Crossdresser and Transsexual TABLE of CONTENTS
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INFORMATION FOR THI; FEMALE-TO-MALE crossdresser and transsexual TABLE OF CONTENTS Page Introduction ......................................1 The Difference Between Sexual Identity and Gender-Role Preference ................. 5 Crossdressi ng . ..................... 5 What is Transsexuality? ........................... 11 How Does a Transsexual Feel? ..................... 13 How Did It Happen? .............................. 15 Possible Biological Causes ......................... 17 Possible Psychological Causes ..................... 19 Psychological Treatment .......................... 20 How to Look 30 When You Are 30 ................... 22 Ong I I O O 0 e o O O o 22 C'oth' ..rl e I e e e O O e O e o O O O O I e I o I O 0 O I O e O o O O Oo 23 Face , Ha' I e I I O O I e e I O I O I e e O e O I O e 24 Body Language . · · · · Clothing and Shoe Sizes ................ · · · · · 25 Breast Binding, The Crotch ....... · · · · · · · · · · -~ The Men's Room ................. · · · · · · · · · · ~ Sex Reassignment .... · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · 29 Hormone Therapy .. · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · 31 S urgery . O O .0 I 0 0 O O O O O o O O O O 34 Homofogues in Female & Male Uro~en1tal Anatomy· · · 36 Accepting the New Man in the Family · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · 38 Your Sex Life - Thoughts to Consider·· · · · · · · · · · · · · · · 41 Contacts/ Referrals ..... · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · 43 Readings.I .......... · · · · · · · · ....................· · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · · .· 45 . And F1 ms ........... · · · · The unique problems and needs of the female-to-male transsexual ( j ~\ and crossdresser have largely been Ignored In the literature to date •. ' · One must plow through volumes of material directed to the male-1o female In order to find a few sentences concerning the female-to male. When the female-to-male does find something, It will most llkely be a few vague sentences here and there or Information not relevant to her situation, especially If she Is a transvestite or transsexual with non-textbook lncllnatlons. Is It because the male-to-female Is more visible, vocal and numerous that he Is granted more notice In the medical world? Possibly. There are an estimated 6,000 transsexuals in the United States, and we are told that every dav three Americans change their sex. In the early ·research and study of transsexualism, only 25% of the transsexuals coming to the attention of the medlcal world were females. Now the professional community acknowledges the female-to-male makes up an even 50% of the total transsexuals. However, even now, female to-male transvestites are said to be non-existent. Maybe because they are less vlalble and vocal, more closeted and guilt-ridden. This booklet Is compiled to give the attention to the female-to-male so sorely tacking In Information on transvestism and transsexualism. Paradoxical though It may seem, the women's liberation movement has assisted In the ..coming out" of the female-to-male. In 1889, Elizabeth Cady Stanton (friend of Amella Bloomer and Susan e. Anthony) wrote In th~ Women Suffrage Association newspaper, The Revolution, that she believed the day would come when the sexes were dressed as nearly alike as possible. She mentioned how a young New York woman had travelled all over Europe and America In male attire and, thanks to It, had enjoyed a masculine Independence and security. ''When we have a voice In legislatlon, we shall dress as we please," wrote Stanton, 11and If, by concealing our sex we find that we, too, can roam up and down the earth In safety, we shall keep our womanhood a profound secret." Dreaa was such a topic at the first national women's rights convention In Worcester, Mass., In 1850 that one commentator wrote: .. It would hardly be outstripping facts to say that the husk and shell, so to speak, of every question now being raised for debate In America as between sex and sex belongs to the domain of the mllltner and the tailor. What are the proper kinds of clothes for a free woman to fold about her limbs? Is the gown a flnal form of dress? rs the petticoat a badge of shame? Does a man owe nothing to his hat, his coat, his pantaloons, his boots? In short, can a female be considered an equal to a male untll she has won the right to wear his garb?" •• 1111 Ethel Kimball (born 1892) lived in Boston as James Hathaway and, after two years' courtship married a woman who knew. "I wore men's clothes because I wanted to 1 aooroach 1ife's problems from a man's viewpoint.'' 1 .Mary Walker . rary) (Wendell, Albany; New York Public Ltb 1919) er (1832-fe. In Thobgh she nev" l•led to pa" as a mao, o._ Ma.y E1.,wards52 ye"~Walk or••"'of her.. ' ller"lce th' rngula.ty WO•e men's olothos .. .looludlng top hat. .. th~ no•1 lo• m•~·'oatod ' '"' 1665 She w., awa.ded the Cong'""•nal Medal of was de ' Id•" 0 b1' 'in 1 white a '"'•••n In the U nlon A•my. H" i; •st book, . ' 'n ; n yoLI' 'OS of a0 w•'' p""'"' o,e,, Refo,m,.s ... who have been so '~"'""tor1 th• du",, whO o•00 '" equatlty of the se>es, by d•esslng In a manne• to flt you one of 9 .,;on ',.•> and "5ef ul Ille." Two Yea" befo•e he< death , Walke< wa5 s e the oc~71 th' ;t. stri~ke n from the roll of Medal of Honor holders "~eca~. but in 1 won giving was not of record in the War Departmen t archives, ho ever restored the medal to her--the only woman w Thr~ugh a greater awareness of themselves as sexual beings many fe~ales have four:-d .the "~en:• ~lthin. Women of all ag~s are becomi~g aware of· their m~uline" qualities and embracing these qualities as part of a well-rounded personality. The female-ta male. Is now more apt to accep~ herself--and .. her sexuality In . whatever form it manifests .itself. ' · There are many ways In wh)ch ,a female may express "masculinity".: from the woman who Is sexually attracted to other women, ·to t~e woman who Is turned on by men's underwear, to the woman who wears men's clothes aft~r work or on weekend~, to the woman who Is accepted as ••one of the boys,'' to the female who passes as a male once In a while, or who makes the commitment to live the rest of her life as a man. All of these are satisfying and acceptable ways of expressing what society calla "masculinity." The ·possiblfltles are endless. Oftentimes women who have affectional or sexual preferences for other women have many questions and doubts concerning their own femininity. Even with the gay pride movement, there Is little In society to convince a woman that she can live a happy life loving another woman. The media has not legitimized the relatlonshlps of women-loving women and, especially Jn small towns and rural areas, such women are either completely lnvlalble or "outside" of the mainstream of society. A young woman who Is aware of her attraction to other women, but knows she Is not "on the outside" or so unlike the rest of society, may find It extremely difficult to define her place In society, to shape a life for herself which encompasses her sexuality and need for affection. Sh~ _may wonder, beQauee she feels towards other women as a man Is supposed to feel_, If she.was meant to be a man, and she may wonder If pursuing the path of the female-to-male may help her find a happier place In socelty-. Or she may feel ''detached'• from her body and have a secret desire to be a man, and wonder If llfe would be better If only she could change. These are questions that cannot be easily answered and It Is best for someone with these questions to explore all the options available. Thia might entail relocating to a more cosmopolitan area In which people of many lifestyles have found each other and formed supportive communities. Most larg' cities have organizations to help women find their place with women of similar llkes and dislikes. The best advice Is to talk to many women-and men-of many different lifestyles. Imagine yourself In their place, or how you might modify their situations to please yourself. Attend many functions, see many things. Through communication wlll be gained a better understanding and exposure to alternative lifestyles and Polllbllltlee-e necaaalty to finding your special place, 3 n when still Unfortunately, It Is still true that the female-to-m~1 e, ~: from many a female, Is often badly misunderstood and I or OS rac1 change from lesbian and women's sexuality support groups. T~e political self· female to male seems to threaten some women s elt by only a righteousness-as though this deeply personal traum~ frights were few could possibly affect women's gains. Women 8 women who championed by the female-to-male of years past, those as theY 0 dared to wear trousers which enabled them to com:i an~fg feminine pleased Instead of being confined to the shac es superiority f rlppery. The female-to-male is no threat to the ultlmat~e Men In of the female body. Men and women are NOT the sa n In female male bodies have a lower life expectancy than W.~me e" does not bodies. The female-to-male's perception of self as mal r 00 •HoW stem In total from social role disharmony (read furtri~e th'at the Does a Transsexual Feel?'). Women should rea rnanY ways female-to-male Is a complex treasure of Insights Into the d rnentallY· we all (men and women) express ourselves physically a~ polltlCSllY The female-to-male usually looks first to sexua~ly ~n my seeldnQ aware women to help make sense of their sexual d1cho 0 ale~ do not information to guide them and emotional support.