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Rabbi Binyomin Kamenetzky zt”l FBI Director, James Comey, fired by President Donald Trump ARTICLE BY HIS SON ON PAGE 36 French Election Winner Macron Again Rules Out 38 Palestinian Statehood Recognition: ADAM ABRAMS As French citizens voted Sunday, On the eve of the election, pro- party—said unilateral recognition of a their eventual president-elect reiterated Europe centrist Emmanuel Macron of Palestinian state would create instability previous statements ruling out unilateral the En Marche party—who went on to and damage France’s relationship with French recognition of Palestinian state- win the presidential race with 64 percent Israel. RUMANIAN PM GINBEANU hood and committing to support for a of the vote, defeating far-right populist “I defended the principle of a two- VISITS THE WESTERN WALL two-state solution. Marine Le Pen of the National Front CONT. ON P4

IN THIS WEEK’S Embracing Change in Marriage Can Trump survive Abbas? ISSUE HOW MY HUSBAND AND I LEARNED TO STOP BEING BEN COHEN Cracking The Egg Shell SCARED OF CHANGE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP There was something of a motivational speaker about Roy Neuberger...... 8 SARA DEBBIE GUTFREUND President Donald Trump as he welcomed Mahmoud Abbas, It Happened to Me on Lag Ba’Omer Ada Calhoun wrote in a recent New York Times column: “A the gerontocrat at the helm of the Palestinian Authority (PA) Alan Magill...... 11 couple of years ago, it seemed as if everyone I knew was on the for the last 12 years, to the White House May 3. Paleo Salted Dark Chocolate verge of divorce. ‘He’s not the man I married,’ one friend told At their joint appearance, Trump was confident and Almond Butter Fudge me. ‘She didn’t change, and I did,’ said another… Emotional and beaming. Abbas, in turn, came across as eager and respect- Rachael Schindler...... 23 physical abuse are clear-cut grounds for divorce, but they aren’t ful. As Trump surely knows, to sell something you need to the most common causes of failing marriages… What’s the believe in it—and to look like you believe in it. In tone and Road Rage or Contemplation body language, both leaders pulled that off in their com- Elizabeth Weintraub...... 28 more typical villain? Change.” (Ada Calhoun, “To Stay Married, CONT. ON P25 CONT. ON P5 Minister Rabbi Benny Elon Joseph Frager, MD...... 29 The Spin on Fidget Spinners What Does Sugar Do to Your Brain? JNS NEWS...... 30 A DEEPER LESSON BEHIND THE LATEST CRAZE DR. JOSEPH MERCOLA RABBI SHLOMO LANDAU While all cells in your body can use glucose for They are everywhere: in school, in energy, when you burn fat as your prima- the boardroom, at the doctor’s office, ry fuel your liver produces ketones that even in synagogues. They are those for- burn far “cleaner” in that they generate ever-spinning little triangular gadgets fewer reactive oxygen species (ROS) ,urb ,eksv that will set you back anywhere from and secondary free radicals than sugars. The conventional view is that you need 16 Iyar rhht u"y $3 - $25 and become an inseparable CONT. ON P4 CONT. ON P6 Parashat Emor 7:44 P.M. FIVE TOWNS “FLAKEY JAKE” YOM 7:45 P.M. STATEN ISLAND PRESENTS 7:45 P.M. BROOKLYN YERUSHALAYIM 7:45 P.M. TEANECK, NJ SHAVUOS AT HUDSON HONOR ROLL 7:40 P.M. MIAMI BEACH, FLA. VALLEY RESORT 6: 47 P.M. JERUSALEM P3 P17 P2 5/12/17

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In the first article of this series metabolic function as well as other I explained how I teach my clients aspects of personal health, weight how to work on speeding up their loss and/or and well-being. I will metabolisms and understanding the also contrast that with the pitfalls key hormones in terms of weight to optimizing your metabolism and loss. Most people don’t believe that hormone output so we can be clear their metabolism is dynamic, not on what we need to do to literally static and can be modified, as well as “fix it”. some of their hormones, for better In The Key to Skinny I, we or for worse! So how important are spelled out the role of insulin. Insu- hormones to metabolism? Really, lin’s most important function is to hormones are the key! They tell our lower the concentration of glucose bodies what to do, very specifically! in the blood. Decreased insulin So, if we look at metabolism in release causes impaired glucose general, we see that some hormones tolerance in diabetes type I and inform you that you are hungry and type 2 (at the end stage). It results some inform you that you are full. from many years of insulin resist- When you eat, hormones tell your ance; obesity and inactivity leading body what to do with the ingested to high insulin output; and finally food-whether to store it or burn it pancreatic “burnout”. This elevated as fuel. This is why the most impor- circulating insulin increases hunger tant step for you is to get to under- and fat storage. Ultimately, this is stand the role of key hormones in at the expense of the hard-working weight regulation. In this article, pancreas, which is doing its best to (part of a series on this topic), I will keep up with glucose control, but focus on other hormones (namely eventually can’t keep blood sugar testosterone, DHEA and growth levels normal. Consequently, the hormone) and the role they play in CONT. ON P13

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LANDAU lar fad. Alas, Catherine isn’t making this fad is tapping into something get spinner reflects a kinship that we CONT. FROM P1 any money on the lucrative toy. She that resonates on a deeper, spiritual feel with its constant movement, and extension of the hand. Interestingly gave up the patent years ago because plane. the ease with which that sustained enough, people report that on first she couldn’t afford the $400 renewal Judaism believes that human movement is achieved. Imagine a life sight they are turned off by the con- fee. But she isn’t bitter. She told the beings were created with a quest for that is constantly and easily moving! cept of a fidget spinner, but once they Guardian, “Several people have asked perfection. We are born as an unpol- This is, of course, a pale imitation of try it out they are hooked. me: ‘Aren’t you really mad?’ But for ished diamond. Raised and nurtured the real-life movement that our spir- But what most people don’t me I’m just pleased that something by our parents and educators, we itual sub-conscious is craving, but know is that fidget spinners are the I designed is something that people then set out on our own to pursue it taps our innermost desire to grow brainchild of Catherine Hettinger, understand and really works for the quest that is our very existence. and move. a creative inventor and innovator. them.” Jewish tradition teaches that life So whether you are a current fid- After a visit to Israel a number of What is it about these fidget equals growth; a day without growth get spinner addict or a fidget spinner years ago she saw firsthand how spinners that make them so wildly is a day that has not truly been adversary, here is a little “spin” on young Arab children were spending popular and addicting? lived. That is why human beings are life. Your soul is craving movement their time throwing stones at Israelis. referred to as mahalchim, travelers, and growth in its quest for spiritu- Catherine decided that she needed to I am not an expert in trends or alluding to the constant movement al perfection. You can either try to find a replacement for the stones, and ADHD solutions, but I’d like to share that characterizes our existence as placate it with a cheap knock-off, thus the fidget spinner was born. one idea that perhaps gives a deeper we travel to toward our destination artificial feeling of growth, or you can Sadly, her fidget spinner did not reason behind the phenomenon. Af- of perfection. Life is for constant really satisfy it with the thrill of gen- replace the stone throwing, but Cath- ter all, according the Jewish perspec- growth and movement. There is no uine growth and soul-fulfillment. It’s erine did stumble upon something tive, the physical world reflects the standing still. up to you to decide which direction that has now become a wildly popu- spiritual. So it stands to reason that Perhaps our attraction to the fid- you want to spin it!

ABRAMS Macron has previously ex- the state of Israel against its enemies Macron would be “very friendly” CONT. FROM P1 pressed support for Israel’s security in the international arena, in all its toward Israel. state solution, and France’s commit- and condemned the BDS move- constructs, be it from the extreme Israeli Prime Minister Ben- ment to that,” said Macron, recall- ment, referring to anti-Israel boy- left or the extreme right.” jamin Netanyahu congratulated ing a 2015 visit to Israel as France’s cotts as “profoundly anti-Semitic” French Ambassador to Israel the French president-elect, saying, minister of economy. He added, and stating anti-Zionism “leads Helene Le Gal tweeted Monday that “I look forward to working with “Unilateral recognition of Palestine, directly to anti-Semitism.” 96.3 percent of French Israelis who President-elect Macron to confront right now, will undermine stabil- Following the election Sunday, cast their ballots in the cities of Tel the common challenges and seize ity…[it would have] implications World Jewish Congress President Aviv, Netanya, Haifa, Ashdod, Eilat the common opportunities facing in the loss of the entire [French] Ronald S. Lauder said he is confi- and Be’er Sheva opted for Ma- our two democracies.” Netanyahu relationship with the state of Israel.” dent Macron “will work to support cron. Le Gal told Army Radio that CONT. ON P25 4 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 5/12/17

COHEN 2013-2014 negotiations, pursuing his Hamas rivals in Gaza, cutting Trump in the role, as he put it, of CONT. FROM P1 a policy of sulky unilateralism that salaries to Gazan PA employees “mediator, facilitator, arbitrator,” ments on prospects for a final aimed to secure international rec- and informing Israel the PA would American officials need to confront Israeli-Palestinian peace deal, even ognition of a Palestinian state. no longer pay for the electricity the elephant in the room—namely, if they came across as overly self- “We believe that we are capable the Jewish state supplies to Gaza who succeeds Abbas. conscious in doing so. and able to bring about success to (Hamas won’t sign a separate sup- Abbas is 82 years old. To give On the face of it, there is no our efforts because, Mr. President, ply deal since it doesn’t recognize him his due, he’s entitled to tell all doubting Trump’s personal invest- you have the determination and Israel.) Protests against Abbas’s those who have speculated about ment in securing what he sees as you have the desire to see it come government among West Bank his health during the last decade the ultimate deal. to fruition and become success- Palestinians were met with a forth- that, as Mark Twain said first, “re- “Over the course of my life- ful,” Abbas gushed. Perhaps he can right response from stick-wielding ports of my death have been greatly time, I’ve always heard that per- afford to do so. In Mideast policy Palestinian security officers. exaggerated.” But will Abbas be haps the toughest deal to make is circles right now, there is much This is the sort of resolve Abbas with us three years from now, or the deal between the Israelis and talk of the positive response Jason doubtless feels will impress Trump. even one year? Any sensible policy the Palestinians—let’s see if we Greenblatt, Trump’s international For the same reason, Trump would plan will need to account for sce- can prove them wrong,” Trump negotiations representative, has do well to realize that what Abbas narios without Abbas. declared. Whether his administra- encountered among Palestinians. can actually deliver is rather lim- The degree of opposition tion has the mettle and the patience This, in turn, has made the Trump ited in terms of both substance and among ordinary Palestinians to to pull off a lasting agreement that administration more amenable endurance. Abbas right now is another indica- will suffer many false starts along to entreaties from Arab leaders to However desperately the presi- tor of how important the succes- the way, during a process facing the bring Abbas into the heart of the dent wants the elixir of an Israeli- sion question is. Jordan’s King Ab- implacable opposition of people negotiating process. Palestinian agreement, he must also dullah and Egypt’s President Abdel far more devious than the congres- For now, this is paying off for be aware of the profound sadness, Fattah El-Sisi may have told Trump sional Republicans who derailed Abbas, whose principal goal is to anger and disbelief that pictures that Abbas is indispensable, but a the repeal of Obamacare, remains remain in power—which is, inci- of the 1993 Oslo Accords, signed rapidly growing majority of Pales- very much an open question. dentally, the same principal goal of on the White House lawn, now tinians can’t wait to see the back of For his part, as he stood along- every autocrat on the planet, from evoke. A president as brand-aware a man who was legally required to side Trump, Abbas gave the im- Venezuela’s Nicolas Maduro to as Trump surely wants to minimize leave office eight years ago. pression of playing ball more than Zimbabwe’s Robert Mugabe. And the risk of the same outcome 20 Abbas has not groomed a suc- he ever did than when President he is showing he means it. After years from now. cessor, and in this vacuum others Barack Obama was in charge. taking full control of his Fatah Hence, if any forthcoming have come to the fore. Most obvi- During Obama’s second term, faction last November, Abbas in peace process is to survive all the ously, there is Marwan Barghouti, Abbas refused direct talks with recent weeks has moved against way to a written agreement, with the Fatah terrorist currently jailed Israel following the collapse of the CONT. ON P16

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neuronal pathway becomes the meal in regions related to craving, Dr. Joseph Mercola unconscious default, and your eating behavior and reward. Ac- brain, wanting to be efficient, just cording to the researchers: takes the easiest, most familiar “Compared with a … low-GI What Does Sugar route. This is particularly true in meal, a high-GI meal decreased the case of depression. plasma glucose, increased hunger Do to Your Brain? In a depressed brain, there’s and selectively stimulated brain less dopamine activity happening regions associated with reward CONT. FROM P1 creasingly documented … and in the nucleus accumbens, which and craving in the late postpran- sugar or glucose to satisfy your pathologies include compulsive means that things that used to be dial period. … [T]he high-GI energy needs, but only a very activities such as shopping, eating, enjoyable are not as pleasurable, meal elicited greater brain activ- small amount of sugar is actually exercising, sexual behavior and and the only things that motivate ity centered in the right nucleus required. Because sugar represents gambling. Like drug addiction, it have to have a big dopamine accumbens.” calories, excessive consumption non-drug addictions manifest in payoff, which are the baddest of The study demonstrates what will negatively affect your health. symptoms including craving, im- the bad habits, such as junk food, you may experience when eating a If you haven’t given much paired control over the behavior, drugs, alcohol [and] gambling.” high-GI meal. After rapidly digest- thought to how much sugar you tolerance, withdrawal and high Brain Imaging Shows Food ing net carbohydrates, your blood consume and what it may be do- rates of relapse.” Addiction Is Real sugar initially spikes, followed by ing to your health, now is the time The Biology of Your Brain: Research published in the a sharp crash later. As noted by to get educated. Overconsump- How Bad Habits Like Sugar Ad- American Journal of Clinical researchers, this crash in blood tion of sugar is increasingly being diction Take Root Nutrition examined the effects of glucose stimulated great- linked to brain-related health An article published by CNN high-glycemic index (GI) foods er brain activity in the nucleus issues such as depression, learning Health reminds us that the con- on brain activity, using function- accumbens, the brain’s pleasure disorders, memory problems and nection between your nucleus al magnetic resonance imaging center Lustig mentioned above. overeating. accumbens and prefrontal cortex (fMRI). Twelve overweight or Can Too Much Sugar Contrib- Your Body Recognizes Sugar drives intentional actions, such obese men between the ages of ute to Alzheimer’s Disease? as a ‘Drug’ as deciding whether you will take 18 and 35 consumed one high-GI While insulin is usually associ- Writing in The Atlantic, another bite of chocolate cake, for and one low-GI meal. ated with its role in keeping your neuroendocrinologist Dr. Robert example. Imaging was completed four blood-sugar levels in a healthy Lustig, professor of pediatrics Your prefrontal cortex also hours after each test meal to assess range, it also plays a role in brain in the division of endocrinology activates hormones like dopa- the cerebral blood flow as a mea- signaling. In one animal study, at University of California, San mine, triggering thoughts such sure of resting brain activity. The when researchers disrupted the Francisco, states: as, “Hey, this cake is really good. researchers expected brain activity proper signaling of insulin in the “… [T]he [U.S.] war on drugs And I’m going to remember that to be greater after the high-GI CONT.ON P7 has taken a back seat, but not for the future.” Lustig explains the because it has been won. Rather, biological process that takes place because a different war has clut- when you consume sugar or any Moshe’s By tered the headlines — the war on Yochai Ben addictive substance: Yitzchak Dov obesity. And a substance even “The brain’s pleasure center, CROSSWORD more insidious, I would argue, has called the nucleus accumbens, supplanted cocaine and heroin. is essential for our survival as The object of our current a species. … Turn off pleasure, affliction is sugar. Who could have and you turn off the will to live. imagined something so innocent, But long-term stimulation of the so delicious, so irresistible … pleasure center drives the process could propel America toward … of addiction. medical collapse?” When you consume … sugar, Previous research involv- your nucleus accumbens receives ing humans and laboratory rats a dopamine signal, from which suggests consumption of sugar you experience pleasure. And so and sweets can trigger reward and you consume more. The problem craving states in your brain sim- is with prolonged exposure, the ilar to addictive drugs. Not only signal … gets weaker. So you have can sugar and sweets substitute to consume more to get the same for drugs like cocaine, in terms effect — tolerance. And if you 43) Cease-fire 11) Hurried of how your brain reacts to them, pull back on the substance, you go Across 45) Assumed name 16) Tapioca source 1) Mister 48) Wearing away 19) Over they can be even more rewarding. 4) Musical genre into withdrawal. Tolerance and 52) Splash 21) Large primate 7) Protective gear The dramatic effects of sugar 53) Wind dir. 22) ___ Vegas, Nevada withdrawal constitute addiction. 12) Provide weapons 54) Expire 23) Declaration 13) Frying liquid on your brain may explain why And make no mistake, sugar is 55) Perceive 25) Makes do 14) Australian marsuplal 56) Actor ____Danson 26) Stopped working you may have difficultly con- 15) Lash thickener addictive.” 57) Bullring cheer 28) Spud buds 17) Storage room 31) Bad mood trolling your consumption of Brain-injury survivor and 18) Sports venue 33) Make a knot 20) Eden dweller sugary foods when continuously 34) Certain dashes author Debbie Hampton explains 21) Oh, dear! Down 1) “Cheers” bartender 36) Most painful 24) Hindered exposed to them. Another study how habits are formed around 2) George Gershwin’s 38) Accumulate 27) Outdated brother 39) Southern beauty suggests a high degree of over- 29) Keepsake addictive behaviors: 3) Real estate abbr. 40) Hospital worker 30) School compositions 4) Jungle sound 44) For both sexes lap exists between brain regions “Every time you follow the 32) Tiny 5) Broadcast 46) Donkey 35) Levels involved in processing natural 6) Jupiter, e.g. 47) Pronoun same path, a specific pattern is 37) Certain protest (hyph.) 7) Alias inits. 49) Bride’s response (2 38) Scrape rewards, such as sugar and sweets, activated and becomes more 8) Disintegrate wds.) 41) Hearty breads 9) Motherhood 50) Naught and drugs of abuse. 42) Came together defined … and it becomes easier 10) Cook’s oil 51) Wow! “’Non-drug’ or ‘behavior- to activate the circuit the next ANSWER TO THIS WEEK’S CROSSWORD ON PAGE 36 al’ addictions have become in- time. … Pretty soon, the bad habit 6 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 5/12/17

MERCOLA participants ingested glucose and CONT. FROM P6 were then shown food pictures, brain, they were able to induce their brains registered increased many of the characteristic brain measures of satiety and fullness. changes seen with Alzheimer’s The researchers noted: disease, including confusion, “Glucose … ingestion reduced disorientation and the inability to the activation of the hypothala- learn and remember. mus, insula and striatum — brain It’s becoming increasingly regions that regulate appetite, mo- clear that the same pathological tivation and reward processing; process that leads to insulin and glucose ingestion also increased leptin resistance, as well as type functional connections between 2 diabetes, may also hold true for the hypothalamic-striatal network your brain. As you overindulge and increased satiety.” on sugar and grains, your brain In contrast, when the partic- becomes overwhelmed by the ipants consumed fructose and consistently high levels of insu- were presented with images of lin. Eventually insulin, leptin and food, more activity was noted in signaling become profoundly the orbitofrontal cortex, an area disrupted, leading to impairments linked to increased motivation to in your memory and thinking seek out rewards, such as drugs or abilities. food. A study published in Diabetes Subsequent research, present- Care found that type 2 diabetes ed in the Proceedings of the Na- is associated with a 60 percent tional Academy of Sciences USA, increased risk of dementia in men went a step further to investigate and women. Research featured the effects of sugar on food-ap- in the New England Journal of proach behavior. After ingesting Medicine noted a mild elevation either fructose or glucose, 24 of blood sugar, such as a level of volunteers underwent two fMRI 105 or 110, is also associated with sessions while viewing pictures of an elevated risk for dementia. high-calorie foods and nonfood Dr. David Perlmutter, neu- items in a block format. rologist and author of the books After each block, participants “Brain Maker” and “Grain Brain,” were asked to rate their hunger believes Alzheimer’s disease is and desire for food, as well as per- primarily predicated on lifestyle form a decision task. The decision choices, including sugar con- task involved choosing between an sumption. He suggests anything immediate food reward or a de- that promotes insulin resistance layed monetary bonus. Hormone will ultimately also raise your risk levels were measured at baseline of Alzheimer’s. and 30 and 60 minutes after the Glucose and Fructose: How sugars were consumed. The au- Do They Affect Your Brain? thors of the study noted: Increases in processed fruc- “Parallel to the neuroimaging tose consumption, typically in the findings, fructose versus glucose form of high-fructose corn syrup led to greater hunger and desire (HFCS), seem to be running par- for food and a greater willingness allel to the spikes seen in obesity to give up long-term monetary rates, so much so that diets high in rewards to obtain immediate it are thought to promote insulin high-calorie foods. These find- resistance and weight gain. The ings suggest ingestion of fruc- Journal of the American Medi- tose relative to glucose results in cal Association featured a study greater activation of brain regions involving 20 adult volunteers who involved in attention and reward underwent magnetic resonance processing, and may promote imaging sessions at Yale Univer- feeding behavior.” sity to identify neurophysiological Both of these studies under- factors related to fructose versus score the importance of paying glucose consumption. attention to the type of sugars The research suggests fruc- you consume. Clearly, fructose tose — a type of sugar commonly disrupts your brain’s signaling extracted from corn and found mechanism that is designed to in sweetened products like soda tell you when you’ve had enough. — may activate brain pathways Because fructose fails to stimu- that increase your interest in late insulin, which in turn fails to food, whereas glucose ingestion suppress ghrelin, or “your hunger appears to trigger your brain’s hormone,” which then fails to satiation signal, effectively telling stimulate leptin or “your satiety you “you’ve had enough.” When CONT. ON P15

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As we travel from Mitzraim Yisroel as a whole, not to indi- to Har Sinai during these days of viduals. That is why we had to be Sefiras ha Omer, we are reminded united, and unity is based on mu- of the challenges of this season. tual respect. We are still trapped Indeed, the ceaseless and almost- in the terrible Golus which was irresistible power of the yetzer caused by sinas chinom, which hara is constantly trying to pull us apparently indicates that we have back into Mitzraim. not yet solved this terrible prob- lem. We desperately need ahavas I want to mention a moshul chinom in order to be redeemed. which I heard from Rabbi Naf- tali Jaeger, Rosh Yeshiva of Sh’or When the little bird is inside Yoshuv, in the name of the Ish- the egg, it sees only the world bitze Rebbe: Why is an egg sig- bounded by the inside of the egg nificant on Pesach? Animals born shell. It cannot see outside; it is from an egg have a two-stage birth living within its own self-enclosed process: first, the egg is laid, but world. When it bursts out of the the little bird is still inside. The shell, it suddenly sees a whole bird has to peck its way out of the world out there; it is not alone! egg in order to emerge into this This is analogous to spiritual world, and this is a hard job. My birth, the condition under which wife showed me an article which we can develop ahavas chinom said that an eagle grows a special and receive the Torah. external tooth on its bill which is We have to know that we are used specifically to crack the egg not living in a world which con- from the inside! sists of “me, myself and I.” We The two-stage birth process re- are part of a great nation-family flects the life of the Jew. We were whose avoda is to be m’kadaish the ground.” (Amos 9:9) These alternative. born physically in Mitzraim, but Shaim Shomayim. Our role must frightening words are reminiscent “On that day …. I shall bring that was just the beginning. Dur- be played as part of that fam- of the Chofetz Chaim’s statement ing our forty-nine-day journey to ily. Only if we interact with love, back the captivity of My peo- that Chevlei Moshiach refers to ple Israel, and they will rebuild Har Sinai, we had to crack the egg respect and chessed can we re- a “chevel” (rope), which Hashem shell, which means that we had to establish our closeness with the desolate cities; they will return will stretch from one end of the and plant vineyards and drink work on ourselves spiritually to Ribono shel Olam and hope to world to the other. This rope will merit receiving the Torah. That be redeemed from Golus. Dur- their wine; they will make gardens be violently shaking, and, in order and eat their fruit. I shall implant was our spiritual birth. ing the days of Sefiras Ha Omer, to survive Chevlei Moshiach, we our job is to crack the shell and them upon their Land; they will This defines the nature of our are going to have to hold on very emerge into the great world which not be uprooted again from upon avoda during Sefira. We are un- tightly. Hashem created. their Land that I have given them, dergoing a challenging transition Perhaps our greatest challenge says Hashem, your G-d.” (Amos from physical to spiritual exist- Rabbi Akiva’s talmidim were is to unite in friendship. We must 9:11ff; Haftaras Acharei) ence. The nations of the world far beyond our madreiga and we somehow repair the catastrophic are alive physically, but we must cannot understand precisely what © Copyright 2017 by Roy S. plague of sinas chinom, which Neuberger rise to a different madreiga from caused their death, but the fact brought down the Second Tem- the other nations, because we are that the Gemora brings this down ple and catapulted our Nation to to meet with the King of kings at to us indicates that we are to learn the “four corners of the world,” Roy Neuberger’s latest book is Har Sinai. In order to stand in His from it. After their death, “the a Golus unprecedented in length WORKING TOWARD MOSHIACH. His book 2020 VISION is available in Presence, we must be alive spiritu- world was left barren [of Torah].” and cruelty. Since the Third Tem- ENGLISH, HEBREW, SPANISH, FRENCH, ally. This is what we have to repair, ple has not yet appeared, we have because we are right now headed RUSSIAN & GEORGIAN. We observe semi-mourning clearly not solved this problem. Roy is also the author of for Har Sinai, where unity among at this time of year. One reason is FROM CENTRAL PARK TO SINAI: Am Yisroel is required as the basis We must crack the egg shell the death of Rabbi Akiva’s 12,000 How I Found My Jewish Soul, for receiving the Torah. How can and emerge from the terrible iso- pairs of talmidim, who died available in we succeed unless we repair this lation which separates us. We are ENGLISH, HEBREW, RUSSIAN & because “they did not treat each breach? suffering now through terrible ni- GEORGIAN, other with respect.” (Yevamos syonos. We know that our sojourn and WORLDSTORM: 62b) It is noteworthy that we were in the Midbar, even under the Finding Meaning & Direction Amidst able to receive the Torah at Har The Haftara for Parshas leadership of Moshe Rabbeinu, Today’s World Crisis. Sinai only when Am Yisroel was Acharei Mos says, “I shall shake was filled with constant challenge. ROY AND HIS WIFE LEAH SPEAK in a state of unity, “k’ish echad PUBLICLY ON TOPICS RELATED TO HIS the House of Israel among the B’ezras Hashem we will make it, b’lev echad… as one man with but we must use these seven weeks BOOKS AND ARTICLES. nations as one shakes [grain] in a Email: [email protected]. Website: one heart.” (Rashi on Shemos wisely to rise above ourselves and sieve, and no pebble shall fall to www.2020vision.co.il. 19:2) The Torah was given to Am become one again. There is no 8 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 5/12/17

The answer to this question is the rights to marry Shaul’s daugh- “THE SHMUZ” based on understanding how our ter by killing and disfiguring 200 middos are shaped. Philistim and bringing back their Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier body parts to the king. When The Torah’s system of Self In many places the Sefer Avshalom waged war against him, HaChinuch stresses that a per- Chushi advised, “Do not think of Perfection son’s actions molds his very ambushing him (Dovid) at night, personality. If he acts with kind- for everyone knows that he fights PARSHAS EMOR ness and compassion, these traits like a bear.” And Dovid said about “A cow or a sheep, it and its child, the logical thing to do would become part of his inner nature. himself, “I will seek out my enemy do not slaughter on one day.” be to forbid slaughtering it. If, He will then feel other people’s and have no mercy upon them.” — Vayikrah 22:28 on the other hand, the Torah is pain, and it will become diffi- Yet we know that Dovid was concerned about man and the cult for him to ignore their pleas one of the kindest, most com- In one of the many mitzvahs damage such actions will have on for help. He will become a kind, passionate men who ever lived. that teaches us how to deal with him, then slaughtering another compassionate person. The oppo- Tehillim is not the expression of animals, the Torah commands us living creature to consume its site is true as well. If a person acts a cruel man. It is a manifestation not to kill a mother and its off- flesh is about as barbaric an act with cruelty, this trait will become of his pure devotion to HASHEM, spring on one day. as one could imagine. Surely the part of him. It will be more diffi- the outpourings of a heart that is The Sefer HaChinuch explains act of killing the animal should be cult for him to care about another pure, kindly and full of compas- that one of the rationales behind forbidden altogether. Yet the To- person’s plight. He will have a sion. How is it possible that going the mitzvah is “to train ourselves rah allows you to kill animals for difficult time being sensitive to the to war didn’t ruin him? CONT. ON P16 in the trait of mercy, and to dis- any productive reason: whether suffering of others. He will have tance ourselves from the trait of for their hides, their meat, or any adopted callousness into his inner cruelty. Even though we are per- other use. Not only that, you may essence. mitted to slaughter animals to eat, slaughter as many of them as you we must do so in a merciful man- like. You may butcher a thousand DOVID HA’MELECH WAS A ner. Killing both the mother and cows in one day to make shoes to MIGHTY WARRIOR the child in the same day is merci- bring to the market – this won’t According to this logic, less and will train us in brutality. lead you to cruelty – but make it would follow that Dovid Therefore, the Torah forbids it.” sure that none of these animals Ha’Melech should have been one This Sefer Ha’Chinuch is dif- are related. If two of those cows of the cruelest men in history. He ficult to understand. If the Torah are mother and child, it is barbar- was known as a mighty, merci- is concerned about the good of ic. Don’t do it! This mitzvah seems less warrior. He killed a mountain the animal and its suffering, then very difficult to understand. lion with his bare hands. He won

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In Vayikra 23:15 we read, to accept the Yom Tov early, the ‘And you shall count for your- day would be shortened and the selves on the morrow of Shab- counting would not be seven ‘full bos, from the day of bringing the weeks’. Interestingly, Sephardim Omer, seven complete weeks.’ and Mid-Eastern Jewish commu- This verse is the source for the nities do not have this Mesorah mitzvah of counting the Omer and many of them will daven early which we do between Pesach and on Erev Shavuos. Shavuos. Interestingly, some Ris- The Ahavas Sholom honim such as the Ran hold that of Kossov quotes the Midrash the counting of the Omer which that states that tam, complete is we do today is rabbinic since we when Am Yisroel does Hashem’s sadly, are not able to bring the will. How is this connected with special flour offering on the sec- counting the Omer? The Ahavas ond day of Pesach and its associ- Sholom then states that the first ated korbonos in our Bais Ha- sense is the sense of sight which mikdash. This view holds that the comes from knowledge. When counting is dependent upon the one perfects his mental faculties korbonos. Even so, this verse is and purifies himself, his vision is the source of the mitzvah and our clear. Yosef Hatzaddik perfected sages held that we should count to his mental faculties and purified keep this idea of counting as part himself. In Mitzrayim, Yosef was of our Mesorah. in galus. Moshe continued fixing Yosef’s attributes by taking his re- It is noteworthy that the mains out of Mitzrayim. Through Torah emphasizes complete weeks this act of taking atzmos Yosef with the phrase shabbassos temi- with him, vision was perfected as mos. The Ramban explains that was demonstrated at Har Sinai complete means exact and not when everyone saw the thunder as Rabbi Naphtali Hoff missing or containing anything the Torah states in Shemos 20:18. extra. The word tamim has the Their vision was so perfected Leading a More connotation of ‘just right.’ The that they could see things that Torah emphasizes for example were not part of the visual senses. Balanced Playing Field that an animal for a sacrifice must Moshe was the embodiment of be tamin, without any blemishes. the neshamos of all Am Yisroel. Recently, I participated in a I am pretty confident that had One qualification specifically for The Midrash, according to Ahavas Pesach hotel retreat with my fam- I played him on a regular basket- a tamim animal is that it be well Sholom, is teaching us that during ily in the Catskill Mountain region ball court with a standard-sized proportioned without any part the sefira period, our job is perfect of New York State. The program ball he would have stood little being too big or too small. In ourselves as much as we can and organizers worked hard to keep chance of achieving even a single our case, tamim means each day be as tam as we can be. In par- everyone – old and young alike victory. Not that I am so great, must be counted and not one day ticular, we should aim to perfect – busy throughout the week with mind you, but my size advantage should be missed. The word temi- ourselves in Yosef’s middos and entertainment and activities that and experience would have car- mos is also the source of the com- reach true clarity not only in the offered fun and recreation. One ried me to victory. However, once mon Ashkenazi practice on the physical sense but spiritual clarity such activity was a game room, the playing field changed, with first night of Shavous to wait until as well as we work on improving which was set up in the hotel’s different equipment, a playing dark to daven Maariv. If one were our avodas Hashem. expansive lobby. field of different proportions, and My eleven year old son asked no defense, all of my competitive me to play some of the games with advantages fell by the wayside. organizational chart do so based void following an administrative him. One game in particular, a As I considered my neutralized on their distinct knowledge, shakeup. Such people, however, basketball game, had two small position in this indoor game of talents, experience, and achieve- are in the minority.) hoops within a close distance of hoops I began to reflect upon oth- ments. They become promoted to Despite the intellectual and each other and a collection of er situations where people seem to leadership posts (or assume them experiential advantages that most rubber kid-sized basketballs. The hold advantages, not because they from Day One, such as company leaders enjoy, their competitive objective was to score as many are intrinsically better or more tal- founders) because their history, advantage, as it were, may disap- baskets as possible within a 30 ented, but because of some other credibility, and results say that pear when the office playing field second timeframe. I did pretty factors or considerations. they should. (Obviously, there are is “evened out”, such as when well all things considered (I hadn’t The concept of a changed play- some who get bumped up based exploring new areas that the shot for a while, just sayin’,) but ing field extends to the workplace on less “credible” considerations, company has little experience with after each round ended I looked as well. For instance, let’s consider such as longevity, popularity, or or others haven’t developed. An up to see that my son had beaten organizational hierarchy. For the being in the right place at the right example of this might be integrat- me yet again. most part, those who ascend the time, such as those who filled a CONT.ON P11

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phone player off at work. The a sudden he just stopped shuck- A people there loved him, especially ling. how he shuckled and played a Sure, he played the upbeat IT HAPPENED TO ME ON song that was so popular to them melody of that popular folk song, as they held them in their hands. but he was stationary while he did LAG BA’OMER The smiles of delight on the it. I tried every form of turning guests’ faces convinced me that I and moving his body, but he just Ten years ago my wife and I ling in all directions as he played had made a great purchase. looked at me like, “Can’t you see, went to Israel as part of an Eretz “Ha Va Nigila” on his saxophone. I’m tired.” Then, adding insult to Yisroel Movement tour group, Before I would make this impulse Two weeks later, however, it injury, one day when I pushed the an excellent two week, January buy I inquired about the price. seemed that Avi needed a chi- button to get the saxophone play- vacation that took us to religious. When I was told “45,” I figured I ropractor. He couldn’t seem to ing going, all I heard was silence. historic, secular, artistic and beau- could certainly afford stand up straight anymore. He And I pushed it again and again tiful places in the Holy Land. In 45 shekels, but was informed was bent over from the waist and again for a few weeks, and Meron, we saw where hundreds that it was 45 American dollars. down, facing the ground (perhaps ditto – no music. of thousands of people congregate No matter. The thought of this from too much dancing). I didn’t I was tempted to go back to on Lag Ba’Omer and soon after saxophone player, named Avi, de- think any doctor would accept his Sfat and buy another one but that we went to the nearby city of Sfat. lighting the seniors where I work insurance card so I gave him my wasn’t practical. I e-mailed an While there, I saw a street ven- – Ateret Avot -- and people of all own physical therapy, a trial and address I saw on the box and I dor selling unique and artistically ages made the price well worth it. error regimen that finally found was sent back a phone number of made wares including one that There was a whole story on the success when I saw that by putting a store around 30 miles from me caught my eye. It was love at first box about how Avi had become him in the box he came from just and when I called they said they sight and first hearing. popular in Europe many, many so, he could stand and dance with- could repair Avi for 50 dollars. I was watching a small doll years ago. Now he was coming out doubling over. Maybe he was That wasn’t practical either. dressed up as a Chasidic man, to America. just missing his roots. The sadness I felt by Avi being complete with streimel, long black When we got stateside, I But the saga of Avi took a new silenced, caused me to stop push- coat and belt, and he was shuck- couldn’t wait to show the saxo- turn a few weeks later when all of CONT.ON P15

HOFF Increased engagement – Work- and rank tend to learn more and line – It’s always a good idea for CONT. FROM P10 place engagement continues to be think more creatively, knowing companies to proactively position ing a new technology or engaging a major challenge, costing compa- that their ideas can gain traction people to assume open leadership with younger clients who are used nies millions in lost work hours, and acceptance. They are also like- posts as they become available. to a different way of operating and employee turnover, etc. Compa- lier to share ideas, collaborate with Rabbi Naphtali Hoff, PsyD, is communicating. nies that offer staffers growth op- others, and think with abundance an executive coach and presi- While it is important for organ- portunities and chances to dem- (and not territorially), as there is dent of Impactful Coaching and Consulting. He can be reached at izations to establish and maintain onstrate their gifts and abilities opportunity for everyone to shine. 212.470.6139 or at nhoff@impact- a reporting structure and related are ones that enjoy higher levels of Priming the leadership pipe- fulcoaching.com. hierarchies that allow for clear workplace engagement. decision making and governance, Stronger performance – On the it is also critical, especially in to- whole, engaged workers perform day’s fast-moving, ever-changing their tasks with more effort and Saul M. Berger CFE, CPA, CFF work environment, for leaders to greater interest, resulting in a LEIBLER think humbly and creatively about superior performance. They know CONT.PROTECTING FROM P5 YOURSELF FROM FRAUD their teams to ensure that they are that they are likely to be recog- focused more on who and what nized and appreciated for their is going to get the job best rather work, which motivates them to TIMESHARE than which employee should own keep going and growing. – by virtue of their title, experi- Increased morale – Workplace In April, I went to a Mets game was fun, the Mets won 5-2 ence, or previous superiority in morale rises when workers feel game with my son and two son- behind Thor, and then we drove terms of knowledge and / or skills that their efforts are valued and in-laws. As we were heading to home. Of course, I knew that I – a new project. they are given a chance to shine. our seats, we saw a table with a never win anything in sweep- In addition to developing tal- They also begin to see their work sign stating that this was for a stakes or raffles, so I didn’t give ent, leaders who willingly empow- as part of a bigger effort, which raffle, as we could win fabulous a second thought to the raffle I er lower-ranking team members adds to their feeling of belonging. prizes. I was skeptical, but filled entered. That was until last week. can achieve many benefits, for Culture of learning and creativ- out the entry form with my name, I received a call on my cell phone themselves and their teams. These ity – Workers who are encouraged address and contact information, as I was driving to a client’s office, include: to contribute beyond their title then dropped it in the box. The CONT.ON P32

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cement, once dried, the impres- and clothes him in the attire of Tal- sion is permanent. Our behavior mudic scholars” (Ruach HaChayim becomes an everlasting imprint in 2:1). “This garment consists of all of which we dwell for perpetuity. the deeds the person has performed CHAPTER 25 day by day“(Zohar, Vayechi). Part V There are an infinite number The System of Mazal The System of Mazal of gradations within each whole We have thus learned that the number, and we will keep growing In the previous installment Hashem does not withhold His quality of our lives—and of our in Olam Haba in whatever fixed we said that our genuine free will good from anyone; hence, the after-life—hinges not on circum- spectrum we have locked ourselves choices, made with proper dedica- wicked are compensated in this stance, but on choice. Here we into: whether 10 percent or 95 tion, permanently change the soul. world (we’ll discuss this in-depth discover something equally reveal- percent. Humility hollows out a A person is not in a perpetual state in below, and in the upcoming ing: How to rise above a Heav- space for knowledge to exist within of suffering because of his sins, and installments), and then the negativ- enly decree to effect change in our us, and from this point our knowl- mitzvos are not canceled by his ity that engulfs them becomes their mazal—the controlling force behind edge grows—but cannot expand transgressions. After the cleansing permanent state. Their suffering the direction of the entirety of our beyond the boundaries of our form. process, the pain of the liabilities on does not end. (The Zohar offers lives. There are exceptions, as noted in the the balance sheet is erased, and we many additional insights regarding footnote below and in Chapter 25, are left to enjoy the net sum of our what constitutes evil, as well as the Chapter 14 “Unperceived Influences.” assets. duration of punish- Agents of Adversity These above- ment. Regarding our We do not know the ways of The Midrash states, “Man has stated calculations, immediate discussion, Hashem, and we cannot presume three friends on whose company he however, do not it states that at the end to understand every cause of every relies. First, wealth, which goes with apply to the purely of days, even utter evil hardship—much less grasp why bad him only while good fortune lasts. evil soul. In Olam will be saved from to- things happen to good people. In Second, his relatives; they go only as Haba, the concept tal annihilation, except general, though, many of life’s chal- far as the grave, and leave him there. of evil does not for Canaan). lenges spring from one source, or a The third friend, his good deeds, exist; therefore, combination of nine sources, that goes with him beyond the grave.” the wicked cannot MOVING ON we will assess. In the next install- The ongoing influence of our deeds exist. To continue The transition it- ment we’ll explore these sources as continues long after we leave this with the above self from this world to well as pose the often-paired ques- world. This is why the righteous are metaphor, there the next also hinges on tion: Why do really good things called alive even in death, whereas are no negative our deeds. A person sometimes happen to really bad the wicked are called dead even in numbers in the who identifies with his people? life (Berachos 18a). The souls of the world of truth. body will be less prepared—and will “After death, this itself is a righteous enjoy perpetual devel- Pain is distance from Hashem, suffer greatly as his whole identity person’s reward; all of his good opment and “go from strength to but, more deeply, it is separation ceases to exist—while one who cleaves together, uniting into one, strength (Psalms 84:7). from existence. Hashem is every- knows that he is truly a neshamah thing. He is existence, reality itself. (“soul”) merely discards the gar- (The difference between everything ment of physicality and moves pain- and nothing is exactly this: exist- lessly into a new reality. Rav Nach- ence—everything is and nothing man relates that for one who truly isn’t.) Evil is incompatible with ex- believes in Hashem, the moment Sudoku istence, and this is the worst suffer- of death is a seamless shift from ing, the experience of nonexistence. one life to another, akin to “remov- In Olam Haba, we receive what we ing a hair from a cup of milk.” The have created. What did the rasha wisdom of the Sages is captured by Puzzle shape himself into? Nothing. And the heart of a poet in “Death Is a Complete the grid so that every row, column and this will be his experience: nothing- Dialogue Between” by Emily Dick- 3x3 box contains every digit from 1 to 9 inclusively. ness. inson: We can catch a glimpse of this 1 4 7 feeling through emotional suffering. Death is a Dialogue between Physical isolation—or even being The Spirit and the Dust. 8 9 1 ignored—is painful. In fact, studies “Dissolve” says Death—The show that feeling alone or loneli- Spirit “Sir 6 4 5 ness, more than any other factor, I have another Trust”— causes more stress and an overall Death doubts it—Argues from 1 3 weakening of the immune system. the Ground— This is not just a matter of speech. The Spirit turns away 6 5 Functional magnetic resonance im- Just laying off for evidence aging (fMRI) scans reveal that brain An Overcoat of Clay. 8 7 4 activity in two areas where physical In the words of the nineteenth- pain is processed—the dorsal ante- century author Robert Louis Ste- 2 8 rior cingular cortex and the anterior venson, “Everybody, sooner or insula—become activated when a later, sits down to a banquet of 5 9 person has feelings of social rejec- consequences.” Our eternity is an tion. When we have no connection inescapable reflection of the total- 6 3 to anything real, we suffer, in this ity of our choices. In measure for world and in the next. measure, our deeds are repaid, and ANSWER TO THIS WEEK’S SUDOKU ON PAGE 36 Jewish tradition teaches that just as one can easily smooth wet

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In Western of thyroid deficiency (hypothyroid- culture women tend to have more ism), my clients complain of fatigue, estrogen, rather than too little. We depressed mood, “brain fog”, con- all notice the signs of puberty in stipation, dry skin, cold intolerance, girls have been occurring much and other symptoms including earlier. According to new data, weight gain. rates of breast cancer have increased In,” The Key to Skinny III”, I by 40% in the past 35 years. Addi- outlined the role of estrogen and tionally, men have seen signs of the progesterone, and how they in- rise in their estrogen levels (which terplay with insulin and thyroid occur naturally for them anyways), hormone. In women, the estrogens as decreasing sperm counts and are involved in the maintenance of increasing prostate cancer rates. general physiologic homeostasis This excess in estrogen can lead to or keeping all functions balanced further problems with decreased Now we get to the final piece of to estrogen. This estrogen can then including body weight. Estradiol metabolism, muscle-building and the hormone puzzle. Testosterone begin to “overshadow’ the effects actually lowers insulin but it de- libido. and DHEA (dehydroepiandroster- of testosterone, becoming another creases with age and menopause. So what is to blame for this one). Both, help increase energy, vicious cycle: more estrogen, more Estradiol also naturally lowers LDL rise in estrogen? (Got milk?) Our shed fat storage and help us build fat. More fat, more estrogen. The or bad cholesterol AND increases bodies are getting slammed with more calorie-burning muscle mass. testosterone keeps getting crowded our HDL or good cholesterol. After “endocrine-disrupting” synthetic es- Men produce most of their testos- out of the equation. And you won- menopause, estrone then becomes trogens from the ingredients in our terone in their reproductive glands der why your weight is stuck! the main estrogen. Estrone shifts fat cosmetics, cleansers we use around and this testosterone accounts for The lesson is, sometimes you storage from the hips and buttocks the home, to the preservatives in the development of secondary sex need more than just a regular (the opposite of estradiol) to the our foods and to the plastics wrap- characteristics, such as body and fa- nutritionist to understand what is stomach (called visceral fat, which ping them. When it comes to these cial hair. (By contrast with women, going on with your body at dif- is much more dangerous because it “endocrine-disruptors” the scope of testosterone comes from the ovaries ferent stages in life. Just reducing surrounds the organs). As women impact are staggering. In the case of and the secondary sex characteris- calories or exercising more, may not lose more of their ovarian estrogen, young men, rising levels of estrogen tics are controlled by estradiol.) 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Like most of the 2,000,000 youngest student and the pains of REVIEWS | Daniel Keren Jews who immigrated to Amer- loneliness to make the changeover ica between the deadly Russian from pampered American teen- The Fascinating Life Story pogroms of 1881 and till 1924, ager to an incredibly dedicated of an American-born Talmid when new U.S. immigration laws Torah scholar who probably was closed our shores as a safe ref- much more like a Torah scholar of Chacham in Yerushalayim uge for our co-religionists; Rabbi his period who had been born in Cohen’s parents came to America, either Europe or Eretz Yisroel. (“The Amazing Life of HaRav wine that overflowed, filling up its first stopping Per- Dov Cohen, zt”l: To Rise Above environs. He constantly showed off in South haps the most – A Journey to Greatness Against us how to live a Torah life with Bend, Indiana fascinating all Odds” by the family of Rabbi integrity, based on his own life ex- before arriv- and indeed the Cohen, Feldheim Publishers, 685 periences and what he had learned ing at Seattle, most pain- pages, 2017) from his great rabbanim.” Washington. ful section of “To Rise Above” not only And the book are The greatness of Klal Yis- tells the fascinating story of a it was there his memoirs roel, the Jewish nation is epito- dedicated Torah scholar who suc- in Seattle, of life in the mized by the life story of Rabbi cessfully raised his sons to follow that Dov or Chevron Ye- Dov Cohen, a remarkable but in his derech haTorah, faithful Benny as he shiva and how mostly anonymous talmid cha- Torah lifestyle, but also deeply was called he survived cham (Torah scholar) who in the explores in great detail the Litvak by his family the deadly course of his own long life did not background and heritage of Rabbi and friends Arab mas- seek public renown. In a note to Cohen’s parents and ancestors. grew up and sacre of Jews the reader at the beginning of the The children and grandchildren of was raised in the holy book, an unnamed family member the biography’s subject did de- until shortly city where our writes: tailed research on life in Lithuania after his bar Avos (Patri- at the turn of the 20th Century, a mitzvah. archs) and “Our father, Moreinu small community when compared Dov’s mother Imos (Ma- HaRav HaGaon Rav Dov Cohen, to Poland or Russia’s Jewish com- wanted so triarchs) are zt”l, author of Seder HaShulchan munities, but nevertheless rich in much for her buried. (three volumes) was a living great Torah luminaries, including children to remain true to the To- repository of Torah, wisdom, Afterwards, he records the Vilna Gaon, Rav Chaim of Vo- rah heritage she remembered and how despite the great hardships mussar, and yiras Shamayim. He lozhin and Rav Yisroel Salanter. respected from Lithuania. And it was like a brimming pitcher of of the War of Independence when just wasn’t happening because of Jews in Jerusalem were under the great allure of the American deadly siege and afterwards the melting pot. challenge of supporting a family, A rabbi in Seattle recom- he and his wife persevered and MAZE mended to his mother that Benny in the golden years were able to be sent to study in a top yeshiva in enjoy nachus, pleasure from the Yerushalayim. Mind you, this was children, grandchildren and even back in 1925 before the advent on greatchildren. The biography jet plane travel and the average also records his four years as first ocean voyage on a ship was meas- Chief Chaplain of the Israel Air ured not in days but weeks. Dov’s Force when he went head-to-head mother with her husband’s con- against the secular generals to de- sent embarked on what probably mand that the kitchens on the Air everyone in Seattle considered to Force bases be truly kosher. be an insane journey. “To Rise Above” is full of An insane it was. When documentation, which the average the mother and son arrived in the reader might just choose to skip Holy City after a long and ex- over. If you are a buff of Jewish hausting sea journey, the truth of history, this easy-to-read book how ridiculous the suggestion was will give you many valuable in- became a bitter pill for the moth- sights into Pre-War Jewish life in er. Her son was in no up-to-par Lithuania, the United States and and able to fit into that yeshiva. in Eretz Yisroel. One comes away However, Hashem made miracles today with a greater appreciation possible and Benny or Dov wound for just how much easier it is to up being enrolled in Yeshivas live a frum Torah life in a style Chevron, an offshoot of the famed that our grandparents and great- Slabodka yeshiva in Lithuania. grandparents could never have From his memoirs, the imagined possible when they were children and grandchildren record growing up. the amazing and life changing “To Rise Above” is avail- episodes of how Dov despite able in Jewish bookstores or great difficulty adapted to life in by contacting the publisher by the Chevron yeshiva and over- clicking www.feldheim.com or by ANSWERS ON PAGE 36 came the challenges of being the calling (800) 237-7149.

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MAGILL up. When I got to her room she MERCOLA the possibility of liver damage. CONT. FROM P11 summoned up all of her energy to CONT. FROM P7 Fructose also promotes a partic- ing that activation button and I greet me and have a conversation. hormone,” you are likely to eat ularly dangerous kind of body fat put him away in my closet. Better I showed her Avi and she smiled. more and develop insulin resis- called adipose fat. This type of fat not to think about him. I pushed that button knowing we tance when consuming fructose. collects in your abdominal region And that’s the way Avi re- would only get the music and not The second body of research and is associated with a greater mained, closeted and silent for the shuckling, but half was better seems to indicate fructose intake risk of heart disease. about three months. On Lag Ba than nothing. Just then, her hus- can influence you to act impul- Although HFCS has about the Omer I went to work at Ateret band walked in and without miss- sively with respect to food, con- same amount of fructose as cane Avot and we had a whole day of ing a beat, he took my hand and suming more and more of it even sugar, it is in a “free” form that is interesting and exciting events to the music of Ha Van Ni Gila we when your body should have told not attached to any other carbs. planned, including shooting off started dancing around his wife you it’s had enough. As you may In contrast, fructose in fruits and (plastic) bow and arrows and scin- who was now glowing with joy. imagine, continuing to consume cane sugar is bonded to other tillating musical entertainment. The next day, when I put Avi large amounts of fructose will sugars, resulting in a decrease in back in my closet, I marveled at become increasingly problematic metabolic toxicity. Consuming After doing some paperwork all of the people he had made if you’ve already developed a bad foods containing high amounts at my desk I got up to go to the happy despite his challenges. And habit of overeating. of fructose — even if it’s a natu- lobby for the happy festivities of I thought of a lesson for me. That Fructose Packs on the Pounds ral product — is the fastest way the day. My eye saw that closet if we just try to be the best we Faster Than Any Other Nutrient to trash your health. Among the where Avi was, and immediately can, instead of thinking of what Because fructose is often health problems you invite when I had a thought. ‘I bought him we once were and what would be consumed in liquid form, mostly you consume high amounts of overlooking Meron where all the better – accepting the New Nor- as HFCS, its negative metabolic fructose are: fabulous celebrating is going on mal – then we can maximize our effects are even further magni- Arthritis, cancer, gout and today. Let me put aside the pain own happiness and other people’s fied. Energy drinks, fruit juices, heart disease of disappointment and open the as well. So what if Ari couldn’t soda and sports drinks, as well as Insulin resistance, metabol- closet and take Avi out and push dance anymore. The woman’s countless other sweetened bev- ic syndrome, obesity and type 2 that button and see what hap- husband and I filled in with that erages, contain HFCS. Like all diabetes pens.” A few seconds later, Avi quite nicely. fructose, HFCS is metabolized as Elevated blood pressure, LDL was standing tall again on my desk body fat far more rapidly than any (bad) cholesterol, triglycerides (helped by the box). I pushed the I can be reached at [email protected] I am Director of Recreation at At- other sugar. and uric acid levels button and to my utter and com- eret Avot Senior Home of Midwood. I Similar to alcohol, the entire Liver disease, especially plete delight, I heard the strains of do customized picture/poems at reason- able rates. I also offer “The Hip Bone’s burden of metabolizing fructose non-alcoholic fatty liver disease “Ha Va Ni Gila.” I looked at my Connected to the Funny Bone” humor falls to your liver. This severely In addition, unbound fructose, friend and smiled at him and sang program which includes jokes, stories, CONT.ON P18 skits, improvisations and information taxes and overloads it, introducing along. I brought it to the lobby on the health benefits of laughter. If and the Ateret guests once again anyone would like a free sample of clean jokes sent to them, e-mail me at enjoyed hearing Avi’s music. [email protected] About ten months later on The Shabbos Pirkei Avos shiur I organize for ladies has resumed at Con- Purim I was leaving work for a gregation Tomchei Torah, 1966 Ocean pre-seudah visit to a woman who Avenue (between N and O) in Brooklyn. The shiur, which is scheduled to run on worked at Ateret who was very ill. Shabbosim up until Rosh Hashana, gen- She was at a rehab center. Before erally meets at 5:15 p.m. in either the Downstairs Social Hall or the Upstairs walking out the door, I decided Ladies section. A variety of speakers to bring Avi with me to cheer her are planned.

Soroka Medical Center 5th Annual Gala LORI YOFFE More than 400 guests attended by opera singer David Serero, and the fifth annual American Friends of welcoming remarks by gala chair- Soroka Medical Center Gala Benefit woman Angela Retelny during the Dinner held at the Pierre Hotel in sit-down dinner. Abraham and New York City. Dan Abrams acted Shouly Maslavi received the Fashion as master of ceremonies at the sold Industry Leadership Award, and out dinner to benefit the Women’s Sonia Gardner received the inaugu- Health Programs including Soroka’s ral David Dubinsky Humanitarian Breast Health Center, Negev Center Award. for Eating Disorders, and Saban Birth & Maternity Center. About Soroka Medical Center: The evening was a celebration Soroka Medical Center, located in of the fashion industry in honor of Be’er-Sheva, is one of Israel’s largest Soroka’s American founding father and most strategic hospitals, in one David Dubinsky, the longest serv- of the country’s most diverse areas. ing president of the ILGWU, and The sole major medical center for included a fashion show by Jovani the entire Negev, Soroka serves over Fashions. The gala began with a one million residents, including cocktail reception, national anthem over 400,000 children, in an area sung by Danielle Goz, hatikva sung that comprises 60% of Israel’s land. To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 15 5/12/17

SHMUZ HASHEM designed the human incorrectly, in the wrong manner, modern man understands about CONT. FROM P9 and understands the delicate bal- or to the wrong extent, he is dam- the inner workings of the human, THE FORMULA FOR PER- ance within him: what affects him aged by that process. and there is at least as much, if not FECTING ONE’S MIDDOS and how. HASHEM commanded more, that he doesn’t understand. The Orchas Tzadikim in his us to make use of certain behav- The act of killing a mother HASHEM has designed us and introduction explains that perfect- iors, in certain measures, and at and child is akin to wiping out has given us the guidebook for ing one’s middos is comparable certain times. The same act when generations; it is pitiless and cruel. perfection. It is our job to follow to a chef preparing a meal. The done for the wrong reason will be HASHEM, Who understands the the Torah’s directives in the right right ingredients, in the right disastrous to the person. However, balance and nature of man, has balance, in the right time, in the proportions, prepared in the right when it’s done for the right rea- told us that killing an animal for right manner, thereby actualizing manner, will yield a delicious sons, in the right measure, it will good use will not lead you to a our potential as the reason for all dish. However, all three have to not harm him. Dovid remained hardened nature, provided you do of creation. be correct. If, for example, instead pure and unsullied because he so within the given boundaries. For more on this topic please listen of sautéing the onions for 10 followed the Torah’s system of Remain within the system and you to Shmuz #187 – Self Mastery- The Key minutes, you leave them on the self-perfection, designed by the are safe. Leave these guidelines to Good Middos Rabbi Shafier is the founder of the flame for an hour, or if instead of only One who truly understands and you are in grave danger. Shmuz.com – The Shmuz is an engag- a teaspoon of salt you add a cup, the nature of the human. This concept is very applica- ing, motivating shiur that deals with real life issues. the food will be inedible. It is the ble as it helps us appreciate the All of the Shmuzin are available quality of the ingredients, in the THE TORAH: THE ULTIMATE wisdom of the Torah’s system free of charge at www.theShmuz.com or on the Shmuz App for iphone or proper amounts, prepared cor- SYSTEM OF PERFECTION for growth. There is much that Android. rectly, that determines the final This seems to be the answer to product. the Sefer Ha’Chinuch as well. The So too, he explains, when Torah isn’t concerned about the COHEN “moderation.” Moderation, in this working on one’s character traits. pain of the animal; it is concerned CONT. FROM P5 context, means Hamas might ac- It is the right amount of the right about man. Man is the reason for life in Israel on five counts of cept a Palestinian state within the middah in the right time that is for creation. Everything in exist- murder. As of this writing, Barg- pre-1967 borders if it doesn’t also the key to perfection. Each mid- ence was formed to serve him. houti is entering the third week of need to recognize Israel’s legitima- dah has its place, time, and correct However, man was fashioned in a hunger strike, and 1,600 other cy. It also means Hamas can earn measure. a delicate balance. If he uses this Palestinian prisoners are following compliments for clarifying its ter- This seems to be the answer world for its intended purpose, in his example. ror operations are directed against to Dovid Ha’Melech. When he the right way, in the right time, Only Barghouti knows whether “Zionists,” and not “Jews.” Still, went to war, it was in the man- then he grows and perfects him- he is prepared to take his hunger whichever blind alley these posi- ner that HASHEM directed him. self. However, if he uses the world strike as far as Bobby Sands, the fa- tions pull the Palestinians down, mous Irish Republican Army (IRA) it is likely to be more popular than prisoner who expired in a British any concessions made by Abbas on jail in 1981 after 66 days without final status issues like Jerusalem, or food—and whose death unleashed the descendants of the 1948 Pales- a torrent of international sympathy tinian refugees. for the IRA cause. But his more Can Trump’s enthusiasm for immediate calculations will have peace enable the emergence of a factored in the enormous popular- Palestinian leader who is willing to ity he enjoys among Palestinians. participate in good faith negotia- As the leader of the Al-Aqsa Mar- tions—as Abbas repeatedly says tyrs terrorist group, Barghouti is he is—but who is not tainted by in a much better position to build corruption, political back-stabbing an internal consensus with Hamas, and illegal retention of power, as and other Islamist and leftist fac- Abbas is? It is a tall order, which is tions, than Abbas is. why the president may eventually Barghouti, then, casts a huge need to settle for much less than a shadow over the succession ques- glittering peace-signing ceremony tion. So, collectively, does Hamas, in the Rose Garden. which this week launched a charm Ben Cohen writes a weekly column for offensive based on a new political JNS.org on Jewish affairs and Middle document that, predictably, has Eastern politics. His writings have been published in Commentary, the New York been seized by several commen- Post, Haaretz, The Wall Street Journal tators as evidence of newfound and many other publications.

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On Thursday evening, April 27th, gathering however, took on an air the presidium of the Rabbinical of palpable urgency as the promi- Alliance of America (RAA) - Igud nent rabbonim, guest speaker and HaRabbonim convened for their attendees confronted an endemic rosh chodesh (Iyar) meeting and issue for the Jewish nation; most seudah at the Sephardic Nursing notably, the scourge of anti-Sem- Home in Brooklyn. This monthly CONT.ON P18

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ברוך שהחיינו וקיימנו והגיענו לזמן הזה Yom Yerushalayim 2017 will take place on Wednesday, May 24th.The entire Jewish community is invited to join the Religious Zionists of America and more than 200 synagogues and schools around the country that will be organizing t’fillot and festivities to mark this historic 50th anniversary of the reunification of Jerusalem.

Fifty years ago, through the miracle of the Six Day War, the holy city of Jerusalem was reunited. As the soul-stirring cry of “Har Habayit b’yadeinu” rang out, Israel’s courageous young soldiers fulfilled the hopes and dreams of countless generations. At long last, the destroyed synagogues of the Old City would be rebuilt; the desecrated graves on the Mount of Olives would be restored; and the Kotel would resume its rightful place at the center of the Jewish universe. Yom Yerushalayim both commemorates that incredible moment in time and symbolizes the joining of G-d, Torah, and the Land of Israel, now and forever. On this 50th anniversary of the reunification of the eternal capital of the Jewish people, we renew our commitment to protecting the safety and sanctity of united Jerusalem.

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RZA joined by the leadership of 25 major Jewish The Religious Zionists of America is the US affiliate of the 115 year old World Mizrachi movement. The goal of the RZA-Mizrachi is to instill in organizations initiates Resolution in Congress the American Jewish community a commitment to religious Zionism, the preservation of Jewish political freedom, the enhancement of in recognition of the 50th anniversary of the Jewish religious life in the land of Israel, and the promotion of aliyah. For more information, visit: www.rza.org Reunification of Jerusalem Washington DC • Learn more at rza.org

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MERCOLA from fruit worsens your insulin CONT. FROM P15 sensitivity and raises your uric found in large quantities in HFCS, acid levels. Also, be sure to avoid can interfere with your heart’s use artificial sweeteners like aspar- of minerals like chromium, cop- tame and sucralose due to the per and magnesium. Furthermore, health problems associated with as you likely know, HFCS is most them, which are worse than those often made from genetically engi- associated with corn syrup and neered corn, which is fraught with sugar. Below are some additional its own well-documented health tips to help you manage and/or concerns and side effects, many of limit your sugar consumption: which are linked to glyphosate or • Increase your consumption Roundup residues. of healthy fats, such as omega-3, How to Manage and/or Limit saturated and monounsaturated Your Sugar Consumption fats. Your body needs health-pro- Sugar, in its natural form, is moting fats from animal and plant not inherently bad when con- sources for optimal functioning. sumed in amounts that allow In fact, emerging evidence sug- you to burn fat as your primary gests healthy fats should make up fuel. However, you should avoid at least 60 to 85 percent of your all sources of processed fructose, daily calories. particularly processed foods and Some of the best sources beverages like soda. According to include avocado, coconut oil, free- SugarScience.org, 74 percent of range eggs, organic butter from processed foods purchased from raw milk, raw nuts like macada- the grocery store contain added mia and pecans, (unheated) virgin sugar. olive oil and wild Alaskan salmon. Other sources have suggested • Drink pure, clean water. it may be as high as 80 percent. Drinking pure water instead of I recommend your diet be com- sugary beverages like fruit juice posed chiefly of naturally occur- and soda will go a long way ring whole foods, with 10 percent toward improving your health. or less coming from processed The best way to gauge your water foods. needs is to observe the color of I also recommend severely your urine — it should be light- limiting your consumption of pale yellow — and the frequency refined carbohydrates found in of your bathroom visits should be cereal, bread, pasta and other around seven to eight times per grain-based foods, as they break day. down to sugar in your body, • Add fermented foods to your which increases your insulin levels meals. The beneficial bacteria in and causes insulin resistance. As fermented foods will aid your di- a general recommendation, I sug- gestion and provide detoxification gest you keep your total fructose support, lessening the fructose consumption below 25 grams per burden on your liver. Some of the day, including whole fruit. Keep best choices include fermented in mind while fruits are rich in vegetables, kefir made from grass- nutrients and antioxidants, they fed milk, kimchi, natto and organ- naturally contain fructose. ic yogurt made from raw grassfed If consumed in high amounts milk. (especially if you are not burning Dr. Mercola is the founder of the world’s most visited natural health fat as your primary fuel), fructose web site, Mercola.com

SIDMAN York (CUNY) Graduate School of vided to her. Extending plaudits Yehoshua Hecht, RAA presidium CONT. FROM P16 Public Health to deliver an address to Assemblyman Hikind for single chairman, “Places that you are itism. at their upcoming commence- handedly bringing this issue to the afraid to enter, places where you Thanks to the assiduous work of ment in June. Her nefarious track fore, Rabbi Mirocznik said As- would quake in your boots, Rabbi exposing the facts done by long- record in terms of promulgating a semblyman Hikind is the “most Hecht goes as well as Assembly- time Brooklyn Assemblyman Dov vehemently anti-Israel and pro- influential leader in the Jewish man Hikind.” Hikind, the august gathering fo- terrorist agenda had not escaped community in 2017” and added Addressing the gathering, Rabbi cused its statements on condemn- notice of the Igud HaRabbonim that Hikind is unique in that he Hecht expressed his thanks to As- ing Brooklyn born Linda Sarsour. and as such, this rabbinical body represents “an age of activism” semblyman Hikind for “speaking As a purported Palestinian activist, convened to mobilize against her that, for the majority of us, has forcefully and clearly” in the face Sarsour has garnered headlines as dangerous influence. ruefully ceased to exist. of a plethora of adversaries. In a of late for her close ties to anti- Referring to Sarsour as “an anti- Also acknowledging the courage voice reverberating with resolute- Israel terrorists and her unflag- Semite par excellance” Rabbi to defy the superficial trend of po- ness, Rabbi Hecht said, “The world ging support of violence against Mendy Mirocznik, the Execu- litical correctness and to raise his press is beginning to understand Jewish citizens in Israel. Recently, tive Vice-President of the RAA voice in objection to abject evil on the message of why Linda Sarsour Sarsour was extended an invita- expressed his concerns about the a consistent basis throughout his does not belong in any university tion by the City University of New taxpayer funded platform pro- life, Rabbi Mirocznik said of Rabbi CONT.ON P23 18 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 5/12/17

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FAMILY MATTERS | Dr. Ari Korenblit Mental Health Matters: Guilt Feelings

Part of the maturational who confessed to the crime. process involves the development As a direct result of this case, of a conscience which ideally law enforcement officials have serves to both guide and disci- established provisions for just this pline behavior. The precise time pathology by deliberately with- it surfaces is hotly debated, but all holding certain details of a crime. agree that it is a sine qua non for To authenticate to true perpetra- normal growth and acceptance tor the interrogative processes into civilized society. Due to the seeks to uncover the suspects natural tendency to be fascinated “familiarity” with key details of by pathology as well as the pri- the crime. In addition, many law mary focus of the media, we are enforcement agencies, including very familiar with sociopathic and those in Israel, have the suspect go psychopathic behavior where this through the motions of reenacting mediating ability to rein in behav- the crime. ior is tragically absent or flawed. Obsessional neurotics have It is not uncommon to read of to undo not only what they have shocking crimes, wherein the done but what they desired to perpetrator displays not a shred of do. Guilt and remorse are often remorse. This lack of guilt feelings confused. Sigmund Freud (1920) is a frightening phenomenon to noted that remorse is over a deed consider. that has been done. Guilt is an Another behavioral oddity emotional signal indicating the caught the attention of the world presence of aggressive wishes. The with the resurfacing of the case of feelings of remorse inform us that the disappearance of Etan Patz. such feelings have actually been On May 25, 1979 this 6-year old gratified. left his home in Lower Manhat- Many psychotherapists will tan, having garnered permission find manifestations of intense OUTSTANDING BEST NEW OUTSTANDING guilt and remorse in even very ACTOR IN A MUSICAL CHOREOGRAPHER from his parents to walk the two Nominee MUSICAL Nominee young children. Their thoughts Nominee blocks to the school bus stop by Robert Creighton Joshua Bergasse are plagued with painful feelings Drama Desk Off Broadway Alliance Drama Desk himself. He vanished without Outer Critics Circle Outer Critics Circle Outer Critics Circle a trace etching this crime onto of crimes they think they com- the psyche of New York City mitted. This may manifest itself in and every parent, while spurring the home when a parent discovers legions of legislation and move- something is broken or missing. ments for child protection and A child may feel and act so totally safety. While a suspect currently guilty that the parents are led to remains in custody and has appar- believe that that child did it, only ently confessed, the parallel story to discover that child’s complete is that quite a number of people innocence. In school too, teachers have come forth over the years may find a child acting absolutely and also confessed to this crime. guilty, yet the child is completely The This occurrence of many people innocent. In adults too, many har- “turning themselves in” and ad- bor feelings of guilt and deserving Musical mitting to a crime – which obvi- punishment for crimes they never About ously not all of them can be guilty committed. Hollywood’s of – was first studied in 1932 after This is prevalent among those Tough Guy in Tap Shoes the kidnapping of Charles Agus- who have difficulty to differentiate tus Lindbergh. On a cold march between thoughts and actions and evening, the 20-month-old son of words and deeds. They cannot tol-

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Crumbled nori, wakame, arame, broccoli spears or string beans MISO SOUP WITH ALL THE FIXIN’S hijiki. Proceed as above. all the way at the end of cooking, LEVANA KIRSCHENBAUM Include 2-3 cups either cubed after the soup comes to a boil, so Miso soup is a marvel; quick is • 1/4 cup toasted sesame oil chicken breasts or fish, or very that they retain their bright color. not even the word: By the time it • 1 tablespoon bottled hot sauce, thinly sliced London Broil: they Throw in a 15 ounce can of coco- comes to a boil, it’s done, a whole or more to taste will cook in the same time the nut milk for a richer soup. Pro- pot full! • 4 scallions, sliced very thin soup does. Proceed as above. ceed as above. Miso Soup is an incredibly nutri- • 2-3 tablespoons chopped cilant- Add bright green vegetables such Throw in a cup of sake for added tious and versatile low calorie ro leaves, optional as snow peas, spinach leaves, wa- punch. Proceed as above. Whole-Meal-in-a-Bowl. tercress leaves, asparagus sections, I am giving you here a basic miso Instructions soup recipe, but I am including Bring all but last ingredient to a as many variations as I can think boil, then turn off the flame. Stir MEXICAN CABBAGE SLAW of, and let you play with in the scallions and cilantro Serve I love this slaw as a BBQ side dish, • 1 red bell pepper, stemmed, it and get another atop fish tacos, or alongside a ter- seeded and julienned exciting miso soup rific grilled chicken dish. I often each time. It will all serve it with roasted corn (that Preparation: be ready as soon as it would be excellent in the slaw In a small bowl, mix the mayon- comes to a boil. too), roasted butternut squash, naise, the salt, honey, cumin, You may never go black beans, and any smoky BBQ chili powder, lime juice, zest and back to the Chinese chicken or meat dish. Buy or pepper. restaurant miso soup make some guacamole, salsa, and In a medium bowl, toss the variety, unless you do, tomatillo dip to add to once in a blue moon, the top of it all. as I do: order it to your specifications: No Ingredients: canned veggies please! • 2/3 cup mayonnaise Banish the canned • 1 teaspoon kosher baby corn, bamboo shoots and hot. Makes a dozen ample serv- salt water chestnuts: who needs it? ings. • 2 teaspoons honey or Instead spread the fresh good stuff 1 teaspoon light agave thick: fresh mushrooms, broccoli, Miso Soup Variations: • 1 teaspoon ground zucchini, snow peas, and so on. Choose from: Sliced celery, sliced cumin zucchini, sliced carrots, frozen • ½ teaspoon chili Ingredients corn kernels, sliced nappa cab- powder • 8 cups water bage, sliced bok choy, sprouts • Juice and zest of 1 • 1 pound shitake mushrooms, etc… Nothing canned whatsoever lime caps only, sliced thin please! Proceed as above. • ½ teaspoon freshly ground purple cabbage, green cabbage, • 2 pouches Levana Meal Replace- black pepper carrots, red onion and bell pepper. ment Mushroom Medley Throw in a nice handful or two of • 1 bag shredded purple cabbage Pour the dressing over the vegeta- • 1 pound firm or extra-firm tofu, rice noodles or soba noodles, left • 1 ½ cups shredded green cab- bles and mix to combine. Serve cuts in small cubes, optional whole (get ready for slurping) or bage immediately or cover and refrig- • 1/2 cup miso paste, dark for a cut into smaller pieces (no slurp- • 1 ½ cups shredded carrots erate until ready to use. stronger taste, white for a milder ing). Proceed as above. • ¼ cup finely diced red onion Gourmet Kosher Cooking taste Throw in a handful of seaweed:

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SIDMAN matter. the decision for Ms. Sarsour to message of discord and intoler- CONT. FROM P18 By a vote of acclamation - and address the graduating students ance that breaks the multicultural in the United States of America. in the presence of the more than of the publicly funded CUNY’s fabric of the NYC community. She should receive no platform 100 prominent Rabbis from the School of Health as being a most The Rabbinical Alliance of whatsoever because of her long NY metro area, the Rabbinical misinformed and unfortunate America fully supports Assem- history of anti-Israel and anti- Alliance – IGUD called upon choice both for CUNY’s students blyman Dov Hikind position in Jewish diatribes. The RAA calls on the Honorable Andrew Cuomo; and for the values of human rights. opposing and protesting Linda New York State Governor Andrew Governor of New York State and Based on Ms. Sarsour’s record Sarsour’s appearance at CUNY M. Cuomo and the administration the Administration of CUNY City of anti-Israel rhetoric and sup- and reiterates its call to Governor of CUNY to immediately disinvite University New York – to cancel port of the Boycott Sanction & Cuomo to utilize his position and Linda Sarsour from delivering a the invitation to Linda Sarsour Divestment movement aimed influence to rectify this insensitive commencement address.” scheduled to address the gradu- solely against the Jewish State; her choice of Linda Sarsour’s appear- Rabbi Hecht then read the of- ating class of CUNY’s School of speaking at CUNY actually makes ance as commencement speaker at ficial proclamation of the RAA/ Health. a mockery of our first amendment CUNY. Igud HaRabbonim on the Sarsour The RAA presidium noted that rights and sends an unhealthy CONT.ON P29

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Rabbi Aharon Ziegler PARASHAT EMOR 5777, 2017

“DIFFERENCE BE- [speak] el Bnei Yisrael[to Chil- TWEEN “VA’YOMER” AND dren of Israel] “ and then fol- “VA’YEDABER” lowed by “Ve’amarta Aleihem” Having just observed the Mitz- [and say to them}. The Torah uses vah of “Ve’higadeta Le’vincha” the double expression to stress of teaching our children about the importance of the command- Yetzi’at Mitzrayim at the Seder of ment, if it involves an activity Pesach, the Torah now instructs which runs counter to an accepted the Kohanim to teach their chil- norm. Rashi, however, cites the dren about the unique Mitzvot Gemara Yevamot [114a] which pertaining to Kohanim derives from this redundancy that Our Parasha begins with the Kohanim are being instructed HaShem commanding Moshe to twice, once in regard to them- instruct the Kohanim (21:1) selves and once in regard to their “EMOR EL HA’KOHANIM children: “Lehazhir gedolim al BNEI AHARON VE’AMARTA ha’ketanim”- to caution adults ALEIHEM” SAY TO THE KO- regarding their children. It is HANIM, THE SONS OF AHA- interesting to note that the words RON, AND TELL THEM NOT “Emor-Ve’amarta” allude to the TO CONTAMINATE THEM- instruction of children, while no SELVES TO A DEAD PERSON such conclusions are drawn from AMONG THE PEOPLE”. the words “Daber-Ve’amarta”? There is an obvious redundan- According to Rabbi Yochanan cy in these instructions, for Moshe Zweig, the difference between is told twice, “say to the Kohanim” “amira” and “dibur” is as follows: and then “tell the Kohanim”, “ “amira” is the relaying of infor- Emor” and “Ve’amarta”. mation without any imposition Ramban maintains that we by the person conveying it, while often encounter the phrase “Daber CONT.ON P34

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ABRAMS to our country’s democracy.” Rus- such as Jewish ritual. Pen last month discreetly visited CONT. FROM P4 sian Chief Rabbi Berel Lazar had The National Front party was a Marseille monument for French said Israel and France both face said, “If Marine Le Pen is elected founded by the current presidential victims of the Holocaust, laying a the threat of “radical Islamic ter- president of France, the Jews must candidate’s father, Jean-Marie Le wreath at the site. The wreath-laying ror,” and expressed confidence the leave.” Pen, a convicted Holocaust denier. took place, with no media present, “longtime allies” would “continue to Chief Rabbi of France Haim The party, led by Marine Le Pen, at a memorial for 30 Jewish women deepen” relations. Korsia had joined Muslim and expelled its founder in 2015. and children who were rounded up Leading up to election day, Christian leaders in an endorsement In a bid to combat being por- by the Nazis in 1943. Jewish leaders inside and outside of Macron against Le Pen. trayed as anti-Semitic, Marine Le JNS.org France had expressed concern about “Fully aware that our roles the strong showing of Macron’s far- require us to be non-partisan, we right competitor, Le Pen, in the first are, however, first and foremost GUTFREUND and I can’t even count how many CONT. FROM P1 round of the French election. responsible citizens and therefore different versions of marriage we’ve Last month, Le Pen came under openly are calling for a vote in favor Embrace Change,” NY Times April shared. They include our aliyah years, fire for comments she made absolv- of Emmanuel Macron,” stated the 21, 2017) our pre-children year, our small chil- ing France of responsibility for the religious leaders’ letter to voters, Yet change in life is inevitable. dren years, our graduate school years, roundup of French Jews during the titled “Call to Vote for Mr. Emma- Circumstances change us. Time our early career years, our move back Holocaust. She has indicated that, nuel Macron” and issued by Kor- changes us. Ideas change us. So why to America years, our small children if elected, she would have moved to sia’s office. do we feel betrayed when our spouse plus teenagers years… and with God’s ban ritual slaughter of animals in The letter was co-signed by Pas- grows into someone different from help many more stages and versions France, a policy extending to kosher tor François Clavairoly, president of the 20-year-old that we met in col- of marriage to come. But change has slaughter. Le Pen has also called the Protestant Federation of France, lege? remained constant throughout all on French Jews to give up wearing and Anouar Kbibech, president of Harvard professor Daniel Gilbert these versions of marriages that we yarmulkes as part of her initiative to the French Council of the Muslim explained in his 2014 TED talk, “Hu- have been blessed to share. ban religious symbols in public and Faith. The religious leaders’ open man beings are works in progress that Here are four strategies we’ve fight radical Islam, while stating her endorsement of a specific presiden- mistakenly think they’re finished.” used to embrace change in our mar- intent to ban dual citizenship with tial candidate was considered a rare Gilbert’s research revealed that people riage: non-European Union countries, occurrence in France. change much more over a decade 1. Reframe change as a positive troubling French Jews who also At the same time, some Jews than they expect to. As Calhoun sign. If we approach change with fear hold Israeli citizenship. support Le Pen specifically because writes, “Several long-married people or see it as a sign of betrayal, then we Francis Kalifat, president of the of her commitment to fighting radi- I know have said this exact line: ‘I’ve will spend much of our time both CRIF umbrella group for French- cal Islam, and are willing to look had at least three marriages. They’ve resisting and criticizing our spouse’s Jewish organizations, called Le Pen’s the other way on her nationalistic just all been with same person.’” growth. Reframe change as a sign of growing popularity is “a real danger I’ve been married for 19 years, agenda’s implications for matters CONT.ON P29

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always insisted on doing the driv- disregard for the safety of others. ing myself because, frankly, I was While I’m generally not a fan The Sentimental Side often less than comfortable riding of honking the horn, (and almost Elizabeth Weintraub, L.M.S.W. with my own peers. never do) there have been many Reflecting back on life as a times I have found myself ex- Road Rage or Contemplation new driver, over the subsequent tremely frustrated by the driver years, as one would hope and in front of me, inching slowly for expect, I, like most people, grew no apparent reason, mumbling to When we were sixteen, one of Yes, it’s true, I never have to loan accustomed to driving, more myself about what an idiot they my best friends told me that I was my car to anyone- especially on comfortable with its nuances, stop are, to finally find out, as I reach essentially the only teen driver her my husband’s side of the family. signs, merges, switching lanes and the position ahead giving way to mother would allow her to ride And this (ahem) includes my hus- oil changes. However, there was their viewpoint, that the cause was with. “My mom says you are the band who, in all fairness, has been one irritant in driving that has someone crossing the street with most responsible teenage drive offered countless opportunities to spanned the decades without any a walker or cane, or a young child, she has ever seen.” She said. To learn this skill, and continues to diminishment. And it wouldn’t or mother with a stroller, at which me, this was a huge compliment. take no interest, likening it to “still be until graduate study in Social point my annoyance drastically I clearly took driver’s education using a typewriter – in the age of Work school that I would success- decreases. Driving may bring to classes seriously. My turn signals computers”. fully identify the concept behind light how often we render judge- and allotted space between me its significance. This vexing ag- ment without being privy to all and the driver in front of me were Moreover, my early driv- gravation always revealed itself the factors. consistently by the book. Addi- ing years were before the broad in the following situation: I’m One of our professors in Social tionally, my father only allowed access to cellphones, and texting advancing out into the middle of Work school used to illustrate this me to take the actual road test was never a concern as far as teen an intersection, as one does when point when expressing the impor- in his car, which happened to drivers. But the truth is, because preparing to make a left turn, and tance of recognizing how much be a manual transmission (stick of my naturally anxious personal- as I would carefully monitor the we don’t know. She would say: shift), leaving little to no room for ity, I required no lectures about oncoming traffic to determine “No matter your personal feelings distractions like lipstick or sand- safety. Seat Belts were mandatory when to proceed, the car behind about a client, no matter how in- wiches, since both hands and feet for passengers of all ages, both in me would give a loud honk. vested you become in helping this were generally occupied. And to front and in back, and most of my Now, please understand, I’m person change what you feel are this day there are “lively” debates friends said I drove like a prover- never surprised by impatient harmful behaviors, no matter how in my household over why I con- bial “little old lady”, which I did, motorists honking behind me. I much you want them to make tinue to drive a manual transmis- unapologetically. Overall, I was know and expect that for example, a specific decision, you are only sion car, and the complaints about probably every parent’s dream at a red light, if I don’t move fast there to assist them in working how this excludes the car’s avail- when it came to friends riding enough when it turns green, I’ll through their own contemplation. ability to others when needed. with friends. In fact, I almost get a honk. No problem. Some- It is never your role to sway them times, if I’m a little too slow for in any particular direction, be- someone’s taste, I’ll get a honk, cause you are not the one who will followed by a pass on my left, for live with the consequences of their which I am happy to help accom- decisions. Those consequences modate by moving over to the belong solely to them. We help to right. Also no problem. Some- foster clear analysis. That’s it. We times I take a few tries parallel do not dictate instructions.” parking into a small space and someone honks, Still no problem. And there is was, ringing clear. I probably deserve it. I immediately thought about the But, there is something par- left turn and honking scenario. ticularly insulting about being My professor had provided the honked at by someone who is words for why I felt such con- behind you, while you are out in tempt in that situation. the middle of the intersection. Es- At times, one of the more sentially, someone is telling you to common misconceptions about forgo your own judgement during therapy is that the relationship what is a crucial decision mak- yields authority to the profes- ing process. I always found it so sional. In fact, it is not unusual for astonishing that people could have family members of an individual the nerve to honk during such a in treatment to leap from what critical time, in light of the clear they might feel is “lack of pro- danger an error in judgement at gress” to assume they “must not that very moment could produce. be listening to the therapist”. But And compounding that astonish- nothing could be further from the ment, is the pure and outright truth. Much of the time, a thera- glaring fact - that the individual pist becomes the student of the doing the actual honking is com- client. After all, no one can pos- pletely free of any consequences sibly have more expertise about a that could result from the very client than the clients themselves. haste and recklessness they are Expecting direct orders from a seeking to impose. Making the therapist would be a mistake. A mere act of honking at someone good therapist will help sharpen in such a position convey what is your own assessment skills, and at easily interpreted to be an utter CONT.ON P29

28 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 5/12/17 Minister Rabbi Benny Elon Of Blessed Memory Joseph Frager, MD

It was with great sadness that I looked up to him for guidance and Ariel Sharon’s worst decisions but he all who wanted to make a difference heard of the passing of one of the success. He was a shining light in a made a statement and a stand that in the Land of Israel and particularly Jewish People’s great leaders and difficult environment. will last for eternity. Jerusalem. rising stars, Rabbi Benny Elon of The Land of Israel including Gaza His passage right before Israel blessed memory. I had the privilege Many of the changes one sees belong to the People of Israel. Jews celebrates the 50th Anniversary of of meeting Rabbi Benny Elon when today in the Knesset were made pos- will some day move back into Gaza. the Reunification of Jerusalem is not he had just opened up the Beit Orot sible by Rabbi Benny Elon. I remem- It is just a matter of time. His protest a coincidence. He made the Reuni- Yeshiva on the Mount of Olives ber a photo of him in the New York and defiance may well have been one fication a reality in word and deed. over 30 years ago. He was the rare Times before he entered Politics of his finest moments despite how He is Jerusalem here and in heaven. Rosh Yeshiva that actually entered fixing a telephone poll in Judea and hard it was for him. If it had not been Every fiber of his being was dedicated the turbulent and complex Politi- Samaria. He did it all. He spread To- for his illness he may well have be- to the Jerusalem and the Land of Is- cal world. He could have remained rah in an erudite and scholarly man- come the first Religious Prime Minis- rael. He single handedly changed the an incredible Rosh Yeshiva. He felt ner. He became the right hand man ter of Israel. His life was tragically cut face of the nation. All who love G-d that it was crucial for men of Torah of assassinated Minister Rechavam short but he accomplished a tremen- Almighty ,Torah, the Land of Israel, to enter Politics. He was not afraid. Ze’evi (“Gandhi”). He assumed the dous amount. He is responsible for and the People of Israel should aspire He was determined and focused. He leadership of Gandhi’s Moledet Party the rebuilding of the entire Mount to become like Rabbi Benny Elon of became a profound and vibrant force after the assassination. He became of Olives Jewish Community. He is blessed memory. He will be sorely in making the Jewish Heartland of Minister of Tourism 2001-2004 un- responsible for the rebuilding of the missed. May his family be comforted Judea and Samaria grow, expand, der Ariel Sharon. He wore the badge Shimon HaTzaddik Neighborhood among the mourners of Zion and and thrive. He is one of the pioneers of courage for having been fired by in Jerusalem. He was a role model for Yerushalayim. that made Biblical Israel come to life Ariel Sharon for protesting the PM’s with close to one million people. I plans to expel 10,000 Jews from Gush GUTFREUND changes besides the changes that life once told him that the entire Knesset Katif. He was not able to stop one of CONT. FROM P25 inevitably brings us. Even seemingly growth and life. See your spouse – small things like a different type of and yourself – as an ever-evolving date night or a new restaurant can WEINTRAUB make that turn when we’re out in spark changes in our mindsets that CONT. FROM P28 the intersection. The key is not to being with unlimited potential for transformation. make us more amenable to change in times, help to bring important fac- let those loud honking horns get 2. Keep your values aligned. The our lives. tors into your awareness. Some- the best of us. one part of our marriage that has 4. Take ‘extreme ownership’ for times we need an extra pair of Elizabeth Weintraub, LMSW, is never changed is our shared value- your life. The Navy Seals speak about eyes and ears on our journeys to a Social Worker with extensive back- ground in practice areas counseling sur- set. We began our married life with the concept of taking extreme owner- help us along. They might notice a vivors of violence, trauma and abuse. a foundation of strong beliefs and ship for everything that we do. This bump in the road, or a pedestrian She is also the NY/NJ Regional Director of “CE You!”, innovative Continuing ideals; we work every day on making means taking responsibility not only at the corner that we hadn’t seen, Education seminars for Social Workers sure that these values stay aligned no for every decision that we make, but or a stoplight on the horizon, but and other mental health professionals. Comments, suggestions and questions matter what the present circumstanc- also for every change in our lives. This it is always the client in the driv- are always warmly welcomed via email: es of our lives are. This requires a mis- doesn’t mean that we blame ourselves er’s seat. [email protected]. For more infor- mation, or to register for a seminar in sion statement, either written down for every circumstance or relation- It is ultimately our own the New York /New Jersey, Baltimore or frequently discussed, that clarifies ship challenge that we experience, responsibility to decide when to or Washington D.C. area, please visit WWW.CEYou.org or call 443-278-3907. our goals both in parenting and in but we take responsibility for how we marriage. To help each other to grow respond to anything and everything, SIDMAN especially in the New York area to and have an authentic connection to regardless of what anyone else is do- CONT. FROM P23 “stand up for its right; to stand up Torah. To pass onto our children the ing or saying. Reflecting on the previous week for its values” and to unflinchingly values of our ancestors with love and In marriage, this means keeping Holocaust remembrance events, assume leadership roles in “speak- warmth and attention. The form of our eye on our own actions instead Rabbi Hecht noted that the “litany ing up and roundly condemning the mission statement may change, of scrutinizing our spouse’s. It means of Jewish organizations have anyone who supports boycott, but the values embedded within it finding constructive ways to deal with remained silent on the Sarsour divestment and sanctions of Eretz have remained the same. change in our spouses and in our matter. I humbly suggest that Yisroel.” He added that “we have 3. Try something new often. Most selves. It means embracing both the had this not been brought up by to be man enough, and as a rab- of us depend upon our daily routines positive and the stressful changes that Dov Hikind it would have gone binical organization, to be rab- for the much needed structure and di- come our way. And it means deciding under the radar.” He called upon bis enough to speak without any rection that they give to our lives. But to use change to grow. the American Jewish community CONT.ON P31 trying new things helps us welcome Aish.com

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In April, the PA anti-Israel rant: its tremendous contribution to the 2016, Eizenkot met with Dunford president told the Japanese news- Israeli economy and workforce,” in the U.S., where the IDF leader paper Asahi Shimbun he is “ready Turkish President Recep Tayyip Israeli Tourism Minister Yariv was awarded the Legion of Merit for to meet the prime minister of Israel Erdogan met Monday evening with Levin said Tuesday. “This important “exceptionally meritorious service” anytime in Washington under the Palestinian Authority Prime Min- and exciting milestone is part of a during a ceremony at the Pentagon. patronage of President Trump.” But ister Rami Hamdallah in Istanbul, positive trend that has been taking in the same interview, Abbas said where the two reportedly discussed place over the last half year or more. Abbas says he is ready to peace talks “will be impossible as far ways to “protect Jerusalem against I hope and believe that, with hard meet with Netanyahu ‘to as Israel’s colonial-settlement enter- attempts of judaization.” The meet- work, we will continue to reap the make peace’: prises continues.” During Tuesday’s ing followed Erdogan’s comments benefits of this investment,” Levin press conference, Abbas said he is Palestinian Authority (PA) at a Turkish conference, in which added. The significant rise in tour- committed to a two-state solution President Mahmoud Abbas said he rebuked Israel for its Muezzin ism to Israel comes despite higher based on the pre-1967 lines. Tuesday he is ready to meet with Bill, which would place limits on the costs for travelers, due to the sub- Israeli Prime Minister Benjamin volume of mosque loudspeakers late stantial strengthening of the shekel 96 percent of French Netanyahu as part of President at night and during early morning currency in recent months. Incom- Israelis vote for Macron, Donald Trump’s renewed peace ef- hours. Erdogan also called on Mus- ing tourism during the first four envoy says: forts. “We affirmed to [Trump] that lims to visit the Al-Aqsa mosque en months of the year accounted for we are ready to cooperate with him French Ambassador to Israel masse in support of the Palestinians, an estimated 6 billion shekels ($1.7 and meet the Israeli prime minister Helene Le Gal said Monday that and compared Israeli policy with billion) being infused into Israel’s under his auspices in order to make French Israelis who voted in the apartheid South Africa and racism economy. “practiced against black people in peace,” Abbas told reporters dur- final round of France’s presidential the past in America.” Turkish Am- US military leader Dunford ing a joint press conference with election Sunday overwhelmingly bassador to Israel Kemal Okem was visits Israel for high-level German President Frank-Walter supported the winner, Emmanuel summoned by Israel’s Foreign Min- security talks: Steinmeier. The PA leader also Macron. Le Gal tweeted that 96.3 istry Tuesday to clarify Erdogan’s stated he anticipates a meeting with percent of French Israelis who cast anti-Israel statements. The ambas- Ahead of President Donald Trump during the U.S. president’s their ballots in the cities of Tel Aviv, sador was informed Israel would Trump’s visit to Israel, U.S. Chair- first foreign trip abroad, saying, “We Netanya, Haifa, Ashdod, Eilat and not remain silent in the face of such man of Joint Chiefs of Staff Gen. are looking forward to [Trump’s] Be’er Sheva opted for Macron, who rhetoric, reported The Jerusalem Joseph Dunford landed in the visit soon to Bethlehem.” This is the CONT.ON P31 Post. “Israel consistently protects Jewish state Monday as a guest of total freedom of worship for Jews, IDF Chief of Staff Lt. Gen. Gadi DOVIE’S Muslims and Christians—and will Eizenkot. Dunford’s visit to Israel continue to do so despite the base- was his first since Trump took office less slander launched against it,” the in January. In addition to Eizenkot, Israeli Foreign Ministry said Tues- Dunford met with Israeli Prime How to solve a search and Find Puzzle EA NEWSThe words can be locatedPA in the diagrPEam by readingR forward, backward, up , down day. Jerusalem Mayor Nir Barkat Minister Benjamin Netanyahu and and diagonally. All words will be found in a straight line with no letters being also slammed Erdogan Tuesday, Defense Minister Avigdor Lieber- skipped. As you find each word, circle it in the diagram and cross it o the word saying, “The connection of the Jew- man. Although the U.S.-Israel meet- list. Letters may be used more than once and words will often overlap. All the letters in the diagram may not be used. ish people to Jerusalem dates back ings were planned in advance, both more than 3,000 years. Jerusalem is sides maintained secrecy before and will remain our eternal, united their occurrence, Yedioth Ahronoth capital forever.” The mayor invited reported. “We have a great alli- Erdogan to visit Jerusalem to “see ance between Israel and the United for himself” how the capital city has States, and a great alliance between flourished under Israeli administra- the American military and the IDF. tion. We appreciate it and we know that this alliance is good, not only for April tourism to Israel security but also good for peace,” breaks monthly record Netanyahu told Dunford. The pri- since country’s founding: mary topics of discussion between military chiefs Dunford and Eizen- In April 2017, a record-breaking kot reportedly included Russia’s 349,000 tourists entered Israel, a military presence in Syria, Syrian 38-percent increase from April 2016 President Bashar al-Assad’s chemi- and the highest-ever figure for any cal weapons arsenal, the transfer month since Israel’s establishment of advanced weapons to the Leba- in 1948. Additionally, between nese terror group Hezbollah and January and April 2017, 1.1 million Islamic State’s terror operations in tourists entered the Jewish state, Egypt. Dunford called his “personal an increase of 26 percent from the relationship” with Eizenkot “rock- same period in 2016 and 22 percent solid and probably representative more than those months in 2015. of the broader relationship that we “When there is clear policy, we see have.” The American military leader results. 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JNS St. Catherine’s Monastery in the ings of Barghouti eating cookies and SIDMAN CONT. FROM P30 Egyptian Sinai in mid-April. One salted snacks in the toilet stall of his CONT. FROM P29 went on to win with 64 percent of policeman was killed and four oth- prison cell during the hunger strike. scintilla of doubt about what side the total vote against far-right can- ers were injured in that attack. The “This hunger strike was never about we’re coming down on.” didate Marine Le Pen. jihadist terror group is increasingly the conditions of the convicted Ascending the rostrum, guest targeting Christians and religious terrorists, which meet international speaker Dov Hikind told the at- minorities in Egypt in a challenge to standards,” Erdan said. “It is about tendees that the tacit acceptance Egyptian President Abdel Fattah El- advancing Marwan Barghouti’s of Sarsour’s hate filled verbiage is Sisi, who has vowed to protect those political ambitions to replace Abu “even worse than the propaganda population groups from terrorism. Mazen (Palestinian Authority Presi- disseminated by the BDS move- dent Mahmoud Abbas).” He added, ment. This is a clear cut situation Israel’s first ‘smart’ hiking “Barghouti is a murderer and hypo- of hatred and that everyone should trail to be completed by crite who urged his fellow prisoners be united in speaking out against spring 2018: to strike and suffer while he ate be- it.” In February, Le Pen had stated her hind their back.” Speaking at a press Offering several cogent examples An initiative dubbed the “Sanhe- intent to ban dual citizenship with conference in Ramallah Sunday, of Sarsour’s blatant promotion of drin Trail,” launched by the Israel non-European Union countries, the terrorist prisoner’s wife, Fadwa deadly terrorist acts, Hikind said Antiquities Authority (IAA) in troubling French Jews who also Barghouti, claimed recordings of that she had posted on a picture cooperation with Israel’s National hold Israeli citizenship. Le Gal told her husband were fabricated and on Twitter of a four-year old Religious Education Administra- Army Radio that Macron would said the footage will only strengthen Palestinian boy throwing a rock tion, will see the construction of be “very friendly” toward Israel. Palestinian prisoners’ resolve. “The at Israeli soldiers and civilians. Israel’s first “smart” hiking trail On the eve of the election, Macron prisoners are familiar with Israel’s She then added the caption that completed by the spring of 2018. reiterated his stance that unilateral lies and games, and the video they essentially summed up her beliefs The 70-kilometer (43.5-mile) trail recognition of a Palestinian state released signals the beginning of [Is- in such acts. This, she said, is the will span the Lower Galilee between would create instability and dam- rael’s] fall,” she said. An unidenti- “definition of courage.” Tiberias and Beit She’arim National age France’s relationship with the fied IPS official told Israel’s Channel Commenting on this moral Park, and will interface with an Jewish state. Israeli Prime Minister 2 Monday the videos of Barghouti outrage, Hikind said, “if we tell augmented reality-based mobile Benjamin Netanyahu congratulated were obtained as part of an IPS plan children that they can throw rocks, app, designed to integrate historic the French president-elect, saying, to tempt the strike leaders to eat by then we are giving them permis- sites with current landscapes. The “I look forward to working with placing food in their cells. During sion to take it a step further and to app will virtually reconstruct herit- President-elect Macron to confront a similar hunger strike launched stab Jews. But rocks alone can kill age sites from the Second Temple the common challenges and seize by Palestinian prisoners in 2004, Jews, and they have in the past and period more than 2,000 years ago, the common opportunities facing Marwan Barghouti was also filmed continue to, to this very day.” when the 71 members of the Great our two democracies.” Netanyahu secretly eating. CONT.ON P32 said Israel and France both face Sanhedrin court presided on Jerusa- the threat of “radical Islamic ter- lem’s Temple Mount. “People such ror,” and expressed confidence the as Rabbi Akiva and Rabbi Yehuda “longtime allies” would “continue to HaNasi, the members of the San- deepen” relations. hedrin who were active here 2,000 years ago, determined to a great ex- Islamic State warns of new tent much of how our lives are run terror attacks on Egypt’s today,” said Yair Amitzur, the IAA’s WHEREVER YOU GO... 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ZIEGLER willingly performs that which he is should caution their children, Therefore, when requiring the CONT. FROM P24 requesting of his child. The prob- rather that the adults themselves Kohanim and the sons of the Ko- “dibur” imposes the will of the lem with “Do as I say, not what I are being cautioned to perform hanim to behave in a more restric- speaker upon the listener. A par- do” is that if the child perceives the Mitzvot without any sense tive manner than their non-Ko- ent pressuring his child to behave the parent is reluctant to willingly of imposition but out of a deep hanim peers, it was essential that in a manner different from his perform that which he requires of love for HaShem. By doing so, the message they convey is that peers will most likely fail, unless the child, the child will feel that the children will perceive that following the Mitzvot of HaShem the parent is able to convey the such behavior is NOT in his best following their patents’ example is, and always will be, “In our best message that such behavior is in interest. is indeed in their best interest. interest.” the child’s best interest. The only Thus, the Torah specifically uses Shabbat Shalom from Yerush- way this can be successfully ac- “Lehaz’hir Gedolim al haket- the expression “emor-Ve’amarta” alayim complished is if the parent himself anim” –does not mean that adults and not “daber-ve’amarta”, for Rabbi Aharon Ziegler “daber” implies imposition.

SCHWARTZ and our grandchildren. Especially ing the wonderful view and what BERGER CONT. FROM P32 CONT. FROM P33 meaningful is when a daughter seems like the special Israeli air which explains why they are not brings some of our grandchildren and sunshine, or riding in a bus the Israel Center in Jerusalem received. and one at the Jewish Vegetarian for a swim in the heated indoor or shuttle to Jerusalem and look- pool here and then we have a ing out at the beautiful Israeli Center in jerusalem. Here are some red flags to be family picnic at the nearby picnic countryside, or just taking part We are able to easily partake aware of if you are contacted by area. Without the help and en- in another common activity, and in family events without arrang- these scammers: couragement of family members, suddenly am reminded of how ing trips from America. We have They the membership offer to we would never been able to make fortunate I am to now live in been fortunate to have had several you for more than 90 minutes, smachot since we moved here aliyah. Israel. Despite all of the above posi- They offer you a free gift, trip, and are looking forward to many meal or event, which turned into a I hear people speaking Hebrew tives and more,, I do not want more, with God’s help, knowing sales pitch and ,although I still do not un- to pretend that there are never that we can readily take part in the They claim that you could sell derstand much of it, I am in awe difficulties for us here, including celebrations. &/or rent your timeshare when- about the miracle of the revival problems related to our relatively ever you want of the Hebrew language in our weak Hebrew and to troubles Loretta and I are able to share They promise that they would ancient Jewish homeland, after sometimes getting places without many Shabbatot and other occa- buy it back from you if choose to sions from week to week with our almost 2,000 years of exile a car, but they pale compared to the many benefits. sell two daughters and their husbands I am sitting on the patio enjoy- CONT.ON P39

34 To advertise in THE JEWISH CONNECTION call: 718.761.2626 • [email protected] 5/12/17 mones in a new mother’s system however, not just any food you “What’s in Your Lotion?” can wreak havoc on her dermal have in your pantry. Some beauty Ask Dr. P appearance. However, the good gurus tout a yogurt mask for red- news is there are things that can ness reduction: simply mix a cup Hadassah Chaya Davies Pardo, Ph.D. be done from the inside out to of plain yogurt (should contain calm a facial fire! Here are some lactobacilli) mixed with two on her beautiful panim, so let’s suggestions: tablespoons of raw honey. Not Healing Your focus on dousing her facial fire. Avoid red wine. Alcohol and only that, while you are making Skin from the Now, any changes in skin can be sulfites in wine can cause a lovely your mask, mix up some yogurt Inside Out a signal of something more seri- peach blush to turn to a hot pink and honey for your gut. Healing ous, so my first recommendation horror show. Small blood ves- your gut can help heal skin imper- Shabbat shalom, my Dear is that Rochel be checked out by sels in the face can become more fections, especially those that are Readers! The weather continues her dermatologist. Once, given a prominent in the face of some caused by food sensitivities. to get nicer, and we move closer to clean bill of health, we can focus alcohol. If red wine makes your So, Dear Rochel S. from receiving the Torah on Shavuot! on developing a better color for flush last for hours, you could Midwood, here are five foolproof As the Earth tilts closer to the Sun, her than the splotchy red she finds have rosacea, a common skin con- methods of reducing redness that we find ourselves feeling warmer, unpleasant. dition that should be evaluated by doesn’t occur from something inside and out! Moving toward There are many reasons for a board certified dermatologist. more serious. A solution can be the air conditioned era of our changes in skin redness, officially Douse that fire first! Some as easy as a yogurt food fight, so year, many people find their skin called “erythema” by those in the people swear by using ice in the get your kiddies involved for some responding in the oddest of ways. know. Some of these are easily mouth as a way to bring down a skincare fun! Mix up the yogurt We produce more perspiration solved, for example, skin irritation facial flame. You can also use a fa- mask and have your little ones (thank Gd, can you imagine if we or sun sensitivity are two culprits cial spray (even Evian makes one) apply it to Eema’s face! They will couldn’t sweat?), our hair condi- that can cause erythema. The so- that will evaporate on your skin have a blast, and you will have tion might become oilier, and for lution for these two are simple— and reduce the redness. skin a little less fiery. Dear Read- some of us, our visage becomes find out what’s upsetting your Put down the schug. Spicy ers, remember, if you can’t eat it, more colorful! Such is the topic skin and avoid it, and stay out of food can cause facial redness in don’t put it on your skin! Happy of the question from Rochel S. of the sun. Problems solved! Great! the same way alcohol does. Blood Lag B’Omer! Midwood, Brooklyn. She writes, But those are not the only reasons vessels perk right up after eating people get red skin, so let’s con- a good shakshuka or jerk chicken Hadassah Chaya Davies Pardo, Ph.D. is “Why is my skin getting red and Chief Lotionist and owner of Hope Solid splotchy?” tinue our quest. and can cause red, splotchy skin in Lotion. She has 35 years’ experience in Now, I know that Rochel addition to runny eyes and noses! cosmetology and skin care. Email your What a perfect question for questions to: hopesolidlotion@gmail. Lag Ba’Omer—Rochel has a what recently had a beautiful baby girl, Put food on your face! You com. Hope Solid Lotion can be found tfu tfu tfu, she should live till 120! heard me right, put food on your at hopesolidlotion.com and at Organic could be the start of a bonfire Circle in Brooklyn. Copyright 2016. All I also know that changing hor- face! It has to be the right kind, Rights Reserved. FAIGIE HIRSCH Nutritionist,C.N.C. STAYING HEALTHY IN AN UNHEALTHY WORLD

Staying healthy is quite dif- too. Brisk walking or biking gets ficult in today’s world, but why is you where you’re going fast, and it so difficult to stay healthy and gives you a nice workout. how can you stay healthy in such Once you’ve added some physi- an unhealthy world?. When you cal activity to your day to day life, maintain good health by taking care you need to adjust your diet to fit a of your body and mind ,You can healthier lifestyle. You need to cut avoid financial debt caused by medi- back on things like soda and junk cal problems. . Best of all, you can food. Add a variety of vegetables and generally feel more energetic and fruit to your diets as they contain mentally alert. But, the big challenge fiber, vitamins and minerals which is staying healthy when we live in will give you energy. Make sure you a world that makes it so easy to be eat plenty of complex carbohydrates, unhealthy. included in whole grain and oats. There are two parts to optimal There is no such thing as a perfect physical health: physical activity, diet, as it will be different with every and diet. First, you should increase single person, depending on their your physical activity. In many body and their exercise habits. But countries, especially the USA, it is instead of settling for convenience, standard for people to drive every- test your body to see exactly what where they go. When you spend half you need to be healthy. an hour driving somewhere, you do It can be a challenge to make severe damage to not only your own lifestyle changes like these. It will health, but also the environment. take a lot of willpower. However, as Increasing your physical activity in long as you keep your ultimate goal ways such as walking or biking can in mind, you should be able to per- save you money on gas and parking severe. Just remember an ounce of and in the long term, on medication prevention is worth a pound of cure.

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about the Yeshiva, its deficit, or a the gusts of the opening doors that The View From The 68Th Floor foreclosure. led to Fifth Avenue. You Don’t Need A Special The walk from the Pennsyl- I was distraught. And I think vania Station to The Empire State the boy was too, but we both would Elevator To Reach The Top Building was not more than two or not speak about our parents. I just Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky three city blocks. I was craning my wanted to go home. And then my neck trying to get a glimpse at the father’s face lit up. “Follow me,” (This article was written years would know no one. We would be tip of the tower, picturing myself he declared to all of us. My father before the petirah of Rabbi Biny- 100 stories above ground on top hanging on for dear life, waving beckoned me, the man, and his son omin Kamenetzky zt”l) of the tallest building in the world, my ear-flap cap in the wind, dan- and led us away from the hubbub I never did make it to the the eighth wonder of the universe: gling it from one of those straps, of the tourists, down a corridor observation deck. But what I did The Empire State Building. and letting it fall all 102 stories into where a uniformed man stood by observe some 20 stories below It was a Monday morning. It the oblivion of a New York winter. a magnificent elevator. “Abba,” I remains embedded in my mind, was cold, but the clarity of the sky We entered the building and protested, “that’s not the elevator far stronger than any human ant was remarkable. I was excited. I’d were greeted by the myriad signs to the top!” He ignored me and my or Lego-sized building that I would get to the hawking the protests. The man and his son did have seen from miles away. top and trip to the not seem to mind the adventure. This story begins sometime in would be top. The cost The elevator man escorted us in 1964 and really hasn’t ended. My able to see seemed like a and asked what floor. “Sixty-eight,” life as a boy growing up in Wood- Canada, I lot, especially was my father’s crisp reply as if he mere kept me mostly to the streets thought. I for a father either was the landlord or a tenant of that small town in suburbia. My remember who prob- for the last three decades. “Abba,” I father had just finished construct- my mother ably had not muttered, “the view is on the 86th ing a new building for his Yeshiva forcing me been paid in floor, not the 68th!” of South Shore a town over, and to wear that many weeks. He ignored me, and about the bank was already foreclosing. silly black I saw my a minute or two later, with my I had a two-year-old brother and cap with the father purse stomach stranded some 60 floors three older sisters, and unlike most fluff-coated his lips, in below, the elevator stopped. My fa- of the younger American families ear flaps strained ther walked out, turned right, and in the neighborhood, for us, Sun- that had thought. knocked on the door of Ashkenazi day was no day off. I was always two straps The line was Watch Company. The secretary al- upset as I watched my father go hanging pretty long lowed us in and I stood in wonder. raise money for the Yeshiva each from them. as well. And I glimpsed at a large window which week. He placated me by latch- The cap was made of vinyl that then I saw trouble. A man who opened to the amazing sites of ing me on to other families who did a very poor job at attempting had stubble for a beard and a thick the city and my mouth was agape went to the city in the guise of to be leather, and had two straps European accent approached my in wonder. The man and the boy fun. Truth be told, I didn’t really that hung from fluffy ear flaps that father. “You a rabbi?” He asked in stood in awe as well. think museums and history were snapped together, either on top of an English that smelled like it had A man with graying hair came much fun, nor did I feel at home the head or below the chin. Either been stewing for 20 years in Hun- out of his office and my father’s in those venues, but that’s where I way, they looked goofy even for garian goulash. arms opened wide in a hug. “Josh- schlepped along, smiling and nod- the 1960s, a time when everything He also had a young boy ua!” My father shouted, “How are ding, because that’s what little boys was what the kids today would my age with him. He pulled my you? I’m in the city and I …” I did in the 60s. call very nerdy. I let the straps father out of the line, as if he had never heard the end of the conver- I made my father promise that just hang down, dangling like something very secret to say, and sation as he escorted my father and one day, when there was no school, Chassidic payos below my ears. began crying his heart out to him. I the man into his office. After a few he would take me somewhere in My mother would scream, “snap don’t know what they were talk- seconds, he came out and told me the city. There were no official those earflaps or you’ll get frost- ing about, but I think it was about that I and my new friend (whom I days off in those years—surely no bite (whatever that meant), chas what happened to him in a lost did not say two words to) could go winter break. But one day, school v’shalom!” world 20-some years earlier. They to any window and watch whatever was closed— maybe it was one of We were off. My father and spoke for about 10 minutes, hud- we wanted. “The view from here those days that there was no heat I. No attaché cases. No yeshiva dled in private, out of the line. The is much better! And it’s warm as in school either because the system brochures. Just father and son boy and I lost patience and spoke well!” He was right. I saw every- broke down, or they did not pay walking in the cold to the Cedar- in the common language of eye- thing and was pointing out land- thebill. Could this be the day, I hurst station a few blocks away. I ball rolling. But worse, we lost our marks to the man’s son when Mr. asked him? He agreed. got to watch my father work the place in line. Ashkenazi called him into his of- We would go by train, then crowd, shmooz up the conductor In those 15 minutes, about fice. Fifty years later, I don’t know maybe take a subway, and go and greet everyone on the train as three busloads of Midwestern what that Hungarian man wanted. somewhere exciting. I picked a ifhe knew them. Forty-five minutes tourists displaced us back to a destination where I thought he together. Not one word to anyone place where we felt the draft from CONT.ON P39

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MEMBERS OF B’NEI MENASHE Austrian Chancelor Christian CELEBRATE INDEPENDENCE DAY Kern visited The Kotel

DINA SAMTE (CENTER) CELEBRATING THE HONOR OF BEING CHOSEN TO LIGHT AN INDEPENDENCE DAY TORCH – AND HER 19TH BIRTHDAY – WITH MEMBERS OF THE BNEI MENASHE COMMUNITY ON SHABBAT, APRIL 29.

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Pirchei Agudas Yisroel National Annual Siyum Mishnayos al shem Harav Yehoshua Silbermintz zt”l

AT THE CHAZAQ EVENT L-R Sergey Kadinsky, Rav Yitzchok Dovid Grossman, Chief rabbi of Migdal HaEmek, Rav Ilan Meirov, CHAZAQ Director, and Dr. Paul Brody.

AT THE JERUSALEM POST CONFERENCE L-R Simcha Lyons, Jewish activist, Larry King, Rochel and Jerry Markovitz, Jewish Connection publishers

Rumanian Prime Minister Sorin Grindeanu Visits The Kotel

HOLOCAUST SURVIVOR Holocaust Survivor, Bronia Brandman, 86, returned to the death camp on Yom Hashoah for the first time since her liberation, accompanied by a delegation of Israel Defense Forces.

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KAMENETZKY we went back down 68 floors. CONT. FROM P36 I never made it to the top. But I don’t know what my father did I will never forget the trip, or what or said in Mr. Ashkenazi’s office. my father taught me that day. For I don’t even know if 86 to 68 was the little boy who set out thinking a planned bait and switch. What I that he would reach the top of the did know is that it had nothing to world, I learned that sometimes do with the Yeshiva. And the trip one can reach greater heights by to the Empire State Building ended stopping off some 20 stories below. when some broken Jew and his son Rabbi Mordechai Kamenetzky is the walked out of an office somewhere Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Toras Chaim at South Shore, a weekly columnist in in the stratosphere with smiles as Yated Ne’eman and the author of the wide as the building was high. My Parsha Parable series. This article originally appeared in father took me in to see Mr. Ash- Ami Magazine kenazi, who gave me a watch. And

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