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lssue 74/Winter 5775 When a Little Is a Lot 10 | Just Like the Angels 61 | Successful Uterine Transplant 26 | The Maccabee in Me 48 | Our Moderators Speak Main Office: 1310 48th Street, Brooklyn, NY 11219 Phone (718) 686-8912 • Fax (718) 686-8927 Helpline (718) 437-7110 Hashgacha (718) 686-8912 ext. 280 E-mail: [email protected] Monsey: Israel: Services 24 Hour Referral Helpline • ATIME Publications • Book & Audio Libraries 25 Robert Pitt Drive• Suite 207 Phone:0527187188 • Committee for Halacha & Technology • Family Builder Program • Phone Support Groups Monsey NY, 10952 E-Mail: [email protected] • Insurance Advocacy & Support • Medical Referrals & Research • Menorah Adoption Project Phone: (845) 517-4347 • National Medical Conferences • Online Support Network • Peer support • Pregnancy-Loss Fax:(845) 517-4348 Midwest: Support Program/ Extreme Grief Services • Refuah Network • Seminars/Educational Events E-Mail: [email protected] E-mail:[email protected] • Chaya Spil • Shabbos Near the Hospital • Support Groups • Website • Weekend Retreats • Kol Chaya Hotline/718-298-2646 Chicago: • Project Chava/718-475-1415 E-mail:[email protected] • Mrs. Rusi Cohen England: Board of Trustees 107 Dunsmure Rd.• Suite 2 Mid-Atlantic Region: Mr. Avrumie Ausch • Mr. Moshe Blum • Mr. Yechiel Eisenstadt London N16 5HT (410) 394-7074 • Mr. Avrum Grunhut • Rabbi Naftuli Weiss Phone: 44-208-800-2153 E-Mail: [email protected] Fax: 44-208-211-1773 Baltimore • Washington Board of Directors E-Mail: [email protected] Virginia • Delaware Mr. Naftali Einhorn • Mr. Benyamin Feit • Mr. Shabsi Fuchs • Rabbi Aron Grossman • Mr. Avi Hager • Mr. David Jacobowitz • Mr. Alter Katz • Rabbi Dovid Lefkowitz • Rabbi Sendy Ornstein • Mr. Moshe Dov Stern • Rabbi Aron Twersky • Rabbi Benyamin Weiser • Mr. Shmuel Zafir Founder and CEO/Rabbi Shaul Rosen President/Mr. Moshe Fischer Medical Advisory Board Director of Operations/Mr. Avrohom Gutman Natan Bar-Chama, M.D. • Samuel Bender, M.D. • Alan Berkeley, M.D. Rabbinical Director/Rabbi Chaim Aron Unger • Jessica Brown, M.D. • Jerome Check, M.D. • Owen Davis, M.D. • Dan Goldschlag, M.D. • Marc Goldstein, M.D. • Richard Grazi, M.D. • Victor Grazi, M.D. • Jamie Grifo, M.D. Director of Medical Affairs /Rabbi Mordechai Koenig • Lawrence Grunfeld, M.D. • Joshua Hurwitz, M.D. • Peter McGovern, M.D. Director of Referral Services/ Rebbitzen Mindy Landau • Nachum Katlowitz, M.D. •Harvey Kleinman, M.D. • Zalmen Levine, M.D. Director of Services for Pregnancy loss/Mrs. Malky Klaristenfeld • Harry J. 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SHAAREI TIKVAH/ W TIKVAH/ SHAAREI Office: A TIME, 1310 48th Street, Suite 406, Brooklyn, NY 11219. 2 Table of Content Editorial Letter from the Editor 4 Mailbox 6 Timeline 8 10 Chizuk Just Like the Angels 10 Jewels Along the Way 16 Light 21 Under Construction 23 Calculated Risks 24 Chizuk from Within The Macabee in Me 26 32 Buttons Buttons 28 To Be a Shining Light 29 The Rat Race 30 Miscarriage 32 Candlesticks 33 Avi’s Mommy 34 The Tree of Hope 36 Light at the End of the Tunnel 38 Support 61 Advice from the Experts 44 Staying Sane 46 Shabbaton Coverage Our Moderators Speak 48 Reflections 54 Table of Contents Medical Uterine Transplant 61 111 Unexplained 62 Frozen Embryo 66 Sperm Retrievals 68 Right Fats 70 Humor Missing in Action 72 Signs of the Times 74 Positively Negative 78 Photo Contest 79 5775 Forums ER NT Cyber Party 80 I Flame 85 Yiddish Section 90-114 A TIME was founded in memory of: W TIKVAH/ SHAAREI ר׳ ירמי׳ ב״ר אהרן ע״ה • ר׳ מרדכי ע״ה ב״ר אפרים רוזן נ״י 3 Letter from the editor Dear Readers, There’s strength in numbers, they We want a strong connection say. But power does not always lie in with the Eibishter, that feeling of quantity. empowerment to transcend the obstacles in our way steadfast in Chanukah teaches us the our belief. We seek an absolute significance of small things. An army clarity that there’s a purpose to our comprised of a paltry number of suffering and it is ultimately so, so men and a small flask of oil were the good. We wonder how our emunah making of a miracle, a miracle whose can falter in our weakest moments. light still shines in the bleakest of But we need to realize that one nights, bringing hope one tiny spark little tefillah, one positive change, a at a time. few tears – those small, painstaking On the long winter evening, steps are what will ultimately bring we expect to accomplish much, us to a point of perfection. oftentimes berating ourselves for We wait for big changes, for broad the meager achievements on a given daylight, for the ultimate yeshuah day. Let’s not forget how each bit of we are pining for. But focusing on progress makes a difference, and the little blessings and small boons as long as we frame our goals, each scattered about in desolate days can stride forward counts. bring such positivity and light to the We aim for perfection, being hard waiting game. on ourselves for letting the human If you ever underestimate the factor within us reign from time to power of one tear, one tefillah, time. We might feel inadequate one check on your to-do list, and getting pulled down with the grind blessings scattered about in your of our nisayon. But our avodah is day, remember Chanukah. Little to change just one step upwards, things are the beginnings of big a notch above with each passing miracles. hurdle. Wishing you a light-filled Yom Tov. The Editors 5775 ER NT I SHAAREI TIKVAH/ W TIKVAH/ SHAAREI 4 Meals with Heart Brought to you by A TIME A tuna sandwich is not a supper. 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