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6 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 MMessageessage From Our Rabbinic Consultant R’ Yoel Schonfeld Gehinom open before him. Rav S.R. Hirsch explains that what was so horrifying to Yitzchak was that he saw how easily he was deceived by a silly charade. This drove home tail that wags the dog in the Democratic Party. At The Gates Of Gehinom to him that his whole assessment of Eisav, as She, too, has a deep sympathy for the Pales- CONTINUED FROM P. 1 does not mean the evil person as depicted in in contrast to Rivkah’s, was wrong. He had tinians and their terrorist ways. the Maxwell House Hagadah. It’s not the bad come to realize that he was more naïve than Until recently, it was acceptable to say that a knife. The young man went into quick ac- boy with the boxing gloves about to punch he thought he was. Just as he was deceived so criticism of Israel and the support for BDS tion and started reciting a brachah for kiddu- anybody in his way. A rasha is a person who easily by Yaakov, he could have been as easily against Israel was legitimate and had noth- sh Hashem, sanctifying G-d’s name, through has deviated from the norms of Jewish life, deceived by Eisav. A major component of his ing to do with anti-Semitism. Anti-Semitism martyrdom, which he was about to undergo. who on the balance of things does not come belief system was in error. However, Yitzchak found a skirt to hide behind. Then, newly The Arab, startled at the strange sight, began up with a positive ledger sheet. This is quite did learn his lesson. The wicked do not. elected Congresswoman Ilhan Omar forgets to withdraw and run away. The yeshivah boy, herself for a moment and makes fun of the seeing this, motioned the Arab to quickly re- Jews and their “Benjamins,” i.e., $100-bills. turn to him and cried out, “Nu, nu… hefsek!” I would like to ask these critics, which included an Orthodox Classic stereotypical trope against the Jews. – meaning that I can’t allow for a disruption Not anti-Zionism. Not anti-Occupation. Raw between the brachah and the mitzvah. rabbinic colleague from Queens: “Are you happy now?” anti-Semitism. The mask came off. Some people get so caught up in their After a bit of an uproar from both parties, commitments that they fail to see the overall she issued a half-baked apology of expressing picture unfolding before them. clear from the Ramban (Nachmanides, Shaar We have been facing an awful reality in sorrow for the remarks, but she claimed that Occasionally, we come across a saying of HaG’mul), and other classic commentators political life. Whereas danger lurks for the we still need to be critical of AIPAC for buying the Chazal (our Talmudic sages) that, at fi rst on the defi nition of rasha as it pertains to Jews in the extreme right, we at least know their infl uence. A big fat “Yes, but…” glance, seems to defy all logic. An example Hashem’s judgment policies during the Days that it has not become mainstream to date The repercussions? Basically none. Unlike is the saying of the Chazal (Eiruvin 19a) that of Awe. in this country. The danger for Jews coming Republican Congressman Steve King, who “R’sha’im, afi lu b’pischo shel Gehinom einam What the Rabbis are telling us is that once from the left has become mainstream. Two was immediately removed from his commit- chozrin bi’t’shuvah–The wicked do not repent a person is set in his ways and has developed Muslim women with an avowed hatred for tee assignments by his fellow Republicans for even at the gates of purgatory.” Here too we a fi rm belief in his own doctrine about the Israel and Zionism have become enthusiasti- White Supremacy remarks, Ms. Omar remains are left wondering: Could this be? Could the truths of life, it becomes nearly impossible cally elected to Congress as Democrats. Like with hers on the Foreign Relations Commit- Rabbis be telling us that with the fi ery fur- to back off from his belief system even as Amaleik, they broke ground and have made tee. Mealy-mouthed apology accepted; let’s nace of Gehinom raging in front of them, the the disastrous effects of that system scream it acceptable to sanction hatred against Israel move on. President Trump took note of her wicked will not change their evil ways? Hard before him. This could be true even of good in the halls of Congress. Another lunatic left- to believe. people who have erred. In B’reishis (37:33) we ist from right here in Queens has become the CONTINUED ON P. 20 However, as we move along in life, we see are told of Yitzchak’s reaction when learn- the truth and profundity of this statement. ing that he was deceived by Yaakov, who Rabbi Yoel Schonfeld is the Rabbi of the Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills, Vice President First, it must be understood that in halachic masqueraded as Eisav. “And Isaac trembled of the Coalition for Jewish Values, former President of the Vaad Harabonim of Queens, and the literature, when the term rasha is used, it greatly.” Rashi comments that Yitzchak saw Rabbinic Consultant for the Queens Jewish Link.

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The very next day, she gathered up her pearls and valuable jewelry and took them to the The Rebbe became pensive, lost in thought The Sparkling Coins marketplace. There she found a merchant who for a few moments. Then he turned to Gavriel was willing to give her the required sum of and spoke. “Our Sages teach us that of all the money. The exchange was made, and Chana gold, silver, and copper the Jewish people do- ashi references the Midrash Tanchuma es whenever he was called upon. However, in Rivka came home with a bag full of coins. She nated to build the Mishkan, nothing shone that explains the story behind the Ki- the last few months, hard times and persecu- then scoured and polished the coins till they with the unparalleled brilliance of the Kiyor, Ryor (washbasin). When Moshe asked tion had fallen upon him and decimated his sparkled, and with a heartfelt prayer that their the brass washbasin and its stand.” R’ Shneur Bnei Yisrael to donate materials for the build- fortune. Additionally, his marriage of 25 years fortune should also begin to shine, she packed Zalman looked deeply into the eyes of his disci- ing of the Mishkan, the women came to Moshe to a righteous woman named Chana Rivka had up the coins in a tidy sack. When Gavriel came ple. “Tell me,” asked the Rebbe, “where did you with the copper mirrors they had used to yielded no children, and this, too, caused him a home that evening, she handed the sack to her get these unusual coins?” make themselves desirable to their husbands great deal of distress and consternation. speechless husband and told him to bring it to Gavriel told the Rebbe of his plight and how in Egypt as donations for the construction his wife, Chana Rivka, had raised the money. of the Mishkan. Moshe was at fi rst reluctant The Rebbe rested his head on his hand to accept these “vanity” items because they He opened the package and a bright light shone forth; the coins and was lost for a long while in profound had been used for the purpose of physical in- glistened with an extraordinary brilliance, and all who beheld the thought. Then, raising his head, he blessed timacy; however, Hashem told him, “Accept Gavriel and his wife with children, long them! Their donation is more beloved to me sight were left breathless years, riches, and extraordinary grace. He told than anything else already given. Through their Gavriel to close his business in Vitebsk and use the women established legions of children Most people were unaware of Gavriel’s fi - the Rebbe. Gavriel did as he was told. to deal with diamonds and precious stones. while in Egypt!” Those same mirrors were used nancial diffi culties, as he did not wish for the When he came to the Alter Rebbe, Gavriel The blessing was wholly fulfi lled. Gavriel for the construction of the Kiyor. world at large to know of his plight. The gab- placed the package of coins in front of the was beloved in people’s eyes and he became In the days of the Alter Rebbe, R’ Shneur baim of the Baal HaTanya had evaluated Gavriel Rebbe on the table. At the Rebbe’s request he known as Gavriel “Nosei Chein” (the grace- Zalman of Liadi, zt”l (Baal HaTanya), there to be a rich man and “estimated” him as being opened the package and a bright light shone ful). He was soon a wealthy man and the fa- were many incidents involving Jewish prison- capable of donating a particularly large sum. forth; the coins glistened with an extraordinary ther of sons and daughters. 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R' Dani Staum No More Bliss!

ur yeshivah, Heichal HaTorah, em- icy morning, and it took some time to clean barked on a special project to compile off the car. The roads were also slick, and I had Oour own yeshivah siddur. The siddur to drive more slowly than usual. By the time I will, b’ezras Hashem, include insights and ex- picked everyone up and drove to Yeshiva, we planations from our talmidim and rebbeim. were a few minutes late to davening. As I was It’s quite an undertaking, but it has already davening with the yeshivah, I quickly donned had a positive effect in elevating the focus of my talis and t’fi lin. But I realized that I was go- the students towards something that plays ing to have to skip most of P’sukei D’Zimrah such a vital role in our lives, and to which we in order to catch up. I never liked doing that, devote so much time to each day. but on Monday I found that I was more upset I warned our students that there is a very about it than I had been in the past. signifi cant drawback to this project, because Having worked on the siddur for the last it will generate frustration and, at times, guilt. few weeks, I have personally learned many

When one isn’t aware of the significance or deeper meaning, it doesn’t seem like such a big deal to miss a few paragraphs

Years ago, when I was a student, one of my new insights about the structure of t’fi lah and danger of learning about something is that people disregard it.” Like all invaluable com- teachers was frustrated with the ignorance of the rich depth and meaning behind every par- you start to realize the wisdom behind it. modities, appreciating t’fi lah is the result of our class about what was being taught, and agraph, and how they were precisely enacted Ignorance is indeed bliss. But far more an investment of effort to ascertain it. But exasperatedly quoted the famous line that ig- by the sages throughout the ages. There are blissful is the one who garners wisdom and is since prayer is key to the fulfi llment of our norance is bliss. When one of my classmates numerous lecture series on t’fi lah from vari- able to bask in it. hopes, it’s well worth the investment. It’s a asked what bliss means, the teacher replied, ous rabbanim that literally offer full classes The Gemara says that t’fi lah is something relatively small deposit that allows for major “and that’s exactly what I’m talking about!” on one single phrase from davening. that “stands at the height of the world, but constant withdrawals. This past Monday, Presidents’ Day, our Suddenly, missing out on a t’fi lah feels like children’s school district did not provide bus a signifi cant loss. Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW, is a rebbe and guidance counselor at Heichal HaTorah in Te- service, and it was our family’s turn to drive When one isn’t aware of the signifi cance aneck, NJ, Principal at Mesivta Ohr Naftoli of New Windsor, and a division head at Camp the Shaarei Torah minyan carpool for our or deeper meaning, it doesn’t seem like such Dora Golding. He can be reached at [email protected]. Looking for periodic powerful tenth-grade son Shalom. It was a snowy and a big deal to miss a few paragraphs. But the inspiration? Join Rabbi Staum’s new Whatsapp group “Striving Higher.” Email for more info.

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“He made the wash basin of copper and Chazal tell us he was the greatest human who they come from different cultures, maybe This separation and lack of interest con- its base of copper, from the mirrors of the ever existed. For forty days, he lived like an even different planets. It isn’t that they are so- tinues until puberty when something re- women who gathered at the entrance to the angel – without food, drink, or sleep – and cialized or trained differently; it is that their markable happens: The boys become very Ohel Moed.” learned the entire Torah. Yet he looked at inner makeup is fundamentally different. interested in the girls, and the girls become – Sh’mos 38:8 these mirrors with disgust until Hashem told As an example, studies show that when very interested in the boys. It isn’t that their ***** him that they were actually the most precious asked, “Who is your best friend?” three-year- differences have disappeared. Quite the op- gift given. How is it possible that Moshe was old boys are as likely to name a girl as their posite, they are even stronger now, but there The Mirrors Are the Most Precious of so off in his understanding? best friend as they are a boy. At that age, are powerful forces developing within them Gifts mixed gender friendships are quite common. that pull them to each other – attraction and The Torah specifi es that the Wash Basin in Boys and Girls Are Different Yet, by the time this same group of children infatuation. the Mishkan was made of copper taken from The answer to this question can be found are fi ve years old, only 20 percent will have a the mirrors that the women brought as dona- by watching little children at play in the lo- best friend from the opposite gender. By the Why Did Hashem Create This State of tions. Rashi explains that by telling us where cal public school yard. The girls will be off time they are seven, it is almost nonexistent Infatuation? the copper came from, the Torah is teaching a Hashem created these entities so that signifi cant lesson. man and woman could marry. If it weren’t Moshe Rabbeinu was appalled by the idea To allow man and woman to create a successful union, Hashem for these forces, a successful marriage would of using mirrors in the Mishkan, because they put various forces into the person – attraction and infatuation are never exist. To ask two individuals, vastly dif- were used to enhance a woman’s beauty, ferent in nature, outlook, and temperament which is a source for the yeitzer ha’ra. Yet some of them to live as one – this would never happen – it Hashem said that not only should they be would be impossible. used, they were the most precious of all the on one side of the yard playing jump rope or for a boy to have a best friend who is girl, or To allow man and woman to create a suc- items that were donated. In fact, the very rea- hopscotch, while the boys will be off on the for a girl to have a best friend who is a boy – cessful union, Hashem put various forces into son Hashem wanted them to be used in the other side playing tag or touch football. Even because by then they have almost nothing in Mishkan was that the women used them to though the classes are mixed, in play it is rare common. CONTINUED ON P. 22 beautify themselves and attract their hus- to fi nd boys and girls together. bands. The reason for this is that boys and girls Born and bred in Kew Gardens Hills, R’ Ben Tzion Shafier joined the Choftez Chaim Ye- are different. They have different interests, shiva after high school. Shortly thereafter he got married and moved with his new family to How Could Moshe Rabbeinu Have Been desires, and value systems. They are different Rochester, where he remained in for 12 years. R’ Shafi er then moved to Monsey, NY, where he So Mistaken? in the way they behave, relate to each other, was a Rebbe in the new Chofetz Chaim branch there for three years. Upon the Rosh Yeshiva’s The diffi culty with this Rashi is how could and communicate. In fact, boys and girls are request, he stopped teaching to devote his time to running Tiferes Bnei Torah. R” Shafi er, a Moshe Rabbeinu have been so mistaken? so different that you would almost assume happily married father of six children, currently resides in Monsey.

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magine that you are on a train, heading what is the deeper meaning of Shabbos? towards your destination. You look to In order to answer all of our questions, KEYNOTE SPEAKER: Iyour right and see a fellow passenger. we need to fi rst understand the difference Rabbi Hershel Schachter Attempting to be friendly, you kindly ask between Olam HaZeh – This World – and him where he is heading. He shrugs his Olam HaBa – the World to Come. Rosh Yeshiva and Rosh Kollel, RIETS shoulders and says, “I don’t know.” You do Followed by a panel discussion: a double take, and ask again. He repeats, This World and the Next Talmud Torah in the 21st Century “I’m just riding the train. I don’t know Olam HaZeh – the world we live in – is where I’m going.” At this point, you begin the place of process. In This World, you get to wonder if this guy is out of his mind. to choose who you will become. Every sin- Who goes on a train without a destination gle day presents you a new opportunity to in mind? become even greater than you were the day However, if you go over to your average before. This world is therefore the place of person on the street and ask him the same movement and becoming, where we pro- question, “Where are you going in life? gress down our personal path of change What’s your ultimate destination?”, he will and growth. Olam HaBa – the World to give you a similar answer. He’ll shrug and Come – in contrast, is the place of being, say, “I don’t know.” However, if the absence where you experience everything you have of a defi ned destination for something as built in this life. No longer can we move simple as a train ride is so clearly absurd, or become, no longer can we build. Rather, Rabbi Aryeh Mrs. Chaya Batya Lebowitz Neugroschl how can we fail to treat life the same way? we experience a static world, lacking both Life, the most important journey we will movement and process, where we enjoy Landers College for Men Head of School Fall 2019 Incoming YU High School for Girls ever take, must surely require a clearly everything we created during our lives in Director of Semikha defi ned and meaningful destination. This this world. Program, RIETS

The joy of this world is the ability to grow, to learn, to become week’s parshah, VaYakhel, opens with the The joy of this world is the ability to command to keep Shabbos. Since Shabbos grow, to learn, to become. The pain is that takes up one seventh of our entire lives, let it is limited; we are only in this world for us try to gain a deeper understanding of a short period of time and then we leave. this unique and beautiful day. The joy of the World to Come is the ecstat- Rabbi Shay Rabbi Moshe ic enjoyment of everything we’ve built dur- Schachter Tzvi Weinberg Shabbos Is Fundamental ing our lifetime. The pain is that it’s only Rosh Bais Medrash Rebbe and Mashgiach It is striking to consider how funda- that, nothing more. All the potential we Young Israel of Woodmere Ruchani, Stone Beit mental Shabbos is in Jewish thought. failed to actualize will remain eternally so, Midrash Program and Shabbos is included amongst the Aseres merely potential. Mashpia, Congregation Beth Abraham HaDibros, the Ten Commandments, which This can be compared to a person who are viewed not only as uniquely important, is given a pile of clay and one hour to mold but, as Rashi explains, are the root catego- it. During that hour, he can create anything ries that contain all the other mitzvos. Fur- he wants, impress any form he desires into Sunday, March 3, 2019 thermore, the punishment for desecrating the clay. After the hour, the clay is taken Shabbos is not just death, but s’kilah, ston- and placed into the kiln and whatever 9:30–11:30 a.m. ing. According to most opinions, this is the form he created during that hour will re- most severe of the four death penalties. To main forever. So too, we receive a lifetime compound the point, when we consider in this world to mold ourselves. During Yeshiva University • Wilf Campus whether or not someone is an observant our time here, we have the free will to cre- Furst Hall, Suite 501 Jew, we usually ask whether he or she is ate ourselves, to grow. Once we leave this “shomer Shabbos,” Sabbath observant. Why world, we remain forever as the beings RSVP at www.yu.edu/YUTorahApp is this the defi ning feature of religious ob- that we created. Open to Men and Women servance? What’s important to realize, though, is Complimentary Parking and Refreshments Available that the reward in the World to Come is not Last Day of the Seforim Sale A Taste of Olam HaBa? merely an external reward, some “goodie” In a very enigmatic and cryptic manor, given to you in exchange for the good deeds the Gemara in B’rachos 57a compares Shab- you performed. Rather, the reward is in fact bos to Olam HaBa – the World to Come. you, the consciousness and self that you cre- The exact terminology is “mei’ein Olam ated during your lifetime. As the Ramchal HaBa” – Shabbos is a taste of the World to Come. Once again, we are left to wonder, CONTINUED ON P. 21

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Heavy Machinery The pastry chef at Enter Through the Do- Creates World’s Largest nut Shop in Miami Beach said the Gold Cris- tal Ube Donut is loaded with luxurious ingre- Game Of Jenga dients. “It’s created from a base of ube, which is a sweet purple yam from the Philippines,” he said. “Within the ube mousse we suspend lit- tle bits of Cristal gelee, basically Jell-O shots made from Cristal. We cover it with Cristal ic- ing. I airbrush it with some gold, and then I guild it with about with six to nine sheets of edible gold,” he said. The doughnuts run $100 apiece, or $1,000 for a dozen. “I thought at the beginning it was gonna be a bit extra like, ‘He’s just trying to show off,’ but no, it’s actually super good. It’s not construction equipment manufactur- greasy. It’s not heavy. I don’t feel bad eating it er used two of its large machines to at all,” one customer commented. Aset a Guinness World Record for the largest game of Jenga. Chad Cremeens, fi eld operations manager Wooden Beam Falls From of Caterpillar, conducted the world record at- tempt as part of the company’s educational Subway Platform In Queens, initiative. The attempt featured two excavators, a tel- Impales SUV ehandler, a multi-terrain loader, and a mate- rial handler being used to manipulate the 27 laminated pine beams, which each measured 8 feet long, 2 feet and 8 inches wide and 1 foot and 4 inches high. Each block weighed about 600 pounds. Cremeens said a lot of planning went into the attempt, including numerous safety con- siderations. “Just like a real job sight, we had to make sure that everyone would remain safe while driver is lucky to be alive after a large keeping production quality high,” he said. wooden beam fell from an elevated The game went on for 28 hours and ended Asubway platform and crashed through up with 13 layers, for a maximum height of his windshield. about 20 feet. The Uber and Lyft ride-share driver said he “When we were conceptualizing unique was driving underneath the 7 train line last ways, we could showcase Cat machines at Wednesday afternoon in Woodside when the work and someone suggested a game of Jen- beam crashed down through his windshield. Absolutely! Dr stern offers ga, the room erupted in excitement,” said Cat- He said the beam could have killed some- responsible, quick, easy, and erpillar Brand’s creative director. one if they had been sitting in the passenger usually painless implants “Hasbro and Caterpillar have long recog- seat, but he escaped with a minor arm injury with lasers nized and celebrated ‘the builders’ among us, and some cuts from the shattered glass. nd eas and this project was a natural fi t,” he said. The MTA said the investigation is ongoing, t a y r s ec but the beam is believed to have fallen from Fa o v e a worker or supply platform installed under Advanced laser r technology y Florida Shop’s $100 the tracks. The tracks and station appeared to

O v have not been damaged in the incident and e r 3 Doughnut Contains Gold, 0 subway service was not interrupted. y ea ce rs experien The MTA said crews are inspecting other Cristal Champagne elevated platforms to make sure there are no other loose beams being stored where they could fall. “We take this incident extremely seriously, are conducting a full investigation into what happened, have personnel ensuring the rest of the area is safe, and are relieved that no one was injured,” the MTA said in a statement. Vegan Bride-To-Be Bans Meat Eaters From Her Wedding vegan bride-to-be’s unusual wedding stipulation is going viral after she re- vealed that she uninvited all meat eat- USA: 16007 55st Brooklyn - N.Y. Teel: 71188-305-5480 A Florida doughnut shop is celebrating ers from the ceremony - including her own Jerusallem: Usssishkin 557, Tel: 02-6258258 Drr. Geddaalliaahh Morddecchhaaii its grand opening with a $100 dough- mother. Websitte: immplanttsanddlasers-r--us.coom nut containing 24-karat gold and Cris- E-maiill: [email protected] A tal champagne. CONTINUED ON P. 16

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CONTINUED FROM P. 14 Is Loit want to host murderers,” she wrote. “Our wedding is supposed to be one of the happi- est days of our lives.” He tried using soap and water to get Bam The woman said the banned family mem- Bam’s head unstuck, but when they were un- bers include her mother and two cousins who successful they took him to a veterinarian. were originally slated to be bridesmaids. “I’ve never seen a dog stuck in a tire,” said One of the woman’s cousins responded to an Orange County veterinary specialist. “This the post, saying she and other family mem- is defi nitely a fi rst I think for all of us. I don’t bers were shocked and heartbroken to have think even the fi refi ghters had seen anything their invitations revoked. like it.” The woman then deleted her post, but not The veterinarian ended up calling Orange before screenshots spread across the Internet. the object. County Fire Authority for help. The dog’s owner said he was inside his The crew was able to cut through the tire The 20-year-old Australian woman wrote home when he heard his husky, Bam Bam, let and free Bam Bam, who was not seriously in- in a now-viral post in a Facebook group called Firefighters Rescue Dog With out a distressed bark from outside. jured. “Vegan Revolution” that she banned all omni- He went outside and discovered Bam Bam vores from her wedding ceremony, including Head Stuck In Spare Tire had gotten his head stuck in the middle of a her own family. irefi ghters in California cut through a spare tire. Owner Reunited With “Some family members were told they are spare tire to rescue a dog who managed “The tire was on him fl at and curving his Parrot After Proving not invited to my wedding because we don’t Fto get his head stuck in the middle of neck,” the owner said. She Speaks Slovak

parrot found at an Irish airport was re- turned to her rightful owner after he Awas able to prove that the wayward bird speaks Slovak. The Dublin Airport launched a campaign to fi nd the bird’s owner after it was found by a worker during a runway inspection last Sunday. The Irish wing of Lidl supermarkets said on Twitter that a missing parrot poster in one of its stores appeared to show the same African gray. The airport said returning the parrot to its owner was complicated by the fact that four people had come forward to attempt to claim the bird. The man who put up the poster in the su- permarket was able to prove his claim, how- ever, when he told offi cials the parrot, named Hugo, knows some words in Slovak. Animal experts played some Slovak voice recordings for Hugo and confi rmed that the man was the rightful owner. “When the voice recording was sent to me and I played it for Hugo she reacted instantly and became animated and excited,” a repre- sentative of the animal foundation that was in possession of the bird said. The owner was reunited with Hugo and al- lowed to take her home. “As soon as the carrier was opened, Hugo jumped onto his owner’s arm and cuddled into his neck. You could see they have a really close bond, it was lovely,” the representative said.

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CONTINUED FROM P. 16 tempt at a gym. Hastings said the event raised money for the school where his son and Ontario Man Puts 14-year-old daughter attend. Hastings said after putting on the 260 On 260 Shirts For Guinness shirts - three more than the previous record - that the experience was “generally awful.” World Record “I think around a hundred shirts mark Bob Lempa, the man behind the proposal, it felt like it was possible. And said he had originally planned the stunt for around the 150-shirt mark, I Valentine’s Day, but he was foiled by a lack thought it was one of the dumb- of snow. er things I’ve signed up for in a Lempa instead ended up etching the huge long time,” he said. letters last Tuesday, in a spot he knew would He said the weight of the be visible from the 37th fl oor of the building shirts became constricting as where his girlfriend Peggy would be at work. Nina Harris said her husband, Allan, told their mass grew. “I had been by Maggie Daley Park a num- her in the early morning on Valentine’s Day “You have to assume that each ber of times just getting the feel of where I that her gift had arrived. shirt is roughly a pound when could do it, how big it would have to be, be- “When I got up, I had my fi rst cup of cof- you’re talking about shirts from cause Peggy’s on the 37th fl oor so I knew it fee, and he said, ‘Oh, your turnips are here!’ 10 XL up to 20 XL,” Hastings said. had to be big to be seen,” Lempa said. And I said, ‘Turnips?!’” Harris said. A Guinness World Records ad- Peggy, who accepted the proposal, said the Harris said she had told Allan the previous judicator was on hand to certify big message came as a huge surprise. night that she wanted tulips for Valentine’s n Ontario man donned 260 T-shirts at the record. The record-keeping organization “Other people had noticed it earlier but I Day. the same time to raise money for his congratulated Hastings on Twitter. hadn’t noticed it until I saw a few other peo- “He wasn’t paying attention,” she recalled. Achildren’s school and break a Guin- ple looking out the window, so I knew some- “He just said ‘Yes, I know.’” ness World Record. thing was going on but I really didn’t know it Allan admitted he wasn’t paying close at- Ted Hastings said he was fl ipping through Chicago Man’s Big Proposal would be for me,” she said. “It was so huge, tention to his wife’s words and thought she a Guinness Book of World Records with his and a big and bold statement.” was asking for turnips for her garden. 11-year-old son when they came across the re- Draws Attention Downtown “I went and got the bucket and put the tur- cord for most T-shirts worn at one time. Chicago man’s marriage proposal nips in the bucket that says ‘I love you’ on it,” “Not wanting to disappoint my son, we set gained the attention of more than just Confused Husband Buys Wife Allan said. “I went in there, got her coffee - out to fi gure out, fi rst, what record we could Ahis girlfriend when he spelled out the and here you go!” possibly attempt. And then the steps involved words in giant letters in a park. Turnips Instead Of Tulips The remorseful husband said he ended up and stumbled into this t-shirt one,” Hastings The huge message, “MARRY ME,” was Kentucky man’s confusion is going vi- also getting Nina some tulips, plus candy and said. spelled out in the snowy grass of Maggie Da- ral after his wife revealed that he got balloons. He said he ordered shirts up to 20 XL from ley Park in downtown Chicago, using 45-feet- Aher turnips instead of tulips for Valen- Nina Harris said her husband is lucky that India and made plans to hold the record at- tall and 31-feet-wide letters. tine’s Day. she likes root vegetables.

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hroughout the course of history, peo- Unfortunately, this is not new to American ple have used their attire to portray culture. This is the exact same response the Ttheir beliefs. From various types of to- American public had to the hijab, post-9/11. gas in Rome to traditional kimonos in Japan, Following the tragic events, Americans turned clothing has always been the way individuals their scorn towards the Muslim population. presented their role in society. Outward ap- Muslims were unjustly vilifi ed for their roles pearance is how fi rst impressions are made. in the terror attacks. Hate crimes against Mus- What you wear is the way people are initially lims rose at an astonishing clip. According judged. Over the last several decades, it has be- to the National Archive of Criminal Justice, come increasingly easier to outwardly display there were over 20 hate crimes committed beliefs. Printed t-shirts are much cheaper and against Muslims on 9/12/01. This unwarranted nists, and they must be stopped regardless of weren’t available in Chicago, and I guess Ama- easier to create and distribute. Tattoos have and evil backlash lasted for several years after means. It has become so polarizing that the zon doesn’t do overnight shipping anymore. become more acceptable, and are how many the events, and according to the FBI, the rates mere fact that a student was wearing the hat So now, not only are MAGA hats a problem, individuals choose to express themselves to are back on the rise. The year 2015 marked the proved to the country that a teenager was all red baseball caps are potentially triggering the point where one can almost literally wear highest level of anti-Muslim hate crimes since guilty of a hate crime for existing, the exact racist memorabilia. one’s heart on one’s sleeve. 2001, at 257. feelings we tried to quash post-9/11. This clas- This is asinine. If you feel threatened by sifi cation of the MAGA hat is so strong that the MAGA hat, despite nothing actually hap- in January, actor Jussie Smollett, who alleg- pening, you are just as much a bigot as the The same people who fought so ardently at the time to not treat Muslims edly orchestrated his own hate crime against person who is scared by the hijab, or the one differently because of their attire are now calling the MAGA hat a symbol of hate himself, felt it necessary that the attackers be who crosses the street when he or she sees wearing MAGA hats at the time of the attack, a black man approaching, or the one who just to play into the stereotype. CBS Chicago thinks there are horns beneath my yarmulke. However, historically, the widest use of I was a sophomore in high school during reported that the two men linked to the at- If you don’t see the hypocrisy in defending clothing as expression has been religion. the 9/11 attacks; and by the time I got to col- tack were buying red caps the day before the the hijab while defaming the MAGA hat, you While it may not be required or even neces- lege, it was fi ve years after the attacks. And de- incident. Why red caps? Because MAGA hats are part of the problem. sary for all those who practice a religion, each spite how long it had been since the attacks, faith has some sort of dress code. Buddhist due to the climate of the country, I had pro- Izzo Zwiren works in healthcare administration, constantly concerning himself with the monks wear orange robes. Catholic priests fessors who still felt it necessary to explain state of healthcare politics. The topic of healthcare has led Izzo to become passionate about wear a collar, while the cardinals wear red how wrong it was to vilify an entire people a variety of political issues affecting our country today. Aside from politics, Izzo is a fan of robes. Sikh gurus wear turbans. Muslim wom- because of their religious beliefs. They ex- trivia, stand-up comedy, and the New York Giants. Izzo lives on Long Island with his wife and en wear hijabs, and Jews have a plethora of plained at the time that to be scared of some- two adorable, hilarious daughters. religious garments including yarmulkes, shei- one because she is wearing a hijab is blatant tels, and tzitzis. racism. That person you see walking down While religious garb has been around for the street did not do anything wrong, and as long as religion has, political garb is much shouldn’t be maligned for any reason. This is newer. Only in the last century have there absolutely true. Despite the fact that the hijab been buttons that people purchase at politi- elicited fear in many New Yorkers at the time, cal conventions and t-shirts bearing the slo- we were correctly told that our fear doesn’t gan of your candidate of choice. Other po- take precedence over their right to freedom litical apparel has become the norm, as well. of religion, association, and expression. Women can now wear pink hats to show However, the same people who fought so their allegiances and the Antifa movement ardently at the time to not treat Muslims dif- has its own friendly uniform where “activ- ferently because of their attire are now call- ists” wear scarves and ski masks; perhaps the ing the MAGA hat a symbol of hate. In addi- most controversial outerwear of our time, the tion to the articles I quoted above, NPR, MSN, “Make America Great Again” hat is worn by The Boston Globe, and The Washington Post all Trump supporters. have prominent contributors explaining why A few weeks ago, the MAGA hat became the MAGA hat has become a symbol of hate. the talk of the country when, on the steps of Let’s take a look at the way The Washington the Lincoln Memorial, a group of Catholic stu- Post fashion critic Robin Givhan described dents stood and smirked at a Native American the bright red hat: “The hat has become a man while the latter played a drum. As Moshe symbol of us vs. them, of exclusion and sus- Solution to this issue’s puzzles Hill explained in his article last month in the picion, of garrulous narcissism, of white male 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 L I P S S T E P O B A M A Queens Jewish Link, “The True Sins of the Cov- privilege, of violence and hate. For minorities 14 15 16 ington Catholic Students,” the greatest crime and the disenfranchised, it can spark a kind of A VIA V ETO C UBAN 17 18 19 of these students was wearing a MAGA hat in gut-level disgust that brings ancestral ghosts M ELBOURNE A DARS 20 21 22 23 public. They threw no punches, and they said to the fore. Here, in 2019, their painful past B READ M ATH A TIE nothing disrespectful; they didn’t even turn is present.” 24 25 26 27 their backs. They were caught being Trump Let’s take that exact statement and use it B OTS A P PEAL 28 29 30 31 32 supporters. Over the next few weeks, the to describe the way many felt after 9/11. “The N E W ARK G I JOE 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 public vitriol turned away from the students hijab has become a symbol of us vs. them, of A MI S TARS E SSE S and against the MAGA hat. CNN ran with the terrorism, of religious bigotry, of male domi- 40 41 42 43 44 headline, “Why Trump’s MAGA hats have be- nance, of violence and hate. For Americans as D ISC S EOUL T EST 45 46 47 48 49 come a potent symbol of racism.” Activist a whole and New Yorkers specifi cally, it can A TEAM P ASUK A AA 50 51 52 53 Alyssa Milano claimed the MAGA hat to be spark a kind of gut-level disgust that brings vi- P AL IN B EIRUT the new “white hood.” Harry Potter actor and sions of panic to the fore. Here, in 2001, their 54 55 56 57 P A R EVE W EBS long-time New England Patriots fan Daniel pain is present.” This is evil, but for some rea- 58 59 60 61 62 63 64 65 Radcliffe decided that because Tom Brady has son tolerated in modern society. H EAT O M A R A SEA T 66 67 68 69 a MAGA hat in his locker, he would back the The implication of this is obvious. If some- I TYOU E DINBURGH Los Angeles Rams in this year’s Super Bowl. one is wearing a MAGA hat, he is a threat to 70 71 72 S NOWS N ATE E URO Everywhere you turn, people are being at- your physical well-being. These hats are worn 73 74 75 tacked for wearing a hat. exclusively by racists, bigots, and misogy- H ANNA D YED D VAR

Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 19 FForor WWhathat It’s Worth Warren S. Hecht A Night At The Garden ighty years ago, on February 20, 1939, that could hold such a crowd. In 1939, not a rally was held by the German Bund only did the New York Rangers play there as Ein Madison Square Garden. It was ad- today, but it was used for the circus and col- vertised as a “pro-American rally.” About fi ve lege basketball tournaments, including the minutes of video from the rally was made fi nals of the NIT (before the founding of the from the book are missing. litical refugees on the shores of the United into a short fi lm by Marshall Curry called NCAA tournament or the NBA). Typical comments include: “I call upon States.” A Night in the Garden. It is easily accessible In Germany, there were already concentra- you to join us in the battle for a socially-just Unfortunately, their goal of limiting Jew- on aNightAtTheGarden.com. On the website tion camps and the Nuremberg Laws. It was economically really-stabilized fi nancially in- ish migration during the war was successful, there is an audio from part of the German- only three months after Kristallnacht and dependent Jew-free America.” “The Gentile with dire costs to the Jewish community in American Bund leader’s speech and edited Germany had occupied the Saar, Austria, and American worker is being sold down the river the loss of lives. This indicates that although transcript of remarks made at the rally. the Sudetenland. Jews were trying to get out by International Jewish Interests.” “Every their tactics and rhetoric offended many, Curry said he became interested in the top- of Europe, especially from Germany. prominent Jewish organization is an outpost some of their ideas were shared by a signifi - ic as a result of the White Supremist march cant portion of the population. in Charlottesville. I am not going get into The event was reported by the media in- whether tactics of certain individuals today This is a piece of history, like the streets with names of Nazi leaders such cluding the New York Times, but then faded mask those done by the participants at the as Adolf Hitler in Yaphank, Long Island, that people felt was better to sweep out of view for many years. This is a piece of rally. Instead I will examine the rally, includ- history, like the streets with names of Nazi ing what occurred, in historical context. under the rug leaders such as Adolf Hitler in Yaphank, Long There is no defi nitive determination as to Island, that people felt was better to sweep the Jewish population in New York in 1939. Despite this, 22,000 people came to a rally. for world rulership from the Zionists and the under the rug. The leader of the German- Estimates include 1,785,000 and 1,994,500. The background of the stage consisted of an American Jewish Congress down.” “And as re- American Bund who said he wanted to re- The population of New York City based on enormous picture of George Washington sur- gards the press, the same Jewish control ob- main in America was later deported for fi nan- the 1940 census was 8,300,000. Therefore, rounded by American fl ags. The members in tains.” “The press, the radio and the cinema cial crimes. not only was the Jewish community in New the audience used the Nazi salute and some are in the hands of the Jews.” “The only ever Even today there is controversy about the York City a signifi cant number, but it was a wore or had fl ags with Swastikas. homeless Parasite…is the Jew.” fi lm. Fox News refused to run a 52-second ad signifi cant percentage of the New York City Many anti-Semitic comments were made “Great Floods of Tears for a few hundred for the fi lm during Sean Hannity’s show be- population. by speakers at the rally, which were cheered thousand so-called Poor Jewish Refugees… an cause “the ad in question is full of disgraceful Madison Square Garden was at a different by those present. A transcript of the com- absolute, criminal disregard for the national Nazi imagery regardless of the fi lm’s message location than it is today in Manhattan. How- ments can be found in the book Free America futures of tens of millions of American chil- and did not meet our guidelines,” said Mari- ever, it was more important then than now. by the German-American Bund found at ar- dren to be left to the tender mercy of these anne Gambelli, president of ad sales for Fox There were fewer arenas across the county chive.org/details/FreeAmerica. Certain pages Refugees is NOT American.” News Channel.” [Variety “Fox News Turns “It was the Jews who were responsible Down Ad That Contained Nazi Imagery,” for Americas entering the war (World War February 13, 2019.] Was that the real reason 1) through pressure brought upon President or were they afraid that placing the ad was a Wilson by the Jewish fi nanciers of the world way to try to equate what happened in 1939 and the British Government. The price was to today, which would upset the viewers of “Palestine.” This comment is consistent with Hannity’s show? I expect pushback for mak- Daniel Aryeh, PT, LLC their goal, which was to keep America out of ing such a suggestion because anyone who the next war that was clearly going to happen watches Fox is aware of how sensitive they Personal attention in a warm enviornment - beacuse WE CARE! and started less than seven months later. are about saying, showing, or doing anything There were eight items that they wanted, that could offend anyone, so we must take including: “cessation of all abuse of the free- them at their word. dom of the pulpit, press, radio and state” and The fi lm did not win the Oscar this year for Physical Therapy “immediate cessation of dumping of all po- short documentary. Period. End of sentence. Warren S. Hecht is a local attorney. He can be reached at [email protected] Helping you get more out of life!

. Specializing in Pediatrics, Geriatrics, Sports & orthopedic Injuries, At The Gates Of Gehinom CONTINUED FROM P. 7 tled “How Crazy Are We?” in which I pointed . Balance/Vestibular, Neurological & rheumatological Disorders to the craziness of Jews critical of Trump for meaningless apology and called for her dis- his immigration policies, including banning Strong emphasis on Therapist : Doctor Communication . missal from Congress. For that, the media, Muslims from terrorist countries, yet totally . Most Health insurances accepted especially CNN, excoriated him. unappreciative for all that he has done for This week, somebody sent to me an ex- Israel. . Same day appointments tremely concerning – I should say frighten- Most of the reaction that I received for ing – video. This was a report from Israeli TV that article was favorable. However, there . Late night hours that documents how blatant anti-Semitism were some very vocal critics, as well – is being espoused in mosques throughout some of whose letters were printed in this the United States. Clip after clip showed paper. 3 Great Locations Muslim preachers and their cheering con- I would like to ask these critics, which in- gregants from New York to New Jersey, to cluded an Orthodox rabbinic colleague from Houston, to Las Vegas, to California, calling Queens: “Are you happy now?” Are you okay for the death of Israel and Jews, the sons of with the new anti-Semitism coming from monkeys and apes. The reporter said that the very same people for whom you advo- Achieve Physical Therapy 110-20 71st Road what happened in France and much of Eu- cated? The mouth of Gehinom has opened. 1584 Broadway Suite 101 200 Middle Neck Road rope is now taking place in America. The My fervent prayer is that you will be like Hewlett, New York Forest Hills, New York Great Neck , New York mask is completely off. And the Jews and all Yitzchak and come to grips with your errant their well-oiled, established organizations ways. Please join us as we protest the new- Phone (516) 593-4530 Phone (718) 263 - 9011 Phone (516) 570 - 2362 are silent. found anti-Semitism coming from the left. Several months ago, I wrote an article ti- We need all the help we can get.

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Joseph M. Frager

Their activities are illegal in Israel. They collect The Anti-Israel World Council Of Churches intelligence on military operations. They were doing this specifi cally in Hebron. As a result, they was in Israel with Pete Hegseth of Fox B’Tselem and Breaking the Silence. estine and Israel) on them. They would come were expelled from Hebron. NGO Monitor docu- News last week, and it was wall-to-wall It took years to fi nally expose the World specifi cally on the Jewish Sabbath “to bother mented two EAPPI activists using extreme anti- Ipeople in Jerusalem. Most were Christian Council of Churches program for what it is: an us, to make provocations, together with Israeli Semitic rhetoric on their social media accounts. tourists who decided to use Presidents Week The program is fully funded by European to visit the Holy Land. governments and churches. Although the vast majority of Christians It took years to finally expose the World Council of Churches program for They support terrorism. As an example, visiting Israel are doing so in support of the what it is: an anti-Israel group with an anti-Israel agenda only days after a brutal terror attack at Halam- state, not all are so inclined. On January 29, the ish in July 2017 in which Omar al-Abed mur- World Council of Churches announced it was dered Yosef Salomon, his daughter Chaya, and pulling its “ecumenical accompaniers” from anti-Israel group with an anti-Israel agenda. radical left-wing organizations together with Pal- his son Elad, EAPPI “activists” visited the ter- Hebron due to “security concerns.” The members of the church program would estinian organizations,” one observer said. They rorist family. The World Council of Churches program in present themselves as “pilgrims” who were tour- would carry maps that they claimed were tour- The World Council of Churches has to be Israel ostensibly sends delegates to “monitor” ing the area. They would roam around Jewish ists’ maps, but on closer inspection these maps brought to judgment. It is not just enough to and “report human rights abuses.” communities in Judea and Samaria wearing marked exact spots where Jewish homes stood. expel their “activists” from Israel. It is all a sham. The organization works their telltale brown vests with the letters EAPPI with fringe anti-Israel organizations such as (Ecumenical Accompaniers Programme in Pal- Joseph M. Frager is a physician and lifelong activist.

Into The Depths Of Shabbos: A Taste Of The World To Come CONTINUED FROM P. 11 you veer off the path, Shabbos is where from now on can forever alter your life we need to do the same for our life- for the better. Shabbos is when we re- and the Nefesh HaChaim explain, when tion, to ask ourselves: “Where am I going in trajectory. Life comes down to the deci- gain perspective on who we are, where you die, your mind and consciousness are life? What are my goals? What am I trying sions we make, and Shabbos provides we are headed, and what decisions we peeled away from your physical body, al- to accomplish?” Sadly, many people lose us with the opportunity to make the must make to become our best and tru- most like taking off a coat, and you exist focus of the bigger picture, of what’s really decision to become more. Every deci- est selves. May we be inspired to fully eternally as the essential being that you important in life. Many people work, eat, sion you’ve ever made in your entire life experience Shabbos, a taste of Olam have created. [In truth, there is movement sleep, and repeat. They live for weekends has led you to this very moment, which HaBa, and use this taste of destination and process in Olam HaBa as well, albeit, a and vacations. There are too many people also means that any decision you make to unlock our true greatness. very different type; it’s a growth based on who fall into the trap of getting by; they expanding everything you began building get an education, a job, fi nd a spouse, re- during your lifetime.] tire, and die. However, this is not what we were created for! Each and every single one Weekdays and Shabbos of us has the potential for greatness, and The weekdays parallel this world, a our job in this world is to fi nd our unique $$,1685$1&( time to physically create, build, and grow. greatness and bring it to life. Shabbos is more than just a day of rest, Every business has regular meetings it’s a taste of Olam HaBa; we cease crea- to discuss their goals. Every athlete has a tive physical activity and experience what specifi c exercise regimen, diet, and sleep it means to simply exist. This is the spir- schedule to ensure maximum perfor- itual parallel to our transition from this mance. They both constantly track their world to the next. In this world, we have progress and make alterations accord- the chance to grow and build; in the next, ingly to make sure they are progressing we cease our creative activity and experi- towards their target. Yet, when it comes to ence everything we have built. Shabbos is the important things in life, such as the the ultimate reminder that our lives have goal of our lives, our families, our spiritual $XWR +RPH &RPPHUFLDO an end point, and that the result is only growth, how often do we create concrete as great as every bit of effort that we put goals? How often do we sit down and into building it. On Shabbos, we refl ect on measure our progress and then recalibrate what we’ve built and become, both in the accordingly? preceding week and in our entire life lead- ing up to this point. The Goal of Shabbos This is why, despite the fact that we Every Shabbos needs to be an existen- may pause our physical growth on Shab- tial and meditative experience. The fi rst bos, we don’t stop our spiritual growth; step is to enjoy everything you’ve become, 5HWLUHPHQW in fact, we actually place special empha- everything you’ve created. The second /LIH 'LVDELOLW\ 3ODQQLQJ sis on it. This is because the experience of step is to take a refl ective step back and Olam HaBa within Shabbos should be one look objectively at yourself, as an outsider. that compels us to take advantage of this We need to have the courage to go into a world, to further build, develop, and grow. room, by ourselves, and ask the important Shabbos is the reminder that one day we questions: Who am I? What drives me? will no longer have the opportunity to What makes me unique? What are my tal- ´2XU3ODQV$UH%DVHGRQ

Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 21 AAss I See It Cynthia Zalisky government attorney James Baker. order to directly investigate Trump to see if he McCabe made these explosive claims during was in cahoots with the Russians, being possi- an interview on “60 Minutes” that was primarily bly a Manchurian candidate, to justify their get- When Is A Coup A Coup? scheduled for him to hawk a book. McCabe said ting rid of Trump. he was alarmed by FBI Director James Comey’s The FBI is perfectly free to investigate collu- am still reeling from the revelations made it is usually the generalissimos who attempt fi ring in May 2017, and that he and other FBI sion, but they are not supposed to overthrow a by former Deputy FBI Director Andrew the take over their country and arm-muscle the offi cials shockingly immediately discussed president, no matter how they feel about him. McCabe that affi rmed that there was an at- people for complete control. In our case, we are whether to recruit Cabinet members to invoke It is not within their purview. I th tempt to derail President Trump, after he right- referring to key members of the intelligence the 25 Amendment to remove Trump. According to Senator Lindsey Graham, chair- fully won the election in 2016, and unlawfully man of the Senate Judiciary Committee, “There remove him from offi ce. Everyone must under- was a bureaucratic coup going on at the Depart- stand the seriousness of this caper. We are talk- One must keep in mind that Andrew McCabe is certainly no saint. Knowing ment of Justice and the FBI against President ing about deposing a sitting president for no ap- his history, it is fair to say that McCabe’s credibility is in doubt Trump being discovered here. And somebody preciable reason other than the fact that some needs to look at it. Before the election, the peo- rogue government elitists in key US agencies ple in question tried to taint the election, tip it didn’t like him and preferred Hillary Clinton. community banding together to oust a sitting FBI Director James Comey was not an inno- to Clinton’s favor. After the election, they are This was for all due purposes an attempted coup president from offi ce. This gang of collabora- cent; he deserved to be fi red for what he did be- trying to undermine the president.” that had all the earmarks of what happens in a tors included Deputy FBI Director Andrew Mc- fore and after the 2016 election. McCabe stated Senator Graham promised to fi nd out who third-world banana republic – not in the United Cabe, Deputy Attorney General Rod Rosenstein, that Deputy Attorney General Rod Rosenstein is lying and what happened in the days af- States of America. In those backward countries, FBI agent Peter Strzok, FBI agent Lisa Page, and had offered to wear a wire to the White House ter President Trump fi red FBI director James in order to collect evidence and get the goods Comey. He intends to subpoena McCabe and Send your simcha notices to on President Trump. Rosenstein to appear before the committee. SSimchaimcha Section [email protected] For intelligent people, they weren’t so smart. Graham asserted that “no organization includ- The 25th Amendment is to be used in case the ing the FBI is “beyond scrutiny.” If it happened, president is incapacitated, either physically or we need to clean it up and the FBI will come BBIRTHSIRTHS mentally. It was only supposed to take effect if out stronger.” the president becomes disabled and cannot ful- What is unfortunate is that the American Aryeh and Hindy Clyde on the birth of their daughter Gittel Rus, and to grand- fi ll his duties; then the vice president and a ma- people and the media were too consumed with parents Rabbi Hayim and Sharon Schwartz jority of the Cabinet must confi rm that fact for the antics of a two-bit actor from Chicago who the process to begin. President Trump certainly pulled a hoax to gain publicity. Jussie Smollett BBARAR AANDND BASBAS MITZVAHSMITZVAHS did not qualify. is a jerk, and whatever happens to him, he de- Moish and Raina Popowitz on the Bas Mitzvah of their granddaughter Yael Her- One must keep in mind that Andrew Mc- serves. But his case is not nearly as serious, dan- shkowitz Cabe is certainly no saint. He was fi red last year gerous, and possibly treasonous to our republic for lying to the FBI’s inspector general at least as the evil intentions of McCabe, Rosenstein, EENGAGEMENTSNGAGEMENTS four times regarding serious questions relating and others. Bob and Susan Rosenfeld on the engagement of their granddaughter Daniella to multiple abuses that occurred while he was I personally think that heads need to roll. Strauss to Yosef Glatterh of Teaneck in the position to deal with them. Knowing this Some of these holier than thou elitists must history, it is fair to say that McCabe’s credibility be tried, be convicted, and go to jail. The intel- Send your simcha notices to [email protected] is in doubt. ligence community, consisting of the FBI, CIA, Furthermore, McCabe took part in spying on NSA, and other agencies, are too powerful and the Trump campaign through a secret warrant have far too little oversight. They are a threat granted by the foreign intelligence surveillance to our democracy. The American people got off (FISA) court. After Comey’s dismissal, McCabe lucky this time. We have to make sure our luck School For High Functioning put the Russian collusion idea into effect in doesn’t run out. Children With Autism Cynthia Zalisky is the Executive Director of the Queens Jewish Community. She can be contacted at [email protected] Following Positions Open: Lead 7eacher Teachers Assistant Men Are From Mars CONTINUED FROM P. 10 and exalted; therefore, these mirrors were School Counselor the most precious of all the donations. Life Skills Teacher the person – attraction and infatuation are some of them. They are very powerful – so Lack of Understanding in Our Times Science Teacher powerful that they can pull together two This concept has great relevance in our Speech Therapist opposites and bring them together in har- times. We live in an age when the very so- mony, peace, and love. However, as power- cial fabric of society seems to be tearing Physical Therapist ful tools, they can also easily be misdirected apart at the seams. With divorce rates in the Occupation Therapist and misused. Western World hovering at 50 percent, the concept of raising children in a stable home Drama Therapist Answer to Moshe Rabbeinu seems to be a relic of the past. The answer to the question on Moshe One of the causes of this breakdown is ABA Supervisor Rabbeinu seems to be that he was fully the misuse of the very system that Hashem M-F Full time hours | Special Ed/Autism Experience aware of the powerful force of attraction put into man to allow him to fl ourish. Attrac- and the pull that it exerts. What he wasn’t tion and infatuation are tools that, when used aware of was the purity of the women who properly, allow a husband and wife to achieve Email Resume or Call donated the mirrors. Hashem told him that harmony, tranquility, and peace. However, Email: [email protected] these women were different. They used when misused, these forces no longer accom- Phone: (718)-233-9098 their beauty only for its intended purpose: plish their intended purpose and the couple to attract their husbands to them. These mir- itself suffers – never quite understanding why rors had become holy, as they had been used their marriage doesn’t work anymore. to strengthen the bond of love and devotion Understanding the purpose and proper between husband and wife. The children use of these forces that Hashem created is brought forth from such a union were pure one of the keys to living a successful life.

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CONTINUED FROM P. 1 the assumption that the rest of B’nei Yisrael gift, and also not when it’s Hashem. Write husband elegantly slides a handsome box would not give enough. As it turns out, they that down. across the table, containing a beautiful neck- Joker’s Wild, Hollywood Squares, Scrabble, were very late to that party. They wanted to In contrast, the rest of the Jews donated lace – the very necklace his wife was eyeing. Make Me Laugh, Press Your Luck, Classic donate but there were plenty of donations immediately, from their own hard-earned “Plan B”: During breakfast chaos, sur- Concentration, and The Gong Show all rounded by kids whining, orange juice spill- genufl ect to Pat Sajak and his show about ing, missing left shoes and honking buses, guessing letters to phrases that nobody says. If I were going to list the items donated to the Mishkan, the “Mister Wonderful” makes his play with a As a kid seeing Wheel of Fortune on TV precious stones for the Choshen would be at the very top of my cheesy card, a $1,000 check taped to it, and an every night, I thought Pat Sajak was a very inscription reading: “Ten years already? Wow! busy man, working hard, year-round ensuring list, only they’re listed last. Last? Buy what you want! Happy anniversary!” that nothing but quality went on his game Execution matters. show. He didn’t play games when it comes to – too much, actually. They missed out on a possessions. And what do you know? Hashem In high school, my parents were often game shows. That was my perception. golden opportunity. was much more appreciative of those things frustrated with my grades (and everything Perception is not reality. I was shocked The stones were last-minute re-gifts. That’s – goat hair and all. That’s how the stones fi n- else). They knew I could do better. I was to discover that “Wheel” is taped just three maybe okay when you need a last-minute pre- ished last. holding myself back. In 9th grade, I fl unked months out of the year… so much for hard sent to a kind-of/sort-of friend, but not when What would impress a wife more? working. There it is, don’t meet your heroes, you’re re-gifting to the one who gave you the “Plan A”: During a nice dinner for two, a CONTINUED ON P. 42 never fi nd out how food is made, and pay no attention to the man behind the curtain. You may not like what you see. Alas, Pat Sajak is no god, just a man with a cushy job. In his own words: “I would encourage you to vote next month, but if you need a TV game show host to remind you, then you probably shouldn’t.” RABBI RAFAEL & RABBI ELIE T’rumah, T’tzaveh, VaYakhel, and P’kudei, teach us about the Mishkan: dimensions, ADINA RIBACOFF GELLER utensils, garments. Some people dismiss these parshiyos as boring, repetitive, or un- relatable. Aside from the cool pictures in the CHAVIE FREILICH EDUCATOR OF THE Mishkan book (A classic! Soncino did that MEMORIAL AWARD right!), there is not much conversation or ac- YEAR tion to sink your teeth into. I’ll say it again, perception is not reality and plenty of things MRS. LISA get better when you pull back the curtains (Get it? Because the Mishkan had curtains). Looking deeper into the Mishkan, light is ZUCKER A"H shed onto some of the most inspiring ideas in the Torah. For example, one of the best- known garments of the Kohen Gadol is the MEMORIAL TRIBUTE Choshen (the Breastplate) – a golden plate of metal with an inlay of 12 precious stones. The story behind those stones tells us a lot about THE CLASS what Hashem wants from us. If I were going to list the items donated to the Mishkan, the precious stones for the OF 1999 Choshen would be at the very top of my list, only they’re listed last. Last? Would you rath- er have goat hair or an emerald? Is somebody trying to tell us something? Let’s investigate. Who donated the stones? Chazal teach us that the stones were donated by some of the most important people in B’nei Yisrael: the N’siim – the tribal princes. Where did the N’siim get them? They were gifts from Hashem, arriving when the mahn fell. When were these stones given to the Ezra Academy's Mishkan? They were donated last, under

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EMET Stony Brook University Shabbaton in Kew Gardens this past Shabbos

EMET Gala Melaveh Malkah at Royal Elite Palace

24 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 FFeatureeature Story ABA Hosts First Legislative Breakfast In Forest Hills

By Sergey Kadinsky

measure of effectiveness for a com- munity organization is based on who Ashows up. Last Sunday, the Alliance of Bukharian Americans (ABA), a nonprofi t comprised of young leaders and activists in the community, held its fi rst legislative break- fast at the Beth Gavriel Community Center in Forest Hills. The country’s largest Bukharian synagogue was packed with supporters and elected offi cials, who praised the organiza- tion and briefed them on their work. “You are the leaders that make a differ- ence in our lives,” said Rabbi Israel Itzhakov of the Beth Gavriel youth minyan. “We create leaders. Some people are born with leader- ship qualities and other people need a push to become leaders.” He delivered his remarks alongside Rabbi Imanuel Shimonov, the mara d’asra of Beth Gavriel. As an example, he spoke of an immigrant from Uzbekistan who has a voice but no religious training who wanted to be a chazan 20 years ago. “He has to BBukharianukharian lleaderseaders ppresentresent CCouncilwomanouncilwoman KKarenaren KKoslowitzoslowitz wwithith aann aawardward understand what he is reading. So we trained him and created a leader.” professionals who connect these communi- “As a community we matter and we are ties to elected offi cials, and in turn educate about to do great things. We connect with the elected offi cials on the needs of their con- people in the community,” said ABA board stituents. “The measure of a community is member David Mordukhaev. “Security has how organized you are,” said Lancman. become more important for our not-for-profi t On many participants’ minds was the institutions.” chalk graffi ti of swastikas and Nazi slogans ABA supporter Victoria Zirkiev introduced in the schoolyard of P.S. 139 in Rego Park last Rep. Grace Meng, who spoke of her efforts to week. “I was at the Board of Elections to cast combat anti-Semitism. “It has been a really my ballot early for Public Advocate and Karen tough year,” said Meng. “One of the newest pulled me over,” said State Senator Toby Ann subcommittees on which I sit within Appro- Stavisky. “You have to see this.” priations is the Homeland Security Subcom- For Koslowitz, the sight of the anti-Semitic mittee, chaired by Nita Lowey.” She said that symbols brought back stories she heard from this is the legislative body that will examine her mother of how her grandfather was mur- hate crimes. dered in Poland, which in turn inspired her AABABA membersmembers ((L-R):L-R): IIlyalya MMordukhayev,ordukhayev, AAdamdam SSuinov,uinov, PPesachesach OOsina,sina, aandnd RR’’ YYanivaniv MMeiroveirov Mordukhaev introduced Councilman Rory family to emigrate. “I believe that it was done Lancman, who met with him and other board by a grown man,” she said about the swas- kvell at all that you have done.” She introduced her colleague Chaim members at the time of the ABA’s founding tikas. “They were too good to have been a She said that as the community now Deutsch, who also has a large Russian-speak- to offer advice. “He calls it ABA thinking. Any- child’s work.” speaks English, an interpreter is no longer ing constituency in his southern Brooklyn where you have Bukharian Jews, have a liaison Koslowitz spoke of her fi rst year on the necessary on her staff. “We now understand district. As the chair of the Council’s Jewish and grow the network. That’s the message. Any City Council in 1991, when the dissolution of each other. You are all like family to me.” As Caucus, Deutsch spoke of legislation mandat- community center can be like this. It has been the Soviet Union resulted in a massive wave she is term-limited, she expressed hope that ing the City’s fi ve district attorneys to report working out very well,” said Mordukhaev. of Bukharian immigrants arriving in Queens. her successor will be as attentive to the Bukh- motives of hate crimes to the Council. “We At this time, the ABA has liaisons in Rego “Professionals came to my offi ce who could arian Jewish community. “I absolutely will will then understand what further legislation Park, Forest Hills, Fresh Meadows, Jamaica not fi nd jobs here. Doctors worked as hospi- support you until I am not here anymore. I we need to pass. Understanding the motive Estates, and Long Island, comprised of young tal orderlies. I look at all of you today and I will be with you throughout.” gives us a better understanding of how to leg- islate and what resources are needed.” Other elected offi cials at the breakfast included State Attorney General Tish James; State Senators Joe Addabbo, John Liu, and Leroy Comrie; Assemblymen Dan Rosenthal and David Weprin; City Comptroller Scott Stringer; and Councilman Donovan Richards. The breakfast also honored Ilya Koptiev and Simcha Elishaev, infl uential leaders and philanthropists who support many institu- tions and organizations in the community, while sharing the ABA’s mission of commu- nity empowerment. Agudath Israel of America was represented by Rabbi Yeruchim Silber, who has also seen the organization grow in such a short time LL-R:-R: AaronAaron Cyperstein,Cyperstein, IlyaIlya KKoptiev,optiev, AAssemblymanssemblyman DDavidavid WWeprin,eprin, in becoming an effective representative of DDavidavid Mordechayev,Mordechayev, StateState SSenatorenator TTobyoby SStavisky,tavisky, CCouncilmanouncilman RRoryory Bukharian Jews in New York and beyond, LLancman,ancman, MikeMike Nussbaum,Nussbaum, LindaLinda SSpiegel,piegel, CCouncilwomanouncilwoman KKarenaren AAttendeesttendees iincludedncluded YYisraelisrael PPeskowitz,eskowitz, RR'' YYanivaniv MMeirov,eirov, CCouncilmanouncilman sharing in the common goals of funding ye- KKoslowitz,oslowitz, AssemblymanAssemblyman DanielDaniel RRosenthal,osenthal, SStatetate SSenatorenator JJoeoe AAdd-dd- DDonovononovon RRichards,ichards, YYaakovaakov SSerle,erle, CComptrolleromptroller SScottcott SStringer,tringer, PPesachesach shivos, security for synagogues, and defend- aabbo,bbo, FaigieFaigie Horowitz,Horowitz, andand SShimmyhimmy PPelmanelman OOsina,sina, aandnd SStatetate SSenatorenator JJoeoe AAddabboddabbo ing the State of Israel.

Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 25 RRecentecent Happenings Self-Defense Drill At Kew Gardens Shul Helps Congregants Prepare For The Unthinkable By Sergey Kadinsky

hen one davens in shul and looks around, can anyone guess which Wcongregants are trained to respond to a gunman or a stabber? In the aftermath of the anti-Semitic rampage that killed 15 Jews at the Tree of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh last October, self-defense instructor Avi Avram- cheyiv brought his school to Kew Gardens, where he led a practice terrorism drill at the Ner Mordechai (formerly Shaare Tova) Con- gregation. “Six to eight people in each syna- gogue should be trained so that there is no repeat of Pittsburgh,” said Avramcheyiv. He scheduled the drill to take place during Minchah last Sunday, with congregants aware that at the end of davening, an actor from his school would run into the beis k’neses. With an uptick in anti-Semitic incidents across the As davening concluded, an actor rushed The Israeli-born Krav Maga instructor city in recent months, the presentation was into the shul, tackled immediately by three earned his black belt at age 16 and repre- covered by reporters from NY1 News, PIX11, of Avramcheyiv’s students, who pushed the sented his country in international compe- the Queens Chronicle, and Israeli Channel knife out of the attacker’s hand, brought him titions. After service in the army, he moved One. down on the fl oor, restrained his arms, and to New York and opened up the New York In one simulation, Avramcheyiv placed then tied them with plastic handcuffs. Admit- Self-Defense Academy in Kew Gardens PIX11 News reporter Cristian Benavides with- tedly, their action happened very quickly and Hills. in inches of a toy gun held by an assistant it helped that the attacker made his presence Avramcheyiv reads about active-shooter instructor. With split second thinking, Be- known with loud words, as happened in Pitts- and terrorist attacks, learning about how navides was trained to push the pistol away burgh. Their choice of seats near the entrance people respond. “At the nightclub in Orlando, with one hand and use his other hand to push also made sense, as their presence would nobody did anything while the shooter was the gunman’s hand in the opposite direction. prevent an attacker from going further into relocating. But at a business meeting in Tel “This is Israeli counter-terrorism training. You the sanctuary. “Everyone else must go down Aviv, somebody threw a chair at the attacker,” try to control the person, and [get] control of on the fl oor. Don’t try to be a ninja; leave the said Avramcheyiv. “It is about staying alive. It the situation,” said Avramcheyiv. work to those who are trained.” is about practice.” Using A Comfort Approach With Advanced Dementia: Bikur Cholim Conference Held At Margaret Tietz Nursing & Rehabilitation Center By Leah Goldstein, MHC family members and staff. However, the best fi ghts with his helper when it comes time to credited in Comfort Matters® every year, no and Elisa Stern, LCSW way to measure this movement’s success is to get dressed in the morning, but after learning kosher facilities in New York City have taken speak to a family member whose relative has about how signs of distress are communica- this leap forward into the future of dementia n Thursday, February 14, Bikur Cholim benefi ted from this approach. tion, his attendant sits down with the family care. As a community, our hope is that this Chesed Organization organized a suc- Thursday’s symposium focused on using to explore what might be going on. It turns will change with time. Recently, the Jewish Ocessful eldercare conference at Mar- a comfort approach to take good care of peo- out that Mr. Cohen has arthritis and takes his Community Housing Authority’s Weston As- garet Tietz Nursing & Rehabilitation Center ple with advanced dementia in their home, pain medication after he dresses. They decide sisted Living Residence in Whippany, New in Queens, which has a long history of sen- wherever their home may be. It also gave to help him with medication a half hour be- Jersey, became accredited by Comfort Mat- sitively caring for Holocaust survivors. One special attention to the needs of people with fore dressing, and the result is that Mr. Cohen ters®. hundred geriatric and medical professionals advanced dementia who experienced earlier is happy to dress, because he is no longer in Comfort Matters® tools and techniques from a wide range of work settings – home- life trauma, through the prism of exploring pain. not only teach positive ways to deal with a care companies, community agencies, hos- sensitive care of aging Holocaust survivors The second speaker, Ms. Elisa Stern, LCSW, diffi cult disease, but provides renewed hope pices, hospitals, and nursing homes, as well with dementia. Most Holocaust survivors ACSW, Director of Supportive Services at Bi- to all those involved. This professional sym- as family caregivers – learned about a comfort prefer to grow old in familiar settings, with kur Cholim Chesed Organization’s Project posium also took place in Rockland County a approach with people who have advancing assistance from multiple care givers and for Holocaust Survivors, used the comfort day earlier, on Wednesday, February 13, with dementia. This approach has been pioneered home visiting professionals, who help them framework to explain the importance of un- another 100 eldercare professionals. by the Comfort Matters® accreditation pro- age in place. derstanding the individual’s trauma history Bikur Cholim of Rockland County, Caring- gram in Phoenix, Arizona. The fi rst speaker, Ann Wyatt, MSW, con- to recognize, understand, and avoid potential Kind – The Heart of Alzheimer’s Caregiving, Comfort is widely accepted as best practice sultant for CaringKind (formerly Alzheimer’s PTSD triggers. She gave a brief explanation the Foundation for Quality Care (an affi liate in advanced dementia care. Time and time Association’s NYC Chapter), presented about of the Shoah (as some professional audience of New York State Health Facilities Associa- again, studies have shown its effectiveness comfort principles and techniques. She ex- members did not have familiarity), including tion), Geriatric Mental Health Alliance of New in making the lives of seniors with advanc- plained that since people with dementia a range of experiences that survivors may York, Margaret Tietz Nursing & Rehabilitation ing dementia better, ranging from dramatic often can’t express or communicate what is have lived through. Examples of common Center, and Rockland Jewish Family Service reductions in sun-downing and other chal- distressing them with words, caretakers need triggers for Holocaust survivors were dis- partnered with Bikur Cholim Chesed Organi- lenging “behaviors,” signifi cantly less need to view behaviors as communication, and cussed, along with comforting response tips zation in this educational initiative. for and use of psychiatric medications, fewer work to fi gure out what is being expressed. for caregivers. Attendees were each given a To receive a copy of the handout on com- hospitalizations, less frequent use of dietary While there is no cure for dementia, the best handout with corresponding information to mon PTSD triggers for Holocaust survivors, supplements instead of eating “real” food, to approach is to bring comfort – and we can’t take back to their work setting. please email [email protected], or call much lower staff turnover. Also notable are provide comfort until we understand what is Although more Jewish and non-Jewish fa- S. Bloxenheim of Bikur Cholim Chesed Or- improved measures of satisfaction of both causing discomfort. For example, Mr. Cohen cilities around the country are becoming ac- ganization at 718-438-2020 (ext. 7432).

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Young Israel Of Jamaica Estates Youth Makes Purim Bags For Jewish US Troops Overseas nown throughout Queens and the greater Jewish community for its Kyouth and community programming with a focus on chesed, the Young Israel of Ja- maica Estates is once again leading the way, this time in support of our Jewish American troops in the military. Purim will be fi lled with simchah for Jewish US troops stationed overseas, due to the creativity and attentiveness of Sunday’s Family Mitzvah Morning Team at the Young Israel of Jamaica Estates. The Synagogue’s Family Monthly Mitzvah Morning series provides a forum for children to participate in regular chesed projects together with parents, grandparents, and shul leadership. Each session is geared toward a different or- ing today?’ It just gives me such a sense of and learning from young adults who are in Valley, to ship and distribute to American ganization or charity. nachas.” high school and even college. It was both a soldiers. On Sunday morning, February 10, it was With Purim coming quickly, it was a no- fun and important activity while creating a The Family Monthly Mitzvah Morning cold and calm outside, but warm and ener- brainer in determining this month’s project. real sense of community. sessions at YIJE run year-round, and have getic inside the YIJE. Kids were everywhere, Over 50 children joined with parents and Sam Herskowitz, President of YIJE, com- been gaining momentum with each progres- fi lling the ballroom while working with grandparents to decorate messenger bags, mented, “I love that our children actively sive year, as more and more families partici- their families and friends on this month’s to color masks, and to write beautiful thank participate in chesed projects, particularly pate. Although they are based in YIJE, these Family Mitzvah Morning project. Led by you notes. The Purim bags were then fi lled in our shul. Sending Purim baskets to our events are open to the entire community Rebbetzin Karen Hochberg, who has repeat- with snacks, sweets, groggers, masks, and troops overseas teaches them to value the and often see regulars from the various shuls edly said (regarding mitzvah mornings), thank you cards to brighten the chag for sol- sacrifi ce others make on their behalf and in the neighborhood. “Today is about helping others,” and that diers and let the troops know that there are the hakaras ha’tov we must feel toward our For more information about the Young Is- “I get more pleasure from these activities, lots of kids back home who care about them. troops for keeping us safe.” Once the pro- rael of Jamaica Estates and its upcoming Fam- particularly from the children,” especially A broad group participated this month, with jects were complete, they were sent to Ko- ily Mitzvah Morning Series, visit www.yije.org when they arrive and ask, ‘Who are we help- children as young as two partnering with sher Troops, an organization based in Spring or call 718-479-7500. Save the
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Kehilla Of East Meadow Welcomes Their First Rabbi

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ongregation Shaarei Zedek and the stone in the growth of their k’hilah. In less yanim, as well as weekly learning opportu- and mara d’asra of Congregation Shaarei Orthodox community of East Meadow than three years, they have established an nities; and they are now proud to announce Zedek. Cis excited to celebrate a special mile- eruv, a shul with Shabbos and Yom Tov min- the hiring of Rabbi Moshe Winter as the rav Rabbi Winter, along with his wife Meira and their children, have moved from Kew Gardens Hills, where Rabbi Winter served as rav of Kehilla Beis Dovid since 2011. Rabbi Winter’s warmth, depth, and breadth of To- ATTENTION INCOMING NINTH rah knowledge and rabbinical experience will provide dynamic leadership for this GRADERS unique and growing community. Mrs. Meira Winter has a master’s degree in Special Edu- cation, and has been working for the past 16 years at the P’tach Program at Yeshiva Uni- versity High School for Girls, where she is a ezra academy beloved role model for many young women with learning differences. Mrs. Winter is someone who is easy to talk to, and she has a lot of wisdom and practical guidance to of- only has fer. The Kehilla of East Meadow is a small, close-knit Torah community founded by a group of b’nei Torah with the unique oppor- ten seven tunity to mold a new community with fresh vision and energy. As pioneering members of a growing community, every individual and every family makes a vital contribution, and academic is involved in countless chesed opportuni- ties to support each other and the extended Jewish community of East Meadow. Rabbi and Mrs. Winter plan to help propel the community forward in its vision of personal scholarships and communal growth in Torah, musar, and chesed. They have demonstrated their dedi- cation from the moment they made their de- cision to accept the position, as they made left for themselves available to the community, and moved in with their large family, bli ayin ha’ra, every few Shabbasos. Rabbi Winter be- gan delivering what will now be his weekly next year men’s and women’s shiurim. As Rabbi Winter says, “East Meadow is a unique community. There is a special feeling of camaraderie and TO APPLY FOR ONE OF THE a vision of growth. My family instantly felt part of the community, as if we had lived here for years. The families are dedicated to REMAINING SCHOLARSHIPS Torah, avodah, and g’milas chasadim. They take pride in their achievements as a com- munity, and I am excited to lead them and PLEASE CONTACT THE assist in their individual and communal growth.” SCHOOL OFFICE @ Congregation Shaarei Zedek and the Kehilla of East Meadow share the Winters’ excitement upon the completion of their 718 263 5500 move, and look forward to much continued hatzlachah, b’ezras Hashem! To learn more about the community, visit kehillaofeastmeadow.com or call 516-564- 3008.

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n a sunny but blustery Monday after- shlita, Chairman of the Vaad noon, a delegation of 24 Bukharian HaChinuch of Be’er Hagolah, Orabbanim entered the Be’er Hagolah and HaRav Mordechai Ger- Institutes building at 671 Louisiana Avenue man shlita, the Dean of the in Brooklyn. In fact, they had been invited by Be’er Hagolah Institutes. the Chief Rabbi of the Bukharian community The rabbanim were visibly in Queens, Rabbi Yitzhak Yisraeli, and encour- moved and impressed with aged to make every effort to attend this meet- what they saw when they ing. The letter sent to each rav, read, in part: entered the building. One “As a rav in the community, it is important to after another expressed his us that you have fi rst-hand knowledge of the astonishment at the size of education offered at Be’er Hagolah… Please the building and how spot- make every effort to attend this important lessly clean it was. They said meeting.” that they had certainly heard The rabbanim were to be, in the Rav’s about Be’er Hagolah, but they had no idea division, run by Ms. Zucker, who spoke to we continue the beautiful Sephardic tradi- words, “…honored to meet together with how large the building was and that it was them about the curriculum and the high tions at Be’er Hagolah.” the Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshivat Mir, HaRav Elya kept up so well. standards of education that the school Rav Yirmi Levy said, “We see with our own Brudny shlita.” After a very brief meet-and-greet in the maintains. eyes the long-term results of investing in After entering the yeshivah building, the shul, knowing that the rabbanim were on The next stop was the Girls’ middle and these beautiful children. I couldn’t leave, to distinguished group was welcomed by the a tight schedule, Rabbi German began the high school departments, headed by Mrs. see the beautiful atmosphere and the love for Rosh Yeshiva of the Mir, HaRav Elya Brudny tour by heading to the elementary school Taub, on the second fl oor. It was clear to any the yeshivah and rabbanim. To see children onlooker that the girls were aware of the from my k’hilah, how they looked three years z’chus they were being given. They stood qui- ago and how they look today. Today I see pure etly and respectfully, knowing full well how diamonds.” to demonstrate their k’vod haTorah. HaRav Rav Rafael Zavulunov said, “Happy chil- Brudny and HaRav Yisraeli extended their dren. Derech eretz. Refreshing to see smiles personal blessings, wishing the talmidos hat- on their faces. zlachah in their Torah studies and maasim The rabbanim were then invited to pro- tovim. ceed to the shul for a meeting to discuss the HaRav Yitzchak Yisraeli, Bukharian Chief all-important topic of the chinuch needs of Rabbi, spoke to the assembled rabbanim. the Bukharian community in general. HaRav He emphasized how important a yeshivah Brudny and HaRav German then enlightened education was for any Jewish child. He said, the rabbanim as to how Be’er Hagolah is meet- “Children are kodesh kodashim and we are ing those needs. responsible for them.” Rabbi Avraham Nissan- A very poignant part of the afternoon was ian said, “I am totally impressed. I parked my when the talmidim and talmidos of all divi- car and saw beauty. Beautiful facilities… My sions – elementary girls, elementary boys, dream for the Bukharian community is that high school boys, and high school girls – came into the shul to pay their respects to the rabbanim. The boys extended their hands in greeting to the rabbanim, many bending to kiss their hands in a special display of k’vod haTorah. Be’er Hagolah has been educating the sons of daughters of Bukharian families in Brooklyn and Queens for many years. Each day, 13 buses – separate for boys and girls – pull up in front of their respective entrances for another day of learning Torah, followed by an afternoon of secular studies, leading up to a Regents diploma and admission to college. This very special visit will surely go down in history as a day when observations were made and decisions were implemented – all for the purpose of k’vod haTorah.

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HANC Middle School’s Names, Not Numbers© Program ANC’s eighth grade had an amazing experience this week. The grade was Hdivided up into groups and had the opportunity to interview Holocaust survivors. The students prepared extensively for these interviews. Each student studied his survi- vor’s bio and used it to prepare questions that would discuss the survivor’s memories from before, during, and after the war. The experi- ence was one the students will never forget. As each survivor entered the building, he/she was greeted by our students. The in- teractions were wonderful. One of the high- lights of the program was the intergenera- tional component. Seeing the faces of the survivors light up and seeing the students’ faces respond in kind was nothing short of magical. The survivor was escorted upstairs to the the Names, Not Numbers© production crew. spoiler, so everyone will have to wait until mesmerized by Rabbi Selengut’s stories and interview room, which was turned into a real We thank Michael Puro for all of his hard the movie comes out with the interviews. insights into this topic. set, complete with video, sound, and light work with the project. One of the highlights of the week was hear- Special hakaras ha’tov goes to Mr. Dov equipment. Each student took turns in the The interviews themselves were most ing HANC High School rebbe Rabbi Tsvi Selen- Rosenberg and Mrs. Tova Rosenberg for all of roles of interviewer, sound, video, and observ- memorable. There were so many poignant gut discuss the importance of emunah as it their help in making this week so special for er. The students were trained and directed by moments. I do not want to play the role of relates to the Holocaust. The students were the students. It’s The 100th Day of School In YTM Pre-1A …97, 98, 99, 100! The Yeshiva Tiferes Moshe 100. They had a chance to create structures Pre-1A classes celebrated their 100th day of using 100 cups and they enjoyed 100 deli- school, and boy did they have fun! In honor cious snacks! of this special day, the boys did many exciting The Pre-1A boys started counting the days 100-day activities. of school on the fi rst day of school, Septem- First, both classes released 100 colorful ber 3, 2018. As the days went on, they learned balloons into the sky from our new rooftop to count by twos, fi ves, and tens. The boys play area! The boys watched in amazement have also grown a lot, both socially and aca- as the balloons disappeared into the clouds. demically, in these past 100 days. This is defi - The boys strung 100 Fruit Loops on a neck- nitely an accomplishment and a great reason lace, made 100-day hats, and wrote about to celebrate! YCQ’s Future Engineers

he students at the Yeshiva of Central body parts, and how it acts. Using a design Queens have been learning about en- sheet, they designed airplanes based on what Tgineering. The fi rst and second grade they learned about birds by mimicking the students have been learning about engineer- birds’ looks and behaviors. They will build ing and how engineers use biomimicry to model airplanes using their designs. study nature to help design and build things In the seventh-grade science classes, the to make our lives easier. They looked at birds students are learning about the engineering and discussed what may have been built by process. They are making sketches of their studying the shape of the bird, its different own designs to gain an understanding of the steps an engineer takes from idea to design to construc- tion. While in the eighth-grade STEM Club, SET³ students have been studying roller- coasters and what makes them work. They learned about potential energy, ki- netic energy, inertia, grav- ity, and friction. They then worked in teams to design and build rollercoasters us- ing marbles, straws, paper, the early grades teaches students not only the an understanding that if something does not glue, and most important, concepts for future careers, but it gives them work, it is an important part of the process team work. the ability to problem-solve and use their to try it again, make changes, make improve- Beginning engineering in creativity and imaginations, as well as gain ments, and most importantly, never give up.

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GUESTS OF HONOR

Tommy Hicks Jr. Co-chair, Republican National Committee Guardian of Israel Award

Rabbi Zvi & Aviva Gluck 3.31.2019 Marriott Marquis, NYC Moses H. Honig Award 5:00 PM Buffet Dinner & VIP Reception ◆ 6:30 PM Program Couvert: $500 per person Laurie Moskowitz Hirsch VIP Reception: $10,000 per person Bonei Yerushalayim Award Reservations and Journal Ads: www.yngi.srl/dinner David & Michelle Katz Email: [email protected] Shofar Award Parking voucher with reservation. Black tie optional, modest dress requested.

MASTER OF CEREMONIES Eve Stieglitz Young Visionary Award Pete Hegseth Host, Fox and Friends Dor L'Dor Rabbinic Leadership Award ◆ Rabbi Yoel & Peri Schonfeld YI Kew Gardens Hills GUEST SPEAKERS ◆ Rabbi Nachi & Michelle Klein YI Northridge Honorable Kevin Chovevei Zion Award McCarthy ◆ Dr. Alan & Deborah Berger House Republican Leader ◆ Dr. Marc & Judy Berger ◆ Igor Fruman ◆ Lev & Svetlana Parnas Governor Mike Huckabee Friend of Zion Award Former Governor of Arkansas ◆ Charles Gucciardo, Esq. ◆ Dan K. Eberhart Dinner Chairman ◆ Rabbi Yechezkel Moskowitz Dinner Co-chairman ◆ Dr. Joseph Frager Honoring NCYI WWII Veterans Master of Ceremonies ◆ Pete Hegseth Journal Chairman ◆ Jonathan Burkan ◆ Stanley Feltman President ◆ Farley Weiss Esq. ◆ Louis Goldstein Executive Director ◆ Rabbi Marc Volk Director of Communications ◆ Nachman Mostofsky ◆ Paul Kaye Journal & Dinner Coordinators ◆ Judah and Carol Rhine ◆ Edmund Rosenblum

Tommy Hicks Jr. is appearing at this event only as a Guest of Honor and is not asking for funds or donations.

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Bnos Malka Gets EGGcited Pink Day At SKA he Bnos Malka Pre-K students were into baby chicks, and have a chance to interact treated to a visit from a chicken, a roost- with the soft and warm babies. The children here was pink Ter, and a representative from Quiver were delighted to learn about the process, and everywhere at the Farms this week! They really enjoyed the fi rst they cannot wait to see the eggs transform. TStella K. Abraham part of the “chick hatching program.” The rep- Science in Bnos Malka is taught through ig- High School for Girls on resentative brought 12 eggs, which will remain niting children’s natural curiosity and hands- Pink Day, Wednesday, in the classroom for the next few days. The on exploration. Taking part in this fabulous February 13! children will watch the eggs and help care for program is just one example of the interac- Sharsheret Pink Day them. They will observe how the eggs hatch tive learning that occurs each day. is a worldwide initia- tive by students to raise awareness about breast cancer and cancer genet- ics. Pink Day at SKA is celebrated with raffl es, doughnuts, hot choco- late, kugel, babka, and even pink manicures. The color pink domi- nated the walls, clothing, and rooms of the school. The students were honored to hear from a breast cancer survivor who shared her story. There was silence in the SKA Library as the speaker delivered an open and honest account of how she dealt with her diagno- sis; everyone appreciated hearing her words, as she entreated them to have yearly check- ups. Her inspirational words made Pink Day at SKA very meaningful. SKA’s Pink Day highlighted the need for koach to faculty member Dr. Neera Kimmel, awareness and education, as Ashkenazic who also volunteers for Sharsheret, and her Jews are ten times more at risk for hereditary hardworking Pink Day committee members cancers than the general population. Yasher for organizing such a successful event.

34 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 What’s New IInn SSchoolchool Speedy Beatie Speaks To HALB Students peedy Beatie (Bracha Deutsch), Rambam Debate Wins Best Debate Israel’s fi rst female chareidi Smarathon runner, came to Team At Flatbush speak to HALB students. Beatie, a mother of fi ve from Jerusalem, was By Yosef Bluth (12th Grade) fi rst to cross the fi nish line at the National Half-Marathon Champion- his past Thursday, the Ram- ships, and now she has her sights bam Debate Team won ma- set on the Olympics in Tokyo! Tjor awards at the Flatbush Beatie spoke to the students Debate. There was fi erce competi- about emunah and the importance tion, and by the end of the event, of tapping into our potential and everyone was excited to fi nd out realizing what we are capable of. who had won the awards. As they Beatie relayed to the students: “At were announcing the winners for “Best to announce the awards, a hush fell over the the end of the day, we are put in this Individual Debater,” something curious room. They announced that “Team Rambam world to achieve a mission, and it’s happened. They announced that someone Negative B,” comprised of Avi Balsam and Uri- not just about what we are meant named Ariel Sasoon had won an award, and el Sussman, had won the award for the “Best to accomplish; it’s also about the then announced that he was a Rambam stu- Overall Team” at the event. bigger picture we are each part of, dent. It was at that moment that we realized Coach Didi Levy has been working for in revealing Hashem’s glory in this that Uriel Sussman had won the award for some time on the fundamentals as well world.” She told the students that being the Second-Best Individual Debater at as the intricacies of debating, and it paid the races give her an opportunity to the entire event. Everyone cheered for Uriel dividends at the Flatbush Debate. Sam Ko- be an ambassador of Hashem and as he went up to collect his award! rman, Abie Hersch, and Yosef Bluth all had refl ect on the gifts He has given her. But before people could even fi nish cheer- impressive showings in their debut debates, ing, they started to announce the awards for and overall it was a huge night for Rambam MTA Juniors Have A Blast the “Best Teams” at the event. As they went Debate! On Action-Packed Trip Honoring Our Founding Fathers TA Juniors had an incredible time on On Thursday, February 14, Central stu- their two-day, action-packed Junior dents (Yeshiva University High School for MTrip! From golf, indoor sports, and Girls) saluted the upcoming Presidents’ axe-throwing to a midnight barbecue, bowl- Day by learning about its historical origins ing, broom ball, lively minyanim, and inspira- and the meaning behind the day, as well as tional shiurim – talmidim had a blast bonding when we began to mark the day as a nation. with each other and their rebbeim! Mrs. Audi Hecht, History chair, explained that the day was originally intended to hon- or the birthday our fi rst President, George Washington, and later Abraham Lincoln. In 1971, the day became a day to celebrate both presidents, as well all of our Commanders- in-Chief, and the Offi ce of the President in general. This progression in meaning is re- fl ected in the diversity with which the day appreciate the Civic Spirit virtues of service, is called by various states (Presidents’ Day sacrifi ce, courage, and leadership that our or Washington’s Birthday). Our students presidents have embodied since the be- explored the various roles that presidents ginning of our republic, both in their lives assume, by identifying distinct presidential leading up to the presidency and through powers and responsibilities through an in- their respective tenures as President of the teractive exercise. They were able to further United States. Challah For A Cause At HANC High School

n Wednesday, February 13, faculty and stu- dents participated in Sharsheret’s Pink Day O2019, to raise awareness about breast can- cer and cancer genetics. The day culminated with a school-wide picture to show our support for the im- portant work Sharsheret does and for those who are battling cancer. On Friday, February 15, Erev Shabbos, a Pink Day Challah Sale was held, where pink challah rolls were sold for Shabbos as another way to raise awareness. The tz’dakah fundraiser raised approximately $700. All proceeds from the Challah Sale will be donated to Sharsheret in memory of Mrs. Jen Hoch a”h. Special thanks to Student Life Assistant Maddie Hamada and students Hannah Reiss and Stephanie Hoch for organizing this very important and success- ful event.

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Bais Yaakov Of Queens Early Childhood Center Visits An Optometrist

he Pre 1-A classes in the Bais Yaakov of Queens Early Childhood Center Tcontinue to explore their communi- ty. Pre-1A-W showed a good deal of interest in eyeglasses and the human eye, and were therefore thrilled to be invited to the offi ce of Dr. Batsheva Summers, optometrist. After an exciting bus ride to Jackson Heights, the children were given a full tour of the well-equipped offi ce. Clipboards in hand, the young researchers asked the doctor their many questions, ranging from “Why do we need to check our eyes?” to “Why do we have to get eye drops?” The children were then giv- en the opportunity to check each other’s eyes and to sketch things of interest in the offi ce. They left with a gift bag full of treats from their new friend, the eye doctor. Thank you, Dr. Summers, for helping our students to ex- pand their knowledge and learn more about our amazing eyes! Shevach Seniors Head North uesday, February 5, dawned bright and… Museum. Educational workshops and presenta- not so cold! That was a good thing, since tions gave the students a much more detailed and Tthe Shevach High School senior class was personal understanding of the leadership and oper- heading up to Albany, the capital city of New York ations of the movement to bring African Americans State. The trip was planned to learn more about to freedom and their hopes for social, political, and the workings of state government as well as the re- economic equality. Since the museum is housed in gion’s history, including of course Jewish life past the home of the Myers, who were important lead- and present. ers in this movement, 19th century American history Arrival in Albany was right on schedule, at elev- became a little more tangible, as the students sat in en in the morning. Following security clearance at the same parlor and near or on the same furniture the Capitol building, the students were ushered to that these important Americans had used. a conference room where they were privileged to Two fabulous receptions of the Shevach group meet with State Senator Simcha Felder. The She- followed. The fi rst was at the Maimonides School vach contingent appreciated Senator Felder’s mod- in Albany, where the students in grades eight est and often humorous replies to their questions. through eleven had set up a beautiful and warm These questions and responses addressed the very welcome in their main lobby. There was a giant signifi cant issue of substantial equivalency and handmade “Shalom, Shevach” banner, plentiful yeshivah education, daily responsibilities and dedi- delicious refreshments, and a creative game. After cation to public service, and the challenges faced greetings by Rabbi Rubin and Mrs. Leah Rubin, the by an Orthodox Jew in a position of government. girls in both schools had the opportunity to meet A fascinating tour of the Capitol building was each other and schmooze. After davening Minchah next on the agenda, as knowledgeable and engag- at the school, the Shevach seniors made their way ing guides reviewed the history of the Capitol and down to Kingston, the fi nal stop of the day. Key Food Gives Back pointed out the breathtaking masonry, grand stair- The visit to the shul in Kingston was the result of Key Food donates to the Kehilat cases, and the halls. The domed War Room, with its a generous invitation by Mrs. Shirley Crystal. Mrs. painted scenes of famous confl icts, and the Gov- Crystal is the grandmother of Chava Crystal, one Sephardim Food Pantry ernors’ Hall, showcasing the impressive portraits of Shevach’s seniors. Mrs. Crystal runs the N’shei of past governors, were unique examples of the group at the shul, and she and fellow N’shei mem- abbi Shlomo Nisanov, fusion of architecture and fi ne art. While seated ber Rosemarie Lewis arranged a beautiful dining Executive Director of in the gallery of the Senate chamber, the students area for the students’ dinner, providing drinks, des- RKehilat Sephardim were able to listen and watch as State Senators serts, and a happy family get-together. Rabbi Avro- of Ahavat Achim, located on addressed their colleagues. The electronic voting hom Boruch Itkin energetically addressed the stu- 78th Road in Kew Gardens equipment and tally screens were noted in the dents with an uplifting d’var Torah perfectly suited Hills, and Aaron Cyperstein Assembly chamber, and illustrated the modern ap- to the Hebrew date, which was Rosh Chodesh Adar of Met Council (Met Council proach to democracy. I. He also described the Jewish history of Kingston provides much of the food A reunion meeting with Senator Joseph Addab- and the area’s recent revival. The ride back to New and volunteers to Kehilat bo, who had visited Shevach in November, as well York City found most of the seniors tired but cer- Sephardim), visited the local as a surprise greeting by Member of the Assembly tainly glad they’d made the journey upstate! Key Foods supermarket on Daniel Rosenthal, capped off this segment of the Special thanks to Mr. Barry Grossman, instruc- Main Street recently. Togeth- trip. It was a busy day in the Capitol, with several tor of AP US History, Government, and Economics, er they discussed the needs of lobby groups there to advocate for their positions, for coordinating this outstanding trip under the the community with owner and so the atmosphere overall was indeed “stately,” guidance of Mrs. Nechama Mirsky, Associate Prin- Jose Collado. Key Foods re- and at the same time, refl ective of the voice of the cipal, General Studies. Yasher koach to the Shevach cently donated a substantial people. students for making a wonderful kiddush Hashem amount of food to the Kehilat Sephardim food pantry, which will be distributed to The next stop was the Underground Railroad far away from home. the community.

36 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 Community Calendar Compiled by Rebecca Wittert Shuvu will hold its 28th annual dinner. De- At 7:30 p.m., the tails to follow. Young Israel of Hill- THE CALENDAR FOR ALL EVENTS IN QUEENS crest (169-07 Jewel From 8:30 a.m. to Avenue, Hillcrest) 4:00 p.m., Challenge Sunday will host a lecture FEBRUARY 2019 Early Intervention 17 Center will hold a by Rabbi Dr. Stu Halpern, entitled, “Damsels in this Dress? At 7:30 p.m., the Sunday workshop on Help- At 8:00 p.m., the 10 A Comparative Look at Esther and Ruth.” Young Israel of Hill- ing Young Children Young Israel of Ja- crest (169-07 Jewel with Sensory Pro- maica Estates will cessing Disorders, led by Lindsey Biel, Avenue, Hillcrest) At 11:00 a.m., there hold the Ó rst ses- OTR/L, at the Young Israel of Hillcrest (169- Sunday will host a lecture will be a Hachnasas sion of a ten-session 3 07 Jewel Avenue, Hillcrest). Breakfast and 27 Sefer Torah begin- Wednesday Wednesday by Rabbi Dr. Stu lunch served. All attendees receive profes- art class for adults ning at the home of Halpern, entitled, “The Lion, the Pit, and sional development hours. For more infor- led by Clarisse Frenkel. All levels of experi- Sunday the Wardrobe: Daniel, Joseph, Esther, and mation, please visit Challenge-ei.com. 24 Danny and Golda ence welcome. $300 for the course. To reg- th the Struggles of Being Diaspora Jews.” Gross (138-43 78 ister, please visit www.yije.org. From 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m., Nefesh Road, Kew Gardens Hills), where the last At 8:00 p.m., Chazaq and Beth Gavriel will B’Nefesh will hold an aliyah event at the letters will be written and from where, at At 8:00 p.m., the JFK Glenpoint Marriot in Teaneck, New Jer- 12:30 p.m., there will be a procession to Regular Democratic present Yaffa Mashkabov, speaking to sey. To register, please visit www.nbn.org/ Khal Nachlas Yitzchok (Rabbi Oelbaum’s Club of Queens women about “Questions and Answers on mega. Shul). County will hold its the Torah Perspective of Dating.” At Beth Gavriel (66-35 108th Street, Forest Hills). For Thursday 28 monthly meeting at Teach NYS Act for At 7:30 p.m., Eliza- the Kew Gardens more information, please call 718-285-9132 Jewish Education beth Forspan, Esq., Hills Jewish Center (71-25 Main Street, or email [email protected]. will hold a mission of Ronald Fatoullah Kew Gardens Hills; downstairs ballroom). to Albany to advo- cate for increased & Associates, will The guest speaker will be Moira McDer- At 8:00 p.m., Chazaq Tuesday 12 Tuesday and the Sephardic government fund- 26 speak on “Medicaid mott, Executive Director of 21in21, an or- Congregation of ing for non-public and Estate Plan- ganization that trains and supports wom- schools. Arrive at Capitol at 9:00 a.m.; de- Hewlett will present ning” at the Mashadi Temple (130 Steam- en to run for City Council. part at 4:30 p.m. $36 (includes three meals).

Tuesday Tuesday Rabbi Shay Tahan. boat Road, Great Neck). Please RSVP to 5 To register, please visit teachnys.org/al- At 8:00 p.m., Chazaq, Shaare Emunah, and At the Sephardic banymission. Jackie at 516-466-4422. The Shmuz will present Rabbi Benzion Congregation (175 East Rockaway Road, ShaÓ er on “Two Worlds, One Chance.” At Hewlett). Men and women invited. For At 7:30 p.m., the Young Israel of Hillcrest Shaare Emunah (539 Oakland Avenue, Ce- more information, please call 718-285-9132 (169-07 Jewel Avenue, Hillcrest) will host MAY 2019 darhurst). Men and women invited. For or email [email protected]. a free seminar on Financial and Insur- ance Planning for the Golden Years. Topics more information, please call 718-285-9132 The Young Israel of At 11 a.m., Elizabeth will include Estate Planning and Hilchos Queens Valley will or email [email protected]. Y’rushah, Asset Preservation, and Medi- Forspan, Esq. and hold its annual Sho- care, as well as various aspects of Medi- Vlad ShaÓ r, of Ron- care options. ah Remembrance MARCH 2019 ald Fatoullah & As- Shabbos 11 Program and S’udah sociates, will speak Thursday 7 Sh’lishis. Details to At 6:30 p.m., Havurat on “What You Need follow. Yisrael (106-20 70th to Know About Special Needs Planning” at Avenue, Forest the Fatoullah ofÓ ce (60 Cutter Mill Rd., At 8:00 p.m., ECHO Friday Hills) will partici- Suite 507, Great Neck). Please RSVP to Jack- 15 Shabbos 16 Institute for Health Friday 1 pate in the nation- ie at 516-466-4422. will hold its annual wide program of There will be a Queens Shabbos of chizuk Echo Women’s Tea.

At 9:00 p.m., Ezra Monday Shabbat Across America. Be part of our vi- with the Rosh Yeshiva of Beth Medrash 20 Rabbi Daniel Glat- brant Jewish community as we celebrate Academy will hold Govoha, Rav Yerucham Olshin. Details to stein will speak. Shabbat. Delicious catered dinner illumi- its annual dinner at follow. More details to follow. nated by explanations, stories, and songs Da Mikele Illagio. led by our special rabbi for beginners, Mor- Honoring Rabbi Ra- Motza’ei Shabbos 9 dechai Kraft. Cost of dinner $15 for new- fael and Adina Riba- comers to Havurat Yisrael. To make a reser- coff, Rabbi Elie Geller, Mrs. Lisa Zucker vation, please call 718- 261-5500 or email a”h, and the Class of 1999. hyofÓ [email protected] by Tuesday, Febru- ary 26. At 8:45 p.m., the Young Israel of Kew Gar- dens Hills will hold its annual Rabbi The Yeshiva of Cen- George and Rita RushÓ eld Chevra Kadis- tral Queens will ha Dinner at the Shul. Rabbi Joshua Sturm hold its 78th Anni- of Project Renewal will speak, and there versary Scholarship will be a special tribute to Shul members Dinner at the Old who have passed away during the previ-

Motza’ei Shabbos 2 Westbury Hebrew ous year. $36 per person. To make a reser- Congregation. Honoring Dr. Eve and Rabbi vation, please call 718-261-9723 or visit yik- Todd Sullivan, Drs. Rachel and Joshua Siss- gh.org/payment.php. er, Rabbi Moshe Hamel, and Randi Beeber Luxenberg. For more information, please Hebrew Academy of Long Beach will hold visit www.ycqdinner.com or call 718-793- its 64th annual dinner at its new campus 8500 (x-300) or email [email protected]. (523 Church Avenue, Woodmere). Honor- ing Gavri & Shani Butler, Jay & Jessica Lam- Your business can sponsor TO ADD YOUR EVENT At 8:00 p.m., the Long Island Bikur Cholim pert, Rabbi Ashie & Elana Schreier. For fur- the QJL Community Calendar. TO OUR COMMUNITY CALENDAR, will hold a wine-tasting and art auction at ther information or to make a reservation, PLEASE EMAIL THE EVENT, DATE/TIME, PLACE, Please contact Yaakov at 718-880-2622 or e-mail AND A BRIEF DESCRIPTION TO: Kol Yisrael Achim Synagogue (429 Middle please contact 516-791-8200 (x-107) or dini@ [email protected] [email protected] Neck Road, Great Neck). Free admission. halb.org or visit dinner.halb.org.

Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 37 HHookedooked On Healing Caroline Schumsky, LCSW, MS

particularly high on life. Remember the small You Can Pretend To Care, But You Can’t Pretend To Show Up details. Their kids’ names, all ten of them. Lol. Things your loved one or friend shared with o you have powerful, meaningful iPhone? You lose energy do- not share their preferences you about their life, family, and work. Do bonds with family, friends, and loved ing absolutely nothing? And with us. It’s okay to ask her: not forget important dates, their birthday, or Dones? How do you do it? You may or did you ever notice how “What’s the best way to sup- your “song” if you have one. What they may may not realize, but you are most likely vali- phones these days keep get- port you in this situation?” remember most about their birthday is that dating them, easing their burdens in life, and ting thinner and smaller, And then make a mental you forgot it. Uh, oh. Remind them of sweet truly seeing them. If you ask, they will prob- and people keep getting the note of it for next time. memories of your relationship. Empathize ably say that you “show up” for them. opposite? But I digress… Do Reach out just to tell and sympathize. Be happy for their happiness However, if you fi nd yourself resentful a your friends love to connect her that you’re thinking of and sad for their blues; stay and be reliable, great deal of the time or in one-sided rela- regularly, or by daily texts, her today, and how much even during the tough times. tionships, you may not be showing up for weekly calls, or maybe once you miss or appreciate her. Please pay attention to how often you yourself. Are you kind to yourself? Do you set a year on a birthday? Do you Friends can never hear this use the word “I” – and use it less. Anticipate healthy boundaries with others? Aha. How remember their special oc- enough. If you hurt him, your loved ones’ needs and occasionally ask about you take some time to care for your casions? Shared traditions please do apologize and do if there is anything you can do to help. Better spiritual and mental health? Only then can are awesome, like always it meaningfully. Never say: yet, take action. Cook for her, show up and you truly offer that lifesaving power of “being spending the Fourth of July together. Do you “I’m sorry, but…” If you trust him, then by all offer him a ride. Put some fl owers on your co- there” for someone fully. After all, you are the have any of those? means be vulnerable with him. worker’s desk. Grab an extra coffee for them. artist, and your life is your masterpiece. There’s nothing quite like someone saying, Show up even when no one applauds you Be helpful. If she doesn’t know how to change So how do you show up for someone you “Hey, I saw or heard this… and it reminded me for it. Especially then. Friends will show you that light bulb, walk her through it. Speaking care about? Start with what actually works of you.” Being thought of is one of the most – much more than tell you – about who they of which: How many narcissists does it take and feels good to them. Are they a texter and affi rming feelings you can offer someone. are and what you mean to them. And yes, they to change a light bulb? Just one: He just holds only want a textationship? “Just received your How about buying a gift for no reason at all take responsibility for the times they forget it up there and waits for the world to revolve text and I don’t know which is brighter: my and adding a note: “Knowing how much you or abandon you. Lighten up, and fi ll the room around him. Heh. home screen or my smile.” Aww. Oh, and just love chocolate…” Yup, you had me at choco- with laughter if you can. It’s awfully hard not One of the greatest gifts you can give remember: Texting wasn’t always this easy. late. to feel great around someone with a positive, someone, sweet friends, is support. You may Back in the day, if you wanted an “S” you had Don’t forget the simplest things like ask- carefree approach to life. not be able to always be with them, but you better click that “7” button four times. Lol. ing how his day was. Always remember to Show compassion, even when you are not can be there for them. Perhaps they are a Snapchatter, Instagram- tell her if someone said something sweet or lover, or they prefer a good ole fashioned chat complimentary about her. Incidentally, be Caroline is a licensed psychotherapist, crisis counselor, and writer with an offi ce in Queens. She over the phone. You do remember actually honest with him about your needs. No one is works with individuals, couples, and families. Appointments are available throughout the week talking on the phone? Or… maybe not. Come a professional mind-reader. No, we do not in- and weekends. She can be reached at 917-717-1775 or at [email protected] or at face- to think of it, don’t you sometimes feel like an herently know how to love people if they do book.com/pages/Safe-Haven-Healing.

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38 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 OOpinionpinion Standing With Uyghurs, As A Jewish Matter

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 But at the February 5 rally, one speaker, to Israel and has no history of anti-Semitism. of North Korea are not a priority for President Imam Suhaib Webb, a resident scholar at the The centuries-old community in Kaifeng lost Donald Trump when he speaks with Kim picked up a copy of The Commentator to read Islamic Cultural Center on the Upper East Side, its Jewish identity to assimilation, not perse- Jong-un, should have no bearing on how we about matters of importance to students. In- connected the Uyghur issue with that of the cution. Jews are welcome to visit, do business, feel about these human rights abuses. Wheth- stead of the carefully planned, but neverthe- Palestinians. In outrage, a couple of the YU par- and worship within its borders. There are 11 er or not the Jewish contributions in the past less controversial co-ed Shabbaton, the top- ticipants walked out, with one shouting, “Stop Chabad outposts across China, along with towards civil rights for African Americans are of-the-fold headline related to YU students spreading hate!” Roth urged the remaining preserved cemeteries, former synagogues- recognized by today’s black activists should attending a protest rally at the UN against the classmates to focus on the topic at hand. In his turned-museums, and classes on Jewish cul- have no bearing. Our choice to participate Chinese treatment of ethnic Uyghurs. remarks, Rabbi Blau spoke of the Jewish role in ture in public universities. should be motivated from a Torah viewpoint. A Turkic Muslim people, the Uyghurs live protecting other religious groups against perse- Most Uyghurs are peaceful in their de- When Israel sends humanitarian aid to mostly in the Xinjiang region of China. The cution. “For Jewish people who hope to create a mand for autonomy, but a few have joined countries in response to disaster, it does not language, religion, and culture of the Uyghurs world where everyone is in the service of G-d, it al-Qaeda and ISIS, launching attacks against relate to how those countries vote on United are more akin to the peoples of Central Asia is important to defend those who worship G-d Chinese targets abroad. The most that we can Nations resolutions concerning the Middle and the Middle East than the Far East. No sur- against those who would prevent them. As G- say is to demand that China follow its own East. “Does the Holy One, Blessed be He, in prise that for centuries there have been move- fact rejoice over the downfall of the wicked?” ments among the Uyghurs calling for greater We can relate to Uyghurs in the United States who are struggling This question is raised by Rabbi Yehoshua ben self-rule and outright independence from Levi in the Gemara (Megillah 10b). Israel’s at- China. Although the region is autonomous, in to pass on their beliefs to the next generation, while yearning to tempts to offer relief following an earthquake practice it is run as a police state by China, reconnect to their ancestral home in Iran and a tsunami in Indonesia were re- on the pretext of combating Islamist terror- jected by those nations, which shows that ism. Nearly seven percent of the region’s Mus- they are prioritizing the boycott of Israel over lims are being held in reeducation camps. d-fearing people, we need to protest this enor- laws concerning the Uyghurs, by applying the lives of their citizens. Mosques are monitored by the authorities, mous attack on human rights.” autonomy as granted to them back in 1955. When observant Jews engage in humani- beards and veils are forbidden, and contact Perhaps the ideal pasuk to quote here is Additionally, China recognizes Palestine as tarian and political causes, they should con- with foreigners is treated with suspicion. from the haftarah for Parshas K’doshim, from a nation and often lectures Israel on the oc- sider the spiritual underpinning of their par- The 20 YU undergraduates stood out- the navi Amos. “Are you not to Me like the cupation of land and its struggle against ter- ticipation. We do not attend rallies relating to side the UN on Tuesday, February 5, led by children of Ethiopians, O Children of Israel?” rorism; China should not be offended when other nations because it makes us, or anyone s’michah student Yosef Roth, who is also Nowhere more than in galus is the per- Israel responds in kind. else feel good. We do not do it for reciprocity, pursuing a PhD in computational biology. secution of other people as relatable to our The Jewish interest in the plight of perse- although it is appreciated. Rabbi Yosef Blau, a rosh yeshivah at YU, was own history of mistreatment and present-day cuted peoples has a spiritual and historical “If I am not for myself, who will be for me? among the speakers at the diverse gathering. incidents of anti-Semitism. Likewise, we can element. When we read about prison camps If I am only for myself, what am I? And if not The reporter noted that YU students have a relate to Uyghurs in the United States who and laws that discriminate based on ethnic- now, when?” This famous Hillel dictum suc- long history of rallying for the rights of other are struggling to pass on their language and ity, we remember what our people experi- cinctly teaches that when Jews are proud of people, and there is plenty to say about young beliefs to the next generation, while yearning enced 75 years ago. their heritage, it is respected by others. At the Orthodox Jews who spoke up in the past for to reconnect to their ancestral home, from That Turkey harangues Israel on the Pales- same time, we cannot ignore what happens the Bosnians, Kosovar Albanians, the black where they are exiled. tinian issue while keeping silent on the suf- in the world beyond our communities. Speak- Muslims of Darfur, and the Rohingya refugees At the same time, there is the matter of po- fering of its ethnic cousins in Xinjiang and ing for the well-being of all people is what we fl eeing Myanmar. litical reality. China is a valuable trade partner Russian-controlled Crimea, or that the gulags do. It is our responsibility. Bat-Galim and Ofer Shaer Memorialize Gilad Through SonShine Foundation Competition By Pearl Markovitz competition are The Jewish Agency for Israel, will be reviewed by a professional team that International Bnei Akiva, Hillel, The Look- will be guided by the parameters listed on the ver since the horrifi c kidnapping and stein Center, The Mizrachi World Movement, website. An international advisory committee murder of their son Gilad, together Nefesh B’Nefesh, OU Israel, Prizmah and the of worldwide Jewish leaders will score each Ewith Naftali Fraenkel and Eyal Yifrach, World Union of Jewish Students. proposal and select the top three to be pre- HY”D, in June of 2014, Bat-Galim and Ofer The competition is seeking an idea by an sented to a fi nal panel of judges. Among those Shaer have undertaken projects throughout individual or group of individuals that will who will serve on the advisory committee are Israel and internationally that promote bring about a signifi cant change in the Isaac Herzog, chairman of the Jewish Agency; Jewish unity and cohesiveness. Through present relationship between Israeli and Dani Dayan, Israeli consul general of New York; their SonShine Foundation they have pro- Diaspora Jewry. The SonShine Foundation Rabbi Pinchas Goldschmidt, chief rabbi of moted a positive attitude and sense of op- will award a cash prize of $10,000 to the Moscow; Ron Prosor, former Israeli ambassa- timism among all segments of the Jewish proponents of the idea. Beyond the gener- dor; and Dalia Rabin, chair of the Rabin Center. community, particularly in times of chal- ous cash prize, the foundation will work to The third stage will include two parallel lenge and crisis. fund and execute the idea internationally. components. First, the rating of each of the fi - Recently, the Shaers launched a new pro- The application process has two rounds. nal three proposals by a panel of three judges. ject through the foundation that they have In each, proposals may be submitted in any Second, a public vote that will take place in been promoting worldwide through online one of six languages including French, Span- May of 2019. A weighted average of the two sites. The initiative, named “Jewish Connec- ish, German and Russian, as well as Hebrew tracks will reveal the winner. tion,” is an international competition for an and English. Applicants will complete a form Ofer shared, “We are hopeful that the win- idea that will “strengthen the bonds between including personal information and a brief de- ning idea derived from this competition will Israeli and Diaspora Jewry.” According to Bat-Galim, “The competition scription of the challenge they wish to address. advance our vision of bringing about a signifi - Currently, the worldwide Jewish popula- is unique in the depth and breadth of the The deadline for the fi rst submission is March cant change in the dynamics of the relation- tion is being calculated at 14 million individu- cooperation that it has garnered across the 7, 2019. ship between Israeli and Diaspora Jewry and als, half of whom reside in Israel. This sizeable globe. To date, over 40 organizations have Those invited to participate in the second will strengthen the overall perception and ap- number represents great potential for strength signed on to promote it. The very existence round will be asked to submit a more detailed preciation of Jewish peoplehood.” provided that the two populations, in Israel of the competition has already raised aware- description of their proposal and their target To learn more about The SonShine Founda- and outside of Israel, work together to pro- ness of the need to strengthen the bond population.The deadline for this second round tion, visit http://sonshine.org.il. mote working bonds, not only for crises but among Jews throughout the world.” Among is March 31, 2019. To submit an application for the competi- for setting new goals and dreams. the 40 organizations that are promoting the Following an initial screening, proposals tion, go to http://gcc.sonshine.org.il.

Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 39 DDatingating Today Goldy Krantz to know that there are wonderful singles out it, it can be hard to maintain, or you can be there who are getting beaten up/down by the scared that it will fall apart like a house of shidduch world. It hurts knowing that singles cards at any moment. Looking at others and need strangers to share their stories in order what they have is normal; even wishing for Giving Chizuk for them not to give up hope or fall deeper what they have is normal, too. We are human. into the dating depression they are already in. When we see someone else living life with all any asked me why I worked so hard would tell me how, when they were feeling Mi k’amcha, Yisrael! People posted their that you have wanted and dreamed of, it can to publish my dating book, The at their lowest in dating, when they thought stories. Strangers helping strangers. Stran- make anyone depressed, but we need to keep MBest of My Worst. (None of the frum that maybe they were supposed to be nothing gers taking time to type what many think of in mind that appearances can be deceiving. publishers wanted to publish it. I sent sam- more than the aunt/uncle to their nieces and as their own personal (private) story to give Singles may see others marrying and mov- ple chapters to a dozen publishers. The re- nephews, and never have a child call them someone else a boost. Most wrote how they ing on with their lives and feel as if they are sponses from various editors requested more “Mommy” or “Tatty” and never fi nd their didn’t meet their spouse until they were in living the same life they have been living chapters than just the sample ones I sent, so best friend to journey through life with, they their late 30s or 40s. Others wrote how they for years. They may feel like they’re stuck in they can read more or give them to someone picked up my book for a laugh and to pick up had all but given up hope and then just when a rut, like their life is stagnate. I can under- in the shidduch parshah to read. They loved their spirits. I remember speaking with a gen- they were least expecting it, they ended stand when some need a pick-me-up. I speak the chapters and the concept of the book, but at events telling others of my dating experi- felt it was “too controversial” to publish. So ences. I felt that I dated all the wrong people I ended up self-publishing). I told them that We think that what we see on social media and in the for over a decade, only to go on and date my it was a book many would be able to relate entertainment world is real; we may forget that people can be lying about husband and like him years after we met – to, as many have had their share of bad dates, years after we had both been through what and that maybe it would be able to help how “wonderful” their life is we needed to go through in order to come people who were having a hard time in the out on the other side, and for the timing to be parshah. As I have written and spoken about tleman at one event and it broke my heart to up dating the person they are now married right. I wasn’t expecting things to unfold the many times, I always laughed at my past dat- see the pain in his eyes and to hear his voice to. Some wrote that they ended up marry- way they did, but this was the plan that was ing experiences. I joked that what didn’t kill crack with emotion when telling me that he ing someone that they had previously dated supposed to happen all along. me made me stronger, so I felt like Hercules didn’t think he would ever get married and (years before), but the timing wasn’t right for To sum up this article: If you know of a by the time I was 30. I always knew that a bad that dating was getting to be painful. I didn’t them then, only for it to be right the second single having a hard time, do what you can to date was just leading me closer to my zivug. realize until that moment how people truly time around. provide him or her with chizuk. Singles need I didn’t take them too seriously or read too need support and chizuk. Yes, I knew in my Maybe living in the age where social me- to be confi dent in themselves and have good much into a bad date. Yes, at times it was frus- brain that people needed chizuk (as well as a dia and romantic comedies are easily accessi- self-esteem and self-worth if they are going to trating, because I wanted to go on a good date good laugh), but here I was looking into the ble has given us a false sense of what “falling be able to date and be appealing to others. If or at least a date that was average. I didn’t eyes of a 45-year-old man who had given up in love and fi nding your soul mate” is really you can help people by sharing your experi- want to be the girl with only horrible stories. any hope of getting married. like. It’s like those people who post on Insta- ences with them or even just offering advice, After a while, I was beginning to think it was Now I browse Facebook and many times gram of how fabulous their life is and others then do it. Helping a single isn’t just about me that was at the heart of the issue, rather come across a post where someone asks for look and get jealous, “She/he is on another redting them a shidduch. We must not let any- than being redt to the “wrong type of fellow.” help with dating. They aren’t asking for them vacation? Another romantic dinner with her one lose hope about becoming a chasan or But as I said, I brushed it all off and continued to be fi xed up (but there are those posts that boyfriend? Did you see what she got for her a kallah. The road to the chupah is short for on. But for some, it isn’t that easy, and a bad do); in this instance, they are asking for chi- birthday?” We think that what we see on so- some and miles for others. We don’t know the date can set them back. Two dates can affect zuk from others who had a diffi cult time cial media and in the entertainment world reasons why some have it easier than others. their confi dence, and three bad dates are just fi nding their spouses. They want to hear are real and true, that we may forget that peo- But we need to help those who feel like it is a too horrible to think about, so I was writing from those who were in similar situations, ple can be lying about how “wonderful” their never-ending journey. We have to provide the for them, trying to tell them not to take it all who didn’t marry the fi rst or second person life is. They may be posting the life they want support they need, not what we think they too seriously and we all go through it. they dated. They want to hear how years of instead of the life they have. We all want the need, but what they need in order for them to Many emailed me and thanked me for pub- struggling in the parshah – either dating all Norman Rockwell type of life – all picture per- gather up the strength to continue on. lishing the book. They said it gave them chi- the wrong people or hardly dating at all – led fect – but very few have it; and if you have Hatzlachah to you all! zuk to know that they weren’t unique (with someone to fi nding their bashert. They need their dating experiences) and that sometimes to know and feel that there is more to come Goldy Krantz is an LMSW and a lifelong Queens resident, guest lecturer, and author of it does help to laugh at their situation. I was for them, and a light at the end of the tunnel. the shidduch dating book, The Best of My Worst and children’s book Where Has Zaidy glad to help. At speaking engagements, singles Reading such posts makes me sad. It pains me Gone? She can be contacted at [email protected].

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abouts, including the plac- A Word To The Wise es you go and details down to the minute of when CONTINUED FROM P. 1 measure and analyze minute details about you’ve arrived,” according shoppers’ faces. to security fi rm Lifelock. still had a brand-new look, a brand-new The fi rst of these was installed in a store Data security expert feel. Typically this would create an uplift- in Chicago in January, and others in New Tyler Wildman recently ing mood, but in this case it didn’t. Norm York, Seattle, and San Francisco followed told WTLV-TV that smart- couldn’t shake the feeling that he was be- several weeks later. phones frequently track ing watched every time he went into the Cooler Screens’ website says: “We believe the places a user visits, kitchen. Several times he wanted to tell brands should be able to measure the per- how many times they’ve friends about it but decided not to. After formance of media buys in real-time.” But been there, and what days all, could anything sound more bizarre to one website, “what they really mean is and times they were there, than saying your fridge is keeping tabs on brands should be able to spy on shoppers.” and that presents serious you? risks for users. This fi ctionalized anecdote is based on ...And Many Do Northeastern Assistant real concerns. There are fridges that keep Whether or not they do, the concern Professor David Choffnes tabs on their owners. And so do a variety of that ordinary household items may be spy- added that smart devices other electronic devices. ing on their owners is a very real one and collect data on us even unfortunately is justifi ed. Consider the fol- while they’re supposed to Keeping A Close Watch lowing: be off. “Most devices are doing some kind ATMs, phones, TVs, fridges, cars, watches, Not all that long ago, saying that would *Smart meters know what you’re doing of activity when they’re not being used,” glasses, and even shoes. have been taboo; after all, no one wants at home, when you sleep, when you leave he said. Readers, please note: The information to be labeled paranoid. But these days this the house, and even what TV show you’re So what does all of this mean? Many of presented here is not my opinion, but rath- thinking has become both acceptable and watching,” said Preuss. the most useful, practical, and entertaining er that of people who are very knowledge- widespread. *The Canadian Broadcast Company items in our offi ces, homes, and that we able and expert about this subject. Call this carry with us are not as innocuous as they a word to the wise. seem to be. They may be recording our Sources: abcnews.com; bbc.com; news. Many of the most useful, practical, and entertaining items in our words, movements, habits, and preferenc- com.au; independent.co.uk; marketplace. offices, homes, and that we carry with us are not as innocuous as es for nefarious purposes. These include com; phys.org; zerohedge.com. they seem to be Gerald Harris is a fi nancial and feature writer. Gerald can be reached at geraldhrs@ yahoo.com And it’s spoken of around the world. The ran a story about ordinary home security headline on a news site in Australia read as cameras broadcasting the goings-on in the follows: “Experts warn your smart kitchen homes in which they were installed, in- appliances are watching you.” cluding private moments; And they’re also recording and storing *Hackers have broken into home some data about you. “A fridge is no longer only security cameras, and using those systems a fridge,” Marco Preuss, director of Global have kept close watch on and taunted Research and Analysis at security-software homeowners; maker Kaspersky Labs told Bloomberg. “It’s *Hackers have even broken into some now also a sensor collecting private infor- of the top-line security systems and taken mation.” control of all of the devices in a home; According to Preuss, the details that are *Computer Security fi rm ReVuln hacked being collected, stored, and transmitted by Samsung’s newest televisions, accessing us- smart appliances should worry consumers, ers’ settings, installing malware on the TVs particularly since no one knows exactly and any connected devices, and harvesting all what information is being collected, where the personal data that were stored on the ma- it’s being stored, who has access to it, and chine. They could even switch on the camera how it’s being used. embedded in the TV and watch the viewers. *Former CIA Director David Petraeus The Wall Has Ears said that ordinary home appliances like Most people think twice before talking dishwashers, coffee makers, and clothes about private and fi nancial information dryers could soon be used to gather intel- over the phone because of concerns that ligence about you; some believe they al- someone may be listening to the conver- ready are. Knowing when you make your sation. We shred sensitive documents and coffee sounds innocuous enough, but that other mail to safeguard our privacy. And little piece of data could help snoopers lo- everyone who uses a PC is concerned about cate you, learn your habits, and schedule spyware, malicious software that secretly all manner of wrongdoing, Petraeus adds. records what’s being done on a computer; *The FBI has issued a warning that inter- spyware can “capture” passwords, banking net-connected children’s toys like dolls are information, and credit card details and re- equipped with cameras and microphones lay them to scam artists, paving the way for that could spy on them. The FBI further identity theft and other serious crimes. warned that these toys also could collect And these are some of the reasons personal information, which could create Walgreen’s introduction of a new line opportunities for child identity fraud and of smart coolers called Cooler Screens in other crimes, and has advised consumers January raised eyebrows. These coolers are to switch them off when not being used. equipped with cameras that scan shoppers’ faces, and using AI software make inferenc- Are They Too Smart? es about a shopper’s age, gender, and other “Whether you realize it or not, your criteria important to marketers; they also smartphone could be tracking your where-

Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 41 Style Myths DDebunkedebunked Meira E. Schneider-Atik self if the fi t can be tweaked by a good tailor. Is this item clean? If it has any stains or discolorations, then it’s not clean. Is this item intact? If it has any rips or Weeding Your Wardrobe: What To Do tears, then it’s not intact. When was the last time I wore this? If you Myth: Weeding is just a matter of getting rid of things. haven’t worn something within the past 12 wear it. Or it could be that the item doesn’t months, ask yourself why. make you look and feel your best. Maybe the Where am I most likely to wear this? Ex- design details don’t fl atter you. Maybe the Truth: You need to go through everything and make sure cept for exercise clothing and special-event style doesn’t refl ect anything that you like you’re handling it correctly. clothing, you should be able to wear the item about yourself. in a minimum of three contexts. If you wear the item only for exercise or ast week I wrote about the importance From me, you get the truth. What does this item say about me? If it says it’s a fancy item that you wear only for special of shopping your wardrobe and going When you have emptied out your ward- something about you that you like, that’s good. events, then it still has to fi t and fl atter and Lthrough everything. Here I’m going robe, you need to try on each item and then Now here’s what to do with all of that: be clean and intact. Other items need to be into more detail. ask yourself the questions. Weeding and organizing your wardrobe Does this fl atter my body and face? If it is similar to what you would do with other makes you appear healthy and active, then If an item is otherwise good but doesn’t reflect your personal style, areas of your home and space. You have to the answer is yes. If it takes away your neck then it has to go go through everything and decide what you or makes your rear end look gargantuan, then need, what you want, and what has to go. Yes, the answer is no. it’s great to get rid of things you don’t need or Does this fi t me properly? If the item falls If an item fl atters your face and body, fi ts more versatile. These go into a separate pile want, but you have to make sure you’re doing where it’s supposed to fall with no pulling or properly, is clean and intact, is versatile, and for further playing. If they’re otherwise good, this correctly. Even with getting rid of things, bunching and all design details sit fl at, then refl ects something that you like about your- then they’re keepers, but you want to make it’s not as simple as just tossing. it’s a good fi t. If the fi t is not perfect, ask your- self, then it’s a keeper item and should go sure you get maximum use out of them. right back into your wardrobe. It should be If an item is otherwise good but doesn’t either hung in your closet on a sturdy hanger refl ect your personal style, then it has to go. Moms, Arts And Crafts When You Were Six, (not a wire hanger) or a skirt hanger with clips Maybe your style is classic and this item was or it gets folded into a drawer. a one-time uber-trendy buy that just doesn’t And Hashem’s Refrigerator If the item fl atters you but the fi t is slightly work now. Maybe your style is more creative off, you need to set this aside for your tailor. and this item was a classic that you bought CONTINUED FROM P. 23 matter. It may need only a simple tweak for a perfect for an event but it makes you feel stodgy. If Try duplicating those same projects at fi t. Be aware that if the fi t is more than just it doesn’t refl ect anything that you like about Biology all year, getting 50s consistently. age 14 or older, and most likely you’ll get slightly off, it may not be worth it to fi x it. In yourself, then no matter how good it is other- I wanted to drop the course, but they a weird look, a roll of the eyes, and some that case, the item has to go. wise, it won’t work and it has to go. wouldn’t let me, knowing I could do better awkward silence. I think you know why. At If the item is not clean, it has to be cleaned Notice that the question of “how much if only I tried. They sat on me, got a tutor, four, fi ve, or six years old, that was the very either in your washing machine or at the dry did I pay for this” was included. That’s be- and encouraged me. The result was an 84 best you could do; what you did was delib- cleaner. If it cannot be cleaned, it has to go cause the monetary cost doesn’t matter. You on the Regents exam. There was much re- erate and pure. Now that you are older, you into the rag bag or the trash. could spend $500 on an item that doesn’t joicing. can do much better than that to make your If the item is not intact, it has to be re- work and it still has to go. Keeping it be- Going from fl unking all year to an 84 (ask parents happy - and when we do things for paired either by your sewing machine, your cause of its monetary cost only leaves you me anything about cell construction and our parents, it’s not always with the very hands, or your tailor. If the rip or tear cannot with clutter. You could also spend $5 for amino groups) on the Regents exam seemed best intentions. be repaired or is just too time-consuming or something that does work and think that it to clinch my parents’ suspicions about me, This is why your mom bothers keeping expensive, then the item must go into the rag has to go because it was so cheap. Not so. If but a different test result was more telling. I the arts and crafts junk you made when bag or the trash. it works, it stays. got a fantastic SAT score – you might say mi- you were six but not so much these days (a If you haven’t worn an item within the Now that you’ve gone through everything, raculous – but there was little celebration. word to the unwise: If you graduated law past 12 months, there’s a reason. It could be I’ll be telling you what to do with all of these My parents were not proud but annoyed be- school or med school more than ten years that the item was buried under a load of clut- things. cause they knew I didn’t study a lick. Effort ago and this is all that Mom compliments ter, and now that you know where it is you’ll To be continued… matters. you over, it could be a red fl ag). It’s not In kindergarten, we all made fi nger all that hard to impress Hashem or your Meira E. Schneider-Atik is a wardrobe organizer, personal shopper, jewelry designer, and paintings, macaroni necklaces, or pictures mom. They love you already. Just work fashion writer/blogger and speaker. She helps women look great while saving time, effort, and with glitter and cotton balls glued to it. Our hard, be deliberate, give from the heart, money, all within tznius guidelines, and she’ll add to that with custom-designed jewelry. Read moms hugged us, said they loved it, regarded do the best you can, and if Hashem had a more about her ideas on her blog- www.truetzniutistruebeauty.wordpress.com. She also has them as if they were Picasso or Rembrandts, refrigerator, your deeds would be given a a YouTube channel, “Look Your Best in Mitpachot,” where she does head-wrapping tutorials, cleared space on the refrigerator. Intentions place of honor. and she is also available for private demonstrations. She can be reached at (718) 644-6135 or at [email protected].

42 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 The House OOff FFaithaith ‘‘NN FFashionashion Tobi Rubinstein My Chanel Bag

n 1990, when I fi nally ventured out on cally, in 1924, the Wertheimer my own to start Nicole Miller for Kids, a family provided fi nancing to Iluxury children’s wear company, I had to produce Chanel’s fi rst and reward myself with the iconic Chanel large most iconic fragrance, Chanel satchel with the double gold chain strap. I felt No. 5, in exchange for a 70 properly and smartly equipped to be the pres- percent share of the perfume ident of the company with my new statement division of her company. work overload or pressure to perform. He hat- piece. I know this sounds completely mate- Chanel deeply resented her ed fashion victims and brand knock-offs. He rialistic, ridiculous, and shallow, but Chanel Jewish partners and tried to was principled in beauty and style. had a mesmerizing effect on your sense of regain control with multiple The Wertheimer family that still main- self-worth. It’s as if Karl Lagerfeld and Coco lawsuits. tains ownership of the House of Chanel told Chanel both gave you their personal seal of Before the Nazi invasion the New York Times that they mourn the lead- approval to go out and conquer the world. of France, the Wertheimers ership and genius of the great Karl Lagerfeld. Karl Lagerfeld, creative head of the House escaped to New York. Since We should mourn the man who changed of Chanel (and Fendi), passed away last week Nazi laws forbade Jewish ownership of prop- cellor Angela Merkel’s refugee policy, saying, the problematic anti-Semitic beginnings of at the age of 85. The internet was fl ooded erty and businesses, Chanel petitioned the “You cannot kill millions of Jews and then Chanel by placing a big CC on it and wrapping with stories of “fi rst purchases” of Chanel by Vichy government and Nazi offi cials to have take in millions of their worst enemies after- it with gold chains and pearls and topping it editors, fi nanciers, socialites, government of- sole ownership once again. In anticipation of wards, even [after] decades.” off with a white pedaled fl ower. We can only fi cials, lawyers, doctors, lobbyists, and celeb- Coco Chanel’s move, the Wertheimer family He told Vanity Fair Magazine that Germa- hope that the next creative director will have rities, all sharing their feelings and experienc- successfully checkmated her by bequeathing ny lost all its glamour when they lost all their respect for the man who could redesign hate es of the fi rst time they were adorned with full control of their stake to a French Chris- Jews. into a beautiful black quilted Chanel bag. a piece of Chanel. In a world of expensive tian businessman named Felix Amiot for the Lagerfeld just loved women and dressing Watch JWOMEN live on Facebook every excess, this brand holds a sense of reverence duration of the war. them. He despised mediocrity, trends, imper- Wednesday night at 7:30 p.m. Hosted by Tobi above all others. Postwar business tactics of the family fections, and poor work ethics. He chastised Rubinstein, Galit Lavi, and Rebbetzin Sara helped Coco re-establish the House of Chanel young designers who complained about their Shulevitz Vorhand. despite her despicable behavior. In these years the brand expanded past the perfume Tobi Rubinstein is a retired fashion and marketing executive of 35 years who currently produces into the iconic designs that are the signature runway and lifestyle events for NYFW, specializing in Israel’s leading artists and designers. She is the pieces till today. founder of The House of Faith N Fashion, fusing culture and Torah. Tobi was a fashion collaboration In 1971, after she died, a young Karl Lager- and guest expert for ABC, Geraldo Rivera, Huffi ngton Post, Lifetime, NBC, Bravo, and Arise. She hosted feld was carefully chosen to head up the lan- her own radio and reality TV series. Tobi is a mother, wife, dog owner, and shoe lover. guishing House of Chanel. He was selected because of his creative genius, work ethic, and keen understanding and sensitivity of the im- pact Coco Chanel had on dressing a woman of style and taste level. He had already proven his worth, making Chloé as an “it” brand that embodied the bohemian sensibility of the early ‘70s. Chloé was also created by a Jewish Egyptian woman Gaby Aghion, whom I wrote about several articles ago. Under Lagerfeld, the company fl ourished to become the single-most-important brand in history. His expertise lay in taking the clas- sic Chanel tropes, like the camellia and the tweed boucle, and updating its signifi cance to a new customer. His constant play of logos, keen eye on street trends, and iconic personal image made Lagerfeld not merely a designer at Chanel, he became Chanel. He erased the horrible negative associa- tions with Chanel, and only left mere shades Among the various and colorful Jew- of a brilliant woman who had her own ver- ish circles, ranging from nonobservant to sion of elegance. He completely surpassed her “sheitelized,” Chanel speaks to each with a vision and made the brand all his own. In do- range of modesty and sophistication. You can ing so, Chanel’s anti-Semitic past was almost spot a boxy black-and-white boucle signature eliminated. jacket in Borough Park and a quilted black In 2017, Karl Lagerfeld used the legacy of diaper bag on Central Ave. You can be seated the Holocaust to reprimand German Chan- at a Rosh Chodesh shiur with a woman acces- sorized in a CC multiple gold chain necklace, as well as stand next to a woman checking out at Aaron’s supermarket with a credit card nestled in her Graffi ti-plastered backpack from a past collection. Chanel wasn’t always loved and cherished by the assortment of Jewish American wom- en. Coco Chanel, the creator of the brand, was an openly anti-Semitic Nazi sympathizer. Be- sides for being the lover of a top SS offi cer, rumors swirled around for years that she was a spy for the notorious Third Reich. Ironi-

Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 43 Jumaane Williams Wins Public Advocate Race Amid Low Turnout By Sergey Kadinsky

ll the rabbinic endorse- ments, statements of Ahis support for yeshivas, and an eleventh-hour pilgrimage to the Lubavitcher Rebbe's ohel failed to secure a win for Queens Republican Eric Ulrich in his bid to stage a political upset on Tues- day. With 32 percent of the vote in the 17-person special election, Brooklyn Councilman Jumaane Williams was declared the winner by the city's leading news organi- zations within an hour of the polls closing. He received nearly 121,000 votes, according to NY1 News, with 92 percent of the poll sites report- ing their results. Ulrich came up second with 19 percent of the vote. The winner of the special elec- tion fi nishes the term vacated by Letitia James following her elec- tion last November as the state's Attorney General. With the fol- lowing term starting in 2020, Wil- liams must begin petitioning for the June Democratic primary to remain in offi ce, followed by the general election in November. A former tenant organizer, the 42-year-old son of Grenadian immi- grants was fi rst elected to the City Council in 2010. He used his posi- tion to bring attention to abuses of power and racial profi ling by police offi cers, and passed legislation for- bidding employers from inquiring about past criminal convictions from job applicants. Last year he boldly confronted his party's lead- ership with a grassroots run for Lieutenant Governor against Kathy Hochul. Losing with a commend- able 46 percent of the vote. The run gave Williams name recognition across the city, paving the way to his Tuesday victory in an unusually crowded fi eld of candidates. He is not a stranger to the Or- thodox Jewish community as his Council district touches on por- tions of Midwood and Flatbush. In 2013, he teamed up with then- Councilman David Greenfi eld on an educational school trip with black and Hispanic students from Brooklyn Academy High School and their peers from Yeshivah of Flatbush on a tour of the Museum of Jewish Heritage and the African Burial Ground in downtown Man- hattan in an effort to foster mu- tual understanding.

44 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 Good Eats AAtt HomeHome Naomi Hazan Dairy-Free Mac ‘n Cheese

or me, weekends mean bum- ½ teaspoon dry rosemary ming on the couch eating noth- 3½ cups unsweetened almond/soy Fing but comfort food. Mac ‘n milk cheese is one of my faves, but since I’m 3 tablespoons avocado oil dairy-free, you know it was only a mat- 1/3 cup all-purpose fl our ter of time before I came up with a kill- 1 teaspoon lemon juice er vegan version! This recipe is one for ½ teaspoon turmeric powder the books: it’s so creamy you wouldn’t believe it’s dairy-free! 1. In a saucepan, whisk the oil and the fl our until it forms a paste; stir over Ingredients: medium heat for 3 minutes.

1 lb. pasta 2. Meanwhile, blend all the other 2 medium sweet potatoes, cooked ingredients on high until extremely 1 cup raw cashews, soaked for 1 hour smooth. Add the mixture to the sauce- 1 garlic clove pan and whisk constantly for 5 minutes ¼ teaspoon cayenne pepper on medium-low heat. 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon Dijon mustard 3. Simmer until the sauce has thick- 1 teaspoon soy sauce ened. Toss with cooked pasta, top with 3 tablespoons nutritional yeast crispy breadcrumbs, and serve hot.

Naomi Hazan is a self-taught chef based in New York. She’s been in love with food for as long as she can remember and credits that mostly to her strong Mid- dle Eastern roots and family. Naomi started cooking at the age of 12 for family, holidays, and small get-togethers among her friends. Today, she caters for all types of affairs, from intimate sheva brachos to events for hundreds of people. Naomi always had a strong belief that good food is one of the best ways to bring people together - after all, some of the best times are shared over a great meal. Naomi can be reached at [email protected].

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monolid eye shape has no crease on the eyelid. AThis usually means the eyes have a fl at surface without any folds when they are open. Most Asian eyes fall into this category. Makeup application can be tricky here since these eyes can easily look overdone. 3. Blend well: Make sure build volume without dragging the lashes The following are some exam- your eye shadow colors down. Adding some false lashes will also ples of monolid eyes: meld into each other with make these eyes look more open. Puffy monolids: These eyes no harsh or defi ned borders. 6. Brush up with the right tools: Use a appear puffy due to the fat de- 4. Smudge-proof eyelin- small dense shadow brush to apply your posits on the eyelids, which ers: Most women with mon- eye makeup. Many makeup brushes are too make them look half-closed. olids actually have a shal- large for monolids. Look for smaller, more They are diffi cult to make up low, low crease that rubs dense brushes so that the color glides on since they are not deep-set. against the lash line. This easily because of the compact head of these Sunken monolids don’t translates to resilient eyelin- brushes. have creases but are deep-set. hance your eye shape and create beautiful er, which must stay put, i.e., gel liner in a pot, Eye-makeup application has never been Hooded monolids: These eyes have hid- designs. that’s long-lasting and does not budge. Make a one-size-fi ts-all! With the advent of mod- den creases, but due to their thickness they 1. Keep it soft: Although these eyes are a sure to line your eyes with precision as well. ern technology and an array of beauty prod- appear to cover the eyelids. great canvas for makeup, since there’s lots of 5. Lightweight mascara: If you have ucts available you can easily enhance your Flat monolids: These types of eyes are space available to work, it can begin to look straight lashes and monolids your lashes unique features and wear current colors, as neither sunken in nor puffy. They are sim- garish when overdone. may turn downward. The trick here is to long as you place them correctly. ply fl at and versatile but quite easy to en- 2. Avoid frost or glitter: Sparkly textures hance since you can create a fake crease will add too much drama to this eye. You can Risselle Naimark is a Professional Freelance Makeup Artist and Skincare Consultant. She carries instantly. opt for a touch of sparkle in the liner, the in- an extensive line of personalized skincare, cosmetics, and anti-aging products. Risselle is also avail- The following tips can help guide you ner corners of the eyes, or slightly under the able for weddings, Bar Mitzvahs, makeup lessons, and all of your beauty needs. She can be reached with makeup application to instantly en- brows. at 718 263-5517. +  


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46 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 NNutritionutrition Notes Alice Harrosh shnitzel for your kids, set aside a few cutlets Dear Alice, to grill. If you made meatballs and spaghetti, take the meatballs but have it with a small You may have addressed this already, as baked potato, sweet potato, or other “portion- it is a common problem, but maybe discuss- controlled” starch so you don’t end up having ing it again will help me and others like me. too much pasta. Throw together a chickpea I start off every day so well. I am determined or turkey salad. You and your diet are worth to lose weight and eat my breakfast, lunch, the extra effort! and snacks carefully and on plan. When it Good luck, comes to dinner, however, I mess the whole Alice thing up. I don’t have time to prepare my own dinner, so I end up eating whatever I Make this recipe and keep it in the fridge for 1½ teaspoons grated lemon zest spoon pepper in a large bowl until combined made for the kids. I tell myself that I will just a quick-and-easy munch before supper is ready! 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice well. have a portion-controlled amount but I end 2 lb. haricots verts or other green beans, Cook beans in a large pot of boiling salted up eating more dinner than I planned. Then Ingredients: trimmed water (1 tablespoon salt for 6 quarts water), I sabotage the rest of the night because I am 2 tablespoons olive oil Preparation: uncovered, until crisp-tender, about 6 min- exhausted, stressed, and upset that I messed 3 tablespoons fi nely chopped onions Stir together all ingredients except hari- utes, then drain. Toss with olive oil. up my diet by dinner. How do I end this vi- 3 tablespoons fi nely chopped parsley cots verts with ¾ teaspoon salt and ¼ tea- Count as a free and a fat! Enjoy cious cycle? Signed, Frustrated Dear Frustrated, MY NUTRITIONIST Like you said, this is a common phenom- enon; so many clients experience this frus- trating cycle! Here are a few tips that I have found to help. Don’t under eat. Under-eating is as danger- ous as overeating! Many of my clients are ac- DOES tually eating too little during the day, which sets them up for hunger at night. If your plan recommends two slices of bread by lunch, don’t skip it! If you are allowed three fruits on your plan, eat them! Once hunger settles in, it is very diffi cult to get rid of it, especially when combined with temptation (your deli- cious homemade dinner), exhaustion, and stress. Make sure you are drinking your recom- mended amount of water and eating vegeta- bles throughout the day. Being dehydrated and thirsty can lead to overeating. Filling up NOT on starches and proteins when you could be fi lling up on vegetables usually means con- suming extra calories as well. Be prepared for it to be diffi cult! Because most of the day is busy and we aren’t think- BELIEVE IN ing much about food, the fi rst time we are BELIEVE IN actually “dieting” is by dinner. We may not be used to actually exerting self-control! Remind yourself that everything worthwhile takes work, and it is okay for it to be diffi cult; you can do it! Reconsider whether or not you want to eat A QUICK FIX what you made for your family. With a bit of extra effort you can throw together a dinner that is perfect for you on your plan, and you will be less likely to derail. If you are frying

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ozeir Yisrael big’vurah. course of his life and that of his family, leav- refused and was in fact terminated, termi- one, at times, to stand up and say, “I wouldn’t …Who girds Yisrael with strength. ing the law fi rm to join the Agudath Israel of nating his livelihood. That is g’vurah! These want others to speak like that behind my America. That took the midah of g’vurah on are examples of people who achieved great- back about me” or “I hope others don’t speak ***** his part as well as on the part of his wife to ness through their g’vurah. like that behind your back about you.” (To G’vurah – strength or power – is a midah reduce their fi nancial income quite substan- G’vurah is also crucial in standing up for obtain more practical ideas and resources in that, at fi rst thought, we may not embrace as tially and make such a huge change. Hashem and His Torah in given situations dealing with challenging sh’miras ha’lashon a crucial necessity in our lives. Let us exam- situations, you may contact David Linn at ine, based on HaRav Avigdor Miller zt”l, why [email protected]. He has we absolutely must work on this midah and G’vurah is also crucial in standing up for Hashem and His Torah in worked over many years to come up with how it is used to serve Hashem. given situations when we must take a stand great resources and ideas.) We begin with the words “Eishes Chayil.” Lastly, we need to exercise g’vurah to How is a Jewish woman a warrior? When a say “No” to our own yeitzer ha’ra: I will not woman is able to go out dressed modestly I know one outstanding talmid chacham when we must take a stand. This is true on a say those negative or hurtful words. I will in 90-degree weather, able to overcome the and magid shiur who was an attorney at a communal and individual basis. not go into spiritually dangerous situations. sweltering heat and discomfort and able to large fi rm, who made a decision at the out- We also require g’vurah in order not to be I will not waste the precious limited time overcome the infl uence of the outside world set that he was going to put in normal work- negatively infl uenced by the world and the that Hashem has gifted to me in this world. where women are dressed immodestly, to ing hours and be on a bus home daily to be culture around us. This applies to all areas of I will not waste the fi nancial resources that put it mildly, she is a warrior exercising her there for his family. He sacrifi ced becoming life, including how we speak, dress, behave, Hashem has gifted to me on luxuries I don’t strength of character, her midah of g’vurah. a partner, which he most certainly would and eat, as well as maintaining our high To- need, when so many others are in so much HaRav Yissocher Frand, many years ago, re- have become, because he exercised his mi- rah-mandated standards of honesty and in- need. I will not damage my health by eating lated a story about a man walking home from dah of g’vurah not to follow the rest of the tegrity. Rather than be infl uenced, we need unhealthful foods consistently. I will not fol- shul with his young son on the evening of world in competing and working very late to work on and exercise our midah of g’vurah low the crowd in any way that the Torah op- Rosh HaShanah. The father turned to the son hours to make partner. His family – and so to infl uence others. We need to be the ones poses. and asked him what he had davened for that many others through his shiurim, s’farim, who, at times, stand up in business situations When we say this brachah every morning, night. The son, in his innocence, responded and guidance – have been the benefi ciar- and say, “No. I will not do that. It is not hon- we thank Hashem for the g’vurah that He has that he had asked Hashem to burn down the ies of his g’vurah. Yet, another local talmid est. I will not say that. I will not falsely report given to us, and we can have in mind to ask large law fi rm that his father worked at (pre- chacham and magid shiur, Reb Zev Ungar z”l, that on your tax return.” Him to grant us more g’vurah to serve Him sumably because the father worked very long was threatened with termination if he didn’t We need to exercise our g’vurah to be the and come closer to Him. hours). That father, Rav Chaim Dovid Zwiebel, participate in a case that would have includ- took the message to heart and changed the ed a lie. After consulting with rabbanim, he You can direct any questions or comments to Eliezer Szrolovits at 917-551-0150.

Halachic Highlights…Tz’dakah #1 HHalachicalachic Highlights (For p’sak halachah, please ask your own rav.) Rabbi Ephraim Glatt, Esq. k’safi m: Avraham gave a tithe to Malki-Tzedek (see Raavad, Hil. M’lachim 9:1), Yitzchak gave What is Maaser K’safi m? a tithe (see Rambam, Hil. M’lachim 9:1), and as holding maaser k’safi m is a biblical obliga- Yaakov promised a tithe to Hashem (see Daas tion.] Question: How is maaser k’safi m different tz’dakah, rules that one who can afford to give Z’keinim, B’reishis 28:22). Indeed, the Sifrei The Taz (Yoreh Dei’ah 331:32), on the other from the mitzvah of tz’dakah, and does maaser tz’dakah must provide a poor person with suf- (see Tosafos, Taanis 9a) learns that not only hand, understands that maaser k’safi m is only k’safi m even apply nowadays? fi cient funds to take care of the poor person’s does a person have an obligation to give a rabbinic obligation nowadays. Indeed, it is Short Answer: Maaser k’safi m is an obli- needs. The average giver should give 10% of maaser from his crops, but he also must give the rabbinic obligation for maaser ani. This is gation to give 10% of your income to charity, his own assets to tz’dakah, while a generous maaser (10%) of his money to charity. the opinion of the Birkei Yosef (Yoreh Dei’ah regardless of whether you encounter a poor giver should give 20%. Interestingly, the Shulchan Aruch does not 249:3) as well. [See also Hilchos Maaser K’safi m person. The poskim disagree whether this ob- However, a person must give at the very address maaser k’safi m. Nevertheless, the Tur (R’ Batzri, 1:1) who cites some as understand- ligation is biblical, rabbinic, or just a minhag least one-third of a shekel per year, which (Yoreh Dei’ah 331), as well as the Rama (ibid), ing the Maharil as holding maaser k’safi m is a nowadays. roughly comes out to $10 per year. See reference the laws of maaser ani, which paral- rabbinic obligation.] Tz’dakah U’Mishpat (1:6) and Rav Ari Marburg- lel the laws of maaser k’safi m in many ways. However, many poskim, including the Bach Explanation: er, A Practical Guide To Giving Charity, availa- Notably, maaser k’safi m is different from (Yoreh Dei’ah ibid), hold that maaser k’safi m is ble at https://www.businesshalacha.com/en/ tz’dakah. One must give maaser k’safi m each simply a minhag nowadays. See Minchas Tzvi I. What is Tz’dakah? publication/tzedaka-and-maaser-k’safi m. Im- year, regardless of whether he encounters (ibid.) and Tz’dakah U’Mishpat (5:11). Accord- As an initial matter, the Torah obligates us portantly, however, if one never encounters a poor people or not. See Tz’dakah U’Mishpat ingly, once a person observes maaser k’safi m, to give tz’dakah, as well as not to turn down poor person over the course of the year, he is (5:11) and Shalmei Simchah (Vol. 6, 3:1). it becomes like a neder that he must always empty-handed a poor person who requests only obligated to give this minimum. keep. The Tz’dakah U’Mishpat advises that funds. See D’varim 15:7-8. III. Maaser K’safim Nowadays one should say “bli neder” before accepting The Shulchan Aruch (Yoreh Dei’ah 247:1 and II. What is Maaser K’safim The poskim debate the precise nature such a minhag. 249:1-2), after extolling the virtues of giving The Avos were the fi rst to give maaser of our obligation nowadays to give maaser Finally, the Kuntras Hilchos Tz’dakah cites k’safi m. the Chazon Ish as holding that the reason The Vilna Gaon (cited in Minchas Tzvi, 3:2 why we observe maaser k’safi m nowadays is and in Kuntras Hilchos Tz’dakah 2:2) under- to ensure that we are fulfi lling our mitzvah stands that maaser k’safi m nowadays is a bib- of tz’dakah. In other words, we give 10% as lical obligation. (Accordingly, maaser k’safi m maaser k’safi m because a regular person any- may be the exact same as tz’dakah!) The Sifrei way needs to spend up to 10% of his assets on (mentioned above) likewise appears to under- tz’dakah. stand maaser k’safi m as a biblical obligation. Next Week’s Topic: May a person ever give [See also Hilchos Maaser K’safi m (R’ Batzri, 1:1), more than 20% of his assets or income to who cites some as understanding the Maharil tz’dakah?

Rabbi Ephraim Glatt, Esq. is Assistant to the Rabbi at the Young Israel of Kew Gardens Hills and a practicing litigation attorney. Questions? Comments? Email [email protected].

Vol. VII No. 9 (#301) • February 28, 2019 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 49 RReal-Lifeeal-Life Reflections Sarah Shalek (Newcomb) Raw: Be Transparent Or Be Exposed abbi Feiner told me that trust is the On Shabbos, I notice how basis of any healthy relationship. peaceful I feel. No distrac- RNothing will erode a relationship tions. Spiritual connection more quickly than dishonesty or disloyalty. and connection with loved FEAR is a root of dishonesty. Fear of being ones. Mindfully singing, pray- found out or losing illusory control. Lying is ing, eating, learning, even an attempt at covering things up. I encoun- resting. M’nuchas ha’nefesh. ter this often in business. Emes-Ashar-Ashar Soothing. It’s beautiful. I do means being able to count on someone in not like when Shabbos ends. words and actions. Literally. People doing whom I call a “warrior,” to enlighten me. Her instead of pretending to be anyone/any- In order to achieve this, we must be willing what they say. People not saying they did brutal honesty pierced my heart, thankfully. thing else. Fully transparent. There are times to be still. Not focus on “Next.” Just “Now.” not do something they did. Loyalty. Think My teenager had a moment where I asked where we are more vulnerable/raw, such as The fl ip side is chaos. Always jumping to the about it. Dishonesty means we think G-d is her for honesty. She cried and gave it bravely. when sitting shiv’ah, in a mikvah, a hospital next impulsive excitement and never feeling not watching us? Hearing us? Is it an illness? No cover-ups or denials. Out of the mouth bed, wheelchair, giving birth, funerals, visit- satisfi ed in the moment. An addiction? If someone has used poor of babes. My son doesn’t even know what ing a cemetery, undergoing medical tests or So I’d dare say I’ve learned that self-work judgment, will he own it? Make amends the word dishonesty means. I am blessed. treatments, anticipation of birthdays/holi- needs to be done fi rst in preparation for sincerely? Will he say, “I’m sorry, how can I We must know that the truth always comes days/facing illness or accidents alone. couplehood, and believe me I am practicing make it up to you? Or just dismiss it? Resolve out. Governor Cuomo just signed the law ex- So here we have it. The bottom line. How what I preach. Actually, there cannot be a not to repeat it? Or will he gaslight? Blame tending the statute of limitations for sexual to deal with adversity. Which F.E.A.R. will we “couple” if people are acting “solo.” Continu- the other? abuse victims to come forward. I gratefully choose? Face everything and rise, or forget ing as they always have or making solo deci- I can only say I will never understand it. applaud his efforts. Watch what happens everything and run? Fear is debilitating. The sions without checking with or considering I have been told that I am too trusting. It is now, friends. It’s about time. Exposure is thing we must remember is that there are their partner. Self-work is not easy. No other because I can be trusted. A famous coach/in- real. consequences to our behaviors. There is only way to break out of lifelong habits and MO, spirational writer told me that what I have A wise fellow in our community urged so much a person will take in the form of var- which trap us in the jails of our minds. It re- to offer is rare, as I pursue a coaching ven- me to be “raw,” to communicate directly and ious abuses: I have sent away those I deeply quires a “take-action-consistently” solution. ture in an effort to encourage others with fearlessly. It was hard for me, but I did it and cared for. It was my kind and generous heart No one can or should change anyone else. “Authenticity.” I have learned to accept my- caught on rather quickly. I read about “cam- coupled with my never-ending hope that led Radical Acceptance is do-able as we look for self, and therefore am able to accept others oufl auging,” which some with certain men- me astray. Gentle does not mean submissive. the good, let each other do their own thing, fully, as well. My daughter Bracha once again tal/neurological illnesses do in an attempt My son has a song: “It’s never too late.” Until and come together in ways that matter most, opened my eyes to a reality. Many times towards normal social interactions. It would it is. I am learning. nurturing a unique bond. Hashem has sent that brave young lady, seem to me that we should just be ourselves There were many times when I got out My married kids are the perfect example of unstable situations just in time. Better of different people working things out to- late than never. We can let people go peace- gether. Making the “We” priority. We must fully. They have completed their job in our let ourselves be known. Vulnerably. No other QUEENS SHMIRA lives. Detach with love. Some relationships way to have lasting emotional and physical are simply not meant to last and love is intimacy where Hashem joins the effort in most certainly not enough. I have felt fear. holiness. It is not a business arrangement. HELP US SO WE CAN HELP YOU More times than I’d like. In past years, fear Sometimes a couple is simply not a fi t, and of the unknown kept me stuck. I have been they choose to move on. From a breakup TO JOIN OR DONATE, stalled by fear of hurting others. And I have song: “Come on, let it go. Just let it be. Why had enabling relapses, thinking I must fi x or don’t you be you and I’ll be me.” VISIT OUR WEBSITE: save someone else. I do stare fear in the face Life is not a dress rehearsal, especially at QBSPSHMIRA.ORG though, these days, thankfully. It is never as middle age. A friend who lives alone broke bad as we imagine. his hip. Another came out of breast cancer Have an emergency? 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Recap: Ruchama is worried about the scary the fog gave us an advantage. feeling that happened to her again. She had no “We don’t wanna get caught by the sher- memory of saying she would learn with some- iff,” Ben whispered. “He got no mercy for one. Also, it was the second time that week that black men or civil rights workers.” she had this strange feeling. I thought of the angry snarls and chants at the KKK meeting and I realized he was right. s we pulled away from the freedom Why did I come tonight? I wished myself any- school, I thought about what I had where but in this car. Then I thought of Mick- Aseen inside. It was like stepping into ey and Rita and how brave they were in that a room fi lled with light. There was so much school teaching all those people. I opened my kindness and hope in that shabby building. eyes and said to myself, I am not going to let I thought of the room with the men with anyone scare me when I know what is right. white hoods who were like death itself, and Hashem is with us. the contrast was incredible. Mississippi was Somehow, just as I was thinking that defi nitely another world. thought, which was almost like a prayer, the the neighbor from taking me to that awful “There could be accidents…” I didn’t notice how fast we were driving police car turned around. It must have decid- KKK meeting because I’d been spotted with I didn’t answer. I ran outside into the cool until James swerved and then changed direc- ed to head to another call and, thankfully, we a black person. I decided not to say anything. morning and tried to forget the fearful tone tions. “Duck,” he said. “Bummer! That Sheriff were safe to ride back to Neshoba County. “Just around,” I mumbled. of her voice. What had she meant by acci- Price is trailing us.” The freedom school was far away, so I de- “Just be careful who you associate with,” dents? Was she talking about the KKK? My stomach clenched, and panic rose in cided I would get a bike. I wanted to have my she said. Her voice was low, but I heard the … my chest. own mode of transportation. I’d save from the fear. “We keep a low profi le here. You don’t When I arrived at the dry cleaners, Joseph “Just stay calm,” James called out. money the Hartsteins let me keep and buy a want to stir up trouble with our neighbors,” grunted at me to go start the machines. Ben Ben was sitting near me and I could see used bike. she said. “Just be sure you associate with the that he was shaking. I took his hand and The next morning, Mrs. Hartstein stood by right people.” She whispered even lower, CONTINUED ON P. 54 squeezed it reassuringly. “It’ll be okay,” I said, the door. I wondered why she was up at four hoping I was right. I squeezed my eyes shut. a.m., but I didn’t ask. Susie Garber is the author of Denver Dreams (a novel, Jerusalem Publications, 2009), Memora- I began repeating the words, Ein od milvado, “Where were you last night?” she asked. ble Characters…Magnifi cent Stories (Scholastic, 2002), Befriend (Menucha Publishers, 2013), The and I asked Hashem to save us. Her face was in shadows. It was still pitch Road Less Traveled (Feldheim, 2015), fi ction serials and features in various magazines including James gunned the accelerator and the car dark outside. Did she know where I’d been? A Bridge in Time – historical fi ction serial (Binyan Magazine, 2017). She writes for the community shot forward. The streets here were clay and Should I admit it? column for the Queens Jewish Link and she writes the Queens page for Hamodia. She works as dust and winding and dark. The darkness and I thought about how she hadn’t stopped a writing consultant in many yeshivos and she teaches creative writing to students of all ages.

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