- assassination cian whom she married in 1965. Ruth, 82, searchers found that the drug cabotegravir sue in a fair-minded way.” In her dissent, divorced Michael in 1970, and she never almost completely eliminated HIV infec- Daughtry called the Sutton opinion “an in- unlikely remarried. She lives in a Quaker retire- tions in a test group of monkeys. Testing troductory lecture in political philosophy,” ment village in California and has a male on human volunteers found that a dose of but added that it failed “to grapple with the Philadelphia, Penna. – In 1969, New companion in her life. While we may never 500 mg produces levels of the drug that relevant constitutional issue in this appeal.” Orleans District Attorney Jim Garrison know who killed JFK, speculation about can prevent HIV infection for as long as Cook was appointed to the Sixth Circuit by prosecuted Clay Shaw for allegedly con- an LGBT connection to his assassination 16 weeks. The drug’s “half-life,” or rate of George W. Bush, and was mentioned as spiring to kill President John F. Kennedy. should be put to rest, once and for all. t elimination in the body, is 25 times longer a possible replacement for U.S. Supreme Shaw, a gay man who died from cancer in (Philadelphia Gay News – Timothy Cwiek with the injectable formulation than with an Court Justice Sandra Day O’Conner when 1974, was the only person ever put on trial at Epgn.com) oral cabotegravir pill. Researchers calcu- she retired. Sutton is also a Bush nominee. in connection with JFK’s assassination. lated that an 800 mg dose every 12 weeks Daughtry was appointed by Bill Clinton. Garrison initially believed JFK’s murder should result in drug levels that are over “We’re extremely disappointed for the was a sadistic “thrill killing” plotted by Lee eight times the amount needed to reduce families in these four states, but this deci- Harvey Oswald, Shaw, and David Ferrie, viral replication by 90% – what HIV sci- sion highlights the need for the U. S. Su- who was also gay. He later embraced a re- T hese news notes have been compiled, entists call “90% inhibitory concentration preme Court to right this injustice. While vised theory that Shaw, Oswald, and Ferrie with permission, from the online version (IC90).” a tidal wave of courts around the nation worked for the CIA and the agency mas- of various newspapers and other web In the study, male subjects turned out have struck down marriage bans, this de- terminded JFK’s murder at the behest of sites. We thank these publications for to eliminate the drug considerably faster cision leaves Sixth Circuit states in a back- the military because JFK was easing Cold allowing us to bring you their news sto- than women – from 2.8 times faster to water and, worst of all, injures same-sex War tensions and pulling out of Vietnam. ries. Usually the reports have been sig- 3.1 times faster. This is probably because couples and their children,” said Susan While Garrison’s theory about Shaw’s con- nificantly edited and you can read the women have higher levels of fatty tissue, Sommer, Director of Constitutional Litiga- nection to the CIA may be true, he failed full story by going to the web site men- which releases the drug more slowly. tion for Lambda Legal, which joined one of to connect Shaw to JFK’s assassination. It tioned following the item. Comments Spreen said different doses for men and the Ohio cases, Henry v. Himes. Plaintiffs took a New Orleans jury less than an hour are strictly the opinions of Jim Becker women might be needed if Phase II studies in the six cases may ask the Sixth Circuit to acquit Shaw. In 1976, the House Select and not of Baltimore OUTloud or Pride suggested this made a clinical difference. for en banc review, meaning a new hearing Committee on Assassinations determined Media. Those studies are scheduled to start next with the entire court participating, or they that Shaw did have ties to the CIA.

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By Steve Charing The center announced that the fourth The Frederick LGBTQ Community Center annual Pride celebration will take place on held its annual meeting on October 11, and June 27, 2015, in Carroll Creek Park – the the center’s leadership had some very good same venue as in 2014. In the three pre- news to share. The largest improvement is vious Pride celebrations attendance has in the financial health of the center. At the grown from 300 to 3,000. beginning of the year, the The Frederick Center’s center had some $8,400 in programs and activities the bank. Through Septem- also include work on anti- ber 30, the balance more bullying initiatives in central than doubled to $17,600. Maryland’s schools, a youth Much of the increase is at- group, adult services, a sex- tributed to Pride and other ual abuse support group, a campaigns. The remainder trans variant support group, came from individual dona- HIV test kit distribution, and tions, the Frederick chapter relationship-building with the of PFLAG (which spon- Frederick City Police. An ini- sored one week a month tiative to tackle LGBT youth for the youth group), and donations from homelessness has just been launched. the United Way. The major expenses are “It is exciting to see many of the opera- for programs and insurance. tional programs move off of the Board and The report states, “We anticipate our into our community of volunteers,” Brian bank account will continue to build with the Walker, the Frederick Center’s board chair goal of eventually funding the securing of told Baltimore OUTloud. “It allows us to con- t NOW physical space for our center.” tinue to grow the impact we can make.” PLAYING

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health care. Oh, and “campaign strate- boon to the Brown election map, had a 35 Bin Laden is dead and gists” by attack- percent turnout. Ouch. GM is alive (even if ing Hogan as a Fortunately, marriage equality and some of their drivers bogeyman thus transgender protections were achieved in OUT aren’t). Nonetheless, raising the profile Maryland before this election. Hogan, al- Spoken the Dems ran away of the relatively though he promised not to try to turn back Steve Charing from all that – a sure- unknown former these settled issues, probably would not fire losing strategy. appointments sec- have signed a same-sex marriage bill into Yet, Democratic retary in the sin- law, let alone fight for it like O’Malley did. voters and candi- gle-term Ehrlich He said he has since “evolved” on marriage dates also seem to credit: NBC administration. equality (sound familiar?) but stated he op- The Dems and have forgotten how Larry Hogan posed the transgender non-discrimination the Republican Party was far more ef- bill – the Fairness for All Marylanders Act. the Election with the lowest approval ratings on record, fective in face-to-face debates, staying on Nationally, the more conservative en- shut down the government, nearly allowed message about the multitude of tax hikes trenched Congress will not act on finally the U.S. to default on its obligations, and under the O’Malley administration and the passing the Employment Nondiscrimina- Bloodbath stifled reform on immigration, sensible gun disastrous rollout of the state’s new health tion Act or ENDA, which has been languish- control and any job package the President care exchange of which Brown had been ing in Congress for decades. As has been Typically, the color red signals danger, sent up the Hill. assigned the lead. Armed with witty quips the experience in the past, the GOP will such as a red light at an intersection or a It makes me see red. Not that the re- and zingers, Hogan scored big during probably misinterpret the election results red flag. In other cases, red has a negative sults would have been much different but these contests and Brown’s failure to de- as a mandate, and will hamper their be- connotation – like in red-handed, red tape, Democratic candidates virtually conced- fend the administration or Maryland’s eco- ing a national party when its leadership will redneck, red herring and an undesirable ed the election to the GOP by distancing nomic posture for that matter helped seal revert to appealing to their shrinking base ink color on a balance sheet. themselves from Obama. It wasn’t just a the deal. of white, male, older, rural, Protestant and To Democrats, by the time midnight surge of anti-Obama folks that descended Though Republican voters in the state heterosexual Americans, believing there is rolled around on Election Night, the na- on the polls that shaped the outcome; reli- sniffed a huge upset, the ultimate outcome no need to reach out to LGBT folks. tion in general and Maryland in particular able Dem voters stayed home. That’s how was not decided by them but the tens of The next two years will be seen as a had been soaked by a splash of red as if you lose if you’re a Democrat. thousands of eligible Democrat voters pause in our struggle for progress on many a bucket of pigs’ blood was emptied from In Maryland it was a similar playbook who rode this one out. Call it voter self- levels. If we can wait it out, perhaps all that above like in the horror film Carrie. Repub- for the Republicans: tap the electorate’s suppression. Baltimore City, an anticipated the red will turn into a rainbow. t licans, who are associated with the color perceived discontent and hope that the red as in red states, counties, etc., pulled Democrats field less than stellar candi- off a stunning string of victories from the dates so Dem voters, too, would pass on U.S. Senate to council offices down the this off-year election. That formula worked ballot that painted the map a sea of red. in the governor’s race. This phenomenon is not unusual as the Lt. Governor Anthony Brown, the heir party not occupying the White House in the apparent to Governor Martin O’Malley, sixth year of a second term of a presiden- skated through the primary to defeat two cy historically makes gains – sometimes other LGBT equality advocates, former substantial and transformative as one we delegate Heather Mizeur a lesbian, and just experienced. It was expected that the Attorney General Douglas Gansler. The prevailing mood of national discontent LGBT community was divided among them with President Obama for reasons still be- but Mizeur garnered the most enthusiasm. yond my comprehension would result in a Dissension spiked when the Equality Mary- changing of the guard in the Senate and land PAC made a curious and controver- an increase in the ever-growing conserva- sial endorsement of Brown so early in the tive gerrymandered district-rigging of the process. House of Representatives. Brown avoided specifics during the Democratic candidates treated Obama primaries – a deficiency that would later like he was kryptonite with some even haunt him in the general election – and blaming him for the Ebola outbreak that squashed his two rivals by depending on consisted of one death here. That the na- the formidable O’Malley “machine” that at- tion’s voters would ignore the fact that un- tracted huge amounts of cash, paid worker employment is down to 5.8 percent and the bees, numerous volunteers, union support, 214,000 added jobs in October means that and a host of other endorsements. Don’t employers have added at least 200,000 knock that machine, however; we wouldn’t jobs for nine straight months, the longest have achieved marriage equality without such stretch since 1995 is pathetic. it being cranked up at the right time when The stock market has reached new the Question 6 campaign was floundering heights. Gasoline is at relatively low lev- in the early stages. els. Obamacare, so reviled by those who In the Brown vs. Hogan match-up, didn’t have a clue what was inside the law, Brown failed to present any kind of vi- now allows uninsured citizens access to sion for the future and instead trusted his

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a moment, with what I gathered to be se- • cause spiritual damage riousness, sadness, and love in her eyes. • cause psychological damage (low self- Her response to my question was some- confidence and self esteem) Bi- thing that I never expected and, to this day Moving • keep us rooted in the past Lines I still I don’t believe that I was prepared Forward • prevent us from living in the present Nicole Bettis for it. She said, “Than honey, you will au- Ava Barron-Shasho • decrease our body’s ability to fight ill- tomatically lose... forfeit if you will; and in ness that case, they will just drag you (and your • cause chronic pain broken heart) all through the mud.” Her • damage our relationships with others Tug of War words rang like a thousand bells inside my • prevent us from seeing opportunities head. The Story of and possibilities That night I lay awake trying to figure Forgiveness is the “process of releas- Why it that, now a day’s everyone (and I out what the thoughts of these psycho- Two Monks ing feelings of resentment, hurt or anger for do mean everyone) is in the business of logical “gamers” must be. What logic could past wrongs.” Note that this definition does playing mind games with the people that they possible use to rationalize causing A senior monk and a junior monk were trav- not mention that you need to forgive the they love; better yet, with the people that people, which love them, so much mental eling together. At one point, they came to person who wronged you or condone what love them? It’s almost as if people aren’t strain? So many probably theories came to a river with a strong current. As the monks that person did. For example, yes it does satisfied with themselves unless they have my mind. What if they think that if a woman were preparing to cross the river, they saw suck that your partner cheated on you with someone else under stands her ground, a very young and beautiful woman also at- your best friend, but the process of forgive- their thumb, quite a she won’t bend at all tempting to cross. In her struggle to cross ness is about you releasing your resent- few someone else’s for them (no com- the river, she asked the two monks if they ment, not about mending your relationship is many cases. Hav- promises) and if she would assist her. with others. You see long after the shouting ing a person com- does bend, even a The senior monk lifted the woman on is over and the tears have been shed, you pletely and totally little bit, they must to his shoulder and waded his way across still live in your own mind and wouldn’t it be in love with you and see just how far the river. Once safely on the other side the better to live in your mind without the static willing to do almost she bends until she the senior monk let her down and continued of anger and resentment? anything for you, snaps in half? May- along the path. The junior monk was very Here are some Zen techniques to try if just isn’t enough be they don’t know upset, but said nothing. you have been holding on to the anymore. People any other ways to They both were walking along past and need to work on for- want more. It doesn’t be absolutely sure when the senior monk noticed that giveness. evoke the natural that she loves them, his junior was suddenly silent and • Think of a situation you want or need inside unless she is willing enquired “Is something the matter, have been holding onto emo- of people to recipro- to prove it you know, you seem very upset?” tionally. On a piece of paper cate and appreciate, A ll is fair in love and war credit: Nicole Bettis go the extra mile. The junior monk replied, “As write down a one sentence de- as it should; instead Perhaps, pulling her monks, we are not permitted to scription of the situation. “Pat it creates an unnatu- to her knees when touch a woman, how could you then cheated on me with Joe.” Then ral desire to dominate. she loses her footing acts as a reminder of carry that woman on your shoul- turn the paper over and list all Push me away until I pull you closer, who is in control. ders?” you have accomplished despite who loves the other person more? Who Honestly, is honesty so outdated that The senior monk replied, “I left the situation. “Even though Pat is stronger? Who will give in first? It’s like we have to resort to these sneaky, war-like the woman a long time ago at the cheated on me, I have still man- these games, these intrigues somehow tactics in order to get the people that we river bank, however, you seem to be aged to increase my sales at validate people in such a way that keeps love to stay around? Purposely breaking carrying her still.” work, move into a new apartment and adopt them playing. It keeps them searching for their self-esteem so that they stay out of Forgiveness is not an easy to topic to a cat.” Congratulate yourself often for not new and exciting ways to prove their psy- fear of being alone? discuss. Take for example the individual wallowing in the past! Simple reminders chological supremacy over others, giving Here’s a thought: What if she bends all that hasn’t spoken to their parent for years help improve our mood even if it’s just for them a “fix” keeping them high until the the way to her breaking point not because or maybe someone who has been holding a few minutes. tables turn or until the power shifts. Every she is weak, or because she’s fallen victim a grudge. Some may say “Why are you • Tell yourself just for today, you will prac- time that they hang up on you and you call to the intended manipulation, but instead still so upset/angry/fearful about something tice saying only kind things to yourself and back, every time they cheat on you and because she does truly love? She loves that happened so long ago?” Clients ask if you think of “the situation” you will remind you accept it – the rope gets a little shorter beyond the petty games and trivial trickery me “why am I so upset/angry/scared about yourself of your strengths. “Even if I’m not on your end. and is willing to show it? this? Why can’t I forget about it and move feeling it right this very minute, I am strong One day last winter, during a conver- She cries when she knows you’re ly- on?” and capable.” Meditate using affirmations of sation/therapy session with my mother, fed ing because you don’t have to? She has let First let me address a very important love and forgiveness for yourself. up, with tears streaming down my face, I her wall down; only for you to her ambush point, scars of all types can keep us rooted • Practice being in the moment. Take a asked her “What if I just refuse to play? her anyway. Does it still create euphoria to in the emotions of our past. Childhood trau- bubble bath or go out into nature and take a What if I just say no?” She looked at me for destroy her? mas are hard to navigate. walk. Be in touch with your body and sens- Your woman is not the enemy; she isn’t That being said, we know that while re- es rather than thoughts of the past. the one that you must out-smart and con- leasing anger is hard, holding on to anger So give this a try, besides what do you have quer. She is the one that you protect, the can be even harder. to loose... only your resentment and anger? one that you covet, the one that you love; Bottled up anger can; “Forgiveness is the fragrance you two are one the same side. Let go of • cause emotional damage (anxiety and that the violet sheds on the heel that the rope. t depression) has crushed it,” said Mark Twain. t

10 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com quality of life Thinking OUTloud LGBTers Should Fight Equality support the other long enough for her to get back on her feet. by Ryan Conrad rhetoric of the mainstream Establishment,” The agreement can also say what hap- *Against Equality* is an argument in sup- says writer Dennis Altman, “the work of pens to the family home. Should one part- port of those who dare to be different, a Against Equality is an important provoca- The Law ner be allowed to buy out the other’s inter- collection of essays that stand in stark tion and corrective. There is much to argue & You est in the house? Or should the property contrast to an ever-growing LGBT main- about and disagree with in this collection, Lee Carpenter be sold and the proceeds divided accord- stream working towards assimilation, and, but it is also a collection that burns with ing to the percentages each had contrib- arguably, cultural erasure. Never ones to a passionate belief in the original idea of uted toward the down payment and mort- shy away from a fight, the authors included Gay Liberation, namely that we cannot be gage installments? in this timely collection address the trifecta truly free while others remain oppressed. I Should You Children are another consideration. If of political rifts within the LGBT commu- hope this book is read widely, particularly one partner has children from a prior rela- nity: marriage, the military, and prisons. by the people who will most disagree with Have a tionship, the agreement could allow him to “Equality” is a concept inextricably it; in the tradition of the great political pam- bequeath his entire estate to them, rather linked to positive social prog- phleteers this collection Prenuptial than his new spouse. This provision would ress, but as the authors col- should spark debate trump the surviving spouse’s legal right to lected here suggest, it’s a around some of the key Agreement? take a third or more of the estate as his concept that often functions issues for our move- “spousal share.” If the couple already has as a smoke screen to hide a ment.” children together, one or both spouses world riddled with systemic Margot Weiss, au- could agree to maintain life insurance for injustice. Take marriage, for thor *Techniques of Fans of the “Golden Girls” may remember the children’s benefit while they are still instance: is the right to mar- Pleasure: BDSM and the episode in which Dorothy decides to minors. ry whomever we want really the Circuits of Sexuality, remarry her ex-husband, Stan. Stan is the Regardless of what provisions it in- a worthy goal for the queer says, Against Equality: selfish, cheating, novelty salesman Doro- cludes, a prenuptial agreement can be a community? What if this per- Queer Revolution, Not E ditor Ryan Conrad thy had married as a teenager in a shotgun reassuring document to have in the fire ceived “right” is actually a Mere Inclusion issues wedding. Although they are now divorced, safe. It’s a lot like the airbag in your car wrong? Against Equality sug- a radical call for social Stan remains the bane of Dorothy’s ex- – you hope you’ll never have to use it, gests that seeking inclusion transformation.Against istence. She calls him, without irony, a but you’ll be grateful to have it if the need in a system that’s based on institutional and beyond the ‘holy trinity’ of pragmatic “yellow-bellied sleaze ball,” among other arises. and economic exploitation is an unaccept- gay politics – marriage, militarism, and epithets. As a practical matter, that need may be able path forward. prison – the queer and trans voices ar- Dorothy’s decision to remarry Stan has more likely to arise for some couples than How will the ability to fight in wars of chived in this collection offer radical left Rose, Blanche, and Sophia all rolling their for others. imperialism help to liberate and empower critique of neoliberalism, capitalism, and eyes. It is only on the day of the wedding, With the arrival of same-sex marriage, LGBT people around the world? The strik- state oppression. In a format accessible when Stan unexpectedly asks Dorothy many Maryland couples are tying the knot ing down of “Don’t ask, don’t tell” only and enlivening, equally at home in the to sign a prenuptial agreement, that she after having been together for years or makes a larger population complicit in a classroom and on the street, this book comes to her senses and calls it off. “I don’t even decades. These relationships have system that treats queer bodies, both na- keeps our political imaginations alive. Pre- want to make the same mistake twice,” she already withstood the test of time and are tionally and internationally, as less than pare to be challenged, educated, and in- tells her disbelieving guests. unlikely to end in divorce. But two people human. With contributions from Kate Born- spired.” t A prenuptial agreement may be the in a newer relationship may like the idea of stein, Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore, John least romantic thing an engaged couple a prenup so they can enter into marriage D’Emilio, and others, this book is designed can talk about. Simply bringing up the topic prepared for the unexpected. to stir debate. may arouse suspicion, suggesting a lack In the same way, couples who are A number of leading gay and lesbian of good faith or an expectation of divorce. significantly different in age, wealth, or figures have commented on the book. But rather than any want of sincerity, level of education should give a prenuptial “In an era when so much of the lesbi- preparing a prenup can reflect a couple’s agreement serious consideration. Having an and gay movement seems to echo the maturity and respect for each other. The children from a prior marriage is another process of sorting through the terms of the circumstance in which a prenup may be agreement may even bring them closer to- advisable. avoid the suggestion that either partner gether. If Dorothy Zbornak, already in her wed- was pressured into signing. Under Maryland law, the separate as- ding dress, had gone ahead and signed A valid prenuptial agreement can save sets each partner brings to a marriage be- Stan’s prenup, it probably wouldn’t have a couple time, money, and heartache if long to that person, even if the marriage held up in court. Stan, ever the yutz, had things don’t go as expected. If there are ends in divorce. The assets they acquire neglected to follow some important for- wedding bells in your future, contact an during the marriage, however, would be di- malities. attorney who practices in this area to de- vided equitably between them in the event First, the document should include full termine whether a prenuptial agreement is of a breakup. financial disclosures from both partners. right for you. t A prenup is a contingency plan that Any omission could invalidate the agree- Lee Carpenter (410-576-4729 or lcar- enables the couple to say what that divi- ment. Second, two attorneys should be [email protected]) is an associate sion should look like. For example, each involved, one to represent the separate in- attorney at the law firm Semmes, Bowen partner could simply take what she contrib- terests of each partner. And third, sufficient & Semmes (Mdlgbtestateplanning.com). uted to the union and be on her way. Or the time should be allowed between executing This article offers general info, not specific partner with greater assets could agree to the agreement and exchanging vows to legal advice.

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By Chad Griffin and jobs. It’s a funny thing to say, but in this nity under the guise of religious freedom. It’s Here’s the message for the LGBT move- election, silence on LGBT issues counts as a possible, even likely, that we’ll see these bills ment out of Tuesday night’s results: We didn’t measure of progress. not just at the federal level, but in state houses win, but we didn’t lose either. It’s time to stay The pundits will debate for weeks about across the country. steady and focus on our victories ahead. what this election means. We’ll leave that to In the face of these challenges, we’re go- First, let’s acknowledge the bad news. them. But here’s what we know for sure: the ing to have to fight harder than we’ve ever Yes, we’re certainly nursing some wounds LGBT movement has never made progress by fought before. this week. Seeing Senators Mark Udall, Kay writing anyone off. When the new Congress More importantly, we’re going to have to Hagan, and others go down to defeat really takes over in January, there will still be 100 change minds we’ve never changed before. hurts, especially after they cast such critical potential pro-equality votes in the U.S. Sen- HRC and our more than 1.5 million members Maryland votes for the Employment Non-Discrimination ate, and 435 potential pro-equality votes in the and supporters have got to redouble our ef- Act last year. We lost pro-equality House U.S. House (well, maybe 99 and 433, we’re forts to advance nondiscrimination legislation Election Redux members and pro-equality governors – and pretty sure Cruz, Grothman, and Hice will at the municipal level and the state level. we gained a few true radicals on Capitol Hill never be with us). At the Human Rights Cam- What also hasn’t changed is our commit- (Glenn Grothman of Wisconsin and Jody Hice paign, we’ll be fighting for every single one of ment to LGBT people living in small towns On November 5, Carrie Evans, executive of Georgia will make Rep. Michele Bachmann those votes. Sounds improbable? No more from Arkansas and Mississippi to Wyoming director of Equality Maryland, issued the look even-handed by comparison when they improbable than getting Republican Utah sen- and Nebraska. These are folks who went to following statement on the Maryland elec- join Sen. Ted Cruz on Capitol Hill come Janu- ator Orrin Hatch’s support for ENDA last year bed Tuesday night not worried about the out- tion: ary). What’s more, we lost key seats in state or than having GOP presidential hopeful Sen. come of an election, but about whether they Last night, 94% of the candidates en- houses around the country – at a moment Rob Portman, a Republican from Ohio, come will be able to get married without getting fired dorsed by the Equality Maryland PAC won when our adversaries want to push forward out in support of marriage equality. – or come out as transgender without getting their races. While some of our stalwart al- new anti-LGBT legislation in these chambers. We’ll need those Republican votes, be- kicked out of their home. Those challenges lies like Lt. Governor Brown and Del. John The reason is simple. Midterm elections cause as soon as the next session of Con- put our struggle into Congress into perspec- Olszweski, Jr. did not win, their contributions tend to skew to an older electorate, and Tues- gress begins, we’re going to find ourselves in tive, and it renews our commitment to dig in to making Maryland a better state for LGBT day was certainly no exception. That tends the heart of a two-front battle. for the fights ahead. people and our families will not be forgot- not to bode well for pro-equality candidates. On one hand, we’ll be fighting for a fully We may be disappointed with the results ten. We thank them for standing alongside But now, the good news – and some per- comprehensive LGBT civil rights bill for the of this election, but that can never distract us Equality Maryland and the LGBT communi- spective. first time ever – a bill with nondiscrimination from the urgent challenges just around the ties even when it wasn’t popular. There was not a single race where support- protections that don’t just stop at employment corner. Our work to ing LGBT equality cost an elected official their but that finally reach each and every aspect It was a rough night, no doubt about it. We secure legal and Carrie Evams seat, and the Republicans who were victorious of our lives, from housing to public accommo- can mourn what we’ve lost, as long as we roll lived equality for credit: Equality Maryland tended to avoid LGBT issues altogether. dations to credit, jury service, federal funding, up our sleeves too. Because now is the time LGBT Maryland Each and every openly LGBT member of and the education we all need to thrive. But to come together. Now is the time to find that continues regard- Congress running for reelection won last night. at the same time, we may have to fight back common ground. Now is the time to fight. t less of who oc- Maura Healey became the first out LGBT at- against new anti-LGBT legislation that seeks The author is president of the Human cupies the Gov- torney general with her win in Massachusetts. to legalize discrimination against our commu- Rights Campaign. ernor’s mansion The lead bipartisan sponsors of ENDA, Re- or sits in the Gen- publican Susan Collins of Maine and Demo- M aybe we eral Assembly. crat Jeff Merkley of Oregon, won in com- can play ball Equality Maryland manding fashion. Even in an election where welcomes the op- the electorate was deeply conservative, the portunity to work exit polls showed that most voters supported with governor- marriage equality – including a 14-point jump elect Hogan on in support among voters under 30 since 2010. our goals of fairness and equality for all That’s because, unlike in past elections, more Marylanders. than 200 million Americans live in states with Make no mistake that despite the in- marriage equality – and that number contin- credible gains we have made, homopho- ues to expand on an almost daily basis. bia continues in Maryland. In three local This may not be our best election, but it is races opponents of openly gay candidates far from our worst. employed blatant anti-LGBT tactics to Think back to 2004, when all 11 statewide cast doubt and smear the gay candidates. bans on marriage equality on the ballot were There is no place for this in our state and passed by the voters. Think back to 2008, I urge members of both parties to repudi- when the most populous state in the coun- ate these tactics and affirm this is not who try, California, came out to the polls to pass we are as Marylanders and we will work Proposition 8. together for all Marylanders. Time and time again, committed and lov- To view the list of Equality Maryland ing gay and lesbian couples were used as a PAC Endorsed Candidates who won in the wedge issue to drive voters to the polls. Not General Election, visit Equalitymaryland. this year. This time, Americans focused on org/maryland-general-election-results. t what mattered most to them – the economy 12 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com Quality of Life

and are commenting on the shorter days. very high-intensity small fluorescent bulbs, “Each person who Other than migrate south in the winters, can be bought in stores or online for less which is way beyond me financially, what than $150 with a little searching. As an al- suffers from SAD has can people affected by the decreasing day ternative, you also can buy two $20 shop their own personal Open Wide length do to keep our moods from falling lights and stand them up vertically against in the fall? a wall for an equal although much less por- pattern of symptoms ask Dr Eva Feel like Hibernating table effect. Light therapy is simple: sit fac- Dr Eva Hersh ing the light, about an arm’s length away, and timing of when the Dear Bear, for 30 minutes each morning. starting be- symptoms start and People with your symptoms often have fore 7 a.m. If you cannot get up that early, S.A.D. – Less Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), a type do it as early as you can. Even if you get end.” of depression that is up, do the light therapy, Light, More triggered by decreas- then go back to bed, fused with “holiday blues,” but the two ing day length. One it is still effective. If conditions are not related. Sadness in every five people possible, do a second A person with holiday blues has un- has some degree of treatment 12 hours lat- happy or conflicted feelings, or painful Every year, I have a big loss of energy and SAD. It occurs in both er. The morning treat- memories, about the holidays, and SAD more sad moods as the days get shorter. men and women, and ment is most important sufferers do not. In holiday blues, there It starts in October or November. After the is more common in for the treatment to be are no hibernation-like symptoms. t time change we just had, with sunset at 5 women. effective. Light treat- Eva Hersh is a Baltimore family physi- and earlier, it gets harder and harder to get Each person who ment gives the brain a cian. Send your comments and questions out of bed. I don’t want to deal with people suffers from SAD has message that the day to her by email at editor@baltimoreoutloud. even in minor normal day-to-day interac- their own personal pat- length is over 12 hours, com or [email protected] tions. I’m embarrassed because I get tear- tern of symptoms and timing of when the which counteracts SAD. It’s the intensity of ful much more easily than usual. A lot of symptoms start and end. Each person’s light, not the spectrum, which is the key to people I know also seem to be feeling bad pattern repeats in a similar way every year. treatment. Full-spectrum bulbs do not work Most people with SAD notice low mood any better than fluorescents. and fatigue starting in October or Novem- Because SAD and the Thanksgiving / Managing Winter ber, although for some it can start as early Christmas / New Years holidays occur at Depression / S.A.D as August or as late as December. Most the same time of year, SAD can be con- people with SAD will start to feel better by Physical and emotional warmth and March or April. comfort are important: stay warm, wear SAD can be part of chronic depression: soft comfortable clothes, get massag- that is, a person who has some degree es, and hug your friends often. of depression year-round becomes more • Light therapy: sit in front of a bright depressed and generally “slowed down” light for at least 30 continuous minutes during late fall and winter. Often, though, before 7 a.m. or as early as you can people with SAD have no symptoms of de- and, repeat 12 hours later pression the rest of the year. Some SAD • Exercise is a natural antidepres- symptoms resemble depression: low en- sant. Gentle exercise for at least 20 ergy, decreased ability to concentrate, sad minutes four or more days a week is feelings, and irritability. In other ways, SAD helpful is different from depression and more like • Sleep: It’s helpful to get 30-60 hibernation: just like bears preparing for a minutes more sleep nightly than you long winter sleep, people with SAD crave need in summer, but sleeping more carbohydrates, sleep more, and move than that can worsen the problem. around less. SAD can lead to other symp- • Be careful about giving in to food toms that occur in depression, such as cravings-gaining weight may make you withdrawal from others, feelings of hope- feel worse. lessness, and loss of enjoyment in favorite • Activity: Cut yourself some slack. activities. Don’t take on extra projects now. Do The most effective treatment for SAD is less where you can without negative light therapy. This does not mean turning consequences. on all the lights in the house, although that • Decrease your work week: during can help somewhat. Light therapy means the shortest days in Dec/Jan/Feb, take using a light source that produces 10,000 a day off leave from work every week lumens. That is much more light than or two. This may help more than taking household lighting can produce. Fluores- a week off all at one time. cent bulbs produce far more light per watt • If SAD symptoms are still trouble- than incandescent bulbs. 10,000 lumens is some despite using these methods, the quantity of light produced by four four- discuss with your doctor whether you foot 40-watt fluorescent bulbs. A 10,000-lu- should try antidepressant medication t men light source about the size of a small computer screen, containing four small,

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 13 14 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 15 What is STRIBILD? • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. What should I tell my healthcare STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used as If you also have HBV and stop taking provider before taking STRIBILD? a complete single-tablet regimen to treat HIV-1 in STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used STRIBILD, your hepatitis may suddenly get adults who have never taken HIV-1 medicines to treat HIV-1 in adults who have never worse. Do not stop taking STRIBILD without • All your health problems. Be sure to tell taken HIV-1 medicines before. It combines fi rst talking to your healthcare provider, as they your healthcare provider if you have or had before. STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. 4 medicines into 1 pill to be taken once a day will need to monitor your health. STRIBILD is any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including with food. STRIBILD is a complete single- not approved for the treatment of HBV. hepatitis virus infection. tablet regimen and should not be used with Who should not take STRIBILD? • All the medicines you take, including other HIV-1 medicines. prescription and nonprescription medicines, STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 infection Do not take STRIBILD if you: vitamins, and herbal supplements. STRIBILD or AIDS. To control HIV-1 infection and may affect the way other medicines work, and decrease HIV-related illnesses you must • Take a medicine that contains: other medicines may affect how STRIBILD I started my keep taking STRIBILD. Ask your healthcare alfuzosin, dihydroergotamine, ergotamine, works. Keep a list of all your medicines and provider if you have questions about how to methylergonovine, cisapride, lovastatin, show it to your healthcare provider and personal revolution reduce the risk of passing HIV-1 to others. simvastatin, pimozide, sildenafi l when used pharmacist. Do not start any new medicines ® Always practice safer sex and use condoms for lung problems (Revatio ), triazolam, oral while taking STRIBILD without fi rst talking to lower the chance of sexual contact with midazolam, rifampin or the herb St. John’s wort. with your healthcare provider. body fl uids. Never reuse or share needles or • For a list of brand names for these • If you take hormone-based birth control Talk to your healthcare provider other items that have body fl uids on them. medicines, please see the Brief Summary (pills, patches, rings, shots, etc). on the following pages. about starting treatment. • If you take antacids. Take antacids at least IMPORTANT SAFETY • Take any other medicines to treat HIV-1 2 hours before or after you take STRIBILD. infection, or the medicine adefovir (Hepsera®). INFORMATION • If you are pregnant or plan to become STRIBILD is a complete HIV-1 What is the most important information What are the other possible side pregnant. It is not known if STRIBILD can treatment in once a day. I should know about STRIBILD? effects of STRIBILD? harm your unborn baby. Tell your healthcare 1 pill, provider if you become pregnant while STRIBILD can cause serious side effects: Serious side effects of STRIBILD may taking STRIBILD. • Build-up of an acid in your blood also include: • If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or Ask if it’s right for you. (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical • New or worse kidney problems, including plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. emergency. Symptoms of lactic acidosis kidney failure. Your healthcare provider HIV-1 can be passed to the baby in include feeling very weak or tired, unusual should do regular blood and urine tests to breast milk. Also, some medicines (not normal) muscle pain, trouble breathing, check your kidneys before and during in STRIBILD can pass into breast stomach pain with nausea or vomiting, treatment with STRIBILD. If you develop milk, and it is not known if this can feeling cold especially in your arms and legs, kidney problems, your healthcare provider harm the baby. feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or a fast or may tell you to stop taking STRIBILD. irregular heartbeat. You are encouraged to report • Bone problems, including bone pain or negative side effects of • Serious liver problems. The liver may bones getting soft or thin, which may lead prescription drugs to the FDA. become large (hepatomegaly) and fatty to fractures. Your healthcare provider may Visit www.fda.gov/medwatch, (steatosis). Symptoms of liver problems do tests to check your bones. include your skin or the white part of your eyes or call 1-800-FDA-1088. turns yellow (jaundice), dark “tea-colored” • Changes in body fat can happen in people taking HIV-1 medicines. urine, light-colored bowel movements (stools), Please see Brief Summary of full loss of appetite for several days or longer, • Changes in your immune system. Your Prescribing Information with important nausea, and/or stomach pain. immune system may get stronger and begin warnings on the following pages. • You may be more likely to get lactic to fi ght infections. Tell your healthcare provider acidosis or serious liver problems if you are if you have any new symptoms after you start female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking STRIBILD. taking STRIBILD for a long time. In some The most common side effects of STRIBILD cases, these serious conditions have led to include nausea and diarrhea. Tell your healthcare death. Call your healthcare provider right away provider if you have any side effects that bother if you have any symptoms of these conditions. you or don’t go away.

16 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com PALIO Date: 10.21.14 • Client: Gilead • Product: Stribild • File Name: 23164_pgiqdp_E_Winston_BaltOUTloud_ .indd Winston PALIO Date: 10.21.14 • Client: Gilead • Product: Stribild • File Name: 23164_pgiqdp_E_Winston_BaltOUTloud_ .indd Winston Ad Page 1 Ad Page 2 Trim: 9.875” x 9.6” Baltimore OUT Loud Trim: 9.875” x 9.6” Baltimore OUT Loud What is STRIBILD? • Worsening of hepatitis B (HBV) infection. What should I tell my healthcare STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used as If you also have HBV and stop taking provider before taking STRIBILD? a complete single-tablet regimen to treat HIV-1 in STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used STRIBILD, your hepatitis may suddenly get adults who have never taken HIV-1 medicines to treat HIV-1 in adults who have never worse. Do not stop taking STRIBILD without • All your health problems. Be sure to tell taken HIV-1 medicines before. It combines fi rst talking to your healthcare provider, as they your healthcare provider if you have or had before. STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. 4 medicines into 1 pill to be taken once a day will need to monitor your health. STRIBILD is any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including with food. STRIBILD is a complete single- not approved for the treatment of HBV. hepatitis virus infection. tablet regimen and should not be used with Who should not take STRIBILD? • All the medicines you take, including other HIV-1 medicines. prescription and nonprescription medicines, STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 infection Do not take STRIBILD if you: vitamins, and herbal supplements. STRIBILD or AIDS. To control HIV-1 infection and may affect the way other medicines work, and decrease HIV-related illnesses you must • Take a medicine that contains: other medicines may affect how STRIBILD I started my keep taking STRIBILD. Ask your healthcare alfuzosin, dihydroergotamine, ergotamine, works. Keep a list of all your medicines and provider if you have questions about how to methylergonovine, cisapride, lovastatin, show it to your healthcare provider and personal revolution reduce the risk of passing HIV-1 to others. simvastatin, pimozide, sildenafi l when used pharmacist. Do not start any new medicines ® Always practice safer sex and use condoms for lung problems (Revatio ), triazolam, oral while taking STRIBILD without fi rst talking to lower the chance of sexual contact with midazolam, rifampin or the herb St. John’s wort. with your healthcare provider. body fl uids. Never reuse or share needles or • For a list of brand names for these • If you take hormone-based birth control Talk to your healthcare provider other items that have body fl uids on them. medicines, please see the Brief Summary (pills, patches, rings, shots, etc). on the following pages. about starting treatment. • If you take antacids. Take antacids at least IMPORTANT SAFETY • Take any other medicines to treat HIV-1 2 hours before or after you take STRIBILD. infection, or the medicine adefovir (Hepsera®). INFORMATION • If you are pregnant or plan to become STRIBILD is a complete HIV-1 What is the most important information What are the other possible side pregnant. It is not known if STRIBILD can treatment in once a day. I should know about STRIBILD? effects of STRIBILD? harm your unborn baby. Tell your healthcare 1 pill, provider if you become pregnant while STRIBILD can cause serious side effects: Serious side effects of STRIBILD may taking STRIBILD. • Build-up of an acid in your blood also include: • If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or Ask if it’s right for you. (lactic acidosis), which is a serious medical • New or worse kidney problems, including plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed. emergency. Symptoms of lactic acidosis kidney failure. Your healthcare provider HIV-1 can be passed to the baby in include feeling very weak or tired, unusual should do regular blood and urine tests to breast milk. Also, some medicines (not normal) muscle pain, trouble breathing, check your kidneys before and during in STRIBILD can pass into breast stomach pain with nausea or vomiting, treatment with STRIBILD. If you develop milk, and it is not known if this can feeling cold especially in your arms and legs, kidney problems, your healthcare provider harm the baby. feeling dizzy or lightheaded, and/or a fast or may tell you to stop taking STRIBILD. irregular heartbeat. You are encouraged to report • Bone problems, including bone pain or negative side effects of • Serious liver problems. The liver may bones getting soft or thin, which may lead prescription drugs to the FDA. become large (hepatomegaly) and fatty to fractures. Your healthcare provider may Visit www.fda.gov/medwatch, (steatosis). Symptoms of liver problems do tests to check your bones. include your skin or the white part of your eyes or call 1-800-FDA-1088. turns yellow (jaundice), dark “tea-colored” • Changes in body fat can happen in people taking HIV-1 medicines. urine, light-colored bowel movements (stools), Please see Brief Summary of full loss of appetite for several days or longer, • Changes in your immune system. Your Prescribing Information with important nausea, and/or stomach pain. immune system may get stronger and begin warnings on the following pages. • You may be more likely to get lactic to fi ght infections. Tell your healthcare provider acidosis or serious liver problems if you are if you have any new symptoms after you start female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking STRIBILD. taking STRIBILD for a long time. In some The most common side effects of STRIBILD cases, these serious conditions have led to include nausea and diarrhea. Tell your healthcare death. Call your healthcare provider right away provider if you have any side effects that bother if you have any symptoms of these conditions. you or don’t go away.

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Re ll your prescription or talk to your The most common side effects of STRIBILD include: - estazolam healthcare provider before your STRIBILD is all gone ® STRIBILD® (STRY-bild) • Nausea - ethosuximide (Zarontin ) (elvitegravir 150 mg/cobicistat 150 mg/emtricitabine 200 mg/tenofovir • Do not stop taking STRIBILD without rst talking to your healthcare provider • Diarrhea - ecainide (Tambocor®) disoproxil fumarate 300 mg) tablets • If you stop taking STRIBILD, your healthcare provider will need to check Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effect that bothers - urazepam Brief summary of full Prescribing Information. For more information, please your health often and do blood tests regularly for several months to check you or that does not go away. - uticasone (Flovent®, Flonase®, Flovent® Diskus®, your HBV infection. Tell your healthcare provider about any new or unusual see the full Prescribing Information, including Patient Information. • These are not all the possible side effects of STRIBILD. For more Flovent® HFA, Veramyst®) symptoms you may have after you stop taking STRIBILD information, ask your healthcare provider. - itraconazole (Sporanox®) What is STRIBILD? Who should not take STRIBILD? • Call your healthcare provider for medical advice about side effects. You - ketoconazole (Nizoral®) may report side effects to FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088. ® • STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used to treat HIV-1 in adults - lidocaine (Xylocaine ) Do not take STRIBILD if you also take a medicine that contains: who have never taken HIV-1 medicines before. STRIBILD is a complete What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking STRIBILD? - mexiletine ® regimen and should not be used with other HIV-1 medicines. • adefovir (Hepsera ) - oxcarbazepine (Trileptal®) ® Tell your healthcare provider about all your medical conditions, including: • STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. You must stay on continuous • alfuzosin hydrochloride (Uroxatral ) - perphenazine ® ® • If you have or had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis B HIV-1 therapy to control HIV-1 infection and decrease HIV-related illnesses. • cisapride (Propulsid , Propulsid Quicksolv ) - phenobarbital (Luminal®) infection • Ask your healthcare provider about how to prevent passing HIV-1 to • ergot-containing medicines, including: dihydroergotamine mesylate - phenytoin (Dilantin®, Phenytek®) others. Do not share or reuse needles, injection equipment, or personal (D.H.E. 45®, Migranal®), ergotamine tartrate (Cafergot®, Migergot®, • If you are pregnant or plan to become pregnant. It is not known if STRIBILD can harm your unborn baby. Tell your healthcare provider if you become - propafenone (Rythmol®) items that can have blood or body uids on them. Do not have sex without Ergostat®, Medihaler Ergotamine®, Wigraine®, Wigrettes®), and pregnant while taking STRIBILD. ® protection. Always practice safer sex by using a latex or polyurethane methylergonovine maleate (Ergotrate®, Methergine®) - quinidine (Neudexta ) - There is a pregnancy registry for women who take antiviral medicines ® condom to lower the chance of sexual contact with semen, vaginal • lovastatin (Advicor®, Altoprev®, Mevacor®) - rifabutin (Mycobutin ) secretions, or blood. during pregnancy. The purpose of this registry is to collect information ® • oral midazolam about the health of you and your baby. Talk with your healthcare provider - rifapentine (Priftin ) about how you can take part in this registry. - risperidone (Risperdal®, Risperdal Consta®) What is the most important information I should know about STRIBILD? • pimozide (Orap®) ® ® ® ® ® • If you are breastfeeding (nursing) or plan to breastfeed. Do not breastfeed - salmeterol (Serevent ) or salmeterol when taken in combination with • rifampin (Rifadin , Rifamate , Rifater , Rimactane ) if you take STRIBILD. uticasone (Advair Diskus®, Advair HFA®) STRIBILD can cause serious side effects, including: ® • sildena l (Revatio ), when used for treating lung problems ® ® ® ® 1. Build-up of lactic acid in your blood (lactic acidosis). Lactic acidosis - You should not breastfeed if you have HIV-1 because of the risk of - sildena l (Viagra ), tadala l (Cialis ) or vardena l (Levitra , Staxyn ), can happen in some people who take STRIBILD or similar (nucleoside • simvastatin (Simcor®, Vytorin®, Zocor®) passing HIV-1 to your baby. for the treatment of erectile dysfunction (ED). If you get dizzy or faint (low blood pressure), have vision changes or have an erection that last analogs) medicines. Lactic acidosis is a serious medical emergency that ® - Two of the medicines in STRIBILD can pass to your baby in your breast • triazolam (Halcion ) longer than 4 hours, call your healthcare provider or get medical help can lead to death. Lactic acidosis can be hard to identify early, because milk. It is not known if the other medicines in STRIBILD can pass into • the herb St. John’s wort right away. the symptoms could seem like symptoms of other health problems. your breast milk. - tadala l (Adcirca®), for the treatment of pulmonary arterial hypertension Call your healthcare provider right away if you get any of the Do not take STRIBILD if you also take any other HIV-1 medicines, - Talk with your healthcare provider about the best way to feed your baby. including: - telithromycin (Ketek®) following symptoms which could be signs of lactic acidosis: Tell your healthcare provider about all the medicines you take, including ® ® ® • feel very weak or tired • Other medicines that contain tenofovir (Atripla , Complera , Viread , prescription and nonprescription medicines, vitamins, and herbal - thioridazine ® Truvada ) supplements: ® • have unusual (not normal) muscle pain - voriconazole (Vfend ) • Other medicines that contain emtricitabine, lamivudine, or ritonavir • STRIBILD may affect the way other medicines work, and other medicines - warfarin (Coumadin®, Jantoven®) • have trouble breathing (Atripla®, Combivir®, Complera®, Emtriva®, Epivir® or Epivir-HBV®, may affect how STRIBILD works. ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® ® - zolpidem (Ambien , Edlular , Intermezzo , Zolpimist ) • have stomach pain with nausea or vomiting Epzicom , Kaletra , Norvir , Trizivir , Truvada ) • Be sure to tell your healthcare provider if you take any of the following STRIBILD is not for use in people who are less than 18 years old. medicines: Know the medicines you take. Keep a list of all your medicines and show • feel cold, especially in your arms and legs it to your healthcare provider and pharmacist when you get a new medicine. • feel dizzy or lightheaded - Hormone-based birth control (pills, patches, rings, shots, etc) Do not start any new medicines while you are taking STRIBILD without rst What are the possible side effects of STRIBILD? talking with your healthcare provider. • have a fast or irregular heartbeat - Antacid medicines that contain aluminum, magnesium hydroxide, or calcium carbonate. Take antacids at least 2 hours before or after you Keep STRIBILD and all medicines out of reach of children. 2. Severe liver problems. Severe liver problems can happen in people who STRIBILD may cause the following serious side effects: take STRIBILD take STRIBILD. In some cases, these liver problems can lead to death. Your • See “What is the most important information I should know about - Medicines to treat depression, organ transplant rejection, or high This Brief Summary summarizes the most important information about liver may become large (hepatomegaly) and you may develop fat in your STRIBILD?” blood pressure STRIBILD. If you would like more information, talk with your healthcare liver (steatosis). Call your healthcare provider right away if you get provider. You can also ask your healthcare provider or pharmacist for • New or worse kidney problems, including kidney failure. Your healthcare - amiodarone (Cordarone®, Pacerone®) information about STRIBILD that is written for health professionals, or any of the following symptoms of liver problems: provider should do blood and urine tests to check your kidneys before you - atorvastatin (Lipitor®, Caduet®) call 1-800-445-3235 or go to www.STRIBILD.com. • your skin or the white part of your eyes turns yellow (jaundice) start and while you are taking STRIBILD. Your healthcare provider may tell - bepridil hydrochloride (Vascor®, Bepadin®) Issued: October 2013 • dark “tea-colored” urine you to stop taking STRIBILD if you develop new or worse kidney problems. - bosentan (Tracleer®) • light-colored bowel movements (stools) • Bone problems can happen in some people who take STRIBILD. Bone problems include bone pain, softening or thinning (which may lead to - buspirone • loss of appetite for several days or longer fractures). Your healthcare provider may need to do tests to check your bones. - carbamazepine (Carbatrol®, Epitol®, Equetro®, Tegretol®) • nausea • Changes in body fat can happen in people who take HIV-1 medicine. - clarithromycin (Biaxin®, Prevpac®) • stomach pain These changes may include increased amount of fat in the upper back and - clonazepam (Klonopin®) neck (“buffalo hump”), breast, and around the middle of your body (trunk). You may be more likely to get lactic acidosis or severe liver problems Loss of fat from the legs, arms and face may also happen. The exact cause - clorazepate (Gen-xene®, Tranxene®) if you are female, very overweight (obese), or have been taking and long-term health effects of these conditions are not known. - colchicine (Colcrys®) STRIBILD for a long time. • Changes in your immune system (Immune Reconstitution Syndrome) can - medicines that contain dexamethasone COMPLERA, EMTRIVA, GILEAD, the GILEAD Logo, GSI, HEPSERA, STRIBILD, the STRIBILD Logo, 3. 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Re ll your prescription or talk to your The most common side effects of STRIBILD include: - estazolam healthcare provider before your STRIBILD is all gone ® STRIBILD® (STRY-bild) • Nausea - ethosuximide (Zarontin ) (elvitegravir 150 mg/cobicistat 150 mg/emtricitabine 200 mg/tenofovir • Do not stop taking STRIBILD without rst talking to your healthcare provider • Diarrhea - ecainide (Tambocor®) disoproxil fumarate 300 mg) tablets • If you stop taking STRIBILD, your healthcare provider will need to check Tell your healthcare provider if you have any side effect that bothers - urazepam Brief summary of full Prescribing Information. For more information, please your health often and do blood tests regularly for several months to check you or that does not go away. - uticasone (Flovent®, Flonase®, Flovent® Diskus®, your HBV infection. Tell your healthcare provider about any new or unusual see the full Prescribing Information, including Patient Information. • These are not all the possible side effects of STRIBILD. For more Flovent® HFA, Veramyst®) symptoms you may have after you stop taking STRIBILD information, ask your healthcare provider. - itraconazole (Sporanox®) What is STRIBILD? Who should not take STRIBILD? • Call your healthcare provider for medical advice about side effects. You - ketoconazole (Nizoral®) may report side effects to FDA at 1-800-FDA-1088. ® • STRIBILD is a prescription medicine used to treat HIV-1 in adults - lidocaine (Xylocaine ) Do not take STRIBILD if you also take a medicine that contains: who have never taken HIV-1 medicines before. STRIBILD is a complete What should I tell my healthcare provider before taking STRIBILD? - mexiletine ® regimen and should not be used with other HIV-1 medicines. • adefovir (Hepsera ) - oxcarbazepine (Trileptal®) ® Tell your healthcare provider about all your medical conditions, including: • STRIBILD does not cure HIV-1 or AIDS. You must stay on continuous • alfuzosin hydrochloride (Uroxatral ) - perphenazine ® ® • If you have or had any kidney, bone, or liver problems, including hepatitis B HIV-1 therapy to control HIV-1 infection and decrease HIV-related illnesses. • cisapride (Propulsid , Propulsid Quicksolv ) - phenobarbital (Luminal®) infection • Ask your healthcare provider about how to prevent passing HIV-1 to • ergot-containing medicines, including: dihydroergotamine mesylate - phenytoin (Dilantin®, Phenytek®) others. 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Animation appreciation – There has nev- King (voiced by Tom Kenny), and oth- (Magnolia), written and directed by Lucas The 26-disc, 86 episode The Sopranos: er been or will never be anyone else like ers, attempts to explain the history of the Moodysson, is set in Stockholm during The Complete Series (HBO) brings all six Pee-Wee Herman, the most animated hu- winter holiday season. Revenge-seeking the early 1980s. The film stars Mira Bark- seasons to blu-ray / digital HD for the first man to ever grace Saturday morning TV. elf Quillgin (voiced by Thomas Haden hammar, Mira Grosin, and Liv LeMoyne time and includes an new 45-minute bonus The ingenious creation of comedian and Church) tries to kill Santa Claus (voiced by as Bobo, Klara, and Hedvig, respectively, feature. writer Paul Reubens, man-child Pee-Wee Ed Asner) who put the kibosh on the dark three adolescent girl misfits, who want to Co-created by openly gay Sex and the Herman appealed to both kids and adults. magic gift he invented resulting in the end form a all-female punk band as a way to City mastermind Michael Patrick King, Two Pee-Wee’s Playhouse: The Complete Se- of Christmas forever in JG Quintel’s Regu- express themselves and give meaning to Broke Girls: The Complete Third Season ries (Shout Factory), which premiered on lar Show episode “The Christmas Special.” their changing lives. In Swedish with Eng- (Warner Brothers), has a well-deserved CBS in 1986, running for five years, was The DVD also includes the Christmas epi- lish subtitles, the DVD contains no bonus reputation for being one of the most risqué like watching all previous kids’ show hosts sode of The Amazing World of Gumball, material. sitcoms on CBS. The story of struggling – such as Captain Kangaroo, Soupy Sales the “Monkey Broom Wizard” episode of The six-DVD set The Midnight Special Brooklyn waitresses and roommates Max and Shari Lewis – on an acid trip. Pee- Clarence, and Steven Universe’s “Togeth- (Star-Vista / Time-Life) compiles almost (Kat Dennings) and Caroline (Beth Beh- Wee shared his playhouse with a variety er Breakfast” episode. 100 live performances by a mind-blowing rs), Two Broke Girls regularly pushes the of puppets, as well as live characters, array of musical superstars, from its 1972 limits of sexual innuendo and good taste. including Cowboy Curtis (Laurence Fish- The sight and sound of music pilot to early 1979. Hosted for many years Co-star Jennifer Coolidge, as zany neigh- burne), Captain Carl (the late Phil Hart- Hosted by Richard Pryor, the May by Helen Reddy, and featuring the voice bor and friend Sophie, steals every scene man), postal employee Reba (S. Epatha 1983 NBC broadcast of Motown 25: of Wolfman Jack, the program presented in which she appears. If the show wasn’t Mrkerson), Miss Yvonne, the most beau- Yesterday·Today·Forever (StarVista / multiple queer performers, and several so funny, thanks to the lead actresses, it tiful woman in Puppetland (Lynne Marie Time-Life), featured performances by acts with queer appeal, such as Village might be offensive. DVD special features Stewart), and the usually shirtless Play- Michael Jackson (and the debut of his People, Janis Ian, Blondie, LaBelle, Ru- include unaired scenes and a gag reel. house lifeguard Tito (Roland Rodriguez), trademark moonwalk dance moves) solo fus with Chaka Khan, Neil Sedaka, Linda Long before Golden Globe-award who brought more than a little homoerotic and with his brothers, Diana Ross (solo Ronstadt, and Aretha Franklin. The set in- winner Steve Buscemi was the ruthless tension to the show. The and with the Su- cludes more than an hour’s worth of bonus and corrupt New Jersey politician Enoch show also made good use premes), Stevie material, such as artist interviews, as well “Nucky” Thompson on Boardwalk Em- of claymation and fea- Wonder, Smokey as a few featurettes. pire, he played the unforgettable Nick, a tured vintage cartoons. Robinson, Lionel gay man with AIDS in the late Bill Sher- The digitally re-mastered Richie, Marvin Serious about series wood’s groundbreaking 1986 film Parting eight-disc blu-ray set in- Gaye, the Temp- Created by openly gay, award-win- Glances. Currently, Boardwalk Empire is cludes brand-new inter- tations, Four ning writer/director Alan Ball, True Blood wrapping up its final season on HBO, but views with members of Tops, and others. has been one of the queerest shows on if you missed anything previously or have the cast and crew. Tacky choreogra- TV since it premiered on HBO in 2008. someone on your holiday list who would Newly reissued and phy by the Lester To the dismay of its loyal followers, the appreciate a memento of the show, Board- expanded in a 50th anni- Williams Dancers series came to an end as you can see walk Empire: The Complete Fourth Season versary collector’s edition, aside, the music in the blu-ray True Blood: The Complete (HBO Home Entertainment) is available in the 1964 Rankin / Bass lover on your list Seventh Season (HBO Home Entertain- a four DVD set. stop-motion animation classic Rudolph will dig the three-DVD Motown 25, includ- ment), the bloody perfect gift for anyone The CW network has a long history of The Red-Nosed Reindeer (Classic Media) ing rehearsal and reunion discs. who can’t enough of the Stackhouse sibs, featuring exceptionally handsome men in includes a “Holly Jolly Sing Along,” a video If you only know the late Merv Griffin as queer Anna Pacquin as Sookie, and flaw- their TV series, including Tom Welling as “Pop-Up Book” and more, among its bonus a TV talk show host, then you don’t know less Ryan Kwanten as Jason, as well as Clark Kent in Smallville. The network has features. The show itself features seven Merv Griffin. Griffin had a recording and the rest of the residents, alive and undead, continued that tradition over the years. songs by Johnny Marks, with narration by singing career, in addition to hosting and in their Southern Louisiana hometown. In Arrow: The Complete Second Season Burl Ives. A favorite of outcasts around the creating game shows. The 12-disc set The The Mad Men (and Jon Hamm) fans (WB), on blu-ray / DVD / digital HD, star globe for its representation of the misfit tri- Merv Griffin Show: 1962-1986 (Reelin’ in on your holiday list have plenty of time to Stephen Amell (who previously appeared umph of radiant reindeer Rudolph (voice the Years / MPI) features numerous musi- catch up with the triple-disc DVD+Digital in an episode of Queer As Folk) spends a by Billie Mae Richards) and “different” elf cal performances by the guests on Grif- Mad Men: The Final Season Part 1 (Lion- lot time in and out of clothes that flatter his Hermey (voiced by Paul Soles), Rudolph fin’s popular talk show, including Dionne sgate) before the second set of final epi- fit physique. Ian Somerhalder, who is an It the Red-Nosed Reindeer is the kind of gift Warwick, Lionel Hampton, Everly Broth- sodes begin airing on AMC in the spring of Gets Better Project participant and played of which Santa would approve. ers, Isaac Hayes, Staple Singers, John 2015. The show has had its share of queer a queer character opposite James Van Der Cartoon Network: Holiday Collection Denver, Loretta Lynn, June Carter Cash, characters over the years (remember gay Beek in The Rules of Attraction, has been (CN/WB) is comprised of four holiday- Carole King, and Whitney Houston. Griffin, actor Bryan Batt’s Sal Romano?) and now starring as Damon in The Vampire Dia- themed cartoons, plus two bonus epi- whose sexuality remains a topic of debate, that the swinging 60s are central to the ries: The Complete Fifth Season (WB). As sodes. The two-part “Holly-Jolly Secrets” had numerous queer and queer-friendly story perhaps there will be more of a gay brothers Sam and Dean, Jared Padalecki, episode of Pendleton Ward’s Adventure guests on his show including Andy Warhol presence on the show, especially with the and Jensen Ackles, are two of prime time’s Time, featuring Finn the human (voiced & Edie Sedgwick, Roddy McDowall, Tallu- Stonewall Riot looming in the distance. sexiest siblings on TV and blu-ray / digital by Jeremy Shada), Jake the dog (voiced lah Bankhead, Moms Mabley, Rex Reed, Regarded by many to be one of the HD in Supernatural: The Complete Ninth by John DiMaggio), Beemo the electron- Clive Davis, and Joan Rivers. most important and influential cable se- Season (WB). t

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badass fighting machine, which sometimes Big Hero 6 is Not Just for Kids confuses the robot, but once Hiro pulls the disk containing the medical programming, By Chuck Duncan flames, Tadashi runs in to save his profes- science) is action-packed and made even Baymax changes into something morally Everyone, by now, is familiar with the Pixar sor, but an explosion spells the worst for more impressive with the stunning use of questionable. It certainly is a bold move on name and the high quality animated mov- anyone left inside the building. Depression 3D. the filmmakers’ part to take what and who ies that studio produces, from the original takes over Hiro’s life, but his brother’s in- Of course, the real star of the movie should be the film’s good guys and turn Toy Story to Wall-E. Pixar has become vention Baymax, a personal medical robot, is Baymax, a big marshmallow of a robot them to the dark side, especially in a film known for the length that is designed with children as its main demographic. But of time they take to to attend to by the end of the movie, you will be want- develop a story or Enveloping anyone’s medi- ing your own Baymax. story nurture a script be- cal needs, from For some reason, I find myself getting fore even rendering a slight rash to drowsy during CG animated films maybe a single pixel of in- emotional heart- because of the over-stimulation of the col- formation. They do break. Baymax ors or the movement, or maybe even the have the occasional is designed to 3D, but Big Hero 6 had me fully engaged stumble (Cars 2), be non-threat- for the entire running time. If you think and are facing some ening, hence the cartoons are just for kids, then have your backlash after an- squishy inflat- attitude readjusted by Big Hero 6. As an nouncing a fourth able look, kind added bonus, the animated short Feast Toy Story movie, of like a Christ- precedes the film, a story about the life of but for the most part mas lawn deco- a cute pooch (and his owner) as they go they put out the best ration come to from bachelorhood to romance and break- of the best in CG life, but he’s up, all told through the dog’s eyes (and animated films. equipped with appetite). It’s a charming film that has as Disney’s CG ani- everything one much, if not more, heart packed into its mation arm has not been as successful, at Tadashi’s friends and a mysterious super- would need for medical assistance. To short running time than most live-action, least as far as critics are concerned. Most villain who seems to have replicated Hiro’s help fight the villain though, Hiro has to al- feature-length films can muster. Together, of their animated films are geared more to- microbots give Hiro a new purpose in life ter Baymax’s programming to make him a these films are a real treat for all ages. t wards the younger crowd… who will want – find out who stole his invention and killed all of the merchandise that goes along with his brother. the movie… and scripts usually are too ju- This really is some heady stuff for venile for adults to bear. But, since Disney something that could be looked down upon has folded Pixar into the company (com- as just a kids’ movie. There certainly is plete with Pixar’s John Lasseter heading more than enough colorful scenery and up the animation unit), their CG films have laugh-out-loud humor (courtesy of Bay- grown up. Their Secret of the Wings was max) for the kids, but the idea of death, a pretty solid effort considering it was a revenge, retribution and sacrifice will keep direct-to-video film with limited theatrical adults heavily invested in the story and the release, and that also seemed to be a test characters. Tadashi’s funeral scenes are run for the studios best (and most popu- very reminiscent of the wordless life story lar) CG animated film yet, Frozen. And now of the characters in Pixar’s Up, and it will Disney has released a new CG animated definitely leave you with some very moist film with the curious title of Big Hero 6. eyes. Even though these characters are Big Hero 6 tells the story of Hiro and animated, you feel real human emotion his older brother Tadashi (who live in the from the “performances” that just tug on mash-up city of San Fransokyo). Both are your heart. scientific geniuses, and while the older Ta- Another scene near the end of the dashi has made something of himself, the movie, the one involving selfless sacrifice, teenaged Hiro spends time gambling in (il- not only had tears rolling down my face but legal) robot fights. Knowing he can’t stop had the children behind me having com- Hiro from going, Tadashi offers to give him plete emotional meltdowns. That certainly a ride to the next fight but ends up taking demonstrates the power of the charac- him to the institute he attends. A new world ters to make you believe in them, and the opens up before Hiro’s eyes, and before power of the writing to fully engage you in long he is creating a new type of robot to those characters’ fates. The only real weak present for consideration for admission link in the story is the villain, who comes into the institute. out of nowhere and wears a kabuki mask The robots are a success, a “shady” for no other reason than associating it with businessman offers to buy them from Hiro the city in which they live. The final battle but he is convinced it is better to accept the between Hiro and his friends (the Big Hero invitation to join the institute. After leaving 6 of the title, a name they give themselves the competition, the building bursts into as they become real superheroes through

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 21 Lively Arts // IMUSIC Everything Old is New Again b y Gregg Shapiro pare to the butchery of “Nothing Compares mains a sophisticated lady. shattering material such as “Over The Hills Here’s an idea that probably looked good on 2 U,” performed in a finger-snapping jazzy Leonard Cohen’s most accessible and and Far Away,” “Dancing Days,” “The Song paper. Have Aretha Franklin, the Queen of rendition. Please don’t let the Snickers com- powerful album since The Future (1995) – Remains the Same,” and “D’yer Mak’er.” Soul, tackle some songs that were hits for mercial that Franklin did in 2010 be the best Popular Problems (Columbia) – may be less Irish new wave pioneers U2 are still at it, other modern music royalty on Sings The of her 21st century work. sung than it is spoken, but that doesn’t di- 34 years after the release of its groundbreak- Great Diva Classics (RCA). Sounds good, A much better concept would be Annie minish Cohen’s boundless gifts as a song- ing debut. The double disc Songs of Inno- right? Oh, but the execution! It’s enough Lennox’s Nostalgia (Blue Note). Lennox is writer or performer. Cohen (grandfather cence (Interscope) may not contain anything to make the Queen of Hearts declare, “Off no stranger to cover tunes – Al Dubin and to Rufus Wainwright and Lorca Cohen’s as earth-shattering as “I Will Follow,” “Stories with her head!” Things go south, right from Harry Warren’s “Keep Young and Beautiful” daughter Viva), delivers on the promise of for Boys” or “Out of Control,” but that doesn’t the start with Aretha proving she’s no Etta closed out her 1992 solo debut Diva and the the title of the song “Slow” (“not because mean that it’s not worth owning. Now that James (or Cyndi Lauper, for that matter) former Eurythmics vocalist’s second album, he’s old,” but because he’s “always liked it the dust from the iTunes debacle (the album with her reading of “At Last.” “The Aretha 1995’s Medusa, found her singing songs by slow”), blesses us with his unique insights “innocently” appeared in people’s iTunes li- Version” of Adele’s “Rolling in the Deep,” The Lover Speaks, The Blue Nile, Al Green, in “Almost Like the Blues” and “Born in brary) has cleared, Songs of Innocence can which interweaves “Ain’t No Mountain High Paul Simon, The Clash, and Neil Young. Chains,” and still finds the courage to sing be experienced at face value. As was previ- Enough,” fares somewhat better, although As the title suggests, Lennox (who sounds about love on the incredible “Did I Ever Love ously stated, it’s no Boy. It’s no Joshua Tree Aretha’s approach eschews enunciation for better than ever) reaches deeper into the You” (sounding a bit like Tom Waits), “My Oh or Achtung Baby, either. It doesn’t need to vocal gymnastics. Franklin sounds like she’s past, adding her distinctive touch to songs My” and “A Street.” The songs on Popular be. It just needs to be U2 in the 21st century, trying to joust with Gladys Knight on “Mid- made famous by Billie Holiday (“God Bless Problems shine like a freshly polished pair of which it does well on “The Miracle (of Joey night Train to Georgia” and the combination the Child” and “Strange Fruit”), Screamin’ shoes. Cohen, who has released more than Ramone),” “The Troubles” (featuring Lykke of Gloria Gaynor’s “I Will Survive” and Des- Jay Hawkins (“I Put a Spell on You”) and a half dozen live albums over the course of Li), “Sleep Like a Baby Tonight” and “This is tiny’s Child’s “Survivor” is another case of a Ray Charles (“Georgia on My Mind”). Her his nearly 50-year recording career, contin- Where You Can Reach Me Now.” The sec- concept losing something in the translation. versions of “I Cover the Waterfront,” “You ues that tradition with the new triple-disc set ond disc consists of alternate versions and The luckiest people in the world are those Belong to Me,” “I Can Dream, Can’t I?” and Live in Dublin (Legacy / Columbia), recorded more. who don’t listen to Aretha wend her way “Mood Indigo” highlight the timelessness of in September 2013. A Jerry Lee Lewis comeback was bound through “People” and nothing will ever com- the compositions. Through it all, Lennox re- When it comes to his solo work, Robert to happen, especially after the resounding Plant has done a decent job of putting some success of the musical Million Dollar Quartet distance between himself and his legendary (for which gay actor / songwriter Levi Kreis rock band Led Zeppelin. This was especially won a Tony for playing Lewis), and so it has. true of Raising Sand, his 2007 Grammy- Rock & Roll Time (Vanguard), featuring a pic- winning collaboration with Alison Krauss. ture of Lewis standing in front of Sun Studios The same can be said of his staggering new in Memphis, finds the last surviving member album Lullaby…and the Ceaseless Roar of the aforementioned “quartet” still going (Nonesuch / WB). Credited to Plant and the strong. Why shouldn’t he be with musician Sensational Space Shifters, the disc is exotic friends such as Keith Richards and Ronnie in the best sense of the word, as foreign as it Woods, Jon Brion, Greg Leisz, Jim Keltner, is familiar. Plant doesn’t wail the way he used Vonda Shepard, Waddy Wachtel, Doyle to (although “Turn it Up” comes close) be- Bramhall, Robbie Robertson, Shelby Lynne, cause he doesn’t have to. Instead, he gently Neil Young, and Nils Lofgren by his side, as persuades us to follow him on this journey via he covers tunes by Bob Dylan, Kris Kristof- exceptional tunes such as “Rainbow,” “Little ferson, Chuck Berry, and others? Maggie,” “Pocketful of Golden,” “House of One of the more unexpected returns of Love,” and the exquisite “A Stolen Kiss.” the year would have to be Bob Seger and The expanded reissues of the Led Zep- his Ride Out (Capitol) album. After ruling the pelin catalog resumes with the arrival of airwaves from the mid-1970s through the 1971’s Led Zeppelin IV and 1973’s Houses very early 1980s, Seger’s output lightened of the Holy (both on Atlantic / Rhino). The up considerably during the 90s and early double disc sets include the original albums part of the 21st century. A saner version of on the first CD accompanied by a second Motor City moron Ted Nugent, Seger could CD with alternate, rough, working and vari- have been a Great Lakes Bruce Springsteen ous other kinds of mixes. IV aka untitled, if he’d made his political views on topics such considered the pinnacle of LZ’s recording as climate change known earlier. As it is, he’s career, contains the `70s rock epic “Stairway doing so now on “It’s Your World.” He also to Heaven,” as well as Zep standards such touches on gun control via his cover of Steve as “Rock and Roll,” “Black Dog” and “When Earle’s “Devil’s Right Hand.” Ride Out might the Levee Breaks,” making it as essential not measure up to Seger’s peak years, but as it gets. How you follow up a masterwork it’s not a total loss as you can hear on covers such as Led Zeppelin IV? Apparently with such as Billy Bragg and Wilco’s “California the somewhat mellower (or as mellow as LZ Stars” and Kasey Chambers’ “Adam & Eve,” gets) House of the Holy, containing less ear and an original such as “You Take Me In.” t

22 t BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com Quality of Life Hearth & Home: Holiday Decorating Rhyme or Reason: Self Elevate Ideas Made Easy It’s repulsive to part my gums, retract my tongue and utter the words…I hate you. I had to elevate and find SELF! By Michelle Barnes a string of lights. Finally, I placed some of When loving you was Breath,( sigh) gain control, think… health. Is everybody in panic mode for holiday the smaller branches in a glass container so meaningful 2 my melody. protesting vagina will only promote dis- decorating now? Let’s all do a nice deep with pink and white Good N Plenty candy I SUNG IT PROUDLY! ease yoga breath together and see if we can’t to hold them in place. And that concluded Music is good for the soul While she lay comfortable, spooning her, usher in this holiday season with interest- my holiday decorating… it’s me, it’s inter- We beamed in our youthful glows, now in-between ing ideas but not exhaustion. I went through esting, and it’s easy. foundation 2 hide depression, She not worried about me… she loves all those years of going to the attic to re- The other tip to focus on is the ever im- concealed the hurt, her. trieve seven, eight, nine or more plastic portant theory of grouping. Grouping any- lipstick-ed a smile… Unworthy of 4 years, taught to cater self- storage bins right after Thanksgiving and thing brings it to the forefront and makes it Mirror reflected ashamed of my womanly lessness upon woman. putting everything out, making sure every feel like an abundance. Which is the whole hormones that screamed for an erection; Y does she get to reap the benefit, I surface was covered with some Christmas point of holiday decorating right? erase your scent. should have been given??? tchotchke. And the tree had to be seven Think of how fabulous a group of sil- SOAP JUST WONT DO!! Teacher, teaching student, I realized that’s feet tall with ornaments everywhere. Ex- ver candlesticks look together. Whether So, I bathed in her Saturday, where I messed up. Tried to teach emo- hausting. I’m older now, hopefully wiser, all, none or a few of them have candles in inserted him by Friday…biochemical engi- tions rather than accept her existence, and my little baby is a strapping 6-foot-4 them, they just look great when there’s a neer, entrepreneur of the year. that existed didn’t exist 4 me 22-year-old man, so it’s time to pare down group of them. Anything you have that you Repetitive tears, when closure would God had other plans – some 1 worthy of and have some fun with it all. can group together makes a nice state- have suppressed the demonstrative tem- my effortless, efforts in love. Let’s start by broadening our horizons ment. Your fancy vintage jewelry- maybe peramental acts, A natural cohesive in the color wheel. Santa red and green are that goes over your door knob for a sparkle An arch in my back, release then Fits like a glove, snuggled in hugs, puzzle not the only colors that say festive holiday. of color or groups together on the coffee retract…fatigued (sighs). pieces of imperfection… Really. I promise. table in a nice I’M TIRED OF HAVING YOU perfecting acceptance in each other’s Look at your own container. What- ON MY BRAIN! flaws, home and let those ever you have, “Love is blind, and it will take over your kick it ol’ school. colors be your pick a display spot mind, what I thought was love was truly, Love conquers all. guide. We want to for the group to NOT. – by Shanae Brooks aim for a decorat- hang out in. Now ing scheme that is the time to show says hi and wel- off the collection come in a soothing, of leather bound friendly manner, books in a jumble not an in your face on the table, or neon flashing light put that huge mar- manner. Silver and ble collection in a These days, smart seniors white is the stan- great bowl. dard alternative to a Finally, think of are going back to class. red and green sea- a little luxury touch son. And it’s clas- you can add that At Roland Park Place. sic and gorgeous. you don’t have out But your colors can run a much broader all the time. Whether it’s the blanket made gamut. What about lime green? Purple? I out of a faux fur (or a vintage real one love the idea of using an unexpected color upcycled), the cashmere pillow, or some It’s a smart choice to move into a carefree, continuing care community, for the holidays. The key to me is to pick shiny and cleaned up silver pieces from with all its benefits. It’s an even smarter decision to choose Roland Park Place one strong color to focus on, and letting your family, just a bit of indulgence goes as your new home. any other colors be neutral. Then use that a long way. Try our sterling silver cheese color in a way that has some holiday pop… markers upcycled from vintage silverware Yes, Roland Park Place offers all the features you’re looking for in a premier sparkles, glitters, or shines. This year I’m for a pop of shiny luxury. senior lifestyle. The amenities are superb. The apartment homes and cottages focused on pink as a color scheme and Come see us at reUP Home for that are well appointed. Roland Park Place also offers something you won’t likely used a bunch of various shades and pat- shiny or indulgent something to get your terns of pink glitter heavy paper to make holiday decorating started. We’ve got lac- find in other communities. Life here is like going back to class. Many residents some giant ornaments for my much smaller quered magnolia wreaths in pops of color are former university professors, educators, business leaders, entrepreneurs three- foot tree. I added a couple strands of that will be all you need on the wall. Or that and artists. So there are always stimulating activities, and the enriching white lights and tree is finished. Don’t want upcycled hand embroidered cashmere pil- company of like-minded individuals. to make ornaments? Take some of your low. And don’t panic about interesting gifts old basic larger ornaments and hit them to bring to your party host... stop in and with a gloss spray paint and glitter in your we’ll get you ready for the holiday host gift. Why not learn more right now? color. Even easier- they make glitter spray At the end of the day remember, laugh- Call (410) 243-5700 or visit RolandParkPlace.org paint now (Krylon brand… WalMart has it). ter and a glass of champagne will ensure 830 W. 40th St. Baltimore, MD 21211 I spray painted a bunch of tree branches that your holiday celebrations, big or small, The educated choice. with a couple shades of pink and a soft by yourself or with others, are relaxing and (410) 243-5700 rolandparkplace.org green, put them on the window sills with enjoyable! t

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he likes it. Not to worry, Nick was able to dif- fuse the spice with the fresh ginger served with it. Our meals were off to a great start! As a main course, I selected the Ts’ai & Finger’s Mein Combo ($14.95), which is a combina- Food tion of shrimp, chicken, beef, and vegetables over steamed noodles, from the Zen Favor- ites menu, while Nick had a Chinese staple, General Tsao Chicken ($10.95) from the Cafe Zen Chef’s Specials menu. When our meals were 438 East Belvedere Avenue served, I was overwhelmed by the portion Baltimore sizes. My selection could have easily been 410-532-0022 a meal for two. Quite impressively, there CafeZen.us weren’t just two pieces of shrimp, chicken, and beef scattered in the vegetables and by Richard Finger noodles, there were many, and the shrimp While I had a hard time finding a definition for were jumbo and plentiful. And unlike most the word “zen”, the closest I could come to it typical Chinese restaurants in America, the is “enlightenment by intuition through medi- sauce was not too thick and not at all salty. tation.” If I take the liberty to cut this impro- It was certainly one of the more enjoyable vised definition short, and stick to the bit on meals I had dining out in a few weeks. Nick’s “enlightenment,” then Cafe Zen’s food selec- General Tsao’s was also impressive; the bat- tion certainly lives up to it. Cafe Zen explores ter on the chicken not too overdone, and the many Asian cuisines, including Chinese, In- taste was exactly what he had hoped for. dian, Japanese, and Thai. We had decided While we selected Chinese main cours- to eat there on a es, Cafe Zen Friday evening, and does offer many sampled some of the other alterna- Cafe’s offerings. tives. There is Undeniably, my a Zen Curry, initial impression of with a curry the restaurant did sauce made not knock my socks of 16 different off. Upon entering, spices (chick- the restaurant looks en-$12.95 or only ordinary, an shrimp-$14.95). open space with a If Pad Thai bunch of tables and is of interest, chairs, with little to Cafe Zen pre- no memorable de- pares it with soft cor. Perhaps this is rice noodles, by design, to help Cafe Zen – Dishes that send you to a higher plane eggs, bean diners achieve their sprouts, green personal “Zen”? scallions, and Even so, I felt as if I had walked into a com- peanuts. It can be prepared with chicken munity college cafeteria. Lucky for us, the ($10.95), shrimp ($14.95), beef ($12.95), or restaurant was not especially busy, and we tofu ($10.95). In addition to this, there are were quickly seated. Within just a couple many other Chefs Specials including Peking of minutes, we were warming up with some Duck ($23.00) or Triple Delight ($14.95); and Chinese tea while deciding on our meals. shrimp, chicken, pork, beef, vegetable, and There are many starter options to select tofu dishes that will fit anyone’s taste. from; sushi, soups, and traditional Chinese While it may be true that you do not get appetizers (just some off the menu include a second chance to make a first impression, Meat Dumplings eight for $5.50, (steamed sometimes the first impression is the wrong or pan fried), Shrimp Toast (four for $4.95), impression. Perhaps it should be better or Seaweed Salad $4.50). The afternoon stated, the last impression is the lasting im- warmth was quickly fading, so I decided to pression, and for me, this consists of a high try the Wonton Soup ($1.95) to warm up, quality meal, set at a very fair price, and with while Nick decided on the Spicy Tuna Roll (6 great customer care. I highly recommend for $4.50). I was especially impressed how Cafe Zen to our readers. Note that the res- ample the portion of soup was, there were taurant is located nearby Belvidere Square, many wontons, and most importantly to me, and The Senator movie theatre. For a great the soup was served piping hot. Nick’s sushi date night out, why not catch dinner and a was also fresh, and as advertised, spicy, as movie? t

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Some people want possible scenarios with you and guide you Including Your Pet in Your Estate Plan their pets buried in a through the process. pet cemetery, some Your financial power-of-attorney: When By Woody Derricks Your pet may require daily medication or, like want their ashes establishing your financial power-of-attorney, Normally when I first discuss the need for cli- Fenway, may become intimidating around peo- spread, and others have a special location make sure to include a provision that allows for ents to include their pets into their estate plan, ple he doesn’t know. This is critical information such as a favorite play area or in the same money to be used for your pet’s care. If you are they think I’m crazy. My wife and I, however, for the guardian to know. Also, if your pet knows plot as the “parents.” If you have strong feel- unable to handle your own finances, someone view this as a very serious issue. We feel that commands, does tricks, has favorite play ar- ings for the final resting place for your pet, you else will step in and provide money manage- our dogs, Fenway and Roxy, are a part of our eas, etc, make sure to share those details. This will want to include those arrangements in your ment for your care. Strict interpretation from the family. If we passed away while they were alive, should help communication and make the tran- estate plan. courts may not allow for money to be spent on we would want to make sure they were cared sition easier. Covering the costs: While many people your pet. By including a provision for your pet, for by someone who is capable of and who Most vets will allow you to leave written may establish both primary and contingent you will ensure that your pet will be cared for wants to care for them. permission for your pet to be cared for by care takers for their pets, all too often they should you suffer a significant injury or illness. Selecting a guardian: The first decision others. If you have not done so already, you do not provide financial support for their pet’s Provisions for care during probate: Pro- you need to make is finding someone to care should discuss this with your vet and add your care. Even if the guardians have the financial bate is a process that can take anywhere from for your pet. Not everyone who loves your pet favorite sitter, neighbor, and potential future wherewithal to cover the costs of caring for a few months to a couple of years. Because will want the responsibility of caring for him/her guardian to this list. . a pet, it is only fair to leave some money be- your pet is considered property and subject to on a daily basis. Some of those who may be One of the hardest issues we face with hind for your pet’s care. Some people leave a probate, you will want to include a provision in open to caring for your pet might not be the best our pets is when to euthanize them. It’s such lump sum to the guardians. Others, concerned you will that allows your executor to provide caretakers. Start by creating list of those people an emotional topic, that I’m not even allowed about the guardian’s motivation to care for care and money for your pet while your estate to whom you would feel comfortable leaving to mention the word at home. While Fenway is their pet, may decide to provide a monthly al- is in probate. your pet. After you have identified your best op- young, we will likely be faced with this decision lotment or a reimbursement for care provided. The most important piece of estate plan- tions, talk with them to find out if they are open at some point. When the time comes, my wife Quite often this is done through a Pet Trust. ning is getting one in place. Meet with an at- to the idea. It’s better to run the idea past them and I will be able to weigh the options with our Yes, they do have trusts for pets! torney, your financial advisor, and accountant now than to surprise them after you’ve passed. vet. If someone else is caring for your pet, you In a Pet Trust, you can establish care to determine the best course of action for your Caring for your pet: Next, you will want to may want to leave behind guidelines for circum- guidelines for your pet, disbursement options, estate. Review your beneficiaries on a regular create a care manual for your pet’s guardian. stances in which the guardians may euthanize and an executor to monitor the trust and your basis. You will also want to update your estate You should leave daily care instructions (what your pet. This will become especially important pet’s care. If you decide to establish a Pet Trust, plan every five to seven years or when you food he/she eats, the typical daily routine, etc.). if you leave money behind to care for your pet. I highly recommend that you find an attorney have a significant life change, a beneficiary If your pet has any health or personality issues, Many people we’ve met have already who has experience in drafting these trusts. passes away, or if estate/income tax laws you will want to include that information as well. discussed burial arrangements for their pet. The attorney will be able to discuss all of the change. t

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The More you Since resumes are now electronic, it Know About does not take much effort to customize it for a specific position. Recruiters do use the Business “key word search” feature on these major Richard Finger job boards. It helps to narrow in on those that have specific skills or experiences for which the employer is looking. After reviewing a job posting, revise your resume Application to ensure that some of the key words are included within it, so your resume will pull up in the search. In other words, by adding Etiquette this detail to your resume, you are quickly qualifying for the position, the recruiters are Application etiquette is certainly a topic that quite busy, and do not have the time to do I have not addressed at all this year, and it for you. long overdue. Given the evolution of paper Resumes should lead with strengths. applications to online applying, what are the This is where you have to differentiate your- new rules of engagement? In the 20 years self from the dozens of possible other can- I’ve been in the Human Resources game, didates that are competing for the same job. I’ve experienced the trends first-hand, as an It is not enough to simply state “looking for interviewer and a candidate. So, what can a challenging opportunity that will use my an applicant do to make his or her resume strengths...” The recruiter wants to know, stand out? what are those strengths? This is another My first tip is very simple. Apply only opportunity to demonstrate to the recruiter for the job opportunities for which you that you are qualified for the position. For qualify. Whether companies are recruiting example, if the position requires a certain for the positions themselves, or leverag- certification, or a certain experience, and ing a search firm, all are using electronic you are in possession of this certification or job boards, (i.e. Monster.com, Dice.com, experience, state this at the top of your re- The Ladders, etc.), to cast the widest pos- sume before getting to the list of employers. sible net, and attract the most qualified My final tip for this article is to have faith candidates. Even if an employer does a in the process. I cannot speak for all recruit- good job specifying the qualifications and ers, but I find it particularly irritating to re- requirements of the position, the person ceive a phone call asking “Did you receive reviewing the applications is almost always my resume?” Maybe this is unfair, but most overwhelmed with the volume of unqualified recruiters will label you a “pain”! These calls responses. My advice to the applicant is to are taking away valuable time, and general- read the job posting carefully before pull- ly do nothing to in your favor. Repeat callers ing the trigger to apply. It should never be are sometimes labelled “stalkers”, and I am a knee-jerk response, but a decision well sure that is not the impression the applicant thought out. Take it from someone who has is striving for. By taking the time to apply had recruitment responsibilities in the past: only for positions for which you qualify, cus- it will take only one application to a position tomize your resume to include key words, for which you do not qualify to disqualify and strengths, the odds the recruiter will you for one that you might have otherwise. contact you are certainly in your favor. t

BALTIMORE OUTLOUD NOVEMber 14, 2014 • baltimoreoutloud.com t 27 hem event. After the leather history and I saw Pennsylvania and discovering leather culture parties, it was time many, many leather title- and then coming to Baltimore and discovering to go to The Loft at holders past and present. In a leather community. Grand Central for fact I really enjoyed getting After the very popular Mr. Maryland Leather the meet and greet. to talk with some recently Leather 2014 David Pfau gave his step-down Line Although there were sashed titleholders such speech, Eli Fishburne was presented with the Rodney Burger lots of snacks and as Mr. New Jersey Leather brotherhood award, David Gerard was select- hors d’oeuvres at 2015 Thomas Fincannon ed first runner-up and Gregory King will repre- the cocktail parties, and Mr. Eagle NYC 2015 I have to thank Mr. boy laney. Both will be com- “Saturday’s official Maryland Leather peting with Mr. Maryland Gregory King 2007 Sir Steve and Leather 2015 at the Interna- victory party was held Mr. Maryland Leath- tional Mr. Leather 2015 Con- Selected Mr. er 2013 Bob Rose test in Chicago in May. In at the newly opened who chipped in for fact, the current IML Ramien Steampunk Alley at Maryland pizza to be brought Pierre was in the house. In a up to the suite. All few brief remarks to the au- Leon’s. (The new space, Leather 2015 cocktails and no din- dience Ramien applauded formerly Triple L, ner on Halloween the four men who stepped night could have up to enter the contest and looks great. I just hope When I first heard that COMMAND, M.C. was really been frighten- G regory King – jokingly added that they holding the meet-and-greet for the Mr. Mary- ing! Mr. Maryland Leather 2015 should be commended for they find the dimmer land Leather 2015 contest on Halloween night The Loft was “showing their love, show- switches. I’ve dated I had my doubts. Many people would have packed. During the course of the evening, con- ing their commitment, and showing their poor other plans for Halloween. Those who live in test emcee Mr. Maryland Leather 1999 David judgment for entering a contest.” Contestants people who were not New York, Philadelphia, or D.C. would want to Allen introduced the judges and contestants. were scored for interview (30 points), com- stay in their own city to party on this big night. It Since this was the 25th Mr. Maryland Leather munity service (20 points), jock/ physique (15 that bright!)” would be like being stuck waiting in a pumpkin Contest, COMMAND selected past Mr. Mary- points), formal leather image (15 points), and patch while everyone else was out for “tricks land Leather titleholders to judge. Mr. Mary- speech (20 points) for a total of 100 points. and treats.” When my club, the ShipMates, land Leather 2013 Bob Rose was Head Judge. (The interview and community service points sent Maryland in Chicago at IML 2015 as Mr. was asked to host one of the opening cocktail Other judges were Greg Satorie-Robinson were awarded in the morning before the on- Maryland Leather 2015. parties I could only think about the spandex (MML 1996), Troy Leonhart (MML 1991), Lord stage portion.) It was a very good contest and After the contest a formal leather dinner devil costume that I bought last year for Hal- Stephen J. Cather (MML 2005), Justin Terry- I was told by one of the judges that the final was held at the Rooftop Room of the Wynd- loween and didn’t get to wear. How does one Smith (MML 2010), Rick Ellis (MML 2001), and scores were “crazy close.” Entertainment was ham Peabody Court Hotel followed by a cock- combine a devil’s costume with COMMAND’s Rik Newton-Treadway (MML 2009). Also work- provided by Shawnna Alexander who put her tail party in the hospitality suite presented by leather event? My fellow Baltimore OUTloud ing to help select the 25th Mr. Maryland Leather own spin on Maleficent, ASL Interpreter was the Leatherboys of Maryland. Saturday’s offi- staffer Mary Taylor said that was an easy one were Tally Master Joe Chmielowski-Liu (MML Debbie Jones, and keeping the contest mov- cial victory party was held at the newly opened and suggested The Devil Wears Prada. 2012), Den Daddy Sir Steve (MML 2007), and ing along was Ms. Baltimore Eagle 1999 Buz Steampunk Alley at Leon’s. (The new space, On Friday, October 31 COMMAND’s 26th Judges’ Boy Alex Lemaire (MML 2011). There Norwood. Being the stage manager is the formerly Triple L, looks great. I just hope they anniversary leather weekend began at the were four very qualified contestants eager to least glamorous job but if it wasn’t for Buz we find the dimmer switches. I’ve dated people Wyndham Peabody Court Hotel with three represent their home state: Gregory King from would still be waiting to see who was selected who were not that bright!) cocktail parties in the hospitality suite. The Owings Mills, Andrew McCarty from Baltimore, Mr. Maryland Leather – and I mean Mr. Mary- The weekend ended on Sunday morning evening started with a two hour cocktail party Eli Fishburne from Landover, and David Ge- land Leather 2013! The contestants delivered with a brunch back at the Rooftop Room. Con- presented by a group of past Mr. Maryland rard also from Landover. very strong speeches and spoke passionately gratulations to COMMAND, M.C., for 26 years Leather titleholders, followed by the Ship- On Saturday, November 1 the party about such topics as bullying, serving in the of service and another fun weekend. Trying to Mates’ cocktail party, and a party presented by moved to the Club Hippo with the Mr. Mary- military during “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, and sub- host a leather event on Halloween was a scary Charles King and his husband Greg King, pro- land Leather 2015 Contest starting at 2 p.m. stance abuse. I particularly like Greg King’s idea, but you pulled it off. Now if I could just pull ducers of the popular Bears, Bikers, & May- The main room at the Hippo was filled with speech. He spoke about growing up in rural off this devil’s costume! t TYRE’S REPAIR AUTO Quality Workmanship 410.252.8001 24/7 Towing 410-583-8888 Voted Baltimore’s Best Auto Repair – City Paper 2000 Next to Timonium Business Park Lightrail Stop 1955 GreeNSPriNG Drive

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