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6 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) • January 18, 2018 SStoriestories Of Greatness R’ Dovid Hoffman The Curious Child he Jewish people are the only people more told him he was presently hosting tience, and told him he must be extremely in history to predicate their survival one of the leading rabbis in all of Israel, and respectful in front of the rabbi. Craig ap- Ton education. The most sacred duty he was welcome to come over to meet the peared to be duly chastened. of parents is to teach their children. Judaism Torah giant. “Bring your wife and children But it was not long before the little trou- is a religion whose heroes are teachers and as well,” he was told, so they all can receive blemaker was up to a new antic. At a lull whose passion is study. The Egyptians built blessings from the rabbi. And why not? The between visitors, young Craig ran up to R’ pyramids. The Romans built the Coliseum. home was constantly fi lled with people – Scheinberg once more, and without the “My name is Chaim Pinchas,” he said Jews built schools. That is why we alone, of men, women, and children – coming in and slightest hint of pretension, he introduced softly. “How are you?” And just like that, the all the civilizations of the ancient world, are out all day long, eager to receive a blessing himself. elderly tzadik conducted a down-to-earth still alive and strong, still continuing our an- from R’ Chaim Pinchas Scheinberg. “Hi! My name’s Craig,” he said, congen- conversation with a young boy from a non- cestors’ vocation, our heritage intact and un- religious background as if the two of them diminished. In this parshah, Moshe speaks were longtime friends. of the duty of parents to educate their chil- “The moment he stops asking questions is when you know you The conversation lasted for a few min- dren. We should encourage our children to are in trouble, as he now feels a disconnect with the people utes and Craig returned to his family with ask questions so that the transmission of a huge smile plastered on his face. After his the Jewish heritage would be not a matter of he should trust most.” conversation with their son, the rosh yeshiv- rote learning but of active dialogue between ah turned to the parents and taught them an parents and children. important lesson in parenting. “There is no Once, while traveling on behalf of Yeshi- When the family arrived, the host im- ially. “What’s your name?” such thing as a bad question. If your child vas Torah Ohr, the rosh yeshivah, R’ Chaim mediately escorted them into a side room, Craig’s parents gasped in embarrassment. asks a question, feel blessed that he is ask- Pinchas Scheinberg, zt”l, was lodging at the which led into the dining room where R’ Mortifi ed at their child’s insolence, they ing you questions. That is a sign of a healthy home of a talmid from many years previ- Scheinberg was sitting. Awed by the sight were prepared to grab him away once more child who has a healthy relationship with ously who lived in Baltimore, Maryland. The of the elderly rabbi, the couple stood back when the elderly rosh yeshivah indicated he his parents. He is looking to grow, and that talmid was extremely attentive to the rosh and watched in reverence as he greeted was not at all upset with the boy’s behavior. is a tremendous blessing. The moment he yeshivah’s every need and made him feel as each visitor with a smile and tremendous Just to prove his point, he took the child’s stops asking questions is when you know comfortable as he possibly could. warmth. This young family had never seen hand and pulled the young man closer to you are in trouble, as he now feels a discon- At the time, a former associate of this such a holy-looking man, and they truly him to answer his question. nect with the people he should trust most.” talmid, a man who came late to the life- could not take their eyes off him. Suddenly, style of a religious Jew but who had begun their 7-year-old son, Craig, broke free of his Rabbi Dovid Hoffman is the author of the popular “Torah Tavlin” book series, fi lled to make serious headway in his observance parents, ran right up to the venerated sage, with stories, wit and hundreds of divrei Torah, including the brand new “Torah Tavlin of Torah and mitzvos, was visiting Baltimore and exclaimed, “Hey, they promised me Yamim Noraim” in stores everywhere. You’ll love this popular series. Also look for his book, from his hometown in Los Angeles, together there was going to be only one rabbi here, “Heroes of Spirit,” containing one hundred fascinating stories on the Holocaust. They are with his wife and two children. They were and there are so many of them!” Horrifi ed, fantastic gifts, available in all Judaica bookstores and online at http://israelbookshop- staying nearby and called to see if they Craig’s parents quickly ran to get their son. publications.com. To receive Rabbi Hoffman’s weekly “Torah Tavlin” sheet on the parsha, could get together. The talmid from Balti- They admonished him quietly for his impa- e-mail [email protected]

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Rabbi Dani Staum Slow But Steady CONTINUED FROM P. 1 to be the School Social Worker in Yeshiva Bais Hachinuch, a yeshivah for boys who Here on the upper East Coast, we braced struggled academically in the mainstream ourselves for a walloping storm this past schools. What is most remarkable about Thursday, which they titled a “Bomb Cy- the yeshivah is the positive atmosphere and clone.” Giving such dramatic names defi - general happiness that is apparent on the nitely helps engender hysteria, which the faces of the students. news stations love to promote. The founder of the yeshivah, Rabbi Biny- It dumped a few inches of snow and amin Rabinowitz, explains that as a rebbe students emerges during their adolescence Although my role was to emotionally 40-mile-an-hour winds, and was followed by in a mainstream yeshivah for many years, in unpleasant ways. support the students, I learned many things days of Arctic weather, where daytime highs he always had a few students who couldn’t It was for that reason that Yeshiva Bais from those students and from the incred- were in the single digits, and nighttime lows keep up with the class. Despite the great ef- Hachinuch was founded – to offer those stu- ible rebbeim whom I was privileged to work were below zero. Safety and precautionary fort they invested, at times even with tutors dents a supportive and nurturing environ- alongside. notes were sent around to prevent frozen and outside assistance, they just couldn’t ment, where they could feel accepted with This will probably sound unbelievable, pipes and other such issues. keep up with their peers. their academic challenges, and taught how but this article isn’t an appeal, nor was I Meanwhile, out in Minnesota, they I could not imagine what it would be like to be successful despite them. The yeshiv- even asked to write it. (Of course, I have were experiencing the same weather, and to have the feeling I had driving up the hill ah continues to be that wonderful haven, no doubt that the yeshivah could benefi t were trying to fi gure out what everyone so painfully slowly, with another car pass- and services our community, living up to greatly from donations.) But my experience on the upper East Coast was getting ex- ing me effortlessly, every single day. Often its lofty mantra of building and educating cited about. the deep pain and shame of those precious every n’shamah. CONTINUED ON P. 20

Could there be a more beautiful goal than to seek to help every child climb the hills of life, no matter what kind of tires or engines they were born with?

During Thursday morning’s storm, after davening Shacharis in shul, our oldest child, Shalom, and I headed home in my non- four-wheel-drive. There wasn’t much snow on the ground, but the roads had not been salted or paved well by that point. Someone asked me for a ride home. I told him I would be glad to do so, as long as the car could make it up the steep hill going up to his street. I didn’t really think that would be an issue, until I made it a third of the way up, and could not proceed any farther. The wheels spun but we weren’t moving at all. I drove back down the hill, and apologized, and let him off at the bottom. Then, we had the challenge of trying to make it up the steep hill leading up to our home. As soon as we began heading up the hill, the car seemed to struggle mightily with the road. However, we were moving, though literally inch by inch. I shifted gears, turned the wheels, fl oored it, and then let up, as we continued to make our painfully slow as- cent. As we continued to inch our way up, I doubted that we could actually make it to the top, but without much choice, I contin- ued to try. As we were nearing the top, I noticed, in my icy rear-view mirror, a taxi, which ob- viously had four-wheel-drive, fairly easily cruising up the mountain. In another min- ute, he whizzed by us and proceeded on. Thankfully, we made it home, though the normally four-minute drive, took almost fi ve times as long. In my fi rst position after graduating with my degree in Social Work, I had the privilege

Rabbi Dani Staum, LMSW, is the Rabbi of Kehillat New Hempstead, as well as a rebbe and the Guidance Counselor at He- ichal HaTorah in Teaneck, New Jersey, and Principal at Mesivta Ohr Naftoli of New Windsor. Rabbi Staum is a division head at Camp Dora Golding. He also presents parenting classes based on the acclaimed Love and Logic methods. His email address is [email protected]. His website is www.stamtorah.info.

24 Tevet 5778 • Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 9 TThehe SShmuzhmuz On The Parshah R’ Ben Tzion Shafier Do We Need To Respect The Institution? “And all of your servants will come to Hashem and Moshe. since it wasn’t respectful to mention that the me, bow, and say, “Leave!” You, together Now, Hashem is sending Moshe on king would come running, Moshe changed with the nation that is with you, and then the fi nal mission: “Tell Pharaoh that if the wording to: “Your servants will come run- we will leave.” he remains in his wickedness, all of the ning.” Rashi explains that this was done out policy was enslavement and oppression of – Sh’mos 11:8 fi rstborn in Mitzrayim will be killed.” The of respect for the monarchy. the Jews – not as a tolerated social ill, but as stakes were raised. This concept becomes diffi cult to under- public policy and mandate of the govern- ***** stand when we take into account what his ment. Pharaoh Remains Steadfast in His Moshe Changes the Message government stood for and who he was as State law denied Jews all rights: owner- Opposition to Hashem Rashi tells us that when Moshe spoke to an individual. ship of property, freedom of speech, the From the fi rst time that Moshe appeared Pharaoh, he modifi ed the message. Moshe right of public assembly. They were treated in his court, Pharaoh’s attitude had been, knew that in the end Pharaoh himself would A Wicked Government as chattel, owned by the Mitzrim, the Egyp- “Who is this Hashem that I should listen come running back to him and beg him to It would be diffi cult to imagine a gov- tians. But more than that, Jews didn’t even to him?” Time after time, Pharaoh insulted take the Jews out of Mitzrayim. However, ernment more evil than Pharaoh’s. Offi cial have the right to live. As the Jewish people continued to thrive, infanticide became state policy. Furthermore, Pharaoh himself was a butcher. When he contracted tzaraas, his wise men offered the cure: Bathe in human blood. The Midrash tells us that to do this, he would bathe in the blood of Jewish ba- bies each day. However, he needed a bath in the evening as well, and heaven fore- fend to use stale blood; so each morning and evening he would have 150 innocent Jewish souls slaughtered – for his personal comfort.

In the history of our long exile, we have never had it this good

Why should Moshe treat such a king with respect? Respect for the Institution, Not the Individual “Without fear of government, a man will swallow his friend alive” (Pirkei Avos). Anyone who has lived through a period of lawlessness can attest to the primal fear he felt as he helplessly watched rioting, loot- ing, and mob behavior. Ask a recent émigré from South Africa what it is like when a group of thugs ap- pears at his backyard picnic and begins in- discriminately shooting up his family. It’s a country where carjackings, muggings, and armed holdups are the norm, and there is no one to talk to, not because people there are different, but because the respect for authority has melted. It seems that the answer to this question is the distinction between respecting the institution and respecting the individual. For the proper running of society, and therefore for the good of mankind, there needs to be a system of leadership and a hi- erarchy of authority, what we know as gov- ernment. For government to be effective, it must wield power, and its citizens must respect its authority. One of the obligations of any member of a society is to obey and respect its leaders. It is a correct and proper

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Born and bred in Kew Gardens Hills, R’ Ben Tzion Shafier joined the Choftez Chaim Yeshiva after high school. Shortly thereafter he got married and moved with his new family to Rochester, where he remained in for 12 years. R’ Shafi er then moved to Monsey, NY, where he was a Rebbe in the new Chofetz Chaim branch there for three years. Upon the Rosh Yeshi- va’s request, he stopped teaching to devote his time to running Tiferes Bnei Torah. R” Shafi er, a happily married father of six children, currently resides in Monsey.

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R’ David Algaze

Speed And Progression “So shall you eat it: your loins girded, in haste add? The answer is that everything your shoes on your feet, and your staff in about this evening represents haste. The your hand; you shall eat it in haste – it is a matzah itself is a reminder of the fact that Pesach-offering to G-d.” we left Egypt in haste and therefore had no 36). Time belongs to the world of matter Since the Exodus from Egypt was not a (Shemot 12:11) time to let the dough rise. The name of the and natural order, but salvation belongs natural event, it did not have to go through ***** festival itself, Pesach, means in Hebrew “to to a different set of laws and therefore the steps usually associated with them, mong all the laws regulating the skip,” as when someone moves quickly. The is not limited by time or the process of such as evolution, gradual processes, and eating of the sacrifi cial offerings, Midrash adds that the “haste” represents the cause and effect. The “skipping” by the the like. The Liberation was an event out- Athere is none that prescribes the haste with which the Egyptians wanted us to Redeemer represents this transcending of side of Time and Space; therefore, its re- manner in which the people eating from leave. In fact, Pharaoh demanded from Mo- the laws of the physical world that we are membrance requires the presence of alac- it should be dressed or the speed in which ses to lead his people out of the land during accustomed to. Similarly, in the case of rity and speed. they should eat it. Why in this offering the night, a request that Moses refused. The Joseph, when the time for his liberation Rabbi Kook expands on this concept alone do we fi nd these specifi c instructions people of Israel, too, left in haste, having lit- from prison came, he was rushed to the by explaining the difference between and what do they mean? the cultural and spiritual development The Rabbis explain that the ceremony of the nations and that of Israel. While at which the Pesach offering is consumed, This alacrity that characterizes many of Israel’s pages in history is other cultures develop over time and the Seder, contains many symbols and in- evidenced in our times with the creation of the State of Israel their character is formed over many cen- structions. The purpose of all these laws is turies of experiences and events, Israel to recreate on that evening the feeling and erupts in the stage of history suddenly, the emotions that were experienced by our tle time to prepare even their food rations. court. The Seforno (Italy, 1470-1550) writes, without having inherited anything from forefathers in Egypt on the night of their Finally, the Shechinah itself acted in haste, “As is the case with every one of G-d’s de- its environment or surrounding civiliza- deliverance. As the Rabbis put it, “In every as it says, “The voice of my Beloved [G-d] is liverances, they are all done in an instant, tions. Israel enters history in an unex- generation [on the night of the Seder] a coming, jumping over the mountains and in the blink of the eye, as it is written, plained way, which baffl es historians of person should see himself as if he himself skipping over the hills” (Song of Songs 2:8) ‘My salvation is very near” (Isaiah 56:1) or all ages. They could have developed slow- was coming out of Egypt.” In other words, (Mechilta, Bo 7). “If My people would just listen to Me, [if] ly under Egyptian infl uence, but G-d did the Seder night is a re-creation and re-living The meaning of this hurriedness is Israel would walk in My ways, I am about not wish it to be so. “For that reason He of the night when we came out of slavery. explained by the Maharal (Prague, 1526- to subdue their enemies” (Psalms 81:14- took them out of there suddenly…so they The bitter herbs, the nutty compote repre- 1609) as symbolizing a process not gov- 15)…and so it will be in the future, ‘And were transformed in one moment from senting the mortar, the obligatory reclining erned by the natural order. “Because the suddenly the Lord Whom you are seeking lowly slaves into a nation endowed with – all these impact our minds in order to fa- Shechinah came to redeem them through will come to His sanctuary’ (Mal’achi 3:1)” cilitate the reaching of those emotions that a Divine power… [to announce that] He (and Genesis 41:14). CONTINUED ON P. 16 accompanied our ancestors in Egypt on the was coming quickly in accordance with fateful night of the fi fteenth of Nisan. His deeds and might, they therefore had Rabbi David Algaze is the founder and Rav of Havurat Yisrael, Forest Hills. He is a noted public However, what does the fact that we eat it to eat it with speed” (Gevurot Hashem speaker and author and is the President of the international Committee for the Land of Israel.

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Woman Returns ‘Dead’ Russian Man Rams Armored “Basically some guy stole an armored ve- hicle... and went into a shop to top up his Christmas Tree To Costco Drunk Droning Now Illegal Personnel Carrier Into Shop, stocks in the morning,” a social media user described, while fi lming the snow-covered For Full Refund In New Jersey Steals Wine scene out of his window. ew Jersey Governor Chris Christie signed a law on Monday making it Nillegal to fl y an unmanned drone air- Man Aims To Break Record craft after too many drinks. The law prohibits fl ying a drone with a Running Boston Marathon blood alcohol content of 0.08 percent or higher, the same as for driving a vehicle, Backward or while drugged. Violators face up to six months in jail, a $1,000 fi ne, or both. The measure also bars fl ying a drone near a prison or in pursuit of wildlife. The drone measure was among 109 bills man rammed an armored personnel that Christie signed into law on his last full carrier into a shop window before day in offi ce. Aclimbing through the rubble to steal At least 38 states are considering restric- a bottle of wine in a town in Russia last tions on drone fl ying this legislative year. Wednesday. The Consumer Technology Association The man had swiped the vehicle from a n aghast Costco customer recount- has forecast that 3.1 million drones were privately-run motorsport training ground ed the tale of another customer sold in the United States last year, up 28 nearby, driven it through a forest and into California runner is training to Awho he said returned her “dead” percent from the year before. a small town. break a Guinness World Record by Christmas tree to the store for a full refund. Struggling to turn around in a narrow Arunning the entirely of the Boston “I can’t make this stuff up,” Scott Bent- street, the man, whom witnesses described Marathon while facing backward. ley wrote in a Facebook post. “Woman in as being drunk, proceeded to slam the tank Loren Zitomersky, an experienced run- line at Costco, totally nonchalant, to return into the window of a convenience store. ner, said he is planning to run all 26.2 miles her Christmas tree ‘because it is dead’ on He also crushed a car parked nearby. of the Boston Marathon while facing back- Jan. 4.” Footage shared on social media showed ward in order to raise money for the Epi- Bentley said the woman was “[shamed] the man subsequently exiting the vehicle lepsy Foundation of Greater Los Angeles. to a small degree” by employees and other through its hatch, briefl y inspecting the Zitomersky, whose brother died of epi- customers, but the purchase was verifi ed in damage, and entering the shop through the lepsy-related causes at the age of 7, said he Costco’s system and she was issued a full broken window. is also aiming to break a Guinness World refund. He was later arrested in possession of a Record by finishing the marathon with “Heartbreaking to think she may have stolen bottle of wine. a time under 3 hours, 43 minutes and 39 needed that money so much, she lost all Witnesses visible in the footage did not seconds. self respect and dignity for it,” Bentley seemed particularly disturbed by the inci- wrote. dent. CONTINUED ON P. 14

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Zitomersky said backward running has The pizza shop posted on its Facebook 5-Pound Avocado caused him a lot of pain in his legs, but it page that employees who overcook pies are doesn’t compare to the struggles faced by made to don a large orange bag reading, «I Named World’s Heaviest epilepsy patients. burned a pizza,» and walk five laps in front “The pain and the struggle that I’m feel- of the eatery. ing when I’m running backwards is tempo- The store refers to the punishment as rary,” he said. “For them, they live with this “walking the plank.” struggle and the diffi culties every single “Well it was one way to remind all of us day.” not to burn pizzas,” the owner said. One employee who appeared in the pho- tos posted to the restaurant’s Facebook, Restaurant ‘Pizza-Shames’ said he wasn’t paying attention to the time when the burned the pizza. Workers Who Burn Pies “And I waited just a little bit too long and it overcooked it, so I had to put on the suit and walk the plank,” he said. uinness World Records officially ness’ consideration. The employee said replacement pizzas named a Hawaii woman›s massive She then shared the bounty with friends are made for customers whose pies come Gavocado the world›s heaviest. and customers at a cafe. out a bit too crispy. Pamela Wang earned the world record “It tasted excellent. We had 10 people The owner admitted his pizzeria’s cook- for heaviest avocado after stumbling upon there and didn’t even use up half of one ing method is a bit more complicated than the gargantuan green fruit, which weighed half of the avocado,” she said. what some other eateries do. 5 pounds, 3.6 ounces. While she awaited the results, Wang was “Basically we do everything by hand “When I got the email from Guinness pleased the story of her massive discovery here. It’s very diffi cult, we have a 600 de- World Records saying the avocado had had reached so many eyes. gree oven that fl uctuates so they get burnt,” [achieved the record], I caught myself glee- “All along, I’ve been amazed how much he said. fully grinning. As I shared the news that interest an avocado could generate. I de- He said the pizza-shaming punishment indeed this avocado had really set a world lighted in watching the story go viral,” she is meant in good fun. record, I was also humbled,” Wang said. said. “I was thrilled to have so many people “We’re all good friends. We have a good She found the record-breaking avocado acknowledge and root for a big avocado. time. It’s very hard work, we all love it so if while walking near a school on Nov. 26 and Hearing old friends across the globe, former we can’t be hard on each other then, you instantly realized she had found something foreign exchange students and members of know we gotta have some fun around here special. the community reach out to congratulate its all in good fun,” he said. “I see avocados every day and I pick up me as the story made its way around the The owner said even he is not exempt avocados every day, but this one ... it was world was awesome.” n Idaho pizzeria is drawing atten- from the pizza burning rule. hard to miss,” Wang said. “It was as big as Wang’s discovery toppled the previous tion for the unusual way it disci- “It’ll happen again. Keep your eyes my head.” record holder for heaviest avocado, which Aplines workers who burn pizzas: out. One of us will be out there again,” Wang weighed the avocado in the pres- with a public pizza-shaming. he said. ence of an independent witness for Guin- CONTINUED ON P. 15

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CONTINUED FROM P. 14 The Jan. 4 blizzard tore the brine shed from its mooring at a restaurant in Maine, and it stood unbeaten for eight years, weighing 4 “Peeing on this ad may change your was blown to a nearby New Brunswick island. pounds, 13.2 ounces. life,” the text at the top of the ad reads. The shed is among fi ve buildings that She expects a new record holder to «This ad is also a pregnancy test. Pee on the comprise the last traditional smoked-her- come along some day, but presently enjoys marked area and wait a moment. If you are ring facility in the U.S., and an organization her spot in the record books. expecting, you will get a surprise right here called Lubec Landmarks has worked for al- “I am aware that there are very likely big- in the ad.» of nosey New Yorkers.” most 25 years to preserve it. ger avocados just waiting to be found. It’s The agency behind the campaign said The snowfort -- which is “only available Lubec Landmarks’ president said legal just a matter of time,” Wang said. “Mean- it took some work to adapt pregnancy test for a limited time because it will melt” -- is tangles, including salvage rights claims by while random people recognize me as the technology to work on a magazine page. being offered for $250 a night. some Canadian citizens, could doom the avocado lady.” “Technical advancements made during “Washer/dryer not included with the building. the work with this campaign have the po- unit,” the man wrote. “The bureaucratic nonsense is hamper- tential to improve medical diagnostics,” ing us big time,” he said, adding that van- Ikea Magazine Ad Doubles the agency that developed the ad said. dals with chain saws are threatening to The ad was created in collaboration Storm Blew Historic dismantle the building. As Pregnancy Test with a pharmaceutical lab. The shed’s remains, which include sig- Building To Canada; nifi cant portions of its roof, fl ooring and fi replace plus some side walls, fl oated un- New York Man Offers Maine Wants It Back der the bridge between Maine and the Ca- fi shing-industry building on the U.S. nadian island. ‘Snowfort Penthouse’ National Register of Historic Places “It is just a miracle that it didn’t hit the On Airbnb Ais half-submerged in waters near a bridge. It just sailed right through the pil- Canadian island, and conservationists fear ings,” one town offi cial in Maine said. New York man is making the most it could disintegrate before legal tangles of the city’s winter weather by list- are resolved. CONTINUED ON P. 16 Aing the “snowfort penthouse” he built on his balcony on Airbnb. The man fi lmed himself transforming the snow on his apartment›s balcony into a «fort» that he is now offering up on the wedish furniture giant Ikea is calling accommodation-finding app. on women who suspect they might be “This comfy snowfort is built to impress Spregnant to urinate on its latest print with its very own tunnel entrance, breakfast ad to fi nd out for sure. chair, and couch for sleeping (bring your own The Ikea ad, in a Swedish magazine, blankets--BYOB),” The listing reads. “It has contains a pregnancy test that reveals a sweeping city views and no roof to allow discounted price for an advertised crib if it maximum sunlight exposure to help warm comes into contact with a pregnant wom- you up during the day. The 5 foot-tall snow an’s urine. wall offers some privacy from the prying eyes

24 Tevet 5778 • Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 15 Do We Need To Respect The Institution? Speed And Progression CONTINUED FROM P. 10 ant. For almost 2,000 years, we have wan- CONTINUED FROM P. 11 events transcend the laws of the physi- dered from county to country, oppression cal Universe and therefore cannot be manner of behavior. Without it, society to oppression, expulsion to expulsion. We G-d’s inspiration. It was G-d’s Hand that understood by applying the evolution- itself cannot function. now fi nd ourselves welcome members of wrought this…so that the nation’s cul- ary principles normally applied to the As the king occupies the position of the American society, citizens with all the tural form would not be mingled with events of Nature or history. This is one leadership of the country, it is the obliga- rights of any other citizen. We are allowed any other civilization” (Commentary on of the reasons that the world has dif- tion of all to respect him. That is basic to to operate our own schools in the man- the Haggadah). fi culty in comprehending or accepting the good of society. It is the right way to ner that we see fi t. We are allowed to wor- This alacrity that characterizes many the existence of Israel. Israel exists not act, and it is the way that Hashem wants ship in the way that we feel appropriate. of Israel’s pages in history is evidenced because of the result of some natural us to act. This respect has nothing to do We are allowed to conduct our lives in the in our times with the creation of the development but because G-d willed it. with the individual; it has to do with the way that we so choose. The only request State of Israel. Its formation shared with The story of our people is, like Pesach, position. I may recognize that a leader as made upon us is to abide by the laws of the Exodus the same quickness and also a story of many Nature-defying events an individual is a lout, and I may feel that the land. the incomprehensibility of its existence. that transcend the rules of the physi- way about him privately, but as long as he In the history of our long exile, we have Both the liberation from Egypt and the cal Universe and attest to the presence maintains his position, I am obligated to never had it this good. And, therefore, it is creation of the State of Israel defy logic of G-d. By our celebration of the haste respect him. especially incumbent upon us to respect and occur only because of many steps and the speed in our Seder, we give tes- Moshe Rabbeinu was doing what was this land, obey its laws, pay homage to its “skipped over” and many unnatural timony to the Divine Providence that right and proper. Despite the fact that this leaders, and appreciate the great blessing phenomena. This is to tell us that both governs the world. individual was wicked, he held the posi- that we enjoy in living in this country. tion of king, so Moshe showed respect for the institution of leadership. Even though that institution was now being used to pursue wicked ends, the institution itself was still worthy of respect, and therefore Moshe acted accordingly. What Does This Mean for Me? This message is particularly relevant in our times. Historically, kings viewed their populations as sources of taxes and foot soldiers – vehicles by which to expand their fame and fortune. Rare was the king who actually ruled for the good of his peo- ple. We fi nd ourselves in very different conditions, a government “of the people, by the people, and for the people.” Whether we agree with every policy or not, it is an unprecedented advance for the good of man, a regime that is run for the good of the citizens of that land. To us as Jews, this is especially poign-

Snippets Of Strange CONTINUED FROM P. 15 Lotto Winner Thought $1 Million Phone Call Was A Prank

hen a North Carolina man got a phone message telling him Whe’d won $1 million, he and his wife thought it might be a prank. When the lucky man called the lot- tery back, he realized it wasn’t a joke. “I started crying and shaking,” he said. “I never thought I’d win something like this.” The man’s entry was one of 1,395,919 in a second-chance drawing. He was giv- en the option to receive his prize in the form of annual payments, $50,000 for 20 years, or a lump sum of $600,000. He chose the lump sum. “I joked with her and told her, ‘After all these years, I bet you never thought you’d be married to a millionaire did you?’” the man said. “It looks like we can get the new truck you want.”

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CONTINUED FROM P. 1 and devoted to this country. DACA recip- ients are largely educated, productive, young undocumented immigrants from and benefi cial to the American economy deportation, calling it an “amnesty-fi rst – unlike many native-born young peo- approach” and urging Congress to pass a ple, who are involved in criminal activ- replacement before he begins phasing ity and drug addiction. out its protections in six months. As According to recent research, Dream- of March, some of the 800,000 young ers have started their own businesses at adults brought to the US illegally as chil- twice the rate of the general American dren who qualify for the program will population, 46% are currently in school, be eligible for deportation. The fi ve-year- 83% are working and earning their edu- old policy has allowed them to remain cation, and 70% are pursuing their BA ing considered for deportation, and also these people. And hopefully now Con- without fear of immediate removal from degrees or higher. grants work authorization. gress will be able to help them.” the country and gives them the right to In order to qualify for DACA, the ap- While there are serious legal issues As expected, protests broke out in work legally. Effective immediately, the plicants must comply with the following with the way Obama executed and es- front of the White House and the Jus- Department of Homeland Security will criteria: They must be enrolled or com- tablished DACA by overstepping his tice Department, and in cities across the not accept new applications for the pro- country, soon after the announcement. gram. The six-month delay was intended Democrats and some Republicans, busi- to give Congress enough time to replace If a rational solution isn’t implemented, deporting the Dreamers ness executives, college presidents, and the program with a permanent legisla- immigration activists condemned the tive solution. would be extraordinarily expensive and a bureaucratic nightmare move as coldhearted and shortsighted President Trump and Attorney Gen- and said it was unfair to the young im- eral Sessions announced the change, migrants and could harm the economy. arguing that those who are illegally in pleted a course of study whether they constitutional authority, Trump has said If a rational solution isn’t implement- this country are lawbreakers who hurt are currently learning in an academic that “the onus was now on lawmakers ed, deporting the Dreamers would be ex- native-born Americans by usurping their program or trade school, or have earned to protect the young immigrants as part traordinarily expensive and a bureaucratic jobs and pushing down wages. I think a high school diploma, or have gotten of a broader overhaul of the immigra- nightmare. It would be a mass expulsion that argument is nonsense and discrimi- their GED or have completed military tion system that would also toughen en- of an entire generation of kids and young natory. The Dreamers were brought into service. The Dreamers are vetted to en- forcement.” President Trump, in a tweet, adults. Many have been here most of their the US unwittingly by their parents sure that they have not been convicted called on Congress to “legalize DACA.” as minors and are amongst the bright- of a felony or any other substantial He went on to write, “I have a love for CONTINUED ON P. 31 est youngsters we have in this country. crime, and must be living in the US since America is the only country they have 2007. DACA gives participants a two-year Cynthia Zalisky is the Executive Director of the Queens Jewish Community. She can be contacted ever known, and they are very patriotic deferral, which can be renewed, from be- at [email protected]

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CONTINUED FROM P. 1 the six community leaders honored by the NAACP last summer for outstanding contri- but is important to our community. bution in the “fi ght for freedom.” (Newsday, In May 2017, after a nationwide search, January 11, 2018.) Shimon Waronker was hired by the Hemp- Newsday reported that “The action stead School System in a 3-2 vote to be the came following a raucous meeting punc- new superintendent of the 99-percent-minor- tuated by jeers directed at the superin- ity school district. He is a chasidic (Chabad) tendent – demonstrations that often Jew with a PhD from Harvard. He is an immi- drowned out his attempts to defend his grant from Chile who speaks fl uent Spanish. administration, and that district authori- The former Army intelligence offi cer ties made no concerted attempt to stop.” turned around violent New York City (Newsday, Thursday, January 11, 2018.) At

Imagine if a crowd of whites or Jews had engaged in similar conduct against a black superintendent. There would have been a big outcry of racism schools by suspending gang members, fi r- the meeting, he was accused of racism by ing substandard teachers, and instituting members of the audience and at least one uniforms. board member. A spectator played “Hit Dr. Waronker, when hired, said, “I’m very the Road, Jack” at the end of the meeting, hopeful. I don’t see how my religion is go- with other audience members joining in. ing to affect [his performance] – other than The video is online. Jews value education, and I bring that phi- Imagine if a crowd of whites or Jews had losophy and spirit to this district. And the engaged in similar conduct against a black children will be like my children.” superintendent. There would have been a big Two members, David Gates and LaMont outcry of racism. They would have referred E. Johnson, took issue with hiring Dr. to the era in the South when blacks were Waronker. ridiculed and discriminated against by white “The board majority took the liberty to mobs. Yet, here there is no outrage. sort of kind of silence the community,” Gates It is ironic that this incident came out said. “This is going to be the new superinten- right before Martin Luther King Jr.’s birth- dent, and you have no say.” Fellow school day, because he is known for saying that a board member Melissa Figueroa, in support- person should not be judged by the color ing the appointment, said, “This is a matter of of his skin. racism, and that’s very sad. We have to come This sorry episode reminds me of what together instead of continuing to foster this happened 50 years ago when the Jewish otherness.” (Esteemed Educator Faces Oppo- teachers were not willing to take similar sition as He Takes Over Hempstead School conduct lying down. The local school board District. CBS News May 17, 2017.) in Ocean Hill-Brownsville wanted “local Dr. Waronker started in June 2017. Last control” of the school districts and wanted Tuesday, January 9, in a 3-2 vote with Gates to replace some teachers and administra- and Johnson in the majority, the board tors with those of their own choosing who put Dr. Waronker on administrative leave. happened to be of the same ethnic group as The balance of power changed in Novem- the board. The teachers were led by United ber 2017 with the election of a new board Federation of Teachers President Albert member. Dr. Waronker was replaced by act- Shanker. His reputation is such that he is ing superintendent Regina Armstrong, who referred to in the movie Sleeper as the per- was the associate superintendent for ele- son who started World War III. mentary curriculum and instruction before the appointment. She was among one of CONTINUED ON P. 21

Warren S. Hecht is a local attorney. He can be reached at [email protected]

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Shema 33 HaKadosh Baruch Hu Never Leaves Us e end our discussion of the Shema with the follow- cles and wonders that they saw from Y’tzias Mitzrayim and ing pasuk (BaMidbar 15:41): through the 40 years in the Desert. He then says, “so that you W know that I am Hashem, your G-d” (Ani Hashem Elokeichem) “I am Hashem, your G-d, Who has removed you from the and begins the next pasuk with “And you arrived at this land of Egypt to be a G-d to you; I am Hashem your G-d.” place,” referring to their arrival in Eretz Yisrael. ***** Rav Samson Raphael Hirsch points out that the phrase “Ani Rav Shimon Schwab discusses why the phrase “Ani Hashem Elokeichem” is very diffi cult, since it is Moshe Rab- during the miraculous experiences of Y’tzias Mitzrayim and Hashem Elokeichem” is repeated at the end of this pasuk. beinu who is speaking and not Hashem. Rav Hirsch explains the 40 years in the Midbar.” This ending of Shema is a reaf- He explains that there are two ways that Hashem relates to only that here Moshe Rabbeinu is utilizing “Ani Hashem” as fi rmation of the opening “Shema Yisrael, Hashem Elokeinu, us. The period that included Y’tzias Mitzrayim, K’rias Yam Suf, the expanded name of Hashem. Hashem Echad.” the providing of all our needs in the Midbar, and Matan To- The very fi rst words of the Rama in the Shulchan Aruch rah, was a time of “gilui Sh’chinah.” The word Sh’chinah comes are the words of David HaMelech: “Shivisi Hashem l’negdi from “shochein,” meaning close or neighbor (shachein). These I am just as present now in your normal tamid–I place Hashem before me always.” The Rama writes were times in which Hashem revealed Himself through open and routine lives as I was during the that this is “Klal gadol baTorah u’b’maalos ha’tzadikim.” Rav miracles and wonders. This period represented the greatest Chaim Friedlander quotes the Vilna Gaon, who adds one time of gilui Sh’chinah in our history, culminating with Ma- miraculous experiences of Y’tzias word: “kol maalos ha’tzadikim.” The Vilna Gaon explains that tan Torah when Hashem communicated directly with klal Mitzrayim and the 40 years in the Midbar.” the difference in levels of a tzadik can only be measured by Yisrael, the highest level of gilui Sh’chinah. the degree that he feels the presence of Hashem. There is no The fi rst “Ani Hashem Elokeichem” refers to this time pe- other barometer. Thus, explains Rav Friedlander, feeling the riod of gilui Sh’chinah. Rav Schwab explains (a partial but not full quote): “I alone presence of Hashem is both the entry level of our service of However, for most of our history, we have been living in control every present and future moment of all existence Hashem and also the pinnacle of our serving Hashem, as we a time of “hester Panim” – a time of Hashem’s presence be- in heaven and on earth.” The purpose of all the miraculous grow to feel His presence ever stronger, more intensely, and ing hidden by the natural order. At the end of this parshah, events that B’nei Yisrael experienced, starting from Y’tzias ever more consistently. Hashem is telling the Jewish people that the gilui Sh’chinah Mitzrayim right through the end of the 40 years in the Desert, May we be zocheh always to take advantage of the tremen- that they enjoyed throughout this period of time will not last was to impress upon us this idea of Ani Hashem. dous opportunity to feel the presence of Hashem “tamid” forever. They should expect to live a “normal” life in which While B’nei Yisrael were experiencing these miraculous (constantly). the presence of the Sh’chinah is hidden. events, Ani Hashem became quite clear to them. But, with As part of our new Mitzvah Series, daily recordings of less With this second “Ani Hashem Elokeichem,” Hashem is the anticipated transition to a “normal” life, in which they than two minutes each day are available. Sign up by sending telling us: “Although you may not be aware of My presence in would wake up in the morning and go about the ordinary an email to [email protected] and put the word “Sub- your daily lives, nevertheless, I am the same G-d who related routine of daily life, the presence of Hashem would not be scribe” in the Subject line. to you through the world-shaking miracles and wonders of so obvious. To access Audio, Video, and Archives of previous Tefi lah seg- Y’tzias Mitzrayim and Matan Torah. I shall continue to be Ani Parshas Tzitzis and the Shema we recite daily ends with the ments, please visit www.WeeklyTefi lahFocus.com. Hashem Elokeichem under all circumstances.” second Ani Hashem to teach us to remember that Hashem is In one of Moshe Rabbeinu’s fi nal speeches, in D’varim 29:1- saying, “I am just as present now in your normal and routine You can direct any questions or comments to Eliezer Szrolovits 5, Moshe Rabbeinu reminds klal Yisrael about the great mira- lives – although I choose now to veil my presence – as I was at 917-551-0150.

Slow But Steady

CONTINUED FROM P. 9 have heard from other Bais Hachinuch reb- during the snow storm reminded me of the beim that they have had the same experi- yeshivah and its students and the amazing ence when meeting former talmidim. No work they, and their dedicated rebbeim and matter whether the talmid has gone on to teachers do, in trying to reach the soul of learn in yeshivos, or has gone out to work, every student, in his or her unique manner. they seem to recall those nurturing years Bais Hachinuch was my fi rst real em- in Bais Hachinuch with fondness. ployment. Consistent with their goal of Could there be a more beautiful goal building people, the menahel, Rabbi Naf- than to seek to help every child climb the tali Eisgrau, offered me my fi rst position, hills of life, no matter what kind of tires or and never stopped encouraging me. (He engines they were born with? still does!) Personally, I am still deciding whether In recent months, I have met a few of it’s worth the added expense of four- our former Bais Hachinuch students in wheel-drive, or maybe to just move to a different locations. At times, I recognized place where they must send a note home them instantly, while other times they in- to parents to tell their children to bundle troduced themselves. What’s remarkable up because it’s considered unusually cold to me is how happy they are to see me. I at 50 degrees. Solution to this issue’s puzzles

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Gerald Harris What If...

CONTINUED FROM P. 1 huge turmoil in the political system. That’s why I moved to Asia. That’s why my children falling down, as some predict? learned how to speak Mandarin, because of Billionaire Jim Rogers is one of those what’s coming. The turmoil will be so bad warning that the worst market crash in his- that institutions that have been around for tory could begin very soon – and instead a long time will disappear, governments will of just worrying about our portfolios we fail, and even countries will fall.” should be worried about our survival. Does this sound crazy to you? If so, bear Sudden Change? in mind this is the opinion of someone who The U.S. economy could break down the dollar would become dirt cheap, creat- respond to these circumstances. has made many billions in the markets by quickly because the signs of imminent fail- ing not just infl ation but hyperinfl ation. When the economy is growing and peo- going against the herd. What if he turns ure are diffi cult to see. For example, on Sept. ple are content, lots of people take credit out to be right about this, too? What if the 17, 2008, the markets faced a sudden crisis Diverse Issues for the situation. But when major prob- nightmare scenario he fears actually mate- and panicked investors withdrew a record Rogers says any of a diverse group of lems erupt, why is it that fi ngers tend to rializes? $140 billion from money market accounts problems could create such a situation. point to the Jews? “There are some who where businesses kept cash to fund day-to- Among those: The U.S. dollar rapidly los- believe an international conspiracy is Breakdown Ahead? day operations. ing its value, creating hyperinfl ation; a intentionally trying to drive the United When most people prepare for an emer- States toward economic ruin,” Rogers said. gency they stock up on cans of tuna fi sh, wa- Do the words “international conspiracy” ter, batteries, and the like. But the problems The worst market crash in history could begin very soon – sound like a code word for Jews to you? Rogers anticipates would be unprecedented Preparing for a collapse is important be- and he urges investors to prepare for the and instead of just worrying about our portfolios we should cause a catastrophic failure can happen worst. be worried about our survival without warning. In a recent interview on “The Bottom Rogers says that people survive most cri- Line” with Business Insider’s CEO Henry ses through their knowledge, wits, and by Blodget he outlined possible scenarios that Had withdrawals continued at that rate bank run that could force banks to close helping each other, but there are additional could cause such chaos; he also elaborated even for another week the entire economy or even go out of business; the Internet things they should be doing. on what investors and everyone else needs would have crashed, Rogers believes. This shutting down from a super virus, pre- “First, make sure you understand basic to do to survive a potential breakdown of means trucks would have stopped rolling, venting e-mails and online transactions; economic concepts so you can see signs of society. grocery stores would have run out of food, terrorist attacks; or a massive oil embargo instability,” he says. “One of these signs is a Financial problems are nothing new; and businesses would have closed. Fortu- that would halt interstate trucking and stock market crash; if it’s bad enough it can since the beginning of the republic Amer- nately, the then-chair of the Federal Reserve, create a shortage of food. Any combina- cause a recession or worse. Second, keep as ica has experienced one every four to Ben Bernanke, and Treasury Secretary Hank tion of these events could also overwhelm seven years. But it’s been eight years since Paulson noticed the signals and knew what the government’s ability to prevent or to CONTINUED ON P. 49 the last one, so another could be coming they meant. Their bailout plan supplied soon. When the last fi nancial crisis started enough cash to calm the situation, but the in 2008 the situation was so dire that the U.S. economy came perilously close to catas- government felt compelled to print money trophe. feverishly to save the fi nancial system. As a What would happen if the U.S. econ- result, the balance sheet of the Federal Re- omy melts down today? For one, no one serve has mushroomed and is now more would have access to credit. Banks would than fi ve times what it was in 2008. “Be very close, and demand for food, gas, and other worried, because the next crisis is going to necessities would outstrip supplies. If the be the worst one in my lifetime or yours,” collapse affected local governments and says Rogers. utilities, then water and electricity would The government will try to deal with no longer be available. As people panicked the upcoming problems by raising interest they would revert to survival and self-de- rates. But once the economy begins getting fense modes. The economy would return really bad he expects big banks and institu- to a traditional economy where those who tions to call the Fed and say, “You must save grow food barter for other services. us [with another bailout and by lowering And failure of the U.S. economy would interest rates] or Western civilization is go- create global panic as demand for U.S. dol- ing to collapse.” And the Fed, which is made lars and treasuries would plummet and up of bureaucrats and politicians, will try to interest rates would skyrocket. Investors help them. “But this time it won’t work. And would rush to other currencies such as the a fi nancial calamity is often followed by Chinese yuan, the euro, and even gold. And

Gerald Harris is a fi nancial and feature writer. Gerald can be reached at [email protected] Horror In Hempstead CONTINUED FROM P. 19 the city’s recent school crisis. One verse The teachers in the entire New York read, “When the U.N. made Israel a free in- City school system went out on strike in dependent state/ little four- and fi ve-year- support of their fellow teachers and were old boys threw hand grenades; they hated successful. the black Arabs with all their might/and There were some anti-Semitic comments you, Jew boy, said it was all right.” (Teach- made at that time concerning the strike. The ers Union Protests Anti-Semitic Poem most famous was a poem that was read on Broadcast over New York Radio to FCC. WBAI-FM by Leslie R. Campbell, a teacher Jewish Telegraphic Agency January 17,1969) in Ocean Hill-Brownsville, on Dec. 26, 1968. We see nothing has changed. Black It was purportedly written by a 15-year-old Lives Matter and others use the same rhet- black child and was dedicated to Albert Shan- oric, except now they replaced the word ker, and opened with the lines, “Hey, Jew boy, Arabs with Palestinians. with that yarmulke on your head/you pale- It is important that the Jewish com- faced Jew boy, I wish you were dead.” munity speak up today as we did 50 years The poem linked Israel’s struggle with ago when we see such actions perpetrated the Arab countries to white supremacy in against members of our community.

24 Tevet 5778 • Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 21 FFrontlinesrontlines Joseph M. Frager Time For Complete Reclamation Of Jewish Holy Sites ith President Trump’s monu- rendered. This needs to be undone and the mental declaration of Jerusalem site opened all year to Jewish visitors. Un- Was the eternal capital of Israel fortunately, the Labor government, which on December 6, 2017, it is time to discuss formulated the Oslo Accords, was not think- reclaiming Jewish holy sites in Israel. The ing much about Jewish holy sites. Without main holy site that needs help right now is protests around the globe, the Tomb of the the Tomb of Joseph in Samaria. Matriarch Rachel and the Tomb of Samuel Jewish holy sites were well protected (as would have been handed over to Arafat. were holy sites of all religions) in Jewish I take special personal satisfaction in hands from 1967 until 1993, when the Oslo convincing the Labor government at the Accords were signed. As part of the Oslo Ac- time (1995) to save the Tomb of Rachel. In cords, sections of the heartland of Israel in those days, I worked with Gabby Gozland, Judea and Samaria were broken into three Carl z”l & Sylvia Freyer, and Dr. Manfred administrative areas, designated A, B, and z”l & Anne z”l Lehmann to organize a mas- C. Area A, which currently represents 18 sive rally outside of the Israeli Consulate in percent of Judea and Samaria, gives total New York to save the Tomb of Rachel. The civil and security control exclusively to the outcry was so great that the Consul General Palestinian Authority (PA). Area B, which at the time, Colette Avital, actually phoned represents at least 22 percent of Judea and Foreign Minister Shimon Peres and plead- Samaria, gives civil control to the PA, and ed with him as a woman to save the Tomb security to a joint Israeli-PA administration. of Rachel. Not only was the Tomb of Rachel Area C gives full civil and security control saved, the Israeli government allocated $5 to Israel. Joseph’s Tomb is in Nablus which million to make sure it was protected. It re- in 1995 was handed over to the PA as area A. mains in Jewish hands to this day. Joseph’s Tomb was to be excluded from I take special personal satisfaction in convincing the Labor The Tomb of Samuel was saved by Se- this designation, and functioned as a yeshiv- government at the time (1995) to save the Tomb of Rachel phardic Chief Rabbi Bakshi Doron. The ah and synagogue until 2000. One of Ehud Tomb of Isaac, located in the Cave of the Barak’s tragic blunders as prime minister Patriarchs, is only open to Jews ten days was to hand over security control of Joseph’s Yitzchak Rabin to try to prevent exactly quently, “Jews should not be forced to pray out of the year. This is totally unaccepta- Tomb to the PA Police on October 7, 2000. On what occurred seven years later. In April in the dead of night at their holy sites.” ble and shameful. Jewish holy sites have October 13, 2000, the PA Police allowed for 2002, Joseph’s Tomb was retaken by the The grave of the fi rst Judge of ancient to be reclaimed speedily in our day. The the yeshivah to be burned to the ground, its IDF as part of Operation Defensive Shield. Israel, Osniel ben K’naz, was handed over President of the United States showed us books incinerated, and its Torah scrolls des- Despite this, only with sheer will and deter- to Arafat as part of the Hebron Accords in the way. It is time to be much more vocal ecrated. The tomb was painted green. Rabbi mination, Jews visit the tomb only at night, 1996, when 80 percent of Hebron was sur- about such matters. Hillel Lieberman, who tried to save the Torah with a heavy army presence, and only al- scrolls, was brutally murdered. lowed to do so once per month. Joseph M. Frager is a physician and lifelong activist. I had gone to Israel with his father, Governor Mike Huckabee, with a group Rabbi Zvulun Lieberman (of blessed mem- I helped organize, visited the Tomb of Jo- ory) of Brooklyn, in 1993 with Rabbi Aron seph on the eve of the President’s visit to Is- Soloveitchik zt”l to talk to Prime Minister rael in May of 2017. The Governor said elo-

22 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) • January 18, 2018 HHookedooked On Healing Caroline Schumsky, LCSW, MS

So if you can’t do it for yourself, try doing it and what you would love to have in your life. for your loved ones. Please stop pressing rewind on the things Setting Up Camp In The Past Marinating in guilt, shame, and grief is not that should be deleted from your life. After the same as struggling, learning, and freeing all, who is truly more important: the one who he Past, The Present, and The Future yourself from past mistakes. Mentally cut broke your heart or the one who made you walked into a bar. It was tense. Lol. that cord. But hold up. We humans won’t eas- smile again? Letting go does not mean they TOkay, that was lame. Alrighty then. ily leave something behind unless we know “got away with it.” Yes, you were wronged, as Check yes if you are still angry about some- what to replace it with. So what would you we all were at one time or another. And no, thing someone once did to you, if you still like to include as your new guest now? Need you do not need an apology. You do not re- think about mistakes you made that make some ideas? How about inviting some faith in quire one anymore. Free yourself, and you you sad. Do you fi nd yourself feeling frustrat- yourself, a sprinkling of confi dence, or a dose will start to feel the healing. ed a lot, wishing things in life had turned out est part. Mourn for as long as you need to. of peace, serenity, and bliss? Let go of the old Once upon a time a guy stood up in a differently? Join the legions of us who have Gently ask yourself: How can I live with version of “you” as the poor little victim, and crowd and cracked a joke. Everybody laughed diffi culty being grateful for what is in front of this memory but still move forward? Remem- make some room for the new satisfi ed, self- like crazy. After a moment, he told the same us right now because we are stuck in the past. ber that every day is an opportunity to create assured, and self-reliant “you.” joke again. This time, fewer people laughed. How? We hold onto former hurts, reliving new memories. Sometimes you have to let go So what are some realistic ways not to let Then he told the same joke again and again. that pain over and over again. So, what do you of what’s killing you, even if it’s killing you to bygone days plague you? Oh, that’s simple. All of a sudden there was no laughter in the have the hardest time letting go of? People, let go. Just fuggetaboutit. Okay, that’s not possible. crowd at all. The guy smiled and said: “See, your expectations, bad habits? Imagine if you Truth be told, you need to be honest with Scratch that one. Well, you can always ignore you can’t laugh at the same joke repeatedly; have a guest and you offer him some tea. You yourself. Do you want to keep feeling bad by your feelings or stuff them by drinking or so why do you keep crying over the same begin pouring it into his cup till it is full, but cradle-diving into the past, or would you rath- eating way too much or zoning out on your thing over and over again?” you keep on pouring. Well, just like this cup, er be free and just feel “good” for a change? phone. No, no, no. Don’t bother drowning Do not keep the painful past alive in the we too are full of our ideas about the way But, Caroline, what do I do when those your sorrows in booze or Oreos. They know present, most especially in your relationships. things ought to be, our strongly held opinions thoughts creep back into my mind? Simple. how to swim. And while you’re at it, take those old clothes and judgments. Before we move forward in Take a deep breath, accept those feelings, then Escape and addiction are not an option off. They don’t fi t anymore. life, my friends, we must learn to empty our gently bring yourself back to the present mo- my friends. Hmmm. How about you redo all There’s a reason your windshield is so cup. ment. If you need to, say it aloud to yourself, those painful events from your past by jump- much bigger than your rearview mirror, So what do we do with what’s been done or whisper it in your head: “I choose not to ing into a Jumanji time machine? Sorry. Not sweet friends. Where you are headed is way to us? Sure, there are devastating things in our keep focusing on the past. I am here now. I am doable either. So for pity’s sake, what can we more important than what you left behind. past: breakups, streaks of bad luck, or even hankering for happiness, and this is what I am do? Hold on; help is on the way. So please, start paying attention to the pre- tragic deaths. First things fi rst: Decide to let doing to achieve it.” Now what are you doing? For starters, stop recycling bad memories sent moment. And don’t forget: When the that chronic pain go, once and for all. Get it Don’t stumble on something that’s behind that hit you right in your bruised and tender past calls, let it go straight to voicemail. It has all out of your system, please. Find someone you. That ancient pain may have been around places. Keep imagining and visualizing who nothing new to say. you deeply trust to share it with. Cry and vent for so long that it feels like an old friend; but all you need to. Instead of letting this hurt be- trust me, it is anything but that. And remem- Caroline is a licensed psychotherapist, crisis counselor, and writer with an offi ce in Queens. She come your identity, try to take responsibility ber this: Every day that you choose to live in works with individuals, couples, and families. Appointments are available throughout the week for any part of this drama that you may be that dark past, so do all the people in your life. and weekends. She can be reached at 917-717-1775 or at [email protected] or at face- responsible for. And yes, that may be the hard- They are impacted by your aches and agonies. book.com/pages/Safe-Haven-Healing.

24 Tevet 5778 • Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 23 RRecentecent Happenings

Touro College Dean Chosen Top Social Work Leader Dr. Steven Huberman, Dean of the Touro Graduate School of Social Work, Honored by National Association of Social Workers

r. Steven Huberman, the current a diffi cult childhood that led him to so- and founding dean of the Touro cial work. He barely knew his father, and DCollege Graduate School of Social his mother suffered from mental illness, Work, was recently presented with the but said their plight was no reason not “Top Leadership Award,” the highest so- to “always wear an ironed shirt.” cial work honor in New York City, by the He said the poverty that enveloped his National Association of Social Workers- family made a 25-cent hot lunch in high New York City Chapter. school beyond his reach. He didn’t go The award recognizes professionals hungry, however, thanks to the school’s who demonstrate exemplary leadership guidance counselor, Judith Shusterman, qualities and unique commitment to the who gave him quarters for lunch and improvement of social and human con- kindness that transformed his life. She ditions. inspired Dr. Huberman to join a profes- In presenting the award to Dr. Huber- sion where he, too, could make a differ- man at the NASW-NYC’s Annual Leader- ence in people’s lives. ship dinner, Dr. Robert Schachter, the Dean Huberman has enjoyed a dis- organization’s former executive direc- tinguished career in social work train- tor, extolled the dean’s qualities that en- ing, management of complex non-profi t sured a strong foundation for the school, organizations and research. He received which is currently celebrating its tenth his PhD from the School for Advanced anniversary. Studies in Social Welfare at Brandeis “Dr. Huberman is not only a leading University and, prior to joining Touro, academician, but also a talented and ex- was a professor of social work at Boston perienced community organizer – some- University and UCLA. He also served as one who could build a new school that executive director of the Jewish Federa- has become known for its excellence and tion of Greater Los Angeles. He enjoys unparalleled diversity as well as its com- being in the classroom and has served as munity engagement,” said Dr. Schachter. president of the New York State Associa- Dr. Huberman’s “engagement of pro- tion of Deans of Schools of Social Work. fessional leaders” and his organizing At Touro, Dr. Huberman said he takes skills played a pivotal role in the school’s great pride in the school’s accomplish- positive reception from the city’s social ments and diversity. Students of all work community, Dr. Schachter noted. backgrounds “can stand as one under the Describing the Dean’s humanity and chupah,” the canopy associated with tra- interpersonal skills as his greatest assets, ditional Jewish weddings, and with the which benefi t “the faculty, students, and support of Touro College and University all the community stakeholders he has President Dr. Alan Kadish, the school drawn in,” Dr. Schachter said he “stands pays each student’s NASW membership with the very best education leaders we dues so they can benefi t from being part DDr.r. StevenSteven Huberman,Huberman, DDeanean ooff tthehe TTouroouro CCollegeollege GGraduateraduate SSchoolchool ooff SSocialocial WWorkork iinn NNYC,YC, have had in New York.” of a professional association. This ena- pproudlyroudly holdingholding hhisis 22017017 ““TopTop LLeadershipeadership AAward”ward” aatt tthehe rrecentecent AAnnualnnual LLeadershipeadership AAwardswards Current NASW-NYC Chapter President bles students to become part of a host DDinnerinner ofof thethe NNationalational AAssociationssociation ooff SSocialocial WWorkersorkers NNewew YYorkork CCityity CChapter.hapter. TToo tthehe DDean’sean’s Candida Brooks-Harrison offered her of committees and task forces, engaging rrightight isis Dr.Dr. AlanAlan KKadish,adish, PPresident,resident, TTouroouro CCollegeollege aandnd UUniversityniversity SSystem,ystem, aandnd ttoo hhisis llefteft iiss DDr.r. congratulations as well, “You clearly rep- with leaders in the fi eld and working on NNadjaadja Graff,Graff, VViceice PPresident,resident, DDivisionivision ooff GGraduateraduate SStudies,tudies, TTCUSCUS resent the best of the best in our profes- important social work issues that they sion.” might not otherwise have access to early Baptist Church in Atlanta, where he re- moving forward,” Dr. Huberman exhort- Inspired by Social Worker Early On in their careers. fl ects on Dr. King’s noble leadership. ed the large gathering of social workers, Visibly moved by the honor and sur- Citing Martin Luther King, Jr. as one Inspired by Dr. King’s famous words, “Let’s run, let’s walk for social justice.” rounded by family members, Touro col- of his enduring role models, Dr. Huber- “If you can’t fl y then run, if you can’t run And in a nod to his own mother’s ad- leagues, and personal friends, Dr. Huber- man said that each year he journeys to then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, vice, he lightly added, “And always wear man recounted for the packed ballroom the late civil rights leader’s Ebenezer but whatever you do, you have to keep an ironed shirt.”

YU Students Take Behind-The-Scenes Look At Israeli Innovation Winter Break Trip Provides Opportunity to Engage with Israeli Entrepreneurs, Jumpstart Personal Growth uring Yeshiva University’s winter advancing the fi elds of medicine, fi - in numerous industries and shape our turn home motivated to explore within intersession, a group of select nance, artifi cial intelligence, security, modern world. The goal of this trip is themselves and bring their aspirations DNorth American undergraduate agricultural development, and disability to expose the students to Israeli innova- to fruition.” students will take part in “Discovering inclusion, including Google, WeWork, tion on a grand scale so that they gain a Other trip highlights will include a Innovation in the Start-Up Nation,” a Amazon R&D, CheckPoint, Vayyar, Simi- better understanding of our nation’s sto- meeting at Jerusalem-based Hometalk, a behind-the-scenes look at some of the lar Web, Elfi -Tech, Fortissimo Capital, ried tenacity and incomparable achieve- wildly popular online platform for shar- most pioneering companies in Israel. OurCrowd, and accessibleGO, many of ments, and become inspired to actualize ing home improvement tips; a visit to The week-long educational program will which are led or staffed by YU alumni their own potentials,” said Stephanie Bar Ilan University’s Ocular Motor and provide the students with an opportuni- now living in Israel. They will also at- Strauss, Executive Director of Yeshiva Visual Perception Laboratory; a tour of ty to learn about creativity, persistence, tend lectures on Jewish business ethics University in Israel. the Zomet Institute, a non-profi t, public and achievement from successful Israeli and explore the interplay between tech- “While it gives our students a leg up research institute dedicated to seam- entrepreneurs. nological advancement and Jewish law. to meet with internationally acclaimed lessly merging Jewish law with modern From January 14-20, the student lead- “There is something special about power-players in a number of fi elds and life via technology; and a briefi ng from ers will visit with more than 15 compa- Eretz Yisrael that fosters unparalleled discover ‘what’s out there,’ it’s even more a Staff Sergeant in the IDF’s elite cyber nies, organizations, and labs that are creativity, allowing it to lead the way important to us that the students re- security unit.

24 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) • January 18, 2018 FFeatureeature Story

Bayswater Brothers Team Up To Help The Homeless

By Susie Garber gloves, hats, socks, blankets, basic toilet- ries, and food, which they bring to those t’s a bitter cold January night. A who need it most. Local stores in Far homeless man is sitting outside in Ja- Rockaway, near where the Russells live, Imaica, Queens, shivering. Suddenly, have given discounts on some of the a young man wearing a kipah approach- items they need. They are trying to fund es him and asks, “How are you? I want 6,000 blankets. All different types of peo- to give you something to help you deal ple are receiving this much-needed help. with this terrible weather.” Nochum Russell pointed out this is a big The man is speechless. He takes the kiddush Hashem. It’s a beautiful way to gift and says, “I’m at a low point in my bring us together and the world at large. life right now and I’m homeless. This Shmulie has experience working at gentleman came by and gave me some Harmony Services with adults with spe- clothes, socks, earmuffs, gloves, food, cial needs, and currently does marketing and a nice warm blanket. I really appre- for a healthcare agency that helps disa- ciate it ’cause it’s gonna be deep freezing bled and elderly get home health aides weather tonight. Thank you very much. and healthcare. Both brothers work full- SShmuelhmuel RussellRussell ggivesives a bblanketlanket ttoo hhomelessomeless ppersonerson oonn tthehe ssubwayubway G-d bless you, sir.” time and do this purely as a volunteer Another young homeless man named act of chesed. Shmulie noted that when they learned from generation to genera- Brian, also in Jamaica, accepts a package. they deliver the packages they also of- tion in their own family. Their grandfa- He responds with a heartening thought. fer a hug. Many people accept the hug. ther used to take their mother and the “Never give up. The struggle is real, but It’s human contact. After being hugged, family out for lunch on Sundays. He things can always get better. As many one homeless man said, “I needed that.” would always pick up a couple of home- negatives there are, there’s always that It communicates, “We really care about less people and invite them to join the many positives. Keep your head up and you as a human being.” The Russell family for lunch. He would provide them never stop trying.” This package was brothers’ approach is nonjudgmental – with a full meal. Their mother would al- the catalyst to help him continue being and it works. Shmulie began speaking ways donate part of their food to home- strong and positive in the face of his dif- to one homeless individual who said no less people on the subway. This idea of fi culties. one had said hello to him in months. helping others in need was inculcated Shmulie and Nochum Russell are two Shmulie was out there before the big into the Russells by example. brothers from Bayswater who are out snowstorm. He saw guys were shaking Shmulie is a chaplain for the New on the streets on every Motza’ei Shab- from the cold. He stated that they don’t York State Chaplain Task Force (NYSCTF), bos, bringing packages of care to home- give out money; they specifi cally give which donated over 100 blankets. When less people in all the boroughs. Most re- items people need, including food. Shmulie contacted them and said they cently, they distributed their packages to Nochum noted how one of the local would need so many more blankets, the homeless people in Jamaica. stores offering discounts is owned by a NYSCTF offered 6,000 blankets. This is Nochum wonders, “How can we as Muslim. If we look past any differences, very helpful, but Humans4HumansNYS Jews just walk by when we see someone we are all human beings. The essence of needs to raise money for shipping them on the street in this terrible weather?” people is good, he said. in a container. They hope to raise $7,500 Humans4HumansNYS was a pro- The Russells deliver 50 packages on each to offset the shipping costs and to buy ject that these brothers quietly started Motza’ei Shabbos. Shmulie noted that they more supplies for care packages in bulk. NNachumachum ggivesives a hhomelessomeless mmanan a hhugug around fi ve years ago. Recently, they de- always carry blankets and extra packages in The Russell brothers’ dream is to cided to go public so they could reach their car in case they fi nd someone in need. eventually open a center where they can Nochum noted, “We can’t change the more people and help more as the home- Just today, Shmulie was in the Bronx and organize donations with a kitchen to whole world, but we can change each less problem has grown. Nochum notes he spotted a homeless man in a wheelchair. serve warm food. Both men have experi- person’s world one at a time.” that it’s almost impossible to walk down The man was a Vietnam War veteran. Since ence working with people with special You can drop off donations of blankets a city street today without seeing some- Shmulie had the extra packages and blan- needs. They hope that people with spe- in good condition, jackets, gloves, hats, one homeless. Imagine if that was a kets, he was able to give these much-need- cial needs could come and help make sweaters, scarves, brand new socks, and relative or friend of ours; how much it ed items to this man, who was so grateful the packages and cook the meals. cash, at Fitness Club at 910 Railroad Av- would hurt us to see him or her in that to receive them. They hope to expand this The brothers say that it doesn’t mat- enue in Woodmere. Drop-off times are state? There would be no way any of us to help many more. They need our help ter to us why people are homeless; they between 9 a.m. and 4 p.m. You can also could just walk by. So, this is how Hu- through donations and or volunteering to just want to go out and help them. They donate with PayPal at paypal.me/give- mans4HumansNYS came about. Shmul- help deliver packages. want to encourage the community to 2homeless or at www.gofundme.com/hu- ie and Nochum create packages with This idea of giving was something join them. mans4humansnys.

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Rav Aharon Leib Shteinman’s Greatness Remembered At Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim

By Susie Garber vice how to overcome people’s resistance to doing bris milah. Mamrei said that Avraham ome say he was the Chofetz Chaim of and Yishmael should do it fi rst. Rav Henoch our generation. We were so fortunate Leibowitz zt”l, Rosh HaYeshiva of Yeshiva Sto have had Rav Aharon Yehuda Leib Chofetz Chaim, taught that Avraham was the Shteinman zt”l in our midst. On Monday premier m’kareiv. He was the only one in the evening, January 8, Rabbinical Seminary of world who believed in Hashem. He was a gift- America / Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim of Queens, ed speaker. He could use his gift of speech to located in Kew Gardens Hills, hosted a gath- convince people. However, that is not nearly ering to remember Rav Shteinman. as effective as doing something yourself. The Rabbi Akiva Grunblatt shlita, Rosh HaYe- way you live is the greatest infl uence. Learn- shiva of Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim, noted that ing about how Rav Shteinman lived his life is the purpose of this evening’s event was to the most powerful lesson for us. RRabbiabbi EliEli MeirMeir KKlugmanlugman try to capture a glimpse of Rav Shteinman’s Next, Rabbi Yaakov Perlow shlita, the No- greatness so that we can be inspired and vominsker Rebbe, spoke about Rav Shtein- guided in how we live our lives. man. He shared that we can glean so many The program began with a welcome and lessons from this tzadik. He lived his life fo- introduction by Rabbi Aryeh Zev Ginzberg cused on ruchniyus. He sat on a simple bench shlita of Cedarhurst, who spoke so eloquent- with no back. He ate very sparsely. He lived in ly about Rav Shteinman. He noted that Rav a way that the pleasures of this world could Chaim Kanievsky shlita said that no one not enter his being so that his entire being knew the Rosh Yeshiva. He was the level of could absorb Torah. He learned in Brisk, in the Vilna Gaon. Rabbi Ginzberg shared that Switzerland, and then in Israel. Torah made in this week’s parshah Moshe sees a burning up his being. One night, during his 1996 visit bush and, as the Torah states, he says, “I will to America, Rav Shteinman slept at the No- turn aside.” Rashi comments that this means, vominsker Rebbe’s house. People were com- “I will turn aside from here to come near ing and going until the Novominsker Rebbe there.” Rabbi Ginzberg explained that when a closed the door at around midnight. He not- person sees something unique, he can’t stand ed that he woke at around 3:45 and found Rav in one place. He must move forward. We mer- Shteinman in the dining room learning with ited seeing a gadol who lived in our challeng- chavrusa. Rav Shteinman was in his 90s at ing world. We can’t stand in one place seeing the time. His ahavas Torah was unbelievable. this. It must move us to become better. Rav Rabbi Perlow then spoke about Rav RRabbiabbi YaakovYaakov PPerlowerlow sshlita,hlita, Shteinman did not stop doing. He began his Shteinman’s midos. His son-in-law shared a RRabbiabbi AryehAryeh ZZevev GGinzberginzberg tthehe NovominskerNovominsker RRebbeebbe fi rst shiur in Parshah at 4 a.m., and his last story. A principal asked Rav Shteinman what seder of learning was at 1 a.m. This was all the to do with a diffi cult bachur with issues. like the Mizbei’ach in the Beis HaMikdash. ple, whether observant or not, respected him way until the end of his life. He was niftar at Should they send him out of their yeshivah? He stated, “We had a Chanina ben Dosa in was because to him it was not about him. the age of 104. So, Rabbi Ginzberg exhorted: Rav Shteinman’s response surprised the prin- our generation. The world lost a n’shamah He was like Yosef who told Pharaoh: It’s not Now we have to do. Take on a little more. Be cipal. He asked, “What is the boy’s mother’s k’doshah.” about me. It’s about Hashem. He lived ahavas stronger in our avodas Hashem. Since he did name.” The principal said, “I am asking about Rabbi Perlow shared how Rav Shteinman Yisrael. He took care of all people who came so much for klal Yisrael, we should perform the boy, not the mother.” traveled all over the world to strengthen klal to him about their troubles. more mitzvos and learn more Torah, to pro- Rav Shteinman imparted that this shows Yisrael. He did this at age 93. He used to say that troubles in our time vide z’chuyos for his n’shamah. that the principal was not davening for the Following this, Rabbi Eli Meir Klugman are caused by our problems in bein adam Next, Rabbi Grunblatt shared divrei Torah boy. How could he send him out without shlita, Rosh Yeshiva of Yeshiva Tiferes Tzion l’chaveiro. He lived by the teaching of the that taught the lesson of the impact of our ac- davening for him? Prayer is a vital element in in Ramat Eshkol, Jerusalem, and Rabbi of Chazon Ish. The purpose of a Yid is to live life tions on others. Klal Yisrael had access to Rav a talmid’s success. Congregation Torah U’Tefi llah in Jerusalem, not hurting someone. This means you are Aharon Leib Shteinman. The strongest, most Rabbi Perlow pointed out that the M’silas shared many stories and teachings of Rav successful. powerful lesson is who he was. Only glimps- Y’sharim describes the levels that a person Shteinman. He pointed out how thousands Rabbi Klugman also shared some of Rav es are possible for us to see. Rabbi Grunblatt can aspire to attain. Rav Shteinman reached upon thousands of Jews came to Bnei Brak. Shteinman’s thoughts. There is no such thing as shared that Mamrei gave Avraham Avinu ad- such an elevated level. It is a merit to be There was no fi ltering. Everyone was al- a bachur with chutzpah. It’s a rebbe who doesn’t lowed to see Rav Shteinman. People came have patience. Then he shared a true story. A ba- and shared their troubles with the Rav. They chur damaged the yeshivah’s electric generator, came during three times of the day, when which required a 2,000-lira repair. The student the Rav davened. There is not a yeshivah or appeared at Rav Shteinman’s door with a bag girl’s school or kollel that didn’t ask the Rav a of 20,000 10-agorot coins. This is like bringing sh’eilah. At one time he didn’t receive a salary 20,000 dimes. The Rosh Yeshiva calmly accept- from the yeshivah for half a year. When they ed the bag, said thank you, and closed the door. fi nally came to pay, he refused it. He said he The boy later confi rmed, “This wiped away my was living so he didn’t need it. chutzpah completely.” Rabbi Klugman marveled at Rav Shtein- Rav Shteinman was someone who carried man’s tremendous humility. He never signed the responsibility for the Torah world on his anything under his name. He never owned shoulders. We can each try to learn about stationery. He listened to every single person. and accept upon ourselves at least one of his He fl ed from honor. He declined being hon- defi ning character traits and introduce its ored at a dinner even when it would have good conduct and benefi ts into our lives. benefi ted Yad L’Achim, an organization of The audience left uplifted and inspired which he was the rabbinic leader. It bothered by this meaningful program and by learning him when he received so much kavod when about this holy talmid chacham who elevat- he traveled. ed our era by showing us the lofty levels to He welcomed shaming. When people which a person can aspire. We are so grateful wrote not nice words on his door, he did not to Hashem that he enabled us to have the tre- want it removed. He felt it would balance mendous privilege of having a tzadik like Rav out all the kavod. The reason so many peo- Shteinman in our lifetime.

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Assemblyman Dan Rosenthal Sworn In At Pomonok Ceremony by Sergey Kadinsky

he youngest member of the State Assembly took his oath of offi ce Tbefore a packed auditorium at P.S. 201 in Pomonok, sharing the stage with his family, fi ancée, and local political lead- ers. “I hope to be a problem solver fi rst and a partisan last,” said Rosenthal. “My offi ce will be available for your voice to be heard.” For the 150 members of this legislative body, the oath of offi ce is a formality that often serves as an opportunity for a public presentation, outlining goals, sharing the spotlight with deserving individuals, and offering gratitude to mentors. Rosenthal’s ceremony was emceed by Councilman Barry Grodenchik of Eastern Queens, who grew up in Pomonok and attended P.S. 201, with Congressman Joseph Crowley as the featured speaker. “He’s bright, he’s new, fresh, and ex- quipped that with his new colleague, he Chief of Staff Dominic Panakal, Rosenthal vey Rosenthal. “He’s a thoughtful young cited. We want him and hope that he in- feels old at 36, but then added that he en- handled the constituent services portfo- man who looks out for others. It’s a lot of spires more young people into public ser- tered the Assembly at 29, after working for lio, resolving hundreds of cases relating long hours, and it isn’t about money.” vice,” said Crowley. In his role as chair of then-Assembly Speaker Sheldon Silver. to interactions between individuals and Borough President Melinda Katz refer- the Queens County Democratic Organiza- Fresh Meadows Assemblywoman Nily city agencies. After Panakal went on to enced Haken, thanking her for allowing tion, Crowley provides support to elected Rozic entered the legislature at 26, after law school, Rosenthal was promoted to Rosenthal to take the time-consuming members of his party and their staff, many serving as chief of staff for Assemblyman District Director, representing Lancman at position. She took it in stride, noting that of whom later advance to elected offi ce. Brian Kavanagh in Manhattan. “That expe- community events. as a resident physician at Montefi ore Hos- Crowley, 55, has been in Congress since rience translates in the day-to-day running Following the death of Assemblyman pital, she is also familiar with long work 1999, previously serving as an Assembly- of an offi ce and helping constituents,” said Michael Simanowitz, Rosenthal won the hours and caring for people. man. Rozic, on being a staffer prior to assuming support of the majority of district leaders Among the supporters at the ceremo- He reminded the audience that he began public offi ce. “There’s nothing more im- to succeed him. “On who could replace Mi- ny, Jeff Leb of Cedarhurst remembered representing his constituents at the age of portant than helping your neighbors.” chael Simanowitz, the discussion quickly his political start in Kew Gardens Hills at 24, likewise Senator Schumer also entered Rosenthal’s path to the Assembly began turned to Dan Rosenthal,” said Groden- Rosenthal’s age when he worked for then- the Assembly at 24; and further back on in a similar manner. Raised in Manalapan, chik. “It is about empathy. I am absolutely Councilman Jim Gennaro. “It is very re- the timeline, President Theodore Roosevelt New Jersey, he settled in Queens to study convinced in my heart of hearts that we freshing to see the next generation of lead- began his political career in the New York at Touro College’s Lander College for Men. could not have selected a better Assembly- ers and the qualities that Daniel Rosenthal State Assembly at 23. These examples dem- In 2012, then-Assemblyman Rory Lancman man in the 27th District.” brings to the table,” said Leb, who serves onstrate that for many of New York’s politi- was running for Congress, hiring Rosenthal In the front row were Rosenthal’s par- as the government relations director for cal greats, the Assembly is where it began, an as an intern. Although Lancman lost that ents, brother, sister, nieces, grandfather, UJA-Federation on New York. “Michael ideal place for Rosenthal, 26, to gain experi- race, he hired Rosenthal a year later when and his fi ancée Orli Haken. “He’s been into Simanowitz was an amazing individual, ence in leadership. he graduated and Lancman was elected to politics from a young age and had all kinds and I am confi dent that Daniel will be able Bayside Assemblyman Ed Braunstein the City Council. Under the guidance of of books on politics,” said his father Har- to follow in his large footsteps.”

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Photo Credits: Yaakov Katz Studio Daniel Rosenthal takes Oath of Office - Thursday, January 11, Flushing

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Hillcrest Oleh Hillel Fuld Speaks On Israel’s Tech Scene

By Sergey Kadinsky “The printer always had to be the size of the paper, but imagine a robotic printer that he nickname of Israel as the “Start- walks on the paper, entering the words,” Up Nation” was popularized in 2009 said Fuld. “Steve Wozniak found them on Twith a book by that title, which Kickstarter and funded them.” highlighted examples of the Jewish state’s Wozniak also visited Israel in 2014, entrepreneurial spirit and technological in- spending two hours with Fuld in a Tel HHillelillel FuldFuld withwith SSteveteve WWozniakozniak novations. When it comes to the pulse of Aviv hotel bomb shelter during a Hamas the country’s tech beat, the most informed bombardment. He opened food using his Harry Potter,” he said. Fuld said that inves- Israel. He serves as the chief marketing of- guide is Jerusalem resident Hillel Fuld, 37, aluminum business card, a concept that tors in Israeli tech are a diverse collection fi cer for podcasting provider Zcast, adviser who made aliyah from Queens at age 15. On Fuld now uses for his own cards. Instead of of capitalists including actor Ashton Kutch- to Israeli startups and investors, and lectur- his visit to New York last week, he spoke retreating, the legendary Apple co-founder er and talent manager Guy Oseary. Among er on all things tech. The exception to all of about the state of “tech” in Israel. went closer to the action by visiting com- the giants creating jobs in Israel, it isn’t just this is Shabbos. “25+ hours of family time “We are seeing a transition in Israel from munities near the Gaza border. “This has American fi rms such as Apple and Micro- away from all ringing, pinging, tweeting a start-up nation to a scale-up nation to a been one of the best experiences I have soft. Chinese online commerce giant Aliba- devices,” he recently tweeted. “Best time of unicorn nation,” said Fuld, using the indus- ever had,” he said at the time. ba bought the Israeli startup Visualead last the week! try term for start-up companies worth over In another example of Israeli innova- month with plans to establish its own of- At home, his children are following in $10 billion. “Very few people talk today tions, Fuld spoke of software that tracks fi ce in Tel Aviv. his footsteps. “They are learning to code us- about selling a company. Today they build eye movement in front of a computer or With so many stories to tell, Fuld is ing games. My biggest regret in life is not sustainable companies worth hundreds of smartphone screen. “This is straight out of working on a book about the tech scene in learning to code.” millions of dollars.” Fuld began writing about tech soon after landing in Israel, gaining expertise and of- fering advice to start-ups at no cost. “I gave them a global perspective to their stories. I’ve been passionate about technology in Israel from day one,” said Fuld. Among the unicorns that have given Israel an oversize presence in tech are Waze, Wix, Taboola, CyberArk, and Outbrain, among others. It has also brought tech giants Google and Fa- cebook to Israel, where they built research and development centers. “In Israel, where there is more pressure, we innovate more. I can’t think of a top-tier investor who has not been to Israel,” said Fuld. Pressure for Israel is the hostile neigh- borhood and lack of natural resources that puts its focus on creativity and intelligence. Pressure in tech involves multi-million- dollar investments in apps and security providers. Nearly all fail to profi t, but the few that do result in astronomic returns on investment. In the past year, leading Ameri- can venture capitalists have invested in Is- raeli start-ups that in return provide their services to leading American fi rms. One such example is Ramat Gan-based video platform Kaltura, founded in 2006. Its clients include media giants Viacom, HBO, ABC, and Warner Brothers. Last year’s $94 million investment in Kaltura by Gold- man Sachs brought its worth to $165 mil- lion, and its valuation to $500 million. An example of a recent invention is a printer in Jerusalem that changed the phys- ical way that words are printed on paper. FFulduld vvisitingisiting SSARAR AAcademy,cademy, hhisis aalmalma mmaterater

“vigorously defend its position on DACA one country after another to seek entry, and looks forward to vindicating it in due to the US quota system, I appreci- The DACA Conundrum further litigation.” There is some move- ate the diffi culties immigrants have to CONTINUED FROM P. 17 to renew by the Obama deadline of Oc- ment in Congress to seek a compromise attain permission to settle in the US. tober 5 a chance to submit renewal ap- using the DACA problem as a means to I remember the day my parents came lives, educated in America, and many plications and will also allow renewal build a wall surrounding the Southern to the judge to receive their citizen- have been honorably discharged from our applications expiring in the future. The border tier of the country, preventing ship. I was all of fi ve, and the judge took military. They deserve better. decision does not require offi cials to ac- illegals from entering the US and dis- special delight in this little fi rst grader A San Francisco-based US District cept new applications for DACA status. allowing chain migration and the Di- leading my parents in the Pledge of Al- Court judge, William Alsup, ordered The Trump administration will defi nite- versity Visa Lottery system that has ac- legiance. I was so proud! Being Ameri- the Trump administration to resume ly seek a stay of the ruling from the 9th counted for many immigrants entering can meant everything to my family, and accepting renewal applications for the Circuit Court of Appeals or the Supreme without any vetting. I know the Dreamers feel the same way. DACA program. Unless halted by a high- Court. This is merely a delaying tactic I have a special affi nity for the They deserve the right to stay in this er court (which most legal authorities on the part of the court. Dreamers. As a child of survivors who country permanently and help, as the predict will happen), the ruling will al- The Justice Department has already had a diffi cult time coming to America President always says, to “make America low former DACA recipients who failed announced that they will continue to legally after the War, having to travel to great again!”

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By Susie Garber of the new Synagogue, Congregation Adereth El. n 1996, YU s’michah student Rabbi Congregation Adereth El was founded Gideon Shloush received a call from in 1857, during a time of depression in IRabbi Sidney Kleiman zt”l, the rav of New York. During this turbulent time, Congregation Adereth El in Manhattan. a small group of German Jews gathered “We’d like you to be the assistant rabbi on East 23rd Street and Fourth Avenue at our shul.” on Shavuos and founded Congregation Rabbi Shloush, who at the time was Adereth El. The congregation remained completing an MBA in International there for seven years. Business, replied, “I’m not planning to On June 12, 1864, the shul purchased be a pulpit rabbi.” its current lot for $5,000. There was “Good,” Rabbi Kleiman answered. “I’m much discussion about where to locate not planning to retire.” the Holy Ark. The new shul had 16 win- Rabbi Shloush found that remarkable, dows. They decided to build a gallery on since Rabbi Kleiman was in his early 80s. three sides for women. The early min- He accepted and was hired. utes of the shul were written in German. The week Rabbi Shloush began his Phillip Cowan, who wrote Memoirs new position was one week before Rosh of an American Jew, moved to the neigh- HaShanah. Rabbi Kleiman suddenly borhood where the shul was built. These needed emergency heart surgery. The were his thoughts about the shul: “When shul board called the newly ordained we moved uptown to 400 Third Avenue, RRabbiabbi SidneySidney KKleimanleiman zzt”lt”l ((R)R) wwithith RRabbiabbi GGideonideon SShloushhloush rabbi and pleaded, “We need your help! we thought we were going into the wild. The High Holidays are next week, and There was no synagogue on the East Side Certainly no streetlights. The light bulb “Consider the sermons that must have we need you to run our Rosh HaShanah, above Houston Street, and none above wasn’t invented for another 20 years. been delivered. During the Civil War, Yom Kippur, Sukkos, Sh’mini Atzeres, Bleecker Street on the West Side except The American fl ag only had 31 stars. This draft riots took place right outside the and Simchas Torah services and pro- for Beth El. The Jewish community in was a few years after the California Gold shul, on Third Avenue. What did Rabbi grams. We also need you to lead our con- the neighborhood gradually grew larger, Rush. The President of the United States Max Moll say in the aftermath of the gregation until Rabbi Kleiman returns.” and in 1857, Congregation Adereth El was at the time was James Buchanan. People Abraham Lincoln assassination? Rabbi Rabbi Shloush, although young and formed and services were held in a room were getting around on horseback and in Spiegel, during the Spanish-American inexperienced, agreed to help the com- on East 23rd Street, East of Lexington Av- carriages. North of 23rd Street was mostly War? How did Rabbi Rubinstein offer munity in its time of need. Looking back enue, over a ladder factory adjoining the forest. There was a horse stable on East encouragement to his members during 22 years later, Rabbi Shloush recognizes Free Academy – now the City College of 27th Street between Second and Third the Great Depression? What could Rabbi that this was a life-altering decision. Kleiman possibly have said, as a young ***** man in his 20s, during the Holocaust or Congregation Adereth El, located in “Imagine how many Kaddish and Yizkor and heartfelt t’filos at the time of the establishment of the Manhattan on East 29th Street, between have been said within these walls.” State of Israel? Third and Lexington Avenues, is the “Adereth El represents the American oldest shul in New York that continues Jewish experience. It is a symbol of en- to hold services in its original location. New York. There was a wonderful com- Avenues. But these founders – Louis Sil- durance.” (The Spanish and Portuguese Synagogue, munity spirit about this uptown shul ver, Joseph Unger, and Solomon Freder- Rabbi Sidney Kleiman was appointed Congregation Shearith Israel, while old- that I look back to with pleasure, and ick – had vision; they incorporated, and rav of the shul in August 1939. He had er, has been at its current site for “only” I fi nd that others who attended there, they built Adereth El. And then came received s’michah from Rav Moshe So- 120 years.) whom I meet from time to time, feel the Central Park and then Bloomingdales loveitchik at Yeshiva University’s Rabbi On display in the Adereth El lobby same way. Many of the early families of and then, in 1877, electric wires could be Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary. is a replica of a front-page article from this congregation became prominent seen around the city as Alexander Gra- He served as rabbi of the congregation the Jewish Messenger newspaper, pub- later in communal and public life.” ham Bell’s telephone came into use. You for 60 years, and sat on the bimah for lished during the Civil War. The article The congregation recently celebrated could now call people for a minyan! And nearly 75 years. In honor of Rabbi Klei- informs that on July 22, 1864, President its 160th anniversary. At this momentous then came the automobiles. And then man’s 100th birthday, on January 6, 2013, Abraham Lincoln announced a day of gathering, Rabbi Shloush spoke about the high-rise buildings, and then the sky- there was a beautiful gala celebration at prayer for the Union soldiers. On the the shul’s history: scrapers. And then 74 years later, in 1931, the Museum of Jewish Heritage in Bat- same page, there is an article that shares “Imagine for a moment that you were the Empire State Building rose up just tery Park. Letters and plaques were pre- that the Jewish community of Murray standing in front of the shul at that time. behind. This shul witnessed an entire Hill/Gramercy Park laid the cornerstone What did it look like? No paved streets. city grow up around it. CONTINUED ON P. 33

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at a funeral at Old Montefi ore Cemetery. munity have davened here. The shul He discovered that Adereth El has a large is a unique display of achdus (unity), gated section there. He said, “Walking where all types of Jews join together through that section was deeply moving. to daven. I have a congregation on East 29th Street Iris Lipke, a longtime member, com- RRabbiabbi ShloushShloush atat hishis installationinstallation cceremonyeremony in Manhattan, but who would have mented that this shul represents home. known that I have a whole congregation It is unique to have this homey feeling CONTINUED FROM P. 32 life where we make decisions that may here as well.” Rabbi Shloush shared the in Manhattan, she says. seem minor at the time, but they change names of some of the people who are Neera Goitein, Adereth El’s “Person of sented by the White House, senators, and impact you forever.” buried there. Many of them were born the Year” this year, commented: “Here, congressmen, chief rabbis of Israel, and Rabbi Shloush became the rav of the prior to the Civil War. He felt emotional in the center of the most cosmopoli- other prominent leaders of the Jewish shul in 2000. At that time, Rabbi Klei- as he recited t’hilim with his Adereth El tan, sophisticated, rich, diverse city in community. Rabbi Kleiman received man retired and assumed the title of congregants at the cemetery. These are the world, you fi nd a very special place a special citation from the Rabbinical Rabbi Emeritus. The two rabbis were people who were not much different where, without words, you feel the be- Council of America for seven decades of extremely close and sat together on the from ourselves, committed to the same longingness, the acceptance.” service. He was also recognized by Belle- bimah until Rabbi Kleiman passed away Jewish values and ideals we treasure to- This writer harbors a special feeling for vue Hospital for 50 years of service as in 2013. Rabbi Shloush is also an ad- day. “If you really think about it, those Adereth El. I recall the numerous times their hospital chaplain. Rabbi Kleiman junct professor at Stern College, where congregants read the same t’fi los, studied when, as a student at Stern College, I was known for his great speeches and he teaches Tanach and Halachah. He is the same Torah, sat on the same bench- strolled with my friends on Shabbos into ability to relate to Jews of every genera- currently the president of the New York es, and heard the same shofar.” Congregation Adereth El and stepped into tion and background. Board of Rabbis and sits on the Board of On average, 1,000 people pass the women’s section. There was, and still Rabbi Shloush notes that he fi nds it the UJA-Federation of New York. He has through the shul every week. The is, a majestic magic about the shul. The ce- especially inspiring to daven in a place also served in leadership capacities in shul includes a pre-school and Sunday rulean windows, the beautiful décor, and where people have been praying daily the RCA, RZA-Mizrachi, RIETS Rabbinic school. Due to its location, near many the feeling of history have always added for 160 years. “Imagine how many Kad- Alumni, and the Beth Din of America. neighborhood universities and hos- to the experience of davening here. I recall dish and Yizkor and heartfelt t’fi los have The shul runs many inspirational pro- pitals, the shul welcomes college stu- with fondness the delicious “kiddushes” been said within these walls.” grams, including its lecture series, begin- dents from Baruch College, NYU, Stern and the way Rabbi Kleiman made the Rabbi Shloush made a decision that day ners’ services, social events, and parshah College, Cooper Union, Hunter College, Stern students feel welcome and at home. in the summer of 1996 that impacted his classes. There are minyanim three times and the School for Visual Arts, as well This is a trademark of the shul that contin- life and the lives of all the people he has a day. Under Rabbi Shloush’s leadership, as doctors, nurses, medical and dental ues to this day. infl uenced and continues to infl uence. He the shul membership has tripled. students from NYU, Bellevue, and the Another personal connection I have explained: “I felt that I had to be there to In his speech at the 160th anniversary VA. Adereth El also gets its share of with the shul is the summer Jewish help the people in the shul. I learned a les- dinner, Rabbi Shloush spoke about a re- tourists, diplomats, and rabbis. Many Flame kiruv classes that my husband, son that day. There are key moments in cent experience he had while offi ciating prominent leaders of the Jewish com- Rabbi Robert Garber, and I ran there for more than two decades. He continues to teach a Jewish Flame parshah class in the shul, which has been ongoing for over a decade. Adereth El means “glory of G-d.” It can also mean “cloak of G-d.” Remarkably, al- though the synagogue was founded 160 years ago, the gematria (numerical value) of the words “Adereth El” is the same ge- matria as “Shloush!” Says Rabbi Shloush: “It’s one thing to daven in a shul. It’s another to daven in a shul that has been there for more than one and a half centuries. When I walk into Congregation Adereth El, when I push open those old wooden doors…I feel that I am stepping back into history.” ***** If you’re ever in Manhattan looking for a minyan, or you want to join in a parshas ha’shavua class on Tuesdays at 7:00 p.m., or you’d like to experience a special Shabbos, step inside and feel the majestic beauty and warmth of this one-of-a-kind historic shul with a heart, which continues with a vibrant, fresh view to the future. The shul’s website is IInsidenside AderethAdereth ElEl www.aderethel.org.

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A Night Of Inspiration: Rav Shteinman Remembered At Event In KGH

By Adam Suionov sage to His people? After the Holocaust, Rav Shteinman im- n Sunday, January 7, Chazaq and mediately aspired to restore yeshivos for Chickens for Shabbos teamed up to the Jewish people. Once, somebody asked Oremember the late gadol ha’dor, Rav him how he could devote all his efforts to Aharon Leib Shteinman. The event took opening yeshivos after the destruction of place at Rabbi Haimoff’s Ohel Simcha in the Holocaust. Rav Shteinman responded Kew Gardens Hills. The shul was fi lled with that our obligation in this world is to “help” members from many different communi- G-d, as it were, to run the world. From the ties in Queens. moment the Holy Temple was destroyed, a RRabbiabbi MordechaiMordechai AAderetderet Robbie Neuman of Chickens for Shab- heavenly voice decries the lack of Torah ad- bos opened the event with his trademark herence, which gives the world its spiritual he did, but because we needed the message alert the people to the need of repentance. warmth and sincerity. He said that great sustenance. Like Rav Shteinman, a person of emunah. He was a baal emunah who un- We need to state that we get the message. power lies in the mouth. The words that must know his obligation in this world. derstood that everything is in G-d’s hands. The message is to serve G-d with his Torah a person chooses to utter have the ab ility Rav Shteinman’s life was simply about try- The chariot of G-d is implemented in the and to give up our little comforts for what to turn over destinies and fortunes, both ing to keep the world going. world when we are ready to give and live is truly important. physically and spiritually. This power is es- We owe our life to the Torah. It is our for G-d. The more effort we expend, the When we emulate Rav Shteinman and pecially potent in the place where G-d rests life and our strength. There is no other way more visible G-d’s Chariot becomes. recognize the illusion of this world and of his Sh’chinah. The shul is a sacred place the Jewish people exist. Rav Shteinman Rav Shteinman feared no one, and lived its temporary, fl eeting pleasures, we can and we must show the proper respect. The was the world’s Torah giant. His passing is with the creed that this world is simply a truly be the chariots for G-d in this world. whole business of greatness begins with truly a great tragedy and reminds us that hallway leading to the next world. When Outlook is everything. A prince may be con- the mouth. The mouth holds the keys to we all have an obligation to the Torah. We a wealthy businessman told him about the cerned with the trappings of the kingdom, death and life. Rabbi Avigdor Miller taught all have the duty. G-d told us that we are loss of $40 million, Rav Shteinman asked but his main desire is the propagation of that even negative habits can be stopped by partners in Creation; our involvement in him, “Did you give $4 million to charity his King’s Honor. Rav Shteinman was such the mouth. For example, if a person talks the Torah is the backbone of existence. that year?” He was unafraid to remind peo- a prince, concerned exclusively with the to himself over and over about the evils of When we witness a tragedy of the mag- ple what life is all about. How do we honor manifestation of G-d’s honor in this world. lashon ha’ra, eventually it will sink in. nitude of Rav Shteinman passing, we are his life and how can we try to make up for We must ask ourselves every day, how have Rabbi Aderet spoke next and stirred the aware that a fi re exists in heaven. The fi re the great loss of such a servant of G-d? I this day built a chariot for G-d? crowd with his passionate words of Torah. exists because of prosecution, which takes At the age of 12 he was the youngest stu- The lesson to learn from what befell the He said that the M’silas Y’sharim teaches us and consumes. The fi re that consumes be- dent in an advanced yeshivah. Some stu- nation in the past few weeks is that we that everything leads to olam ha’ba. Every- gins with the purest and burns out. The dents put a toy doll on his bed as a sleight need to rekindle the Torah in our life. We thing is a sign for us in our life; all events Azan family was a sacrifi ce for the Jewish to his age, but for months he had not no- need to make it our reality and realize that are purposeful. A great man who perishes nation. The purest are given the task of ticed because he would fall asleep and it is the centerpiece of our life; we cannot is a sign for our people. Immediately after waking us up. awaken in the beis midrash. His dedication treat the Torah as a bygone. This world is Rabbi Shteinman passed, the Jewish na- The Talmud tells us that the passing of was immense. fl eeting, illusory, and deceptive. It seems tion was struck with the great Azan family a saint is compared to the destruction of Noach’s grandfather, Methuselah the permanent, but we all know it is the exact tragedy. How can a family be burned by a the Temple. It is important to note that saint, died a week before the Flood. G-d opposite. We need to recalibrate and shift Chanukah candle?! Yet at around the same the tragedy is not the destruction per se; tested if people would mourn properly and our mindset. Olam ha’ba is the goal, not time, another occurrence for our people: the real tragedy is what causes the fi re. Ru- thus collect merit to avoid the Flood. G-d this world. Rabbi Shteinman’s life and life- Mr. Rubashkin is set free. What is G-d’s mes- bashkin was not in jail because of anything takes the righteous before the tragedy to style was a great testimony to this truth.

Masbia's Forest Hills Soup Kitchen Renovation To Be Completed By Huge Donation From iFurnitureAssembly

n Tuesday, it was announced that ated with IKEA, which means that they ifurnitureassembly.com will do- are always on the customer's side. Onate and assemble the fi nal fur- It has been over a year since Masbia niture needed to speed up the opening served their last dinner at the previous and serve hot dinner at the long-awaited location on Queens Boulevard, and while Masbia soup kitchen in Queens. they have continued to serve people food "As soon as they fi nish assembling the on the street in a makeshift fashion, this sinks and countertops, we will start serv- will be the fi nal part of the renovation of ing hot dinner immediately. We are not the new facility that will allow Masbia to waiting weeks or days. This is the long- serve hot kosher dinners again. The in- awaited fi nal touch," said Alexender Rapa- stallation will include countertops, cabi- port, Executive Director of Masbia Soup nets, a three-compartment sink, and stor- Kitchen Network. "We are super grateful to age space for the hot boxes to be able to ifurnitureassembly.com for their extreme- start immediately feeding the needy with ly generous donation," he added. dignity. Mr. Melnyk is not Jewish but is The founder and CEO of ifurniture- intrigued by the way Masbia serves every- assembly.com, Konstantin Melnyk, is one with respect and dignity regardless of a 30 year old Ukranian immigrant who their race, ethnicity, or religion. started his business by following IKEA "Before vacating the old site for an customers in the parking lot and offer- eight-story development project, Masbia ing to help assemble their furniture. He of Queens served over 1 million meals a has turned it into a sophisticated busi- year. The new site will have the capacity ness with professional designers, soft- to way surpass that," said Rapaport. "The ware engineers utilizing 3D blueprints, renovation of the 3,000 sq. ft. storage is and teams of craftsmen. They do the still going on and sponsorship opportu- planning, purchasing, delivering, assem- nities are still available. This donation bling, installation, and clean-up for the completes the dining room," Rapaport KKonstantinonstantin MelnykMelnyk ((right)right) iiss ddonatingonating tthehe ffurnitureurniture nneededeeded ttoo oopenpen MMasbia'sasbia's FForestorest HHillsills ssoupoup customer. Best of all, they are not affi li- stated. kkitchenitchen

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On “Different” Jewish Families, A Children’s Book

By Sergey Kadinsky life but not feeling represented in illustra- tions. This is when she had an idea and or Orthodox Jews, family is the most put it online for comments and donations. important institution, with the role “I am writing a children’s book series, ex- Fthat it plays in raising the next gen- plaining all the different types of unique eration. Looking at children’s books, there Jewish families to kids in a Toradik way,” are always both parents present, along said Chervony, “including baalei t’shuvah, with at least one set of grandparents, all converts, orphans, divorced, and interracial frum, white, and able-bodied. Orthodox families.” For Yehudit Meira Chervony, who lives In her captions for the book project, in Crown Heights after a stint in Kew Gar- Chervony envisions parents explain- not keep kosher, are not Jewish, or are vert, and widow.” Relating to her experienc- dens Hills, such books are good, but miss ing to their children about their gentile deceased, “going away for Shabbos” is es in Jewish communities where she lived, the complex tapestry that truly represents grandparents through the example of not an option. Likewise, with weddings “In places where I’ve felt support it’s been Jewish families. “At age three, my twins are Ruth who left her Moabite home to be- between gentile relatives and mixed mar- uplifting; but in places where I haven’t, it’s asking me why they are not white like eve- come a Jew. Another example is the pres- riages: “Nephews’ simchos and cousins’ been crushing.” ryone else,” said Chervony. Raised in Flor- ence of non-observant family members, weddings I don’t get to attend. But it’s my Working with the title My Unique Jew- ida and Jamaica, Queens, by a Dominican with the explanation given that it is the family and my job to continue our doros, ish Family, Chervony is fundraising to pay family, she embraced Judaism in her teens responsibility of the observant individu- to teach the laws and traditions and all for the illustrator, marketing, and printing and underwent conversion. Her husband, als to “love them anyway, and to be a our mesoros.” The book teaches children expenses. She is also receiving input from Yisroel Chervony, emigrated from Ukraine kiddush Hashem every single day.” Using to honor their baal t’shuvah parents for child psychologists and rabbis to ensure and became a baal t’shuvah. He died unex- the Twelve Tribes as an example, Chervo- making the decision to become obser- that the message is appropriate and effec- pectedly in his sleep in May 2015, leaving ny writes, “Every family is different but vant. tive. “It’s really long overdue, and I think the widowed mother to raise Esther Chasya equal in Hashem’s eyes.” One such exam- Outside of Orthodoxy, there are a few that klal Yisrael is really ready to embrace and Moshe Gedalya on her own. “They’re ple is the Twelve Tribes – equals of each children’s books that show Jewish fami- all the differences and have a clear and con- children of a baal t’shuvah and a convert; other, but with distinct identities and lies of color, and disabled individuals, but cise way of expressing it to our kids,” said they’re interracial. Halachically they are traits. Chervony is aiming at a market that is Or- Chervony. “Being different is a very Jewish considered orphans. I dedicate this project The differences that such families thodox, to be read by everyone within this thing.” to them and their doros.” experience can be felt on Shabbos and sector. “If you see us, don’t think that we’re For more information on this project, con- Around her and online, Chervony found chagim. A typical Orthodox family can different. Think about Rabbi Akiva and tact Yehudit Meira Chervony by email at ye- other families living the Torah-observant stay by grandparents, but when they do Moshe Rabbeinu. Support the orphan, con- [email protected].

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YCQ’s Annual Trip To Greenkill he grade fi ve students of the Ye- shiva of Central Queens loaded T up the buses and headed off to Huguenot, New York, for their annual overnight to the Greenkill Retreat Cent- er. The program at the environmental center offers the students a chance to challenge themselves physically and mentally by climbing over a rope bridge across a brook, learning a variety of sur- vival techniques, hiking, and building their own fi res without using matches. For many who were initially hesitant, ac- complishing these activities was a boost to their confi dence and abilities. As part of the learning aspect, the students attended “Birds of Prey,” a bird show with live vultures, owls, and hawks, where they learned about the role wildlife takes, and the importance of protecting our environment to keep it safe for animals and humans. Spending time in the woods, the animals’ natural habitats, the students gained a greater understanding of how animals adapt to their environments. The hands-on activi- how to track different species of ani- area clean, as well as teaching them re- of snow tubing. Most of their time at ties offered them insight into the way mals, about the relationship of predator sponsibility and respect. When the stu- Greenkill was spent outdoors, experi- our ecosystems work, an understanding to prey, and how animals can live and dents davened together as a group and encing nature. The trip gave students that cannot be gained by only sitting in survive together in their environments. other students offered well-thought-out the opportunity to learn to work to- a classroom. In the evening, the naturalists hosted divrei Torah, a heightened feeling of spir- gether to solve problems and appreci- The students were broken up into games with the students, and the YCQ ituality could be felt. ate nature. The weather during their small groups and each group was as- students taught the naturalists some This year, the weather preceding stay was mild and the sun was shining, signed to a knowledgeable “naturalist” Jewish songs that they had practiced as the trip had been so cold that the ice allowing for an educational and fun who guided them through the experi- well. During the meals, students were as- on the lake had thickened enough to experience, one that the students will ence. During the hikes, they learned signed different tasks to keep the dining allow the students to enjoy a session not soon forget.

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Author’s Day At Yeshiva Tiferes Moshe

Cake In The Classroom At Shalhevet

his past Tuesday was quite a day for about internal and external confl icts in lit- Class 5LL at Yeshiva Tiferes Moshe. erature and how to write three-paragraph TIt was on this day, Authors Day, that essays proving thesis statements, the boys each boy in Mrs. Lehrer’s fi fth grade class worked on essays about a confl ict the main became an author after writing and illus- character in a book they fi nished reading trating his own picture book. After weeks had and how it was resolved. They also of working on this project, the boys fi nally learned plot-mapping during their fi nal “published” their books and celebrated analysis of this book, The Mixed-Up Files of By Avygayl Zucker, MSH 2019 decorated to look like Frankenstein’s by reading their books to the students in Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler. monster. While eating the cake, the grades UPK through third grade. After- To get a feel for what it is like to be an n honor of completing reading Mary class took turns discussing their fa- wards, the class continued celebrating with artist, like the one depicted in this novel, Shelley’s Frankenstein, Mr. Dan- vorite parts of the book. They have had lots of nosh at a Publishing Party. the boys took brushes and palettes in hand I iel Loewenstein’s 11th grade English an exciting time discussing the ideas in These boys do not only write fi ction, but and painted scenes from The Mixed-Up class was treated to a delicious snicker- the book, and would like to thank Mr. they also pen essays, as well. After learning Files. doodle cake made by Mr. Loewenstein, Loewenstein for the savory cake!

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Bnos Malka Mitzvah, States, And Science Fair 2018

his past week, Bnos Each student displayed a tri- Malka Academy held its board containing the results of Tannual Mitzvah, States, research that she had done over and Science Fair. The event the past few months. In the celebrates some of the wonder- fi fth grade, the girls had a State ful learning taking place in the Fair, where the girls researched classrooms. Grades 1-4, using and presented one of the states the school-wide theme of the in the US. The sixth grade had year, Unlimited Positive Spirit, a World Fair where the stu- undertook a study of something dents researched and presented positive that we can do with countries in the Eastern Hemi- our mouths. sphere. The seventh and eighth The fi rst grade studied bra- grade girls produced their own chos in depth; the second grade Science Fair projects. Each girl worked on learning the un- selected a topic of interest and derpinnings of the midah of tested her hypothesis using the emes; the third grade worked scientifi c method. on developing a deeper under- The judges were incredibly standing of dibur yafeh; and the impressed by the girls’ presen- fourth grade began learning the tations and the level of their halachos of sh’miras ha’lashon. work. Michael Salzbank, the Each class created a project to Executive Director, comment- refl ect the learning taking place ed, “I am so impressed with in the classroom. Parents en- the wisdom of how the school joyed walking around and see- approaches the “Science Fair.” ing the beautiful and creative No student ever tires of trying work, while students were eager to make she enters the next to show their newfound knowl- level of grades and advances edge to family and friends. in her maturity and ability to The Bnos Malka Middle present a project. It always re- School also celebrated amaz- mains fresh and exciting for ing educational achievements. the girls.”

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MTA Students Bring Gemara To Life Through Torah And Technology Integration

By Noam Putterman, they learned in shiur to life in the STEM Lab. MTA Class of 2018 The fi rst project, a wooden sukkah attached to a water sensor, releases a pulley-suspend- his year’s Yeshiva University High ed tarp to protect the sukkah when the wa- Schools Annual Dinner of Tribute, ter sensor is activated. This unique mecha- Theld on Wednesday, January 3, fea- nism was tested and validated by MTA and tured a STEM Fair, which provided an oppor- YU Rosh Yeshiva Rabbi Michael Taubes. provide shade from the sun, how could a the sun indeed reaches above the 78-degree tunity for both MTA and Central students to The second project, a sukkah with a slid- 4x4x20-amos sukkah be kosher if the sun mark. Thus, because in the summer this showcase their latest engineering innova- ing wooden wall that adjusts the width of will hit the schach? sukkah is able to provide shade, it becomes tions. MTA Seniors Hanan Berger and Benny the sukkah itself, and a laser pointer that A possible answer was provided in a shi- kosher during the late fall months. Talmi- Jacob presented an electromagnetic robotic shines light into the sukkah at a chosen an- ur given by 12th Grade maggid shiur Rabbi dim used the model sukkah they built, arm, created in their Scientifi c Engineering gle, focused specifi cally on the issue of sun- Tanchum Cohen, who used basic astrono- along with the laser pointer, to imitate the class, while Senior GJ Nieman exhibited the light and was created to help talmidim un- my and a comment of Rabbi Aharon HaLevi various angles of the sun and see how they award-winning robots created by MTA’s two derstand the following concept: According (known as the Ra’ah), to provide his answer. hit the sukkah at different points. These Robotics Teams. to the Gemara, if a certain sukkah needs to According to the Ra’ah, the whole reason detailed concepts of Maseches Sukkah are Seniors Noam Putterman and Dov Tuch- be at least four amos wide by 20 amos long, that a sukkah is kosher at night is because sometimes diffi cult to comprehend. Using man presented two projects that demon- a calculation based on simple trigonometry that sukkah is able to provide shade dur- the STEM Lab and skills learned in Scien- strate the integration of engineering and requires that the sun be approximately 78 ing the daytime. Using similar logic, a suk- tifi c Engineering class to create the actual Judaic Studies. As the entire yeshivah is degrees in the sky. However, in the Middle kah in Tishrei may not have the requisite scenarios discussed in the Gemara, truly learning Maseches Sukkah this year, talmi- East during Sukkos, the sun reaches only sun angle, but during the summer months, helped talmidim gain a deeper understand- dim developed these projects to bring what about 58 degrees. If a sukkah is meant to when the earth tilts an extra 23.5 degrees, ing of the masechta. HANC Middle School’s Names, Rambam Mesivta Celebrates 26th Not Numbers© Program Annual Family Learn-A-Thon

hat is a better day than January 1 or any other factors deter them. “A true lead- to bring fathers, grandfathers, un- er leads, forges ahead, and is not dissuaded Wcles, and brothers to the Mesivta by the fact that popular opinion does not to daven and learn together? For a quarter support his efforts. A leader is motivated by ur eighth grade had an amazing ex- of a century, Rambam has been holding this doing the right thing.” perience recently. The grade was special program on days when family mem- The crowd of over 200 people proceeded Odivided up into groups and had the bers are “off” and have “free time.” to the gym, where tables and breakfast were opportunity to interview survivors. Rabbi Zev Meir Friedman, Rambam’s set up. The students prepared extensively Rosh Mesivta, spoke about the signifi cance After breakfast, the family chavrusa for these interviews. The girls studied of the message that parents send when they learning began, followed by Rabbi Max their survivors’ biographies and used come to learn when there are signs they Anteby, noted Senior Lecturer for Aish Ha- them to prepare questions, which could easily read telling them they could be Torah, who presented an informative, com- would discuss the survivors’ memories “off.” pelling, and inspiring shiur on the basis of from before, during, and after the war. And it wasn’t just fathers who showed Torah MiSinai. The experience was one the students up to make that statement! He discussed the unique signifi cance of will never forget. The Rambam Women’s League and a national revelation and explained why As each survivor entered the building, he mothers make sure to be there at 7:30 in the claim of such an event could never be or she was greeted by our students. The in- the morning to provide the much-needed duplicated. “It is impossible to lie to some- teractions were wonderful. One of the high- background and logistical support for the one about his or her own experiences,” said lights of the program was the intergenera- day. Moms also were the chefs of the morn- Rabbi Anteby. “Consequently, no one could tional component. Seeing the faces of the ing as they prepared the eggs and waffl es get away with making such a claim unless it survivors light up and seeing the students’ catered by Grapevine Events. was actually true. The Torah was and is the faces respond in kind was nothing short Following davening, Rabbi Friedman only source of such a claim.” of magical. Each survivor was escorted up- shared a d’var Torah on the leadership of He went on to explain that despite our stairs to the interview room, which was memorable. There were so many poignant Moshe Rabbeinu and Aharon HaKohen. being in exile for 2000 years, scattered turned into a real set, complete with video, moments. I do not want to play the role of He quoted Rashi and spoke about the fact in countries throughout the world, every sound, and light equipment. Each student spoiler, so everyone will have to wait until that despite the fact that they had gathered single sefer Torah is exactly the same and took turns in the roles of interviewer, the movie comes out with the interviews. many community leaders with them to ap- differs at most on one letter for the spell- sound, video, and observer. Suffi ce it to say that there were tears and proach Pharaoh in order to free klal Yisrael, ing of one word, which differs between The students were trained and directed there was even some laughter. those very same leaders abandoned Moshe the Ashkenazic and Sephardic tradition. A by the Names, Not Numbers© production We express special hakaras ha’tov to Mr. and Aharon as they approached the king’s question-and-answer period followed, and crew. We thank Jay, Pavin, and Matt for all Dov Rosenberg and Mrs. Tova Rosenberg palace. Despite the fact that they were left the talmidim and their families enjoyed of their hard work with the project. for all of their help in making this week so alone, Moshe and Aharon proceeded with a meaningful morning, learning together The interviews themselves were most special for the students. their mission and did not let social pressure with plenty of “food for thought.”

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By Ayelet Aharon SKA 2018 by beautiful paintings and computer graphics created by the Art Academy n Asarah B’Teves, Thursday, De- and Graphic Design classes depicting cember 28, the TTYL (Turning different t’fi los in a unique visual form. O Tefi llah into Your Life) Com- In each davening group, one painting mittee of the Stella K. Abraham High and one graphic design were presented School for Girls ran an inspiring pro- to the girls to explain the deeper mean- gram to enhance t’fi lah. Upon entering ings behind the artwork in connection the school building, a huge sign, read- to t’fi lah. ing “Welcome to the MET (Museum En- Each class also benefi ted from indi- riching Tefi llah)” introduced incredible vidual t’fi lah workshops run by TTYL student-produced artwork throughout the hallway. SKAers were surrounded CONTINUED ON P. 63

The Queens Jewish Link Staff would like to extend our deepest condolences to the Yadlovker family on the passing of their dear husband, father, and grandfather, Bernard Yadlovker a"h.

He was loved by all who knew him and will be sorely missed.

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Valley, 141-55 77th Avenue, KGH Kew Gardens cha 141-41 72nd Avenue, TTHURSDAYHURSDAY Avenue, KGH 8:30 pm Degel Israel(Shein- FFRIDAYRIDAY 2:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser KGH 12:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 8:30 pm Degel Israel(Shein- feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 5:30 am Young Israel of Kew Torah 72-11 Vleigh Place, 1:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH feld), 144-02 68th Drive, KGH Gardens Hills, Youth Build- KGH ing Library 150-05 70th KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 1:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser Torah 9:30 am Queens Jewish Center, WWEDNESDAYEDNESDAY Road, KGH 2:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser 1:45 pm • Aron’s Kissena 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 66-05 108th Street, Forest 5:30 am Young Israel of Kew 5:30 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 Torah 72-11 Vleigh Place, Farms 72-15 Kissena Boule- 1:15 pm • Rabbi Rubin’s shul Hills Gardens Hills, Youth Build- 73rd Avenue, KGH KGH vard, KGH 70-03 147th Street, KGH ing Library 150-05 70th 5:40 am Degel Israel(Shein- 3:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser 1:45 pm • Seasons 66-18 Main 1:30 pm • Ahavas Yisroel 147- MMONDAYONDAY Road, KGH feld), 144-02 68th Drive, Torah 72-11 Vleigh Place, Street, KGH 02 73rd Avenue, KGH 5:30 am Young Israel of Kew 5:30 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 KGH KGH 1:45pm • Rosenblum’s Gro- 1:30 pm • Yeshiva Ohel Sim- Gardens Hills, Youth Build- 73rd Avenue, KGH 5:30 am Young Israel of Queens 3:30 pm • Gift World 72- 20 cery 82-38 Lefferts Blvd, cha 141-41 72nd Avenue, ing Library 150-05 70th 5:30 am Young Israel of Queens Valley 141-55 77th Avenue Main Street, KGH Kew Gardens KGH Road, KGH Valley 141-55 77th Avenue KGH 5:30 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 KGH 6:00 am Ohel Yitzchok (Arieli), 3:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser 2:00 pm • Jewish Heritage 1:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 73rd Avenue, KGH 5:40 am Degel Israel(Shein- 137-58 70th Avenue, KGH Torah 72-11 Vleigh Place, Center 68-20 Main Street, rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 5:30 am Young Israel of Queens feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 6:15 am Congregation Nachalas KGH KGH 1:45 pm • Aron’s Kissena Valley 141-55 77th Avenue KGH Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141-39 4:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser 2:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- Farms 72-15 Kissena Boule- KGH 6:00 am Ohel Yitzchok (Arieli), 73rd Avenue, KGH Torah 72-11 Vleigh Place, rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH vard, KGH 5:40 am Degel Israel(Shein- 137-58 70th Avenue, KGH 7:45 am Congregation Nacha- KGH 2:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 1:45 pm • Seasons 66-18 Main feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 6:15 am Congregation Nachalas las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Street, KGH KGH Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141-39 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 3:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 1:45pm • Rosenblum’s Gro- 6:00 am Ohel Yitzchok (Arieli), 73rd Avenue, KGH 9:00 am Queens Jewish Center, MMONDAYONDAY rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH cery 82-38 Lefferts Blvd, 137-58 70th Avenue, KGH 7:45 am Congregation Nacha- 66-05 108th Street, Forest 6:05 am Congregation Nacha- las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- Hills 12:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 3:30 pm • Gift World 72- 20 Kew Gardens las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 8:00 pm Agudath Israel of Kew rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Main Street, KGH 2:00 pm • Jewish Heritage 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 9:00 am Queens Jewish Center, Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th 1:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser Torah 3:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- Center 68-20 Main Street, 7:45 am Congregation Nacha- 66-05 108th Street, Forest Road (YCQ Building), 1st 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH KGH las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- Hills fl oor, KGH 1:15 pm • Rabbi Rubin’s shul 4:00 pm • Chazaq 141-24 Jewel 2:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 8:00 pm Congregation Nacha- 70-03 147th Street, KGH Avenue, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 9:00 am Queens Jewish Center, las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- SSHABBOSHABBOS 1:30 pm • Ahavas Yisroel 147- 4:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 2:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 66-05 108th Street, Forest 39 73rd Avenue, KGH 7:25 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 02 73rd Avenue, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Hills 8:00 pm Agudath Israel of Kew 73rd Avenue, KGH 1:30 pm • Yeshiva Ohel Sim- 3:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 8:00 pm Congregation Nacha- Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th 7:45 am Young Israel of Kew las Yitzchak (Oelbaum), 141- Road (YCQ Building), 1st Gardens Hills, Youth cha 141-41 72nd Avenue, rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 39 73rd Avenue, KGH fl oor, KGH Building Library 150-05 KGH WWEDNESDAYEDNESDAY 3:30 pm • Gift World 72- 20 8:00 pm Agudath Israel of Kew 8:00 pm Young Israel of 70th Road, KGH 1:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 12:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- Main Street, KGH Gardens Hills, 147-37 70th Queens Valley, 141-55 77th 7:50 am Degel Israel(Shein- rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 3:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- Road (YCQ Building), 1st Avenue, KGH feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 1:45 pm • Aron’s Kissena 12:45 pm • Ahavas Yisroel 147- rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH fl oor, KGH 8:30 pm Degel Israel(Shein- KGH Farms 72-15 Kissena Boule- 02 73rd Avenue, KGH 4:00 pm • Chazaq 141-24 Jewel 8:00 pm Young Israel of feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 8:00 am Ohel Yitzchok (Ari- vard, KGH 1:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser Torah Avenue, KGH Queens Valley, 141-55 77th KGH eli), 137-58 70th Avenue, 1:45 pm • Seasons 66-18 Main 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 4:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- Avenue, KGH KGH Street, KGH 1:15 pm • Rabbi Rubin’s shul rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 8:30 pm Degel Israel(Shein- TTHURSDAYHURSDAY 1 hr before mincha Congre- feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 5:30 am Young Israel of Kew gation Nachalas Yitzchak 1:45pm • Rosenblum’s Gro- 70-03 147th Street, KGH KGH Gardens Hills, Youth Build- (Oelbaum), 141-39 73rd Av- cery 82-38 Lefferts Blvd, 1:30 pm • Yeshiva Ohel Sim- ing Library 150-05 70th enue, KGH Kew Gardens cha 141-41 72nd Avenue, FFRIDAYRIDAY TTUESDAYUESDAY Road, KGH 1 hr before mincha Agudath 2:00 pm • Jewish Heritage KGH 1:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser Torah 5:30 am Young Israel of Kew 5:30 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 Israel of Kew Gardens Center 68-20 Main Street, 1:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Gardens Hills, Youth Build- 73rd Avenue, KGH Hills, 147-37 70th Road, 1st KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 1:45 pm • Aron’s Kissena ing Library 150-05 70th 5:30 am Young Israel of Queens fl oor, KGH 2:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- 1:45 pm • Aron’s Kissena Farms 72-15 Kissena Boule- Road, KGH Valley 141-55 77th Avenue 1 hr before mincha Degel rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH Farms 72-15 Kissena Boule- vard, KGH 5:30 am Ahavas Yisroel,147-02 KGH Israel(Sheinfeld), 144-02 2:45 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- vard, KGH 1:45pm • Rosenblum’s Gro- 73rd Avenue, KGH 5:40 am Degel Israel(Shein- 68th Drive, KGH 5:30 am Young Israel of Queens feld), 144-02 68th Drive, 40 min before mincha Young rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 1:45 pm • Seasons 66-18 Main cery 82-38 Lefferts Blvd, Valley 141-55 77th Avenue KGH Israel of Queens Valley 3:15 pm • Yeshiva Kesser To- Street, KGH Kew Gardens KGH 6:00 am Ohel Yitzchok (Arieli), 141-55 77th Avenue KGH rah 72-11 Vleigh Place, KGH 1:45pm • Rosenblum’s Gro- 2:15 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44 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) • January 18, 2018 Send your simcha notices to Community Calendar SSimchaimcha Section [email protected] Compiled by Rebecca Wittert BBIRTHSIRTHS Uri and Esther Becker on the birth of a daughter, THE CALENDAR FOR ALL EVENTS IN QUEENS and to the grandparents Rabbi and Rebbitzen Herschel Welcher Avenue, Cedarhurst). Refreshments will be JANUARY served. $20 per person. RSVP Required. To RSVP, Nat and Sandy Geller on the birth of a great grandson, please call 516-455-7710. born to Chavy and Ezra Rothenberg From 10:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m., Chazaq, the Alli- At 8:45 p.m., Lander College for Men/Beis Me- ance of Bukharian drash L’Talmud and Chazaq will present Rabbi Leslie and Chaya Knoller on the birth of a grandson, Americans, and Beth Eli Mansour speaking on Tu BiSh’vat. At Land- born to their children Mindy and Nathaniel Yankelev Gavriel (66-35 108th er College, 75-31 150th Street, Kew Gardens Hills Sunday 21 Street, Forest Hills) (4th Ô oor). Men and women welcome. Free ad- will hold a blood mission. Elaine Rosengarten on the birth of a great-grandson, drive. For more information, please call 646- born to Benjamin and Atara Kestenbaum 239-5653 or email [email protected]. FEBRUARY At 8:00 p.m., Chazaq and Beth Gavriel will Rabbi Yoel and Peri Schonfeld on the birth of a grandson, present a talk by Dr. Jack Cohen on “What’s At 6:00 p.m., the Young getting in the way of getting you married” at Israel of Kew Gardens born to Shani and Moshe Meister and to the great grandfather Beth Gavriel (66-35 108th Street, Forest Hills). Hills Youth Depart- Rabbi Fabian Schonfeld Free admission. Men and women welcome. ment will hold its an- For more information, please call 718-285-9132 nual family Big Screen or email [email protected]. Sunday 4 Super Bowl Party. BBARAR AANDND BBATAT MMITZVAHSITZVAHS Food from Carlos and Avrohom and Gila Vinitsky on the bar mitzvah of their son Yitzy Sunday-Tuesday 21-23 • Torah Umeso- Gabby’s. $10 child. $15 adult. RSVP by January 28 rah will hold its annual Principals’ Midwin- to receive early-bird admission price of $10 any ter Conference in Houston, Texas. Conference age. Please RSVP to [email protected]. presenters include Rabbi Yaakov Bender, Rosh MMARRIAGESARRIAGES HaYeshiva, Yeshiva Darchei Torah (Far Rocka- At 8:00 p.m., Chazaq and the Bukharian Jew- Moshe and Tammy Bilitzky on marriage way). For more information, please call 212-227- ish Congregation of Hillcrest will present Rab- of their son Nissan Mordechai to Rikki Frenkel 1000 (x-4510) or email aschupper@torahumeso- bi Shay Tahan on Dating and Shalom Bayis. rah.org. At the Bukharian Jewish Congregation of Hill- and to his grandmother Rebbetzin Chaviva Bilitzky crest (81-04 166th Street, Jamaica). Men and wom- From 3:00 to 6:00 p.m., en welcome. Free admission. For more infor- Baruch and Suzy Gottesman on the marriage Chazaq will present a mation, please call 718-285-9132 or email info@ self-defense demon- Chazaq.org. of their son Moshe Eli to Sara Katz from Detroit stration for seniors by Avi from New York Self The Queens Jewish

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CONTINUED FROM P. 1 Steve’s also carries the koi pattern, inspired by de Gour- nay’s fi sh pattern but much more affordable. I recommend every languishing real estate listing. this pattern for a windowless bathroom. If you can tile the The times, they have a-changed. Wallpaper became so fl oor with pennies, all the better. pathetic that it rounded the bend and became cool again, in much the same way as those glasses you’re wearing, my dear. But this time, there are more varieties than the stripe-paisley-toile iterations of the past. Some people like to categorize wallpapers in two main types. There are the big statements that dominate a room. All other elements, like furniture and lighting, take back- stage to the wallpaper. You can do this look if you already own a lot of pareve furniture in neutral colors, or if you are planning to buy them. The other type of wallpaper is closer to more traditional papers of old. They become a blur in the background, until you come close and get drawn in by the entertaining details. Of course, not every paper can fall squarely into one category. You can get an all-over marble look in a pale peach color that does not overpower the room. You can get those orange koi down yonder, which neither domi- nate nor disappear. The categorizing is vague and not nec- essarily useful, and ultimately people will buy what they like, whether or not it falls into any category. A different class of wallcovering that is favored by de- signers is textures. Many, many textile houses sell woven wallcoverings. These come in grasscloth, fabric, synthetics, Porter Teleo has many beautiful and edgy patterns, like vinyl, wood, metallic, and other materials. They come in this popular rorschach pattern. Porter Teleo handpaints every shade of the rainbow, plus a few that are not seen each order of wallpaper, so there is no repeat and each in nature. However, it is very diffi cult to write an article wall is unique. about these fabulous and versatile wallcoverings. The rea- son is that textured wallcoverings must be experienced to be understood. A small sample in your hand will not convey the overall effect. An image of a completed room, no matter how HD, will not give over the real feel of hav- A new favorite of mine is a line of wallpaper from Sand- ing a multidimensional textured wall. The room becomes berg from Sweden. If you have taken a course in drafting, warmer, richer, and overall better, and a picture won’t cut you actually can do this yourself on the walls. Of course, it. I can’t bring myself to undercut these wallcoverings by the high ceiling and huge window wall helps. printing a series of pictures that will just look like painted walls. So here’s the stuff that pictures can sell. An incredible marble look can be had from Black Crow Studios. If you think you can do this yourself with water- color and a sponge, please think again. The images below are not photoshopped. This wallpaper is truly available for purchase.

For some well-priced and more traditional options, Wallpaper Direct and Steve’s Blinds are both good sources. This fun pattern from Steve’s is based on a much more expensive designer pattern. As with all city-scape art, you need to check the pattern carefully to make sure you are Getting the right height and length of this is tricky but not hanging any house of worship on your walls. I have crucial. several amusing stories that run along these lines: A poor soul happily designs her home, only to be told by a smirk- ing son-in-law, “Do you have any idea what that looks like?” What it looks like generally ranges from Hindu temples to gross anatomy to Maori war masks to any other unsavory reference. And down goes the wallpaper. Poor soul.

Ombre watercolor wallpaper is having a moment. The aqua color is from Pixers, and the pink/purple is from Etsy. Etsy has a wide variety of affordable stick-on wallpapers.

Zisi Naimark holds a Bachelor of Fine Arts from The New York School of Interior Design and has been working for professional de- sign fi rms since 2012. She lives in Kew Gardens Hills, where she is tolerated by her husband and sons. She can be reached at zisinaima- [email protected].

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never thought I would write what nest. “Look, I have a lot on my plate – so have a very full plate of responsibilities I am about to write, but now that I much so, that I have to schedule bath- and if he isn’t taking this seriously, I need I have had a personal experience, I can room breaks. My friend and I discussed to move on. I would love to help him, but relate to what I have heard others say. this and we thought it was worth a shot. I just don’t have time to play games. This What have they said? I have heard that If you are not interested or enjoy giving fellow is in his mid-30s. He knows how didn’t want to go out with her, that was they don’t like trying to set people up on his choice, but I wanted him to know all dates because the singles are “too picky” the facts fi rst and to at least think about or they give them a “hard time.” I never The process exhausted me. Why did I feel like I was running after this it for fi ve minutes. understood why some wouldn’t want to fellow like a puppy running after its owner? My little outburst got him thinking, help a single out if they knew of a po- and so he asked a few questions about the tential match, but now I may have some woman. One of the questions was about idea. me a hard time about this, then forget it. this shidduch game works – even if he the high school she attended. When I A month ago a friend contacted me I have a million other things to do on my doesn’t like it, he knows about network- told him from where she graduated, he about a young man with whom I am very list that I can actually accomplish and I ing and resumes and all that. I was not cut me off and said, “Too frum!” I then close. She said that she might have “a girl wouldn’t have to waste the time I don’t forcing or infl uencing my friend to agree reminded him of how old the woman is for him.” She sent me the girl’s resume have on this if you’re not going to take to go out with his girl; all I was doing was and I then spent three days trying to get this seriously.” All that I said was true. I asking him to consider dating her. If he CONTINUED ON P. 55 in touch with the fellow. I left two voice- mails and texted him. I was very clear. I said and texted that someone contacted me about a girl, and it may be worthwhile if he would consider going out with her. When he fi nally got back to me, his response wasn’t the one that I thought he would have to my messages. I didn’t expect him to say he’s indebted to me for trying to help him. I expected him to say, “Thank you. I will look into it and get back to you.” Boy was I shocked. His fi rst question for me was, “If I never met your friend, how does she know that this girl is for me?” I thought he was joking, so I said, “I told her all about you and she knows this girl very well.” His response: “Who says you know me very well? And if your friend knows this girl ‘very well,’ then why hasn’t she suggested her for me before?” I asked if he was serious about his questions and reminded him of the way shidduchim work. “But I don’t know these people, so why should I agree?” I then added something else that my friend told me: “The girl already agreed to go out with you.” The response was silence, fol- lowed with, “So how long has she known about me? What exactly did your friend tell her?” I didn’t know what to make of his re- sponse. Yes, it’s expected for someone to ask questions, but these questions seemed as if he was trying to be diffi cult and I couldn’t understand why. I should also add here that this fellow does not have the typical resume. I’m not saying that anything is wrong with him, but some women are turned off when they hear about his job (I wrote about this a few weeks ago). I know that he doesn’t date much and that he wants to get mar- ried. He works a lot so he doesn’t get the opportunity to go to singles events. My friend said that she was honest about this fellow with the girl, and the girl said all was fi ne and she’d go out with him. I hardly had a chance to tell the fellow about the girl before he started asking the questions! Was this fellow seriously giving me a hard time or was he just try- ing to play a wise guy? I never know with him. I decided to play hardball with him, as it may result in him taking this in ear-

Goldy Krantz is an LMSW and a life- long Queens resident, guest lecturer, and author of the shidduch dating book, The Best of My Worst and children’s book Where Has Zaidy Gone? She can be con- tacted at [email protected].

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CONTINUED FROM P. 21 world are suffering from very high un- employment, high infl ation, and plagued many assets as liquid as possible so you by mountains of debt. Several years ago, can withdraw them within one week. In Greece, whose economy had been stable addition to your regular job, make sure you if not robust, was forced to beg other na- have skills that you’d need in a traditional tions for assistance, agree to humiliating economy such as farming, cooking, or re- conditions to receive aid, and introduce pairing. extreme and painful belt-tightening. “Also, make sure your passport is cur- Although Venezuela has vast amounts rent in case you have to leave the country of oil reserves, poverty has become so on short notice. Research target countries rampant and food so scarce that starving now and travel there on vacation so you people were eating animals they found are familiar with your destination. Keep on the streets. yourself in top physical shape. And learn In the United States, once the richest basic survival skills such as self-defense, country in the world, the federal govern- foraging, hunting, and farming. Practice ment and states are deeply in debt, many now with camping trips. If you can, move people are surviving only through credit near a wildlife preserve in a temperate cli- cards, and around half the population mate. That way, if a collapse occurs you can has only minimal or absolutely no money live off the land in a relatively unpopulated saved for a rainy day. We tend to focus on area. the stock market making new highs and on “As for cash, it may not be useful in a housing prices rising rapidly, not noticing total economic failure because its value that beneath the surface the economy is re- might be decimated. Even stockpiles of ally fragile and vulnerable. gold bullion may not help because they No one knows what lies ahead or how would be diffi cult to transport if you need they would respond in an economic deba- to move quickly, and in a severe crisis they cle, let alone how other people would re- may not be accepted as currency. But it act. So there’s nothing lost by preparing for would be good to have a stash of $20 bills survival by carefully considering the meas- and gold coins just in case. During crisis ures outlined above. But one thing needs situations these are commonly accepted as to be added to them: keep your Tehillim bribes.” nearby. Sources: businessinsider. Never Say Never com; investopedia.com; wikipedia. Can it happen here? Let’s pray that com; youtube.com (The Crash Is Coming: it doesn’t, but no one can say for sure. Your survival Guide to an Economic Today, numerous countries around the Collapse 2018); zerohedge.com

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can’t fi nd my shoes – the one Mini dressing containers that’s black with the purple Fresh Romaine lettuce stalks (I fi nd that “Istrap,” proclaims Gitty. “Have you fresh checked stalks last longer than the checked the front closet in the bucket? cut lettuce, but make sure it’s very dry) Oh, and Dovid, can you grab Sarala from Finely shredded vegetables (carrots, her crib? I think I hear she woke up from raw beets – yes, they are so good – broccoli her morning nap,” answers Mommy from slaw, red cabbage, white cabbage, or any the bathroom, where she is packing up the other vegetables you like) entire medicine cabinet and the bathroom Some nuts, or grains that are dry (sun- sink. Daddy walks in from outside, stating fl ower seeds, almonds, cashews, farro, the weather forecast for the next three couscous, brown rice) days. Meanwhile, Chaya is helping get the A protein that everyone likes (salmon, suitcases labeled and weighed. tuna, chicken cutlets, eggs [hard boiled, Raise your hand if this is what your scrambled, soft boiled], cheese) house is going to sound like at some point Dressing (any will do, but my go-to is a Prepare a huge dressing recipe, portion this month, right before a family winter simple vinaigrette made of 1 part vinegar it out into the small containers, and place vacation! We all have that pre-vacation to 3 parts oil, then I add in some citric ac- the containers near the toppings. Now that frenzy, whether it’s a one-day trip or a fi ve- ids and spices) you have a “salad bar,” create an assembly day trip, because getting a family of any line and allow your kids to choose what number of kids out the door and on a trip And now for the assembly: they want in their container. Everyone is hectic. This can all be done a day in advance of de- prepares their own and labels and puts it I know you are thinking, what does parture. First, cook up the proteins and grains. in the fridge. this have to do with food? Well, I’ll tell Make sure the lettuce is really dry and The next day it’s all prepared and you: On a morning like this you don’t cut it up; set aside. ready to go. This saves tons of hassle and want to be sitting there deciding what to It starts with travel-friendly portion Then prepare the vegetable topping and tantrums in the morning, allowing for a bring for lunch or dinner; you want that containers and it ends with no headaches! the nuts; set them out like a salad bar. smoother departure. all ready and prepared for you to grab What can be bad?! and go so you can actually get out the Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to Bracha Serle works as a private chef specializing in healthy cooking such as gluten-free, dairy- door at a decent time. So, here’s my tip create the ultimate salad that makes eve- free, sugar-free, nut-free, and other dietary restrictions or allergies. She also does end-product for the fastest, easy, to-go lunch, dinner, ryone happy. marketing for kosher food companies and supermarkets, teaching consumers how to use new breakfast, or snack. It’s even kid-friendly food products on a daily basis. Bracha gives clean-eating healthy cooking classes and demonstra- and family-friendly in terms of choice What you’re going to need: tions. You can check out her work on Instagram @shesthechef and can be reached via email friendly. Sectional containers at [email protected].

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Semi-Formal Workplace Wear Myth: Semi-formal workplaces demand suits just like formal places. Truth: You have many more options.

ntil recent decades, the above myth And if you’re presenting a major research was no myth. If you were trying to project, you may need to wear a suit. Uget ahead in the workplace, you The good news is that you have a lot of had to wear suits – and only suits. In fact, options. The not-so-good news is that with I think it was in the 1980s that workplace all those options, getting dressed might seem dress codes started allowing for more vari- overwhelming. But it doesn’t have to be. ation. Or maybe it was just that we women Start by considering where you are and were becoming more confi dent in our pro- what you’re doing most of the time. Then fessional abilities and therefore more will- consider those occasions where you might ing to push the fashion envelope. be in a different environment that’s more So what do you do if you work in a semi- or less formal. Then make sure you have formal environment? what you need. For example, if you’re a From me, you get the truth. teacher in public high school, then most What is a semi-formal environment of your work outfi ts need a level of polish. anyway? It’s a workplace where there’s If you’re a doctor and most of your time more active movement and more need for is spent in private practice in your offi ce, comfort and movement in one’s clothes, then most of your outfi ts should be clean but where you still need to look clean and and polished, but you don’t have to go polished overall and you may even need a formal. If you’re a physical therapist who suit sometimes. Education and the health provides early intervention at the child’s professions, including medicine, are semi- home, then most of your work outfi ts need formal. to be clean and neat but also comfortable and allow for movement. You will need a couple of coordinating jackets and skirts/dresses for formal situ- ations no matter what. Remember that if you work in a semi-formal workplace, you will have those times when you need to look formal, such as meetings or presenta- tions. But you’ll also need skirt-and-top out- fi ts for regular work days. Layering is fail-safe if you do it right; it adds depth and polish to an outfi t. So some of your outfi ts should consist of a shell with an overtop. That overtop could be a cardigan or a button-down shirt, depend- ing on how much structure you need on top. If it’s summer and you don’t want to wear two tops at once, you can get a lay- ered look with a bold necklace or an ob- long scarf, both of which are great to have around no matter what. You might fi nd that you need the extra polish of a collar, so button-down shirts and polo shirts are great. They’re especially look sloppy. Too small and you’ll look If you wear hair, make sure it’s neat and good if you work in a more casual setting bumpy and lumpy and possibly provoca- clean and well-maintained. If it’s long, your most of the time and you don’t want a tive. If something is not appropriate for best bet is to wear it in a ponytail or casual necklace or oblong to get in the way. your body type, it will show. updo; it keeps your hair out of the way and Your skirts can be straight or A-line – de- Chances are that you’ll only need heels looks polished. For a sheitel, keep the style pending on what works for you. JBTK (just for the formal situations, but make sure simple and neat. Non-sheitel coverings like The immediate environment could below the knee) is universally fl attering you have pumps or slingbacks with 1½-2- hats, berets, and mitpachot can all work range from casual to formal. Let’s say you’re and appropriate. If you like longer skirts, inch heels for these situations. Otherwise, if you keep them simple and coordinated a teacher. If you teach in preschool, it’s usu- you can get away with that in most places fl ats are fi ne, but make sure there’s ½ inch with your base outfi t. No snoods or pre- ally casual to the point that you can wear as long as they fall past the calf but not past of heel and good cushioning so that you tieds – they’re not fl attering and they’re too denim skirts. If you teach in public elemen- the ankle. Floor-length is not practical; you can move without your feet hurting later. casual to look professional. Makeup is as tary school, it’s not as casual. In public need to be able to move without tripping. Sneakers are not professional, so avoid simple as a basic face: even out your skin, high school, you might be expected to look For more formal situations, you’ll need a those in general. use concealer as needed, defi ne your eyes, much more polished (no denim). And in couple of skirts with structure. Softer skirts In most places and situations, jewelry is and add color to cheeks and lips. private schools, especially ones where the work for more casual situations if those appropriate and can add polish and inter- If you just plan ahead and make sure students wear uniforms, it’s outright for- fl atter you. est to an outfi t, so use it. Drop earrings or a you know what you need, you’ll be fi ne. mal and you may have to wear suits a lot. Dresses can work very well here, with bold necklace or fun bracelets can all work And you’ll be able to take full advantage of Sometimes you have to consider the or without a jacket or overtop. But they as long as you stick with only one and you all your options and feel professional at all situation. Let’s say you’re a doctor. When should have some structure. In fact, denim don’t overdo that one. times. you see patients for checkups in your of- dresses can work, especially if the denim fi ce, you can dress polished but not formal. has the structure needed. Softer dresses Meira E. Schneider-Atik is a wardrobe organizer, personal shopper, jewelry designer, and fash- When dealing with patients in the hospital, might be tricky. And if you fi nd dresses too ion writer/blogger and speaker. She helps women look great while saving time, effort, and money, you may need to wear scrubs and not wor- tricky to fi t, then stick to separates. all within tznius guidelines, and she’ll add to that with custom-designed jewelry. Read more about ry about dressing formally. But if you’re at- No matter what, your jackets, tops, her ideas on her blog- www.truetzniutistruebeauty.wordpress.com. She also has a YouTube chan- tending a meeting with other medical staff, skirts, and dresses must fi t you and fl atter nel, “Look Your Best in Mitpachot,” where she does head-wrapping tutorials, and she is also avail- you may need to dress a bit more formally. you perfectly. If anything is too big, you’ll able for private demonstrations. She can be reached at (718) 644-6135 or at [email protected].

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ome of the most fashionable faces have been those that appear as if they Sare naturally beautiful, even though the look is achieved with a drawer full of products. It’s harder to create a no-makeup look than the painted perfection of the ‘80s. To achieve a fl awless, healthy, and un- contrived look, you need to acquire good blending skills. The idea is to create a beau- tiful canvas to showcase your look. The fol- lowing tips can help do the trick. Moisturizer: Makeup always blends best if skin is moist. Gently massage a few drops of moisturizer into clean skin to warm up the face. The makeup will melt seamless- ly into the skin instead of sitting on top. Primer: This is not just for painters who prepare walls. A face primer evens out the texture of skin. It also locks in the moistur- izer, helps makeup look smooth, and gives it longevity. Smear a tiny amount of this gel all over the face. sheer fi nish, use a damp sponge. Spread the Foundation: Pick a foundation that foundation lightly over the skin in a circu- gives the type of coverage you need to per- lar motion as though you’re washing your fect your complexion. Tinted moisturizer is face. It should look like a second skin. the lightest. Then comes liquid foundation, Under-eye concealer: A good concealer followed by cream products. Powder foun- with light-refl ecting properties counteracts dation looks driest unless it’s a hydrated the darkness of the circles. Pick a concealer base. If your skin is clear, you may opt to two shades lighter than your skin. If you skip foundation. Using moisturizer, primer, have blue veins showing through, opt for and translucent powder will give you a a yellow or peach-based concealer. Apply dewy glow. with a small brush underneath the eyes Makeup sponges: It’s best to apply your and at the inner corners, then use your fi n- makeup with a sponge. First, dip the dry gers to blend. sponge into the foundation. If you want a Full coverage is best for blemishes.

For acne, scars, or sunspots, use a heavi- Blend until the end. er concealer that matches your skin exactly. As you gingerly use your sponge or fi n- With a tiny brush, dot it on the blemished gertips to apply each layer of makeup, areas and the red skin. Then pat with your blend the makeup well until it disappears fi nger until it’s well blended. into the skin. Apply translucent powder with a puff. With a bit of knowledge and practice, Dip the sponge into the powder, dab off you can instantly transform your skin excess, and lightly press onto your face. into a beautiful canvas. As they say, “A lit- The powder shouldn’t be visible; you will tle color of paint makes a woman what just see an absence of shine. she ain’t.”

Risselle Naimark is a Professional Freelance Makeup Artist and Skincare Consultant. She carries an extensive line of personalized skincare, cosmetics, and anti-aging products. Risselle is also available for weddings, Bar Mitzvahs, makeup lessons, and all of your beauty needs. She can be reached at 718 263-5517.

54 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) • January 18, 2018 have. I was not going to beg. chanim whom he doesn’t know, who I’m Only Trying To Help You All in all, this experience left a sour contact him? The saying, “You get more CONTINUED FROM P. 48 opinion it lacked everything. Why was I taste in my mouth. Truthfully, the pro- bees with honey than with vinegar” ap- running after him from the get-go? I felt cess exhausted me. Why did I feel like plies here. I spoke with my single friend (27) and that she graduated high school as if I was forcing him to go out. The lack I was running after this fellow like a about what this fellow did; I basically a decade ago. I also asked if he wanted of silence on his part, in my opinion, bor- puppy running after its owner? When I felt like I was jumping through hoops to be judged on where he attended high ders on unacceptable. I may be wrong was single, I would contact shadchanim to try to help him. She said, “Guys are school and that we all know that it re- about that, and I accept criticism if I am, who texted or left messages for me as harder,” as if that explained it. ally is the choice of the parents of where but each time I contacted him I waited soon as I received them. I would update Let me give all singles a word of ad- their child will attend school. over 24 hours (and most of the time at them on what was going on; did the vice. I’m not saying, “Don’t bite the hand My friend seemed to be fi ghting me least a couple of days) for a response. It fellow call or not, when are we going that feeds you.” But please act like a every step of the way. Maybe because doesn’t take more than a few seconds out, if the shadchan wanted to be kept mentch and return calls and texts in a I know he has a good heart and he has to text someone. I didn’t know when he updated. It was my way of letting shad- timely fashion. Everyone is busy in to- been burned in the past, I said, “If you’re had gone out with the girl – the night be- chanim know that I was appreciative of day’s’ world. It doesn’t take more than a not going out with anyone now, what do fore, three nights before? Had I not left them thinking of me and trying to help. few seconds to send a text. That’s all I am you have to lose? It doesn’t cost anything my causal voicemail and sent my casual I asked a single friend when she usually asking. Yes, I will attempt to set up this to call the references. If she’s not for you, text, would he have contacted me at all? contacts or updates shadchanim. She fellow again; but will I rush at the chance then fi ne; but think about it fi rst. You’re I think a phone call for his answer and said that she always calls the shadchan to go through a similar ordeal with him? jumping on everything I say.” The fellow reaction to the date would have been ap- with updates. I wanted shadchanim to I don’t know. I may pass it on to his sis- relented and asked me to send him the propriate. Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but think of me on a continuous basis, so I ter, with whom I am friendly, and let the resume to let him think about it. it’s just how I feel. More than a day passed would try to make it a pleasant experi- sister deal with him. No, I don’t expect to Five days passed. I texted my friend after I asked about the date before I re- ence when they set me up with some- be thanked or praised for trying to help that I had some trouble getting in touch ceived the very short text. The “Thanks” one. My friend said that she does the someone fi nd his or her bashert, but I with the fellow, but I fi nally did. I didn’t seemed like an afterthought. I didn’t push same. Did this fellow think that because expect to be responded to in a timely want my friend or the girl to think that for details of the date or ask why he felt he knew me and didn’t need to try to fashion. I’m sure all shadchanim expect we had forgotten about them or were the woman wasn’t shayach for him. He’s impress me that he could behave like the same. making them wait for an answer on an adult; if he wanted to share, he would this? Is this how he interacts with shad- Hatzlachah to you all. purpose. I was trying to buy time. On the fi fth day, I texted this fellow, ask- ing if he had a chance to look into the girl, and I asked him what his answer was. A day later, I receive his response: “No, I didn’t think about it yet. Can you send me a picture of her?” This, ladies and gentlemen, is where I lost my cool and I called him. “You had fi ve days to think about it and look into this girl. You could’ve looked her up on Face- book or Instagram if you wanted pic- tures. I think it’s a bit chutzpadik of you to start demanding things now when you didn’t even ‘think about it’ for nearly a week! The girl said yes to you. Just give me an answer, yes or no.” This had dragged on for more than a week and I felt bad about that. This fel- low said he hadn’t even thought about it? How long did he expect this girl to wait? How long does anyone expect someone else to wait for an answer, let alone go a date! I heard him breathing on the phone, telling me that he was thinking about what I said. “Fine. Yeah. I’ll go out with her.” When my friend texted me the girls number, she asked that I let her know when the fellow would call her, “so I can give her a heads up.” I didn’t think anything was wrong with that. I remem- ber appreciating when the shadchan would let me know when a date would be calling, so I could avail myself and expect the call. Apparently this fellow didn’t like it too much. “What? I can’t just call? I don’t know when I can call. When I get a chance, tonight, tomor- row night. Whatever.” I told him that he could choose to call the girl whenever he wanted, but just to extend a courtesy to the girl. “Fine. I gotta think about it. Bye.” Two days passed before I received a fi ve-word text, “I’ll try to call tonight.” I texted my friend so she would be able to alert the young lady. Then there was “radio silence” for six days. I didn’t know if they went out or not. I called and left a voicemail: “Just checking in. Did you have a chance to go out yet?” I made it very casual. I didn’t press for details or ask why I haven’t been contacted. Af- ter a few hours without a response, I texted him the same question. The re- sponse text came a day and a half later: “We went out. We’re on different pages tho. Thanks.” His answer was short sim- ple and to the point. Yet, I found it to be lacking. What was it lacking? In my

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You Have A Choice; Come Alive! very day that we wake up means be nice if people who once chose to marry Hashem has entrusted us with an- and grow a family could part with the same Eother 24 hours to make the best use consideration? I’ve been told I’m a dreamer. of. We have choices. G-d does not judge us Believing in the goodness of people. Forgiv- according to the outcome, rather it is our ef- ing easily. And yet it takes two to tango. We forts that matter most. From The New Nor- can choose our words carefully. Words can mal: “In truth, the only control given to man build or words can tear down. Just think is choosing the direction in which he wants about how you would feel if someone said to go.” the same thing to you. And even if they have Back in December, a friend in the health- and you survived it, you should think twice coaching business told me she expects new about saying anything potentially hurtful callers in January as people make their New to someone else. Practice a mindful pause. Year’s resolutions. I thought that interest- We do not have to say everything we think. ing because, why wait? Why not start now? Remember, we are here to stretch ourselves. Who needs a predetermined date? Just be- To give. And to allow others to give to us. In gin. And keep on going. Procrastination is a achdus and with love. killer. I see it over and over again. Actually, From the song “Come Alive,” we can live This single state is simply not natural. Eve- For me, love has been transforming. I chose when I made my healthy changes I did not “dreaming with our eyes wide open.” My ryone needs to have someone special who to live with intent. Fully. A friend’s daughter tell anyone about it beforehand. I just qui- friend who relocated to California last week believes in them and has their back through told me I am one of a kind. She said this be- etly took it one day at a time. I was looking messaged me that she missed my “cheerful thick and thin. I have so much love and af- cause of my persistent optimism and ability for permanent lifestyle changes, not quick Kiddush.” I try to say my brachos loud and fection to share. And while I feel younger to sing and dance my way through diffi cul- fi xes. An anorexic young lady chose to im- t’fi llos with intent. I try to do everything than ever, I am well aware that everybody’s ties. She also said my depth touched her. It’s prove her health by gaining 20 pounds. with passion. I do this by being mindful. clock is ticking. From the song “From Now true that I notice things that not everyone Someone shared with me information The rabbi in shul today said that fi rst we use On”: “From now on, these eyes will not be does. I went for a repeat sonogram to follow about my phone chavrusa from California. our thoughts, then we engage our hearts, blinded by the light/ From now on what’s up on something seen on a prior one. I was I had no idea she was a two-time cancer sur- and then our bodies to perform the mitzvos waited till tomorrow starts tonight!” not nervous about it, or so I thought. Then vivor, among other things. I knew I was deal- or acts wholeheartedly. My love language is Some have told me recently, when I I arrived at the facility. All of a sudden I felt ing with a very special person, but I had no touch (from the fi ve languages of love). My praised them for courage or diffi cult single nervous. And alone. I could have avoided idea to what extent until I read a speech she grandkids were climbing all over me this parenting, that they feel they don’t have a that by simply asking someone to accom- gave at a graduation ceremony. I cried my Shabbos. I thoroughly enjoyed it. My daugh- choice. I disagree. I have unfortunately seen pany me, but I didn’t. I was not aware of any eyes out. I have since re-read it a few times. ter-in-law told me that one of the princesses neglectful parents and other troubled abu- anxiety and did not think I needed anyone. And I told her so. I told her that whatever re- at bedtime said to her “hold me” in order sive situations. These folks chose to rise to Until I got there. Then the vulnerability spect and admiration I had for her prior was to facilitate sleep. I thought to myself how the occasion. Acceptance is a choice. My hit me. I tried to redirect my thoughts and now magnifi ed a million times over. This ex- beautiful that this child is already aware of lawyer told me that with regard to divorce- say Tehillim. I reminded myself that we are perience has changed my life. I take things what she needs, and can ask for and get it. process complications. My 12-step-group never alone, because Hashem is always with to heart and try to incorporate the lessons. My son told me yesterday that marriage friends told me that with regard to accept- us. And I promised myself that next time I She eloquently described optimism as being is the key to holiness and strength in the ing others exactly as they are. Someone else would indeed ask someone to accompany a state of positivity, and hope as something ideal environment created by Hashem in told me that sometimes we must choose to me because there is nothing wrong with we believe in and at the same time must be order for individuals to continuously grow take action even if we do not feel ready. He needing other people, actually quite the actively part of. A choice. An empowerment close to Hashem, and to grow overall by explained this to me yesterday with regard opposite; it gives others an opportunity to that we can affect. Each person knows or merging with another person in a com- to dating and marriage. He said sometimes give and practice chesed as well. Someone must seek out what it is they need to do in mitted way where physical and emotional we have to just jump in. During a discussion I know from my 12-step program asked me order to guard their health, physically and needs get expressed in a healthy and loving about “complications” he said, “Well, are you to accompany them to an in-vitro procedure mentally, as we are commanded. Let’s do it. way for overall serenity, and that there is no complicated? That would be a long-term in order to have a baby. She is unmarried. Carpe diem. other way to achieve this. My son said he is concern. Or is your life complicated, mean- She chooses to expand her family on her Today I was Kiddush hopping. I was the one who gets sent around to discuss and ing by outside factors, which would be a own. I was honored that she trusts me for stopped repeatedly by kind people prais- explain this to boys and men of all ages and temporary or time-bound matter? Because this important time in her life. She asked ing me for writing these articles. One said stages of life. Well, they’ve got an ideal role you sound clear as day in all of the ways that for what she needed and I agreed. The so- she most appreciates the honesty and that model in him; I know all of his secrets. My really matter.” That summed up so much nogram facility made me drink an awful lot my words are not “fl uff.” Another said that son is one who will be mevater for his wife for me because I did not understand that of water and hold it, which for me is nearly each week something I’ve shared helps her consistently – and feel fulfi lled by that and important difference, and now that many impossible. After waiting quite a while I told improve her own life. A woman stopped not resentful. Talk about coming full circle. of those outside complications have been the secretary that there was no way I could her car to tell me in front of my daughter Out of the mouths of babes. We learn from resolved, though not all, I feel empowered. continue to remain in that uncomfortable how inspiring my articles are and how she each other. I choose to love. To both give and receive state of being, full with water, and continue knows so many people’s lives have evolved When I attended a kumzitz, so many peo- love. It was the best choice I ever made. I to wait. Eventually they took me in. The through my writing. I am humbled and hon- ple approached me, calling me the “Holy have no regrets. From a song “You Give Good ored to be able to “give back” to the com- Mother” and giving me brachos for being Love”: “I found out what I’ve been missing.” CONTINUED ON P. 59 munity. This is a choice as well. I have al- the one who gave birth to and raised some- ways “served” in different ways. As a child one like Yosef. Rabbi Eytan Feiner gave me a I volunteered at Booth Memorial and later brachah that he will dance at my future wed- at Covenant House in Manhattan. I have ding and Yosef will play music at my future had various kids/teens living with me over wedding – when someone lucky enough to the years and did my best to nurture them be worthy of me, the mother of this young accordingly. Now as a real estate agent, I man, appears in my life. While I am grate- choose to recognize that I must use all my ful for my wonderful daughter and family gifts and talents given to me in order to bet- who I am blessed to be bonded with, still, ter myself and better the world, gratefully. on Shabbos I feel the singleness the most. When dealing with others we can choose Leaving shul alone. Attending kiddushim to engage in machlokes or peace. Divorce or seudos alone. Coming home alone. On court is a perfect example of where this Motzaei Shabbos I feel it even more. I feel kind of choice can be made. Wouldn’t it the neshamah yeseirah’s absence intensely.

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24 Tevet 5778 • Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 57 SSecretsecrets IInn DDisguise:isguise: A historical fiction novel serial By Susie Garber “She doesn’t know what you did?” Mr. I felt the color drain from my face. My Brownstein looked at my father. father had never committed a crime. He’d There was a long pause. The man admitted doing something he didn’t do Chapter 24: Another Surprise seemed to be holding back tears. I stud- to save this man’s life. My father was a ied my father’s face. He looked embar- hero. And Mr. Brownstein: He was Dalya Recap: Miri went out with Mrs. Mintz’s you, honey.” rassed. He was staring down at his food. Brownstein’s father. And Dalya is the girl grandson Baruch. They both had a nice I’m not. Mr. Brownstein whispered, “Your father who took my shidduch… I stopped myself. time. She reveals to him that her father My father kept trying to make conversa- saved my life.” Mr. Brownstein leaned Hashem is in charge – no one else. had been in jail. She hopes this won’t make tion. “How is your work going?” closer. “He took the rap when it was Aunt Bella squeezed my hand. “Miri, are him want to end the shidduch. “Okay,” I mumbled. my fault, you know. I felt so bad but I you all right? You look so pale.” Aunt Bella interjected, “Your Mimi is an didn’t know what to do. I told your fa- “Yes,” I mumbled. “I’ll be right back.” I wo days passed with no word from awesome writer. She’s got her own column ther I would kill myself if I was found excused myself to the ladies’ room. There Mrs. Mintz about her grandson. Of and…” A tall man approached our table. guilty and sent to jail. It would destroy was so much to absorb right now. I needed Tcourse, it would be awkward to call “Excuse me,” he turned to my father. “Are our family – my daughter Dalya and my to be alone to collect my thoughts. My fa- and say he didn’t want to continue. Better you Mr. Belsky?” wife.” ther. Dalya’s father. All this time I had lived this way, I mused. I tried to harden my feel- My father turned towards the man. Dalya, Dalya Brownstein! This was her with this heavy guilt secret. Now it turned ings and push them away. It was all for the “Yes.” father?! out that my father was innocent. best. It wasn’t bashert. The door creaked open and Dalya In the meantime, it was my birthday, and Brownstein, now Dalya Blaustein, stepped Aunt Bella insisted that “25” calls for a res- I felt the color drain from my face. My father had admitted doing into the ladies’ room. Hashem certainly taurant celebration. I discovered, when we something he didn’t do to save this man’s life has a way of sending messages right at you. pulled up to the restaurant, that my father She smiled at me. “Hi, Miri, how are was walking in. I hissed at my aunt, “Why you? Nice to see you here. I’m having din- did you do this? I don’t want him here.” The man slapped my father on the “I was the coward. Your father said he ner with my father. Daniel had to stay late Aunt Bella stared at me. “Now, Miri, none shoulder. “Dov Brownstein. You know I… would take responsibility for an act he at yeshivah.” of that. We are all family.” She motioned me You are a tzadik. You are my hero.” never committed. That’s what he did. He She didn’t know about her father. I to follow her. I couldn’t make a scene in pub- Brownstein. That name was familiar. I went to jail for me. I just don’t know how should tell her. It was her father who be- lic. I wondered how I would make it through stared at this man. What on earth was he I will ever repay…” longed in jail, not mine. She should know. this meal. I really didn’t want to be in the talking about? My father interrupted. “Just be honest Her husband should know. All I had to do same room with my father. The man seemed chocked up. “I can nev- from now on and help others when they was start speaking. The angry words would Aunt Bella was all cheery. I avoided er ever thank you enough for what you did. are in need.” fl ow out. I’d wipe away her smile in a min- eye contact with my father. The waiter You saved my life. Was it rough for you?” The two men hugged and Mr. Brown- ute… brought menus. I didn’t feel like eating, My father didn’t answer. stein left. To be continued… but the waiter was standing over me, Mr. Brownstein turned towards me. “Are waiting. I just pointed to the fi rst thing you his daughter? You must be so proud of Susie Garber is the author of Denver Dreams, a novel (Jerusalem Publications, 2009), Memora- on the menu. your father.” ble Characters…Magnifi cent Stories (Scholastic, 2002), Befriend (Menucha Publishers, 2013), The “So, Mimi,” my father said. “This is a I was not proud of him. What was this Road Less Traveled (Feldheim, 2015), fi ction serials and features in various magazines including milestone birthday.” man talking about? A Bridge in Time, historical fi ction serial (Binyan Magazine, 2017). She writes the community Yeh, and I’m still not married. “I don’t know what you mean, sir,” I column for the Queens Jewish Link and she writes the Queens page for Hamodia. She works as I’m grateful I could be here today with said. a writing consultant in many yeshivos and she teaches creative writing to students of all ages.

58 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) • January 18, 2018 Classifieds & RRealeal EEstatestate You Have A Choice; Come Alive! Three line ad: 1 week - $15 2 weeks - $21 4 weeks - $36 CONTINUED FROM P. 57 tain things and some are not. Again, we must know ourselves best. Those of us Four line ad: 1 week - $20 2 weeks - $30 4 weeks - $48 technician did her thing. She told me that who have experienced traumas or lives Five line ad: 1 week - $25 2 weeks - $40 4 weeks - $60 something seen prior, actually twice prior, without healthy love may choose to numb was now gone. Completely gone. A mira- emotionally – or fi ercely go forward and Part time driver wanted for dry cleaning cle? She said yes. Then she sent me to the embrace life. Guess which one of those I EMPLOYMENT ladies room. I can only say that afterward, will do now at this stage of my life? We Help wanted Full time A/R bookkeeper. route. 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60 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) • January 18, 2018 See solution in this issue By: Yoni Glatt, [email protected] Down “Musical Translation” Difficulty Level: EASY 1. “The Open Window” pen name 34. Mayim, in Spain 2. Audibly shocked 35. Living comic legend 3. ___ Orthodox 37. Amounts of medicine 4. Chabad capital? 41. Zemer 5. Biblical suffix 43. Kunis of “Family Guy” 6. Over ___ (sign-off) 46. Ludlum’s “Identity” and 7. ___ Kiddushin (wedding leader) “Ultimatum” 8. Where some athletes go 48. Progress 9. Jacob’s twelve 50. Heroic Heston role 10. Takes in, like the tribe of Simeon 52. Friday letters that precede “F” into Judah 54. Area west of the Mississippi 11. His name reversed is a game 57. Perform better than 12. Soothing ointment 58. A Jewfro or hazel eyes 13. Abbr. after many a general’s 59. Says loshon hara, perhaps name 60. Princess who can fly through 18. Lacking a G or an R space (apparently) 23. Deg. for Bloomberg 61. “This is ___ for Superman!” 25. ___A (Bruin’s sch.) 64. Levin and Glass 26. ‘20s movie mogul 67. Rock genre 27. “Band of Brothers” event 68. Jacob’s was injured by an 31. First name behind “A Jew Today” angel 32. Stern (nautically) 69. 56-Across hosted it on Oct. 7, 33. Montreal Canadiens, familiarly 2017

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24 Tevet 5778 • Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] 61 62 QueensJewishLink.com • 718-880-2622 • [email protected] Vol. VII No. 3 (#245) • January 18, 2018 Winter Asarah B’Teves: A Fast Day Of Inspiration At SKA By Susie Garber

Winter, you vicious wild beast, On trampled greenery you feast.

Animals scurry from your wrath, Plants shiver in your frozen path.

You howl and screech in the night; Thrashing, storming, you claw and bite, Until soft spring subdues your might.

Then, at last, you take fl ight.

CONTINUED FROM P. 42 inspiration, and serve as a constant re- minder of the lessons learned. student facilitators. The classes were In addition to making the fast day presented with a choice of twelve Post- so relevant for students, SKA offered it Notes created by TTYL, each with an an inspirational Asarah B’Teves Boker image and short poem related to t’fi lah. L’Iyun to women of the community, Each girl chose four Post-it Notes that as SKA Limudei Kodesh faculty mem- contained a personal connection to her, bers Mrs. Sheva Mezei and Mrs. Rochel and with the help of the student facili- Chafetz delivered powerful shiurim to a tators, discovered how the words of the large group of attendees. poems can actually connect to words Thanks go to Rabbi Isaac Rice and Mrs. of t’fi lah. At the end of the session, the Elisheva Kaminetsky for arranging this girls were able to stick the Post-it Notes wonderful Boker L’Iyun; Mrs. Kayla Mezei into their personal siddurim, in order to and Mrs. Rochel Chafetz for sharing di- add personal meaning to their everyday vrei Torah; Mrs. Suzy Libin, Mrs. Mer- davening. This program was an incred- edith Pyle, and the Art Academy students ible opportunity for girls to see t’fi los for this wonderful gallery of artwork; in new and exciting ways, and to add Mrs. Kaminetsky, Mrs. Aviva Dennis, Mrs. a layer of depth and meaning to their Rikki Ash, Mrs. Jorge Mallin, and Mrs. Rivi routine t’fi lah. The Notes remaining in Blum, as well as all the TTYL members each girl’s personal siddur are a repre- for all their work in making this Asarah sentation of the lasting impact of the B’Teves at SKA meaningful.

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