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Realizing when your child is seeking independence the publisher BY RISA C. DOHERTY very society has a 10 Speak up! designated day for Teaching children presentation skills E giving thanks. Our BY MONICA BROWN day, in November, is per- 12 The perfect fit haps my favorite holiday. Finding the right NYC school for your child It’s truly a national holi- BY NATANIA BLUMENKEHL day and, while celebrated on different days in differ- 14 New way to learn ent lands, an international A mother creates apps to help her daughter holiday in spirit. It’s a day on which we count BY ALLISON PLITT our abundance, whatever that amounts to. For many years of my life, Thanksgiving 16 Special holidays COLUMNS was a day I worked, and when I finally had the Stress-free holidays for families with special needs day off and was available, I found myself alone BY JULIA GARSTECKI 2 Newbie Dad and uninvited to any banquet or celebration. I BY BRIAN KANTZ was alone in New York without family — and 18 Understand ADHD people without family nearby can often spend Learn about the disorder, and find treatment 4 Good Sense Eating holidays on their own. It’s a weird feeling and BY DR. MARIE SUrprIS BY CHRISTINE M. PALUmbO, RD can easily lead to depression and feelings of 8 Family Health isolation. So much expectation surrounds holi- 22 You say it’s your birthday? BY IVAN HAND, MD, FAAP days and the marketing folks can make you feel Put together a bash they’ll remember forever even worse than you already feel. 30 Dating and the single parent 29 Growing Up Online Being the kind of gal I am, I decided to do Romance — with kids at home BY CAROLYN JABS something worthwhile on that holiday alone, BY CANDI SpARKS and I found myself volunteering to serve meals 34 Lions and Tigers and Teens to the homeless, ill and needy. It was a good 32 Consider foster care adoption BY MYRNA BETH HASKELL day and I felt busy, vital and necessary. At the Give a child a safe and loving home 42 It Figures end of the day, the group of volunteers all sat BY RITA SORONEN down together and had our meal. I met some BY CYNTHIA WASHAM very nice people that day and I’ve always 36 Yoga for children 44 New & Noteworthy looked back on it as a day when I saved my- Yoga can help your child in many ways The hottest new products self. BY MARY CArrOLL WININGER Anyway, not everyone’s going to volunteer, or think about it. Some people are so alone CALENDAR OF EVENTS they can’t get past the solitary nature of their SPECIAL SECTIONS lives. As we’re planning this year for our cel- 38 Going Places ebrations and our banquets, think of someone 17 Special Needs Directory Take the family out and find out what’s you may know who has nowhere to go on this 22 Party Directory going on in your town day. Maybe it’s someone from another country or someone like I was, living in New York, with family far away. 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November 2010 • QUEENS FAMILY 1 PARENTING Thankful (really) for my mother-in-law ne night, way back in the Classics, I know. would be a huge time commitment. year 2 BC (before children), Eventually, all eyes turned to me. I didn’t want to burden anyone else O I found myself in the middle The mob expected one more juicy with the care of our children. NEWBIE DAD of an ugly scene in a graduate school story from a disgruntled son-in-law. As I wrestled with the situation, BRIAN KANTZ class. What started out as an innocu- Instead, I simply shrugged my shoul- a friend of the family — a very wise ous discussion about parental influ- ders and said, “I like my mother-in- woman and a grandmother herself ence on education quickly turned law.” Of course, I wasn’t telling the — knocked some sense into my into a mother-in-law bashing session. class the whole truth. I didn’t want head, saying, “Did you ever consider One by one, venom-spitting stu- to rub their faces in it. What I should that your mother-in-law might actu- dents told their worst mother-in- have said was, “I love my mother- ally want to watch the kids? That she law stories. A guy claimed his in-law.” might consider it a gift, not a burden? mother-in-law tried You see, the older I get, the more I Did you ever consider that she just to sabotage his realize how fortunate I am. And one might be waiting to be asked?” of the most fortunate aspects of my No, I hadn’t really considered life: I have a wonderful mother-in- that. law. Really. But as soon as I did, my thoughts OK, OK, I know what you’re think- immediately went back to my own ing. What did I do wrong? What do I childhood to a time when my broth- want? A man must have some ulte- ers and I spent a few hours after rior motive for declaring his love for school each day at my grandmoth- his mother-in-law — yes, his mother- er’s house after my mom went back in-law — in print, right? Wrong. to work. There’s no doubt in my There’s no motive here other than it mind that the time I spent there was deserves to be said. the reason I always felt so close to My mother-in-law is the best. My my late grandmother. I still think of admiration for her has grown each her most days and plan to write a day since we met, and especially book about her some day. That kind since my wife and I became par- of bond is priceless. ents and my mother-in-law became a And guess what? My mother-in- grandmother. As mother, mother-in- law happily accepted our invitation. law and grandmother, she is always Of course she did. And I couldn’t there for us. Always. She’s the heart be happier about it. Our younger of the family. She proves this again son, who spends the most time with and again. Grandma while his older brother Here’s a quick example: recently, is at school, is quickly becoming I was offered — and accepted — an “Grandma’s boy.” You may have seen interim job position. This decision the couple around town on a lunch shook up our family’s routine — date. wedding. Even namely, we needed a new childcare My mother-in-law is truly one of worse, one young arrangement during weekdays. The the most selfless — and capable — woman countered, her decision also shook me up. After people I know. There is no better role mother-in-law had actually tried to nearly six years as a stay-at-home model for my two boys. There is no help her plan her wedding. The hor- dad, I was pretty accustomed to tak- better role model for me. ror. Classmates gasped. ing care of things myself during the It’s November and that means Luckily, a few of the less emotion- day. I rarely needed to ask for help. Thanksgiving. I’m one son-in-law ally scarred students lightened the Now, I did. And I found it very dif- who is thankful to have a wonder- conversation with a round of taste- ficult to give up control. Actually, I ful mother-in-law in my life. If you’re less mother-in-law jokes: found it excruciating.