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NEWSLETTER h itnH rcsnFoundation Erickson H. Milton The 2 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter CONFERENCE continued from page 1 Presenters at the 2008 meeting include: Andreas, Beck, Carlson, Dilts, EDITOR’S COMMENTS Gilligan, Goulding, Hardy, Hayes, Karpman, Kaslow, Kottler, Lankton, Levine, Miller, Naranjo, Norcross, O’Hanlon, Padesky, Plster, Prochaska, Rossi, Selekman, Spring, Weiner-Davis, Wilson, Yapko, and Zeig. Keynotes will be It had taken me this long to reor- given by Borysenko, Burns, Cummings, Houston, and Terr. ganize my head after the whirlwind Visit the Conference web site to view the full program, list of presenters and experience of the Couples Confer- presentations, download the complete brochure, make your hotel reservations, ence this last April in San Jose, and register Online! www.BriefTherapyConference.com To receive the California. It was amazing. The ener- brochure by mail contact The Milton H. Erickson Foundation, Inc., 3606 N. 24th gy and expertise demonstrated there Street, Phoenix, AZ 85016-6500; Tel, 602-956-6196; Fax, 602-956-0519; was awesome. Everyone present was Email, [email protected] purchasing the CDs so they could re- This year’s Conference will be held at Town & Country Resort and experience the workshops and Convention Center in Mission Valley in San Diego, California. The Resort fea- keynote speakers. tures several restaurants ranging from casual to formal, the Bella Tosca Day Spa, As a tease, Alex and Annellen Salon & Fitness Center, and over 85 beautiful and challenging golf courses near Simpkins have provided a taste of the the property. Special discounts are available for hotel guests at the golf course conference in their extended review next to the hotel. A few steps away from the Resort is the Fashion Valley Mall of the interactive CD-ROM of the and the Trolley Station taking you to many sites including the Gaslamp Quarter. conference. Marilia Baker provides Family fun includes a trip to Legoland, SeaWorld, and the world-renowned San Diego Zoo. Ticket discounts for many of the San Diego attractions are available an exceptional interview of Esther Johnson’s Hold Me Tight: Seven at the hotel concierge. Relax and unwind by practicing yoga and tai chi on the Perel after her standing-room only Conversations for a Lifetime of Love many beautiful beaches and parks in the area, or visit some of the historical sites presentation of her workshop, is reviewed by Alex and Annellen including Old Town San Diego, the famous Bazaar Del Mundo or one of the “Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Simpkins. They elegantly present this many missions in the region. Erotic Intelligence.” adaptation of Emotionally Focused The conference was so diverse Couple Therapy to a popular audi- With all the added attractions in San Diego, the Brief Therapy and stimulating, we decided to dedi- ence. To complete our book reviews, Conference offers the opportunity to make plans for the whole family! cate this issue to the many perspec- Christine Guilloux respectfully and tives that span the range of what it energetically presents François means to be an Ericksonian therapist. Roustang’s What is Hypnosis?” This To that end, I am delighted to wel- is a foundational book by a master come Eric Greenleaf, our new Case who, in France “…stands beside Leon Reports Guest Editor. In a unique pre- Chertok and Milton H. Erickson…” sentation of the Case Reports column, Our CDs and DVDs cover the Greenleaf introduces an excerpt from classic and the new. Otto Kernberg Judith Gold’s memoir, My House on truly belongs in the Pioneers of Stilts. series. His On the international scene, Supervision of Psychodynamic Roxanna Erickson Klein introduces Psychotherapy is a brilliant example us to The Milton H. Erickson Institute of his timelessness, as presented by of Florianoplois, Brazil. Our Deborah Beckman. Will Handy Contributor of Note is one of its reviews Jay Haley and Madeleine founding members, Sofia Bauer. Richeport-Haley’s Dance and Trance In an our Facets and Reflections of Balinese Children. This is a classic column, Rubin Battino includes an that takes Madeleine Richeport- intimate glimpse of what motivated Haley’s original film and intersperses him to write, That’s Right, Is It Not?, clips from Gregory a biography of Erickson in play form. Bateson–Margaret Mead films with His insights accompany the review of audio comments from Milton the play. Erickson. It is an amazing work. Our book reviews also resonate Maria Escalante does her usual excel- Therapy Conference that will be held with the multilevel theme of this lent job in presenting Michael in San Diego this December. (See issue. John Lentz introduces young Yapko’s demonstration DVD of inside this issue for more informa- The Foundation therapists to Gerald Weeks, Mark Hypnosis as a Context for Self- tion.) It has always been an exciting Odell and Susanne Methven’s collab- Discovery. As a change of pace, we Web Site conference from which I continue to oration of their book If I Had Only present Albina Tamalonis’s amalgam learn. is Online! Known…: Avoiding Common of hypnotic influences of Erickson, Mistakes in . For the Zeig, Yapko, Banya and the Buddhist more seasoned therapist, Susan monk Thich Nhat Han in a pair of Rick Landis www.erickson-foundation.org Dowell excellently encapsulates workout CDs Cardio in the Zone and Orange, California Carolyn Daitch’s book, Affect- Walking in the Zone. Regulation Toolbox: Practical and In our next issue, we will be giv- Subscribe to the Erickson Listserv: Effective Hypnotic Interventions for ing you a taste of the powerful the Over-reactive Client. 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4 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter CASE REPORT You have to say what you need to say. You have to keep living while you’re living. “You don’t get to settle here, do From Judith you?” Gold’s memoir, “No, so I have to be ready for the and scared too, but that you intend to result, then decided not to send them. worst. And I have no idea how to do survive this, that you love them, and I dismissed these people from my My House on Stilts that.” then you have to yell at them to pick mind. I told some other friends why I up their laundry. You have to cele- loved them, and told my ex-husband This is what he said: “No one brate what needs celebrating. You that I wasn’t sorry I'd married him. I “What does this mean?” I asked knows what will happen. And so you have to keep doing whatever art it is told my boyfriend, whatever happens, the oncologist, a kind man with terri- have to prepare for life. And you you do. You have to prune the unnec- happens. I calculated when I would ble burdens. “I’m hoping - hoping - have to prepare for death: for two years for you,” was what he essary things and people, the dead- and wouldn’t be prostrated from To prepare for death, you have to said. wood, so you can grow. You have to chemo, and started planning a party to get your affairs in order. You have to Then, the appointment with Eric say what you need to say. You have celebrate Nora’s tenth birthday. The complete projects. You have to make to keep living while you’re living.” one thing I didn’t know how to pre- Greenleaf : memories for your children, and the During the next few weeks, before pare for at all was saying goodbye to “I hope to survive this, I plan on others you love. You have to keep the chemo started to hit me too hard, my daughters. fighting it until someone tells me being their mom. You have to tell I dug out my living will and advance Every so often during this period there’s no more point. But I know the them you know they’re sad and mad directive and told my sister where to of filing, organizing, planning, and statistics. I don’t even want to repeat and scared, that you’re sad and mad find them. I finished a quilt I’d start- discarding I’d think, wait. Was this what my doctor said. It can’t be right, and scared, too, but that you intend to ed years earlier from the remnants of on the “prepare for life” list, or the it’s unacceptable, I’m trying to get it survive this, that you love them, and dresses and Halloween costumes I’d “prepare for death” one? Sometimes to quit crashing around in my head. then you have to yell at them to pick made for my children. I spent sever- I got very agitated because I couldn’t Tears, again. Damn, damn, damn. up their laundry. My littler daughter is only nine.” al evenings going through my old remember, thus couldn’t explain my You have to celebrate what needs writings, letters and photographs, and compulsion to do these things. It was “So everyone keeps telling celebrating. You have to keep doing put them into folders and scrapbooks. weeks or months before I realized the me, ‘think positive.’ As if they know whatever art it is you do. You have to I arranged to have my bills paid elec- lists were the same. what this is like. They say it will cure prune the unnecessary things and tronically so that nothing would get me. Supposedly, I’m doing this Judy was diagnosed in 2002. She people, the deadwood, so you can disconnected or foreclosed. I phoned wrong. But damnit, it’s not my fault has returned to work. Her younger grow. You have to say what you need around to set up carpools for my that I have this, and it’s not going to daughter is in High School. to say. You have to keep living while daughters... be my fault if I die from it. The way you’re living. I wrote terrible letters to several Contributed by everyone thinks I’m supposed to do To prepare for life, you have to friends who’d ignored me in the Eric Greenleaf, Ph.D. this, it’s not my way. I’m a pessimist. get your affairs in order. You have to weeks since I got the first biopsy Case Reports Editor I’m a lawyer, a litigator. You get complete projects. You have to make your case ready, work it up as well as memories for your children, and the you can. You can’t lose sight of the others you love. You have to keep worst case scenario - or the best case, being their mom. You have to tell either. You have to settle if your case them you know they’re sad and mad is shit.” The Milton H. Erickson Foundation and scared, that you’re sad and mad NEWSLETTER

Executive Editor: Richard Landis, Ph.D. Managing Editor: Sharon McLaughlin, M.A. Review Editors: C. Alexander Simpkins, Ph.D., Annellen Simpkins, Ph.D. Institutes: Marilia Baker, M.S.W., Cecelia Fabre, M.A. Guest Editors: Betty Alice Erickson, M.S., LPC, LMFT Production Editor: Karen Haviley Contributor of Note: Roxanna Erickson Klein, R.N., Ph.D. In the Spirit of Therapy Editor: John Lentz, D.Min. Guest Reviewers: Deborah Beckman, M.S., LPC, Maria Escalante Cortina, Christine Guilloux, D.E.S.S., Will Handy, LMSW-ACP

–Board of Directors– The Milton H. Erickson Foundation, Inc. Jeffrey K. Zeig, Ph.D. 3606 North 24th Street Roxanna Erickson Klein, R.N., Ph.D. Phoenix, Arizona 85016-6500 J. Charles Theisen, M.A., M.B.A., J.D. U.S.A. Camillo Loriedo, M.D. Telephone: (602) 956-6196 Bernhard Trenkle, Dipl.Psych. FAX: (602) 956-0519 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VOL. 28, NO. 2 5 INTRODUCING THE INSTITUTES

Marcia Alencar, Lic Psy, the The Milton H. Erickson Institute Of executive director organizes the Florianopolis, Brazil teaching seminars. She also appears on television and in public lectures to By Roxanna Erickson Klein RN, PhD further the understanding of hypno- sis. It is her clinical work as a fami- ly therapist, and student supervisor that constitute the day-to-day activi- ties of the Institute. Last year Alencar worked with a master’s degree student from the Federal Marcia Alencar, Lic Psy University doing research on the and Sofia Bauer MD effects of hypnosis on pain manage- ment in fibromyalgia. It is hoped that this initiative will inspire additional research investigation. Alencar now teaches a specialization group through the University of Lisbon, Portugal. She is now working on a Portuguese handbook of Ericksonian Therapy as well as dreaming about future volumes related to Ericksonian . A major meeting that was orchestrated by the Institute was the Third Meeting of the Latin American of Milton H. Erickson Institutes and Centers held in Florianopolis in May of 2002. This important congress brought together for learning and fellowship attendees from 26 Erickson Institutes. This meeting reflects the cooperative spirit of this institute and the magnitude of the work that they have done. Exploration of the effects of hypnosis on psychotherapy continues to be a dri- The idea of starting an institute began in 1995. Márcia Alencar, a clinical psy- ving interest of the Institute. Now approaching their tenth anniversary of the chologist, came upon the Brazilian translation of Experiencing Erickson by Institute Milton H. Erickson of Florianopolis, there are a great many successes to Jeffrey Zeig while at the airport in Florianopolis. Becoming interested in the reflect upon, and an energetic start on future endeavors. What distinguishes this ideas, she decided to attend an upcoming workshop taught by Zeig. Institute is their enthusiastic cooperative efforts coupled with a deep commit- Coincidentally, after the workshop, she ran into Zeig at the São Paulo airport, as ment to bring a higher level of understanding to professionals and to the public he headed to Florianopolis for vacation. Then Zeig invited her to attend the about the value of hypnosis. Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference in Las Vegas, held in December of 1995. ANNOUNCEMENT: At the Evolution conference, Alencar was fascinated by the ambiance of so many great masters teaching and learning from one another. She began to feel Ernest and Kathryn Rossi have created a brand new website: connected with the Ericksonian ¨family¨ and made many significant acquain- www.ernestrossi.com. On it you will find information (some of it in tances. Among them were Marilia Baker MSW, and Sofia Bauer MD who four years later joined her in establishing the institute in Florianopolis. She also met progress) about Ernie, Kathryn, The Milton H. Erickson Institute of Ricardo Feix MD who was working with hypnosis in Porto Alegre, in the State the California Coast, the Creative Retreat for the Mind and a FREE of Rio Grande do Sul, Brazil. PDF book, an outstanding work by Kathryn and Ernest Rossi. By 1997, Alencar had partnered with Feix and Dr. Victorio Velloso MD, to They still have many more key papers to post. Check back establish the Instituto Milton H. Erickson Brazil Sul with activities in both Porto frequently to see what has been added! Alegre, the State of Rio Grande do Sul, and also in Florianopolis in the State of Santa Catarina. As interest grew, Alencar aspired to establish an independent institute in Florianopolis. She teamed up with Sofia Bauer who at that time was a member of the board of directors of the Institute Milton H. Erickson of Belo Horizonte, in the State of Minas Gerais. Bauer had done a great deal of teaching in Florianopolis. Alencar and Bauer joined with Marilia Baker, a Brazilian psy- chotherapist living in Phoenix, Arizona. The three rightly felt that establishment the Institute in Florianopolis would expand the knowledge and appreciation for Dr. Erickson’s work to the region, and would provide great resources for other professionals. The Institute is comprised of a private practice as well as a teaching compo- nent. Visiting masters of Ericksonian work including Zeig, Gilligan and Teresa Robles have enhanced the Institute´s program. Sofia Bauer MD has taught for many years, and is the scientific director of the Institute. Marilia Baker, MSW has helped substantially with international interest. Baker is an invaluable con- tributor with her broad knowledge of international perspectives, and she facili- tates contact with other professionals around the world. PAID ADVERTISEMENT 6 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter CONTRIBUTOR OF NOTE Sofia Bauer, MD She has discovered that there are many different

Interviewed by Christel Collins, LCSW ways to do hypnosis with patients, letting Katy, TX the solutions follow from their symptoms. Sofia Bauer, MD is enthusiastic in her endeavors to disseminate the vides students and colleagues. step” for each patient. She says that teachings of Milton Erickson in her In addition to her private practice she “loves to ‘talk’ with Milton H native Brazil. Although trained in and teaching Bauer is an accom- Erickson," asking help sometimes , she is a staunch sup- plished author. She has written three when no more ideas come to mind!” porter of Ericksonian strategies, books on Ericksonian approaches. At that moment, she will believe that which she employs in her practice, The first book, Hipnoterapia she can find the answer “...and think teaching, and writing. Ericksoniano Passo a Passo,isa ...what can I do for you ...I remember Bauer first became aware of handbook, teaching the fundamental the story about Erickson taking back Erickson when Malomar Lund Ericksonian approaches widely used the horse to the right farm , just Edelweis introduced her to the throughout Brazil. Her second and putting it on the way and keeping it Collected Works of Milton Erickson third books, deal respectively with on it ... I try the same... People here in in 1987. A practicing psychoanalyst hypnosis and panic disorder, and how my city say that I am so different at that time, she says “I fell in love to utilize with patients from the others psychiatrists ...I think with Erickson’s kind of work.” Bauer diagnosed with psychiatric disorders. I am, because I try to tailoring what is admits to feeling surprise when she the “best way to work,” which differ- Additionally, she has published arti- needed for each one….I think I am began using a tailoring strategy with entiates her from her colleagues in cles by Lisbon University for hyp- trying to ‘disseminate’ the spirit of her clients which resulted in Brazil. She believes that combining notherapy students. To augment her Erickson here in Brazil. I think I am increased success. Her practice began the two approaches increases the practice Bauer has made hypnosis doing my job! All around my country, to grow due to client referrals. number of patients that can be served. CDs which she gives to her patients to wherever I go, I am speaking about Realizing that she needed more train- Bauer specializes in patients with use at home. For more information, his magnificent work with people, ing, Bauer came to the Erickson depression and anxiety and is espe- visit the website sofiabauer.com.br and trying to tell a little bit about his Foundation in 1992 and trained with cially excited by the success she Dr. Bauer describes herself as an wisdom!” Jeff Zeig. She credits Dr. Zeig with achieves when tailoring each therapy Ericksonian, doing therapy “step by being her first mentor in these tech- to the unique needs of the patient. niques. For the next two years Bauer She has discovered that there are lived in, and received training in, the many different ways to do hypnosis United States. She indicates that with patients, letting the solutions fol- Stephen Gilligan constantly encour- low from their symptoms. “Milton H. aged her growth and development. In Erickson did the same, he was curious addition to her two mentors, Drs Zeig to know how people came to be as and Gilligan, she studied with they are, and then made their way Stephen Lankton, Carol Lankton, back. I am doing the same in my pro- Ernest Rossi, Michael Yapko, and fession.” Francine Shapiro (to learn EMDR Fridays are devoted to training and combine with hypnosis). Upon groups in Ericksonian approaches. returning to Brazil, Bauer, Angela She teaches alternatively, basic and Cota and Jose Augusto Mendonca advanced levels. Classes are held in established the Milton H. Erickson the morning, and the afternoon is ded- Institute of Belo Horizonte. Bauer has icated to a supervision group where since established the Hypnotherapy they can watch her working with Center where she divides her time patients. She includes students in between seeing clients in her private some of her cases to advance their practice, supervising students, and learning. Additionally, every 15 days writing. She works with six other psy- she provides supervision to col- chotherapists and sees ten to twelve leagues. Bauer conducts workshops clients a day Monday through throughout Brazil . An important con- Thursday, combining pharmacology cept to Bauer is the idea of passing on with psychotherapy and hypnosis. the gifts given her by others. “I She says this combination is an received from Jeffrey and Steve so “amazing and wonderful experience.” much in workshops. Steve once told Bauer utilizes , visualiza- me that Erickson told him when he tions, and hypnosis to explain how tried to pay Erickson, ‘Pass it on!’ I medications interact in the body. She try to do the same.” Bauer passes on believes the combination of tradition- her knowledge and skills through the al psychiatry and psychotherapy is supervision and training that she pro- The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VOL. 28, NO. 2 7 8 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. 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When I neared the end of the logues that dramatize events in the of hypnosis by respected authorities Erickson’s canoe trip and a number of fourth volume of Erickson’s collected personal and professional life of in the field of psychotherapy. family stories. Section Five offers works I slowed down my reading Milton H. Erickson, MD so that we Section Three covers some of the interviews with some family and sig- since I wanted to prolong my contract can gain from Erickson’s timeless classic cases that Erickson often used nificant students. with him, if only via his writings. I wisdom. for teaching strategies. He helped a There are many facets to every got interested in him and his work A play takes place in the mind of patient who suffered with phantom scene, too numerous to describe, but several years after he died so I never the audience as they interact with the limb pain indirectly with a story suffice to say that they are fascinating had the opportunity to meet him. I characters in scenes. Battino skillful- about coping with ringing in the ears. and instructive. This is a complex cre- have been fortunate in developing ly sets up each scene with characters, “Erickson: What patients don’t know, ative work that will give the reader friendships with two of his daugh- inviting the reader to imaginatively what they really don’t know, is they many ideas and experiences. We ters— Betty Alice and Roxanna, and a participate in their questions, can lose that pain, and they don’t highly recommend this book. It is a number of others who knew Erickson answers, and resultant insights. Then, know they can lose that ringing in the unique genre for learning the life and and studied with him. even students several generations ears. You know, all of us grow up work of Milton H. Erickson. So, the closest I could get to removed can share an inside perspec- believing that when you have pain, Erickson, the man, was to write a tive of Erickson and his work, you must pay attention to it. And Reviewed by biography in play form since I am through his interactions at every believing when you have ringing of C. Alexander Simpkins Ph.D. & better at writing plays than prose. As phase of his development. the ears that you must keep on hear- Annellen M. Simpkins Ph.D. in my biography of in The play is in two Parts with 42 ing it.” (p. 135) Section Four recounts San Diego, CA play form, I chose to incorporate as Scenes. Part One is a play about much of Erickson’s words (and those Erickson’s life, producible in about of his correspondents) as I could. In an hour. There are eleven scenes, THE ERICKSON FOUNDATION ONLINE STORE this way I had a deep relationship from early youth through World War The Erickson Foundation has made many products available for online purchase with the man and his work. When I II, in which we see Erickson in varied including books and audio/video recordings from past Conferences. Audio files was researching and writing the play contexts including working for the (MP3) for immediate download also will be available in the coming months. I could hear Erickson speaking -- his Draft Board. Battino wrote the scenes Check back often for new products added to the already expanding list of new voice went with me! It was my with Title Boards that create a time titles available for online purchasing. www.ericksonfoundationstore.com that by giving voice to Erickson and span for the action, and provide an his family and colleagues that the imaginative visual with creative reader also would have his and their force. For example, Scene One: voices with them, too. Setting the Stage, begins with a pic- The assistance of Erickson’s ture of Erickson in a thoughtful mood family, the Foundation, and the and an imaginative monologue from Foundation Press made this work Erickson welcoming us to the play. possible, and I thank them. The events unfold through mono- Rubin Battino logues and dialogues of significant, formative events in Erickson’s per- sonal, family and professional life. That’s Right, Is It Part Two is divided into five sec- tions: Section One: Professional Not? A play about development: Section Two: the life of Milton H. Professional Interactions: Section Three: Some Classic Cases: Section Erickson, MD Four: More Erickson Stories: and Section Five: Modern Memories of By Rubin Battino M.S. Erickson. The Milton H. Erickson Foundation In Section Two, Erickson’s pro- Press fessional contacts and development Phoenix, Arizona www.erickson-foundation.org/press are dramatized in discussions with fascinating notables, such as George 220 pages Estabrooks, JohnWeakland, Stanley 978-1-932248-27-2 Milgram, and Margret Mead. For example, an interesting exchange is Plato showed it was possible to found in Scene Sixteen. Lewis present complex issues through the Wolberg questions Erickson about dialogues of Socrates. His descrip- the safety and use of hypnosis. tions of events and characters express Erickson assures him that hypnosis is timeless concepts and principles. For safe and effective in medicine and thousands of years, readers have psychotherapy when used by trained experienced, analyzed and gained professionals in an appropriate thera- wisdom from Plato’s dialogues. peutic context. This scene dramatizes Rubin Battino, M.S. has created dia- Erickson’s work to gain acceptance MEETING REPORT The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VOL. 28, NO. 2 9 Newton Trust, Lifetime Achievement Award for his contributions to the field of Reflections: Celebrating Five Decades of hypnosis. He awed the participants with a presentation summarizing his main theories about hypnosis and psychotherapy. It was a great way of continuing to Excellence in Clinical Hypnosis celebrate the Erickson legacy! Many other significant scientific sessions were presented during the follow- ASCH 50th Annual Scientific Meeting & Workshops ing days. Marc Schoen spoke about "Inflammation: A New Frontier for By Ana Almeida-Melikian, Ph.D. Hypnosis," inflammation being one of the most current and far-reaching medical theories on health and aging. Schoen described how hypnosis can influence and Institute Milton H. Erickson of Portugal modify inflammation. Olafur Palsson, and Amir Raz presented the "Current The 50th Annual Scientific Trajectories of Hypnosis in Mind-Body Research," describing their perspectives Meeting & Workshops of the on the ideal paths to pursue in mind-body and hypnosis research. Eric Leskowitz American Society of Clinical offered a fascinating reflection on the history of clinical hypnosis, linking it to Hypnosis (ASCH) was held up-to-date research in mind-body medicine (From Mesmer to Energy Medicine: March 7-11, 2008 in Chicago. Historical Reflections). On the last day, Eva Banyai, Consuelo Casula, Joan In this meeting, “Reflections: Murray-Jobsis, and Julie H. Linden shared their perspectives about the role of Celebrating Five Decades of women in the development of hypnosis, and the consequences of the feminist Excellence in Clinical Hyp- movement on the history of ASCH. nosis,” important facets were In addition to all these sessions, there was a Basic and an Intermediate work- dedicated to recognize the fun- shop track (more than 20 hours each) with a diverse faculty too numerous to damental role Milton H. name. There was a diversified advance workshop program that included Erickson, M.D. had in the Ericksonians such as Helen Adrienne, Norma Barreta, Phil Barretta, Deborah emergence and creation of Beckman, Betty Alice Erickson, and Teresa Garcia-Sanchez. There were also ASCH. Erickson was one of valuable scientific symposia with more than 50 presenters. the founders of ASCH: served The next meeting of ASCH will be in Boston, March 6-10, 2009 (for more as president for the first two information see: http://asch.net/annualmeeting.htm). years; and was the founding editor of the American Journal of Clinical Hypnosis (the offi- cial publication of ASCH) ANNOUNCEMENT from 1958 to 1968. In order to give the participants a better ISH MEMBERSHIP Philip Accaria, Ph.D. and Ernest Rossi, Ph.D. insight about Erickson, there were two dedicate plenaries. In The International Society of Hypnosis (ISH) brings professionals together to the first one, "Moments with Milton", Norma Barretta, Stephen Lankton, Ernest improve healthcare through the utilization of hypnotic procedures and interven- Rossi, and Jeffrey Zeig, shared some of their more significant memories about tions in the health sciences. ISH is an international community of clinicians and their personal experiences of working with, and knowing, Erickson. At the sec- researchers who are dedicated to educating both their colleagues and the public ond plenary, "What He Learned Along the Way -- Erickson's Shift from Direct about clinical hypnosis. ISH has moved its offices to The Netherlands, from to Indirect", Betty Alice Erickson, spoke candidly about her father. She empha- Australia, and is busy contacting former members and interested potential new sized an essential dimension of Erickson by saying that people who knew him, members to renew/join ISH. There are many membership benefits: "felt his heart and the art of what he did," which cannot be reduced to techniques. • Belonging to one of the largest professional organizations that promotes To conclude this historic day, Ernest Rossi received the first Bernauer “Fig” therapeutic application and research in Hypnosis worldwide! • Being a member of ISH communicates to the professional community and to the public that you are an expert in the field, having subscribed to the highest clinical and scientific standards applicable to hypnosis on a world- wide scale, according to the strict professional and ethical standards set by the International Society of Hypnosis. • A worldwide collegial relationship with similarly minded professionals interested in furthering the international and professional status of hypnosis. • The Society newsletter that informs about the status and activities of the Constituent Societies as well as new developments in the world of hypnosis. • Subscription to the International Journal of Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis. • An attractive Membership Certificate for displaying in your consulting room or office. • Eligibility to attend the International Congresses on Hypnosis at the mem- ber discounted rate.

Register now to attend the next XVIII International Society of Hypnosis Congress "Hypnosis and Neurosciences: Clinical implications of the new mind-body paradigms" Rome, Italy 24-27 September 2009 PAID ADVERTISEMENT For membership and registration information go to: www.ish-web.org 10 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter UPCOMING TRAINING DATE TITLE / LOCATION / LEADER CONTACTS DATE TITLE / LOCATION / LEADER CONTACTS 2008 10/20-24 Intensive Training in Ericksonian Approaches to Brief Hypnotic Psychotherapy - Intermediate / Phoenix, Ariz. / 9/10-11 Couples Conference / Brussels, Belgium / Invited Presenters 1. Geary, Lankton, Zeig, and Invited Presenters 6. 9/13-16 Ericksonian Therapy / Istanbul, Turkey / Jeffrey K. Zeig, Ph.D. 2. 10/23-26 Intensive Supervision Workshop in Ericksonian Clinical 9/17-22 11th Congress of European Society of Hypnosis (ESH) / Hypnotherapy - Master Class / New York City, NY / Zeig 7. Vienna, Austria / Invited Presenters 3. 11/6-9 Level III: Ericksonian Intensive Training / Dallas, Texas / 10/2 Ericksonian Methods in Couples and Family Therapy— Erickson, Beckman, Handy, and Invited Faculty Kentucky AMFT / Louisville, KY / Zeig 4. (dates subject to change) 8. 10/4-5 Integrating Therapeutic Approaches to Depression and 11/13-16 DGH Annual Conference / Bad Lippspringe, Germany / Anxiety / Montreal, Quebec, Canada / Zeig 5. Invited Presenters 9. 10/13-17 Intensive Training in Ericksonian Approaches to Brief 11/21-23 Integrating Therapeutic Approaches to Depression and Hypnotic Psychotherapy - Fundamental / Phoenix, Ariz. / Anxiety Disorders / Lodz, Poland / Zeig 10. Brent B. Geary, Ph.D., Stephen Lankton, MSW, DAHB, 11/28-30 Ongoing Supervision Training / Mexico City, Mexico / Zeig 11. Zeig, and Invited Presenters 6. 12/11-14 The Brief Therapy Conference: Lasting Solutions / San Diego, Calif. / Invited Faculty (Pre-Conference 12/10 and Post-Conference 12/15) 6. IN MEMORIAM 2009 2/16-20 Intensive Training in Ericksonian Approaches to Brief Harold B. Crasilneck Ph.D. Hypnotic Psychotherapy - Fundamental / Phoenix, Ariz. / Geary, Lankton, Zeig, and Invited Presenters 6. 1921-2008 2/23-27 Intensive Training in Ericksonian Approaches to Brief Hypnotic Psychotherapy - Intermediate / Phoenix, Ariz. / Written by Roxanna Erickson Klein RN, Ph.D. Geary, Lankton, Zeig, and Invited Presenters 6. Harold B. Crasilneck Ph.D., passed away in Dallas, Texas , June 17, 2009. 3/16 - 4/1 Trance Possession and Ritual / Bali, Indonesia / Betty Alice We have lost a tireless advocate for the integration of psychological elements Erickson, LPC, MFT, Eric Greenleaf, Ph.D. 12. into health care delivery, and for the advancement of hypnosis as an effective 5/1 – 5/3 Couples Conference: Love & Intimacy / San Diego, CA / clinical tool. Invited Presenters 6. Crasilneck was a clinician and a practitioner who gained international acclaim for his effective use of hypnosis in the treatment of burns. He was a fac- ulty member faculty at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center, Contact Information: Department of Psychology, Psychiatry and Anesthesiology for half a century 1. Email, [email protected] ; Email, [email protected] where he promoted the integration of hypnosis into the training curriculum for medical students. 2. Email, [email protected] Giving generously of his time and expertise, he encouraged professional 3. European Society of Hypnosis – 11th Congress; Web, cooperation that has left a lasting impact on many fronts. As the first individual www.Vienna.Hypnos.de ; Email, [email protected] to serve as president for both the Society for Educational and Clinical Hypnosis 4. Mike Rankin, Exec.Dir., Kentucky AMFT, P.O. Box 6627, Louisville, KY (SCEH) (1965-67) and the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH) 40206-0627; Email, [email protected] ; Tel, 502-494-2929 (1986-1987), he continued to serve both organizations throughout his life. He received innumerable honors and awards—during an interview that appeared in 5. Tel, 819-842-4148; Email, [email protected] the Milton H. Erickson Newsletter (Vol 15 No 1) he stated that he had received 6. The Milton H. Erickson Foundation, Inc., 3606 N. 24th Street, Phoenix, AZ “every professional award for which he was eligible.” The awards included the 85016 6500 ; Tel, 602/956-6196; Fax, 602/956-0519; E-mail, Best Book award from both the ASCH and the SCEH for the classic volume co- [email protected] ; Web, www.erickson-foundation.org authored with James Hall Clinical Hypnosis: Principles and Applications (first 7. Helen Adrienne; E-mail, [email protected] ; Tel, 212/758-0125 printing 1977, Allyn Bacon Publishers). Additionally, he published numerous chapters in textbooks and more than 50 professional papers, many of which were 8. Milton H. Erickson Institute of Dallas, 4144 N Central Suite 520, Dallas edited by his wife of 27 years, Shirley Knopf Crasilneck. TX, 75204 [email protected] ; Tel, 214-824-2009 Crasilneck’s highly approachable manner and ever present sense of humor 9. Email, [email protected] welcomed students and colleagues to turn to him for advice, guidance and a sea- 10. Web, www.p-i-e.pl soned opinion. Known for his directive style of induction, he never tired of intro- ducing young professionals to the value of hypnosis and its far-reaching 11. Juan Francisco Ramirez Martinez / Email: [email protected] potential. He worked long hours not retiring until well into his 80´s, and even 12. Milton H. Erickson Institute of the Bay Area Email : then he continued his support and mentorship. He paved the way for profes- [email protected] ; Web: www.miltonherickson.com sionals of today, and that work continues to grow. Crasilneck’s six decades To submit a listing for Upcoming Trainings, please send dates, title of workshop, venue, of contribution left a noble legacy that will not be forgotten. city/state/country, list of presenters, and complete contact information ONLY. A memorial fund in Crasilneck’s honor has been established at UT Information must be sent in the format above. A $10 fee, per listing, is required. Deadline Southwestern, PO Box 910888, Dallas Texas 75391. for the 2008 Fall/Winter Issue (mailed December) is October 1, 2008. All workshop sub- missions are subject to approval by the Erickson Foundation. For more information, please contact the Erickson Foundation at 602/956-6196; [email protected] The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VOL. 28, NO. 2 11 CONFERENCE NOTES The 11th Congress of the European Society of Hypnosis (ESH) in Psychotherapy and Psychosomatic Medicine, Hypnosis & Hypnotherapy: Trauma and Pain, will be held September 17-21, 2008, at the Lecture Hall Centre in Vienna, Austria, with a special Pre-Congress on EMDR, September 16, 2008. For further infor- mation and to register Online visit the Congress web site: www.vienna.hypnos.de ; Tel, +43 1 405 138 316; Fax, +43 1 407 82 74. The ESH homepage is www.esh- hypnosis.org

The AATQ (Association des art-thérapeutes du Québec), CATA (Canadian Association) and Concordia University (Dr. Josée Leclerc) announce the international conference entitled, Art as Witness: Art, Art Therapy and Trauma Resolution, September 18-20, 2008, in Montreal, Québec, Canada. A diversified pro- gram including papers, film presentations and workshops, experts from fields of trauma intervention will present their most recent research, current innovative clini- cal approaches, as well as artistic work. The conference will offer a chance to exchange knowledge about effectiveness of the creative arts in trauma intervention in an atmosphere conducive to discussion and debate. For complete information and to register please visit: Web, http://joseeleclerc.concordia.ca/artaswitness.

The Society of Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis (SCEH) will hold its 59th Annual Workshop and Scientific Program Conference, October 22-26, 2008, at the Sheraton Park Ridge Hotel and Conference Center in King of Prussia, Penn. The Conference includes a Workshop and Scientific Program, Panels, an Early Career Initiative Breakfast and Lunch sessions, a Presidential Banquet and Awards Ceremony and Clinical Symposium, and a Keynote Address by Donald L. Nathanson, M.D. For complete information or to register contact: The Society for Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis (SCEH), Massachusetts School of Professional Psychology, 221 Rivermoor St., Boston, MA 02132; Tel, 617-469-1981; (Toll-free) 888-664-6777; Fax, 617-469-1889; Email, [email protected] ; Web, www.SCEH.us

The Centro Mexicano de Programación Neurolingüística (CMPNL) is celebrating their 20th anniversary at the upcoming Seventh International NLP Conference, October 10-18, 2008, at Hotel Fiesta Americana, Guadalajara, Jalisco, Mexico. The Conference includes workshops, lectures, NLP discussion tables, Hypnotherapy and Coaching under the spirit of sharing and reflection upon the advances of these disciplines. For complete information contact CMPNL, Av. Hidalgo No. 1681, Ladrón de Guevara, C.P. 44600, Guadalara, Jal.; tel, +5233-3615-8447; Email, [email protected]; web, www.cmpnl.edu.mx CONFERENCE NOTES continued on page 12

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CONFERENCE NOTES continued from page 11 The Brief Therapy Conference: Lasting Solutions will be held December 11-14, 2008, at the Town and Country Resort and Convention Center, San Diego, California. The Conference is sponsored by The Milton H. Erickson Foundation, Inc., and Co-sponsored by University of San Diego, Counseling Program, School of Leadership and Education Sciences. The Conference offers a Pre-Conference Law and Ethics Workshop on Wednesday, December 10, and a Post-Conference Brief Therapy Master Class Training on Monday, December 15. The Conference consists of workshops, interactive events, short courses, Fundamental Hypnosis Workshops, and keynote addresses. Presenters at the 2008 meeting include: Andreas, Beck, Carlson, Dilts, Gilligan, Goulding, Hardy, Hayes, Karpman, Kaslow, Kottler, Lankton, Levine, Miller, Naranjo, Norcross, O’Hanlon, Padesky, Plster, Prochaska, Rossi, Selekman, Spring, Weiner-Davis, Wilson, Yapko, and Zeig. Keynotes will be given by Borysenko, Burns, Cummings, Houston, and Terr. Visit the Conference web site to view the full program, list of presenters and presentations, download the complete brochure, make your hotel reservations, and register Online! www.BriefTherapyConference.com To receive the brochure by mail contact The Milton H. Erickson Foundation, Inc., 3606 N. 24th Street, Phoenix, AZ 85016-6500; Tel, 602-956-6196; Fax, 602- 956-0519; Email, [email protected]

Satir’s Legacy: 20 Years Later and Beyond, a two-week intensive training sponsored by The Global Network (formerly Avanta) and Science and Behavior Books, will be held February 6-20, 2009, at The on Gabriola Island, B.C., Canada. All proceeds to benefit The Virginia Satir Global Network, Inc. The training is offered by three internationally acclaimed trainers and authors who trained extensively with Virginia Satir: John Banmen, Maria Gomori, and Jean McLendon. Space is limited to 90 participants. For complete information contact [email protected] or visit their Web Site: http://haven.ca/db/a.courseDetail/id.221 . Online registration also is available. Early registration discounts are offered until September 30, 2008.

Love & Intimacy: The Couples Conference, sponsored by The Milton H. Erickson Foundation, Inc., with organizational assistance provided by The Couples Institute (Menlo Park, CA), will be held May 1-3, 2009, at the Town & Country Resort and Conference Center, San Diego, California. A Law and Ethics Pre- Conference with Steven Frankel will be offered. Faculty include Bader, Dattilio, Gottman, Love, Madanes, Perel, Real, Solomon, Abrahms Spring, and Zeig. The complete brochure, including online registration, will be available in coming weeks on the Conference web site: www.CouplesConference.com. To add your name to a list to receive the brochure when it is available contact The Milton H. Erickson Foundation, Inc., 3606 N. 24th Street, Phoenix, AZ 85016-6500; Tel, 602-956-6196; Fax, 602-956-0519; Email, [email protected]

The International Society of Hypnosis (ISH) will hold the XVIII International Congress, Hypnosis and Neuroscience: Clinical implications of the new mind- body paradigms, September 22-27, 2009, in Rome, Italy. Pre-Congress workshops (September 22-23) includes practical work with the Congress faculty; the Scientific Program (September 24-27) includes Keynotes, Invited Lectures-Addresses-Seminars, Symposia, Dialogues, Panels and Papers. The Congress is sponsored by Societa’ Italiana di Ipnosi and Societa’ Italiana Milton Erickson. For complete information contact Società Italiana di Ipnosi Via Tagliamento 25 - 00198 Roma, Italy; Tel and Fax, +39.06.8548205; E-Mail, [email protected] ; Web, www.hypnosis.it Call for Papers: To present a Paper in the Scientific Program please submit a 20-lines abstract together with your completed Registration Form by December 15, 2008. CD REVIEW The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VOL. 28, NO. 2 13 The conference was organized Couples into five keynote addresses, three Conference: interactive dialogues, and 15 work- shops. Also included was an informa- Attachment tive a pre-conference Law and Ethics workshop given by the experienced Differentiation, and presenter, Steven Frankel, who Neuroscience helped to clarify legal issues in an entertaining and helpful manner. See www.couplesconference.com Listeners will find all of the programs for ordering information on the CD ROM except for both of The Couples Conference, Helen Fisher’s programs and one of Attachment, Differentiation, and Bader’s workshops that were with- Neuroscience in Couples Therapy, held for copyright reasons. took place in San Jose, California Keynote Addresses from April 24-27, 2008. Three major Each keynote introduced an conceptual schemes of couples thera- approach that was taught in terms of py were taught: Attachment Theory, both theory and application to cou- Differentiation Theory, and ples work, leading listeners into Neurobiology. understanding the conceptual base of PAID ADVERTISEMENT The Faculty included ten well- the presenters. linked the process to couples therapy relationship to others. Mindfulness known professionals who well-repre- Dan Siegel’s opening keynote through interpersonal neurobiology. helps make it possible to avoid or sented the three themes. These address set an integrative and inclu- He explained that mind is not just minimize problems. With this orien- masterful teachers lectured and guid- sive atmosphere for the entire confer- embodied; mind is relational, a verb tation in mind, therapists can include ed those present to assimilate the the- ence. His style of presentation is not a noun, regulating energy, extend- neurobiology into their couples work. ories, so that the participants could friendly and intelligently interactive, ing through the body’s organs, link- Bessel van der Kolk, renowned not only learn the basics, but could engaging the audience and the listen- ing with the prefrontal cortex through expert on working with the effects of and also deepen their understandings. er.. on mindfulness, he emotions in the amygdale, always in See COUPLES on page 14

PAID ADVERTISEMENT 14 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter NEWS & NOTES In the May 2008 edition of Psychotherapy in Australia (Vol.14, no.3, COUPLES continued from page 13 PsychOz Publications), Jeffrey K. Zeig, director of The Milton H. Erickson trauma, gave the second keynote on up” process that gives the therapist a Foundation, lists the books that have most influenced his approach to his psy- post-traumatic stress. He described map to interpret the relationship. chotherapy practice and personal life in the special section entitled Best Books. how the brain is changed by a trau- Attachment organization gets into the A few of the books include Uncommon Therapy, The Seven Principles for matic stress experience so that the nervous system. It affects whether or Making Marriage Work (Gottman), and The Collected Papers of Milton H. person becomes trapped in a stable not people move toward or away Erickson. state of discomfort, unable to respond from each other, and posits that these Also included in this issue, Dr. Zeig contributes two articles: Positive spontaneously to life circumstances, movements are predictable. Once this Addictions: Choosing your habits wisely (p.66-70), offering thirty-one ways to and unable to regulate the natural movement is understood, the couple use addiction rather than letting it use you (see www.positiveaddictions.com); inner state of arousal when respond- can do reparative work for and with and Depression: A phenomenological approach to assessment and treatment ing. This leads to chronic dysfunction each other. Mindfulness helps (p.28-35), an appeal to clinicians to add new ‘maps’ to their practice that can lead and maladaptive behavior. He intro- because it teaches couples to self-reg- to quick, effective treatment. duced the methods that he developed ulate and calm down. Attachment the- For subscription information or to purchase the current and past issues con- to overcome this traumatic condition ory offers experiential methods that tact PsychOz Publications, P.O. Box 124, Kew VIC 3101, Australia; Tel, 03 more fully in his two subsequent bypass hostilities and form a secure, 9855 2220; Fax, 03 9855 2225; Email, [email protected]; Web, workshops. loving bond. www.psychotherapy.com.au Otto Kernberg, well-known psy- The second dialogue, between choanalytically oriented professor Bader and Perel, was about differenti- and supervisor, drew from his vast ation. Differentiation has been misun- reservoir of experience. In the third derstood, often being confused with ing, “It’s not just the brain, but what’s ships by Bessel van der Kolk individuation and separation. Perel keynote address, Kernberg described in your heart.” In his workshops, van der Kolk defined differentiation as “the ability analytic attachment theory, from its Review of a Selection from the taught the general principles of trau- for two separate individuals to be in roots in classical analytic concepts to Workshops matic stress and offered guidelines the expression in the personality of the same space without needing to Workshop 1: Assessment of for a holistic treatment approach. He the patient. His conceptual scheme forgo larger parts of themselvesthem Couples by Otto Kernberg spoke with sympathy and serious for the sake of togetherness.” offered a map for therapy that concern for the suffering of his trau- Differentiation therapy helps couples Kernberg’s workshops showed addresses the psychodynamics of the matized patients. Van der Kolk learn how they are responsible for how he carefully conceptualizes his couple. He emphasized the need for explained the importance of rhythm bringing out the very behavior in the patients within a psychoanalytic assessing the personality and patholo- in life, beginning with rhythmical other that they don’t want. We have framework. The listener gets the gy of the partners, and treating sounds from the mother in the earliest many uncivilized emotions roaming opportunity to learn from a truly pathology when necessary to free stages of development. Then he within. By admitting to having such experienced master who readily individuals for shared intimacy with described the therapeutic use of each other. feelings, healing begins. shares his insights. Kernberg is care- ful to evaluate his couples, seeing rhythm, dance and community-ori- Sue Johnson, co-founder of The third dialogue was a discus- them together as well as separately ented interpersonal processes by Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), sion of key concepts from neuro- for six weeks in order to put together Bishop Tuttu to relieve the effects of spoke about attachment theory in the science that can influence the a complete diagnosis. He offered stress and trauma. He gave a general fourth keynote address. She empha- practitioner’s work with couples. some of his own personal methods for outline of how to use rhythm to help sized the high success rate of the Peter Pearson, Lou Cozolino, and improving the process of assessment the patient to end the effects of trau- approach and explained the rationale Tatkin encouraged the audience to be that will then lead to ways to enhance matic experience and heal. for emotional focus in couples work, patient about understanding the brain. therapy. For example, he described Mindfulness, breathing awareness, based on the concepts of John Neuroscience can give couples a how he asks each partner in a couple and mutual disclosure are part of the Bowlby about the instinctual, innate rationale for what is happening with- to describe the other person and techniques that he uses with patients, need for love. Like a compass, the out pathologizing them. When cou- themselves to give him clues as to interspersed with rhythmical move- drive for a fulfilling attachment can ples hurt each other, certain brain whether there was a distorted or real- ment and bodywork. Re-association guide clients to find their way to a areas trigger pain responses, much istic, felt experience of the other. The of the dissociated responses becomes healthy satisfying relationship. like being physically struck. Couples workshop was illustrated with special possible from these therapeutic inter- Suppression of emotion leads to want relief from the pain, but they cases such as chronic triangulation actions. Then affect can be regulated unhealthy physiological hyper- proceed ineffectively. The pain path- and severe sexual problems. and normalized after the trauma arousal and emotional disconnection. way through the limbic system hap- Therapists should have an image of patient reconnects, to reintegrate and The fundamental task for the therapist pens fast. When therapists what a normal couple will be, and heal from the effects of trauma. Van is to help the couple develop a secure understand, for example, that touch recognize that living as a couple can der Kolk often encouraged the patient attachment relationship. In this situa- can counteract pain responses, they be a worthwhile source of enormous to imaginatively revisit the trauma tion, the intimate love they develop can guide couples in how to regulate happiness. With tips, detailed case and then, through EMDR, let it go. can lead them out of dysfunction and their arousal and respond from the descriptions and careful attention to Workshop 5: A Developmental into mental health and happiness. higher brain regions to self-sooth, the audience’s questions, Kernberg’s Approach to Couples Therapy: An Dialogues regulate, and talk about difficult top- workshops offer a psychoanalytic introduction to attachment and dif- The three dialogues were ics. perspective on human personality and ferentiation in couples therapy by designed to help integrate attachment, These dialogues inspired as they disorders in couples, a valuable addi- Ellyn Bader differentiation and neuroscience into informed. Couples therapy is still in tion to the conference training reper- Bader’s workshop taught how to practice. The first dialogue with its infancy. Presenters encouraged the toire. think developmentally as a means to Johnson and StanTatkin was about audience to experiment and keep the Workshop 2: The Effects of See COUPLES on next page attachment. Both presenters agreed new neuroscience in perspective. Stress and Trauma on Relation- that attachment theory is a “bottom Bader, the moderator, ended by say- The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VOL. 28, NO. 2 15 COUPLES continued from page 14 help clinicians intervene incisively There is a reconnecting stage for Johnson’s presentations is her tant for the therapist to foster the with couples. Bader presented more intimacy and sexual contact. A warmth, sincerity, and clarity, client’s best adjustment to their indi- her developmental theory with refer- synergy of mutual interdependence is expressed in an organized well vidual sexual needs, so that the cou- ence to early object relationship theo- built as the couple successfully navi- thought-out theory. ple can thrive. Perel believes that rists. Couples go through normal gates though these stages together. Workshop 9: Mating in mystery and distance are intriguing in stages of development that parallel Workshop 3: Attachment as a Captivity: Unlocking Erotic a relationship. She thinks that habitu- early childhood development. By Guide to Couples Therapy by Sue Intelligence by Esther Perel al, warm intimacy eventually engaging in a healthy relationship, Johnson Perel worked with couples from becomes dull and boring, leading to a both partners progress through the Johnson’s workshops taught the the differentiation perspective. Her loss of desire. Reinventing the partner stages, changing and growing. There concepts of attachment theory as a presentations were remarkably flow- in relationship as a hidden unknown may be traumas from the past or from framework for organizing the cou- ing and responsive to the audience. “other” can be an exciting and erotic the present acting on the relationship. ple’s interactions into categories that Her way of understanding is rooted in existential experience, rekindling People can learn to use their natural therapists can use when formulating a broad-based, conceptual framework passion. Perel explained how to use developmental resources. interventions. By looking directly at that is sensitive to the way couples are creative techniques of disclosure and Relationships fail when daily interac- the quality of the couple’ bond the, influenced by individual, cultural, communication for couples to find tion interferes with each partner’s the therapist can determine the rela- racial and gender differences. new interest and excitement in each development. tionship problems. Attachment theory Whatever the ethnicity, religion, other. Then, desire can be reunited The attachment styles partners offers clear principles to help steer national identity, sexual orientation or with love. bring from the family of origin will therapeutic work in productive direc- personality of each partner, she seeks Workshop 11; Breakthroughs determine what type of attachment tions. Johnson’s presentation includ- the optimum balanced recipe relative with High Conflict Couples by they will form. The three attachment ed many clinical vignettes to help to them as a couple. She considers the Peter Pearson possibilities are secure, insecure and recognize attachment issues. Then, background context of each individ- Pearson began with what he has avoidant. Then the relationship goes when working with couples, the ther- ual, then accepts and encourages found to be effective in working with through developmental stages: The apist can notice these aspects and healthy interaction expressed in pas- high distress couples. Pearson mod- initial beginnings, like birth, forming help partners to recognize when and sion from creative eroticism and sex- eled how to disarm even the most the stages of attachment, separation how they turn away from their secure uality in the relationship. Openness See COUPLES on page 17 and individuation, rapprochement. attachment. What shines through in and tolerance of variations is impor- 16 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter eggs for the future. She suggests that the mind is freed by moving and evolves on all levels, physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. She deals with resis- tance such as overeating or missing workouts as well. Toward the end, post-hyp- notic suggestions are offered that good feelings can grow from the feeling of CD REVIEWS accomplishment for a good day, good night, and deep night’s sleep. A surprise treat at the end is the cardio CD is the cheerful laughter of a young baby. We rec- Cardio in the Zone: ommend Walking in the Zone and Cardio in the Zone as helpful tools to give to Positive imaging and music for a focused clients! and enjoyable workout Reviewed by C. Alexander Simpkins, Ph.D. and Annellen M. Simpkins, Ph.D 9:24 minutes introductory material; 31:16 minutes voice with San Diego, CA background music, tempo of 105 beats per minute ISBN: 0-9771008-4-7 and CD REVIEW Walking in the Zone: He answers both questions well by Positive imaging and music for a focused Meaning: The life capturing the essence of Frankl’s of Viktor Frankl classic book with drama and creativi- and enjoyable workout ty. And although Frankl’s own words 9:49 minutes introductory material; 29:00 minutes of voice plus An Illustrated answer the question, Battino also background music, tempo of 80 beats per minute answers the question by allowing the Solo Reading listener to feel understood and have ISBN: 0-9771008-3-9 By Rubin Battino, MS an easy time identifying with the By Albina Tamalonis, Ph.D. characters, even while feeling moved From The Tenth International Congress by the emotions evoked in the play. Original music by Thomas Tamalonis-Olafsson on Ericksonian Approaches to Hypnosis TherapySolutionsForChange.com and Psychotherapy Battino has captured Recorded December 8, 2007 Frankl’s sensitivity and deep wisdom 2007 CD# ch-07 gleaned from the concentration camp Walking in the Zone and Cardio in the Zone are two audio CDs designed to experiences, and powerfully present- help people enjoy exercise with less effort and more pleasure. Albina Tamalonis Those who know Rubin Battino ed it. Moving from one selected scene has created a helpful aid for clients who are working on weight reduction and/or know how his chemistry professor to another, Battino’s performance trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle. She uses a creative combination of mind- identity can display itself no matter enhances the experience through his fulness, hypnosis, and positive visualizations to guide listeners into a healthy and how far he moves into his second use of his own emotions. It is happy routine. She states that her influences are Milton Erickson, Jeffrey Zeig, career as a psychotherapist. His abili- thought-provoking and emotional, Michel Yapko, Eva Banyai, and the Buddhist monk, Thich Nhat Hanh. Clearly ty to be exact and accurate in what he and yet teaches some important life all of these approaches are utilized to harmonize with the carefully constructed does lingers in very useful ways. He lessons about the human spirit, love, suggestions on the CDs. is the author of the teaching standards life, death, and the unknown. It that were adopted for the Erickson evokes a spiritual sense through the These CDs are enhanced by original music created by Tamalonis’ husband, Institutes. They are well written and timeless lessons and the themes Thomas Tamalonis-Olafsson. We always are happy to see a husband and wife set a very high level of expectation addressed. I found it so moving that I team, and these CDs are truly enhanced by the collaboration. for teaching and learning about have spoken about it often, telling Each CD has two parts: an introductory track, and a longer exercise track. In Ericksonian Hypnosis. The guide- people about the wonderful spiritual the introduction, Tamalonis presents an explanation of why regular exercise is lines reflect his organized scientific experience I had at the conference necessary for health. Then she lists the mental health benefits such as reducing mindset, and give unity to the while listening to this reading. depression, decreasing pain, and increasing overall happiness. Next, she offers Institutes around the world. With that Fortunately, Meaning: The Life of persuasive facts such as 95% of those who succeed in weight loss, engage in reg- level of expertise in mind, he outdid Viktor Frankl, an Illustrated Solo ular exercise. Finally, she presents the benefits of the particular type of exercise himself in writing a play about Victor Reading was preserved on a CD, and addressed. Frankl’s life. What is more he read can be purchased like any of the other Tamalonis defines “being in the zone” as an active alert place where people selected readings from the play for workshops at the conference. feel good; when time slows down or speeds up; and movement is effortless. She this CD, and did so with the passion Unfortunately, it is only a CD and not points out the benefits of exercising to music, and the science behind focusing and stage presence of the Renaissance a DVD. In person Rubin’s wife the mind with positive imaging, a technique used to effect changes. Man that he is. accompaned the reading by project- The exercise tracks begin with music and simple mindfulness directions Primarily using Frankl’s own ing pictures on a screen from Frankl’s including turning attention to the body, noticing the posture, and “Feel the beat words from Man’s Search for life as well as from concentration and generate some heat.” Then she directs listeners to her voice and directs atten- Meaning, Battino has rearranged camps. The pictures helped, but were tion inwards. With her voice effectively pacing with the beat, she gives direct and those words to create a play that cap- not indispensable. Having now lis- indirect suggestions that address several levels. The person who finds exercise tures your interest; encourages you to tened to this performance three times, difficult or unpleasant will utilize the suggestions to feel enjoyment in the move- be a better person; and teaches you I still find it gripping, and provoca- ment, and benefit from suggestions for time to pass quickly. She offers support helpful life lessons. Beginning with tive. The second two times were with- and encouragement, and encourages self-supporting attitudes with positive affir- Frankl’s own questions about how out the benefit of the pictures. mations, such as, “Our bodies wanting it, enjoying it, easily, steadily enjoyably Frankl could speak for anyone else restored by the movement.” A dream technique suggests that while moving to the who was in the concentration camps, Reviewed by music listeners will have wonderful of the future, about how they will Battino provides a paradox. How can John D. Lentz, D.Min look and feel following exercise. Indirect therapeutic suggestions are interwoven Battino speak for Frankl even if he is Shepherdsville, KY with metaphorical imagery from nature such as fish swimming upstream laying using many of Frankl’s own words? The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VOL. 28, NO. 2 17 COUPLES continued from page 15 hostile couples with humor and a Reacts to Intimacy by Stan Tatkin friendly manner. High-distress cou- Tatkin has developed an approach ples require active direction from the that integrates attachment theory, therapist. Couples come in angry interpersonal neurobiology, and Using this integrative approach to therapy expecting that the therapist will fix . He cre- problematic couples interactions can be their partner. He explains: “They ates a synthesis that seeks to establish want what they don’t need; they need a stable, mutually dependent and sup- turned into functional mature ones. what they don’t want’ and they don’t portive relationship for the couple. He know the difference.” This mind set has a broad background in study and makes for a challenging system. treatment of personality disorders, Pearson described three important and has integrated his insights with the service of survival and social tions of the main views in this field. variables for therapists: their theory, attachment theory for a new and functioning. The complexity is made This CD ROM extends clinical wis- their technique, and who they are as applicable therapy paradigm. He up from a process of a non-teleologi- dom and broadens the conceptual therapists. This interactive workshop described dysfunctional couples and cal natural selection. Cozolino gave framework of practitioners who work used role-playing with the audience, their maladaptive methods of arousal an overall neurobiological context in with couples, an inevitable part of along with disclosures of how regulation, such as narcissism or which we can locate the strategies professional practice at times. We Pearson works, to show therapists schizoid withdrawal. Then he dis- and techniques that we use in psy- recommend the close study of this ways to address all three of these vari- cussed how to teach couples positive chotherapy. By appealing to the evo- CD ROM for all who want to enhance ables. Through the process, the thera- mutual regulation of the other’s lution of the brain’s organization as a their work with clients in this chal- pist helps couples begin a more arousal state. Using this integrative metaphor, therapists will find a rich lenging and life-enhancing aspect of collaborative process. Success is the approach to therapy problematic cou- context for creating techniques He clinical work.. progressive realization of worthwhile ples interactions can be turned into illustrated this idea with examples. goals such as learning new skills, functional mature ones. Presented with a warm wit, Cozolino Reviewed by improving the quantity and quality of Workshop 15: Evolutionary communicated an innovative C. Alexander Simpkins, Ph.D. affection, and learning to act from the Necessity of Couples Therapy by approach to creating effective thera- Annellen M. Simpkins, Ph.D. higher self. Louis Cozolino peutic techniques by addressing our San Diego, California Workshop 12: The Loving/ Cozolino explained the general evolutionary brain. Warring Brain: How the Brain, anatomy of the brain’s evolutionary The conference was filled with Mind and Body Interacts and development and subsequent use in stimulating concepts and presenta- PAID ADVERTISEMENT 18 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VIDEO REVIEW DVD REVIEW

“Dance and Trance the most profound trance states she Pioneers of Psychotherapy psychosis in the distant past. had ever seen. Kernberg offers that NPD adapts to of Balinese Non-dancers in rituals sometimes Supervision of social trends, and drugs were very Children” fall into spontaneous trance, erupting fashionable in the 1980’s. into weeping, laughter, and uninhibit- Psychodynamic The patient’s stated concern in Jay Haley and Madeleine ed movement. Considered especially therapy is that he is missing some- Richeport-Haley able to be possessed by the gods, chil- Psychotherapy thing from life. Kernberg responds dren are trained in specific trance with, “You are missing something in Triangle Productions, P.O. Box 8094, Otto Kernberg, MD La Jolla, CA 92038 forms used in religious rites. While your life; you are missing the glaring dancing the famous kris dancers dig The Milton H Erickson Foundation, Inc. problems in your life such as, you are 45 min., 1995 the sharp points of daggers into their 60-minute DVD PP-EP95-CP-V3 not working!” When the audience “Dance and Trance in Balinese chests without so much as a scratch, burst into applause, he instructs them It is rare to observe a masterful Children” gives us a taste of Bali’s even when they fall backward onto to not idealize what he’s saying but supervision session. Although millennium-old tradition of express- the ground. Mead remarked that if instead to use their own critical judg- Kernberg has laryngitis, his meaning ing through dance their mix of ani- injury occurs, the Balinese say that ment. He warns not to become part of and direction are not lost. A brief list- mism and Hinduism. Children begin the trance was not genuine. mass psychology. Therapists should ing of characters is needed to keep learning the dances as early as five The film has limitations. form their own theory about what is references clear: Kernberg is in the years old, and dance plays important Sometimes only the torso and face of right or wrong with their patients. role of supervisor, the volunteer ther- parts in many rituals. the dancer are in-frame, leaving the A pervasive theme of self- apist is in the role of consultant, a pri- viewer unable to see the hand and leg destructive behavior is identified The video was filmed by mary patient is under discussion, the movements so crucial to Balinese whereby both the patient and the con- Madeleine Richeport-Haley and the two women in the patient’s life are dance itself. However, there are won- sultant are “sitting on the fence” as a program was written by Richeport- Susan, with whom he lives, and the derful shots of the amazing, exagger- “slow tragedy” unfolds. An active Haley and Jay Haley, who also nar- “weekend woman.” There are chil- ated facial expressions and eye redirection of treatment is outlined. rates. We get to watch bits of dren associated with each of the movements. The fragments of dance The consultant acknowledges a pat- performances in full costume – some women, including the patient’s son are sometimes painfully brief, and I tern of competitiveness with the in concert settings, others in daily-life who was conceived with the weekend longed to see more of their context. patient as they cleverly and look for religious festivals – as well as peek- woman years ago. ing in on teaching sessions and Of course, Balinese dance is a pro- cognitively insight. Kernberg shifts The consultant has requested rehearsals. The Balinese take a found subject, and a 45-minute film the emphasis by stating that he would assistance with possible counter- hands-on approach: the teacher stands can provide only a tantalizing taste. want someone “to treat my personali- issues. Kernberg briefly behind the young student dancer and The Haleys provide an excellent ty instead of helping me adjust to a outlines his approach to supervision, actively manipulates the student’s introduction to Balinese rituals. The sick personality.” In response to this describes how he can be useful, and arms, hands, shoulders, and head. child and adult dancers – many of belief, the consultant is challenged to encourages the consultant to maintain whom are interviewed – demonstrate engage the client in a far more con- The famous Margaret Mead - his privacy. Gregory Bateson films of Balinese a living tradition that stretches back frontational dialogue surrounding the Kernberg moves quickly to a trance dances appear in fragmentary for centuries. The tradition is not sta- patient’s pervasive indifference and working presumption of Narcissistic form. For a moment, we hear Milton tic; it continues to grow. We also see self-destructive behavior. The consul- Personality Disorder (NPD). A dra- H. Erickson commenting on the char- a dance choreographed by two young tant is to make requirements for the matic and potentially useful recon- acteristics of the trances displayed by girls who blend Javanese, Balinese, patient to follow. These requirements ceptualization of therapy is developed these dancers. and Indian dance – with just a touch include finding a job and to begin for this patient, whether or not one paying for private therapy twice a Viewer encounter many forms of of disco thrown in. “Dance and accepts the diagnosis. A fascinating week, instead of continuing to trance in Bali. Sometimes the Trance in Balinese Children” pro- differential offered by Kernberg in “sponge off the system.” Another dancers are in trance as they execute vides a lovely glimpse into a world in considering NPD – how would the requirement is to try to keep the precise and complex choreography; which children, dance, and trance patient describe Susan? An NPD patient’s life as normal as possible sometimes they dance awake. We see play crucial roles. patient would have extreme difficulty while engaging in psychotherapy, in young girls who stand unaided on the describing her in a way that allows Reviewed by order to ameliorate . shoulders of walking men, dancing her to come alive. The relationship Will Handy, MSSW Declaring, “Time can be used for with astonishing balance. Betty Alice with Susan is explored in depth Dallas, Texas destructive purposes as well as con- Erickson witnessed these dancers live through themes of love versus com- and said that they exhibited some of structive ones,” Kernberg provides a fortable, even though the consultant remarkable format for supervision does not know if the patient really complete with rich direction and “loves” Susan. Kernberg observes meaning. JOIN THE FOUNDATION E-MAIL MAILING LIST! that NPDs cannot fall in love. Be the first to receive Conference announcements and registration spe- In addition, the NPD usually has Reviewed by cials; information on audiotape/videotape, and CD/DVD specials from some history of antisocial behavior, Deborah Beckman, MS the Erickson Press; automatically receive the Online version of the and the bigger the history the poorer Dallas, Texas Erickson Newsletter and more. Sign-up on the Foundation’s web site: the prognosis. This patient does not www.erickson-foundation.org. The Erickson Foundation will not sell or have much of an antisocial history other than drug use and a drug-related rent your E-mail address to any person or organization. DVD REVIEW The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VOL. 28, NO. 2 19 Hypnosis as a Context for Self-Discovery BOOK REVIEW Presented during the Tenth International Congress on Ericksonian Hypnosis and Psychotherapy If Only I Had Known…: By Michael Yapko Ph.D. Published by The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Avoiding Common Mistakes December 9, 2007 in Couples Therapy

For information on the DVD see www.ericksonfoundationstore.com Gerald R. Weeks, Ph.D. Mark Odell, Ph.D. Michael Yapko presented a warm and illustrative workshop at the Susanne Methven, M.S. Ericksonian Congress. I have had the opportunity to attend some of Yapko's pre- sentations during several congresses. One of the things I have always liked is the 2005 way he creates an atmosphere that encourages clients to trust him so they can W.W. Norton and Company explore and elicit their own resources. As Yapko states "The therapist is like the New York weather that provides the climate for self-discovery, and helps the client to 258 pages explore and discover resources within herself." He also explains that hypnosis is ISBN 0-393-70445-9 not curative; what makes it valuable is that it stimulates associations and encour- ages focus. Weeks, Odell, and Methven have created a book that points out common mis- takes in couple’s therapy. There are two types of mistakes: philosophi- The DVD is a one-hour live demonstration that begins with an informal but cal/conceptual mistakes and applied mistakes. Philosophical mistakes are based ice-breaking conversation that helps a subject named Mayra to open up and start on ignoring some aspect of reality, such as the difference in power between the talking about a crucial stage of her life involving relocating from New York to therapist and the client. Therapy is not a collaborative exercise of equals. Las Vegas. At the beginning, the subject explains that her goal is "to have more Conceptual or applied mistakes are made when a therapist misunderstands a the- freedom to pursue things that give me pleasure." She refers to a voice that keeps ory, misapplies it or doesn’t use one at all. her from doing them by saying, "I do not want to" and "Why bother." There is also reference to her loneliness and the fact that she feels foreign, living on her Overall, this book is one that every young therapist should read in order to own. Yapko starts to move the client toward a future solution by asking her about avoid problems that inevitably come up in practice. The authors have crisply and her relationships with others: "What would happen that would allow people to evenly addressed common problems that all therapists will see, or have seen. By become your friends?" addressing them in such a non-threatening way, the authors provide the reader with more than examples; they also provide a mindset and a structure that will As a good Ericksonian, Yapko utilizes reframing techniques while he con- allow easy recognition of problems and mistakes. verses about the freedom to make mistakes. He simultaneously protects the client by saying, "What happens here stays here." Learners can observe how the thera- The book addresses such topics as the battle for structure, traps of confiden- pist allows Mayra to find her own resources by telling her, "What matters more tiality, alliances, and coalitions. All of these issues are raised without blaming the is that you develop a good answer to ‘why bother.’” He once more helps her gain clients. The authors view problems as the responsibility of the therapist and they the freedom to find the solution by herself. do not blame clients for offering traps of confidentiality, battling for structure, etc. Other sections demonstrate how hypnosis can be used for helping people to recover previous resources. The DVD also addresses how to introduce new ele- In the chapter “Lapses in Careful Listening,” the authors take the position ments into the system. Yapko does this by encouraging the subject to realize that that it is our responsibility to listen especially to what isn’t said and to anticipate "There is something new that you can discover ... rediscover, over and over this as a part of clinical practice. They address such things as why some couples again.” don’t bring up problems, how problems are revealed, hidden affairs, and addic- tions. They also address the consequences of not paying attention and the impor- I really liked a story Yapko related about a woman who described herself as tace of noticing what isn’t said. lonely. Clearly the aim of this parallel was to help the client find a solution to her own problem. The chapter “Anger and Conflict” should be read by every novice therapist. It addresses many of the common issues that will present themselves in therapy, One of the things I appreciated the most was how Yapko always took care of those that “ therapy school” didn’t address either due to lack of time or oversight. Mayra. He not only paced her, he also made sure that the process was complete The section on managing conflict is well thought out, and offers practical help. by allowing her enough time to accomplish her goal. Dialogues that most therapists have seen, and participated in, at some time Yapko utilized humor and ended the exercise very pleasantly by saying, during their practice, illustrate how certain issues can develop or be resolved. "You can bring this experience to a very comfortable close.” The subject The use of these dialogs makes the material come alive and instantly recogniz- responded by saying: "I feel really good. It was really deep. I was more able. It also brings mistakes home, because few of us haven’t made some of these engaged." mistakes. As I was reviewing the DVD, I realized how much I was enjoying the expe- I suspect the authors subscribe to my favorite definition of an expert: An rience. Hypnosis as a Context for Self-Discovery can help us to create moments expert is someone who has made every possible mistake within a narrow field. for self-discovery: And why not do so in an enjoyable way? I recommend it. These folks are willing to share their collected wisdom from the mistakes they made and offer the solutions they have gleaned over time. If Only I Had Reviewed by Known…Avoiding Common Mistakes in Couples Therapy offers an easier path Maria Escalante de Smith. MA. for those disposed to learn from someone else’s mistakes. Cedar Rapids, IA. Reviewed by John D. Lentz D. Min Subscribe to the Erickson Listserv: Shepherdsville, KY www.topica.com/lists/EricksonList 20 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter BOOK REVIEW BOOK REVIEW Affect-Regulation Toolbox: Practical and Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations Effective Hypnotic Interventions for the for a Lifetime of Love Over-reactive Client By Carolyn Daitch, Ph.D. Sue Johnson, Ph.D. Norton Professional Books, 2008 March 2007, 0-393-70495-5; Little, Brown and Company 320 pages. New York www.anxiety-treatment.com 300 pages ISBN 13: 978-0-316-11300-7 Carolyn Daitch has made an invaluable contribution to the field of psy- chotherapy in general, and to hypnosis in particular, with her new book, Affect- Hold Me Tight is presents the ideas of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy Regulation Toolbox: Practical and Effective Hypnotic Interventions for the (EFT) to a popular audience. The book is organized in three parts: Part One pro- Over-reactive Client. She has amassed the most comprehensive and user-friend- vides the evolution of EFT along with its fundamental principles. EFT, with its ly collection of hypnotic tools for affect regulation available, and she has pre- roots in the attachment theory of John Bowlby, is based on one primary discov- sented them in a well-articulated theoretical framework discussing both the ery: Loving contact is a fundamental need, hardwired into the human being and challenges and psychophysiology of this problem. essential for survival. Love had previously been construed as impossible to “Over-reactivity” is the term Daitch adopted to describe the common affec- define. But Johnson argues that love can, and must, be understood. Scientific tive style seen in clients who experience conflicted interpersonal relationships, research shows that people handle life better and are happier and healthier when anxiety, stress, and an inability to self-soothe. She discusses three identifying they can offer and receive love. Paradoxically, the more people can rely on a characteristics of this population (p. 16): partner, the more independent they become! 1) “… the distorted and unnecessarily intense qualitative appraisal of routine But if having a strong and loving relationship is wired in, why do so many stimuli and interpersonal contact.” couples have problems? Johnson’s answer is that they are not attuned to each 2) “The accompanying psychophysiological arousal… frequently including... other. They carry memories of past formative relationships with them, imposing the internal experience of being flooded or overwhelmed with emotion and feel- the patterns on the present relationship. The longer they are disconnected, the ing out of control” more negative they become. The real problem is not specific conflicts; EFT teaches couples need to dig deep down to rediscover their natural capacity for 3) “ …emotional, cognitive and/or behavioral manifestation of affect dysreg- closeness and love. ulation.” Part Two, the longest section, offers seven transforming conversations. One of the hallmarks of the over-reactive client is a diminished sense of self- Together, they showcase the method, a shared journey through a well-orches- agency. Often, a diminished sense of self-agency is then induced in the therapist trated set of steps that take the couple beyond their hostilities and back to their when working with such clients. Daitch has designed her book to assist both the loving bond. The last part of each conversation chapter, “Play and Practice,” therapist and clients with this issue. includes instructional exercises for applying the concepts in the chapter. Affect Regulation Tool Box offers a selection of techniques with clear, sim- Conversation 1 shows how to recognize the Demon Dialogue. Johnson points ple instructions on how to teach each technique; structure a session; and use post- out that each is trying to win, but ultimately, both will lose. Withdrawal to a com- hypnotic suggestions and rehearsal to prepare the client to interrupt his or her fortable distance leads to loss of intimacy as closeness is sacrificed. Conversation reactive patterns outside the office. There is an emphasis on training clients to 2 explains how to find raw spots, and recognize that a raw spot has been identify and interrupt the start of an over-reactive response, recognize somatic, scratched. The progression is: The receiver has a characteristic emotional cognitive or emotional cues and then initiate a “time out” period for self-sooth- response, accompanied by a feeling in the body; interpretation follows; and con- ing. Daitch incorporates six therapeutic objectives in her “toolbox.” They sequently there is a readiness to act on it, by moving toward, away from, or include: mindfulness, sensory awareness, impulse control, toleration of coexist- against the other person. Conversation 3 is about revisiting rocky moments that ing affective states, resource utilization (including parts of self), and positive happen when couples change patterns. One method used is to imagine replaying affect development. a scene of the conflict to observe it and then try another way of relating. In my years of teaching hypnosis one of the most repeated questions I hear, Conversation 4 explains how to deeply engage and connect. Conversation 5 is “How do I know when and how to chose a hypnotic approach, and how do I demonstrates how to forgive injustices. Conversation 6 deals with bonding adapt it to best help my particular client?” Daitch is an effective teacher and takes through sex and touch. Conversation 7 encourages keeping love alive, creating a to heart the need to clarify these issues for her readers. She has carefully narrative together that begins in the past and extends into the future. Life ever described more than thirty tools, and has explained them in several ways, both in flows, so mutual love must be continuously rediscovered; then change stablizes. terms of goals and use, and in terms of the issues and disorders where they can Part Three, “The Power of Hold me Tight,” points out how we are all living be integrated into treatment. In addition, she offers rich case examples of how in the midst of traumatic stress. Only by learning to nurture the bonds of love can these tools can be adapted to a great variety of clinical situations. we overcome problems. The final chapter of the book shows how to widen the By presenting such a comprehensive format in her book, Daitch has circle from a loving partner to a loving family and outward to a loving commu- opened up these tools to a wide audience. Although she emphasizes that hypno- nity. sis is effective in helping clients learn to self-regulate, she also explains how Through the exercises, questions, and therapeutic vignettes, this book offers therapists with little or no hypnotic training can apply these tools. Carolyn Daitch inspiration as well as methods for clients. Therapists looking for a clear, well has written an extraordinary book, one that will surely become a classic in the thought-out method will find it here. We highly recommend this book! fields of hypnosis and psychotherapy. Affect Regulation Toolbox is an essential reference book for all mental health professionals. Reviewed by C. Alexander Simpkins, Ph.D. & Annellen M. Simpkins, Ph.D. Reviewed by San Diego, California Susan Dowell, LCSW New York City, New York The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VOL. 28, NO. 2 21

opens a world of freedom and harmo- FOREIGN BOOK REVIEW ny in relation to the greater world. When Erickson offered absurd tasks its basis in perception. Hypnosis is them and we wait to see if they are to to his patients, he did far more than Qu’est-ce que defined as an intense waking state in be continued or transformed."(p. 30). create a state of confusion: He was l’hypnose? which we can access our power to The author shows how the thera- offering the patient an opportunity to create our world. pist opens an opportunity for the explore a new path to discover free- (French) Five main sections are the door- patient to anticipate by making an dom and personal power. What is Hypnosis? ways to the questioning: precondi- internal representation of what he The modification section helps us by François Roustang tion, anticipation, posture, intends. He then anticipates how to to understand how hypnotic induction modification, and action. Roustang create possibilities, quite often Editions de Minuit also can be described as a lack of any- Paris, France defines the "unconscious" as what is through experimenting with different thing to do, a time of not worrying, of 1994, reissued 2003, asleep during our limited waking perspectives. forgetting and unlearning. We give up state and invites us to pay attention Posture is the internal position, one way to relate to the world for ISBN 2-7073-1814-0 and open ourselves to the other side the availability of the patient to take another; we move from confusion and What is Hypnosis? by François of the frontier through what he calls on a new attitude or a different mood. emptiness to lightness, mobility, and Roustang, is a reissue of a founda- “paradoxical waking.” The art of the therapist is to "train" strength. These are the conditions of tional book that was first published in The precondition section shows the patient in doing hypnosis, to listen change. The therapist can be an active 1994. Roustang stands beside Léon the different types of empowering to all the physical and subconscious and involved participant in the Chertok and Milton H. Erickson, hav- resources people have: the ability to signs, and to notice how the symp- process. ing developed a philosophical dream, to create their world, and to toms have appeared in connection The action section explores fears approach to hypnosis. This book is imagine. "In paradoxical sleep, we with the patient’s environment. This of losing control during paradoxical not a manual: It questions misconcep- are submitted to dreams; in paradoxi- posture widens the five senses for See HYPNOSIS? on next page tions about hypnosis and goes back to cal waking, we introduce ourselves in both the therapist and the patient, and 22 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter HYPNOSIS? continued from page 21 FOREIGN BOOK REVIEW waking. In fact, this fear is the fear of being confronted with new experi- Le pouvoir des is provided. The analytical section become a symbol for creating new ences. For example, we can learn by shows how to help the client dissect destinies. Similar to how the oak tree attending to the simple experiences of histoires and revise the interpretation. The can be used to represent all trees, this life: "Relearning how to walk with authors book utilizes examples from nature to the attention of a child when taking thérapeutiques do so by stimulating creativity, and give us the opportunity to expand the his first steps is not only a way to (French) offer knowledge of how to incorpo- range of the client’s capacities. relax and get rid of worries. It gives The Power of Therapeutic Stories rate subtleties of language. With their Nature’s ways can become an inspira- us the opportunity to rediscover the elegant invitation to enter into the tion that may, for example, help to By Evelyne Josse ground which doesn't miss us, to fully metaphorical realm, the authors show turn an age regression into an age pro- enjoy the movements.” (p. 168) La Méridienne/Desclée de Brouwer, therapists how to use metaphor to gression, so that the client learns to be Therapists should practice paradoxi- Paris, 2007 help the client. present and aware in this moment, cal waking as well. ISBN : 978-2-904299-42-1 The use of metaphors affords directed to a constructive future. This book is complex and rich & 978-2-220-05876-4 therapists the opportunity to utilize The tree that loses its leaves does- with subtlety. But the language and 281 pages the material that the patient gives n’t try to hold them. It knows it needs style are filled with delicate and ele- The core of this book, The Power them—it is grist for the mill. Indirect to be able to let go of old things from gant flavors. Here in France, of Therapeutic Stories, is the use of methods work with the fertile ground the past. It accepts the withering and Roustang has gained renown with analogies, allegories, and metaphors. of possibility that the patient brings dropping of leaves in order to become Ericksonian hypnosis. Qu'est-ce que The reader will get to know about the in, to dig, to seed suggestions, to green again. The many metaphors in l'hypnose? deserves your attention, distinctive characteristics of these water, and to fertilize, helping con- this helpful book can be used to pro- and should be read again and again to methods and learn how to apply them. structive associations grow. The ther- mote growth and transformation so obtain a better understanding of the apeutic metaphors that the author Eight stories are presented as that renewal can occur. depth of practice of hypnotherapy. offer are useful and inspirational. eight cases. They are used to exem- The approach provides better ways to plify methods to treat serious trau- Reviewed by Reviewed by creatively work with stories. matic disorders that have appeared Christine Guilloux, Ph.D. Christine Guilloux, Ph.D. after natural disasters, attacks, abuse, One typical example is the Paris, France Paris, France accidents, and grief. Following the metaphor of a forest and the changes presentation of each story, an analysis of the seasons. These cycles can

INTERVIEW Accordingly one of the most respect- issue of how to reconcile sexuality dysfunction, I wanted to address the continued from page 1 ed voices on erotic intelligence, her (besides its reproductive function) questions that don’t have easy recently launched book (2006) and domesticity. On the one hand, we answers. This is because they pertain Esther Perel’s innovative thera- “Mating in Captivity: Reconciling the all share a fundamental need for secu- to our existential predicaments. Much peutic and community intervention Erotic and the Domestic” has already rity, safety, and predictability which of my work is an inquiry into the strategies and models for leadership been published in 25 languages (with propels us into committed relation- Erotic, the poetics of sex, and the have earned her international respect a few more in press). Welcomed with ships, but we have an equally strong erotic imagination. I wanted to probe and acclaim from a diverse clientele enthusiasm by experts, colleagues, need for novelty, for adventure, for the nature of erotic desire and its fate such as The Soros Foundation Open and the public, the book is rapidly excitement, for the unknown, and the over the long haul, by tackling the Society Institute; the Psycho-Social capturing the imagination - and, so it mysterious. We seek a steady and Gordian knot of sexuality and intima- Center for Refugees at the University is hoped – unlocking the erotic intel- reliable partner, but at the same time cy. of Oslo, Norway, as well as commu- ligence of both lay and professional we want our relationship to offer us a I wanted to examine the intrica- nity groups and private corporations. audiences all over the world. transcendent experience, to allow us cies of desire and offer some atypical In New York, Ms. Perel hosts the Marilia Baker (MB): to soar beyond our ordinary lives. It suggestions to encourage erotic intel- Downtown Salon, a forum on zeit- Congratulations, Esther, on a well- can be hard to generate excitement ligence in committed couples. geist issues (“spirit of the times or deserved, thunderous acclaim of and anticipation with the same person Ultimately, I wanted to propose that epoch”) that came to light out of the your book, your lectures and pre- we turn to for comfort and stability. reconciling the erotic and the domes- Ideas Café she had set in motion at sentations, and your success at our The challenge for modern couples is tic is a paradox that you learn to man- the Skirball Center in the weeks after Couples Conference in California to negotiate these dual needs of secu- age in your everyday life, and not a 9/11. Perel has had a most welcome (April 25-27, 2008). Much praise as rity and adventure, autonomy and problem that you solve. Thus the reception in the local and interna- well on your sui-generis ideas about togetherness, the comfort and the book takes a very non- American tional media having appeared on the core dilemmas modern couples edge. approach. numerous programs, as CBS This face. The word is out and people As a multicultural clinician, I MB: You dedicate the book to Morning, the Today Show, and the are abuzz with hope and excite- have long been a participant observer your parents, Sala Ferlegier and Oprah Winfrey Show. ment: they all want to find out in these complex issues at several lev- Icek Perel. You write: “Their vital- A prodigious writer and frequent “what is she really talking about?” els and cultural meanings. But con- ity lives on in me.” I am moved and keynote speaker, Perel has written Esther Perel (EP): Couples ther- trary to the established norms of a intrigued by that dedication. articles and book chapters in multi- apists, sex therapists, and other statistical approach to sex (i.e., how Would you please elaborate further ples languages on intermarriage, experts all have traditionally strug- much, how long, how often, how on what you mean by your parents’ sexuality, cross-cultural couples, and gled with the exceedingly complex many orgasms), as well as the tradi- families of Holocaust survivors. tional focus of sex therapy on sexual See INTERVIEW on next page tery, playfulness, anticipation, seduc- The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter VOL. 28, NO. 2 23 INTERVIEW tion, and playfulness. The central continued from page 22 agent of the erotic is our imagination. “the rebuilding of trust must pass quences for the children - than the We can understand the breakdown of vitality living on in you? through the revelation of all details of idea or actuality of infidelity. I do not desire as a failure of our imagination. condone either. I am posing the facts EP: With pleasure! While I was the affair”; “the core meaning of an MB: I am also intrigued by for couples therapist to reflect. I am writing “Mating in Captivity,” I affair is betrayal”; “sexual betrayal what I sense in you as your passion, also proposing that we view noticed that I was focusing on the tops all others, and honesty equates your vibrancy, and your “exuber- monogamy as a conscious choice and larger questions elicited by the multi- truth-telling”. What underlies the cur- ant defiance” of the status quo in a negotiated decision to be visited at ple meanings of eroticism, and not the rent notions of transparency and couples therapy. several junctures in your life cycle. strictly sexual meaning that moderni- truth-telling seem to come from the Nowadays monogamy needs to be ty has assigned to it. I kept asking EP: As couples therapists we are fact that today we ask one person to negotiated and not assumed. myself why am I so interested in taught that sexual problems are the give us what once an entire village eroticism, mostly from its existential, result of relational problems, that sex used to provide: belonging, meaning, MB: Could you elaborate fur- poetic, and mystical aspects? I want- is a metaphor for the relation. Hence, and continuity. We expect intimacy to ther on how you view intimacy? ed to know what it is that significant- fix the relation and the sex will fol- be the sovereign antidote to lives of EP: To further understand the ly maintains a sense of aliveness, low. Over the years, I have seen many increasing isolation. The marital part- conundrum of sexuality versus vibrancy, vitality, and exuberance in couples who continued to love each nership is supposed to contain it all: domesticity I examined the enshrine- couples ? That was when I started other as much as ever, had a caring, children, economic support, compan- ment of intimacy in modern couple- making the connection; I actually open relationship but still complained ionship, respectability; our mate is dom. While intimacy has become started thinking about the community that their sex lives were inexistent or our best friend, respected confidante, paramount, the way we define it has in Belgium in which I grew up. This devoid of eroticism. Time and again passionate lover. No wonder so many narrowed. Today, in the West, we insight also brings more meaning would tell me the same story. It was relations crumble under the weight of face lives of increased isolation, onto the deeper motivations fueling not always the lack of closeness that so many expectations. Affairs in our which further raise our expectations my passion for the theme of “unlock- stifled desire, but sometimes too society also can be seen as a direct from our committed relations. ing erotic intelligence”. much closeness. expression of the frustrations engen- Collectivist societies where people’s dered by the romantic ideal. MB: So you inherited this exu- Fire needs air and many couples sense of self is embedded in a com- berant posture, this radical alive- don’t leave each other enough air. As Where I seem to depart from munity they expect much less from ness, in one word: this joie-de-vivre one patient once said, a spark needs a many of my colleagues is that I don’t marriage. More and more we turn to from them? gap. If you cross the gap, you get a see all affairs as a symptom of prob- one person to assuage all our insecu- sizzle. If there is no gap you get a lems in the relationship. I am willing rities. Intimacy has shifted from a EP: Both my parents were sur- cuddle. What nurtures love isn’t nec- to consider that some affairs can bal- lifelong companionship to a commu- vivors of the Nazi concentration essarily what fuels desire. Desire ance a marriage, provide equilibrium. nicative experience in which I reveal camps. Their respective families of needs space to thrive. Thus, I pon- Affairs always include betrayal and a to you my innermost self and you origin were exterminated. After the dered again, contrary to what I been violation of trust, but they are also reflect back in an empathic validating war, their community in Antwerp was taught, why doesn’t good intimacy about loss and yearning. They can kill way. In this experience I feel that I of 99% Holocaust survivors. There guarantee hot sex? Why is the forbid- a dying relation, but they can also matter and I can momentarily tran- were basically two groups of sur- den so erotic? Can we want what we invigorate it and jolt partners out of a scend my existential aloneness. vivors: those who did not die, but already have? Therefore, I wanted to state of complacency and dullness, in remained emotional prisoners, teth- MB: Would you please define probe into the nature of erotic desire a way that is difficult to match other- ered to the ground, and those who what you mean by “feminization of in long-term relationships, and began wise. came back to life. My parents intimacy”? to explore how love and desire relate, belonged to these latter. They MB: Regarding this complex EP: Another aspect of the modern but also conflict. Love flourishes in emerged from their years of intern- arena of conceptualizing fidelity definition of intimacy is the “femi- an atmosphere of mutuality and reci- ment - in which they faced horrific and infidelity in American society, nization of intimacy,” which values procity. Yet, sometimes the very annihilation daily - with an endless you discuss your views at length in the spoken word, as the primary lan- ingredients that nurture love - the lust for life, with a fierce determina- your book and in the CDs. Would guage for connection. It suits women care, the sense of responsibility, and tion to live this unique gift, Life, to its you say more about that for us? in particular for whom centuries of the protectiveness, clash with the fullest, making the most of each EP: I began my project at the time submission and denial of the body unself-consciousness and freedom moment. They pursued and cultivated of the Clinton-Lewinsky scandal made them equate closeness with that desire needs. pleasure, thriving on exuberant expe- (1996). What intrigued me was to talking. “Talk intimacy” leaves men riences. In retrospect, even though I MB: Your work elicits a wealth witness the intransigence of America out of the equation. I see the language am quite sure they never used this of questions which modern couples towards infidelity, while multiple of the body as no less an avenue to term I sense they had a profound and therapists in our society strug- divorces are accepted quite norma- closeness than talk intimacy. Both understanding of eroticism in its mys- gle with and attempt to solve in tively. Now, much of the rest of the languages are equally valid. The lan- tic, poetic meaning of being fully earnest. You also make a clear dis- world goes at it the other way: less guage of the body is more represent- alive. Meaning, they understood it as tinction – as well as a call to deep tolerant of divorce and more accept- ed in men. Men are more likely to a pathway to freedom. pondering and responsible action - ing of infidelity. I invite my col- express love, desire for closeness, on how we have dealt with the con- This led me to listen to the com- leagues to ponder on my observations tenderness, and vulnerability through cepts of intimacy and particularly, plaints of my patients with a different of European societies where the idea their body (also through centuries of infidelity in America. Could give us ear. When they complain about the of infidelity is more elastic (statisti- adaptation to acculturation). As of a brief tour of the central ideas you listlessness of their sex lives, they cally Americans cheat no less than yet, it is not legitimized enough, by pose? sometimes want more sex. But they their counterparts elsewhere) while the therapeutic community. always want better sex. They want to EP: Certainly. Here too I sought the idea of preserving the family We therapists would do better to reconnect with the sense of aliveness, to question some of the assumptions intact is the prevalent norm. In the US encourage our patients to be bilin- vibrancy, playfulness and renewal, in that proliferate in the field of couples we tolerate more easily serial divorce, gual. In our romantic relationships, short with the erotic. The main erotic therapy. “Affairs are always a symp- serial remarriage, and the break-up of See INTERVIEW on next page ingredients include curiosity, mys- tom of a relationship gone awry”; intact families - with grave conse- 24 VOL. 28, NO. 2 The Milton H. Erickson Foundation Newsletter INTERVIEW continued from page 23 security, togetherness, and closeness walk alongside with uncertainty, The Newsletter mystery, separateness, autonomy, and the otherness of the partner. is available Online! My suggestion to couples, whether heterosexual or same-sex, is View the current to truly seek to cultivate a dual kind of intimacy that respects boundaries, and previous issues: that is know your partner while remaining aware of his persistent www.erickson-foundation.org mystery, of his/her uniqueness and otherness; all this while simultane- ously co-creating the foundation for enduring love, safety, and security. Mine are not rigid prescriptions but a JOIN THE FOUNDATION work in progress. 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