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Garfield DEAR ABBY Wife grapples with family’s history of sexual dysfunction

DEAR ABBY: When my husband If your husband wants to talk to and I were first married, I had no his relatives, he’s going to do it re- idea why his mother gardless of whether or not you find and sisters were so it threatening. My question to you hostile. When they would be, are you willing to toler- started treating our ate it? children the same way, my husband DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend suf- finally addressed fers from depression. She says she the issue. We moved loves me, but there are times she out of town, and he Jeanne won’t contact me for days because finally told me that Phillips of it. During this most recent bout when he was in his Advice of depression, she hasn’t talked to teens and early 20s, columnist me for a month. he had had sex with I finally got fed up. I told her the For Better or Worse all of them, which next time she talks to me it should was why they didn’t like me. either be a breakup call or to give After an estrangement of many me an apology. Was I right to say years, he has now started talking that? I don’t know what to do. to his mother and sisters again. His — Unsure in the East mother is now in her 70s. It breaks my heart that he is talking to people DEAR UNSURE: You say your he had sex with, but he says it is OK girlfriend suffers from depression. because they are “family.” In my Is she under the care of a doctor and opinion, he should have nothing to receiving treatment for it? Is her do with them. Please tell me how I family aware of the fact that when need to handle things. she cycles down she is incommu- — “All in the family” nicado? If she’s so incapacitated that she can’t communicate, they DEAR “ALL IN”: You cannot should be notified so she can get control what another adult does. the professional help she needs, in- I sympathize with your feelings, cluding an adjustment in her medi- and I agree your husband’s family cations if necessary. situation was beyond unhealthy. I agree she owes you an apology, However, from what you wrote, I and I can’t fault you for telling her. get the impression that you would But I would not recommend men- be equally upset if he were talking tioning breaking up while she’s in a with ex-girlfriends. vulnerable mental state.

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