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The Current Landscape of Prostitution and Sex Work in England and Wales Matolcsi, A. , Mulvihill, N., Lilley-Walker, S-J., Lanau, A., & Hester, M. (2020). The Current Landscape of Prostitution and Sex Work in England and Wales. Sexuality and Culture, 25(1), 39-57. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12119-020-09756-y Publisher's PDF, also known as Version of record License (if available): CC BY Link to published version (if available): 10.1007/s12119-020-09756-y Link to publication record in Explore Bristol Research PDF-document This is the final published version of the article (version of record). It first appeared online via Springer at https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12119-020-09756-y . Please refer to any applicable terms of use of the publisher. University of Bristol - Explore Bristol Research General rights This document is made available in accordance with publisher policies. Please cite only the published version using the reference above. Full terms of use are available: http://www.bristol.ac.uk/red/research-policy/pure/user-guides/ebr-terms/ Sexuality & Culture https://doi.org/10.1007/s12119-020-09756-y ORIGINAL PAPER The Current Landscape of Prostitution and Sex Work in England and Wales Andrea Matolcsi1 · Natasha Mulvihill1 · Sarah‑Jane Lilley‑Walker1 · 1 1 Alba Lanau · Marianne Hester © The Author(s) 2020 Abstract This paper presents a comprehensive typology of the sex industry based on primary data collected between 2018 and 2019 for a UK Home Ofce-funded study. Typolo- gies of the contemporary sex industry in England and Wales have tended to be lim- ited to particular sectors or have been developed from a specifc disciplinary per- spective or theme (e.g. sexual health programming, income). Situated in the context of international sex industry typologies, this paper seeks to address this gap. Data was derived from an online survey, questionnaires and consultations with stakehold- ers including individuals currently or formerly involved in selling sex, service pro- viders/NGOs, police, local authority representatives and others. The data was sup- plemented with insights from a systematic literature search. This work aims to assist with programme and policy planning in the UK context. Our methods can assist in developing typologies in other contexts. Keywords Sex work · Prostitution · Sex industry · Classifcation · Typology Introduction A typology of the sex industry can be useful both to understand and distinguish dif- ferent activities and to assess prevalence, by providing categories within which to count. This can enable the development of targeted services and policies adapted to the specifcities and needs of diferent groups (Buzdugan et al. 2009). Globally, existing typologies of prostitution and the wider sex industry have been built around diferent elements, including site of solicitation and/or site of the sexual service; the type of sexual service; whether there is direct physical contact; whether the seller is working independently or there is a third party involved such as * Andrea Matolcsi [email protected] 1 School for Policy Studies, University of Bristol, Bristol, UK Vol.:(0123456789)1 3 A. Matolcsi et al. a pimp, agency or brothel; choice, agency, motivations and life circumstances; and the income earned from selling sexual services. Some employ a mix of categories. For example, Harcourt and Donovan (2005), in their global typology (detailed below), combine worksite, principal mode of solicit- ing clients and sexual practices. Sanders and colleagues (2017), also looking world- wide, simplify Harcourt and Donovan’s typology and categorise by site or type of sexual service. Brooks-Gordon et al. (2015), focusing on the United Kingdom (UK), use varying combinations of gender, setting/service, income from prostitution/ sex work, working patterns and independent status. Sometimes categorisations are inconsistent across typologies, which means categories will not be mutually exclu- sive, a feature that Buzdugan et al. (2009) argue is helpful for making typologies suitable for devising programmes and interventions. This is because as long as the typology is ‘exhaustive’—another Buzdugan et al. (2009, p. 674) criterion—‘then having mutually exclusive categories simplifes the typology without sacrifcing the potential for complete programme coverage.’ Often the motivation behind sex industry typologies and categorisations is to inform services and interventions, particularly regarding sexual health; hence cat- egorising by site of solicitation and/or of the sexual service is prominent. Harcourt and Donovan (2005), for example, in seeking to inform health—particularly sexual health—interventions with people selling sexual services, reviewed 681 academic articles related to ‘prostitution’ identifed within Medline, a database of biomedi- cal journal articles. They identifed 25 types of prostitution/sex work (they use the terms ‘prostitution’ and ‘sex work’ interchangeably), which they divided frst into ‘direct’ and ‘indirect’. They describe ‘direct’ prostitution as ‘sexual services widely recognised as “prostitution” because it is clear that the primary purpose of the inter- action is to exchange sex for a fee’ (p. 201); and ‘indirect’ prostitution as activities which may not be seen by individuals selling or buying the sexual service as prosti- tution, and may or may not involve genital contact. Within ‘direct’ and ‘indirect’ sex work they divided types according to either worksite, principal mode of soliciting clients or sexual practices, with e.g. street, brothel and escort under ‘direct’, and e.g. bondage, discipline, lap dancing and ‘opportunistic’ (occasional, perhaps spur of the moment exchanges of sexual acts for money) under ‘indirect’. Belmar et al. (2018) looked at female sex workers in Santiago, Chile with the aim of supporting HIV/ STI programme planning. Based on interviews with service providers and other stakeholders, combined with ethnographic work and observation, they distinguish by venue/location in which the sexual act/service takes place. They identify these to be cafés con piernas (cofee with legs); nightclubs, topless bars and cabarets; broth- els; hotels; street and highway soliciting; massage parlours; and private residences. Buzdugan et al. (2010), meanwhile, with the aim of identifying which female sex workers in Karnataka, India are at most risk of contracting HIV, administered face- to-face questionnaires with individuals currently involved in sex work. They devised a typology based on place of both solicitation and the sex act: brothel to brothel, home to home, street to home, street to rented room, street to lodge, street to street. Many typologies only look at parts of the industry, for example particular types of sexual services. For example, Sloan and Wahab (2004); Colosi (2008) and Brad- ley-Engen and Ulmer (2009) all present typologies of erotic dance, dancers or clubs, 1 3 The Current Landscape of Prostitution and Sex Work in England… while Pitcher (2015a) focuses on ‘direct sex work’. Or the focus is on certain groups of sellers, e.g. women only, as done by Belmar et al. (2018) and Buzdugan et al. (2009) above, or men or transgender sellers only, migrants only, and so on. There are also typologies and categorisations of trafcking, including for sexual exploitation, developed for the UK (Cooper et al. 2017) and United States (Polaris Project 2017), and for buyers of sexual services in the UK (Sanders et al. 2009). Focusing on the UK, Sanders et al. (2018) identify sectors drawing on responses to an online survey, interviews and desk research. Their categories are not limited to online sex work but are limited to data gathered from individuals who advertise and/ or provide sexual services through the internet. They identify the following sectors: Independent/escorting; Agency work; Webcamming; Phone; Brothel; Street; Exotic dance; Adult flm; Modelling; Sexual massage; BDSM; Other. Brooks-Gordon et al. (2015), drawing on data from a large sex work project based in London and research on men selling sex, developed a typology within work to measure income gener- ated from prostitution. They delineate the following categories: Female street sex workers (low income); Female street sex workers (migrant); Female of street (mid- dle income); Female of street (high income); Male and Transgender (low income street); Male and Transgender (Occasional independent); Male and Transgender (regular independent); Male and Transgender (high income). Pitcher (2015a), based on a range of data sources and focusing on direct sex work, identifes four catego- ries: street-based sex workers; sex workers in commercial premises (e.g. parlours/ saunas); private/independent/agency workers; and other indoor workers/sector unknown. Our categorisation: a. draws on three main sources of data (explained in more detail in the Methods section below): (i) the experiences of individuals currently/formerly involved in the sex industry (ii) knowledge from NGOs, police, local authorities, health workers and oth- ers (iii) existing research, b. aims to look across the entire sex industry in terms of settings and services, c. includes individuals across genders, nationality, migrant status, and other char- acteristics, d. does not approach categorising through a health programming or economic lens. While there are also underage (under 18 years) individuals involved in various parts of the sex industry, who are victims of child sexual exploitation, the scope of our research and the focus of this typology is limited only to adults (18 years and older) exchanging sexual
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