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ISSUE TWO 2021 Contact Us 24/7/365 GET BACK TO THE BEING MINDFUL EAP CONSULTATION & BASICS TO FIND OF YOUR HUNGER COUNSELING: 505-254-3555 TOLL-FREE: 866-254-3555 BALANCE IN LIFE WORK-LIFE: 866-849-1695 www.solutionsbiz.com PG: 5 WORK-LIFE LOGIN: tsg PG: 2 BUILDING SOCIAL COMMUNICATING BONDS WITH YOUR CHILD PG: 6 PG: 8 Get Back to the Basics to Find Balance in Life These are exciting times. Consider how different of these seven rules of balance as operating rules life is now than it was in the past. Until the for your brain—a guide to a healthy pattern of industrial revolution in the 1800s, life was living. structured by the rhythms of day and night and 1. Balance your time alone and time spent the changing seasons. Excitement, stimulation, with people. and change were all dangerous, to be avoided. Then imbalance was a sign of danger. Too much of our contact with other people is superficial and virtual—through television, the Now contrast this with modern life. All of the internet, over cell phones, on crowded city streets, wondrous inventions—electricity, the in shopping malls. Even though you may come into automobile, the airplane, the telephone, the contact with dozens of people every day, in reality, internet—have stripped away the natural, you may be alone. Living without the calming external limits, boundaries, and structure that structure of a relationship with a person you know had dictated life in the past. Nowadays, you can and care about leads to depression, loneliness, and do anything, anywhere, with anyone at any time. frustration. Life is filled with possibilities. Balance the overstimulated loneliness of modern But this exciting, limitless life can leave you out of life by maintaining at least five close, supportive balance. Without the soothing structure that relationships. Use your natural style to build guided mankind over the ages, you can become relationships. If you like music, use it to find people. driven by instinctive mental energy. When your If you're an athlete, build relationships through nervous system senses that your life is out of sports and activities. If you're an avid reader, build balance, it cries out in alarm, as it was close relationships through a book club. The programmed to do by millions of years of antidote to today's superficial contact with people is evolution. You feel more and more stressed, to take time to build relationships based on who uneasy, and worried. you are, and your unique interests and abilities. The answer to this problem is creating a framework to achieve balance in your life. Think continued on page 3 ISSUE TWO 2021 2 Get Back to the Basics to Find Balance in Life (Contd.,) 2. Balance movement and rest. you're good at, that you rely on, and that help you to If you spend your day sitting— in a car, at a desk, in stay on track. Then, when the action starts to get fast and furious, review your skills to make sure you're front of a computer, sitting on a couch watching TV or talking on the phone—you can't feel rested and doing what's right for you. relaxed. Instead, you'll feel a gradually rising sense 4. Balance your appetites with energetic of tension and restlessness. You need healthy abstinence, creative problem solving, and movement to truly relax. planning. The human body was designed to move. The The natural human reaction to abundance is to purpose of resting is to let one gather strength and consume. For prehistoric people, this was adaptive energy to move again. If you think of the lives of our since times of abundance were rare. Appetites such prehistoric ancestors, it makes sense: You either as hunger, thirst, and sex were signals from the brain moved—to find food, water and shelter, or to that it was time to plan and take actions to satisfy escape danger—or you died. In prehistoric times, those appetites. movement was life. Now many people live in a world of abundance. A regular program of movement—walking, working There are few periods of abstinence between periods out at a gym, yoga, dance, tennis, gardening, and so of consumption. One's intuition sometimes says that forth—will dissolve the restless tension that comes the right thing to do when feeling a strong appetite is from a mentally stimulated but physically inactive to consume. But intuition is wrong in this case. state. Physiologically, when feeling the stimulation of an 3. Balance living in the moment with thinking appetite, the right thing to do is to plan an activity, about the past. carry out the activity, and then to consume. The time-saving tools available to us—automobiles, You maintain balance in the face of the abundance of mobile phones, the internet—are seductively modern life by using your mind to think, to plan, and efficient. They can draw you into a moment-to- to take action instead of to simply consume. The next moment, overstimulated, and overwhelmed kind of time you're hungry, give it a try. Go outside and existence. Before you know it, you can lose focus. weed your garden instead of eating. Or visit a friend. Or simply take a walk around your neighborhood. Keep your balance by staying focused on who you Plan an activity and substitute it for eating or are—what you've been good at and why you chose drinking when you know that your appetite is greater to do what you do. Are you doing things in ways that than your body's need. That's the path to balance. make sense for you? Are you sticking to your plans? Are you maximizing your skills and minimizing your 5. Balance thinking and feeling. risks and liabilities? Your brain works best through a dynamic balance of Get a sense of who you are. Then keep a reminder of thinking and feeling. Feeling, or emotion, is the your skills to orient you to the power of your own energy of the mind. It powers action, memory, and experience. Write down three to five activities that continued on page 4 ISSUE TWO 2021 3 Get Back to the Basics to Find Balance in Life (Contd.,) thought. When thinking is powered by feeling, lots of bright sunlight in the morning, and your life has an elegant balance—it's meaningful planning your activities so that you're most and motivating and you know why you live the stimulated early in the day and gradually calming way you do. yourself in the hours before sleep. Contrast this with the modern dilemma. Life has 7. Balance belief and doubt. become mechanized, routine, and repetitive. Too little emotion and you can become flattened, Every day you're flooded with information, demoralized, and apathetic. If you're feeling images, and ideas that demand your attention. In bothered and harassed by the inhumanity of it our electronic, media-driven culture, every all, you can lose your patience. moment of life is dissected, analyzed, and questioned. It becomes difficult to know what to Restore your balance by learning to soothe the do next. The result is worry. inevitable frustrations of living in a mechanized world. Take baths, get massages, or sing in a Belief quiets this worried state of mind. Mankind choir. Anything that calms you will do. Then find has long used religious belief as an antidote to out what matters to you. The key is to look back worry. Researchers have shown that belief in a at times in your life when you felt powerful, positive outcome can help rid you of social positive emotions. Remember what you were anxiety, depression, and panic attacks. And doing, what mattered to you then, and try to research shows that those who have firm beliefs recreate those feelings in your everyday life. generally have healthier, happier, and more successful lives. 6. Balance sleep and waking hours. Balance the cynical worrying of modern life by Balancing sleep and wakefulness is critical. You following some practices that strengthen your need the right amount of sleep to refresh the ability to believe. Learn to talk positively to energy and vitality of your body and mind. yourself and reflect on images of success. Pray if It happened naturally in the past. Without you are religious. Accept guidance. Learn to electricity, people slept when it grew dark—in follow the wisdom of leaders. And follow balance with the cycle of day and night, in cycle reassuring ritual—whether it's going to church or with the seasons. Now it is a 24/7 world and reading stories to your children at bedtime. Ritual people are losing touch with the basic biologic strengthens your belief by reminding you of the need for sleep. simple but powerful truths of life. Balance sleep and wakefulness by finding out just Follow the seven rules of balance and you'll find how much sleep you need. Keep a chart to natural pathways within yourself to live a healthy discover what amount of sleep feels best. Then and meaningful life. Apply these principles to get that amount of sleep. Train your sleep cycle truly enjoy the excitement, possibilities and by sticking to a regular time for waking, getting passion of life. Sorgi, P. J. (Revised 2019). Get back to the basics to find balance in life (L. Zereski & B. Schuette, Eds.). Raleigh, NC: Workplace Options. ISSUE TWO 2021 4 Being Mindful of Your Hunger Without even realizing it, most people eat without much thought. When you do this, however, you tend to overeat, and you often miss the joy in eating — compelling you to eat more.